Most Common Relationship Problems With A Filipina!
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They don't "forget about" paying the "loan" back. They never intend to pay it back in the first place.
So true just have to set boundaries with the family
You guys hit it on the nose - yes, for me, it's the communication barrier that still exists, even if Filipina's speak English far better than any of the other SE Asian countries. And I strongly believe it's not all on the Filipina... from what I experienced, most expats won't even meet them half way by learning the Filipina's native language. I urge a lot of the expats to get off their asses and start learning the Filipino language or you will always feel like an outsider whenever family and friends get together (which is quite frequent!).
That always bothered me that so many don't even try
Any family support should be earned... Period!
I have been in a family party in the Philippines. I didnt feel left out at all, but I am an introvert, so I didnt need attention. Just drink a small cup of tuba with everyone 😉, and listen to them, answer their questions nicely. It was not that hard.
You have to know each other well and what your limits are. Learn to communicate. We took my partner's widowed mother in as she needed care. It's become a 24/7 need in the last couple of years, so we have had to hire two helpers. It's a challenge sometimes but God is very clear about the duty of children to care for parents.
Buying means give in the states as well. Many us friends says they want to borrow but they mean really is give like a gift
I am an American black man who enjoys your one on one husband with wife conversations. YOU ARE A GREAT COUPLE.
I’m coming Oct 26th to Cebu, then traveling around and staying 3 weeks around the Philippines. Just vacationing and looking around and seeing personally how the Philippines suits me for coming back and possibly spending more time semi retired 3 to 6 months at a time. I believe everyone is different and hard to paint the Filipinas or the foreigners with broad brush strokes. I don’t want to be the walking ATM, but understand where I am and the need of the ones I come into contact with have few resources to compared to most others in the world. I’ll balance my budget and evaluate the best options for my future. ❤🙏
What is concidered "old age" and "retirement age" over there? I see videos of like 80 year old foreigners with younger Filipinas. So i would doubt the gal's parents are older than him. So would he be expected to help pay for her "retired" or 'old" parents when they are younger than him? How does a parent ask this older foreigner for money when they are "retired"? Many, if not most Americans are working into their late 60's and beyond. So a (I'm just guessing a number) 50 year old retired Filipino could be asking for money from a person decades older and still having to work? These are real questions. So anyone with any information please respond. Thank you.
It would seem odd for a person to retire if they can't afford to retire.
Hey if those are problems......SIGN ME UP!!! Those sound like good problems to have😎😎💯💯
Thanks Maya and Geo. Thanks for sharing all the great information 😊 Keep the great videos coming ❤
Awesome video thank you for the insight on this topic, I’m sure every forigner could use the info. Very helpful Thank you….
Maya I agree I have watched a bunch of videos and Filipinas Laugh easy and often.
Maya, your husband mentioned Pilipina jealousy. You should consider doing a video on how your husband should tell you if another Pilipina is coming on to him. Especially, if she is one of your family members or one of your friends. What would be your reaction overall, would you lay any blame on your husband if he told you first, and what would be your final outcome?
I must strongly disagree with the idea of telling any woman of basic flirtation IE coming on to you by frind or relative. Just turn them down. In most cases, I mean almost every case it ends there . Don't start a family feud over a woman's stupid mistake.
@@marchoman1776 How do you handle a wife that accuses you of this information when she discovers the information through others?
Thanks guys great info.
Nice video of the 2 of you. God bless you both. Thanks Maya
Thanks for the video ❤❤ to you and your wife.
Common problem - the Filipinos all speaks in their dialect when I’m there. So I feel left out
Dialect or language?
Yes and that's quite rude in the western world.
I have trouble sometimes understanding people speaking English sometimes because of my hearing so I would be totally screwed lol
@@dalibor1510 its not rude to speak your own language in your own country , learn the language, 🤗
Like people in all countries do , learn the language if your staying .
Very good
We are now task with taking care of grandma even though she has 9 children all having jobs and business 😊 I'm really understanding some of the same problems 😊😊but gotta love grandma 80 yrs old sweet heart 😊
I am from Québec and I had a girlfriend from Morocco. We both spoke excellent French, and still, at times, one would say something that seemed inoffensive to him or her, but that would start a angered reaction from the other. We used the same French words, but the meanings were not always exactly the same. After it happened four times, I took the habit of asking for a time-out when an argument occurred in order to ask what was the word that produced the reaction so that we wouldn’t fight about a misunderstanding.
Great content
Pagsulti Ko Bisaya gamay, pero gusto Ko pagsulti Bisaya daghan. Love your videos Maya. Hoping to move soon to the Visayas or northern Mindanao.
We had Two small issues: 1. Tampo. (My response was to say “in the future i will just go scuba diving for a day, or more) 2. Expectations w/o communication. Its all good now:)
Good subject matter. Thank you.
