Why We Don't "Move On" from Grief | MeCircle
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Life after a loss is difficult. But it's okay not to "get over" grief. Here's why.
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Grief after the loss of someone you love is hard. Many people don't know how to cope with the grief that results from life after loss. And loss negatively affects your mental health and can lead to depression. In our MedCircle educational series on grief, leading psychologist Dr. Judy Ho explains how to deal with grief, the steps to healing, how therapy can help, how relationships with others can help, and how recovery after the loss of a loved one is possible. This educational interview is one you don't want to miss.
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Psychologist Dr. Judy Ho has helped many patients work through their grief and find recovery. In this MedCircle Educational series, she teaches those same coping skills to help viewers work through the loss of a loved one, a job, a relationship, and more. Not only that, but this series will teach you personal growth, how empathy can help with grief, the psychology of grief, and much more.
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Dr. Judy's advice for those working through grief: "don't chase the sameness." Leave YOUR #1 piece of advice below for someone who is trying to work through grief.
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Grief is ever evolving, so there is no expectation on how to feel. Just try to control your emotions towards other people who may not know nor understand how to navigate the #grief journey.
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I had six miscarriages before we had our daughter. No one cares when you miscarry. You hear phrases like "what nature doesn't want it washes away," or "it's probably for the best," or my personal favorite "maybe God doesn't want you to have children." After our daughter was born I suffered two more. I found a support group, but the grief never goes away. The other day I was cleaning out our spare bedroom to make it a playroom, and I cried. There should be another child in that room. This has motivated me to get a degree in counseling to help those dealing with miscarriage, infertility, and child loss.
I lost my youngest son 6 years ago. The pain was unimaginable. I learned after a few years and noticing I had changed. I did and still do hold on to my faith in God. I felt no one truly understood what had happened. My child of 28 years old was gone, killed in hit and run 2 days before his 29th birthday. I felt my church was not there after they felt I had grieved enough, some even said you can’t grieve so emotionally. I am not the same person I was so maybe this is the me God meant for me. After 2 therapist, I’m holding on to God!
I lost my wife two months ago. People, including the people at church, do not understand grief. Everyone is different. My wife and I were together for 46 years. Although it hurts bad, I can't imagine losing my son or daughter. You have a right to feel the way you do. Keep holding on to God.
I lost my daughter at age 25 after taking care of her for 6 years after a car accident and tbi left her completely dependent on me or others for daily living. She was recovering at home under my care when she unexpectedly died in my arms. She was my daughter, best friend, my job and daily companion and source of joy and purpose. I don’t know how any parent can get over that.
“Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest.
Grief is just love with no place to go” ~ Jamie Anderson
Thank you for sharing this! ...
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Absolutely!!!!
That's really beautiful!
I lost my dear Mother three weeks ago. It feels unbearable. I already miss her so much.😢 I love you, Mama.❤
My dad passed away a week ago. On the day of his funeral, one of my best friends unexpectedly died. I don't even know how start processing this double loss.
I lost my husband a few wks ago an I will never get over he was my love and my soul. Mate he was 73 but I will join him when gods wants!
My Husband died in September, we were married 45 years, I miss him so much. I am thankful I have God in my life, so I know I will see him again and he is in heaven and out of pain. ❤
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
It is better to grieve the loss of someone or something than to never have had something to care so much about. Losing someone doesn’t leave you with nothing. Though you lose their continued existence in your life, you still have your memory of them and that is something you can still enjoy.
My story is too long to type out comfortably.
I will just say this: I have experienced more death than years I have been alive.
The numbers started surpassing me in my early 20's.
Something I've learned that I want to share to anyone reading this.
It has been a comforting realization.
"No one is truly gone until they are forgotten. The fact of the matter is too, they affected you. Helped shape you into whom you are today. You carry them with you each and every day.
Even if you can't process it all right now and have to soldier up to get through the muck of life. Keep marching and you will come out on the other side a stronger version of yourself. But be kind to yourself, it's easy to freefall from the precipice."
I lost my dream, my future, and identity. I am now moving abroad to start over.
The significant grief is only there because of how much you loved that person - it is a reflection.
And to have that understanding of just how much it meant, so that you understand what you really had, is a gift and a treasure.
I'm eight years out from the death of my husband, lover, soulmate. I had a nervous breakdown after and just getting back to a normal routine. Andrew will always be with me, it's something I will live with forever. Love you baby.
I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +1206-237-2054 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.
I'm sorry for your loss. He's waiting for you
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
September was 4 years since I lost my mum. Her entire 12 year illness was extremely traumatic, it was even more difficult being unable to do anything to ease the suffering during the 12 years. The way she passed was even more traumatic and in the 4 years I have struggled to sit alone and just cry. I just feel like a constant inward sadness and nothing makes me happy. I know it is so many years but I do not know how to move forward and be happy. I feel so lost!
I don’t think you get over any death. You carry it with you and do your best. I’m getting older now and I’m starting to get more and more experience with loss. The people I grew up with are starting to disappear. This is all just temporary and transitional. Thinking about this and accepting this has helped me somewhat but it will always be difficult.
Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you. This family truly knows where to turn in times of grief.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
I lost my friend and somebody I worked with in a matter of weeks. I learned to live without them by leaning on people and just move ahead and miss them but I know I will see them one day
Grief is different for every person. I grief for both my parents. It is not only their passing but it is also the burdens of guilt and regret of not being the best daughter, of thinking that I may not have done my best to make them happy, of not being able to alleviate their pain and suffering of illness. These thoughts overwhelm me and I don't think any therapy can help with dealing with them.
