The REAL Reason You FEEL Lonely | 3 Steps to Change!
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- Опубликовано: 17 июн 2024
- Scott Ste Marie is a Mindfulness Practitioner, Coach and Mentor. Through his lived experience with depression and anxiety he has seen what is truly possible in recovery, healing, and living authentically. If you feel at ease and comfortable with the videos on this channel and Scott's approach to emotional and mental well-being, the resources below may be helpful to you.
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Hey. Great video. I wannit to know if you have ever taken the Myer Briggs 16 personalities test? It tells you a lot
I cried listening to this. This is so relatable. Why do we think everybody else has a right to be loved and belong while we don't just cuz we don't have social skills. We are worthy too and we are cool and awesome people cuz we don't want some superficial small talk. We want deeper connection. Quality over quantity. Thanks a ton for sharing this. Hugs and love.
People of all ages are becoming shut ins, there's a growing anxiety between our online persona & the real world.
This is so true!
I cried up while watching this....
Its like returning from office to dark home, having your dinner alone and sleeping in your room...
Its the same situation for the entire week
Though we don't have social skills but we deserve to be loved
Even we deserve to have friends
Thanks for this video mate!
Life lesson I wish I knew sooner - Making friends is hard. Appreciate the ones you have, don't let them slip away. When people reach out to you, always respond. Reach out to them from time to time just to say Hi. Don't take the relationship for granted.
Amen to that! ❤
Socially awkward - yep! That's how I see myself. Some people tell me I'm funny due to my quirkiness but I don't like to be labelled as such. Being lonely, wishing I have more friends, yet when people reach out to me, I give excuses as to why I can't join them. Sometimes, I come back from the outing in a worse state (especially the next day after waking up) because I start thinking back "I shouldn't have said this or that. Did I make a fool out myself? I should've stayed home"
While I have 2-3 good friends that I often talk to (quality > quantity) , sometimes I wish I have friends that I could plan to travel with and whatnot. This video has hit me. Thank you Scott.
same like me, oh goddamit
Wow, I needed to hear this Scott. My eyes were tearing up and I was smiling at the same time. Thank you!
Same...I cried a lot
I’ve been hurt so many times by people that it feels safe to be alone. But then again I don’t want to die alone .... cherish the people around you. Don’t burn bridges
I have no confidence in myself, I feel that I am worthless because I've been told and shown that I am. I have "friends" that don't care about me, that use me because I care about them. I had a best friend who threw me away, ridiculed me behind my back, and spread my secrets. I have talents, hobbies, interests, and stories that are so great and meaningful, but in the eyes of others, worthless. I no longer see a silver lining, I've lost all hope, I don't understand what is so wrong with just wanting friends that care. No one will see this message and that's just reality.
You are not alone Dillon , I feel the same, I am alone, every day is the same. But... Don't give up , keep Going, you are alive.
In 10 years I see myself in a different country, with my degree, a nice job, a nice apartment but still lonely and alone.. maybe even more than what I am now since I’ll be away from my family
Here's the truth about being in a different country,you can't fully graps the culture there and there's some kind of regional barrier. As a result,you can't fully connect with someone
I speak from experience
I just can't relate to people my age anymore. Everyone is living this social media life.
Dope Profile Pic G!
@@teomanlam1421 Appreciate that bro!!
so effin true mate- it's just sad.
Texting and social media idealizations have messed everything up!! Everyone posts their best photos, only the good side and puts their best image forward. Even if you’re being 100% true to yourself, people don’t see it. They only see what they want which is usually only the quality of your pics!
Bro… that was Beautiful. You spoke to my heart. Thanks man.
Practice gratitude,Volunteer in charity shops or voluntary places,Give charity weather money clothes or shoes bags whatever. Wake up with a thankful peaceful gratitude of being given another day to live....
Grateful to God for people like You.
I spend about 98% of my life alone. Not always through choice. I sometimes feel its literally consuming me. I think lonliness is probably a bigger killer than cancer in many ways. Anyway thank you for this video. I needed to hear it 🙏
He came to my school as a guest speaker!
When I was a child, I lived in a city where I live now. I used to go out to the playgrouns around my house. I only needed to say to my mother, where I will be and to make sure, I am back at home at seven. I did not have a best friend, but I used to hang out with some other kids. I have 6 year old child now and live in the same house. I know, here are kids living in our street, next houses. But they kind of to go school and after school they go to kids activities. When they do not have a kids activities or school (now Corona), children spend time with their closest family and friends and do not let anyone in. Since this September I feel I just am totally alone arguing with my mother and pity my son he does not have any friends to go out. We had a friends, but we have just lost them because of my negative a toxic thinking. I wish this Corona will end soon and schools open, because lots of people in the future will need this video to watch. Our children who are kept in distance and are not lucky enouht to have friends outside school and outside school club.
Scott was lonely but when i saw your videos tht inspiring me to hope tht i will have freind one day i will try my best thnx scott your videos are so useful for me and its work waiting for more videos from dear Scott
Thank you for this message. 100% what I needed to hear at this exact moment in my life.
