@@MYLORDMOB35 I understand how it would seem that way, I was taking into account the entire context and probably should have included that in my comment. Anyone who would dump their kids on the doorstep of someone who has made it abundantly clear that they are not your on-call babysitter is irresponsible and jeopardizing the safety of their children. The bare minimum is to get confirmation before you abandon your kids with the expectation that someone else will take care of the situation you created.
@@Chris-wu2hc understandable but i would think is better to do an ultimatum stating you will do it next time it happens, i mean calling cps is the nuclear option and if its done first its a good way that even her father in that story would want to cut ties with you
The one thing that kills me as a bachelor, is people expecting the single and childless to bend over backwards like we have no life. We have a life and there are no children intentionally. Cut my trip short over a fake emergency, expect no contact potentially for life.
Exactly. If i as someone with no kids or partner wants to spend all day watching RUclips videos as my free time then I’m going to waste the full 12 hours watching RUclips no matter what else you think I should be doing.
Not only do some of us maybe not want that typical "life" they imagine, the ones who do are impeded from having a so-called "life" BY those very same people who will suck the energy and time from us so carelessly. Just because you don't have kids doesn't mean you don't have a life... and just because you HAVE kids doesn't really mean you have one, either, weirdly enough.
The mother supporting her brat of a son and not OP doesn't surprise me, sadly. And I get the feeling that the brother told mother that she would have to "step up" and babysit the kids. Which we all know her sort would never do in situations like this. Hence why she wanted OP to apologize and watch the kids.
Makes you wonder how often OP has had to put up with unfair treatment like this throughout her life. The fact that she allowed herself to be a doormat for so long suggests that she's been treated like this her whole life and was essentially brainwashed into just going along with it and doing what she's told. She probably never even realized that she has the right to say no and to refuse. I'm glad it finally dawned on her, possibly because she got a boyfriend and he helped her realize that her situation is not normal nor acceptable. Sometimes we need an outside perspective to see things for what they are.
Yup, not as much as a hint of an apology or even a non-verbal expression of regret or remorse. She'll feel so sorry for herself if/when OP goes LC or NC and especially if OP has babies of her own and her mother doesn't get to see them. Then she'll understand the consequences of her actions, but she'll never admit anything. She will play the victim until she dies.
@@cytercrazy482 I do listen to N-gex from time to time, but am not sure about secretvoices. I listen to a few reddit story channels like Really Sparked.
If I was on vacation and someone called me to tell me that someone back home was having a medical emergency and I needed to get home ASAP only to find there was no medical emergency, there soon will be a medical emergency. The level of entitlement by the brother is absolutely unreal and for the SIL to half-ass an apology just to get their babysitter back was so laughable. As much as OOP loves the kids, she should have gone NC with the brother and SIL way before the Mexico trip happened. Glad she finally is understanding how she was just being used.
I did enjoy OPs revenge. Things broken in the house. The amount of food and drinks everywhere(carpet,couch,chairs, beds,curtains, clothes,etc) bathrooms,kitchen completely trashed and covered in who knows what. Break out the honey,pancake syrup,BBQ sauce,ketchup, mustard,anything sticky and that stains. Although I couldn't stop at just that. Nails behind the tires,spray the house and a few other goodies. The scary thing is that OP keeps thinking about the brothers apology. OP will be NC with them for a bit. I don't see OP being able to stick to it. If OP does go back,everything will be all good for awhile. They will try that crap again.
@lindah3803 Honestly I love OPs revenge. I definitely wouldn't have been able to think of somethin like that before givin into the urge to send my brother and sil to the hospital.
150 dollars. For three days of constant care for children. That's a measly 50 dollars per day. or, just over 2 dollars per hour. No compensation for the ticket she needed to buy to return. No compensation for the unfinished vacation. That's only the monetary side of it. The rest, to be honest, is absolutely disgusting behaviour.
Yeah like, the logic just fails so hard. So babysitting for 8 hours a day constitutes $100 normally, so they suddenly think $150 for 72 hours is in any world acceptable, then demanded that money back?
The SIL really apologizes THEN asks for babysitting again. I must say brother and SIL are quite a pair, both entitled and delusional lol. And 80$ a day and 150$ for 3 days are crazy, not to mention they did not pay for the returning trip of the OP after using their cheap tricks and their own daughter for the circus they made
@@jordanwardle11 agreed. He might agree with op but if he was truly on her side he would’ve dealt with that spoiled brat of a son way before this ever happened.
So it’s her responsibility to take care of them, even though she’s not the parent, but also can’t punish them, because she’s not the parent? OP’s brother is annoying asf
That's because she's not there to "take care" of them, just prevent them from killing themselves or setting the house on fire. OP was supposed to just be that Bozo Bop Bag with water in the bottom; just take the hits and bounce back up to take more, not supposed to say anything
I’m surprised she didn’t pull the “They did what they wanted because I couldn’t stop or punish them” And the fact is no one is to lay hands on my kids period, but putting them in the corner or taking things away is reasonable and appropriate. I do not understand these parents who really allow their kids to do whatever and be mad at consequences. They will indeed not grow up to productive members of society period
Im sure Ive seen one of these stories where the parent never punishes the child and the child indeed grow up to believe they are law unto themselves and get into serious trouble. The one Im thinking of, it ends up with when the mother eventually has to put her foot down with her now adult child, the adult child violently assaults her in response.
