I got rejected by 2 narcissists. I was going crazy when we broke up but it is a blessing in disguise ladies. Don’t look back and live in the present. You will find someone amazing. Also don’t give more than they give you.
Any men that tests you is not worthy of your time. I don't care about their intentions of testing the women. If is about their "values" because he will never be satisfied. These are men that have low self esteem.
When you try to be honest and give your whole life to them then they didn't appreciate. I'm heart broken right now but i think i need to let him go so he can do what he want and never beg him to come back!!!
I’ve been thinking about this so much! I realized it happened this last relationship so I had to break up with him because he started to take me for granted…
Fear of abandonment? Don't even start to date if you have that fear. Love should be a happy experience. If you carry that negative vibe into it from the start you're missing the best part of romance. Why bother if you feel that way. Don't put that chain around your partner's neck & keep them your hostage. They deserve trust & truth in a relationship.
I have learned to love and cherish myself and not forcing any man to love me. For me , rejection is sometimes protection.No matter how I love you by the time I notice that it's weighing on me,I let go.
No real lover leaves you behind only to come back again when you have already gotten used to be by yourself or even having a date. It is unfair for such a situation to arise in a relationship. Some men have appalling attitudes towards women. Going around making everyone to fall in love with them. It is just not right.
I am not chasing anyone. No matter what happens between us. I value your advice but this is my decision in not chasing someone or contacting someone who I have broken up with or who has broken up with me.
Also relying on a higher power and praying and putting your faith in God has really kept me strong during the breakup and has even had him saying he’s shocked I haven’t tried to reach him and that I’ve been so strong but it’s literally God. He’s been my new bf and will be even if we end up together
I took the courage to stand for my standards and call his BS out when he was not respecting me, in order to facilitate leveling up and he preferred to break up with me instead of working on improving our relationship. It was the relationship with the most quality I had in the last 20 years....(imagine how bad was the previous) its been 5 months and I am still suffering and missing him incredibly, and I regret for pushing him hard to confirm in the way I wanted to resolve our conflict. The harsh truth is that patriarchy has created an unfair environment for women in the relationship world and if women dynamically try to claim their wants and standards, most likely will be dumbed, because the male fragile egos cannot handle it!
I'm in the same situation kinda. He left instead of trying to work on our issues. If we had just talked about it months before we would have still been happy today. It's been 2 months and I miss him terribly. I know I should keep silent and "hope" he comes back, but at the same time, he is a Gemini, and I know if I don't reach out soon I could lose him forever. I do not want to lose this relationship. It still has value for me. I have changed for the better because of it.
Relationships mirror where we are out of relationship with ourselves. When we utilize relationships as reflective, we are in right relationship with self. When we look to the other to validate and recognize us, we are out of relationship with self.
i did many mistakes bc of trauma response and i always made him feel guilty. i was needy, pushy didn’t trust him and was critizicing him so much. i now woke up. i got it. i‘m willing to change but he said that he feels bad for a long time and is disconnected. i love him so much and i now know that i have to do more things alone and work on everything. i hope we find back together bc he is the most wonderful, intelligent, beautiful and most loving man in the world 😭
Amazing. Same here. The difference here is that he physically assaulted me. I still hope he heals. I am working on my healing, maybe we can be together one day!
Thank you soo much. Few months back, i met a guy , the 1st i got the best feeling of my life but i deleted our WhatsApp chat, he was not happy and he told me how he hates it. After 1 week i did the same thing. This time it was intentional to see how much he loves me. And from that he stopped talking to me. I miss him 😢 i deleted his number but sometimes he just says hi and he disappears 😢 . Few minutes back before i watched this video, i checked on him to see how he's doing. After watching this i went and deleted everything plus his number. I pray God gives me strength to ignore him 😢😢
As blended family, I put a lot of work into my marriage because what I want is my kids to have a father to have a stable and complete family. I’m realizing that I’ve never loved myself enough to let a man chase me I put myself low!!! It’s been 5 months I’m not doing anything about my marriage not talking to him because I realize he is narcissistic he never been wrong and always manipulative! I’m ready to leave and start to love myself and to stop accepting abuse only for my kids to haves a dad I was naïve! I’m ready to leave and he told my parents that I’m driving him crazy!!! Because I used to cry and try to communicate so now I go to the gym, go for coffee with friends and looking gorgeous. I was struggling with a fear of rejection and shame but God is with me and we will be good with my kids they need a healthy and happy mama🥰❤️🇨🇦thank you brothers so much for wisdom and knowledge
Mine came back after six years a month ago glad I didn't fall for "I love you" never accept them back reject them. I don't care about them I like a new start.
