I remember how Chrysalis Records didn't want this song on the album, but she basically told them either it's on the album or you don't get an album. The fact that every penny (she's taking a loss on it) that she has earned from this song has been donated to battered children only makes me respect her more than ever
Seriously, it was a song about child abuse and child sexual abuse. Not exactly designed to be a money maker but I appreciate her strong feelings and recording the song.
@@jmcquown Pat's husband who is her guitar player wrote this about child abuse and how child abuse was getting worse. Pat's record label told her they were not going to put this on her album. Pat demanded it was on the album or she would not release album. And....Pat & her husband used the money this song made to start a child foundation for abused children and all their royalties for this song go to the foundation.
Neil is such an underrated guitarist and I was so glad that Pat didn't accept her Hall of Fame induction until they included him because she and her husband are and have always been a powerhouse team plain and simple and she was not going to let his contribution go unrecognized as it should be....LOVE HER!
He is an incredible guitarist and totally flies under the radar of the general public. The combination of Pat's powerful vocals and his guitar work is pure musical magic.
You don't understand how important this song was. Child abuse was not something that was talked about back then, it was swept under the rug. This song with Pat's fame brought forth the conversation into the public limelight.
Pat Benatar is just FANTABULOUS!!! Definitely one of her best. After reading a series of articles on child abuse in The New York Times, she was shocked to learn such things happen and wanted to write about it.
And let's not forget. She was a BABE with with amazing chops and passion. (one of my rare suggestions for you kids is the CMT video of Benatar and Martina McBride performing live together from about 12 years ago. UH-mazing)
I wanted to comment about my Step Dad being abused my his mother. She would smack him so hard that he would fly across the room at 6 years old... he brought that to me as well, but in a lesser way... now, my Step Dad is a best friend. He's 72. I'm 49. The thing is that maybe this kind is changing. We have to be careful of the discipline... because it hurts children much, but to have no discipline, hurts everyone as well. There is a common theme with Gen X type, me... and Boomers, my parents, and kids born after me, like You, Rob Squad.... that if kids don't get hit, they don't learn.
So this is very difficult. I didn't make kids. Never hit a kid. It's a very difficult thing, and maybe I would be better making a child. Maybe I still could.
Pat Benatar has always been a champion for women and for children. Bringing subjects out in the light that weren’t talked about back then. You should watch the live performance for this not only because Neil shreds, and the drummer is so fun to watch, but to see the passion Pat puts in her singing.
Growing up in a very abusive home, at the very time this song came out, it was an anthem. For me personally, it brought me some comfort, too. It made me realize that I wasn't alone in what I was feeling or going through. So, in a strange way, I've always been grateful for this song. It gave me the courage to say "enough," and I ran away from home when I was 15 and never looked back. 😇
I was molested by my first stepdad ( I had 3 in all) from ages 6-14 and though I was college age when this came out, it brought me catharsis and I used to dance crazily around my bedroom getting all my rage feelings out to this song. Pat was good therapy for me!
Neil Giraldo, where this song comes from... he does not talk about it but was physically abused by his mother. he's been a child's advocate since 1996?
"And you shouldn't have to pay for your love with your bones and your flesh" this single line gets me EVERY single time I hear it. It's SO sad that there are millions of children who have gone through some form of child abuse in their lives
Thanks Amber and Jay for getting past the title and reacting to this classic. Few artists then or now have the guts to put out such a statement of a song. But this song sent some shockwaves back when released. Even into the 80s child abuse was one of those thing that was just not talked about. If it went on in your family you didn’t want others to know about it. It’s not that people were cool with child abuse but like teen pregnancy and mental illness you just didn’t bring this stuff up in public especially if your family was involved. This song helped bring this disgraceful epidemic out of the shadows and into the spotlight. Too many kids were told to “tell grandma you fell off the swing.” Always enjoy good music with you all and this is good music with an important message then as now. Keep up the great work guys!
This was a big deal. It’s not like Concrete Angel. It is rough and in your face and you can hear her her fury about the subject. This song came out in the 80’s when people didn’t talk about this. Great song
@@carlgibbons5777They didn't talk about it because there wasn't cell phone cameras, body cameras and video surveillance cameras everywhere like there is now. Which is why I think that every elected politician should have to wear a body camera when they're working. Because the policies and laws that they enact affect all of us!
You made me cry seeing the pain on your face as you were “forced” to listen to this song. And a powerful song it is. Another song, same topic, from someone who really needs to be represented on Female Friday is 10,000 Maniacs and their song “What’s the Matter Here?” The singer is Natalie Merchant, and they’ve had (and then her as a solo artist) a number of big songs/hits. I hope you can check them out!
Yes. I wanted to tell Amber that she doesn’t have to try to dance for the camera… if what you’re feeling is entirely about the lyrics, then let your body language reflect that emotional gut-punch. It’s what the rest of us are feeling too.
This song reminds me of a quote that goes something like “good art should comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable”. This is probably one of the saddest, most uncomfortable songs I’ve ever listened to, but good on Pat Benatar for speaking up about child abuse.
I’m so happy you guys reacted to this. This song by the great Pat Benatar is extraordinarily powerful in its message to protect kids from any kind of abuse. Some kids very sadly and unfortunately exist in a living hell often at the hands of their own parents. This song definitely brings attention to this urgent message to protect children from abuse of any and every kind.
