Yes I got married for the first time at 43 with the narc I said to myself “ well I guess this is what marriage is, I need to understand him” I’m now divorced after 15 years I’m free and happy because I Am now educated about narcissism Thank you!
Showing love snd compassion to a narcisist is basically giving them a green light to take you down the road of psychotic abuse. They don't associate with with people with boundaries because they know they can't destroy them. They purposely seek out vulnerable empaths.
It's really painful to realize that narcissists can't and won't change and will only get worse. Also realizing that the only thing you can do to save yourself is to get them out of your life, go no contact and move on. That was so hard for me. Took many tries but I finally went no contact. Best thing I ever did. They are still trying to hoover me back into their madness but I will continue to stand strong. I have had enough. No more.
Same was so hard for me but I had to. I get hoovers too even though he moved on instantly and got her pregnant. Was so hard to ignore messages but he was evil.
I want to do the same but I can’t, I introduced her to all my circle, friends and family. If I cut her off, she will try to confront me we all of them, and I’m not strong enough for that right now 😢
You gotta separate yourself from narcissists or limit interactions as much as possible. Once they target you they will always find a way to undermine those boundaries.
My spouse cannot handle finances. When I try to talk to him about saving money, paying bills he starts yelling and screaming at me. Last time was so bad I was shaking. I'm 64 and can't take this anymore. His lala land is everything will be fine even though he has almost no retirement. I should add after this one I can barely stand to look at him.
Absolutely. I used to be The Rescuer, people pleasing Rescuer, a setup for narcissist magnet. I never fixed one! Thankfully we have these informative compassionate videos to help folks such as us. Thank you for your hard work Petra.
This video is so spot on. Every single red flag is applicable to my mom. The out of portion punishment, the criticism, the arrogance, the projection onto other people. I needed this reminder of why I have no contact with my narcissistic mother. She reached out to me after 4 years of the silent treatment. I know in my heart that it has nothing to do with reconciliation with me but using me to “fix” her current situation. I am choosing not to go there literally. No letters, no phone calls etc. As you said this time of the year is hard. It would be even harder emotionally in the long term if I was to allow her back into my life. Thank you again for this timely reminder.
Over a year since I went no contact , and if anyone out there is struggling post discard I just want them to know that although the road might feel endless you will reach your destination ! The narcissists thinks you will shrivel away to nothing without them , but it's actually the opposite that is true , you become a much stronger , defined and centred soul , who will be able to detect and avoid any new toxic or abusive entanglements moving forward xx
Asking them to heal is basically asking them to take responsibility for their actions and behaviour. Narcissistic people can’t and won’t do this. They would have to do something about themselves and accept they are no one else’s responsibility.
Thank you dear Petra! Your videos are ALWAYS spot on! Especially those concerning narcissistic friendships. Thanks to you I haven’t reached out to this narcissistic friend for almost 6 months now (I have been discarded and hoovered back in once by this person but now I made the final decision to move on) you are my hero Petra. Looking forward to more videos about narcissistic friendships and the aftermath of this all❤️
If you sense someone is narc you're probably right. Dont even bother with boundaries just avoid completely. Complete cut off is the only response to these evil things. They have no conscience no morals no values they live to use and abuse. Emotional financial and sexual.
One thing that is important to know is that the narc lives in a constant state of solitary confinement. There are no people in the narcs world only things to be used. The only thing that gives a narcs evil life meaning is abuse. Without it they are nothing.
It's not all loss when you walk away ! In a bid to impress me or make me feel LESS , over the years my narc had introduced me to lots of people and things I would never have known about , and in doing so had inadvertently broadened my horizons ! Although they thought they were the soul castonnian of many of these things , they weren't , and when I left I was able to keep the things I liked and integrate them into my new life , whist still discarding the bits I didn't like ! In a way it has been a bit like a small revenge for all the mind games and devaluing I had suffered at their hands !! They like to think they own the world , because they HAVE to be important , but they don't , they are small , deluded , empty dark damaged tiny souls !
My God this is 💯 accurate. I was married to one for 17 years. Too much to go into but everything you have said is accurate. Hyper critical, no empathy, no mercy, total victim mentality, selfish to the point of destruction of anyone in her way no matter who they are, never ever admits wrong. Can’t believe I fell for it and put up with it for so long.
