How was her onboarding handled. She should have been told during onboarding how colleagues address each other. If there is hierarchical respect, each new hire must be taught. However, Dr. Abati should not have corrected her on air. It was an opportunity to get back to HR to correct things and inject this into corporate culture. We have a slogan in my HR consulting firm “If you don’t train them, don’t blame them”. I love you ladies. Keep going on strong.
Thank you, thank you, and thank you once again! Even if the television station has a name use policy for its operators, it is NOT the job of an ON-AIR personality to enforce it! It is a Director of Programs job or if this is a direct report to a News Director, such a person's job to address off the bloody air! I should know after all I ran a whole radio station in Nigeria before any of these people became broadcasters!
@@jaiyeolaolaribigbe6518 It is abuse but then it would have become an institutional abuse since it is the institution enforcing such an abuse which would not be his fault. I however would have thought his education would have prepared him to not become an abuser of his position but then what do I know, this is Nigeria! We think abusive behavior is a mark of strength of being!
Point of correction, none of the crew member refer to him with his first name, they all refer to him as Dr. Abati. I know this because I watch Arise News Morning show regularly.
Mr. Reuben Abati took it personal. He was trading the traditional way of addressing seniors in our society. That is understandable. But, professionally, there is nothing wrong with that because they are colleagues. Globally, it is a common practice, colleagues in the media industry address each other by their names. It doesn't mean that she was being disrespectful. Profession and Tradition are two different things.
Maryiam, the other ladies that sit with him on the morning show have never referred to him as Ruben. They always refer to him as dr. Abati. Don’t state what you are not sure of, the least you can do is research so you don’t mislead your audience.
You are very correct sir /ma. Ojy Okpe and Tudun Abiola(Arise Tv ladies) do not call him Abati but Dr Abati. Ladies on your view should please correct this erroneous submission given to the general public.
She was deliberate and emphatic in persistently repeating Reuben after he had jokingly indicated to her he did NOT want to be addressed as Reuben. That is disrespectful. People MUST learn to address people the way they "demand "to be addressed. Period. I live and work in a first world country and I know you MUST adress people the way the want to be addressed. You can not call me in a way I indicate that i DON'T want to be called.
Absolutely ridiculous, i saw this incident live from here in USA, I like Dr Abati, initially I thought he was joking, but in hindsight he was actually rude to the young lady,she was reporting a very serious news ,also she was talking to a colleague , albeit a senior colleague in Dr Abati, nevertheless he was her colleague and,so there was no need for all that formality on live camera,Africa or no Africa,we cannot carry our culture all the time on tv when you are broadcasting to an international audience, using all those titles that we use in Nigeria or Africa as a whole, like chief Dr, mrs,engineer this or madam that when you are broadcasting on live tv, you simply report your news and say over to you Reuben or Isioma, or Nkechi, or Fumi and move on just like they do everywhere else, could she have said over to you dr Abati, maybe , but it was not absolute necessary,don’t tell me that is the western culture,that they call each other by their first names,yes they do, but they can be formal also when the time comes, but not when you are reporting on live tv, Japan has a strong culture just like Nigeria or African countries , on tv they still go by first names,here in America on CNN,no one is bigger than Wolf Blitzer or Anderson Cooper, their correspondents regularly call them by their first names, i am sure when they get to the corridors of CNN offices , they most likely will refer to them as Mr, but on the screen , simply first names will do , even at times most people here will tell you to drop the titles and just call them by their first names,so I thought Dr Abati was rude to the young reporter on live tv and totally wrong,he made a fool of himself in my opinion,she could have said Dr Abati, but i don’t think it was necessary at that particular time, i know a lot of doctors have a problem when you don’t refer to them as doctors, but on broadcast tv, it was not that necessary, the news was more important
Reuben Abati was definitely out of order. He felt 'entitled '. We all know his works and acts not only in journalism but as a Presidential rep. If he feels so offended, he should resign. That was victimiising the reporter. He should apologise .
Dr Abati should apologies to that lady. He is not operating journalism in his village. Journalism international standard refers to colleagues by first name He even said mannerless young people
Thank you, he should apologize and get off the air and go be a king somewhere so he can get called by all his preferred titles! I was a broadcaster before him, I got called my first name, period and he should know that is the professional standard!
@@childrentoys4537 And you have not told any of us why you disagree with us. Just because you disagree with us does not change the facts on the ground so until you tell us what the bases of your disagreement is, your disagreement does not make any difference to us. And while you are telling us your disagreement bases, please remember to tell us which radio or television station you have worked with or managed as a broadcaster!
The Ladies and other crews on the show address him as 'Dr Abati' as against what Miriam said. The only person that address him by his first name is Mr. Emmanuel Efini and reason is because they were mates in the university.
And try there is the problem. When you get on the air as a broadcaster, IT IS NOT ABOUT MATE! I told Gani Fawehemi, he was not going to say things his opponent could not respond to in my life studio unless he was showing me DOCUMENTED bloody proof such a thing which would have made our discussion about his documented proof instead of him just throwing words around and I referred to him as Gani. Not Lawyer Gani Fawehime or SAN ANYTHING! He was older and at the height of his fame as a human rights lawyer in Nigeria and that did not change anything for me when he walked into my studio to talk about the Lagos state Governorship elections against then Bola Tinubu! We let these idiotic expectations of someone is OLDER, POWERFUL or has TITLE constrain us from doing our jobs and that is what you have expressed here! If he does not want to be called his first name, he should get that into the policy of the station that no one, not just him should be referred to on FIRST NAME BASES! This would mean, he too does not get to call anyone else by their first name before his is older! That is what needs to happen and until that is the case, he is wrong and unprofessional, period!
Ruben acted unprofessionally, he was never a trained broadcaster, he read theater art and delved into print journalism bfor broadcasting, Mary did what the ethics of the profession thought her to do, no wonder she was not muffled at the charging and intimidation of Ruben, Ruben disgraced himself In the face of Millions if viewers and told the world much about his deficit of broadcasting nomaatic conventions Mary am proud of you If Ruben want to be called brother Ruben, let him find another job
She isn't the first person to call Reuben by his name, but i think one of the things that irritated him was the sequence to which she kept repeating his name.. also professional or not their is a sequence to which a younger person keeps repeating ur name & it becomes disrespectful.. but to her defense i think why she repeated calling his name in such sequence was due to the poor internet.. but he didn't see it from that perspective! Well for both of them it's another learning curve in their profession!
Dr Reuben is naturally a very funny person, factual and principled. I came to realise this after watching him on TV severally for years. He could also be petty in his asertions and this is why he's well respected. The correspondent should have quickly apologized to him being a well trained African lady that knows our culture. Dr Reuben values, promotes and respects Nigeria's culture and deserves same. He couldn't have reacted otherwise. He respects his guests on TV so much so that I sometimes almost find faults with it. Dr Reuben is older and more senior in career to the young correspondent and she should know this fact. She's a Nigerian and reporting within Nigeria. The elders say, a child that was not trained at home will be trained by force outside. Don't get me wrong please, this is not about professional ethics but cultural values.
