As someone that went through a gut-wrenching divorce, I can definitely say that it is not the "easy way out". I, too, protected the relationship and on the outside, everything seemed perfect, but on the inside, I was suffocating. It takes courage to talk openly about divorce because there is so much taboo around it and like somehow we "failed" at our marriage (I still struggle with this feeling) when in reality, we are just choosing ourselves to live a better life.
@@mimil8677 I didn't realize that I had been suffocating in the marriage to begin with - I felt like I didn't have a voice and my confidence and worth was slowly being chipped away through subtle forms of emotional control and abuse. And then in the last year of the marriage (2019) I felt like I was the only one really fighting to fix things. Until I just shut down and allowed things to play out the way they were meant to. I wanted to see how my ex would react, what he would do, if he would step up. It also felt suffocating because of all the emotions you are experiencing - uncertainty, fear, anger, sadness, overwhelm, confusion. Not knowing what's next and what you should (or shouldn't do). It's a lot of conflicting and overwhelming emotions. I shared a video about my experience on my channel and some valuable lessons that I wish I would have heard during the process because it really feels lonely and hearing other women's stories (like Chriselle) can really help. Let me know if you have any other questions, I am happy to offer any support that I can
Congratulations on coming back stronger and even more assertive! Having followed you for years, I value the authenticity and unapologetic honesty with which you have decided to open up and share your experience! Nothing in live is perfect especially when you know that not only do you have to make decisions for yourself but also for your children who depend on you! Yet, it is during difficult times that we have to find the inner strength and resilience to fight back! I have been blessed to be a mother of a wonderful daughter who is my driving force and inspiration to become better so that I can provide her with a nice role model to look up to even if she is bound to partially dismiss that in search for her own unique identity!! I’m genuinely happy that your back Chris!!
Once upon a time, I had a big house, a lived-in nanny & a successful medical practice. Then one day, I lost it all & had just few dollars in my ac. I walked out of my marriage. I chose not to HATE more. LIFE was unbearable. I nearly took my own life. I felt ashamed and was even shunned by my own family for a year. Today, I'm back making 6 figures. My parents finally talk to me and my X became my best friend. Have FAITH & be RESILIENT. RESILIENCE is all about how often you get back up! Divorce does break you but in time it will make you. Btw...my X did ask me to come back. Past is Past...so no to that. If you're dealing with a Divorce, know that you will come out ok! Just remember to LOVE yourself more than ever!
Congrats and cheers to you. 🎉 I'm the same about revisiting past love, the chapter closed and now it's time to move forward and strive for someone to be at peace with.
My love life is in a mess. I dragged 4 years to get a divorce. Both of us live separately, we dated different people despite our status.. I blamed myself for not getting the papers ready as the guy I’ve dated waited for 3 years. Finally I’m signing the paper in two days. I’ve lost my marriage, I’ve also lost a good guy who’ve patiently waited and loved me for who I am.. feeling depressed and lost sleep for a month ever since the break up.
I think this kind of story needs to be shared more with others. It's not common for Asian families or women to talk about divorce in a healthy manner because culture and traditions said it'd make us look bad or we're being the devil/we destroy relationships & families. In fact, I'm kinda inspired by your story here (although not divorced nor married yet) to create content on topics we usually shy away from/taboo.
I feel like women have so much more pressure to keep things together and regardless of you having no control over horrible circumstances, you end up being blamed. It’s a sad reality
💯, it makes me feel like I’m on the right path when I see comments like this, I’ve had this thought over and over again going through my process and although divorce may not be a big deal to others, it was a big deal to me and in the world that I lived in because of culture and traditions. Thank you for your comment! ❤️
After being married with kid. I know Married is a scam. My husband and my r/s get worse after having kid. I can’t take it anymore. I have tolerated for many years. I’m taking to the next step in divorcing too. I want to live a happy life with my baby. I don’t want my baby and I to be in an abusive marriage anymore. U r doing great. So not bother abt what the social media say. Live for yourself. Be happy. We only live once. This is how life is gonna be. Let’s work hard towards it
100% that role models are needed for the good and the not so good, like divorce. I don’t know if it’s a turn my life will take, but the thought has crossed my mind that I can get through it and be better if it did because I see Chriselle in all her beauty and power and strength killing it after divorce.
I am so glad to find your youtube channel .. your divorce story touched me too much. I had a divorce for oppressive reasons from my partner’s end. I had to find a way out and after i lived four years suffering from my divorce trauma, i had a health setback and got diagnosed with psychosis. It had been four years now in my journey with my mental illness but i got improved a lot. I wanna say that i feel you and i can relate to every word you’re saying.
I remember when Michelle Phan first introduced you on her channel, that’s when I first heard of you and followed you from there up until now. I loved your fashion tips and enjoyed watching your beautiful family grow. Divorce is a hard thing to go through but I’m happy to see you happy again❤
Same here. I guess I'm late but this gives me hope as a fellow Aries and we have the same birthday 🤯 I'm a few years away from my 30's so idk if this is a sign or what.
ngl Chriselle I had felt so disconnected from you on ig because your divorce hyperfixation and felt like you just need to let that hurt go but listening to you reintroduce yourself and explain yourself here without the box of insta is so much more eye opening and vulnerable that I can’t help but feel ashamed that I even felt that way in the first place. Thank you for your honesty and letting us in once again without the meme-ification of the human experience that tiktok and ig can bring. Now I feel like I really understand why you have been so open about this grueling experience... You've always been real af and now more than ever, stay true to that and keep your head up Queen!
