This is excellent advice. People who disrespect you and talk down to you should absolutely be purged from your company. Don’t put up with it, don’t enable it. Get rid of it.
@Daves World...absolutely CORRECT!! Many people miss that basic understanding regarding respect. Men shouldn't disrespect women and women shouldn't disrespect men..its just that simple.
well in a way you're wrong. i agree avoid red flags. but everyone's damaged to some degree. so you have to take your choices and live with them its also not a womans job to fix men..
An ex and I were friends with benefits until I quitted a few days ago (bc of the quarantine and everything). She used to like a bit of belly in me, and today she saw a video of me (looking pretty much the same she has known for YEARS) and went on details on how I look old and unpolished and not like other guys my age or older that look good and… … that’s it. I’m done.
@wulfgar3000 LOL. No. Respectful and constructive criticism is the base for growth. If you're never criticized and everyone always cave in, you'll never grow. That's also the basis of knowledge and science. With that said, constant unwanted criticism can be a form of disrespect/bullying.
3000 years ago, king Solomon wrote that it's better to sit on the roof than be in the house with a nagging wife... Must be solid advice cos it still holds true. Some things won't change.
@@dankamp2872 Good for you! Family can be toxic and just tear you down and hold you back. If you do not enjoy their company why deal with them? Move on and enjoy life. Toxic friends are not true friends. They are acquaintances who bring you down instead of help build you up. Now that all these toxic people are out of your life, you can build constructive relationships. However, the common denominator in your toxic relationships is “you”. You may discover that you are the toxic person blaming others for all your problems. In that case seek counseling.
My first wife told me she will never be with someone who is so controlling like her father was to her mother. Sadly, she was just like her father. Naturally, I had to leave the relationship and get a divorce. My 2nd wife is the exact opposite. 22 years together and still the most wonderful woman I ever met.
divorce is never necessary, simply get your sh*t together and teach others to choose wisely. divorce shouldn't be accepted in society, it's as bad as murder (kills a family) an prostitution.
@@michaelstrohmaier5456 I agree, divorce is a horrible thing, but when an abuser continues to behave like a narcissist with no end to her abuse after she made a promise to do the exact opposite. I had to leave. You cant convince a crazy person they need help. I recently saw a photo of her in a family photo. Her 2nd husbands face said everything.
@@swordofmanticore1253 why allow weak people? no good person would ever "ab*se" (whatever people see as that nowadays in this weak radical leftist fascist ho*-culture)
My ex girlfriend had a repeated pattern of disrespectful behavior. She didn’t reveal it at first, but about two years in to the relationship, it became more and more frequent. When I reflect back, I see that this was how her mom spoke to her dad. I loved her but I refuse to live my life that way. Despite my repeated warnings for 10 months, that I won’t tolerate it, she chose to continue; needless to say, I did break-up with her. I do miss the good times we had together but I have more self-respect than her beta father.
Dont feel bad, i have been 15 years in that situation, we have a son. I was so blind with the ideal of family that i couldnt dismantle my family, but i finaly break this cycle, feel already better, it still saddens me but im not going back to her.
"It is better to be alone and Celibate than to be in a relationship with a low quality woman." I agree totally. "High Quality Women are rare." Again, total agreement.
There was a woman 😊 I was engaged to get married to, then she started being disrespectful toward me, and then she was showing how much she had contempt for me. Well, as the wedding dates got closer, I decided to end the engagement. So, I packed her bags and got her a plane ticket, and sent her back home.
@@UCorona87 What are you talking about??? This guy was going to get married. He understands NOTHING. It should be obvious to any man that marriage is a bad idea in the first place.
My mom gave great advise when I was young. She said “never cry in front of a woman, she will see you as weak”. And it’s true. Woman are not companionate towards man.
Yet girls say they have a thing for men who cry because they show emotion and aren't all projecting a false menly persona or whatever I heard. However, they always go for the "badboys".
I rememeber a feminist admit hypocrazy when she and a friend passed a mens group meeting where they talked about their feelings and hardships. And she responded, well I would never have sex with that kind of guy... only to realize what she just said XD
Nah I don't agree, if you wanna cry go ahead and cry, much better to let your emotions out... But you need to own it 100% and have to be confident in yourself that you made the descion to do so
@@bojout Those events unfolded 2 years ago, and they it was senior year in high school. We act as if we know so much at this age, but we don't, or didn't. Definitely true, not the kind of girls I am looking for, just quoting something I heard about this context.
they live in this because they allow it. its their lack of understanding of relationships and women it is their parents who failed teaching them what women and men's interactions are supposed to be ALSO the parents failed the women. in teaching them that they deserve everything for nothing etc etc
@Tyler Durden i know i just always see you post on these videos and think its funny i learned a lot of lessons from you ;] that i apply in real life. ^^
You’re absolutely right about respect. I was married for a long time. I blame myself for giving her the decision making authority on how our family and home would be run. In my mind, I had to be the bread-winner. I was too focused on that. Before I knew it, I was Homer Simpson to her and my daughters. Laughed at, tolerated, or ignored. When I tried to regain some respect, it was too late. Now I’m afraid I contributed to the world four more entitled, bitter man-haters. Young men, don’t forfeit your God-given authority as leaders of your family! They’ll thank you for it in the long run.
I think it's right that a person should assume autonomy in the sphere in which they have taken responsibility - I don't think you were wrong about that. Undermining and dismissive behaviour is another thing. With a mature partner it should be possible to discuss issues of the children and home without pulling the head of household card. Nipping disrespect in the bud is a tricky balance; I liked a comment above about how "banter" can shade into abuse and no-one wants to be humourless or oversensitive
My father was very similar to you but my mother ran the household the way she wanted and was a narcissist (cerebral but lacking empathy) .. I don’t know anyone who didn’t like my father but includes my siblings .. that enabling by my father made the entire family dysfunctional .. I saw it early on so became the black sheep as I’d say things
If you are religious and its your religious belief that men have God-given authority over women, then what you need to do is find a woman who believes what you believe. Don't assume that women will just roll the red carpet for you on the account of your beliefs. Have you had that conversation with your wife prior to the marriage, about who is going to be the leader?
This was my marriage. 12 years and ended in divorce in February. The disrespect and the endless power struggle of being competitors was my everyday existence. Thank you for this video it added clarity to my past. Now to figure out how to stop looking back and start moving forward.
Exactly , that’s why there’s a rise in lonely men, because men are generally more dysfunctional than woman because they are taught to be invulnerable , that why the data says men commit more suicide
As a female, I find it hard to push back when other females start to disrespect me. I am not saying I hate other women but this is how most women were taught when they were young. Thank you for the video.
@UCBQC9YTAmYyAR5BX275N4gA I don't think a war like that will end up well. Bad women (most of the time bad feminists) are bullies. You can't fight a bully even with passive-aggression. I am all for setting boundaries and offering cold treatment or even walking away. There is no need to add toxicity to toxicity. Honestly, I tries war and all I got was anger and resentment. I have learnt from my experience. Thank God that I am not attractive to women.Brother, I wish you the best.
that's because in the old days we were told girls were "sugar and spice and everything nice" while the boys were "rats and snails and puppydog tails" who were to hold doors open and put females first. Males were never encouraged, to god forbid, push back but to accomodate. Now their is a generation of abusive manipulative witches, and their will emerge a generation of males to grow out of this to show it is not to be tolerated, who will not attach themselves. Romance is dead today. A shame on the culture of feminism; they didn't appreciate a good thing when they had it
Every kid is treated poorly when they are young. Just look at Alexander's advice to punish a kid having a temper tantrum. So much superstitions dehumanizing mentality creates dehumanized people.
I've just asked in a very calm voice. "In what world do you think it is acceptable to talk to me that way?" Her reaction determines if she will be around another 2 hours or not.
@@CapnMadelyn Usually it takes a woman some time to calm down and start to understand the depth of her error. She needs to try to maintain her pride and try to contrive someway to phrase her contrition to act like she didn't mean to say, when she clearly said what she meant. Children and women are very much alike in this way. But women have been conditioned to be more stubborn, enhanced with a sense of undeserved entitlement.
I would end the date on the spot, especially if I was out somewhere with her. Cancel any food or whatever and tell her to hop in the car because I'm driving her home and next time she'll reconsider before acting out like that. Immediately enforce your boundaries with 0 tolerance for any of their BS. If they're into you, they'll apologize later if you deem they're even worth it.
@@wtcvidman I am coming from the position that I wanted to spend time with this woman. Just like capital punishment does not teach the person anything, doing more does not teach the child like woman.
45, same. I've had lots of female friends throughout my life: very glad they're are just friends and nothing more. I get small slices of sweet behavior instead of a raging complain monsters stealing my joy.
If a woman is nagging it means she has taken on a motherly stance in the relationship, she no longer respects you as a man, but is treating you like a child. When Nagging happens she no longer sees you as a equal.
The irony is she might not work, not own her own home her car or make a positive difference in the world. Yet, she can view less of you when you put forth so much.
