Survival Tools to Keep Living After Loss

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  • Опубликовано: 5 июн 2024
  • This is the most personal and powerful episode of Real Talk we've ever released. Ryan shares his thoughts after the sudden and tragic death of his dear friend Loz (2:00), and we check in with grief educator Jeremy Allen (18:00).
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Комментарии • 37

  • @randytuguythunderhorse6556
    @randytuguythunderhorse6556 19 дней назад +3

    When close friends pass we all grieve in our own way. I have had 3 very close friends pass suddenly over the last 15 years. My best friends son passed last year and that hits just as hard as if they are your own son.

    • @RealTalkRJ
      @RealTalkRJ  18 дней назад

      So sorry to hear that, friend. -rpj

  • @d.t.8465
    @d.t.8465 19 дней назад +8

    I could never have imagined how much I would be moved by this episode. I have always felt that our grief is a measure of our capacity to love. When we lose someone who is a part of our soul circle, it feels that we will never ever feel complete again. The truth is, we won't. Your friend didn't leave the planet to leave the wake of devastation behind him. He simply moved "beyond the veil", perhaps to take the message that people here are hurting, are angry and are simply not ok. As a therapist and school guidance counselor, I have had to hold space for entire school districts when students have completed suicide. I have always facilitated a collective act of altruism in the wake of the moment. I agree with your guest that humans tend to try to do anything we can not to feel our feelings, much less the feelings of shock and loss when someone makes the choice to leave the planet...but you will know when the right amount of time has passed, and you will be ready to pass into action to build something in your wonderful friend's memory. Just the fact that you used your platform today to commit to more conversations about mental health, speaks volumes about just exactly why your friend(s) love you. I'm so glad that I discovered your show several months back. You represent the best of the best here and your friend was very very lucky to have loved you.

    • @RealTalkRJ
      @RealTalkRJ  19 дней назад +3

      This is one of the most meaningful comments I've ever read. Thank you so much for taking the time. -rpj

  • @brianswille
    @brianswille 19 дней назад +3

    Jespo, Johnny.
    From the bottom of my heart...
    Thank you for carrying this conversation forward, as a man it is immensely appreciated and needed. We need what you are doing here. Thank you for your honesty, your vulnerability and showing love. This is true strength, even if we don't feel strong.
    I don't know how we, all of us, are connected in this world; but I feel we are more than we know. In joy and grief, the spaces between. I cry with you and hope for you. Over the years your show(s) have shared in many of my joys and tears. It has meant the world.
    There is so much I'd want to say, but it all feels like it falls short. Words don't seem sufficient.
    My thoughts are with you. I love you guys. Thank you.
    Take care. One Love.
    NoobTryAgain
    Brian Schonewille

    • @RealTalkRJ
      @RealTalkRJ  18 дней назад +1

      Thanks brother. We appreciate you very much. -rpj

  • @FRIENDSAREFOREVERINMYLIFE
    @FRIENDSAREFOREVERINMYLIFE 19 дней назад +3

    HUGS and LOve and PRAYERS for Peace daily for Everyone !!

  • @barbaramassayoga4884
    @barbaramassayoga4884 18 дней назад +1

    RIP Tim, the king of good vibes and an absolute legend. We love you so much. ❤

  • @keithnanninga835
    @keithnanninga835 19 дней назад +5

    So well done Ryan…
    honouring Loz and being open, brave and honest enough to share.
    I am a fireman previously in EFD and now in Victoria.
    I only knew Tim mostly through Mutual friends (Finner primarily) and one Tofino surf trip we both were on and meeting on a West Coast trail while both hiking it.
    I was in tears listening to this message, feeling for you and friends and family.
    Your guest was so well spoken also. Thanks to you both ❤️

    • @RealTalkRJ
      @RealTalkRJ  18 дней назад

      Much love, Keith. Means so much to hear from you. -rpj

  • @karynspencer3927
    @karynspencer3927 19 дней назад +4

    Thanks to you both for being vulnerable enough to share this important conversation. We love you forever, Tim and Kyla ❤️

  • @user-nd2wr5vd2u
    @user-nd2wr5vd2u 19 дней назад +2

    So sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing.

