Ask Him to send the man that He have for you at the appointed time, and that you recognize the one that He have for you. In the meantime let Him work on you, and develop you into the woman of God that He created you to be. Enjoy the moment and process to the best of your ability. Rest in Him, and trust Him. Ask God to show you who you are, and what your purpose is in life. And everything will fall into place at the appointed time in the name of Jesus.
@@ladennayoung2939Amen Sista. I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship or married and I’m 30. All I’ve done is self development. Not looking for a relationship at all right now just putting in my request for that appointed time. 😊
Sis, he will... he’s faithful. It’s not easy, but he got us. This year makes 6 years in the waiting room, I’m staying busy, about the Lords business... and the rumor is, when I least expect it... he’ll show up. Until then, I’m asking to be kept.. and that my husband is being kept as well. ❤️🙋🏾♀️💆🏾♀️
I love how you respected his stance on marriage while you expressed your own. I too hold it in high regard, even after the pain of divorce. Good conversation!
Sex isn't that important if you aren't mature enough. Also consistency and being loyal is what women desire. I'm so sick of men thinking sex is all of all. Yes sex is good but what else do you offer when we get old? Ugh!
I think the reason that money is the number one reason for divorce is because of what money issues represent. If a person isn’t contributing or is undisciplined , or irresponsible or is dishonest with money, it shows you about their character. Money is an amplifier. It amplifies or highlights your character. Sometimes it shows you the unacceptable character traits.
Was so happy when this popped up 🙌 I love how you respectfully allowed Kris to state his point and then went back to the foundation of the channel, your beliefs and essentially the truth of what God's word says when it pertains to marriage. Love ittt 👌
Being with a life partner without making it legal....is like having a book with no words! Even when you accept a job....you have to sign papers....when you get a loan you have to sign papers....when you birth a child....you sign papers (your name goes on the birth certificate) anything that you are committing to you should NOT have a problem declaring it on paper and in front of people. I still believe the WORD OF GOD....and marriage is His sacred institution. All this new way of thinking is just foolishness to me. Thanks LIT for clarifying...what marriage is really about!
I agree what u r saying but I also hear what KC is saying. Sometimes the marriage is not based on a connection but merely a piece of paper. Of course we know that the definition of marriage continues to evolve. But at the end of the day, the persons in the marriage gets to define their marriage; good bad or indifferent. For me, I want it ALL!
You are speaking nothing but facts!!! A lot of people have lost sight of the sanctity of marriage and what it represents. God’s word is still true and unchanging.
I'm going to be respectful but marriage is honorable in the sight of God and I pray this brother gets some biblical teaching on what biblical marriage is before he decides/agrees with his "angel" to get married. This is why Christian women have to be real about finding a priest, provider, and protector to LEAD in their marriage 🙏🏽 #Waitingonmywarriorking❤
I’m really loving this dialogue. What I love the most is seeing two altering perspectives being voiced in one safe space. Authentically & Respectfully. Definitely allowed me to do an internal evaluation on if I am emotionally mature enough to be like this example.
Marriage is a mystery, which is why so many fall a part. When we take on the challenge of solving this mystery, the right way, it can be so fulfilling! Wow this channel challenges my thinking and my heart. Awesome job!! I have to continue to raise my boys with the intent of becoming great husbands--building lasting legacy!!
A wedding is important: the ceremony is also equally because of our personal vow to one another and before God, friends and witnesses. Marriages can work with TWO Genuine individuals willing to explore and become right for each other. Will to give each other the benefits in life.
Marriage is a covenant and if we plan to live with someone with benefits, it's not marriage and I question even if it's love. Everyone is entitled to their view, but I believe it should be in alignment with the Word of God, if I'm acting like I'm married, I should be what? ... married. Otherwise, I'm fornicating and am not fit for the Kingdom of God. Kris, I thank you for sharing; enjoyed you immensely. You seem to be a very grounded man which I found refreshing. To that extent, I pray you don't cheat yourself out of experiencing what God will do with you as a husband and you and your wife as a union; in a Kingdom marriage. Laterras, as always, thank you for another anointed podcast. God is proud and is certainly doing something HUGH through you. Minds are being changed, lives are being transformed and marriage covenants are being entered into. Look forward to the next one. God bless you and again, thank you Kris.
I truly respect how you handle yourself in this episode. His mindset is truly different from yours when it comes to marriage. But you allowed him to give his views on the matter even though it clashed with yours.
I believe in healthy discussions. I welcome differing viewpoints. I expressed in my very first episode my desire to have conversations with varying viewpoints and lifestyles.
I just love Chris. His resilient attracted me the most. We should never get lost when losing, there's always a second chanc. Keep shinning Brother, DFW is an inspirational podcast that I have ever found so far. We are crouching and growing through it.🥰
I haven't watched this video. But I can tell Kris is operating in a place of hurt, fear and a false sense of safety. We watched a show (RTL) but that was his real life experience and he was fully vested in someone that turned out to be a wolf in sheep's clothing 😳 So, now we have a man who has shutdown and sees it as painful to put himself out there and pursue what he initially wanted; a wife and family. Whatever his professed thoughts are on marriage, you are actually hearing the language of fear and armored thoughts ladened with pain. This is a perfect example of the effects of playing with people's emotions which is sad to witness 😢
The Dear future Wifey podcast has blessed 🙌 my internal being. I hv been married for almost 32 yrs. The testimonies of tge guest has strengthen my marriage 💑. My husband and I hv made changes in my marriage after we listened to some of the podcasts.
Marriage is symbolic of Christ's covenant and love for His church and because of what that entails it is a precious yet challenging institution. If God places it in your heart to persue marriage you should and having a certificate of marriage, I feel, lets man know that you are committed to that covenant as well.
Yeah. I agree that we must change our way of thinking and perspective in order to receive the blessing/blessings that God have for us to the fullest. Being taught that marrying someone in a Biblical perspective is the way we should teach people. People need to know that our purpose in life whether we are married or single is to be about our Father's business. The problem is not being encouraged to marry or get married. The problem is society creating a spirit of codependency. And if you don't fully know God or self. That is a problem in and of itself. Because you are going to be looking for people and things to fill the void that only God can fill. He created this void for you to know that you need to seek something greater then yourself. But majority of people don't understand that. They want to look to what they call the universe, people, education, money, and so on and so forth. To do what only GOD can do. Everyone be blessed and encouraged in the Lord.
