Where I've been (dealing with my mental health)
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- A bit of a stream of consciousness 'update' for you all since, even though I'm struggling right now, I think it's important to be transparent & honest on my channel in the hopes that even one of you can feel less alone; we're in this together... thanks for listening ♡✧( ु•⌄• )
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This past year has been hard, beyond hard. It’s something none of us ever expected to experience in our lives except in books or movies. I’ve gained around 30 lbs and I beat myself up over it for awhile…then I decided I’m worthy of some grace. My body deserves grace as much stress as it’s been through. I’m working on eating healthier and getting out more to improve my mental. The body will eventually follow suit.
As for guys, I’m 50. Before you think “sit down grandma, what do you know?” , I wish so much that I could give younger women the wisdom that comes with those years. You know ,sweet girl , the type of man you want in your life, who he’ll be as a person. The men making those vile comments, they aren’t him. You don’t want a shallow, self important, immature boy…so, don’t pay them any more attention than you would a bratty child.
Body neutrality has really helped me this year! I saw a quote that said “your body shape is the least interesting thing about you”, I think about that daily and it helps me 🙂 I just went to the beach this weekend, wore a bikini and didn’t try to hide my stomach or my thighs! I *mostly* didn’t think of my body at all and it was really great.
Oh depression, the one 'friend' to actually stay in my life. Take care of yourself and be patient, one day at a time. 💖💖
Moving/exercise does wonders for mental health….i can’t even begin to describe the benefits, there are so many
I totally agree, when I had depression over super bad acne, I started focusing on fitness and shifted my goal to lifting weights and I felt so much better and happier just creating a separate hobby (which we all are capable of doing)
Kinda hard to give a shit and do anything, when you're severely depressed. I have BPD and my lows make me wanna kill myself. I can't do anything and I'm really bad. Let alone move.
@@Lidia.Bella.Italiana Same..I can't get out of my bed all day..🙃
I agree, I run over 20 km a day and it gives me such serenity, I love it.
I totally feel you, girl. I gained 40 during this last year. And this was after I had lost 65 in 2019, before COVID wrecked the world. SO gaining almost all of that back is so disheartening.
I'm in a very similar situation to yours. So frustrating and disheartening😭
Me three, we got this though ladies❤️
Same!!!!!!!
I’m so sorry you’re going through this Cassie. Not to be offensive, but are you currently in therapy? By the way you’re talking, it sounds like you could really benefit from it.
You're not alone. I have depression episodes often. It seems like the older I get, the more depressed I get. I seem to analyze my life. There are times when I cry everyday. Just take it one day at a time. Sending you Hugs!
Cassie you’ve got this, keep you’re chin up 💪🏼 don’t ever feel guilty for having down days, it’s only human! I would love to give you a big hug and reassure you that you have so many of us across the world who love and support you! ♥️
All the love to you! I’ve been going through this myself and want you to know you’re never alone! 💗
thank you Amanda... I'm sorry to hear you're going through this as well, but hang in there; you're not alone either!! 💕
Cassie, you are an emotionally intelligent woman. I hear you countering all of the negative thoughts & feelings that you have with positive thoughts all the time & you are spot on. I know that if a friend came to you with issues of depression & also feeling sad because of the decline of someone they care about's health, I'm pretty sure that you wouldn't tell them what they are feeling is "trivial", so please treat yourself at least as well as you would treat anyone else you care about.
Cassie, I appreciate that you’re open about your issues, it helps to normalize the struggles everyone has. What I would advise is that you start regular therapy. Pills alone help to function, but don’t solve the mechanisms that keep you depressed that ypur brain is stuck in. There are affordable options like Better Help etc. Some free resources for instance The Holistic Psychologist and her book How to do the work are game changers and really don’t cost a lost. If staying on pills isn’t helping, it’s probably time to start something new. It doesn’t mean you’re failing, it’s just troubleshooting for your wellbeing. You deserve to feel better.
You don't owe us sh*t. Okay? You owe yourself love and compassion. Having empathy for yourself is the hardest part of a self love journey. Keep pushing.
You are worth it.
Dealing with depression and self worth is a multi faceted and ongoing journey. No one thing is going to “cure” you, Cassie. First and foremost, you need to get outside and enjoy the beautiful summer weather (swim, walk, bicycle) so as to clear your mind and help your body. It seems to me, that living the RUclips life is way to isolating for you, being around others helps with confidence and self esteem and allows for socializing.
