Identity Crisis: Why Defining Yourself by Your Career Is a Problem

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  • Опубликовано: 8 ноя 2024

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  • @harvardbusinessreview
    @harvardbusinessreview  Месяц назад +24

    If you found Arthur's advice useful, be sure to check out this recent article by him, on the dangers of workaholism: hbr.org/2024/09/youre-more-than-a-success-machine

  • @ishtiakjordge
    @ishtiakjordge Месяц назад +228

    "Engineer different good times under different circumstances" Wow!! this is wisdom. Thank you

  • @MyonlyGinger27
    @MyonlyGinger27 Месяц назад +172

    That is exactly what happened to me after working in a company for more than 16 years and initially believing that everyone was my friend or believed in me. But things have changed over the years; we've grown apart, there have been disagreements, and the most frightening thing has been my layoff last year. I was devastated at first and grew bitter. However, I am grateful to the people who have stood by my side outside of my corporate job, such as church and family, and who have helped me to reflect and not to be worried in facing the reality. I am now happier than I ever was in my previous company. Not only that, but I am in a job with great deal of flexibility, even full-time work from home.

    • @xcrazy98x51
      @xcrazy98x51 Месяц назад

      Church sucks so does religion

    • @Mnil52
      @Mnil52 27 дней назад +2

      Maybe they fired you because you were actually the worst worker, think about that

    • @SBayrd
      @SBayrd 20 дней назад +1

      After 16 years? Probably not. Maybe you responded that way because you're insecure about your own work ethic and have fear of being fired for it, think about that

  • @heemagauss8691
    @heemagauss8691 Месяц назад +116

    I lost my job as a wireless engineer at Huawei in Sudan , right after the war started before year and half , suffered from identity crisis because of that , until I learned to deattach and redifine myself
    Wish saw this video earlier ☆

    • @KhushiSingh-ix6fs
      @KhushiSingh-ix6fs Месяц назад +6

      Woah I’m really sorry about this! Working in STEM in such a big electronics and tech company, you must be a big deal. The best of us think this stuff can never happen to us. Really sad about the war and its repercussions. Take care.

  • @RidaFathima-z7u
    @RidaFathima-z7u Месяц назад +34

    I am 21. And I just realised that I've been in an identity crisis from when I was 13. This video blew my mind, cuz I realised where I've been going wrong all my life. Thankyou so much for this.

  • @StrategicThinking4Leaders
    @StrategicThinking4Leaders Месяц назад +36

    It's easy to get lost in our careers and let them define us, but true fulfillment comes from embracing all aspects of our identity. Shifting focus from job titles to personal values can lead to a more balanced and joyful life.

  • @ChantalA489
    @ChantalA489 Месяц назад +150

    Americans are OBSESSED with work. The very first thing you get asked after meeting somebody other than your name is "What do you do for a living?" and no matter your response, you are instantly judged for the career path you chose, how much income you're assumed to have, and how successful you are or aren't in your field. And Heaven forbid if you're unemployed in this economy! In 100 years, you won't be around so why obsess so much about work? Or let others' useless opinions impact your sense of self?

    • @HoneyKat516
      @HoneyKat516 Месяц назад +1

      Thank you

    • @mautrindade
      @mautrindade Месяц назад +4

      This meditation is helping me through a needed life change

    • @WholeWheatPiano
      @WholeWheatPiano Месяц назад +5

      It's not a uniquely American problem though. Take a look at Asia. You'd get disowned if you had a less than reputable job.

    • @nifemif2685
      @nifemif2685 Месяц назад +2

      You haven't been to Germany 🙂

    • @eriknephrongfr8847
      @eriknephrongfr8847 22 дня назад +1

      It’s not how others see me that is of concern. It’s me.

  • @RakeanRadya
    @RakeanRadya Месяц назад +96

    I love this new Arthur Brooks series from HBR, he brings this tone of breezy candidness that balances the elegant seriousness of the subject matter. Please keep this up!

  • @uguremirmustafaoglu40
    @uguremirmustafaoglu40 Месяц назад +22

    Wow, I am neither a budhist nor heard this idea before but whenever I feel like I will fail, I close my eyes and imagine my funeral. It is a complete relief.