  • @ReetzSuper
    @ReetzSuper 18 дней назад +1

    My daughter recovered from cancer at 26 years of age. We lost her daddy to same one year later. To this day she tells me that her mental health was & is more painful than any other illness. I believe her & let her describe it. Xox, that's painful for a mom to hear but it's absolutely necessary.

  • @chutia69
    @chutia69 19 дней назад +3

    Amazing tribute for one of the realest 🙏🏾💙

  • @avadoody1897
    @avadoody1897 19 дней назад +6

    To Ryan my dad knew Tim and hope you are going through the loss of your friend well. Glad you have a few buddies that are also grieving and can help you through it. Like my dad (Graham) and Troy ❤

    • @RealTalkRJ
      @RealTalkRJ  19 дней назад +2

      Thank you, Ava. I'm so grateful for my friendship with your dad. He's been a huge encouragement in these early days, and I know he's hurting deeply, too. -rpj

  • @colin8903
    @colin8903 19 дней назад +3

    Wow this is an incredible episode. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. I think this issue is real and relevant for so many. A close friend lost his nephew from suicide yesterday. The wake of devastation and sadness is profound. I hope we can find the way that folks know to reach out and seek help just one day sooner.

    • @RealTalkRJ
      @RealTalkRJ  18 дней назад

      So sorry to hear about your friend's nephew. -rpj

  • @40Tove
    @40Tove 17 дней назад +1

    So very sorry for your loss. Thank for speaking of your friend and sharing .

  • @reillygill1668
    @reillygill1668 19 дней назад +5

    Beautiful tribute, Jespo. Grieving with you. Much love.

    • @RealTalkRJ
      @RealTalkRJ  19 дней назад +2

      Thanks Giller. Much love to you, brother. -rpj

  • @lorimmasse4398
    @lorimmasse4398 18 дней назад +1

    This was such an emotional show. Thank you, Ryan + Johnny.

  • @industrialize
    @industrialize 19 дней назад +2

    Very sad to hear about the loss Ryan. What an emotional episode.

  • @charlottefenger9928
    @charlottefenger9928 19 дней назад +5

    I'm so sorry for your loss . There are many types of loss.My family is currently navigating the system for a parent with dementia. She is with us... in body only.

    • @RealTalkRJ
      @RealTalkRJ  19 дней назад +2

      I'm sorry to hear that, Charlotte. Such a difficult disease for a family to navigate. Much love to you all. -rpj

  • @rg6807
    @rg6807 19 дней назад +2

    thanks for doing this jespo. courage. love. and generosity. just like loz. i love you brother.

    • @RealTalkRJ
      @RealTalkRJ  18 дней назад

      Much love, brother. -rpj

  • @daverecknagle8603
    @daverecknagle8603 17 дней назад +1

    Thank you for this

  • @melvabaker965
    @melvabaker965 18 дней назад +1

    I love the “happy, crappies”…..
    Another version:
    Thorn. Rose. Bud.
    Thorn = crappy
    Rose = happy
    Bud = something that you are looking forward to. (Last question can divert your thought from thorns to hope)

    • @melvabaker965
      @melvabaker965 18 дней назад

      I am so sorry for this loss. Hugs and prayers.
      Thank you for having this difficult but needed conversation.

  • @AlbertaGengar
    @AlbertaGengar 19 дней назад +6

    Member emeritus for Loz

  • @dianefrankow892
    @dianefrankow892 19 дней назад +2

    ❤❤❤ 😪

  • @jaymenjanssens720
    @jaymenjanssens720 19 дней назад +2

    🎉

  • @loripatton2488
    @loripatton2488 14 дней назад

    ❤️💎❤️💎❤️💎❤️💎