No, therapy is not the answer, but Jesus is. Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you. This family truly knows where to turn in times of grief.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
Lost my childhood sweetheart,I nursed her after she was diagnosed with brain tumour from diagnosed she was at home four five short months then passed away.I did my best for her in life and in death she will always be around me. I have decided that I can’t changed yesterday ,today is today the only thing I can do is alter tomorrow. We were 69 years of age.
My mom died when I was 19. She was such a kind person. People loved her. A lot of people went to her funeral. She was an elementary school teacher. I spent a lot of time going to church praying because I don’t want to talk about it with anyone. I didn’t know what to do. I knew that I was hurting and people were so nice to me but I just wanted to be left alone. I often tear up when I see the morning sun because it reminded me that a new day has come without her and this is my life that I could only dream that it didn’t happen. Eventually, I recovered from this stage of my life after more than 2-3 years. It made me think about a lot of things. It made me a kinder person. I finally found some purpose to keep moving forward. Although, I no longer believe in God I still want to be a good person. The flashbacks still hurt but it’s only temporary.
Take away: “Don’t chase the SAMENESS and Don’t expect the past to be back”.
Wow, great learnings.
@Medcircle keep up the great work🙏
I was 19 when I my first child was born, a daughter that was just beautiful, she was born at full term however medical negligence that occurred caused her to be stillborn. The hospital went into “damage control” they closed ranks and only treating staff spoke to me about my physical recovery, they refused to speak about my daughter or my emotional well-being, the shock of my loss delayed my grief, then as every year past my grief was tinged with anger at the senseless of her death, the fact that the staff entrusted with my pregnancy and her safety were the reason she wasn’t here, losing a loved one who left a life time of memories is hard enough, losing a baby who never created memories beyond the womb is cruel. She should be 24 now, and I’ve missed out on every opportunity to watch her grow up, I can’t ever get over that.
I am seeing this video in the midst of feelings of 'intense' grief and sadness for my wonderful, amazing and brilliant nephew (twin brother's son), John (aged 24), who passed away as the result of a 'dreadful' and tragic' accident on an island off the coast of Thailand while enjoying a 'dream' (turned out to be a 'nitemare' ) holiday with two of his best friends there. This child is 'not' the first v loved child his Mum has lost, there have been others. She is beyond amazing ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐!! His Mum, his sister (my brilliant and beautiful niece, aged 25), my brother (John) and his step-brother, Paul, are getting on with things as best they can. We all are 😢!!
God, Please Provide Comfort To This Grief-Stricken Family to deal with this 'surreal' and 'savage' life experience 💔😥💔.
Your Ways Are Not Our Ways. 💔🙏💔🙏🌹🌹🌹
My first severe sorrow was losing my 16 year old son in a car accident. I knew my life would never be the same. He passed away 16 years ago and then I lost my 71 year old dad to brain cancer 8 years after my son died.
My son’s friends have been a great solace over all these years, more so than any adult.
There is life before my son’s death and after his unexpected death. I miss them both (they were great pals). People always ask me how I deal with losing my son the day before his 16th birthday. No parent should be picking out a casket on their child’s birthday! Bittersweet, for sure. The way I deal with the devastating pain is to cry whenever I need to and turn to my faith. That might not be the best for you personally, but it’s how I cope. I love it when people tell me a funny story or something they loved and admired about him. I came to not ask “why”after 3 months. I still had a 10 yo daughter that needed me. It was only just 3 weeks ago that me and my husband of 35 years, cried together for our son and my dad. Those were hard tears for him! I just want add that you will eventually not cry as much, but when you do, let those tears heal your soul. I find it cathartic to cry alone for my firstborn bc I grieve much differently than my husband. You will never “get over it”, but you find a new normal way to live and survive. I’m proud of my son and what he accomplished while he was with us such a brief time.
I didn’t go to any grief counseling but go if you feel yourself on shaky ground emotionally. Thanks for allowing me to share my story. If you’ve lost a child, too, please feel free to add your story. I judge no one, as it’s not my place. Safe harbor 💙😘
Divorce for me was like a double loss: losing a partner plus a best friend... once had an anxiety attack (was in therapy at the time processing my childhood trauma/grieving childhood losses so went straight to my Inner Child, closed my eyes, hugged myself and assured him that I will take care of him). Never had an anxiety attack ever since.
What else helped me ? Writing/journalling. I wrote my now ex-wife's flaws. I sometimes just sat and cried and grieved. There was anger so worked on that too as anger is a surface level emotion. I worked on forgiveness towards my ex-wife too. I sometimes was writing letter to my ex-wife (not sending them, just for myself to explore my emotions) about how much she meant to me, how she did hurt me and that my heart was telling me to remember "the good stuff" and let go.
Grief is hard. But I think the best way to deal with it is just to grieve, allow yourself every now and again to feel the pain. And also surround yourself with people who can be there with you and offer empathy, i.e. not giving you advice etc. people who can just sit with you in silence.
Over time grief gets better. So just don't rush things. And don't run away from feeling the pain. You can only heal what you're willing to feel ❤
And learn to treat yourself with compassion. IFS therapy helped me to separate myself from my "parts" and to attend to them with love. Not trying to get rid of them. CFT, ACT are also a good modalities to try. Treating yourself as a best friend. Very often we have inner critic telling us to "move on" from grief etc. But the problem with that is we just prolong our suffering by sweeping things/emotions under the rug. After a loss, people often "get busy" with work etc. They sometimes lash out, suppress their pain, use alcohol to cope etc.
Also it's important to do other stuff other than grieving. Give yourself breaks, watch something funny or meet up with a friend. It's totally okay and necessary to do stuff like this so we don't drown in grief and can eventually "move with" grief.
With the loss of my husband unexpectedly 2 years ago. I will never get over it. I will LIVE WITH IT.