The song was never released as a single, it's an album cut. There is no video for the song, MTV debut in November 1981, the album Crimes of Passion was released in August 1980.
Jay & Amber, you'll love her "Hit Me with Your Best Shot" and "You Better Run" !!! edit - Pat Benatar started writing the song after reading a series of articles on child abuse in The New York Times. She was shocked to learn such things happen and wanted to write about it. I know you were crying on the inside Amber hearing those lyrics.
She was one of the first artists that address the issue of child abuse. She said as long as it's happening she will continue to sing this song. She read an article in the New York Times about the rise of child abuse cases. That's why she and the others created the song.
Those of us old enough to remember when this came out are still stunned anyone could have thought Pat was a child abuser 😮 but sadly there were. This is one of the most powerful ANTI CHILD ABUSE anthems ever written.
There was a certain church-going jerk who snapped my 'Best Of' CD in half when they saw that song title. They never replaced my CD even after I explained what the song was about. I guess I should have pressed charges. Some idiots will JUMP before they even know what they are jumping about.
Reminds me very much of the reaction to so much metal music I loved growing up. People just looked at the titles and judged the music. If people would take the time to actually learn what so many of these songs were about they'd realize how strong of a message so much music has. I've always loved Pat Benatar and always will.
I remember that as well it was so in your face because I think Pat wanted the message to be known that child abuse does exist and that kids should not have to go through it the fact that any parent could abuse their child for any reason is just so appalling and sadistic
I have to admit that at 66 years old i have a tear in my eyes and a broken heart. Amber, your reaction is what i wish the adults in my childhood had. It still hurts. Thank you for the hope.
You're right ,It was anger, and shock, and disbelief. She started writing the song after reading articles on child abuse in the NY Times. From her 2nd studio album, Crimes of Passion, which came out in 1980.
This was hands-down the finest reaction I have ever seen you both do. The raw emotion on both of your faces was just extraordinary, and I am so glad I witnessed it this evening. As a mother of four and now grandmother of five boys, I can tell you, Amber, that what you said about grown-ups telling children to keep a secret from other adults is very bad and no good can or will ever come of it. Hold each other and your children tight.
That scream could be heard on other planets. Always gives me chills. Such a powerful song, with great lyrics and one the great guitar solos ever by her long-time husband, Neil Giraldo. A certified banger and one of my favorite songs of all time.
For survivors of serious child abuse, this song was so validating. Pat Benetar is one of a few women who made it as real undisputed rockers. Rock has been very male-dominaated. PB kicks it!
I'm happy you gave this song a chance, and your reaction. Nowadays, more children open up about being abused than when this song came out. Those were different times. Many of us in an older generation have way too much identification with the lyrics. Thank you for this song. My favorite is "Promises In the Dark," but I'm not sure if you reacted to that one yet. You'll love it!
Maybe it’s because I have a nephew and niece now but this song just hits differently for me now. I can’t imagine someone doing those things to them, let alone any other little kid in the world.
So much respect for the folks who sing songs on behalf of other people: Pat Benatar, Soul Asylum, Susanne Vega, Natalie Merchant, Concrete Blonde, and many others. When you have a platform, use it for good. Rob Squad Reactions uses their platform for good. Thanks so much.
Total respect for Pat/Neil to make a song like this to bring awareness about child abuse. She even donated the money from this single record to help child abuse victims. I went to see them in concert 3 times in the 1980's & had a blast!. They should have been inducted into the Rock-n-Roll Hall of Fame years ago & not just last year(2022).
Maaaan! The first time I heard this song, I had to pick up my jaw, rewind the tape and listen to it again, just to see if I heard it right. It really hits the topic head-on.
First half we get compassion in the words and Pat's voice, with an edge of disgusted indignation, second half full-out Righteous Effing Anger. Blows me away every time.
So glad you guys reacted to this one and its deep heartfelt message. My next Pat Benatar request would be for the rocker "Promises In The Dark". Go for the official video first.
The point of music is to move people emotionally and to take action to correct injustice in the world around them. Pat had that in mind when she wrote this song. The song was criticized in it's day for using the word Hell in a song about children, but Pat stuck to her guns that this was a message that needed to be delivered. As always, she was tough, tender and assertive in expressing what she believed was right.
A masterpiece from Pat and Neil. You have to remember, this song came out in 1980, and subject matter like this was never discussed. Some radio stations would not play it because it was controversial. Pat always sings it with passion, and it’s easily one of her best
The look on Amber's face was exactly as I suspected. Musically, it's a fantastic song.....but the subject matter is heavy and serious....you want to rock, but at the same time you feel the weight of what Patricia is purveying....and husband Neil emoting through his guitar! In the end, you're rocking, feeling and cheering them for bringing attention to the subject...in their own incredible way!
It was a controversy when this song came out because of the title. People thought she was supporting abuse because they didn't really listen to the lyrics, plus the title "Hell is for Children" was the headline of a news article that Pat Benatar read that talked about child abuse and it was the motivation for the song. Thank you VH1 behind the music!
