Identity Crisis: Why Defining Yourself by Your Career Is a Problem

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

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  • @harvardbusinessreview
    @harvardbusinessreview  2 месяца назад +25

    If you found Arthur's advice useful, be sure to check out this recent article by him, on the dangers of workaholism: hbr.org/2024/09/youre-more-than-a-success-machine

  • @ishtiakjordge
    @ishtiakjordge 2 месяца назад +257

    "Engineer different good times under different circumstances" Wow!! this is wisdom. Thank you

  • @MyonlyGinger27
    @MyonlyGinger27 2 месяца назад +189

    That is exactly what happened to me after working in a company for more than 16 years and initially believing that everyone was my friend or believed in me. But things have changed over the years; we've grown apart, there have been disagreements, and the most frightening thing has been my layoff last year. I was devastated at first and grew bitter. However, I am grateful to the people who have stood by my side outside of my corporate job, such as church and family, and who have helped me to reflect and not to be worried in facing the reality. I am now happier than I ever was in my previous company. Not only that, but I am in a job with great deal of flexibility, even full-time work from home.

    • @xcrazy98x51
      @xcrazy98x51 Месяц назад

      Church sucks so does religion

    • @Mnil52
      @Mnil52 Месяц назад +2

      Maybe they fired you because you were actually the worst worker, think about that

    • @SBayrd
      @SBayrd Месяц назад +2

      After 16 years? Probably not. Maybe you responded that way because you're insecure about your own work ethic and have fear of being fired for it, think about that

  • @heemagauss8691
    @heemagauss8691 2 месяца назад +125

    I lost my job as a wireless engineer at Huawei in Sudan , right after the war started before year and half , suffered from identity crisis because of that , until I learned to deattach and redifine myself
    Wish saw this video earlier ☆

    • @KhushiSingh-ix6fs
      @KhushiSingh-ix6fs Месяц назад +7

      Woah I’m really sorry about this! Working in STEM in such a big electronics and tech company, you must be a big deal. The best of us think this stuff can never happen to us. Really sad about the war and its repercussions. Take care.

  • @RidaFathima-z7u
    @RidaFathima-z7u 2 месяца назад +35

    I am 21. And I just realised that I've been in an identity crisis from when I was 13. This video blew my mind, cuz I realised where I've been going wrong all my life. Thankyou so much for this.

  • @RakeanRadya
    @RakeanRadya 2 месяца назад +96

    I love this new Arthur Brooks series from HBR, he brings this tone of breezy candidness that balances the elegant seriousness of the subject matter. Please keep this up!

  • @StrategicThinking4Leaders
    @StrategicThinking4Leaders Месяц назад +41

    It's easy to get lost in our careers and let them define us, but true fulfillment comes from embracing all aspects of our identity. Shifting focus from job titles to personal values can lead to a more balanced and joyful life.

  • @uguremirmustafaoglu40
    @uguremirmustafaoglu40 Месяц назад +23

    Wow, I am neither a budhist nor heard this idea before but whenever I feel like I will fail, I close my eyes and imagine my funeral. It is a complete relief.

  • @per_growth
    @per_growth 2 месяца назад +14

    This is really helpful. For the past few years - I've been telling myself that my financial success cannot be the ONE THING that identifies me. I never thought of it as fear - but now that it's explained in this context - it is fear. The fear of failing (at least in your mind). Incredible insight.

  • @maciejdworzanski5063
    @maciejdworzanski5063 Месяц назад +28

    Wow! My jaw is somewhere on the floor now. Didn't expect this depth and spirituality from HBR. Amazing video, and so inspiring! Big thanks

  • @Okay-rc1se
    @Okay-rc1se Месяц назад +2

    I just left my inpatient nursing job and have been unemployed for a month and have been always wondering what more I can identify other being a nurse at hospital. I am still learning this and and this video couldn’t have been perfect timing!

  • @jodykaufman4080
    @jodykaufman4080 День назад

    Wow, what a straight forward yet amazing presentation of some simple, but hard truths. More of this guy please.