I have listened to gio many times but this was the first time i saw maya...good job gio😊
Maya, I totally understand where you are coming from regarding arguing in your non native language! My ex wife was Dominican and we spoke Spanish at home. We didn't live in the US. So she didn't speak English. You can't make some nuanced responses in the heat of the moment or necessarily say what you mean and it is definitely the wrong time to say the wrong thing!😂😂
I'm going to make a canadian joke Maya...It's nice to see you AND by the way, I'm a new subscriber to Gio your commoditie...😅🤣😂😂😇
I've been supporting myself since I was 17 years old with 2 jobs and had my own place. So I'm not going to come over there and be trying to support someone woman whole family.
Gio, you have a beautiful woman. And, It shows how much you guys love one another!
I like Gio outfit 😁
This is why I rent them instead.
I have experienced many of these experiences.
This was brought to my attention on Filipina Peas Chanel. It is a LAW in the Philippines that grown children are REQUIRED to support their parents. There are limits, but I believe it was fir their requirement to live, not be their savior. Thus surprised me. My wife does sent to her parents, but her sisters are always trying to get us to sent to them. My limit was hut long ago, so she has been working for about 10 years, and she took over that task.
Yeah Pea totally misconstrues that law.It states you are to provide sustanance money to the inlaws not "Spend everything on worthless crap" money.
For the most part, they don’t a financial vision and goals.
Believe me i know what your talking about,
If they borrow money for any reason they don't like to repay it.... And there no limit..
Just be careful and if she is gone , use that time wisely...
Some Philipinos don't usually pay you back once you loan them.
What was the family doing before YOU came along?
Waiting on the golden egg 😉 and you will be wise not to forget that 🙄
Lol
If she hadn’t met and married a foreigner, then what?
I’m lucky in that sense: my wife’s family has never asked us for any money; they all are working meaningful jobs, so really no need for us to support them (not that we’re rich); we send money for Christmas and birthdays, that’s it.
Same for me except not even for holidays. Self respect and education made my wife's family unique in this country. Glad to hear we are not alone 😊.
Having 2-3 fbs and ofc family thinking your rich and will help all of them!
I’m Fil Am , I’m tired of Filipina girlfriend who never ran out of money problems. They are so annoying always asking money. I’m not an ATM , I just walk out and look for another one. But the same thing happens. That really sucks!!!
Tampo all the way
10:56 Love that look. He's got a keeper.
My girlfriend says it's a little white lie when she helps her family and doesn't tell me. When I have told her many times that I will be happy to help if I can but not if I stressed to pay my own bills. I am 61 and have back and neck problems. Yet I still work construction to support her and pay my bills.
Being family oriented doesnt mean you have to provide for her family.
In my case as family oriented woman, i never asked money for my family, instead I just work even if he supports me, so I can also like help my family somehow FROM my OWN money. A family oriented filipina has a big heart and very caring. Some foreigners also just like spending or sharing to others and you cant stop them from doing that. And also if you dont want to regret about choosing the right one, you should really get to know that person very well before deciding to marry. Coz filipinas are all different. Different mindset, different environment, different faith.
Keeping your hand on your lady's lap under the table throughout the interview is something a boy in high school would do with his first girlfriend. It shows insecurity. Show some class, Mr. Gio! Also, wearing sunglasses for an interview in a shaded enclosure, and the lady is not wearing sunglasses, really speaks volumes about personality issues.
Got ya brother ! ✝📿☦
Regarding the money. It's okay to contribute to help the family but don't allow them to embroil you with their problems. If they do and won't stop after you tell her, you might have to let her go. They survived before you came and they will survive after you're gone.
Wow she is a beauty.
That's right if you live lavishly in IT park in cebu you would have to help them just not be abused
Take all your finances and put her name on the accounts too. That's what married people in love and married do. RIGHT. Haven't seen one blog (maybe this one) where that's the case. Ah she loves me so I'll give a little money to her each month and maybe a little to the family. RIGHT.
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About the communications issues, I find it incredibly entitled for Westerners to go to another country and not learn the language. If you want to change your life and move to another country, but don't want to respect the people or their partner enough to learn the host language, what message are you really sending? For what it's worth, I am American and am planning to move to SouthEast Asia, but wouldn't do so without learning the language of whichever country i choose.
