Monique Parent You are filling a void. There are a lot of young women on you tube telling about their life and talking about being independent, but there are not many women who would humble them selves to tell the truth about what it is like to live on your own and figure out how to survive and shape your own life when you are older. Problem is there are many women that are in their 50s and 60s who's husband have died or they are divorced, or their children live far away, so they are on their own trying to refigure their lives out. I really wishing you the best and hope you continue to be prosperous from your You Tube videos/ blogs. It is very refreshing, keep it up. One of your followers😘 I really hope you are living healthy because you deserve it, but what makes you successful is sharing the good and the bad. I am interested to see your videos when you turn 60 because I still think your type of videos will be helpful and will be needed. 👍🍀. The issues you talk about are the things that most younger people think you should have it all figured out by the time you are 50, but the truth is everything is changing with your body aging. Many women this age are trying to figure out how their make up, dating, eating, exercising and other parts of their life can be adapted and reconfigured to survive and most importantly be enjoyed. You are a beautiful person inside and out. Thank you for being you on You Tube!
lori1rain yes my husband died when I was 56 and he was 58. I am disabled and depended on him. I can't live off my disability checks. I need to pay others for help, which is even more hard. Thank you Monique for being honest about the real world.🙌
Yes thank you I’m glad you are doing what you love. I lost both parents. I have a grown Son. Yet we are not connected. It saddens me yet. It’s his choice. He has his family. So I watch RUclips. To have a Social life. Thanks for being so honest. I admire truth. I can do something with the truth. Lies I can do nothing about. 😎
I don't think I have ever been so affected by a RUclips video. Congratulations for being brave enough to make things better for yourself even though the journey was a struggle. I have recently given up a job that did not make me happy and I felt so guilty. The relief now is tremendous. I hope that your channel goes from strength to strength. You deserve your success.
I respect you so much for doing this video. This week I've had it up to my ears watching RUclipsrs showing everyone what they've bought from the Nordstrom sale. It's nice to see someone not so caught up in buying stuff. Love you Monique
O--M--G!! Nordstrom sales are nothing compared to the RUclipsr's that show off their new Ferrari's and there was on fairly successful guy that bought his mom a MILLION dollar house!! There's another girl that's 24 that just paid CASH for a custom built 4-door Jeep Wrangler with a removable hard top!! Lol! Then she did a few videos where she had like a hundred Fenty by Rihanna boxes set up as her backdrop. And, about a week later she was just talking about life, in general and was complaining about how she has so many Subscribers that direct message her and tell her how big of fans they are and go on to tell about people asking her for money or to help pay for their honeymoon, etc. And, she goes on to say that she doesn't have a lot of money and she certainly doesn't have it to give away to people that she doesn't even know!! Well, while I agree that it IS a little tacky to ask your favorite RUclips personality to pay for your honeymoon, I also think that if she/he weren't SO in-your-face about what they're able to buy from these SAME FANS that watch her videos, then she wouldn't have this issue. I am SO glad to have found you, Monique, because you're my age and have lived "that life" like I have and aren't afraid to be honest. I also SO ENJOY the fact that I don't have to constantly stop your video and look up what a word means on Urban dictionary!! LOL! My mother was listening to your videos with me and she said that I should purchase a camera and start my own channel. I told her that I have been thinking seriously about doing exactly that for several months, but I've gained so much weight due to my health issues and having been on a medication that has made me gain a LOT of weight so I'm not sure if I'd be comfortable doing it. But after hearing your stories, I think I might actually have something to add. From trials and tribulations to starting over more times than I care to admit, you may have just given me the courage to share my story. Thank you both for this video!! Desiree
Cindy Staff - OMG, that blasted Nordstrom sale or the damn VIP sale, etc., etc. I can't, and won't do any type of haul, I am not into conspicuous consumption, nor do I have the money to do so if I wanted to. I have stopped watching haul videos, they anger me and I find them so needless. I can't even watch my favorite youtubers show off their hauls unless it's from a thrift store because you never know what goodies they found there.
Oh dear Lord, I'm in awe! I'm speeches! I will support you and watch every ad and every video! You have put a lot of things in perspective for a lot of people! I also really enjoy your friend, she's a natural, not awkward at all!!! Bless your heart, I promise you will be in my prayers, you are amazing!! I'm just in awe!!
I've been there Monique and am right now, at 59. No one understands the sorrows until they live it. It's been alot of hard hard work, struggles and prayer, and that's what I'll continue to do. If your young, and reading this, please don't get into a relationship, except with God, take your time, and find his steps he tells you to take. Don't learn the hard way.
I moved from philly to florida by myself no car no money nothing...sleepless nights hungry times, sweaty bus rides but here i am today own a house, car, finances are ok new friends and life is good... we can do anything if we are determined...
Haha....what is it about 50? I quit a "good" job and moved to China to teach English. When I got sick and came home, I fell back into the rut of a job I hated for five whole years. I felt like such a failure. But you can start over at any time. At 58 I quit again. It took a couple of years, but at almost 63, I've been living a life I like for three years. So it might not work out the first time, but just keep trying, keep changing, keep growing. Don't stay stuck.
I love that you took time for those kittens while re-centering yourself. Breaking away from the old life is always hard, but sometimes the cords need to be cut.
im 52 and just left california to move to texas. left pretty much everything behind and sold my car to afford the move. 3 months later.... things here are incredible!!! i was sooo broke!! but my kids were counting on me!
Love your honesty. Having to start over after 30 years and I've heard you talk about things that I related to ,you know, that me too! Moment . I'm still trying to find myself at just retirement age but I will choose happiness and contentment 👍🌞
Love this so much. This is me and i am 54. It gives me hope that it is possible to start over. Thank god i have found someone thats speaks such truth and honesty about where we go in life. So refreshing after watching 20 30 year olds preaching life skills. These are the life skills that suit me beautifully and aging gracefully. Love love love ❤
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Thinking back to some of your videos, and how you joked about the Year of Austerity, you were clearly coping with severe problems, but like all of us do, you were putting on your best face. The one where you got the gift packages, when you were so emotional, was that where it started turning around? Thank you for sharing, for your honesty, I can see how difficult it was for you to tell us about your troubles. But as usual, your message is uplifting and full of hope. Thank you. Norma - hugs'n'kisses
I'm actually starting over. I started nursing school after my son had a car accident, he was 16, he lived 27 months with a brain injury before he passed away. While in school I was offered a job with IT COSMETICS, worked through school. I was recently offered a job with Tom Ford, and I made the decision to put nursing on hold and explore this because it makes me happy! I have been nervous, but the thought of enjoying what I do is so appealing. Thank you for sharing your story! As humble as you are I'm sure you don't see it, but you are the apetamie of strength, most people would not have persevered the way you have in my opinion! I'm just wowed by you!
Monique, I am 57. Even though I only have a few grey hairs, I am so inspired by the fact that you have decided to go all grey, change your life, and just be YOU! I have decided to go back to school, and either get my masters degree in nutrition (My B.S. is in Psychology) and become a Functional Nutritional Couch. I have had a year of severe ups and downs with my health, (I was diagnosed with Hashimoto's disease) and although I did eat healthy (I cook mostly from scratch) I went gluten free for my health, along with many other dietary changes. Who would think that a few simple diet changes, along with some hormones which were lacking) would make such a change in my life! I not only had to relearn baking (crying about pies and cakes not tasting that good) but had to reinvent myself in the kitchen! I am an avid baker, cook, homesteader living in the country in the state of Oregon. I do everything like my grandmother did, bake bread, garden, sew, can food, etc., and when I went gluten free all the sudden I didn't know how to make simple things that I have had years of experience making! WOW! Talking about starting over! But, you know what, I got better, lost weight, got my health back, and felt WONDERFUL! So, although I had to take baby steps, now, I don't even miss flour! I do cheat once in awhile, when I make something for my husband, and take a small helping of pie, etc., but I don't crave the flour dishes I used to make, like heavily sugared cupcakes, pies, etc.! I just don't want that in my body anymore! Now, my idea of a great treat is a spinach smoothie with fresh strawberries, banana, yogurt, organic whey powder, flax seeds, nuts, etc. I have gotten so much more healthy, and although now my husband and I have been going through some other changes, my diet is so rock solid that I don't eat the bad foods when stressed. I reach for the healthy ones, and I am learning to deal with stress by exercising more (I go for long hikes in the mountains where I live with my two dogs) and, I am looking at life in a way just like you said, "Changes happen, and I can do this". I was afraid that I was getting too old to try something new, take some new challenges, and start over. But, hey, this can be done! I am living proof, and although sometimes painful, we will get through this! And, once we are on the other side, hey, we say to ourselves, I like me better! I am happier, healthier, and a better, friend, mother, wife, daughter, etc.! This is life, LIVE IT! There are no do-overs, or re-takes like in the movies! (By the way I have studied acting and was actually in a few commercials, modeled, and in some movie of the week episodes! )So, yes, I know about the biz! And, I must say you are an inspiration Girl! You ROCK! So, I thought that I would just share that with you, and your followers! God Bless, Debbie :)
Deborah Eckardt, wow, I am inspired by your message as well! I need to cut way down on my carb intake (I'm a sugar addict) and at the moment I'm back and forth between good days and cheat days. I know once they're out of my system I'll be less impulsive. Thanks for sharing your experience!
