Another freeing concept I found in the Bible says trying to understand why someone does something is like trying to catch the wind. This was comforting because I used to lie awake at night and think about why someone would do what they did to me. It tormented me and I wouldn't be able to sleep till I came up with a satisfactory answer. I figure God is correct because He's God. Also I figured out similar to the let them concept, people's thoughts about me are none of my business.
There's a passage in the bible in ecclesiastes 1:14) mentioning "chasing the wind" as an analogy about how futile chasing trivial pursuits in life from riches to multiple women, power and reputation is, as these things can take a chunk of our lives, basically waisted (time) on these things that in the end ruin us. Also the "chasing the wind" is mentioned lots more times analogously in ecclesiastes... and infact that reference is throughout the whole bible old & new testament. But from my memory an just research recap lol I don't remember a passage using this metaphor about not being able to understand people's behaviour's... from my experience their is always a reason behind people's actions, intention an such, heart an so forth, or motive but is nonetheless inexcusable, did you know bullies, molesters, violent people or even substance addicts all have a story that would look as if they were conditioned to act a certain way by being once the victim of another perpetrator committing said offence/crime upon them either from a young vulnerable or young adult ; so damaged them, to one day inevitable commit the same crime onto another! Or some people do bad things under another mental health issue, which is, based on their personality type or more so on the socio or psychopath or narcissistic scale or I should say cluster B, on the antisocial personality disorder ( ASPD ) spectrum. Which are wired a certain way, which go some way of explaining to why someone may commit a certain offence/crime! So wether were talking mental or physical abuse of sorts an character or bad behaviour's, they can be explained from children right through to adulthood (psychology & clinical psychology) there are usually reasons for said events or the like! And god knows people are/can be evil.... and good! Forgive your debtors friend free yourself, god holds them to account... one day! By forgiving them/him/her/it lol you heap burning coals upon their head god says, and to then let god deal with them. Tho i must mention not all abused people go on to abuse others ; but the majority have done, or will do so! And I guess using this logic, there must always be a first perpertrator who hasn't been abused in a certain way, as even a child from a good background having loving parents can one day turn out evil, as i mentioned its a humans mental state and brain wiring that matters within the, and their matter!? Godbless... Christs servant... W.COOK from Bristol England 🏴
@@BarelyHangingOnx369x or conditioned, through truama, maybe even learnt behaviour's, ingrained in from young ( so conditioning ) not knowing/seeing any other behaviour's, from adults... add that to possible learning difficulties, and vulnerability and mental health conditions! Then it starts to become normal, as its the only behaviour's they know and see. Learning a wrong view of the world and society and subsequent behaviour's within it. All formed from a child, in their formative years. Hence then growing to an adult that's messed up, confused, abused and neglected, which has caused a negative affect, in them and their outlook on reality, and behaviour. So was taught to be bad, or learnt it, by neglectful or narcissistic parents. So has been ruined! Even adults who know right and wrong can do bad things one day, through either mental health issues, stress, bereavement/grief or just through age and cognitive ditteariations, and obviously brain damage ; including emotional hurt through life. But as I said it doesn't excuse a person's act/actions. ( regardless of the mitigating circumstances ) But some people are choosing to do bad things to people.... like those with sociopathy & psychopathy with narcissism, or cluster B) antisocial personality disorder ( ASPD ) and its been proven that serial killers got brain damage, in their amygdala and prefrontal cortex ( literal brain damage ) which then affects their personality and responses, actions, moods and behaviour's. Even a saint who has never had a bad thought in their lives can one day fall over bang their head and never being the same person again after the accident, a once calm, polite, gentle, loving person is now moody, angry, violent and nasty. So sad. Just goes some way, of understanding said behaviour's, to understand the human condition. Not everything is black or white! So I disagree on a blanket statement of "it's a choice" definitively.... gb ♥
@@BarelyHangingOnx369x and not all hurt people, hurt people. Some don't... but if one is Christian of jesus christ... we must forgive regardless or we won't be forgiven that's grace!