  • @grandjette
    @grandjette 2 месяца назад +14

    Aside from letting go and being grateful for the opportunity to be part of building up society, I have a desire to continue being part of building up society in my own little way. Rather than looking at success in grandiosity, I want to reconnect and witness the growth of virtues in others.

  • @muzzammilaltaf
    @muzzammilaltaf 2 месяца назад +35

    I am seeing this, hearing this, feeling this at a moment in time in my life when I have been contemplating this. Arthur has a direct way of sharing a topic that most would consider sensitive, yet it has resonated with me in a good way. Looking forward to exploring this book sometime.

  • @andrewjpalla
    @andrewjpalla Месяц назад +3

    This video is so intense. Exposure therapy to the worst possible fears.

  • @saurovfayzulla
    @saurovfayzulla 2 месяца назад +7

    Yes, feeling afraid, fearful, or failing is normal, and I think we often feel anxious about it and about what people think. What should I do? Arthur’s remark about meditation being one of the good solutions to our problems is helpful.

  • @JimDubendorf
    @JimDubendorf 2 месяца назад +20

    The death meditation is also known in the western/christian practice as “momento mori”. Very powerful practice. I appreciate your commentary, thank you!

    • @gnomishviking3013
      @gnomishviking3013 День назад

      That is neither a western nor Christian practice fyi.

  • @urigarcia6441
    @urigarcia6441 2 месяца назад +4

    “Engeneer new good times under diferent circumstances” is gold

  • @lokhandetejasliladhar4216
    @lokhandetejasliladhar4216 Месяц назад +6

    'Managing your life as a project' - Wowww level analogy

  • @YT3am
    @YT3am Месяц назад +12

    This hit home! It’s crazy how an identity crisis can feel so overwhelming, but also be a chance for growth and self-discovery. 🙌 Thanks for shedding light on such a relatable topic. Anyone else feel like they’ve had to 'find themselves' more than once?

  • @nespodzany
    @nespodzany 2 месяца назад +461

    I think I had several micro-anxiety attacks watching this video

    • @jman2871
      @jman2871 2 месяца назад

      I did too

    • @EstewCA
      @EstewCA 2 месяца назад +3

      @nespodzany But did you feel at peace after this piece?

    • @nespodzany
      @nespodzany 2 месяца назад +5

      @@EstewCA I don't think I'm there quite yet, need more active practice.

    • @kaderoscope
      @kaderoscope 2 месяца назад

      😂

    • @teombe2081
      @teombe2081 2 месяца назад

      Me toooo 😭

  • @MyKrabi
    @MyKrabi Месяц назад +4

    As a Buddhist who has been practicing for 15 years - I really DIG the cheerful jazz in the background lol. (Trying to live in the moment ...;-)

  • @ryan99842
    @ryan99842 2 месяца назад +127

    this video’s take really clicks with some of the things I've been reading in unveiling your hidden potential by bruce thornwood

  • @SouvikDas123
    @SouvikDas123 2 месяца назад +4

    I love this guy now. Great wisdom without being preachy.

  • @worldtraveller4613
    @worldtraveller4613 2 месяца назад +10

    My party is finished two weeks back. I am in shock. Very refreshing to watch this video

    • @NESherv
      @NESherv 2 месяца назад +2

      You’re dead?

    • @armijinyawa
      @armijinyawa Месяц назад +1

      @@NESherv😂

  • @andreelliott467
    @andreelliott467 18 дней назад

    I have those exact realizations and i understand the reality of why i do and deal with it.

  • @zhangshiyucao
    @zhangshiyucao Месяц назад +1

    I choose to be special instead of happy... that is a succinct way to put it.

  • @MyHanck
    @MyHanck Месяц назад +1

    We should be free to be ourselves and to be real. It is essential to our well-being and we neglect this at our own peril and demise.

  • @patriciagutierrez9465
    @patriciagutierrez9465 Месяц назад +1

    "people are so afraid of failing at work" never been less related to a phrase in my life. My job is just something that pays my bill. At most, I'm afraid of loosing the capacity to pay my bills, but that's it.