Exactly if my kids goes to play with his friend, I always tell the mum if he is annoying, send him back 😂. Or just put him on the stairs until he can behave. I don’t like it when my kid misbehaves and than nothing happens , no consequences. It’s annoying asf and it’s my own kid 😂. Nothing like that happened but he is only 4 and very gentle soul, but I know from my older ones, that can change over night 😂😂😂
I love how the brother and SIL got mad at OP for letting the kids trash the house yet they dont like when they get disciplined by OP. They're clearly so neglectful of their kids that honestly CPS shouldve been involved a long time ago or the parents should atleast be involved too because they may be old and have problems, but those kids are still their grandkids and that shouldnt stop them from being involved grandparents. Im more talking to the mom whos quick to defend the brother who constantly works and drops his kids with whoever out of desperation instead of the actual hardworking OP that gives her all to do everything for herself and these kids at the same time. They deserved to have their house trashed seeing as their kids are misbehaved and they're just flat out manipulative and toxic ass people who use OP for what they want and what they want to do.
Honestly i doubt that was Nuclear. Nuclear would be to call CPS, get a restraining order and go No Contact/NC with Brother/SIL and also tell her brother to his face that he no longer is a brother of mine.
I have a feeling that the SIL went complaining to her friends and co-workers and was blasted for what she did when they heard the whole story. That's the only time she realized she was wrong and regretful of the lost reliable babysitter which prompted her to apologize.
Sounds like they didn't want to take the sacerfices parents have to make when having kids. If you want alone time, maybe don't have kids. Because having kids means you will not get alone time. Stop dumping your damn kids on people because you miss freedom.
"Leaving me with no choice but to bring them inside." Incorrect. Should've called the cops the first time it happened for child abandonment. I'd have gotten a security camera for the front entrance to record it and everything so he couldn't try to say he didn't do it.
I hate families like those. The OP is her own person with a life of her own! She’s being treated like a maid/servant (mostly unpaid) and as a convenience which is despicable. People have a life whether they are parents or not. Stop belittling people who have no kids! (And yes, I’m a mum, too)
NTA. Since the brother and his wife want to just have fun in their adult lives and not be inconvenienced by parenting: they shouldn’t have had kids. The fact they expected op to put their life on hold for their selfish bs is appalling.
OP handled the bratlings far better than I would have at that age. The moment things were being thrown at me, lil shit would have learned what it was like to not be able to sit down for a week.
She literally demanded (and received) compensation twice for watching the kids, put one of the kids on timeout, went on her trip even though they were telling her to postpone it so she could watch her brother's kids again, purposely let the kids destroy the house after she was tricked, and proceeded to cut off the toxic family members. Where is this "doormat" you speak of?
The doormat behaviour is so infuriating. Also the mother guilt tripping OP at every chance... Ugh. OP doesn't have a spine, at the end she thought she grew one but no. Her mother didn't apologize, brother was not genuine and SIL only apologized to get her to babysit the babies again. She should honestly move out of her state and go live where she is not tortured on a daily basis. Interacting with her own family seems like a torture to me.
I hope there is an update on where the brother's employer was contacted about the fake medical emergency as that could very well be illegal, along with OP installing security cameras (I don't recall OP mentioning this), parents splitting up as it seems that mother has a thing for her son & OP moving to another home that's further away.
should have called CPS instead of letting them trash their place. in fact, OP should have called CPS when her brother was being shady with leaving his kids on her door steps
Honestly should have said to them "This is not a threat, this is a warning." the first time they got bullshitted into babysitting. I'd have called CPS the moment they were gone for their "vacation"
Going forward she'd do well to go LC to NC with her mother and inform her father while she would like to continue to have a relationship with him, she's ready to do the same if he sides with the mother on this. Her mothers actions are nothing short of manipulation and abuse, and she clearly has a favorite. Setting past due boundaries is hard, and its an uphill battle, but setting yourself up as someone who wont take it anymore full circle will be better for her in the long run.
If I am on a vacation that I always wanted to go and it got cut short for a "medical emergency" only to find out everything was a lie, I'd go full nuclear tbh, THERE WOULD BE A MEDICAL EMERGENCY. But that's because I am a 6'2 dude, quite capable of creating such states.
I just don't understand how OP could allow herself to be a spineless doormat for so long before finally snapping. Had she nipped this in the bud as soon as it started it would never have developed into this mess. The brother, SIL and mother would have moped and moaned for a while but would have found a solution that didn't involve OP. She is obviously not the bad guy here, she's the victim of a nasty brother, a nasty SIL and a nasty mother and two hyperactive kids, but her spinelessness made her the bad guy to _herself._
Abuse can have different results in those who grow up. Those who will lash out, those who flow with the actions if it meant it didn't cause them harm, and some who break. Years and years....sometimes people wear down and take it. OP is a victim.