As an avid watcher of most of your videos, I say this with the utmost respect - please stop with dramatics dear. These videos have become even more common now. Do we really have to share EVERYTHING on social media. Please keep some things private. I love watching your reviews, your clothing haul, get ready with me, etc. so not trying to hate. This was just my 2 cents.
Exactly! These kind of videos put me in a funk, I just want to watch reviews 🙄
Meds won’t be enough if not accompanied by therapy, at least that was the case for me.
That is actually proven. I'm a psychology student and there are meta-analyses of different treatment types (only medication, medication & therapy and only therapy). The results strongly suggest that therapy (preferably CBT) is as good as medication & therapy but medication alone is actually only helpful as long as you take it. Medication can be helpful with severely depressed persons in the beginning (to get them going) but is not necessary in treating depression.
Furthermore antidepressants should be taken for a few months only but it's common practice to prescribe them for way to long. Also the prescription of SSRIs is based on the theory of serotonin deficiency hypothesis ( I don't know the English term for it, I translated it from german (I'm german)) which has been proven wrong! Yet it is common practice to prescribe them... which makes me actually angry.
If you look at the effect sizes, CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy) works the best.
If I ever feel the need for therapy I would definitely do CBT and I would recommend it to everyone.
@@maridi5744 I think SSRIs are also linked to weight gain. Again, I personally gained weight.
@@olgago depends on the ssri, prozac can actually lead to weight loss.
Counselling Cbt and EMDR have done absolutely nothing for me
@@purrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr I gained weight from prozac.
If they decided not to date anymore cause “women aren’t pretty anymore” than I’d say we’re the lucky ones not having trash like that in our lives.
Mgtow
@@northldn4494 I don't doubt you're ignorant in the nuances of weight gain and hormonal imbalances in pcos since you believe it's due to a lack of discipline. Feel free to check the NHS articles on it if you wish to educate yourself...I'm assuming NorthLDN is London so I'm referencing the NHS to make it easier for you. My experience is 10 years in health law and policy but even if I had no idea on the subject I'd refrain from making myself look stupid by making blanket and blatantly wrong statements. That's just because I don't want to appear like an ignorant bigot though. 😊
@Kimba 7178 - Hear, hear! It's a case of the trash taking itself out. ~ Anastacia in Cleveland
It's sad that looks matter so much
I've been on short term medical leave due to depression and anxiety. We have a right to get better. Self care is very important.
Hi Cassie! I'm a therapist and highly recommend the book, The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris. Excellent book on the ACT model of therapy which I think you might identity with ❤️
Thx for the book recommendation!
I'm gonna check that out too
Added to my Amazon Wish List. Thank you! ~ Anastacia in Cleveland
The reality is is that looks depreciate, so it's an asset people shouldn't bank on for happiness. it's what is in your mind and heart that really matter and will pay off tenfold in the end.
Yes my body isn’t perfect, yes my skin isn’t clear, yes my boobs are saggy and not as firm as they used to be, I have cellulite, grey hairs coming through, oh and I have stretch marks from pregnancy, I’m not perfect but who cares! You don’t think I’m attractive then walk on by 👋 I’m human and all this is what comes with it☺️😍💛 much love Cassie I will pray for you, you really don’t realise how beautiful you are do you, EXACLEY how you are xx
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Mgtow 4 life
Woman over 27 expired
You sound like a catch 🤣🤣🤣 bet the men flock to you 😂
@@ivanfunctionx8431 the woman in this video probably had a good 1-2 years when she was around 18 then expired 😂 fuck her voice is annoying
@sukses selalu and @NorthLDN : And you guys are all young, good-looking, muscular and have a big you-know-what. Yeah, right! 😅
Cassie I’m 60 years old now and I’m a size 18 I refuse to let people make me feel bad about myself anymore. I fix myself up , put my accessories on, and I wear clothes that flatter my body! I don’t give a rip what people say about me .. I’m finally to the point where I love myself and I will not allow anybody to make me feel bad about myself anymore!! You are a beautiful woman, and I totally get the whole depression thing because I suffer with it too, I’ve never taken meds because things like that make me sick so I’ve just been trying to love myself and it’s helping!! I love you, God loves you, and anyone worth anything should see your worth. Period!!