Yet you demand the woman doing her job should have rewarded what you respect as one of Abati's virtues which according to you is "PETTINESS" with an immediate apology as according to you this is Africa and "PETTINESS" is a virtue to be worshipped! Fuck your "culture"! This is about professionalism and that is all the victim here which is the woman, and the target of your friend's PETTINESS should focus on and care about! My goodness, I weep for Nigerians!
Real young Igbo People use prefix; such as Dede, Dede'm or Dee for male - eg.: Dee Reuben, Dede Chukwuma, Dede'm Eguzoikpe; and Daa or Daa'm for female - eg.: Daa Ngozi, Daa Morayo, Daa'm Abike, as well, to show respect for elder ones. Your caller is so wrong to say that young Igbo People call their elders by first names.
Point of correction the both ladies don't call him by his name, i guess you don't watch Arise news broadcast. The lady was disrespectful kalas👌 they call him Dr Abati
The lady's use of his first name repeatedly may have rubbed him the wrong way, but his response was an embarrassment. It showed him off as lacking character
No emotional intelligence. Just big for nothing with big grammar usage from big dictionaries on the side. A national disgrace to his mother and all women with sons that look up to him.
Mr Abati is too proud.who are you that somebody your co journalist cannot address you by your first Name ? you must humble youreself else you be debase.
Mr. Ruben Abati is a human like we all. We are Africans and we show respect to our elders also by the way we talk to seniors. The young woman was very wrong in the way she called him. Can she call her father or mother like that? This rubbish co called Western thing is getting out of hand. Even here in Germany, people will ask you first if they can address you by your name. We have culture, for God sake.
To be honest "were you there at my naming?" I didn't know what it meant until today. It is not what I'm used to hearing. And to address Tope's last point, if oyibo corporate culture in a certain organization is to address theirselves on first name basis and you still go ahead to call your boss Mr. ABC or Mrs xyz, you will actually make them feel uncomfortable. Actually, they will not be excited about it. You may even have someone pull you aside to address it! In conclusion, the station needs to determine the name calling culture and retrain staff on it
I do not know who these people on the media landscape in Nigeria are but this is the media, it is a PROFESSIONAL standard to refer to one another on first name bases on the air! That is the standard during a broadcast. I do not understand this nonsense this host is saying, in a climate in which there is a professional standard! Your idiotic Nigerian expectation that age is more important than your professionalism is such a horrible thing to see expressed on a major television network! To the host of this show, your personal preferences do not matter, the question remains what are the station's prefix usage standards and if there is no such standard then this old man just abused his position to demean a colleague, period? That should be the question and beyond that, it is sad that these fools on the screen are mixing their culture of DEFERENCE with broadcast standards and norms and trying to impose it on others who are them and that is a shame! In my day as a broadcaster in this same Nigeria, we will take that idiotic veteran of a fossil of a broadcaster off the air, period because he acted unprofessionally! I was in broadcasting before any of these fools in Nigeria, everyone called me by first name, Denis! This is how we destroy a profession, when fools like the host here on screen will inject her own personal preference into a professional standards discussion! If you do not want people to call you by your first name, get the heck out of broadcasting and go get a job as a KING of somewhere! Until today, everyone calls me Denis, even in my own private Facebook community of thousands of people! Nigeria, respect is not a one-way street because of your age! Respect does not belong in broadcasting, professionalism does and if that is the measure, a twenty-year-old could be the most valued face of your network and you might not have to demean such a person because you are older!
@@asd_911 God bless you. I actually heard about someone who newly moved from Nigeria and was working in a corporate environment abroad. He frequently addressed his supervisors and older bosses as Sir as he did back in Naija. One day, he was pulled aside by HR and told that he was making those individuals feel awkward/uncomfortable and he was not fitting into the company culture. He was forced to adjust ASAP. 😆
@@asd_911 Tope CLEARLY said (at the end) that it is the ones at work who choose to ignore work rules on how to address workmates and STILL call their colleagues by TITLES would ALWAYS FIND FAVOUR and she added a common 'proverb' cited in a religious book. She linked it all in her final comment which was that she would APOGISE TO REUBEN if she was the young lady correspondent based in Romania. But these women never said the lady should be apolgised to. PROBLEM!
I concur! Uncle Yori, for instance!🤦🏽♀️🤔 I can’t wrap my head around that one on a news show! How about calling political looters and miscreants “honourable?!”, how dishonourable!!😳🤔 “Your excellency”, “all protocols observed”, “Chief Pastor Engineer JP!!” (Jerusalem Pilgrim! How? Why?!!) We so like titles! Kai! In church, it’s Sister, Brother, Deacon and so ok…..if you don’t add the title….hmm…, you’re not “going to heaven o!!” If you’ve distinguished yourself in any field, I guess your title won’t matter one way or the other. Even Prof Akinyemi calls Reuben, “Dr Abati”….maybe because he’s been in the media space for a while and has held some form of public office….or perhaps “old skool” form of respect🤔🤔 I’m aware that no title will take you to heaven o!!😂 Even HE Eliza (our very own Mama Charlie!) go be Eliza in heaven, please God🙏🏽😁😘 Respect is key. When you give it, you’d get it back in abundance, one way or another. It’s not only by titles. I could say “sister lagbaja, abi ori yin buru ni?!!”🤦🏽♀️😂😏. The video appeared to me though, like the lady was finding it difficult to hear him in her own noisy location and looked like there might have been some time delay in the comms device or network, that made her continually repeat herself without taken cognisance of Reubens (beg your pardon Dr Abati PHD) increasing irritation!!! What would someone with an MD now do o!?🤔😂 After sooo many years training to be an MD! Anyway! Let’s correct in love. Company standards need to be communicated clearly to EVERYONE and perhaps personal preferences also. Moving on……! One love ❤️ Shalom🙏🏽💐 Ps: “But don’t make the mistake of thinking that referring to someone by title or name is necessarily the same as showing someone respect. I respect my parents and call them Mom and Dad. I respect my wife, friends, siblings, etc., and refer to all of them by name” (copied)
I think he just lost whatever respect she ever had for him. He disrespected himself addressing her that way. It is not every culture in Nigeria that adds a "title" to someone's name.
This is even not about culture, this is actually a very clearly defined professional practice to refer to your colleague on the air by his or her first name, period! It is right there in the professional standards of broadcasting, I should know, I used to be a broadcaster myself who got called by everyone by my first name! If this Abati wants to change the known and widely recognized practice for a profession he did not create or invent, he should put that policy in a written form as his station's policy and even then, he should understand he cannot scold those who violate his policy on the air, period! His behavior was totally UNPROFESSIONAL, and it is a shock that Nigerians are attempting to defend this in the name of some culture! If Abati so enjoys his dammed culture, let him go be a traditional ruler somewhere away from broadcasting, period!
We are such hypocrites when we want to evolve to be seen as international (what is international?) and yet we want culture to be honored. His bias was glaring, he looked down on her and believes she is below him (Like he did not accept such things when he lived abroad) yes, he has a good history career wise but he was off saying what he said on air. He was rude and condescending to the lady.
God bless you sisters. An African was brought up to respect elders. Forget this your international standards that was formulate to favour white cultures.
