BIPOLAR DISORDER: Relationships & "Not Giving a Duck!"
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- Опубликовано: 17 ноя 2024
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This week on Polar Warriors, I'd like to share a wonderful story to inspire those who are in a relationship with someone who has Bipolar Disorder. I hope this video gives couples a different perspective when times get tough so they don't forget what's most important... Loving compromise.
PLEASE NOTE that this is simply a motivational story passed down over the years and there's no need for petty debates about its meaning in the comments. If you take any story literally, you might miss the valuable wisdom it contains ;)
I've mentioned in many videos how being the partner or spouse of someone who has Bipolar Disorder can be "challenging to say the least." It takes a lot of mutual love, patience, communication, teamwork, and KNOWLEDGE about Bipolar Disorder to maintain a healthy relationship. Sometimes this means "picking our battles" carefully and not always having the satisfaction of "being right" during a conflict. If someone is experiencing strong symptoms during an episode, it can be very difficult to see things clearly at that moment. Sometimes coming back to a conversation later (once we are more stable) can make all the difference in the world. It takes patience to leave a debate unsettled or a conversation unfinished, but that's a small sacrifice in the scheme of things to avoid a catastrophic conflict.
Lastly, I'd like to recognize all of the "Polar Warriors" out there who don't have Bipolar Disorder... Our partners! They are absolutely worthy of the title "Warrior." Maybe even "Super Warrior!" I have the deepest respect for all the amazing partners out there who work hard to help someone they love to not suffer so much. The world is a better place because of many of you. I've spoken to many partners of someone who has Bipolar Disorder and it never ceases to amaze me what some will selflessly do to help someone they love. That's why I always say the word "Partner." It is absolutely a true "partnership" that makes a relationship beautiful!
My channel is completely dedicated to helping individuals, families, and friends who struggle with, or know someone living with Bipolar Disorder. My goal is to provide actual tools, tips, and discuss topics that can potentially help “Polar Warriors” grow to live a more balanced, peaceful, and fulfilling life.
-Rob Whittaker, Polar Warriors: Bipolar Support
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-Check out my Partner, The International Bipolar Foundation for some amazing FREE Bipolar resources: www.ibpf.org/
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Thank you, as I am trying to watch this while he is blanhing the whole time and bipolarizing the house. I might have mentioned something about how he had the police escort me out of the house awhile back. I came back recently and he had a nightmare that night that he was looking for me in his house and couldn't find me. Kinda breaks my heart because it's like he is his own worse enemy when he is manic, almost as if he is his evil twin trying to destroy everything his good twin enjoys and loves. I also remember at the beginning of his episode one night, he came into tyebedroon while I was pretending to sleep and he lied next to me, hugged me, and cried. I think this moment is probably one of the more heart breaking moments that keeps me going or not give up.
Such a good message. Sometimes you just gotta go with flow, especially if it's not going to hurt anyone.
Just Another Fat Girl Talking
Going with the flow is something I really need to work on!
THANK YOU for the wonderful comment =)
-Rob
Regan Walker SAME! ugh, so broken 😂 sigh
But why is it so difficult for me to go with the flow.... that's what everyone say but how can I
It’s so nice to see there’s a community of people saying, “that’s me!” That’s me as well!
At least after everything is done, we can agree it was most likely a duck. Lovely analogy you put together.
And lol at HeiHei popping out on the screen 😄.
Your videos are the best. The person I love has bi polar disorder. They are definitely a warrior. Thank you so much for your videos, I’ve watched nearly every one. Great channel.
your videos are extremely helpful for me as a spouse of a misdiagnosed warrior .
I know the diagnosis will come soon , I just want to be the most supportive I can be without taking too much personally . thank you
I am in the same boat (storm).
as a mom of a little polar warrior this is true but can sometimes be hard for me to say your right it is a chicken so ty again for all the help you give us all
Tracey Alger thank you, you wonderful mom. 😊👏
Tracey Alger 👏 thank you for being a wonderful mom! Little warrior will be fine 😊
As a daughter with my mom seriously my best warrior, thank you. It's not easy. You're incredibly strong, patient, and loving. Thank you.