Your video resonates with so many people on so many levels. We live in a society where the majority work to live. I love watching your videos, they're natural and down to earth.
I am 51 and starting over. Thank you for this. I have been living scared for 7 months that I will be let go from a company merger. Even though I have not lost my job yet, I can feel the wear and tear of living like this. A few weeks ago I decided I wasn't going to do this anymore. I really like the job I have, The people I work with and I'm not running away from it, but I'm not gonna live in fear anymore of not having it. In the last 3 weeks I have been overhauling everything financial in my life and making changes. I have been starting a virtual assistant online business. Besides financially and work-wise, I have been doing the personal overhaul, too. I found you on RUclips when I decided to stop coloring my hair. Seeing this video today I appreciate your story. I'm right there where you were and I hope to get to where you are. I understand going in the store and not being able to find anything worth buying. I have moved six times in the last 7 years and in doing so I've learned that there are very few tangible things that I truly need. Even things that are sentimental to me I have learned to take a picture of and then donate or pass on to my son. I feel weighed down when I have too much "stuff," now. Anyway, keep sharing and know that there are folks out here listening & learning!
I'm recommending this video to my Soul Sisters who were victims of domestic violence/financial abuse. These narcissistic men who we finally got the guts to leave, tried to destroy us and our children. Many of us got little to no assets. As in my case, my children and I got the clothes on our backs and a car with no engine. I know women (over 50 age group) with PhD's who ended up homeless due to the emotional abuse. The job market for women over 50 is extremely limited. So, reinventing yourself does become a challenge. Congratulations on finding a way to make it work!
Great vid as always. My initial thoughts are to organize a "ReinventCon" for those who desire or need to build up the reinvention muscles. Life gets better after 50 ...if we approach it with a positive attitude and action.
I think there is a reason i found your video on the day it was published. Perhaps when i launch my youtube channel my story will be a starting over too. I'm at my lowest point in life, i've disappointed so many people but more importantly i've disappointed myself. I so desperately need to reset and start over and your story will serve as inspiration for me to do so and if i succeed know that you've changed someone's life. Thank you.
How courageous and very humble. You are obviously inspirational to us regular folks. I hope that others in Show Biz sees your videos, it may humble them as well. This thing called "Life" is real! I am with you all the way.
I just love videos where you open your heart. You're so inspiring, it's incredible what you have been through and what strength you got from it. I'll always think about you from now on when I feel like my life is scrambling down. I'll always support you, I'm only one girl among your RUclips viewers but if you need I'll always be there for you. Thank you for the happiness you give us through your videos and your smile, you're an inspiration, love you ❤👑💫
Monique, I am so inspired by you! I just turned 60 and have been forced to start over due to a divorce and a succession of problems dating back 3 years. I had a massive heart attack, and my son was diagnosed with cancer all at the same time that my husband was having an affair. My world has been shattered and I don't mind telling you, I'm still not well. At night I watch your videos and I feel hope. I think that maybe I too can get to a better place. I'm sorry to hear about all you have been through, it must have been extremely scary. I do feel however, that you were meant to end up doing these videos, for you are reaching a multitude of people with your positive and enlightening messages. I wish you well and hope you will continue to thrive in this environment. Thank you for your encouragement!
I've decided to let my hair go ALL grey this summer. I'm 48yrs young. I was getting on the bus the other day & the driver said NO! your a senior you only pay $1.00 at first I wanted to punch him in the mouth BUT I said... Well I just saved a dollar so be what it may.. LOL I too packed up my life, left Oregon & moved to Hollywood Florida. It's been an AMAZING experience & the food bank situation just started. I'm OK with that & looking forward to starting my very own RUclips channel (IF I CAN FIGURE OUT HOW?? LOL) I've been foraging for fruits & veggies even plants I find her are just AMAZING I then research everything I find & if there's something good for us? I post it on my Facebook so I have everything I need for future reference.. I've found SO MUCH to make & doing facial mask, making my very own Kombucha which I sometimes ferment a lil longer just for a lil kick like wine.. I have SO MUCH to share I just HAVE to get this RUclips channel figured out.. I'm ITCHING like crazy it's unbearable.. I was surfing & came across your channel last night & I LOVE your silver hair & wigs BTW you've given me a ton of hope just watching this today. Your truly an AMAZING lady.. Thank you for your HONESTY! We can be so humble & full of gratitude each & everyday we wake it's TRULY a mindset & then your really on your way to a much better beautiful life.
I loved this video at the kitchen sink! How fun is that - lol. I watch your channel and think it's wonderful. You are so real and funny. I've also been in that starting over phase after my husband died suddenly and I was left with two kids. We had a home business together and I didn't know how to do his part of it. It took a couple of years to sort it all out but I am much stronger and centered for it. Thank you again for your videos and delightful personality! Melissa lives in Tampa? So do I. She is great too!!
Way to go! I've enjoyed your channel from the start. I found it when searching for women who have gone to silver hair and I think we've been on the same timeline. I've had to change up the colors in my wardrobe as well--fun!
I wish I could tell you how much your story means to me. Starting over is terrifying. I'm 50 & recently started yet another stressful job that does not give me a life balance. You inspire me to start taking baby steps to change my life. Plus....I wish I could give you give you a giant hug for loving those feral kittens. I love black cats.
I understand what your position was being impoverished. I am on disability, have been for quite some years. I had paid for a little house with my inheritance in 2006 however I trusted a "supposed" best friend to hold the title to the house in her name and, naturally, she not only stole my house from me in 2007 but also when I was moving, she and a load of friends went into the house while I was gone and started stealing everything else. Needless to say, I came away with no winter coats, my sewing equipment stolen so I had no alternative method to earn extra money and personal mementos such as my children's teeth. She got away with all of it too, through perjury in court. Currently, I am 1 month away from my home being paid off (I live in a trailer) and will now be back in a position so I don't have to worry so much about being able to live month to month. I am even getting ready to buy a car in the next few months. The parable is that nothing lasts forever, not good times, not bad. You have to have the emotional fortitude to get through the bad times. Even though we may hate asking for help, we must at times. Thanks for sharing!
That was an inspirational video. Love your "be honest" thought. Almost everyone's life looks fabulous on fb and we all need to realize that it is just a screen shot of a life, not the entirety.
I've told a couple people before you were down to earth and real for being a STAR, I admire your sincerity and honesty. Your a great inspiration, God has blessed you in so many ways, keep the faith. ox
I have been a fan all the way through this part of your journey over a year ago when I started watching you on RUclips, when you started the beauty focus. I knew you were in a tough place and I have been happy for you as I have seen your channel and YOU grow. I never doubted you would succeed. I have had my challenges too, we all do, but I am in a good place now. I have no doubt that you will continue to become more and more successful, as you have earned it, Monique. Good for you. I was so happy for you when you bought your car! Yea for you.