Relationships with a narcissist are always transactionel. What you can do for me ,then I might do something for you. When you leave the relationship, they can’t believe it and will not accept it. It will be difficult because they are no. Longer in control. Also, there are different levels of narcissism, and the subtle forms are so much harder do deal with. You may not know you’re involved with one until your feeling really upset or repulsed by their behavior.
That is the biological mother in a nutshell!! Sadly she passed it down to her first daughter, her first grand child and second son. They are all UNBEARABLE to be around for longer than 3 minutes.
I love your description of a boundary using a garden. I have struggled with this concept but it makes sense that you wouldn’t want someone coming in and ruining your beautiful space! Thank you!
Petra, you hit the nail on the head with this one. Wow. I clicked on this video on a whim and could not believe how accurate the message was. Wow. This resonated with me in soooo many ways. My brain automatically defaults to thinking, wanting, and expecting the best in people but have truly been disappointed time and time again from the same toxic patterns. You’re right, there are certainly patterns. Please continue this much needed work you’re doing. 👍🏾
The narcissist acts just as you describe. In addition, she also keeps the house dark by closing the curtains, blinds, and shades all the time. She sleeps with dark bedding and frequently wears sunglasses. Of course, I let the light in by opening the window coverings. They are really sick people, behaving much much like a virus, in that you don't know you've been infected until you start to suffer. However, use the useful knowledge you've gained from channels like this one to fight back.
Dear Petra, I wrote to you two and a half years ago and thank you for your advice on some of my toxic sisters. 26 years ago I was married to a toxic ex-husband I left after 6 years of mental abuse, but I didn't realise then my friend of 26 years was just as toxic, we had a break from our friendship, 8 months later I let her back in so that way she couldn't say I didn't try, it only took just over 12 months to turn back into a narcissist, after her interrogating me over something that was none of her business, I rang her the next day and told her I had to be honest that I did not want her in my life anymore that it was no longer working for me then I blocked her from my phone, these people never change, I loved her at one stage, but in the end I love and respect myself more.
🙋🏻♀️ I am here because I see the same patterns of befriending a narcissist in each stages of my school life up to adulthood. We always ended up falling out, and I never knew that they’re narcissist up until recently, I just thought they have similar behavior/personality that kept pulling me in.. during the early days they’d make me feel special, like I was their new precious friend who’s being let into their world. But the falling out starts when they don’t really listen to my stories but instead listen to reply/respond, they keep talking about their multiple love interests and being overly jealous over women who are close to them, they went bonkers whenever I don’t do their requests right away, point out their good and what they did for me, AND the turning point was always when they use my vulnerability to hurt me. I thought this was “a test” for me to overcome people who have similar traits, but apparently I am trapped in again and again to similar toxic people. No matter how hard I try I never could understand the selfishness and self-centeredness they posses, and now I know I don’t have to be friends with them anymore. Their lives aren’t mine and I am free to create boundaries.
Ha ha. I was thinking of a person who was constantly compelled to bring stress and irritation and pain. I thought, "She can't be peaceful or content, therefore needs to steal these feelings from me, by any means possible." Then you said the same thing. What's telling is she only pulls her games on those she thinks will put up with it. She was wrong about me in the end. I really appreciate your perspective. Thank you. Thank you. Happy full moon (eclipse) on this day. Thank you.
Petra, this is the first time I watch your videos. OMG. You are so accurate. I have felt really understood for the very first time. My husband is just like you describe. So cruel, so evil. Thanks God I was discarded 10 months ago. I am very lucky to get rid of him. My six-year-old daughter and I live peacefully without his evil presence. I'm in low contact, because no contact seems impossible having one child in common. Thank you for your videos. Your voice is so soothing that it gives so much peace to my heart. Thank you!
Love the the tone of your voice, Petra! Very comforting and easy to absorb. Thank you for sharing and caring about us! Truly appreciate your knowledge and guidance through this dark maze called Narcissistic Abuse.❤️
Thank you so muchbglfor your videos. Ive had a narcissist parent and a narcissist friend who criitisised wveryone, and included me in the toxuc opinions. The times my mother insulted and hurt everyone on my behalf are too many to count.. Your videos are really helping me, thank you x
I think it is. My family is like that. I was the only empath and scapegoat surrounded by narcs. It was hell. I had to go no contact for my peace, safety, sanity and health.