In 52. I seriously don't give a duck no more on this. I'm tired of folks crap. I luv my dog. I will take up for myself. Im not going to be a door mat. I would rather be alone.
Been subscribed to this page for ages now and it used to be a trigger for me but it was always so helpful when trying to explain my illness to people. I’m lucky enough that I found my own strength with the love and support of some amazing people, that I’m so lucky to have, to stop my cycle of damaging self medicating, get proper help and am now able to watch and learn and spread knowledge through your videos. Thank you!
I always get so much from your videos. Thank you for all the work you put into this channels
I'm so glad I can help so many people with these videos. Thanks for the kind words! They really keep me motivated to continue doing this. It takes a LOT of my life energy to do this, but I wouldn't have it any other way
That was a fun, and heart softening, video. It hits home for me and my husband. Thank you for all your sharing. Your channel helps me so much! Keep up the good work, I hope one day, I can help others like this too. You are an inspiration. Bless all the support people!
Hello Rob, so glad to see a new video - excellent as always - hope you haven't been poorly- if you have, glad you're back. Thank you. Jo
My wife said she doesn’t know what she wants or who she is and says she’s not in love with me anymore and wants space. She admitted to liking a guy and has been going out with him and talking to him a lot. She said she can have her space to find herself or divorce. This situation has happened before. She’s not sure if it’s her bipolar or her real feelings. She said her medicine isnt working and has a checkup soon and will see about med change up. I’m disgustingly sick that I have to put up with it. I’m ok with space but being so involved with another guy makes me sick and not sure if it’s something I need to put up with but she said it’s divorce if I don’t like it. I’m so conflicted. I don’t want to loose her. I know she is still there. We had a beautiful moment a few days ago that she even said felt right but it was so short lived and she is so distant and always in her phone.
Get couple therapy. Maybe you are settling too much, and the other side is not motivated to manage her destructive symptoms.
Bro, don’t settle for that trust me! I went through the same with someone for almost decade and it almost ruined me to pieces. Make sure she gets the help that is needed and make your exit before you end up even more hurt.
I'm bipolar and I wouldn't put up with it.
Run!!! I just got off the roller coaster if she hits me up again Im blocking not doing it Im seeing a therapist a healthy person comes out ruined.
Your wife's behaviour is definitely unhealthy. For her and for you. This is definitely her bipolar speaking. I suggest therapy for the both of you together. So you can discuss how her behaviour is affecting you and both of you can come to a healthy mental space and then decide what to do.
I'm happy to report that i finally have this quality in a partner. It's a wonderful thing because i'm able to ENJOY and separate home stress and not worry. Which is nice because this weekend i was asked by my mother if I needed to go somewhere "for respite for a few days" 😐 All is fine, i'm just isolating and distracting myself with my routine of RUclips and video games. I needed the duck laughs though so thanks.
YAY!!! I'm so happy to hear you have a relationship with such good qualities Disney! It's always nice to see a comment from you. You have been a supporter of the channel for so long now
Thanks, it feels great because going on four years and amazing not to have to explain or really argue about when our illness decides to show up but just ride it out. It's tough not being able to be near them but thats figured out. I like supporting something that helps me and other's without judging or questions. Sometimes wish I could do more, but grateful that i can speak freely and hopefully help others.
ohh, hi i just wanna say congratulations! :)
Harvey Lu THANK YOU! Sorry just now saw this.💜
Thank you for taking the time to do these videos.
Perfect as always 😊
very good videos as always!! very good analogy!
Hahaha cucuaricua!! Love your cute duck effects xoxo
Wow, what a great message! This is such a helpful idea, I wish I could always remember this lesson!!
Me too!
Your so amazing 😉 thanks for all the good information
Dang, I just asked you a question about this on Facebook, before clicking on this one! I WILL take this ducktale with me in the next conversation, thnx Robert
I'm so excited that you did this topic choice of discussion. I'm having trouble dealing with a bipolar friend who's turned his back on me. He chose to listen to the lies and not the truth that came from me unfortunately him and I had to part ways. To my surprise he really didn't have my back the way I had his fake friends who are fake family members. The fake ones need to be weeded out
This is just a great general life lesson !