As a woman, I let my depression get in the way, he was making me happy, and when he broke it off, it was mainly because he wanted to protect himself and his mental health. I am learning to love myself, I look forward to future reconciliation. I know it’ll take time, and I love him, but I need to learn to love myself and not let depression win.
I had debilitating depression for 15 years. Jesus healed me. How? I forgave my parents. I forgave me for having no life. I stopped sin ( premarital sex) and I renounced occult. Once I obeyed the Lord's directives, depression gone! 7 years now!
Finally someone who can give a proper time frame of how long it might take a guy to resurface! Otherwise ppl talk about a week, if you haven't heard from him it's definitely over.
When I feel insecurities I initiate break up because I really don't want men's immarity to spill in my busy life. Fortunately I don't regret them leaving. They're problem sometimes. They that women can enjoy life without them
That's exactly what I do I just break up first before them so that I feel I've that freedom. Men can manipulate especially when u show much love to them. Sometimes they think we are desperate so when I sense any misbehaviour. I leave no warnings
This is what I really needed to hear. My friend broke up with me after 7 years and I’m so so heartbroken. But this video has helped me understand so much.
Your 'friend ' left after 7 years? You must love & respect yourself, my dear. Don't ever let a man waste your time. 7 years? Nooo. Turn to the Lord. That's your.answer.
Why is it that men like the opposite? When you show love, he doesn't seem to be attracted. When you show little interest, that's when he wants to go after you. How do people stay married then? I thought if two people are like-minded and connect, and feel they found home, the relationship works. How do you build attraction?
I know a woman whose been happily married 35 years. How? She has a life and she doesn't pursue or smother her man. My sense is you can love him but keep him on his toes by being a wee bit out of reach sometimes.
I left because I was being USED. I love her still to this day. I love her and her daughter. I was being mirrored. She has major issues from childhood and enabling parents and past relationships trauma related. She has never healed. Narcissists never take time for themselves, they never reflect or take accountability. I tried so hard. Until I realized what was going on. She had direct Agendas from the start. It’s sick. And sad. So I chose myself and I know who I am what I have to offer. Wish her the best.
How I wish someone would help me understand about relationships and standards. As a woman I only seek security and validation but I feel it hard to find.
My bf/ex-bf and I had a fight, and he texted me 2 days later asking a question, I responded with a statement, and I haven't heard from him since. He's a scardy cat who, throughout the relationship, made me feel like he just didn't care during the tough times. He never put in the effort to work things out. He never fought for the relationship. I was always the one approaching him trying to communicate and work things out. He is the worst communicator I've ever met in my life. He shuts down and sulks in the corner. If I didn't say anything, he wouldn't have said anything for days. It was emotional and mental abuse bc he never tried and always twisted stories. Sounds like a narcissist, but I think he just didn't have the skills to maintain a proper relationship other than love bombing and then not keeping his word.
This just happened to me, guy did this, he didn’t want to communicate once he had me moved in, said he wants to be alone, he’s 63 and has Ed and wants to live like a hermit I guess, or throw himself a pity party. He won’t contact me is what imm guessing
@jamiesimon2048 I'm sorry to hear that. I totally relate to this emotionally draining situation. They are not how real men should be. I don't know your guy, so I can't give my two cents, but based on my experience, if they get too comfortable too quickly, they've done their deed. Once they get their bate, enough work is done. It's the tough journeys in life that prove their value, so if he never had to work hard to earn his position with you, he may never prove it. It's offensive and demeaning, but that's how these children function with half a brain.
