an honest low buy year update: it's getting hard
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You’re on a low-buy, not a no-buy. Buy what you need!!
Replacing something that doesn’t fit sounds very much like a need.
Thanks for sharing this and being honest about how the low-buy year is going! I think if your body has changed, you need new clothes for your new body. No matter what. Nothing wrong with that! The challenge doesn't matter if you're stressed out about what's currently in your closet. Just pivot and focus on buying intentionally, and curating a closet you'll feel good in. Also I loved your makeup and button-up look today!
Aw thank you!! 🩷🩷
I don’t know if you’ve ever done a clothing-swap before? One of my friends used to have parties where each person brought some clothes that they no longer wanted, and everyone put the clothes in a pile in the middle of the room. People could take anything out of the pile, could also choose to exchange the clothes they were wearing for a whole new outfit from the pile. The entire pile was up for grabs for whoever wanted any amount of the items, and any left over clothes were taken to Goodwill afterwards. Could be fun for you? Was fun for me, and I think about doing it again from time to time…
Agree!!! ❤ No regrets!
Do not wear uncomfortable shoes. It will ruin your body. I wore uncomfortable shoes in my early 20s and now am paying for it in my late 20s. If you walk a lot, wear comfy trainers that can last all day. Bring your cute shoes if you want to wear them at work. Especially since you have a bone spur, those problems can get much worse if you don’t take care of your feet.
exactly. also for bone spurs i recommend castor oil and fasting
I am in my 50’s, having had hammertoe surgery on both feet, telling you - do not wear uncomfortable shoes! Especially if you have to stand or walk A LOT.
A 1 for 1 exchange to make sure things fit seems very reasonable to me. Its what I've done! Due to some health issues my size has changed even from 12 months ago and it was really bothering me that I'd feel so uncomfortable in a closet staple.
omg SAME about the body changes around 26, like even though i’ve lost a substantial amount of weight i still can’t fit clothes from when i was 22 because my body is just different now and it’s hard to come to terms with and not feel like a failure for needing to buy new clothes- but emphasis on need!! we deserve clothes that make us feel good!!!!😵💫
100%!
At 24 my hips literally got wider, like the bones turned and now you can see them even though you couldn't before with no weight change! It's crazy
@@lauramolteni2431 Same. I think even if I went to the weight I had at 20, I couldn't fit in the bottoms I wore at that age.
Replacing those two pants that you grew out of is a need, not a want imo and I think that you should buy them outside of your low-buy rules. Even more because it seems to be an act of self care too! Never put your mental health behind rules that you made up yourself!
totally!! That’s what I’m thinking too!
Hearing about the need to remember about your mental health resonates with me a lot - I started no-buy in January but had to quit as I realised it has become a way of punishing myself. I haven’t really had problem with overconsumption, have been buying almost entirely second-hand so I just had to… dunno… I got influenced to do a no-buy by this trend that it has become this year…?
If you sell your old pants and get $ or credit for new ones, that could help you feel better. ❤
I had the same thought! Definitely going to list my declutterred stuff on poshmark 🤞🏻
I think "low buy" can mean different things to different people. As someone currently struggling with a "thrifting addiction", I tried to do this same kind of "low buy" and just like quitting any kind of bad habit, that number of "5 items a year" is not really a "one size fits all" solution. I personally quit this number in April because going from spending $150-200 a month on thrifting to $0-$15 is pretty insane. Instead, I now spend $50 or less along with making sure I donate or sell at least 1 to 1. Tailoring a "low buy" will work better in the long run because you're creating better habits while still getting to participate in things that bring you joy. Then I know that I'm not setting myself up for "going all out" when the low buy is over too because I have created a new habit for myself instead of just restricting myself... Kind of like any sort of health journey.
I feel like if you are buying something to replace something because of sizing it shouldn’t count towards the 5 or if it makes you feel better count it as 1 because it’s more of a (size) issue compared to a want issue
I feel you about turning 26 and suddenly having a new body! I feel like I had to remind myself I deserve to be comfortable in the new body I have! I think you make a no buy under certain circumstances, and then if circumstances change you can rework your plan. I just say remind yourself to be mindful about what you bring in and I think you'll end up feeling good about it.