Lovely, Judy! Please visit Suzanne Geismann's website and see if there is anything helpful for you there.
I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +1206-237-2054 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.
It's been 2 years for me also. My family gave me a few months. I live with my favorite memories of my David. As a song goes " You we're my one last chance I never knew I had. You were the great romance I always knew in my mind." Thoughts of you, dear lady. 💞 We will always love those who were so special.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
I feel like I will never be happy again I feel like I am just waiting to die so the pain will end
My mom.. suddenly happened, no support with this.. people I’m around always looks at me like that happened two years ago.. I feel crazy sometimes don’t I’m still hurting.. I was very very close to my mother ..all me & my children ever had! I really am trying to figure through this life & on top of dealing with narcissistic bf doesn’t help..
I’m dying in pain..& I’m tired of fighting it. I’m trying to be here for my children ..they hv no one but me. Trusting in GOD for a miracle. Losing my mom, a lot of me died with her 🙏🏽💔
I’m so sorry for your loss. May God comfort you. It takes time to deal with her loss.
Please cherish the memories.
My sister died a week before her 16th birthday, I was almost 15. She was my only sibling. We moved across the country right after it happend. I didn't know anyone, and no one knew who my she was. My sister was beautiful, a free spirit, loved by many. I'm 31 now. I miss her like it was yesterday.
My brother died when he was 15 and I was 16 at that time. His death devastated our family.
Lost my brother in late 2023 my heart dropped when he passed he was a year younger then me. At first I was trying to be strong for the family but when I returned home it hit me hard and I was trying to make sense of what happened. I turned to spiritualism, volunteering and trying to fulfil his wishes. I wanted to understand what happens on the other side and if he was with me. I believe he is and doing the above things helped me mentally.
There isn't a time limit for grief. Allow yourself to grieve, in your own way. There will eventually be a "New Normal". And, know when to get professional help. ♥️
Great advice. 👍
@@MedCircle Thanks for all that you do! ♥️
Lost my big sister at the age of 30 to sepsis. She left behind 4 beautiful children. My advice for working through it is to find the things in the world that remind you of your loved one. For me it was Mexican food, parties, and singing and dancing. I try to get with my family as much as possible to just be together.
My mother killed herself when I was eight, which has colored my life ever since then.
The grief in no way gives comfort. I don't look fondly back on her as a person.
We were also pretty much shunned by the community that we were a part of. It's liked you're marked with the scarlet "S" afterwards. Suicide is a whole nother level and people just don't want to or don't know how to deal with it.
And please, no "I'm so sorry's" or advice. Life does move on but you're never the same after that type of loss.
elys3 Maybe you can give advice since you don't want any.
How do you cope? And live day to day without just breaking?
My father took his life when I was younger as well. Every August 1st....I grieve like it's that day...the rest of the year it is always in my head, front & back. I'm 54 and will never "get over it".
That's true, because i experienced loaibg a good friend on june 10th 2019. I didn't kbow until he had been dead for a while. I never found out how he did it either. And then on Valentine's day 2021 i had just lost my beloved pet bird spike he lived for 28 yrs. He would have turned 29 yrs. Old on march 19th. I jad him for the last 8 yrs of his life.
You seem so strong? How do you cope?
Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you. This family truly knows where to turn in times of grief.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
My dog passed away about 3 weeks ago so the grief is still fresh and I don't think I can get over it. I think when you talk about a pet passing away most people just assume that my sadness will stop after a week maybe because it wasn't family. However, she was a big part of my life as well as becoming an addition to my family. So seeing this video actually is a nice confirmation that my feelings about this is valid. It feels like this emotion over my child (my dog) should be brief but I don't think that's the case and it's reassuring that I can still miss her without fearing an eye roll from others.
Caitlin Hildebrand ...losing your dog,best friend and companion can be more painful than losing most people in your life !
@@naamiballan7386 thank you so much for the kind words
@@theliftexpert thanks for the caring words. I agree with that too.
I can't believe now precise has the timing been for this one it's scary.
This Saturday I lost my boyfriend to a heart attack. He was my age (25). I didn't expect that at all, and it obviously hit me very hard.
I feel like the idea of getting over it one day is the one that scares me the most. It feels like a betrayal anytime I feel "ok" these days.
People's help and words do help somehow. Even if it is "I'm there for you" it does feel better (if it's possible to be better)
But its nothing but a rollercoaster, I am sometimes ok and sometimes absolutely devastated, sometimes angry at him for having worked so much and not taking enough care of himself, or I am angry at myself for not saying whatever I needed to say. Sometimes I feel like he is alive and it's all a joke and it's all fake and he will come back now. Or I feel his touch or kiss almost like physically at times. I do cry and I do laugh and I do feel guilty for both.
Thank you for these videos. I wish they would never be THIS relatable
I don't have words to express my condolences, they won't be enough... My ❤️ goes out to you 🌷
Please...try understand..... I still wear a black ear ring...on birthdays write a card.. .. but also managed managed to laugh this year.. you can mourn and show respect and at same forgive yourself for smiling xx xx
Thank you all for your kind words, truly. I mean I try to stay strong because this is what he'd want me to do, but I keep on talking to him in my head all the time and I'm scared I'll ever recover. Anytime I see his car brand go by I genuinely hope he'll come out and tell me it was all false even though I know it won't ever happen. I did buy myself a black ring the first day to remember and I'm wearing all black these days just because it feels so. My therapist said it was good to express my sorrow outside if I wanted to and it made me feel better. I do sometimes laugh/smile at some moments of a day because I know he'd love me to smile at times, or so I hope. But it's never that I'm feeling good, obviously.