@@kasmidjan Screw that, I like equality, my GF goes out to work, she earns the same as me. I don't want her to sit at home while I waste my life at work. Me and My GF are equals, means she has to pull her weight and we don't nag each other. Throught out history the stay at home wife has been the most priviledged in all of society, feminism convinced stupid women that working like a slave for other people is a priviledge and they should give up the real priviledge of being a kept woman.
All that nagging also shows how unsettled and unbalanced she is. Ever notice how the people who are comfortable with themselves are at peace with everyone else?
This is just the sad truth, that even in marriage, it's a never-ending battle of a man fighting for respect. Expose yourself and show weakness even slightly, and you will be backstabbed by the people you trust the most.
Nagging is often used as a means of making you undesirable to other women. It erodes your self confidence because you're always guilty of doing something wrong. It is also why you shouldn't listen to your woman if she says she loves your 'Dad-Bod' or beer gut. she doesn't. She just loves the comfort it brings her; knowing that another woman isn't going to pursue you and steal you away.
Yeah I really don't feel like that's the case books are definitely on the low end for women I mean sure women who want to hookup on Tinder but not relationship there is much more important things to women then looks
Sneakers O'Toole WOmen r attracted 2 dat which othaz r attracted 2. Especially, young damez. So if u take a hot piece of azz out 2 sum place u frequent, chancez r, it will bcum a place u CAN FREAKquent, bcause all DUH silly beeyatchez will take notice dat dis hot WOman, iz draped on ur arm & want u, azz well. Datz WOmen. They all want da same 100 most dsireable men. ( Men disirable 2 otha WOmen. ) Men, sexually, r like a guy who iz hungry & seez a buncha food. He will gobble it down, BUTT quickly git full & b done eating. So both sexez, have their silly quirkz. Any WOman, SHOULD b able 2 keep da sex appetite of a man, n check, BUTT they often fail, bcause ur not Brad Pitt. If ur were da type, dat she'd wanta open her legz 2, then u would already b satiated by da time u git 2 her, bcause 5 otha WOmen done all ready let u drain ur nutsack, azz well. SMH @ DUH squalor, of human life.
Nagging is a sign that sometime before the nagging, some smaller less toxic behavior wasn't nipped in the bud. When full blown toxic social behavior occurs, it usually occurs because you didn't control for the small stuff before it got big. Perhaps some of the banter your girlfriend engaged with has some veiled hostility or veiled disrespect behind it. I honestly feel that banter is the number 1 problem in our modern socialization, partially because it is poorly understood, and partly because it can very easily be used for veiled hostility. Banter can snowball into nagging, banter can snowball into social bullying, banter can be used to express disrespect or hostile emotions towards others under the guise of "busting someones balls", banter is arguably the most problematic of all the social behaviors, not because it is necessarily bad in all instances, but because it can be used to easily turn into something very bad because banter blurs the line between what is and isn't bad. Expressions like "I'm just messing with you", "I'm just busting your chops" are symptoms of the fundamental and very problematic problems with banter. Where does one draw the line between someone messing with you and disrespect. A person can very easily disrespect you and then lay the line down "I'm just messing with you". Banter is often used to blur the line between disrespectful and respectful play between adults. If someone has to explain what they are doing is not disrespectful, while they made you feel bad, they are actually just making excuses for their toxic behavior. I don't have patience for these sorts of people. And banter often operates as a vehicle for both friendly good natured fun, and as a vehicle for snowballing into toxic social bullying, nagging and other sorts of toxic behaviors at the same time. In my experience, I found that getting rid of banter actually gets rid of most of the other really toxic social behaviors, except for passive aggressiveness, which operates on a different strategic social strategy. It's not like I don't engage in banter at all, but I only engage in banter on MY TERMS, that way I have much more control over the social dynamics of what is going on and my social environment doesn't get crazy or out of control.
A big problem is that while we have started talking publicly about men being abusive in relationships we still have a long way to go to address abusive women. Too often feminists excuse, disregard, dismiss and demean male victims of female abuse which in a way is abuse. Thanks for the video and pushing the conversation forward.
JUST LEAVE. Take your ball and go home. That is always the best policy. You're wasting time trying to change them, and mold them. They only respect you if you leave. If a woman says you are too controlling and she can't breathe, give her the space to breathe... and never come back.
As with my ex, she was used to being spoilt by her parents. She always got what she wanted. As time went by she could not deal with the fact that she can't have everything. Her way though life was to scream and have tantrums. She emptied my business bank account and instead of paying bills she bought luxuries and horded them. She was and is a compulsive liar. I should have taken note of the early signs and gone with my gut feeling.
I had a gf who used to do this. I got rid of her. You know, how much money I saved and how happy I've been in my life? The rare women that are worth it are rarer than anti-matter !!
here's another one: “There are three whose life is no life: he who lives at another’s table; he whose wife domineers over him; and he who suffers bodily affliction.” - Talmud
I think that's the key word, take you for granted, in my next relationship I might put this in the table, to never take each other for granted take for granted that we love each other, but that we don't belong to each other and we will stay in the relationship as long as we both are happy
Had a girlfriend that used to put me down and complain but if I drew her attention to this bad behaviour, I was accused of being 'insecure' because I couldn't handle it. She got kicked to the kerb.
lmao my sister said I was a misogynist for saying I don't think bald women are attractive while she turned down my fat friend years ago instead she is dating a regular good looking guy with a doctors degree. My sister has always been a nice person but she has learned me that women in general really always have double standards and they don't even realize it themselves. Also saw a girl on tinder with a meme picture saying that Fiona from Shrek rather dated an ogre instead of the short prince but in her biografie she stated she doesn't like people who think in a box....!!!?? How do men even have the will to have relationships these days is beyond me.
Anglosphere women in particular, Aussies etc would rather date an "ugly" brutish but manly ogre than a short Prince (until they need his money). Then they go to Asia where the opposite is true and are ignored on the dating scene by western men and get all bitter, but aren't attracted to Asian men
...We must get good at reading between the lines and not accepting bs, no matter how pretty she may be. Like they say, it's better to be alone, than tagging along with bad company; even more so, obviously, in a relationship. Let's be wise.
This video hit home with me. I grew up being yelled at, scold , bullied, disrespect in all aspects, and as a young adult man I felt that my feelings and ideas or way of thinking wasn’t important to no one. That affect lots things in my life as a young man. until I start getting some counseling therapy to build up self esteem and be respected, Even today ppl who trying to put me down for no apparent reason even if it’s family I’ll eliminate them from my life!!
I’ve elimated 95% of my own family for negativity. My older brother constantly puts me down when I visit from out of town. One day he decided to insult me so I fired a few back. Don’t dish it if you can’t take it. He got upset and I cut him off. Same with both sides of my family and many former friends.
It is good that you’re strict in regards to the treatments you receive. But do your best and never cut your kinship ties it is sinful. You could ignore them at the very least.
I will no longer tolerate disrespect of any kind for another day, hour, minute or second. I was asked one time, why so surly? I said, sir you haven’t seen surly.
nah they arnt. men having no clue HOW to have a relationship and having to LEARN it because they didnt learn like normal humans are supposed to THATS a hassle teaching yourself how to have self respect when dealing with women THATS a hassle but a good relationship ? its not a hassle its easy. the hassle is the self teaching you need to do to get to where its not a hassle. the hassle is the part where you're clueless and you dont know how to read fed flags.
I just got out of a relationship like this, but it wasn't always so, and it creeped up, as she tested my water and realized I wasn't being confrontational, and honestly didn't even notice because they were never really harsh, the worst one is she called something I like stupid, once. It ramped up really fast, and was more manifested in the form of sighs or frowns when I requested something from her. Towards the end it was constant, and once she left, I felt so free, mentally.
I learned this in my teens and it has served me well in my mid life when I actually learned to apply it correctly. If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything. Nothing drives a woman more nuts or eventually lets even the dimmest understand, eventually. When she starts nagging or talking trash, most especially in a derogatory stance, speak not a word, nothing! Turn your back to her and walk away. If she follows, continuing to nag, keep walking, if it takes you going into a room and locking the door, walking outside and up the road, into your car and driving away, just do it, not a word! Give her hours to stew, stay away. After a few hours, return, if she starts up again, shake your head, speak not a word and leave again. Repeat this as many times as it takes to either have her remain silent on your return and ask you to speak, she to listen. Tell her you are waiting for an apology for being treated like a child or animal. If she don't. repeat the walk away as many times as it takes to get the results you require. Once she is primed to actually listen and not berate, calmly, I mean calmly and firmly, explain that you don't respond to being talked to as a child or being berated as a errant dog, you are a man. You are a man and expect to be treated with respect, nothing less will do. She may hate you in the moment, she will respect, however. You, as a man, don't need love, you need respect. Until she learns this lesson implicitly, repeat it, she will get no results she wants until she acts in a respectful nature to you. THEN you can work on whatever it is she was nattering on about, never from position of subservience.