I’m sorry excited and happy for your new chapter. All this time I thought you retire from RUclips because you were living your best married life. Covid does that to a lot of couples. Congrats on the divorce, I feel like people have bad connotations to divorce but divorce is actually realising what doesn’t work and giving you both a chance to live your best life. So glad you’re doing great
Very happy for you! God Bless you and your girls 🙏🏻 My husband just confirmed to me that he wants a divorce and will be filing by the end of the week. I am heartbroken and feel like this pain will never end. But I am trying to stay positive somehow. Thank you for sharing your story.
Chriselle, thank you for your vulnerability! I have followed you since 2012 while going through divorce & being inspired by your family that maybe one day I would have true love. Then during COVID I removed a lot of my following on YT to not be so influenced by perfection! I have missed you dearly and have thought of your beautiful family often. I could only image how big the girls had gotten! You landed in my algorithm today! I’m thrilled you are back. I relate to this chapter of your life so much. I have had one long term relationship since divorcing, but since then am single once again. You’ve always been inspiring do matter what you are going through. Cheers to more life+love! 🥂
This is absolutely the comeback I have been waiting for. I was not married, but escaped a very toxic and mentally abusive engagement and now I'm thriving after 7 years. Here for this new you
Just got divorced last week it was almost smoothing watching this video. Thanks for sharing your journey and validating our decisions! We all deserve happiness no matter what it looks like to the society
As an Asian-American woman, I can somewhat relate to your story. Though I’ve never been married and don’t have children myself, my parents divorced when I was 10 or 11. My sister and I chose to live with our mother. You’re fortunate to be able to co-parent. In my case, our father became so angry that he stopped communicating with me and my sister altogether. Years later, a family friend told my mother that our father died. Initially I briefly cried, but then got upset that I’ll never have the opportunity to prove how successful I’ve become without him. In my 30s, I’ve told my mother how brave and strong she was to leave our abusive father and raise me and my sister on her own. Now that I’m nearly 42, I look after my retired mother. Divorce is always difficult for everybody, but I truly believe that “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”.
@@merrittpalmer4349Yeah well, you don’t know what it’s like until you’re in someone else’s shoes. So unless you’re a psychologist or something related to it, your two cents mean nothing. 😒
@@merrittpalmer4349 If you read the comment, he was abusive and he left them in no-contact because he was angry about the whole situation. The anger and resentment is very valid, it may not be healthy but it's very valid.
you're 42? I clicked on the first video on your channel and in the comments you were arguing with someone telling them you're 20 LOLOL. I'm not surprised you're unmarried because you sound like you have some mental issues.
Hi, Thank you for sharing. I have been following you since before my daughter was born. Currently she is 6. and i am living in a household with a partner of 13 years who is treating me like a servant and is very cruel. Feel trapped because he is my first boyfriend and i dont know anything else. Watching this gives me hope that i will be brave like you to separate and be strong enough to be a role model for my daughter also. Thank you Chriselle xxx
Hey Chriselle! I'm not divorced (in fact just got married) but my parents divorced. I see many encouraging messages about people who divorced and how it was the right decision; from a child's POV, seeing my parents' relationship breakdown yet they still try to stay 'married' was one of the hardest things to deal with growing up. They wanted to 'stay for the children', but in reality it was a build up of resentment, frustration, distrust and all these translated into many things like violence, theft, financial abuse... etc. I don't blame my parents for trying to make it work, but I also wished they realised a little earlier what was their non-negotiables/could not tolerate and would agree to divorce earlier. Tbh my childhood memories are just of them fighting A LOT, and suicide attempts. It wasn't great but I'm glad my parents divorced. If you're worried about what your children may think, take heart that they will grow to be sensible and understand why what you did was best. Also, I encouraged my mum to date again because I knew she would be lonely... i'm happy that you're seeing someone and that you found courage to give love a second chance. Love you!
My divorce took place at the same time as yours. This is exactly how I feel too, and I totally understand what you are going through! We will be okay and we will be better and we will be happier as time goes on. ❤ 화이팅!
Thank you for sharing your truth and struggles. You stated you did not have a role model to follow in their footsteps, but as you post this you have become a role model to normalize that it’s okay to get out of a marriage where there is no longer love. That’s so important, especially in Asian communities where divorce is stigmatized. So thank you Chriselle for being real and sharing your story. The healing has begun and it continues & you are helping others even if you do not realize it 💗
Chriselle we never left❤ I have followed you since Michelle Phan introduced you to us and used to binge watch all your videos, you were always such a role model and I learnt so much from you❤ I actually have a pair of shoes you sold once when you did a closet cleaning i think! Glad to have you back, we're here for you😊
Love you Chriselle Lim🤍 u were the first fashion youtuber i ever subscribed to when i was like 11 years old and now im 23 and still follow you. U were such a role model to me when it came to fashion. I wanted to dress like you so much and start a fashion channel and fashion blog hahaah. I always copied whatever you posted. U impacted my childhood so much & i think thats why im into fashion and styling myself now. We’re always here to support you. Keep thriving❤️
I'm grateful for all the RUclipsrs who share their lives with me. I have learned so much. At the same time, I never forget they are human so it's great when someone takes time off to sort things out, recover or just rest. Welcome back 🎉
You know... thank you for coming back and sharing about divorce.. you are right.. no one talks about divorce.. everything has to be perfect and it sucks. That divorce is a "bad thing" no I don't see that.. i mean it sucks for the kids but most of us ( at least me ) didn't have strong parents to be co parents so its pretty nice to see that it's possible and that the new generation showing choices are out there.. u don't have to lose your child.. So thank you very much. I am not expecting your life to be perfect but I can still say your life IS perfect because you are doing what you need to do for you and your girls and that's AWESOME! Keep your spirit high
I’ve been a fan of you since I was in middle/high school. I’m in my late 20s now. 😊 Watching you for such a long time helped me learn that everyone, no matter what age or stage of life you’re at, is always learning and growing. You’re such a role model and someone I truly admire. Thank you for sharing your story!