@@trinaperfect5638 I am very sorry for your loss, and I hope you're handling your loss better. I came across your comment just checking out the video. I didn't even watch the video honestly. I was reading the comments. But the parts you mentioned about betrayal, feeling like it's a joke. Really hit home because I thought I would be the only one that would feel like that. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and emotions.
@@dannyjimenez9054 thank you very much for your words.
It's been three years, but I think both a lot and very little has changed for me somehow when it comes to grieving. I still wear the ring he gave me, talk about some memories and even get an occasional "it's him" when I see someone who looks alike. I have not "moved on" and I never will
From experience, it's not an everyday acute pain now anymore, obviously, I have had to adapt and learn how to live through it. But I still keep in touch with his mum, and even my new partner is well aware of our story and is very gentle and respectful around the subject. Actually, that was one of the reasons I could in fact open my heart again, because my grief will always be a part of my story and I will occasionally need to cry/open the memory box, go to the cemetery etc and I'm very glad I'm with someone who totally understands it.
My cousin was murdered I was like 15ish and she was like 19 or 20. We also lost our grandfather 11 months earlier. I'm 21 now and I still struggle, my Faith was the only thing that kept me going
A long time ago I learned that it's OK to take the time I need to mourn a loss, and when others think you should be able to just "get over it" (immediately, within 2 weeks, within 3 months, or whatever timeframe they perceive to be most correct,) is their own opinion and has nothing to do with me and my needs. As an example: when I see people immediately jump from one relationship to another or even run right out and try to find another immediately after a relationship ends, I feel pretty bad for them. It's clear they're not taking the time out required to heal, work on themselves, reflect, realize the part they played, and try to figure out how they can repair these issues and help prevent them in the future. The stages of grief are experienced whether the loss was due to death or not, and it's often overlooked with relationships. If you're in a relationship with someone and then they suddenly leave never to speak to you again, they have died to you and you've still experienced a loss. Granted, mourning their legitimate death would probably be much more severe. And yes, Kyle, I can't imagine a worse pain in this world than losing a child. I can't imagine life without my child.
I think "move along with" grief is better than "get over"
My number one piece of advice,is to seek professional counselling to work through the pain , towards your new positive reality that awaits for you to arrive and be present!
come together often with others who love the person you lost. speak openly and honestly. especially when you feel alone, reach out to a loved one. don't feel like a burden or ashamed of your emotions. it's ok to be crying one second and laughing the next.
I moved through my grief processes...as it was multiple scenarios in my situation...I just had to sit and feel the emotions and thoughts.
I went through all stages back and forth...until finally I'm accepting it all.All that was stolem/that I lost.
Still grateful for the experiences.
I lost my youngest daughter 14.5 years ago, aged 25yrs. I have never yet gotten over that and I don't think I ever will. What does "getting over" a loss even mean anyway? I miss her every second of every minute of every day and I think I always will. On Christmas Eve 2018, I lost the love of my life. We weren't living together but we have a family together and no matter what each of us was doing or who we were with, we each remained as significant others to each other and we always came back full circle. We had been particularly close for the past ten years and when he passed unexpectedly, it was a massive shock to me and felt like a part of me had been ripped out. I don't think I will ever get over that either. 48yrs is a long time to have someone you love in your life and it leaves a massive hole no-one can fill. xx
I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope even though, as you righteously say, it's never possible to get over it, you still are able to experience happiness and living the life. I hope it doesn't bother you from a complete stranger but I just couldn't go past your message. Sending you love.
Sorry for your loss. I lost my 25 year old daughter December 2020. I will never forget my daughter.
So sorry for your loss. My beautiful 29 year old daughter died 4 weeks ago. I never want ‘to get over her loss’ as she is living on in me. We have regular conversations and she leaves me signs of her presence. We love each other so so much and that love, thankfully can NEVER end. I send you love and hugs and healing ❤️💕❤️
I’m so sorry. I lost my daughter suddenly recently. My family offered no comfort…simply told to ‘move on’. I’m struggling. Putting on a happy mask daily is becoming increasingly difficult. There is no getting over, there is only coping in my humble opinion. Feeling so lost. Sending hugs
So so sorry for your loss. Tomorrow morning will be 1 week without my baby girl. Only 25. It's absolutely crushing!
I lost my dad 12/22/2020 and it still hurts to this day. The wave of emotion and sadness was rough for the first few weeks as I was very close with him.
It was hard to go through his stuff a month or so later and when I went through it I cried when I saw all the pictures/cards he kept.
I was excited going into the holiday season and then it happened. He had open heart surgery a few months back and then the valve got infected.
I lost my husband this February. I am still working through the grief. I am alone our children are grown but I ado see them often 10 days after I lost my husband we lost my 11 year old nephew. It is so difficult to deal with it all. I have some good days and other days it is hard.💔
Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you. This family truly knows where to turn in times of grief.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
I lost my older brother when I was 15, my older sister when I was 26, my mom went into the hospital for a month and during that we got news that our dad passed. It is HARD. I think our resilience to keep going can come from emotional awareness and understanding. Professional counseling if can help too.
Ive been trying to move on from losing my grandmother back in 2009. 10 years and I STILL feel the empty space she left sometimes so deeply that it feels like it happened just yesterday. She was like a mother to me. She was there (along with my father) more than most people are lucky to experience. I loved and love her so freaking much. I literally felt my life was over. I feel bad cuz I know she'd want me to let her go. Not forget but yeah. I am the best at repressing and I think I need to read a book on grief I recently found. If anyone has any tips lemme know. I would really appreciate it. I literally feel like a part of me died WITH her. It's such a scary and intimidating world without her. I didn't realize just how much she held my family together. She was such an important person and everyone has struggled to stay close since then. I miss how my family was before. It's been hard
You don't address that grief that brings you to your knees. That's different than sadness. I have lost older parents, friends, but the loss of my partner brought grief beyond bearable. It's not sadness. It's deep unberavbale pain.