Id call cps and then sue them for the damages of having to cut my vacation short, while doing what i could to remove the custody of my niece and nephew. Their behavior is insane and unacceptable for parents.
Op is tah here for allowing "family helps family" to be the excuse for so long. As soon as they broke laptop in minimised her studies, that's it, done. The insanity of saying op needed to give money back too, like I'm positive she lost money having to leave her trip early. Glad she eventually put her foot down but was far too lenient for too long
Brother is a pinacle of "give an inch and they take a mile" mentality Volunteering sometimes to look after kids ends up in daily baby sitting of 8 hours
A grown adult man who is a doctor being such a petty entitled brat screams volumes. Also, the fact the mother actually thinks the OP should let it happen tells me she is most likely from one of those cultures who believes that a unmarried sister's "duty" is to be a babysitter for married siblings, but the mom actually saw it was too much what the brother and SIL was too far is proof she had screwed up. The way he did what he did, that proves beyond entitlement and also proof he is an unfit parent and she should have reported him not only to CPS but also his employers. Also, "Susie" also needs to be held accountable, being "sheepish" doesn't make it at all better. Letting their kids trash their house was what the OP's brother and SIL deserved. I bet they did thousands of dollars of damage for tricking her to cancel her vacation, and the OP was justified. "Susie" blatantly has gotten the hint but what she needs to do is make her husband grow up. The father really is a good man, as is the OP's boyfriend.
Former daycare teacher. A kid throw something heavy at me and it landed on my foot, and it did hurt a little. I had to pause stare at him. Then I grabbed him and put him in the corner. The other teachers in the room could that is not what I wanted to do. So the fact that all she did was put him in time out the brother really needs to be grateful.
The brother doesn’t it bother caring for his own sister life at all. I understand it’s family but still, you have to understand that if she said no it’s a no.
brother still won by having had a free/super cheap babysitter and op lost years of having a personal life and probably lesser career thanks to having learning and job impeded so much by the babysitting
What a group of control freaks who do NOT like OP having her own life. OP's family thought her as nothing more than a "doll on the shelf". As in the person according to that family. And many other families, including mine, assume that the person does not have their own life. That they just exist to be that control freak's doll to do what the CF wants them to do. In my case, it was my dad who expected me to give up my time and do it for free. Even though it took me a half hour to get to my brother's place. They didn't like the fact that I also had expenses as well as a private life. In my case currently, NO one on my side of the family knows where I live. I don't need my brother to expect me to be at his beck and call.
Ppl think this far fetched but it really isn’t far off from my family dynamics. 1) my mom allows my brothers to get away with murder while abusing her daughters all the time 2) I had a cousin who lived with us when I was younger and my made me not only care for my baby sister like she was mine but her two bad ass kids also. I was in freaking middle school taking care of three little kids from the time I got home til idk when on some days. No one paid me a penny. And then when Christmas came when I was older and had my son, because of my nature and the cuteness of my baby boy, being the first official grandson/great grandson of the family he was spoiled. I had good relations with school officials and colleges and city council and I got gift cards, nice toys, jackets, name brand clothes etc etc. and these vultures every fucking year would swoop in and demand my son and my things. And I tried to hide the gifts or open them before Christmas but it was always an issue. So I put them under the tree for all the vultures to pick at every year. We were young and didn’t know any better and we didn’t have Reddit to vent to. If I had a due over I would have stopped associating with my family 20 years ago. But the last 7 years had been blissful
As a parent this is awful, I truly appreciate when someone agrees to watch my kids especially if they don't expect payment (I will still always give them a gift of some sort for their time). Also if anyone is looking after my kids they have the right to appropriately punish my children if they are misbehaving.
Can we please ask OP why she didn't just turn around and go back on her trip? I would have. I also would've suspected my brother because of his past behaviors and being dodgy when she was asking questions about the situation.
Why would anyone force someone to take care of their kids. People really aren't concerned about what a coersed babysitter might do or say to those kids
Ive been in this position, with total of 4 nephew and nieces, but they kinda easy to look after, put on a cartoon and they will lined up watching them while giggling and laughing, all of them are grown up now, so i was have fun back then
You leave kids on my doorsteps, CPS and Cops called immediately. The audacity of the mom to say the OP should be watching the kids cause she’s working from home, meanwhile she’s retired….and at home.
I was too being forced into a student/nanny as well. Luckily for me, it was just one hyperactive nephew 😅 I had zero free time and my friends stopped inviting me to hang out. It was so devastatingly frustrating back then.
I feel like a more effective punishment would have been to just say no at the airport, then threaten to call cps if they ever abandon their kids with you again
If op is being forced to raise some kids, them op 100% has the right to punish the kids, brother doesn't like it, he van pay for a professional. Personally, I would have just either let the kids run riot, or keep them in time out the whole time. Make sure they don't want me being a free nanny anymore
Why even start a family on your own if you can't handle the responsibility. When OP disciplined the kids the brother said OP is not their Parent so she doesn't have any right to disciplined them.Exactly! OP is not their Parent so why force her to babysit your child.
