David you are right about men sugarcoating things instead of telling the truth. I could tell that my ex was tired of me and wanted out. We were living together. But he used every excuse under the sun to convince me to move out. Luckily, I could read in between the lines and I acted accordingly. But as soon as I moved out, he starts being good towards me again. Which got me to think that he actually wanted us to continue the relationship but living separately. Men can't just be honest, they would rather lie.
A mother should always find out what the child does with everybody, including the estranged father, because you never know what is going on. It could be the child is even being sexually abused and the mother doesn't even know because she is busy sanctimoniously "maintaining boundaries".
I think what she meant was, that info should be voluntary , not to always ask the child as if u are expecting her to be mistreated. Am sure the child still talk about everything with granny but voluntarily.
@@agnesmkhuzangwe7308 There is a way to ask for details without poisoning the relationship between father and child. As you can see, even Advocate Dubazana has admitted, that her daughter recently made a cryptic message , which has left her wondering if there is something wrong. I'm not saying that something major happened between father and daughter, nevertheless her daughter has expressed some disquiet, which came as a surprise to the advocate and has now put her on alert. Sometimes it pays to have direct conversations with your children, especially if you know, that you are not coming from a place of malice.
I think valid reasons may be: 1. Infedility which has both emotional and health repercussions such as depression among other mental illnesses, and of course the risk of sexually transmitted diseases. 2. Domestic violence which is a no-brainer. The endurance of abuse leads to many problems in the long run, and at times even death. The trauma exposed to the victim and children will have ripple effect in their respective lives, and frustrate society even further. 3. Incompatibility which is something people are often unaware of in the early stages of their relationship, which at times baffles me because the partners start realising their lack of mental, emotional and perhaps even sexual connection until they're hitched then make the courageous decision to split and not waste each other's time. I have come across many couples who experienced this and it's sad, and makes my mind spin about how you may think you really know and understand a person until a certain time when you discover that you really don't. I feel like these are very prominent, but of course there are others that may justify the grounds for a divorce, no matter how unfortunate the circumstances may be. Divorce is financially and emotionally stressful. It's not for the faint hearted. However we can never judge. My own parents walked down that path when I was 11 years old, although I wish they got divorced earlier for everyone's sake. Luckily it was an amicable one.
I do not need a lawyer right now but I know who my future lawyer will be😂. Nthabiseng Dubazana, I am putting you on my speed dial in advance😂. Thanks so much for a 3rd episode of an informative session🤗
Wow, so married couples can divorce just to claim pension funds and pay their debts and they remarry each other. Finances are a big concern in marriages🤔
Yes but it's risky. My male colleague did it with his unemployed wife. As soon as madam received the money, she told umsebenzi that listen mina nawe sidivosile, this is my money, move out of my f@^#% house and I'm gonna apply for a spousal maintenance. The dude lost his 50% pension fund and his house
Hay ntate Mashabela, I know you don't need the money, but can we at least get a "thanks" option because the insight we're getting on this channel is too much, I feel uncomfortable listening for free.
Thanks uncle Dave for bringing such voices on these platforms, this convo is so enlightening , vs radio its like an unplugged session jam session, you just get there bare real convo, no distractions etc. love it.
Awu ntate Mashabela 🙏 I always feel like I'm eavesdropping on old people's conversations when I listen to these chats as a young man 😂 but I'm happy to be aware, so i step into matters with a more open mindset..
Bra Dave..... Thanks for very insightful and character building discussions.... May the Good Lord & Ancestors continue to bless you with wisdom so you can bring exciting people to the platform.
i enjoyed both Ausi Nthabiseng episodes, i have so much in common in my journey as her and it really made aware of many things that i had questions in mind but never discussed with my husband. please keep up the good work Aubuti David
Unmarried. Wanting to get into a partnership. This podcast just opened my eyes in appreciating me being single and not wanting to get into marriage. Man after divorce don't come ryt. It's a war man don't come back mental ryt. So no thanks.
What do you mean they don't come right? Not everyone wants marriage anyway, but you can still have a partner and just live the rest of your lives together cohabitating.
David has hit the spot about us men letting things slide and not call a spade a spade, I'm battling with that and I actually thought there's something wrong with me😢
Nthabiseng must be a chairperson of basadi conference, i would not mind to have her as a family friend, conversations like these are needed . Thank you Bro David. Thanks also to the platform like these as even after 20 years i can go back and watch or refer someone here.
Hello David, all the podcast link in your website are not working. Can you please fix it? or better still put all the complete episodes of the podcast on RUclips. That way one can always have access to all your content and end the re-direction. Thanks for the amazing job. Looking forward...