Why would any confident, selfrespecting woman take a man back that comes back for his ego and his own convenience? Most men only 'validate' women for being a free housecleaner, free sexworker, free womb to carry and deliver his offspring, free cook, free shrink when he had a bad day at work, free teacher and educator for his kids, etc.. etc... Not as an actual human being with her own charachter, opinions, taste, life goals, and so on. They all do the blabla as if wanting a confident woman, but they just want a superwoman doing all those tasks and on top that ever looking young and thin, never whining, nerer angry. When you are actually confident and successful and setting boundries, you are 'difficult', 'crazy', 'dramaqueen', ... in their eyes. The only ex that came back in my life, did so a best friend. He has low sexdrive, never wanted kids, does his own housekeeping, always had a soft spot for excentric women whom persue their careers, hobbies and interests. He kept attending my poetry events, helping me out and stuff. Don't be with people who are just in it for themselves. That concerns friendships, colleages and family as well. If you're unable to avoid them, spend as little time as possible with them and keep it distant and pragmatic. They will only keep you from blossoming and thriving!
Most relationships work in this convenience type way. Mostly because we have to work for a living while upholding our responsibilities and chores, it’s all part of life if you don’t think so or would like someone different Then, maybe consider marrying a very rich guy who has servants. 😉 🤑😉
In my case I broke up after him asking for a break. We had a 15 day no contact break, and when we finally spoke, amongst many other things he said he’d need more 21 days time. On the next day I broke up with him out of my dignity. It’s been one month. I still love him.
Blimey, I didn't realise I was operating as a dating school / psychoanalyst to train men on how to behave to maintain a relationship but here I am. I appreciate the video and i agree that you guys are probably right in most circumstances but i don't think i have the energy or the resilience to do it, it's a minefield!
I would not invest myself unless I devoted myself to loving him fully and properly. I would only hope he would do the same. I love to see him happy..when he's down it upsets me..because I see in him his best..I at times wish I could take what he felt away..to let him know how proud of him I am..how loved he is..and how bright he shines...For that man I will love & cater to him..not only in the way he wishes..but in ways I should understand..see and feel from knowing him...communication is important...love in ways THEY NEED is important...
Ladies ....you need to fix your attachment style or this cycle of abuse will just repeat itself with all the man in your life. Look up anxious attachment style and listen to "attached" on you tube. Life changing, I PROMISE YOU!
My ex wanted to break what we had (was indifferent, cheated on me), but as soon as I realized that I dumped him hard so thanks to his super high ego he will never ever annoy me with any forms of regret (he never had) or thoughts of coming back.
What a beautfel liar, why are some woman s' like sufferen like this we haven a littel bit let it go guilty is gone. yes its time too let it go and we thinking some times we Don t not going forgiven you no more for before you beautful a lie no support no trust no respect no communction Do you wanna get serious when you I am ask you something things When you have a relationschip with a girl she want s only that you be there for her child support trust loyal love and be a Father of your childeren some childeren don t have a father or mother band I am crying That s not so hard Please be there for them God bless you. 🙏🏽💖😢
Are they talking about immature and unavailable men? Cause to me this rule applies mainly to toxic men ore relationships. My experience It is a game. A mature man won't leave you cause he would know your worth
Mine didn’t. It’s been four years. No contact. There’s someone new for 2 years now . I’m blocked everywhere. Four years ago he trashed me all over social media after betraying me in the worst way . He has never tried to reach out in any way. We were in a long term relationship. It ended unexpectedly and in a horrible way.
Thank you so much guys for your authentic perspective ....this topic is so in season in my life....this guy really almost made me lose my cool... thank you for helping me press my reset button.... will keep you update....🎉😊❤
We had a conversation a few days ago… I told him (in a very calm manner) that I need him to keep his word to me. It’s a respect & if you keep your word, you build and strengthen trust. He threw a tantrum & hasn’t spoken to me in 3 days. 😂 it’s been rollercoaster for me…. But I refuse to chase him. Not doing it. I can be with anyone I want. I want to be with him. He has to see for himself that he wants to be with me.
It's a classic move. But don't worry, you're a strong and independent person who deserves someone who values your feelings and keeps their word. Keep your chin up, and don't settle for less than you deserve!
I left a narcissist after many years of thinking it was ego because of his profession. Now he wants to reconnect with me and I am so happy on my own. I wish him well.
It's great to hear that you were able to recognize the toxic behavior and move on to a happier place in your life. Wishing you continued happiness and growth!
This video is so powerful. More so that it is acknowledged by these men it is so eye opening. Men see us as the prize but we women underestimate ourselves so much.... It had to be said by these 2 men for me to be able to realize many things I should have done differently. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
If a Man leaves you, let him leave! Life is too short to be playing games with a grown boy who isn't ready for a real woman. God didn't stop when He made him. Leave him where he needs to be!