@@decemberdarling6058 My situation is the same. It's not easy having no family but the way I see it I never had a family. They were harmful to me. Much love to you. We can survive this x
@@uyoebyik Thank you. Yes, any "relationship" with a narc is a sick, torturous lie. We will get through this, survive and thrive! We will be alright. Sending love to you too 💛🌟✨.
thank you Petra for the advice on Boundaries and body feelings when these are transgressed, also for the video examples in general ; i only wish i hadn't met such disordered entities (not only in private life, but in work life too :(( awesome info
I sympathize with what you've been through. Use these experiences to empower yourself and to further your personal growth by identifying and communicating your boundaries and holding yourself to a higher standard ❤
You have to find a way to love yourself. Just because a person cannot control their actions actions that you do not agree with does not mean that it’s OK for them to do so most of the time people know they’re doing bad and they know you’re going to forgive them, so they just do it anyway and then they tried to apologize after they get caught.
This new man I met played a good game on me I went solo for almost fours years after a bad relationship with a narcissit to just be fooled by another one!!! This one is far worse Lastnight he woke me up at 3 am to try and take what he thinks is entitled too and having sleepless nights since we moved in I just had it I got up said no This is my body leave me alone along with please let me get my rest he didn't take that well and forced his face into mine with his lips on mine and hurting me by nodging his face into mine I got scared I said ur hurting me he got off me so I opened the blinds out of fear he slammed them shut so I opened the front door and he pushed me out with slamming the door on my toe and locked the door I was banging on the door it was 3 am and my dog was inside with him I was so scared cause he made a comment of killing my dog he opened it n said sorry right away I said I think u broke my big toe he said u made me do it
Thank you for making these videos. Everything you speak here is the truth. My life is so much better finally going no contact. It took 3 tries over a period of 2 years to do so - but the 3rd time was the charm, as they say.
Lady... SPOT on. Wish more on CO parenting... Impossible... But practical guidelines just on that. Especially with regards to smaller children. Following many great experts for 5 plus years now, but you really said exactly maybe just what I needed to hear today, after a hiatus and suddenly... Today, just now, out of nowhere, and I've been good, your advice is just really different than most and very very very important, maybe more for where I am at at the moment, all good, all content and all moved on, excellent, thank you. I am strong, but needed to hear this right now, put things RIGHT back into perspective again and moving on swiftly.
It's all so extra toxic if this personality hides behind a spiritual mask. In my case: she is the one who is always profound, always does her inner work, so she's way ahead of every one else in the world. Literally says she's the only one so advanced on the entire planet. I was the one who could never measure up to her level, because perhaps I skip a few days doing her exercises, because I have a life and a family. So I was always made to feel inadequate or guilty and in need of her teachings. And I fell for it, for a long time because it was a mixed package of course. There were many positives. But, the minute I questioned any of her teachings she would become all nasty or give the silent treatment and I would back off. Finally, I had enough of walking on eggshells, of always being reprimanded or shouted at when I least expected it, said that to her face and wow, did she show her true colours. She's not interested in what she makes me or anyone else feel. She said I'm so 3D, so way behind her 5D-ness that I'm boring. That everything she does or says is to help me because she is ALWAYS profound. Except when she's having a rough time but that doesn't count. I'm the one who's absurd because of human or social things I take part in. In hindsight, it's painful, but I think I've processed most of the hurt and I now also see how comical it has all been. How twisted and upside down. The last comment I made to her was I thought it was funny she doubted sending me a certain message. I thought that was hilarious because everything had exploded when I said I was doubting and revising many of my beliefs including some of the things she had taught me. I guess that's another trait of a narcissist, absolutely lacking a sense of humour...?
Love your advice on this matter , I have a question why are the people who get hurt by their narcissist continually reminisce on wtf happened here. I can’t let go of what happened to me , i am a mature male in late 50 and have had my experiences of pain hurt and loses but this blows my mind , all i do now is watch programmes on narcissism
Hey Richard, i totally get what you are saying. Am in my 50's. Never knew about any of this till 3 years ago. Its the trauma bonding that kept me going round and round in circles. I did/do quantum healing, i have watched 100's of videos. Do all the self - care. Reflection, meditating etc. Since finding out about narcissism, i have had more come out the woodwork and being tested on how much i have learnt. Its not you, its your programming. Many rabbit holes.
Dear Petra, is it possible to write a personal letter to you ? I truly don’t know or even read about the personal situation I have. I researched the ‘malignant narcissist’ 20years ago.