They’ll pay her $100 a day versus taking them to daycare for $100 a week. Make that make sense? Well, the whole family away. sucks she won’t have a relationship with her niece and nephew, but it is what it is.
This is the consequence of lazy parenting. Yes there are definitely kids where you can parent them gently and they will listen and they're really good. But it is not universal. You cannot always gently parent most kids Didn't have to spank or lay hands on them Notice that a timeout with these kids was enough. What gets me is that the brother wants to say that you're not the parent so you can't discipline them but you want them to be the parent when it comes to watching them Tf And fyi, kids will not hate you for disciplining them. They will actually appreciate it. If you hated your parents for disciplining you then, I should absolutely hate my Asian mother. But I love her to pieces and I would do anything for her So that's a load of crap
If I was her I’d consider possibly maybe forgiving them only after they video themselves telling the kids whos fault it is op never wants to see them again and earn ops trust back ops way. Maybe she should make some emergencies of her own and inconvenience them the same way they did her.
OP had better planning than me. I would have gotten out the car and just refused to even see his kids let alone babysitting them. They might be able to trick me home, not to look after the kids
@9:30 OP is stupid for falling for her selfish brother and SIL Susie fake medical emergency. OP should have called the hospital to make sure there was a medical emergency before leaving her vacation and boyfriend. Good job Noah and lil Susie for making the home look like a hurricane 🌀 went through their home.
OP's brother sounds like when it comes to taking care of his own children to have cold feet. He knows his kids are hyper and doesn't want to deal with it. Ad far as OP allowing them to destroy the house, she did nothing wrong. Her neglecting brother would have yelled at her either way had she disciplined his kids so what else could she have done? NTAH
though this wasn't even at question: def NTA also, i really like the revenge that OP got, though it created a lot of property damage... might have been an alternative to play the brothers trick on them, like waiting the first two days of their trip and then calling them, telling them one of their kids was in an accident and needed an organ/ transfusion from a parent to make it... i mean, sometimes it can be eye-opening to narcicists when you give em a taste of their own medicine...
I’d call CPS the first time someone dumped their kids on my door step
Maybe a little exagerated, but i dont blame you. If i ever become a parent, i will try to only resort to baby-sitters as last option.
I'd call the cops get recordings and show the damages the children do to get a restraining order
@@MYLORDMOB35 I understand how it would seem that way, I was taking into account the entire context and probably should have included that in my comment.
Anyone who would dump their kids on the doorstep of someone who has made it abundantly clear that they are not your on-call babysitter is irresponsible and jeopardizing the safety of their children. The bare minimum is to get confirmation before you abandon your kids with the expectation that someone else will take care of the situation you created.
@@Chris-wu2hc Oh, that makes sense. I understand ur way of thinking.
@@Chris-wu2hc understandable but i would think is better to do an ultimatum stating you will do it next time it happens, i mean calling cps is the nuclear option and if its done first its a good way that even her father in that story would want to cut ties with you
The one thing that kills me as a bachelor, is people expecting the single and childless to bend over backwards like we have no life. We have a life and there are no children intentionally. Cut my trip short over a fake emergency, expect no contact potentially for life.
Exactly. If i as someone with no kids or partner wants to spend all day watching RUclips videos as my free time then I’m going to waste the full 12 hours watching RUclips no matter what else you think I should be doing.
Not only do some of us maybe not want that typical "life" they imagine, the ones who do are impeded from having a so-called "life" BY those very same people who will suck the energy and time from us so carelessly. Just because you don't have kids doesn't mean you don't have a life... and just because you HAVE kids doesn't really mean you have one, either, weirdly enough.
Damn you're getting killed? RIP tho
Right like everyone doesn't just only get a life when they have kids
Exactly ! I’ve kids of my own but I would never burden another, because I have kids. It seems selfish.
The mother supporting her brat of a son and not OP doesn't surprise me, sadly. And I get the feeling that the brother told mother that she would have to "step up" and babysit the kids. Which we all know her sort would never do in situations like this.
Hence why she wanted OP to apologize and watch the kids.
She knows who is her favorite child and not afraid to show it.
Makes you wonder how often OP has had to put up with unfair treatment like this throughout her life. The fact that she allowed herself to be a doormat for so long suggests that she's been treated like this her whole life and was essentially brainwashed into just going along with it and doing what she's told. She probably never even realized that she has the right to say no and to refuse. I'm glad it finally dawned on her, possibly because she got a boyfriend and he helped her realize that her situation is not normal nor acceptable. Sometimes we need an outside perspective to see things for what they are.
And in the end, the mom never appologized.
Yup, not as much as a hint of an apology or even a non-verbal expression of regret or remorse. She'll feel so sorry for herself if/when OP goes LC or NC and especially if OP has babies of her own and her mother doesn't get to see them. Then she'll understand the consequences of her actions, but she'll never admit anything. She will play the victim until she dies.
Nah, his son is the golden child for her and she is PoS.
@@ThePawerStation yeah, but the dad went after his son and not his wife....
@@Maninawigbro weren't you on the n-gex and secretvoices comments?