I’m always appreciative of ppl that I love online sharing some of the hard times with us. It just helps gives hope. I’m so here for this come back. And I congratulate you on being real with yourself and moving from situations that no longer work. I know that jail of staying all too well! Much love ❤️
Girl! We are the same age with similar stories. I get it- divorce isn't easy but it's amazing how much clarity comes afterwards. I'm more intuitive and knowledgeable about life in general. So grateful for your story and courage to share. Welcome back OG!
Thank you for this video! So hard to talk about divorce in the Asian cultures without feeling ashamed. Thank you. Thank you! Ive followed you for a very long time and have always adore you!
Welcome back Chriselle, thank you for always owning your truth and always being real. So many women are going through this, and it's important to have role models and to know we can start over.
Marital problems are hard. no matter the couple choose to call it quit or stay together and restore the relationship, both choices are hard ways…neither one is “easier” than the other 🥺 Can’t wait to see more of your content on YT! 😄
Divorce is not easy by any means, especially when you have children. I've been there. With that said, I'm so happy to see you happy and back on RUclips. 💗
Been a fan of yours for a long time. I really love the way you handled this video. Honestly, I was expecting a deep dive into what broke you guys apart - which if that’s what you wanted, it would have been fine. It’s what most videos are these days. But I think it’s super respectful that you focused on your personal lead up, the thoughts you had, and your aftermath without bashing your ex-partner. It’s been so lovely seeing you glow! So happy for you, always.
I appreciate your comment so so so much, thank you for getting it. The focus will always be what my experience has been in hopes that it can help someone.
We are around the same age, and I'm going through a rough patch in my marriage...not sure what I should do next, and how my decision would affect my kids. I haven't brought this up to my friends and family, so your videos have helped me feel like I'm not all alone ❤ Thank you.
Wow this made me emotional 😊my divorce happened at the same time as yours - I think we got married at the same age as well. It is beyond helpful to see someone reflecting back similar experiences. So happy you are back!!! Can't wait for more.
The birthday scenario is me and still me. I'm in that situation now. I have children and waiting for things to get better and they are simply getting worse. I don't know what my future holds as a 38 year mother of 5 but I will be ensuring my kids have the knowledge. I find what you say is pretty essential in this day and age. Thank you ! Keep on rocking 😎
Welcome back to RUclips! Thanks for sharing your story. I think it will help a lot of people, especially to take the shame out of divorce or being divorced.
Chriselle. I have been a fan and followed you since Michelle Phan introduced us to you all those years ago! I've always admired you as a woman I want to be. I remember your wedding video (it was beautiful) your miscarriage videos, your fashion tips, all of it! I want you to know how proud I am of you and that I still look up to you and even more so because of how open you are with your life challenges. You make me feel empowered because of it and because how you persevere though it all and still carry yourself with grace. Keep being you and please post a day in the life and get ready with me stuff because you help me get up and get going in the morning! Thank you for being a role model for me all these years (even now in my 30s) , I'm glad you're back on youtube!
Thank you for the courage to share this. You're right, nobody talks about the ordeal and the struggles after a divorce. You can be an inspiration for other people who may be going or have gone thru the same thing. Of course, welcome back, I have watched you for a long time and glad to find your energy back on YT.💞
I’m new to your channel. I’m a single mother. My ex and I broke up in my first trimester. I feel so lost and very lonely but There is so many versions of being a family. I did try to force my ex to get back with me just because I wanted the family. It’s best to start this journey alone. I’ve never been engaged and I’m 34.. I’m not desperate to get married but it does cross my mind a lot. I honestly don’t believe in forever. ❤
Watched you since I was a teenager when Michelle Phan introduced you onto her channel. I'm in my late 20s now. Welcome back and can't wait for your next chapter in life
I personally have to say I didn’t think you portrayed your family as the perfect family. I didn’t see it that way but I do think you did a great job with sharing in a way that we felt included. You made us feel like family as well. Whatever happens I just want you to be happy.
I'm not divorce and i hope i never will be. But i knew from the start that divorce is the hardest part of a marriage. I cannot imagine having to battle every little things out. The family of your partner becomes your family too, so i also can't imagine not having them in my life anymore especially the nieces and nephew that i love from his side of the family. Tangible object can be separated or sold, but all the intangible, how does one even split that. This is why it is an extremely difficult process that no on ever want to go through when they first got married. I hope you are really ok now and that you found peace.