Dear Future Wifey podcasts has hands down been one of my greatest blessings. I have learnt a great deal. One of the things i appreciate the most is that it has put me in a space to be on a self discovery journey. Thou its scary it is also very rewarding. Having dealt with some traumatic experiences you tend to go through life on survival mode and miss out on who you are as whole, so thank you. I have shared these episodes with all my girlfriends and sometimes we just sit together and watch which usually brings out some real tough conversations.
Empaths and High Vibratory Beings are often attracted and connect to those with very low vibes because High Vibratories have calls and purpose to heal and teach others.
I totally agree with you! This is me all the way. I am an empath and I "feel" every damn thing. And, I keep asking myself why do I keep attracting men with issues, unhealed brokenness, childhood trauma that is still unresolved, and men with addictive personalities whether that addiction be drugs, alcohol, women or all 3. But, it makes sense...I am a healer and teacher...and that's why I attract these men...My high vibes...their low vibes! Wow! thanks!
@@everythingshanita8108 You're Welcome! When we accept that and maneuver through our relationships from this knowing position we won't take things as personally.
@@laj4186 I love this and thank you for sharing this because it instantly revealed my own past and the lows in that path... and I see it sooo often too How do we fix tho
@@Honeyluvssteph You recognize that most are not pure of heart and hone your intuition and protect your essence. Learn yourself minute by minute day by day. Never take on the whoa is me path. Never point the finger.
Absolutely! I'm an HSP and empath and wondered why I attracted so many emotionally unavailable and emotionally broken men. But my purpose is to teach in life and I know whether through my energy, actions or words I'm making a positive impact regardless of how theyve treated me.
This was an engaging episode - eye-opening for sure. I'm not certain that men (our men) truly understand the vastness and power of their strength, especially when couched in gentleness. An intentional and kind hearted man is worth making time to get to know and holds the potential to bring out all the best there is in us!
There it is...(as you would say) When a man wants to juggle, he still has a lot of emotional battles within himself. He's so right ❤🙌🏾 We've always blamed ourselves for failure of relationships or for a man cheating on us. I hope this reaches far and wide ❤🙏🏾
Unbelievers say it's a piece of paper, contract. Believers know it's a covenant and that's bigger than a contract. When he said marriage is not the goal I was disappointed.
Kris was one of my favorites on the show. Listening to him solidifies that. He clearly understands the Spiritual journey and high vibration. Against popular opinion, I actually agree with his idea of marriage. I say, "I want a partner who is with me because he wants to be with me...not because he feels he must be because of a piece of paper." A life partner is most definitely ideal. A connection is so much more than being bound to someone (a transactional connection). He's emotionally available and spiritually intune, which is rare. I affirm him the best! 💛
I appreciate the integrity of his words, his "new" truth. He said some mighty amazing things. Men everywhere need to be able/willing to acknowledge who women are to the birth of creation. Creation of All. I loved this conversation. I wish more men would SIT DOWN and Tune IN to Self. Black folks really can no longer play this hate game through the construct of relationships. Our community is dying Listen Be Honest Serve good Pene......In a nutshell
Gentle & emotionally in touch men are so incredibly attractive and masculine. Yes, let's get that movement thriving in our community. Laterras, as always WONDERFUL show I truly appreciate your content. Kris, thank you for allowing us to experience a different kind of black make archetype. #cheers
Great episode. In the standard set, compromise comes after the committed. How can two walk together unless they be agreed. I pray that his journey leads him to the truth more than his truth. Shalom!
This video-as all have- blessed me tremendously! I have been through so many challenges trying to date since my divorce. I have healed and still found myself heart broken again. But your podcasts have blessed me! Thank you! Keep pouring into us! 💜💜🎂
A lot of those women don't know truly what they wanted in a man. A few still need to heal. I honestly liked this man because I saw one episode and felt his balanced energy.
I like his honesty and intentionality. However, his views are notas spirituality sound as he may think. It's like mixing truth with error. Light and darkness can't dwell together.
Good Morning Laterras, I look forward to your videos.. they really uplift and encourage me... keep doing what you are doing and keep putting God First...
I enjoy this podcast it’s literally healing for me and I enjoy Kristophers honesty and personality. God send me brothers in Christ like this ( platonic relationships I mean) ❤️
Ive been dating a guy who is a minister... initially when we met I stressed that Im waiting for marriage to be intimate... however he mentioned on several occasions that he needed to see what hes getting... so eventually we fell short on several occasions... for some reason I felt like I couldn't trust him...as much as I wanted to... we had counseling and everything... long story short it didnt work... ladies what God has for you is for you... I pray that God gives me the grace to not compromise anymore!!! Now I must heal... that is so important #HEALINGISKEY
Great Podcast!! I’m a Boomer and definitely believe in my husband being the lead. However I’m blessed to have someone that cover me and I cover him; no one lacking. This podcast gives a different perspective to be aware of others view points.
This podcast was exceptional. I viewed all of Ready to Love and enjoyed Mr Kris heart amongst all; genuine. It was all solidified & reinforced in viewing this podcast between you too. Mr Kris you my guy!! No one is perfect. Pursuing & gifting sincerity with kindness is percious . God bless you both on your purposed journeys 🙏🙏⚘
Loved his interview. “Marriage is a Sham,” I don’t quite agree. It’s a contract that allows us to make medical and financial decisions for each other. I would want it for that at the very least, but he does have a point about people staying in loveless marriages. I would not want that.