To me I think she provoked him. There are ways she can use his first name to call him but still in respective way. The problem we have in Nigeria is that we always put our culture aside on the basis of am in abroad or internationalising what is not. Respect is reciprocal
This is even not about respect, this is about professionalism and this Abati person acted UNPROFESSIONALLY, period! I should know, I was in broadcasting long before this Abati in the same Nigeria!
For me, we're not getting it right saying other analysts with Dr. Reuben Abati call him Reuben, NO. They address him Dr. Abati but not adding Dr. annoyed him badly. Let's take note of this, had it been he added Dr., he wouldn't be angry.
In Nigeria, as pharmacist, we don’t call our colleagues by first name, we address each other as “Pharm.So so so”. It’s our culture, let’s just stick to it.
Regardless of how Ruben felt, he shouldn't have "corrected" her on TV. It was extremely unprofessional of him and rude. He should of informed her off air and in a professional setting how he likes to be addressed. That lady meant no harm, she was just doing her job. Although they work in Nigeria, that company should outline the culture of how colleagues should reference themselves to each other. I like the point made, that if it was a non-nigerian would Ruben have done the same thing. Also all nigerian culture is not the same. Now all Nigerian know to call him Dr. Abati. Also I feel that Nigerian's abuse titles, and their demand for respect. They take it too far.
I concur! Uncle Yori, for instance!🤦🏽♀️🤔 I can’t wrap my head around that one on a news show! How about calling political looters and miscreants “honourable?!”, how dishonourable!!😳🤔 “Your excellency”, “all protocols observed”, “Chief Pastor Engineer JP!!” (Jerusalem Pilgrim! How? Why?!!) We so like titles! Kai! In church, it’s Sister, Brother, Deacon and so ok…..if you don’t add the title….hmm…, you’re not “going to heaven o!!” If you’ve distinguished yourself in any field, I guess your title won’t matter one way or the other. Even Prof Akinyemi calls Reuben, “Dr Abati”….maybe because he’s been in the media space for a while and has held some form of public office….or perhaps “old skool” form of respect🤔🤔 I’m aware that no title will take you to heaven o!!😂 Even HE Eliza (our very own Mama Charlie!) go be Eliza in heaven, please God🙏🏽😁😘 Respect is key. When you give it, you’d get it back in abundance, one way or another. It’s not only by titles. I could say “sister lagbaja, abi ori yin buru ni?!!”🤦🏽♀️😂😏. The video appeared to me though, like the lady was finding it difficult to hear him in her own noisy location and looked like there might have been some time delay in the comms device or network, that made her continually repeat herself without taken cognisance of Reubens (beg your pardon Dr Abati PHD) increasing irritation!!! What would someone with an MD now do o!?🤔😂 After sooo many years training to be an MD! Anyway! Let’s correct in love. Company standards need to be communicated clearly to EVERYONE and perhaps personal preferences also. Moving on……! One love ❤️ Shalom🙏🏽💐
Miriam, you do not know what you are talking about. Tundun & Ojy call him Dr. Abati. If she was white and raised abroad, l can understand. She showed disrespect. I would have preferred him to talk to her in private but Dr. Abati is not like that. He never said what Morayo and her producers said he said to her. Bottom line, teach your kids to be respecful. Everyone called the late actress as aunty Pat. I call my Director Dr. cos he has a doctorate degree and l asked him how he would prefer to be called. Others call him by his 1st name but l don't.
@@abbysotomi2457 why should a white person get a pass to call him Ruben?!... She (white person) de Nigeria and is Ruben's colleague, right? Shouldn't the white person conform to the "culture" as well?!. It no be her (white person) land. The Nigerian reporter was not rude by any means. She was doing her job. In journalism school they don't teach you how to reference a coworker. In addition, ones " cultural" beliefs should NEVER enter a workplace. So does that mean when greeting a Yoruba coworker who is older than me I should prostrate on the ground or kneel ??????? That is "Nigerian culture" therefore prostrating or kneeling should be practiced in the workplace too ? 🤷🤷🤷. The way some people are acting as if she called him out his name. She couldn't hear due to the environment of the airport and to confirm if he heard her she called his name. His name his mama and papa gave. Therefore on the show his name on the screen, and how he addresses himself should be changed to Dr..... (that's if it's not already). Nigerians think anything is disrespectful and it's to the point they can't differentiate. But as soon as it's an non-nigerian that disrespect is no longer valid.
@@fine9ja Thank you for your different perspective. We can agree to disagree. I stand my opinion. Nobody is asking anyone to prostrate or kneel down to greet anyone if that is not your culture. However, l am a proud Yoruba woman. I tell my older colleagues here, that if l was back at home l would have to call them aunty. So, we compromise by me calling them Ms. or Mr. My children’s friends call me Mrs. Southerners in America have a very respectful culture. We are tearing the fabric of our culture in the name of westernization. I don’t want to make this a tribal issue cos l have SE Friends who are even more respectful than me. I guess we would have to define lines to cross in journalism in Africa and especially Nigeria. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
The caller that referred to Ibo is wrong for that stereotype, Ibo's have culture and respect for age. Having said that, I want to put it here that one of the challenges facing Nigeria is this attitude of copying and copying the white man that never bothered to copy anything from us. Dr. Abati has earned himself some academic qualifications that has overtime given him a title of "DR" why wouldn't she call him by that?
Dr. Abati should not have corrected the lady online, he should have used this opportunity to train her on how to call people older than her during live interview.
Hmmm. Oro po ninu iwe kobo. Sincerely none of the morning show analyst calls him Reuben. He is referred to as Dr. Abati. Like Tope said emotional intelligence sometimes supercedes Profesionalism so as to last long.Anywhere you get to, look, observe and 👀 how things are done, then you follow suit including how some particular people within the organisation are treated and even called. Realities are different from laid down rules sometimes. We also have unstated codes and rules which an individual must decode by himself or by herself. Dey no dey tell one before you adjust. Nevertheless, she should be forgiven and definitely she will adjust.WE ARE AFRICANS. Well done ladies of your view👏.
We carry this Oyinbo standards too far…. Even Oyinbo acknowledges Phd in interviews, however Dr. Abati was wrong in the way he addressed the situation. My kids don’t call their teachers by name, its Mr. Mrs. Ms. blah blah in the abroad. We have an identity crisis, why address someone differently than you would in a social setting in the name of Oyinbo standards.
The reporter is not Abati's kid, she was doing her job and he is her colleague, she does not have to call him anything beyond his first name on the air! This was not a personal conversation between the two of them; it was a professional interaction between professionals on the air! He was not a guest, he was the host and he had not business scolding his colleague on the air!
You are using the Teacher-and-classroom kids comparison??? Nigeria is in deep trouble than Herdsmen and kidnappings! And this was even a sensitive case of returnees form a WAR ZONE! Nigerian Mindset is on fire! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Morayo, your introduction was wrong too. He is Dr Reuben. Also, she is not Abike Dabiri. She is Hon. Abike Dabiri. You guys should be as courteous as possible. These are African stations..
The personal contact was not right.. The lady would have go formal or official, the ceremonious language were absent..Mr Ruben felt that his dignitaries, seniority, etc where deprived.