My problem is the opposite. I’m always breaking up with them and they always come after me no matter how many times I tell them the same thing and they don’t they try a little bit but it’s not good enough never is.
When the relation has not had a chance to start, this does not happen, it is my case it's 15 months now, +the fact I was seeing him at his work place and had very little exchanges does not help, yet I saw him 6-8 months.. There are these subtils energetic bond between people which bring them back together or that we cannot forget them.. I cannot forget, but have kept my distance as I stopped going the moment I felt rejected without knowing why. However as said he did not try to approach me, but he showed me one thing, then changed overnight.. All happened without words..I feel mainly frustrated not having had a chance to communicate..and perhaps being demeaned/or influenced by the people around him, colleagues, and consequently there was no closure, or have a chance to even know him. Anyway, that is my situation, and still think of him, will absolutely make move to recontact him. Thanks for all your very precious work, a very comprehensive analysis indeed. 🌈
What if everything they’ve asked for is putting more distance? I listen to their requests and it seems like we’re better off saying goodbye. I’m here but for what.
I got rejected by 2 narcissists. I was going crazy when we broke up but it is a blessing in disguise ladies. Don’t look back and live in the present. You will find someone amazing. Also don’t give more than they give you.
Totally exhausting..why can’t we just be our natural authentic self? With NO GAMES
Because people are 💩
Thisssssss
We deal with Human behavior
We need to search for God's love first, then self love and after that we will find that one person which was destined for us.
The worst you treat them the better they treat you
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
My ex told me that right before dumping me 😂
Absolutely, it works always for me anyway.
I will never never trust man again I have hurt left and right am so happy now alone with jesus thanks very much sir
Any men that tests you is not worthy of your time. I don't care about their intentions of testing the women. If is about their "values" because he will never be satisfied. These are men that have low self esteem.
When you try to be honest and give your whole life to them then they didn't appreciate. I'm heart broken right now but i think i need to let him go so he can do what he want and never beg him to come back!!!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
When u get ur ex back u won't want them u r ultimately healed🤗
Can never trust a person who walked away !
He leaves his out
How to master fear of abandonment: don’t date others who trigger your fear of abandonment.
FACTS!!!!!
❤❤❤❤
I’ve been thinking about this so much! I realized it happened this last relationship so I had to break up with him because he started to take me for granted…
Fear of abandonment? Don't even start to date if you have that fear. Love should be a happy experience. If you carry that negative vibe into it from the start you're missing the best part of romance. Why bother if you feel that way. Don't put that chain around your partner's neck & keep them your hostage. They deserve trust & truth in a relationship.
💯💯💯📍📍📍
I have learned to love and cherish myself and not forcing any man to love me. For me , rejection is sometimes protection.No matter how I love you by the time I notice that it's weighing on me,I let go.
You play such games with me you never going to see me again
If he loves u will never leave u or treat u otherwise
Loving someone doesn't you have to stay it also depends on the other person's behavior.
No real lover leaves you behind only to come back again when you have already gotten used to be by yourself or even having a date. It is unfair for such a situation to arise in a relationship. Some men have appalling attitudes towards women. Going around making everyone to fall in love with them. It is just not right.
Absolutely
I am not chasing anyone. No matter what happens between us. I value your advice but this is my decision in not chasing someone or contacting someone who I have broken up with or who has broken up with me.
Also relying on a higher power and praying and putting your faith in God has really kept me strong during the breakup and has even had him saying he’s shocked I haven’t tried to reach him and that I’ve been so strong but it’s literally God. He’s been my new bf and will be even if we end up together
Facts
Same here ❤
God bless you I am on that stage
Abundant LOVE and JOY being cherished is all available and possible with GOD IJCN❤AMEN
This is great🔥
When man get out to your relationship,no need begged or cry show to him you can stand with out him.
I took the courage to stand for my standards and call his BS out when he was not respecting me, in order to facilitate leveling up and he preferred to break up with me instead of working on improving our relationship. It was the relationship with the most quality I had in the last 20 years....(imagine how bad was the previous) its been 5 months and I am still suffering and missing him incredibly, and I regret for pushing him hard to confirm in the way I wanted to resolve our conflict. The harsh truth is that patriarchy has created an unfair environment for women in the relationship world and if women dynamically try to claim their wants and standards, most likely will be dumbed, because the male fragile egos cannot handle it!
