It sounds like she was faithful and respectful to her boyfriends. They got what they wanted until they didn't want it anymore, and chose to move on. So it's not like she was 'playing' or scamming them. Good for her.
@wallydee8398 she only said that about the first guy. Did he love her? 🤷♂️ the "endgame" was Mike's framing, not her words, as far as we know. In any case, he also indicated that the guys had equally practical considerations - building a retirement house they could never afford in US on land they could never buy as a foreigner, and never pay rent again, while being with a hot, young woman. They were just wrong about the reality not making them as happy as they fantasized.
Nah, she bears some responsibility ... she could've maintained her body a bit better. Plus, she could've given more attention to Her Man, as opposed to her children, and her extended family (who were constantly knocking on the door, seeking money)
Exactly so true and to add the majority of expats who married Filipina he might love her but those girls don't love them they in business and Filipina do not find their western pookies attractive they only playing actress in front of the simps Filipina will always find brown more attractive
Most filipinas don't love you but just love what you can provide for them. You're taking most of them out of poverty to the middle and upper classes. Sure, you can find a good one who will care for you in some capacity but don't ever delude yourself that money isn't the overwhelming factor. Suggest you split all the bills and expenses 50/50 and you'll quickly find out what the relationship is built on.
Thats because if you are bad smelling, bad shape, don´t shave / cut hair, don´t have nice clothes, have bad manners ect ect. If all you have gooing for you is Money ?? Yes you might be right.
@@mabuhayproductionltd3627 But this really isn't the case. Philpinas don't date foreign men for their looks, fashion sense and grooming habbits. They date them because to them they are wealthy and will take them out of poverty. That's it. Shacking up with a foreigner is like winning the lottery every month. All the bills, rent and food are paid for and usually even an allowance, but the type of men you're describing are most of the men that go to the Phillipines. But it doesn't matter whether you're in your 30s or 70s you're still a "foreigner" and in the Philippines that word had become synonymous for rich. Also, the "nicer" clothes you wear the more likely you are to attract the goldiggers. If you wear nicer clothes than average you stand out like a sore thumb because the majority of foreigners are dressed like the typical tourist in a cheap t shirt or vest etc. The simple matter of fact is foreigner = wealthy and that's why they want you. Doesn't matter whether you're brad pitt or an overweight pensioner if you aren't putting up the cash 99% won't stick around very long.
@@reggie5495 Its simply not true. Again if you want to win her over with money ?? Yes you likely can. But there is Many more ways. Its true that most foreign men will have more Income/money than most filipinos men she would know, but there is so many other reasons. if there is 2 foreign men ? One with Nice looks, Nice groomed,Nice clothes ect and the other not (and they have samme money/income ? Chances are high that she would pick the first one. Money does mather, but there is a lot more in to it. To take a Foreign man ? then he would likely be more faitfull then a local trikedriver. He like would be better euducated, he can give ideas and oppertunities, beautifull kids ect.ect. If she goes with a old granddad, not well groomed,old torn clothes ect. She would Face to her family and friends. If money is all you can offer your selection pool will be way smaller than if you have other points.
@@mabuhayproductionltd3627 Well of course she would choose the better looking one over a fat slob. Let me ask you this: Would she choose a handsome foreigner who's a really nice guy but is broke and destititue and can offer nothing finiancially or a fat slob pensioner who gets a guaranteed 2k+ income a month? We know the answer. Filipinas do not have a fetish for older western guys. They date them for the money and lifestyle they can provide. End of discussion. They could just as easily date a Philippino either their own age or even an older one but why don't they? Because the average philpines wage is less than $500 and that's not even enough money to raise a family on so they go for the foreigners and they will disregard looks and age because of this. Most of the interacial couples I see on youtube it's obvious the filipina has not chosen the best one or the most handsome or probably even the richest but just the first one that has bothered to fly over and commit because they can't afford to let one go. You're never "the one" you're just the first one. If it wasn't you it would be whoever foreigner was next in line to fly over and put a ring on it.
@@mikesphilippineretirement learning how to make a fried bologna sandwich is a deep south Louisiana right of passage.. I love it fried or unfried.. lots of times I will actually eat that for my lunch or supper and maybe even breakfast with a fried egg added.. who says poor people do not eat good gourmet food? hehe
And how is it men never get to play the long game? They only get the short end of the stick. I will never buy or pay for something that will never be mine. Filipinas and most Asain women for that matter are just plain greedy and blood suckers.
At 34, divorced, ex got everything plus controlled time with my daughter. I had an air mattress, few pots and ate noodles for a bit. This all happened in my anesthesiology residency. Fortunately, I have a good relationship with my daughter and son in law, and I’m a new g pa. Today, I have no desire to get involved with another Western woman. I don’t even want to waste time dating them. US women are way too masculine these days, and a big turn off.
@@RickMerryman-o7j You’ve been through a tough journey, and it’s clear you've got real strength. Going from rock bottom during your residency to building a good relationship with your daughter and now being a grandfather is huge. Not everyone gets through that kind of hardship with family ties still strong. It's totally understandable that you’re not interested in dating or dealing with certain dynamics anymore, after what you’ve been through, you’ve earned the right to be picky about where you put your energy. You’ve built yourself back up before, and now you can focus on whatever really matters to you, whether it’s your family, your career, or just enjoying life on your terms. You’ve already proven you can handle the hardest parts of life, and there’s no need to rush into anything you don’t feel is worth your time. Take pride in what you’ve accomplished and keep building a life that makes you feel fulfilled.
@mikesphilippineretirement I will definitely agree that divorce is definitely slotted against the men here in the U.S. Yet the women want to be considered equal for all reasons. I am almost finished with my divorce, and it couldn't happen faster. Never again will I marry or date an American woman. As the Italian people say Forget About It. Asian women are more about family and secure relationships. Most really want an honest man. Since I have been duped here, I have turned and found a woman that I may consider to be the last and forever partner. I have to rebuild my trust and confidence again.
Wow? What a story of resilience, patience, endurance, and finally victory. I get why the younger women in the Philippines resolve to settle with an older gentleman of another country, but how great to come across one who remains Faithful through it all? Everyone involved in this story played their cards, but Mary held strong with a vision of accomplishment and did just that. Surely other women have heard her story and hope to do the same.
I have a similar situation to Jerry and Mary. Moved to Cambodia to be with my girlfriend. She already has a paid for house, so my only expenses are utilities, food, and transportation. And for context, our electric last month was $33, using the air con every night and some during the day, water was $5. Our very fast WiFi is $15. She shops at our local street market, 1/2 a block away, spends between $5-$15 a day. When she spends $15, that will last a couple of days. Always enjoy your videos, greetings from Phnom Penh
It's foolish for these old men to think they'll go to a foreign country, meet a young beautiful woman, and expect her to fall head over heels with his old ass and live happily ever after. We are merely a means to an end. A money tree offering financial security for her and her family.
Yes... and no. I wrote a few books on this topic years ago but I think the basic premise is still relevant. What makes a man with one or more failed relationships with women from his own country and culture think it will all change miraculously by going across the world meeting a girl half his age or younger and he behaving exactly as he has all along? Yes, many men have 'peso-nality' and are a means to an end but not all. I don't blame the women for wanting a way out; caveat emptor after all.
Everyone in the world seems to know this fact but the horny old fools who keep marrying these hungry and desperate kids. The male ego is a joke and they end up getting just what they deserve. Everybody uses everybody.
You need to teach older men moving here that it’s just a contractual agreement dating in the Philippines NO young filipina loves you ever but only what you can provide for her and her family once you learn this use it to your advantage and live a happy life - it is what it is
@@mikesphilippineretirement Those pinoy guys who make babies and left the mamas and let the foreign guys take care of their babies they should be ashame
According to what you said, she wasn't playing anyone, she just kept trying. And I don't see anything wrong with that, I wish her and her kids many blessings.
My ex-Filipina wife was not faithful to me, but she also has the house that I built in the Philippines. It was completely finished, except for the upstairs, which was a very big master bedroom, dressing, bathroom and balcony. She now married another foreigner and he probably finished that too. So whatever happens to her and her second husband: she now has a beautiful house that didn't cost her one hollow block. It's not how faithful they are to their partners, it's how well they play the game!
