As an ISFP whenever i get Mad at someone I’ll be extremely passive agressive. For me the tone of the voice and a polite request matter a lot. If someone’s rude to me or criticizes me or i’m mad at them I’ll do the exactly what i know it’ll piss them off. And can get really mean with words. I am a pretty much of a people pleaser and pretty go with the flow but if someone asks me to do something in a very rude way or continue to insist on things i dont want to do at all I’ll do the exact opposite thing just for the sake of pissing them off. And i definitely have a habit of making things worse because i hate conflicts and instead of actually standing up for myself and being straightforward I’ll do the things to piss people off. I am also guilty of simply avoiding people instead of adressing what’s wrong. I usually get Mad when people try to control me criticize me or tryna invade my personal space.
Same, and I end up having problems with anyone that has authority over me at work for this reason. It happens again and again. Never get along with managers for too long 😂
@@masteraxe1453 Disagree, Te/Se grip indicates that the user is a feeler/intuitive- dom. Fi/Ni dom are extremly conscious about their actions and values. So I guess in terms of dangerous it would be self inflicting instead of a more destructive to the surrounding environment, other humans mostly found in those who lack empathy/acknowledging oneself needs which translates to others.
@@Icantfeeeeeelit idk man in te grip I become pretty critical, harsh, and aggressive. If anyone gets in my way I used to actually be willing to hurt them and completely detatch from my emotions and empathy. I also can be argumentative af, like all the time, especially if I have a gut feeling like it's wrong or dishonest. I become very bluntly mean and cruel, vein, and sometimes hellbent on destroying who or whatever set foot in my internal blast zone. As a kid, I'd cuss at teachers and other students who approached me viewing everyone around me as "fake robots with no brains or souls" and I'd often get into physical fights over disagreements with other students. I piss people off because although those moments where unhealthy and not very admirable or respectable, I was generally driven in the right direction. I always behaved out of a desire to stay true to myself and to not become like everyone around me. I've always felt up against the whole world, like I'm protecting my mind and soul from a world that wants to take it from me. I individualize and seperate myself from everything and everyone as much as possible, and everything I wear, say, or do, is completely original and from the bottom of my heart. I listen and feel the world with my whole body and mind, whole simultaneously trying to keep it pure and authentic, constantly antagonistic to everything as a side effect of that desire.
@@Raphsophomes yes but how much of conscious wake time are you spending in Te grip? A few times a day, once a day? Once a week? But I get what your saying, the part of detaching from the emotions and bursting out.
Something like that. Something like we judge everyone that makes a mistake and until we solve the problem we cannot stop being passive agressive. Once we solve something, we go back to our usual antics and start to apologize or feel bad about ourselves.
Saying things for shock value/dropping bombs is another inferior Te thing. INFPs also use this (without the passive aggression) to carve their stance out. It comes from Fi stubbornness and the desire to prove no one can control you.
@pixieminx86 While I was reading your comment I couldn't help to hear the words of Darth Vader from E6, when he tells Luke, shortly after his surrender on Endor: "The Emperor will show you the true nature of the Force. He is you master now." ;)
Yes the shock value thing. Interestingly Keirsey attributed it to being an unhealthy SP. But Jung attributed it to Fi types in the grip of Te. Either way it applies to me.
Oooh, good one. Another inferior Te thing is her South America plan. In a Te grip, it feels urgently important to have a plan and keep moving forward, even if the plan is awful and you hate it. 😐 ( I know this as an INFP.)
@@tatemitchell1479 Oh no 😢 Sometimes when I've been a grip, I felt like I had to prove something. So, for whatever it's worth, you don't have to prove anything. Take your time and take care of yourself 🥰
Thank you for this series, it's so much better to see Grip examples in action! Please consider doing a Loop series in the future, I think you'd nail it ;)
yeah when were stressed we go autistic and go "play dead" cuz its too overwhelming to be there. ISFP women do NOT want to be dominated, it makes us very unhappy and eventually will end in disaster
I love your series of types in the Grip! I’ve been showing them to my friend who is an ENFP. I think a good movie with an ENFP in the Grip is Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. Clementine is my favorite example of an ENFP!