  • @per_growth
    @per_growth Месяц назад +14

    This is really helpful. For the past few years - I've been telling myself that my financial success cannot be the ONE THING that identifies me. I never thought of it as fear - but now that it's explained in this context - it is fear. The fear of failing (at least in your mind). Incredible insight.

  • @maciejdworzanski5063
    @maciejdworzanski5063 Месяц назад +27

    Wow! My jaw is somewhere on the floor now. Didn't expect this depth and spirituality from HBR. Amazing video, and so inspiring! Big thanks

  • @muzzammilaltaf
    @muzzammilaltaf Месяц назад +34

    I am seeing this, hearing this, feeling this at a moment in time in my life when I have been contemplating this. Arthur has a direct way of sharing a topic that most would consider sensitive, yet it has resonated with me in a good way. Looking forward to exploring this book sometime.

  • @nespodzany
    @nespodzany Месяц назад +430

    I think I had several micro-anxiety attacks watching this video

    • @jman2871
      @jman2871 Месяц назад

      I did too

    • @EstewCA
      @EstewCA Месяц назад +3

      @nespodzany But did you feel at peace after this piece?

    • @nespodzany
      @nespodzany Месяц назад +5

      @@EstewCA I don't think I'm there quite yet, need more active practice.

    • @kaderoscope
      @kaderoscope Месяц назад

      😂

    • @teombe2081
      @teombe2081 Месяц назад

      Me toooo 😭

  • @grandjette
    @grandjette Месяц назад +14

    Aside from letting go and being grateful for the opportunity to be part of building up society, I have a desire to continue being part of building up society in my own little way. Rather than looking at success in grandiosity, I want to reconnect and witness the growth of virtues in others.

  • @JimDubendorf
    @JimDubendorf Месяц назад +17

    The death meditation is also known in the western/christian practice as “momento mori”. Very powerful practice. I appreciate your commentary, thank you!

  • @mylesnmore
    @mylesnmore Месяц назад +29

    His take is "admit the truth, it all sorta doesnt matter" is sorta feudalistic but i get it. But the TRUTH is you have inherent worth because you are a human being! You are ALIVE today and you are LOVED by others and by God. You need to explore and live in that love. Today, 150,000 people will cease to exist (statistically) but you will live today and there will not be another like you. You are valuable and that is why you dont put your identity in a career because YOU ARE MORE than a career not because "oh well, i will die one day so my career doesn't really matter" . I worry he has taken "positive thinking" and put it into "positive thinking negatively about 'reality of outcomes in the future" but the real answer is deeper than that. You are more than what you do.

  • @saurovfayzulla
    @saurovfayzulla Месяц назад +7

    Yes, feeling afraid, fearful, or failing is normal, and I think we often feel anxious about it and about what people think. What should I do? Arthur’s remark about meditation being one of the good solutions to our problems is helpful.

  • @YT3am
    @YT3am Месяц назад +11

    This hit home! It’s crazy how an identity crisis can feel so overwhelming, but also be a chance for growth and self-discovery. 🙌 Thanks for shedding light on such a relatable topic. Anyone else feel like they’ve had to 'find themselves' more than once?

  • @MyKrabi
    @MyKrabi Месяц назад +4

    As a Buddhist who has been practicing for 15 years - I really DIG the cheerful jazz in the background lol. (Trying to live in the moment ...;-)

  • @ryan99842
    @ryan99842 Месяц назад +126

    this video’s take really clicks with some of the things I've been reading in unveiling your hidden potential by bruce thornwood

  • @andrewjpalla
    @andrewjpalla Месяц назад +2

    This video is so intense. Exposure therapy to the worst possible fears.

  • @paulnevelos3923
    @paulnevelos3923 4 дня назад

    Simple, yet powerful…thank you

  • @Okay-rc1se
    @Okay-rc1se Месяц назад +1

    I just left my inpatient nursing job and have been unemployed for a month and have been always wondering what more I can identify other being a nurse at hospital. I am still learning this and and this video couldn’t have been perfect timing!

