Don't you think it's teachers responsibility and if it is who teacher implement ? It says the solution also but would you think that it is possible to do this ideas with the 'syllabus' evil ? Please possible guide.
Thanks for shining a light on this important issue. In my practice, I often work on getting to the roots of childhood trauma. People typically think it's usually the parents who are 'at fault'. While the child/parent relationship is central, I see far more unrecognized trauma due to the psychological abuse experienced within the educational system. There's a blindness to this form of trauma. It's not talked about. But it's real. Schools are unnatural places for children to develop and only a very small minority ever thrive there (and that's a narrow definition of thriving). In the future, people will look back with incredulity on how we were so blind to the suffering of our youth.
Thank you, Dr. Maloney for your comment. I absolutely agree with you, both from my own experience of education, and what I see happening around me today. I think you would be shocked at the French schooling system - conformism and rote-learning are the focus, to the detriment of the flourishing of the individual. It is very sad.
@@VeggieMagnifique Sadly, very true. Another great author on this topic you may be familiar with is John Taylor Gatto. His work on the roots of modern schooling is the best I've read. If you ever feel like doing a video together, I love talking about this issue. Thanks again :)
Absolutely. In the Therapy literature theorists often focus on the trauma caused by the family, while almost totally ignoring the school system. In my opinion, most families don't inflict as much damage to the soul of a child as a typical school does.
@@TheOHenry666 You've connected the dots. Part of the purpose of school is homogenizing the culture, and you can't do that as easily when different families teach different values. The family is treated at best as a necessary evil, and at worst as an influence that must be overthrown. Meanwhile, the shortcomings of the school system are disguised, denied, and ignored. The school gets better press than the family these days. I was heartbroken tho hear a parent recently express the belief that public schools needed to be fully open again as soon as possible, because she felt that many students would only be subject to neglect at home. If child neglect is that big of a problem in our society, then schools are not the solution. Especially not the schools those parents attended.
Powerful comment ♥️ I truly believe this happened to me! That’s why I take it so seriously now that I am a parent! My parents did the best they could and deserve so much gratitude. (Most) of my teachers did the best they could and deserve so much gratitude. BUT the school system in itself. Does not do the best they could & it has definitely added some suffering to me in my experience from it! The thought behind your comment is something I thought about every single day in my later schooling years. And it gave me deep depression. I felt so trapped there! I don’t blame my family as public education was all we can afford and were aware of to do. I just love the recognition of it now that I am older. I even tried pursuing education in college and the education system infiltrates it’s standards and horrible time constructing limitations from even a teachers education! I love love to read your comment. I am much better now as an adult and am pursuing to raise my child in the healthiest way I could.
John Holt's writings made such a difference to me in sort of unschooling myself as an adult too. It's such a beautiful process, thank you so much for shining a light on his work! Absolutely agree - trust children.
That makes me happy to read :) Chloe regarding sleep I really like Dr James J McKenna Ph.D. He's lovely, you can look him up on youtube too. But also I'd just like to lend support to you continuing to follow your intuition with your parenting. May your intuition be your strongest guide, your trump card, and your veto. To quote John Holt, "'Trust Children. Nothing could be more simple, or more difficult. Difficult because to trust children we must first learn to trust ourselves, and most of us were taught as children that we could not be trusted." Honestly my biggest parenting regrets were always not trusting my intuition or not trusting my child.
Rae Ealdwine thank you so much for the recommendation, and the reminder! You’re right, our intuition is our greatest guide. And there are so many baby books out there with conflicting advice - it boggles the mind!
My 25yo was homeschooled after grade 3. She had been in Waldorf school which is great but is also a system. We were not isolated but with other homeschoolers. It was wonderful. Children are socialized by just growing up with all the people in the community. She is grateful now for this as there was time to pursue her interests.
'Free to learn' by Peter Gray Is not exactly on parenting but very interesting insight on how children learn too. He has a very good Ted talk too. Merci Clohe pour partager ton vécu Je suis tout à fait d'accord avec l'idée de suivre notre intuition. Bisous
Oh gosh this book sounds super juicy and right up my street! I will certainly be ordering it, and will watch the Ted talk too. Merci beaucoup Maite - c'est gentil de partager ta recommendation. Et oui - mon intuition a été mon premier guide jusqu'à là avec la parentalité et ça marche très bien pour l'instant ! Bisous à toi !
Have you heard of The Child Whisperer by Carol Tuttle...If there was one book that I wish I had read when raising my children this is it...but good for parents to read at any age...extraordinary insight into children as well as adults...
What did you make of How Children Learn by John Holt? Let us know in the comments!
Don't you think it's teachers responsibility and if it is who teacher implement ? It says the solution also but would you think that it is possible to do this ideas with the 'syllabus' evil ? Please possible guide.
Thanks for shining a light on this important issue. In my practice, I often work on getting to the roots of childhood trauma. People typically think it's usually the parents who are 'at fault'. While the child/parent relationship is central, I see far more unrecognized trauma due to the psychological abuse experienced within the educational system. There's a blindness to this form of trauma. It's not talked about. But it's real. Schools are unnatural places for children to develop and only a very small minority ever thrive there (and that's a narrow definition of thriving). In the future, people will look back with incredulity on how we were so blind to the suffering of our youth.