It's actually pretty sad when you have to apply this in a marriage. You will win 100% of the time and she will eventually respect you. The problem is if you manage to cow her into silence, and if her ego is so huge that she resists apologizing, then relationship becomes irrecoverable. You're going to be in control of the marriage though fear, but sex won't be happening any more - at which point the marriage is dead anyway.
@R V worded differently, same meaning. That's why bible study consists of searching multiple translations. They always have the same meaning, or carry the same message. It can help one to better understand by reading multiple translations. (Not from scripture) "I'm a rambling man across the nation." "I rove aimlessly around the country." Same meaning with different wording.
Here's the recipe guys: 1. Work hard to become a rare and desirable, high-quality man with self-respect. 2. Raise your standards with regard to what behaviour you expect from women and reinforce them. 3. Adopt a zero-tolerance policy with regard to her nagging and complaining. 4. At all times remind her that you have standards that MUST be met. 5. If she cannot abide by your standards - dump her.
@@S9999Frank Better single with standards than in bad company and miserable. A lot of guys think being single is a mark of shame rather than it being an opportunity to focus on what they want in life and to focus more energy on their goals.
Just thought that zero complaining was a rather harsh standard. Must admit to never have been in such a relationship where there is no conflict at all, and zero complaints. No shame in being single, but when you have a family you try to keep it together.@@_Gandalf_The_White
Alexander, you are spot on with your advice! As a woman who had issues that I hadn’t completely solved and ever man I met before my latest bf let me have some toxic behavior. I was damaged. I wanted, I needed a loving, strong man who respected himself enough to tell me that in no way would he tolerate my behaviors. Believe I wanted to get better and once I knew he was serious about drawing the line, that moment made me decide to finally face my issues and get help. Today I am a high value women along side my high value man, where respect, communication and kindness are the main virtues of our relationship(with also ALOT of LOVE:)))).
"It is not virtue to be highly tolerant of disfunctional behavior" Wow this quote blew my mind! I can't even express how true it is. It instantly reminded people who suffer with abusive, heavy drinking, cheating partner (man or woman) for many years and think it is virtuous, but they are actually not only ruining their own life but also life of their partner, by enabling his/her destructive behaviour.
@Sesshomaru Uzumaki listen to what he said if people persist to disrespect you they are toxic to your emotional well-being and must be surgically removed like cancer from your life if you want a meaningful existence.
This makes me feel much better about getting divorced. She was constantly verbally abusive, and now I understand what hell looks like. Unfortunately, as we all know apparently now, the court will reward her as a victim even if she's treated you with a protracted slander and libel campaign against your character and worth by awarding her money in the divorce. Ah, "equality". I absolutely hate it when women prattle the aphorism that "if you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" because they don't tolerate men at their worst for a heartbeat. A woman who demands that you accept her as she is and demands that you become what she finds acceptable is not a good woman. I dont' care how cute she is or what she thinks of herself, because that kind of arrogance cannot possible create a healthy relationship.
Before you devorce, transfer all your assets into a trust fund and then see her face at settlement time when on paper you own nothing in the world. After the dust has settled, transfer the assets back to yourself. : )
I used to think that expression was uplifting and inspiring, until I met a woman who had all these negative traits stemming from her insecurities, and when I tried to talk to her about it everytime, she stood so tall behind that idea that I needed to accept her at her worst, even if she was treating me terribly. I now hate that expression.
My live-in girlfriend started reneging on what she agreed, got shitty when she was called out, took it out by nagging and throwing disrespectful jabs. Now she’s my ex live-in exgirlfriend.
This is an excellent video. It summed up my marriage completely. My parents had a dysfunctional relationship and this contributed be to accepted nagging from my wife as normal. Not long after our child was born i once told a colleague that my wife shouted a lot and he told me that i should threaten to leave. I felt i couldn't leave at that point because of our child and i endured 9 more years of disrespectful behaviour until she finally cheated. The lesson is that unless you want to set yourself up for this kind of relationship you need to watch carefully the womans behaviour. He's exactly right as well that i suffered from low self esteem and getting a girlfriend was difficult in the first place.
@Mr X did y'all even watch the video as to why she nagging in the first place?. It only proves that people dont take the time to know their women. How is it that a mans girl/wife is all sweet at stuff in the beginning them all the sudden starts nagging?. That doesn't happen over night something has had happen between the couple or relationship and it doesn't haven't to be something obvious it could be something subtle.
@@SirLancelot86 a lot of woman carry baggage from past relationships. That can trigger them into a fit of rage and anger because they're are having PTSD and putting that all on their current boyfriend.
My relationship from before was like this. The amount of disrespect I got given was a real eye opener. Literally these days I won’t put up with anything and it’s thanks to channels like these. At the end of the day I want a good life and I need team players. Romantic and non romantic relationships. You’ve helped me big time.
No woman will ever love you and show you that love without respecting you first. That respect has to be maintained for however long the relationship lasts. No exceptions.
This is spot on. I was brought up in a narcissist family and therefore married a narcissist. I have a low self esteem cause of a lifetime of neglect and abuse.
Same, thankfully I caught on pretty early on (when I was about 17) and have been curbing my own behaviours and recognizing my families' so that I don't emulate it in the future. I hope you're doing better now brother, I wish you all the best.
I'm 17 and I have very low self esteem, and I'm afraid of ending up like what you mentioned. I'd rather stay single for my whole life than end up like that. If you have any advice as someone who is more experienced at life than me, I'd love to hear some advice from u. Ik this comment is pretty late, but i hope you see. Wishing you luck for your future.
I literally removed everyone I know from my life except for my mother of course. So many people are toxic. Living the dream with my son now. Thank you for the video.
if I had to choose, I'd choose love over respect. I can deal with consequent disrespect, just how a child would try their parents and disrespect them. As long as you're sufficiently powerful, disrespect is not that much of a problem. But a relationship without love? Perhaps your partner may not be disrespecting you, but surely they'll be a wallflower then. That type of relationship seems rather miserable to both parties; you're then both reducing each other to mere opportunities and everything becomes transactional. But like the other person said.. I'd choose both regardless. How can one exist without the other? How can you love someone you can't respect? It simply doesn't seem possible to me unless you're not romantically involved.
Both sides too, I had a bf who tried to stop me speaking to lifelong friends, my brothers, neighbours, shop assistants, I had exactly 30 min to get home from work or there was war, even if buses were late, he said I was lying, and I wasn’t allowed out except work. I was young and put up with it for a year, then packed and left when he stormed out because he had counted the sweetcorn kernels on our plates and I had two more than him. Imagine flying into a screaming rage for that, like anyone counts food pieces. Glad I got out when I did. He’s still the same to his present gf, she looks like a terrified broken shadow of her former self. Never be with people like these.
I completely agree. There are women that want to care for a man, which is completely natural and healthy, but there are also women that nag and try to correct what a man does, which stems out of disrespect and lack of confidence in the man's ability to play his role. If the disrespect enters the relationship, there is a lot to be examined about why its happening and how to fix it. It should not be tolerated and tolerating disrespect makes it acceptable in the relationship.
Women can be unhappy with their lives or their own psych issues, even if the man is decent and respectful. If they are taking out their garbage on you- you are wasting your time.
I was one of those childs who got mistreated by his own parents psychologically and I thought that it was normal. But fortunately for me, in the age of 21, I met a fantastic woman who opened my eyes and really showed me respect and made me feel comfortable and secure with myself. There are many good women out there, as many good men. It is not a question of sexes, but of morality.
@@MrFreeman0179 Probably, but don't you think that good women are rare as good men are? I do not think morality is based on sexes. I stopped thinking that women are all the same because the relationships i had were bad and they betrayed me. Think about this: why would you be with someone who is not as good or intelligent as you are? Why would you be with someone who does not appreciate or love the way u really are? Some people do not see this and end up in disastrous relationships, because they are selfish, and cannot see outside the box.
@@santa173 I don't know but I'm very certain that feminism has poisoned and ruined the relationship between men and (especially Western/European) women. The divorce rate would decrease if daddy government (men very often get "raped" in divorce/family court) was less or not involved.
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Women can not understand cooperation, teamwork or partnership. At home or at work they are the most dangerous forces of destruction.
My first relationship, the girl who took my virginity, brought me into “dating” who I was with for years, was extremely toxic and mental. This gave me the worst start into the female dating scene picking up The pieces of a broken heart while Dealing with this for years. Took me out of the scene for years, thinking that the mental nag and abuse of a women was the norm. It’s mental abuse and I refuse to Commit myself to another women who has these symptoms
I'm in the same boat as you. Any time a first time experience is terrible you rarely have the heart to try again. I hope you do find someone who makes you happy.
Thanks, I loved this video. Every point was spot on. It's true, you're her husband, not her therapist. If you find that you're continually exhausted from your interactions, then she's draining your emotional reserves like a leech. Drop her. The term "codependent" was coined for situations like this. You're addicted to "fixing" her, she's addicted to being "fixed" and coddled.