Filipina is loving her children, then her parents, her siblings, her lola and lolo, her cousins - and relatives, her Pinay schoolmates, then she loves you As long as you provide, and sometimes she is under tremendous pressure to give money to her brother for a motorcycle, but she will be afraid to tell you this . But, in their minds they are honest, will not leave you, will bare your children, will happily care for you, will raise your and her's children, .... What else do you want. This is steady life 😂 with ❤ every day.
You where just to fast (picked the first and the best?), you didn´t vet her properly, you made the mistake "that is i give her what she wants, then she be nice/good to me) It usaly don´t work that way. You need to take the time, find a good one (No red flags), then take it slowly. You should be with her for Years before the question about a house,a car or something comes up. Never spend more than your monthly income (dont take out from your nest egg at home). Build slowly (and first after you are 100% positive that she loves you, will stay with you). Only build a section/part of the house at the time, then save some money before you build next part. So you can always bugg out if she change. Good luck with next one. Now you are wiser.
I'm trying to understand how you say that Gary is such a "good man." While he takes care of his children financially, he still abandoned them and let's another man raise them. To me he gave up his moral right to leave as soon as the first child was conceived.
You call that an accomplishment? I am a Malaysian..female. The first thing we think about after education is..Work!! Not find a Foreigner to marry. I had a job at 18 and was a single mom at 20 to a son... raised by his paternal grandparents. With my first job, i qualified to get a bank loan for a small used Car. In the span of 10 years..i had upgraded my car 2 times to a better model and age. I was renting a room though..working in the city. But i wanted a better lifestyle. Working a 9 to 5 job with a fixed income was NOT going to get me there. So i quit and got a job in Sales. O..mannn..my income skyrocketted working on commission. By age 29, i was driving a brand new BMW..and a brand new house. And went on to stock investments to buying lands. That's the difference between Filipino women and Malaysian women.
No lady. You're being racist. How would you like it if I made a comment like yours which included your mother and grandmother as the whole Malaysian female population?: Your comment is absurd.
It's all depends on survival and/or education. I've dated Thai ladies and when I asked why they lie on what the money I gave them was for? Some said she needed it for the family. Some said they were desperate to survive. Some had gambling addictions.
I've dated a Malaysian female in GWU. She was always trying to convert me into Islam. After two years and meeting some of her close friends, One decided to tell me not to pursue her as she has an older boyfriend back in Malaysia paying for her education. Man! She was just using me to take her to expensive dinners, clubs, and doing the nasty!😮😢😂
Man, what a story! You had me on pins and needles. I had an opinion before you started the tale, but then took turns left and right as you went on. My take: Mary played the long game called endurance. A survivalist like a Filipinos but a million miles from a scammer. David got young sex and then bailed. That’s on him. Gary got young sex and started his dream before bailing. That’s on him. She stayed honest and faithful. A patient and loyal good woman. I don’t feel bad for Jerry at all. He is happy and has a happy wife. I wish them both the best ❤❤
May be seen to be ok when no children are involved, but once there are children they have a responsibility to be a parent and not leave town. It’s a cop out, paying for them isn’t the only thing a parent does. Gary should have either stayed or taken them all back to the US.
@@mikesphilippineretirement She has it all now; citizenship, houses, land, car, her own job. No need to wait. The secret is to pick well... and get lucky. When we were courting her father was in hospital with a major operation. I found out after the event and when I offered to help with the bill she refused any money, said it is her family's problem and they will deal with it. And that's coming from a pretty poor farmer's daughter. I made sure she had everything I could provide and if she stays she stays because she wants to, not because she has no other choice.
Everyone has their own game plan. Sounds like Mary tried to make the best of each situation, from the 3 different men in her life. I can't fault her for that, she's surviving. This latest guy is taking advantage of an opportunity, too. Most of the work was already done, with the house, and kids half raised. I don't know why he took a loan on the truck, though. If he's banking so much, by living so inexpensively, he could have saved for the remainder of the balance on the truck... But who am I to judge? Everyone can do their own thing, as long as it's not interfering with others. Great story, Mike 👍
Agreed, they just moved on she did nothing wrong? The family is an issue but no is no. They left on their own accord. If facts are accurate adult decisions were made.
Instead of him going back to the States, while on a Partial Pension and working 2 jobs, she should have become an OFW and worked abroad. 35 with all these assets and essentially either a girlfriend or housewife. Can u imagine any man being that and still getting a 50/50 split let alone everything. Men going over there are just far to generous.
Don't spend. You know how much it costs to live in the Philippines, and you budget that for the month. Don't buy the house, don't buy land, and rent an apartment, buy a motorcycle, and make sure you move from their family
Very risky/stupid to put the car in her name? when it can be in his name. He has the loan? why isn´t the car then in his name. IF Mary has a bad day ? then he can be on the street in no time. You need to be in control and have assets.
Mike, thanks for sharing all your experiences, they are invaluable, I add them to my kit bag, and they have helped me on my travels to the Philippines. I am glad and happy for Mary that she got the rewards of the long game. She absolutely deserves it. Amazing how she remained faithful after she was treated so badly by all of those guys. I have visited the Philippines multiple times and met many girls, with the end state of moving there and it is unbelievable the temptation that surrounds a guy there every day. I have met many girls in Philippines on many of my travels there, never ever online, that is how trouble begins. Definitely, it is important guys clear the fog of lust and look for a sounding board, before committing into a relationship with a Fillipina.
Playing chess takes more mental involvement, planning. 😊 DOESN'T seem like she played any game. 😊 Just accepted what came her way... a few simple, short minded guys. 😊 She was blessed with opportunities. 😊
The Philippines is poor so they get used cars from Japan and used men from the US. Used things can give great service but the owner must maintain them : fix the broken parts and treat them gently.
@@mikesphilippineretirement oh i didn't know. Are the young men marrying ? What socioeconomic class are they targeting ? Is this true outside of Dumaguette, like in the province ? Do average cute girls marry the young foreigners or are the foreigners only after the 9s ? Nevertheless, there's tons of pretty and poor women and a relatively small number of expats looking to settle down,,, I think. Thx for replying.
DO YOU NOT think she paid him for all he gave her? just the sex part alone would cost him way more than what he paid! then maid service, laundry service, cook etc...your wife in america is the same situation!
@@steffybael1245 There is something seriously wrong with Asian extorting from vulnerable elderly western men. Just call like it is. She is a whore, and he is sucker into to thinking this is an actual beautiful love affair. It's all bullshit. And the whole family is in on it. It's the oldest profession in the world. And it seems the Philippines and Thailand is the biggest whore house in town.
The one that I didn't hear was marriage. Every man bailed on her. Why? What was actually being done to these men causing them to leave? Her family had no boundaries and it seems like they were vultures seeking to nibble all the available funds of these men. It sounds like her whole family was in on the scams. As for the men, they, like most, went there for inexpensive sex, home, and no responsibility. All were duped by the filipina love web.
I think this is the page of men who hate women. Nowhere in this story would I say its her or her family fault. It's your fault as a man to not set boundaries. That's like going to San Francisco and expecting a homeless person not to ask for money. It's going to happen. These men just had unrealistic expectations. And I don't know how you're playing the long game if you say you cared for them both. America is raising weak men and sending them to other countries.
I like Mary. She didn't cheated, scam, or deceived anybody. Everybody got what they wanted. The old guys had their fun. Mary used the money wisely by investing it into the house so that she and her kids will have a house to live on even if the old guys change their minds or leave her one day. She just used her brain and had a long term mind set. She is not like most girls. Most girls these days go for the easy and quick wins. Most girls would go for a young and handsome boy. She would get pregnant but the young handsome boy is broke and he still wants to have sex with more young pretty girls and he doesn't want his saga to end there so he will abandon her. She will now become a single mom. Mary is different, she used her youth to choose a man that can provide for her. Started investing in a house. When the first guy left, she met another guy and continued building the house. If the first guy didn't left, I can see that they would still be together with the house completed. Its not like she used the money for fun, do bad stuff, or other selfish things, it was money well spent for her and her kids so that they will have a simple roof over their head.
She is a walking business that uses her body as currency. Made an investment in relationships and got what she wanted. For her, relationships were a transaction made to her benefit. Provide nothing for yourself and rely on others to do it for you and your family. Yeah, way to go Mary. Filipino way
Not realy, she was just smart to Invest the money she got in to a house,kids,car etc, If she had spend the money on alcohol,gambling,family,party ect. She would have a hard time now. She did bring someting to the tabel, and the men accepted. It was her men that left her.
