A lot of times (most of it) I end up being right Because I'm constantly learning myself and I'm acting as a psychologist for myself when I need it (don't think about that too much) and so I know most of the time what's good for me (given I understand the situation as well (which I tend to if I have enough time))
6:43 : Frank: hit the like Me : **likes the vid** 13:46 : Frank : hit the like two more times Me: **hits like twice** 20:51 : Frank: hit the like button Me: **hits like** Me: That was a weird exercise that didn't end in his favour....
INFJ who tries to mask their darkness by trying to be vibrant and positive and also tries to see the light in people. Know what I mean? Hope that made sense.
Yet I'm over here yelling: "What are you doing?" "Are you stupid?" "Why aren't you running out of the house and not into it?" This explains why all I read are thrillers and mysteries and true crime shows.
As an INFP if you hurt me I’ll just stay quiet tell no one and just keep ignoring you but if you hurt someone I care about I will come for you. Additionally as an INFP I hate the idea of people finding out my dark side because many people don’t believe it’s possible that I do or just assume that I don’t.
@@kassandrasabean6020 I don’t just blindly react no, I will take things into consideration but if you are in my circle then you have my protection and if someone comes for you I will unleash my wrath which is has been stored and kept inside for so long to point where it just boils up and overflows
Dark Empaths are probably people with strong Extraverted Feeling or Intuition, who had to deal with apathetic abuse and learned to use it as their way of engaging the world. Like a love language, but darker. I do wonder what FJ would say about it!
@@Marvin-rr9cl They are very rare, and of course most of empath who understand other feeling will never want to hurt other, but there exist a tiny amount of people who can use empath's power to manipulate other and of course Psychopath are not Dark Empath, one of definition of Psychopath is "Lack of Emphaty", They cannot be Dark Empath if they lack the Emphaty in the first place
@@Marvin-rr9cl Psychopath *lack Empathy* and *Inclined to Violence* , While *supposedly Dark Empath* still *have empathy* and usually *not prefer violence* Are there more similarity than Manipulation and Narcissism?
People talking to INFJs: "It's been literally years & I've never seen your darkside" INFJs: "I have buried this part of myself, otherwise, I can rise up a zombie apocalypse from scratch"
That's probably the best way to put it. INTP's are acutely aware of the emotions of others, they just don't have the skill, energy, or care to actually deal with it.
Perfectly accurate I as an intp consider others opinions but idk who’s side to choose, mine or theirs(since they might have good reason), tho I prefer my self proved logic. Also I hate when people bring emotions into arguments(ex:anger, emotional manipulation) instead of proof
I'm an INFP and I agree that I do have a tendency to do exactly what you said (listen to people's advice and stubbornly ignore it). However, ignoring advice has nothing to do with stubbornness. In fact, I actually like listening to other people's suggestions and I do take them seriously. What brings out my stubbornness is when I think that the person giving me advice does not really understand my side and is giving me advice based on what they think is right or what they would have done, regardless of my own feelings, goals etc. The advice may still be wise, but I will only follow it when I think it is time to do so. On the other hand, when I feel that the other person is honestly advising based on what I want to accomplish, then I will most likely take that advice.
This is why as an INTJ sometimes I just don't give the advice. I hate people wasting my time. The level of information required from the person about themselves to craft a useful advice is high, aside from knowledge about the topic, and even then people on average don't actually know themselves well enough to tell you correct things about their own selves. So unless I already have the info (the person is a lifelong friend interesting enough for me to keep a special individualised 'folder' of them in my head'), or otherwise too bored to have anything else to do, I just say 'nope, I can't advise you'.
Same. Ass an INFP, one of my main concerns and interests are self-development. And so, I greatly value the outputs of other people concerning how they see me as i'll use those output to try to reasses which areas need developing. But if they advice me in the context that they're not really trying to find out my side, then I'll just outright ignore them lmao. (Especially if the "advice" is actually a judgemental insult rather than a contructive criticism. Hahahaha I'm not deaf Martha.)
I dealt with that alone but still so hard sometimes to understand why people are not more logical in their decisions or feelings. Doesn't make any sense to me like they like to suffer or being around problems? I dont express it of course, I know most of the time i must to be understanding and caring and mate... I gotta say some "problems" are bs or could be fixed so easily.
@@rustcohle9267 I (infj) was like that too. I wondered why are people not thinking their emotions through and get unhurt out of the situation. But then I started doing that too. And yes ,in that period ,I really wanted to suffer. Everything just felt so gray so I wanted to experience what other people are experiencing
As an INFP, I didn’t study on my last exam and so I completely went with my guts on all the answers and I still got the highest score in my class. *That’s when you really mastered guessing*
Lol infp will “listen” to advice of others but don’t follow it. Infp even knows it’s the right advice but something about it doesn’t feel right , or it’s hard to deal with following through with that cause it might take something important away to follow that advice. Like my job is stressful and literally drains me emotionally & I could get paid much better salary anywhere else but I stay because of sentimental reasons and worrying about my clients’ feelings about it. Like logic says to find a new job or consider new jobs but I don’t have the heart to. Also, it just takes a long time to process to make a decision to begin with with INFP, I force myself to make quick decisions sometimes or I never will. Lol Thanks for the videos -they make me laugh!
Exactly, I actually like receiving advice from people that care about me, but it is true that I dont let others change my mind easily when its something Im passionate about. Like when I chose to become an animator, people around me used to say "But youre a smart kid, why dont you choose a career that pays better and has more stability etc." even tho I know this path is the one that will make me happy, but people are always afraid to follow their dreams (specially where I live) and they try to project their failures onto other people, even if it is because they care about you, sometimes you just gotta do what makes you happy
Ikr!! When I struggle about something, I usually already know what I _should_ do to solve my problem, but then I'll have these thoughts or doubts, sometimes about myself, sometimes about the thing that I should do, that makes me go 'Nahh I won't do it' and continue struggling with my problem.
Something about the way he said it this time almost sounded like he has to maintain that picture for us now because he said it in past video. And its not actually true :O -fellow INTP with severe trust issues and fear of rejection... cause patterns repeating..
@White Crow That's ok. It always varies from person to person how you're being perceived (and the region/country you live in!). Even if two people have the same type they might be drastically different in some ways still (like my sis and me. We're both INFPs but boy are we different. She is very uncomfortable with talking about emotions rationally from time to time eg. and I'm not bothered by it at all ^^) Aaand also. INFPs tend to be misunderstood (making a good impression is hard when you're a weirdo). That's second nature to us (just like many other types like INFJs, INTPs etc.) So don't apologize. There's a possibility for any person of any type to be immature/toxic/whatever. It sometimes just happens to be like that due to different experiences etc. At least in the eyes of this perticular INFP lol (I think I can talk for most of them tho. We're all very nice and welcoming ^^) you're not ruining anyone's image. You're one of us especially if you struggle to make a good impression. You know. We're all weird! :D Just one last thing. INTPs are often seen as cold asses due to them just stating facts - often without the intention to hurt anyone. If that sounds familiar to you.. maybe you can check if this type suits you more I'm not doubting your type btw. I don't know why exactly you're seen as an ass so I wanted to let you know a possibility (cause this is very common)
As a INTP, a lot of times when I see people in trouble I think that it could've been avoided easily if they thought logically, but I'm never able to say what I think because I'm scared to be seen as a heartless, inconsiderate person
That, as an INTP myself, is my problem too. As an example, this is evident with something as basic as 'smoking'. The said smoker instigated the smoking, themselves, to begin with... They KNEW the risks, they KNEW ahead of time what would happen, and that at first their lungs would outright reject the smoke and would be a sign to stop. If they get lung cancer, then that IS their OWN fault, and it's...difficult for me to feel sympathy for them even if they're suffering in pain. I don't say that outright since, yes...it would be seen as heartless to more emotionally driven people. But I feel like showing them TOO much compassion would just 'enable' them to smoke further, even if they got rid of their lung cancer...and also 'enable' others to smoke as well.
I know exactly what you mean. People get into illogical self-destructive patterns and then get hurt and, like, I feel really bad for them, but also just end up secretly being very angry at them, because they made this mess for themselves and now need to be sympathized and emotionally "rescued", because they're so hurt, but its so hard and exhausting to deal with their emotions and my own emotions at seeing the people I care about hurt, and a part of me just wants to yell at them to suck it up and get their shit together, because if they'd had any logical sense at all, they never would have gotten hurt, and now I've gotten sucked into this emotional train-wreck of consequences that's not my responsibility and I don't want to deal with... but y'know, you gotta because you love them...
Same. When I was younger people used to come to me for their problems/advice for some reason. Then they’d ignore it and make stupid decisions and then try to make their feelings my problem. Sounds heartless but nowadays I’m very strict with who I let use my brain as a sounding board.
what really sucks is being an INFP who wants to follow your heart but also wants to please people so you end up taking everyone's advice and in so doing, harm yourself internally by not sticking to your values/interests
Screw the people pleasing, follow your heart. Sincerely, an older mature infp who wasted too much time not pursuing my dreams but now I am -finally-and couldn’t be happier:)
Basically you say yes to everyone on the outside but inside you ignore their advice the second they leave. But you still kind of think they're right. But you don't actually care.
You’re probs the unhealthy INFP-T! ‘What’s the point of living if you won’t do any do anything YOU want to do?! Like mental and emotional health is important too! We just perfectbeing of emotion and ascended logic beyond people’s so-called ‘intelligent’ minds...’ -Fellow INFP-A who if you’re reading this, please just express emotions even if it sounds illogical! It often works out in the end internally and sweeps everyone off the floor who wanted to throw you off your perfect throne! 💖✨👑😍💎💪🙏🍬😩🌈😊🙄😮☀️😎🍀💫🔥😭 You dropped this! ✨👑✨
Ok listen. If you see an ENFP is really focusing on something, especially cleaning, please let them finish their job, then you can call their names. And please make sure there's no ladybird will come flying to DISTRACT them. Sincerely, ENFP
100%! If I get distracted, imma fall out of my zone and nothing is gonna get done. Then if you complain, I won't wanna do it at all because I don't feel I'm good enough to haha XD life as an enfp
@@aroeenafaith5519 What a drama queen, it was only a noseblood and... Lord, are you dirtying the floor I just finish to clean ? You're so inconsiderate. *sighs*
Yessss!!! I'm INFP and it's so hard for me to focus and finish something too!! That's why I try to do what I need at night when everyone is sleeping and no one can distract me... it's not healthy but it's what mostly works for me. 😖 Please people, let your ENFP and INFP friends focus for at least one time in their lives
As an INFP, I dont recall a moment where I asked for anyones (unsolicited) advice! I didnt ask!!😂 Let me do things in my own way pls, dont intertwine w/o my consent!🦋✨🧿
Right. I can agree. Most of the time, I just tell a friend my problems because I want her to hear me out. Advice is welcome but just because it communicates to me the fact that they care enough to think of an advice, and I don't always necessarily feel obligated to follow that advice. . Maybe that's why I'm drawn to INFJs. They give me advice in such way that I know they're not forcing me to follow - a sort of disclaimer if you will. (Like, they simply say what they'd do... and then be like, "...well, that's just me. I'm sure you'll know the best thing for you to do when the time comes. And I'll be here to help you out." :) . And sometimes, them not forcing an advice on me but knowing how to word it in such way that I understand how beneficial it would be to follow their advice - this makes me take their advice. Sometimes. Like 40% of the time perhaps. The other 60% of the time (or so) I don't really bother with unsolicited advice. Judgmental advices are the worst. Ugh. Like, I'm still trying to deal with the fact that I am a flawed person, please stop rubbing it in my face. :(
Yep, telling about my problems and asking for advice are on the opposite side of the spectrum for me, I got my ways, don't interrupt, I'll listen to what you got to say, but I'll probably just ignore your advice
My mom has always guided me through my life, from choosing a college degree to getting my first career. But dangit, I wanna do things my own way. But I can't make decisions like these alone. The world is too scary. So I'm stuck. XP
Yess! I don't really ask for advice too. When someone tells me to do something, I might seem like I listen to follow them but I always do it the other way around 😆 I like it my way
I always follow my intuition and ignore advice. If advice was good you would sell it. The best ‘advice’ anyway is people’s mistakes, you can’t do them all, so I better learn from theirs.