@@cytercrazy482 I do listen to N-gex from time to time, but am not sure about secretvoices. I listen to a few reddit story channels like Really Sparked.
If I was on vacation and someone called me to tell me that someone back home was having a medical emergency and I needed to get home ASAP only to find there was no medical emergency, there soon will be a medical emergency.
The level of entitlement by the brother is absolutely unreal and for the SIL to half-ass an apology just to get their babysitter back was so laughable. As much as OOP loves the kids, she should have gone NC with the brother and SIL way before the Mexico trip happened. Glad she finally is understanding how she was just being used.
YES! Thank God it’s not just me certain of that! Brother’s getting freaking throttled right there in the airport! Holy SHIT!
I did enjoy OPs revenge. Things broken in the house. The amount of food and drinks everywhere(carpet,couch,chairs,
beds,curtains,
clothes,etc) bathrooms,kitchen completely trashed and covered in who knows what. Break out the honey,pancake syrup,BBQ sauce,ketchup,
mustard,anything sticky and that stains. Although I couldn't stop at just that. Nails behind the tires,spray the house and a few other goodies.
The scary thing is that OP keeps thinking about the brothers apology. OP will be NC with them for a bit. I don't see OP being able to stick to it. If OP does go back,everything will be all good for awhile. They will try that crap again.
@lindah3803 Honestly I love OPs revenge. I definitely wouldn't have been able to think of somethin like that before givin into the urge to send my brother and sil to the hospital.
150 dollars.
For three days of constant care for children. That's a measly 50 dollars per day. or, just over 2 dollars per hour.
No compensation for the ticket she needed to buy to return.
No compensation for the unfinished vacation.
That's only the monetary side of it.
The rest, to be honest, is absolutely disgusting behaviour.
Yeah like, the logic just fails so hard. So babysitting for 8 hours a day constitutes $100 normally, so they suddenly think $150 for 72 hours is in any world acceptable, then demanded that money back?
The SIL really apologizes THEN asks for babysitting again. I must say brother and SIL are quite a pair, both entitled and delusional lol. And 80$ a day and 150$ for 3 days are crazy, not to mention they did not pay for the returning trip of the OP after using their cheap tricks and their own daughter for the circus they made
OP could consider the $150 an A-hole Tax, and frankly, so should the family if OP wasn't demanding trip compensation.
Only the dad and her boyfriend had her back. Her mom, brother, and SIL sound super toxic, and likely will never change.
Yep. Way to hide that favoritism mom.
Nope. That dad is the fence sitter. All words but no action
@@jordanwardle11 agreed. He might agree with op but if he was truly on her side he would’ve dealt with that spoiled brat of a son way before this ever happened.
But why should anybody have her back when she didn’t even have her own?
"Family helps family!" 😂😂
So it’s her responsibility to take care of them, even though she’s not the parent, but also can’t punish them, because she’s not the parent? OP’s brother is annoying asf
That's because she's not there to "take care" of them, just prevent them from killing themselves or setting the house on fire. OP was supposed to just be that Bozo Bop Bag with water in the bottom; just take the hits and bounce back up to take more, not supposed to say anything
I’m surprised she didn’t pull the “They did what they wanted because I couldn’t stop or punish them” And the fact is no one is to lay hands on my kids period, but putting them in the corner or taking things away is reasonable and appropriate. I do not understand these parents who really allow their kids to do whatever and be mad at consequences. They will indeed not grow up to productive members of society period
Im sure Ive seen one of these stories where the parent never punishes the child and the child indeed grow up to believe they are law unto themselves and get into serious trouble.
The one Im thinking of, it ends up with when the mother eventually has to put her foot down with her now adult child, the adult child violently assaults her in response.
@@BlueAversion Oh my freaking goodness.
Exactly if my kids goes to play with his friend, I always tell the mum if he is annoying, send him back 😂. Or just put him on the stairs until he can behave. I don’t like it when my kid misbehaves and than nothing happens , no consequences. It’s annoying asf and it’s my own kid 😂. Nothing like that happened but he is only 4 and very gentle soul, but I know from my older ones, that can change over night 😂😂😂
This is AWFUL!!!🤬🤬🤬
There is NOTHING wrong with going NO CONTACT from abusive, narcissistic, and ungrateful family members!!!🤦🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
I love how the brother and SIL got mad at OP for letting the kids trash the house yet they dont like when they get disciplined by OP. They're clearly so neglectful of their kids that honestly CPS shouldve been involved a long time ago or the parents should atleast be involved too because they may be old and have problems, but those kids are still their grandkids and that shouldnt stop them from being involved grandparents. Im more talking to the mom whos quick to defend the brother who constantly works and drops his kids with whoever out of desperation instead of the actual hardworking OP that gives her all to do everything for herself and these kids at the same time. They deserved to have their house trashed seeing as their kids are misbehaved and they're just flat out manipulative and toxic ass people who use OP for what they want and what they want to do.
OP went like : There's nothing I do better than revenge 💅
I love OP.
She went nucler and it was glorious!!