Dear Chriselle, welcome back :) We never unsubscribed :) And please, bring on the lessons - finished or unfinished from the shitty times. I think everyone needs some inspiration from time to time on how to deal with some situations. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability
So excited you are back! I have been watching you since the very beginning. I do miss your old videos tho. There is so many from years ago that I loved to watch
@@ChriselleLim will you ever post some of original videos or is there a specific reason why you took them down? Not trying to badger but I just loved them ❤️
Thanks for sharing Chriselle ❤️ I am 35 going through a divorce too. It is never easy even when you are the one who calls it… and not everyone can empathize your situation. You have been doing so well ✨🤍 Keep slaying x
unhappy marriage is like a hell for me, and there was fears when you want to fix it up and meaning let's break up, but after all life is still as beautiful as it has to be.
You are strong, You are smart, You are beautiful, You are a star, You are a good mother, You are Chriselle. Thank you for sharing your life with us. Welcome back and never dim your light.
Hi Chriselle, been following since the beginning. It feels like you never left. Even though you've developed and flourished, your core has never changed. Love the most x
I admire you so much Chriselle! Love to watch you come so far and I appreciate your openness! Sharing such a sensitive time and your life with us has been so important and helpful in ways I can’t express. Coming from parents who are older or immigrants I understand the previous concept of divorce but we need more successful female role models like you to show us reality and what to do if plans change as they often do ❤
I totally resonated with everything you said and went through, as I too, decided to divorce my children’s dad back in 2018. It was the toughest decision, but yet the best thing I ever did for myself and my kids. I still have low days, but for the most part, I’m grateful that we both have moved on from the past. Now we are coparenting in a cordially way for our kids. I am now a much happier person and mommy! And my kids can definitely see and feel it! We got this!! We are much STRONGER 💪🏻 than we think we are! I’m glad you to see you back on the driver’s seat and taking control of the steering wheel! You are doing a wonderful job with your girls!! Welcome back Chriselle!! ❤️🦋 #selfcare #selflove #makingnewmemories
Welcome Back Chriselle! 🤩🎉🎊💖 Life is full of challenging chapters. It takes courage to be vulnerable. Thank you for sharing your journey. It is heart-warming, and interesting to listen to what you were really thinking, feeling and experiencing at the time as well as what your perspective of all of it is now. Sending you lots of love x 🫂🤗
We all have choices in life. We sabotage ourselves by putting too much preassure on ourselves and by stressing over mental deadlines. Life always gives us unexpected challenges and obstacles. But eventhough life can sometimes be unfair, we have to be fair. Chrisselle, I am glad you are back ❤ Yes, your life reflections are inspiring to me and I am sure to many others ❤😗
Thank you for sharing this video. I can relate so much as I decided to end my marriage last year Nov. It has been almost a year but probably the happiest time I have felt for the past 10 years. Looking back, the struggles, the misery, the unhappiness deep down, the conflicting feeling of wanting to free myself but feeling guilty of separating a family that looks "perfect" from outside... Once we had the courage to turn that page, a new chapter begins with bright light shining through. Wish everyone who went through, and is going through this process the best, and know that Universe has your back:)
As someone that went through a gut-wrenching divorce, I can definitely say that it is not the "easy way out". I, too, protected the relationship and on the outside, everything seemed perfect, but on the inside, I was suffocating. It takes courage to talk openly about divorce because there is so much taboo around it and like somehow we "failed" at our marriage (I still struggle with this feeling) when in reality, we are just choosing ourselves to live a better life.
THISSSSS! You hit the nail on the head. Thank you for your comment, lots of love to you!
@@ChriselleLim lots of love back to YOU (holy sh*t i feel like I am talking to a celebrity). Thank you for using your platform to be vulnerable 🤍
Can I ask why you were feeling suffocated?
@@mimil8677 I didn't realize that I had been suffocating in the marriage to begin with - I felt like I didn't have a voice and my confidence and worth was slowly being chipped away through subtle forms of emotional control and abuse. And then in the last year of the marriage (2019) I felt like I was the only one really fighting to fix things. Until I just shut down and allowed things to play out the way they were meant to. I wanted to see how my ex would react, what he would do, if he would step up. It also felt suffocating because of all the emotions you are experiencing - uncertainty, fear, anger, sadness, overwhelm, confusion. Not knowing what's next and what you should (or shouldn't do). It's a lot of conflicting and overwhelming emotions. I shared a video about my experience on my channel and some valuable lessons that I wish I would have heard during the process because it really feels lonely and hearing other women's stories (like Chriselle) can really help. Let me know if you have any other questions, I am happy to offer any support that I can
Congratulations on coming back stronger and even more assertive! Having followed you for years, I value the authenticity and unapologetic honesty with which you have decided to open up and share your experience! Nothing in live is perfect especially when you know that not only do you have to make decisions for yourself but also for your children who depend on you! Yet, it is during difficult times that we have to find the inner strength and resilience to fight back! I have been blessed to be a mother of a wonderful daughter who is my driving force and inspiration to become better so that I can provide her with a nice role model to look up to even if she is bound to partially dismiss that in search for her own unique identity!! I’m genuinely happy that your back Chris!!
Once upon a time, I had a big house, a lived-in nanny & a successful medical practice. Then one day, I lost it all & had just few dollars in my ac. I walked out of my marriage. I chose not to HATE more. LIFE was unbearable. I nearly took my own life. I felt ashamed and was even shunned by my own family for a year. Today, I'm back making 6 figures. My parents finally talk to me and my X became my best friend. Have FAITH & be RESILIENT. RESILIENCE is all about how often you get back up! Divorce does break you but in time it will make you. Btw...my X did ask me to come back. Past is Past...so no to that. If you're dealing with a Divorce, know that you will come out ok! Just remember to LOVE yourself more than ever!