Once I have something in my head, nothing would change it, however, my wife and I have discovered this issue and choose to approach things differently now, it is not anyways easy but for the most it works.
This is such a good analogy and really puts in to words what I’ve been trying to explain to my friends for a really long time.
Thank you for this, I can’t wait to share this with them.
I get a lot of help from listening to your videos. Thank you
You described My entire relationship lol
My husband of 5 1/2 years was diagnosed BP2 rapid cycling over 6 months ago and been excellent at following his medication/physical part of prescribed care, his diet, exercise practise is stellar & he is sober BUT he has not yet reached out for therapy/counseling to look at the emotional aspects of his illness. I tell him I love him. He says it's not for him, he will do it his way. While his moods/ cycling are a lot more stable he still rides the roller coaster (and I ride with him). He doesn't see it, is this average for someone medicated to still go up/down? I'm confused as what his normal is as I have only known the medically untreated person. Our whole relationship 7 1/2 years has been excruciatingly difficult- why I'm still with him of course is I do love him and believed him numerous times when he would 'come around'. The ride has been so dizzying that I have just recently, after stepping off the roller coaster, been able to see it was not me being 'The Problem' but him being BP. I do see a counsellor in 4 days- I have been to counselling almost twice a year for 7 years on and off. I suffered from PTSD when I meet him, was not a substance user nor depressed. I have been very depressed and on meds for it for over 4 years. We seem to trigger each other- which makes perfect sense and I can't practise loving detachment as well as I hope to each and every time I could/should. It's still a living hell. Thanks for any and all advise/support!
PTSD and dysregulation in partner is going to be very difficult even under the best of circumstances. While you two can stay in a relationship unless something changes (and you should define that with your counselor), I do not see you being best for each other as you have outlined the effects for you over the previous 4 years.
Thank you for this!
You are a hero.
I hope you're doing well! I miss your uploads but understand.
Wow this happened to me just this morning.
I am feeling so helpless. Being on the receiving end of underserving blame and abuse. Complete out of proportion responses to the simplest disagreements. Anything and everything I try and say is wrong. Spending hours and nights learning about BP. I understand enough to know she will not be receptive to accepting she needs help for this in a low state. Spending my 6th night being kicked out. Doing my best. She is the love of my life.
Hurt and angry.
hey there is any news ? same situation
Thanks again for such a wonderful Channel, I'm so lucky that my husband only sees ducks
Thank you dearheart.
3 rings love that i am bi tri polar sooooo love to be by myself yet can't be alone your videos are really helpful
I love your videos so much, I share these often with my partner and it's really helped with us understanding my condition. Have you ever done a video on committing (or difficulty committing to) projects/activities? This is something I've really struggled with. Its difficult for me to stay committed to projects I start (not always when I'm manic!) And could really use some advice. Future video topic idea? I cant be the only one!!
Great suggestion! Rob has talked a lot about that subject on Patreon, that's where he shares his more personal antidotes and this is something he has struggled with.
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Ohhhh,your not the only one!
Right now I'm so overly stressed because I have, as always, started multiple projects with great intent.
But, as always, I never finish any of them. Then i get frustrated about that, and soon its anger. I dont understand myself, but I just dont know what to do.
I absolutely get this! In every way!
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles. All patrons can contact him directly by private message and he frequently offers free phone calls!!! If you decide to join, you can mention my name and he will give you a free call. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! We have many family and friends take part. Take gentle care! 🙏
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Hahaha, this is what my parents does every time im on an episode.
i love your videos your so calm
INSTRUCTIONS FOR A BAD DAY
There will be bad days. Be calm. Loosen your grip, opening each palm slowly now. Let go. Be confident. Know that now is only a moment, and that if today is as bad as it gets, understand that by tomorrow, today will have ended. Be gracious. Accept each extended hand offered to pull you back from the somewhere you cannot escape. Be diligent. Scrape the gray sky clean. Realize every dark cloud is a smoke screen meant to blind us from the truth, and the truth is, whether we see them or not - the sun and moon are still there and always there is light.