Maybe he was only after sex. Forget him'
I'm in the same situation kinda. He left instead of trying to work on our issues. If we had just talked about it months before we would have still been happy today. It's been 2 months and I miss him terribly. I know I should keep silent and "hope" he comes back, but at the same time, he is a Gemini, and I know if I don't reach out soon I could lose him forever. I do not want to lose this relationship. It still has value for me. I have changed for the better because of it.
I did the leaving and they wanted me back. They were not worth the sacrifices the relationships required.
Why do men always come back ? Bc you keep giving them free samples .
Sadly😢😢😢
Relationships mirror where we are out of relationship with ourselves. When we utilize relationships as reflective, we are in right relationship with self. When we look to the other to validate and recognize us, we are out of relationship with self.
Very true words 24:15
i did many mistakes bc of trauma response and i always made him feel guilty. i was needy, pushy didn’t trust him and was critizicing him so much. i now woke up. i got it. i‘m willing to change but he said that he feels bad for a long time and is disconnected. i love him so much and i now know that i have to do more things alone and work on everything. i hope we find back together bc he is the most wonderful, intelligent, beautiful and most loving man in the world 😭
Amazing. Same here. The difference here is that he physically assaulted me. I still hope he heals. I am working on my healing, maybe we can be together one day!
This was also me. We broke up a few days ago. We did the best we can at the time we could ☹️
Why this is a constant GAME with men? Why things can't be just straight forward!
I don’t think it’s because they like the chase. I think it’s because it’s less work to get back in and to get their own needs met.
Your generalizing.
So the point is not to be what he wants but to just stay yourselves and enjoy the moment
Thank you soo much. Few months back, i met a guy , the 1st i got the best feeling of my life but i deleted our WhatsApp chat, he was not happy and he told me how he hates it. After 1 week i did the same thing. This time it was intentional to see how much he loves me. And from that he stopped talking to me. I miss him 😢 i deleted his number but sometimes he just says hi and he disappears 😢 . Few minutes back before i watched this video, i checked on him to see how he's doing. After watching this i went and deleted everything plus his number.
I pray God gives me strength to ignore him 😢😢
Their advice is amazing..cause not all men see what they got,sometimes they need a boost..love this. Thank u
You are so welcome!
As blended family, I put a lot of work into my marriage because what I want is my kids to have a father to have a stable and complete family. I’m realizing that I’ve never loved myself enough to let a man chase me I put myself low!!! It’s been 5 months I’m not doing anything about my marriage not talking to him because I realize he is narcissistic he never been wrong and always manipulative! I’m ready to leave and start to love myself and to stop accepting abuse only for my kids to haves a dad I was naïve! I’m ready to leave and he told my parents that I’m driving him crazy!!! Because I used to cry and try to communicate so now I go to the gym, go for coffee with friends and looking gorgeous.
I was struggling with a fear of rejection and shame but God is with me and we will be good with my kids they need a healthy and happy mama🥰❤️🇨🇦thank you brothers so much for wisdom and knowledge
I’m in the same situation
Ooh Wow thank you for the big Advice
God bless you sis for your openness ❤❤❤❤
Same situation here
God blessed you ❤
Yeah they come back because of one thing , let’s be honest . We can do this chase game all we want. If there not the one it doesn’t matter
Mine came back after six years a month ago glad I didn't fall for "I love you" never accept them back reject them. I don't care about them I like a new start.
Whew I'm going through it right now 💔 heartache is so bad
Me too.
Are you okay now?
As a woman, I let my depression get in the way, he was making me happy, and when he broke it off, it was mainly because he wanted to protect himself and his mental health. I am learning to love myself, I look forward to future reconciliation. I know it’ll take time, and I love him, but I need to learn to love myself and not let depression win.
I had debilitating depression for 15 years. Jesus healed me. How? I forgave my parents. I forgave me for having no life. I stopped sin ( premarital sex) and I renounced occult. Once I obeyed the Lord's directives, depression gone! 7 years now!
Finally someone who can give a proper time frame of how long it might take a guy to resurface! Otherwise ppl talk about a week, if you haven't heard from him it's definitely over.