Congrats and cheers to you. 🎉
I'm the same about revisiting past love, the chapter closed and now it's time to move forward and strive for someone to be at peace with.
My love life is in a mess. I dragged 4 years to get a divorce. Both of us live separately, we dated different people despite our status.. I blamed myself for not getting the papers ready as the guy I’ve dated waited for 3 years. Finally I’m signing the paper in two days. I’ve lost my marriage, I’ve also lost a good guy who’ve patiently waited and loved me for who I am.. feeling depressed and lost sleep for a month ever since the break up.
I think this kind of story needs to be shared more with others. It's not common for Asian families or women to talk about divorce in a healthy manner because culture and traditions said it'd make us look bad or we're being the devil/we destroy relationships & families. In fact, I'm kinda inspired by your story here (although not divorced nor married yet) to create content on topics we usually shy away from/taboo.
I feel like women have so much more pressure to keep things together and regardless of you having no control over horrible circumstances, you end up being blamed. It’s a sad reality
THISSSSS!
💯, it makes me feel like I’m on the right path when I see comments like this, I’ve had this thought over and over again going through my process and although divorce may not be a big deal to others, it was a big deal to me and in the world that I lived in because of culture and traditions. Thank you for your comment! ❤️
Oh now she wants to be asian 😂
After being married with kid. I know Married is a scam. My husband and my r/s get worse after having kid. I can’t take it anymore. I have tolerated for many years. I’m taking to the next step in divorcing too. I want to live a happy life with my baby. I don’t want my baby and I to be in an abusive marriage anymore. U r doing great. So not bother abt what the social media say. Live for yourself. Be happy. We only live once. This is how life is gonna be. Let’s work hard towards it
100% that role models are needed for the good and the not so good, like divorce. I don’t know if it’s a turn my life will take, but the thought has crossed my mind that I can get through it and be better if it did because I see Chriselle in all her beauty and power and strength killing it after divorce.
Wow thank you for this comment. That is all I hope for- that my story can help someone. Sending you lots of love!
I am so glad to find your youtube channel .. your divorce story touched me too much. I had a divorce for oppressive reasons from my partner’s end. I had to find a way out and after i lived four years suffering from my divorce trauma, i had a health setback and got diagnosed with psychosis. It had been four years now in my journey with my mental illness but i got improved a lot. I wanna say that i feel you and i can relate to every word you’re saying.
I remember when Michelle Phan first introduced you on her channel, that’s when I first heard of you and followed you from there up until now. I loved your fashion tips and enjoyed watching your beautiful family grow. Divorce is a hard thing to go through but I’m happy to see you happy again❤
Same here. I guess I'm late but this gives me hope as a fellow Aries and we have the same birthday 🤯 I'm a few years away from my 30's so idk if this is a sign or what.
watching you rewatching your videos, was the part that made me feel with you so badly. 🥺😢 we're with you Chriselle. You're so loved. ❤
Thank youuuuu, that means alot to me!
ngl Chriselle I had felt so disconnected from you on ig because your divorce hyperfixation and felt like you just need to let that hurt go but listening to you reintroduce yourself and explain yourself here without the box of insta is so much more eye opening and vulnerable that I can’t help but feel ashamed that I even felt that way in the first place. Thank you for your honesty and letting us in once again without the meme-ification of the human experience that tiktok and ig can bring. Now I feel like I really understand why you have been so open about this grueling experience... You've always been real af and now more than ever, stay true to that and keep your head up Queen!
I’m sorry excited and happy for your new chapter. All this time I thought you retire from RUclips because you were living your best married life. Covid does that to a lot of couples. Congrats on the divorce, I feel like people have bad connotations to divorce but divorce is actually realising what doesn’t work and giving you both a chance to live your best life. So glad you’re doing great
Very happy for you! God Bless you and your girls 🙏🏻
My husband just confirmed to me that he wants a divorce and will be filing by the end of the week. I am heartbroken and feel like this pain will never end. But I am trying to stay positive somehow. Thank you for sharing your story.
Chriselle, thank you for your vulnerability! I have followed you since 2012 while going through divorce & being inspired by your family that maybe one day I would have true love. Then during COVID I removed a lot of my following on YT to not be so influenced by perfection! I have missed you dearly and have thought of your beautiful family often. I could only image how big the girls had gotten! You landed in my algorithm today! I’m thrilled you are back. I relate to this chapter of your life so much. I have had one long term relationship since divorcing, but since then am single once again. You’ve always been inspiring do matter what you are going through. Cheers to more life+love! 🥂
This is absolutely the comeback I have been waiting for. I was not married, but escaped a very toxic and mentally abusive engagement and now I'm thriving after 7 years. Here for this new you
Just got divorced last week it was almost smoothing watching this video. Thanks for sharing your journey and validating our decisions! We all deserve happiness no matter what it looks like to the society
As an Asian-American woman, I can somewhat relate to your story. Though I’ve never been married and don’t have children myself, my parents divorced when I was 10 or 11. My sister and I chose to live with our mother. You’re fortunate to be able to co-parent. In my case, our father became so angry that he stopped communicating with me and my sister altogether. Years later, a family friend told my mother that our father died. Initially I briefly cried, but then got upset that I’ll never have the opportunity to prove how successful I’ve become without him. In my 30s, I’ve told my mother how brave and strong she was to leave our abusive father and raise me and my sister on her own. Now that I’m nearly 42, I look after my retired mother. Divorce is always difficult for everybody, but I truly believe that “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”.
i don't think that anger and resentment towards your deceased father is healthy
@@merrittpalmer4349Yeah well, you don’t know what it’s like until you’re in someone else’s shoes. So unless you’re a psychologist or something related to it, your two cents mean nothing. 😒
Good for you. When parent(s) stop being parent(s), family stops being a family. Stay true to your heart. No one has the right to judge you.