The indicators....yes, bathing issues, not getting up in the morning, not even wanting to see friends or family, not caring anymore. To find people who took care of me during this period, and then to find genuine mental health care has changed my life. I am blest and I do not doubt it. I pray for the ones who can't find help grieving from their losses. Good video, that I'm sure has got to lead into an awesome series. Thank you.
I am not too sure this experience counts for loss. I do have a notion of death and funeral due to my right side of my brain being inflamed and I think and see things very differently. But this experience and my breakdown have left me feeling emotional detachment. On to the experience, I was having paranoid thoughts of all of my close and important people to me dying by falling off a roof. I cried for a few weeks. I came to the conclusion of humanity, and I will always have the memories and the impact that person has on my life. It is just the body that is gone.
I am glad that I watched this video. I just lost my mom from cancer a few weeks ago, and I feel like I have felt a lot in the past few weeks. It is so hard losing your mom. She was my everything.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
@@dannyjimenez9054 Thank you. I appreciate your kindness.
I lost my dad almost 2 years ago very suddenly. Truly the hardest experience of my life 😞
Keep your head up
Same here. (3 years) it’s so incredibly hard. Hope you’re doing well!❤️
❤️❤️❤️❤️
Same here
my dad passed away within 3 months of getting cancer 9 months ago. It was completely unexpected and i was very close to him.
I knew that one day he would be gone and i had thought about him dieing and the eventual time he would not be here previous to him getting diagnosed with the cancer. I also worked as a nurse and delt with a lot of death and people dieing and though i was prepared for it... i wasnt.
Learning to deal with grief has been hard, i did not even realize i was grieving at first it was completely alien to me. I am getting CBT right now for a lot of the depression and anxiety that have been exacerbated, its been a struggle but things have got better in those 9 months.
Thanks for the video MedCircle
During my suicidal period, I began cutting when my dog died. I think it was the fact that people told me it was not a big deal to loose a dog what made me keep the feelings to myself and take it out on me.
I find pet grief can actually be harder to deal with. When my dog died I was overwhelmed with grief. It's such a deep love as they are so innocent and loyal. Unless someone else is a pet owner, they don't really understand the sense of loss.
Completely agree with the other poster. I have been an inconsolable mess with each pet that has passed (to the point where my dad said maybe I shouldn't have pets if I'm this bad ...but that love is what makes you a great pet owner, who truly cares... Which makes it even harder). They are just so innocent and at our mercy that I feel awful, did I do enough etc, they can't express fully what is wrong, are they scared. I find it much worse than when I've lost a human I've known. I know that's weird to some people but your feelings make perfect sense to me. Know that you did a good thing having your dog. I volunteer at the shelter and know all too well not nearly enough dogs get to feel that love. When you feel a little better, maybe use your feelings to do something really good in your dogs memory, maybe foster a dog or volunteer to walk shelter dogs.
Jesus loves you! Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you. This family truly knows where to turn in times of grief.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
One thing that has helped me get through the grief of losing my dad is I thought of the times he's was most proud of. The proudest moments were when I was accomplishing my goals, and just living a pure life. Over the years prior to his passing. I veered away from them. I stopped going to school , I lost forcus of just everything. After my dad passed 6 years ago . I looked deep to see when and where I got lost. I can say now I'm out of the sameness and I used the hole in my heart and filled it with things that make me happy and things that would make not only my dad in heaven proud but my mother proud on earth too
I lost my Mama Thanksgiving 2023 has been the most painful thing I ever ever gone through. Somedays I don’t wanna continue without her she was my best friend my everything my mother I miss you mom so much
20 years ago I lost my grandfather who raised me, I still cry
My husband of 35 years died 8 weeks ago. I'm a hospice chaplain. I thought I knew what to expect. This journey is overwhelmongly sad, powerful, but also interesting in that I know what my patients families are going through now on a personal level.
I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +1206-237-2054 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.
I’m so sorry. May God comfort you.
Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you. This family truly knows where to turn in times of grief.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
Could you do a video specifically talking about grief during and after trauma, please?
I lived in an institution from I was about 11 years old (mind that child care system is totally different here in Denmark than in U.S), my mom became "full time" alcoholic after that, and as a teen and in my early 20's I grieved that I couldn't have a "normal" mom/daughter relationship with her, I asked other adults for advice or help, not my mom. She loved me and I loved her we knew that, but our relationship wasn't "normal" mom/daughter thing, other than the love. So my point is that I had already grieved while she was alive.. she died in December 2018, and .. I still grieve, but in a .. deeper way. She found peace and she isn't in pain anymore she died and I'm relieved for her.. I'm relieved that I don't have to worry about her anymore (she was reduced to nothing at the end, she isolated herself, she didn't want help... it was complicated) .. and I still feel a deep anxiousness sometimes, like how the fuck do I exist without my mom in the world. I've spend over a decade worrying about her, I've been the "grown up" in our relationship over a decade and still felt "lost" when she died, now I cry when I'm happy and good things happen, I think of her and tell her, in my feelings, that I'm happy "now". She loved to laugh, she was a stubborn lady (good and bad), she loved us (her children), she knew what she wanted and what she didn't want (again good and bad), but most of all, she was warm, caring and wanted everyone to be comfortable and happy, I hope to be like that one day (not the bad stuff though).