Can I ask a question, please? I would like to stop my habit of thinking about and sometimes talking about my negative attributes despite my past psychotherapy. How is it possible to manage and reduce my focus on my negative attributes? Thank you, Petra!
I had a friend that is nice until they have done something that hurts me, then when I bring it up I’m told I’m too sensitive or that it didn’t happen, or they never said that! I become the bad person for standing up for myself and they are the victim.. is that narcissism?
Yes
I got married for the first time at 43 with the narc
I said to myself “ well I guess this is what marriage is, I need to understand him”
I’m now divorced after 15 years
I’m free and happy because I
Am now educated about narcissism
Thank you!
Showing love snd compassion to a narcisist is basically giving them a green light to take you down the road of psychotic abuse. They don't associate with with people with boundaries because they know they can't destroy them. They purposely seek out vulnerable empaths.
True.
It's really painful to realize that narcissists can't and won't change and will only get worse. Also realizing that the only thing you can do to save yourself is to get them out of your life, go no contact and move on. That was so hard for me. Took many tries but I finally went no contact. Best thing I ever did. They are still trying to hoover me back into their madness but I will continue to stand strong. I have had enough. No more.
Same was so hard for me but I had to. I get hoovers too even though he moved on instantly and got her pregnant. Was so hard to ignore messages but he was evil.
I want to do the same but I can’t, I introduced her to all my circle, friends and family. If I cut her off, she will try to confront me we all of them, and I’m not strong enough for that right now 😢
"Criticism is a part of the narcissistic rage." This is very well put.
You gotta separate yourself from narcissists or limit interactions as much as possible. Once they target you they will always find a way to undermine those boundaries.
My spouse cannot handle finances. When I try to talk to him about saving money, paying bills he starts yelling and screaming at me. Last time was so bad I was shaking. I'm 64 and can't take this anymore. His lala land is everything will be fine even though he has almost no retirement. I should add after this one I can barely stand to look at him.
So true, I was wondering what is the problem with this person. Criticizing others, not appreciate the value of others, now I know.
Absolutely. I used to be The Rescuer, people pleasing Rescuer, a setup for narcissist magnet. I never fixed one! Thankfully we have these informative compassionate videos to help folks such as us. Thank you for your hard work Petra.
This video is so spot on. Every single red flag is applicable to my mom. The out of portion punishment, the criticism, the arrogance, the projection onto other people.
I needed this reminder of why I have no contact with my narcissistic mother. She reached out to me after 4 years of the silent treatment.
I know in my heart that it has nothing to do with reconciliation with me but using me to “fix” her current situation. I am choosing not to go there literally. No letters, no phone calls etc. As you said this time of the year is hard. It would be even harder emotionally in the long term if I was to allow her back into my life. Thank you again for this timely reminder.
With new awareness comes new choices Susan! Make the decisions that empower you as opposed to limiting you. Love and hugs x
Over a year since I went no contact , and if anyone out there is struggling post discard I just want them to know that although the road might feel endless you will reach your destination ! The narcissists thinks you will shrivel away to nothing without them , but it's actually the opposite that is true , you become a much stronger , defined and centred soul , who will be able to detect and avoid any new toxic or abusive entanglements moving forward xx
Asking them to heal is basically asking them to take responsibility for their actions and behaviour. Narcissistic people can’t and won’t do this. They would have to do something about themselves and accept they are no one else’s responsibility.
Thank you dear Petra! Your videos are ALWAYS spot on! Especially those concerning narcissistic friendships. Thanks to you I haven’t reached out to this narcissistic friend for almost 6 months now (I have been discarded and hoovered back in once by this person but now I made the final decision to move on) you are my hero Petra. Looking forward to more videos about narcissistic friendships and the aftermath of this all❤️
Great job Wendy! Stay true to yourself and hold yourself to a higher standard. Wishing you love and courage on your healing journey ❤
If you sense someone is narc you're probably right. Dont even bother with boundaries just avoid completely. Complete cut off is the only response to these evil things. They have no conscience no morals no values they live to use and abuse. Emotional financial and sexual.
One thing that is important to know is that the narc lives in a constant state of solitary confinement. There are no people in the narcs world only things to be used. The only thing that gives a narcs evil life meaning is abuse. Without it they are nothing.