Be forthright. Despite your instinct to say, “it’s alright, I’m okay” - be honest. Say how you feel without fear or guilt, without remorse or complexity. Be lucid in your explanation, be sterling in your oppose. If you think for one second no one knows what you’ve been going through; be accepting of the fact that you are wrong, that the long drawn and heavy breaths of despair have at times been felt by everyone - that pain is part of the human condition and that alone makes you a legion.
We hungry underdogs, we risers with dawn, we dissmissers of odds, we blessers of on - we will station ourselves to the calm. We will hold ourselves to the steady, be ready, player one. Life is going to come at you armed with hard times and tough choices, your voice is your weapon, your thoughts ammunition - there are no free extra men, be aware that as the instant now passes, it exists now as then. So be a mirror reflecting yourself back, and remembering the times when you thought all of this was too hard and that you’d never make it through.
Remember the times you could have pressed quit - but you hit continue. Be forgiving. Living with the burden of anger, is not living. Giving your focus to wrath will leave your entire self absent of what you need. Love and hate are beasts and the one that grows is the one you feed. Be persistent. Be the weed growing through the cracks in the cement, beautiful - because it doesn’t know it’s not supposed to grow there. Be resolute. Declare what you accept as true in a way that envisions the resolve with which you accept it.
If you are having a good day, be considerate. A simple smile could be the first-aid kit that someone has been looking for. If you believe with absolute honesty that you are doing everything you can - do more.
There will be bad days, times when the world weighs on you for so long it leaves you looking for an easy way out. There will be moments when the drought of joy seems unending. Instances spent pretending that everything is all right when it clearly is not, check your blind spot. See that love is still there, be patient. Every nightmare has a beginning, but every bad day has an end. Ignore what others have called you. I am calling you friend. Make us comprehend the urgency of your crisis. Silence left to its own devices, breed’s silence.
So speak and be heard. One word after the next, express yourself and put your life into context - if you find that no one is listening, be loud. Make noise. Stand in poise and be open. Hope in these situations is not enough and you will need someone to lean on. In the unlikely event that you have no one, look again. Everyone is blessed with the ability to listen. The deaf will hear you with their eyes. The blind will see you with their hands. Let your heart fill their newsstands, let them read all about it. Admit to the bad days, the impossible nights. Listen to the insights of those who have been there, but have come back. They’ll tell you; you can stack misery, you can pack despair, you can even wear your sorrow - but come tomorrow you must change your clothes.
Everyone knows pain. We are not meant to carry it forever. We were never meant to hold it so closely, so be certain in the belief that what pain belongs to now will belong soon to then. That when someone asks you how was your day, realize that for some of us - it’s the only way we know how to say, “Be calm. Loosen your grip, opening each palm, slowly now - let go.”
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I really appreciate monitoring the comment section ❤️
Thanks! 😊
Exellent !! Thank you 😃
nobody ever gets why i get so angry i swear nobody even cares to understand
Thank you for that. They don't know how to but we can understand their inability and our own XOXO
@Pam Bergner This, exactly
I feel the same way. No one gets it, because they haven't been there and suffered.
They get mad at us for getting mad! That only makes us madder! It's a vicious cycle.
It's why I have detached myself from anyone. Having no one seems to be the best way for me to live. So lonely, but at least I'm not pissing anyone of, just because I'm frustrated and angry.
I hear you. I feel lime as soon as I try to explain, it is just WAAAAYYYY too much for people to even want to try to understand it. I feel like if they cant Google a fast, instant complete answer to everything, then they dont want to spend a second trying. I feel you! Your not wrong thinking this at all.
People love to say they care, but hell, anyone can say that.
If they dont understand, it's because they can't! It's a real thing, not a google search though! They'll never understand. People on here do though. I text on here every now and then, just so I can receive a text back from polar warriors! At least I know they speak from real life experience! This has been to only 1 place I've found patients and caring still exist.