The idea of child abuse was always known....but rarely spoken of. Once Pat released this song everyone was talking about. And that was a good thing. The more light you shine on evil the fewer places it can hide. A short time after this song came out, and the talk was everywhere, I noticed more interest in stopping it and helping those kid being abused. I like to think that Pat Benatar helped many children with her song. Sometimes we have to know bad exists before we can fix it.
jay and amber-i loved your discussion about the lyric telling the child to lie about what happened to them. that is one of the most powerful and chilling lyrics in the song, I feel. telling a child to lie about something is one of the most messed up things you can do to a child. they are constantly forming identity. every moment is teaching and informing a child. childhood is constantly testing boundaries, trying new things, new information is coming at you so fast and furious as a child. rules are so important. truth is so important. so you cannot simultaneously teach a child that lying is a terrible thing to do, and then ask them to lie about something . it does something deeply wrong to a child to put them through such an experience. they don't have the mental equipment quite to sort through something so complex. adults don't really have the equipment, but at least they know this and can articulate what is happening. children don't have this ability, and again, it does real damage to a child.
Yes !! The absolute best!! So many people wrote in to her thanking her for bringing attention to child abuse. They read stories that absolutely horrified them. She said she didn’t even know this stuff happened. That’s how this song came about. I will never forget what this song is about, but sometimes I need to put the meaning of this song off to the side, so I can enjoy the killer song that it is. Kudos to Pat & Neil for writing this song . I absolutely love them!!
In an interview with Portfolio Weekly, Benatar explained: "I was living in New York when we wrote it and the New York Times did a series of articles about child abuse in America. I came from a really small town on Long Island and I had no idea that this existed, not in the little gingerbread place I came from. I was stunned. It affected me so much. I was moved by the articles. Whenever that would happen I would write. I said to Neil, 'I want you to do something to the music that it sounds like pain. I want the intense pain that's happening to these children in the notes,' and so he did and it turned out just great. It became an anthem. I always wonder if other people have lofty intentions. I didn't. We started a foundation for abused children. Then we had all these grownups writing letters saying no one had addressed this in this way before and that it was so great having someone in rock-n-roll doing this. It turned into this other thing that I don't think any of us foresaw. The anguish is there. Every time I sing it I really remember the afternoon when we talked about it."
I was a teenager when this song came out. I cried every time I heard it. Finally had to skip over it when playing the album. Brought me to tears hearing it here.
This is an amazing song but it's a really tough tough song lyrically and makes me feel guilty rocking out to it. BUT she wrote this to bring child abuse to the forefront because it wasn't talked about back then like it is now.
Love this song. It feels like an anthem to me, telling kids you should be see AND heard, and we see and hear you. Thank you both for being teachers. I hope you never encounter abuse, but know you will see and hear and speak for the children if you do encounter it.
It wouldn't be full throttle Pat Benatar if she didn't tell it to you straight to your face without easing off for a second. Thanks for reacting to this masterpiece of music and writing with the intended message heard loud and clear!
She brought a ton of attention to child abuse and the hell-on-earth that too many children go through. Very few people would openly talk about it back then. Some people protested the song because they didn't actually LISTEN to it.
This song was one of their first songs that sold me on them. The message she was trying to send about abuse was controversial but needed to be said. Love these guys. And her stellar vocals are always spot on
This song always give me chills and some tears. Pat and Neil weren't holding back in addressing this topic. This is the thing about music: it can be express so many emotions and shed light on subjects that are often swept under the rug. Amber is right: it's important to have songs such as this.
Took a lot of balls to write this long ago. The subject wasn’t talked about! Huge thanks to her for doing this! Great song I was so fortunate as a kid that I knew nothing of this subject. Pray for these children everyday …..
Back when this song came out, child abuse was not talked about on radio, and other media. After this song came out, this changed a lot! Pat wasn't afraid to speak her mind through her music. Such a heart wrenching, powerful song.
This is one of the most powerful. There was a lot coming out in the news about awareness of child abuse in that time period. I don’t remember if you have reacted to Aerosmith’s “Janie’s Got a Gun,” but it’s in a similar vein. It puts the issue right out there and paints the picture.
Yes...I hate when people say musicians should stick to music. Modern popular music has always been on the barricades, shouting at wrongs. It is absolutely everyone's place with a platform to speak up
Every once in awhile you will find songs out there with a slightly deceptive title. That's why the lyrics to this song are so important. Thanks for giving it a chance, it's one of Pat's rocking best!
This song has always been hard for me to listen to, because I grew up with an alcoholic, abusive father. Too many of the words, bring a lot of things back, that I want to forget!
I've always loved what an open book Amber is. You can always tell when a song has gut-punched her like this one did. Jay, I was really pleased to see that this song seemed to have a strong impact on you. Peace to you, and peace to all of the children.
"The song was inspired by a New York Times article about the growth in child abuse throughout the country. "I remember the overwhelming sadness and anger I felt that day," Benatar recalled. "Our bass player, Roger Capps, was also really moved by the article, and we immediately started writing lyrics. We showed them to Neil (Giraldo), and he thought they were very powerful and he began working on the chord changes and the rhythm of the song. He tried to capture the anguish and pain of a small child being hurt by someone they loved and trusted. I think he did it beautifully."" "Benatar said "Hell Is For Children" drew a strong reaction from fans and inspired she and Giraldo to set up a children's protection foundation that is funded by the song's publishing royalties. She still calls the song "my proudest achievement. It was created with a pure heart out of love and compassion for life's dearest beings, children…I play it every performance as a gesture of faith and solidarity.""