  • @bathiyawickramage3982
    @bathiyawickramage3982 Месяц назад +1

    Awesome Content. 🔥
    And the correct word is "Marananussathi" which loosely translates to "Keep the death in mind"
    ~A Buddhist from Sri Lanka~

  • @noellewest4347
    @noellewest4347 Месяц назад

    I love this. I'm not in business, but I am in academia, and I am getting older. His words resonate and his advice is applicable to me too.

  • @paramitacdewi
    @paramitacdewi Месяц назад +1

    I feel like this practice needs to be monitored by good therapists cause despite its benefit, it may be suitable for people with anxiety, but may not be for someone with depression.
    For people with depression, what can help lift them up each day is hope, but reminding themselves about their worst fears, it's not the kind of mindset that's suitable for someone who's already lost hope in life. They'd forget the "despite changes, it's going to be okay" part and focus on the negatives instead

  • @jubyjoseph6332
    @jubyjoseph6332 2 месяца назад +6

    Arthur C. Brooks has truly found Nirvana, to be able to speak like this. Now, I want some of it too.

  • @souhilbenaskeur1094
    @souhilbenaskeur1094 Месяц назад +2

    There should come an end to all our projects in this life... this is a truth

  • @mylesnmore
    @mylesnmore 2 месяца назад +30

    His take is "admit the truth, it all sorta doesnt matter" is sorta feudalistic but i get it. But the TRUTH is you have inherent worth because you are a human being! You are ALIVE today and you are LOVED by others and by God. You need to explore and live in that love. Today, 150,000 people will cease to exist (statistically) but you will live today and there will not be another like you. You are valuable and that is why you dont put your identity in a career because YOU ARE MORE than a career not because "oh well, i will die one day so my career doesn't really matter" . I worry he has taken "positive thinking" and put it into "positive thinking negatively about 'reality of outcomes in the future" but the real answer is deeper than that. You are more than what you do.

    • @Nohandleentered
      @Nohandleentered 11 дней назад +1

      “Feudalistic” means related to the political system of feudalism. What did he say that was related to exchanging land holding for military service 🤔. Or did you mean “fatalism”?

    • @mylesnmore
      @mylesnmore 10 дней назад

      @@Nohandleentered yes you are correct
      fatalistic

  • @paulnevelos3923
    @paulnevelos3923 16 дней назад

    Simple, yet powerful…thank you

  • @yaaat7400
    @yaaat7400 Месяц назад +2

    So in short imagining a career nightmare will set me free? Very interesting and counter intuitive! As a person who always have too much thought and worries of others judgement, should I try this instead of repeating self empowerment comment?

  • @darinakalinova2180
    @darinakalinova2180 Месяц назад

    Interesting, I have very pragmatic approach. My job doesn't define who I am. What is the most important is what I am doing to feel like I am progressing in my life.

  • @cmep
    @cmep 2 месяца назад +2

    This is excellent advise. Every student should hear this at the beginning of each year (to be sure it actually sinks in - lol).

  • @assakurayoh
    @assakurayoh Месяц назад +2

    This is why I love Hardvard Content, It's so smart, people are so smart !
    Killing you identity so is why people ponder over their deaths, the deaths lost their identity. I truly love smart content, it's so comforting in the misdt of useless content.
    On the other side, as a personal story I'd like to share, I have never got a loss for perhaps all my life, and then I started an entrepreneurial journey and everything has only been about losing

  • @atifsheikh3190
    @atifsheikh3190 2 месяца назад +7

    Thanks for sharing these thoughts! A great new perspective indeed.

  • @lokhandetejasliladhar4216
    @lokhandetejasliladhar4216 Месяц назад

    Please keep on this series ! Mr. Brooks is transferring out-of-world wisdom that we desperately need .

  • @kianashirangi
    @kianashirangi 10 дней назад

    This was like a hard slap at my face,,, thank you.

  • @elliegrizz
    @elliegrizz Месяц назад +1

    If this video is an hour or two of wisdom and work therapy from Professor Arthur C. Brooks so be it! We need it. Please share it HBR!!

  • @silviacoco4835
    @silviacoco4835 13 дней назад

    I often go through decisions with a pre-mortem approach to make the “worst case scenario” feel less scary (or to take some control back in it) but the key takeaway from this video for me was: if not work, what defines me that cannot be taken away from me?
    It put me back in the perspective that it matters more to be a good human than a good employee/ professional. I don’t want to be remembered for my work successes, but for my kindness or intelligence for example.