She lived with him bought happiness to his life for 9 years. You mentioned he was happy. Nothing is guaranteed in life. At least he got years of happiness. He have to account for that.
I remember seeing those comments! Thanks for this crazy story. At 31 here in cebu I still tend to get sick as well. Breathing issues and irritable bowel syndrome with a few other fancy words. I'll stick it out as long as I can. Leaving the army and coming here i can't complain outside of this now weak body can't handle the philippines sometimes.
Even jobs that require a college degree, pay very little money in the Philippines. And so it took a foreigner to fix up her unfinished house! She didn't have the money to do it...
More fool him. My Filipina wife - of 10 years - definitely played the long-game. We met in person in HK - she was 36 while I was 48. She got pregnant, deliberately, definitely to ensnare me. However, we now live in the Philippines, we own residential and commercial properties and have business interests and a regular income . our property/finances are well-organised and legally secure. The kids and the family are sorted, in full-time education. As for health-care, maybe invest in health insurance. I am fully aware that I was the honey-pot but I don't really care.
@joshuarizalforeman816 How do you know she tried to get pregnant to ensnare you? My wife wanted to get pregnant also, whether I stayed with her or not, she wanted a mixed baby she told me and it didn't matter if I stayed with her she said.
@@jsully4064 She told her friends, one of whom was married to a friend of mine, of her intentions. She saw in me an opportunity for a better life. I'm not casting any aspersions here. When she became pregnant, he told me what his wife had told him. I'm not complaining, I simply would have preferred a bit more honesty. We are happy, wealthy and settled in the Philippines so it's not an issue. I just would have preferred some prior notice.
Hey! Great videos! Thanks! I just started watching as I’m seriously considering fully retiring in the Philippines in the near future. It’s great to watch your straightforward advice from years of experience! Many videos from others are filled with time-wasting drivel! Just one small thing: The game is called Chess, not Chest. Maybe you’re making a double meaning! In that case, Mary sure is playing Chest! lol Thanks again! Keep up the good work!
Hey Mike. I’ve been living here in the Ph on $953 per month. I live right down the street from Ayala mall thanks to your video about a year ago. My rent is 25K Php ($434 USD) per month. My electric bill 2,800 Php ($48USD) per month. I rarely use the AC. I use the fan 24/7. Cell phone 700php ($12 USD) per month. Food approx. 20K php ($350 USD) per month. Water, condo fees and internet are included in the rent. My Philippines health insurance is $109 USD per month. This is basic living without a girlfriend or traveling. $434+ $48+ $12+ $350+ $109======== $953 per month, no BS……..
@@mikesphilippineretirement Hey Mike, I left my (realistic living expense) comment basically to let guys know that read it, it is possible. Of course, I didn’t mention my income, but I retired from UPS of 35 years with a LARGE lifetime pension. Plus my RUclips channel has 94,000 subscribers and well over 25 million total views, which most months earns me equal to and sometimes more money than my UPS pension. Not bragging, just stating I’m doing so well money doesn’t matter. Believe it or not, there are a few guys who live here in Solinea Towers where I stay who have no interest in having a girlfriend or traveling. Both have a lifetime pension around $3000 a month coming in. They’ve been here two and three years and says women are nothing but a headache. Personally, I think they’re just picking the wrong women, but they’re always by themselves and they’re content with it. They also said they hate traveling so they’re fine with just existing. They each have a Filipina they call every once in a while and pay her 1K pesos to come by and, well you know the rest. I have a cousin who is 63 years old who is barely making it in the United States on a $1200 a month pension. And we already know there are a lot of men in the USA in the same financial predicament. He’s planning to move here middle of next year. He’s been asking me if my expenses have changed so he can monitor my lifestyle. After I showed him a video of Solinea Towers with a large swimming pool, workout gym and right down the street from the mall, he was sold. He also has no interest in dating a steady girlfriend or traveling. Some of these guys are just not adventurous. So I posted my original comment to state that a person can live off $1000 a month here without a girlfriend or traveling, if a guy is OK with that. And of course they could move to a cheaper place more towards the province area. Personally, if I was a guy who only had $1000 - $1200 a month coming in living in the USA facing becoming homeless, I’d rather move here and have no girlfriend and not travel. Better than becoming homeless. And like my cousin told me when I asked him about a female companion, “ I could care less about the company of a woman, but if I need temporary female companion, that’s what bar girls are for“. He’s got a point Lol…. Love your videos.
Long game for sure. I married a girl from Dipolog. I was a truck driver and she was with me in the truck. As soon as she got out of the truck and had our son, she started cheating. She wanted to return to Cebu to go to nursing college and said if I sent her she would be my retirement. So she came back and is making over 250k. As soon as she found a woman to marry she conned me and divorced me. So she got everything in the divorce as she put everything in her name. Now she is going back on every promise she every made. wow. This is the culture for a lot of families there. Everyone is telling me she planned this from the start.
I learned something a long time ago that is important - You can only be tempted by that which you desire. Think about that and let it sink in. Think of all the things that you are NOT tempted by You don’t desire those things.
Yes! great storytelling! My only question is, should we say that Mary played "the game" or "the long game"? I agree I don't know all the facts nor can I get inside Mary's mind but if this simply "happened" as part of life and she did not intentionally plan this, then is this a "game"? Whatever label we choose to put on it, she surely did win the ______ of life 😃Or is it just me attaching a negative connotation to the word "game"?!! 🙂
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It's hard work being a mother in an affluent country especially if you have no relable partner, but in a poor country my heart goes out to these mothers who only want to do the best for their children and elderly parents. You can't let your heart rule your head though if you need sensible results and that's what you need where children are involved. That's what we've got here a workable solution.
Sounds like everyone got what they wanted in this story. It can be a tough game for a foreigner here. It’s by no means easy. I’ve been with my gf for 7 years and we have a daughter. My gf is living a life that most all province Filipinas dream about. I have a beautiful daughter and support her 100 percent. So I’m winning in the games as well. Plus, I love my gf very much. She’s the best. I could build a nice house anytime and anywhere here I want, but I’m in no hurry. The situation has to be perfect. I don’t get any pushiness from my gf at all. She’s happy with what she’s getting now and will be super happy once I move more forward with my plan. Every woman here has every right to play the long game and so does the man. As long as there’s no bad intentions from either person.
I think this is why the 'age gap' is not a big deal for the filipina. She can cycle through several older men with their financial support and the men can leave or stay and pass away. It was sad the older men did not have Mary to look after them in their final years. The plan or did it just work out that way? I am not sure Mary planned the long game but it developed with the circumstances. I wonder if Mary's children ever go to America? I guess they will never have the money or connections. Many think the men are taking advantage of younger women, but is seems that the opposite happens about as much.
These types of relationships are about as transactional as relationships can get. You have old guys looking to live out their last decade of health with a young woman who will then turn into their nurse when their health fails. You then have a young attractive woman in a poor corrupt country needing money for her and her family.
Frosty, with 70+ y/o Dave, how well was she caring for him, and how much love & affection did she give him, when his health failed and money ran low? And how did her family treat him? If he was given the cold shoulder, or even worse, perhaps "booted out" as he'd passed his use-by date ... then we can understand him returning home
@@txtworld Once he had children with her, he lost the moral right to make that decision to leave and at his age he should have known that. Hopefully, the third guy has stepped up and done the job he failed at.
Come on guys. First ask yourself, what do you think a 35 year old woman from any country is looking for in a 67 year old man. Be honest with yourself. Second, it’s an asymmetric relationship where the foreigner has the cash and the native woman provides the “comfort”. This is especially true in the Philippines and other Asian countries.
Mike I met a girl on line from Camiguin island I visited her twice last year April for 3 weeks Oct for two weeks we got a fiancé visa she arrived in June and we married in July she’s 24 I’m 61 we have a 5 year plan maybe come back and retire maybe CDO we will see she’s the best 🙏🏻
IM form Camiguin island but IM mostly living abroad since 21 years old; and Help may parents back home ;IM NPA in my 40s ; IM done helping my family its time to taking OF myself now 😅
Marry to a Filipina for 10 years and still happy married. From Norway. Going to phils in Nowember and stay there 5 months. Looking forward for it. Going to be a nice time. Nice video. Keep em coming.