Thank you Cassie for taking the time to discuss mental health. I am in the middle of the wonderful trial and error period of trying different anti anxiety and depression meds. I try to think of it as putting my health first, doesn't matter whether that is physical or mental, remember you are worth all of it and more!
Cassie, medication isn’t enough, you need therapy as well. Toxic thinking leads to depression and depression leads to toxic thinking- it’s a vicious cycle. A good therapist will help you break that cycle.
I know too many people think, well take an antidepressant & you will be fine, & that's never gonna happen. I've struggled since 20 with depression & I'm now 43 & take a "happy pill" ( 2 actually) & if I don't take time for myself, it's all for nothing. Keep your head up Cassie, you will feel better.
Same! I take medicine for my anxiety, but it takes so much more than that to feel "normal" .
Same here. People think that’s what we do. Take a happy pill. It doesn’t work that way. It just keeps us from going off the edge literally. ❤️🙏🏻
Hey girl, it's normal to grieve people who are in declining health, and you're not weird for doing so. In the psych world the phenomenon is known as "anticipatory grieving," so google that and feel validated. I've also gained weight over the last year and have been very depressed about it. Getting rid of all my too small clothing in my closet helped enormously. Take care and know this fellow Minnesotan (down in Rochester) has a care for you and wants you to feel better. Hugs!
Virtual hug 🤗; seeing your grandparents deteriorate is really hard. It’s ok to feel sad and thank you for being vulnerable with us.
Ive been working from home for 7 years, and I noticed I have become more triggered with things and I think because it is working from home. So I try to get out when I start getting sad, etc, I know it sounds dumb, but I make myself, because I start to cry easily if i don’t. I usually take a drive and bring my dog with me, she has a cute dog booster. It’s not easy to get out when u feel sad but maybe u can try it and take a drive maybe it will help.
I'm sending you lots of love and positivity, Cassie. I'm truly sorry you're going through this. 🌈💜⚘💕🌈
Girl I literally checked myself into a mental health clinic today. We're all in this giant cesspool called life struggling. Stop being so hard on yourself. You're entitled to your feelings. Just because you're a vlogger doesn't mean you can't feel depressed or any of your feelings or that they're not valid. If that was the case then all celebrities who've struggled or are struggling deserve a smack upside the head. *secret* they don't. Neither do you. Take care of yourself Cassie 💗
You got this!!! Finding help is a big step in the right way, just trust the process and your inner strength. It's there and it will lead you and make you proud. Me and God are on your side ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I think Therapy would help you a lot ❤️❤️
I just had gastric sleeve surgery. I've struggled with my weight and following multiple diets since puberty. I've gained weight each time I fall off the track slightly. At this point in my life, I have no medical conditions and my health is important. When it comes down to it, being overweight is not healthy. Even if my bloodwork is good and I eat healthy, having 80-99lbs of excess weight is not good for anybody. It's not good for the heart and all other organs, joints,etc.. Eventually it will effect my health. I have accepted myself at the weight I was... but I want to be healthier, and I've made the choice to have weight loss surgery. And it's not the easy way, I have not had Solid food in 3 weeks, and I won't for another month. I'm so happy I've made this choice to become more healthy and its a great tool to help keep me motivated. I've lost 20lbs so far, and I'm excited to keep going and keep feeling better and better. Do what you need to do for your health and happiness. Just because there is a "standard of beauty" it has nothing to do with that, it's doing what's best for yourself. There is also nothing wrong with wanting to lose weight (to a degree) when it comes down to it, being in normal range of BMI is healthiest. Just my 2 cents.
I definitely get the future loss of grandparents, especially when the world was made to feel like they needed to abandon their elderly family members the last year +. It's sad that their last years could be so lonely. Social interaction makes all the difference in older adults. And their mental health(like anyones) is closely correlated with physical health when it comes down to it. Ive felt a lot of guilt with my grandpa that I visit weekly and his mobility has definitely declined in the last year.. I hope you get to have more memories with them in the near future and cherish that time, as I'm sure they will! That's all you can do! Love your videos and glad to see your back! Keep your head up!
My aunt had gastric bypass surgery in 1999 because she wanted to loose a lot of weight. After suffering for four years, she finally died from complications of that surgery. I have another aunt (by marriage) that had gastric bypass surgery about 19 years ago, has been sick ad a dog almost every time she eats and had not enjoyed her food in 19 years. I would tell anyone - gastric surgery of any kind for the purpose of weight loss is a very serious surgery. Try ANY and ALL OTHER options first.