Best advice I was given: Never let a woman climb on your back. Once there, she’ll get comfortable and then want to climb on your shoulders, then climb up on to your head. You’ ll never get her off you after that, so never let a woman climb on your back! Keep her in check from the beginning.
@@MaSa-bp5qe it's been 16 years. I'm sure he's accepted it. Most people I know in relationships > 10 years "Cheat" on each other, but it's "Don't ask, don't tell"
That's good! I've known a few who never nagged for the years I've been friends with them, but that was just in the capacity of friends and I can't account for what they may have possibly been doing when away from me! If they are out there, I would suspect that those are the type of women who have actually earned what they have. Or are at least the grateful type. Because they aren't just looking for free gimmies. That can be nag-city central!
Years ago I told a girl to get herself a dog if she needs someone to boss around. It's unbelievable how good it feels to leave a relationship like that!
this is your best video yet alex, why? because it addresses the real fundamental problem that starts ALL of these issues we're experiencing. poor parenting.
You are right about the "don't loose your cool" part. A lot of men think that getting angry is the same as showing your masculinity. But it doesn't work that way. It is still hard to stay calm at some points but I am glad that you pointed that out
To sum up all that in one sentence: "It's better to be young, healthy, rich and handsom rather than old, sick, poor and ugly". Guess what, sometimes we have to give up a thing or two, and trying to "educate" a woman has about as much chance of sucess as teching a cat to play violin. Leave her or live with it.
I feel like I'm running into these videos after all these things have happened to me this year for a reason...and it's almost the new year. A sign is a sign.
9:00 Not living up to her expectations may be one of the things that angers a women..... but...... I've noticed these two things seem to be at the top of the list of, things that anger a woman. 1. When a man is happy and enjoying his life. 2. When a man is sitting or relaxing in some way and doing nothing. Bonus: When he is well liked by others around him and especially if those others are her family members.
Same advice here is for your friends too. If they constantly and everytime you see them disrespect you even in a joking manner, they really aren't a friend worth keeping around. Sometimes for jokes it's ok, but if it starts to be constant you either tell them to stop it or just cut them off from your life.
Great video and advice for modern. This seems particularly relevant in modern times. I'd recommend you create a video on those red flags where a man should clearly dump his girlfriend.
he sort of has already. over time. he has told of many just not all at once. theres really too many and also.. they will vary person to person slightly.
Absolutely. Most men accustomed to believe that tolerating constant nagging arguing blame shifting is normal. It's not. In healthy functional relationships such behaviors are non existent. Hence it should never be tolerated.
Your point on family life leading to accepting disrespectful behaviour is 100% on point but i want too add that this is also often pushed by tv shows with the "lazy father" stereotype and the nagging wife, it does really normalise this sort of behaviour especially for young people...
I could tell you a story that I wouldn’t believe had I not lived it. It ended the way I wanted, but I’m talking perfect storm. I have 60 audio recordings that would make your blood boil. I don’t hit women, never have, never will. I don’t know many men who would shown restraint like I did. This woman didn’t understand that I am patient and when the time is right, I’ll flip the script. The night I finally had the pieces lined up, the look on her face was priceless.
My wife has bipolar disorder and can sometime be an emotional rollercoaster for me. I do tolerate it because her kindness and caring part outweighs the bad traits.
This is excellent advice.
People who disrespect you and talk down to you should absolutely be purged from your company. Don’t put up with it, don’t enable it. Get rid of it.
@Daves World...absolutely CORRECT!! Many people miss that basic understanding regarding respect. Men shouldn't disrespect women and women shouldn't disrespect men..its just that simple.
@@benjaminstarks6615 .. As soon as women stop disrespecting men ... Men will respect women..It's that easy..
You will be forever alone.
@@davidrodgers9558 True.
if i followed that advice id have zero friends and zero pussy xD people suck, i know
It’s not a man’s job to “fix” a woman who is psychologically damaged. Avoid that mess at all costs, it won’t end well for you.
well in a way you're wrong.
i agree avoid red flags.
but everyone's damaged to some degree. so you have to take your choices and live with them
its also not a womans job to fix men..
True my friend, but find one? Very rare or........
Nice pfp😂😂
@@retro7971 pfp? pound for pound? lol
True. And that speaks to a long engagement. At least 2.5 years.
I told my last girlfriend, "whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, you got the wrong dude, you need to find someone who likes to be criticised.
Jeff D
Hahahhaha nice
right on
An ex and I were friends with benefits until I quitted a few days ago (bc of the quarantine and everything). She used to like a bit of belly in me, and today she saw a video of me (looking pretty much the same she has known for YEARS) and went on details on how I look old and unpolished and not like other guys my age or older that look good and…
… that’s it. I’m done.
wulfgar3000 how is criticism disrespectful?
@wulfgar3000 LOL. No. Respectful and constructive criticism is the base for growth. If you're never criticized and everyone always cave in, you'll never grow. That's also the basis of knowledge and science.
With that said, constant unwanted criticism can be a form of disrespect/bullying.
3000 years ago, king Solomon wrote that it's better to sit on the roof than be in the house with a nagging wife... Must be solid advice cos it still holds true. Some things won't change.
@DoogieBowser he'd know better than anyone then lol
@DoogieBowser That guy probably just added another floor to his palace that all his women were forbidden from entering at that point.
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Or in the attic convert it into a room and lock the door check no spiders are there to keep you company XD
It works I've tried it. 🤔
Get all toxic people out of your life - women, friends, relatives etc... Took me 65 years of experience to learn this lesson. I’m actually happy now.
I did this and now I have no family or friends...
@@dankamp2872 Good for you! Family can be toxic and just tear you down and hold you back. If you do not enjoy their company why deal with them? Move on and enjoy life.
Toxic friends are not true friends. They are acquaintances who bring you down instead of help build you up. Now that all these toxic people are out of your life, you can build constructive relationships. However, the common denominator in your toxic relationships is “you”. You may discover that you are the toxic person blaming others for all your problems. In that case seek counseling.
@@dankamp2872 Me either. Guess what? We never did.
Amen!
@@temijinkahn511 In counseling now - I'm sure I am a part of the problem.
My first wife told me she will never be with someone who is so controlling like her father was to her mother. Sadly, she was just like her father. Naturally, I had to leave the relationship and get a divorce. My 2nd wife is the exact opposite. 22 years together and still the most wonderful woman I ever met.
Was your first wife the middle child in her family?
divorce is never necessary, simply get your sh*t together and teach others to choose wisely.
divorce shouldn't be accepted in society, it's as bad as murder (kills a family) an prostitution.
@@michaelstrohmaier5456 I agree, divorce is a horrible thing, but when an abuser continues to behave like a narcissist with no end to her abuse after she made a promise to do the exact opposite. I had to leave. You cant convince a crazy person they need help. I recently saw a photo of her in a family photo. Her 2nd husbands face said everything.
@@swordofmanticore1253
why allow weak people?
no good person would ever "ab*se" (whatever people see as that nowadays in this weak radical leftist fascist ho*-culture)
@@swordofmanticore1253 totally agree... we gotta stop acting like a "real man" would be able to put up with a partner who is allergic to peace
My ex girlfriend had a repeated pattern of disrespectful behavior. She didn’t reveal it at first, but about two years in to the relationship, it became more and more frequent. When I reflect back, I see that this was how her mom spoke to her dad. I loved her but I refuse to live my life that way. Despite my repeated warnings for 10 months, that I won’t tolerate it, she chose to continue; needless to say, I did break-up with her. I do miss the good times we had together but I have more self-respect than her beta father.
Spot on sir, but it should have been a 10-day limit, instead of 10 freaking months!
your story is so inspiring,
respect for you bro
so are you still single?? any prospects? are you happy? is she single?
Dont feel bad, i have been 15 years in that situation, we have a son. I was so blind with the ideal of family that i couldnt dismantle my family, but i finaly break this cycle, feel already better, it still saddens me but im not going back to her.
@@BPGM1989 that's one thing the video doesn't address. When you have a child it's not the easiest choice to leave.
Working with women I never once heard any of them say anything positive about their bf or husband.
i work with them for 30 years never heard one say anything positive about men they talk about the ones they can use all the rest are no good niggas
Because most men have been feminized and disrespectful behavior cultivated at childhood .
Well that is just depressing
I've heard someone say they were happy because she only had to work 5 hours a week because he always did overtime.
@Prince Revolver- hey you're right. Almost every female I work with does that too.
"It is better to be alone and Celibate than to be in a relationship with a low quality woman."
I agree totally.
"High Quality Women are rare."
Again, total agreement.
Lol
There was a woman 😊 I was engaged to get married to, then she started being disrespectful toward me, and then she was showing how much she had contempt for me. Well, as the wedding dates got closer, I decided to end the engagement. So, I packed her bags and got her a plane ticket, and sent her back home.
What disrespect did she show?
Where was home so I can avoid running into her by accident. I know, I know. What are the odds, right? But you don't know my luck
Well done, sooo wise, dodged a bullet spray. Most men aren't as wise and set themselves up for a lifetime of pain. Keep up champ!