I enjoy your episode with Kristopher Green. Respect on all levels. I Definitely appreciated his wisdom and perspective on understanding a black woman true nature. 🌹
Can we say "LOVE JONES"?!? I loved this episode!!! No tears this time... only thing missing is a few more friends, wine, and some GOODT food!!! I was here for this... For me, time to heal from previous relationships is very key, and your show has taught me the VALUE of that. Money is said to be the number one cause of divorce... but when you're with your PURPOSE PARTNER... it's richer or poorer FORREAL... cause you both know money comes and goes... financial intelligence and conversations are key... my grandfather used to say "A man without a plan plans to fail" and " you pay for what you dont know and what you dont feel like doing; either way somebody gotta pay try not to let it be you; knowledge is power" and he'd say "you gotta pay to play; if you cant pay you cant play; and if you cant pay you cant stay".... he'd say God first, health next, and money immediately after that and everything else as you see fit... for us women he told us...nothing from nothing leaves nothing, so if you have nothing and he has nothing you wont have nothing, if you as a woman has something and he has nothing eventually you'll have nothing, but if you have nothing as a woman and he has something YOU BETTER KNOW SOMETHING and be of great value to him so he can get more... Looking back over my life he wasnt wrong... I witnessed what being a woman of value meant... he took care of my grandmother and she wanted for nothing.. gifted her EVERY SINGLE DAY... little small things... she was able to move how she wanted, be whomever she wanted to be, do whatever she wanted to do. She protected his money, fed him ( he NEVER ate off of another woman's plate unless it was at a restaurant; ), shaved him, bathed him ,took care of his health and was that soft place for him to land, to cry (crying is NOT WEAK women), to talk, to laugh, and just BE. When his money was funny she always had reserves for him from all he had given her throughout the previous years. She had his back... She had a reverence for him because of he cared for her... even when she wasnt acting lady like (which was hardly ever) but he never denied or changed his love or care for her or changed how he moved... when a woman feels safe to BE HER even on a bad day AND STILL LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY AND PROVIDED FOR you will always be THE FACE OF GOD to her... and God will be pleased... he speaks to husbands in his word...thats how you get the honor and respect and submission from her as God calls us as women/wives to do... If you have done all these things how can I walk away because finances arent right? When you showed ME GRACE AND MERCY...when I KNOW YOU HAVE CONSISTANTLY provided for me and ALWAYS protected me?! Truth be told i havent done MY JOB if I didnt watch your financial back... my grandfather said PROTECT HIS MONEY... I watched my grandmother do just that!!! 74 years UNBREAKABLE... they took care of each other....ON PURPOSE!!!! no control over each other...PROTECTION and coverance over each other...prayed over each other... WITH THE GREATEST INTENT!!! I am traditional, I dont want to be his equal, I dont want to devalue him in that way or steal his reverence nor take his crown, I just merely want to wear mine... I have my own money.... I have the goal of being the God gift that increases his Kingdom Wealth not deplete his Kingdom Wealth So that OUR FATHER GETS ALL THE GLORY in the KINGDOM...and we walk hand in hand ON PURPOSE for HIS PURPOSE!!!!
Good morning Laterras, this is Arlette. I was on the testimony episode you had about two weeks ago. I apologize for going over my time in that episode. When I saw the Zoom Meeting information in the description box, I didn't pay attention to the next line that said that each person should be talking for two minutes, I am sorry about that. I did connect on Instagram with the sister who came after me, and I apologized to her as well (for going over my time). She was very gracious, and understanding. Thank you for connecting us. Thank you for your kindness, your patience, your humor, and for being gracious as well. Thank you for giving us a voice, and for allowing us to share our stories. I was moved by what the other sisters shared as well. I look forward to listening to this episode. Thank you for letting us know that it is okay to raise the bar for ourselves, and with others, and for encouraging us to better ourselves, in every area of our lives. Have a wonderful day! Also, thank you for bringing back the "Why are you shacking with me?" phrase. It's going to sound silly, however it feels like something is missing when I don't hear it at the beginning of the podcast 🙂 I also noticed that the seductive radio voice was left out this time (I am just giving you a hard time, because I had made a joke about leaving that seductive voice for your future wifey 🙂 when you say that phrase, in the comments' section of a previous episode). This was an interesting episode. Thank you for having someone (a man), with a different perspective. I appreciated his honesty, though I am of a different mindset regarding some of the topics you both touched on, like marriage. Thank you both as well for expressing men's deepest fears. These are the kinds of things I appreciate about your podcast.
I hope Kristopher has found love and has moved away from the thought that marriage is just a piece of paper. Marriage is so much more than that. But you were a gracious host and allowed him to express his views without forcing yours on him. Continue to be the light God has called you to be. ❤
Omg. I pray I remember to watch this later on. I enjoyed seeing him on Ready to Love. The thing is the enemy can and will deceive and distract you as an attempt to deter you from what and who God have for you. We have to be mindful. Blessings to all in Jesus name. Amen and Amen.
As you were reading your letter today, I saw you gifting your wife (didn't see her sorry) with a book on your wedding day of all the letters you've shared with all of us on your journey. Not sure if you had that intention when you started but it would make an amazing gift. :o) Thank you for allowing us to come along with you as you walk out this part of your journey. It's truly a blessing to watch and see a males perspective. Thank you!!
Okay this was WOW…perspectives were still honorable. I am so proud to hear men share and speak from their hearts. Thank you for having such a conversation (even though I’m late to seeing this…still poignant!)
Laterras, I'm so glad that you welcome different perspectives to DFW. We all see through a particular set of lenses called experience. I enjoyed what Kris had to say,even if I don't agree. Different doesn't equal wrong.The mere fact that he was able to stand ten toes down in his truth, and “spiritual awakening”was enough for me. Blessings!! 😊
I appreciate Kristopher perspective on this.. that fact he dates only one woman at a time. I could never understand how people date multiple people. I would get too confused. 😂. He's right Stop playing with people emotions too.
So glad to see Kris outside of Ready to Love! I hv a very different perspective on relationships than him but I found it so refreshing to see a man be so authentic & then also vulnerable on tv?!?! Wow!! 😱 I hope he finds what he is looking for. 💖
This was very interesting to hear. Unfortunately in this day and age very few people are intentional when dating.. Most people if not all come into the dating scene with their own idea of what they want to achieve. Very few of us have gotten the proper guidance interms of how to date, who to date, how to pray when dating, and most importantly how to wait on God to give you your purpose partner. And makes me wonder how do we then know an individual's intention when dating? Because I feel like .nowadays it's fake it till you make it in these streets...