@@ampchicksilverfox1684 yes I did! And surgery is MUCH different 20 years ago than it is today!
Please don’t apologize for being human and having normal emotions & feelings!!!People are cruel because of their own struggles and often the most genuine, kind & open people are the easiest targets. And depression is not something to blame yourself for experiencing. Even with being proactive with meds, therapy and avoiding triggers, it can strike hard & fast. You do what you need to in order to punch it in the face and we will be here cheering!!
Hi. You are really pretty and I enjoy your videos on all topics. But just fyi a FUPA is a Fatty Upper Pubic Area, not the stomach
I feel you. I can relate with almost everything you have said. A lot of us are struggling right now and the struggle is real. Lots of love xx
I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder over 10 years ago. What helped me most was therapy. It took a few trash ones to get to an amazing one who really helped me.
Don't try to prepare for death. Try to enjoy all of the moments you have now. Grief is something you can't really prepare for, and you will deal with it as it comes. Try not to let the fear of death cause additional anxiety. Lean into what you know each day. Your grandparents are here and you can still spend time with them. You can create more memories with them.
Body type also change with age. Weight distribution in my 20s is not the same as my weight distribution in my 30s. I noticed this before quarantine, and it was even more pronounced after my quarantine weight gain.
In my late 20s/early 30s I essentially overhauled my entire closet. I invested in quality pieces that fit my new body shape. And it honestly feels great to look in my clloset and see all my clothes and know they all make me feel good and they all fit. I always have a hard time getting rid of clothes and used to have a huge wardrobe, but now I have a small collection of awesome pieces and it feels great.
Just looking at my wardrobe of clothes that fit puts me in a good mindset for the day.
Girl, I’m happy to find someone who I can relate to on this. I too, get overly anxious and depressed regarding the passing of my grandpa and/or parents and they are still here. Their health has also become increasingly declining and noticeable. No one around me understands me getting depressed when they are still alive. Please reach out if you need. XO.
You'd take a week off if you struggled walking (or talking) for example, so please don't feel guilty you took a week off for struggling with your brain/soul 💕
I have finally learned not to beat myself up over stuff and that helps a lot
Cassie. Your emotions and thoughts are VALID. YOU ARE VALID. Repeat that. ❤️
Yes. This.
You're not depressed *because* you're "fat" and your grandparents "haven't even died yet"
You have depression.
There are emotional triggers that you're struggling to deal with because of your depression.
I'm truly sorry you're struggling at the moment but please don't minimise your struggles. You're human and your feelings (even and especially the negative ones) are valid.
You're also strong. You got this, even if you don't feel like it right now. Sending you love ❤
It's a hard thing to hear these things from a person/people who don't manage thr kinds of things you're going through how you are going through it. Stay strong! Weight and image are HARD things, but you are so beautiful as is your body and your personality!
When you started talking about your grandparents I got really emotional. I miss my grandparents so much, I only have my paternal grandma left. ❤️
Samesies
🌹 Cassie, I just wanted to say that you are not alone and please don't give up... You know, I think what you've described here is something we all go through to some degree. Those of us who are a bit more empathetic or sensitive really immerse ourselves into these feelings and sometimes let them almost consume all other parts of us... But please remember that all of this will pass and there will be much brighter days... Remember that this feeling is not permanent and completely understandable... You are ALLOWED to feel what you are feeling... Just don't let it consume you... Especially when it comes to weight gain and stuff like that... Covid hasn't been kind to ANY of us, I'm sure...