@Pam Bergner Right! WE DO Care its just we're trying to bring you back.. to us
I had a episode like that and thought it was my brain fog. And ended up divorced because of the confusion and my husband not understanding or supporting me
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. Until September 15th, he is offering free phone calls to patrons. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
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teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
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Malcolm King
My boyfriend gets agitated, sad, agitated again, t ANGRY, then sad and cries, then Angry, stuck in his head and then angry again! He can do these episodes all within a few minutes. It’s so scary, and He gets destructive and can ruin a whole night! I feel like he’s bipolar what do you think?
Very VERY helpful thank you so much
I understand what you're saying and I'm bipolar as well, severely bipolar and I have ADHD as well! Its really tough on my end but I usually don't get that mad... I'm mainly a more manic happy person in life. I'm always talking too loud over talking people and not knowing that I'm doing it, sometimes I need to be told that I'm doing it, but I get what you're saying on the story.. but it sounds to me like both of them had bipolarism! I mean I get the moral of the story but she wouldn't stop harping at him also she kept saying no it's a chicken... sounds to me like she's a little narcissistic because she has to have the right answer to and then when he kept arguing back with her she started crying she threw out the sympathy card believe me she wouldn't be crying if she didn't have to be right in that situation and she knew damn good well she wasn't going to be right he was going to keep on and so is she so I kind of understand your story but it sounds like you kind of put both of them at harping at each other and I don't think both of them are going to sit down and figure out about his episode when she's complaining all the way along the way that it's a chicken I think they're both going to have a sit down and say we don't get along on anyting you always have to be right and I always have to be right because I was married to a narcissist woman for 24 years and this woman fought up and down over nothing just to make sure she was always correct and I hate arguing even though I was bipolar it didn't get bad until I was 38, actually I wasn't even diagnosed until I was 40 but I had 17 doctors tell me I was bipolar along the way from my childhood all the way up or ADHD one of the two and then some doctor said both but I thought bipolarism back then without the internet was someone being real happy one minute and then the next minute that beat the crap out of their woman! So I said no I know I'm not bipolar I know I have panic attacks and I have a lot of anxiety and I do get depressed but I don't think I'm bipolar so I just let it go but finally when it hit home and got so bad I had to get help,but yeah I mean if my better half is going to constantly keep going at it with me about a chicken when I know it's a duck I mean you can't just give in all the time so the woman or the person that's not bipolar, if she's wrong she needs to know she's wrong, especially if she's going to keep sticking to her story go find the damn thing and prove it to her once and for all and then you'll figure out what it was then you can make your apologies I guess the still there seems to be a problem with both people on that story one that's not going to give up and the other one that's not going to give up but it seems like one person is only bipolar and I don't get that the other person must be a narcissist and believe me that does not mix well at all! Anyway good video I know you were trying to make a point there I'm just trying to make my point also I don't always have to be right and when I'm wrong I admit I'm wrong I'm a stand-up guy I definitely apologize or say I'm sorry all the time but really I don't have to because I don't argue that much being bipolar person but I can get pushed too far by one little thing sometimes, I mean really if the woman loved her man and knew he was bipolar she should have just drop the subject and said yeah maybe it is a duck who knows what it is who cares like you said, but it seem like they kept going at it both of them so there was a problem with both of them you should have addressed that it would have made the point much more stronger I think you would add to add some more things to it but I understand what you're trying to say but that really doesn't work out too well in real life, there's a lot of women that aren't understanding, my woman is very understanding and we haven't had an argument in 3 years but I've Had My Moments but not with her because I don't take them out on her and we just don't argue anyway which is a good thing because my last marriage was a mess and that's all that woman did was argue and was a narcissist 100% and pretty much 100% of those people can't be cured and they won't ever be sure because they can't even get past that one which they might have a problem they'll never admit that part they always think the whole world's messed up it's never them though, anyway have a good day bro God bless you
Thanks for putting so much time into sharing your thoughts and joining the conversation J.T. I like how videos that are "open to interpretation" start some good/interesting conversations on this channel. Hope you have a great start to your week =)
You're welcome my friend all you bipolar friends! LOL!!
Hey dude, sometimes its just not worth the argument. Peace and quiet can be more valuable :)
Genius. Rob.