  • @worldtraveller4613
    @worldtraveller4613 Месяц назад +10

    My party is finished two weeks back. I am in shock. Very refreshing to watch this video

  • @urigarcia6441
    @urigarcia6441 Месяц назад +4

    “Engeneer new good times under diferent circumstances” is gold

  • @SouvikDas123
    @SouvikDas123 Месяц назад +4

    I love this guy now. Great wisdom without being preachy.

  • @MyHanck
    @MyHanck 26 дней назад +1

    We should be free to be ourselves and to be real. It is essential to our well-being and we neglect this at our own peril and demise.

  • @assakurayoh
    @assakurayoh Месяц назад +2

    This is why I love Hardvard Content, It's so smart, people are so smart !
    Killing you identity so is why people ponder over their deaths, the deaths lost their identity. I truly love smart content, it's so comforting in the misdt of useless content.
    On the other side, as a personal story I'd like to share, I have never got a loss for perhaps all my life, and then I started an entrepreneurial journey and everything has only been about losing

  • @lokhandetejasliladhar4216
    @lokhandetejasliladhar4216 Месяц назад +5

    'Managing your life as a project' - Wowww level analogy

  • @elliegrizz
    @elliegrizz Месяц назад +1

    If this video is an hour or two of wisdom and work therapy from Professor Arthur C. Brooks so be it! We need it. Please share it HBR!!

  • @noellewest4347
    @noellewest4347 Месяц назад

    I love this. I'm not in business, but I am in academia, and I am getting older. His words resonate and his advice is applicable to me too.

  • @lokhandetejasliladhar4216
    @lokhandetejasliladhar4216 Месяц назад

    Please keep on this series ! Mr. Brooks is transferring out-of-world wisdom that we desperately need .

  • @andreelliott467
    @andreelliott467 5 дней назад

    I have those exact realizations and i understand the reality of why i do and deal with it.

  • @bathiyawickramage3982
    @bathiyawickramage3982 28 дней назад

    Awesome Content. 🔥
    And the correct word is "Marananussathi" which loosely translates to "Keep the death in mind"
    ~A Buddhist from Sri Lanka~

  • @souhilbenaskeur1094
    @souhilbenaskeur1094 Месяц назад +2

    There should come an end to all our projects in this life... this is a truth

  • @danielaortiz8737
    @danielaortiz8737 Месяц назад

    This was one of the best videos I’ve seen in a while. Felt like a guided meditation for information I didn’t know I needed. Cheers.

  • @marcin3136
    @marcin3136 13 дней назад

    Professor...
    Culture and history (including the "history of the Fmily" [family stories]; it can give wings/ even a sense of dignity, or keep you in limitations).
    BR
    *"Someone who has risen above his nation becomes someone exceptional". And hence: "The highest level of leadership is to lead other nations"
    *But also the concept of a "transitional individual".

  • @jubyjoseph6332
    @jubyjoseph6332 Месяц назад +6

    Arthur C. Brooks has truly found Nirvana, to be able to speak like this. Now, I want some of it too.

  • @rubenv.p.6344
    @rubenv.p.6344 Месяц назад

    Excellent advice and practise! Thank you very much!

  • @vvmanimadhuri
    @vvmanimadhuri Месяц назад

    I am thinking of similar trajectory for parents since their child is born and until they leave the nest. Thank you for the video. The Buddhist practices are helpful for people who are not monks as well

  • @endgamefond
    @endgamefond Месяц назад +11

    As I get older I realise how much money I make is how much value I have. This makes me have an existential crisis especially when my job does not impact people's lives that much or when I am unemployed. This is depressing. Yeah it's like fear of death. I wanna leave something behind that's useful for other people and Idk what it's.

    • @kasiapetruk6730
      @kasiapetruk6730 Месяц назад +2

      I think here it may be worth looking outside of job: try to volunteer, sit on a board or as trustee of some non profit organization that is close to your values. Even if that is an hour a week being engaged in service for others can make you feel better. Or different approach - maybe your job itself does not bring much of a value to average people or planet (lots of jobs don’t as business is there to make money, not to serve) BUT the means you have because of that job can be a contribution to something altruistic, i.e donations to charities etc.