I wish I could ask her this question... say you are in debt or you want to buy a house. Deep down, you know you have your pension fun and you want to use it. What legal options do you have that you can apply for in order to access that cash?
It depends on the individual's on how they were raised at home . They know of boundries, mostly its about respecting the other person space. Now'days people are interfering in other people affairs. Older generation 👵👴 practice that #Botho.
Nthabiseng Dubazana is the definition of black excellence🤝
Bona. She is an inspiration to the black nation
Not sure why you have to make this a racial thing
This lady is really smart. I like her insight about marriage.
Love that the lady tries to fix families we need that
King David... This has been an amazing 👏 talk, as always. Nthabi, Gerald and Kelebo. Love those financial and legal convos.
David you are right about men sugarcoating things instead of telling the truth. I could tell that my ex was tired of me and wanted out. We were living together. But he used every excuse under the sun to convince me to move out. Luckily, I could read in between the lines and I acted accordingly. But as soon as I moved out, he starts being good towards me again. Which got me to think that he actually wanted us to continue the relationship but living separately. Men can't just be honest, they would rather lie.
i like the wisdom that your mother has said
They suffer with cheating yet they cheat a lot🙄
Right🤔😏
A mother should always find out what the child does with everybody, including the estranged father, because you never know what is going on. It could be the child is even being sexually abused and the mother doesn't even know because she is busy sanctimoniously "maintaining boundaries".
I think what she meant was, that info should be voluntary , not to always ask the child as if u are expecting her to be mistreated. Am sure the child still talk about everything with granny but voluntarily.
@@agnesmkhuzangwe7308 There is a way to ask for details without poisoning the relationship between father and child. As you can see, even Advocate Dubazana has admitted, that her daughter recently made a cryptic message , which has left her wondering if there is something wrong.
I'm not saying that something major happened between father and daughter, nevertheless her daughter has expressed some disquiet, which came as a surprise to the advocate and has now put her on alert.
Sometimes it pays to have direct conversations with your children, especially if you know, that you are not coming from a place of malice.
What did we do to deserve such content?. Thank you so much bro David.
Powerful educational content
I think valid reasons may be:
1. Infedility which has both emotional and health repercussions such as depression among other mental illnesses, and of course the risk of sexually transmitted diseases.
2. Domestic violence which is a no-brainer. The endurance of abuse leads to many problems in the long run, and at times even death. The trauma exposed to the victim and children will have ripple effect in their respective lives, and frustrate society even further.
3. Incompatibility which is something people are often unaware of in the early stages of their relationship, which at times baffles me because the partners start realising their lack of mental, emotional and perhaps even sexual connection until they're hitched then make the courageous decision to split and not waste each other's time. I have come across many couples who experienced this and it's sad, and makes my mind spin about how you may think you really know and understand a person until a certain time when you discover that you really don't.
I feel like these are very prominent, but of course there are others that may justify the grounds for a divorce, no matter how unfortunate the circumstances may be.
Divorce is financially and emotionally stressful. It's not for the faint hearted. However we can never judge. My own parents walked down that path when I was 11 years old, although I wish they got divorced earlier for everyone's sake. Luckily it was an amicable one.
Point 3 is quite common.
Dubazana Attorneys doing the Lord's work and enlightening on life and legal matters. I'm looking forward to this episode 🤩
I do not need a lawyer right now but I know who my future lawyer will be😂. Nthabiseng Dubazana, I am putting you on my speed dial in advance😂. Thanks so much for a 3rd episode of an informative session🤗
Wow, so married couples can divorce just to claim pension funds and pay their debts and they remarry each other. Finances are a big concern in marriages🤔
Yes but it's risky. My male colleague did it with his unemployed wife. As soon as madam received the money, she told umsebenzi that listen mina nawe sidivosile, this is my money, move out of my f@^#% house and I'm gonna apply for a spousal maintenance. The dude lost his 50% pension fund and his house
Hay ntate Mashabela, I know you don't need the money, but can we at least get a "thanks" option because the insight we're getting on this channel is too much, I feel uncomfortable listening for free.
I'm studying law myself, Mama Dubazana is an inspiration because of her confidence and her charismatic skills.
Thanks uncle Dave for bringing such voices on these platforms, this convo is so enlightening , vs radio its like an unplugged session jam session, you just get there bare real convo, no distractions etc.
love it.
This was a superb Wednesday talk. Gripping and somehow therapeutic... Very appreciative of your pearls of wisdom Nthabi.
Peer Pressure aka "Social Media" is another contributing factor to divorces. Great Session!
Awu ntate Mashabela 🙏 I always feel like I'm eavesdropping on old people's conversations when I listen to these chats as a young man 😂 but I'm happy to be aware, so i step into matters with a more open mindset..