✋ wait. But was it a duck?! Was this a story of a manic husband who thought he was correct or was it a story of a wife being wrong? Was it a chicken or a duck? Lol I have to know 😂
That was such a great analogy. I have a friend whom I like.. how about tips for when the duck starts to walk in?
Nobody love me, and I do not love anybody. It is my life. It is fair life.
I get what you feel completely. XOXO. All the way from Australia via SOWETO
so turn the duck into a guy shooting at you. and the quacks into shots fired. but she says its a turkey ....... NOW WHAT? because im totally at a loss
This is so true.
OMG! That sound like me and my girl.
My girlfriend always tells me to go with the flow when she is going through. And when I do she still gets upset. What can I do.
Can u tell me what problem u have to face , n how u tackle this, how her mood change and , does she ever told u that why she is with u ...or she never loved u ....plz
break up
How could we trust our selves our thoughts our feelings if we know they are sometimes not real how could we live and be effective???
marian makram u also don't trust yourself? huh i thought im the only BP like that.
Hi Rob put out a great video about how to put our thoughts on trial. It's soo good!
I have many times when I’m so torn, wondering what’s real. I often ask close friends how they would react to a situation, or whether they think my reaction or response to something is ‘normal’, just to get a benchmark. It’s a constant balance between having your own conviction vs. not being sure that you’re responding appropriately.
My boyfriend has BP. Is it typical sometimes if he pushes away so he can have space? Btw he was a former drug user and though he's on meds he still gets depressed and sleeps the world away. I just want to be there for him and hold him when I can. A VERY sweet man he is but like I said sometimes he pushes away
My
husbands episodes are days to weeks long. Its hard to watch.
What do I do if my gf is in a bad mood and projecting on me. I know not to take it personal because she’s having an episode but how do I not take it personally? Do I not say anything or is it better to counteract with positives or offer help if needed?
Not sure if my question makes sense
same problem.. i really don't know how to deal with him .. i hope we find an answer
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Hello, so I have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder while at college and my family doesn’t know yet. I’ve been struggling to tell them because i don’t think I’m gonna get support from them because they believe mental illness is something you can just get over. Any tips or advice?
This triggered me so hard. I care. The truth is the truth. I felt like they should have gone and look for the culprit making the sound. To me I instantly thought, this women is gaslighting her husband! Why
Maybe, or perhaps she could be suffering from psychosis and absolutely thinks it is real?
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You are So good.
I'm not a bad person... Yes, I have bipolar disorder but it was not my fault that I got it. I do not hurt anybody intentionally. Please do not hate on us. We are not bad people. We are just so caught up in our own head that sometimes we behave in a weird way.
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. Until September 15th, he is offering free phone calls to patrons. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
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It was something like that kind of situation that made me realize that I needed help back '10. My wife and a good friend would tell me that things were a,b,c, or maybe d, and I would've sworn that things were at least r,s,t, maybe all the way to x,y,z! I knew that they would not hurt me or straight out lie to me. Knowing that they loved me, I called the Doctor for that 1st appointment to hopefully get my problem taken care of. We know that BP at least currently has no cure, but know that GOD(1 Corinthians 15:3-4, Romans 5:8, and Ephesians 2:8-9), and others love you. Take your medications and take care of yourself(get the rest your body needs, try to eat healthier and get some exercise, and get educated about BP), and you can live well with BP. I know that it's not easy sometimes, but we're in better times to deal with BP than 20, 30, and especially 50 years ago or more. GOD be with you all whether you suffer from BP or are you a loved one who is trying to understand what is going on with your BP person. Thanks again Robert for another great video 👍.
Good story but too bad i found it after an unnecessary breakup
So its normal to have an angry reaction and want to say regrettable things? I see now my reaction made things worse but its so hard not to react or identify whats crazy talk or not.
I had no idea Bipolar was what I thought to be Delusional ?
I really want an answer to this question. What if the issue isnt a simple duck or chicken. What if the argument in question was more significant, one which would permanently alter both your and your partners life. For example moving overseas, gambling, which school to send your kids to ?