@@user-hm9uq8gk5x It would be wrong for me to say anything in a public forum. I thought we had great times together, and there is a beginning and an end to everything in this world where nothing lasts. There were great times and stagnating bad times. 10/10 I would do it again.
Restless, defiant and self destructive...Yes that's me when I'm down. I'm an angry, wandering loner in the grip of Te. I'll drink too much and walk around the city. Sometimes I yell at people, especially men.
wow this is so accurate. as an infp I am always sort of afraid to speak and divulge what I REALLY FEEL AND WHAT I REALLY WANNA SAY in an argument because of how in depth I know I can go. I can really do damage.
Grip functions always fascinates me because the worst in everyone is so different. I am usually bold straight forward and plan my decisions tactfully due to my high Te but when I'm under stress, I get so caught up in the negative I become paranoid and in the worst scenario breakdown due to inferior Ne(istj). For the Isfp and Infps its the other way around but of course since its not their natural preferred state the Te will cause more harm than good.
I think I was in a Te grip today. I was in a very stressed out mood and was kinda rude and bossy to the lady at the store I was also franticish stressful times it has been I said I was sorry thought but yeah my Te is awful. I'm ISFP
I was typed several times as an isfp but I use my inferior Te way too much, probably why I always end up with my energy drained and super stressed. I dont act passive aggressive, just aggressive aggressive, maybe I'm just an unhealthy isfp
I'm not passive aggressive whatsoever. If I'm mad at you, you either get tf out of my way or get on my level and speak to me. If your wrong then get tf out of my way, If your leveling with me then I'll completely forget about it. But if I'm in te grip, I become harsh, critical, and extremely overly focused on making something work, and I will not regard your safety, happiness, or perception me whatsoever.
@@nicolaemadalinboboc6704 No, I'm an Enfp and we have this awkward sorta goofiness. We look a bit like airheads or jokesters. She is far too graceful, isfp's and infj's are most graceful and elegant.
Being introverted/extroverted in mbti means that your primary cognitive function is introverted/extroverted. Not that you as a person are one of these.
Hahahaha yes, I acted that way recently in that fluttery kind oF " i'm going to ignore u "type of speech& behavior ressembling like that of a gazelle slipping away as my mother was acting controlling over things which I wanted freedom to be done my own way.
Isn't Te a status and credibility focused function. Not really logical more common sense, getting info from outside sources. If Te is inferior, she would be insecure about her status and the grip would probably come from being scared about what people think of her. She was prob hurt by the fact that the man she was going to marry thought she wasn't good enough. Isfp's are easily my fav type, the FI-SE-NI combo makes them naturally talented it seems. All f types are great though, love emotional people.
Lol I haven't seen anyone say that they like emotional people. Believe me you don't want to be around us when our intense emotions get in the way. There are a lot of times where I thought something was true but it wasn't. It was just how I perceived it, for example people critisizing me and me thinking they really are out to get me or when someone does something good for me and I get suspicious about their intentions. I hate that about my type.
Who am I more ISFP / INFP? When I'm stressed, I first pretend to be "dead" because I realize that nothing good will come of my aggression and I try to suppress it and distract myself. Most often, being distracted, I can suppress it (at this moment I withdraw into myself or away from a person or something else that caused stress, but if this something starts to invade me or belittle me, I become very aggressive and arrogant in extreme cases, I can even I become like a soldier, straightforward, accurate. After bright aggression, I can be sarcastic for a while. After those grip, I can begin to regret or even cry through anger or violently deny until the last feeling. But then I will still become sentimental. In such a state, I threw out the pot with my favorite plant, then, coming to my senses, I cried for about ten minutes. This is te grip? What you think i am more like isfp or infp?