    • @anonimo5912
      @anonimo5912 Месяц назад

      Want to leave something useful for people? Yeah, then that "something" needs to be bigger than yourself, and that's your tribe and your family, a dinasty, a legacy.

    • @DakotaFord592
      @DakotaFord592 14 дней назад +2

      Why don't you write a book? All humans can pass down some form of knowledge.

    • @endgamefond
      @endgamefond 14 дней назад

      @@DakotaFord592 I upload my lessons online. I am a teacher but I teach online. Part of me thinks it's part of my immortality. When I die I hope someone or some people can get something from my lessons I upload on RUclips. It's more detailed and I actually spent hours on editing and making graphic designs so I hope one day they can appreciate my video lessons.

  • @naritzify
    @naritzify 28 дней назад

    Amazing helpful and actionable. Thank you

  • @joeovip
    @joeovip 22 дня назад

    Beautiful message, thank you.

  • @carlomalabanan
    @carlomalabanan Месяц назад +10

    I agree with all the things you just mentioned, but the problem is that the managerial people who control the corporate world, from CEO all the way down to the lower management, like most of them "want" us to have a high level of success in order for us to get hired, especially in high paying jobs that can mostly be found on companies with "names". They will ask you like what school did you come from or what kind of leadership do you have. And that would be a big problem especially for those who try to build up their career from the beginning (I feel sorry about the late bloomers). If you dont want us to have an identity crisis on careers, how can you change the "elitist" minds of these managers?

    • @av3ngers17
      @av3ngers17 Месяц назад +2

      If you're in a job interview and they ask about your career, it makes sense, no? since you're going there to work, not make friends. But I think this video is talking about your own sense of self. When you ask yourself, who am I? And you answer your profession, it means your identity is tied to it, which isn't beneficial for you. You can't change other people, only yourself

    • @carlomalabanan
      @carlomalabanan Месяц назад

      @@av3ngers17 so are you saying that if the people who came from a no name school with unattractive work experiences, especially if they lack leadership skills, they should humble themselves and stay at their current level of career instead of wishing for a higher level in order for them not to have identity crisis on careers? And the people with high IQ and well connected who are capable of becoming part of the elite are okay to level up without worries? That's very unfair I would say. Take note if you want to level up experiencing identity crisis on careers would exist, and one way is to woo these elitist minded managers and people at the bottom who has low IQs and lack of networks cannot do anything about that, because that is how the system works.

    • @carlomalabanan
      @carlomalabanan Месяц назад

      @@av3ngers17 so are you saying that people like with low IQs and have no networks need to humble themselves instead of wishing and trying to reach for a higher level careers in order for them to avoid identity crisis on careers when they fail, and at the same time people that belong to upper strata can easily reach out high careers without worries even though they fail? I dont think that's a fair play.

  • @cmep
    @cmep Месяц назад +2

    This is excellent advise. Every student should hear this at the beginning of each year (to be sure it actually sinks in - lol).

  • @darinakalinova2180
    @darinakalinova2180 20 дней назад

    Interesting, I have very pragmatic approach. My job doesn't define who I am. What is the most important is what I am doing to feel like I am progressing in my life.

  • @atifsheikh3190
    @atifsheikh3190 Месяц назад +7

    Thanks for sharing these thoughts! A great new perspective indeed.

  • @Jaredbbishop93
    @Jaredbbishop93 Месяц назад +3

    This guy is crazy insightful! I love these videos

  • @collinrutherford2324
    @collinrutherford2324 Месяц назад +1

    Preparing mentally for the end of a career helps reduce fear and allows us to live more fully in the present.

  • @zhangshiyucao
    @zhangshiyucao 18 дней назад

    I choose to be special instead of happy... that is a succinct way to put it.

  • @CybillJohnson-y1u
    @CybillJohnson-y1u Месяц назад +1

    Thank you!

  • @a_mix
    @a_mix 21 день назад

    Such a great vided, thank you :)

  • @loxleybattle2591
    @loxleybattle2591 Месяц назад +1

    This is a powerful meditation tool and I think I can apply it to almost any shift or upcoming change… like aging. Thank you for the insight!