If the person is in a deep serious bipolar episode, it's not really the time to talk about serious issues. When we are in an episode, you can't tell them it's a duck or anything, we are not mentally well, everything FEELS very very real. There is also a very heavy amount of denial. It's best to get them to seek medical treatment, and unfortunately call the authorities if they are a danger to themselves or to others. When a person with Bipolar is better than you can discuss bigger issues, preferably taking in couples counselling. Take Care!!
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
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I wish I could get my wife to understand I don't mean it I be trippin and my mind be racing I start thinking everyones out to get me then I barely sleep and feel like I can take on the world. Then I crash and suffer alone cause nobody wants to be around me and I ruin everything. Shit so fucked up and what's worse is my mom has bi-polar disorder and schizophrenia and I hear it can run in the family. I do need to go see someone about this though. Been getting worse over the last few years. Smh 🤦🏽♂😞
Hi dirtyred!! I'm so sorry that you're having some trouble! In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord. Would love to have you there!
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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@PolarWarriors Thanks I appreciate it and will definitely tap in 🙏🏽
Cant seem to find any relief.
Start meds, dont work, so I give up. Suffering so bad, but I cant find relief. I've about given up hope. In everything, there's a certain percent who will just not ever find relief or help they need. Im part of that small group that is just stuck with what they have.Tried so times.
Love these videos though. I know there are tons of people who can find the help they need, and that makes me know that at least some if us can find happiness
Hi Mike! Please don't give up! There are new meds and treatments coming out all the time, many more are in the works. If you have really exhausted all options there is ECT which has helped many many people. Going to therapy can give you the support you need to find what makes you happy and the motivation to pursue it. Take gentle care!
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
Rob:
I really need your help to keep a good thing going here... PLEASE consider supporting Polar Warriors work on Patreon. Even just $1 a month makes a huge difference. Thank you so much
Also, I highly suggest getting involved with your local mental health community! You have so much to give. When we help others we help ourselves. Support groups, help lines and/or organizations.
I'm stuck. I try and try.
I just keep going in circles.
I no longer want to even be around other humans. I find I only get agitated very quickly, which turns to frustration then anger. This is constant for me.
I have found that isolation is the best to avoid all this. I also know it's not healthy at all, so I find myself as I said, Stuck. It's not fair for me to expect people to understand or even care either. It's my problem, but I cant handle it, it's too much.
Any outside stimulation is just too much for me to handle.
Therapists aren't able to understand, and I find they all just shuffle me off to the next because they can't understand this stuff. I called 13 mental health facilities within 1 1/2 hours from my house. Not 1 of them had any spots open, or they only take cash now because of how crappy this system has become. No help for me. But, if your a junkie and need mental health for the 19th time, they'll slip you right in! So 8f Islam dooe in my veins, never complete any therapy or treatment, THEEEEN I can get help????
Well, that's out! I dont use drugs, so I'm screwed because ALL focus is on Junkies who will most likely just keep doing it over again, leaving no available spots for a guy like me who genuinely needs and WANTS, actually WANTS the help!!!!!!
@@PolarWarriors
So much to give????
No I don't. That reminds me of all the therapists I've seen.
Tell me and say things that they have no idea about me.
You have so much to offer......how does anyone that's never met me know that?
Your a wonderful person.....how do they know that?
Your so strong .....again, how do they know that?
I have been able to see through all this and have discovered that all have been trained the same way, from the same books, from the same doctors who wrote them, so all the protocols and systems are already set in stone. They all go off the same couple different patterns, some that were used 60 years ago! Never updated! So, I sit there and listen to the same lessons over and over, never personalized at all. No emotion, no real world experience. Just read it from a book and apply it to ever single therapy session, for ever single patient!?!?!? This is were and why I have totally given up on finding help. My last therapist couldn't wait to hear me tell her that this isn't helping me! She could wait to hear it! She was so relieved because she obviously did not have the proper training for someone as bad as I am! This is the biggest problem for getting help. Now, this generation is only there for a paycheck! And as easy of one as possible! A challenging case, or a difficult one is not what they signed up for!
I'm sure there's therapist that do care, are properly trained and find that diverting away from 60 year old curriculum is far better and helps far more people, but not where I live!