You know i been similar... she lives in you in your her moments of being sober when she care... her poor soul suffered and its hard to watch lovedone to dp so... however .. i still grif and i have tears and love them that i have this memory in me amdfor ever andever
At 10 my family immigrated to Australia as my 24 yo brother apart from missing him immensely had a successful hairdressing business in Oz. We got here January and he died in August. I tried not to cry as my mum was a mess (like I'd never witnessed). Two years later my dad died after a year or so suffering with stomach cancer. Still trying to be strong and support my mum I finished school got a good job at 17 (throughout all this I knew I didn't feel like other people. Serious, deep and just no light heartedness). Anyway, amongst other things (but we are talking about grief here) when my mum died I was 50 in 2016 and I haven't really stopped crying. I feel ashamed as I'm 50 for heavens sake. I never will be the same again as we stuck together through the good and bad and she made me laugh. The other mitigating factor in all this is my resentment for my siblings who hardly visited her. Her ashes are still in their cupboard as they won't spend money burying her. When I found out the latter I cried like I've never before. I thought my insides were coming out. I probably should have cried at my brothers and dads deaths but just wanted to keep some sanity in the house for mum. Bottling up emotions is the worst thing you can do. I hate it when I see people being interviewed and they keep saying sorry for crying. It's natural. Let it out (try to avoid supermarkets/banks and the like as people look at you strange - I know! I've lost 13 close relatives in 40 years (not including friends) and it never gets easier. I must say I don't believe in ghosts no more as not one gave me a descent cheerio or words of wisdom! Sorry this is long but it's not something for a few sentences.
Grief is love, that you can't give away, and it doesn't have an expiration date. You don't have to grieve or have the same needs as others, and that is perfectly okay. It took a lot of time to learn it, but it makes me feel a lot less guilty.
Watching this video definitely hit home for me right now. I suddenly lost my Grandpa recently due to COVID, and it has been the hardest thing ever to cope with recently. Thank you for the advice and knowing that it’s all normal
I lost my fiance I know how you feel. One day at a time.
I just buried my mom last Saturday. I am struggling so bad with this loss. I hate feeling this way. I don't know how to deal with myself. I pretend I am okay at work but nights when I get home I completely fall apart.
I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my son jersey on may 24th 2020 during lockdown on a car accident he just turned 22 on his birthday, got hit by a drunk truck driver, that was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 13yr old daughter is my everything and the reason I keep strong, my late wife passed away 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866676668 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.
Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you. This family truly knows where to turn in times of grief.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
Needed this! Thank you
My grandma passed away almost two weeks ago. I’m taking it sard even though she was 86 I’m in grief counselor and I watch ppl’s coping techniques.
I lost my mom 2 years ago. I was with her and my dad until thr day she passed away. I was able to say goodbye to her. My husband died a little over a year ago. He was in the hospital and passed before I got there. He was ccx supposed to come home the day he died. I did not think he was going to die. I did not say good bye to him. I cant heal from my loss of him . I miss him so much.
Superb insight (true) from Dr. Ho regarding the death of a child. Grief is a rollercoaster. Be ok w/new reality.
I really appreciate this! I haven’t lost anyone since my grandmother & favorite uncle last almost 10 years ago. I was very young and I handled it pretty well but it hits me now harder than it did back then. Back in 2019 I almost lost my life and my kids in a terrible accident and I never processed that properly, I just went straight into work like nothing happened. Recently this year my mom was diagnosed with cancer.. she will be fine(they caught it early) but also with some recent celebrity deaths, I’ve been in a weird grieving funk I’m trying to get out of. Watching this really helps me navigate these feelings and prepare effectively for the inevitable future of those I love that may pass whether unexpectedly or expected (lordwilling they won’t any time soon🙏🏽) Thankyou!
I currently lost a loved one who I was involved with for the past 18 years due to COVID-19. It has been 39 days since her passing and I am feeling the hurt and pain of her loss. I am trying to identify what stage I am currently in so that I could better understand what I am going through. I know that grief goes in waves sometimes more than others but I have to continue on with my life I just don't know where to start.
Grief is painful.
I love this video.
Love love love Dr. Ho!! She is the best 💕
Chasing the sameness is the little strand that can hold a person together when they can't even hold themselves together
judgement with the whole process of grief....so true!
My best friend killed herself February 3rd and I'm struggling but I get through life ok with the help of therapy and an awesome new antidepressant. I'm still in a rough place but I can get out of bed and function and I feel like every step forward I make I get kicked down by someone who thinks that I need to just snap out of this state of depression and grief
Good learning, thanks.
There is a difference between getting through and getting over the loss of a loved one. When my aunt died I was 12. We lived out of town and my mom had to go back to work. She left me to stay with my grandmother. Honestly I think that doing that was the only thing that helped her to get through those first weeks. It was hard for me, but I was closer to her than my 3 older sisters. To this day I'm glad my mom had me stay. Like the dr. said, just being with someone does more for a person than anything else. It's been 9 years since I lost my little one. The 18th of every month is very hard for me to get through, but I do get through! Not over, but through. I'll see her again someday. I know I will.
I understand the "just" attitude out there. When my sister died I discovered there are no support groups for the loss of adult siblings. The only important role that deceased is supposed to have is to be a spouse or a child if they are an adult. If a child they are validated as a sibling. You will most likely know your sibling longer than any other person in your life, yet the grief is not recognized.
Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you. This family truly knows where to turn in times of grief.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
i had a few losses in the past year, and I was surprised which ones brought on intense grief. losing my grandma was not as difficult as losing my friend (who didn’t die, btw). but because i technically didn’t know the friend that long and because our friendship interfered with my relationship with my boyfriend, i felt like i had no right to grieve. i feel weak and guilty in the process, and very alone. Grief made me feel SO ALONE. such intense longing... and the process has been messy and slow and never-ending. the first few months were just comprised of crying 5 times a day and surviving hour by hour. i’m ok most days now, but sometimes i still relive the first feeling of complete shock and longing as if it just happened. advice: expect grief to be a long and non-linear process.