Would Reuben Abati have reacted the same way to international anchors when being interviewd? Why do we like to hide under this " culture" of a thing when professionalism is involved? This correspondent was doing her job professionally, period. Please let's call a spade a spade. Mr. Reuben should apologise to the lady for the embarrassment he caused the lady.
There is cultural étiquette. There are ways of addressing people. Normally your friends address you by your first name. There are other ways of addressing people eg sister, brother, Aunty Mr. Ms Mrs. Having traîned abroad some persons adopt the culture of training. I think one should stick to conventional étiquette and address persons with à Title until given permission to do otherwise by the individual.
Nooooo Mariam, the other ladies on the show do not call him by his name. The other ladies on the show ( ojy okpe and Tundun Abiola) call him dr Abati not Reuben.
Very interesting discussion, even though my company here in the USA uses a first name bases may of us still put a Mr or Ms in from of that first name when addressing each other.
To be fair, everybody on that show refers to him as Dr. Abati. Please ladies of #yourview you can watch some of these clips online. They have never referred to him by name. It’s always Dr. Abati. We have a culture, it is should be respected.
I wonder how we loose our heritage all because we are copying rubbish from the west. TVC if forming judge of all, if Arise TV thinks Dr. Abati is wrong they would address that. Though I'm of the opinion that Dr. Abati shouldn't have reacted while on Air but then we are all human probably that's not the first time she has done it.
The point is he is not Abati but Dr. Abati. He should be addressed as Dr. Abati. It's offensive not to address him as a "Doc". So this has got nothing to do with culture. It's unprofessional to even call him Mr or Uncle Abati.
I love Nimah for correcting them that Arise anchors don’t refer to Dr Abati by name, they call him Dr Abati, the only person who call him Reuben is Mr Ifini (The news paper man) he was Dr Abati’s class mate, even Tudun Abiola will refer to Micheal Wilson (white elderly British man) as “Mr Wilson” Dr Abati should not have reacted that way on air, he should have corrected her off air. I stand by culture.
It is this kind of arrogance that has kept the contraption called Nigeria on its knees for decades. With this breed of individuals in the spheres of socio-politics of Nigeria, all hope is lost.
Point of correction ladies, Tundun and Ojinika, jinnix, or any other lady or men, apart from Emmanuel Efini, who is Dr. Abbati's school mate, never addressed Dr. Abbati by first name, they address him as "Dr Abbati".
The other ladies on the ARISE TV show do not call Reuben Abati by his name o! NO SIR!! I listen to the show all the time!! They call him Dr. Absti on set! Dr. Abati. That is what they call him all the time!
There should be a coporate culture and values, with this in existence, the issue will be addressed. Also,another point of correction is that those on the show with Ruben Abati used to call him Dr. Abati. The issue of the schools attended should not come in, we are all the same irrespective of the Alma matter. Thanks for doing a great job.
Delayed 🎤 microphone response was one key he needs to put into consideration talking about his years in journalism. His tribal part to over period.🤷🏾♂️
Ruben acted unprofessionally, he was never a trained broadcaster, he read theater art and delved into print journalism bfor broadcasting, Mary did what the ethics of the profession thought her to do, no wonder she was not muffled at the charging and intimidation of Ruben, Ruben disgraced himself In the face of Millions if viewers and told the world much about his deficit of broadcasting nomaatic conventions Mary am proud of you If Ruben want to be called brother Ruben, let him find another job
Much more is expected from the lead presenter. South West or not does not mean we should not be respectful. Understand that many people are listening to you so let's make our contributions with consideration so that you don't make people look stupid. Forget South West or not, a disrespectful person is disrespectful. So Dr Abati did what should be done. Moreso, mannerism isn't good too in public speaking.
The two ladies on Arise don't call Dr Abati by name oh.Tundun and Ojy don't.
How was her onboarding handled. She should have been told during onboarding how colleagues address each other. If there is hierarchical respect, each new hire must be taught. However, Dr. Abati should not have corrected her on air. It was an opportunity to get back to HR to correct things and inject this into corporate culture. We have a slogan in my HR consulting firm “If you don’t train them, don’t blame them”.
I love you ladies. Keep going on strong.
This is an organisational issue. The management of Arise needs to address the culture within the organisation.
Thank you, thank you, and thank you once again! Even if the television station has a name use policy for its operators, it is NOT the job of an ON-AIR personality to enforce it! It is a Director of Programs job or if this is a direct report to a News Director, such a person's job to address off the bloody air! I should know after all I ran a whole radio station in Nigeria before any of these people became broadcasters!
Could he have reported her for his ordinary FIRST name called in the first place? That's not a form of abuse. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@jaiyeolaolaribigbe6518 It is abuse but then it would have become an institutional abuse since it is the institution enforcing such an abuse which would not be his fault.
I however would have thought his education would have prepared him to not become an abuser of his position but then what do I know, this is Nigeria! We think abusive behavior is a mark of strength of being!
I just love you, ladies, for being truthful on many issues, the man should be called Doctor Abati period!
The lady is a reporter, so she did nothing wrong. Imagine on air a reporter refer to him as Dr Abati, the other one Ichie, Alhaji. NONSENSE.
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@@bestmonarch1090 what is this🤣🤣
Point of correction, none of the crew member refer to him with his first name, they all refer to him as Dr. Abati. I know this because I watch Arise News Morning show regularly.
Correct.
Exactly guy!!!
Correct
Correct Victor,it’s referred to as Dr abati,except me Efini,the newspaper review guy
God bless you 🙌🙌🙌
Mr. Reuben Abati took it personal. He was trading the traditional way of addressing seniors in our society. That is understandable. But, professionally, there is nothing wrong with that because they are colleagues. Globally, it is a common practice, colleagues in the media industry address each other by their names. It doesn't mean that she was being disrespectful. Profession and Tradition are two different things.
No sir, they call him DR ABATI
Morayo also called him REUBEN.
I think he seems too senior for today's contemporary media industry
No they call him Dr. Abati
The correction was made during the show that his colleagues call him Dr. Abati.
Mariam, other ladies call him Dr Abati not by his name.
Maryiam, the other ladies that sit with him on the morning show have never referred to him as Ruben. They always refer to him as dr. Abati. Don’t state what you are not sure of, the least you can do is research so you don’t mislead your audience.
I was about to respond to that when I stumbled on your comment.
They always refer to him as Dr. Abati
You are very correct sir /ma. Ojy Okpe and Tudun Abiola(Arise Tv ladies) do not call him Abati but Dr Abati.
Ladies on your view should please correct this erroneous submission given to the general public.
They call him Dr. Abati and not by his first name.
She was deliberate and emphatic in persistently repeating Reuben after he had jokingly indicated to her he did NOT want to be addressed as Reuben. That is disrespectful. People MUST learn to address people the way they "demand "to be addressed. Period. I live and work in a first world country and I know you MUST adress people the way the want to be addressed. You can not call me in a way I indicate that i DON'T want to be called.
Mariam, the ladies on the show with him address him as DR Abati
The girl in question is a reporter. She did nothing wrong. The organisation should set the record.