@@UCorona87 yeah happy wife happy life as they say 🙈
@@UCorona87 What are you talking about??? This guy was going to get married. He understands NOTHING.
It should be obvious to any man that marriage is a bad idea in the first place.
If a man doesn’t respect himself then his woman will always find ways to disrespect him
I was about to write exactly the same ;-)
EXACTLY
Sad but true
@Filip Nikolic its not just implied but 100% true...
where have you been>?
@Filip Nikolic care to actually make a point instead of speaking in anecdotes?
My mom gave great advise when I was young. She said “never cry in front of a woman, she will see you as weak”. And it’s true. Woman are not companionate towards man.
Yet girls say they have a thing for men who cry because they show emotion and aren't all projecting a false menly persona or whatever I heard. However, they always go for the "badboys".
I rememeber a feminist admit hypocrazy when she and a friend passed a mens group meeting where they talked about their feelings and hardships. And she responded, well I would never have sex with that kind of guy... only to realize what she just said XD
Nah I don't agree, if you wanna cry go ahead and cry, much better to let your emotions out... But you need to own it 100% and have to be confident in yourself that you made the descion to do so
@@joserodil3390 My gf doesn't. Neither did any of my ex's. You're going for the wrong women
@@bojout Those events unfolded 2 years ago, and they it was senior year in high school. We act as if we know so much at this age, but we don't, or didn't. Definitely true, not the kind of girls I am looking for, just quoting something I heard about this context.
At least 80% husbands basically live in this. Their whole existence = being talking dog/ATM + target of nagging, verbal and emotional abuse
they live in this because they allow it.
its their lack of understanding of relationships and women
it is their parents who failed teaching them what women and men's interactions are supposed to be
ALSO the parents failed the women. in teaching them that they deserve everything for nothing etc etc
@Tyler Durden who? i mean you and i share marla..lol
@Tyler Durden No.
@Tyler Durden i know i just always see you post on these videos and think its funny
i learned a lot of lessons from you ;]
that i apply in real life. ^^
Moon Striker would you mind saying that in English please
You’re absolutely right about respect. I was married for a long time. I blame myself for giving her the decision making authority on how our family and home would be run. In my mind, I had to be the bread-winner. I was too focused on that. Before I knew it, I was Homer Simpson to her and my daughters. Laughed at, tolerated, or ignored. When I tried to regain some respect, it was too late. Now I’m afraid I contributed to the world four more entitled, bitter man-haters.
Young men, don’t forfeit your God-given authority as leaders of your family! They’ll thank you for it in the long run.
I think it's right that a person should assume autonomy in the sphere in which they have taken responsibility - I don't think you were wrong about that. Undermining and dismissive behaviour is another thing. With a mature partner it should be possible to discuss issues of the children and home without pulling the head of household card. Nipping disrespect in the bud is a tricky balance; I liked a comment above about how "banter" can shade into abuse and no-one wants to be humourless or oversensitive
My father was very similar to you but my mother ran the household the way she wanted and was a narcissist (cerebral but lacking empathy) .. I don’t know anyone who didn’t like my father but includes my siblings .. that enabling by my father made the entire family dysfunctional .. I saw it early on so became the black sheep as I’d say things
That's how my sisters treated my dad and treated me, for awhile. I put then back into their place when they talk about me.
If you are religious and its your religious belief that men have God-given authority over women, then what you need to do is find a woman who believes what you believe. Don't assume that women will just roll the red carpet for you on the account of your beliefs.
Have you had that conversation with your wife prior to the marriage, about who is going to be the leader?
Measures always been slavery for men.
This was my marriage. 12 years and ended in divorce in February. The disrespect and the endless power struggle of being competitors was my everyday existence. Thank you for this video it added clarity to my past. Now to figure out how to stop looking back and start moving forward.
It's not a virtue to be highly tolerant of dysfunctional behavior.
bars!
This one! 💯💯
Facts
Mans was spittin
Exactly , that’s why there’s a rise in lonely men, because men are generally more dysfunctional than woman because they are taught to be invulnerable , that why the data says men commit more suicide
As a female, I find it hard to push back when other females start to disrespect me. I am not saying I hate other women but this is how most women were taught when they were young. Thank you for the video.
@UCBQC9YTAmYyAR5BX275N4gA I don't think a war like that will end up well. Bad women (most of the time bad feminists) are bullies. You can't fight a bully even with passive-aggression. I am all for setting boundaries and offering cold treatment or even walking away. There is no need to add toxicity to toxicity. Honestly, I tries war and all I got was anger and resentment. I have learnt from my experience. Thank God that I am not attractive to women.Brother, I wish you the best.
@Chris W On point, move on without them. You can't fix them and you don't need to.
that's because in the old days we were told girls were "sugar and spice and everything nice" while the boys were "rats and snails and puppydog tails" who were to hold doors open and put females first. Males were never encouraged, to god forbid, push back but to accomodate. Now their is a generation of abusive manipulative witches, and their will emerge a generation of males to grow out of this to show it is not to be tolerated, who will not attach themselves. Romance is dead today. A shame on the culture of feminism; they didn't appreciate a good thing when they had it
@@stonepaintertim i caught that power puff girls reference you made.
Every kid is treated poorly when they are young. Just look at Alexander's advice to punish a kid having a temper tantrum. So much superstitions dehumanizing mentality creates dehumanized people.
I've just asked in a very calm voice. "In what world do you think it is acceptable to talk to me that way?"
Her reaction determines if she will be around another 2 hours or not.
i suggest 2 minutes or not
@@CapnMadelyn Usually it takes a woman some time to calm down and start to understand the depth of her error.
She needs to try to maintain her pride and try to contrive someway to phrase her contrition to act like she didn't mean to say, when she clearly said what she meant.
Children and women are very much alike in this way.
But women have been conditioned to be more stubborn, enhanced with a sense of undeserved entitlement.
I would end the date on the spot, especially if I was out somewhere with her. Cancel any food or whatever and tell her to hop in the car because I'm driving her home and next time she'll reconsider before acting out like that. Immediately enforce your boundaries with 0 tolerance for any of their BS. If they're into you, they'll apologize later if you deem they're even worth it.
@@wtcvidman I am coming from the position that I wanted to spend time with this woman.
Just like capital punishment does not teach the person anything, doing more does not teach the child like woman.
" It's not a virtue to be highly tolerant of dysfunctional behaviour", very well said. Thank you !
GOLD: «Anybody that doesn't speak to you appropriately needs to be removed from your life» 👊🏆
This guy is bang on!
I’m 46 years old and I learned all this through the school of hard knocks,
Jay-j F I’m 34.. and I’m with ya.. school of hard knocks.. as my nana always says “we will all be alright in the end”
45, same. I've had lots of female friends throughout my life: very glad they're are just friends and nothing more. I get small slices of sweet behavior instead of a raging complain monsters stealing my joy.
@@thorzyan Ticks
If a woman is nagging it means she has taken on a motherly stance in the relationship, she no longer respects you as a man, but is treating you like a child.
When Nagging happens she no longer sees you as a equal.
The irony is she might not work, not own her own home her car or make a positive difference in the world. Yet, she can view less of you when you put forth so much.
never put them in equal relation....
its time bomb before they crave more privileges , disrespect you, and dump you
@@kasmidjan Screw that, I like equality, my GF goes out to work, she earns the same as me.
I don't want her to sit at home while I waste my life at work.
Me and My GF are equals, means she has to pull her weight and we don't nag each other.
Throught out history the stay at home wife has been the most priviledged in all of society, feminism convinced stupid women that working like a slave for other people is a priviledge and they should give up the real priviledge of being a kept woman.
@@tjj4lab good luck friend
@@tjj4lab .. Lol... You are not equal.. She is the master with the pu$$y that controls you... And you know it ..
Nagging and be-little-ing is abuse.
Run away and don’t look back
Right on! I ran like hell, almost broke my legs 😂
I did that but they're still in the trees *THEYRR IN THE TRESS MANNN THEYRRE IM THENRREEESSS MANNNN THEYRE IN THE EESS JN THE TRESS*
All that nagging also shows how unsettled and unbalanced she is. Ever notice how the people who are comfortable with themselves are at peace with everyone else?
This is just the sad truth, that even in marriage, it's a never-ending battle of a man fighting for respect. Expose yourself and show weakness even slightly, and you will be backstabbed by the people you trust the most.
Every young man should watch this. This gentleman does a fantastic job of KEEPING IT REAL!!!!
Nagging is often used as a means of making you undesirable to other women. It erodes your self confidence because you're always guilty of doing something wrong. It is also why you shouldn't listen to your woman if she says she loves your 'Dad-Bod' or beer gut. she doesn't. She just loves the comfort it brings her; knowing that another woman isn't going to pursue you and steal you away.