Same here. I don't know why, but I always feel like what people says to me is wrong but I know I can't tell them, so I end up keeping it to myself and doing what I think I should do.
@@bio.Luminescence exactly my guy! I’m an INFP-A and I agree! Mistakes are one of best ways to figure out everything basically in your life! 💖👑✨😩😍🌈💪🍬🙏😭
As an INFP I can say this. A lot of my ideas/plans people found stupid turned out to be the best ideas I ever had xD Sooo it's not always that bad to just "follow your heart". Taking risks can be beneficial. I never had any regrets even when things didn't go as planned. Failure is better than regret.
i agree:) INFP are kinda the melting pot for the zeitgeist which sounds like really pretentious but it's just we pick stuff up without realising and can kinda imagine something that could come next (which can actually be very useful or practical - as long as it does no hatm or does good i reckon) xx
This is so accurate I’m an ENFP and I haven’t cleaned my closet in years. Even a simple task such as cleaning my small bathroom takes me hours when I force myself to do it.
As an ISFP/INFP, I can say that if too many people tell me the same thing, I'll get super annoyed and it'll kill whatever motivation I had to actually listen to the advice. The same thing if people rush me a lot, too. :")
Are talking about when Someone did something wrong in past You completely remember that But u don't remember what exactly they did I think u are saying that but I wanted to confirm
@@kimkk2981 Could be yes, I'm not really talking about something specific. More that us INFJs often know the reasons or meaning behind things but we're out of touch with the details and with our immediate environment.
FJ: "ESFJs and ENFJs are the most likely types to feel like they're the stupidest ones in the room" Me, an ENFP: *you underestimate my power* *Edit:* As it turns out, I was mistyped as an INFP when in reality I am an ENFP with social anxiety. In light of this information, I will not be changing my stance in any way whatsoever.
Me(INFP): omg.. Seriously.. This person I know is an ESFJ. I always have a feeling he felt like that but I still joked about how incompetent he is. We all know it's a joke but he must be feeling bad. Very bad. How stupid I am. Omg I'm a dumb bit*h. Nooo.. ESFJs and ENFJs: 👀 Me: I'm so stupid... Nobody: Absolutely nobody: Me: Such an idiot.. What to do with you.....
INFP: "This is good to me, I like this this. I'm following my heart. Everyone's telling me that this is not logical." Frank, this is so accurate 🤣 I live in my Imagination too long, I forgot it's not real 😂
As an INFP I agree. At the end of the day I go with what I think and then if it doesn't work out I don't have to blame other people for my problems. 🙂😁🙂
(infp)But people don't even understand 25% of us And they give AdVicE I know i need some advice but they don't understand situation and my emotions and assume wrong things
I hate it when I've already decided something, did all the planning (yes, we INFPs do that sometimes), created a perfect image of the result of that action in my head etc. AND THEN someone comes and tells me why that is a bad idea... They are ruining all my dreams and plans, for which I invested so much effort! 🤣
Story time: I (ENFP) ended up getting better at cleaning after experiencing landlord harassment. Basically, my ex-landlord was strict and mean. She would invade my privacy and go to my room without telling me, move things around, tell me that she's disappointed in me, blame me for the things I didn't do etc. So, I blamed myself, cried many times, had a panic attack, and lived with so much anxiety and fear. It got to a point where I started to feel sick physically. BUT, what I realised is that I got so much better at organising things after living in that house... I managed to turn my sad experience into a learning experience. I feel proud of myself tbh. 💪😎 Now, I organise my desk before going to bed every day. ("Thank you" to my INFJ friend who often saved me from my sad thoughts, and "Bye, you monster" to my ex-landlord lmao) Oh yeah, to everyone who's reading this, you DO NOT have to go through the same thing as I did. If you find a very controlling person who takes away your freedom, you can always choose to get out of that state and you should. Harassment is NOT okay. Get help immediately if you experience it!
Lol, I had similar situation when I was living with my entp ex (I'm enfp, so messy combo xd). I hated our landlord. First time she looks nice, but she isn't. I don't know how he could live there almost 3 years. Even my parents didn't have so much problems about cleaning and I'm person that never let someone to tell me how I should live. I mean, I don't destroy the houses, so live me and my mess alone, I will clean it before I move out.
@@Liczi27 ikr?! My ex-landlord was a weird person and hated having many things. She even told my organised INFJ friend that she should stop ordering stuff online. WHAT. THE. HECK. Honestly, my room didn't look too bad in the first place. But she still went there and sent me angry emails. So glad I moved out.
As an INFP, I have heard 'your' advice. But after 40 years of doing my thing, I have learnt the only thing that messes up my plan of action is other people. As soon as someone derails my thoughts and creativity, it becomes a wreck. Lol
Well, as an INFP, I tried listening to other people's advice and felt worst than listening to myself and getting into a catastrophe. So it's not that I am stubborn and don't listen to others. It's not as simple as that. It's that I learned that it hurts one way or another, and it's best if your bad outcome is not about ignoring what you really want, deep inside. Once you get old, you will not regret the most that you caused a catastrophe for doing something. You will regret the most what you didn't do because you were too busy listening to others.
me, an infj, to my intuition: what is it boy? my intuition: something's wrong. it's because of this thing and then this thing happened and then this will happen next and then... me: okay but what is happening? my intuition: well... me: ... my intuition: 😶
INTP here, I think that my Fe manifests itself often in a "group acceptance" way. I sometimes ignore wanting my thoughts, feelings, and ideas to be accepted by a group, because its sort of silly, what does it matter if people like me or not? But at the same time, I am deeply afraid of being rejected. So it can end up where I purposefully ignore whether or not people like me or what I'm saying because I'm afraid of the possible rejection. I think I'm a lot better at handling this tendency now than when I was younger though.
oh my god this is so relatable. like, I don't care what others think about me, or i try to, but at the same time...I'm really scared about being judged. And sometimes during group sessions, I would just shut up because I'm scared what I say will get them upset at me
This is the most accurate you've been so far, everyone is shaking their heads at my decisions, but that's who I am, I can't just go on that straight path! True, it's the safest known options and I do choose safe most of the time, but Let me explore a bit! (Now excuse me while I go to the road less traveled by) -INFP
Omgg that’s exactly what I thought 🤣 he was spilling facts that I kinda don’t want to agree with but the whole time I was like "well that’s who I am, won’t fight it " 😂
I don't know why,but alot of people would tell me,"what you're doing,doesn't make sense" And here i am seeing all the logic and calculating..... ... Yo, I'm right what are you being ignorant about? -infp BTW my matto is"i do what i like to and whatever i want to" When i do this i feel more active, well that's me. I still get top grades tho,"feeling" aren't bad
@@nayten0324 well I think you are an INFP, we have a tendency to hate making decisions and to always choose safety, but when it comes to personal choices we like to stick with whatever seems right for us and only us, even if everybody is saying that it’s not rational or logic we never consider it
I haven't watched the video yet, but as an INFP I've looked up other INFPs and I've seen a lot of people with mental illnesses and I myself have mental problems as well. So I feel like that's a common thing that we care for everyone else more then for ourselves. And we feel other people's pain like a radar and we try helping everyone and we end up realizing how much hate exists in the world... And have an existantional crisis lmao
As an INTP mother, my dark side is an ongoing battle. It's like looking out the window randomly and seeing an angry mob with flames and pitchforks chanting your name when you thought sunshine and butterflies. But in saying all that I'm slowly teaching my kids that taking responsibility for their feelings despite what is happening to them and around them is a super power.
I hope this comment doesn't offend INFJs 🙏🏼 It's just my experience with their dark side, as an INFP. Although I find them one of the most interesting personalities to talk to, sometimes I've experienced some of them develop a low key controlling and negative behaviour (moreover directed to the ones tag as "kind"). They give and advice and, in the next interactions, they keep checking if you have applied their recommendations in your life. Conversations become too intense, so eventually, the time needed to get in touch will be longer and longer. Silly example: - How are you today? + Not that great tbh but it's ok. - Have you tried what I told you last time? + Not yet... - Why? + I just need time to think. - But what else do you need to think? We already talk and I gave you a good solution. (and this goes on and on...So now I have 2 problems: the original one and now also dealing with someone that won't change the subject). Conclusion: Next time I'll lie, I won't share any problem, and I'llsay everything is ok. It's easier. Sometimes people just need someone that listens to them 🧘🏻♀️just to be able to vent all their brainstorming, and not to have them solve the problem. Many problems have simple solutions that depend only on the mental state and will of the the person 🧠 Let's say most of the times people already know the answer or solution. It's just that they might need to express outloud the problem and then have some time to change what's making us stuck.
Get yourself an ENFP friend to take you on an ayahuasca trip in South America (or shrooms in Colorado I suppose). Get the insight you need from within your own soul, and you get to go to South America.
As an INFJ, whether or not somebody listens to my advice is up to them, but I do feel a little bit disappointed. However, I will not push them too hard like that. It's like the last time my friends and I had to teach a French class, I was the one who stopped a girl from constantly correcting a student. Language is hard, it takes time to learn, and we're teaching just for fun. She was too serious at the time and I could feel how scared the student was 😢😢😢😢
@@bio.Luminescence I usually love to give advice even to strangers because I feel like they deserve to know. But yeah, an INFJ keeps track with other people's life is weird to me too. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I think we do that cz we really REALLY want that person who's in problm to get better, if I gave someone an advice and kept asking abt it means this person is so precious to me and we do our best to give u the nest solution + im not sure but this is probbly cz we will feel guilty if we can't help I used to be like this but I noticed ppl don't like it so I just advise and the rest Is up to them.
