Trauma Expert: GENERATIONS of PAIN Lives In Your Body. Do THIS to Break Free! | Dr Mariel Buqué
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Dr. Mariel Buqué, a psychologist and intergenerational trauma expert, takes us on a profound journey towards healing. Dr. Buqué's holistic clinical approach, which blends ancient healing practices with modern therapy, empowers listeners to break the cycle of intergenerational trauma.
In this episode, you will learn how to heal trauma without medication, recognize trauma within your body, and calm your nervous system with practical techniques. Dr. Buqué also delves into the impact of unaddressed trauma on our relationships and how to navigate healing when one partner is ready, but the other isn't.
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0:00 Intro
1:06 Healing trauma without medication
4:44 Working through generational trauma when it resurfaces
5:53 How to recognize trauma in your body
8:20 The greatest gift a parent can give their child
11:30 The most harmful thing about trauma?
18:33 Fitting your healing into a busy lifestyle
20:15 How our inner wounds affect our loved ones
22:58 Becoming a better parent
25:24 Practical techniques to calm your nervous system
27:19 Supporting a partner that doesn't want to heal
30:32 The hardest trauma to overcome
37:20 The risk of not healing your inner child
42:18 Is trauma genetic?
49:57 How medication can heal trauma
54:52 The power of positive reinforcement
1:07:32 The true danger of emotional baggage in new relationships
1:09:54 What do you personally struggle with?
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Love her suggestions for how to help our kids regulate without "therapy talk"
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This was so beautiful to listen to both you and Dr.Buqué were so insightful I learned so much and I think I will be listening to this program time and time again and put it in practice 🙏🏼
Yes ❤
❤ YES ❤ Love & look after yourself then you can turn all around "rise above it all". Find what way makes you happy to have the peace, you seek in life. Stop worrying, nothing that bad that you can't live with, put it to mind answers come to you effortlessly "always seek & you will find". Live the life that makes you happy, don't let others pull you down ever no matter what. Do your best, if you do right things in life you can't go too far wrong. Appreciate your beautiful life, there's always someone in the world worse off than you. If someone has wronged you doesn't mean you have to do same back, just make sure you don't pull yourself down to their level - all is taken care of without doing a thing, remember no-one gets away with doing wrong. Smile even when hurting, help others. Life's too short. Trust all's well ❤
If you're reading this I'm praying something amazing happens for you today.💗🙏🏼
Amen
Amen and amen 🙏🏿
Thank you, for you as well❤
Thx same
Aww,Thank you very much and I wish the same to you!!! 😊
I was horrified when I discovered that my middle school son had been sleeping with a knife underneath his mattress, because of his fear that I was in a 4th violent relationship. (Repetition Compulsion?)
He had pledged to himself that he would not let it happen again. He had decided to protect & defend me - as a child.
That’s when I knew that it was time to escape.
For years now, my son & I together haven been “doing the work!” I am stronger & better! So is he.
Kids really make us grow for the better.
This is so true! I talked with my grandmother about her upbringing, parents, and grandparents. All those generations of my family, and they're all broken and traumatized people. I’ve finally had enough of this cycle. I’m changing myself and setting a better example for my family. It's time to own all this bad behavior and heal.
two years will fly by! Do the work friends! It will be worth it for you and your loved ones
I agree 100% and it will be well worth the effort!
I'll begin the work now,hope to go back here 2 years later😌,successful
I'm totally in.
I don't know where to begin. I really want to work on myslef 😢
@@rahwa138 hello. Sometimes the beginning is the hardest part. I’ve always been reminded to take baby steps at first to create momentum even if it’s headed towards the wrong direction the small baby steps will let you know to change your direction to a clearer direction. For me, because I had no idea how I felt how I reacted what I liked or what I disliked, I had to study and gain some knowledge about the conscious and the subconscious or triggers that caused me to emotionally spiral. you can do it. We are all fighting to become the best version of ourselves, so you are not alone my friend
She has such a beautiful air about her. So admirable
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Yes she does.