And other things you've touched on... You know, we have to always remind ourselves that our life is what and whom we surround ourselves with in a way... There will ALWAYS be someone criticizing us no matter how small, big, shallow, wise we are, especially when your life is "shared" with so many people... So pay attention only to those who truly love you and to the ONE in your near future (which it IS) who will love you and adore you exactly for WHO YOU ARE. You are just in that moment when everything seems a bit dark which will inevitably be replaced by happiness. It is the way it always is... There are two great sayings in French (I don't know that they are French, actually maybe they are just translations) ... One of them is "les nuages donnent la pluie et la pluie - la vie" (clouds give rain and rain - life) and the other one is "après la pluie vient le beau temps" which means that after the rain there will be great weather... Remember that... 🌹🌹🌹 Sending you some positive energy... xox from Montreal... ;))
Maybe you should get a job outside of your home so you’re not alone all day with just your negative thoughts, doubt and lots of tasty food to self-medicate with. Forcing myself to interact with people in person on a daily basis has done wonders for my mental health after a year and a half inside alone trapped in my own head. Developing healthier eating habits (learning how macronutrients work, etc) and getting in more physical activity everyday has also really helped. If you feel truly helpless and like you can’t do it on your own, please consider getting a therapist. Nothing beats a professional who can help you constructively work though what’s ailing you and help you find solutions to get back on track.
Edit: also why are you watching anything incels put out?? They’re incels for a reason. Just ignore them and hope they don’t shoot up a store you’re shopping in.
Cassie, so many people are struggling with this right now, me included! I was actually put on a waitlist for therapy. A WAITLIST. You're not alone. You're beautiful and your feelings are valid. Best wishes.
Sadly my psychiatrist just told me the same thing- wait lists for therapy are especially long right now!
I’m so sorry to hear about your grandparents Cassie. I grew up in the same house as my grandfather and took his death very hard even though he was 99. As you feel more comfortable try to visit them as much as possible. If they are in a condition to speak, ask them to share stories with you. It’s been 6yrs and I still think about my gpa and his stories and it brings much comfort. ☺️
You've always made me feel like you are just one of my friends when you do these kinds of videos. I just want to hug you and tell you it's all going to be ok, and we'll get thru it together. But You're my friend on the internet! LOL
Girl, you do what you need to do for you and don't worry about everyone else. We will be here when you're ready to make videos.
We all need a break sometimes..... give yourself a hug.
thank you, I appreciate the support 💕
I lost my mom this past September while trying to finish up my associates degree and it made school hard to finish. I hope it gets better for you. We love you
I'm sorry for your loss, Ashley. Big hugs.
@@BeaLucile thank you so much 💖
I'm so sorry about your mom. That is awful and must be so difficult to try and focus on school while dealing with such deep grief. Hope you can find some comfort and healing.
@@rosiebrown1077 thank you so much
So very sorry, Ashley. Hugs to you from a stranger on the internet ♥️
You sweet baby angel! You don’t have to be sorry for being depressed! Do whatever makes you feel better! (Or as good as you can be!)
Sorry to hear you've been having a rough time, hope things get easier 💛
Hey Cassie, I lost a grandpa last month. It hit me so hard finding out how fragile life is and how there’s nothing I can do about it. I still hate that (always will) but all I can do is honor their life through mine and cherish the current moments with others I’m living. It’s so hard being in this phase of life and it won’t ever be easy.. but just remember they’ve lived a full life before us and they are with us every step of the way. True connections can never fade with any amount of time or distance.
On the flip side though most people get sick pay if they take time off without it being annual leave and you don’t so there’s pro’s and con’s to each situation. I’ve recently seen a very good quote which said ‘if all you have done today is stay alive, you have achieved something so be proud of yourself’ this has got me through many a low day.
I’m sorry to hear your grandparents aren’t doing so well 😔
yeah, I'd say it's one of the biggest downsides of working for yourself.... sometimes mental health is more important than revenue though!
Sorry, I posted my comment before I’d finished 🙄🤦🏻♀️
@@thriftthick i agree It’s 100 percent more important, you were saying that you felt guilty for taking an unscheduled break because most jobs wouldn’t allow you to do that and so you were feeling guilty about doing so but it’s not like taking that break has full positive results, you don’t get paid for being sick so there’s no need to feel guilty. I hope that makes sense but I do know that with depression most thoughts are negative and you can’t see the positives sometimes. I hope this wave passes soon ❤️
I have supported many friends struggling with depression , you take your time , you have to take care of yourself first . It won't be perfect but who is ? Do your best ! Everything else follows from there 😁 Love yourself !