My hobby as an ENTP: finding ESFJ, ISFJ, and ISFP types and telling them their thoughts are valid and worth hearing, and then not interrupting them when they talk.
Ouch. I feel seen but also attacked. I don't clean my house, but like... who cares? Then you got into the "I'm unproductive and may never actually accomplish anything in life" part, and I... thanks for punching me in the face with my biggest insecurity 😭 But maybe I needed that so I don't keep ignoring it 😬
I literally went :O... D: at that part. (I'm an ENFP) I 100 percent procrastinate (I'm doing it now), but I get done what I need to for school and work (and sometimes for myself). I believe we are not any less likely to accomplish things with our life than any other type, we just might not accomplish the "acceptable" day to day life and y'know, that's okay. :)
Nobody: Absolutely nobody: INFJs in the comments: you know I can either summon a savior or Satan, right? How do you like being roasted, raw or well-done? 🙂
As an INFJ, I really dislike how edgy we can come across. It's like we have something to prove. Probably because we often do 😂 We spend so much time getting along with people, but feel some need to shout out "Hey I've a dark side too!" The end result can be a bit... overdramatic.
I'm really enjoying learning this personality 101 kind of stuff. I'm not interested in going into it deeper, being a psychologist, therapist or whatever. I see some of the nitty gritty details other people talk about in other videos, they have their psychology shop talk ... generally kind of emotional talks even when they're trying to be objective ... nah, I turn it off. But Frank James has a great way of explaining and portraying these things so you can understand (and use) what he's talking about. You don't come away thinking he has a big preference or dislike of any of the types, that he gets them all. It's a gift to be able to do that, and I'm impressed. 😎
As an INFP... why is it upsetting that we don’t take advice? I love doing things my way even when it doesn’t make logical sense to others... and I’m literally happy with every decision I’ve ever made when I was following my heart and intuition 😊🤗✨🧚♀️ I love all the emotions and stories and magic that comes with living that way, even the pain that sometimes comes feels so beautiful when I’m following my heart. I would never go back and follow anyone’s unsolicited advice, I can see for myself things that others couldn’t possibly understand and that’s ok 😊
I am ENFJ/INFJ and it's really true for both. I suppress my own needs and wants too often and I try to see patterns in everything to make sense of the world, so unexpected facts catch me off guard often. And then the world feels like an unpredictable unsafe place, so I try to make sense of it all again by seeing patterns.
If you refer to the infp thing, i can tell you that I don't only ignore unsolicited advice. I ignore great advice that i logically agree with, i even ignore my own advice whenever i force myself to take a realistic look at my situation. It's like i have 0 willpower when it comes to changing myself, at least when it is done in a shallow way. The only criticism that can work is one where a positive emotional connection to the new "state" is made aswell, and that's not that easy.
AS AN INFP-A, we all need the right advice at the right: -Time -Place -Situation GOSH DANG IT THEY ARE SO FUCKING IDIOTIC LIKE IM FUCKING GRIEFING OVER MY DEAD DOG AND ALL YOU’RE GOING TO SAY IS ‘You’ll be fine! Just get a new one.’ Like fucking insensitive... 😭
As an ISTP, the part about talking about your feelings and listening to other people's feelings was super accurate. I feel really awkward talking about my emotions and try to avoid it if possible, and I'm horrible at listening to other people's problems. Not that I don't care, but I just don't know how to deal with it or help them. xD
As an INTJ I can relate to being totally unaware of the real world at times. I hate watching the news, my favorite place to be is home, and when I'm reading a book I can become so lost in the story and imagining the world in my mind that I become completely closed off from everything else happening around me. My parents and sibling could be having an hour-long discussion in the car on the way to see our relatives, and I would miss the entire conversation and have no idea what it was even about because my head was lost in a book. And if anyone interrupted me from reading it would spook me and make me flinch in surprise. Looking up from my book was like coming up for air, like some deep sea creature breaching the surface of the ocean for the first time in days. I've also found that our weakness to Extraverted Sensing also causes us to rampantly indulge in said senses with the restraint of a 3 year-old. We see a cookie jar when no one else is around, and when ya get home not a single cookie is left in that jar. And yet the INTJ could still convince you it wasn't them even with crumbs all over their face. We haven't developed our Se very well, so we tend to indulge our senses excessively in unhealthy ways, usually in the form of binge-eating, binge-drinking, binge-watching TV, etc. When we're depraved we take it out by over-doing it with sensory pleasures. Perhaps that's why we tend to avoid parties and other social gatherings...but who knows? Any time I attended some social event I was only interested in the food, maybe the music, and occasionally for the sights. I can tell I neglect Se, because I'm not really motivated to go places just to see the sights. Sight-seeing doesn't motivate me to go for a walk or ride a bike. I have to have a clear destination in mind where I'm actually going to do something productive or functional. Where our Se is concerned, we either over-indulge in sensory pleasures or completely ignore them. We throw caution to the wind when we decide to just 'let go,' and the results are usually unsavory. We need to be taught how to refine our Se so we don't indulge our Se recklessly. But we also need to be taught how to enjoy small pleasures our senses offer so we don't lose touch with reality and can actually enjoy and appreciate what's out there in moderation.
Yes im INTJ too. I was always lost in my head. I always hated news, but now im very interested in them, well actually not in all, im interested mostly in political things or historical and thats probably because i love politics, history and geography. So that may not be thing of introverts to hate/like news, or i am exception or you are. I also hate social places like parties. Im too concentrated on food. But when i hear something about politics or history, then i can completely destroy them by talking for half hour about that topic lol. But if its only some small talk or for me not interesting things then i just rather eat something good there and im quiet.
Frank: "i'm not figuring out where to put uh..my...toilet paper?! idk why i came up with that example" Me, an entp: *stares at the box of 16 rolls of TP on my couch*
Me, an INTJ... unpacks it and makes it a pretty, symmetrical display while doing weeks of research on the best floating cloud shelf design before finally settling and making my purchase which will then become an autopilot activity I do on shopping days. Lol 😆
20:30 You are absolutely correct. INTJ here, and I constantly feel like the hammer is just about to fall. It's like I'm on a roller coaster, waiting for that first big drop and the subsequent feeling of my stomach in my throat. I'm preparing for something. I have no idea what it is, but I know it's going to be bad.
I actually met a dark enfj. They are my worst nightmare. Using empathy and friendliness to slowly get closer to you to Then manipulate you into what they want you to. I still cant Get someone from my type can make use of the abilities that i use to help others for bad stuff
I'm INFP and my friend is ENFJ, and I can say her Darkside is same like that. Sometimes we both Manipulating people for our personal interest lol. It was really fun Manipulating someone with her
I'm an ENFJ and I hit that point. I've always been on the fringe of ENFP so having this deep desire to explore and experience everything has fallen by the wayside my whole life. I've been giving in to people's expectations of me always prioritizing their desires over my dreams and I'm finally saying screw it! I'm taking a gap year and using my dual citizenship to move to england for grad school and beyond! People in my life can call my bluff all they want but ENFJs mean business when we put our minds to something and I'm putting my mind to channeling my ENFP side, ironically. I'm excited to finally do something for myself and really figure out my deepest desires independent of other people. It'll feel weird, but I like pushing myself. Anyway, this comment was for no one but myself but if you read it thanks for coming to my Ted talk. I hope it sparks some desire of yours.
So relatable😢 Go random person in the internet! We do need to realize to put ourselves first which we constantly forget. I also have adhd so I'm on the edge on ENFP but changed my life drastically trying to be organized and planned hence the J. -fellow ENFJ
In all seriousness, this video takes apart the difficulties of each type SO well. I’m so grateful to have seen it. Please keep making these, Frank! ~ENFP
@@hoodaticus infps have a really dark side u dont even want to see. Its actually really creepy, infps arent weak but they just think that theres a much better way to approach things. I think i heard that infps will use what all that they have read from u and use ur emotions to hurt u, they will threaten u if u hurt their emotions first
@@hoodaticus INFPs have that kind of Dark sides that I don't want Others to experience it in their whole life .... & Sometimes It only gets Darker with times
As an ENFP this also applies to my own emotions. I don’t necessarily pay attention to bad emotions or know how to process that pain and i repress it as much as possible. Which doesn’t sound bad necessarily but it’s my worst trait because it eventually explodes and I’m forced to deal with like 13 years of ignored pain and that puts me under stress and then I become hyper organised, and Si kicks in, and I’m trying to organise this emotion and things in my life in the moment but then my Ne is just seeing all these ideas on how to overcome and ignore it further.
I totally get you! I'm also an ENFP so I go through the same thing. But my INFJ friend taught me that it's okay to feel stressed, sad, blue, dark, and cry sometimes. Thanks to her, I have learnt to accept my emotional ups and downs. 😌♥️ I also keep a diary to express my stresses and also my happiness. It really helps. 👍 I hope you don't blame yourself or stress out so much cuz this is just a natural habit of us ENFPs. You're doing great. 🥰 Have a beautiful day~!
Also ENFP, but I'm the other way around. Whenever I'm feeling something bad, I'd call Fi to discuss what it means, it was torture. I have to really fight not to spend 5 hours thinking about why I don't wanna get out of the bed.
As an INTP, I like to talk about my emotions ..... from a logical point of view, of course. I really like to discuss why I behaved like this at that moment, why I reacted like this. I also love to think about what and how things affected me in my childhood. It's interesting how my brother used to be able to provoke me into such helplessness that as soon as I can't do anything about situations, my emotional inhibitions immediately crumble ..... just as it crumbles when I have to tell someone about my true emotions + what bothers me . Whenever I talk to my parents about it, I cry and I DON'T KNOW HOW TO STOP. I hate that
infps are always taken as a depressed cinnamon roll. To be honest, their Fi at its most active state could make them a harsh dictator if they want to 🤸♀️
Hi Frank James. Love your site. I listen. I totally listen. I simply don't always follow the advice. I can't tell you the number of people whose advice I followed, just to blow up in my face. Usually other people don't know the entire story because we keep so many things to ourselves. But more than listening, we need to _understand_ the mechanics of whatever solution the other person is offering us. "Just because I say so," doesn't fly. And, there's only one cluster of behaviors that I don't listen about...and that's how to deal with depression. "Just smile." "Just snap out of it." And, I take the advice of my therapist (and my meditation teacher). Getting better, and there's been much improvement. Another thing about INFPs...DON'T PUSH! INFPs HATE being controlled/manipulated...especially the turbulent INFPs. If you think the INFP deep down is a good person, just nonchalantly mention your solution. Don't push. Calmly explain what the consequences could be...and then wait a week or two for things to percolate. It takes a WHILE to process. Don't be surprised when we come back with questions and with more advice a month later, just to find that we've laid some groundwork on your solution.
I dunno bruh, this is the first time i've heard of it. ISTP here and I was just fixing my dresser listening to Frank there when he said that. Why are emotions an intrinsic part of work for some people?