You need more Pat B in your life. She made such an impact on rock as a woman in the 1980's. This song was somewhat controversial but once you listen to the lyrics, it works. And it addresses the suffering children can experience in abusive situations.
Definitely a strange experience as a watcher of reaction videos, to see amber bouncing to the rock beat in her chair, and then her face is filled with pain and hurt and sorrow! Such an incredible contrast of physical emotion, with the rock bounce on the one hand, and the contorted face of pain on the other! Wow, 😮😢
I admit it that it took a long time before I understood what Pat is talking about here and I am glad she did this song. Verse 2 is all about the classic words of the abuser. If more people back then and even now would not only understand what she is saying but take action. It's a great song and sometimes the music gets going and you don't really listen to the lyrics and I admit I have been one of them. Music and the other arts can be a great platform to express and get out important messages and stir people to action.
This song is Legendary. She was one of the first to address this in public. Before it was something everyone knew about. You just didn't talk about it. In almost all of her music can feel the strength she has.
Thank you to the people who recommended this one. I love Pat and this song. It is a very seriously sad song😢I feel like it's a tribute to all the abused children out there.❤❤Thank you for doing this one.❤❤❤❤❤❤
Pat Benatar was so amazing in so many ways. Can you imagine this being on the radio a lot? Because it was for a while. And I ended up buying the records anyway but they really rocked when they wanted to.
Saw her perform this song live at the Uptown Theatre KCMO in '81as the final song of her set. That small, round closed in hall and her unloading of 'Hell is for Children' reverberated in our ears even when we reached our car in the parking lot. The guitar riff from Neil Giraldo (Pat's husband) pounded us and her voice ascended. True message delivered. btw, big fan of RSR. You two are dead on at an amazingly high ratio from Marty Robbins to ABBA.
I remember how Chrysalis Records didn't want this song on the album, but she basically told them either it's on the album or you don't get an album. The fact that every penny (she's taking a loss on it) that she has earned from this song has been donated to battered children only makes me respect her more than ever
Yes!! Gotta love her!! I’m glad my mom introduced me to her! Shes truly amazing!❤️
Seriously, it was a song about child abuse and child sexual abuse. Not exactly designed to be a money maker but I appreciate her strong feelings and recording the song.
My friend was her personal assistant for years and she and Neil are wonderful people.
@@rubygirl214please don't lie for attention shows how pathetic you are for human attention get a life
@@jmcquown Pat's husband who is her guitar player wrote this about child abuse and how child abuse was getting worse. Pat's record label told her they were not going to put this on her album. Pat demanded it was on the album or she would not release album. And....Pat & her husband used the money this song made to start a child foundation for abused children and all their royalties for this song go to the foundation.
Neil is such an underrated guitarist and I was so glad that Pat didn't accept her Hall of Fame induction until they included him because she and her husband are and have always been a powerhouse team plain and simple and she was not going to let his contribution go unrecognized as it should be....LOVE HER!
-underrated is so overused !-
@sunnystormy4973 No one talk about him unless they are talking about her music. That is the correct time to use underrated.
He is an incredible guitarist and totally flies under the radar of the general public. The combination of Pat's powerful vocals and his guitar work is pure musical magic.
Check out his playing on the Kenny Loggins/Steve Perry song “Don’t Fight It”
Myron Grumbaucher (sp?) is a great great drummer! I was so pleased to see him play at the hall of fame ceremony!
You don't understand how important this song was. Child abuse was not something that was talked about back then, it was swept under the rug. This song with Pat's fame brought forth the conversation into the public limelight.
Pat Benatar is just FANTABULOUS!!! Definitely one of her best. After reading a series of articles on child abuse in The New York Times, she was shocked to learn such things happen and wanted to write about it.
-#cheers-- thought they already-
-uploaded this one !-
And let's not forget. She was a BABE with with amazing chops and passion. (one of my rare suggestions for you kids is the CMT video of Benatar and Martina McBride performing live together from about 12 years ago. UH-mazing)
Yes, that was amazing.
I wanted to comment about my Step Dad being abused my his mother. She would smack him so hard that he would fly across the room at 6 years old... he brought that to me as well, but in a lesser way... now, my Step Dad is a best friend. He's 72. I'm 49. The thing is that maybe this kind is changing. We have to be careful of the discipline... because it hurts children much, but to have no discipline, hurts everyone as well. There is a common theme with Gen X type, me... and Boomers, my parents, and kids born after me, like You, Rob Squad.... that if kids don't get hit, they don't learn.
So this is very difficult. I didn't make kids. Never hit a kid. It's a very difficult thing, and maybe I would be better making a child. Maybe I still could.
Pat Benatar has always been a champion for women and for children. Bringing subjects out in the light that weren’t talked about back then. You should watch the live performance for this not only because Neil shreds, and the drummer is so fun to watch, but to see the passion Pat puts in her singing.
New Haven 1983, utter brilliance!