Yes good on you Mary I agree... it's a little thing called life and we all make do however we can, so long as nobody gets hurt, it's all good happy days)
I believe that the idea that the 2nd man would rather have access to a better hospital even made him lose his wife , rather than having a young beautiful wife, with hospitals that are good enough for the hundred million Filipinos, has definitely made the wrong choice, so sad, but I guess it worked out good for the 3rd man
Assuming what you said is what actually happened, I could only say that Mary (without a college education) got what most people want out of life. To play the game of life (like chess) you need patience and to believe that something good will happen. Mary was lucky to find the right men at the right time who started her dream off on the right foot.
It sounds like she was straight up… only comment was that she wound up with older guys who she knew had the potential to bail on the relationship due to health or not liking the environment. Seems she didn’t seem to get a hold of a 40-50 something year old who was able to hang around. Hope the current guy manages to hang around there and with her for a few more years
Mike very good video, 👍 KUDOS to Mary and your children. 👍 Mary sounds like a smart caring young lady. Hopefully you can follow up with Mary to see how she is doing, interview her on video so your subscribers, members, can see her. We got a bonus on this video watching you explain Mary we also watched behind you, on the big screen, portions of Janet's video and you showing property. That was nice. do that more often. Thank you for another very good video.  Bye for Now.👍😊🙏
@@mikesphilippineretirement I want to learn from the mistakes of other men so I don’t fall into the same traps, especially regarding how women may try to separate them from their money. Understanding these dynamics can help me navigate relationships more wisely
@mikesphilippineretirement What I like about your shows proves to me that a man with experience is never at the mercy of a man with an argument. Mike has lived it and I also learned many more things on life and relationships.
Great story, not sure I'm buying any of it. Guys are a lot too old, first two had basically no money, 3rd guy had limited money and probably couldn't get it up yet somehow she stayed loyal to all of them? Granted we didn't get to see what she looked like so that could be a factor. $ numbers are not realistic. I think this guy just likes telling other peoples stories that he can't possibly know how much truth is in them just to get the clicks.
I was married to a woman who had children for 10 yrs. Turns out she could not have anymore and lied to me about that. I will never give any woman a shot in the Philippines if you already has her broods. Im 40 now I will have an income of about 50k USD a yr. When I move to the Philippines in 6 months. Not looking to jump into a relationship like a desperate simp.
There’s only 2 reasons Filipina marry a foreigner have a better life have good looking kids hoping they’ll become Miss Universe or movie stars in the Philippines.
@@mikesphilippineretirement I’ve seen this on Facebook every time a pinay see a half breed girl they always say oh she’s so pretty she can be a Miss Universe or a movie star
Hey Mike, Mary has a good plan of her future. She just a very loyal girl that most men can be trusted even she found one after the other, but being loyal and honest to each of them is a good contribution for a very good plan through out for the future. You know when it comes to faith especially if you are a good catholic ,she was blessed for being honest and loyal to herself, she has a good reservation and loving herself first. You seldom find those kind of person nowadays, but I must salute to Mary for her blessed fortune.
If the kids are registered as American Citizens and have a Social Security number they should be getting at least 50% of his social security. Even after he dies until they are 18 they should get the SSA from the USA. A stipend from the father isn't a choice if she goes after the SSA benefits. And the father doesn't need to be dead to get the SSA benefits. Now if he dies their amount may increase to 75% of his benefits.
@@mikesphilippineretirement Good job calling Gary, Maybe next time you can mentioned things like that, it would of reaffirmed Mary's story. Another nice video. Thx.
I try and explain yhis yo many women.. you can either chase short-term cash in hand.. or you can be right and long-term you'll make out way better.. nothing wrong with this at all. She's upfront, honest, and sincere.. hoping one day I'll find one like this..
![Felix "Unfair" | [Stray Kids : SKZ-PLAYER]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/Oswujxm2Ag0/mqdefault.jpg)
It sounds like she was faithful and respectful to her boyfriends. They got what they wanted until they didn't want it anymore, and chose to move on. So it's not like she was 'playing' or scamming them. Good for her.
My exact thoughts .
I agree with you. But what do you think about the fact that she didn't love them, and she went into it with an end game?
I thought that, too.
@wallydee8398 she only said that about the first guy. Did he love her? 🤷♂️ the "endgame" was Mike's framing, not her words, as far as we know. In any case, he also indicated that the guys had equally practical considerations - building a retirement house they could never afford in US on land they could never buy as a foreigner, and never pay rent again, while being with a hot, young woman. They were just wrong about the reality not making them as happy as they fantasized.
Nah, she bears some responsibility ... she could've maintained her body a bit better. Plus, she could've given more attention to Her Man, as opposed to her children, and her extended family (who were constantly knocking on the door, seeking money)
Men are in love, women are in business.
hahaha is that what you think
@fudogwhisperer3590 And that's the truth
And never forget that about women..itll save you being shocked once they show you who they are instinctively..👍🏾
Not all woman in bussiness. Im single n working abroad n i have my own house in Philippines. Not all woman are the same
Exactly so true and to add the majority of expats who married Filipina he might love her but those girls don't love them they in business and Filipina do not find their western pookies attractive they only playing actress in front of the simps Filipina will always find brown more attractive
Those old guys are having the time of their lives, they can't take any of that money with them, so enjoy while you can.
Thanks for sharing
Soooo True
I'd think so! LOL
Most filipinas don't love you but just love what you can provide for them. You're taking most of them out of poverty to the middle and upper classes. Sure, you can find a good one who will care for you in some capacity but don't ever delude yourself that money isn't the overwhelming factor. Suggest you split all the bills and expenses 50/50 and you'll quickly find out what the relationship is built on.
Thanks for sharing
Thats because if you are bad smelling, bad shape, don´t shave / cut hair, don´t have nice clothes, have bad manners ect ect. If all you have gooing for you is Money ?? Yes you might be right.
@@mabuhayproductionltd3627 But this really isn't the case. Philpinas don't date foreign men for their looks, fashion sense and grooming habbits. They date them because to them they are wealthy and will take them out of poverty. That's it. Shacking up with a foreigner is like winning the lottery every month. All the bills, rent and food are paid for and usually even an allowance, but the type of men you're describing are most of the men that go to the Phillipines. But it doesn't matter whether you're in your 30s or 70s you're still a "foreigner" and in the Philippines that word had become synonymous for rich. Also, the "nicer" clothes you wear the more likely you are to attract the goldiggers. If you wear nicer clothes than average you stand out like a sore thumb because the majority of foreigners are dressed like the typical tourist in a cheap t shirt or vest etc. The simple matter of fact is foreigner = wealthy and that's why they want you. Doesn't matter whether you're brad pitt or an overweight pensioner if you aren't putting up the cash 99% won't stick around very long.
@@reggie5495 Its simply not true. Again if you want to win her over with money ?? Yes you likely can. But there is Many more ways.
Its true that most foreign men will have more Income/money than most filipinos men she would know, but there is so many other reasons. if there is 2 foreign men ? One with Nice looks, Nice groomed,Nice clothes ect and the other not (and they have samme money/income ? Chances are high that she would pick the first one.
Money does mather, but there is a lot more in to it.
To take a Foreign man ? then he would likely be more faitfull then a local trikedriver. He like would be better euducated, he can give ideas and oppertunities, beautifull kids ect.ect.
If she goes with a old granddad, not well groomed,old torn clothes ect. She would Face to her family and friends.
If money is all you can offer your selection pool will be way smaller than if you have other points.
@@mabuhayproductionltd3627 Well of course she would choose the better looking one over a fat slob. Let me ask you this: Would she choose a handsome foreigner who's a really nice guy but is broke and destititue and can offer nothing finiancially or a fat slob pensioner who gets a guaranteed 2k+ income a month? We know the answer. Filipinas do not have a fetish for older western guys. They date them for the money and lifestyle they can provide. End of discussion. They could just as easily date a Philippino either their own age or even an older one but why don't they? Because the average philpines wage is less than $500 and that's not even enough money to raise a family on so they go for the foreigners and they will disregard looks and age because of this. Most of the interacial couples I see on youtube it's obvious the filipina has not chosen the best one or the most handsome or probably even the richest but just the first one that has bothered to fly over and commit because they can't afford to let one go. You're never "the one" you're just the first one. If it wasn't you it would be whoever foreigner was next in line to fly over and put a ring on it.
She got the gold mine
I got the shaft..