As an INFJ who has binge watched all your videos on our issues with extroverted sensing I knew what was coming in this video but it still surprised me 😂😂😂🙌 very informative and so well explained! No one makes the mbti world more understandable and fun than you, FJ! 💜💜💜🌼 Keep up the great work
I am slightly disturbed at how easily he got the dark side of INTJ and how TRUE it was. I'm INTJ and I am literally constantly confused about what is happening and expecting it to go wrong in one second. hit the nail on the head, and it is scary. :)
Yeah he even did in one video that INTJ got suspision of something and started talking about conspiration theories, and its very accurate lol *but the theories are real* -INTJ
Did you fantasize killing people and torture them?? And if you r in a boiling point of your anger... You just switch to cold hearted and no sympathy to anyone near you.. ??
I'm an INFP who has an ENFJ friend and he's the one I run to whenever I need some emotional advice and comfort, because they're good at comforting, giving encouragements and listening to other people's problems or "drama" but when I ask him about how he's been, he just wouldn't share any specific details but prefers to listen to my own instead. Btw, I sometimes ignore his advices tho. lol
As an INFP I agree with this. I'm someone who doesn't believe you should always go your feelings but it's so hard because I feel things so strongly. I'll be feeling so strongly that aren't exactly logical but I know that isn't true and it gets so frustrating. I know one thing but my mind wants to go somewhere somewhere else.
as an ISTP, i honestly dont know how to console people when they talk about their emotions and when ppl thinks that there is smtg wrong with me, i'd say i dont wanna talk about it cause i hate expressing my emotions ://///
Watching the dark sides of each personality type and instantly noticed Frank James has 666k subscribers .. 🤔🤔🤔 I'm already subscribed so I can't even tip the scale 😭
Right. So, first, shout out to fellow INFPs in the towel section. LOL. I'm INFP and I must admit, most times (just like 60-65% of the time) that I tell people my problems, I am already set on what to do next. However, I just want someone to listen to me and show me empathy, just one person at a time, of course. Idk how to explain it. Like, there are these specific circumstances that I do feel obligated to go with my heart (and there are times I'm right in challenging statistical data from friends' advice) but I just wanted my friend/s to hear me out. Other times I take peoples' advice only execute them in a roundabout way because of denial or fear of failure or something. LOL. This is a great video. Interesting to know each type think in relation to their weakest aspect.
Here's a guide so that you can determine each type functions. First look at the last letter, if it is a P then focus on the second letter (N or S), if it is a J focus on the third letter instead. Now if the type is introverted "bounce" to the other middle letter, if it is extroverted then just keep focusing in the first letter that you focused. The letter that you are focusing in will be the dominant function and depends in whether the type is extroverted or introverted. Two examples. ISFJ: Last letter J so lets focus on the third letter F but since the type is introverted we "bounce" to S and again since it is introverted the dominant function is Si ENTP: Last letter P we focus in the N and since it is extroverted we keep with the N and we join it with the E, so the dominant function is Ne. To determine the secondary, third and fourth functions you intercalte E or I, first focus on the letter that you didn't focus last time and change the E or I, so for ENTP, dominant was Ne, secondary will be Ti, the contrary of secondary is third so for this example contrary of Ti is Fe that is the third function and the fourth will be the opposite of the dominant so the opposite of Ne is Si. Hope this help you :)
My ex was an ENTJ and you’re not wrong. Whenever he told me about who he used to be as a kid, a super introverted kid who liked nerdy things, and seeing him now how if he is awkward in a party, he feels SO UNCOMFORTABLE like he hates bringing out his child self again. His goals also seem to me more for other’s praise. I hope one day he welcomes his child self and does things for himself instead and focus on what makes him happy instead of shoving it all down.
The INFJ tunnel vision thing is soo accurate. Just today I was having dinner with my family, and I went on my phone and just... stopped hearing what everyone was saying. I scared myself into being aware of my physical surroundings. It can get to be a real struggle and at times a hassle just to hear what people are saying, but it's worth it to participate in conversations.
I had my own apartment once. I never needed to clean it because I just put things back when I was done using them. I hate cleaning with a passion. Avoiding it with a mindless routine leaves my mind more time to think 😎👍🏼
My wife and I have 7 children now! Pretty much my current strategy is to build as many rewards as possible for my kids when they clean! If I just cleaned something and you mess it up and I’m in charge you will be begging for the kindness of that VonTrap guy lol! MARCH!!! AND NEVER TOUCH THAT AGAIN! lol!
I agreed with the part about Introverted Intuitive (Ni) types, I often unaware about things in real life because I always try to find the meaning behind it or just imagining about it, which ironically could be considered as my own way to "cope" from harsh realities in real life.
As an INTP, it was sort of shocking when I realized that other people experience the same exact feelings that I do. Sometimes, it's still a bit weird to think about. Also, I hate showing my own emotions (mainly when I'm sad). I just feel like when I do, I'm begging for sympathy or am just trying to get what I want (which is never the case, but I am very stubborn and have a hard time letting go of ideas that I've come to adopt.)
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It’s one of my favorite! Thank you Frank 🙏🏼
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The Dark Side of each of the 16 Personalities: They're all *humans*
Well yaa:)
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Are you an INFP by any chance ?
egh
You are probably Intp or Intj
Everyone: What you're doing makes no sense.
Me, an INFP: Yes and No.
That's why I like using the simulation filter for reality.
💛🦋
"It's meant to do that. But it (my action) does make sense if you're me." LOL.
You just summed up my life
A lot of times (most of it) I end up being right Because I'm constantly learning myself and I'm acting as a psychologist for myself when I need it (don't think about that too much) and so I know most of the time what's good for me (given I understand the situation as well (which I tend to if I have enough time))
6:43 : Frank: hit the like
Me : **likes the vid**
13:46 : Frank : hit the like two more times
Me: **hits like twice**
20:51 : Frank: hit the like button
Me: **hits like**
Me: That was a weird exercise that didn't end in his favour....
Next time he should add another 'hit the like' to make it odd
🤣🤣🤣
oh my gosh. literally did it, too. haha
Haha you must be ixtp😂😂
Haha
I couldn't find it so here you go-
2:24 ESTJ & ENTJ
4:28 ESFJ & ENFJ
6:50 ESTP & ESFP
8:58 ENTP & ENFP
11:19 ISTP & INTP
13:48 INFP & ISFP
15:48 ISFJ & ISTJ
18:00 INTJ & INFJ
Thank u
You wrote ESFJ two times, I think you meant ESTP & ESFP
@@natofficial6722 lemme check-
Ty for pointing that out. I rectified it :)
Thank you!!
He had already put it in description box , so it wasn't required here 👀
INFJ who tries to mask their darkness by trying to be vibrant and positive and also tries to see the light in people. Know what I mean? Hope that made sense.
Yes that is literally me!
wow, so true.
That is so true and I feel it all the time
ahhh I'm INFP and I can relate this too~
Lmao true
INFP and ISFP: Thanks for the advice, let's see if I'll ignore it or not
Every main character in a modern mystery:
This is me
I didn't ask to be attacked
Yet I'm over here yelling: "What are you doing?" "Are you stupid?" "Why aren't you running out of the house and not into it?" This explains why all I read are thrillers and mysteries and true crime shows.
Ignore advices is always an option 😂😂
@@gabriellagaby3675 perfectly true - without the ability to IGNORE advice a person has no freewill
As an INFP if you hurt me I’ll just stay quiet tell no one and just keep ignoring you but if you hurt someone I care about I will come for you. Additionally as an INFP I hate the idea of people finding out my dark side because many people don’t believe it’s possible that I do or just assume that I don’t.
Will you assume too?
Do you assume things too?
Or just react?
As an INFP, I have to agree.
@Kassandra Sabean ; I assume what I did and what I do, of course. I won't react just for reacting, that's stupid.
@@kassandrasabean6020 I don’t just blindly react no, I will take things into consideration but if you are in my circle then you have my protection and if someone comes for you I will unleash my wrath which is has been stored and kept inside for so long to point where it just boils up and overflows
INTJ : "I see no difference between my dark side and my normal side.
I mean.... I'm always like this. It's my.... personality. Didn't you know?"
Accurate
True
I can feel you
INTJ: "Is this like... a personal attack or something?"
Spoken like a true INTJ lol
I’d like to see the Myers-Briggs’ take on dark empaths.
Dark Empaths are probably people with strong Extraverted Feeling or Intuition, who had to deal with apathetic abuse and learned to use it as their way of engaging the world. Like a love language, but darker.
I do wonder what FJ would say about it!
@@RyuuRider
Additonal note: Fe user are xxFJ and xxTP
@@Marvin-rr9cl
you don't see them doesn't mean they not exist
@@Marvin-rr9cl
They are very rare, and of course most of empath who understand other feeling will never want to hurt other, but there exist a tiny amount of people who can use empath's power to manipulate other
and of course Psychopath are not Dark Empath, one of definition of Psychopath is "Lack of Emphaty", They cannot be Dark Empath if they lack the Emphaty in the first place
@@Marvin-rr9cl
Psychopath *lack Empathy* and *Inclined to Violence* , While *supposedly Dark Empath* still *have empathy* and usually *not prefer violence*
Are there more similarity than Manipulation and Narcissism?
People talking to INFJs: "It's been literally years & I've never seen your darkside"
INFJs: "I have buried this part of myself, otherwise, I can rise up a zombie apocalypse from scratch"
Now you’re just making us blush 🤗!
As an INFJ myself, I can highly confirm this.
They would never look at us the same way again
INTJs be like "if I were to show you my dark side, many people would be dead already"
🧟♀️ is it time to rise yet... lol
That's probably the best way to put it. INTP's are acutely aware of the emotions of others, they just don't have the skill, energy, or care to actually deal with it.
True af, i deal with this most of the time
I'm in this constant dilemma of "how do I help, without actually helping?"
@N Harris rip, I guess it just depends on experience as well.
Exactly true 👌
Perfectly accurate I as an intp consider others opinions but idk who’s side to choose, mine or theirs(since they might have good reason), tho I prefer my self proved logic. Also I hate when people bring emotions into arguments(ex:anger, emotional manipulation) instead of proof
I'm an INFP and I agree that I do have a tendency to do exactly what you said (listen to people's advice and stubbornly ignore it). However, ignoring advice has nothing to do with stubbornness. In fact, I actually like listening to other people's suggestions and I do take them seriously. What brings out my stubbornness is when I think that the person giving me advice does not really understand my side and is giving me advice based on what they think is right or what they would have done, regardless of my own feelings, goals etc. The advice may still be wise, but I will only follow it when I think it is time to do so. On the other hand, when I feel that the other person is honestly advising based on what I want to accomplish, then I will most likely take that advice.
THIS. You explained it in words :')
This is why as an INTJ sometimes I just don't give the advice. I hate people wasting my time. The level of information required from the person about themselves to craft a useful advice is high, aside from knowledge about the topic, and even then people on average don't actually know themselves well enough to tell you correct things about their own selves. So unless I already have the info (the person is a lifelong friend interesting enough for me to keep a special individualised 'folder' of them in my head'), or otherwise too bored to have anything else to do, I just say 'nope, I can't advise you'.