It is definitely not all, but a lot of people have pulled away from the word of God. They choose to live their lives based off of their family upbringing, their own personal beliefs, and what the world teach them and show them. Then they end up being bound with anger, bitterness, and un-forgiveness because of it. The enemy have people bound in a lot of areas, and a certain way of thinking keep them from receiving everything that God have for them.
Good interview .. I'm glad Kris came to give his perspective. Also, appreciate what Kris stated regarding some males dating multiple females and not valuing/treating women with respect. It takes time to do the inner work needed and makes for a better relationship going forward.
Oh he is different! He is very much still in need of an awakening. Different. He had some sayings straight from hell. we had a clothing, but he definitely isn’t a sheep. that brother definitely was planned and tapping in some some things that he should not have been tapping into there’s some heman’s up in there! Although, I sincerely appreciate his honesty, and his opinion he could not be more off!
Kris was definitely one of my Favs from the show. Dear Future Wifey podcast is always Amazing! When outside opens back up safely! I'm ready to travel to a meet and greet or something! 😂
I liked Kris from Day 1 on Ready To Love. I love his personality, confidence and charisma. And I agree with what he said, "I am hot but not everybody's hot"! Hey now!! That's what I'm talking about!! P.S. How can I get one of those Dear Future Wifey coffee mugs?
I'm learning more about myself when I listen to this podcast its so inspiring that we all need to do the work and deaden that negative energy, thoughts, and emotions. Thank king🙏🏿🙏🏿
The piece of paper argument.... Let's go deeper.... In biblical times they exchanged land and livestock for the marriage contract... We now have a marriage license.... So the piece of paper discussion will always rub me the wrong way.... It's our outer representation of our covenant with God... So is the rings we wear.... That is how I view the marriage license. Great discussion.
When I was over the women's ministry, I had a healing session and the women looked into a mirror. I had them dissect what they like and what they didn't like. It didn't feel good at first, but they're good to go now. Healing is so necessary. Man, I love this podcast. ❤
Very interesting episode here. Some things stated I don't agree with but I understand his perspective on it. I believe when it comes to dating so many have forgotten or just plainly do not know what dating is. I believe it's okay for a man and woman to date multiple people. Dating in it's most simplistic form is seeing if a person is qualified to be your spouse. That's it! I'm happy you asked Kris if he has seen a successful marriage. Lord knows I've seen people form these unions, have kids and then part ways. I'm here for the traditional, biblical way.
I think it's the second time there's a man on this show that's speaking so clearly with sense. I applaud him....so honest and real....men like him are rare
Thank you, God, for keeping me Authentic, I love me, my intentions are real & honest. I'm inspired & encouraged with Dear Future Wife episodes☺️ ... "You are my Much Given" Love It!
My sister just got married ,I said wow you get to live in that beautiful big house, she said "I don't give a crap about that house, I love that man.she said I can buy own house.i love the way she thinks. I'm looking for real ❤️ .great conversation!
Green...spread your spiritual message to the masses. Awesome truth..thank you I am so blessed to come across this podcast..it is enhancing my understanding of men...i always believed truth is much safer than playing games wuth peoples MINDS
I almost didn't watch the video because I read the comments first lol but I'm glad I watched. Because Kristopher's understanding of marriage is mostly that it's only a formality, it makes sense for him not to esteem it in high regard. I believe when he digs deeper and realizes that marriage is so much more than that, his stance may change. :) I agreed with almost everything else he said. #AwesomeConvo
God if you’re listening, send me a man that is radically gentle and abstinent. Thank you and Amen 🙏🏾
God hears and answers prayers 🙏
Ask Him to send the man that He have for you at the appointed time, and that you recognize the one that He have for you. In the meantime let Him work on you, and develop you into the woman of God that He created you to be. Enjoy the moment and process to the best of your ability. Rest in Him, and trust Him. Ask God to show you who you are, and what your purpose is in life. And everything will fall into place at the appointed time in the name of Jesus.
@@ladennayoung2939Amen Sista. I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship or married and I’m 30. All I’ve done is self development. Not looking for a relationship at all right now just putting in my request for that appointed time. 😊
Sis, he will... he’s faithful. It’s not easy, but he got us. This year makes 6 years in the waiting room, I’m staying busy, about the Lords business... and the rumor is, when I least expect it... he’ll show up. Until then, I’m asking to be kept.. and that my husband is being kept as well. ❤️🙋🏾♀️💆🏾♀️
@@ashtonpatrice6137, so well said, and good for you 👏👏👏 Also, I can relate, and I am much older 🙂 I have been having the same attitude for many years.
I love how you respected his stance on marriage while you expressed your own. I too hold it in high regard, even after the pain of divorce. Good conversation!
I respect his stance. We're all on a journey.
Sex isn't that important if you aren't mature enough. Also consistency and being loyal is what women desire. I'm so sick of men thinking sex is all of all. Yes sex is good but what else do you offer when we get old? Ugh!
Exactly well
Said’ when you they can’t even perform then what!
I literally said the same thing before I read your comments! I so agree!💯
Sex and buying you material things.
I think the reason that money is the number one reason for divorce is because of what money issues represent. If a person isn’t contributing or is undisciplined , or irresponsible or is dishonest with money, it shows you about their character. Money is an amplifier. It amplifies or highlights your character. Sometimes it shows you the unacceptable character traits.
Money isn't the reason .... That's usually what ppl say to comer up other issues
You hit right on the nose
Was so happy when this popped up 🙌 I love how you respectfully allowed Kris to state his point and then went back to the foundation of the channel, your beliefs and essentially the truth of what God's word says when it pertains to marriage. Love ittt 👌
...beautifully done wasn't it? I love how we can authentically respect each others journeys.
Yes, beautifully done.
Being with a life partner without making it legal....is like having a book with no words! Even when you accept a job....you have to sign papers....when you get a loan you have to sign papers....when you birth a child....you sign papers (your name goes on the birth certificate) anything that you are committing to you should NOT have a problem declaring it on paper and in front of people. I still believe the WORD OF GOD....and marriage is His sacred institution. All this new way of thinking is just foolishness to me. Thanks LIT for clarifying...what marriage is really about!
You betta preach!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I say exactly that.