When I feel insecurities I initiate break up because I really don't want men's immarity to spill in my busy life. Fortunately I don't regret them leaving. They're problem sometimes. They that women can enjoy life without them
That's exactly what I do
I just break up first before them so that I feel I've that freedom. Men can manipulate especially when u show much love to them. Sometimes they think we are desperate so when I sense any misbehaviour. I leave no warnings
This is what I really needed to hear. My friend broke up with me after 7 years and I’m so so heartbroken. But this video has helped me understand so much.
Thank you so much for watching and we're sorry to hear about your breakup. We are here to support you!
-LATV Team
Your 'friend ' left after 7 years? You must love & respect yourself, my dear. Don't ever let a man waste your time. 7 years? Nooo. Turn to the Lord. That's your.answer.
Yes they come back and im nothing gonna compromise my new me my growth
they come back because you are a option. if they don't want you then why come back.
Agreed, exactly. 💯
8 weeks and he still waiting 4 me to go back to him and asking him to come back to my life .. and we are working together , he's my boss!!
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True advice...never go back to your ex
That's ridiculous. People can change.
Why is it that men like the opposite? When you show love, he doesn't seem to be attracted. When you show little interest, that's when he wants to go after you. How do people stay married then? I thought if two people are like-minded and connect, and feel they found home, the relationship works. How do you build attraction?
I know a woman whose been happily married 35 years. How? She has a life and she doesn't pursue or smother her man. My sense is you can love him but keep him on his toes by being a wee bit out of reach sometimes.
I left because I was being USED. I love her still to this day. I love her and her daughter. I was being mirrored. She has major issues from childhood and enabling parents and past relationships trauma related. She has never healed. Narcissists never take time for themselves, they never reflect or take accountability. I tried so hard. Until I realized what was going on. She had direct Agendas from the start. It’s sick. And sad. So I chose myself and I know who I am what I have to offer. Wish her the best.
How I wish someone would help me understand about relationships and standards. As a woman I only seek security and validation but I feel it hard to find.
My bf/ex-bf and I had a fight, and he texted me 2 days later asking a question, I responded with a statement, and I haven't heard from him since. He's a scardy cat who, throughout the relationship, made me feel like he just didn't care during the tough times. He never put in the effort to work things out. He never fought for the relationship. I was always the one approaching him trying to communicate and work things out. He is the worst communicator I've ever met in my life. He shuts down and sulks in the corner. If I didn't say anything, he wouldn't have said anything for days. It was emotional and mental abuse bc he never tried and always twisted stories. Sounds like a narcissist, but I think he just didn't have the skills to maintain a proper relationship other than love bombing and then not keeping his word.
This just happened to me, guy did this, he didn’t want to communicate once he had me moved in, said he wants to be alone, he’s 63 and has Ed and wants to live like a hermit I guess, or throw himself a pity party. He won’t contact me is what imm guessing
@jamiesimon2048 I'm sorry to hear that. I totally relate to this emotionally draining situation. They are not how real men should be. I don't know your guy, so I can't give my two cents, but based on my experience, if they get too comfortable too quickly, they've done their deed. Once they get their bate, enough work is done. It's the tough journeys in life that prove their value, so if he never had to work hard to earn his position with you, he may never prove it. It's offensive and demeaning, but that's how these children function with half a brain.
I feel u
Why would any confident, selfrespecting woman take a man back that comes back for his ego and his own convenience? Most men only 'validate' women for being a free housecleaner, free sexworker, free womb to carry and deliver his offspring, free cook, free shrink when he had a bad day at work, free teacher and educator for his kids, etc.. etc... Not as an actual human being with her own charachter, opinions, taste, life goals, and so on.
They all do the blabla as if wanting a confident woman, but they just want a superwoman doing all those tasks and on top that ever looking young and thin, never whining, nerer angry.
When you are actually confident and successful and setting boundries, you are 'difficult', 'crazy', 'dramaqueen', ... in their eyes.
The only ex that came back in my life, did so a best friend. He has low sexdrive, never wanted kids, does his own housekeeping, always had a soft spot for excentric women whom persue their careers, hobbies and interests. He kept attending my poetry events, helping me out and stuff.