  • @paramitacdewi
    @paramitacdewi 23 дня назад

    I feel like this practice needs to be monitored by good therapists cause despite its benefit, it may be suitable for people with anxiety, but may not be for someone with depression.
    For people with depression, what can help lift them up each day is hope, but reminding themselves about their worst fears, it's not the kind of mindset that's suitable for someone who's already lost hope in life. They'd forget the "despite changes, it's going to be okay" part and focus on the negatives instead

  • @ramesh_i1
    @ramesh_i1 Месяц назад

    So long as one is part of society one will always seek one's identity within that society. Only humans who live in extreme conditions (far removed from human civilization) or those who are self-actualised and no longer identify with even their own body can avoid this "identity crisis". "Who we are" is a dynamic question, so the answer can't be static either.

  • @mejdabensoltana5780
    @mejdabensoltana5780 Месяц назад

    I enjoy learning from you. Thank you for sharing the knowledge 🙏

  • @Shaunmaselela.icloud
    @Shaunmaselela.icloud Месяц назад +12

    Tailored suit is 👌

    • @richardthoya4782
      @richardthoya4782 Месяц назад +1

      Ikr... Was scrolling to see who else caught that.

  • @patriciagutierrez9465
    @patriciagutierrez9465 Месяц назад

    "people are so afraid of failing at work" never been less related to a phrase in my life. My job is just something that pays my bill. At most, I'm afraid of loosing the capacity to pay my bills, but that's it.

  • @andmand
    @andmand 17 дней назад

    This man's communication skills are impressive

  • @ericmouchel8328
    @ericmouchel8328 Месяц назад +6

    Very easy to be at peace when you don’t have money problem

  • @O-Demi
    @O-Demi 27 дней назад

    Those steps sound great to me though! Retirement is a great prospect! I think for me a 9 step meditation should include the horrors of being replaced by AI in the field where I enjoy working.

  • @yaaat7400
    @yaaat7400 Месяц назад +1

    So in short imagining a career nightmare will set me free? Very interesting and counter intuitive! As a person who always have too much thought and worries of others judgement, should I try this instead of repeating self empowerment comment?

  • @ratthachat
    @ratthachat 22 дня назад

    Wow, 2:00 is HBR xTheravada at their best ❤

  • @ekaterinasergeyeva453
    @ekaterinasergeyeva453 Месяц назад

    When asked "who are you?" my first impulse was always to say "I'm a human being" But that sounds weird to people so "I'm an interpreter. We're working together with my husband. We've been happily married for 25 years. We have two grown up sons" is what I say instead

  • @briefexplanation7800
    @briefexplanation7800 Месяц назад +1

    A man is known by his career and a woman is judged by her looks۔ unfortunate but true!

  • @nathanngumi8467
    @nathanngumi8467 Месяц назад

    Very insightful!

  • @923ap
    @923ap Месяц назад +3

    Very good, would like to see more of him.

  • @silviacoco4835
    @silviacoco4835 День назад

    I often go through decisions with a pre-mortem approach to make the “worst case scenario” feel less scary (or to take some control back in it) but the key takeaway from this video for me was: if not work, what defines me that cannot be taken away from me?
    It put me back in the perspective that it matters more to be a good human than a good employee/ professional. I don’t want to be remembered for my work successes, but for my kindness or intelligence for example.

  • @carinascarpati6977
    @carinascarpati6977 Месяц назад

    I really liked this video, but it’s very interesting thinking about people in politics. Usually they are over 50 years old. Even the presidents are usually over 60 years old. So why this isn’t applicable for them?

  • @Tuiphan
    @Tuiphan 14 дней назад +1

    Self realization

  • @charlenek2502
    @charlenek2502 Месяц назад

    I think to have this sort of mentality first requires a lot of self confidence

  • @aadityapratap007
    @aadityapratap007 Месяц назад +4

    This has been the core of our philosophy and having been as a professional makes so much more sense to me. Defining yourself by your career traps you in a cycle of endless striving, but embracing the principles of dharma and letting go of attachment to outcomes can help you transcend this and lead a more meaningful, balanced life. It advocates for a dilution of the ego by selflessly performing one’s duties, or karma, with the ultimate goal of uniting with Brahman-the supreme, omnipresent cosmic consciousness. This ancient wisdom reminds us that we are far more than our titles or professional roles, and real fulfillment comes not from external success, but from realizing the deeper, interconnected nature of our existence.