I got in a car accident today and instead of crying/or being understanding of the other party's mistake, I lashed out and almost threw up fists and yelled some obscenities at them :D
Hey Sara. Could you maybe take a look on the main character of the film Victoria? It was a more recent movie that is about a Spanish girl living in Germany. I believe that the character Victoria is definitely an ISFP.
as a female isfp I am sure I'm not the only one but I adore my Te inferior, honestly it's my alter ego and I get alot of shit done with it. makes me feel like some unstoppable powerful force and all the anger really deems useful when managed properly, not just lashing out around with it fruitlessly, honestly it's like waking up the next morning from a hardcore night with a bad hangover, wich too I am guilty of and I apologize for all the strangers I must've punched in the face due to bad assumptions and overall disintegration. other than that, yeah, it's def needed sometimes.
yeah i feel like my te is the competitive part of me and deep down i can always sense it i think when it combines with fi which makes me choose what makes ME happy at all costs te is the one that fuels me to decide that thing making me happy and really go for it
She doesn't trust that the man can really love her. There must be something behind this, he is not who he saids he is or something. The plan is to escape to south-America ( this is not going to happen of course ). No-one ever loves her the one that saids so must be some kind of conman. This is the thing that happens if you are in fi-ni loop not using so much of the te at all. I thought I was enfp for a long time because I don't use any logic but I know I can think logically if I absolutely have to. And using se is sometimes happening, but mostly not. The se likes shiny things but forgets to buy toiletpaper. The fi-ni loop asks herself what does it matter to this man if I move long away. She doesn't believe the man is in love her and that makes the man upset. I don't know if anyone can really understand what I mean, but this was a classical example of how isfp thinks
In my experience it's usually more ragy than this. Here's a good example of (I believe) ISFP getting into Te mode, caused by his values being threatened: ruclips.net/video/OP9ArKYGvD4/видео.html
As an ISFP whenever i get Mad at someone I’ll be extremely passive agressive. For me the tone of the voice and a polite request matter a lot. If someone’s rude to me or criticizes me or i’m mad at them I’ll do the exactly what i know it’ll piss them off. And can get really mean with words. I am a pretty much of a people pleaser and pretty go with the flow but if someone asks me to do something in a very rude way or continue to insist on things i dont want to do at all I’ll do the exact opposite thing just for the sake of pissing them off.
And i definitely have a habit of making things worse because i hate conflicts and instead of actually standing up for myself and being straightforward I’ll do the things to piss people off. I am also guilty of simply avoiding people instead of adressing what’s wrong. I usually get Mad when people try to control me criticize me or tryna invade my personal space.
Same, and I end up having problems with anyone that has authority over me at work for this reason. It happens again and again. Never get along with managers for too long 😂
Same tho im an infj
Same with infp here💙
@Maurice Justus OK bot
You dont deserve to have friends
If I'm not mistaken, Te grip is like EVERYONE NEEDS TO GET THE F--- OUT OF MY WAY.
Pretty much. Te grip or Se grip seems to be the most dangerous of all.
@@masteraxe1453 Disagree, Te/Se grip indicates that the user is a feeler/intuitive- dom. Fi/Ni dom are extremly conscious about their actions and values. So I guess in terms of dangerous it would be self inflicting instead of a more destructive to the surrounding environment, other humans mostly found in those who lack empathy/acknowledging oneself needs which translates to others.
@@Icantfeeeeeelit idk man in te grip I become pretty critical, harsh, and aggressive. If anyone gets in my way I used to actually be willing to hurt them and completely detatch from my emotions and empathy. I also can be argumentative af, like all the time, especially if I have a gut feeling like it's wrong or dishonest. I become very bluntly mean and cruel, vein, and sometimes hellbent on destroying who or whatever set foot in my internal blast zone. As a kid, I'd cuss at teachers and other students who approached me viewing everyone around me as "fake robots with no brains or souls" and I'd often get into physical fights over disagreements with other students. I piss people off because although those moments where unhealthy and not very admirable or respectable, I was generally driven in the right direction. I always behaved out of a desire to stay true to myself and to not become like everyone around me. I've always felt up against the whole world, like I'm protecting my mind and soul from a world that wants to take it from me. I individualize and seperate myself from everything and everyone as much as possible, and everything I wear, say, or do, is completely original and from the bottom of my heart. I listen and feel the world with my whole body and mind, whole simultaneously trying to keep it pure and authentic, constantly antagonistic to everything as a side effect of that desire.