Healing does that! 🙏🏾💚
No she doesn't
My thoughts exactly!!
literally took me 5yrs to release old learned dogmatic beliefs,forgiveness to many who disrespected me as a child,loving myself again & gaining more courage to leave anything n anyone alone not aligned with my peace also core values…. im 45 so how ever long it take you to start your self awareness journey willl be that much longer to heal your mind
Depends on the individual, there is no one size fits all in how long it takes to heal.
One of my mantras: "thank you for my health, thank you for my healing".
That's what I say too!!! ❤❤ Puts me in a better mind set for the day
@v10letv1xen9 It plays a part of my "prayer" ritual as soon as I open my eyes every morning. Giving thanks for everything dear to me in my life.
Too numerous to mention here.
Giving thanks brings on more of what you are grateful for.
Thank you God for everything 🙏
@@v10letv1xen9 Definitely does ❤ I will always give thanks to our Great Creator God, Jesus "Wholly Spirit", Guardian Angels, Spiritual Guides & all my loved ones who have passed ❤ for giving me my life & for all the things (& more) that they did for me, will never forget them ever ❤
45:20 - Tribal elders believe this too; trauma goes back seven generations, but they also believe if the individual heals themselves, they heal those past generations, the present and future generations. They say it's a powerful moment--I've been doing a lot of work on myself lately to ensure this powerful moment ripples to the past and future.
so beautiful :)
Thank you so much for this beautiful conversation Lewis! And thank you everyone for your kind comments and feedback. May you heal abundantly!
Your voice and demeanor was so calming and enjoyable even with the subject matter! Thank you
Thank you for explaining so gently and eloquently Dr. Buque. We need more exposé about generational trauma. Thank you.
Thank you Doc. for sharing this very important conversation with us. I've personally struggled with childhood traumas from possibly 2 generations up thus this discussion has really been helpful in me identifying the root causes and cutting them off. This ends with me. ❤❤❤❤❤
I love the way this is so kindly communicated. Such a genuine ✨️ person. Emotionally intelligent and also practical and highly intelligent. ❤
@@susannas495 such kind words, thank you!
Teaching a child to vet people - set boundaries and hold their standards. I love advocacing for systematic change for your children in any community. Let's protect them.
Wow, this comment was so needed!!! What you just stated could actually save many from trauma induced ptsd, and other mental and emotional issues due to trauma and even narcissistic abuse. Boundaries are definitely key. Wish I would've been given the wisdom of setting boundaries.
Yes! This is very practical and needed advice that needs to be told. Thank you for this gold nuggett!
Vetting & learning how to set boundaries are things I wished I learned earlier on as child. Those 2 key components can boost trust & high self esteem in oneself
Jesus Christ is the transformative healer of mental , emotional, physical and spiritual trauma and chronic pain that's rooted in sinful relations❤️
I love this. I’m 50 and when I was coming up I was forced to be around horrible people. No one listened to my feelings and how I didn’t want to be around them. “Children are to be seen and not heard” was the Boomer quote for adults. I love that things are getting so much healthier.
Love her calming vibe.
So calming
Same
Yes, yesss and her high emotional intelligence.
Yes..I love it
Your Body Keeps the Score !
The Body Scans is done in Vipassana Meditation technique
She’s so calm and relaxed. Beautiful woman. She appears so compassionate and genuine.
46:35 “A scent takes you back…” My father has been gone (passed away) for over 44 years but when I smell Old Spice, I recall his hugs and smiles. Yes scent is powerful.
I'm sure he's looking up at you right now
Me too!
Right, one day I walked and one lady passing by me and I smell cilantro 🌿 omg very strong she has a very big cilantro plant and I go back to my childhood and seconds and I remember my grandpa , at the moment I was very sad for something and the same moment I said you are here thank you ❤
😢same here
I entirely agree with her definition of greatness. Life can kick you down in so many ways, but it’s also n getting back up that we achieve greatness. Finding that courage deep within to keep going no matter how hard, no matter the odds. That is true greatness. And for anyone who has been kicked down in life, I see you, I believe in you, and never give up. Always bet on you!