It's not all loss when you walk away ! In a bid to impress me or make me feel LESS , over the years my narc had introduced me to lots of people and things I would never have known about , and in doing so had inadvertently broadened my horizons ! Although they thought they were the soul castonnian of many of these things , they weren't , and when I left I was able to keep the things I liked and integrate them into my new life , whist still discarding the bits I didn't like ! In a way it has been a bit like a small revenge for all the mind games and devaluing I had suffered at their hands !! They like to think they own the world , because they HAVE to be important , but they don't , they are small , deluded , empty dark damaged tiny souls !
My God this is 💯 accurate. I was married to one for 17 years. Too much to go into but everything you have said is accurate. Hyper critical, no empathy, no mercy, total victim mentality, selfish to the point of destruction of anyone in her way no matter who they are, never ever admits wrong. Can’t believe I fell for it and put up with it for so long.
You were very smart to get away after 17 years. I am struggling after 25 + years with a narcissistic husband. 😖😣
Relationships with a narcissist are always transactionel. What you can do for me ,then I might do something for you.
When you leave the relationship, they can’t believe it and will not accept it. It will be difficult because they are no. Longer in control. Also, there are different levels
of narcissism, and the subtle forms are so much harder do deal with. You may not know you’re involved with one until your feeling really upset or repulsed by their behavior.
That is the biological mother in a nutshell!!
Sadly she passed it down to her first daughter, her first grand child and second son.
They are all UNBEARABLE to be around for longer than 3 minutes.
Opening intro "this is not about you but the narcissist's reality" 🙏
Yes they have no conscience
I love your description of a boundary using a garden. I have struggled with this concept but it makes sense that you wouldn’t want someone coming in and ruining your beautiful space! Thank you!
I havent seen this channel for a long time, I had forgot how much I like your videos. Now notifications are on.
Petra, you hit the nail on the head with this one. Wow. I clicked on this video on a whim and could not believe how accurate the message was. Wow. This resonated with me in soooo many ways. My brain automatically defaults to thinking, wanting, and expecting the best in people but have truly been disappointed time and time again from the same toxic patterns. You’re right, there are certainly patterns.
Please continue this much needed work you’re doing. 👍🏾
I’d love an entire video just on boundary recognition.
The narcissist acts just as you describe. In addition, she also keeps the house dark by closing the curtains, blinds, and shades all the time. She sleeps with dark bedding and frequently wears sunglasses. Of course, I let the light in by opening the window coverings. They are really sick people, behaving much much like a virus, in that you don't know you've been infected until you start to suffer. However, use the useful knowledge you've gained from channels like this one to fight back.
Holy shit I needed that Petra. Spot on, warrior training.
Dear Petra, I wrote to you two and a half years ago and thank you for your advice on some of my toxic sisters. 26 years ago I was married to a toxic ex-husband I left after 6 years of mental abuse, but I didn't realise then my friend of 26 years was just as toxic, we had a break from our friendship, 8 months later I let her back in so that way she couldn't say I didn't try, it only took just over 12 months to turn back into a narcissist, after her interrogating me over something that was none of her business, I rang her the next day and told her I had to be honest that I did not want her in my life anymore that it was no longer working for me then I blocked her from my phone, these people never change, I loved her at one stage, but in the end I love and respect myself more.
🙋🏻♀️ I am here because I see the same patterns of befriending a narcissist in each stages of my school life up to adulthood. We always ended up falling out, and I never knew that they’re narcissist up until recently, I just thought they have similar behavior/personality that kept pulling me in.. during the early days they’d make me feel special, like I was their new precious friend who’s being let into their world. But the falling out starts when they don’t really listen to my stories but instead listen to reply/respond, they keep talking about their multiple love interests and being overly jealous over women who are close to them, they went bonkers whenever I don’t do their requests right away, point out their good and what they did for me, AND the turning point was always when they use my vulnerability to hurt me. I thought this was “a test” for me to overcome people who have similar traits, but apparently I am trapped in again and again to similar toxic people. No matter how hard I try I never could understand the selfishness and self-centeredness they posses, and now I know I don’t have to be friends with them anymore. Their lives aren’t mine and I am free to create boundaries.
Ha ha. I was thinking of a person who was constantly compelled to bring stress and irritation and pain. I thought, "She can't be peaceful or content, therefore needs to steal these feelings from me, by any means possible." Then you said the same thing. What's telling is she only pulls her games on those she thinks will put up with it. She was wrong about me in the end.