Jealous and possessive oh yeah 🇵🇭
After 40+ yrs, there's very little miscommunication...you either, (do understand) bcz if you (don't) you'll never really be happy....But of course there's lots to disagree with. it might be the taxi fare or the time it takes waiting to pay the elect bill....and if you don't have the Patience's to wait n understand this is everyday life in the Philippines, that they live and love for...then perhaps their life situations make it the problem, and if You cant cope with just that much, you wont be capable of truly loving her her, her family and One's self in general. If You wish to be there for short or long term plan and can''t cope or handle everyday life ....forget everything else....Patience goes along way to finding a balance so to speak......And if you have little respect for yourself let alone the In's and out's of everyday life in Phil's, then you either change your attitude, perhaps drink less beer maybe helpful? But if your capable of loving, I'm sure you'll be able to not only, get n keep the lady, you'll make a lot of others' happy to be in your company, that are important to Her... ❤ ❤ My point being...... that it isn't at all that there's much bad or wrong with her, or this or that woman. Take a good long long look in the mirror Bro, before you start blaming Others that come your way, or wish to simply Love You Too..... diba?
I took me 6 months course to speak my girlfriend language as her parents can only speak a little bit of English my girlfriend and daughter who is 8 years old can speak good English even so they live in the province near gensan
Portable translation, and ear plug..
It's actually codified into Philippine law that children must take care of "necessities" for parents (and SIBLINGS even!), if able. And vice versa.
Take that lovely woman to the USA so she will have more opportunities and you can stay connected to your sons, fight to see them buddy.
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Hey buddy but your right hand on the table
Foreigners should remember women date them because their alternative options are worse. ALL humans are naturally driven to survive. My bro has been happily married to a Pinay for about 30 years. He provides for her but her personal income from work is sent home. That works out for them since he is not expected to support her distant relatives. If she wants to do that she can earn the money herself. His military retirement vested at 20 years and he's wisely debt-free except a cheap mortgage locked in long ago so he doesn't need her income, and she upholds her end of the bargain at home because she's a devoted parent.
I have questions, 1) what would be considered a fair amount for a foreigner to contribute to the family? And 2) as someone who has always been self reliant I would have an issue giving adults a monthly stipend so wouldn't it be more acceptable to provide the family with a way to make money? For example buy a car for your filipinas brother and sign him up for grab. Would the family still be expecting more help?
1. 5 to 10 k. 2., good luck with that and yes, they would after the business fails for a 1,000 different reasons, just imo.
You gotta set limits with them by saying what you can do. Remember, Filipinos are not as future thinking as Americans.
Look for the right lady and you will not be expected to fund her family and friends every desire. In 7 years I've only ever been asked for money by one sister (often by the one though). The rest of the family have never asked and all are educated with good jobs or should I say careers. Self respect should be one of the qualities everyone should look for in any good / long term relationship partner.
You should learn the language, simply integrate
The first problem is that Pinays always put their family first and we are used to fund as many of them as they can get away with. We are only ATM machines for that purpose. If you dont pay then you will be replaced. My ex Pinay expected me to fund 11 family members at 30000 pesos per momth so her family could have an easy life. Didnt matter i would have been put into poverty also.
It would be more interesting if you interviewed other ladies with this subject.
Let's face the truth and nothing but the truth it's every where not just in the Philippines you get involved you with a philippina Australian Asian Arabic,India African European, American, etc your not just connecting with her it begins as soon as the intro starts boundaries or not it can set off ethier way it's upto you and how your partner gf is going to react too from seeing ignoring facing accepting the consequences of having someone in your life.
Italiano
Holy Chris Griffin.
Family guy
Is Gio american or Italian? 🤔 p.s. and where he put his right hand during this video? 🤓
Well, my family comes from Italy but I was born in America. My hand was on her leg lol
I like your tiktok Dance Videos!! You look like a happy dancer. Have a good Life!!! Your Husband is a lucky guy. best regards from germany
Hi guys, good video, I have Filipina girlfriend (she is 50, I'm 53) but I made it clear after about 6 months of knowing each other, and after first meeting last year, that I am and will not be financially responsible for her sons (mid 20s), she did get angry and said don't ever talk about my family like that again LOL, but I made it clear from the start, and don't flash your money around when going to her community!! you need to make boundaries right away. Oh I must add my girlfriend has business's so she's not really poor herself.
Also the subject of being asked why you have a foreigner boyfriend but stay in the Philippines, really? the answer is simple, why do you think we go to the Philippines? because our money goes further, if we take Filipinas back to our Countries the money will be less and won't last long lol you Filipinas need to understand that back in our Countries the cost of living is so high, higher than you can imagine in Peso's lol.
Well said 👏👏
Natural lang po ba na may asawa kang forienger pero friend niya ex niya kasi gusto daw niya na good closer sa ex niya sa tingin nyo po tama yun
Maybe tell them that most foreigners want to live there
My favorite one is when my Filipina wife's family contacts her and they tell her that they will borrow money. They don't ask, they just insist. The one that bothers me the most is when they don't have enough for what they have but then they have more kids.