-awesome !-
I was very disappointed when she decided to no longer perform "Hit me with your best shot" live any more.
Growing up in a very abusive home, at the very time this song came out, it was an anthem. For me personally, it brought me some comfort, too. It made me realize that I wasn't alone in what I was feeling or going through. So, in a strange way, I've always been grateful for this song. It gave me the courage to say "enough," and I ran away from home when I was 15 and never looked back. 😇
Me, too, friend. And I made it as a successful adult with cptsd. Love to you. 🕯️
I was molested by my first stepdad ( I had 3 in all) from ages 6-14 and though I was college age when this came out, it brought me catharsis and I used to dance crazily around my bedroom getting all my rage feelings out to this song. Pat was good therapy for me!
You aren’t, sweetheart! As, a mother, my heart breaks for any child being hurt. Please God help our dear friend! 🙏❤️
Neil Giraldo, where this song comes from... he does not talk about it but was physically abused by his mother. he's been a child's advocate since 1996?
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Pat Benatar. RAW and brutally honest!
"And you shouldn't have to pay for your love with your bones and your flesh" this single line gets me EVERY single time I hear it. It's SO sad that there are millions of children who have gone through some form of child abuse in their lives
Aint that deep sad you get soft over a song
@@art23428 It's the lyrics that make me "soft", as someone who was abused as a child, this song hits pretty fucking deep.
Thanks Amber and Jay for getting past the title and reacting to this classic. Few artists then or now have the guts to put out such a statement of a song. But this song sent some shockwaves back when released. Even into the 80s child abuse was one of those thing that was just not talked about. If it went on in your family you didn’t want others to know about it. It’s not that people were cool with child abuse but like teen pregnancy and mental illness you just didn’t bring this stuff up in public especially if your family was involved. This song helped bring this disgraceful epidemic out of the shadows and into the spotlight. Too many kids were told to “tell grandma you fell off the swing.” Always enjoy good music with you all and this is good music with an important message then as now. Keep up the great work guys!
-absolutely !-
This was a big deal. It’s not like Concrete Angel. It is rough and in your face and you can hear her her fury about the subject. This song came out in the 80’s when people didn’t talk about this. Great song
Proudly your 100th like. ✌️
@@Reclining_Spuds -#cheers-- !-
This song came out at a time when people didn’t talk about child abuse. It was a well know secret.
Just like people didn't talk about racist Police brutality back in the day.
@@carlgibbons5777They didn't talk about it because there wasn't cell phone cameras, body cameras and video surveillance cameras everywhere like there is now. Which is why I think that every elected politician should have to wear a body camera when they're working. Because the policies and laws that they enact affect all of us!
Incredible song and took incredible guts to puts this out!! Strong message and strong performance!!!
OK love the song, but it didn't take guts to put this song out. Unless they were scared of the pro child abuse coalition.
@@jeffreyletourneau299 No actually, they were up against their record company, who wanted to keep this song off the album because it was "too dark."
Two of my favorite artists..Pat and Neil. They are so good in person. They wrote this song to bring attention to child abuse.
You made me cry seeing the pain on your face as you were “forced” to listen to this song. And a powerful song it is. Another song, same topic, from someone who really needs to be represented on Female Friday is 10,000 Maniacs and their song “What’s the Matter Here?” The singer is Natalie Merchant, and they’ve had (and then her as a solo artist) a number of big songs/hits. I hope you can check them out!
Yes. I wanted to tell Amber that she doesn’t have to try to dance for the camera… if what you’re feeling is entirely about the lyrics, then let your body language reflect that emotional gut-punch. It’s what the rest of us are feeling too.
I just saw your comment right after I posted the same suggestion…. Hope they check it out.
Suzanne Vega's "Luka" also does a nice job of tackling the subject . 😔
yes to "what's the matter here" 10,000 maniacs/Natalie Merchant! a brilliant and devastating exploration of abuse. an important song!
@@ChrisSmith-jj3es I hope so too!
This song reminds me of a quote that goes something like “good art should comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable”. This is probably one of the saddest, most uncomfortable songs I’ve ever listened to, but good on Pat Benatar for speaking up about child abuse.
I’m so happy you guys reacted to this. This song by the great Pat Benatar is extraordinarily powerful in its message to protect kids from any kind of abuse. Some kids very sadly and unfortunately exist in a living hell often at the hands of their own parents. This song definitely brings attention to this urgent message to protect children from abuse of any and every kind.
This was a controversial song and video at the time. Benatar brought a ton of attention to this issue. Powerful song.
The song was never released as a single, it's an album cut. There is no video for the song, MTV debut in November 1981, the album Crimes of Passion was released in August 1980.
Jay & Amber, you'll love her "Hit Me with Your Best Shot" and "You Better Run" !!!
edit - Pat Benatar started writing the song after reading a series of articles on child abuse in The New York Times. She was shocked to learn such things happen and wanted to write about it. I know you were crying on the inside Amber hearing those lyrics.
I just bust out crying with all the horrible stories these days. This song is the truth. Children are the future. 🙏🕊✌🌻🌻
She was one of the first artists that address the issue of child abuse.
She said as long as it's happening she will continue to sing this song.
She read an article in the New York Times about the rise of child abuse cases.
That's why she and the others created the song.