I really appreciate your perspective. Thank you. Thank you. Happy full moon (eclipse) on this day. Thank you.
Petra, this is the first time I watch your videos. OMG. You are so accurate. I have felt really understood for the very first time. My husband is just like you describe. So cruel, so evil. Thanks God I was discarded 10 months ago. I am very lucky to get rid of him. My six-year-old daughter and I live peacefully without his evil presence. I'm in low contact, because no contact seems impossible having one child in common. Thank you for your videos. Your voice is so soothing that it gives so much peace to my heart. Thank you!
Love the the tone of your voice, Petra! Very comforting and easy to absorb. Thank you for sharing and caring about us! Truly appreciate your knowledge and guidance through this dark maze called Narcissistic Abuse.❤️
Thank you so much Tamara! The antidote for narcissistic abuse is radical self-care! Love and light xx
I agree, she is like the mother/ aunt I didn't have, and would love to sit down and chat with her.
Thank you, Petra!
Good to hear you and hear this again!
highly critical and biting sarcasm
Once again Petra, a very good and tooootally accurate video. Really interesting. Thank you. 😊❤
Omg you are just describing my experience..so right on !!!! Thanks so much.!!! You're videos are helping me greatly!! Bless you !!
You show so much compassion. Thank you for doing these videos.
Sad but true! I’m still going through this maze by beings with another agenda from another dimension
And…. We shouldn’t care what their negative or critical opinion is of us… who are they??
Thank you so muchbglfor your videos. Ive had a narcissist parent and a narcissist friend who criitisised wveryone, and included me in the toxuc opinions. The times my mother insulted and hurt everyone on my behalf are too many to count.. Your videos are really helping me, thank you x
Is it possible for an entire family to be narcissists except one person who is bullied and ostracised?
I think it is. My family is like that. I was the only empath and scapegoat surrounded by narcs. It was hell. I had to go no contact for my peace, safety, sanity and health.
@@decemberdarling6058 My situation is the same. It's not easy having no family but the way I see it I never had a family. They were harmful to me. Much love to you. We can survive this x
@@uyoebyik Thank you. Yes, any "relationship" with a narc is a sick, torturous lie. We will get through this, survive and thrive! We will be alright. Sending love to you too 💛🌟✨.
@@decemberdarling6058 much love from one scapegoat to another ❤
Yes my family are like this to me. I got cut off years ago because I don’t stand for their bs.
Once again you are spot on!!
thank you Petra for the advice on Boundaries and body feelings when these are transgressed, also for the video examples in general ; i only wish i hadn't met such disordered entities (not only in private life, but in work life too :((
awesome info
I sympathize with what you've been through. Use these experiences to empower yourself and to further your personal growth by identifying and communicating your boundaries and holding yourself to a higher standard ❤
You have to find a way to love yourself. Just because a person cannot control their actions actions that you do not agree with does not mean that it’s OK for them to do so most of the time people know they’re doing bad and they know you’re going to forgive them, so they just do it anyway and then they tried to apologize after they get caught.
Facts. Thanks for all you do ☺️ Petra! You truly understand this issue.
If you try to go no contact and they pursue you go legal and get a restraining order.
Thank you dear Petra! You have saved me & my life with this video! 💞🙏
So glad to see you back ! Your warm and wise words have been missed x
Thankyou Petra! Your loving soul soothes my hurt soul and helps me feel sane again after being gravely abused by a narcissistic friend💗💗💗.
Love and hugs Magdalena 💖
You're wonderful Petra. You've helped me a lot that past years.
Thank you Glenn. Wishing you continued strength and courage on your journey.
This new man I met played a good game on me I went solo for almost fours years after a bad relationship with a narcissit to just be fooled by another one!!! This one is far worse
Lastnight he woke me up at 3 am to try and take what he thinks is entitled too and having sleepless nights since we moved in I just had it I got up said no This is my body leave me alone along with please let me get my rest he didn't take that well and forced his face into mine with his lips on mine and hurting me by nodging his face into mine I got scared I said ur hurting me he got off me so I opened the blinds out of fear he slammed them shut so I opened the front door and he pushed me out with slamming the door on my toe and locked the door I was banging on the door it was 3 am and my dog was inside with him I was so scared cause he made a comment of killing my dog he opened it n said sorry right away I said I think u broke my big toe he said u made me do it
Get out of there before it's too late and too difficult, I hope it's not already 🙁💜
Just found your videos...thank u..your kind words are just what I need at this time. I'm trying to get my child's father to move out.