Meow
My cup of tea. Healing w/ no meds
5:55 how to do a trauma assessment
6:10 a knot in the stomach is the nervous system turning on
9:14 the first step is telling the story and seeing how our body responds
9:32 step two is relaxation
10:30 if not addressed it can be disease
19:50 takes 200 repetitions to reset nervous system
Easiest way is to recall an event and once you feel a body reaction you have to keep feeling that so that feeling will flow freely and clear from your body. Usually at the end the memory of the event will be recalled clearly as it is released.
🙏🏻 thank you Happy new year ✨
Thank you!
Healing is definitely a continuous journey
She's so gentle.
I agree
That is the first time I’ve ever heard somebody talk about when you go see a therapist you have to relive your story. I literally dropped out because I thought it was ridiculous and awful. I’m just glad to be validated through what you said in the beginning of this. Thank you.
I'm in my sixties and I've been through a lot as a young man emotionally but I started doing yoga in the nineties thanks to a friend who gave me a book.I have to say that it has been very helpful I still practice it and I just feel the inner peace within myself because I also have a younger wife and three children and I just tell them everyday that I love them because I believe true love helps with truma.
Thank you for this information
beautiful...Yoga has been major in chikdhood trauma healing process
My guru taught me..."Healing through helpfulness..." he said... "Doctors and medication aren't necessary..."🎉🎉
That’s stupid. Doctors & medicine are absolutely necessary. & have been thru the annals of time. There have always been shamed & doctors in our tribes. They are as much a gift and blessing as any other good thing on this planet. You all gain just a a smidge of awareness & take things too far. Look at Lewis’ team even supporting this ridiculous comment.
@@mr_jmartin4774 In days of yore a medicine man/woman would be a herbalist and a shaman... etc. Hippocrates was a natural therapist himself...😇😇
Helpfulness? Like spreading kindness to others?
@@sydneysweat37 Like... make yourself useful... contribute to the betterment of others and keep serving forever... service is love in action...
@@buddhaneosiddhananda8499 for me, this attitude is part of what has given me trauma. It seems that people take this for granted and treat you unkind. That is traumatizing tbh.
Only 15 minutes in and I already got soooo much from it. Your questioning is incredible as always Lewis. ❤
Glad it resonated
Thank you! Appreciate you for watching!
Look at Lewis go!! I also came from intense emotional abuse from a parent and it’s been twenty years of healing with abundant fruit. It is 1,00000000 percent work. There is no other way but through and that is the hero story. Good job man, you’re heavy hitting in the emotional growth world. And Namaste, this woman is a Goddess. Dear wow, you can feel the wisdom and breath and goodness flowing from her. What a great way to bring peace to the world at large. Loved this. 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
I was traumatized by an abusive 2nd marriage. I had a panic attack in Nov. 2021 after about a year of abuse. I was bankrupted by her and that plus work pressure and her emotional and physical abuse destroyed me. I have been suffering with anxiety, ptsd and depression since then. It is awful. Put the now ex wife is trying to get me and my family to rescue her from all her financial issues. I am Trauma Bonded and have a hard time walking away.
My brain tells me that if I had $200k I would be able to get out of debt and get my life back. But , I also know I have to really heal myself.
I hope you’ve made some headway in getting out of this situation and with your own healing …
Hard to understand, I had a Boyfriend who was like this to his ex! He hurt me big time running and helping a abuser! Now finely I understand! Hope you heal!
Loved this. I grew up in and out of therapy. Learning about trauma healing as an adult is what's changing my life. I like how Dr. Buque talked about having patience with family being one of her challenges. Kathleen Smith said in her book "Everything Isn't Terrible" that if you can learn how to manage anxiety around your family, then you can manage it anywhere. I felt that 😂❤
Thank you for telling me that! My sisters triggered me for years! I finally got a therapist to help me unpack the pain! New tools and finally peace inside!
This is my issue, I am seeing a therapist now to heal my childhood wounds .I want to be a better person for myself and people around me also a better parent for my kids.Thank you for sharing.
