UPDATE 4 : (UPDATE 1,2 & 3 IN THE VIDEO) Hi everyone I did not plan to make another update at all but I'm still getting messages for an update and thought I would let you know the recent developments. Firstly I have cancelled the wedding I was able to get some partial refunds but have lost some money. Larry begged me not to cancel the wedding but there was no way I could marry him after what he did. I was set on giving him a 2nd chance and he promised me he would go low contact and stand up to his parents and issue an ultimatum that we would not tolerate any contact with my dad and Janet. Basically he would tell them we would not attend any event or party if they were invited and we would not tolerate any attempt to force contact or relationship with my dad. He met with them to explain this to them. When he came back from this meeting he was quite irritable with me and appeared to have had a change of heart to summarize it - he was trying to convince me his family only meant well and that he can't go low contact with his family because he loves them and he can't dictate their friendships. He then tried to convince me it won't be an issue in the future and his father would speak to my dad and tell him to be on his best behaviour in my presence. As soon as I heard this people's comments went through my head and the main one being if we had children he would take them to his family where my dad and Janet would be and I would have no control over this. At that moment I realised I couldn't trust Larry and never would be able to. I broke up with him, he is not taking it well and keeps begging me to take him back and that he would go no contact with his family. His family and friends are trying to convince me on his behalf not to end our relationship. He has made his choice and proven to me he is spineless. I don't need him in my life. In regards to my dad I'm looking into getting a restraining order given what happened in the restaurant I might be able to but i don't know yet a friend of mine is helping me look into this. My dad has kept a low profile since last week apart from a couple of attempts to apologize to me I haven't heard much from him. My sister still won't speak to him or Janet . Unlike me my sister is highly confrontational and has blasted him and Janet on social media with what happened at the restaurant and things that have happened in the past which I didn't know about. My sister and Janet had a very public screaming match when she had seen them in town due to my sisters posts and demanding to take them down it ended up with Janet assaulting my sister. My dad apparently sided with Janet in this. My sister now hates Janet and refuses to speak to our dad who is also trying to contact her. My dad and Janet s reputation seems to have taken a hit and between the incident in the restaurant and my sisters fight with Janet and het numerous Facebook posts about them, People are gossiping. This has worked well for me because some people have backed off which I'm happy about unfortunately there are a few people still on his side including my ex's parents. As for my half siblings there's not much of an update in regards to them. I've found a therapist however there is a bit of a waiting list before I can start my therapy. I'm still living with my mom who is completely on my side and I have found a kitten and pick her up next week. *********************** FINAL UPDATE : Hi everyone thought I would give you an update as to what's been happening the last couple of weeks for those of you who are still interested. Firstly I'm still at my moms and I got my little kitten. I've named her sascha and she is the sweetest thing but very energetic. For those of you asking for pictures I'll try, but she refuses to stay still long enough to get a one that's not blurred. I love her already. My mom continues to be my rock. IM still waiting for therapy but am finding reddit useful and therapeutic and the support I've received from most of the people on here has been great and helped me see things more clearly so a big thankyou to everyone. As for my ex now that we've broken up I feel lighter and free and being away from him has made me see all the red flags that I was blind to in our relationship and feel like I've dodged a bullet. Luke (using real names because my posts were discovered) is not taking the breakup well and has taken over from my father constantly bothering me. If you read this Luke we are DONE and I'm not changing my mind so stop calling me, stop coming to the house and stop sending me flowers! I'm moving on so you should too. My sister Emma is still firmly on my side and has washed her hands of Janet (stepmonster) and they are not on speaking terms after my sister told everyone about Janet's affairs. Janet is still trying to save face saying my sister is lying and telling everyone she can how we are just the worst and that we have treated her terrible over the years and trying to ruin her marriage. Don't think anyone is buying what she is saying. She has sent abusive messages to me and my sister and when we've bumped into her she's been screaming at us and threatening us. My sisters car had been keyed and my store windows were smashed. We can't prove its her unfortunately but she is the most likely culprit. My half siblings are definitely my dads children they tested then years ago when she was a baby. From what I've heard they're not speaking to Janet at all. As for my dad he seems to have grown a spine and has kicked out Janet she is now living with her parents. From what I've heard he's thinking about divorce. I haven't had any contact with my dad except for a text saying he was sorry for everything. As for getting a restraining order I'm more concerned about getting one against Janet at the moment. ************************* LIKE & SUBSCRIBE
@@legiontepes3474 1:35 there was a brief mention of Janet Being a Home wreaker... other than that i don't remember OP mentioning anything about that Subject, at least not until she did in later (FINAL) Updates
16 years of begging and crying about how his daughter needs to give him a chance and then he breaks her trust, insults her and proves everything she is saying is right. Really hope Larry's dad drops Op's dad too because if he doesn't the family dynamic is gonna deteriorate quickly even if the guy goes NC with his family.