@@Raphsophomes yes but how much of conscious wake time are you spending in Te grip? A few times a day, once a day? Once a week? But I get what your saying, the part of detaching from the emotions and bursting out.
Something like that. Something like we judge everyone that makes a mistake and until we solve the problem we cannot stop being passive agressive. Once we solve something, we go back to our usual antics and start to apologize or feel bad about ourselves.
Saying things for shock value/dropping bombs is another inferior Te thing. INFPs also use this (without the passive aggression) to carve their stance out. It comes from Fi stubbornness and the desire to prove no one can control you.
poppies128
Watch my example for Infp too :) I think you may like it 😆
@pixieminx86 While I was reading your comment I couldn't help to hear the words of Darth Vader from E6, when he tells Luke, shortly after his surrender on Endor: "The Emperor will show you the true nature of the Force. He is you master now." ;)
Yes the shock value thing. Interestingly Keirsey attributed it to being an unhealthy SP. But Jung attributed it to Fi types in the grip of Te. Either way it applies to me.
Oooh, good one. Another inferior Te thing is her South America plan. In a Te grip, it feels urgently important to have a plan and keep moving forward, even if the plan is awful and you hate it. 😐 ( I know this as an INFP.)
Ah jeez this is me rn (ISFP)
@@tatemitchell1479 Oh no 😢 Sometimes when I've been a grip, I felt like I had to prove something. So, for whatever it's worth, you don't have to prove anything. Take your time and take care of yourself 🥰
@@appletree6898 thanks, I’m working on it! Same to you 💖
Hm? "Solving" emotional restlessness with Ni sounds more like ISFP thing to do rather than INFP
@@letsreadtextbook1687 If it were a legit Ni plan, it wouldn't be a Te grip expression
Thank you for this series, it's so much better to see Grip examples in action! Please consider doing a Loop series in the future, I think you'd nail it ;)
Sanda Mayca
Thank you for this wonderful comment 💜
I have an isfp friend. She's away more often than she's home. Loves freedom.
What are u?
I’m always at home but when I’m out I’m OUT 😂
I believe I am a isfp. I got angry just watching this video.
yeah me too!! Im isfp
Can you give me more information? I'm interested lol
Can you help me understand you, ... why? 😍
ISFP male here
yeah when were stressed we go autistic and go "play dead" cuz its too overwhelming to be there. ISFP women do NOT want to be dominated, it makes us very unhappy and eventually will end in disaster
0:20 ISFP in inferior grip getting on others for the things they hate most about themselves.
Yay! Finally! Something that would be interesting to see is what type the other person causing stress is.
Therese Francis
I am still not sure about his type but he seems like Entj to me :)
Thank you for watching 💕
I'm just watching this through the screen but dang Paul stresses me out
He is so wrong for her but this is a Hollywood movie so in Hollywood they are perfect for one another.
Me too and I am an INTP. Dude needs to let go for real.
I love your series of types in the Grip! I’ve been showing them to my friend who is an ENFP. I think a good movie with an ENFP in the Grip is Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. Clementine is my favorite example of an ENFP!
monpetitchouxpastry
I love that movie too :)
Thank you so much 💕
I (ENTP) dated a couple of ISFPs over the past 8 years or so - this really brings back memories of the difficult times
I would love to know more omg sometimes I considered trying ENTPs
@@user-hm9uq8gk5x It would be wrong for me to say anything in a public forum. I thought we had great times together, and there is a beginning and an end to everything in this world where nothing lasts. There were great times and stagnating bad times. 10/10 I would do it again.
1:18 - 1:25 me when someone I'm mad at tries to talk to me
Alyssa Graves
Are you an Isfp? :)
Yes
Restless, defiant and self destructive...Yes that's me when I'm down. I'm an angry, wandering loner in the grip of Te. I'll drink too much and walk around the city. Sometimes I yell at people, especially men.
Can I ask you something? What are isfp people like in love?
T T just really into it
damn .. that's me right now
wow this is so accurate. as an infp I am always sort of afraid to speak and divulge what I REALLY FEEL AND WHAT I REALLY WANNA SAY in an argument because of how in depth I know I can go.
I can really do damage.
