Thank you. I needed to hear that we are not made to be happy. I have always struggled with asking "why aren't I happy?" like something was wrong with me.. Thank you. Edit: I ordered that book.
I broke up with my ex gf of 5 years, 4 months have passed. In the beginning I felt freedom and relief but now I’m starting to feel the impact of being alone with that special someone not being there anymore. It’s painful, I now have to start my journey of accepting everything for how it is
No point in dwelling on what has already happened.. I hope you love yourself enough to fight and move forward.. They say life is short and quick right.. well that's a reason to try at least to prioritize yourself in this one life and maybe try to help another on the way. Take care, peace
We struggle because our opportunities are optional. Take the situation like a stoic. Accept the situation and change it. Judgement only creates a downward spiral. Learn from your failures.
I don't agree on the old argument that I can appreciate pleasure or happy moments because the existence of pain and unhappiness. I think it's false and I was never able to relate to it. I value a good experience because of...the good experience itself. Recently I was driving my scooter around 2 am through a little forest. The sky was full of glittering stars, the air was very cold and clear. I experienced an intense joy and pleasure in that moment. I did not remember or relate to any bad situations that happened this day to compare them to that moment. The moment existed here and now, completely on its own. In my opinion this argument it's against the observation that nothing else exists than the present moment. To be joyful with comparison to bad events we'd need constantly to live in the past or compare ourselves to other people. I believe that this way of thinking comes from completely separate observation, that bad things exist. That pain exists. It's like trying to hit 2 birds with one stone. In my incomplete view pain and pleasure does not have to be explained by single relation-like argument.
Good point! I agree. I get really bad panic attacks sometimes, which give me cramps/pains around solar plexus that are so intense I’ve honestly thought I was gonna die a few times. It’s been bad enough that I’ve passed out or vomited from the pain. When these attacks finally subside after putting me through hell for several hours… I do feel some relief after that. I do think “thank god that’s over”. But I don’t believe that’s happiness. Those pains don’t make me any happier. I would be much happier if they weren’t part of my life at all. I feel like that ‘relief’ that makes you appreciate a certain moment because something bad is NOT present… that’s not rooted in happiness, it’s rooted in fear. We would all know that a massage feels good without having to be stabbed first so that we would know what pain feels like. If anything, bad experiences can traumatize us enough that we can’t fully appreciate the good ones. Like if you were stabbed, you might be so on edge and afraid of other people that you wouldn’t be able to relax and enjoy a massage. My cat just gets to lay around in comfortable spots all day, have others feed her food she likes and play with her. And she seems pretty happy. I don’t think it would make her any happier to make sure she knows what pain feels like, too. I really think the sentiment that “bad things are necessary to make us appreciate good things” is mainly a way that we try to comfort ourselves and turn the pain into something positive. Convince ourselves that it has some sort of purpose, to make it easier for us to accept the pain. But yeah, I don’t agree with it either.
@@alfa6894 Thank you for your insight. You made a very interesting observation saying: "that’s not rooted in happiness, it’s rooted in fear". I never thought about it in this way. Thank you.
How can one know what joy is without a reference point for suffering? If all one experienced was joy how would they know for sure that they were truly joyful? I don't just want the joy in life. I want to experience my full range of human emotions. I'd rather be sad one moment, and happy another moment, than just be emotionally stagnant.
Happen to me aswell but the longer it takes to become famous you think all the good thoughts about being famous but just like think the same thing over and over you get bored but you still wanna be famous so the only other thing to talk about is the bad thoughts then after a while you lose hope like “It’s gonna take so long” “Nobodies noticing me” And more
This was a really good video. We live in a world that prioritizes pleasure over valuable things. I really hope that we can move away from that.
yeah that would be great but its probably not happening any time soon!
Not until pornography, the internet, and fast food are gone.
Ace hood of
But what if you value pleasure? See it's all relative
Thank you. I needed to hear that we are not made to be happy.
I have always struggled with asking "why aren't I happy?" like something was wrong with me..
Thank you.
Edit: I ordered that book.
happy to hear that!
I broke up with my ex gf of 5 years, 4 months have passed. In the beginning I felt freedom and relief but now I’m starting to feel the impact of being alone with that special someone not being there anymore. It’s painful, I now have to start my journey of accepting everything for how it is
You good? Going through the same thing
This is the way of the stoic!
Praise you for making this awesome video🙏
I appreciate the kind words, glad you liked it!
Life is suffering. I never asked to be born in the first place.
No point in dwelling on what has already happened.. I hope you love yourself enough to fight and move forward.. They say life is short and quick right.. well that's a reason to try at least to prioritize yourself in this one life and maybe try to help another on the way.