Love how you showed compassion for those kittens even though you did not have much, and the universe bestowed you with success in return. I wish more would help animals in distress. They so depend on us today for their survival. Thank you Monique.
Monique, just watched your starting over series and love it! Thank you. Exactly what I needed to hear this morning. Please keep 'em coming. Peace & light.
This raw and honest revelation into starting over that has touched and inspired so many people. Most of us do not have the courage to make the changes that you made in your life. It is fear that holds us back. You have the rare courage to move forward and trust that you can make it through the worst of times holding fast to your dreams. Thank you for being such an inspiration Monique .
I would like to add that you found a need that needed to be filled! That's what I did 20 years ago, just turned 64, and that is the definition of an entrepreneur, in my book. You are such a savvy woman! I love your videos! You are so charitable to share these real life struggles. So many people just don't realize that there is gain through pain, and striving to succeed. I predict that you will be a million+ subscriber RUclipsr one day soon. I am rooting for you, and you root for everyone! Lovely woman!
Thank you, I needed that message right now. I'm in a new state away from home. Studying to be a medical assistant. I don't know what will happen, but I'm trying to enjoy the journey. Thanks again, love your videos, you are very inspiring.
Your honesty is refreshing and that is one of the MAIN reasons I follow you... It's awesome to finally see someone not putting airs or pretending to be something they're not... thank you!
Thank you for the encouraging words. Life is full of things to start over. Some are big life changes and others are smaller. But both are important to fulfill our lives.
I just turned 57 and I am at a point where I feel I need to begin again...thank you for your words of encouragement!!!! You are such an inspiration and I appreciated your friends input too! Thank you to both of you for being strong women!
Hi Monique, well this is another sign and wonder. For the past 6 months, I have been seriously contemplating starting over. I've worked at the same company for 27 loooooooooonngg years, haven't really changed anything in my home, or in my life as a single mom. Now that the nest is empty, I have a longing desire to reinvent myself in looks, surroundings, personality, jobs, etc...you name it. Lately, little hints and pushes have been coming out of the clear blue that it is time. You just reinforced and inspired me further. Thanks and keep it up! Love xoxox
I've been there and it is scary but it can be done. I quit a job in 2002...made a deal so I was able to survive for 2 years but then my daughter got sick, like "maybe cancer sick"..and we had no health insurance. It depleted my savings (why I am an adamant proponent of ACA). And then because I couldn't find a job I was about to lose my home. I humbled myself and a friend loaned me one mortgage payment and I paid her back in two payments. In 2004 I took a job I hated... BUT WE GOT THROUGH! That job ended and I got some consultant work on the suggestion of a friend that got us through another 7 months and through that and a friend's suggestion I got a stable contract. Now I grew up poor so I knew how to live with nothing but it was depressing after a B.A. and an M.A. and while raising my daughter to live hand to mouth. The contract lasted for 3 years until it lead me to the job I'm in now which I've had for almost 9 years. It wasn't easy. And thinking back now there are other things I could have done to ease my situation (like sell makeup or some other entrepreneurial enterprise). I didn't even know about RUclips then. I did learn always have more than one stream of income...so even with my very good job today, I sell makeup on the side. You did 'good" Monique and thanks for sharing your story. (Btw the biopsy found nothing...even though all the tests showed something...it was a miracle...my daughter is healthy but when I sit with her I always touch her scar she says. I think I want to make sure it...what ever it was...doesn't return.)
You are lucky that it turned out okay. I do have cancer, leiomyosarcoma , to be exact, and I am lucky to be Alive for the last few years. I was diagnosed 2 weeks after I got married to my husband I love and adore but this was not fair to us or our relationship, or for him, as he lost a wife to cancer in 2005. I never wanted to be a person to leave in intentionally or because cancer decided to steal me away. We are fighting everyday for me to be alive. I’ve had a year of chemo, I’ve had so many surgeries. I’ve lost count, radiation, immunotherapy, lost 1 lobe of my lungs, had a brain cancer surgery very suddenly last April after I was feeling dizzy and off balance and then slurred speech. Cancer, cancer, cancer, I keep fighting this cancer in most areas of my body.. I know what Gamma KnIfe Radiation Surgery is now and I hope to God that has covered my brain and left me cancer free. I have so much to tell to the world and to my family if I were not here so RUclips could be a wonderful way for me to do that. It’s all such a struggle.. leaving to see my doctors soon and I hope we have the funds to have for a hotel for the time in Houston at Md Anderson. My pain keeps me from doing so much right now.. my husband and my family are there but we are all living in fear now.
I am so happy to have found your channel. You are natural, inspiring and your sage advice gives me hope, knowing that one’s life doesn’t to be the same forever. btw, I am 59 and also looking for a new direction.Thank you from Melbourne, Australia!
I've been so stuck in just about every area of my life. I hit my 50s and all hell broke loose. I'm finally starting to climb out from bottom but it ain't easy. Thanks, Monique, for this video. I appreciate your honesty
You saved me. This video is exactly what I needed I was just laid off after 19 years at 1 job about a week ago. I've been cleaning and purging my house of stuff/clutter, because it's the only thing I feel in control over at this point. I have no idea if i'm going to lose my house or not. From the bottom of my heart, thank you. I'm crying as I write this. I've been a wreck and no one in my extended family gets it as I'm single, middle aged and terrified of how to keep going. I was washing my bedroom blinds with bleach and water less than an hour ago, cleaning, painting and organizing my linen closet because just trying to sit and relax is impossible with so much worry.
Your an insperation.Your sense of humor and candor are priceless. You've given me food for thought where there was nothing but doubt..Love your videos.
Monique and Shawn - Thank you! I am reinventing myself and it has been very difficult. I am so fortunate to have stumbled upon Monique's RUclips Channel this evening. I know I was supposed to see your message. Thank you so much for your honesty. This has given me great hope. Blessings to you both.
Thank you for posting this Monique. I appreciate your candidness and honesty. I am 41 and thinking of a life change and your videos are inspiring. Thank you for your courage to share your story.
Monique I am so very happy that I found your channel, you give me hope and motivation Monique you are TRULY an inspiration!!! THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS YOU I LOVE YOU SISTER!!!!
I really needed to see and hear this today. It brought tears to my eyes several times. I'm 53 and have been wanting to make a huge change, which would mean giving up security and starting over with absolutely nothing. Thank you for sharing the reality of what some people have and will go through when starting over with zero. You've given me so much hope and I think I can find the courage to do it. Bless you, Monique.
I "found" your channel while scrolling on RUclips b/c I was looking for make-up tutorials for middle aged women, like myself. After finding your channel, I am SO inspired by you. I don't know your whole story (because hey- we *all* have a story, right?) but you are amazing. I look forward to getting caught up on all of your tutorials/videos and becoming one of your thousands of "fans"- thank you for making this video. I think a lot of us who are middle aged find ourselves "starting over" for whatever reason(s), but there are very few people out there who are humble enough to reach out to the public and say "hey- I was in your shoes- and you're not alone, and you CAN do it." So thank you, Monique!
Hey Monique, I’m a 55 yr old woman out here in Palm Springs. I just started watching your videos. Absolutely love all of them and YOU! You are so beautiful, humble and REAL! Also, you have posted so many useful videos on topics I can truly relate to. Thank you......and keep on posting!
Monique, thank you for doing this video. I wish I had seen something like this 16 years ago when I was living in my car, and had a job that paid very little, didn't have much food and didn't know who to turn to, and felt too ashamed to tell my family about it. it's only been within the last one to two years that I have started telling my family what was going on at the time, why they didn't see very much of me. Again thank you for putting this video out, I think that you are an amazing person, and I love your channel.
The thing that I respect you most for is the positive attitude you have kept through it all, good or bad. I know for myself I have not done that. We all have a story and that is what got me through some my most low points. Monique, you don't know how many times I have been watching other You Tubers and they have mentioned you for some reason or another, mostly how beautiful you are. So you have touched many of us and I for one. So thank you and have a blessed day
Girlllllllllllllllllllll I needed this video TODAY! I was looking for a video to change a room into a closet. Saw your wallpaper video and then this one. Long story short, I've been on a non fulfilling job for 30 years! Depressed for 30yrs. I literally said, I have got to get back to me, reinvent myself, find me! And then I came across this video! I honestly don't believe it was a coincidence! This is what I needed to see today at this exact time. I know this video is over a year old, and it's possible you may not see this comment for another year. But, whenever you do, know that you and this video have given me life! I am retiring at the end of this year and as of this moment , I am no longer fearful! So grateful and thankful for you!