You are so real for the age 26 - hip change!! I had the same thing, I’m 28 now and WOW my body has CHANGED in the last two years. This is why although I think shopping less & consciously is important, I’m not going to try a low buy. When the bod changes, lifestyle changes, we need to be able to react. That being said, I’ve cut my wardrobe in half (or more) over the last few years, and having fewer items overall I’ve found makes it easier to identify true gaps. So…anyway, girl get the pants! Try on some shoes! You good!
it’s good to hear that it’s such a shared experience!
I can totally relate to this. My body has changed a lot and my jeans don’t fit anymore. I also have a new job where I walk and bike a lot more and I need comfortable shoes. All this while trying to have a low buy year …. Good not to be alone with this challenge.
Thank you for sharing.
I was trying to do a no buy year when I had A WHOLE BABY in February 😂😂😂 my audacity at the end of December was unmatched. Maybe next year!
oh girlll 😂😂😂 haha that is so funny 😂
Totally agree about closet declutters!! The longer the better! Walk me through every decision, every cami 😂 would love to see you do one again!
Maybe try to thrift what you need, but if you can’t find what you’re looking for, then just get what you need new. It might be against the rules and it’s great that you’re doing the rule of five, but obviously you are very conscious of your buying already so if you need to venture outside the rules, the maybe that’s ok. (:
Okay, maybe I missed a video, but you've been thrifting things so isn't that considered purchasing or is this just buying new?
I decided my low buy would be just limiting brand new purchases while still allowing myself to thrift whatever. My low buy year video goes over all of my rules! 😊
Whether it was lifting and whatever happens to the body at 26, my hips also made an appearance for the first time 😂 Adjusting to changes is hard enough - I wouldn’t count replacing basic items that are too small now as part of the low buy
Orthorexia has no home here 🙌👏
Honor your body with new clothes. If purchases are a trigger for more and more spending perhaps you have a friend who can help hold you accountable to the wants/needs?
instead of gazelles get some onitsuka tigers for comfortable street shoes! as long as my shoes are flat and allow my feet room to rest comfortably they’re good. i literally resorted to water shoes for the gym coz i couldn’t find anything that wasn’t clunky. reebok and merrel do have good options for good wider gym shoes
I'm 27 and can totally relate to my hips changing in my mid 20s! If you still allow yourself to thrift with no limit (which I understood from this video), why not just thrift new pants?
Also yes to 3 hour long closet declutter videos lol.
I love a good closet declutter and watching people going through all their stuff. Same, girl! The same way I love when people thrift their entire time at the thrift store versus just showing the thrift haul. :)
I feel like if the point was to love the things already in your closet and if saving money isn't really the point, maybe just limit all your fashion purchases (including vintage/thrifted) to 5 items and do away with the budget completely. Just a suggestion, not sure if it's helpful
Thank you so much for this, I completely relate and it’s reassuring to hear that this is a shared situation! I started a low buy this year with one wardrobe item per month, and since turning 25 last year, I’ve also noticed my hips getting a lot wider. It’s meant that I’ve had to buy some unanticipated replacements for swimsuits, wedding guest dress, etc. to accommodate my changing body. I decided to give myself leeway and allow 2 items per month instead, which some may think is a lot or not a low buy at all, but in my situation and with my past shopping habits, I felt like this was an acceptable compromise between feeling comfortable and not entirely throwing in the towel. Hope you can find the balance that’s right for you!! ❤
Sounds to me as if you have learnt what you need to from the low buy and want to move on
I understand the link between clothes and mental health. It took me a long time to recognize how the way clothing feels on me effects my anxiety. Some days I'll change in the middle of the day because I realize that what I had picked out that day is effecting my mood. It can make a big difference.