Grip functions always fascinates me because the worst in everyone is so different. I am usually bold straight forward and plan my decisions tactfully due to my high Te but when I'm under stress, I get so caught up in the negative I become paranoid and in the worst scenario breakdown due to inferior Ne(istj). For the Isfp and Infps its the other way around but of course since its not their natural preferred state the Te will cause more harm than good.
I think I was in a Te grip today. I was in a very stressed out mood and was kinda rude and bossy to the lady at the store I was also franticish stressful times it has been I said I was sorry thought but yeah my Te is awful. I'm ISFP
Same I tend to get passive aggressive when I’m in Te too
you are not alone. the Te grip has us in shackles of negativity but at the same time helps us to focus on organization.
I was typed several times as an isfp but I use my inferior Te way too much, probably why I always end up with my energy drained and super stressed. I dont act passive aggressive, just aggressive aggressive, maybe I'm just an unhealthy isfp
Sounds like Jade from victorious lol
Same
Can definitely relate to having the urge to right wrongs but making things worse.
thank you so much for posting this video! this fits me so much
love and flowers
Thank you for watching and commenting 💕
I'm not passive aggressive whatsoever. If I'm mad at you, you either get tf out of my way or get on my level and speak to me. If your wrong then get tf out of my way, If your leveling with me then I'll completely forget about it. But if I'm in te grip, I become harsh, critical, and extremely overly focused on making something work, and I will not regard your safety, happiness, or perception me whatsoever.
Audrey was playing an extrovert in this movie. She said in an interview how difficult it was to play because naturally shes introverted
I think she still comes off as introverted because she has a hard time living in the "real" world as opposed to her ideal world.
xLonewolf Truman Capote (who wrote the book) wanted Marilyn Monroe for Holly.
The "ideal" world aspect would be more N imo.
Always saw her character as ENFP.
@@nicolaemadalinboboc6704 No, I'm an Enfp and we have this awkward sorta goofiness. We look a bit like airheads or jokesters. She is far too graceful, isfp's and infj's are most graceful and elegant.
Being introverted/extroverted in mbti means that your primary cognitive function is introverted/extroverted. Not that you as a person are one of these.
My isfp friend is going to Alaska .. she just came back from Honduras
Those interpretations/explanations are spot on ! :D
Hahahaha yes, I acted that way recently in that fluttery kind oF " i'm going to ignore u "type of speech& behavior ressembling like that of a gazelle slipping away as my mother was acting controlling over things which I wanted freedom to be done my own way.
Isn't Te a status and credibility focused function. Not really logical more common sense, getting info from outside sources. If Te is inferior, she would be insecure about her status and the grip would probably come from being scared about what people think of her. She was prob hurt by the fact that the man she was going to marry thought she wasn't good enough.
Isfp's are easily my fav type, the FI-SE-NI combo makes them naturally talented it seems. All f types are great though, love emotional people.
Lol I haven't seen anyone say that they like emotional people. Believe me you don't want to be around us when our intense emotions get in the way. There are a lot of times where I thought something was true but it wasn't. It was just how I perceived it, for example people critisizing me and me thinking they really are out to get me or when someone does something good for me and I get suspicious about their intentions. I hate that about my type.
Also you are right about the Te inferior being afraid of what people think of us and worrying about our status and reputation.
Love these videos!!!
Andrea Barr
Thank you so much :)) 💞
Who am I more ISFP / INFP? When I'm stressed, I first pretend to be "dead" because I realize that nothing good will come of my aggression and I try to suppress it and distract myself. Most often, being distracted, I can suppress it (at this moment I withdraw into myself or away from a person or something else that caused stress, but if this something starts to invade me or belittle me, I become very aggressive and arrogant in extreme cases, I can even I become like a soldier, straightforward, accurate. After bright aggression, I can be sarcastic for a while. After those grip, I can begin to regret or even cry through anger or violently deny until the last feeling. But then I will still become sentimental. In such a state, I threw out the pot with my favorite plant, then, coming to my senses, I cried for about ten minutes. This is te grip? What you think i am more like isfp or infp?
is "dead" a metaphor or do you literally play dead bc im kinda confused
what i think based on your comment is youre probably an ISFP
I got in a car accident today and instead of crying/or being understanding of the other party's mistake, I lashed out and almost threw up fists and yelled some obscenities at them :D
Holly is not an introvert. She’s an extrovert. Enfp or esfp. Audrey Hepburn said so in an interview after she filmed the movie.
yeah he;s being really demanding while never addressing the problem. thats very rude
Hey Sara. Could you maybe take a look on the main character of the film Victoria? It was a more recent movie that is about a Spanish girl living in Germany. I believe that the character Victoria is definitely an ISFP.