  • @vvmanimadhuri
    @vvmanimadhuri Месяц назад

    I am thinking of similar trajectory for parents since their child is born and until they leave the nest. Thank you for the video. The Buddhist practices are helpful for people who are not monks as well

  • @rubenv.p.6344
    @rubenv.p.6344 Месяц назад

    Excellent advice and practise! Thank you very much!

  • @danielaortiz8737
    @danielaortiz8737 Месяц назад

    This was one of the best videos I’ve seen in a while. Felt like a guided meditation for information I didn’t know I needed. Cheers.

  • @andmand
    @andmand 29 дней назад

    This man's communication skills are impressive

  • @Shaunmaselela.icloud
    @Shaunmaselela.icloud 2 месяца назад +12

    Tailored suit is 👌

    • @richardthoya4782
      @richardthoya4782 2 месяца назад +1

      Ikr... Was scrolling to see who else caught that.

  • @marcin3136
    @marcin3136 26 дней назад

    Professor...
    Culture and history (including the "history of the Fmily" [family stories]; it can give wings/ even a sense of dignity, or keep you in limitations).
    BR
    *"Someone who has risen above his nation becomes someone exceptional". And hence: "The highest level of leadership is to lead other nations"
    *But also the concept of a "transitional individual".

  • @endgamefond
    @endgamefond 2 месяца назад +11

    As I get older I realise how much money I make is how much value I have. This makes me have an existential crisis especially when my job does not impact people's lives that much or when I am unemployed. This is depressing. Yeah it's like fear of death. I wanna leave something behind that's useful for other people and Idk what it's.

    • @kasiapetruk6730
      @kasiapetruk6730 Месяц назад +2

      I think here it may be worth looking outside of job: try to volunteer, sit on a board or as trustee of some non profit organization that is close to your values. Even if that is an hour a week being engaged in service for others can make you feel better. Or different approach - maybe your job itself does not bring much of a value to average people or planet (lots of jobs don’t as business is there to make money, not to serve) BUT the means you have because of that job can be a contribution to something altruistic, i.e donations to charities etc.

    • @anonimo5912
      @anonimo5912 Месяц назад

      Want to leave something useful for people? Yeah, then that "something" needs to be bigger than yourself, and that's your tribe and your family, a dinasty, a legacy.

    • @DakotaFord592
      @DakotaFord592 27 дней назад +2

      Why don't you write a book? All humans can pass down some form of knowledge.

    • @endgamefond
      @endgamefond 27 дней назад

      @@DakotaFord592 I upload my lessons online. I am a teacher but I teach online. Part of me thinks it's part of my immortality. When I die I hope someone or some people can get something from my lessons I upload on RUclips. It's more detailed and I actually spent hours on editing and making graphic designs so I hope one day they can appreciate my video lessons.

  • @Jaredbbishop93
    @Jaredbbishop93 2 месяца назад +3

    This guy is crazy insightful! I love these videos

  • @joeovip
    @joeovip Месяц назад

    Beautiful message, thank you.

  • @loxleybattle2591
    @loxleybattle2591 2 месяца назад +1

    This is a powerful meditation tool and I think I can apply it to almost any shift or upcoming change… like aging. Thank you for the insight!

  • @collinrutherford2324
    @collinrutherford2324 2 месяца назад +1

    Preparing mentally for the end of a career helps reduce fear and allows us to live more fully in the present.

  • @Anthony-p6d5u
    @Anthony-p6d5u День назад

    All I had to do to was take a vacation to realize that my existence at work is nothing but a body that produces labor. If I am not there, people will fill in the gap. Eventually they'll just outright replace me and move on.
    The way I feel about my position and status at work is purely about ego. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you can let go

  • @naritzify
    @naritzify Месяц назад

    Amazing helpful and actionable. Thank you

  • @ericmouchel8328
    @ericmouchel8328 2 месяца назад +7

    Very easy to be at peace when you don’t have money problem

  • @BatBrakesBones
    @BatBrakesBones Месяц назад +1

    Smaller is more manageable and better quality of life

  • @CybillJohnson-y1u
    @CybillJohnson-y1u Месяц назад +1

    Thank you!