@@nurainiarsad7395 It's an interesting way to look at this subject
@@npcimknot958 Hahahaha!
Same. Ass an INFP, one of my main concerns and interests are self-development. And so, I greatly value the outputs of other people concerning how they see me as i'll use those output to try to reasses which areas need developing. But if they advice me in the context that they're not really trying to find out my side, then I'll just outright ignore them lmao. (Especially if the "advice" is actually a judgemental insult rather than a contructive criticism. Hahahaha I'm not deaf Martha.)
Just saying
If an INFP got a reality stone
You better pray you haven't hurt their friends
As an INFP, I can confirm
Same
I'm such a wimpy INFP...I can't stand up for myself, let alone my friends. XP Maybe I'm not really an INFP?
@@CaveyMoth nah you must feel some anger when someone insults your friends, no?
@@lonearachnid6591 I feel bad. But I'm so scared of conflict
As an INTP, I'm happy to say my INFP and INFJ friends have helped me handle emotions better. I'm lucky to have them.
I dealt with that alone but still so hard sometimes to understand why people are not more logical in their decisions or feelings. Doesn't make any sense to me like they like to suffer or being around problems? I dont express it of course, I know most of the time i must to be understanding and caring and mate... I gotta say some "problems" are bs or could be fixed so easily.
I refuse to learn empathy
Some stupid feeling: hi
Me: TATAKAE. I HAVE TO TATAKAE AGAINST EMOTION
@@l_ishigami489 TATAKAE ,OUR BRAVE SOLDIER
@@rustcohle9267 I (infj) was like that too. I wondered why are people not thinking their emotions through and get unhurt out of the situation. But then I started doing that too. And yes ,in that period ,I really wanted to suffer. Everything just felt so gray so I wanted to experience what other people are experiencing
XNTJ: I don't have a dark side, I am completely dark
Ohh 😜
As an INTJ I can confirm. People are scared of me as I'm reportedly "Intimidating to people"
I have dark humour...
- INTJ
Then that just means you have a lot of dark sides, not that you don't have a dark side
Hmm IDK why this stereotype Tho now that I think of it yeah its kinda true
As an INFP, I didn’t study on my last exam and so I completely went with my guts on all the answers and I still got the highest score in my class.
*That’s when you really mastered guessing*
“Alright, let’s move onto the IP types- these are some of my favorites, man-“
Me, an INTP: 🥺 thank you
Lol infp will “listen” to advice of others but don’t follow it. Infp even knows it’s the right advice but something about it doesn’t feel right , or it’s hard to deal with following through with that cause it might take something important away to follow that advice. Like my job is stressful and literally drains me emotionally & I could get paid much better salary anywhere else but I stay because of sentimental reasons and worrying about my clients’ feelings about it. Like logic says to find a new job or consider new jobs but I don’t have the heart to. Also, it just takes a long time to process to make a decision to begin with with INFP, I force myself to make quick decisions sometimes or I never will. Lol Thanks for the videos -they make me laugh!
Ikr
Exactly, I actually like receiving advice from people that care about me, but it is true that I dont let others change my mind easily when its something Im passionate about. Like when I chose to become an animator, people around me used to say "But youre a smart kid, why dont you choose a career that pays better and has more stability etc." even tho I know this path is the one that will make me happy, but people are always afraid to follow their dreams (specially where I live) and they try to project their failures onto other people, even if it is because they care about you, sometimes you just gotta do what makes you happy
Ikr!! When I struggle about something, I usually already know what I _should_ do to solve my problem, but then I'll have these thoughts or doubts, sometimes about myself, sometimes about the thing that I should do, that makes me go 'Nahh I won't do it' and continue struggling with my problem.
And then we keep giving people advice (that we should be following) and getting pissed when they don't listen
He said it again! IPs are his favourites!
Score.
-INTP
So finaly, are you E or I?
Something about the way he said it this time almost sounded like he has to maintain that picture for us now because he said it in past video. And its not actually true :O
-fellow INTP with severe trust issues and fear of rejection... cause patterns repeating..
@@prdiludi4432 i don't think its about trust, but you're right about what you said. FJ does that only to lighten our spirits and mild ego
@@djdragons69420 yeah it's his more developed fe looking after our miserable asses
@@PreciousIvy yeah, also i think he is an infj, so its hard to say where he is faking or saying the truth lol
Everyone: INFP is so sweet.
INFP: *𝘀𝗲𝗰𝗿𝗲𝘁𝗹𝘆 𝗮 𝘆𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝗲*
o_o
ooft
Shhhh
shhhhh
@White Crow
That's ok. It always varies from person to person how you're being perceived (and the region/country you live in!). Even if two people have the same type they might be drastically different in some ways still (like my sis and me. We're both INFPs but boy are we different. She is very uncomfortable with talking about emotions rationally from time to time eg. and I'm not bothered by it at all ^^)
Aaand also. INFPs tend to be misunderstood (making a good impression is hard when you're a weirdo). That's second nature to us (just like many other types like INFJs, INTPs etc.)
So don't apologize. There's a possibility for any person of any type to be immature/toxic/whatever. It sometimes just happens to be like that due to different experiences etc.
At least in the eyes of this perticular INFP lol (I think I can talk for most of them tho. We're all very nice and welcoming ^^) you're not ruining anyone's image. You're one of us especially if you struggle to make a good impression. You know. We're all weird! :D
Just one last thing. INTPs are often seen as cold asses due to them just stating facts - often without the intention to hurt anyone. If that sounds familiar to you.. maybe you can check if this type suits you more
I'm not doubting your type btw. I don't know why exactly you're seen as an ass so I wanted to let you know a possibility (cause this is very common)
As a INTP, a lot of times when I see people in trouble I think that it could've been avoided easily if they thought logically, but I'm never able to say what I think because I'm scared to be seen as a heartless, inconsiderate person
That, as an INTP myself, is my problem too. As an example, this is evident with something as basic as 'smoking'. The said smoker instigated the smoking, themselves, to begin with... They KNEW the risks, they KNEW ahead of time what would happen, and that at first their lungs would outright reject the smoke and would be a sign to stop. If they get lung cancer, then that IS their OWN fault, and it's...difficult for me to feel sympathy for them even if they're suffering in pain. I don't say that outright since, yes...it would be seen as heartless to more emotionally driven people. But I feel like showing them TOO much compassion would just 'enable' them to smoke further, even if they got rid of their lung cancer...and also 'enable' others to smoke as well.
I know exactly what you mean. People get into illogical self-destructive patterns and then get hurt and, like, I feel really bad for them, but also just end up secretly being very angry at them, because they made this mess for themselves and now need to be sympathized and emotionally "rescued", because they're so hurt, but its so hard and exhausting to deal with their emotions and my own emotions at seeing the people I care about hurt, and a part of me just wants to yell at them to suck it up and get their shit together, because if they'd had any logical sense at all, they never would have gotten hurt, and now I've gotten sucked into this emotional train-wreck of consequences that's not my responsibility and I don't want to deal with... but y'know, you gotta because you love them...
mood asf, esp in romantic relationships 💀
Same. When I was younger people used to come to me for their problems/advice for some reason. Then they’d ignore it and make stupid decisions and then try to make their feelings my problem. Sounds heartless but nowadays I’m very strict with who I let use my brain as a sounding board.
what really sucks is being an INFP who wants to follow your heart but also wants to please people so you end up taking everyone's advice and in so doing, harm yourself internally by not sticking to your values/interests
Screw the people pleasing, follow your heart. Sincerely, an older mature infp who wasted too much time not pursuing my dreams but now I am -finally-and couldn’t be happier:)
most people are stupid imo so following their advice is not a good idea
Basically you say yes to everyone on the outside but inside you ignore their advice the second they leave. But you still kind of think they're right. But you don't actually care.
You’re probs the unhealthy INFP-T!
‘What’s the point of living if you won’t do any do anything YOU want to do?! Like mental and emotional health is important too! We just perfectbeing of emotion and ascended logic beyond people’s so-called ‘intelligent’ minds...’
-Fellow INFP-A who if you’re reading this, please just express emotions even if it sounds illogical! It often works out in the end internally and sweeps everyone off the floor who wanted to throw you off your perfect throne! 💖✨👑😍💎💪🙏🍬😩🌈😊🙄😮☀️😎🍀💫🔥😭
You dropped this!
✨👑✨
Ok listen. If you see an ENFP is really focusing on something, especially cleaning, please let them finish their job, then you can call their names. And please make sure there's no ladybird will come flying to DISTRACT them.
Sincerely,
ENFP
And DON’T criticize their efforts! Shut up and let it happen. We KNOW we aren’t the best or most efficient at it so just be happy we are doing it.
100%! If I get distracted, imma fall out of my zone and nothing is gonna get done. Then if you complain, I won't wanna do it at all because I don't feel I'm good enough to haha XD life as an enfp
@@aroeenafaith5519 What a drama queen, it was only a noseblood and... Lord, are you dirtying the floor I just finish to clean ? You're so inconsiderate. *sighs*
Yessss!!! I'm INFP and it's so hard for me to focus and finish something too!!
That's why I try to do what I need at night when everyone is sleeping and no one can distract me... it's not healthy but it's what mostly works for me. 😖
Please people, let your ENFP and INFP friends focus for at least one time in their lives
@@savirox23 ikr it’s amazing how much stuff I’ve stopped doing because i feel like I’m horrible at it and not worthy of doing it.
As an INFP, I dont recall a moment where I asked for anyones (unsolicited) advice! I didnt ask!!😂 Let me do things in my own way pls, dont intertwine w/o my consent!🦋✨🧿
Right. I can agree. Most of the time, I just tell a friend my problems because I want her to hear me out. Advice is welcome but just because it communicates to me the fact that they care enough to think of an advice, and I don't always necessarily feel obligated to follow that advice.
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Maybe that's why I'm drawn to INFJs. They give me advice in such way that I know they're not forcing me to follow - a sort of disclaimer if you will. (Like, they simply say what they'd do... and then be like, "...well, that's just me. I'm sure you'll know the best thing for you to do when the time comes. And I'll be here to help you out." :)
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And sometimes, them not forcing an advice on me but knowing how to word it in such way that I understand how beneficial it would be to follow their advice - this makes me take their advice. Sometimes. Like 40% of the time perhaps. The other 60% of the time (or so) I don't really bother with unsolicited advice. Judgmental advices are the worst. Ugh. Like, I'm still trying to deal with the fact that I am a flawed person, please stop rubbing it in my face. :(
Yep, telling about my problems and asking for advice are on the opposite side of the spectrum for me, I got my ways, don't interrupt, I'll listen to what you got to say, but I'll probably just ignore your advice
@@angel_cat yes exactly!! you've put it perfectly
i too also feel like infjs tend to provide the most comforting response haha
My mom has always guided me through my life, from choosing a college degree to getting my first career. But dangit, I wanna do things my own way. But I can't make decisions like these alone. The world is too scary. So I'm stuck. XP
Yess! I don't really ask for advice too. When someone tells me to do something, I might seem like I listen to follow them but I always do it the other way around 😆 I like it my way
As an infp I can say following my gut has served me well in life. No catastrophes here.