50 I was going through menopause, living in a hotel 500 miles from home while my husband was trying to die on me. Didn’t let him btw 😁 50 is a helluva time for us isn’t it? Thx for sharing.
Also wanted to add that it takes strength and courage to do what u did. If people are truly honest, most of us at one time or another, have relied on some form of help. I rewatched this video and it takes a brave person to tell their story. You may never know how much help you may have brought to many thousands of people that watches this video. You are much more than just a beautiful face and brains, you have a huge heart and truly care about others. Thank you from your NC friend 💐🌷
Ive been having a terrible month. One of those months where everything that can go wrong ,does go wrong.Thank You for making this video , it has given me tremendous hope. Love,Jenny
Wow, such honesty is hard to come by! Cheers to your courage, Monique. I started over also at 50, up and moved , sorta reinvented myself. Found you by accident really when I was looking for skincare for my now aging face, seventeen years later. I notice that the you tubers in my age group seem to be caught up in lots of material stuff with a seemingly endless supply of money. It is hard to relate. Now I am semi retired and it seems like I need to do another major change. Figure out the last chapter. It's a little harder now with some health issues but I am a work in progress. Thank you for sharing your life experiences. You inspire. Your beautiful spirit radiates through and shows up in your sparkling eyes.
Best video of all! You're so brave and resilient. I've had my food bank days. Days I fed my kids and didn't eat myself. And yes, I survived! Women supporting women is so important. Thank you for this video. I'm glad I found it. Better late than never! I love your whole channel!
My daughter moved out to LA 8 months ago with everything she had loaded into her car to pursue her goals of being a working actor. The struggle is real and your journey of starting over is so seemingly like hers. I'm always looking for positive encouragement outside of my biased mom cheerleading and your tenacity and strength is inspirational...I am sending this video to her! Thank you for sharing!
Everything they said,Monique is how I feel about this video.Im in a bad place.Lost my husband suddenly in 2002,I have a 28 y/o son,been enabling him for a while.Developed shingles last year,still have it&knee injury that will need surgery.Ive been good to everyone except myself.If someone could please direct me to a site or blog,etc.where I can communicate with other women,tell my story,my ups and downs,my struggles.I would greatly appreciate it,of course you've inspired me this morning&I am very grateful.and thank you do very much!
Just found your channel and thrilled to see that you are filling a much-needed void on RUclips! Thank you. You are an intelligent, inspiring, beautiful woman with a beautiful soul. Subscribed!
I am so glad I watched this video, I also decided at 50 to reinvent myself and I haven't exactly had the support team, most people think I'm crazy but I feel amazingly better and super glad I am on this journey. Thank you your an inspiration
I turned 50 last Feb, went silver (work in progress) and then I found you! I lost my job in January and just received my last unemployment check today. I feel so lost, but determined not to go back to my soul sucking corporate job (in software). I'm lost, but hopeful. I just watched this video and thank you! It's scary. I hate being late on CC payments and I'm wondering what may happen to my car (I had just bought a new car over New Years and lost my job the next week.) Thank you for your channel. Keep up the great work - you are a huge support and inspiration!
You are a stoic! You cut out what was wrong in your life. That takes courage! I remember seeing over Instagram a quote stating that we spend money that we don't have to impress people that we don't like....smth. like that. So true
Monique Parent oh Monique, when I first found your Chanel, you helped me so much, I am older than you and from being a pretty woman I suddenly became invisible. At the same time we were starting over, moving home, jobs etc. Successfully as it turned. I was starting over with you and I really didn't have your problems, I just needed to realise that I could become not invisible. I won't ever be a young pretty woman anymore but now people compliment me because I have " class", my skin is good, I dress nicely, I am a fun woman to be around, I care about others. I will take those my life is different, than it was but we are happy and you helped me even when you were getting scurvy, Thanks Monique you are an amazing woman. Cheers and here's hoping your Chanel continues to grow and those acting jobs roll in for you.
I was recently fired last week because of excessive absences due to a chronic illness I have. I worked at my job for 18 years! I feel lost and don't know where to go from here. Your video was very incouraging and gave me a little hope. I'm 51 years old and I have to go to the unemployment office to file and it's pretty scary. I live across the street from the school I worked at for so many years and I'm feeling very depressed, scared, sad, all kind's of emotions going on but the big question for me is what now? I wish I had a good close friend that I could share my thoughts with and your video was kinda like having that good friend. Thank you and keep doing what you love because it helps so many. Love you bunches!
Honest videos that speak of our journeys walking through the fires of life are invaluable to those who want to know how to make it in this world. Well done Monique. You are a blessing.
I just shared a video that is similar to this about overcoming fear and starting something new. I love how encouraging you are and how you talk about being honest with others. I think sometimes our struggles help others more than the clean and tidy side of our lives! You inspire me as a youtuber and a woman! Thanks for sharing!
You are brave and a real inspiration! What a great "share"! I don't know that I would have the courage you displayed, but you have given me a lot to ponder.
I just found you the other day I'm 50 and I watched one of your beauty videos and looked at your list this one caught my eye because I'm starting all over THANK YOU!!! I'm in love your awesome ❤❤❤
monique im a single umemployed mum fromsydney australia and im atill watching this while commenting and can i just say i absolutely love you and love ur RAW self wow i wish i could give could give you a hug thank you for being so humane xx
Thank you for being real which is a rarity!!! I have enjoyed watching your growth, sass and tenacity for truly changing your life. Your riches are your growth not the stuff we accumulate! God bless. I live across the bridge from Tampa where the beautiful beaches are!!!
i could see you being an amazing life coach. this is one of my favorite videos from you! thanks for sharing with us. my day feels brighter and more hopeful. i feel so inspired. thank you monique. my ray of yt sunshine. xo ALSO, your friend is so sweet and the perfect friend for this video. sweet smart women.
Monique Parent You are filling a void. There are a lot of young women on you tube telling about their life and talking about being independent, but there are not many women who would humble them selves to tell the truth about what it is like to live on your own and figure out how to survive and shape your own life when you are older. Problem is there are many women that are in their 50s and 60s who's husband have died or they are divorced, or their children live far away, so they are on their own trying to refigure their lives out. I really wishing you the best and hope you continue to be prosperous from your You Tube videos/ blogs. It is very refreshing, keep it up. One of your followers😘 I really hope you are living healthy because you deserve it, but what makes you successful is sharing the good and the bad. I am interested to see your videos when you turn 60 because I still think your type of videos will be helpful and will be needed. 👍🍀. The issues you talk about are the things that most younger people think you should have it all figured out by the time you are 50, but the truth is everything is changing with your body aging. Many women this age are trying to figure out how their make up, dating, eating, exercising and other parts of their life can be adapted and reconfigured to survive and most importantly be enjoyed. You are a beautiful person inside and out. Thank you for being you on You Tube!
lori1rain yes my husband died when I was 56 and he was 58. I am disabled and depended on him. I can't live off my disability checks. I need to pay others for help, which is even more hard. Thank you Monique for being honest about the real world.🙌
So true. I’m learning. As well. Think this Channel is Awesome....
Yes thank you I’m glad you are doing what you love. I lost both parents. I have a grown Son. Yet we are not connected. It saddens me yet. It’s his choice. He has his family. So I watch RUclips. To have a Social life. Thanks for being so honest. I admire truth. I can do something with the truth. Lies I can do nothing about. 😎
I don't think I have ever been so affected by a RUclips video. Congratulations for being brave enough to make things better for yourself even though the journey was a struggle. I have recently given up a job that did not make me happy and I felt so guilty. The relief now is tremendous. I hope that your channel goes from strength to strength. You deserve your success.