  • @O-Demi
    @O-Demi Месяц назад

    Those steps sound great to me though! Retirement is a great prospect! I think for me a 9 step meditation should include the horrors of being replaced by AI in the field where I enjoy working.

  • @mejdabensoltana5780
    @mejdabensoltana5780 2 месяца назад

    I enjoy learning from you. Thank you for sharing the knowledge 🙏

  • @carlomalabanan
    @carlomalabanan 2 месяца назад +10

    I agree with all the things you just mentioned, but the problem is that the managerial people who control the corporate world, from CEO all the way down to the lower management, like most of them "want" us to have a high level of success in order for us to get hired, especially in high paying jobs that can mostly be found on companies with "names". They will ask you like what school did you come from or what kind of leadership do you have. And that would be a big problem especially for those who try to build up their career from the beginning (I feel sorry about the late bloomers). If you dont want us to have an identity crisis on careers, how can you change the "elitist" minds of these managers?

    • @av3ngers17
      @av3ngers17 Месяц назад +2

      If you're in a job interview and they ask about your career, it makes sense, no? since you're going there to work, not make friends. But I think this video is talking about your own sense of self. When you ask yourself, who am I? And you answer your profession, it means your identity is tied to it, which isn't beneficial for you. You can't change other people, only yourself

    • @carlomalabanan
      @carlomalabanan Месяц назад

      @@av3ngers17 so are you saying that if the people who came from a no name school with unattractive work experiences, especially if they lack leadership skills, they should humble themselves and stay at their current level of career instead of wishing for a higher level in order for them not to have identity crisis on careers? And the people with high IQ and well connected who are capable of becoming part of the elite are okay to level up without worries? That's very unfair I would say. Take note if you want to level up experiencing identity crisis on careers would exist, and one way is to woo these elitist minded managers and people at the bottom who has low IQs and lack of networks cannot do anything about that, because that is how the system works.

    • @carlomalabanan
      @carlomalabanan Месяц назад

      @@av3ngers17 so are you saying that people like with low IQs and have no networks need to humble themselves instead of wishing and trying to reach for a higher level careers in order for them to avoid identity crisis on careers when they fail, and at the same time people that belong to upper strata can easily reach out high careers without worries even though they fail? I dont think that's a fair play.

  • @baharmohamad850
    @baharmohamad850 Месяц назад

    Am I the only person that feels this man give the information in the most sarcastic way and leave all of us panicked😅😂

  • @923ap
    @923ap 2 месяца назад +3

    Very good, would like to see more of him.

  • @ramesh_i1
    @ramesh_i1 2 месяца назад

    So long as one is part of society one will always seek one's identity within that society. Only humans who live in extreme conditions (far removed from human civilization) or those who are self-actualised and no longer identify with even their own body can avoid this "identity crisis". "Who we are" is a dynamic question, so the answer can't be static either.

  • @charlenek2502
    @charlenek2502 2 месяца назад

    I think to have this sort of mentality first requires a lot of self confidence

  • @i_am_processing_
    @i_am_processing_ 9 дней назад

    Prioritising work, career and productivity can be a dangerous trap. You are worth more than how much money you earn. You are more than your occupation.

  • @ekaterinasergeyeva453
    @ekaterinasergeyeva453 Месяц назад

    When asked "who are you?" my first impulse was always to say "I'm a human being" But that sounds weird to people so "I'm an interpreter. We're working together with my husband. We've been happily married for 25 years. We have two grown up sons" is what I say instead

  • @AncientAesthetic
    @AncientAesthetic Месяц назад

    Now you guys know this technique better than most Thais. ❤

  • @selinov
    @selinov 2 месяца назад +26

    "Women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provides something. I never heard a woman in my life say, 'You know, after he got laid off, we got so much closer.'" - Chris Rock

    • @kyeolchoi8860
      @kyeolchoi8860 2 месяца назад +15

      I don’t really think Chris Rock is a good public figure

    • @Valerie-s6n
      @Valerie-s6n 2 месяца назад +1

      Women are not loved unconditionally, they are just measured by a different metric. By youth / attractiveness/ fertility / housework (how well is the house maintained, often on top of a regular job).