@@merrittpalmer4349 If you read the comment, he was abusive and he left them in no-contact because he was angry about the whole situation. The anger and resentment is very valid, it may not be healthy but it's very valid.
you're 42? I clicked on the first video on your channel and in the comments you were arguing with someone telling them you're 20 LOLOL. I'm not surprised you're unmarried because you sound like you have some mental issues.
Hi, Thank you for sharing. I have been following you since before my daughter was born. Currently she is 6. and i am living in a household with a partner of 13 years who is treating me like a servant and is very cruel. Feel trapped because he is my first boyfriend and i dont know anything else. Watching this gives me hope that i will be brave like you to separate and be strong enough to be a role model for my daughter also. Thank you Chriselle xxx
Hey Chriselle! I'm not divorced (in fact just got married) but my parents divorced. I see many encouraging messages about people who divorced and how it was the right decision; from a child's POV, seeing my parents' relationship breakdown yet they still try to stay 'married' was one of the hardest things to deal with growing up. They wanted to 'stay for the children', but in reality it was a build up of resentment, frustration, distrust and all these translated into many things like violence, theft, financial abuse... etc. I don't blame my parents for trying to make it work, but I also wished they realised a little earlier what was their non-negotiables/could not tolerate and would agree to divorce earlier. Tbh my childhood memories are just of them fighting A LOT, and suicide attempts. It wasn't great but I'm glad my parents divorced. If you're worried about what your children may think, take heart that they will grow to be sensible and understand why what you did was best.
Also, I encouraged my mum to date again because I knew she would be lonely... i'm happy that you're seeing someone and that you found courage to give love a second chance. Love you!
Met you in Selfridges in London and you were soo lovely in person. I grew up watching your videos so I’m so happy to see you back. Welcome back!!
Awww thank you, happy to have met you in person!
My divorce took place at the same time as yours. This is exactly how I feel too, and I totally understand what you are going through! We will be okay and we will be better and we will be happier as time goes on. ❤ 화이팅!
Yes we will hun!!! Glad we can relate, it's always good to have people you can relate to. Sending you lots of love!
I never unsubscribed ❤ happy you're back 🎉
Thank you for sharing your truth and struggles. You stated you did not have a role model to follow in their footsteps, but as you post this you have become a role model to normalize that it’s okay to get out of a marriage where there is no longer love. That’s so important, especially in Asian communities where divorce is stigmatized. So thank you Chriselle for being real and sharing your story. The healing has begun and it continues & you are helping others even if you do not realize it 💗
Chriselle we never left❤ I have followed you since Michelle Phan introduced you to us and used to binge watch all your videos, you were always such a role model and I learnt so much from you❤ I actually have a pair of shoes you sold once when you did a closet cleaning i think! Glad to have you back, we're here for you😊
Love you Chriselle Lim🤍 u were the first fashion youtuber i ever subscribed to when i was like 11 years old and now im 23 and still follow you. U were such a role model to me when it came to fashion. I wanted to dress like you so much and start a fashion channel and fashion blog hahaah. I always copied whatever you posted. U impacted my childhood so much & i think thats why im into fashion and styling myself now. We’re always here to support you. Keep thriving❤️
Thank you for your sweet comment and for reminding me why I do this. Lots of hugs to you!
You definitely seem more free, I’m glad you were able to reach this point. 🖤
I'm grateful for all the RUclipsrs who share their lives with me. I have learned so much. At the same time, I never forget they are human so it's great when someone takes time off to sort things out, recover or just rest.
Welcome back 🎉
You know... thank you for coming back and sharing about divorce.. you are right.. no one talks about divorce.. everything has to be perfect and it sucks. That divorce is a "bad thing" no I don't see that.. i mean it sucks for the kids but most of us ( at least me ) didn't have strong parents to be co parents so its pretty nice to see that it's possible and that the new generation showing choices are out there.. u don't have to lose your child.. So thank you very much. I am not expecting your life to be perfect but I can still say your life IS perfect because you are doing what you need to do for you and your girls and that's AWESOME! Keep your spirit high
vulnerability is so admirable. i’m sure you sharing you story and your journey is gonna help out a lot if people navigate their life.
Being real af. Slay.
My rich Asian mom is back! It’s crazy think for how long I’ve followed you on this journey. Wish you nothing but the best!
I’ve been a fan of you since I was in middle/high school. I’m in my late 20s now. 😊 Watching you for such a long time helped me learn that everyone, no matter what age or stage of life you’re at, is always learning and growing. You’re such a role model and someone I truly admire. Thank you for sharing your story!