Thank you for making these videos. Everything you speak here is the truth. My life is so much better finally going no contact. It took 3 tries over a period of 2 years to do so - but the 3rd time was the charm, as they say.
right on. 👏🙏 your channel is one of the few on the topic that is deep and thorough. Thank you 🌸
Thank you my dear ❤🙏
Thank you!! It is very helpful and just on time when I needed this explanation and understanding.
Lady... SPOT on. Wish more on CO parenting... Impossible... But practical guidelines just on that. Especially with regards to smaller children. Following many great experts for 5 plus years now, but you really said exactly maybe just what I needed to hear today, after a hiatus and suddenly... Today, just now, out of nowhere, and I've been good, your advice is just really different than most and very very very important, maybe more for where I am at at the moment, all good, all content and all moved on, excellent, thank you. I am strong, but needed to hear this right now, put things RIGHT back into perspective again and moving on swiftly.
It's all so extra toxic if this personality hides behind a spiritual mask. In my case: she is the one who is always profound, always does her inner work, so she's way ahead of every one else in the world. Literally says she's the only one so advanced on the entire planet.
I was the one who could never measure up to her level, because perhaps I skip a few days doing her exercises, because I have a life and a family. So I was always made to feel inadequate or guilty and in need of her teachings. And I fell for it, for a long time because it was a mixed package of course. There were many positives. But, the minute I questioned any of her teachings she would become all nasty or give the silent treatment and I would back off. Finally, I had enough of walking on eggshells, of always being reprimanded or shouted at when I least expected it, said that to her face and wow, did she show her true colours.
She's not interested in what she makes me or anyone else feel. She said I'm so 3D, so way behind her 5D-ness that I'm boring. That everything she does or says is to help me because she is ALWAYS profound. Except when she's having a rough time but that doesn't count.
I'm the one who's absurd because of human or social things I take part in.
In hindsight, it's painful, but I think I've processed most of the hurt and I now also see how comical it has all been. How twisted and upside down. The last comment I made to her was I thought it was funny she doubted sending me a certain message. I thought that was hilarious because everything had exploded when I said I was doubting and revising many of my beliefs including some of the things she had taught me.
I guess that's another trait of a narcissist, absolutely lacking a sense of humour...?
Imagine having a narcissist as a coach!!!
people HATE Boundaries. it's sad
Subbed! Listening to your videos….I feel better. Please make many more
Thank you! ❤️
well done. Thank you so much.
Sounds demonic to me.
Bless you.
Their reality is that there is nothing wrong with THEIR behaviors.
holidays are a nightmare, having to spend time with her.
How about you limit the time you spend with her? Don't feel obligated to participate, especially when it's at the expense of your own wellbeing.
Thank U x
Ive never enjoyed saying NO so much💪
Yes I accepted it
Love your advice on this matter , I have a question why are the people who get hurt by their narcissist continually reminisce on wtf happened here. I can’t let go of what happened to me , i am a mature male in late 50 and have had my experiences of pain hurt and loses but this blows my mind , all i do now is watch programmes on narcissism
Hey Richard, i totally get what you are saying. Am in my 50's. Never knew about any of this till 3 years ago. Its the trauma bonding that kept me going round and round in circles. I did/do quantum healing, i have watched 100's of videos. Do all the self - care. Reflection, meditating etc. Since finding out about narcissism, i have had more come out the woodwork and being tested on how much i have learnt. Its not you, its your programming. Many rabbit holes.
Dear Petra, is it possible to write a personal letter to you ? I truly don’t know or even read about the personal situation I have. I researched the ‘malignant narcissist’ 20years ago.
Can I ask a question, please? I would like to stop my habit of thinking about and sometimes talking about my negative attributes despite my past psychotherapy. How is it possible to manage and reduce my focus on my negative attributes? Thank you, Petra!
Remember how you used to be
I had a friend that is nice until they have done something that hurts me, then when I bring it up I’m told I’m too sensitive or that it didn’t happen, or they never said that! I become the bad person for standing up for myself and they are the victim.. is that narcissism?
Yes
Hi!
Subtle venom……
A lot like a cult leader.
Petra hoe stop ik met video's kijken over narsisme? Bijna 1 jaar no contact nu. Overal geblokt en zie m nooit meer. Wel nog steeds aan t kijken.