Don't be with people who are just in it for themselves. That concerns friendships, colleages and family as well. If you're unable to avoid them, spend as little time as possible with them and keep it distant and pragmatic. They will only keep you from blossoming and thriving!
Most relationships work in this convenience type way.
Mostly because we have to work for a living while upholding our responsibilities and chores, it’s all part of life if you don’t think so or would like someone different
Then, maybe consider marrying a very rich guy who has servants. 😉 🤑😉
In my case I broke up after him asking for a break. We had a 15 day no contact break, and when we finally spoke, amongst many other things he said he’d need more 21 days time. On the next day I broke up with him out of my dignity. It’s been one month. I still love him.
This must be hard 🤗
This must be hard.
I no it’s difficult but I suggest move on as they never change
Blimey, I didn't realise I was operating as a dating school / psychoanalyst to train men on how to behave to maintain a relationship but here I am. I appreciate the video and i agree that you guys are probably right in most circumstances but i don't think i have the energy or the resilience to do it, it's a minefield!
Wow, you two young guys are so wise for your years. Both very impressive men. I learned alot about men from this!
I would not invest myself unless I devoted myself to loving him fully and properly. I would only hope he would do the same. I love to see him happy..when he's down it upsets me..because I see in him his best..I at times wish I could take what he felt away..to let him know how proud of him I am..how loved he is..and how bright he shines...For that man I will love & cater to him..not only in the way he wishes..but in ways I should understand..see and feel from knowing him...communication is important...love in ways THEY NEED is important...
Thank you a beautiful partnership to share how to understand men and how a women can expect she is the prize with patience for him
Ladies ....you need to fix your attachment style or this cycle of abuse will just repeat itself with all the man in your life. Look up anxious attachment style and listen to "attached" on you tube. Life changing, I PROMISE YOU!
We should be a human being. Doesn’t matter we are together with someone or not.
My ex wanted to break what we had (was indifferent, cheated on me), but as soon as I realized that I dumped him hard so thanks to his super high ego he will never ever annoy me with any forms of regret (he never had) or thoughts of coming back.
Never say never.
Twenty some ofd years later I’m here reaching out for hope.
What a beautfel liar, why are some woman s' like sufferen like this we haven a littel bit let it go guilty is gone. yes its time too let it go and we thinking some times we Don t not going forgiven you no more for before you beautful a lie no support no trust no respect no communction Do you wanna get serious when you I am ask you something things When you have a relationschip with a girl she want s only that you be there for her child support trust loyal love and be a Father of your childeren some childeren don t have a father or mother band I am crying That s not so hard Please be there for them God bless you. 🙏🏽💖😢
Do not ever ever ever fall in this trap!
This video showed up EXACTLY when It should have
Thank you
I'm so glad the timing of this video worked out perfectly for you! Thanks for watching!
Are they talking about immature and unavailable men? Cause to me this rule applies mainly to toxic men ore relationships.
My experience
It is a game.
A mature man won't leave you cause he would know your worth
Mine didn’t. It’s been four years. No contact. There’s someone new for 2 years now . I’m blocked everywhere. Four years ago he trashed me all over social media after betraying me in the worst way . He has never tried to reach out in any way. We were in a long term relationship. It ended unexpectedly and in a horrible way.
I so needed this. I know I'm on the right track and can even tweak some of my behavior.
You both are so amazing, you help me to understand things so clearly, and basically, I need to get busy in life and love me first. Thank you
Two very handsome men, giving great advice, thx ❤
Thank you so much guys for your authentic perspective ....this topic is so in season in my life....this guy really almost made me lose my cool... thank you for helping me press my reset button.... will keep you update....🎉😊❤
He broke up yesterday ....and i feel were right for each other
Don’t take anyone serious unless you see try take you serious simple
We had a conversation a few days ago… I told him (in a very calm manner) that I need him to keep his word to me. It’s a respect & if you keep your word, you build and strengthen trust. He threw a tantrum & hasn’t spoken to me in 3 days. 😂 it’s been rollercoaster for me…. But I refuse to chase him. Not doing it. I can be with anyone I want. I want to be with him. He has to see for himself that he wants to be with me.
It's a classic move. But don't worry, you're a strong and independent person who deserves someone who values your feelings and keeps their word. Keep your chin up, and don't settle for less than you deserve!