My heart goes out to you, it’s always a battle to keep going every day, but you must because there are brighter days ahead 🌻
Same! ❤️ it has taken me years to break the habit of telling myself “you should be thankful, other people have it much worse” or “you shouldn’t feel the way you feel because XYZ” I found myself apologizing to others when I was going through a bad depressive state, and would make myself feel even worse for feeling guilty about it. Although there might be truth to that mindset, it’s not right to minimize your feelings and or mental health struggles. I’m here to tell you DON’T BE SORRY!!! People who don’t struggle with mental illness have no idea what it’s like, and that’s okay, but you don’t owe anyone anything. We aren’t here to hold you accountable for taking off a week of work for mental health. We’re here because we enjoy you and your content, and if that means less content to better your mental health, that’s just how it has to be.
I am very sorry that you are feeling this way. I have suffered with clinical depression for 30 years and continue to do. I know how I feel when I’m not doing well and to say I’m miserable and barely functional can be an understatement. Although we all have our own experiences it isn’t easy for anyone with this illness. I am sorry you are going through this rough time. I do sympathize with you. And yes I have a cat and if I could get more I would 🥰 rescue them all.
I know it is tough, especially lately. I've been lucky to work from home as well but apart from running errands I really dont interact with anyone. And it's hard when you're alone to not let your negative thoughts eat you up. I'm looking for work outside the home and I would suggest that for you as well. It could even be a source of content for your channel (get ready with me, ootd, what I eat in a day, etc). That way youd have steady income and still get to do youtube for fun.
Also, you're entering your 30s and your body is going to change again. It sucks, but its life! Definitely get rid of clothes that dont fit (more content) and work with what you have til you can go shopping. Quarantine has us all gaining weight but as the world is opening back up I've been trying to get more exercise.
And for your grandparents, love them while they're here. Take time off and spend time with them, help them, love them. It will be hard to see them get older but you'll look back and be glad you made memories with them.
I hope you can get back to a better state of mind and continue to do whatever makes you happy!
Great comment! I also think a part time job would do wonders for Cassie.
So many truths in your comment and all from a good place ❤️
Great comment
Cassie, I think you get depression and self esteem all muddled together when really they're separate. It sounds like you have medicated for your depression which is good but you seem to struggle with worth and self esteem which is not something medication will help. I hope you are able to work on that with some self help books and speaking with a professional. I wish you well. You deserve a happy life. 🥰🥰
Hope you’re feeling better soon girl! My grandpa just passed, I am out of town right now for his funeral and it’s sad. But seeing his decline, I am happy he is at peace now.
I’m so sorry for your loss
Love you Cassie! You deserve as much time as you need; especially for your mental health! True casseroles understand!
thank you so much Brooke, I appreciate hearing that more than you know!!! 💕
Mental health is no joke. Give yourself the love you would give a friend. And you are NOT alone. I have full blown PTSD from 2020 and being a COVID long hauler. I can afford to take a week off too. That does that mean my feelings don't matter. Do whatever you need to take care of yourself. You deserve it. Sending you lots of love.
Losing a grandparent is very hard, Cassie 😔.
I have lost both my biological grandmother's, both who I loved very much and both who I lost when I was much younger than I am now.
Losing anyone you love is hard.
And you are allowed to choose to experience the pain before it is necessary, especially if it allows you to cope better once it does happen.
I have 1 grandpa left and his wife who he married, after the loss of my grandma. I love them both very dearly and I fear the day when I no longer get to say "until next time" or "I love you" to them.
Prepping ourselves for moments in life that we can't control helps us feel a little more in control and even though it'll still hurt like hell, in my experience we often feel it to be more bearable than when it's completely unexpected.
Feel what you need to feel, when you need to feel it, and just know that you are not alone.
My saving grace is my faith, and my family who are here. Lean on the ones who you know truly love you and remember to show them that unconditional love right back.
I am thinking of you and your grandparents and I hope you can have many more beautiful moments with them!❤
Praying for you little lady.
Go easy on yourself, Cassie. I am older so I am in the midst of having a parent whose health has taken a turn for the worse. It is not easy but prayer, loved ones, rest, artistic endeavors, and exercise are helping. Hang in there. We love your heart on this channel! 💙
Beautiful lady, you are FANTASTIC. Don't let that troll of an inner voice make you believe otherwise. YOU DESERVE ALL THE WONDERFUL THINGS!
