Radical Acceptance: Key to Narcissistic Family Detachment
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- Опубликовано: 30 июл 2024
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3 Secrets to Emotional Detachment : Radical Acceptance
00:00 - Intro
01:01 - Denial Increases Chronic Anxiety and Stress
04:47 - Accepting Reality can Reduce our Anxiety
08:27 - Radical Acceptance is a Guide to Taking Action for Yourself
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DISCLAIMER: This video is not intended to substitute for professional counseling help. Be sure to consult a professional in helping you with these integrate and utilize these concepts.
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Loved this video and loved Jerry's comment up here
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Excellent video. I needed this. My sister is the narc. I went no contact a year ago. After years of hoping and thinking she would change, I realized that's not going to happen. "Not accepting reality causes chronic suffering". So true. "Suffering is optional, pain is not". Thank-you!!
I cut my family off for a year. I have been going through waves of feelings including sadness, guilt and anger. Right now I find myself in the anger phase, where memories will suddenly pop up in my mind and I think of the pain I went through and how my family mocked or added to that pain. I feel like I’m almost reliving painful parts of my life all over again. I need to get a grip on this.
I wish I could get my brother to watch and understand this. I hate seeing him suffer. He’s such a good hearted person.
Discovering you only a week ago has already been transformative. This channel delves deeper than others. I can't thank you enough.
Welcome to the family Elizebeth. You are so welcome, I hope to continue being part of your self differentiation journey
Even though there's pain in the process, at least you get a Sense of closure when you accept what can't and won't be changed.
When guys like Jerry take his time to do what he does in a podcast, that's truly God's work. Many of us who grew up like we did find a a treasure chest of aha moments with this fellow. God bless this man
Generations of reality denying. Ok wow what a truth you just released. It’s crazy yet true and we have suffered. Thank you
I'm lucky to be here based on where I came from!!! Brilliant!!! Instead of should be further along!!! Thanks Jerry. You are a treasure ☺
You are very welcome, I'm glad you enjoyed the video. Keep up the great work!
Amazing video!
My parents have blown past my boundaries, twice now, regarding my husband and I's marriage regarding our jobs and church as well!!
It is rude, non of their business and they excuse it with saying "well, we're your parents and we care about you and worry." 🤦🏻♀️
They even USED God to cross this boundary just last weekend. "God told me to bring it up..."
It's not ok. It's not treating me like an adult. It's unacceptable.
I am now taking a break from my parents, I don't know how long...all I know is that I do need to work on radical acceptance of them and my family, that I am the black sheep and that I need space to continue to heal and grow.
They've shot themselves in the foot, unfortunately.
But I am good!
I had to accept that my mother is incapable of loving me,I tried real hard as a scapegoat even after she literally tried to kill me.but".she "claims I tried to" kill "her.( and I was the child 🙄I use to think how could she nt remember the event?she is nowhere near healing and a normal healthy relation is nt gon happen with her neither the other siblings.she guilt me to get me serve the family now Im drain financially so she is dangling a treat so she can contol my truths.This was what was painful she live her lies and she never change.choosing you is radical
This video is wonderful and so needed. It deserves more likes. Thank you Jerry. The thought that I can make peace with reality rather than box with it and try to change it brings me so much relief.
everyone talks about the importance of acceptance (big book, too). And it's not really hard to see how important it is. But nobody, literally nobody, explains just how one accepts smth. What exactly does one have to do, what actual tangible actions does one have to take in order to reach acceptance. Nobody seems to know
You must turn your attention inward as much as possible
Alanon talks about Awareness-Acceptance-Action. My understanding is without proper acceptance we will repeat what has happened. For me accepting the pain that a situation has caused is what prevents me from getting into a similar situation.
Thanks Jerry! I love using the principles of acceptance and detachment. Especially with difficult people. It’s the only way to preserve our sanity and serenity. One day at a time, we can heal and learn how to better ourselves without judgement.
Wonderful! I love listening to you! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for being part of the family❤️
Love you Jerry. Thank you. You are a life changing influence. A force of positive growth.