If your ex calling u everyday to check on you and also telling you he missed u does mean she is going to come back
Wow, thank u so much ,there is healing here, just learning to have a better relationship with myself and loving me more🎉
I left a narcissist after many years of thinking it was ego because of his profession. Now he wants to reconnect with me and I am so happy on my own. I wish him well.
It's great to hear that you were able to recognize the toxic behavior and move on to a happier place in your life. Wishing you continued happiness and growth!
This is really educating
Thanks a lot for this
I feel inspired and motivated 💯
Thanks a lot!
Correct!! I am working on me. I won’t reach out lol😂
I reached out to say happy bday after he has been trying to talk to me for the past 8 months.
My man that I loved he took my words as criticism so i saw red flags and deleted him😊
Thanks for sharing your story.
Those love bombers will really f you up.
It can be a tough situation, you're right.
When we loved so deeply and without meeting without even seeing eachother then how it will come back
I don’t go back to exes
I didn’t either
although ‘the worm has turned’
FINALLY
Me either… never have, never will. Once they are done the gates are closed and locked forever.
You guys just touched my soul, may the Almighty Allah bless you🤲Honestly have been thru alot for all these 3 wks😢
I'm impressed am bold showing him am independent
Tanks a lot guys i did what u said and my man did come back to me
what you did ?
This video is so powerful. More so that it is acknowledged by these men it is so eye opening. Men see us as the prize but we women underestimate ourselves so much.... It had to be said by these 2 men for me to be able to realize many things I should have done differently. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Thank you Soo much... am going through an after breakup...and I've learnt alot from this video... Even when Coach Adrian shares the name as my ex's..
Lesson learnt.....am abit happy am on the right track, that's exactly 💯% what am doing right now
He is very direct to the point ,that is why I always watch videos,
He told me that he is not right for Me
Why would I want him back?
Thanks so much guys I did exactly what u guys said an my man come back to me appreciate u guys
Thank you so much for watching! We deeply appreciate this!
But why would you want such an unreliable ‘partner ‘
If they go let them..they come back blocked now. I don't play these games.
Not all men come back!!!
It's too late I will never trust integrity is the way
If they always go back though, that would mean that when he is with me, he is thinking about going back to his previous exes?
Mine didn’t ! Three and a half years already.
If a Man leaves you, let him leave! Life is too short to be playing games with a grown boy who isn't ready for a real woman. God didn't stop when He made him. Leave him where he needs to be!
You guys are doing amazing job !!! Lots of respect. ❤
My problem is the opposite. I’m always breaking up with them and they always come after me no matter how many times I tell them the same thing and they don’t they try a little bit but it’s not good enough never is.
When the relation has not had a chance to start, this does not happen, it is my case it's 15 months now, +the fact I was seeing him at his work place and had very little exchanges does not help, yet I saw him 6-8 months.. There are these subtils energetic bond between people which bring them back together or that we cannot forget them.. I cannot forget, but have kept my distance as I stopped going the moment I felt rejected without knowing why. However as said he did not try to approach me, but he showed me one thing, then changed overnight.. All happened without words..I feel mainly frustrated not having had a chance to communicate..and perhaps being demeaned/or influenced by the people around him, colleagues, and consequently there was no closure, or have a chance to even know him. Anyway, that is my situation, and still think of him, will absolutely make move to recontact him. Thanks for all your very precious work, a very comprehensive analysis indeed. 🌈
She cheated, became disrespectful and a narcist but i am not coming back
I understand your choice.
Thank you soo much🥺❤️..your advices is so much valuable to me❤️..
You are so welcome!
Moving on and marrying quickly keeps em from coming back
The best advice Ive ever heard on the subject.
Ive watched alot of different coaches.
Outstanding panel .... Well done ! ❤
Wow, thank you!
I love the comments in here yasss ❤️
Some guys are just selfish they see you've moved on they decide to come back just for to drop the one you
It's true, some people act like that.
This is absolutely awesome I think God for you guys your delivery and content it's absolutely perfect an extremely helpful!
Not mine. He discarded & is done cause I crossed his one major boundary & has animosity & resentment from being critical..whatever...
What if everything they’ve asked for is putting more distance? I listen to their requests and it seems like we’re better off saying goodbye. I’m here but for what.
Yeah. I was always there, ALWAYS. But for what? Just to get hurt. Still hurting..