Yeah I really don't feel like that's the case books are definitely on the low end for women I mean sure women who want to hookup on Tinder but not relationship there is much more important things to women then looks
Sneakers O'Toole
WOmen r attracted 2 dat which othaz r attracted 2. Especially, young damez. So if u take a hot piece of azz out 2 sum place u frequent, chancez r, it will bcum a place u CAN FREAKquent, bcause all DUH silly beeyatchez will take notice dat dis hot WOman, iz draped on ur arm & want u, azz well. Datz WOmen. They all want da same 100 most dsireable men. ( Men disirable 2 otha WOmen. )
Men, sexually, r like a guy who iz hungry & seez a buncha food. He will gobble it down, BUTT quickly git full & b done eating. So both sexez, have their silly quirkz. Any WOman, SHOULD b able 2 keep da sex appetite of a man, n check, BUTT they often fail, bcause ur not Brad Pitt. If ur were da type, dat she'd wanta open her legz 2, then u would already b satiated by da time u git 2 her, bcause 5 otha WOmen done all ready let u drain ur nutsack, azz well.
SMH @ DUH squalor, of human life.
Nagging is a sign that sometime before the nagging, some smaller less toxic behavior wasn't nipped in the bud. When full blown toxic social behavior occurs, it usually occurs because you didn't control for the small stuff before it got big. Perhaps some of the banter your girlfriend engaged with has some veiled hostility or veiled disrespect behind it. I honestly feel that banter is the number 1 problem in our modern socialization, partially because it is poorly understood, and partly because it can very easily be used for veiled hostility.
Banter can snowball into nagging, banter can snowball into social bullying, banter can be used to express disrespect or hostile emotions towards others under the guise of "busting someones balls", banter is arguably the most problematic of all the social behaviors, not because it is necessarily bad in all instances, but because it can be used to easily turn into something very bad because banter blurs the line between what is and isn't bad. Expressions like "I'm just messing with you", "I'm just busting your chops" are symptoms of the fundamental and very problematic problems with banter. Where does one draw the line between someone messing with you and disrespect. A person can very easily disrespect you and then lay the line down "I'm just messing with you". Banter is often used to blur the line between disrespectful and respectful play between adults. If someone has to explain what they are doing is not disrespectful, while they made you feel bad, they are actually just making excuses for their toxic behavior. I don't have patience for these sorts of people. And banter often operates as a vehicle for both friendly good natured fun, and as a vehicle for snowballing into toxic social bullying, nagging and other sorts of toxic behaviors at the same time.
In my experience, I found that getting rid of banter actually gets rid of most of the other really toxic social behaviors, except for passive aggressiveness, which operates on a different strategic social strategy. It's not like I don't engage in banter at all, but I only engage in banter on MY TERMS, that way I have much more control over the social dynamics of what is going on and my social environment doesn't get crazy or out of control.
@@Einnor084 do us a favor and keep your autocorrect on, please?
Andy King
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No fun.
If I'ma waste time doin dis ,tihs I'ma GO MY OWN WAY, beeyatch!
STOP YO NAGGING!!!!
"it is not a virtue to be tolerant of disfunctional behavior". Brilliant, that is very true.
A big problem is that while we have started talking publicly about men being abusive in relationships we still have a long way to go to address abusive women. Too often feminists excuse, disregard, dismiss and demean male victims of female abuse which in a way is abuse.
Thanks for the video and pushing the conversation forward.
@The Joker These abusive women need a good punch in the face like biden does.
Feminists and the courts seem to want to ignore that female abuse is a major issue.
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@jjwebster1 And that's one reason I can't stand the TRASH Hollywood puts out in movies nowadays!
JUST LEAVE.
Take your ball and go home. That is always the best policy. You're wasting time trying to change them, and mold them. They only respect you if you leave. If a woman says you are too controlling and she can't breathe, give her the space to breathe... and never come back.
@PGO_Gaming Or, if it's your place, kick her out and CHANGE THE LOCKS!
As with my ex, she was used to being spoilt by her parents. She always got what she wanted. As time went by she could not deal with the fact that she can't have everything. Her way though life was to scream and have tantrums. She emptied my business bank account and instead of paying bills she bought luxuries and horded them. She was and is a compulsive liar. I should have taken note of the early signs and gone with my gut feeling.
I had a gf who used to do this.
I got rid of her.
You know, how much money I saved and how happy I've been in my life?
The rare women that are worth it are rarer than anti-matter !!
Anti-matter isn't that rare, my man.
"The lemon ain't worth the squeeze""
So much yes!!!
“Better to live on a corner of the roof
than share a house with a quarrelsome wife” Proverbs 21.9
here's another one: “There are three whose life is no life: he who lives at another’s table; he whose wife domineers over him; and he who suffers bodily affliction.” - Talmud
I’ve also heard the variation, it is better to dwell alone in the wilderness and then with a quarrelsome woman.
True.
Shut up your only saying that for selfish intended purpose and not for the best interest of your possible future guy partner
I Soo see right through your Bullshit Ms lady bits
Most women turn abusive, or take you for granted when given power, never lower your guard to a female their true nature is not nice
@Alfred Pasly exactly
I think that's the key word, take you for granted, in my next relationship I might put this in the table, to never take each other for granted take for granted that we love each other, but that we don't belong to each other and we will stay in the relationship as long as we both are happy
@Alfred Pasly true if you love women you dont understand them if you understand women you will never fall in love with them
@@powergod80 You can really care about her, but love is off the table.
@@javieraguirre9135 I would up it even more. She must remain submissive or show her the door.
Had a girlfriend that used to put me down and complain but if I drew her attention to this bad behaviour, I was accused of being 'insecure' because I couldn't handle it. She got kicked to the kerb.
Yeah that was my sister, she would Fram it differently though.
"You can't handle the truth"
lmao my sister said I was a misogynist for saying I don't think bald women are attractive while she turned down my fat friend years ago instead she is dating a regular good looking guy with a doctors degree. My sister has always been a nice person but she has learned me that women in general really always have double standards and they don't even realize it themselves. Also saw a girl on tinder with a meme picture saying that Fiona from Shrek rather dated an ogre instead of the short prince but in her biografie she stated she doesn't like people who think in a box....!!!?? How do men even have the will to have relationships these days is beyond me.
Anglosphere women in particular, Aussies etc would rather date an "ugly" brutish but manly ogre than a short Prince (until they need his money). Then they go to Asia where the opposite is true and are ignored on the dating scene by western men and get all bitter, but aren't attracted to Asian men
...We must get good at reading between the lines and not accepting bs, no matter how pretty she may be.
Like they say, it's better to be alone, than tagging along with bad company; even more so, obviously, in a relationship.
Let's be wise.
This video hit home with me.
I grew up being yelled at, scold , bullied, disrespect in all aspects, and as a young adult man I felt that my feelings and ideas or way of thinking wasn’t important to no one. That affect lots things in my life as a young man. until I start getting some counseling therapy to build up self esteem and be respected,
Even today ppl who trying to put me down for no apparent reason even if it’s family I’ll eliminate them from my life!!
Some people are like crabs at the bottom of the bucket. They drag each other down trying to reach the top yet all end up buttered up at the bottom.
What did you learn in therapy?
Sorry I live in a thrid world country and stuff like therapy is an afterthought here.
I’ve elimated 95% of my own family for negativity. My older brother constantly puts me down when I visit from out of town. One day he decided to insult me so I fired a few back. Don’t dish it if you can’t take it. He got upset and I cut him off. Same with both sides of my family and many former friends.
It is good that you’re strict in regards to the treatments you receive. But do your best and never cut your kinship ties it is sinful. You could ignore them at the very least.
I will no longer tolerate disrespect of any kind for another day, hour, minute or second. I was asked one time, why so surly? I said, sir you haven’t seen surly.
Basically: “If you don’t respect yourself, nobody else will either.”
Damn, relationships are such a hassle.
nah they arnt.
men having no clue HOW to have a relationship and having to LEARN it because they didnt learn like normal humans are supposed to
THATS a hassle
teaching yourself how to have self respect when dealing with women THATS a hassle
but a good relationship ? its not a hassle its easy. the hassle is the self teaching you need to do to get to where its not a hassle.
the hassle is the part where you're clueless and you dont know how to read fed flags.
@Filip Nikolic some are. if you start them right and know how to
some arnt.
@@thenarrator1984 dude, you keep commenting in these posts like you are a know it all. You dont have the answers bud.
@@personanon-grata i have plenty answers but not all of them. no one has them all.
but i have more than most people ;]
and clearly more than you.
you come here with zero value. and you attack me?
clean your room.
I just got out of a relationship like this, but it wasn't always so, and it creeped up, as she tested my water and realized I wasn't being confrontational, and honestly didn't even notice because they were never really harsh, the worst one is she called something I like stupid, once. It ramped up really fast, and was more manifested in the form of sighs or frowns when I requested something from her. Towards the end it was constant, and once she left, I felt so free, mentally.
I learned this in my teens and it has served me well in my mid life when I actually learned to apply it correctly.
If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything.