I respect you so much for doing this video. This week I've had it up to my ears watching RUclipsrs showing everyone what they've bought from the Nordstrom sale. It's nice to see someone not so caught up in buying stuff. Love you Monique
Cindy Staff , I'm with you on the Nordstrom haul videos!
Cindy Staff I'm a thrift store girl. And i give myself a $10 limit and I only allow myself discount tags. :) I do have a few thrifting videos. Lol!!
I am also tired of the Nordstrom hauls. There is life beyond shopping
O--M--G!! Nordstrom sales are nothing compared to the RUclipsr's that show off their new Ferrari's and there was on fairly successful guy that bought his mom a MILLION dollar house!! There's another girl that's 24 that just paid CASH for a custom built 4-door Jeep Wrangler with a removable hard top!! Lol! Then she did a few videos where she had like a hundred Fenty by Rihanna boxes set up as her backdrop. And, about a week later she was just talking about life, in general and was complaining about how she has so many Subscribers that direct message her and tell her how big of fans they are and go on to tell about people asking her for money or to help pay for their honeymoon, etc. And, she goes on to say that she doesn't have a lot of money and she certainly doesn't have it to give away to people that she doesn't even know!!
Well, while I agree that it IS a little tacky to ask your favorite RUclips personality to pay for your honeymoon, I also think that if she/he weren't SO in-your-face about what they're able to buy from these SAME FANS that watch her videos, then she wouldn't have this issue.
I am SO glad to have found you, Monique, because you're my age and have lived "that life" like I have and aren't afraid to be honest. I also SO ENJOY the fact that I don't have to constantly stop your video and look up what a word means on Urban dictionary!! LOL!
My mother was listening to your videos with me and she said that I should purchase a camera and start my own channel. I told her that I have been thinking seriously about doing exactly that for several months, but I've gained so much weight due to my health issues and having been on a medication that has made me gain a LOT of weight so I'm not sure if I'd be comfortable doing it. But after hearing your stories, I think I might actually have something to add. From trials and tribulations to starting over more times than I care to admit, you may have just given me the courage to share my story. Thank you both for this video!!
Desiree
Cindy Staff - OMG, that blasted Nordstrom sale or the damn VIP sale, etc., etc. I can't, and won't do any type of haul, I am not into conspicuous consumption, nor do I have the money to do so if I wanted to. I have stopped watching haul videos, they anger me and I find them so needless. I can't even watch my favorite youtubers show off their hauls unless it's from a thrift store because you never know what goodies they found there.
Oh dear Lord, I'm in awe! I'm speeches! I will support you and watch every ad and every video! You have put a lot of things in perspective for a lot of people! I also really enjoy your friend, she's a natural, not awkward at all!!! Bless your heart, I promise you will be in my prayers, you are amazing!! I'm just in awe!!
I've been there Monique and am right now, at 59. No one understands the sorrows until they live it. It's been alot of hard hard work, struggles and prayer, and that's what I'll continue to do. If your young, and reading this, please don't get into a relationship, except with God, take your time, and find his steps he tells you to take. Don't learn the hard way.
I moved from philly to florida by myself no car no money nothing...sleepless nights hungry times, sweaty bus rides but here i am today own a house, car, finances are ok new friends and life is good... we can do anything if we are determined...
I started over in my 40s. Used my unemployment to take classes and been self employed since 1996. I love my life now!
Haha....what is it about 50? I quit a "good" job and moved to China to teach English. When I got sick and came home, I fell back into the rut of a job I hated for five whole years. I felt like such a failure. But you can start over at any time. At 58 I quit again. It took a couple of years, but at almost 63, I've been living a life I like for three years. So it might not work out the first time, but just keep trying, keep changing, keep growing. Don't stay stuck.
I love that you took time for those kittens while re-centering yourself.
Breaking away from the old life is always hard, but sometimes the cords need to be cut.
im 52 and just left california to move to texas. left pretty much everything behind and sold my car to afford the move. 3 months later.... things here are incredible!!! i was sooo broke!! but my kids were counting on me!
This is so inspiring! Thank you so much for sharing. I feel like it came to me at a time I was feeling very discouraged. I love your channel!
Perfect timing! I'm months away from my 49th birthday and I'm literally starting over from nothing. Thanks for sharing your inspiring experience.
Monique Parent keep sharing more about this inspirational topic, please.
Angela Huffman wow!! And here I am worrying about starting a music career at 45. Smh.
Love your honesty. Having to start over after 30 years and I've heard you talk about things that I related to ,you know, that me too! Moment . I'm still trying to find myself at just retirement age but I will choose happiness and contentment 👍🌞
Love this so much. This is me and i am 54. It gives me hope that it is possible to start over. Thank god i have found someone thats speaks such truth and honesty about where we go in life. So refreshing after watching 20 30 year olds preaching life skills. These are the life skills that suit me beautifully and aging gracefully. Love love love ❤
Thank you for taking in these babies they are so sweet
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Thinking back to some of your videos, and how you joked about the Year of Austerity, you were clearly coping with severe problems, but like all of us do, you were putting on your best face. The one where you got the gift packages, when you were so emotional, was that where it started turning around? Thank you for sharing, for your honesty, I can see how difficult it was for you to tell us about your troubles. But as usual, your message is uplifting and full of hope. Thank you. Norma - hugs'n'kisses
I'm actually starting over. I started nursing school after my son had a car accident, he was 16, he lived 27 months with a brain injury before he passed away. While in school I was offered a job with IT COSMETICS, worked through school. I was recently offered a job with Tom Ford, and I made the decision to put nursing on hold and explore this because it makes me happy! I have been nervous, but the thought of enjoying what I do is so appealing. Thank you for sharing your story! As humble as you are I'm sure you don't see it, but you are the apetamie of strength, most people would not have persevered the way you have in my opinion! I'm just wowed by you!
Thank you both! I love this place of support and empowerment 💚
Melissa Jones. You go girl & love the life you live.✨
I'm so sorry for your loss. You derserve happiness. I think you are very strong and admire you.
So sorry for your loss. I lost a son in an accident too, and its great you have had the courage to do what makes you happy.
Monique, I am 57. Even though I only have a few grey hairs, I am so inspired by the fact that you have decided to go all grey, change your life, and just be YOU!
I have decided to go back to school, and either get my masters degree in nutrition (My B.S. is in Psychology) and become a Functional Nutritional Couch. I have had a year of severe ups and downs with my health, (I was diagnosed with Hashimoto's disease) and although I did eat healthy (I cook mostly from scratch) I went gluten free for my health, along with many other dietary changes. Who would think that a few simple diet changes, along with some hormones which were lacking) would make such a change in my life! I not only had to relearn baking (crying about pies and cakes not tasting that good) but had to reinvent myself in the kitchen! I am an avid baker, cook, homesteader living in the country in the state of Oregon. I do everything like my grandmother did, bake bread, garden, sew, can food, etc., and when I went gluten free all the sudden I didn't know how to make simple things that I have had years of experience making! WOW! Talking about starting over! But, you know what, I got better, lost weight, got my health back, and felt WONDERFUL! So, although I had to take baby steps, now, I don't even miss flour!
I do cheat once in awhile, when I make something for my husband, and take a small helping of pie, etc., but I don't crave the flour dishes I used to make, like heavily sugared cupcakes, pies, etc.! I just don't want that in my body anymore!
Now, my idea of a great treat is a spinach smoothie with fresh strawberries, banana, yogurt, organic whey powder, flax seeds,
nuts, etc. I have gotten so much more healthy, and although now my husband and I have been going through some other changes, my diet is so rock solid that I don't eat the bad foods when stressed. I reach for the healthy ones, and I am learning to deal with stress by exercising more (I go for long hikes in the mountains where I live with my two dogs) and, I am looking at life in a way just like you said, "Changes happen, and I can do this". I was afraid that I was getting too old to try something new, take some new challenges, and start over. But, hey, this can be done! I am living proof, and although sometimes painful, we will get through this! And, once we are on the other side, hey, we say to ourselves, I like me better! I am happier, healthier, and a better, friend, mother, wife, daughter, etc.! This is life, LIVE IT! There are no do-overs, or re-takes like in the movies! (By the way I have studied acting and was actually in a few commercials, modeled, and in some movie of the week episodes! )So, yes, I know about the biz! And, I must say you are an inspiration Girl! You ROCK!