    • @vlowolvtake1797
      @vlowolvtake1797 2 месяца назад +1

      People who have this view probably are not in a relationship "for sickness". But the reality is that there are plenty of couples who come out of hardships with a stronger bond. They are the couples that felt like they've gotten it through together and with the appreciation of each other's existence and support.

    • @baruchrevivo2966
      @baruchrevivo2966 2 месяца назад +1

      My first response was to agree. But then I remembered I have Momma-Issues, yet believe I can have real intimate relationships in my life. Can trust and can be trustworthy.

    • @av3ngers17
      @av3ngers17 Месяц назад +3

      Victim mentality

  • @eriknephrongfr8847
    @eriknephrongfr8847 Месяц назад

    #7 made me feel panic. I was ok up til then. I can see it happening.

  • @pratapsinhrajput5879
    @pratapsinhrajput5879 Месяц назад +36

    Ha ha, so easy to sermonize when you’re a professor at Harvard. Had he introduced himself as an art instructor at elementary school (and McDonalds burger flipper in summer), none of the minds being “blown” in the comments below would have even listened him through :) … success is the rule of the world and good or bad , it’s how the world works. Even the monks measure themselves by how “advanced “ is the spiritual practice… it’s almost impossible to escape !!

    • @notknown42
      @notknown42 Месяц назад +6

      He didn’t say success doesn’t matter. Listen again.

    • @pratapsinhrajput5879
      @pratapsinhrajput5879 Месяц назад +1

      @@notknown42 thankyou for the suggestion dear ! At your advice I did hear him again, and did not find it any different this time.

    • @Brr_Brr_Brian
      @Brr_Brr_Brian Месяц назад +1

      You’re kind of missing the point. The point isn’t to look at other’s success and think, “well, obviously that doesn’t apply to me,”-what he’s saying is applicable to whatever job you’re doing in whatever capacity so long as you meditate on the END of it. A retiring construction worker who’s worked his whole life and missed out of the opportunity to make connections with his coworkers because he’s so committed to his “success” is going to end up in the same place as the six-figure CEO.

    • @pratapsinhrajput5879
      @pratapsinhrajput5879 Месяц назад

      @@Brr_Brr_Brian yeah, that’s what I think is misplaced thought coming out of a ceo who is pondering about how he could have been even better. For a worker who couldn’t make it up there, will be riddled with so many why’s of his own… and those would be much harder to answer than… why I did not go out enough for beer with other construction workers! As they say, nothing succeeds like success and go full engine on it !!

    • @Alejoacuna
      @Alejoacuna Месяц назад

      Sometimes you just need to listen

  • @briefexplanation7800
    @briefexplanation7800 Месяц назад +1

    A man is known by his career and a woman is judged by her looks۔ unfortunate but true!

  • @a_mix
    @a_mix Месяц назад

    Such a great vided, thank you :)

  • @mincedtofu
    @mincedtofu 2 месяца назад

    I was thinking all the way… isn’t that the normal? And then he said people think of it as failure, but is normal.

  • @senik64
    @senik64 Месяц назад

    thanks I’m not at all at peace, actually my anxiety has skyrocketed now and I’m only the start of my career

  • @Diogenes76
    @Diogenes76 Месяц назад

    If only I could have convinced my younger self of this.

  • @ratthachat
    @ratthachat Месяц назад

    Wow, 2:00 is HBR xTheravada at their best ❤

  • @Tuiphan
    @Tuiphan 26 дней назад +1

    Self realization

  • @aadityapratap007
    @aadityapratap007 2 месяца назад +4

    This has been the core of our philosophy and having been as a professional makes so much more sense to me. Defining yourself by your career traps you in a cycle of endless striving, but embracing the principles of dharma and letting go of attachment to outcomes can help you transcend this and lead a more meaningful, balanced life. It advocates for a dilution of the ego by selflessly performing one’s duties, or karma, with the ultimate goal of uniting with Brahman-the supreme, omnipresent cosmic consciousness. This ancient wisdom reminds us that we are far more than our titles or professional roles, and real fulfillment comes not from external success, but from realizing the deeper, interconnected nature of our existence.