While she's living like a queen on alimony
I'm working two shifts eating boloney..
Song by Jerry Reed😊
I do like a good boloney sandwich
@@mikesphilippineretirement learning how to make a fried bologna sandwich is a deep south Louisiana right of passage.. I love it fried or unfried.. lots of times I will actually eat that for my lunch or supper and maybe even breakfast with a fried egg added.. who says poor people do not eat good gourmet food? hehe
As Robin Williams used to say about his alimony payments ... it stands for "all the money"
Jerry knew the deal
And how is it men never get to play the long game?
They only get the short end of the stick.
I will never buy or pay for something that will never be mine.
Filipinas and most Asain women for that matter are just plain greedy and blood suckers.
If she’s loyal, respectful , and is a genuinely good person, she deserves it.
Thanks!
At 34, divorced, ex got everything plus controlled time with my daughter. I had an air mattress, few pots and ate noodles for a bit. This all happened in my anesthesiology residency. Fortunately, I have a good relationship with my daughter and son in law, and I’m a new g pa. Today, I have no desire to get involved with another Western woman. I don’t even want to waste time dating them. US women are way too masculine these days, and a big turn off.
yes divorce is tough in the states
@@RickMerryman-o7j You’ve been through a tough journey, and it’s clear you've got real strength. Going from rock bottom during your residency to building a good relationship with your daughter and now being a grandfather is huge. Not everyone gets through that kind of hardship with family ties still strong.
It's totally understandable that you’re not interested in dating or dealing with certain dynamics anymore, after what you’ve been through, you’ve earned the right to be picky about where you put your energy. You’ve built yourself back up before, and now you can focus on whatever really matters to you, whether it’s your family, your career, or just enjoying life on your terms.
You’ve already proven you can handle the hardest parts of life, and there’s no need to rush into anything you don’t feel is worth your time. Take pride in what you’ve accomplished and keep building a life that makes you feel fulfilled.
@mikesphilippineretirement I will definitely agree that divorce is definitely slotted against the men here in the U.S. Yet the women want to be considered equal for all reasons. I am almost finished with my divorce, and it couldn't happen faster. Never again will I marry or date an American woman. As the Italian people say Forget About It. Asian women are more about family and secure relationships. Most really want an honest man. Since I have been duped here, I have turned and found a woman that I may consider to be the last and forever partner. I have to rebuild my trust and confidence again.
I'm sorry what happened to you. Glad you have a good relationship with your daughter. There are some good western ladies . Best wishes to you.💜
Wow. That was quite a story. I enjoyed the pictures of the houses also. 💜
Wow? What a story of resilience, patience, endurance, and finally victory. I get why the younger women in the Philippines resolve to settle with an older gentleman of another country, but how great to come across one who remains Faithful through it all? Everyone involved in this story played their cards, but Mary held strong with a vision of accomplishment and did just that. Surely other women have heard her story and hope to do the same.
I have a similar situation to Jerry and Mary. Moved to Cambodia to be with my girlfriend. She already has a paid for house, so my only expenses are utilities, food, and transportation. And for context, our electric last month was $33, using the air con every night and some during the day, water was $5. Our very fast WiFi is $15. She shops at our local street market, 1/2 a block away, spends between $5-$15 a day. When she spends $15, that will last a couple of days. Always enjoy your videos, greetings from Phnom Penh
thanks for sharing
You living the life!
It's foolish for these old men to think they'll go to a foreign country, meet a young beautiful woman, and expect her to fall head over heels with his old ass and live happily ever after. We are merely a means to an end. A money tree offering financial security for her and her family.
just foolish. Have you traveled at all
Yes... and no. I wrote a few books on this topic years ago but I think the basic premise is still relevant. What makes a man with one or more failed relationships with women from his own country and culture think it will all change miraculously by going across the world meeting a girl half his age or younger and he behaving exactly as he has all along? Yes, many men have 'peso-nality' and are a means to an end but not all. I don't blame the women for wanting a way out; caveat emptor after all.
Everyone in the world seems to know this fact but the horny old fools who keep marrying these hungry and desperate kids. The male ego is a joke and they end up getting just what they deserve. Everybody uses everybody.
@@fatmanfaffing4116 Yes marriage with an American woman is the key to happiness!
well duh. no money, no honey.
U expecting a young beautiful woman to shack up with some old, crusty, BROKE man ? smh. u need a reality check, bud.
You need to teach older men moving here that it’s just a contractual agreement dating in the Philippines NO young filipina loves you ever but only what you can provide for her and her family once you learn this use it to your advantage and live a happy life - it is what it is
thanks for sharing
@@mikesphilippineretirement Those pinoy guys who make babies and left the mamas and let the foreign guys take care of their babies they should be ashame
@@mikesphilippineretirement foreign men should know that when a Filipina marry you they want that good looking baby from u.
@@anneb3170
It happens more in the USA…at least the mother is taking care of the kids not grandma or worst the kid wind up in foster care or homeless!
99% of women all around the world are about what the man can provide. Especially after puppy love in high school.
I don't blame Mary. She did not cheat.. she did her part. She is blessed
thank for sharing
According to what you said, she wasn't playing anyone, she just kept trying. And I don't see anything wrong with that, I wish her and her kids many blessings.
My ex-Filipina wife was not faithful to me, but she also has the house that I built in the Philippines. It was completely finished, except for the upstairs, which was a very big master bedroom, dressing, bathroom and balcony. She now married another foreigner and he probably finished that too. So whatever happens to her and her second husband: she now has a beautiful house that didn't cost her one hollow block. It's not how faithful they are to their partners, it's how well they play the game!
thanks for sharing
Man, that's a low blow ... I feel for you
Filipina is loving her children, then her parents, her siblings, her lola and lolo, her cousins - and relatives, her Pinay schoolmates, then she loves you
As long as you provide, and sometimes she is under tremendous pressure to give money to her brother for a motorcycle, but she will be afraid to tell you this .
But, in their minds they are honest, will not leave you, will bare your children, will happily care for you, will raise your and her's children, .... What else do you want. This is steady life 😂 with ❤ every day.
Sorry that you met this kind of pilipina .
You where just to fast (picked the first and the best?), you didn´t vet her properly, you made the mistake "that is i give her what she wants, then she be nice/good to me) It usaly don´t work that way. You need to take the time, find a good one (No red flags), then take it slowly. You should be with her for Years before the question about a house,a car or something comes up. Never spend more than your monthly income (dont take out from your nest egg at home). Build slowly (and first after you are 100% positive that she loves you, will stay with you). Only build a section/part of the house at the time, then save some money before you build next part. So you can always bugg out if she change. Good luck with next one. Now you are wiser.
I'm trying to understand how you say that Gary is such a "good man." While he takes care of his children financially, he still abandoned them and let's another man raise them.
To me he gave up his moral right to leave as soon as the first child was conceived.
so many just leave they are American citizens a great thing to be
Gary should have returned once his health recovered to raise his 2 kids. At that point it's about two American kids being abandoned by their father.
Remember women love what you can do for them not for who you are.
Did these men love these women for who they are or what they are able to give them that they cannot get in their homeland?
And then along comes Mary.
Good title
Bloody Mary
Perfect!
You’re a better storyteller than a lot of the other RUclipsrs. That was a very engaging story.
@@ncascadehiker A nice story, with quite a bit of delusional thinking
Mary, Gary, Jerry. If I was Jerry, I’d be afraid of Larry.
😅😅😅
LARRY, CURLY AND MOE
Funny funny!
You call that an accomplishment?
I am a Malaysian..female. The first thing we think about after education is..Work!! Not find a Foreigner to marry.
I had a job at 18 and was a single mom at 20 to a son... raised by his paternal grandparents. With my first job, i qualified to get a bank loan for a small used Car. In the span of 10 years..i had upgraded my car 2 times to a better model and age. I was renting a room though..working in the city. But i wanted a better lifestyle. Working a 9 to 5 job with a fixed income was NOT going to get me there. So i quit and got a job in Sales. O..mannn..my income skyrocketted working on commission. By age 29, i was driving a brand new BMW..and a brand new house. And went on to stock investments to buying lands.
That's the difference between Filipino women and Malaysian women.
Congratulations. There is no substitution for hard, smart and honest work. You have set a good example for your children.
Nice. Invest your money.
No lady. You're being racist. How would you like it if I made a comment like yours which included your mother and grandmother as the whole Malaysian female population?: Your comment is absurd.