Your dad is a major AH. I can’t believe in the span of 3 days he managed to lie to you, betray your trust and pulverize any sense of boundaries. I mean he doesn’t care about you all he’s over compensating by leaving you as kids and now trying to make an effort to be in your life out of pure guilt. Where was this energy when he was cheating on all of you with his mistress?
Bruh befour the update and i could see why the dad tink he deserve a second chance but after it he is a big ah he cant even keep hes word and " do anything for a second chance "
Wouldn't say he ever deserved a second chance with how he spoke to and treaded OP and sister. Before update I fully supported her decision, except for not going to her side of the family's events like her sister's wedding.
Exactly op shouldn't be giving the ex bf or the dad another chance but I understand why but there is always a phrase of saying once a cheater always cheater even though the OP bf didn't cheat it is going to be a matter of time until op bf does something or maybe not don't listen to strangers.
Nta but your only gonna be betrayed by your partner again next time when u have kids he definitely gonna take them to your dad will that be enough for you to leave when its tooo late
Break up with that 🗑 boyfriend. His father didn't pressure him into calling you a "heartless witch" especially considering he knew your side of the story.
One I believe any parent that cheats and then puts that family over their first is toxic you should make it equal and two after you told your fiancé your side they should not force you to go on just because there family is saying you should they should stay out of it and be neutral and three im sorry that you had a tough life hope everything works out for you
True.. but sometimes they make new account without any context or link to original post to provide an update.... Well it has happened to me in One of my Video and I'm 95% sure i did not messed up and mismatch Original Post with Wrong Update.... 😅😅
Exactly op shouldn't be giving the ex bf or the dad another chance but I understand why but there is always a phrase of saying once a cheater always cheater even though the OP bf didn't cheat it is going to be a matter of time until op bf does something or maybe not don't listen to strangers.
I know this was kind of a final update but I kind of wanna know how it all ended up like did the wedding go through Did the dad crash the wedding LOL just something I also wanted to write yeah dad's an AH Not even 3 days And he didn't just break one promise he broke multiple promises at Once Insulted you with his HW wife Do feel bad for the kids so they don't deserve the cold shoulder especially the the daughter I bet the Son was already expecting something to happen that's probably why he walked out to restaurant And I hope for Larry's family they realize their a big mistake if not they ruined a good couple
Ok but can we please talk about how your half brother (if I’m allowed to call him that) just went ‘yk what? I’m done. Bye. I’m out.’ He didn’t say anything rude to you. Or pressure you, or even ask for anything. Respect for that. Anyways, NTA. They should’ve handled it differently, and your dad should’ve respected your boundaries.
He didn't do anything wrong but that doesn't mean OP owes him anything including love. Adults that create half sibling situations have committed a complicated and unforgivable act.
you are NTA. The Dad clearly is only thinking of himself and not you. If he was truly genuine, he would respect your wishes and try to understand your point of view but he seems to constantly only want to make the issue about him and not you. Classic case of trying to have his cake and eat it at the same time. You should go no-contact permanently if that is at all an option.
He shouldn’t expect anything from you girl he had sex with a number woman got pregnant while they were still married and then left their family to go with the family. He started behind their backs. He doesn’t deserve s**t, and I think that you should divorce your husband.
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UPDATE 4 : (UPDATE 1,2 & 3 IN THE VIDEO)
Hi everyone I did not plan to make another update at all but I'm still getting messages for an update and thought I would let you know the recent developments.
Firstly I have cancelled the wedding I was able to get some partial refunds but have lost some money. Larry begged me not to cancel the wedding but there was no way I could marry him after what he did.
I was set on giving him a 2nd chance and he promised me he would go low contact and stand up to his parents and issue an ultimatum that we would not tolerate any contact with my dad and Janet.
Basically he would tell them we would not attend any event or party if they were invited and we would not tolerate any attempt to force contact or relationship with my dad.
He met with them to explain this to them. When he came back from this meeting he was quite irritable with me and appeared to have had a change of heart to summarize it - he was trying to convince me his family only meant well and that he can't go low contact with his family because he loves them and he can't dictate their friendships.
He then tried to convince me it won't be an issue in the future and his father would speak to my dad and tell him to be on his best behaviour in my presence.