Honestly i doubt that was Nuclear. Nuclear would be to call CPS, get a restraining order and go No Contact/NC with Brother/SIL and also tell her brother to his face that he no longer is a brother of mine.
@@danieltololno it is nuclear, for $150 OP likely caused hundreds maybe thousands of dollars in damages by letting the kids run wild
Does her brother even care about his own kids? That seems like too little time with his own children.
I'm glad the dad had half decent intellegence to know that his daughter was being manipulated
Yea the dad is good, though from the sounding, a pushover, common in these cases
I have a feeling that the SIL went complaining to her friends and co-workers and was blasted for what she did when they heard the whole story. That's the only time she realized she was wrong and regretful of the lost reliable babysitter which prompted her to apologize.
Sounds like they didn't want to take the sacerfices parents have to make when having kids. If you want alone time, maybe don't have kids. Because having kids means you will not get alone time. Stop dumping your damn kids on people because you miss freedom.
OP should only be in contact with their dad. He's the only one who said no to OP babysitting
Even SIL's apology wasn't sincere because she was already harassing OP to look after the kids again and it was as bad the brother's apology.
“You’re not their parent, you don’t have the right to punish them”
??? MF YOURE THEIR FATHER BE THEIR PARENT
Her brother is detestable
"Leaving me with no choice but to bring them inside." Incorrect. Should've called the cops the first time it happened for child abandonment. I'd have gotten a security camera for the front entrance to record it and everything so he couldn't try to say he didn't do it.
I hate families like those. The OP is her own person with a life of her own! She’s being treated like a maid/servant (mostly unpaid) and as a convenience which is despicable. People have a life whether they are parents or not. Stop belittling people who have no kids! (And yes, I’m a mum, too)
NTA. Since the brother and his wife want to just have fun in their adult lives and not be inconvenienced by parenting: they shouldn’t have had kids. The fact they expected op to put their life on hold for their selfish bs is appalling.
Brother should have been clipped (as in he should have gotten a vasectomy) if he didn't want to be bother by the kids.
OP handled the bratlings far better than I would have at that age. The moment things were being thrown at me, lil shit would have learned what it was like to not be able to sit down for a week.
call the cops any time he abandons his kids at your front door and leaves
Don't have children if you can't take care of them. Your children are not anyone's responsibility but you.
Time out for a damaged laptop? Hell no, the leather belt would be flying!
WORD
Seriously, had I done something like this a a child, I would have suffered the wrath of THE ALMIGHTY CHANCLA/FLIP-FLOP !!
Bring out la chancla.
@@renadu30the freaking sound as those hit skin is unparalleled
All she did was put the kid in time out, that's a bare minimum punishment. I couldn't get over his attitude either.
"gullible" & "doormat" are the two words that best suit OP.
She literally demanded (and received) compensation twice for watching the kids, put one of the kids on timeout, went on her trip even though they were telling her to postpone it so she could watch her brother's kids again, purposely let the kids destroy the house after she was tricked, and proceeded to cut off the toxic family members. Where is this "doormat" you speak of?
The doormat behaviour is so infuriating.
Also the mother guilt tripping OP at every chance... Ugh.
OP doesn't have a spine, at the end she thought she grew one but no. Her mother didn't apologize, brother was not genuine and SIL only apologized to get her to babysit the babies again.
She should honestly move out of her state and go live where she is not tortured on a daily basis. Interacting with her own family seems like a torture to me.
Well, they did say OP wasn’t allowed to discipline the kids…
I’m gonna laugh the day they find this story is blasted ALL OVER THE INTERNET!’ And the people that know! OH THEY WILL KNOW!! Goodbye social life!
I hope there is an update on where the brother's employer was contacted about the fake medical emergency as that could very well be illegal, along with OP installing security cameras (I don't recall OP mentioning this), parents splitting up as it seems that mother has a thing for her son & OP moving to another home that's further away.
should have called CPS instead of letting them trash their place. in fact, OP should have called CPS when her brother was being shady with leaving his kids on her door steps
Wait what THE BROTHER FAKED A FAMILY EMERGENCY and the op is the asshole? Nah the brother needs a timeout instead.
Its stories like this one where I understand moving to the other side of a country amd going no contact.
Honestly should have said to them "This is not a threat, this is a warning." the first time they got bullshitted into babysitting. I'd have called CPS the moment they were gone for their "vacation"
Going forward she'd do well to go LC to NC with her mother and inform her father while she would like to continue to have a relationship with him, she's ready to do the same if he sides with the mother on this. Her mothers actions are nothing short of manipulation and abuse, and she clearly has a favorite. Setting past due boundaries is hard, and its an uphill battle, but setting yourself up as someone who wont take it anymore full circle will be better for her in the long run.
Only $80 a day? That's crazy.
She is lucky she didn't walk out as soon as the $150 value expired.
OP should have asked for $300 ($150 for each kid).
At least the Dad and boyfriend had her back. The rest of the family is trash.
If I am on a vacation that I always wanted to go and it got cut short for a "medical emergency" only to find out everything was a lie, I'd go full nuclear tbh, THERE WOULD BE A MEDICAL EMERGENCY. But that's because I am a 6'2 dude, quite capable of creating such states.