It's all depends on survival and/or education. I've dated Thai ladies and when I asked why they lie on what the money I gave them was for? Some said she needed it for the family. Some said they were desperate to survive. Some had gambling addictions.
I've dated a Malaysian female in GWU. She was always trying to convert me into Islam. After two years and meeting some of her close friends, One decided to tell me not to pursue her as she has an older boyfriend back in Malaysia paying for her education. Man! She was just using me to take her to expensive dinners, clubs, and doing the nasty!😮😢😂
A STORY OF LOYALTY, RESPECT AND HONESTY
Man, what a story! You had me on pins and needles.
I had an opinion before you started the tale, but then took turns left and right as you went on.
My take: Mary played the long game called endurance. A survivalist like a Filipinos but a million miles from a scammer.
David got young sex and then bailed. That’s on him.
Gary got young sex and started his dream before bailing. That’s on him.
She stayed honest and faithful. A patient and loyal good woman.
I don’t feel bad for Jerry at all. He is happy and has a happy wife. I wish them both the best ❤❤
Thanks Michael
May be seen to be ok when no children are involved, but once there are children they have a responsibility to be a parent and not leave town. It’s a cop out, paying for them isn’t the only thing a parent does. Gary should have either stayed or taken them all back to the US.
Do these foreign men have families and children, grandchildren back home? Seems like they just only care about themselves.
My wife is playing the long game. 23 years, 6 kids. Waiting for her to show her true colours, hahahahaha Sometimes you get a keeper.
is she waiting because your worth more alive than dead?
23 years? That's commitment to a relationship. That's not playing the long game.
@@mikesphilippineretirement She has it all now; citizenship, houses, land, car, her own job. No need to wait. The secret is to pick well... and get lucky. When we were courting her father was in hospital with a major operation. I found out after the event and when I offered to help with the bill she refused any money, said it is her family's problem and they will deal with it. And that's coming from a pretty poor farmer's daughter. I made sure she had everything I could provide and if she stays she stays because she wants to, not because she has no other choice.
@@fatmanfaffing4116 She love long time?
Exactly bro, just like all women.. some are good eggs
Everyone has their own game plan. Sounds like Mary tried to make the best of each situation, from the 3 different men in her life.
I can't fault her for that, she's surviving.
This latest guy is taking advantage of an opportunity, too. Most of the work was already done, with the house, and kids half raised. I don't know why he took a loan on the truck, though. If he's banking so much, by living so inexpensively, he could have saved for the remainder of the balance on the truck...
But who am I to judge?
Everyone can do their own thing, as long as it's not interfering with others.
Great story, Mike 👍
thanks Jerry
Agreed, they just moved on she did nothing wrong? The family is an issue but no is no. They left on their own accord. If facts are accurate adult decisions were made.
Instead of him going back to the States, while on a Partial Pension and working 2 jobs, she should have become an OFW and worked abroad.
35 with all these assets and essentially either a girlfriend or housewife.
Can u imagine any man being that and still getting a 50/50 split let alone everything.
Men going over there are just far to generous.
Don't spend. You know how much it costs to live in the Philippines, and you budget that for the month. Don't buy the house, don't buy land, and rent an apartment, buy a motorcycle, and make sure you move from their family
Very risky/stupid to put the car in her name? when it can be in his name. He has the loan? why isn´t the car then in his name. IF Mary has a bad day ? then he can be on the street in no time. You need to be in control and have assets.
Mike, thanks for sharing all your experiences, they are invaluable, I add them to my kit bag, and they have helped me on my travels to the Philippines. I am glad and happy for Mary that she got the rewards of the long game. She absolutely deserves it. Amazing how she remained faithful after she was treated so badly by all of those guys. I have visited the Philippines multiple times and met many girls, with the end state of moving there and it is unbelievable the temptation that surrounds a guy there every day. I have met many girls in Philippines on many of my travels there, never ever online, that is how trouble begins. Definitely, it is important guys clear the fog of lust and look for a sounding board, before committing into a relationship with a Fillipina.
Playing chess takes more mental involvement, planning. 😊 DOESN'T seem like she played any game. 😊 Just accepted what came her way... a few simple, short minded guys. 😊
She was blessed with opportunities. 😊
thanks for sharing
I'm thinking the same thing.
She wasn't playing anyone, she is smart and just trying to survive. She is a good Filipina.
I agree
The Philippines is poor so they get used cars from Japan and used men from the US. Used things can give great service but the owner must maintain them : fix the broken parts and treat them gently.
many many new cars and young men here
@@mikesphilippineretirement oh i didn't know. Are the young men marrying ? What socioeconomic class are they targeting ? Is this true outside of Dumaguette, like in the province ? Do average cute girls marry the young foreigners or are the foreigners only after the 9s ? Nevertheless, there's tons of pretty and poor women and a relatively small number of expats looking to settle down,,, I think. Thx for replying.
She got it all paid for by fruits of his labor. It is the oldest game in town.
you don't think she really loved them?
DO YOU NOT think she paid him for all he gave her? just the sex part alone would cost him way more than what he paid! then maid service, laundry service, cook etc...your wife in america is the same situation!
@@steffybael1245 There is something seriously wrong with Asian extorting from vulnerable elderly western men. Just call like it is. She is a whore, and he is sucker into to thinking this is an actual beautiful love affair. It's all bullshit. And the whole family is in on it. It's the oldest profession in the world. And it seems the Philippines and Thailand is the biggest whore house in town.
Dont give out free money guys, make sure they work for it...
She was faithful and the guys made their own decisions. What's to say. Peace and Love, B Goat
no much but enjoy your life
The one that I didn't hear was marriage. Every man bailed on her. Why? What was actually being done to these men causing them to leave? Her family had no boundaries and it seems like they were vultures seeking to nibble all the available funds of these men. It sounds like her whole family was in on the scams. As for the men, they, like most, went there for inexpensive sex, home, and no responsibility. All were duped by the filipina love web.
smart girls do not marry as the men leave and they are stuck in a marriage with no divorce
@mikesphilippineretirement So she is a player? Again, deceitful and naughty by nature.
Family told her "you either need to get a job or find a boyfriend", lol.
@ericjames7819 Her job was realing in the prey, and they will help devour the flesh (money).
I think this is the page of men who hate women. Nowhere in this story would I say its her or her family fault. It's your fault as a man to not set boundaries. That's like going to San Francisco and expecting a homeless person not to ask for money. It's going to happen. These men just had unrealistic expectations. And I don't know how you're playing the long game if you say you cared for them both. America is raising weak men and sending them to other countries.
I like Mary. She didn't cheated, scam, or deceived anybody. Everybody got what they wanted. The old guys had their fun. Mary used the money wisely by investing it into the house so that she and her kids will have a house to live on even if the old guys change their minds or leave her one day. She just used her brain and had a long term mind set. She is not like most girls. Most girls these days go for the easy and quick wins. Most girls would go for a young and handsome boy. She would get pregnant but the young handsome boy is broke and he still wants to have sex with more young pretty girls and he doesn't want his saga to end there so he will abandon her. She will now become a single mom. Mary is different, she used her youth to choose a man that can provide for her. Started investing in a house. When the first guy left, she met another guy and continued building the house. If the first guy didn't left, I can see that they would still be together with the house completed. Its not like she used the money for fun, do bad stuff, or other selfish things, it was money well spent for her and her kids so that they will have a simple roof over their head.
Kinda sounds like she was scamming, kept looking for a cashout everytime a guy bailed lol
tell me the scam?
She is a walking business that uses her body as currency. Made an investment in relationships and got what she wanted. For her, relationships were a transaction made to her benefit. Provide nothing for yourself and rely on others to do it for you and your family. Yeah, way to go Mary. Filipino way
thanks for sharing Donald
Not realy, she was just smart to Invest the money she got in to a house,kids,car etc, If she had spend the money on alcohol,gambling,family,party ect. She would have a hard time now. She did bring someting to the tabel, and the men accepted. It was her men that left her.
She lived with him bought happiness to his life for 9 years. You mentioned he was happy. Nothing is guaranteed in life. At least he got years of happiness. He have to account for that.
Mary Got Talent 👏
she is not stupid
The lady was, effectively, a faithful, serial widow.
That's a decent, moral life.
On the light side...
Remember Longhorn Leghorn and Widow Hen?
no i do not sorry
I remember seeing those comments!