Thank you for your kind words. You are very welcome, I’m glad my work is helping you❤️
I’ll have to play this over and over and over again today. Thank you for putting it here for times like these.
Thank you so much Jerry. You are helping me in a very painful healing journey, thanks to your amazing videos like this one I am able to slowly change my perspective, grow and move forward with my healing. Have a great week and bless you!
JerryI’ve said this before and I’ll say it again. I love your videos because you give examples which are extremely helpful.
I have gained a deeper understanding of detachment in this video series. I am able to put these tips into practice more and more! Thank you Jerry !!
Love you, Jerry.
Thank you Maria, I appreciate you ❤️
The problem is I do not want to relate to them at all. But circumstances mean I have to (elderly parent). I have several boundaries that I enforce successfully. But what is left is a husk. Just shows the relationship for what it is now. Nothing.
But I liked your “friend Mary” example where there are some positives but lower expectations and simple boundaries to put in. I also like the difficult brother example, where there is some acceptance of pain and limitations. And where self care also increases.
In my parent’s case I have all the necessary boundaries I can and have no expectations. But the pain of having basically a (fake) relationship with someone you don’t want to is what is there.
9:00 boundaries are self-focused
Thank you VERY much! You helped me considerably with this video - gave me wind of my own freedom which at times I can block with denial, without even realizing it. I love this video.
I’m glad the video was helpful❤️
This is so helpful in so many areas of my life!
Mr. Wise. Thank you sincerely. What your therapy suggests is actually doable.
Thank you, I found this video very helpful, and I will be working on radical acceptance when it comes to my family of origin and even other people in my life.
Glad it was helpful!
Wonderful!
Thank you!
Thank you, Jerry ❤️❤️
You are very welcome!❤️
watched this a few times to digest. watch difficult and uncomfortable to hear as usual but resonated. much appreciated as always Jerry.
Such quality information! Thank you!
Glad it is helpful!
Thanks Jerry.
Yaaaaay video #3. Keep up the great videos best buddy Jerry😝😏😏💜
Thanks a lot Jerry!!
Thank you so much !
Thank you for examples! 👍
Huge help in understanding.
Jerry, Wow… thank you so very much. I’ll be listening often to this discussion. Thank YOU.
Thank you!
Thank you ❤️
You’re welcome Jennifer 😊 Thank you for being part of the family ❤️
Really helpful
14:00 rebutting self shame of “should”, also self talk examples throughout later part of video
THANK YOU!!
You're welcome!
Thank you, so mutch wisdom
You are so welcome
Wonderful talk. Thank you
You are so welcome :)
I Like To Listen To Your Advice. I'm Used To Being Shoehorned Into A Narritive That Very Cramped And Unchanging And Unquestionable. So I Like To Hear There Is Another Way. A Better Way. Could Take Decades To Implement Though. I Find Self-Study And Self-Change A Long Drawn Out Gruelling Process. Every time I Think I'm Making Some Progress, Life Shoots Back Don't Let Yourself Get Carried Away With Yourself!!!
GLORY TO GOD WOW YES
Would it help if I do not accept that it is what it is? Another great video that gets me out of denial.
Dear Jerry, thank you for this wonderfull video (and also for all the others). My problem is that I fall into this kind of unacceptance over and over again. Just when I think I succeded and can accept what is, I catch myself thinkin this negative tjoughts again. How can I prevent these relapses?
Guess my whole family took an oath to liking liverwurst if we like it or not as kids . All now adults, all will say: I like Liverwurst". Loss of self in family systems.
Hi Jerry, how would you distinguish between pain and suffering? Thanks, Sam ( London)
I am using pain and suffering these ways
Pain is what we feel when we realize a difficult thing or belief (more acute)
Suffering is what we do when we chronically have pain ongoing due to our denial (chronic pain=suffering).
The article I refer to shares this distinction between pain and suffering.
Thank you for watching Sam
Problem is, what if u are already ill and you cannot recover...
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Did she remove the pastors volume? Or was that my phone?
Thank you ❤
You're welcome 😊