This hit me really hard, but in a good way. Loneliness is what I’m struggling with the most at the moment and I needed to hear this. Thankyou 💛
Also I find your passion inspiring :)
I spent most of my life feeling like......I hate my life and the whole world and what I hate the most is myself. Your video is like for the first time somebody care about how suck I feel and how much I want to be worth being loved. I have friends, really close friends, and I got all the "social skills" but deep inside I never really believe that I worth being loved . And again your video just somehow make me feel like you are hugging me and saying that's not true. Thanks a lot.
Thank you for all the content you share on your channel. It is much appreciated.
Great video Scott!! It was a rough week so I needed one of your videos.. they're the best!
Thank you for this video, this made me cry!
this was everything i needed. thank you so so much.
Great vid bro. I needed this 😔
Excellent video. Keep up the good work
That was really uplifting 💜
Best video I've seen in ages.
Thank you
Thank you for posting! I needed to hear this. This gave me hope
Damn that hit right in the heart,you just expressed all my problems in this video,love u bro
Thanks for Step number 3 dude...needed to hear that👌👌🙌, appreciate your word Brother
You are amazing! I’m so happy I stumbled upon your videos. Thank you!
You’re amazing for making this video. I love you & Thank you ♥️
Awesome, Scott.
You talk 2 the heart. Love it.
Love you man, your timing just happened to be perfect, time for a little bit more effort. Thank you so much and I wish you all the best.
Thank you, this is the type of content I have been looking for, you have managed to put into words exactly how I have felt for years.
Thank you, your sepeech is very inspiring!
This video reached to the bottom of my heart❤..thank you!... I have received your hug 🤗
Thank you Scott, for daring to show true caring and affection... ❤ That is a rare quality these days, especially in men !! You are a bright, bright star to me and so many others I am sure . ~Judith Stauffer
This was sooo good 🖤
Thank you...i was needing to listen this. The hardest thing happened...tears in my eyes...
I LOVE YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO ........ THIS IS 100% TRUTH
😢. thank you! def better off having heard that. I feel you have a genuine desire to help others alleviate their pain and get to a better place in their lives. bravo!
Please keep doing these videos. You are so real. Your the type of person who could kick me in the ass and I would learn from it😊😊
I’ve watched a few of your amazing videos. Awesome. I like the message.
Love you scott for this video.
You released this on my birthday. How symbolic.
I like this man. I agree of what he says and he seems very sensitive and compassionate. I like this video! I will watch it more often. We can change!
I have not watched one of your videos in a while now. So glad I checked in today, because one made me cry and feel so much better about myself for a reason I do not really unserstand. Feeling less lonely after watching this. Thank you Scott! You are an inspiration. 2020 is and will be my year 🙂 and I will hit that da.. butt. 😁
Make a video on how you overcame your depression and with what type of it you struggled with.
Thanks for this. Needed this for the year of 2021 after being rejected, denied, left behind and more for over 3 years. 2020 was rough and 2021 wont be any smoother, but I have a feeling something unique will happen this year.
Scott thank you for this. I like that bluntness at the end you're not putting in enough effort. Truth is I'm afraid to in case I fuck up the flow of the conversation like nobody knows how to respond to me
It's beyond embarrassing, it's downright humiliating!! It is sooo hard to admit and to face it!! THANK YOU for your honesty and openness!!!
Thank you for sharing this.. I was coming to acceptance of just being a loner.. but I realized that I truly wished I had more friends.. I've just been afraid to put myself out there ..you've made me realize that I have something to offer .
Scott, thank you for sharing this journey of yours. So many people deal with the same thing but are afraid or ashamed to discuss their problems. This is very helpful and according to my physician he said 70% of Americans are on some sort of antidepressants including many physicians due to the stress of life. 70% of Americans on antidepressants is unbelievable as many won’t admit their problems. Thanks for exposing this and talking about this taboo.
This is great. I dont give compliments easily. very accurate
This video was really helpful to me. I don't work in an office but I started to feel the same about two months ago. Ok gaming, watching a tv-show, watching, or etc. after work are cool for an hour or two but when it comes to more than three hours, it's where the problem begins. You don't wanna fill the rest of your day with them. You wanna see new people, making connections, having a network around you. Having people around when you get in trouble or when you make progress.
You are so right!!! It is SO hard to make friends...I either think I have nothing to offer OR I think I don't have time for them. I get so caught up in the hours I have in the day to do something and I can tend to judge. I HATE!! that aspect and am trying to change that.... thanks to your channel. I know....deep in my heart....that EVERYBODY has something to contribute to our human existence. In the end, I think I suffer from depression and anxiety and don't have the financial means to battle the problem and am grateful for your channel. I will start the process by binge watching your vids. Thanks for being REAL. I try to do that on my art channel....show people the real life of whatever problem or profession. It's not always pretty for sure....BUT it NEEDS to be said.
I needed this soooo bad. Specially today I was feeling soo lonely. And the worst part is when I feel like this I just loose all the motivation to do anything. So Thank you.
I needed to find this guy
Thanks you so much you are also super awesome Scott ❤❤❤😊
Thank you
I´m form mexico and man, when you said that it frustrates you to know we´re value and how cool we are 8:40, you broke me bro, i heard that a lot during this years and you remembered that, thanks bro, you speak my language.