Thanks for this. I once read a quote that the most beautiful gift a parent can give to a child, the absence of working through terrible childhood for the rest of their life. This quote stuck with me. It is the absolute truth. The gift of a normal loving childhood lays a foundation for a child to excel in life. I think the biggest thing people miss is that once your childhood is damaged, you will spend the rest of your life working through it and healing. And yes, it does get better, but the work and healing process is for a lifetime.
I heard the greatest gift you could give a child is your happiness...As much as i loved my son i have to admit what I excuded from my inner core was my pain and bitterness about life. So sad he ran away as far as he could from me. I pray he finds compassion and forgiveness in his heart and know that it was never my intent to cause him harm in any way. 💔💕💞
You are taking over the conversation at times Lewis. You invite an expert, although you might be as well, but let them shine pls and share their knowledge to the top of their extent. That's why I tune into you account.
I agree. Let the expert speak please, the disruptions are so distracting. Great convo.
He asks great questions though
Oh my God that is great I’ve been in therapy for 20+ years and I’ve gone to all kinds of therapy types of therapy and I used to be suicidal bulimic have anxiety and depression and I got rid of everything and my daughter has anxiety my son has depression so pass that onto them but I overcame it and I think that’s exactly what happened I’ve done so much intense work on myself and it was hell I had major panic attacks I had to take medication for panic attacks and I overcame everything I think I healed myself from the generational trauma but it didn’t take two years it took20 and by the grace of God I have gotten rid of these
I totally 7nderstans. It took me just as long. Being the only one to walk the path, showing up in family and friendship circles that presented resistance to my decision. That was so intense.
As a parent of a 6 and 4 year old who has had the experience of toxic parental interactions in the presence of my children I am really grateful to you for asking this question Lewis. I've wondered hundreds of times on hundreds of days about what I can do to help my children heal and recover from the trauma of experiencing unhealthy relationship patterns and toxic communication that has been passed down through generational trauma. Thank you!
You are welcome
The quality of her huming as a sign of listening and understanding is so authentic empathic and soothing❤
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I'm currently living this journey as we breath....YOU CAN DO IT....
It’s not just that we ‘feel vulnerable’
..we ARE vulnerable - until we develop a life set up and personal empowerment that enables us to keep dangerous and manipulative people away from us.
That takes a lot of learning and we need a lot expert support - we have so many blind spots and wounding that it’s so easy for predators to pick us out of a crowd while all those around us don’t know what we’re anxious about, because they are safe and don’t get preyed upon.
Very true. I have been doing a lot of internal work and am still learning how to not become a victim again. It is a struggle for sure. Blessings of love and light to all!
@@number1angel66 agreed🤍
yes
Just realized why you interrupted her so much because this topic hit home with you so much. I apologize for my earlier comment of saying to "let her talk, shes the expert". I hope you heal from your trauma just like Im determined to heal from mine❤❤❤
Not even 10 mins in and this woman has brought up so many valid points that deeply resonated with me,specifically to what she was speaking on with going to see a therapist.
Thanks for being here!
“We cannot heal what we cannot see.” 💥💥💥🙏🏽
We can't heal if we can't feel
… we can’t heal what we can’t - and more so if we aren’t willing - to see.
Do this for two years and you will never want to stop as its so wonderful to fall in love with yourself. And evolving is so freaking fun and exciting!❤
I was 16 yrs old when I was legally able to be emancipated from my parents. In my 50's now and continually learning and evolving in the healing journey.
Yes, I learned why a person who had the American dream still felt worthless and self destructive; I learned the importance and meaning of compassion, ❤
I started therapy this year and it's been an experience. I want to run but I want to heal more.
This is an interesting conversation, it makes me confirm that salvation is the best choice and that’s what gives us the higher self and inner peace. Our maker knows what’s best for us. So awesome to know how the world is zeroing in on the aspects of the faith. Love it.
I know this has nothing to do with the video, but as soon as I started listening to this amazing woman, I knew she was a fellow Dominican.