The other ladies in the studio with him referred to him as Dr Abati
Absolutely ridiculous, i saw this incident live from here in USA, I like Dr Abati, initially I thought he was joking, but in hindsight he was actually rude to the young lady,she was reporting a very serious news ,also she was talking to a colleague , albeit a senior colleague in Dr Abati, nevertheless he was her colleague and,so there was no need for all that formality on live camera,Africa or no Africa,we cannot carry our culture all the time on tv when you are broadcasting to an international audience, using all those titles that we use in Nigeria or Africa as a whole, like chief Dr, mrs,engineer this or madam that when you are broadcasting on live tv, you simply report your news and say over to you Reuben or Isioma, or Nkechi, or Fumi and move on just like they do everywhere else, could she have said over to you dr Abati, maybe , but it was not absolute necessary,don’t tell me that is the western culture,that they call each other by their first names,yes they do, but they can be formal also when the time comes, but not when you are reporting on live tv, Japan has a strong culture just like Nigeria or African countries , on tv they still go by first names,here in America on CNN,no one is bigger than Wolf Blitzer or Anderson Cooper, their correspondents regularly call them by their first names, i am sure when they get to the corridors of CNN offices , they most likely will refer to them as Mr, but on the screen , simply first names will do , even at times most people here will tell you to drop the titles and just call them by their first names,so I thought Dr Abati was rude to the young reporter on live tv and totally wrong,he made a fool of himself in my opinion,she could have said Dr Abati, but i don’t think it was necessary at that particular time, i know a lot of doctors have a problem when you don’t refer to them as doctors, but on broadcast tv, it was not that necessary, the news was more important
He is usually addressed as Dr Abati.
Somebody has said a fact here.
@@onimisimayaki8980 exactly my point, he’s Dr. Abati, better still, why not refer to him as Mr. Abati?
Reuben Abati was definitely out of order.
He felt 'entitled '. We all know his works and acts not only in journalism but as a Presidential rep.
If he feels so offended, he should resign.
That was victimiising the reporter. He should apologise .
Dr Abati should apologies to that lady. He is not operating journalism in his village. Journalism international standard refers to colleagues by first name He even said mannerless young people
Thank you, he should apologize and get off the air and go be a king somewhere so he can get called by all his preferred titles! I was a broadcaster before him, I got called my first name, period and he should know that is the professional standard!
#StraightBackToVillage💯💯💯💯💯🔥🔥🔥🤣
I disagree with you guys above.
@@childrentoys4537 And you have not told any of us why you disagree with us. Just because you disagree with us does not change the facts on the ground so until you tell us what the bases of your disagreement is, your disagreement does not make any difference to us.
And while you are telling us your disagreement bases, please remember to tell us which radio or television station you have worked with or managed as a broadcaster!
The Ladies and other crews on the show address him as 'Dr Abati' as against what Miriam said. The only person that address him by his first name is Mr. Emmanuel Efini and reason is because they were mates in the university.
Very true 👍🏾
And try there is the problem. When you get on the air as a broadcaster, IT IS NOT ABOUT MATE! I told Gani Fawehemi, he was not going to say things his opponent could not respond to in my life studio unless he was showing me DOCUMENTED bloody proof such a thing which would have made our discussion about his documented proof instead of him just throwing words around and I referred to him as Gani. Not Lawyer Gani Fawehime or SAN ANYTHING! He was older and at the height of his fame as a human rights lawyer in Nigeria and that did not change anything for me when he walked into my studio to talk about the Lagos state Governorship elections against then Bola Tinubu!
We let these idiotic expectations of someone is OLDER, POWERFUL or has TITLE constrain us from doing our jobs and that is what you have expressed here! If he does not want to be called his first name, he should get that into the policy of the station that no one, not just him should be referred to on FIRST NAME BASES!
This would mean, he too does not get to call anyone else by their first name before his is older! That is what needs to happen and until that is the case, he is wrong and unprofessional, period!
You are correct I wonder how they missed the part we’re the other co hosts calls him Dr Abati
You ladies are wrong. The other two ladies on the morning show always call him Dr Abati
All the International news I watch they call their colleagues by their first Name..
It's strange the way He attacked her on LIVE TV...
They refer to him as Dr Abati
They refer him as Dr Abati..so mariam please be careful,why mixing the issues...Dr Abati not "Reuben"..we are african.
Ruben acted unprofessionally, he was never a trained broadcaster, he read theater art and delved into print journalism bfor broadcasting, Mary did what the ethics of the profession thought her to do, no wonder she was not muffled at the charging and intimidation of Ruben, Ruben disgraced himself In the face of Millions if viewers and told the world much about his deficit of broadcasting nomaatic conventions
Mary am proud of you
If Ruben want to be called brother Ruben, let him find another job
She isn't the first person to call Reuben by his name, but i think one of the things that irritated him was the sequence to which she kept repeating his name.. also professional or not their is a sequence to which a younger person keeps repeating ur name & it becomes disrespectful.. but to her defense i think why she repeated calling his name in such sequence was due to the poor internet.. but he didn't see it from that perspective! Well for both of them it's another learning curve in their profession!
Dr Reuben is naturally a very funny person, factual and principled. I came to realise this after watching him on TV severally for years. He could also be petty in his asertions and this is why he's well respected. The correspondent should have quickly apologized to him being a well trained African lady that knows our culture. Dr Reuben values, promotes and respects Nigeria's culture and deserves same. He couldn't have reacted otherwise. He respects his guests on TV so much so that I sometimes almost find faults with it. Dr Reuben is older and more senior in career to the young correspondent and she should know this fact. She's a Nigerian and reporting within Nigeria. The elders say, a child that was not trained at home will be trained by force outside. Don't get me wrong please, this is not about professional ethics but cultural values.
Yet you demand the woman doing her job should have rewarded what you respect as one of Abati's virtues which according to you is "PETTINESS" with an immediate apology as according to you this is Africa and "PETTINESS" is a virtue to be worshipped! Fuck your "culture"! This is about professionalism and that is all the victim here which is the woman, and the target of your friend's PETTINESS should focus on and care about!
My goodness, I weep for Nigerians!
@@denis-demenace-ogi Hmmm! I don't need to type again! I am following your thread of comments on here and couldn't agree more! 💯❤🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
@@jaiyeolaolaribigbe6518 Thank you. JO!
I need to watch the video before I can make any further comment. Good discussion ladies.
I have seen over time on international media where people apologise on their mistake but am yet to hear an apology from him Mr Abati
Real young Igbo People use prefix; such as Dede, Dede'm or Dee for male - eg.: Dee Reuben, Dede Chukwuma, Dede'm Eguzoikpe; and Daa or Daa'm for female - eg.: Daa Ngozi, Daa Morayo, Daa'm Abike, as well, to show respect for elder ones. Your caller is so wrong to say that young Igbo People call their elders by first names.
Pls tell them oh
@@ndukaanyim6466 Imeela, Nduka. CHUKWUOKIKE gọzie gi.
He called to share HIS experience
@@asd_911 Traditional reality is vital.