I agree what u r saying but I also hear what KC is saying. Sometimes the marriage is not based on a connection but merely a piece of paper. Of course we know that the definition of marriage continues to evolve. But at the end of the day, the persons in the marriage gets to define their marriage; good bad or indifferent. For me, I want it ALL!
You are speaking nothing but facts!!! A lot of people have lost sight of the sanctity of marriage and what it represents. God’s word is still true and unchanging.
I'm going to be respectful but marriage is honorable in the sight of God and I pray this brother gets some biblical teaching on what biblical marriage is before he decides/agrees with his "angel" to get married. This is why Christian women have to be real about finding a priest, provider, and protector to LEAD in their marriage 🙏🏽 #Waitingonmywarriorking❤
Clarification: Being found by a man that can be a priest, provider and protector! "He who finds.....
I’m really loving this dialogue. What I love the most is seeing two altering perspectives being voiced in one safe space. Authentically & Respectfully. Definitely allowed me to do an internal evaluation on if I am emotionally mature enough to be like this example.
You hit the nail on the head. Perfect deduction.
Marriage is a mystery, which is why so many fall a part. When we take on the challenge of solving this mystery, the right way, it can be so fulfilling! Wow this channel challenges my thinking and my heart. Awesome job!! I have to continue to raise my boys with the intent of becoming great husbands--building lasting legacy!!
Well said
A wedding is important: the ceremony is also equally because of our personal vow to one another and before God, friends and witnesses. Marriages can work with TWO Genuine individuals willing to explore and become right for each other. Will to give each other the benefits in life.
I pray that the Holy Spirit will continue to renew our thoughts, in order for us to truly understand the will of God for our lives.
Laterras, you better PREACH 🗣🗣 on the differences between marriage/divorce vs. dating/breaking up!!!!❤
Most definitely
Marriage is a covenant and if we plan to live with someone with benefits, it's not marriage and I question even if it's love. Everyone is entitled to their view, but I believe it should be in alignment with the Word of God, if I'm acting like I'm married, I should be what? ... married. Otherwise, I'm fornicating and am not fit for the Kingdom of God. Kris, I thank you for sharing; enjoyed you immensely. You seem to be a very grounded man which I found refreshing. To that extent, I pray you don't cheat yourself out of experiencing what God will do with you as a husband and you and your wife as a union; in a Kingdom marriage. Laterras, as always, thank you for another anointed podcast. God is proud and is certainly doing something HUGH through you. Minds are being changed, lives are being transformed and marriage covenants are being entered into. Look forward to the next one. God bless you and again, thank you Kris.
Thank you.
Well put, sis. Marriage is a covenant, not a “construct.”
Lord Get this guy a Mentor- He sounds Wise But Ignorant!!!!! Truth is your Spiritual Awakening!
I truly respect how you handle yourself in this episode. His mindset is truly different from yours when it comes to marriage. But you allowed him to give his views on the matter even though it clashed with yours.
I believe in healthy discussions. I welcome differing viewpoints. I expressed in my very first episode my desire to have conversations with varying viewpoints and lifestyles.
Thanks for clearing up the intent of marriage, Laterras! It is definitely a covenant honored before God.
Thank you Laterras for having Kristopher on. This was the perfect platform for him.
I just love Chris. His resilient attracted me the most. We should never get lost when losing, there's always a second chanc. Keep shinning Brother, DFW is an inspirational podcast that I have ever found so far. We are crouching and growing through it.🥰
I haven't watched this video. But I can tell Kris is operating in a place of hurt, fear and a false sense of safety. We watched a show (RTL) but that was his real life experience and he was fully vested in someone that turned out to be a wolf in sheep's clothing 😳 So, now we have a man who has shutdown and sees it as painful to put himself out there and pursue what he initially wanted; a wife and family. Whatever his professed thoughts are on marriage, you are actually hearing the language of fear and armored thoughts ladened with pain. This is a perfect example of the effects of playing with people's emotions which is sad to witness 😢
The Dear future Wifey podcast has blessed 🙌 my internal being. I hv been married for almost 32 yrs. The testimonies of tge guest has strengthen my marriage 💑. My husband and I hv made changes in my marriage after we listened to some of the podcasts.
Marriage is symbolic of Christ's covenant and love for His church and because of what that entails it is a precious yet challenging institution. If God places it in your heart to persue marriage you should and having a certificate of marriage, I feel, lets man know that you are committed to that covenant as well.
“Continue to spin the block because the block you will be spinning.” I love it! This blessed me!
Yeah. I agree that we must change our way of thinking and perspective in order to receive the blessing/blessings that God have for us to the fullest. Being taught that marrying someone in a Biblical perspective is the way we should teach people. People need to know that our purpose in life whether we are married or single is to be about our Father's business. The problem is not being encouraged to marry or get married. The problem is society creating a spirit of codependency. And if you don't fully know God or self. That is a problem in and of itself. Because you are going to be looking for people and things to fill the void that only God can fill. He created this void for you to know that you need to seek something greater then yourself. But majority of people don't understand that. They want to look to what they call the universe, people, education, money, and so on and so forth. To do what only GOD can do. Everyone be blessed and encouraged in the Lord.
Dear Future Wifey podcasts has hands down been one of my greatest blessings. I have learnt a great deal. One of the things i appreciate the most is that it has put me in a space to be on a self discovery journey. Thou its scary it is also very rewarding. Having dealt with some traumatic experiences you tend to go through life on survival mode and miss out on who you are as whole, so thank you. I have shared these episodes with all my girlfriends and sometimes we just sit together and watch which usually brings out some real tough conversations.
I love that. Add me on IG. I would love to chime in on video call the next time y'all talk.
@@DearFutureWifey I most definitely will. That would be awesome
Empaths and High Vibratory Beings are often attracted and connect to those with very low vibes because High Vibratories have calls and purpose to heal and teach others.
I totally agree with you! This is me all the way. I am an empath and I "feel" every damn thing. And, I keep asking myself why do I keep attracting men with issues, unhealed brokenness, childhood trauma that is still unresolved, and men with addictive personalities whether that addiction be drugs, alcohol, women or all 3. But, it makes sense...I am a healer and teacher...and that's why I attract these men...My high vibes...their low vibes! Wow! thanks!