Take care, peace
Wow. Thanks. Your channel is underrated. 🤩
Thanks for the kind words!
I’m new here and I’m already watching all your videos. Thank for your help!
Glad you like them!
I'm so grateful I stumbled on this video !!! It's incredible 😲 very well done, gave me a totally different view on Life thank you ! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 subbed
I'm very happy to hear that!
We struggle because our opportunities are optional. Take the situation like a stoic. Accept the situation and change it. Judgement only creates a downward spiral. Learn from your failures.
neatly summarized
Start at 1:15
Thanks bro
I love this video.
Helped a lot.Thank you.
Can you tell me which software is used for the animation. It's great
renderforest
I don't agree on the old argument that I can appreciate pleasure or happy moments because the existence of pain and unhappiness. I think it's false and I was never able to relate to it. I value a good experience because of...the good experience itself. Recently I was driving my scooter around 2 am through a little forest. The sky was full of glittering stars, the air was very cold and clear. I experienced an intense joy and pleasure in that moment. I did not remember or relate to any bad situations that happened this day to compare them to that moment. The moment existed here and now, completely on its own. In my opinion this argument it's against the observation that nothing else exists than the present moment. To be joyful with comparison to bad events we'd need constantly to live in the past or compare ourselves to other people. I believe that this way of thinking comes from completely separate observation, that bad things exist. That pain exists. It's like trying to hit 2 birds with one stone. In my incomplete view pain and pleasure does not have to be explained by single relation-like argument.
Good point! I agree. I get really bad panic attacks sometimes, which give me cramps/pains around solar plexus that are so intense I’ve honestly thought I was gonna die a few times. It’s been bad enough that I’ve passed out or vomited from the pain. When these attacks finally subside after putting me through hell for several hours… I do feel some relief after that. I do think “thank god that’s over”. But I don’t believe that’s happiness. Those pains don’t make me any happier. I would be much happier if they weren’t part of my life at all. I feel like that ‘relief’ that makes you appreciate a certain moment because something bad is NOT present… that’s not rooted in happiness, it’s rooted in fear. We would all know that a massage feels good without having to be stabbed first so that we would know what pain feels like. If anything, bad experiences can traumatize us enough that we can’t fully appreciate the good ones. Like if you were stabbed, you might be so on edge and afraid of other people that you wouldn’t be able to relax and enjoy a massage. My cat just gets to lay around in comfortable spots all day, have others feed her food she likes and play with her. And she seems pretty happy. I don’t think it would make her any happier to make sure she knows what pain feels like, too. I really think the sentiment that “bad things are necessary to make us appreciate good things” is mainly a way that we try to comfort ourselves and turn the pain into something positive. Convince ourselves that it has some sort of purpose, to make it easier for us to accept the pain. But yeah, I don’t agree with it either.
@@alfa6894 Thank you for your insight. You made a very interesting observation saying: "that’s not rooted in happiness, it’s rooted in fear". I never thought about it in this way. Thank you.
How can one know what joy is without a reference point for suffering? If all one experienced was joy how would they know for sure that they were truly joyful? I don't just want the joy in life. I want to experience my full range of human emotions. I'd rather be sad one moment, and happy another moment, than just be emotionally stagnant.
@@nathanaelashnonmusic2615 One can reverse the argument - happiness or joy is necessary to experience the true suffering and perfect evil.
@@anaconda470 exactly. How can one know suffering without happiness? They go hand in hand. One cannot exist without the other to balance it out.
6:40 don't do that, lol ...
I feel with you, but you can improve
I struggle to accept emptiness
Rag'n'Bone Easter Egg :)) I am a human after all
No
I just wanted to be famous in life and I am 14
Welp how did I loose hope so easily
Why did you want to be famous in the first place?
Happen to me aswell but the longer it takes to become famous you think all the good thoughts about being famous but just like think the same thing over and over you get bored but you still wanna be famous so the only other thing to talk about is the bad thoughts then after a while you lose hope like
“It’s gonna take so long”
“Nobodies noticing me”
And more
this is the most assinine video I have ever heard.
I'm sorry, but I came here for the meme.
What meme ?
Bist du Deutscher? 😅
möglicherweise
Hört man😀 aber gute Videos 🖒
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Victim mentality...
how is stoicism a victim mentality?
A bit of hedonism right here
Hedonism in my videos? BLASPHEMY.
ok actually I neither know what you mean nor do I recall what I exactly said in the video
@@PersonalPower I mean the pleasure stuff you said at the start, kind of interesting c:
Personal Power 😂😂😂 me whenever i have a deep talk “i have no idea what i just said”
tooooo slow
My newer videos are faster in pace