That was a classic caller who was/is blindly biased against the stereotype that Igbos don't have respect. Can you imagine? 💯
Point of correction the both ladies don't call him by his name, i guess you don't watch Arise news broadcast. The lady was disrespectful kalas👌 they call him Dr Abati
The lady's use of his first name repeatedly may have rubbed him the wrong way, but his response was an embarrassment. It showed him off as lacking character
No emotional intelligence. Just big for nothing with big grammar usage from big dictionaries on the side. A national disgrace to his mother and all women with sons that look up to him.
@@jaiyeolaolaribigbe6518 it was really a very embarrassing episode. And no one tried to save the situation. So sad
Mr Abati is too proud.who are you that somebody your co journalist cannot address you by your first Name ? you must humble youreself else you be debase.
pride pride pride goeth before a fall
I don't agree with you guy's on where u said ojy okpe and tundu don't address by calling him reuben, they call him Dr abati.
Mr. Ruben Abati is a human like we all. We are Africans and we show respect to our elders also by the way we talk to seniors. The young woman was very wrong in the way she called him. Can she call her father or mother like that? This rubbish co called Western thing is getting out of hand. Even here in Germany, people will ask you first if they can address you by your name. We have culture, for God sake.
He is Reuben
Dr Reuben
He used to be Mr Abati
Wale you lie
To be honest "were you there at my naming?" I didn't know what it meant until today. It is not what I'm used to hearing.
And to address Tope's last point, if oyibo corporate culture in a certain organization is to address theirselves on first name basis and you still go ahead to call your boss Mr. ABC or Mrs xyz, you will actually make them feel uncomfortable. Actually, they will not be excited about it. You may even have someone pull you aside to address it!
In conclusion, the station needs to determine the name calling culture and retrain staff on it
They will see you as trying to curry favors so it will not work for the person who tries to be different.
I do not know who these people on the media landscape in Nigeria are but this is the media, it is a PROFESSIONAL standard to refer to one another on first name bases on the air!
That is the standard during a broadcast. I do not understand this nonsense this host is saying, in a climate in which there is a professional standard! Your idiotic Nigerian expectation that age is more important than your professionalism is such a horrible thing to see expressed on a major television network!
To the host of this show, your personal preferences do not matter, the question remains what are the station's prefix usage standards and if there is no such standard then this old man just abused his position to demean a colleague, period? That should be the question and beyond that, it is sad that these fools on the screen are mixing their culture of DEFERENCE with broadcast standards and norms and trying to impose it on others who are them and that is a shame!
In my day as a broadcaster in this same Nigeria, we will take that idiotic veteran of a fossil of a broadcaster off the air, period because he acted unprofessionally!
I was in broadcasting before any of these fools in Nigeria, everyone called me by first name, Denis! This is how we destroy a profession, when fools like the host here on screen will inject her own personal preference into a professional standards discussion! If you do not want people to call you by your first name, get the heck out of broadcasting and go get a job as a KING of somewhere!
Until today, everyone calls me Denis, even in my own private Facebook community of thousands of people! Nigeria, respect is not a one-way street because of your age! Respect does not belong in broadcasting, professionalism does and if that is the measure, a twenty-year-old could be the most valued face of your network and you might not have to demean such a person because you are older!
@@asd_911 God bless you. I actually heard about someone who newly moved from Nigeria and was working in a corporate environment abroad. He frequently addressed his supervisors and older bosses as Sir as he did back in Naija. One day, he was pulled aside by HR and told that he was making those individuals feel awkward/uncomfortable and he was not fitting into the company culture. He was forced to adjust ASAP. 😆
@@asd_911 Tope CLEARLY said (at the end) that it is the ones at work who choose to ignore work rules on how to address workmates and STILL call their colleagues by TITLES would ALWAYS FIND FAVOUR and she added a common 'proverb' cited in a religious book. She linked it all in her final comment which was that she would APOGISE TO REUBEN if she was the young lady correspondent based in Romania. But these women never said the lady should be apolgised to. PROBLEM!
@@UK-sm4co I love your example. Do you think Reuben's rant was a 'company' culture issue or a 'tribal' culture issue?
Please is Ruben not his name? Ruben should not have mix emotion with professionalism on live Tv.
Mister or Doctor dey him birth certificate?
@@bobmasterlee875 😂😂😂 I tired ooo.that was egoistic nature about him.
President is addressed as Ur excellency, lawyer are Ur lord while kings are refferd as Ur majesty and so on and so forth..
Nooooo they refers to him as Dr Abati
I concur! Uncle Yori, for instance!🤦🏽♀️🤔 I can’t wrap my head around that one on a news
show! How about calling political looters and miscreants “honourable?!”, how dishonourable!!😳🤔 “Your excellency”, “all protocols observed”, “Chief Pastor Engineer JP!!” (Jerusalem Pilgrim! How? Why?!!) We so like titles! Kai! In church, it’s Sister, Brother, Deacon and so ok…..if you don’t add the title….hmm…, you’re not “going to heaven o!!” If you’ve distinguished yourself in any field, I guess your title won’t matter one way or the other. Even Prof Akinyemi calls Reuben, “Dr Abati”….maybe because he’s been in the media space for a while and has held some form of public office….or perhaps “old skool” form of respect🤔🤔 I’m aware that no title will take you to heaven o!!😂 Even HE Eliza (our very own Mama Charlie!) go be Eliza in heaven, please God🙏🏽😁😘 Respect is key. When you give it, you’d get it back in abundance, one way or another. It’s not only by titles. I could say “sister lagbaja, abi ori yin buru ni?!!”🤦🏽♀️😂😏. The video appeared to me though, like the lady was finding it difficult to hear him in her own noisy location and looked like there might have been some time delay in the comms device or network, that made her continually repeat herself without taken cognisance of Reubens (beg your pardon Dr Abati PHD) increasing irritation!!! What would someone with an MD now do o!?🤔😂 After sooo many years training to be an MD! Anyway! Let’s correct in love. Company standards need to be communicated clearly to EVERYONE and perhaps personal preferences also. Moving on……! One love ❤️ Shalom🙏🏽💐
Ps: “But don’t make the mistake of thinking that referring to someone by title or name is necessarily the same as showing someone respect. I respect my parents and call them Mom and Dad. I respect my wife, friends, siblings, etc., and refer to all of them by name” (copied)
I think he just lost whatever respect she ever had for him. He disrespected himself addressing her that way. It is not every culture in Nigeria that adds a "title" to someone's name.
This is even not about culture, this is actually a very clearly defined professional practice to refer to your colleague on the air by his or her first name, period! It is right there in the professional standards of broadcasting, I should know, I used to be a broadcaster myself who got called by everyone by my first name!
If this Abati wants to change the known and widely recognized practice for a profession he did not create or invent, he should put that policy in a written form as his station's policy and even then, he should understand he cannot scold those who violate his policy on the air, period!
His behavior was totally UNPROFESSIONAL, and it is a shock that Nigerians are attempting to defend this in the name of some culture! If Abati so enjoys his dammed culture, let him go be a traditional ruler somewhere away from broadcasting, period!
@@denis-demenace-ogi And the church said AMEN to this comment! This shows WHY WE ARE WHERE WE ARE AS A NATION!!!💯💯💯💯💯💯
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What is wrong is wrong if the etiquette of the job allows you to address everyone with their first name,why call her out on air, that man was wrong.