@@everythingshanita8108 You're Welcome! When we accept that and maneuver through our relationships from this knowing position we won't take things as personally.
@@laj4186 I love this and thank you for sharing this because it instantly revealed my own past and the lows in that path... and I see it sooo often too How do we fix tho
@@Honeyluvssteph You recognize that most are not pure of heart and hone your intuition and protect your essence. Learn yourself minute by minute day by day. Never take on the whoa is me path. Never point the finger.
Absolutely! I'm an HSP and empath and wondered why I attracted so many emotionally unavailable and emotionally broken men. But my purpose is to teach in life and I know whether through my energy, actions or words I'm making a positive impact regardless of how theyve treated me.
This was an engaging episode - eye-opening for sure. I'm not certain that men (our men) truly understand the vastness and power of their strength, especially when couched in gentleness. An intentional and kind hearted man is worth making time to get to know and holds the potential to bring out all the best there is in us!
There it is...(as you would say)
When a man wants to juggle, he still has a lot of emotional battles within himself. He's so right ❤🙌🏾
We've always blamed ourselves for failure of relationships or for a man cheating on us. I hope this reaches far and wide ❤🙏🏾
There it is! Lol
Loved the speaking spells over our lives. So many people don't understand. I love this whole conversation
He is amazing🙌🏽🔥 I loved his energy and all of his viewpoints
Unbelievers say it's a piece of paper, contract. Believers know it's a covenant and that's bigger than a contract. When he said marriage is not the goal I was disappointed.
It’s an abomination how we treat women 👌🏼👌🏼may all our men get to this level of awakening…this is deep and congratulations to you Sir💕
Kris was one of my favorites on the show. Listening to him solidifies that. He clearly understands the Spiritual journey and high vibration. Against popular opinion, I actually agree with his idea of marriage. I say, "I want a partner who is with me because he wants to be with me...not because he feels he must be because of a piece of paper." A life partner is most definitely ideal. A connection is so much more than being bound to someone (a transactional connection). He's emotionally available and spiritually intune, which is rare. I affirm him the best! 💛
I appreciate the integrity of his words, his "new" truth. He said some mighty amazing things. Men everywhere need to be able/willing to acknowledge who women are to the birth of creation. Creation of All. I loved this conversation. I wish more men would SIT DOWN and Tune IN to Self. Black folks really can no longer play this hate game through the construct of relationships. Our community is dying
Listen
Be Honest
Serve good Pene......In a nutshell
Gentle & emotionally in touch men are so incredibly attractive and masculine. Yes, let's get that movement thriving in our community. Laterras, as always WONDERFUL show I truly appreciate your content. Kris, thank you for allowing us to experience a different kind of black make archetype. #cheers
Great episode! Love that we can have grown conversations with different points of view and still be respectful!
Great episode. In the standard set, compromise comes after the committed. How can two walk together unless they be agreed. I pray that his journey leads him to the truth more than his truth. Shalom!
He’s so right about ppl not liking him
This video-as all have- blessed me tremendously! I have been through so many challenges trying to date since my divorce. I have healed and still found myself heart broken again. But your podcasts have blessed me! Thank you! Keep pouring into us! 💜💜🎂
I was with Kris until he started talking about marriage... I guess we all believe what we believe and that's ok
I thought it was just me...😳😳😳
@@staciwilliams4055 I agree with you.
@@latiffany8682 I sensed mixture in his K.G's message
@staci Yes, I can hear that too. However, I'm glad Laterras mentioned his stance.
I agree with you.
It's really neat to know that men think (pray) and send well-wishes to their Future One. It's warm to witness like hearts and minds.
A lot of those women don't know truly what they wanted in a man. A few still need to heal. I honestly liked this man because I saw one episode and felt his balanced energy.
A lot of the people on the show was like that period.
I like his honesty and intentionality. However, his views are notas spirituality sound as he may think. It's like mixing truth with error. Light and darkness can't dwell together.
Good Morning Laterras, I look forward to your videos.. they really uplift and encourage me... keep doing what you are doing and keep putting God First...
Good morning!
I enjoy this podcast it’s literally healing for me and I enjoy Kristophers honesty and personality. God send me brothers in Christ like this ( platonic relationships I mean) ❤️
I do agree! Love being here!❤️❤️❤️ thank you!
Ive been dating a guy who is a minister... initially when we met I stressed that Im waiting for marriage to be intimate... however he mentioned on several occasions that he needed to see what hes getting... so eventually we fell short on several occasions... for some reason I felt like I couldn't trust him...as much as I wanted to... we had counseling and everything... long story short it didnt work... ladies what God has for you is for you... I pray that God gives me the grace to not compromise anymore!!! Now I must heal... that is so important #HEALINGISKEY
Powerful
Great Podcast!! I’m a Boomer and definitely believe in my husband being the lead. However I’m blessed to have someone that cover me and I cover him; no one lacking. This podcast gives a different perspective to be aware of others view points.
Kris consistent mindset is priceless! You can tell he knows what he wants.
"let me become the one for the one" I felt that!
I love to hear the man's perspective on relationships. Very enlightening
This podcast was exceptional. I viewed all of Ready to Love and enjoyed Mr Kris heart amongst all; genuine. It was all solidified & reinforced in viewing this podcast between you too. Mr Kris you my guy!!
No one is perfect. Pursuing & gifting sincerity with kindness is percious . God bless you both on your purposed journeys 🙏🙏⚘
So simple! Totally enjoyed this episode. Very different POV
Glad you enjoyed it!
Loved his interview. “Marriage is a Sham,” I don’t quite agree.
It’s a contract that allows us to make medical and financial decisions for each other.
I would want it for that at the very least, but he does have a point about people staying in loveless marriages. I would not want that.
I enjoy your episode with Kristopher Green. Respect on all levels. I Definitely appreciated his wisdom and perspective on understanding a black woman true nature. 🌹
Can we say "LOVE JONES"?!? I loved this episode!!! No tears this time... only thing missing is a few more friends, wine, and some GOODT food!!! I was here for this...
For me, time to heal from previous relationships is very key, and your show has taught me the VALUE of that.