  • @baharmohamad850
    @baharmohamad850 29 дней назад

    Am I the only person that feels this man give the information in the most sarcastic way and leave all of us panicked😅😂

  • @zeratulmx001
    @zeratulmx001 Месяц назад +7

    I believe this sounds like the antithesis of impostor syndrome treatment. Facing failure. Accept it. Move on.

  • @metebahmed5874
    @metebahmed5874 Месяц назад

    Intuitive for any religious person

  • @eriknephrongfr8847
    @eriknephrongfr8847 22 дня назад

    #7 made me feel panic. I was ok up til then. I can see it happening.

  • @AncientAesthetic
    @AncientAesthetic Месяц назад

    Now you guys know this technique better than most Thais. ❤

  • @pratapsinhrajput5879
    @pratapsinhrajput5879 Месяц назад +31

    Ha ha, so easy to sermonize when you’re a professor at Harvard. Had he introduced himself as an art instructor at elementary school (and McDonalds burger flipper in summer), none of the minds being “blown” in the comments below would have even listened him through :) … success is the rule of the world and good or bad , it’s how the world works. Even the monks measure themselves by how “advanced “ is the spiritual practice… it’s almost impossible to escape !!

    • @notknown42
      @notknown42 Месяц назад +6

      He didn’t say success doesn’t matter. Listen again.

    • @pratapsinhrajput5879
      @pratapsinhrajput5879 Месяц назад +1

      @@notknown42 thankyou for the suggestion dear ! At your advice I did hear him again, and did not find it any different this time.

    • @Brr_Brr_Brian
      @Brr_Brr_Brian 29 дней назад +1

      You’re kind of missing the point. The point isn’t to look at other’s success and think, “well, obviously that doesn’t apply to me,”-what he’s saying is applicable to whatever job you’re doing in whatever capacity so long as you meditate on the END of it. A retiring construction worker who’s worked his whole life and missed out of the opportunity to make connections with his coworkers because he’s so committed to his “success” is going to end up in the same place as the six-figure CEO.

    • @pratapsinhrajput5879
      @pratapsinhrajput5879 29 дней назад

      @@Brr_Brr_Brian yeah, that’s what I think is misplaced thought coming out of a ceo who is pondering about how he could have been even better. For a worker who couldn’t make it up there, will be riddled with so many why’s of his own… and those would be much harder to answer than… why I did not go out enough for beer with other construction workers! As they say, nothing succeeds like success and go full engine on it !!

    • @Alejoacuna
      @Alejoacuna 18 дней назад

      Sometimes you just need to listen

  • @YuvrajSingh-um5jx
    @YuvrajSingh-um5jx Месяц назад +2

    Then HOW to introduce ourselves? (Expected this anwer in the video)

    • @rustyshackle917
      @rustyshackle917 Месяц назад +1

      I give vague and cryptic responses to the questions, "who are you? what do you do? where are you from? Etc"
      People are usually trying to quickly label (judge) you, not trying to get to know you.

    • @YuvrajSingh-um5jx
      @YuvrajSingh-um5jx Месяц назад

      @@rustyshackle917 That's true. Thank you for giving this good idea to reply to them vaguely. What else we can tell?

  • @BatBrakesBones
    @BatBrakesBones Месяц назад

    Smaller is more manageable and better quality of life

  • @brucehough492
    @brucehough492 Месяц назад

    Great advice. Ty.

  • @Diogenes76
    @Diogenes76 Месяц назад

    If only I could have convinced my younger self of this.

  • @Blubbha
    @Blubbha Месяц назад +4

    Linkedin made it even harder to not compare. Same as insta for your home and vacation. 😂

  • @selinov
    @selinov Месяц назад +26

    "Women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provides something. I never heard a woman in my life say, 'You know, after he got laid off, we got so much closer.'" - Chris Rock

    • @kyeolchoi8860
      @kyeolchoi8860 Месяц назад +15

      I don’t really think Chris Rock is a good public figure

    • @Valerie-s6n
      @Valerie-s6n Месяц назад +1

      Women are not loved unconditionally, they are just measured by a different metric. By youth / attractiveness/ fertility / housework (how well is the house maintained, often on top of a regular job).