So, I thought that I would just share that with you, and your followers!
God Bless,
Debbie :)
Deborah Eckardt
Deborah Eckardt, wow, I am inspired by your message as well! I need to cut way down on my carb intake (I'm a sugar addict) and at the moment I'm back and forth between good days and cheat days. I know once they're out of my system I'll be less impulsive. Thanks for sharing your experience!
Your video resonates with so many people on so many levels. We live in a society where the majority work to live. I love watching your videos, they're natural and down to earth.
I am 51 and starting over. Thank you for this. I have been living scared for 7 months that I will be let go from a company merger. Even though I have not lost my job yet, I can feel the wear and tear of living like this. A few weeks ago I decided I wasn't going to do this anymore. I really like the job I have, The people I work with and I'm not running away from it, but I'm not gonna live in fear anymore of not having it. In the last 3 weeks I have been overhauling everything financial in my life and making changes. I have been starting a virtual assistant online business. Besides financially and work-wise, I have been doing the personal overhaul, too. I found you on RUclips when I decided to stop coloring my hair. Seeing this video today I appreciate your story. I'm right there where you were and I hope to get to where you are. I understand going in the store and not being able to find anything worth buying. I have moved six times in the last 7 years and in doing so I've learned that there are very few tangible things that I truly need. Even things that are sentimental to me I have learned to take a picture of and then donate or pass on to my son. I feel weighed down when I have too much "stuff," now. Anyway, keep sharing and know that there are folks out here listening & learning!
I'm recommending this video to my Soul Sisters who were victims of domestic violence/financial abuse. These narcissistic men who we finally got the guts to leave, tried to destroy us and our children. Many of us got little to no assets. As in my case, my children and I got the clothes on our backs and a car with no engine. I know women (over 50 age group) with PhD's who ended up homeless due to the emotional abuse. The job market for women over 50 is extremely limited. So, reinventing yourself does become a challenge. Congratulations on finding a way to make it work!
SoulSistersSurvivors Sisters I'm one of you too. Yes we can! One day at a time. It gets better. Freedom is priceless, we are worth it.
You're amazing Monique, thank you for sharing such a personal story. There is hope after all, I'm 51!
Tracey🌸
Great vid as always. My initial thoughts are to organize a "ReinventCon" for those who desire or need to build up the reinvention muscles. Life gets better after 50 ...if we approach it with a positive attitude and action.
I think there is a reason i found your video on the day it was published. Perhaps when i launch my youtube channel my story will be a starting over too. I'm at my lowest point in life, i've disappointed so many people but more importantly i've disappointed myself. I so desperately need to reset and start over and your story will serve as inspiration for me to do so and if i succeed know that you've changed someone's life. Thank you.
How courageous and very humble. You are obviously inspirational to us regular folks. I hope that others in Show Biz sees your videos, it may humble them as well. This thing called "Life" is real! I am with you all the way.
I think I just fell out of my chair! This is me! I can't believe I JUST found your channel! LOVE IT!!!!!!
I just love videos where you open your heart. You're so inspiring, it's incredible what you have been through and what strength you got from it. I'll always think about you from now on when I feel like my life is scrambling down. I'll always support you, I'm only one girl among your RUclips viewers but if you need I'll always be there for you. Thank you for the happiness you give us through your videos and your smile, you're an inspiration, love you ❤👑💫
Facing starting over at 70, this has been very encouraging. Thank you.
Monique, I am so inspired by you! I just turned 60 and have been forced to start over due to a divorce and a succession of problems dating back 3 years. I had a massive heart attack, and my son was diagnosed with cancer all at the same time that my husband was having an affair. My world has been shattered and I don't mind telling you, I'm still not well. At night I watch your videos and I feel hope. I think that maybe I too can get to a better place. I'm sorry to hear about all you have been through, it must have been extremely scary. I do feel however, that you were meant to end up doing these videos, for you are reaching a multitude of people with your positive and enlightening messages. I wish you well and hope you will continue to thrive in this environment. Thank you for your encouragement!
Thank you I needed this, I wont be afraid anymore to change my life and be truly happy. Love to you.
I've decided to let my hair go ALL grey this summer. I'm 48yrs young. I was getting on the bus the other day & the driver said NO! your a senior you only pay $1.00 at first I wanted to punch him in the mouth BUT I said... Well I just saved a dollar so be what it may.. LOL
I too packed up my life, left Oregon & moved to Hollywood Florida. It's been an AMAZING experience & the food bank situation just started. I'm OK with that & looking forward to starting my very own RUclips channel (IF I CAN FIGURE OUT HOW?? LOL)
I've been foraging for fruits & veggies even plants I find her are just AMAZING I then research everything I find & if there's something good for us? I post it on my Facebook so I have everything I need for future reference.. I've found SO MUCH to make & doing facial mask, making my very own Kombucha which I sometimes ferment a lil longer just for a lil kick like wine.. I have SO MUCH to share I just HAVE to get this RUclips channel figured out.. I'm ITCHING like crazy it's unbearable..
I was surfing & came across your channel last night & I LOVE your silver hair & wigs BTW you've given me a ton of hope just watching this today. Your truly an AMAZING lady..
Thank you for your HONESTY!
We can be so humble & full of gratitude each & everyday we wake it's TRULY a mindset & then your really on your way to a much better beautiful life.
I would watch your channel!!!! go for it!!! xx love from Scotland xx
I would watch your channel as well...best wishes!!
Dena Martinez re the bus driver. It's not personal, but grey hair makes one look much older. Hence the prevalence of hair dyes, and make up, etc.
+Colette Clairvoyant
Thank you so much!! :)
+Apple Ate
Thank you I'll be getting this stated ASAP!! LOL
I loved this video at the kitchen sink! How fun is that - lol. I watch your channel and think it's wonderful. You are so real and funny. I've also been in that starting over phase after my husband died suddenly and I was left with two kids. We had a home business together and I didn't know how to do his part of it. It took a couple of years to sort it all out but I am much stronger and centered for it. Thank you again for your videos and delightful personality! Melissa lives in Tampa? So do I. She is great too!!
Thank you, from a 55er who fears starting over....
Love starting my week with these words of inspiration.
Way to go! I've enjoyed your channel from the start. I found it when searching for women who have gone to silver hair and I think we've been on the same timeline. I've had to change up the colors in my wardrobe as well--fun!
I wish I could tell you how much your story means to me. Starting over is terrifying. I'm 50 & recently started yet another stressful job that does not give me a life balance. You inspire me to start taking baby steps to change my life. Plus....I wish I could give you give you a giant hug for loving those feral kittens. I love black cats.
I understand what your position was being impoverished. I am on disability, have been for quite some years. I had paid for a little house with my inheritance in 2006 however I trusted a "supposed" best friend to hold the title to the house in her name and, naturally, she not only stole my house from me in 2007 but also when I was moving, she and a load of friends went into the house while I was gone and started stealing everything else. Needless to say, I came away with no winter coats, my sewing equipment stolen so I had no alternative method to earn extra money and personal mementos such as my children's teeth. She got away with all of it too, through perjury in court.
Currently, I am 1 month away from my home being paid off (I live in a trailer) and will now be back in a position so I don't have to worry so much about being able to live month to month. I am even getting ready to buy a car in the next few months.
The parable is that nothing lasts forever, not good times, not bad. You have to have the emotional fortitude to get through the bad times. Even though we may hate asking for help, we must at times.
Thanks for sharing!
Love your honesty and humble attitude. True inspiration.
That was an inspirational video. Love your "be honest" thought. Almost everyone's life looks fabulous on fb and we all need to realize that it is just a screen shot of a life, not the entirety.
You are such a inspiration, Monique! Thank you so much for sharing and letting us know that we can make it!
I've told a couple people before you were down to earth and real for being a STAR, I admire your sincerity and honesty. Your a great inspiration, God has blessed you in so many ways, keep the faith. ox
Just found this in 2020... I know what you are talking about! Still there at 60..