Been doing the work over 3 years! Starting off it was brutal 😫😫 but now I live with more peace & trust for life. Start the work, it’ll be worth it!! ❤
Aw, my grandmother used to always hum. ❤
This is the most beautiful and heartwarming podcast I’ve ever seen! Dr Buquê has the gift of sharing her knowledge with great calmness and warmth! Easy to understand and practice! Thank you. ❤
You are so brave, Lewis. You're right, you can heal and definitely live a life of abundance ❤
yes! we all can! ❤
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Parents and grandparents must also give gifts of healing to the new generation in the family. Grandparents typically have a better hold over the skipped generation and are ultimately responsible because they let it get through in the first place.
Lewis, In every exchange, your skill in asking the right questions sparks a deeper understanding, and I find myself learning and growing through your conversations with your guests. Your insightful inquiries not only illuminate the topics at hand but also create an engaging and enriching experience for those involved. Thank you for consistently bringing depth and clarity to your discussions. I truly value the knowledge and perspective you share.
Thank you so much 😊
AGREED!
Yes, totally agree! I learn communication skills ... drawing out more information to conceptualize ... that's what makes the 'greatness' so good! Good variety and collection of knowledgeable guests as well♡
Congratulations Lewis on your engagement Lewis! Thank you for your resilience in providing meaningful insightful content!
Thank you
I love the way Lewis has also opened up here. This doctor has so much calm and emotional intelligence. I really loved listening to this. Often when I listen to similar people, I end up feeling more anxious 😟 as they communicate in an almost aggressive manner😮
I will listen to this several times ❤
❤ she’s a strong, grounded and insightful woman! Thank you
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
Something should be taught in schools as well.
for SUREEEE ❤
She looks and transmits a lot of serenity, peace, obviously a lot of knowledge and intuitive wisdom.
Dr. Mariel Buqué clearly knows what she is talking about (a lot more than this preview).But to some point all this conversation unsettles me, even irritates me, because finally nervous system is getting out there but is being transmited and represented in such a romantized and meditation-like practice or marketing way.
Nervous system Health should not be represented in the same way that most self help industry transmit amazing old and new knowledge and practices. Its not so much about peace and higher self, and all calm, most of the time.
Its about anger as well, Healthy expressions of anger, its about shame, its first and foremost about recognizing your true emotions, sensations and impulses, not just pushing them until the idealized version of them we wish. Its about getting to knowing and accepting yourself, its about understanding your biology and even, as hard as it seems, appreciating your trauma response for the purpose they served in that time when our system felt under threath. Its most of all about education.
Thats why Irene Lyon, for me, is the best person to learn from. she teachs us, She shows us, she educates us. The way she does what She does got into my body first, it felt the truth my relentless and ready mind couldnt catch so quickly. is truly sublime and very felt sense, while engaging with the rational mind and not leaving us in the dark or in the clouds of what it could be to “reach “ this “”divine “” state/place.
And the truth is you need that sympathetic and you need that parassympathetic energy, you need that ebb and flow. You need to build capacity- you need regulation, and then that felt sense of safety Will grow and that peace will come up. But first the ugly must come out in not so much of a bigger/higher person self.
This being said,
I really apreciated Dr. Mariel Buqué, she seems and feels like a beautiful person and i feel she has done the work and she is truthful
But the interview itself , was not enough, and plataforms like this have space for a little more of education, and less abstract concepts. My only sensation was that, for those who are getting to know this for the first time, and being this nervous system education such a/the missing piece for so many people out there, the discourse should sound and be different from that of mindfulness and meditation.
In the end they might all converge, but those practices/ tools above are advanced, for this traumatized and survival stressed society, that sometimes just go to spiritual bypasses unknowingly. we need foundations, the a b c and 1 2 3s of this exquisite creature that is the human animal. And it needs to be more … less, less goal oriented and less inner peace (usual discourse) oriented.
Just some unasked feedback.