I just don't understand how OP could allow herself to be a spineless doormat for so long before finally snapping. Had she nipped this in the bud as soon as it started it would never have developed into this mess. The brother, SIL and mother would have moped and moaned for a while but would have found a solution that didn't involve OP.
She is obviously not the bad guy here, she's the victim of a nasty brother, a nasty SIL and a nasty mother and two hyperactive kids, but her spinelessness made her the bad guy to _herself._
Abuse can have different results in those who grow up. Those who will lash out, those who flow with the actions if it meant it didn't cause them harm, and some who break. Years and years....sometimes people wear down and take it. OP is a victim.
Considering the way her mother treated her this entire story is it any surprise that it took a fake emergency for her to snap?
Id call cps and then sue them for the damages of having to cut my vacation short, while doing what i could to remove the custody of my niece and nephew. Their behavior is insane and unacceptable for parents.
Op is tah here for allowing "family helps family" to be the excuse for so long. As soon as they broke laptop in minimised her studies, that's it, done. The insanity of saying op needed to give money back too, like I'm positive she lost money having to leave her trip early. Glad she eventually put her foot down but was far too lenient for too long
Not surprising that the kids were little turd buckets, considering the behavior of their parents. It sounds like the kids feel unwanted.
Brother is a pinacle of "give an inch and they take a mile" mentality
Volunteering sometimes to look after kids ends up in daily baby sitting of 8 hours
CPS asap
A grown adult man who is a doctor being such a petty entitled brat screams volumes. Also, the fact the mother actually thinks the OP should let it happen tells me she is most likely from one of those cultures who believes that a unmarried sister's "duty" is to be a babysitter for married siblings, but the mom actually saw it was too much what the brother and SIL was too far is proof she had screwed up. The way he did what he did, that proves beyond entitlement and also proof he is an unfit parent and she should have reported him not only to CPS but also his employers. Also, "Susie" also needs to be held accountable, being "sheepish" doesn't make it at all better.
Letting their kids trash their house was what the OP's brother and SIL deserved. I bet they did thousands of dollars of damage for tricking her to cancel her vacation, and the OP was justified. "Susie" blatantly has gotten the hint but what she needs to do is make her husband grow up. The father really is a good man, as is the OP's boyfriend.
Former daycare teacher. A kid throw something heavy at me and it landed on my foot, and it did hurt a little. I had to pause stare at him. Then I grabbed him and put him in the corner. The other teachers in the room could that is not what I wanted to do. So the fact that all she did was put him in time out the brother really needs to be grateful.
Creative writing at its finest
The way her brother would dump the kids off on the porch, run to his car and then call her is WILD and so dangerous
Goddamn... he did have some good memories with the kids though, and he also had revenge. Two birds in one shot.
The brother doesn’t it bother caring for his own sister life at all. I understand it’s family but still, you have to understand that if she said no it’s a no.
This is a perfect example of "play stupid games, win stupid prizes"
brother still won by having had a free/super cheap babysitter and op lost years of having a personal life and probably lesser career thanks to having learning and job impeded so much by the babysitting
She should have taken him to court and sued him for emotional damage
What a group of control freaks who do NOT like OP having her own life. OP's family thought her as nothing more than a "doll on the shelf". As in the person according to that family. And many other families, including mine, assume that the person does not have their own life. That they just exist to be that control freak's doll to do what the CF wants them to do.
In my case, it was my dad who expected me to give up my time and do it for free. Even though it took me a half hour to get to my brother's place. They didn't like the fact that I also had expenses as well as a private life. In my case currently, NO one on my side of the family knows where I live. I don't need my brother to expect me to be at his beck and call.
Ppl think this far fetched but it really isn’t far off from my family dynamics. 1) my mom allows my brothers to get away with murder while abusing her daughters all the time
2) I had a cousin who lived with us when I was younger and my made me not only care for my baby sister like she was mine but her two bad ass kids also. I was in freaking middle school taking care of three little kids from the time I got home til idk when on some days. No one paid me a penny. And then when Christmas came when I was older and had my son, because of my nature and the cuteness of my baby boy, being the first official grandson/great grandson of the family he was spoiled. I had good relations with school officials and colleges and city council and I got gift cards, nice toys, jackets, name brand clothes etc etc. and these vultures every fucking year would swoop in and demand my son and my things. And I tried to hide the gifts or open them before Christmas but it was always an issue. So I put them under the tree for all the vultures to pick at every year. We were young and didn’t know any better and we didn’t have Reddit to vent to. If I had a due over I would have stopped associating with my family 20 years ago. But the last 7 years had been blissful
That last bit sounds like it was written by ChatGPT
As a parent this is awful, I truly appreciate when someone agrees to watch my kids especially if they don't expect payment (I will still always give them a gift of some sort for their time). Also if anyone is looking after my kids they have the right to appropriately punish my children if they are misbehaving.
Nah, this is on OP. He allowed it for so long that now he gotta deal with these people expecting something from him.
im an uncle and i watched my newhews so often
the statement that "op is not a parent so she has no right to give them a time out" IS SO BIZARRE
Can we please ask OP why she didn't just turn around and go back on her trip? I would have. I also would've suspected my brother because of his past behaviors and being dodgy when she was asking questions about the situation.