I lost both of my younger brothers in April 2021. I have no more siblings.
It's so fucking intense. Horrific, painful, exhausting, psychedelic.
But weirdly enough, it still hasn't been a 100% negative experience.
I have learned so much. I can connect to other people in a way I previously couldn't.
I would have never asked for this and I wish so desperately it could be undone.
But seeing as how that simply cannot be, I must at least try to live with it
and try to take the little bits of positivity out if it that I can.
Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you. This family truly knows where to turn in times of grief.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
My dad passed away suddenly about 8 years ago. It’s still SO hard. Also now my mom has recently been diagnosed with cancer so I’m kinda in “ she’s not gone but it could be soon or not” grief. It’s SO SO SO hard.
I have lost my only sister at age 38 years of age. Now every day I miss her and I wish I could help her at the time. No one can really replace her position. I know it wont leave me until I leave this world one day. My parents have lost a daughter. we all are living through this catastrophic event in life.
I feel some people aggravate the situation I feel, asking questions like if her husband is re married.
Many of them do not know personally .
How do you react to such situations. No consolation to what you are going through in life.
I missed my husband is going for 10 years, going through alot more make me sad,feel alone even ppl around me,hard to deal with it everyday. I was in a grief group feel uncomfortable to many ppl going through the same thing.could not cope.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay.
Last year I lost my fur baby Cheyenne 14 years old in January, in March I lost my mother-in-law who I loved dearly, in August I lost my favorite cousin due pancreatic cancer, but I think the hardest one was the loss my sister she was three years older than me she had a massive heart attack with no heart history ,she was my best friend my go-to person we had a very special bond all through our lives we're pregnant the same time our sons are only four days apart my son and her daughter were born a month apart , so we raised our children together a second mom to each others kids we were always together now we have granddaughters ,we did things all the time together always together , we always had each other's Back's we laughed together we cried together, SHE WAS MY PERSON !! Laura passed September 22nd 2020 it's now November a year later I miss her so much I have so much Love for her and so many good memories it's so hard for me ! I have two other sisters but it's not the same . I can't wait till the day I see her again . My best friend since the day I was born 50 years ago 😢
It's not just the loss of someone who died. Divorce, especially if you were not the one who left, is like a death, even worse in that you are no longer loved, you are rejected and that person you loved and who loved you, is standing in front of you, like the walking dead.
A valuable video.
I lost my husband in June 3rd 2020.in congo. I didn't go to his funeral, I missed his so much am still grieving. I had no closure. But am taking each day at it comes you have your ups and down.
For me, my family of origin fell apart, when I was about 13... mom developed schizofrenia, dad started to drink too much, etc. etc. It took me about 20 years to start grieving the loss (started after I got married). Any way, listening to emotions helps me process mine. I would like to point out that the 2nd stage is the stage of NON-specific emotions (anger, but some people are anxious, scared, etc.).... using the emotion the way that emotion is usually used will not help the situation.
Thank you. This is a a huge and current issue. For the last six years I have had too many loved ones die. My Nephew who I co-parented died a week before his 23rd Birthday. People questioned why I was and still destroyed over it, because I was just his Aunt. Sometimes Aunts and Uncles have a just as strong bond as Parents. I point out by that reasoning Adoptive parents shouldn’t grieve if they lose their child because they didn’t give birth.
It hurts because we love.
At 14 I watched the life leave my nanny's eyeballs from a rare case of double pneumonia that also killed a healthy 20 year old man the week before. I was very close with her also. In fact I had spent most of her last year with her after my pawpaw died. She died of a broken heart. She did. She was coherent till the very end despite the fact she was on life support. Doctors only paralyzed her from the neck down instead of a medically induced coma so she could be aware and alert while awake to interact with us the family. Hours b4 the last moment I had snuck in some me and her minutes while everyone else was distracted. I can remember the things I said but I do however remember wiping her tears from her cheeks as she listened and loved. I still have that tissue. When she passed my mom and cousin Mandy were on the left side of the bed telling her it was OK to let go and so on. My cousins Johnny and Matthew were on the right and Johnny was screaming "don't die nanny, please don't fucking leave me". He also was telling my mom and Mandy to shut tf up and stop telling her that while I stood at the end of the bed holding her feet as if I was going to stop her from leaving that way. I watched her watching us as some of the saddest tears streamed from her eyes as she fought the last many seconds of her life. This was my first experience with real grief. I can hardly remember papa's death and funeral other than the extravagant masonic send off delivered by his masonic brothers. My nanny tho, I remember everything. Not to long after I had seen a Disney movie called life size depicting a grieving girl trying to bring her mother back after dieing from cancer starring Tyra Banks. I took the movie's depiction of the magic seance and tried to bring my nanny back to me. For the first time dream of my nanny that night. Well, shall I say she visited me in a dream. My whole family was in the church that we were raised in. Nanny was in the back pew with this glowing Aura bubble around her. I walked back to her and I asked her "nanny I thought you were dead?". She said "oh honey, I Will Always be with You". And she held me in her lap I'm headed my hair as I laid in her lap in the few just like I did all the years growing up Church until I woke up. This dream was different. She was there. Don't need dreaming of her but there, however. And for the most part I was alright after that...
However my grief and loss did not stop there. At 18 years old my first love killed my cousin Johnny. After I brought Johnny home from the club after running into him and he was scared he was having second drug-induced heart attack at just 28 years old in 1 week. I'm not going to go into much more detail about that because it's a very very long drawn-out story with a lot of very sad details in between.