  • @carinascarpati6977
    @carinascarpati6977 Месяц назад

    I really liked this video, but it’s very interesting thinking about people in politics. Usually they are over 50 years old. Even the presidents are usually over 60 years old. So why this isn’t applicable for them?

  • @nathanngumi8467
    @nathanngumi8467 Месяц назад

    Very insightful!

  • @BatBrakesBones
    @BatBrakesBones Месяц назад

    Put myself in a position to lose not realizing it

  • @WealthyChronicle
    @WealthyChronicle 4 дня назад

    This concept of the death meditation sounds extreme, but is it really that crazy?

  • @delovenderguesthouse8944
    @delovenderguesthouse8944 Месяц назад +2

    Just realized that you’re nothing in this huge reality, then you will feel peace 😊

  • @brucehough492
    @brucehough492 2 месяца назад

    Great advice. Ty.

  • @ogzbyrktr1
    @ogzbyrktr1 2 месяца назад +2

    this is a soothing video for boomer gen, and has nothing to do with younger gen. Hey boomer its ok to leave your chair and have a deep breath.

  • @metebahmed5874
    @metebahmed5874 Месяц назад

    Intuitive for any religious person

  • @zeratulmx001
    @zeratulmx001 2 месяца назад +7

    I believe this sounds like the antithesis of impostor syndrome treatment. Facing failure. Accept it. Move on.

  • @ekaterinasergeyeva453
    @ekaterinasergeyeva453 Месяц назад

    My rule: when I see Arthur Brooks I hit the like button and click on the video

  • @Blubbha
    @Blubbha 2 месяца назад +4

    Linkedin made it even harder to not compare. Same as insta for your home and vacation. 😂

  • @YuvrajSingh-um5jx
    @YuvrajSingh-um5jx 2 месяца назад +2

    Then HOW to introduce ourselves? (Expected this anwer in the video)

    • @rustyshackle917
      @rustyshackle917 Месяц назад +1

      I give vague and cryptic responses to the questions, "who are you? what do you do? where are you from? Etc"
      People are usually trying to quickly label (judge) you, not trying to get to know you.

    • @YuvrajSingh-um5jx
      @YuvrajSingh-um5jx Месяц назад

      @@rustyshackle917 That's true. Thank you for giving this good idea to reply to them vaguely. What else we can tell?

  • @marzhan2074
    @marzhan2074 2 месяца назад

    I'm afraid of faling at work. Even tumy mistakes make me worry and panic so I am freezing sometimes like I can't think and handle my job, problem.

  • @meir4586
    @meir4586 2 месяца назад

    The best way to overcome fear of failure is to fail and overcome failure.

  • @BorisSudakov
    @BorisSudakov 7 дней назад

    Or maybe instead of meditating, you should ask yourself: what does it mean to be a successful person? What does success mean today? Is Elon Musk a successful person? Is Kanye successful? And why should you seek advice from Buddhist monks somewhere in Myanmar? Because it's exotic? Because Eastern wisdom seems wiser?
    In general, it's cool to be an HBS Professor and talk about meditation!

  • @gyanprakashraj4062
    @gyanprakashraj4062 Месяц назад

    JANAM SE SABSE POPULAR...NAAM WALA🎉🎉🎉

  • @mrmenosaurio
    @mrmenosaurio 2 месяца назад

    Just incredible !

  • @kalpa2s
    @kalpa2s 2 месяца назад +4

    Buddhism is a way of life. It will bring peace to anyone’s mind..

    • @MrJoeSomebody
      @MrJoeSomebody Месяц назад

      History disagrees and don’t get me started on how they treat women: Women are often depicted in traditional Buddhist texts as deceitful and lustful. The Buddha himself said in an early texts that a woman's body is "a vessel of impurity, full of stinking filth. It is like a rotten pit ... like a toilet, with nine holes pouring all sorts of filth."