I must say that regardless of the tone of this comment, I truly feel respect for Dr. Buqué and Im glad this podcast got me to know her and her work, at end of interview i was feeling warm again
Thanks, Dr. Buqué for saying that as parents we need to becareful how we speak to our kids about body size. My dad always called me fat and this year I learned that I developed a binge eating disorder. This was so eye-opening. 💔
I am sorry you experienced that... I wish you the best in your healing ❤
My mom always had something to say about my weight. Shes never even been a healthy weight herself. She trained me to avoid big emotions and to never bother to adress things with other people. It was always she told me shed handle it. And then shed give me the mom look whenever i would reach for food at a family function because i wasn't allowed to confront the abuse I faced within the family. What options did i have but to become a binge eater who used food to pacify very difficult emotions without any support to figure out ways to deal with my feelings in a healthy way. Im in my late 40's and disabled with many chronic conditions
@Sarah-with-an-H thanks for sharing. I admire your vulnerability. I pray 🙏🏾 for you're healing 💛
This is so insightful and powerful. Breaking generational cycles and facing our own trauma is the THE work. We have to heal our Inner Child.
Thanks for being here!
As a single mom I extremely appreciate you and the questions you were asking Dr. Buque literally as a question would come in my mind you'd ask it, it was almost as if I was there myself thank you thank you thank you
Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!
Thank you for shedding light on such an important topic. Childhood trauma may shape us, but it doesn't define us🥺. Let's spread love, understanding, and support to all those healing from their past. Together, we can create brighter tomorrows 😍❤️🤌🏽
I took 8 years. Worth it
Also for my children. Amen and Amen.
Practice of meditation and yoga helps me in my healing journey, yoga is more of work in than work out, innerwork! Keeps affirming that i am a work in progress! Solitude and doing solo travelling makes me strong and resilient. More inner peace and harmony with myself❤ love, peace, joy and healing everyone! Namaste✌️
Love this!! Being healed is a myth, its a process, start the journey and use those tools to help yourself be better and at peace ❤
Thank you for watching🧡
Self discipline Knowledge is for me listening to the pain acknowledging the triggers releasing Helps in whatever works to bring me to the Greatness within Amen ☘️
Thank you so much Lewis for brining this guest and enlighting us. This video trulty answers my prayer, I have gone through various trapped emotions that have started coming to the surface. I didn't know how to process them and this video came up today just in time. Also as a parent, feeling so much guilt and shame for passing on many unhealthy habits to my child. I have to frequently remind myself to be gentle and patience with myself and not beat myself up while going through this process.
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Doctor: I am 69 years old and all my life I have been afraid of birds of every kind and Don't know why
WOW, WOW, WOWWWWWW!!! The nuggets imparted in this video are PRICELESS for every area of life. I'm at a lost for words to express how much this inspired me to continue the process of harmony & breaking my own generational cycles. This video would bring healing to countless families, marriages, children, & more.
The information in this podcast was probably the most INCREDIBLE, INSIGHTFUL, & EDUCATIONAL video that I have ever seen regarding how we pass down toxic behaviors up to seven or more generations!!! And the things we can do to break those cycles, so we do not continue them into the next generation.
Thank you Dr. Buque & Lewis for this life changing video! You are truly inspiring people. As a female business owner who is learning & practicing many of the tools that were mentioned in this video to help me cope with stress, better self-care, & more, this video was what I needed to go to the next level.
I believe that the knowledge this video imparted would begin the catalyst for better harmony in every area of one's life. It is my hope that the message in this video will reach billions of people & begin the process for better marriages, children having more self-love, schools implementing more tools to help children, and more! Cheers, the U.S.
This was such a powerful podcast. I must say to even listen to understand what is actually going on with the majority of us in this world I myself experienced so much trauma, and even when I think I have gotten over that trauma I’m triggered by something or someone and then I have new traumas, that just sets me off all over again to where I feel like it’s a roller coaster and a repeat cycle of some form of trauma. It is definitely mentally a challenge to the point where you become suicidal in engulfed in rage not knowing which way to turn. Thankfully I work in healthcare, so I know what I’m feeling and try to take a deep breath and avoid dealing with the emotions at the time because they’re so overbearing, the pain that I feel is unreal. My last crying episode sent me into a panic attack where I was crying uncontrollably and my face went numb. I felt like I couldn’t breathe so this message in this podcast is so real and much needed. Thank you. 🙏🏽
You're welcome, thank you for watching and for sharing your thoughts🧡
Waiting for you to mention IBS related to Trauma , but you've mentioned Stomach issues. Thanks a million for this topic
This episode is therapeutic.