I always follow my intuition and ignore advice. If advice was good you would sell it. The best ‘advice’ anyway is people’s mistakes, you can’t do them all, so I better learn from theirs.
Same here. I don't know why, but I always feel like what people says to me is wrong but I know I can't tell them, so I end up keeping it to myself and doing what I think I should do.
@@bio.Luminescence exactly my guy! I’m an INFP-A and I agree! Mistakes are one of best ways to figure out everything basically in your life! 💖👑✨😩😍🌈💪🍬🙏😭
As an INFP I can say this. A lot of my ideas/plans people found stupid turned out to be the best ideas I ever had xD Sooo it's not always that bad to just "follow your heart". Taking risks can be beneficial. I never had any regrets even when things didn't go as planned.
Failure is better than regret.
i agree:) INFP are kinda the melting pot for the zeitgeist which sounds like really pretentious but it's just we pick stuff up without realising and can kinda imagine something that could come next (which can actually be very useful or practical - as long as it does no hatm or does good i reckon) xx
This is so accurate I’m an ENFP and I haven’t cleaned my closet in years. Even a simple task such as cleaning my small bathroom takes me hours when I force myself to do it.
my case as being INFJ is opposite, I regularly(twice a week) clean my closets but in a very short time like 15 minutes and in a smart way
As an ISFP/INFP, I can say that if too many people tell me the same thing, I'll get super annoyed and it'll kill whatever motivation I had to actually listen to the advice. The same thing if people rush me a lot, too. :")
Bruhh
'I know why, I just don't know what' could be my life slogan 😂 -INFJ
Are talking about when
Someone did something wrong in past
You completely remember that
But u don't remember what exactly they did
I think u are saying that but I wanted to confirm
@@kimkk2981 Could be yes, I'm not really talking about something specific. More that us INFJs often know the reasons or meaning behind things but we're out of touch with the details and with our immediate environment.
As INFP I don’t often take advice over my gut instinct but when I do I usually regret it. 🤷🏼♀️
Same
I feel like most of the criticisms of INTJs are compliments
~INTJ
(edit: corrected typo)
Frank James can’t help it.. his INFJ would probably have a difficult time naming truly awful things about each type! 😏🌹
No i can tell you it can be extremely frustrating. Sincerely, the wife of an intj (we have five children 🤣).
Compliments* :)
As an INTJ I cant help but agree
Yeah I kinda agree too
FJ: "ESFJs and ENFJs are the most likely types to feel like they're the stupidest ones in the room"
Me, an ENFP: *you underestimate my power*
*Edit:* As it turns out, I was mistyped as an INFP when in reality I am an ENFP with social anxiety. In light of this information, I will not be changing my stance in any way whatsoever.
Hahaha.😂
Lmaoooo my exact thoughts when he said that
Me(INFP): omg.. Seriously.. This person I know is an ESFJ. I always have a feeling he felt like that but I still joked about how incompetent he is. We all know it's a joke but he must be feeling bad. Very bad. How stupid I am. Omg I'm a dumb bit*h. Nooo..
ESFJs and ENFJs: 👀
Me: I'm so stupid...
Nobody:
Absolutely nobody:
Me: Such an idiot.. What to do with you.....
omg i was gonna say that😂
🤣🤣🤣
INFP: "This is good to me, I like this this. I'm following my heart. Everyone's telling me that this is not logical."
Frank, this is so accurate 🤣 I live in my Imagination too long, I forgot it's not real 😂
As an INFP I agree. At the end of the day I go with what I think and then if it doesn't work out I don't have to blame other people for my problems. 🙂😁🙂
Yep
(infp)But people don't even understand 25% of us
And they give AdVicE
I know i need some advice but they don't understand situation and my emotions and assume wrong things
I felt this so much 🤣
This is literally how it feels. 😂
*Darth Vader theme begins playing in the distance*
**Imperial March intensifies**
🤣
I hate it when I've already decided something, did all the planning (yes, we INFPs do that sometimes), created a perfect image of the result of that action in my head etc. AND THEN someone comes and tells me why that is a bad idea... They are ruining all my dreams and plans, for which I invested so much effort! 🤣
Story time: I (ENFP) ended up getting better at cleaning after experiencing landlord harassment. Basically, my ex-landlord was strict and mean. She would invade my privacy and go to my room without telling me, move things around, tell me that she's disappointed in me, blame me for the things I didn't do etc. So, I blamed myself, cried many times, had a panic attack, and lived with so much anxiety and fear. It got to a point where I started to feel sick physically. BUT, what I realised is that I got so much better at organising things after living in that house... I managed to turn my sad experience into a learning experience. I feel proud of myself tbh. 💪😎 Now, I organise my desk before going to bed every day. ("Thank you" to my INFJ friend who often saved me from my sad thoughts, and "Bye, you monster" to my ex-landlord lmao)
Oh yeah, to everyone who's reading this, you DO NOT have to go through the same thing as I did. If you find a very controlling person who takes away your freedom, you can always choose to get out of that state and you should. Harassment is NOT okay. Get help immediately if you experience it!
Lol, I had similar situation when I was living with my entp ex (I'm enfp, so messy combo xd). I hated our landlord. First time she looks nice, but she isn't. I don't know how he could live there almost 3 years. Even my parents didn't have so much problems about cleaning and I'm person that never let someone to tell me how I should live. I mean, I don't destroy the houses, so live me and my mess alone, I will clean it before I move out.
@@Liczi27 lol “leave me and my mess alone”. ENFP truths 🤣
@@Liczi27 ikr?! My ex-landlord was a weird person and hated having many things. She even told my organised INFJ friend that she should stop ordering stuff online. WHAT. THE. HECK. Honestly, my room didn't look too bad in the first place. But she still went there and sent me angry emails. So glad I moved out.
same
Is it even worth getting "better" at cleaning if you had to survive abuse to get there?
I hate it when the concrete world reminds me of itself by a project due tomorrow ~INTJ
double points if it's a group project...
I hate Any surprise, let alone one I didn't see coming. Id like to be debriefed first. 😶
I am literally scared right now about what I missed that is about to explode on me. -INTJ
that's very... accurate..
@@NumberKyuu triple points if your teammates don't have an idea of what they're doing so you have to do everything by your own...
Yep--I'm INFJ and I barely live in reality at all. In my head chasing patterns.
True. I live in my head :)
Hey that's my power!
~ INFP
Me too.
True. I kinda want to be in an isekai.
Im sorry. Who is isekai?
As an INFP, I have heard 'your' advice. But after 40 years of doing my thing, I have learnt the only thing that messes up my plan of action is other people. As soon as someone derails my thoughts and creativity, it becomes a wreck. Lol
Well, as an INFP, I tried listening to other people's advice and felt worst than listening to myself and getting into a catastrophe. So it's not that I am stubborn and don't listen to others. It's not as simple as that. It's that I learned that it hurts one way or another, and it's best if your bad outcome is not about ignoring what you really want, deep inside.
Once you get old, you will not regret the most that you caused a catastrophe for doing something. You will regret the most what you didn't do because you were too busy listening to others.
me, an infj, to my intuition: what is it boy?
my intuition: something's wrong. it's because of this thing and then this thing happened and then this will happen next and then...
me: okay but what is happening?
my intuition: well...
me: ...
my intuition: 😶
Se: "Well, it's actually that..."
Me & Ni: "SHUT UP!!!"
@@lynef lmao omg the struggle :')
my Se: bro relax it's literally just this everything's fine
my Ni: BE QUIET CAN'T U SEE I'M PANICKING???
the accuracy tho
INTP here, I think that my Fe manifests itself often in a "group acceptance" way. I sometimes ignore wanting my thoughts, feelings, and ideas to be accepted by a group, because its sort of silly, what does it matter if people like me or not? But at the same time, I am deeply afraid of being rejected. So it can end up where I purposefully ignore whether or not people like me or what I'm saying because I'm afraid of the possible rejection. I think I'm a lot better at handling this tendency now than when I was younger though.
Been there done that.
Yeah I’m also afraid of rejection so I don’t give anyone the opportunity to get close enough to reject me
me too.. and still struggle through that
yeah and having social anxiety makes you feel like the biggest hypocrite alive.
oh my god this is so relatable. like, I don't care what others think about me, or i try to, but at the same time...I'm really scared about being judged. And sometimes during group sessions, I would just shut up because I'm scared what I say will get them upset at me
This is the most accurate you've been so far, everyone is shaking their heads at my decisions, but that's who I am, I can't just go on that straight path! True, it's the safest known options and I do choose safe most of the time, but Let me explore a bit!
(Now excuse me while I go to the road less traveled by)
-INFP
Omgg that’s exactly what I thought 🤣 he was spilling facts that I kinda don’t want to agree with but the whole time I was like "well that’s who I am, won’t fight it " 😂
I don't know why,but alot of people would tell me,"what you're doing,doesn't make sense"
And here i am seeing all the logic and calculating..... ...
Yo, I'm right what are you being ignorant about?
-infp
BTW my matto is"i do what i like to and whatever i want to"
When i do this i feel more active, well that's me.
I still get top grades tho,"feeling" aren't bad
⭐️ 100% me 🙃
@@MT-vw3le I was certain I’m an iNFP until that because I don’t take risks, I always play it safe which is one of my problems
@@nayten0324 well I think you are an INFP, we have a tendency to hate making decisions and to always choose safety, but when it comes to personal choices we like to stick with whatever seems right for us and only us, even if everybody is saying that it’s not rational or logic we never consider it
I haven't watched the video yet, but as an INFP I've looked up other INFPs and I've seen a lot of people with mental illnesses and I myself have mental problems as well. So I feel like that's a common thing that we care for everyone else more then for ourselves. And we feel other people's pain like a radar and we try helping everyone and we end up realizing how much hate exists in the world... And have an existantional crisis lmao
Same
same
As an INTP mother, my dark side is an ongoing battle. It's like looking out the window randomly and seeing an angry mob with flames and pitchforks chanting your name when you thought sunshine and butterflies. But in saying all that I'm slowly teaching my kids that taking responsibility for their feelings despite what is happening to them and around them is a super power.
"The joy we feel has little to do with the circumstances of our lives and everything to do with the focus of our lives."
- Russell M. Nelson
I hope this comment doesn't offend INFJs 🙏🏼 It's just my experience with their dark side, as an INFP.
Although I find them one of the most interesting personalities to talk to, sometimes I've experienced some of them develop a low key controlling and negative behaviour (moreover directed to the ones tag as "kind").
They give and advice and, in the next interactions, they keep checking if you have applied their recommendations in your life.