I have been a fan all the way through this part of your journey over a year ago when I started watching you on RUclips, when you started the beauty focus. I knew you were in a tough place and I have been happy for you as I have seen your channel and YOU grow. I never doubted you would succeed. I have had my challenges too, we all do, but I am in a good place now. I have no doubt that you will continue to become more and more successful, as you have earned it, Monique. Good for you. I was so happy for you when you bought your car! Yea for you.
Love how you showed compassion for those kittens even though you did not have much, and the universe bestowed you with success in return. I wish more would help animals in distress. They so depend on us today for their survival. Thank you Monique.
You're an awesome lady. Such an inspiration and bright light in the tunnel for us 50+ "reinvention's"! Hope you understand that.
Monique, just watched your starting over series and love it! Thank you. Exactly what I needed to hear this morning. Please keep 'em coming. Peace & light.
Thank you for giving me energy even if i am broke like today. This video really helped me today.
This raw and honest revelation into starting over that has touched and inspired so many people.
Most of us do not have the courage to make the changes that you made in your life.
It is fear that holds us back. You have the rare courage to move forward and trust that you can make it through the worst of times holding fast to your dreams.
Thank you for being such an inspiration Monique .
I would like to add that you found a need that needed to be filled! That's what I did 20 years ago, just turned 64, and that is the definition of an entrepreneur, in my book. You are such a savvy woman! I love your videos! You are so charitable to share these real life struggles. So many people just don't realize that there is gain through pain, and striving to succeed. I predict that you will be a million+ subscriber RUclipsr one day soon. I am rooting for you, and you root for everyone! Lovely woman!
Starting over as a widow. Totally get this.
Thank you, I needed that message right now. I'm in a new state away from home. Studying to be a medical assistant. I don't know what will happen, but I'm trying to enjoy the journey. Thanks again, love your videos, you are very inspiring.
Your honesty is refreshing and that is one of the MAIN reasons I follow you... It's awesome to finally see someone not putting airs or pretending to be something they're not... thank you!
Amazing what you gained in your year of struggles. The depth of character you gained shines through everything you do. Congrats!❤️
Thank you for the encouraging words. Life is full of things to start over. Some are big life changes and others are smaller. But both are important to fulfill our lives.
I just turned 57 and I am at a point where I feel I need to begin again...thank you for your words of encouragement!!!! You are such an inspiration and I appreciated your friends input too! Thank you to both of you for being strong women!
Hi Monique, well this is another sign and wonder. For the past 6 months, I have been seriously contemplating starting over. I've worked at the same company for 27 loooooooooonngg years, haven't really changed anything in my home, or in my life as a single mom. Now that the nest is empty, I have a longing desire to reinvent myself in looks, surroundings, personality, jobs, etc...you name it. Lately, little hints and pushes have been coming out of the clear blue that it is time. You just reinforced and inspired me further. Thanks and keep it up! Love xoxox
I've been there and it is scary but it can be done. I quit a job in 2002...made a deal so I was able to survive for 2 years but then my daughter got sick, like "maybe cancer sick"..and we had no health insurance. It depleted my savings (why I am an adamant proponent of ACA). And then because I couldn't find a job I was about to lose my home. I humbled myself and a friend loaned me one mortgage payment and I paid her back in two payments. In 2004 I took a job I hated... BUT WE GOT THROUGH! That job ended and I got some consultant work on the suggestion of a friend that got us through another 7 months and through that and a friend's suggestion I got a stable contract. Now I grew up poor so I knew how to live with nothing but it was depressing after a B.A. and an M.A. and while raising my daughter to live hand to mouth. The contract lasted for 3 years until it lead me to the job I'm in now which I've had for almost 9 years. It wasn't easy. And thinking back now there are other things I could have done to ease my situation (like sell makeup or some other entrepreneurial enterprise). I didn't even know about RUclips then. I did learn always have more than one stream of income...so even with my very good job today, I sell makeup on the side. You did 'good" Monique and thanks for sharing your story. (Btw the biopsy found nothing...even though all the tests showed something...it was a miracle...my daughter is healthy but when I sit with her I always touch her scar she says. I think I want to make sure it...what ever it was...doesn't return.)
You are lucky that it turned out okay. I do have cancer, leiomyosarcoma , to be exact, and I am lucky to be Alive for the last few years. I was diagnosed 2 weeks after I got married to my husband I love and adore but this was not fair to us or our relationship, or for him, as he lost a wife to cancer in 2005. I never wanted to be a person to leave in intentionally or because cancer decided to steal me away. We are fighting everyday for me to be alive. I’ve had a year of chemo, I’ve had so many surgeries. I’ve lost count, radiation, immunotherapy, lost 1 lobe of my lungs, had a brain cancer surgery very suddenly last April after I was feeling dizzy and off balance and then slurred speech. Cancer, cancer, cancer, I keep fighting this cancer in most areas of my body.. I know what Gamma KnIfe Radiation Surgery is now and I hope to God that has covered my brain and left me cancer free. I have so much to tell to the world and to my family if I were not here so RUclips could be a wonderful way for me to do that. It’s all such a struggle.. leaving to see my doctors soon and I hope we have the funds to have for a hotel for the time in Houston at Md Anderson. My pain keeps me from doing so much right now.. my husband and my family are there but we are all living in fear now.
prayers
I am so happy to have found your channel. You are natural, inspiring and your sage advice gives me hope, knowing that one’s life doesn’t to be the same forever. btw, I am 59 and also looking for a new direction.Thank you from Melbourne, Australia!
Greatest takeaway: you only need ask the universe for help and show up for the response. Ty for sharing.
There are just no words, none. I will just say Thank you ladies, Thank you! This is it!
I am not starting over right now, I dont have silver hair... still love your videos Monique - you are so real and have awesome sense of humour ❤️
I've been so stuck in just about every area of my life. I hit my 50s and all hell broke loose. I'm finally starting to climb out from bottom but it ain't easy. Thanks, Monique, for this video. I appreciate your honesty
You saved me. This video is exactly what I needed I was just laid off after 19 years at 1 job about a week ago. I've been cleaning and purging my house of stuff/clutter, because it's the only thing I feel in control over at this point. I have no idea if i'm going to lose my house or not. From the bottom of my heart, thank you. I'm crying as I write this. I've been a wreck and no one in my extended family gets it as I'm single, middle aged and terrified of how to keep going. I was washing my bedroom blinds with bleach and water less than an hour ago, cleaning, painting and organizing my linen closet because just trying to sit and relax is impossible with so much worry.
Thank you so much Monique for making me feel better about myself today. I struggle with depression every day. Thank you. Rita
Your an insperation.Your sense of humor and candor are priceless. You've given me food for thought where there was nothing but doubt..Love your videos.
Monique and Shawn - Thank you! I am reinventing myself and it has been very difficult. I am so fortunate to have stumbled upon Monique's RUclips Channel this evening. I know I was supposed to see your message. Thank you so much for your honesty. This has given me great hope. Blessings to you both.
Thank you for posting this Monique. I appreciate your candidness and honesty. I am 41 and thinking of a life change and your videos are inspiring. Thank you for your courage to share your story.
Monique I am so very happy that I found your channel, you give me hope and motivation Monique you are TRULY an inspiration!!!
THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS YOU I LOVE YOU SISTER!!!!
I really needed to see and hear this today. It brought tears to my eyes several times.
I'm 53 and have been wanting to make a huge change, which would mean giving up security and starting over with absolutely nothing. Thank you for sharing the reality of what some people have and will go through when starting over with zero. You've given me so much hope and I think I can find the courage to do it. Bless you, Monique.
I "found" your channel while scrolling on RUclips b/c I was looking for make-up tutorials for middle aged women, like myself. After finding your channel, I am SO inspired by you. I don't know your whole story (because hey- we *all* have a story, right?) but you are amazing. I look forward to getting caught up on all of your tutorials/videos and becoming one of your thousands of "fans"- thank you for making this video. I think a lot of us who are middle aged find ourselves "starting over" for whatever reason(s), but there are very few people out there who are humble enough to reach out to the public and say "hey- I was in your shoes- and you're not alone, and you CAN do it." So thank you, Monique!