I've never done such a long low buy, but I always hit that wall of misery at some point. I've found that addiction recovery programs have advice that is usually helpful and transferable to things like low buys. I've also found it helpful to do a journalling exercise to get to the root "why" of what impact I want a low buy to have, and use that as a guiding principle when I'm unsure about exceptions. For example, If my "why" was "I want to reprioritize the way I spend my money", I would determine whether that purchase was in line with my new priorities. Also, be gentle with yourself. Make the best choice you can, and then make a decision afterwards about whether it was in line with your goals. Any time you do something new, you're going to make mistakes, it's part of the learning process. The success of your low buy isn't based on never making a mistake, it's whether or not it got you closer to your goal.
I feel you so much, Michaela! I'm trying to buy less and thrift as much as possible. But I can only shop online (the thrift shops in my city are so aweful!) and I feel so pressured every time because I don't know if it will fit me and I can't return it. That's why I buy new clothes more often, but I'm very careful. When in doubt, I don't buy it and that has helped me a lot. Like you said, it's very hard to save up for big pieces when you're on a budget. Especially when shopping is a reward. In the end, all we can all do is try to be mindful. And if that's the case, just buy the clothes that fit your current body 🤍
I've only ever done something like this with crafting stuff, but you really do need to build in a "need and consumable" clause. The consumables are a little less, if you're focused on clothing, but clearly you've consumed your shoes and "used up" clothing that just plain doesn't it anymore. They need replacing, but not in excess.
Hellooooooo!! I’m only part way through the video whilst typing this, however what immediately comes to mind is that this low buy year is already a success. I would imagine that one of the benefits of this process is to show how your existing wardrobe works for you, and from everything you’ve articulated so far, it’s doing exactly that! By not purchasing, you’ve revealed the true needs for your wardrobe and the gaps that should be filled in order for it to work optimally for you. Plus, PLUS, you haven’t committed to not buying anything, so go fill those gaps girl!! I’m sure given your experience so far and finding out more about what you like, you’ll be even more selective with the products you choose. SUCCESS!! 🎉🎉🎉
One thing you do learn (or I learned the hard way) is with the body changes is that it can just randomly swing back without any intention, so don't get rid of the old stuff either or you will be stuck - not speaking from experience of looking really stupid in ridiculous looking belts. Just don't declutter everything, I promise, bodies are weird.
This is great advice!! I have also experienced the ~15lb pendulum. I like to keep a few smaller, a few bigger, a few just right 👌🏻 mostly going to get rid of the stuff that I just don’t wear because of aesthetic reasons
honestly, if the item you buy is pretty much an exact replacement, I don't think it should count in your 5 pieces. you deserve clothes that fit and that you feel good in
Even the most iron will (much like iron itself) must bend sometimes, lest it shatter. If new clothes are necessary to feel comfortable in your own skin, then I feel they are a good and well considered purchase.
Clothes are hundred percent a need!
I’m on a mindful consumption year, and it’s hard. Because I like glitter and color and everything lol every time I want to buy something I make sure it fits in my wardrobe and is not going to get stashed and never worn. And being 26!! Yes! It’s about finding you, you look beautiful. But don’t stress, life is stressful already.
So much of this resonated with me, and I'm almost twice your age. My no buy was going pretty well, except I've gained 15 lbs in the past year and most of my jeans don't fit. My life-long trend has been to shop for leaner self, and then wear sacks when I'm heavier. I want to stop that. Also the must shop/get that deal mentality. The crazy amount of time I've spent on the SSENSE sale site the past week seeking the thrill of the find is a waste. Keep going Michela! Do what's best for you, today.
Yes please do a closet clean out! My low buy has gone horribly for many reasons but I’ve had some weight changes to cater to as well. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with properly clothing your body. By being disciplined for this long, you’ve proven that you can control impulse purchasing, which was kind of the point right?
I definitely think if its replacing a need it doesn't need to count in the 5. Your current sandals are hurting you, so if you sell/donate them and buy a pair of sandals that actually support and work for your feet that's fine. You don't currently have pants that fit your new body for the warmer weather so that is a need. Or like others have said could maybe use up one of the five to buy a few pairs of pants for that need, rather than each individual pair counting.