Thanks for this crazy story. At 31 here in cebu I still tend to get sick as well. Breathing issues and irritable bowel syndrome with a few other fancy words.
I'll stick it out as long as I can. Leaving the army and coming here i can't complain outside of this now weak body can't handle the philippines sometimes.
thanks for sharing
Even jobs that require a college degree, pay very little money in the Philippines. And so it took a foreigner to fix up her unfinished house! She didn't have the money to do it...
thanks for sharing
I think stories like that must be pretty rare over there. Good for Mary! Good video!
Glad you enjoyed it I think it happens more than we think
Not so rare. Monkey-branching is quite popular.
Hey you forgot about mentioning me I got the last laugh she gave it all to me
More fool him. My Filipina wife - of 10 years - definitely played the long-game. We met in person in HK - she was 36 while I was 48. She got pregnant, deliberately, definitely to ensnare me. However, we now live in the Philippines, we own residential and commercial properties and have business interests and a regular income . our property/finances are well-organised and legally secure. The kids and the family are sorted, in full-time education. As for health-care, maybe invest in health insurance. I am fully aware that I was the honey-pot but I don't really care.
Thanks for sharing Josh
@joshuarizalforeman816 How do you know she tried to get pregnant to ensnare you? My wife wanted to get pregnant also, whether I stayed with her or not, she wanted a mixed baby she told me and it didn't matter if I stayed with her she said.
@@jsully4064 reverse psychology ops :)
@@jsully4064 She told her friends, one of whom was married to a friend of mine, of her intentions. She saw in me an opportunity for a better life. I'm not casting any aspersions here. When she became pregnant, he told me what his wife had told him. I'm not complaining, I simply would have preferred a bit more honesty. We are happy, wealthy and settled in the Philippines so it's not an issue. I just would have preferred some prior notice.
What you encountered was the ''good'' female long game......
Gotta up to Mary kept it real that ain't scamming there that a boss lady 💯 for real and God Bless Mary amen 🙏 🙌 ❤️ ✨️ 💯 👏 🙏
At 35 My daughter was five years old Now I am my grandfather Priceless 😊
hmmmm
Hey! Great videos! Thanks! I just started watching as I’m seriously considering fully retiring in the Philippines in the near future. It’s great to watch your straightforward advice from years of experience! Many videos from others are filled with time-wasting drivel! Just one small thing: The game is called Chess, not Chest. Maybe you’re making a double meaning! In that case, Mary sure is playing Chest! lol
Thanks again! Keep up the good work!
Hey Mike. I’ve been living here in the Ph on $953 per month. I live right down the street from Ayala mall thanks to your video about a year ago. My rent is 25K Php ($434 USD) per month. My electric bill 2,800 Php ($48USD) per month. I rarely use the AC. I use the fan 24/7. Cell phone 700php ($12 USD) per month. Food approx. 20K php ($350 USD) per month. Water, condo fees and internet are included in the rent. My Philippines health insurance is $109 USD per month.
This is basic living without a girlfriend or traveling. $434+ $48+ $12+ $350+ $109======== $953 per month, no BS……..
your just surviving not living. no gf no traveling. If you go eat at Chilis in the Mall you could not afford it
@@mikesphilippineretirement Hey Mike, I left my (realistic living expense) comment basically to let guys know that read it, it is possible. Of course, I didn’t mention my income, but I retired from UPS of 35 years with a LARGE lifetime pension. Plus my RUclips channel has 94,000 subscribers and well over 25 million total views, which most months earns me equal to and sometimes more money than my UPS pension. Not bragging, just stating I’m doing so well money doesn’t matter.
Believe it or not, there are a few guys who live here in Solinea Towers where I stay who have no interest in having a girlfriend or traveling. Both have a lifetime pension around $3000 a month coming in. They’ve been here two and three years and says women are nothing but a headache. Personally, I think they’re just picking the wrong women, but they’re always by themselves and they’re content with it. They also said they hate traveling so they’re fine with just existing. They each have a Filipina they call every once in a while and pay her 1K pesos to come by and, well you know the rest.
I have a cousin who is 63 years old who is barely making it in the United States on a $1200 a month pension. And we already know there are a lot of men in the USA in the same financial predicament. He’s planning to move here middle of next year. He’s been asking me if my expenses have changed so he can monitor my lifestyle. After I showed him a video of Solinea Towers with a large swimming pool, workout gym and right down the street from the mall, he was sold. He also has no interest in dating a steady girlfriend or traveling. Some of these guys are just not adventurous. So I posted my original comment to state that a person can live off $1000 a month here without a girlfriend or traveling, if a guy is OK with that. And of course they could move to a cheaper place more towards the province area.
Personally, if I was a guy who only had $1000 - $1200 a month coming in living in the USA facing becoming homeless, I’d rather move here and have no girlfriend and not travel. Better than becoming homeless. And like my cousin told me when I asked him about a female companion, “ I could care less about the company of a woman, but if I need temporary female companion, that’s what bar girls are for“. He’s got a point Lol…. Love your videos.
Can't blame her, the others decided to go, good for her!! and Gary
Great story and a very wise Mary 👏
Glad you enjoyed it
She met the right men.Good luck for her.🎉
Long game for sure. I married a girl from Dipolog. I was a truck driver and she was with me in the truck. As soon as she got out of the truck and had our son, she started cheating. She wanted to return to Cebu to go to nursing college and said if I sent her she would be my retirement. So she came back and is making over 250k. As soon as she found a woman to marry she conned me and divorced me. So she got everything in the divorce as she put everything in her name. Now she is going back on every promise she every made. wow. This is the culture for a lot of families there. Everyone is telling me she planned this from the start.
I learned something a long time ago that is important -
You can only be tempted by that which you desire.
Think about that and let it sink in.
Think of all the things that you are NOT tempted by
You don’t desire those things.
Thanks for sharing
Mike ... a great video and storytelling
Yes! great storytelling! My only question is, should we say that Mary played "the game" or "the long game"? I agree I don't know all the facts nor can I get inside Mary's mind but if this simply "happened" as part of life and she did not intentionally plan this, then is this a "game"? Whatever label we choose to put on it, she surely did win the ______ of life 😃Or is it just me attaching a negative connotation to the word "game"?!! 🙂
thank you Txtworld
Isn't life a game? She played it well and still playing
Mary kicked ass and took names! What a great story. Thanks for that one.
you're welcome
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Thank you.
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14:09 this is why criticize old dudes that get with young Filipinas. They can’t hang long term and the kids will now grow up without father, shame.
It's hard work being a mother in an affluent country especially if you have no relable partner, but in a poor country my heart goes out to these mothers who only want to do the best for their children and elderly parents. You can't let your heart rule your head though if you need sensible results and that's what you need where children are involved. That's what we've got here a workable solution.
Thanks for sharing
Sounds like everyone got what they wanted in this story. It can be a tough game for a foreigner here. It’s by no means easy. I’ve been with my gf for 7 years and we have a daughter. My gf is living a life that most all province Filipinas dream about. I have a beautiful daughter and support her 100 percent. So I’m winning in the games as well. Plus, I love my gf very much. She’s the best. I could build a nice house anytime and anywhere here I want, but I’m in no hurry. The situation has to be perfect. I don’t get any pushiness from my gf at all. She’s happy with what she’s getting now and will be super happy once I move more forward with my plan.
Every woman here has every right to play the long game and so does the man. As long as there’s no bad intentions from either person.
thanks for sharing
'True, sincerity is key. Love is bliss
This really opens my eyes!
Seems all the men were getting what they wanted until they didn't want it anymore. The price we pay.
Great comment so true
Good for her, there is nothing wrong with this especially if she and her children are happy.
I think this is why the 'age gap' is not a big deal for the filipina. She can cycle through several older men with their financial support and the men can leave or stay and pass away. It was sad the older men did not have Mary to look after them in their final years. The plan or did it just work out that way? I am not sure Mary planned the long game but it developed with the circumstances.
I wonder if Mary's children ever go to America? I guess they will never have the money or connections.
Many think the men are taking advantage of younger women, but is seems that the opposite happens about as much.
These types of relationships are about as transactional as relationships can get.
You have old guys looking to live out their last decade of health with a young woman who will then turn into their nurse when their health fails. You then have a young attractive woman in a poor corrupt country needing money for her and her family.