Money is said to be the number one cause of divorce... but when you're with your PURPOSE PARTNER... it's richer or poorer FORREAL... cause you both know money comes and goes... financial intelligence and conversations are key... my grandfather used to say "A man without a plan plans to fail" and " you pay for what you dont know and what you dont feel like doing; either way somebody gotta pay try not to let it be you; knowledge is power" and he'd say "you gotta pay to play; if you cant pay you cant play; and if you cant pay you cant stay".... he'd say God first, health next, and money immediately after that and everything else as you see fit... for us women he told us...nothing from nothing leaves nothing, so if you have nothing and he has nothing you wont have nothing, if you as a woman has something and he has nothing eventually you'll have nothing, but if you have nothing as a woman and he has something YOU BETTER KNOW SOMETHING and be of great value to him so he can get more...
Looking back over my life he wasnt wrong...
I witnessed what being a woman of value meant... he took care of my grandmother and she wanted for nothing.. gifted her EVERY SINGLE DAY... little small things... she was able to move how she wanted, be whomever she wanted to be, do whatever she wanted to do. She protected his money, fed him ( he NEVER ate off of another woman's plate unless it was at a restaurant; ), shaved him, bathed him ,took care of his health and was that soft place for him to land, to cry (crying is NOT WEAK women), to talk, to laugh, and just BE. When his money was funny she always had reserves for him from all he had given her throughout the previous years. She had his back...
She had a reverence for him because of he cared for her... even when she wasnt acting lady like (which was hardly ever) but he never denied or changed his love or care for her or changed how he moved... when a woman feels safe to BE HER even on a bad day AND STILL LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY AND PROVIDED FOR you will always be THE FACE OF GOD to her... and God will be pleased... he speaks to husbands in his word...thats how you get the honor and respect and submission from her as God calls us as women/wives to do...
If you have done all these things how can I walk away because finances arent right? When you showed ME GRACE AND MERCY...when I KNOW YOU HAVE CONSISTANTLY provided for me and ALWAYS protected me?! Truth be told i havent done MY JOB if I didnt watch your financial back... my grandfather said PROTECT HIS MONEY... I watched my grandmother do just that!!! 74 years UNBREAKABLE... they took care of each other....ON PURPOSE!!!! no control over each other...PROTECTION and coverance over each other...prayed over each other... WITH THE GREATEST INTENT!!!
I am traditional, I dont want to be his equal, I dont want to devalue him in that way or steal his reverence nor take his crown, I just merely want to wear mine...
I have my own money.... I have the goal of being the God gift that increases his Kingdom Wealth not deplete his Kingdom Wealth So that OUR FATHER GETS ALL THE GLORY in the KINGDOM...and we walk hand in hand ON PURPOSE for HIS PURPOSE!!!!
The letter you wrote in this episode, has been my favorite this far. It was beautiful and has given me things to think about.
Good morning Laterras, this is Arlette. I was on the testimony episode you had about two weeks ago.
I apologize for going over my time in that episode. When I saw the Zoom Meeting information in the description box, I didn't pay attention to the next line that said that each person should be talking for two minutes, I am sorry about that. I did connect on Instagram with the sister who came after me, and I apologized to her as well (for going over my time). She was very gracious, and understanding. Thank you for connecting us. Thank you for your kindness, your patience, your humor, and for being gracious as well. Thank you for giving us a voice, and for allowing us to share our stories. I was moved by what the other sisters shared as well.
I look forward to listening to this episode. Thank you for letting us know that it is okay to raise the bar for ourselves, and with others, and for encouraging us to better ourselves, in every area of our lives. Have a wonderful day!
Also, thank you for bringing back the "Why are you shacking with me?" phrase. It's going to sound silly, however it feels like something is missing when I don't hear it at the beginning of the podcast 🙂 I also noticed that the seductive radio voice was left out this time (I am just giving you a hard time, because I had made a joke about leaving that seductive voice for your future wifey 🙂 when you say that phrase, in the comments' section of a previous episode).
This was an interesting episode. Thank you for having someone (a man), with a different perspective. I appreciated his honesty, though I am of a different mindset regarding some of the topics you both touched on, like marriage.
Thank you both as well for expressing men's deepest fears. These are the kinds of things I appreciate about your podcast.
I hope Kristopher has found love and has moved away from the thought that marriage is just a piece of paper. Marriage is so much more than that. But you were a gracious host and allowed him to express his views without forcing yours on him. Continue to be the light God has called you to be. ❤
Omg. I pray I remember to watch this later on. I enjoyed seeing him on Ready to Love. The thing is the enemy can and will deceive and distract you as an attempt to deter you from what and who God have for you. We have to be mindful. Blessings to all in Jesus name. Amen and Amen.
I Really Wanted To Like This Episode. Sorry. I LOVE This Show. Can’t Wait For My FAVORITE Couple Tomorrow!
I totally understand. It was different for me but I love creating spaces to allow people the freedom to be authentically themselves.
As you were reading your letter today, I saw you gifting your wife (didn't see her sorry) with a book on your wedding day of all the letters you've shared with all of us on your journey. Not sure if you had that intention when you started but it would make an amazing gift. :o) Thank you for allowing us to come along with you as you walk out this part of your journey. It's truly a blessing to watch and see a males perspective. Thank you!!
Okay this was WOW…perspectives were still honorable. I am so proud to hear men share and speak from their hearts. Thank you for having such a conversation (even though I’m late to seeing this…still poignant!)
Laterras, I'm so glad that you welcome different perspectives to DFW. We all see through a particular set of lenses called experience. I enjoyed what Kris had to say,even if I don't agree. Different doesn't equal wrong.The mere fact that he was able to stand ten toes down in his truth, and “spiritual awakening”was enough for me. Blessings!! 😊
Facts!
Ohhh My GOD, I do love the Way this Man, Kristopher Green Speaks!!! May he find his Queen 👑 🙏🏾 Great Episode Laterras!
We have been operating from the FLOW OF INTERRUPTION, INSTEAD OF LETTING IT FLOW.
I appreciate Kristopher perspective on this.. that fact he dates only one woman at a time. I could never understand how people date multiple people. I would get too confused. 😂. He's right Stop playing with people emotions too.