Clothes need to fit your body, not the other way around. The happy limit is to only get enough clothes to last between laundry days. My body has been changing over the last 3 years and buying minimal new clothes to last for a week and re-wearing means I can get enough wear from them even if I need new sizes every season. There’s also styles which are size flexible and they can be good options too. Remember- body changes are a sign that we’re alive.
I have an issue with doing things all in or not at all and being hard on myself. I’ve been working on adapting and being understanding with pivoting with reason and I think you are experiencing a pivot. In a way what you are realizing is a great outcome for the goal of the challenge to begin with. You wanted to buy things mindfully and not buying things has made you realize the gaps you need to fix. I say continue the lowbuy but allow yourself this midway adjustment point that will help you succeed for the rest of the way. Also I feel like pushing yourself to keep going without adjusting would cause harm, make you feel uncomfortable and maybe even cause you too over buy once you’re done
Buy the clothes you need--Do not Suffer!!!!!! It is definitely not worth it for your mental health. You're perfect--dress the body you have--cannot wait to see what new pieces will support the ever-evolving you!
My vote is you buy those things yoy need the most, linen pants and jeans. Since you thrift also try to find those things thrifting. My closet is mostly thrifted foe everyday wear plus memade clothes....I love to sew. Suggestion with your declutter (and speaking from experience) pack up all the to tight things you like in one container and store them. Gaining and losing weight happens to a lot of us. I have really regretted decluttering things I really like only to either gain or lose weight.
I had a jacket for 10 years and wore it less than 20 times. I was sentimental cuz it did look good but it wasn’t my GOTO jacket. Just sold it on fbook a few months ago. Glad to see it go and I found something else I can enjoy much better.
oh I just want you to know I feel you on the hips. It happened to me at 25 seemingly overnight as well. I was really upset because so many clothes I loved an wore for years suddenly didn't fit. For 6 months I've felt frumpy and horrible and not dealt with it because of trying to avoid clothes but this past month I gave up and decided to get some new jeans for winter. I feel SO much better. So yes absolutely I think buying clothes that fit you in this moment is an essential.
i've tried doing low buys for awhile & have been (slightly) successful mainly because i've focused on what i value spending money on and have been gentle with myself if i make a purchase i end up regretting later. we're not perfect, we're doing our best !
also, i had a similar experience about 2-3 years ago where all my favorite clothes (skirts and pants specifically, plus some tops), stopped fitting me and i had to disrupt my "no buy"/low buy and had to remember that me feeling terrible about myself would probably have me spiral into buying more things to ultimately feel better again lol - what a cycle we find ourselves in.
im glad youre sharing your experience though, because youre definitely not alone
Thank you for the frank and honest catch up re the low buy year. I am preparing to start next year and already I am beginning to to experience pangs of anxiety, trying to figure out how to navigate it. However I think it will help my impulsivity and help develop a more mindful mindset going forward. Perhaps enjoy the things I already own and get creative. So thank you!
I needed to hear this, thank you Michaela! I experienced severe disordered eating in my early 20’s, and I too, have worked super hard to think more neutrally about my body and integrate healthy habits and mindsets so I can enjoy getting dressed again! I’m also moving away from wearing pink and accepting/embracing my love for more modest, classic silhouettes and style (Princess Diana is my North Star)! Funnily enough, I’m also 26, and my hips have gotten bigger in the last 6 months too, so I totally hear you when you talk about the struggle of wanting to have clothing that’s comfortable for the body you have, and how that feeds into your self esteem. You’re thinking so intentionally about your purchases and you seem super self aware of the choices you don’t want to repeat; I say buy what you need to in order to feel good about getting dressed every day. Thanks for your candor and humor, I love your content!