Uncle Dave always give me the reason why I believe subscribing to his channel is the best thing I have done on RUclips. Big Up bro!!
💯🔥💞
This discussion was very educational, thank you very much
Nthabiseng Dubazana!Nthabiseng Dubazana!Whooooooooooo!Awunantanga uhamba wedwa shame📍Hayi mahn ngiyakuvuma!iWisdom engaka👏🏾
Ppl must really listen to you here, that point of one person evolving alone coursed a lot of problems in so many homes.
Yazi ngathi some of the answers they scare uDavid, ngathi he's thinking, "I'd rather not get married"
I'm getting the same vibe from him
Suspected cheating that was not verified 😳Hawu!Nthonyana eo fela.Kodwa amadzodza.🙄
Nthabiseng Dubazane,you rock madam.So therapeutic to just listen to you,sooo much wisdom 🙌. King David realeboga. Stay blessed
Bra Dave..... Thanks for very insightful and character building discussions.... May the Good Lord & Ancestors continue to bless you with wisdom so you can bring exciting people to the platform.
"women leave you way before they leave you"- David Mashabela
i enjoyed both Ausi Nthabiseng episodes, i have so much in common in my journey as her and it really made aware of many things that i had questions in mind but never discussed with my husband. please keep up the good work Aubuti David
Proud of you ngoaneso, o etsa mosebetsi o motle.
Nthabiseng’s mom 📍👏🏾Yhooooooooooo!Yimbokodo liqhawe lamaqhawekazi eli .Ndiyamthanda mahn
Unmarried. Wanting to get into a partnership. This podcast just opened my eyes in appreciating me being single and not wanting to get into marriage. Man after divorce don't come ryt. It's a war man don't come back mental ryt. So no thanks.
What do you mean they don't come right?
Not everyone wants marriage anyway, but you can still have a partner and just live the rest of your lives together cohabitating.
I love Nthabiseng is Such A Vibe
Love her to bits
Mr mashabela yoll are doing a good job I would like to come see yoll in action in studio as I inspire to build such empires. Please.
David has hit the spot about us men letting things slide and not call a spade a spade, I'm battling with that and I actually thought there's something wrong with me😢
Speak up. I prefer one to open up, have no filter, despite my reaction. I'm ready for anything. I love to be challenged 😁
Beautiful conversation and engaging individuals. The host is very intuitive and flexible with his guests. He never disappoints.
Out of community of property without accrual
May we please share same Quote around this conversation. " We have to be comfortable enough to have comfortable conversation" eish
Thoroughly enjoyed Ausi Nthabiseng's insight. I have been empowered.
Nthabiseng must be a chairperson of basadi conference, i would not mind to have her as a family friend, conversations like these are needed . Thank you Bro David. Thanks also to the platform like these as even after 20 years i can go back and watch or refer someone here.
I love this lady, she is so matured. I love the way she reasons. Her thinking capacity is so rational. I've learned a lot from her.
She is full of wisdom
This is an interesting and educational conversation, Million Dollaz worth of Game, 👌Thanks again King 👑
I'm a fan Mr Mashabela...thnx ka info
I've Enjoyed all three and most likely the next one with Nthabiseng ...
Uncle Davis, i appreciate your content always on point and very informative.
Hayini !Mess kuMdali😳
Thank you for giving us relevant content.
Regarding the sugarcoating part, you are spot on Ntate Mashabela
Very informative
🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂Secrets
What a powerful conversation. I love it. Thank you
Very nice, sadly can't understand the Zulu bits and lose track of the conversation but otherwise very good content!
Mrs Nthabiseng Dubazana is so smart, I enjoy her talks with the King.
Hello David, all the podcast link in your website are not working. Can you please fix it? or better still put all the complete episodes of the podcast on RUclips. That way one can always have access to all your content and end the re-direction. Thanks for the amazing job. Looking forward...
I wish I could ask her this question... say you are in debt or you want to buy a house. Deep down, you know you have your pension fun and you want to use it. What legal options do you have that you can apply for in order to access that cash?
King David, great staff my king. I love your content it is so educational.
Nthabiseng Dubazana, you are a God sent, please keep on doing the good work that you are doing.
Thought provoking as always. Great conversation
Empowerment sessions Mashabela sibamba ngazo zozibini👏🏾
Very informative,Ausi Nthabiseng 😘
I've learnt a lot thank you so much
Irreconcilable differences🤣😂
Different strokes for different folks 🤣😂
My helper is doing exactly the same & ke mosotho
It depends on the individual's on how they were raised at home . They know of boundries, mostly its about respecting the other person space. Now'days people are interfering in other people affairs. Older generation 👵👴 practice that #Botho.
Always keen to learn from. Her
I love this lady