Nothing drives a woman more nuts or eventually lets even the dimmest understand, eventually. When she starts nagging or talking trash, most especially in a derogatory stance, speak not a word, nothing! Turn your back to her and walk away. If she follows, continuing to nag, keep walking, if it takes you going into a room and locking the door, walking outside and up the road, into your car and driving away, just do it, not a word! Give her hours to stew, stay away. After a few hours, return, if she starts up again, shake your head, speak not a word and leave again. Repeat this as many times as it takes to either have her remain silent on your return and ask you to speak, she to listen. Tell her you are waiting for an apology for being treated like a child or animal. If she don't. repeat the walk away as many times as it takes to get the results you require. Once she is primed to actually listen and not berate, calmly, I mean calmly and firmly, explain that you don't respond to being talked to as a child or being berated as a errant dog, you are a man. You are a man and expect to be treated with respect, nothing less will do. She may hate you in the moment, she will respect, however. You, as a man, don't need love, you need respect.
Until she learns this lesson implicitly, repeat it, she will get no results she wants until she acts in a respectful nature to you. THEN you can work on whatever it is she was nattering on about, never from position of subservience.
It's actually pretty sad when you have to apply this in a marriage. You will win 100% of the time and she will eventually respect you. The problem is if you manage to cow her into silence, and if her ego is so huge that she resists apologizing, then relationship becomes irrecoverable. You're going to be in control of the marriage though fear, but sex won't be happening any more - at which point the marriage is dead anyway.
@@nathanbutcher7720 you can't fix a toxic woman, PERIOD. Modern women need to pound sand.
Alexander doing the job mothers didn't with their sons.
In this day and age, a man needs to be extra enlightened to get laid. It has nothing to do with mothers.
@@leonardodakimchi LOL how do you come to bruno lopes' s super well thought out post and you post this drivel?
what a dumb comment.
The Narrator Agreed!
@@NadiaInNewYork Yes. Mother's cannot be the father.
Glad to see the one and only king of the seven kingdoms stannis baratheon in here
Proverbs 21:9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
R V because it’s translated differently
R V doesn’t mean there isn’t some solid advice in there
@R V worded differently, same meaning. That's why bible study consists of searching multiple translations. They always have the same meaning, or carry the same message. It can help one to better understand by reading multiple translations.
(Not from scripture)
"I'm a rambling man across the nation."
"I rove aimlessly around the country."
Same meaning with different wording.
@R V Do you know there's different type of bibles, and I'll give you some I know. NKJV, KJV, NLT, NIV
@R V KJV is old English while NKJV is new
Here's the recipe guys:
1. Work hard to become a rare and desirable, high-quality man with self-respect.
2. Raise your standards with regard to what behaviour you expect from women and reinforce them.
3. Adopt a zero-tolerance policy with regard to her nagging and complaining.
4. At all times remind her that you have standards that MUST be met.
5. If she cannot abide by your standards - dump her.
Also - recipe for being a single guy :-)
@@S9999Frank Better single with standards than in bad company and miserable. A lot of guys think being single is a mark of shame rather than it being an opportunity to focus on what they want in life and to focus more energy on their goals.
Just thought that zero complaining was a rather harsh standard. Must admit to never have been in such a relationship where there is no conflict at all, and zero complaints. No shame in being single, but when you have a family you try to keep it together.@@_Gandalf_The_White
Alexander, you are spot on with your advice! As a woman who had issues that I hadn’t completely solved and ever man I met before my latest bf let me have some toxic behavior. I was damaged. I wanted, I needed a loving, strong man who respected himself enough to tell me that in no way would he tolerate my behaviors. Believe I wanted to get better and once I knew he was serious about drawing the line, that moment made me decide to finally face my issues and get help. Today I am a high value women along side my high value man, where respect, communication and kindness are the main virtues of our relationship(with also ALOT of LOVE:)))).
"It is not virtue to be highly tolerant of disfunctional behavior"
Wow this quote blew my mind!
I can't even express how true it is.
It instantly reminded people who suffer with abusive, heavy drinking, cheating partner (man or woman) for many years and think it is virtuous, but they are actually not only ruining their own life but also life of their partner, by enabling his/her destructive behaviour.
My life got better at the instant when I set the boundaries with my mom. The fog is cleared. Wish I did it sooner.
@Sesshomaru Uzumaki listen to what he said if people persist to disrespect you they are toxic to your emotional well-being and must be surgically removed like cancer from your life if you want a meaningful existence.
Well done. It’s very difficult to set boundaries with parents. Keep going!
@Sesshomaru Uzumaki Dude you need to unleash the spirit of that nine tailed fox!
@Sesshomaru Uzumaki Gosh dude, you took this the wrong way. I love my mum, but i need my boundaries. It does not mean that I'm mean with her.
@Sesshomaru Uzumaki See, you forgived her. Looks like the boundaries are in place with you. Just don't seem mean.
This makes me feel much better about getting divorced. She was constantly verbally abusive, and now I understand what hell looks like. Unfortunately, as we all know apparently now, the court will reward her as a victim even if she's treated you with a protracted slander and libel campaign against your character and worth by awarding her money in the divorce. Ah, "equality". I absolutely hate it when women prattle the aphorism that "if you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" because they don't tolerate men at their worst for a heartbeat. A woman who demands that you accept her as she is and demands that you become what she finds acceptable is not a good woman. I dont' care how cute she is or what she thinks of herself, because that kind of arrogance cannot possible create a healthy relationship.
How its equality when most of the time male has to give the alimony...
@James Stewart well that doesnt necessarily follow
True words.
Before you devorce, transfer all your assets into a trust fund and then see her face at settlement time when on paper you own nothing in the world. After the dust has settled, transfer the assets back to yourself. : )
I used to think that expression was uplifting and inspiring, until I met a woman who had all these negative traits stemming from her insecurities, and when I tried to talk to her about it everytime, she stood so tall behind that idea that I needed to accept her at her worst, even if she was treating me terribly. I now hate that expression.
This applies to everyone, including employers and fellow employees. Mr Rogers says I'm special. I deserve respect
My live-in girlfriend started reneging on what she agreed, got shitty when she was called out, took it out by nagging and throwing disrespectful jabs. Now she’s my ex live-in exgirlfriend.
This is an excellent video. It summed up my marriage completely. My parents had a dysfunctional relationship and this contributed be to accepted nagging from my wife as normal. Not long after our child was born i once told a colleague that my wife shouted a lot and he told me that i should threaten to leave. I felt i couldn't leave at that point because of our child and i endured 9 more years of disrespectful behaviour until she finally cheated. The lesson is that unless you want to set yourself up for this kind of relationship you need to watch carefully the womans behaviour. He's exactly right as well that i suffered from low self esteem and getting a girlfriend was difficult in the first place.
Never realised my partner changed over time because I let myself slip. Thanks for the insight.
take control back.
Dude, that is normal, that is exactly how MANY women are. The pool of women who are relatively happy, feminine and non-toxic is SMALL.
Should change the valuing or something.
Nah you just have bad relationships with women
@@SirLancelot86 Nah, had a few good relationships, including one now.
@Mr X did y'all even watch the video as to why she nagging in the first place?. It only proves that people dont take the time to know their women. How is it that a mans girl/wife is all sweet at stuff in the beginning them all the sudden starts nagging?. That doesn't happen over night something has had happen between the couple or relationship and it doesn't haven't to be something obvious it could be something subtle.
@@SirLancelot86 a lot of woman carry baggage from past relationships. That can trigger them into a fit of rage and anger because they're are having PTSD and putting that all on their current boyfriend.
My relationship from before was like this. The amount of disrespect I got given was a real eye opener. Literally these days I won’t put up with anything and it’s thanks to channels like these. At the end of the day I want a good life and I need team players. Romantic and non romantic relationships. You’ve helped me big time.
No woman will ever love you and show you that love without respecting you first. That respect has to be maintained for however long the relationship lasts. No exceptions.
That true for anybody really. I agree.
This is spot on. I was brought up in a narcissist family and therefore married a narcissist. I have a low self esteem cause of a lifetime of neglect and abuse.
Same, thankfully I caught on pretty early on (when I was about 17) and have been curbing my own behaviours and recognizing my families' so that I don't emulate it in the future. I hope you're doing better now brother, I wish you all the best.
I'm 17 and I have very low self esteem, and I'm afraid of ending up like what you mentioned. I'd rather stay single for my whole life than end up like that. If you have any advice as someone who is more experienced at life than me, I'd love to hear some advice from u. Ik this comment is pretty late, but i hope you see. Wishing you luck for your future.
Great insight man.
Every single "nice guy" like myself out there needs to be taught these things, we need to snap out of it.
Thank you.
I literally removed everyone I know from my life except for my mother of course. So many people are toxic. Living the dream with my son now. Thank you for the video.
Women need to feel love, and men need to feel respect. Without this, the relationship is doomed.
Imagine requiring both regardless of your sex.
That is too much for modern relationships@@celaeno919
if I had to choose, I'd choose love over respect. I can deal with consequent disrespect, just how a child would try their parents and disrespect them. As long as you're sufficiently powerful, disrespect is not that much of a problem.