I try to have a wishlist before going into any store, even thrift stores. I try to stick to my list, some impulse buys still come home with me, but usually it’s not as much. I hate I can’t try stuff on in my thrift stores :/ bottoms are so hard to buy without trying
Hi Michaela, I feel you about the difficulty sticking with a low buy and the frustrations we feel when clothes no longer fit. I started a low buy year this year. My ground rules were: 12 new items in, replacing worn out basics or outgrown basics is okay. Because of weight creep/ fluctuations I have replaced 5 bottoms this year. I have spent most of my life struggling to have a healthy relationship with my body and my weight. I am 58 and have decided that it is time to find a new, more realistic target weight. I have gone over my item count goals for the year so far, but the year isn't over. My goal is to draw a new line under this month and start fresh in August. (we are going to Copenhagen and Malmo in July and I am not going to punish my self there)
Watching your video it is clear that you are becoming more thoughtful about your style and your spending habits and that is the real goal of a low buy or no buy exercise. you are doing just fine.
Love hearing about your low-buy journey. Would honestly love a video about how you've cultivated such a healthy relationship with eating and exercising - I'm on that journey right now!
This is a temporary feeling. It will pass. However, you need to replace those sneakers and it is a need. Also maintaining a healthy body image is a need - within reason, of course. Get yourself some new pants but set a limit of maybe three pair. That way you will be discerning in your choices. And yes, purge that closet first. You may find a pair of pants that still fits. Pants are a necessity. Every low buy allows for replacements. That’s all you are doing. Don’t make this such a struggle that you go crazy on Jan 1, 2025. I have done that in the past and it only leads to bad feelings afterward. The goal is to make this style of living somewhat sustainable. It’s really the way we all should be living to prevent tons of excess and needing that dopamine hit to be shopping. I am on a low buy again this year and although I had a slip up early in the year, it was not terrible and I got right back on that horse. Use your common sense about what is necessary and what is not. The shoes and maybe 3 pair of pants that you love and feel good in are reasonable necessities. Good luck! Better days are coming when you will feel so proud of your accomplishment.
I'm doing a no buy for the rest of this year. If my pants size change I will allow myself to replace for a better fit. We deserve pants that fit! LOL love your content, new subscriber!
So the jeans buy the ones that fit like three sizes ? I’m 34 and my weight fluctuates so these fit if I go down a size or go up a size because you know hormones. Also always invest in your feet, if you buy new shoes to replace a shoe throw the old ones out or donate them use the 1 in 1 out rule. You’re doing great
IMO and what seems to be a general consensus of the comment section, if ur body has changed and things don’t fit i think its a need to have pants you can wear and be comfortable in. Personally i wouldn’t include new pants and daily shoes in the low buy if its something you realize you don’t have that you need. Especially if you plan to thrift it if ur not including thrifting in the low buy. Also don’t let not being able to fully adhere to the low buy as a personal failure and reflection of self, i think its a goal you set out to attain but shouldn’t make you feel horrible about yourself for having to make exceptions as long as you acknowledge these items ARE exceptions and continue on with the goal of low buy in mind.
I think if you sell your old clothes and then you use only the money that you get to buy new ones then those purchases shouldn’t count as buys for the year
Last year I found an upcycle designer who has combined clothes that no longer fit me (but that are still in great condition) into pieces that do. It is a different kind of effort but if you can find a seamstress or designer in your area than I would highly recommend this!
For Go’s sake, buy a pair of linen pants and a new pair of jeans… The purpose of your no by year was to put more consciousness around your spending, not see if you could tough it out… Bless the new pants and move on with your plan
The last time I got weight was pregnancy and post pregnancy weight 😂
Replacing shoes so they fit your feet and protect them is actually health related. Also, honoring your new body shape by buying clothes that fit and you are confident in will allow you to continue wearing long into the future.
I think that you have identified that this could lead to issues. 5 purchases a year is extreme. You can be VERY selective with your purchases and avoid over consuming. Make the decisions that make you happy and helps you feel confident.
i so relate to what you are saying, I´m way older than you but my body and my style also changed, so I feel bit the same like you, I also moved to another climate so a lot of summer dresses are too warm for overhere 😭 I saw on the internet that people put castor oil on their bone spurs and they got smaller after several weeks, woth a try? let us now!
Ugh I keep yoyo-ing on my no-buy! I do so well for two months and then something bad happens or I feel ugly and get back on the overspending and regret 😭 Oh and if you literally have no bottoms that fit, buy some!!!