Embracing "Let them" allows one to become sigma. Then one can walk away or disappear without remorse. Love other people regardless of where they are.in life. Quietly pray for them and offer guidance if they ask for it.
So glad to hear this. Took me a lifetime together to this on my own. This will strengthen my capacity to use the discipline. (However I still replay conversations).. working on that will be ongoing no doubt.
Often in trying to explain ourselves we harm ourselves they build it in such a way that when we try to explain ourselves we cause people to say see i told you by twisting our words and actions to fit the scenario that they have crafted
I think our deepest desire is to be understood but it rarely happens. We can care without explaining ourselves. Acceptance that we're kinda rare and no one seems to get it is freeing.
Seems like others know better about us than about them self huh ? Its a human nature tho... Almost everyone did that . They said "love your self" and when we did that they will say "you r a pick me n narcisist" Let em theory indeed.
OK so I don't think we care so much what others think or feel🤔! Honestly we go about our day minding our own business, your opinion sounds like a personal problem to me🤷♀️. What I do care about is how those thought and feelings cause you to ACT. See action is beyond thinking and feeling. It is not ok for you to try to "poke the bear" so to speak; because you don't understand us. It is not ok for you to try to cause chaos or discomfort in our life because you feel intimidated by us. You see there is a huge difference between thinking and feeling and action. INFJ'S are often acted upon due to others thoughts and feelings. This is where your let them theory falls short for us. We pretty much invented the let them theory to the point where people began to act on their thoughts and feelings because we "let them" so much!
Another freeing concept I found in the Bible says trying to understand why someone does something is like trying to catch the wind. This was comforting because I used to lie awake at night and think about why someone would do what they did to me. It tormented me and I wouldn't be able to sleep till I came up with a satisfactory answer. I figure God is correct because He's God. Also I figured out similar to the let them concept, people's thoughts about me are none of my business.
There's a passage in the bible in ecclesiastes 1:14) mentioning "chasing the wind" as an analogy about how futile chasing trivial pursuits in life from riches to multiple women, power and reputation is, as these things can take a chunk of our lives, basically waisted (time) on these things that in the end ruin us. Also the "chasing the wind" is mentioned lots more times analogously in ecclesiastes... and infact that reference is throughout the whole bible old & new testament. But from my memory an just research recap lol I don't remember a passage using this metaphor about not being able to understand people's behaviour's... from my experience their is always a reason behind people's actions, intention an such, heart an so forth, or motive but is nonetheless inexcusable, did you know bullies, molesters, violent people or even substance addicts all have a story that would look as if they were conditioned to act a certain way by being once the victim of another perpetrator committing said offence/crime upon them either from a young vulnerable or young adult ; so damaged them, to one day inevitable commit the same crime onto another! Or some people do bad things under another mental health issue, which is, based on their personality type or more so on the socio or psychopath or narcissistic scale or I should say cluster B, on the antisocial personality disorder ( ASPD ) spectrum. Which are wired a certain way, which go some way of explaining to why someone may commit a certain offence/crime! So wether were talking mental or physical abuse of sorts an character or bad behaviour's, they can be explained from children right through to adulthood (psychology & clinical psychology) there are usually reasons for said events or the like! And god knows people are/can be evil.... and good! Forgive your debtors friend free yourself, god holds them to account... one day! By forgiving them/him/her/it lol you heap burning coals upon their head god says, and to then let god deal with them. Tho i must mention not all abused people go on to abuse others ; but the majority have done, or will do so! And I guess using this logic, there must always be a first perpertrator who hasn't been abused in a certain way, as even a child from a good background having loving parents can one day turn out evil, as i mentioned its a humans mental state and brain wiring that matters within the, and their matter!? Godbless...
Christs servant...