Hey Cassie. I'm not a regular commenter but I wanted to check in and let you know that you're not alone. I know you know that depression lies. I know you know that your feelings are valid and that things the seem "trivial" really aren't. But sometimes it helps to be told that by another person. You're a great person and you deserve to take time to yourself and take care of yourself. I think we're alike in a lot of ways and I can empathize with what you're going through. Thanks for checking in and keep taking care of yourself 💗
Depression is not logical but feeling ashamed about it is normal-and a total vicious cycle! Taking all the time you need to take care of yourself is admirable and you deserve it!! ❤
I’m with you! I have been having horrible panic attacks to the point of having to pull over when driving. I’m really struggling to get it under control. What has helped me is opening up to family & friends. I try to avoid being overly medicated etc. exercise and cooking or playing with my pup helps too! Hang in there Cassie! I know you can get through this 🐣
Cassie your issues are valid! Please don’t feel guilty. Please take care of yourself you are such a sweet person. I’ve been with you since Boston and I feel like I know you I talk about you with my daughters and my husband and you are very important to me. I really want you to know how much you are truly cared about.
I completely understand. My dad is 85 and has early dementia. There is a lot to think about. Spend as much time with them and cherish all the time you can with them .
I just got rid of SO many of my clothes for this exact reason. I held onto so much because i used it as “motivation” to loose weight. But my body is just different. I’m still trying to be okay with it but it is so hard!!
About the whole weight thing, us skinny girls get it bad too. There was a time when I'd get called anorexic on a daily not just but random people but by my own family. "hey you need to eat more" or "do you eat?" Ummm... yes I eat..... People don't realize what those type of comments does to someone.
Awwww its ok Cassie! You are such a beautiful person inside and out
aw hate seeing my fave youtubers feeling down. don't feel guilty and take all the time you need!
Awe Cassie 😔 Feel better soon your beautiful DON'T let anyone else bring you down they are just unhappy with themselves and projecting it elsewhere. We all love you here and appreciate you sharing 💕 l think we have all gained weight during this crazy time we have all experienced worldwide, we will all get back on track now things are finally settling down 👍
Still pullin for you Cassie ✨✨✨✨ dont put yourself through the depression olympics….you don’t needs to feel like your feelings are invalid. They are you own and need time and attention to process through them. Hopefully the days get easier and happier for you soon 😘
Cassie, I am 51 years old and I cry every time I think about leaving my grand daughter. The pain she is going to feel when I pass is just heart breaking for me and the pain my kids will have to go through. I do stop myself but it still slips in there and makes me sad. You are allowed to think about losing your grand parents and be emotional about it. It sucks ass and even though it is the circle of life it still sucks ass. I wish I could hug you
Please don’t feel bad for taking time away to take care of your mental health. No matter what anyone might say or think, mental health needs to be taken care of properly. It’s most important after physical needs. Please take care of yourself, dear. I’ve dealt with depression too. It’s hard to motivate yourself to do anything when it takes hold. That’s not your fault at all. We love you, dearie!
I’ve struggled with mental health for 10+ years (BPD, depression, anxiety) the biggest thing I’ve learned is to just take it one day at a time.
I have a bad day? Okay great, that’s just today, and hopefully tomorrow will be better.
Reading, cleaning, and the headspace app helps a lot on those bad days. Therapy and keeping up on meds has helped a ton too.
It’s okay to take time for yourself, you need to! This year has been wild, you have every right to struggle. Love you ❤️
I really appreciate these videos of yours bc it’s so helpful and for those of us who feel alone, feel a little less alone 🙏🏼
I feel you. I gained a lot during covid. Your weight doesn’t define you, you’re a good person regardless of your pant size. ❤️
Thank you for sharing. You didn't let the stigma against depressives keep you silent. You are brave. We are in this together. I totally understand. Feeling bad for not being happy. For not appreciating the gift of life. I'm sorry you are suffering. The incels terrify me. Their hate is so passionate and virulent. No wonder they can't get any action. I'm glad you took a much needed break from youtube. ((hugs))
*note: often the meds cause metabolic changes that effect fat distribution.
Something I thought about and didn't act on until it was very much too late is sitting down with my grandparents and hearing their stories, recording them, having that further connection, and writing the stories down to share with family as part of my family history. I was so very blessed to have even my great grands until just after I graduated from high school, so blessed, but I should have started those recordings and writing down the stories so much sooner!
Now I do not have any of my grandparents great or otherwise, my son has my Mother, and his biological father's Father only left because so many passed within the very early years of his life. I am terribly sad for him about that but still, he knows the stories of his elders. It may help you cope with what is going on with your grands as well as put something more in your focus and battle your depression a bit.