Same ❤
I’m always appreciative of ppl that I love online sharing some of the hard times with us. It just helps gives hope. I’m so here for this come back. And I congratulate you on being real with yourself and moving from situations that no longer work. I know that jail of staying all too well! Much love ❤️
Girl! We are the same age with similar stories. I get it- divorce isn't easy but it's amazing how much clarity comes afterwards. I'm more intuitive and knowledgeable about life in general. So grateful for your story and courage to share. Welcome back OG!
Thank you for this video! So hard to talk about divorce in the Asian cultures without feeling ashamed. Thank you. Thank you! Ive followed you for a very long time and have always adore you!
Forever our Rich Mom! Rich in wisdom and good advice , kindness and love! Thanks!
Welcome back Chriselle, thank you for always owning your truth and always being real. So many women are going through this, and it's important to have role models and to know we can start over.
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Aww Chriselle❤ Huuuug! Welcome to YT again I'm a fan since ever since lol
Marital problems are hard. no matter the couple choose to call it quit or stay together and restore the relationship, both choices are hard ways…neither one is “easier” than the other 🥺
Can’t wait to see more of your content on YT! 😄
Divorce is not easy by any means, especially when you have children. I've been there. With that said, I'm so happy to see you happy and back on RUclips. 💗
Been a fan of yours for a long time. I really love the way you handled this video. Honestly, I was expecting a deep dive into what broke you guys apart - which if that’s what you wanted, it would have been fine. It’s what most videos are these days. But I think it’s super respectful that you focused on your personal lead up, the thoughts you had, and your aftermath without bashing your ex-partner. It’s been so lovely seeing you glow! So happy for you, always.
I appreciate your comment so so so much, thank you for getting it. The focus will always be what my experience has been in hopes that it can help someone.
We are around the same age, and I'm going through a rough patch in my marriage...not sure what I should do next, and how my decision would affect my kids. I haven't brought this up to my friends and family, so your videos have helped me feel like I'm not all alone ❤ Thank you.
Wow this made me emotional 😊my divorce happened at the same time as yours - I think we got married at the same age as well. It is beyond helpful to see someone reflecting back similar experiences. So happy you are back!!! Can't wait for more.
Welcome baaaack, I missed your RUclips videos so much! Rooting for you always.🥹🥰
Your story gives me great pause & inspiration to become more attuned to my fuller self so welcome back!
so happy to see you back ❤
I honestly appreciate and lowkey LOVE the real real real talk version of Chriselle. Welcome back to YT.
The birthday scenario is me and still me. I'm in that situation now. I have children and waiting for things to get better and they are simply getting worse. I don't know what my future holds as a 38 year mother of 5 but I will be ensuring my kids have the knowledge. I find what you say is pretty essential in this day and age. Thank you ! Keep on rocking 😎
Welcome back to RUclips! Thanks for sharing your story. I think it will help a lot of people, especially to take the shame out of divorce or being divorced.
😢😢divorce takes a lot of courage. I can’t imagine the pain you were going through. Take care and wish you the best!
This is really really wholesome to see you back and feeling more at peace with your life.
Happy you’re back Chriselle! ❤
Ahhh OG to OG ❤
yay!!!! welcome back!
I'm happy to have you see you again on youtube. I went through a rough divorce and it gets better. There is so much life left. Live and enjoy it.
Chriselle. I have been a fan and followed you since Michelle Phan introduced us to you all those years ago! I've always admired you as a woman I want to be. I remember your wedding video (it was beautiful) your miscarriage videos, your fashion tips, all of it! I want you to know how proud I am of you and that I still look up to you and even more so because of how open you are with your life challenges. You make me feel empowered because of it and because how you persevere though it all and still carry yourself with grace. Keep being you and please post a day in the life and get ready with me stuff because you help me get up and get going in the morning! Thank you for being a role model for me all these years (even now in my 30s) , I'm glad you're back on youtube!
Welcome back, Chiselle! I'm an OG subscriber. Glad you're back!
You seem more at ease. Welcome back. Also, you can tell you've been through some sh$t because you swear on camera now. I love it.
Welcome back 🎉 so happy to learn and grow with you again
Wow what a comeback… welcome back @Chriselle Lim we missed you…. Only love for you ❤❤❤❤
Welcome back!!! I LOVE the new Chriselle Lim.
Welcome back Chriselle! 🤍
Welcome back all amazing in these new journey
Thank you for the courage to share this. You're right, nobody talks about the ordeal and the struggles after a divorce. You can be an inspiration for other people who may be going or have gone thru the same thing. Of course, welcome back, I have watched you for a long time and glad to find your energy back on YT.💞
I’m new to your channel. I’m a single mother. My ex and I broke up in my first trimester. I feel so lost and very lonely but There is so many versions of being a family. I did try to force my ex to get back with me just because I wanted the family. It’s best to start this journey alone.
I’ve never been engaged and I’m 34.. I’m not desperate to get married but it does cross my mind a lot. I honestly don’t believe in forever. ❤
Watched you since I was a teenager when Michelle Phan introduced you onto her channel. I'm in my late 20s now. Welcome back and can't wait for your next chapter in life
She’s back!!! ❤
Welcome to your reboot season. You were EXTREMELY missed. You've got 11k views over 4 hours. We all have been waiting.
I am so happy your back!! Currently going through a divorce and have small children and this video gives me hope. Thank you
You're such a brave woman, welcome back to RUclips. I have been waiting for you for 2 years.