Can never go wrong with Pat Benatar. One of the best ever.
Those of us old enough to remember when this came out are still stunned anyone could have thought Pat was a child abuser 😮 but sadly there were. This is one of the most powerful ANTI CHILD ABUSE anthems ever written.
I remember that. Obviously those people were just going off of the song title and never really paid attention to the lyrics.
There were groups that wanted this song banned, They obviously didn’t pay attention to the lyrics.
There was a certain church-going jerk who snapped my 'Best Of' CD in half when they saw that song title. They never replaced my CD even after I explained what the song was about. I guess I should have pressed charges. Some idiots will JUMP before they even know what they are jumping about.
Reminds me very much of the reaction to so much metal music I loved growing up. People just looked at the titles and judged the music. If people would take the time to actually learn what so many of these songs were about they'd realize how strong of a message so much music has.
I've always loved Pat Benatar and always will.
I remember that as well it was so in your face because I think Pat wanted the message to be known that child abuse does exist and that kids should not have to go through it the fact that any parent could abuse their child for any reason is just so appalling and sadistic
Song was misunderstood by some people when it came out but it is about awareness to child abuse.
I have to admit that at 66 years old i have a tear in my eyes and a broken heart. Amber, your reaction is what i wish the adults in my childhood had. It still hurts. Thank you for the hope.
You're right ,It was anger, and shock, and disbelief. She started writing the song after reading articles on child abuse in the NY Times. From her 2nd studio album, Crimes of Passion, which came out in 1980.
Used to sit in the desert with my little boom box and scream my lungs out along with Pat Benetar! ✨
FINALLY!!! Quite possibly the most powerful her voice has ever been. And its normally pretty damn powerful!
I freaking LOVE this song, it's one of her best.
I just saw Pat Benatar in concert 12 days ago in Vancouver. She rocked and looked beautiful!
the "Promises In The Dark" Official video IS THE BEST of hers! Period!!!!
@greg2976, Promises In the Dark is my favorite!! ✌️🎶
I have been asking for "Promises In The Dark" forever. Needs to be their next reaction. And I agree the video is great.
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This was hands-down the finest reaction I have ever seen you both do. The raw emotion on both of your faces was just extraordinary, and I am so glad I witnessed it this evening. As a mother of four and now grandmother of five boys, I can tell you, Amber, that what you said about grown-ups telling children to keep a secret from other adults is very bad and no good can or will ever come of it. Hold each other and your children tight.
YES Amber!! Neil's guitar is just as full of rage as Pat's vocal. Brilliant song. So glad you did this one.
That scream could be heard on other planets. Always gives me chills. Such a powerful song, with great lyrics and one the great guitar solos ever by her long-time husband, Neil Giraldo. A certified banger and one of my favorite songs of all time.
For survivors of serious child abuse, this song was so validating. Pat Benetar is one of a few women who made it as real undisputed rockers. Rock has been very male-dominaated. PB kicks it!
Promises in the dark, and fire and ice. Those are my two favorites I think you would like them.
I'm happy you gave this song a chance, and your reaction. Nowadays, more children open up about being abused than when this song came out. Those were different times. Many of us in an older generation have way too much identification with the lyrics. Thank you for this song. My favorite is "Promises In the Dark," but I'm not sure if you reacted to that one yet. You'll love it!
Yes to Promises In the Dark!
And, You Better Run. Awesome song
Maybe it’s because I have a nephew and niece now but this song just hits differently for me now. I can’t imagine someone doing those things to them, let alone any other little kid in the world.
So glad you got to this one, finally,’ her vocals just add to the drama of the song
My all time favorite by Pat Benatar is Promises in the Dark.
So much respect for the folks who sing songs on behalf of other people: Pat Benatar, Soul Asylum, Susanne Vega, Natalie Merchant, Concrete Blonde, and many others. When you have a platform, use it for good. Rob Squad Reactions uses their platform for good. Thanks so much.
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I'm 61 years old and this song still makes me cry.
Total respect for Pat/Neil to make a song like this to bring awareness about child abuse. She even donated the money from this single record to help child abuse victims. I went to see them in concert 3 times in the 1980's & had a blast!. They should have been inducted into the Rock-n-Roll Hall of Fame years ago & not just last year(2022).
Maaaan! The first time I heard this song, I had to pick up my jaw, rewind the tape and listen to it again, just to see if I heard it right. It really hits the topic head-on.
One of my favorite Benatar songs. I'm in tears listening to this song, as usual.
Now yer cookin
It really is a powerful song. Hits harder today than when I first heard it eons ago
As a song this is just a great song, for it's message it's very powerful.
First half we get compassion in the words and Pat's voice, with an edge of disgusted indignation, second half full-out Righteous Effing Anger. Blows me away every time.
So glad you guys reacted to this one and its deep heartfelt message. My next Pat Benatar request would be for the rocker "Promises In The Dark". Go for the official video first.
The point of music is to move people emotionally and to take action to correct injustice in the world around them. Pat had that in mind when she wrote this song. The song was criticized in it's day for using the word Hell in a song about children, but Pat stuck to her guns that this was a message that needed to be delivered. As always, she was tough, tender and assertive in expressing what she believed was right.