I also gravitated away from color in my mid twenties, and then all of a sudden in my late twenties I started craving color so much lol
I have absolutely sucked on my no-buy for the first part of the year so I may be giving up. We’ll see
low buy is not a no buy so if you need something def buy it !!! and like new jeans and linen pants- go for it!! if its adding more stress then thats just not fun and you dont deserve it :((
also totally relate to clothes affecting your mental health and as someone who has an e.d. like yeah its shit and its hard so no to falling back to unhealthy habits and yes to taking care of yourself also yess your makeup does look good 🤭
I think pants are a pretty essential item like if you don’t have pants to wear that actually fit it’s a daily struggle
Girl, get yourself what you need not to feel stressed out and extend the low-buy for another month
Sometimes when u get older, ur butt drops so the hips seem bigger
Can’t wait for closet declutter!!!!!
Yes! Give us an hour long declutter .
I understand the purpose of a low buy year , however of it is stressing you because you’re body changed you can give yourself some grace , make a list of needs and stick to it … that’s what I did when my body changed last year, comfortable clothes are a need ❤
I agree! Having comfy and functional clothes is so important
I think the green dress could go with a lot of shoes - canvas sneakers, loafers, even cowboy boots...it seems to fit you perfectly, so maybe give it another chance?
I’ll have to spend some time styling it!
Maybeeeee just maybee swap out some clothes, if you sell a pair of jeans you can buy a pair that fits better without it really being a full on buy?
That’s what I’m planning on doing!! I sold a bunch of stuff after I purged my closet, gonna treat myself to new pants 😊
@@michaeladickson If you find any jeans that you love let me know! I have had the hardest time finding not too skinny and not too wide.
Wow, I've never subscribed to a channel so fast!! You opened my eyes. Been struggling with a low buy year too (I completely failed mine lol) and I couldn't quite place why. You explained it so well - I too create sentimental bonds between things I want and special occasions so its hard to get rid of those things after, and I become attached to the feeling I had when buying it. Amazing content - keep it up!
replacing something that you constantly use is so allowed. everything you mentioned purchasing will be of value because you will be using.
I'd argue a 1 to 1 replacement should be fine as long as those things truly need replacement! Like clearly those pants are going unused and need replacement or those shoes are falling apart and need replacement. I think getting a new "cute shoe/sandal" wouldn't count as a replacement and would count as one of the five purchases
Hahaha I am so glad I'm not the only one that cares about every single black tank top ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Love the honesty this is very relatable. I’m going through the same thing so I’ve sold everything I don’t resonate with anymore so I can buy the things I truly like. I would really enjoy seeing a try on in your closer too! Please and thank you :)
Totally unrelated to the topic of the video, but you are so pretty and your makeup is just perfect 🤩 So glowy and fresh!
My body has changed a lot from 25-26 as well. It was sad to let go of some of my favorite finds, but also very necessary to have things that fit and you feel comfortable in!!
Thank you for sharing and I hear you and feel you about the toxicity of needing to fit into your old clothes. If buying something new allows you to not fall back into some self cruelty then it must be done and you’re doing amazing keep up the good work!
I'm feeling the same way on my no buy. Like when you said your past purchases were impulse buys so it's made getting dressed harder.
im just stunned she’s a wisco fashion girlie, represent!
You are so beautiful i dont see any Bodychange, your stunning. I absolutly love your Show..❤26 is not ,in between its YOUNG,❤❤
yes to the closet declutter! try everything on and show it please :D
gimme hat 2 hour declutter with minimal edits .
YES YES YES to a long closet declutter 😭💕
Same here, it's getting hard. I've bought a few things but the guilt of violating my low buy made me return them lol
Also the mid 20s hips are so real!! I'm 28 so I've had them for a few years now lol. I still have not bought ANY shorts so I might allow a pair this year.
Do a closet clean out!!
Why don’t you sell the clothes that no longer fit on somewhere like vinted and then use the money you make to buy some new ones 🩷x