W.COOK from Bristol England 🏴
@@waynecook3909Hurt people - hurt people; but to then turn around and become the perp themselves is a choice.
@@BarelyHangingOnx369x or conditioned, through truama, maybe even learnt behaviour's, ingrained in from young ( so conditioning ) not knowing/seeing any other behaviour's, from adults... add that to possible learning difficulties, and vulnerability and mental health conditions! Then it starts to become normal, as its the only behaviour's they know and see. Learning a wrong view of the world and society and subsequent behaviour's within it. All formed from a child, in their formative years. Hence then growing to an adult that's messed up, confused, abused and neglected, which has caused a negative affect, in them and their outlook on reality, and behaviour. So was taught to be bad, or learnt it, by neglectful or narcissistic parents. So has been ruined!
Even adults who know right and wrong can do bad things one day, through either mental health issues, stress, bereavement/grief or just through age and cognitive ditteariations, and obviously brain damage ; including emotional hurt through life. But as I said it doesn't excuse a person's act/actions. ( regardless of the mitigating circumstances ) But some people are choosing to do bad things to people.... like those with sociopathy & psychopathy with narcissism, or cluster B) antisocial personality disorder ( ASPD ) and its been proven that serial killers got brain damage, in their amygdala and prefrontal cortex ( literal brain damage ) which then affects their personality and responses, actions, moods and behaviour's. Even a saint who has never had a bad thought in their lives can one day fall over bang their head and never being the same person again after the accident, a once calm, polite, gentle, loving person is now moody, angry, violent and nasty. So sad.
Just goes some way, of understanding said behaviour's, to understand the human condition. Not everything is black or white!
So I disagree on a blanket statement of "it's a choice" definitively.... gb ♥
@@BarelyHangingOnx369x and not all hurt people, hurt people. Some don't... but if one is Christian of jesus christ... we must forgive regardless or we won't be forgiven that's grace!
"Let them".
This will be my new dp, homescreen, and screen saver.
Thank you
Embracing "Let them" allows one to become sigma. Then one can walk away or disappear without remorse. Love other people regardless of where they are.in life. Quietly pray for them and offer guidance if they ask for it.
So glad to hear this. Took me a lifetime together to this on my own. This will strengthen my capacity to use the discipline. (However I still replay conversations).. working on that will be ongoing no doubt.
Superb! ❤
😊❤thank you
I don't give a shit about this. I don't need permission from a hashtag for anything. This almost feels condescending. SLAM!
Often in trying to explain ourselves we harm ourselves they build it in such a way that when we try to explain ourselves we cause people to say see i told you by twisting our words and actions to fit the scenario that they have crafted
I'm constantly trying to get better at not caring but it goes against my very nature as a Sigma empath INFJ.
I think our deepest desire is to be understood but it rarely happens. We can care without explaining ourselves. Acceptance that we're kinda rare and no one seems to get it is freeing.
Well you definitely got to spread yourself not to thin lol As burnout is horrible.
My wife is a paralyzed covert narsissist. Been through more than just burn out. almost 5 years now.@@waynecook3909
So me
Seems like others know better about us than about them self huh ? Its a human nature tho... Almost everyone did that .
They said "love your self" and when we did that they will say "you r a pick me n narcisist"
Let em theory indeed.
OK so I don't think we care so much what others think or feel🤔! Honestly we go about our day minding our own business, your opinion sounds like a personal problem to me🤷♀️. What I do care about is how those thought and feelings cause you to ACT. See action is beyond thinking and feeling. It is not ok for you to try to "poke the bear" so to speak; because you don't understand us. It is not ok for you to try to cause chaos or discomfort in our life because you feel intimidated by us. You see there is a huge difference between thinking and feeling and action. INFJ'S are often acted upon due to others thoughts and feelings. This is where your let them theory falls short for us. We pretty much invented the let them theory to the point where people began to act on their thoughts and feelings because we "let them" so much!