Thank you so much for sharing, this had me crying. I started doing the wok, it’s challenging but my future self and family deserves a heal, loving version of me.
Appreciate you for watching!
The work soooo worth it. I do it for 3 years now and i changed for the better and very grateful for all this knowledge out there and the teachers
That are really skilled like Dispenza, Lipton and all the others less famous ones
It took me three years to heal the death of my mother. I’m grateful and thankful for the journey and process that I have been through.
I run the same lines in my healing process, no meds!!
Renewal Restore Rewire it's working 🙌✨️
Any hints?
@excelant Depends on what your dealing with, if you don't mind?
Yes! a person remains stuck in that vulnerability so ppl are able to continue to hurt you until you're healed.
Thank you for talking about trauma.
She reminds me of Emeli Sandé. Even her voice 🙂 nice conversation and such a calm person! Thanks! 🙏❤
YES. I did not realize that retelling a trauma , allows to feel that it happens, again .
Great interview. Dr. Mariel Buqué suggests rocking can also reset the nervous system. I've been a chronic rocker since childhood and cannot sit for long without finding a rocking chair. Though normal amounts of rocking are usually a good thing, I wonder what's up for those of us who are maniacs about it. I remember a very few times in my life when a "healer" helped me get completely grounded in my body. I was able to comfortably sit still. I recall thinking, so this is what it's like to be normal! Hopefully rocking overdrive isn't doing harm, but I'm sure it's a sign of needing more nervous system regulation and grounding. Because even after doing it for hours, I'm still hypervigilant.
I didn't know humming is a nervous system regulation practice. Great to know!
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Kind of funny I naturally found humming to be calming and started doing it because it felt like a massage for my heart and nervous system I really enjoy it
Her voice is so calming
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YES. The nervous system/emotional response. I was a really guarded parent, who had to learn how to let my child be a child.
same here..as i did more somatic and breathwork i began to calm as a parent and tune into them more..now i pass them all of the mind body skills and the wisdom I have gained so that hopefully i can heal some of the damage i did in ignorance
Humming - - - yes YES I had forgotten this fabulous technique
counting the blessings in your life brings awe and happy
idiotic to concentrate on the negatives in your life
I want to touch on how she says her personal struggle issue is patience, for your family, slowing down...I look at it as HOLDING SPACE for others. Like respecting other people's timelines. We have seasons and lessons and all that. It's so patient and loving to HOLD SPACE for another
Love this, we need more of it! Great guest and host... 💚🌟
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
Tapping is great for release
It truly is
Thank you for also helping me know it's very OK to relax and just keep radiating the light from inside -out
Thats why i stopped talk therapy and went to EMDR
exactly
The part about asking ourselves as parents what we can tell ourselves after a decade of parenting from an unhealthy nervous system… thank you for asking her that question needed to hear that!
I have been stuck in fight, flight freeze fawn for many years. I have abnormal bloodwork, I feel, because of it. This is a terrible place to be.
This channel is saving lives ❤
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Thank you for reinforcing something I already had a hunch for. In peace is the way to live.
This conversation was so peaceful. I went on Amazon to order the book in hopes that it will help my son. Thank you.
He’s very kind
I mean this came at the perfect timing... I was looking for this exactly in the afternoon, and here it is... Thank you so much for this episode... ☺
You're welcome, thank you for watching🧡
Yes, for sure. Would really like to hear her talking more, this women should have 2 shows!
Wow, what a smart lady!
I just love the energy of Lewis’s gentle kind Soul. Thank you for being in this world. 🙏🙏🤣
Yeah OM.. the oldest to now, the sound of the universe ❤ generating in the very center of universe which we can never imagine ..
I got chills… thank you both 🫶🙏
She is so elegant and well spoken. Love this conversation. ❤
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.
@@lewishowes You are doing such great work Lewis. The world desperately needs more positive, strong masculine energy... soulful, deep, kind, beautiful men like you. Keep going.
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