As soon as I heard this people's comments went through my head and the main one being if we had children he would take them to his family where my dad and Janet would be and I would have no control over this. At that moment I realised I couldn't trust Larry and never would be able to.
I broke up with him, he is not taking it well and keeps begging me to take him back and that he would go no contact with his family. His family and friends are trying to convince me on his behalf not to end our relationship. He has made his choice and proven to me he is spineless. I don't need him in my life.
In regards to my dad I'm looking into getting a restraining order given what happened in the restaurant I might be able to but i don't know yet a friend of mine is helping me look into this.
My dad has kept a low profile since last week apart from a couple of attempts to apologize to me I haven't heard much from him. My sister still won't speak to him or Janet .
Unlike me my sister is highly confrontational and has blasted him and Janet on social media with what happened at the restaurant and things that have happened in the past which I didn't know about.
My sister and Janet had a very public screaming match when she had seen them in town due to my sisters posts and demanding to take them down it ended up with Janet assaulting my sister. My dad apparently sided with Janet in this. My sister now hates Janet and refuses to speak to our dad who is also trying to contact her.
My dad and Janet s reputation seems to have taken a hit and between the incident in the restaurant and my sisters fight with Janet and het numerous Facebook posts about them, People are gossiping.
This has worked well for me because some people have backed off which I'm happy about unfortunately there are a few people still on his side including my ex's parents.
As for my half siblings there's not much of an update in regards to them.
I've found a therapist however there is a bit of a waiting list before I can start my therapy. I'm still living with my mom who is completely on my side and I have found a kitten and pick her up next week.
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FINAL UPDATE :
Hi everyone thought I would give you an update as to what's been happening the last couple of weeks for those of you who are still interested.
Firstly I'm still at my moms and I got my little kitten. I've named her sascha and she is the sweetest thing but very energetic. For those of you asking for pictures I'll try, but she refuses to stay still long enough to get a one that's not blurred. I love her already.
My mom continues to be my rock. IM still waiting for therapy but am finding reddit useful and therapeutic and the support I've received from most of the people on here has been great and helped me see things more clearly so a big thankyou to everyone.
As for my ex now that we've broken up I feel lighter and free and being away from him has made me see all the red flags that I was blind to in our relationship and feel like I've dodged a bullet.
Luke (using real names because my posts were discovered) is not taking the breakup well and has taken over from my father constantly bothering me.
If you read this Luke we are DONE and I'm not changing my mind so stop calling me, stop coming to the house and stop sending me flowers! I'm moving on so you should too.
My sister Emma is still firmly on my side and has washed her hands of Janet (stepmonster) and they are not on speaking terms after my sister told everyone about Janet's affairs.
Janet is still trying to save face saying my sister is lying and telling everyone she can how we are just the worst and that we have treated her terrible over the years and trying to ruin her marriage.
Don't think anyone is buying what she is saying. She has sent abusive messages to me and my sister and when we've bumped into her she's been screaming at us and threatening us.
My sisters car had been keyed and my store windows were smashed. We can't prove its her unfortunately but she is the most likely culprit.
My half siblings are definitely my dads children they tested then years ago when she was a baby. From what I've heard they're not speaking to Janet at all.
As for my dad he seems to have grown a spine and has kicked out Janet she is now living with her parents. From what I've heard he's thinking about divorce.
I haven't had any contact with my dad except for a text saying he was sorry for everything. As for getting a restraining order I'm more concerned about getting one against Janet at the moment.
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If OP makes a New Update, I'll make a New More Complete Video
@@threadtales77last update mentions Janet affairs but they were never hinted in prev updates, right?
@@legiontepes3474 1:35 there was a brief mention of Janet Being a Home wreaker...
other than that i don't remember OP mentioning anything about that Subject, at least not until she did in later (FINAL) Updates
@@threadtales77There’s one more update. It was posted 16 days ago.
@@threadtales77could be the part where the sister was arguing with Janet and mentioned something OP never knew?
16 years of begging and crying about how his daughter needs to give him a chance and then he breaks her trust, insults her and proves everything she is saying is right. Really hope Larry's dad drops Op's dad too because if he doesn't the family dynamic is gonna deteriorate quickly even if the guy goes NC with his family.
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As a man, the father is a dirtbag and the stepmother is for the streets
NEVER trust somebody who could cheat on their partner. All they do is gaslight and manipulate.
And never trust someone who is on their side because they will do the same.
The dad is a major idiot as he continues to make all bad choices then blames the daughter for the choices he made.