A masterpiece from Pat and Neil. You have to remember, this song came out in 1980, and subject matter like this was never discussed. Some radio stations would not play it because it was controversial. Pat always sings it with passion, and it’s easily one of her best
Please react to Promises In the Dark, and Fire and Ice by Pat Benetar
The look on Amber's face was exactly as I suspected.
Musically, it's a fantastic song.....but the subject matter is heavy and serious....you want to rock, but at the same time you feel the weight of what Patricia is purveying....and husband Neil emoting through his guitar! In the end, you're rocking, feeling and cheering them for bringing attention to the subject...in their own incredible way!
It was a controversy when this song came out because of the title. People thought she was supporting abuse because they didn't really listen to the lyrics, plus the title "Hell is for Children" was the headline of a news article that Pat Benatar read that talked about child abuse and it was the motivation for the song. Thank you VH1 behind the music!
The idea of child abuse was always known....but rarely spoken of. Once Pat released this song everyone was talking about. And that was a good thing. The more light you shine on evil the fewer places it can hide.
A short time after this song came out, and the talk was everywhere, I noticed more interest in stopping it and helping those kid being abused. I like to think that Pat Benatar helped many children with her song. Sometimes we have to know bad exists before we can fix it.
Pat's husband, Neil, on the guitar obviously felt the same way as she did singing...his angry solo was always spot on for this one.
Aerosmith's "Janie's Got a Gun" is another powerful anthem about this hard subject. 🙏
jay and amber-i loved your discussion about the lyric telling the child to lie about what happened to them. that is one of the most powerful and chilling lyrics in the song, I feel.
telling a child to lie about something is one of the most messed up things you can do to a child. they are constantly forming identity. every moment is teaching and informing a child. childhood is constantly testing boundaries, trying new things, new information is coming at you so fast and furious as a child. rules are so important. truth is so important. so you cannot simultaneously teach a child that lying is a terrible thing to do, and then ask them to lie about something .
it does something deeply wrong to a child to put them through such an experience. they don't have the mental equipment quite to sort through something so complex. adults don't really have the equipment, but at least they know this and can articulate what is happening. children don't have this ability, and again, it does real damage to a child.
Yes !!
The absolute best!!
So many people wrote in to her thanking her for bringing attention to child abuse.
They read stories that absolutely horrified them. She said she didn’t even know this stuff happened. That’s how this song came about.
I will never forget what this song is about, but sometimes I need to put the meaning of this song off to the side, so I can enjoy the killer song that it is.
Kudos to Pat & Neil for writing this song .
I absolutely love them!!
I've heard this song a dozen times and this is the first time I've really listened to the lyrics. Thanks for reacting.
Her and husband are amazing!!!
I have heard this song hundreds of times but the look on Ambers face brought a tear to my eyes for the first time listening to it
In an interview with Portfolio Weekly, Benatar explained: "I was living in New York when we wrote it and the New York Times did a series of articles about child abuse in America. I came from a really small town on Long Island and I had no idea that this existed, not in the little gingerbread place I came from. I was stunned. It affected me so much. I was moved by the articles. Whenever that would happen I would write. I said to Neil, 'I want you to do something to the music that it sounds like pain. I want the intense pain that's happening to these children in the notes,' and so he did and it turned out just great. It became an anthem. I always wonder if other people have lofty intentions. I didn't.
We started a foundation for abused children. Then we had all these grownups writing letters saying no one had addressed this in this way before and that it was so great having someone in rock-n-roll doing this. It turned into this other thing that I don't think any of us foresaw. The anguish is there. Every time I sing it I really remember the afternoon when we talked about it."
I was a teenager when this song came out. I cried every time I heard it. Finally had to skip over it when playing the album. Brought me to tears hearing it here.
Amazing artist and powerful message.
This is an amazing song but it's a really tough tough song lyrically and makes me feel guilty rocking out to it. BUT she wrote this to bring child abuse to the forefront because it wasn't talked about back then like it is now.
This hits home, my dad was physically abusive. My mom got rid of him when I was 9. Spoke to him once more when I was 35.
Did he apologize? Did he ever change?
Love this song. It feels like an anthem to me, telling kids you should be see AND heard, and we see and hear you. Thank you both for being teachers. I hope you never encounter abuse, but know you will see and hear and speak for the children if you do encounter it.
"Hit me with your best shot" is one of her best songs
I've been waiting for this one. You wanna hear Pat Benatar ROCK? This is the one!
It wouldn't be full throttle Pat Benatar if she didn't tell it to you straight to your face without easing off for a second.
Thanks for reacting to this masterpiece of music and writing with the intended message heard loud and clear!
You really should hear “Do you think you know how to love me” by Pat. It’s phenomenal!
She brought a ton of attention to child abuse and the hell-on-earth that too many children go through. Very few people would openly talk about it back then. Some people protested the song because they didn't actually LISTEN to it.
My favorite Pat Benatar song. Also a topic that needs to be discussed
This song was one of their first songs that sold me on them. The message she was trying to send about abuse was controversial but needed to be said. Love these guys. And her stellar vocals are always spot on
This song always give me chills and some tears. Pat and Neil weren't holding back in addressing this topic. This is the thing about music: it can be express so many emotions and shed light on subjects that are often swept under the rug. Amber is right: it's important to have songs such as this.