Hey Monique, I’m a 55 yr old woman out here in Palm Springs. I just started watching your videos. Absolutely love all of them and YOU! You are so beautiful, humble and REAL! Also, you have posted so many useful videos on topics I can truly relate to. Thank you......and keep on posting!
You are one of my inspirations to make videos myself, thank you :-)
Monique, thank you for doing this video. I wish I had seen something like this 16 years ago when I was living in my car, and had a job that paid very little, didn't have much food and didn't know who to turn to, and felt too ashamed to tell my family about it. it's only been within the last one to two years that I have started telling my family what was going on at the time, why they didn't see very much of me.
Again thank you for putting this video out, I think that you are an amazing person, and I love your channel.
The thing that I respect you most for is the positive attitude you have kept through it all, good or bad. I know for myself I have not done that. We all have a story and that is what got me through some my most low points. Monique, you don't know how many times I have been watching other You Tubers and they have mentioned you for some reason or another, mostly how beautiful you are. So you have touched many of us and I for one. So thank you and have a blessed day
Girlllllllllllllllllllll I needed this video TODAY!
I was looking for a video to change a room into a closet. Saw your wallpaper video and then this one. Long story short, I've been on a non fulfilling job for 30 years! Depressed for 30yrs.
I literally said, I have got to get back to me, reinvent myself, find me! And then I came across this video! I honestly don't believe it was a coincidence! This is what I needed to see today at this exact time. I know this video is over a year old, and it's possible you may not see this comment for another year. But, whenever you do, know that you and this video have given me life! I am retiring at the end of this year and as of this moment , I am no longer fearful!
So grateful and thankful for you!
Perfect for what I am going through. I am beginning all over again at 61. Not what I was expecting to be doing after retiring from teaching lol.
50 I was going through menopause, living in a hotel 500 miles from home while my husband was trying to die on me. Didn’t let him btw 😁 50 is a helluva time for us isn’t it? Thx for sharing.
Also wanted to add that it takes strength and courage to do what u did. If people are truly honest, most of us at one time or another, have relied on some form of help. I rewatched this video and it takes a brave person to tell their story. You may never know how much help you may have brought to many thousands of people that watches this video. You are much more than just a beautiful face and brains, you have a huge heart and truly care about others. Thank you from your NC friend 💐🌷
I'm in a valley right now and was uplifted by your story, I'm not alone. Thank you for your honesty.
Ive been having a terrible month. One of those months where everything that can go wrong ,does go wrong.Thank You for making this video , it has given me tremendous hope. Love,Jenny
Wow, such honesty is hard to come by! Cheers to your courage, Monique. I started over also at 50, up and moved , sorta reinvented myself. Found you by accident really when I was looking for skincare for my now aging face, seventeen years later. I notice that the you tubers in my age group seem to be caught up in lots of material stuff with a seemingly endless supply of money. It is hard to relate. Now I am semi retired and it seems like I need to do another major change. Figure out the last chapter. It's a little harder now with some health issues but I am a work in progress. Thank you for sharing your life experiences. You inspire. Your beautiful spirit radiates through and shows up in your sparkling eyes.
Best video of all! You're so brave and resilient. I've had my food bank days. Days I fed my kids and didn't eat myself. And yes, I survived! Women supporting women is so important. Thank you for this video. I'm glad I found it. Better late than never! I love your whole channel!
My daughter moved out to LA 8 months ago with everything she had loaded into her car to pursue her goals of being a working actor. The struggle is real and your journey of starting over is so seemingly like hers. I'm always looking for positive encouragement outside of my biased mom cheerleading and your tenacity and strength is inspirational...I am sending this video to her! Thank you for sharing!
Everything they said,Monique is how I feel about this video.Im in a bad place.Lost my husband suddenly in 2002,I have a 28 y/o son,been enabling him for a while.Developed shingles last year,still have it&knee injury that will need surgery.Ive been good to everyone except myself.If someone could please direct me to a site or blog,etc.where I can communicate with other women,tell my story,my ups and downs,my struggles.I would greatly appreciate it,of course you've inspired me this morning&I am very grateful.and thank you do very much!
I appreciate this video. Starting over can be scary but, you are encouraging us to take the leap! Thank you Monique💜
Just found your channel and thrilled to see that you are filling a much-needed void on RUclips! Thank you. You are an intelligent, inspiring, beautiful woman with a beautiful soul. Subscribed!
I am so glad I watched this video, I also decided at 50 to reinvent myself and I haven't exactly had the support team, most people think I'm crazy but I feel amazingly better and super glad I am on this journey. Thank you your an inspiration
I turned 50 last Feb, went silver (work in progress) and then I found you! I lost my job in January and just received my last unemployment check today. I feel so lost, but determined not to go back to my soul sucking corporate job (in software). I'm lost, but hopeful. I just watched this video and thank you! It's scary. I hate being late on CC payments and I'm wondering what may happen to my car (I had just bought a new car over New Years and lost my job the next week.) Thank you for your channel. Keep up the great work - you are a huge support and inspiration!
Thank you, Monique, for sharing your story with us. It means a lot for many of us. Blessings.
You are a stoic! You cut out what was wrong in your life. That takes courage! I remember seeing over Instagram a quote stating that we spend money that we don't have to impress people that we don't like....smth. like that. So true
Monique Parent oh Monique, when I first found your Chanel, you helped me so much, I am older than you and from being a pretty woman I suddenly became invisible. At the same time we were starting over, moving home, jobs etc. Successfully as it turned. I was starting over with you and I really didn't have your problems, I just needed to realise that I could become not invisible. I won't ever be a young pretty woman anymore but now people compliment me because I have " class", my skin is good, I dress nicely, I am a fun woman to be around, I care about others. I will take those my life is different, than it was but we are happy and you helped me even when you were getting scurvy, Thanks Monique you are an amazing woman. Cheers and here's hoping your Chanel continues to grow and those acting jobs roll in for you.
I was recently fired last week because of excessive absences due to a chronic illness I have. I worked at my job for 18 years! I feel lost and don't know where to go from here. Your video was very incouraging and gave me a little hope. I'm 51 years old and I have to go to the unemployment office to file and it's pretty scary. I live across the street from the school I worked at for so many years and I'm feeling very depressed, scared, sad, all kind's of emotions going on but the big question for me is what now? I wish I had a good close friend that I could share my thoughts with and your video was kinda like having that good friend. Thank you and keep doing what you love because it helps so many. Love you bunches!
Honest videos that speak of our journeys walking through the fires of life are invaluable to those who want to know how to make it in this world. Well done Monique. You are a blessing.
Thank you for being so honest. I think you are the only one on RUclips. Love you bunches back for that. I am 54 and loving it. 😽😽😻
I just shared a video that is similar to this about overcoming fear and starting something new. I love how encouraging you are and how you talk about being honest with others. I think sometimes our struggles help others more than the clean and tidy side of our lives! You inspire me as a youtuber and a woman! Thanks for sharing!
You are brave and a real inspiration! What a great "share"! I don't know that I would have the courage you displayed, but you have given me a lot to ponder.
Wonderful video. Thank you for telling how you rescued Sequel.
I just found you the other day I'm 50 and I watched one of your beauty videos and looked at your list this one caught my eye because I'm starting all over THANK YOU!!! I'm in love your awesome ❤❤❤
monique im a single umemployed mum fromsydney australia and im atill watching this while commenting and can i just say i absolutely love you and love ur RAW self wow i wish i could give could give you a hug thank you for being so humane xx
Thank you for being real which is a rarity!!! I have enjoyed watching your growth, sass and tenacity for truly changing your life. Your riches are your growth not the stuff we accumulate! God bless. I live across the bridge from Tampa where the beautiful beaches are!!!
i could see you being an amazing life coach. this is one of my favorite videos from you! thanks for sharing with us. my day feels brighter and more hopeful. i feel so inspired. thank you monique. my ray of yt sunshine. xo ALSO, your friend is so sweet and the perfect friend for this video. sweet smart women.