All the best to you Chriselle! Been following you for the past 10 years. You are a strong woman
Thank you so much ❤
I personally have to say I didn’t think you portrayed your family as the perfect family. I didn’t see it that way but I do think you did a great job with sharing in a way that we felt included. You made us feel like family as well. Whatever happens I just want you to be happy.
Thank you so much!
I just want to say, “Hell, yeah!” Welcome back!
All the love to you ❤ Thank you for you ❤ Thank you for sharing ❤ Thanking for coming back to RUclips ❤
I'm not divorce and i hope i never will be. But i knew from the start that divorce is the hardest part of a marriage. I cannot imagine having to battle every little things out. The family of your partner becomes your family too, so i also can't imagine not having them in my life anymore especially the nieces and nephew that i love from his side of the family. Tangible object can be separated or sold, but all the intangible, how does one even split that. This is why it is an extremely difficult process that no on ever want to go through when they first got married. I hope you are really ok now and that you found peace.
OMG. You are back on youtube?
So happy to meet again like old friends.
Resubscribed! I used to binge watch you. Your content is genuine and has always been entertaining to watch. Welcome back 😘
Welcome back! I never left actually so still subscribed if you're picking up your old channel.
Welcome back my dearest 🥺 I missed the old vids
Dear Chriselle, welcome back :) We never unsubscribed :) And please, bring on the lessons - finished or unfinished from the shitty times. I think everyone needs some inspiration from time to time on how to deal with some situations. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability
So excited you are back! I have been watching you since the very beginning. I do miss your old videos tho. There is so many from years ago that I loved to watch
Thank you love!!!
@@ChriselleLim will you ever post some of original videos or is there a specific reason why you took them down? Not trying to badger but I just loved them ❤️
Welcome back!!!! ❤❤🎉🎉😊😊
Thank you❤
Thanks for sharing Chriselle ❤️
I am 35 going through a divorce too. It is never easy even when you are the one who calls it… and not everyone can empathize your situation.
You have been doing so well ✨🤍 Keep slaying x
Love to see the authentic side of u ❤
unhappy marriage is like a hell for me, and there was fears when you want to fix it up and meaning let's break up, but after all life is still as beautiful as it has to be.
So brave - thanks for sharing. I’d love to see some of your old videos… ❤
You are strong, You are smart, You are beautiful, You are a star, You are a good mother, You are Chriselle. Thank you for sharing your life with us. Welcome back and never dim your light.
Hi Chriselle, been following since the beginning. It feels like you never left. Even though you've developed and flourished, your core has never changed. Love the most x
You are so sweet, thank you for this!
I admire you so much Chriselle! Love to watch you come so far and I appreciate your openness! Sharing such a sensitive time and your life with us has been so important and helpful in ways I can’t express. Coming from parents who are older or immigrants I understand the previous concept of divorce but we need more successful female role models like you to show us reality and what to do if plans change as they often do ❤
I've watched you since before your marriage. You feel like a wiser sister to me. Thanks for coming back to youtube Chriselle!
sending u love hunny
It’s really not easy
I’m so happy to see you again!!!!! WELCOME BACK CHRISELLE!!!!! 💜🎊🥳
Thank youuuuu! I'm happy to be back!
FINALLLLLYYYYYYY!! Welcome back!!💕
I totally resonated with everything you said and went through, as I too, decided to divorce my children’s dad back in 2018. It was the toughest decision, but yet the best thing I ever did for myself and my kids. I still have low days, but for the most part, I’m grateful that we both have moved on from the past. Now we are coparenting in a cordially way for our kids.
I am now a much happier person and mommy! And my kids can definitely see and feel it!
We got this!! We are much STRONGER 💪🏻 than we think we are! I’m glad you to see you back on the driver’s seat and taking control of the steering wheel! You are doing a wonderful job with your girls!! Welcome back Chriselle!! ❤️🦋
#selfcare #selflove #makingnewmemories
men, never marry these entitled women.. Remember, divorce is initiated by the woman 90% of the time. They will NEVER be happy.
WELCOME BACK! We've missed you
Welcome Back Chriselle! 🤩🎉🎊💖
Life is full of challenging chapters. It takes courage to be vulnerable. Thank you for sharing your journey. It is heart-warming, and interesting to listen to what you were really thinking, feeling and experiencing at the time as well as what your perspective of all of it is now. Sending you lots of love x 🫂🤗
Been a follower since the beginning, I admire your courage and vulnerability. Thanks for being so open and looking forward to seeing Chris 2.0! 🎉
You r right. This video can help a lot of women who need an example to follow.
We all have choices in life. We sabotage ourselves by putting too much preassure on ourselves and by stressing over mental deadlines. Life always gives us unexpected challenges and obstacles. But eventhough life can sometimes be unfair, we have to be fair.
Chrisselle, I am glad you are back ❤ Yes, your life reflections are inspiring to me and I am sure to many others ❤😗
So glad to see you well and back!!!! Did not unsubscribe the past 2 years hoping you’d be back. Now you are!!!!! Yay!
Thank you for not unsubscribingggggg! Sending lots of love!
Thank you for sharing this video. I can relate so much as I decided to end my marriage last year Nov. It has been almost a year but probably the happiest time I have felt for the past 10 years. Looking back, the struggles, the misery, the unhappiness deep down, the conflicting feeling of wanting to free myself but feeling guilty of separating a family that looks "perfect" from outside... Once we had the courage to turn that page, a new chapter begins with bright light shining through. Wish everyone who went through, and is going through this process the best, and know that Universe has your back:)