And I'm here whit teary eyes listening to you...
Assholes having the time of their lives and I'm in my house, alone, feeling not good enough...that hit hard.
Beautiful work you are doing man, thank you. 😊
You can have people around you and still feel lonely. I do agree, taking charge is a small step towards the right direction. Very wise gentleman. Great video
Thank you.
Thank you❤️🙏🥰
You the best bro 👍🏼
You are amazing
Wowwwwww....Amazing messages thanks 💞💖💞👑
This is a very honest expression. I know a lot of great people and I constantly think that I'm awkward and that they think that I'm ok but not really worth investing time in. OTOH I dont take any chances with them, inviting them out, just calling to see how they are because its spontaneous. I might embarrass myself. Clearly there are plenty of people like me.
I realized a lot about me with 2 of your videos (this one and the other about 2 reasons why we don't have friend). Thank you a lot Scott ! I cried a lot also because it's sad to realize that. The part with the 1% success rate really hit me. It's been a couple years I've been trying apps to meet people but I was wondering why can't I find a friend that listen to me (and I don't talk a lot so I wonder why is it so difficult for people to listen and be interested). With your 1%, I understand better and I'm feeling better because I know I can keep trying :) thank you so much!
He hit me deep ♥️
when you said "i want to hug you " i remembered i never got a hug in like 10 years , not even from my parents
I love you fella thank you
Cried SO much after not allowing myself to cry thank you wow clarity
No shame in crying. Face your emotions don’t run from them :)
Thanks a lot! I need that:)
I’ll be your friend :)
I love you Scott
just simply, let God bless you! thank you for you :)
I have a gift wich makes me so damn happy! That incredible moment is coreographys I not an expert however people love watching. Dancing on my own! And you are right Scott people will see you on the way we are not just becouae being a sheep. Now they asked me to give dancing classes at the gym... Isn't that crazy!?!?? Bless your hear Scott you are big part of my happines and i dont feel alone when i watch you! ValCookiema
Well said, I admitted I'm depressed.. But its a working progress
Thanx🌸😭
This video really hit home and hurt......
New guy here. Great video!
I start to cry when I even think about my depression and ED because it is all so horrible and on social Media everyone is so open about it but in real life I feel crazy and weak when talking about it. Or empty.
So it surprised me that my grandma did understand.
The hardest part is when I am with friends or my Partner and I know I love them but I feel nothing or like it is all a dream.
My partner says that I am sayin weird things when I have derealisation.
And that is why I normally don't go out anymore because I am so fucking scared of having a mental breakdown.
I had a big breakdown last year and it was traumatic for me. I was not myself and my depression scares me so so so much. My mum says I just have to forget, forgive and stop thinking about it but I just can't.
Am I the only one who is scared of themselfe?
(Thanks for making those Videos!)
Hi Scott. I am new to your channel & I have watched a lot. So helpful. And I do get a lot out of your meditations. I am going through a lot w/out a support system. I got rid of family & friends who did not accept me as I am. I used to make many friends at church. But my church is in North Carolina & I live in the Midwest US. & I don’t do bars or the gym. Not sure where to meet new friends.
Honestly this related to me so much kinda have anxiety and depression and it was describing me , honestly this is amazing
Not really good with my words but yea ...😬
They need a new word for the depression that never leaves and been with you your whole life
This man needs to be on a TED Talk if he hasn't already. What a powerful message.
Sunil Mawji He has!!! I totally recommend it!! But yeah, he should do a ton of them 💙✨🙌🏻
@@ferniezazueta4696 Wow! I never actually knew that! I gotta watch it now. Thanks for the heads up haha. 🙂👍
U understand me 👏👏👏
easier said than done, but i hear ya.
When I go somewhere new and I use my
navigation to get back home, when it tells me “welcome home” it triggers a deep sadness in me for some reason.
I like living alone for the most part, but I also get sad that I have, and haven’t had for over a decade, anyone or anything to come home to. Anyone to invite over, anyone who wants to come by..
Some days it’s better than others, but it’s something that I always notice when I hear the disembodied mechanical voice of an app welcoming me home. Only then do I become highly aware of this deeply buried sadness.
Escucharte fue un gusto . Gracias por estar siempre pensando en los demás, porque sólo alguien que tocó fondo sabe cuánto cuesta y no quiere que nadie más pase por eso.
I understand english better than talking and writting, but my dear friend THANKS !!!
I promise I will work on myself
I know i have skills but it seams the only time I hear from people is when they want those skill to do free work for them so I just end up sitting at home alone when they don't have anything. I try inviting them out and get denied and no awasner it has been happing this way for the last 10 years they got me to the point to were I hate my hobbies alot of the time and just want to sit and do nothing. I have been trying to make new friends with no luck.
It's too hard to be alone. I am living alone in bad country and working too hard without any support from family or friends. After 12 years I couldn't continue with this pressure. Now I can't do nothing just unlike everything.
I want that hug
It’s heartbreaking to not have friends 💔
I would love to meet you, I relate to this very much