My philipina and I have been in LDR 6 years now, she is buang if I miss a call she goes buang if I accidentally delete at txt she goes buang, the littlest things just snow ball into something that came out of nowhere, and alot of reverse psychology too, I'm guessing this is just the way it is for a LDR of 6 years, we haven't talk for 2 days now.
Ldr of 6 years is ridiculous, she definitely piping other people on you.
You have to work on your audio. Sound is poor
Ahhh.... Maya--Gio, you don't argue, do you? Isn't it just a heated discussion?
hee hee
you didn't cover tampo
my biggest problem is that they try to stop me from being a polygamist and try to change me by emotional manipulation
They have temper and will NEVER say they are sorry even when they are at fault
But still better than an American wife
I watched a video recently on the Peas channel talking to attorney gracie....apparently, it is actually a law there that a women has to support her family and siblings. So, I think if I were in your shoes I would get that set amount you mention put on legal paperwork so there is no question which would eliminate someone saying I need more this month or what have you....
Wow Gio, your wife is gorgeous.. is it too rude to ask why she only moves half of her upper lip? I mean, my aunt had the same thing but it was because she had a stroke and lost part of her face muscles... Maybe something similar happened to her? or maybe it's just how she talks? 😁😁
Thanks for the compliment ☺️
The long con
Filipina’s expect their Boyfriends/husbands to have a endless pot of money available for them and their families
Many don’t appreciate the support either
Maybe They aren’t laughing at our jokes because they are flirting maybe it’s because I am hilarious lol 😂
The biggest language problem I have is that I ask what she means a lot. She HATES IT.
If you gonna date to marry you better love your Filipinas family like your own or it won’t work lol
Only if you have the wrong Filipina 😉. My wife's family, except for one sister, has way too much dignity, honor, self-respect and self reliance to ever ask for a handout. For them to offer is a disrespectful gesture.
"they might not speak English that great" lol. "well" is the adverb, ugh
I mean, if you marry a foreign woman, the least you can do is learn her language to feel like you belong with her family, that's basic respect imo
If the parents are not eating well why are children not working and helping? A foreign husband is not a bank
Why would you want to be " emotionally blackmailed" into financially supporting family !!? I understand everybody is different & culture is different but i would not personally entertain the idea !!
Seems like the only common problem is the Philippines family and friends 👀
At 60 to 70, many simps will be discarded unless a sizeable inheritance dictates that the stay another 20 or 30 years Past money and lifestyle means nothing to gold diggers Everything is about what they get today or tomorrow No credit for past giving 3 out of 4 get burned If u are the 1 in 4 then you ate lucky or got the good one.
Language barrier? Its a shame & embarrassing that most Filipinos are far from being fluent in English in spite of it being the medium of instruction in PH schools Its common knowledge that poor PH women love the foreigners money only rich PH women are not everywhere they're where the rich locals are & are not after small time middle class expats
It’s always utopia, at least for me. 🙅
HI maya my 1 & only grandchild has same name. I have only 1 son who used to be caring. My daughter in law has filopeno mother & english father. I beleive she covert narcissist & basically put up with my son using me as emotinal punchbag for last 2 years. Its been worse over the 5 years. I tried talk to her mum who is like my son controlled my daughter in law. Whatever i do is not good enough! I have brought my son up to retpect all walks of life & when my mum died i took him holidays of poorer countries. India etc. I have a terminal illness & 4 my own sanity & recovery from narcisstic abuse just fone to see the baby. Ive brort my son up to do right thing & respect all walks of life cultures & faiths. This girl hates my authentic self & i am thinking is it anything to do with being filopno aswell as narcissim? Her mum has no empathy they just behave so fake. My son has changed beyond beleif towards me. This crab mentality is something i feel. He was born on my birthday & i dont even think i will get a card as every year she makes plans to go abroad with her mother & my son. Very money orientated too & my son earns. Respect to u Maya ❤
supporting her family robs resources from her, the children, and grandchildren.... as a carholic/christian nation, the mindset needs to change about your job being to hand resources out to parents and siblings. The Bible tells you to leave an inheritance to your children's children... to get your family out of poverty, you need to plan for the generations after you, not the generations before you.
None of these are a big problem... more amusing than annoying... but I'm wondering how many other Filipinas do these funny things that my wife does:
1. "Mahal, do you know where is the ano?" 🤔
2. She unplugs appliances overnight (coffee maker, toaster...) ☕️🥯
3. When she's talking to her family in the Philippines, she speaks LOUD, because they are really far away! 📢
4. All such calls to the Philippines are made between 11:00 p.m. to 1:00 a.m. 😳
5. We strongly disagree about exactly when food becomes garbage 🤢
6. Can't understand the thermostat after living in 🇺🇸for 9+ years - pushes the 🔼 button to make it 'mas malamig' 🌡️😅
No westernization here - she's 💯%🇵🇭Filipina. Anybody else?
99 problems but a filipina aint one