It sounds to me like she enjoyed what she did instead a lot. A unique experience! :D
Hahaha 40 hour's a week is demanding? Oh, that made me laugh!
Should have said, “ok fine if I’m not the kids parents to punish them I’m not their parents to look after them and care for them.”
Why would anyone force someone to take care of their kids. People really aren't concerned about what a coersed babysitter might do or say to those kids
Serves the brother and SIL right. That was very selfish and low what they did
If you are not ready to have a kid, then DON'T. I swear the entitlement of these villains in reddit stories makes my rage boil up.
Best. Revenge. Iv ever. Heard.
(In a while)
Bro got a time out ahh these kids have it good the belt and chores is what would've awaited me
Ive been in this position, with total of 4 nephew and nieces, but they kinda easy to look after, put on a cartoon and they will lined up watching them while giggling and laughing, all of them are grown up now, so i was have fun back then
You leave kids on my doorsteps, CPS and Cops called immediately. The audacity of the mom to say the OP should be watching the kids cause she’s working from home, meanwhile she’s retired….and at home.
I was too being forced into a student/nanny as well. Luckily for me, it was just one hyperactive nephew 😅 I had zero free time and my friends stopped inviting me to hang out. It was so devastatingly frustrating back then.
I feel like a more effective punishment would have been to just say no at the airport, then threaten to call cps if they ever abandon their kids with you again
So many people believe that they’re entitled to your time
This is the gritty reboot of the Cat in the Hat
That mother is the source of the problem.
If op is being forced to raise some kids, them op 100% has the right to punish the kids, brother doesn't like it, he van pay for a professional. Personally, I would have just either let the kids run riot, or keep them in time out the whole time. Make sure they don't want me being a free nanny anymore
Damn, broken laptop? my parents would whip out ol trusty belt,chappal and hand combo for that
how did the brother NOT expect something like this to happen you cant just tear a person from there vacation like that and expect no retaliation
Why even start a family on your own if you can't handle the responsibility. When OP disciplined the kids the brother said OP is not their Parent so she doesn't have any right to disciplined them.Exactly! OP is not their Parent so why force her to babysit your child.
They’ll pay her $100 a day versus taking them to daycare for $100 a week.
Make that make sense?
Well, the whole family away. sucks she won’t have a relationship with her niece and nephew, but it is what it is.
This is the consequence of lazy parenting. Yes there are definitely kids where you can parent them gently and they will listen and they're really good.
But it is not universal. You cannot always gently parent most kids
Didn't have to spank or lay hands on them
Notice that a timeout with these kids was enough. What gets me is that the brother wants to say that you're not the parent so you can't discipline them but you want them to be the parent when it comes to watching them
Tf
And fyi, kids will not hate you for disciplining them. They will actually appreciate it.
If you hated your parents for disciplining you then, I should absolutely hate my Asian mother. But I love her to pieces and I would do anything for her
So that's a load of crap
If I was her I’d consider possibly maybe forgiving them only after they video themselves telling the kids whos fault it is op never wants to see them again and earn ops trust back ops way. Maybe she should make some emergencies of her own and inconvenience them the same way they did her.
OP had better planning than me. I would have gotten out the car and just refused to even see his kids let alone babysitting them. They might be able to trick me home, not to look after the kids
If you have no right to put the kids on time out you have no right to take care of them
mom is only acting like this because she doesnt want to get stuck babysitting her grandkids. vile
Why is there such weird belief that the person who has no children is the 1st pick for childcare
This story made my blood boil I swear to god if I was in op's place I would be facing charges for murder now
@9:30
OP is stupid for falling for her selfish brother and SIL Susie fake medical emergency. OP should have called the hospital to make sure there was a medical emergency before leaving her vacation and boyfriend. Good job Noah and lil Susie for making the home look like a hurricane 🌀 went through their home.
I would've taken the kids with my parents (grandparents) and take another vacation without letting the brother know.
What a nice used doormat.
It’s “family” this and “family” that as long as it’s the brother and what he want but “family” doesn’t matter when it involved op
OP's brother sounds like when it comes to taking care of his own children to have cold feet. He knows his kids are hyper and doesn't want to deal with it. Ad far as OP allowing them to destroy the house, she did nothing wrong.
Her neglecting brother would have yelled at her either way had she disciplined his kids so what else could she have done? NTAH
This is not a revange, cps would be much better
I swear what is with parents not taking a kids on vacation
If you can't pay for babysitter. Don't. Have. Kids.
They posted this video a couple days ago
Looks like op had fun with their revenge as well as the kids dis
though this wasn't even at question: def NTA
also, i really like the revenge that OP got, though it created a lot of property damage... might have been an alternative to play the brothers trick on them, like waiting the first two days of their trip and then calling them, telling them one of their kids was in an accident and needed an organ/ transfusion from a parent to make it... i mean, sometimes it can be eye-opening to narcicists when you give em a taste of their own medicine...