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Your dad is a major AH. I can’t believe in the span of 3 days he managed to lie to you, betray your trust and pulverize any sense of boundaries. I mean he doesn’t care about you all he’s over compensating by leaving you as kids and now trying to make an effort to be in your life out of pure guilt. Where was this energy when he was cheating on all of you with his mistress?
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Say Goodbye Larry.
NTA as i said before how do they expect you to get along with a home wrecker
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Still think she should have left that stupid small town oh well hope op is doing better
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Bruh befour the update and i could see why the dad tink he deserve a second chance
but after it he is a big ah he cant even keep hes word and " do anything for a second chance "
Wouldn't say he ever deserved a second chance with how he spoke to and treaded OP and sister.
Before update I fully supported her decision, except for not going to her side of the family's events like her sister's wedding.
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he wanted connections and free babysitting
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I remember listening to this story awhile back. Let's just say Larry dropped the ball.
Nta. I'm sorry for op. Her sister and bf didn't support her. They are tah as much as her father.
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Exactly op shouldn't be giving the ex bf or the dad another chance but I understand why but there is always a phrase of saying once a cheater always cheater even though the OP bf didn't cheat it is going to be a matter of time until op bf does something or maybe not don't listen to strangers.
You don't have to accept these people in your life and your dad telling you so him a assholes
Nta but your only gonna be betrayed by your partner again next time when u have kids he definitely gonna take them to your dad will that be enough for you to leave when its tooo late
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Break up with that 🗑 boyfriend. His father didn't pressure him into calling you a "heartless witch" especially considering he knew your side of the story.
She really just let this man gaslight her crazy 😂
You're doing great and when you get counselling you will have the tools to navigate your life in an even more positive direction ❤
One I believe any parent that cheats and then puts that family over their first is toxic you should make it equal and two after you told your fiancé your side they should not force you to go on just because there family is saying you should they should stay out of it and be neutral and three im sorry that you had a tough life hope everything works out for you
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OP deleted the posts and their account, so there won’t be any further updates.
True.. but sometimes they make new account without any context or link to original post to provide an update....
Well it has happened to me in One of my Video and I'm 95% sure i did not messed up and mismatch Original Post with Wrong Update.... 😅😅
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Apart from overstepping my boundaries and not trusting my word hes a great boyfriend
I would Never forgive him for what he did!!!!
get a restraining order
Exactly op shouldn't be giving the ex bf or the dad another chance but I understand why but there is always a phrase of saying once a cheater always cheater even though the OP bf didn't cheat it is going to be a matter of time until op bf does something or maybe not don't listen to strangers.
You your sister and your mother supposed to go on vacation ❤❤❤
Lmaooo she’s grown as hell acting like a child… 💀💀💀🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️😂😂😂😂
I know this was kind of a final update but I kind of wanna know how it all ended up like did the wedding go through Did the dad crash the wedding LOL just something I also wanted to write yeah dad's an AH Not even 3 days And he didn't just break one promise he broke multiple promises at Once Insulted you with his HW wife Do feel bad for the kids so they don't deserve the cold shoulder especially the the daughter I bet the Son was already expecting something to happen that's probably why he walked out to restaurant And I hope for Larry's family they realize their a big mistake if not they ruined a good couple
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Never trust a guy named Larry
I really dont like the Dad in this story but I am so glad he's divorcing Janet.
you got your mom so try to make lots of memory and photographs and stuff which is you your sister and your mother
5:09 I think the college fund should've been addressed earlier unless I missed it.
Ok but can we please talk about how your half brother (if I’m allowed to call him that) just went ‘yk what? I’m done. Bye. I’m out.’
He didn’t say anything rude to you. Or pressure you, or even ask for anything. Respect for that. Anyways, NTA. They should’ve handled it differently, and your dad should’ve respected your boundaries.
He didn't do anything wrong but that doesn't mean OP owes him anything including love.
Adults that create half sibling situations have committed a complicated and unforgivable act.
you are NTA. The Dad clearly is only thinking of himself and not you. If he was truly genuine, he would respect your wishes and try to understand your point of view but he seems to constantly only want to make the issue about him and not you. Classic case of trying to have his cake and eat it at the same time. You should go no-contact permanently if that is at all an option.
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NTA.
Wait! Janet was still having affairs while being married to OP's dad! OH Shit! Karma is a raging bitch!
He shouldn’t expect anything from you girl he had sex with a number woman got pregnant while they were still married and then left their family to go with the family. He started behind their backs. He doesn’t deserve s**t, and I think that you should divorce your husband.
I don't know about the rest of you guys but I see a lot of gaslighting