We are here to serve, to love, it is abomination the way some men who treat women. Thank you Brother, it is all about LOVE.
So glad to see Kris outside of Ready to Love! I hv a very different perspective on relationships than him but I found it so refreshing to see a man be so authentic & then also vulnerable on tv?!?! Wow!! 😱 I hope he finds what he is looking for. 💖
I absolutely love his personality!!
Chris you better Speak TRUTH and Diagnos these Men INTERNAL ISSUES. I LOVE IT.
Yes!!! He gets it!! The eye has been open. Love it!
This was very interesting to hear.
Unfortunately in this day and age very few people are intentional when dating..
Most people if not all come into the dating scene with their own idea of what they want to achieve.
Very few of us have gotten the proper guidance interms of how to date, who to date, how to pray when dating, and most importantly how to wait on God to give you your purpose partner.
And makes me wonder how do we then know an individual's intention when dating? Because I feel like .nowadays it's fake it till you make it in these streets...
It is definitely not all, but a lot of people have pulled away from the word of God. They choose to live their lives based off of their family upbringing, their own personal beliefs, and what the world teach them and show them. Then they end up being bound with anger, bitterness, and un-forgiveness because of it. The enemy have people bound in a lot of areas, and a certain way of thinking keep them from receiving everything that God have for them.
Good interview .. I'm glad Kris came to give his perspective. Also, appreciate what Kris stated regarding some males dating multiple females and not valuing/treating women with respect. It takes time to do the inner work needed and makes for a better relationship going forward.
Oh he is different! He is very much still in need of an awakening. Different. He had some sayings straight from hell. we had a clothing, but he definitely isn’t a sheep. that brother definitely was planned and tapping in some some things that he should not have been tapping into there’s some heman’s up in there! Although, I sincerely appreciate his honesty, and his opinion he could not be more off!
Your spontaneous laughs, are so appreciated, Brother Laterras. Love in Christ.🥰🥰🙏🙏
15 minutes in.... this brotha is AWESOME! I LOVE the way he thinks!!! Yessss!
"It should be an abomination the way that women are treated..."
Kris was definitely one of my Favs from the show. Dear Future Wifey podcast is always Amazing! When outside opens back up safely! I'm ready to travel to a meet and greet or something! 😂
I love the different perspectives and thoughts on tonight. You can learn from anyone. Good Stuff❤
I liked Kris from Day 1 on Ready To Love. I love his personality, confidence and charisma. And I agree with what he said, "I am hot but not everybody's hot"! Hey now!! That's what I'm talking about!! P.S. How can I get one of those Dear Future Wifey coffee mugs?
I'm learning more about myself when I listen to this podcast its so inspiring that we all need to do the work and deaden that negative energy, thoughts, and emotions. Thank king🙏🏿🙏🏿
The piece of paper argument.... Let's go deeper.... In biblical times they exchanged land and livestock for the marriage contract... We now have a marriage license.... So the piece of paper discussion will always rub me the wrong way.... It's our outer representation of our covenant with God... So is the rings we wear.... That is how I view the marriage license. Great discussion.
This guy is on point as to what women really want it’s refreshing to hear a guy speak with honesty and virtue I’m inspired
When I was over the women's ministry, I had a healing session and the women looked into a mirror. I had them dissect what they like and what they didn't like. It didn't feel good at first, but they're good to go now. Healing is so necessary. Man, I love this podcast. ❤
Yeah that's a powerful exercise
Very interesting episode here. Some things stated I don't agree with but I understand his perspective on it. I believe when it comes to dating so many have forgotten or just plainly do not know what dating is. I believe it's okay for a man and woman to date multiple people. Dating in it's most simplistic form is seeing if a person is qualified to be your spouse. That's it! I'm happy you asked Kris if he has seen a successful marriage. Lord knows I've seen people form these unions, have kids and then part ways. I'm here for the traditional, biblical way.
OMGGGG I can't wait to hear his story! Loved him on Ready To Love. He seemed really genuine
I respect his opinion. The authenticity @7:45.... beautiful. I may not agree with it entirely, but MUCH respect to him.
It’s 3pm in South Africa. Let’s watch 🇿🇦
Watching with you sis :-)
I'm here as well :)
I've just finished watching now my sister
God bless you for educating us to know everything with God is possible.🙏🏾
Good Morning Laterras, you handled that very well about the marriage situation and you spoke some truth hunni.. Yes COVENANT ....
I loved it! He has such a great demeanor (very calming & intune) - great podcast 🙌🏼
I think it's the second time there's a man on this show that's speaking so clearly with sense. I applaud him....so honest and real....men like him are rare
Thank you, God, for keeping me Authentic, I love me, my intentions are real & honest. I'm inspired & encouraged with Dear Future Wife episodes☺️ ... "You are my Much Given" Love It!
Enjoyed the respectful conversation. ❤️
Abstinents is the 🔑 to spiritual growth.... TRUST
Love, Love, love this conversation. As a woman I say 'I Can Do Better By Myself. We have to be careful what we speak over ourselves.
I am so glad you corrected him.
He meant what he said.
Evidently he is confused and has not listened to Pastor R C Blake’s Jr.
Again thanks
He was definitely one of my favorites on Ready to love💙💙
I found this channel last week God bless you for what you're doing be blessed dear future husband.
My sister just got married ,I said wow you get to live in that beautiful big house, she said "I don't give a crap about that house, I love that man.she said I can buy own house.i love the way she thinks. I'm looking for real ❤️ .great conversation!
I'm vibing with this podcast. Thank you.
Awesome welcoming different point of views. Although this isnt my stance, it’s beautiful to allow others the freedom to express themselves.
Exactly
Green...spread your spiritual message to the masses. Awesome truth..thank you
I am so blessed to come across this podcast..it is enhancing my understanding of men...i always believed truth is much safer than playing games wuth peoples MINDS
I almost didn't watch the video because I read the comments first lol but I'm glad I watched. Because Kristopher's understanding of marriage is mostly that it's only a formality, it makes sense for him not to esteem it in high regard. I believe when he digs deeper and realizes that marriage is so much more than that, his stance may change. :) I agreed with almost everything else he said. #AwesomeConvo