To sum it up a bit,, I fell asleep and after I fell asleep Johnny encountered my brothers and neighbors (will) family and conflict arose and Will stabbed Johnny in the back one time bc Johnny was beating wills fathers head in with a baseball bat. He did not drop immediately, however. I was awaken by a nightmare just about an hour and a half after falling asleep to... alot... and my cousin dead in the living room floor. Like I said, so much detail. I was on extacy and had been the whole night while clubbing. That's when my brain changed. I had what I would soon find out to be PTSD from the event. Tomorrow is the 15th year anniversary of 6/16/06.
I have lost many more significant people through the years after but the loss I experienced at 26 proved to be a different kind of grief. My husband died in car accident 11/23/13. I've lost the will to live. I'm afraid to die so suicide I'd not an option. So I just sit and wait everyday to finally stop breathing. My closest friend since early teens, the only person in the entire world who loved me more than any one else that walked the face of this earth with the the only exception being my own mother.... well she died almost 2 years ago now of an accidental over dose. She never did anything legally stating me the God parent of her 2 girls, even tho it was many years due. I can't and couldn't have children due to the severe skeletal health issues I'm currently learning of and beginning to combat.
Every day hurts. Every day I miss almost every single person that was my life picture. I don't like being awake. I'm only 34 years old. I can't miss everyone I love every waking moment of the rest of the next 40 plus years. I can't keep meeting people, learning to love them just to miss them for the rest of my life, which I'm afraid is going to be an unfortunate 30+ years. I prey every day for early dementia bc living hurts when I can remember to miss everyone I love.
Jesus loves you more than you could possibly know.Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you. This family truly knows where to turn in times of grief.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
I lost my husband in August 2023. I can't do anything. Cleaning, laundry. I ache every where, it feels my muscles are on fire, it's hard to move at all
Almost everyone will loose people that are near, but the really HARD losses are when you loose a child
Help. I have lived with grief for 14 years. I have no friends or family for support. I have been unable to get any help. I can't bear living like this.
Me too.❤
me too
That was an example¬ no words stolen
2 years ago I lost my mother suddenly at the beginning of covid to what we believe now was covid. She's my best friend and my everything. It changed me as a person and I lost myself. I'm still trying to get through it. I don't know how hence why I'm here watching this video. So many people tell me I need to "move on" and "get over it" that she's gone and nothing I do or say will bring her back. They say that it's only hurting me by trying to keep her alive in my head. I think a lot of people that haven't truly grieved loss of loved one don't know how hurtful their words can be.
Please allow me to share my best friend's story with you. This family truly knows where to turn in times of grief.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ruclips.net/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/видео.html
I found that talking about my mom with family and watching/doing the things we loved to do together has helped. I know what you mean by feeling like you lost yourself. After my mom passed March 2020 I felt the same. I felt so much anger but recently I've reminded myself she's at peace and that gives me comfort. It still hurts and I'll always miss her. But I don't think our moms would be happy if we didn't laugh or try to enjoy life for what it is. Don't hold back on how you feel though. Cry and cry and cry. It's better to let it out than hold it in.
I lost my mom on April 3, 2020 after she lived with dementia. For me it is still hard to stop missing her and wanting her here. She and I were not just mother & daughter but friends as well. It seems like I am going along ok and then something will trigger her loss again, like if another loved one passes or a friend loses a loved one *especially their mom" it brings me back to losing my mom. I am still so heartbroken :( ; Our church just lost our Sr Pastor after his battle with cancer, this man was my youth minister and then later on became my minister for the past 22 years, I actually have known him since I was 12 or 13; & he and his family are very good friends of mine. He left a big hole in our church. So now, I been wondering why God is taking everyone away who has made a big impact on my life: my grandparents, a dear friend, dad, mom & now my pastor. I often feel like I don't want to meet new people for fear of losing them too. :(
I'm know this video came out 2 years ago. I was looking up on grief and how long it last. I'm grateful I come across these videos.
September 2021 lost my father he was 92. He was my world I was the youngest. Everyday I cry also there are times I sleep for days and I know that isn't good.fast forward 6 months later my daughter who at the time was 22 her boyfriend died. She had to perform CPR on him. He was like a son to me and I could not imagine what and how my daughter went through that. He died in her arms and hearing his last breath heartbreaking as a parent to hear your child going through this at her age.
So in 6 months grief really hit hard.
Lost my father due to Covid-19 it’s hard to let go of grieving. Please help! (Sahida)
I lost my 9 1/2 yr old fur baby who had saved me from severe empty nest symptoms, suddenly with only 7 days with him from the time he was diagnosed with advanced Diabetes. He was born in my front room 12/2/09 and I held his head in my arms as he took his last breath @ vets office. It was a horrific thing to witness, and the guilt & nightmares are constant. His brother, and life companion is grieving horribly. Which makes it even harder on me. I dont know how to make it better for myself or for him. I feel broken and unfixable. 😥
It’s been a while, I hope you’re doing ok
I lost my brother who I was close with and I still am struggling with the his loss but when my mother died in 2016 I grieved but I was not really close with her so it wasn't so hard in letting go!
My parents were diagnosed with stage VI cancers 5 weeks apart. My dad was my person I live that pain everyday. My career has been affected, medication doesn't work when I look in the mirror, its not me. It's a person in pain wearing a mask so no one knows.. that I'm broken. 😔 10 years the 26 of January. It's exhausting, my naps or sleeps run 20 to 40+ hours. My grief is okay with my mom, but I am reliving 2008,2009 and 2010. Every year, every month, every day, every hour and second like it just happened. He left and didn't take me and I don't know how to live in a world he doesn't exist in.
I'd never spent a night alone,,, I lost my best friend,,my soul m8,, nobody listened,, I tried killing myself 6 times,,family just say "grow up" "be a man" I've got BPD depression split psychosis and unstable personality disorder... I was left alone to die really... it's been 1 year 3 months since that day..im still here :) just but I'm still here..