I thought she was an ENFP!
Greek Gallavich Love she is
Can you please do a video on enfj female - isfp male interactions/romantic relationships
@Emperor Guardiola why not? ENFJ/ISFP is said to be an ideal pairing
@Emperor Guardiola for someone who thinks typology is bullshit, you certainly have time on your hands to be watching and commenting on typology videos
@Emperor Guardiola Oh. My bad
Lol yes I see myself here. Kitty can scratch.
When I'm angry, I will act extremely defiant.. I don't like it but it's a defence mechanism.
What's the name of the series
Thank you! :)
Eylül Zeynep Güngör
Thank you for watching this video 😆💕
as a female isfp I am sure I'm not the only one but I adore my Te inferior, honestly it's my alter ego and I get alot of shit done with it. makes me feel like some unstoppable powerful force and all the anger really deems useful when managed properly, not just lashing out around with it fruitlessly, honestly it's like waking up the next morning from a hardcore night with a bad hangover, wich too I am guilty of and I apologize for all the strangers I must've punched in the face due to bad assumptions and overall disintegration. other than that, yeah, it's def needed sometimes.
yeah i feel like my te is the competitive part of me and deep down i can always sense it i think when it combines with fi which makes me choose what makes ME happy at all costs te is the one that fuels me to decide that thing making me happy and really go for it
You guys have actually learned how to harness your Te and I’m jealous
Jk I just have some work to do. Well done to you both! 💖
I wish you had put the video clip name in discription
is this applying to infps also?
Not exactly. She also has another video on INFP's Te grip in her channel.
Imo INFP's Ne prevent that sort of passive-aggressiveness.
She doesn't trust that the man can really love her. There must be something behind this, he is not who he saids he is or something. The plan is to escape to south-America ( this is not going to happen of course ). No-one ever loves her the one that saids so must be some kind of conman. This is the thing that happens if you are in fi-ni loop not using so much of the te at all. I thought I was enfp for a long time because I don't use any logic but I know I can think logically if I absolutely have to. And using se is sometimes happening, but mostly not. The se likes shiny things but forgets to buy toiletpaper. The fi-ni loop asks herself what does it matter to this man if I move long away. She doesn't believe the man is in love her and that makes the man upset. I don't know if anyone can really understand what I mean, but this was a classical example of how isfp thinks
Watching this video is like being kangana ranauts personal manager
What movie is this?
She is an ISFP and he is an ENTP or an ESTP or an ENTJ or an ESTJ.
or an ISTJ or INTJ or ISTP on INTP
Yep. But i also tend to shut up and talk on a very condescending tone
Okay but that guy is fucking scary
Whats his type?
In my experience it's usually more ragy than this. Here's a good example of (I believe) ISFP getting into Te mode, caused by his values being threatened: ruclips.net/video/OP9ArKYGvD4/видео.html
Captain-K'nuckles perfect
She was super extroverted though as Holly. Are there any outgoing ISFPs that have a lot of friends and host parties at their house?
Yess. They do I have ISFP friend and they can act like ESFPs just a little more naive ig
What movie is this from?
Breakfast at Tiffany's 1961
What's the movie?
Karin Kishimei
Breakfast at Tiffanys :)
Audrey hepburn is an infp not an isfp 😊
omg this is sooo me and my bf
They just can’t do logic.
Who's ISFP - Hepburn or the guy?
Emmanuel U Hepburn obviously
Who is the ISFP?
SFPs are so unhealthy
c o r Any type can be unhealthy, it's not particularly type related
Well. SORRY