Conversations become too intense, so eventually, the time needed to get in touch will be longer and longer.
Silly example:
- How are you today?
+ Not that great tbh but it's ok.
- Have you tried what I told you last time?
+ Not yet...
- Why?
+ I just need time to think.
- But what else do you need to think? We already talk and I gave you a good solution.
(and this goes on and on...So now I have 2 problems: the original one and now also dealing with someone that won't change the subject).
Conclusion: Next time I'll lie, I won't share any problem, and I'llsay everything is ok. It's easier.
Sometimes people just need someone that listens to them 🧘🏻♀️just to be able to vent all their brainstorming, and not to have them solve the problem.
Many problems have simple solutions that depend only on the mental state and will of the the person 🧠
Let's say most of the times people already know the answer or solution. It's just that they might need to express outloud the problem and then have some time to change what's making us stuck.
Get yourself an ENFP friend to take you on an ayahuasca trip in South America (or shrooms in Colorado I suppose). Get the insight you need from within your own soul, and you get to go to South America.
As an INFJ, whether or not somebody listens to my advice is up to them, but I do feel a little bit disappointed. However, I will not push them too hard like that.
It's like the last time my friends and I had to teach a French class, I was the one who stopped a girl from constantly correcting a student. Language is hard, it takes time to learn, and we're teaching just for fun. She was too serious at the time and I could feel how scared the student was 😢😢😢😢
@@angkhoanguyen8113 I never advise anyone unless they ask for it or in the case they are being taken advantage of. Must be a fantasy of the poster 😂
@@bio.Luminescence I usually love to give advice even to strangers because I feel like they deserve to know. But yeah, an INFJ keeps track with other people's life is weird to me too. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I think we do that cz we really REALLY want that person who's in problm to get better, if I gave someone an advice and kept asking abt it means this person is so precious to me and we do our best to give u the nest solution + im not sure but this is probbly cz we will feel guilty if we can't help
I used to be like this but I noticed ppl don't like it so I just advise and the rest Is up to them.
My hobby as an ENTP: finding ESFJ, ISFJ, and ISFP types and telling them their thoughts are valid and worth hearing, and then not interrupting them when they talk.
Ouch. I feel seen but also attacked.
I don't clean my house, but like... who cares? Then you got into the "I'm unproductive and may never actually accomplish anything in life" part, and I... thanks for punching me in the face with my biggest insecurity 😭
But maybe I needed that so I don't keep ignoring it 😬
I literally went :O... D: at that part. (I'm an ENFP) I 100 percent procrastinate (I'm doing it now), but I get done what I need to for school and work (and sometimes for myself). I believe we are not any less likely to accomplish things with our life than any other type, we just might not accomplish the "acceptable" day to day life and y'know, that's okay. :)
You are part responsible for my insomnia. When I find out you just released a new video at 12h00... can't wait for tomorrow to watch it. 🤦♀️
ENFJ- my dark side is understanding you better than you understand yourself
*fear my power*
Go to bed. -INFJ
Snap back to reality - INtP
Nobody:
Absolutely nobody:
INFJs in the comments: you know I can either summon a savior or Satan, right? How do you like being roasted, raw or well-done? 🙂
As an INFJ, I really dislike how edgy we can come across.
It's like we have something to prove.
Probably because we often do 😂 We spend so much time getting along with people, but feel some need to shout out "Hey I've a dark side too!"
The end result can be a bit... overdramatic.
@@SubtleAscension probably because these sorts are actually infp’s who want to be “unique”
but in reality we're just lil cupcakes
I'm really enjoying learning this personality 101 kind of stuff. I'm not interested in going into it deeper, being a psychologist, therapist or whatever. I see some of the nitty gritty details other people talk about in other videos, they have their psychology shop talk ... generally kind of emotional talks even when they're trying to be objective ... nah, I turn it off. But Frank James has a great way of explaining and portraying these things so you can understand (and use) what he's talking about. You don't come away thinking he has a big preference or dislike of any of the types, that he gets them all. It's a gift to be able to do that, and I'm impressed. 😎
As an INFP... why is it upsetting that we don’t take advice? I love doing things my way even when it doesn’t make logical sense to others... and I’m literally happy with every decision I’ve ever made when I was following my heart and intuition 😊🤗✨🧚♀️ I love all the emotions and stories and magic that comes with living that way, even the pain that sometimes comes feels so beautiful when I’m following my heart. I would never go back and follow anyone’s unsolicited advice, I can see for myself things that others couldn’t possibly understand and that’s ok 😊
Dark side of introverts were always dark
TRUUEE
Yeah😂
I am ENFJ/INFJ and it's really true for both. I suppress my own needs and wants too often and I try to see patterns in everything to make sense of the world, so unexpected facts catch me off guard often. And then the world feels like an unpredictable unsafe place, so I try to make sense of it all again by seeing patterns.
In counseling psychology, we learn that unsolicited advice is rarely effective, regardless of type. ;)
If you refer to the infp thing, i can tell you that I don't only ignore unsolicited advice. I ignore great advice that i logically agree with, i even ignore my own advice whenever i force myself to take a realistic look at my situation.
It's like i have 0 willpower when it comes to changing myself, at least when it is done in a shallow way.
The only criticism that can work is one where a positive emotional connection to the new "state" is made aswell, and that's not that easy.
AS AN INFP-A, we all need the right advice at the right:
-Time
-Place
-Situation
GOSH DANG IT THEY ARE SO FUCKING IDIOTIC LIKE IM FUCKING GRIEFING OVER MY DEAD DOG AND ALL YOU’RE GOING TO SAY IS ‘You’ll be fine! Just get a new one.’ Like fucking insensitive... 😭
As an ISTP, the part about talking about your feelings and listening to other people's feelings was super accurate. I feel really awkward talking about my emotions and try to avoid it if possible, and I'm horrible at listening to other people's problems. Not that I don't care, but I just don't know how to deal with it or help them. xD
As an INTJ I can relate to being totally unaware of the real world at times. I hate watching the news, my favorite place to be is home, and when I'm reading a book I can become so lost in the story and imagining the world in my mind that I become completely closed off from everything else happening around me. My parents and sibling could be having an hour-long discussion in the car on the way to see our relatives, and I would miss the entire conversation and have no idea what it was even about because my head was lost in a book. And if anyone interrupted me from reading it would spook me and make me flinch in surprise. Looking up from my book was like coming up for air, like some deep sea creature breaching the surface of the ocean for the first time in days. I've also found that our weakness to Extraverted Sensing also causes us to rampantly indulge in said senses with the restraint of a 3 year-old. We see a cookie jar when no one else is around, and when ya get home not a single cookie is left in that jar. And yet the INTJ could still convince you it wasn't them even with crumbs all over their face. We haven't developed our Se very well, so we tend to indulge our senses excessively in unhealthy ways, usually in the form of binge-eating, binge-drinking, binge-watching TV, etc. When we're depraved we take it out by over-doing it with sensory pleasures. Perhaps that's why we tend to avoid parties and other social gatherings...but who knows? Any time I attended some social event I was only interested in the food, maybe the music, and occasionally for the sights. I can tell I neglect Se, because I'm not really motivated to go places just to see the sights. Sight-seeing doesn't motivate me to go for a walk or ride a bike. I have to have a clear destination in mind where I'm actually going to do something productive or functional. Where our Se is concerned, we either over-indulge in sensory pleasures or completely ignore them. We throw caution to the wind when we decide to just 'let go,' and the results are usually unsavory. We need to be taught how to refine our Se so we don't indulge our Se recklessly. But we also need to be taught how to enjoy small pleasures our senses offer so we don't lose touch with reality and can actually enjoy and appreciate what's out there in moderation.
Yes im INTJ too. I was always lost in my head. I always hated news, but now im very interested in them, well actually not in all, im interested mostly in political things or historical and thats probably because i love politics, history and geography. So that may not be thing of introverts to hate/like news, or i am exception or you are. I also hate social places like parties. Im too concentrated on food. But when i hear something about politics or history, then i can completely destroy them by talking for half hour about that topic lol. But if its only some small talk or for me not interesting things then i just rather eat something good there and im quiet.
Frank: "i'm not figuring out where to put uh..my...toilet paper?! idk why i came up with that example"
Me, an entp: *stares at the box of 16 rolls of TP on my couch*
Me, an INTJ... unpacks it and makes it a pretty, symmetrical display while doing weeks of research on the best floating cloud shelf design before finally settling and making my purchase which will then become an autopilot activity I do on shopping days. Lol 😆
you guys taking that P to a different level
20:30 You are absolutely correct. INTJ here, and I constantly feel like the hammer is just about to fall. It's like I'm on a roller coaster, waiting for that first big drop and the subsequent feeling of my stomach in my throat. I'm preparing for something. I have no idea what it is, but I know it's going to be bad.
I actually met a dark enfj.
They are my worst nightmare.
Using empathy and friendliness to slowly get closer to you to Then manipulate you into what they want you to. I still cant Get someone from my type can make use of the abilities that i use to help others for bad stuff
ngfl as an enfj (atleast healthy one) myself im scared of dark enfjs
@@Jays_Hatepage same
There are many clever minds in this world ,,, be careful
I'm INFP and my friend is ENFJ, and I can say her Darkside is same like that. Sometimes we both Manipulating people for our personal interest lol. It was really fun Manipulating someone with her
Have you met my last date ? 😅 shit same story !!
Super appreciate the pause for RUclips’s commercials so that your thoughts aren’t interrupted.
I'm an ENFJ and I hit that point. I've always been on the fringe of ENFP so having this deep desire to explore and experience everything has fallen by the wayside my whole life. I've been giving in to people's expectations of me always prioritizing their desires over my dreams and I'm finally saying screw it! I'm taking a gap year and using my dual citizenship to move to england for grad school and beyond! People in my life can call my bluff all they want but ENFJs mean business when we put our minds to something and I'm putting my mind to channeling my ENFP side, ironically. I'm excited to finally do something for myself and really figure out my deepest desires independent of other people. It'll feel weird, but I like pushing myself.
Anyway, this comment was for no one but myself but if you read it thanks for coming to my Ted talk. I hope it sparks some desire of yours.
You go! I'm sure you'll have a great time :D there's really nothing that stimulates us more than exploring a new place
So relatable😢 Go random person in the internet! We do need to realize to put ourselves first which we constantly forget. I also have adhd so I'm on the edge on ENFP but changed my life drastically trying to be organized and planned hence the J. -fellow ENFJ
Everytime I see ISTP and INTP together I just think of Zeke and Levi
I thought about Aizawa and Kakashi
I THOUGHT I WAS JUST MEEE
I was thinking of the Attack on Titan characters the entire video.
You proved my theory of there's always an Aot fan in every yt video
@@thatman6916 Glad to be of service
Dark side of Each MBTI Type.
INFJ laughs knowing nobody can beat them on this
intj
Lol.