But a relationship without love? Perhaps your partner may not be disrespecting you, but surely they'll be a wallflower then. That type of relationship seems rather miserable to both parties; you're then both reducing each other to mere opportunities and everything becomes transactional.
But like the other person said..
I'd choose both regardless. How can one exist without the other? How can you love someone you can't respect? It simply doesn't seem possible to me unless you're not romantically involved.
Both sides too, I had a bf who tried to stop me speaking to lifelong friends, my brothers, neighbours, shop assistants, I had exactly 30 min to get home from work or there was war, even if buses were late, he said I was lying, and I wasn’t allowed out except work. I was young and put up with it for a year, then packed and left when he stormed out because he had counted the sweetcorn kernels on our plates and I had two more than him. Imagine flying into a screaming rage for that, like anyone counts food pieces. Glad I got out when I did. He’s still the same to his present gf, she looks like a terrified broken shadow of her former self. Never be with people like these.
There's an huge issue of normalization when its a woman doing it though. Double standarts an all.
I completely agree. There are women that want to care for a man, which is completely natural and healthy, but there are also women that nag and try to correct what a man does, which stems out of disrespect and lack of confidence in the man's ability to play his role. If the disrespect enters the relationship, there is a lot to be examined about why its happening and how to fix it. It should not be tolerated and tolerating disrespect makes it acceptable in the relationship.
Women can be unhappy with their lives or their own psych issues, even if the man is decent and respectful. If they are taking out their garbage on you- you are wasting your time.
I was one of those childs who got mistreated by his own parents psychologically and I thought that it was normal.
But fortunately for me, in the age of 21, I met a fantastic woman who opened my eyes and really showed me respect and made me feel comfortable and secure with myself.
There are many good women out there, as many good men. It is not a question of sexes, but of morality.
🙌🏻
Wow God bless you
Good women are a rarity.
Proverbs 31:10 + 11
@@MrFreeman0179
Probably, but don't you think that good women are rare as good men are?
I do not think morality is based on sexes.
I stopped thinking that women are all the same because the relationships i had were bad and they betrayed me.
Think about this: why would you be with someone who is not as good or intelligent as you are? Why would you be with someone who does not appreciate or love the way u really are? Some people do not see this and end up in disastrous relationships, because they are selfish, and cannot see outside the box.
@@santa173
I don't know but I'm very certain that feminism has poisoned and ruined the relationship between men and (especially Western/European) women. The divorce rate would decrease if daddy government (men very often get "raped" in divorce/family court) was less or not involved.
Women can not understand cooperation, teamwork or partnership. At home or at work they are the most dangerous forces of destruction.
Bro just find one that understand cooperation, teamwork and partnership. I assure you they exist! Been married to one for 7 + years❤️! Good luck👌
Always make sure your woman knows she is replaceable so she acts right.
She will start cheating on you.
It's not normal behavior but it's tolerated as the norm.
very true
My first relationship, the girl who took my virginity, brought me into “dating” who I was with for years, was extremely toxic and mental. This gave me the worst start into the female dating scene picking up
The pieces of a broken heart while
Dealing with this for years. Took me out of the scene for years, thinking that the mental nag and abuse of a women was the norm. It’s mental abuse and I refuse to
Commit myself to another women who has these symptoms
I'm in the same boat as you. Any time a first time experience is terrible you rarely have the heart to try again. I hope you do find someone who makes you happy.
I feel the same way about my mother.
@@geoDB. jfl🤣
Thanks, I loved this video. Every point was spot on. It's true, you're her husband, not her therapist. If you find that you're continually exhausted from your interactions, then she's draining your emotional reserves like a leech. Drop her. The term "codependent" was coined for situations like this. You're addicted to "fixing" her, she's addicted to being "fixed" and coddled.
Best advice I was given:
Never let a woman climb on your back. Once there, she’ll get comfortable and then want to climb on your shoulders, then climb up on to your head. You’ ll never get her off you after that, so never let a woman climb on your back! Keep her in check from the beginning.
I think im a lucky dude then. Been with the same girl for 16 years and I don’t get nagged on.
😏 better go look at what she is up to when you’re not around my guy. 😂
@@MaSa-bp5qe it's been 16 years. I'm sure he's accepted it. Most people I know in relationships > 10 years "Cheat" on each other, but it's "Don't ask, don't tell"
@@vaughnamir.6457 That’s sad.
A point zero one %er
That's good! I've known a few who never nagged for the years I've been friends with them,
but that was just in the capacity of friends and I can't account for what they may have possibly been doing when away from me!
If they are out there, I would suspect that those are the type of women who have actually earned what they have.
Or are at least the grateful type. Because they aren't just looking for free gimmies. That can be nag-city central!
Nagging stems from a position of not wanting to change. If someone doesn't change for themselves it's easier to drag you down with them.
bingo
Yeah. Insecurity!
Such a disgusting thing!
Years ago I told a girl to get herself a dog if she needs someone to boss around.
It's unbelievable how good it feels to leave a relationship like that!
I believe this video was meant for me to watch!
Sadly, my brother has fallen into this verbally abusive state of mind that accepts it. Ugh!!!!!
Too true, if someone treats you badly and you let them get away with it your actually giving them permission to do it again.
"It's not her job to make me unhappy" - a prophet
this is your best video yet alex, why? because it addresses the real fundamental problem that starts ALL of these issues we're experiencing.
poor parenting.
This describes my Ex. I def felt like I was never good enough and I was parenting her. Glad to be free and am much happier without her
You are right about the "don't loose your cool" part. A lot of men think that getting angry is the same as showing your masculinity. But it doesn't work that way. It is still hard to stay calm at some points but I am glad that you pointed that out
Anger always masks fear. Think about anyone (even yourself) who has ever displayed anger. What was the reason for the anger?
To sum up all that in one sentence:
"It's better to be young, healthy, rich and handsom rather than old, sick, poor and ugly".
Guess what, sometimes we have to give up a thing or two, and trying to "educate" a woman has about as much chance of sucess as teching a cat to play violin.
Leave her or live with it.
I feel like I'm running into these videos after all these things have happened to me this year for a reason...and it's almost the new year.
A sign is a sign.
I feel the exact same way
I’ve been living by this advice before I watched this video and let me tell you that it’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
9:00 Not living up to her expectations may be one of the things that angers a women..... but...... I've noticed these two things seem to be at the top of the list of, things that anger a woman.
1. When a man is happy and enjoying his life.
2. When a man is sitting or relaxing in some way and doing nothing.
Bonus: When he is well liked by others around him and especially if those others are her family members.
This guy makes 100% sense. I wish I found this channel sooner.
Constant nagging and complaining should be considered Domestic Violence. It's emotional and verbal abuse.
Wow this is just what I needed. The complaining & constant questioning of my authority stops today or she’s gone.
Did it work`?
Same advice here is for your friends too. If they constantly and everytime you see them disrespect you even in a joking manner, they really aren't a friend worth keeping around. Sometimes for jokes it's ok, but if it starts to be constant you either tell them to stop it or just cut them off from your life.
Great video and advice for modern. This seems particularly relevant in modern times. I'd recommend you create a video on those red flags where a man should clearly dump his girlfriend.
he sort of has already. over time. he has told of many just not all at once. theres really too many and also.. they will vary person to person slightly.
Excellent video! Absolutelly accurate, manly and mature reflection about self esteem must be given care in face of an abusive woman.
Great video. Never allow disrespect. Getting laid is not worth that sort of treatment.
I needed to hear that. Thank you
The seven habits of highly effective people is a good book.
I always think win win or no deal
Amen brother if only people knew how to live proactive instead of being reactive!
Respect is earned not given, amen. As a woman i love what u got to say. I could use the tips myself. Thank u so much
Why is this man so logical, makes us all look bad.
You are right. I did fix it, I'm single. It took me too long to figure it out. Being alone is preferable over a bad marriage.
Absolutely. Most men accustomed to believe that tolerating constant nagging arguing blame shifting is normal. It's not. In healthy functional relationships such behaviors are non existent. Hence it should never be tolerated.
Your point on family life leading to accepting disrespectful behaviour is 100% on point but i want too add that this is also often pushed by tv shows with the "lazy father" stereotype and the nagging wife, it does really normalise this sort of behaviour especially for young people...
It amazes me how many guys I personally know, that put up with this behavior from their gf/wife of several years. I cringe everytime I witness it
I wish I knew this truth 20 years ago. Excellent advice.
I could tell you a story that I wouldn’t believe had I not lived it. It ended the way I wanted, but I’m talking perfect storm. I have 60 audio recordings that would make your blood boil. I don’t hit women, never have, never will. I don’t know many men who would shown restraint like I did. This woman didn’t understand that I am patient and when the time is right, I’ll flip the script. The night I finally had the pieces lined up, the look on her face was priceless.
My wife has bipolar disorder and can sometime be an emotional rollercoaster for me. I do tolerate it because her kindness and caring part outweighs the bad traits.