Thank you, Dr. Maloney for your comment. I absolutely agree with you, both from my own experience of education, and what I see happening around me today. I think you would be shocked at the French schooling system - conformism and rote-learning are the focus, to the detriment of the flourishing of the individual. It is very sad.
@@VeggieMagnifique Sadly, very true. Another great author on this topic you may be familiar with is John Taylor Gatto. His work on the roots of modern schooling is the best I've read. If you ever feel like doing a video together, I love talking about this issue. Thanks again :)
Absolutely.
In the Therapy literature theorists often focus on the trauma caused by the family, while almost totally ignoring the school system.
In my opinion, most families don't inflict as much damage to the soul of a child as a typical school does.
@@TheOHenry666 You've connected the dots. Part of the purpose of school is homogenizing the culture, and you can't do that as easily when different families teach different values. The family is treated at best as a necessary evil, and at worst as an influence that must be overthrown. Meanwhile, the shortcomings of the school system are disguised, denied, and ignored. The school gets better press than the family these days. I was heartbroken tho hear a parent recently express the belief that public schools needed to be fully open again as soon as possible, because she felt that many students would only be subject to neglect at home. If child neglect is that big of a problem in our society, then schools are not the solution. Especially not the schools those parents attended.
Powerful comment ♥️ I truly believe this happened to me! That’s why I take it so seriously now that I am a parent! My parents did the best they could and deserve so much gratitude. (Most) of my teachers did the best they could and deserve so much gratitude. BUT the school system in itself. Does not do the best they could & it has definitely added some suffering to me in my experience from it!
The thought behind your comment is something I thought about every single day in my later schooling years. And it gave me deep depression. I felt so trapped there! I don’t blame my family as public education was all we can afford and were aware of to do. I just love the recognition of it now that I am older.
I even tried pursuing education in college and the education system infiltrates it’s standards and horrible time constructing limitations from even a teachers education! I love love to read your comment. I am much better now as an adult and am pursuing to raise my child in the healthiest way I could.
John Holt's writings made such a difference to me in sort of unschooling myself as an adult too. It's such a beautiful process, thank you so much for shining a light on his work! Absolutely agree - trust children.
Yes to this! I feel like I'm unschooling myself now too. Seeing the world with new eyes and I like it!
That makes me happy to read :) Chloe regarding sleep I really like Dr James J McKenna Ph.D. He's lovely, you can look him up on youtube too. But also I'd just like to lend support to you continuing to follow your intuition with your parenting. May your intuition be your strongest guide, your trump card, and your veto. To quote John Holt, "'Trust Children. Nothing could be more simple, or more difficult. Difficult because to trust children we must first learn to trust ourselves, and most of us were taught as children that we could not be trusted." Honestly my biggest parenting regrets were always not trusting my intuition or not trusting my child.
Rae Ealdwine thank you so much for the recommendation, and the reminder! You’re right, our intuition is our greatest guide. And there are so many baby books out there with conflicting advice - it boggles the mind!
Im new to homeschooling and unschooling. This is such precious insight, thank you for sharing your thoughts and this book ❤
In Defense of Childhood: Protecting Kids' Inner Wildness
Book by Chris Mercogliano
Oooh I love the sound of this one! Thanks.
Follow your natural instincts and your heart :) Trust your child and yourself.
Wise words!
My 25yo was homeschooled after grade 3. She had been in Waldorf school which is great but is also a system. We were not isolated but with other homeschoolers. It was wonderful. Children are socialized by just growing up with all the people in the community. She is grateful now for this as there was time to pursue her interests.
@@loisbanks3614 That's wonderful. Thanks for sharing this, Lois.
"How Toddlers Thrive" by Dr Tovah Klein was incredibly valuable to me for the toddler years (and beyond!). Enjoy the journey!
Thank you for the tip! Will look into it! 💙
'Free to learn' by Peter Gray
Is not exactly on parenting but very interesting insight on how children learn too. He has a very good Ted talk too.
Merci Clohe pour partager ton vécu
Je suis tout à fait d'accord avec l'idée de suivre notre intuition.
Bisous
Oh gosh this book sounds super juicy and right up my street! I will certainly be ordering it, and will watch the Ted talk too. Merci beaucoup Maite - c'est gentil de partager ta recommendation. Et oui - mon intuition a été mon premier guide jusqu'à là avec la parentalité et ça marche très bien pour l'instant ! Bisous à toi !
So well-articulated. Thank you. 🌹🙏
Have you seen that Macron wants to forbidden homeschooling in France ? What do you think about it ? I am really shocked
😠😠😠 Awful, and ridiculous. I guess if he does, people will have to move.
Have you heard of The Child Whisperer by Carol Tuttle...If there was one book that I wish I had read when raising my children this is it...but good for parents to read at any age...extraordinary insight into children as well as adults...
I want to know how do you regard this video 5 years on. Thank you.
This was great. A great book I enjoyed and got a lot from was The Awakened Family by Dr. Shefali Tsabary P.hd.
Dr. Shefali is fabulous, too. I've learned so much from her!
"Dare to Discipline" by Dr Dobson is a great parenting book. Thanks for sharing!
Oooh, brilliant! Thanks so much for the tip - that's going straight on my Christmas wishlist. You're so kind to have shared this fave with me!
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