Depression sucks, BIG time, there are times that even well-managed depression decides to turn bumpy for the h3ll of it. Just please, remember that you are cared about, not just by your relatives and "real" friends.
Cassie please try to remember that your feelings are always valid. Everyone processes things differently and even if your grandparents haven't died, it's a legitimate concern and you 100% have a right to feel scared or upset. That's how you are processing it and I would hope no one would judge you for that. I struggle with weight too (I have PCOS so it's been a constant uphill battle) and I think removing unfitting clothes from your closet is a great idea. Do what you need to to keep yourself in a better place emotionally. All that said, please try not to feel guilty about taking time off! You deserve it and if you need it, take it. Your watchers will all still be here when you return and happy to see you again, but there is never a rush. Your health is #1.
There's a real thing called anticipatory grief. You are not wrong for feeling sad at the thought of losing your loved ones. I have an uncle with ALS and my grandmother is 99. I'm starting to mentally prepare myself for a phone call. You are not alone Sending you a virtual hug ❤
My mental health is really bad right now too. And I hate that you immediately felt the need to invalidate your feelings. That tells me that you’ve had people invalidate your feelings quite a lot…. :( I can relate and I’m here to tell you that your anxieties are valid. 💛
I’ve been struggling a lot lately as well. Missed you. We love you 🤍
I'm so sorry to hear that you've been struggling too Kim.... sending you big hugs; take care of yourself the best you can 🥰
Thank you for being open to sharing your more vulnerable thoughts and feelings. It helps to remind me that’s it’s normal, natural and appropriate to struggle from time to time.
Mental breaks are needed for everyone. You are worthy of them. Hugs to you ❤️
Cassie thank you for sharing your heart with us. You don't have to do it, But you choose to do so because you're a powerful woman who chooses to be real and tell everyone out there that there're not alone. Speaking to us lifts weight off your shoulders and that's very brave and bold of you. You are stronger than you think. We love you Cassie.❤❤✨
I struggle with depression and have for a long time. Quarantine helped me so much, only because I didn’t have to work! 😂😵
Im such a homebody.
But getting outside and reading, decluttering my house, or going for a walk , decorating my yard, cleaning my car, HAS HELPED!! You really just need to pick yourself up and do something. That’s that thing. Get angry for doing nothing and being depressed, then take the first step to a new hobby / routine. You CAN DO IT!
You should be talking about all this to a mental health professional. I don't think us viewers can help you there
For me depression hits when the seasons change. I really noticed it in the last two years that when the season changes from spring and summer is the hardest. I think because unconsciously I am really hard on myself, and i feel like i need to get my life in order. I need to fit my bathing suit, I need this or that. It is probably way different for you, but I even get overwhelmed and anxious. I also realized that summer to fall is easier because everyone is hunkering down for the season. It is just something I have noticed, and it has really helped me. As for the guy comments, it makes me wonder why they cant get the women they want. Men like that totally disgust me. Haha defying gravity. I am in my 30s and my body is totally changing, but for the first time I love it. Lastly, I am up for you taking time off, and I will still be subscribed to your channel.
I'm only 6 minutes into your video and had to stop to write a note of encouragement. I think I shared before that I too struggle with depression been medicated for many many years successfully, and I have breakthrough occasions. I found out right in the beginning that huge part of me having break through depression with my thinking patterns. depression is not just something we can snap out of. We can learn some coping mechanisms. Sometimes it's time to rest period. To give your body the physical rest it needs to settle down or heal or whatever you want to call it.
So be kind to yourself no apologies needed. You're being true blue and honest is part of the reason I enjoy watching you.
I've been there too. Hang in there. Sending you virtual hugs!
I think you’re doing the best that you can! Your advice to not feel guilty about doing whatever you need to do, be it nothing, is key! Life is an effing roller coaster, so knowing that there will inevitably be ups and downs and accepting that while trying our best is all that we can do. Keep doing you and know that your casserole family is always here💗.
my heart breaks for you as i saw you cry. i completely understand what you were saying dealing with death. I’ve been very lucky to not lose important people in my life and it’s starting to happen recently and I never know how to handle it. Be gentle with yourself. You deserve to have these feelings. I struggle so much with self worth myself and it makes me so sad to know you do too. You seem like such a great person. I hope you start to feel better soon. 💙