12:20 as an INTP I really appreciate this robot impression
In all seriousness, this video takes apart the difficulties of each type SO well. I’m so grateful to have seen it. Please keep making these, Frank! ~ENFP
INFP over here! :D
Same uwu
@@klee5318 :D
Do INFP's even have a dark side? My ENTP brain sees you as nothing but sweetness and light. Even when you're being mischievous.
@@hoodaticus infps have a really dark side u dont even want to see. Its actually really creepy, infps arent weak but they just think that theres a much better way to approach things. I think i heard that infps will use what all that they have read from u and use ur emotions to hurt u, they will threaten u if u hurt their emotions first
@@hoodaticus INFPs have that kind of Dark sides that I don't want Others to experience it in their whole life .... & Sometimes It only gets Darker with times
As an ENFP this also applies to my own emotions. I don’t necessarily pay attention to bad emotions or know how to process that pain and i repress it as much as possible. Which doesn’t sound bad necessarily but it’s my worst trait because it eventually explodes and I’m forced to deal with like 13 years of ignored pain and that puts me under stress and then I become hyper organised, and Si kicks in, and I’m trying to organise this emotion and things in my life in the moment but then my Ne is just seeing all these ideas on how to overcome and ignore it further.
I totally get you! I'm also an ENFP so I go through the same thing. But my INFJ friend taught me that it's okay to feel stressed, sad, blue, dark, and cry sometimes. Thanks to her, I have learnt to accept my emotional ups and downs. 😌♥️ I also keep a diary to express my stresses and also my happiness. It really helps. 👍 I hope you don't blame yourself or stress out so much cuz this is just a natural habit of us ENFPs. You're doing great. 🥰 Have a beautiful day~!
Also ENFP, but I'm the other way around. Whenever I'm feeling something bad, I'd call Fi to discuss what it means, it was torture. I have to really fight not to spend 5 hours thinking about why I don't wanna get out of the bed.
Im ENFP too and 100% agree with all you just said!
Oh hey me too
As an INTP, I like to talk about my emotions ..... from a logical point of view, of course. I really like to discuss why I behaved like this at that moment, why I reacted like this. I also love to think about what and how things affected me in my childhood. It's interesting how my brother used to be able to provoke me into such helplessness that as soon as I can't do anything about situations, my emotional inhibitions immediately crumble ..... just as it crumbles when I have to tell someone about my true emotions + what bothers me . Whenever I talk to my parents about it, I cry and I DON'T KNOW HOW TO STOP. I hate that
infps are always taken as a depressed cinnamon roll.
To be honest, their Fi at its most active state could make them a harsh dictator if they want to 🤸♀️
If you go dictator you go fully dictator xD
Hi Frank James. Love your site. I listen. I totally listen. I simply don't always follow the advice. I can't tell you the number of people whose advice I followed, just to blow up in my face. Usually other people don't know the entire story because we keep so many things to ourselves.
But more than listening, we need to _understand_ the mechanics of whatever solution the other person is offering us. "Just because I say so," doesn't fly.
And, there's only one cluster of behaviors that I don't listen about...and that's how to deal with depression. "Just smile." "Just snap out of it." And, I take the advice of my therapist (and my meditation teacher). Getting better, and there's been much improvement.
Another thing about INFPs...DON'T PUSH! INFPs HATE being controlled/manipulated...especially the turbulent INFPs. If you think the INFP deep down is a good person, just nonchalantly mention your solution. Don't push. Calmly explain what the consequences could be...and then wait a week or two for things to percolate. It takes a WHILE to process. Don't be surprised when we come back with questions and with more advice a month later, just to find that we've laid some groundwork on your solution.
INTP here, this is the first I'm hearing of other people having emotions. Does it happen often?
ask an INFP. Hahahahaahaha you'll get along with them because their whole life is basically *Emotions*, yes something that INTPs lack XD
I dunno bruh, this is the first time i've heard of it. ISTP here and I was just fixing my dresser listening to Frank there when he said that. Why are emotions an intrinsic part of work for some people?
All the time. But they are supposed to deal with it themselves, and if not, they deserve to suffer.
@@ni-kinotniki6010 Wait I thought I was an INFP but I'm not a very emotional person so idk 😂😭
Nice -_-
The infp part where people gave advice and we ignore it really hit me😂😂
So true for me🤦♀️😂
You may not believe it, but we INFP's have a dark side and it is not pretty...
Yup...
"The nicest people is also the scariest, if enraged"
@@LouiseJosephine Basically intp.
@@LouiseJosephine Feeling that right now, in fact.
@@LouiseJosephine this and more... I guess we can become a dark empath
I dont know why but I'm an INFP and I always imagine myself as an unstoppable villain like Vader who hunts down all the heros with no mercy.
👍: 915
👎: 2
That's what I like to observe!
As an INFJ who has binge watched all your videos on our issues with extroverted sensing I knew what was coming in this video but it still surprised me 😂😂😂🙌 very informative and so well explained! No one makes the mbti world more understandable and fun than you, FJ! 💜💜💜🌼 Keep up the great work
I am slightly disturbed at how easily he got the dark side of INTJ and how TRUE it was. I'm INTJ and I am literally constantly confused about what is happening and expecting it to go wrong in one second. hit the nail on the head, and it is scary. :)
Yeah he even did in one video that INTJ got suspision of something and started talking about conspiration theories, and its very accurate lol
*but the theories are real*
-INTJ
Yayyy he’s not talking about INFPs last!! :D I’m curious to see if the INFP dark side description is accurate to how I would describe my dark side 🤔
Did you fantasize killing people and torture them??
And if you r in a boiling point of your anger...
You just switch to cold hearted and no sympathy to anyone near you.. ??
@@taelian3233 yes killing sounds fun
I'm an INFP who has an ENFJ friend and he's the one I run to whenever I need some emotional advice and comfort, because they're good at comforting, giving encouragements and listening to other people's problems or "drama" but when I ask him about how he's been, he just wouldn't share any specific details but prefers to listen to my own instead. Btw, I sometimes ignore his advices tho. lol
As an INFP I agree with this. I'm someone who doesn't believe you should always go your feelings but it's so hard because I feel things so strongly. I'll be feeling so strongly that aren't exactly logical but I know that isn't true and it gets so frustrating. I know one thing but my mind wants to go somewhere somewhere else.
as an ISTP, i honestly dont know how to console people when they talk about their emotions and when ppl thinks that there is smtg wrong with me, i'd say i dont wanna talk about it cause i hate expressing my emotions ://///
19:32 "What is happening? What is going on? I know *why* , I just don't know *what* "
I don't know why but I understand that feeling.
As an ISTP, this is very accurate. Living with an ENFP mom is rough
Me, an ENFP who has been putting off cleaning my closet for months: 👀
Yeah...... I'm doing spring cleaning in my closet........I started the last spring....
True. Should we clean it right now? Nah we'll do it next week. Finger cross
@@tassdiary5473 I'm busy thinking right now.....and I should study.....sooooooo.... nope, not now.....
THIS.IS.ME.
~also an ENFP
I mean dedline is in six days right? What bad can happen if i'll just do this homework i don't know....last minute?
Watching the dark sides of each personality type and instantly noticed Frank James has 666k subscribers .. 🤔🤔🤔 I'm already subscribed so I can't even tip the scale 😭
13 is just a number, same like 666 its just a number
I’m enfp and I feel soooo identified lmao. When he said bed, I was like “is he watching me right now?”
wait sameeee
Right. So, first, shout out to fellow INFPs in the towel section. LOL. I'm INFP and I must admit, most times (just like 60-65% of the time) that I tell people my problems, I am already set on what to do next. However, I just want someone to listen to me and show me empathy, just one person at a time, of course. Idk how to explain it. Like, there are these specific circumstances that I do feel obligated to go with my heart (and there are times I'm right in challenging statistical data from friends' advice) but I just wanted my friend/s to hear me out. Other times I take peoples' advice only execute them in a roundabout way because of denial or fear of failure or something. LOL. This is a great video. Interesting to know each type think in relation to their weakest aspect.
Here's a guide so that you can determine each type functions.
First look at the last letter, if it is a P then focus on the second letter (N or S), if it is a J focus on the third letter instead. Now if the type is introverted "bounce" to the other middle letter, if it is extroverted then just keep focusing in the first letter that you focused. The letter that you are focusing in will be the dominant function and depends in whether the type is extroverted or introverted. Two examples.
ISFJ: Last letter J so lets focus on the third letter F but since the type is introverted we "bounce" to S and again since it is introverted the dominant function is Si
ENTP: Last letter P we focus in the N and since it is extroverted we keep with the N and we join it with the E, so the dominant function is Ne.
To determine the secondary, third and fourth functions you intercalte E or I, first focus on the letter that you didn't focus last time and change the E or I, so for ENTP, dominant was Ne, secondary will be Ti, the contrary of secondary is third so for this example contrary of Ti is Fe that is the third function and the fourth will be the opposite of the dominant so the opposite of Ne is Si.
Hope this help you :)
as an ISFP I still don't understand why I should listen to other people's advice, especially when I don't want to be like them....
My ex was an ENTJ and you’re not wrong. Whenever he told me about who he used to be as a kid, a super introverted kid who liked nerdy things, and seeing him now how if he is awkward in a party, he feels SO UNCOMFORTABLE like he hates bringing out his child self again. His goals also seem to me more for other’s praise. I hope one day he welcomes his child self and does things for himself instead and focus on what makes him happy instead of shoving it all down.
The INFJ tunnel vision thing is soo accurate. Just today I was having dinner with my family, and I went on my phone and just... stopped hearing what everyone was saying. I scared myself into being aware of my physical surroundings. It can get to be a real struggle and at times a hassle just to hear what people are saying, but it's worth it to participate in conversations.
I had my own apartment once. I never needed to clean it because I just put things back when I was done using them. I hate cleaning with a passion. Avoiding it with a mindless routine leaves my mind more time to think 😎👍🏼
My wife and I have 7 children now! Pretty much my current strategy is to build as many rewards as possible for my kids when they clean! If I just cleaned something and you mess it up and I’m in charge you will be begging for the kindness of that VonTrap guy lol! MARCH!!! AND NEVER TOUCH THAT AGAIN! lol!
I’m an ENTP if anyone guessed :)
Sir, this W I L L sound weird, but you deserve the whole world.
I am an ENTP who loves to clean out my closet and organize, but I do have a Virgo moon 😊
As an ISTP I realized immediately that you hit the nail on the head when you said it was the opposite of the ESTP’s dark side
I agreed with the part about Introverted Intuitive (Ni) types, I often unaware about things in real life because I always try to find the meaning behind it or just imagining about it, which ironically could be considered as my own way to "cope" from harsh realities in real life.
As an INTP, it was sort of shocking when I realized that other people experience the same exact feelings that I do. Sometimes, it's still a bit weird to think about.
Also, I hate showing my own emotions (mainly when I'm sad). I just feel like when I do, I'm begging for sympathy or am just trying to get what I want (which is never the case, but I am very stubborn and have a hard time letting go of ideas that I've come to adopt.)