    • @vlowolvtake1797
      @vlowolvtake1797 Месяц назад +1

      People who have this view probably are not in a relationship "for sickness". But the reality is that there are plenty of couples who come out of hardships with a stronger bond. They are the couples that felt like they've gotten it through together and with the appreciation of each other's existence and support.

    • @baruchrevivo2966
      @baruchrevivo2966 Месяц назад +1

      My first response was to agree. But then I remembered I have Momma-Issues, yet believe I can have real intimate relationships in my life. Can trust and can be trustworthy.

    • @av3ngers17
      @av3ngers17 Месяц назад +3

      Victim mentality

  • @rafpach87
    @rafpach87 9 дней назад

    I laughed when he had to go all the way to East Asia to find monks who were basically saying "memento mori". And for a temple with monks and the constant reminder of death, the Bones Chapel in Portugal is a good choice. They don't have pictures, but actual bones of the deceased monks on the walls. And if you need to detach from your shallow, material vanity, by regularly meditating on death and the eternity of your soul, I suggest start meditating by singing/praying Complines before you go to sleep.
    The core of his solutions can be easily found in traditional Catholic spirituality. I just laugh on how liberal westerners seem to even innocently despise the foundations of their own culture.
    From a Brazilian Roman Catholic.

  • @kalpa2s
    @kalpa2s Месяц назад +4

    Buddhism is a way of life. It will bring peace to anyone’s mind..

    • @MrJoeSomebody
      @MrJoeSomebody Месяц назад

      History disagrees and don’t get me started on how they treat women: Women are often depicted in traditional Buddhist texts as deceitful and lustful. The Buddha himself said in an early texts that a woman's body is "a vessel of impurity, full of stinking filth. It is like a rotten pit ... like a toilet, with nine holes pouring all sorts of filth."

  • @mrmenosaurio
    @mrmenosaurio Месяц назад

    Just incredible !

  • @mincedtofu
    @mincedtofu Месяц назад

    I was thinking all the way… isn’t that the normal? And then he said people think of it as failure, but is normal.

  • @senik64
    @senik64 Месяц назад

    thanks I’m not at all at peace, actually my anxiety has skyrocketed now and I’m only the start of my career

  • @ogzbyrktr1
    @ogzbyrktr1 Месяц назад +2

    this is a soothing video for boomer gen, and has nothing to do with younger gen. Hey boomer its ok to leave your chair and have a deep breath.

  • @peterwaugh4734
    @peterwaugh4734 Месяц назад

    I'm a dairy clerk. You have to do it.

  • @BatBrakesBones
    @BatBrakesBones Месяц назад

    Put myself in a position to lose not realizing it

  • @marzhan2074
    @marzhan2074 Месяц назад

    I'm afraid of faling at work. Even tumy mistakes make me worry and panic so I am freezing sometimes like I can't think and handle my job, problem.

  • @MsPinkston
    @MsPinkston Месяц назад

    This is for people who are about to retire and have been in. The same job for more than a decade... this does not apply to millenniums and Gen Z 😕. But regardless, we have no choice but to be confronted with failure when you can't thrive.

  • @delovenderguesthouse8944
    @delovenderguesthouse8944 Месяц назад +2

    Just realized that you’re nothing in this huge reality, then you will feel peace 😊

  • @ekaterinasergeyeva453
    @ekaterinasergeyeva453 Месяц назад

    My rule: when I see Arthur Brooks I hit the like button and click on the video

  • @dawidwraga
    @dawidwraga Месяц назад

    Excellent

  • @jasonprevilon9555
    @jasonprevilon9555 3 дня назад

    Exposure therapy through meditation.

  • @BatBrakesBones
    @BatBrakesBones Месяц назад

    Better quality of life

  • @ammarsawi
    @ammarsawi Месяц назад

    Arthur ❤