13 different places within 75 miles and no one can help me???? Something wrong here
Sir do you also provide counselling....or in your patron or something by source that online counselling can be provided by your side to the person suffering from this..kindly ease share any info regqrding this
Hi Knighted honour, Rob does do one on one coaching on Patreon either by phone or private message. There will be a link below! Take care!
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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@@PolarWarriors can you please tell in what plan he does one on one and what is the duration of it..a little explaination so that one can go accordingly
So what happens when they don't acknowledge how much the last episode hurt?
Hi Peppa! In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord.
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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Thanks 🎉
Thank YOU for watching 🤩🤩❤️🎉🎉
Is it possible that people who have bipolar disorder not really care about other people? Use them to their advantage and discard them when they're not needed anymore? Is that a symptom of bipolar disorder? My bipolar female friend told me that she uses people for what she wants people for and that's it. Yet others in her life claim that she's bipolar. Is this common for people who suffer with a disorder? Low empathy?
I have a video titled, Bipolar people suck that might help you understand.
-Rob
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Check out the "funny duck story", by Song Drops. So funny it does relate. It is funny
Can you please to a video on bipolar and addiction I'm going through it and I can help you with the information I've gathered
Already have one =) ruclips.net/video/KfnptgDOvNo/видео.html
You either accept them as they are or you don't
Quack, quack!
I'm going thru some heavy stuff with my bp girlfriend. It isn't as simple as "duck/chicken" (I wish) but it's basically almost weekly (starting on Wednesday's) for several , consecutive days. She wants to break up with me, then she doesn't want to. I'm a "this and that bad man" then, I'm perfect and she so loves me so much...she wants to marry that's her latest reason for her falling apart (for less of a better term) and well...how can I? Firstly, we've only been together less than 6 months She's not at all consistent, does things that I'm starting to be suspicious of, and well, she did say she f'd around on her last husband years ago with seven other guys in four year ,period and says, "it wasn't her fault, she had to because her husband at the time couldn't physically love her right" (?), and well - I'm sorry for your disorder but there's no way I'm putting my house, etc. in jeopardy for this. I love and care about her but she's always on the attack and I feel that I may be the reason for this enflaming this turmoil of hers. Example...a couple weeks ago, I drove over a half hour to check on her...passed out in a cold house on the floor after some heavy drinking. "My fault" (meaning me), she says...my question is - is it? Would she be better off with me out of the picture. I'm seriously considering...
Hi Anthony! I'm really sorry, you're in a really tough place. In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord where we have a lot of partners who attend. Ge also has a specific group for partners and family as well. Would love to have you there!
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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Hi Anthony! I'm so sorry that you're in a tough spot right now! In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord where we have a lot of partners who attend. Ge also has a specific group for partners and family as well. Would love to have you there!
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Anthony, you need to take care of yourself first. I had a similar relationship for 18 months. While I was definitely not the most mature person at the time and I did and said some things that I now regret as we would trigger each other, the lessons of my self-care and to be more protective of my boundaries were amazing and absolutely worth it in hindsight even though it was one of the toughest things I've ever done. We don't speak anymore as I needed to create a lot of space between us to keep myself safe.
I would suggest looking into Ross Rosenberg's work on "human magnet syndrome" and SLDD.
I hope you can find some love for yourself and a relationship that is full of care, kindness, co-creation and synergy.
So I don’t get it, who is the one with bipolar disorder in this story? If it is the man I would say that he is bent for a life in a sea of stupidity for some peace and quiet. Why should one put up with her ignorance and obvious lack of reason this way?
Eric Wedin it is the wife who has bipolar. The ‘lack of reason’ is her bipolar talking. She is sure it’s a chicken and when she’s told it’s not, it becomes a source of extreme pain for her and causes her a great deal of distress. It’s really not about the chicken, it never is.
0:14 got em :D
WOW
Really. Bi-polars should marry bi-polars. End of story.
Nooooo it will be much more harder
I’m not marrying anyone!!
I can tell you this, stay away from people who have a Personality Disorder. It can be hard, because they often find us.
😂hahha