Kenneth, all relationships are transactional ... period
Frosty, with 70+ y/o Dave, how well was she caring for him, and how much love & affection did she give him, when his health failed and money ran low? And how did her family treat him? If he was given the cold shoulder, or even worse, perhaps "booted out" as he'd passed his use-by date ... then we can understand him returning home
@@txtworld Once he had children with her, he lost the moral right to make that decision to leave and at his age he should have known that. Hopefully, the third guy has stepped up and done the job he failed at.
@@txtworld then I guess you should go out and get the prettiest whore for as cheap as you can.
Lost wealth doesn't actually matter , the only thing that matters are the well being of the children ❤
thanks for sharing
You handsome man you pay for house and pay my family too😂
sure mike will do
Come on guys. First ask yourself, what do you think a 35 year old woman from any country is looking for in a 67 year old man. Be honest with yourself. Second, it’s an asymmetric relationship where the foreigner has the cash and the native woman provides the “comfort”. This is especially true in the Philippines and other Asian countries.
thanks for sharing Chuck
Mike I met a girl on line from Camiguin island I visited her twice last year April for 3 weeks Oct for two weeks we got a fiancé visa she arrived in June and we married in July she’s 24 I’m 61 we have a 5 year plan maybe come back and retire maybe CDO we will see she’s the best 🙏🏻
sounds like a good plan
Yes you handsome young man you pay for everything including parents and siblings and also sick Buffalo 😂
You right she is the best .
IM form Camiguin island but IM mostly living abroad since 21 years old; and Help may parents back home ;IM NPA in my 40s ; IM done helping my family its time to taking OF myself now 😅
Marry to a Filipina for 10 years and still happy married. From Norway. Going to phils in Nowember and stay there 5 months. Looking forward for it. Going to be a nice time. Nice video. Keep em coming.
Sounds great!
A gal's got to do what a gal's got to do.
yes she does
Yes good on you Mary I agree... it's a little thing called life and we all make do however we can, so long as nobody gets hurt, it's all good happy days)
Thanks for sharing
I've had covid 2 time it sucks but I still worked through it. It's nothing but a bad cold.
everyone deals with problems differently
It sounds like she played fair and deserves what she has.
thanks for sharing
To be fair she did nothing wrong. She went after the old men that act the same that thought with the small head😂😂🤣
thanks for sharing
Sounds like Mary feeding him eye drops in his glass of milk 😂
I believe that the idea that the 2nd man would rather have access to a better hospital even made him lose his wife , rather than having a young beautiful wife, with hospitals that are good enough for the hundred million Filipinos, has definitely made the wrong choice, so sad, but I guess it worked out good for the 3rd man
thanks for sharing
Yeah I agree, makes no sense to leave the young, hot mother of your kids, the whole bit about temptation was irrelevant.
Assuming what you said is what actually happened, I could only say that Mary (without a college education) got what most people want out of life. To play the game of life (like chess) you need patience and to believe that something good will happen. Mary was lucky to find the right men at the right time who started her dream off on the right foot.
It sounds like she was straight up… only comment was that she wound up with older guys who she knew had the potential to bail on the relationship due to health or not liking the environment. Seems she didn’t seem to get a hold of a 40-50 something year old who was able to hang around. Hope the current guy manages to hang around there and with her for a few more years
not many guys 40-50 in the Philippines that want to settle down and also don't have a pension
Mike very good video, 👍 KUDOS to Mary and your children. 👍 Mary sounds like a smart caring young lady. Hopefully you can follow up with Mary to see how she is doing, interview her on video so your subscribers, members, can see her. We got a bonus on this video watching you explain Mary we also watched behind you, on the big screen, portions of Janet's video and you showing property. That was nice. do that more often. Thank you for another very good video.  Bye for Now.👍😊🙏
If Mike was going to interview Mary on video for everyone to see, he'd have done that already. Have a clue please...
Mary has a boyfriend and is doing great. thanks mike
@@mikesphilippineretirement Your welcome.
Love the shirt in the background GO BUCKS
off week then come back and kick some ass
Yes indeed , that was a tough loss last week we made to many mistakes
Your program has gotten so much better!
Love your show mikey
Thanks do you enjoy the stories?
@@mikesphilippineretirement I want to learn from the mistakes of other men so I don’t fall into the same traps, especially regarding how women may try to separate them from their money. Understanding these dynamics can help me navigate relationships more wisely
@mikesphilippineretirement
What I like about your shows proves to me that a man with experience is never at the mercy of a man with an argument. Mike has lived it and I also learned many more things on life and relationships.
Mary is my hero 🙌💕 great story Mike 😊
thanks Michael
This got a giggle from Asawa ko
glad she is smiling
Great story, not sure I'm buying any of it. Guys are a lot too old, first two had basically no money, 3rd guy had limited money and probably couldn't get it up yet somehow she stayed loyal to all of them? Granted we didn't get to see what she looked like so that could be a factor. $ numbers are not realistic. I think this guy just likes telling other peoples stories that he can't possibly know how much truth is in them just to get the clicks.
So you didn't think that Mary was deceptive or Manipulative?
At least she was faithful 😂
At least that's what she claims. 🤔
How would you possibly know. That's what she said......
I was married to a woman who had children for 10 yrs. Turns out she could not have anymore and lied to me about that. I will never give any woman a shot in the Philippines if you already has her broods. Im 40 now I will have an income of about 50k USD a yr. When I move to the Philippines in 6 months. Not looking to jump into a relationship like a desperate simp.
Thanks for sharing
There’s only 2 reasons Filipina marry a foreigner have a better life have good looking kids hoping they’ll become Miss Universe or movie stars in the Philippines.
really did not know that
@@mikesphilippineretirement I’ve seen this on Facebook every time a pinay see a half breed girl they always say oh she’s so pretty she can be a Miss Universe or a movie star
Hey Mike, Mary has a good plan of her future. She just a very loyal girl that most men can be trusted even she found one after the other, but being loyal and honest to each of them is a good contribution for a very good plan through out for the future. You know when it comes to faith especially if you are a good catholic ,she was blessed for being honest and loyal to herself, she has a good reservation and loving herself first. You seldom find those kind of person nowadays, but I must salute to Mary for her blessed fortune.
Thanks for sharing Tim
Nice video, Mike, and Go, Bucks!
Good luck! and thanks
Yes nice video, Go Bucks!
@@Papi-2-U Right on, Jeffrey ... Ohio State grad here, living in the Philippines now. :)
cant wait to travel half way around the world, to get with the same bunch of 304s, i can get right here.
If the kids are registered as American Citizens and have a Social Security number they should be getting at least 50% of his social security. Even after he dies until they are 18 they should get the SSA from the USA. A stipend from the father isn't a choice if she goes after the SSA benefits. And the father doesn't need to be dead to get the SSA benefits. Now if he dies their amount may increase to 75% of his benefits.
I did not ask how much they get
@@mikesphilippineretirement even you mike get ssa on any children in your name in the ph . mine get 888 used a month when she born extra on my check.
@@hillbillyintheasia6122 This abuse of the system should be stopped. I have written members of congress.
She's smart and opportunistic as well. All the best for her kids.
yes she is
Please turn off the television behind you in future videos. It is very distracting
a lot of comments said they liked it
@@mikesphilippineretirementCommonsense would say that that is bullshit! The TV was distracting!
Sounds like health care at VA during COVID 😂
Sounds like Gary moved to Thailand, lol.
I talked to Gary he is in the States
@@mikesphilippineretirement so his story matches her?
pretty much
@@mikesphilippineretirement Good job calling Gary, Maybe next time you can mentioned things like that, it would of reaffirmed Mary's story. Another nice video. Thx.
My lady took more than a year to say she loved me.. Kindness and love worked
Smart lady
I agree and cute
Poor Mary it took her three guys to get the house finished...🥲🤣
I try and explain yhis yo many women.. you can either chase short-term cash in hand.. or you can be right and long-term you'll make out way better.. nothing wrong with this at all. She's upfront, honest, and sincere.. hoping one day I'll find one like this..
thanks for sharing
Nice story. Seem like she was straight shooter.
yes I agree with that. The men gave up not her
@@mikesphilippineretirement first one she got tired of him so family got rid of him.
Hats off to Mary, She needs to start a YT channel or write a book .
Many like her quite and just living the life handed to them
@@philmcleod111 Mary is allergic to work and you want her to do something?