We are such hypocrites when we want to evolve to be seen as international (what is international?) and yet we want culture to be honored. His bias was glaring, he looked down on her and believes she is below him (Like he did not accept such things when he lived abroad) yes, he has a good history career wise but he was off saying what he said on air. He was rude and condescending to the lady.
I love the show no bias sentiment. Our culture have to be respected
Reuben is a bully....
God bless you sisters. An African was brought up to respect elders. Forget this your international standards that was formulate to favour white cultures.
To me I think she provoked him. There are ways she can use his first name to call him but still in respective way. The problem we have in Nigeria is that we always put our culture aside on the basis of am in abroad or internationalising what is not. Respect is reciprocal
Let's change this culture. Respect in Nigeria is eye service.
This is even not about respect, this is about professionalism and this Abati person acted UNPROFESSIONALLY, period! I should know, I was in broadcasting long before this Abati in the same Nigeria!
Honour begets honour you are right ladies
What is so special about him. It's only here that a man would want to be addressed by Sir. What a shame on him.
For me, we're not getting it right saying other analysts with Dr. Reuben Abati call him Reuben, NO. They address him Dr. Abati but not adding Dr. annoyed him badly. Let's take note of this, had it been he added Dr., he wouldn't be angry.
If you are not playing the video why are you discussing it
Also what kind of Dr is he? where did he graduate from- curious
In Nigeria, as pharmacist, we don’t call our colleagues by first name, we address each other as “Pharm.So so so”.
It’s our culture, let’s just stick to it.
Regardless of how Ruben felt, he shouldn't have "corrected" her on TV. It was extremely unprofessional of him and rude. He should of informed her off air and in a professional setting how he likes to be addressed. That lady meant no harm, she was just doing her job. Although they work in Nigeria, that company should outline the culture of how colleagues should reference themselves to each other. I like the point made, that if it was a non-nigerian would Ruben have done the same thing. Also all nigerian culture is not the same. Now all Nigerian know to call him Dr. Abati. Also I feel that Nigerian's abuse titles, and their demand for respect. They take it too far.
I concur! Uncle Yori, for instance!🤦🏽♀️🤔 I can’t wrap my head around that one on a news
show! How about calling political looters and miscreants “honourable?!”, how dishonourable!!😳🤔 “Your excellency”, “all protocols observed”, “Chief Pastor Engineer JP!!” (Jerusalem Pilgrim! How? Why?!!) We so like titles! Kai! In church, it’s Sister, Brother, Deacon and so ok…..if you don’t add the title….hmm…, you’re not “going to heaven o!!” If you’ve distinguished yourself in any field, I guess your title won’t matter one way or the other. Even Prof Akinyemi calls Reuben, “Dr Abati”….maybe because he’s been in the media space for a while and has held some form of public office….or perhaps “old skool” form of respect🤔🤔 I’m aware that no title will take you to heaven o!!😂 Even HE Eliza (our very own Mama Charlie!) go be Eliza in heaven, please God🙏🏽😁😘 Respect is key. When you give it, you’d get it back in abundance, one way or another. It’s not only by titles. I could say “sister lagbaja, abi ori yin buru ni?!!”🤦🏽♀️😂😏. The video appeared to me though, like the lady was finding it difficult to hear him in her own noisy location and looked like there might have been some time delay in the comms device or network, that made her continually repeat herself without taken cognisance of Reubens (beg your pardon Dr Abati PHD) increasing irritation!!! What would someone with an MD now do o!?🤔😂 After sooo many years training to be an MD! Anyway! Let’s correct in love. Company standards need to be communicated clearly to EVERYONE and perhaps personal preferences also. Moving on……! One love ❤️ Shalom🙏🏽💐
@@oladare1278 🤣🤣🤣....you nailed it 🔨📌. This needs to be posted up front so everyone can read it.
Miriam, you do not know what you are talking about. Tundun & Ojy call him Dr. Abati. If she was white and raised abroad, l can understand. She showed disrespect. I would have preferred him to talk to her in private but Dr. Abati is not like that. He never said what Morayo and her producers said he said to her. Bottom line, teach your kids to be respecful. Everyone called the late actress as aunty Pat. I call my Director Dr. cos he has a doctorate degree and l asked him how he would prefer to be called. Others call him by his 1st name but l don't.
@@abbysotomi2457 why should a white person get a pass to call him Ruben?!... She (white person) de Nigeria and is Ruben's colleague, right? Shouldn't the white person conform to the "culture" as well?!. It no be her (white person) land. The Nigerian reporter was not rude by any means. She was doing her job. In journalism school they don't teach you how to reference a coworker. In addition, ones " cultural" beliefs should NEVER enter a workplace. So does that mean when greeting a Yoruba coworker who is older than me I should prostrate on the ground or kneel ??????? That is "Nigerian culture" therefore prostrating or kneeling should be practiced in the workplace too ? 🤷🤷🤷. The way some people are acting as if she called him out his name. She couldn't hear due to the environment of the airport and to confirm if he heard her she called his name. His name his mama and papa gave. Therefore on the show his name on the screen, and how he addresses himself should be changed to Dr..... (that's if it's not already). Nigerians think anything is disrespectful and it's to the point they can't differentiate. But as soon as it's an non-nigerian that disrespect is no longer valid.
@@fine9ja Thank you for your different perspective. We can agree to disagree. I stand my opinion. Nobody is asking anyone to prostrate or kneel down to greet anyone if that is not your culture. However, l am a proud Yoruba woman. I tell my older colleagues here, that if l was back at home l would have to call them aunty. So, we compromise by me calling them Ms. or Mr. My children’s friends call me Mrs. Southerners in America have a very respectful culture. We are tearing the fabric of our culture in the name of westernization. I don’t want to make this a tribal issue cos l have SE Friends who are even more respectful than me. I guess we would have to define lines to cross in journalism in Africa and especially Nigeria. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
The caller that referred to Ibo is wrong for that stereotype, Ibo's have culture and respect for age. Having said that, I want to put it here that one of the challenges facing Nigeria is this attitude of copying and copying the white man that never bothered to copy anything from us. Dr. Abati has earned himself some academic qualifications that has overtime given him a title of "DR" why wouldn't she call him by that?
With his qualifications from SAME set of white peoples education?
Mariam you lied; the two ladies ( ojy and tundun) never call reuben or abati but Dr abati
Lie is a strong word people. Let us us find other ways/words to differ on other people's opinion.
Action speaks louder than voice
LOVING the wig Morayo!
The problem I have is that this matter should have been dealt with off aur not on air for every one to see. That's the problem
Everyone has name so no one should think his or hers more important than the other
Dr. Abati should not have corrected the lady online, he should have used this opportunity to train her on how to call people older than her during live interview.
He is always addressed as Dr Abati
I blame the organisation. HR policy is unique to organisations. The HR should do their jobs and communicate clearly to their staff, period.
The two ladies on the show refer to him as Dr. Abati.