Saw her perform this live last year and she can still hit all the notes with power and subtly..
I’m a huge fan of Pink, Lzzy Hale, Amy Lee….but Patricia will ALWAYS be be my favorite female artist.
This is my favorite Pat Benetar song by far, hard subject material.
Took a lot of balls to write this long ago. The subject wasn’t talked about! Huge thanks to her for doing this! Great song I was so fortunate as a kid that I knew nothing of this subject. Pray for these children everyday …..
Back when this song came out, child abuse was not talked about on radio, and other media. After this song came out, this changed a lot! Pat wasn't afraid to speak her mind through her music. Such a heart wrenching, powerful song.
This is one of the most powerful. There was a lot coming out in the news about awareness of child abuse in that time period. I don’t remember if you have reacted to Aerosmith’s “Janie’s Got a Gun,” but it’s in a similar vein. It puts the issue right out there and paints the picture.
Yes they have - I have a list of similar songs I'd like them to react to
I was just thinking of Janie right when I read this!!!
Neil Giraldo man (Pats husband) , one of my all time favorite rock guitar players, laying it down. Great song!
It's hard to hear, but I've always respected artists who use their platform to address such issues as this. Thanks for your reaction.
Yes...I hate when people say musicians should stick to music. Modern popular music has always been on the barricades, shouting at wrongs. It is absolutely everyone's place with a platform to speak up
@@dougman23 I agree, friend. Recall all the protest songs during the 1960's. Thanks for your reply.
Every once in awhile you will find songs out there with a slightly deceptive title. That's why the lyrics to this song are so important. Thanks for giving it a chance, it's one of Pat's rocking best!
My nanny loved Pat Benatar. She died in 2018! Great memories of my childhood. RIP Nanny, love and miss you! Wendy Simon Louque 1953 - 2018.
This song has always been hard for me to listen to, because I grew up with an alcoholic, abusive father. Too many of the words, bring a lot of things back, that I want to forget!
Powerful song about a really dark subject
I've always loved what an open book Amber is. You can always tell when a song has gut-punched her like this one did. Jay, I was really pleased to see that this song seemed to have a strong impact on you. Peace to you, and peace to all of the children.
Pat Benetar, such a strong and great artist. 😎🍺
"The song was inspired by a New York Times article about the growth in child abuse throughout the country. "I remember the overwhelming sadness and anger I felt that day," Benatar recalled. "Our bass player, Roger Capps, was also really moved by the article, and we immediately started writing lyrics. We showed them to Neil (Giraldo), and he thought they were very powerful and he began working on the chord changes and the rhythm of the song. He tried to capture the anguish and pain of a small child being hurt by someone they loved and trusted. I think he did it beautifully.""
"Benatar said "Hell Is For Children" drew a strong reaction from fans and inspired she and Giraldo to set up a children's protection foundation that is funded by the song's publishing royalties. She still calls the song "my proudest achievement. It was created with a pure heart out of love and compassion for life's dearest beings, children…I play it every performance as a gesture of faith and solidarity.""
You need more Pat B in your life. She made such an impact on rock as a woman in the 1980's. This song was somewhat controversial but once you listen to the lyrics, it works. And it addresses the suffering children can experience in abusive situations.
My first concert ever was Pat. She does a Beatles cover of "Helter Skelter."
Probably my favorite tune of hers. Neil's guitar work is just the best on this!
Definitely a strange experience as a watcher of reaction videos, to see amber bouncing to the rock beat in her chair, and then her face is filled with pain and hurt and sorrow! Such an incredible contrast of physical emotion, with the rock bounce on the one hand, and the contorted face of pain on the other! Wow, 😮😢
One of my favorite female vocalist of all time! ✌❤🎶 Please do Shadows of the Night. 💕
I admit it that it took a long time before I understood what Pat is talking about here and I am glad she did this song. Verse 2 is all about the classic words of the abuser. If more people back then and even now would not only understand what she is saying but take action. It's a great song and sometimes the music gets going and you don't really listen to the lyrics and I admit I have been one of them. Music and the other arts can be a great platform to express and get out important messages and stir people to action.
Another great song by such a talented lady. Pat ruled the early 80's for sure.
See, I told you so (which I will now abbreviate SITYS). The raw fury in her voice still gives me chills.
This song is Legendary. She was one of the first to address this in public. Before it was something everyone knew about. You just didn't talk about it. In almost all of her music can feel the strength she has.
Thank you to the people who recommended this one. I love Pat and this song. It is a very seriously sad song😢I feel like it's a tribute to all the abused children out there.❤❤Thank you for doing this one.❤❤❤❤❤❤
Pat Benatar was so amazing in so many ways. Can you imagine this being on the radio a lot? Because it was for a while. And I ended up buying the records anyway but they really rocked when they wanted to.
Saw her perform this song live at the Uptown Theatre KCMO in '81as the final song of her set. That small, round closed in hall and her unloading of 'Hell is for Children' reverberated in our ears even when we reached our car in the parking lot. The guitar riff from Neil Giraldo (Pat's husband) pounded us and her voice ascended. True message delivered. btw, big fan of RSR. You two are dead on at an amazingly high ratio from Marty Robbins to ABBA.