Hmmm. Oro po ninu iwe kobo. Sincerely none of the morning show analyst calls him Reuben. He is referred to as Dr. Abati. Like Tope said emotional intelligence sometimes supercedes Profesionalism so as to last long.Anywhere you get to, look, observe and 👀 how things are done, then you follow suit including how some particular people within the organisation are treated and even called. Realities are different from laid down rules sometimes. We also have unstated codes and rules which an individual must decode by himself or by herself. Dey no dey tell one before you adjust.
Nevertheless, she should be forgiven and definitely she will adjust.WE ARE AFRICANS.
Well done ladies of your view👏.
The other lady call him dr abati
But one thing I'm sure the co anchor on the show do refer to him as 'Dr Abati'. and not by his first name.
We carry this Oyinbo standards too far…. Even Oyinbo acknowledges Phd in interviews, however Dr. Abati was wrong in the way he addressed the situation. My kids don’t call their teachers by name, its Mr. Mrs. Ms. blah blah in the abroad. We have an identity crisis, why address someone differently than you would in a social setting in the name of Oyinbo standards.
The reporter is not Abati's kid, she was doing her job and he is her colleague, she does not have to call him anything beyond his first name on the air! This was not a personal conversation between the two of them; it was a professional interaction between professionals on the air! He was not a guest, he was the host and he had not business scolding his colleague on the air!
You are using the Teacher-and-classroom kids comparison??? Nigeria is in deep trouble than Herdsmen and kidnappings! And this was even a sensitive case of returnees form a WAR ZONE! Nigerian Mindset is on fire! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Please note that Tundun and Orjy referred to him as Dr Ruben.
Morayo, your introduction was wrong too. He is Dr Reuben.
Also, she is not Abike Dabiri. She is Hon. Abike Dabiri. You guys should be as courteous as possible. These are African stations..
The personal contact was not right.. The lady would have go formal or official, the ceremonious language were absent..Mr Ruben felt that his dignitaries, seniority, etc where deprived.
You people are wrong, Tudun , Ojy and Rufai refer to him as Doctor Abati Always.
I think the ladies still calls him Dr. Abati not ruben.
Anyways, I still think Dr Abati should have held his nerves and addressed her privately.
No matter what, see, I'm not here to blow grammar - it's wrong to have called her mannerless on air. Abegii!
Chai dis people don get Arise TV oooo. But I really love Arise TV notwithstanding!!!!
Arise TV is better than them. They know that, debating on this topic won't change that fact
Would Reuben Abati have reacted the same way to international anchors when being interviewd? Why do we like to hide under this " culture" of a thing when professionalism is involved? This correspondent was doing her job professionally, period. Please let's call a spade a spade. Mr. Reuben should apologise to the lady for the embarrassment he caused the lady.
Mariam oh, the two ladies always sitting near Dr Abati never calls him Reuben they call him Dr Abati..
Is Morayo confused…you call the name at the beginning and at the end when you are live away from the studio
The two ladies in Arise TV studio use Dr whenever they refer to him. Why are you saying they call him by his fist name?
There is cultural étiquette. There are ways of addressing people. Normally your friends address you by your first name. There are other ways of addressing people eg sister, brother, Aunty Mr. Ms Mrs.
Having traîned abroad some persons adopt the culture of training.
I think one should stick to conventional étiquette and address persons with à Title until given permission to do otherwise by the individual.
I watch Dr. Abati show with Ojinika in what's trading. They all call him Dr. Abati. We are Africans we must respect elders.
Nooooo Mariam, the other ladies on the show do not call him by his name. The other ladies on the show ( ojy okpe and Tundun Abiola) call him dr Abati not Reuben.
Very interesting discussion, even though my company here in the USA uses a first name bases may of us still put a Mr or Ms in from of that first name when addressing each other.
To be fair, everybody on that show refers to him as Dr. Abati. Please ladies of #yourview you can watch some of these clips online. They have never referred to him by name. It’s always Dr. Abati.
We have a culture, it is should be respected.
I wonder how we loose our heritage all because we are copying rubbish from the west. TVC if forming judge of all, if Arise TV thinks Dr. Abati is wrong they would address that. Though I'm of the opinion that Dr. Abati shouldn't have reacted while on Air but then we are all human probably that's not the first time she has done it.
In the NGO sector, we call and address each other by their first name and I call my CEO based in the UK by his first name period.
Who standardised standard ? Nigerians self na everything we go dey copy
Everyone calls him Dr. Abati, I think Maryam should have verified that point before making it
The point is he is not Abati but Dr. Abati. He should be addressed as Dr. Abati. It's offensive not to address him as a "Doc". So this has got nothing to do with culture. It's unprofessional to even call him Mr or Uncle Abati.
I love Nimah for correcting them that Arise anchors don’t refer to Dr Abati by name, they call him Dr Abati, the only person who call him Reuben is Mr Ifini (The news paper man) he was Dr Abati’s class mate, even Tudun Abiola will refer to Micheal Wilson (white elderly British man) as “Mr Wilson” Dr Abati should not have reacted that way on air, he should have corrected her off air. I stand by culture.
It is this kind of arrogance that has kept the contraption called Nigeria on its knees for decades. With this breed of individuals in the spheres of socio-politics of Nigeria, all hope is lost.
Point of correction ladies, Tundun and Ojinika, jinnix, or any other lady or men, apart from Emmanuel Efini, who is Dr. Abbati's school mate, never addressed Dr. Abbati by first name, they address him as "Dr Abbati".
REUBEN
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The other ladies on the ARISE TV show do not call Reuben Abati by his name o! NO SIR!! I listen to the show all the time!!
They call him Dr. Absti on set!
Dr. Abati.
That is what they call him all the time!
There should be a coporate culture and values, with this in existence, the issue will be addressed. Also,another point of correction is that those on the show with Ruben Abati used to call him Dr. Abati. The issue of the schools attended should not come in, we are all the same irrespective of the Alma matter. Thanks for doing a great job.
Delayed 🎤 microphone response was one key he needs to put into consideration talking about his years in journalism.
His tribal part to over period.🤷🏾♂️
Ruben acted unprofessionally, he was never a trained broadcaster, he read theater art and delved into print journalism bfor broadcasting, Mary did what the ethics of the profession thought her to do, no wonder she was not muffled at the charging and intimidation of Ruben, Ruben disgraced himself In the face of Millions if viewers and told the world much about his deficit of broadcasting nomaatic conventions
Mary am proud of you
If Ruben want to be called brother Ruben, let him find another job
I agree with Dr.Abati,she could have call him Dr Abati, professionally maybe not mister but Dr.Abati.
Much more is expected from the lead presenter. South West or not does not mean we should not be respectful. Understand that many people are listening to you so let's make our contributions with consideration so that you don't make people look stupid. Forget South West or not, a disrespectful person is disrespectful. So Dr Abati did what should be done. Moreso, mannerism isn't good too in public speaking.
And ladies, we need to stop using this if it's a guy, will he say that?
She would have said Dr Abati or Mr Abati
You made a mistake sis, the other ladies always refers to him as Dr abati/ Reuben
Imagine someone from al Jazeera watching him lash out at the journalist. They will be wandering what the girl did wrong.
You mess up in the open and get checked in the open so that others receive sense