Paul's a great guy. I've been in touch with him and have gone for coffee on a number of occasions. The one thing I like is how naturally authoritative he is. It's funny how you noticed that he was interviewing you. That's exactly the type of guy you need to be when talking to people in general in order to present yourself as high value. It's not about techniques, it's about owning your masculinity.
+Onder Hassan He looks like a great dating teacher. He's calm, confident and keeps his principles coherent, additionally he seems like a genuine caring man. Marriage I'd think has zero effect on his teaching skills. Plus I recall he was a SATS teacher by trade.
The haters in this comments section are young cats. You will learn once you get older. When you reach 40 or so, your life changes as a male. Most every guy you know is married with kids. You're alone in the game, and 23 year old girls, for the most part, just aren't interested as they used to be. You start to wonder what kind of emotional support you would need if you got struck down by bladder cancer. Who's going to be there when your dad dies. Young people believe they are immortal. It's a limited time offer. It becomes increasingly important to have someone be a witness to your life when you get older. Someone you can rely on, and to have someone who can rely on you. Also, your hormones go down hill. There just isn't the need for sex that a 22 year old needs. Other things matter than life than pussy. It's not about being pussy-whipped. It's a natural cycle of life, and generally speaking, men who are 44 and who act like they're 21 look ridiculous to most men. It is pathetic
I fully agree with Paul Janka. I personally think men have a "wall" like women do but unlike the femile kind ours is more mental/physcological than biological. If I could put a number to it I would say the PUA/daygame phase is for men between ages 24 to 38. Then in the late thirties men should start considering to settle down & have kids. After all there is no point in having a high lay count without any progeny of your own. Real men are built to pass on their genes to the next generation.
He is the only pua who has advised guys to read the book “Practical female psychology for the practical male”. The book is a must have for men who want to understand women & better their relationships.
Anyone know what kind of shoes Paul is wearing? They look like they might be cordovan but can't tell the brand. Love this interview, by the way. Indeed, there is a shortage of "mature voices" (as Paul calls it) in the pickup scene. How do we transition into settling down in order to have children without becoming "beta" and having a typical failed marriage? Great to hear discussion of that rather than only how to do pickup.
This is the natural evolution of man, game and women get old and one day you settle and move on with life. But you can tell that he's been through some hoops judging by his body language and the way he holds frame.
+Elton Prela In a way yes, but I think we are all on a journey to discover why. The frame you develop through your dating years, will carry on with you long term, so is essential to develop
+Tony McCray Practical Female Psychology for The Practical Man by Joseph W South, recommended by both of us. And Paul recommended Date-Onomics by Jon Birger.
I have a question, obviously janka talked about having a podcast for guys between 30 and 40 and how your life changes and so on. Anyway my question is- what if you're starting your journey from a later age? is it not worth bothering with or? Lol.
+Matt stephens Great question Matt. I think when starting from a later age, it can take more time to change your beliefs and transform into a more confident man. However I think a big reason age comes into it is from social conditioning, ie. A guy in his late 30's will look to settle down a lot quicker than a guy in his 20's. Of course its always worth bothering with and a guy can make a transformation at any age, its just a factor. I would be interested to hear Pauls thoughts on this one, but might be worth listening to his podcast as im sure he will mention: www.takethediapersoff.com
+Matt stephens Lol 30 is perfectly fine. Many PUAs out there started around that age. Remember life begins at 30. Different for women, but because being in more of a feminine world we are told to settle down at 30. So start moving forward bro
+JazzHagen No thats what it sounded like, haven't done an interview with them. We were talking about them off camera. Overall Paul doesn't know too much about other companies he kind of always did his own thing
Thats why its good to look for friends when you game as well otherwise you have noone to brag to. I truly believe paul Janka was one of the true daygame artists. Most of the pick up artist out there are flash games who make game look good but their antics only increase flaking. I do believe he lacks some connections because he was way too scientific with his approaches and not a lot of personality but he is all about results.
+Standardchannel01 Yeh good to get around guys you can learn from and also that you can help out (i particularly improved a lot teaching this stuff) . Agreed he was one of the guys who was a big influence in daygame early on and had an effective strategy.
Guy in the right isn’t sharpest tool respectfully Is he meant to be a coach? I find he struggled with eye contact when speaking and struggles to answer “insightful” questions
Do any of these guys want their sisters or DAUGHTERS datying guys who feel that" they are resposible for their own feelings?" If a guy is falling in love with me, I know and have always known and I talked to them,. eye to eye, to leave them with their dignity. There are tons of guys out there who WANT TO COMMIT.
Paul's pick up strategies - talking about women as "targets" and sexual conquests, is indicative of why the "me too" movement happened. Glad to hear he's not preying on women any more. If ANY of you men have a daughter, like I do, you'd vomit at some of his old content.
My ex, who died, did not have to be slowed down. He knew right away, he found what he wanted. This was HOT FOR YEARS AND YEARS WITH NO GAMES. IN FACT, THAT IS WHAT HE FOUND HOT, MY TOTAL HONESTY!
The thing about Janka's stuff was that there was never any 'game' there. From what I read and saw from infields online it was just playing good looking guy game, basically using good looks to quickly number collect on a large industrial scale. That's it. Now married & planning kids ... truly blue pilled and gone down the same road as a Neil Strauss, washed out, middle aged and shackled to one woman .. someone to get old, fat and wrinkly with. My God.
agree he was (probably still is) an utterly sociopathic manipulator .. its just I don't think he was practising what we would constitute as 'game'. He was in the approach phase essentially screening for 'yes' girls. You can tell from the video above he still doesn't understand many basic concepts in game ... he doesn't know what an I Date is etc. he's now settled for an older average looking English (ha-ha) woman. Perhaps she comes from money ... & this is psychopathic Janka's ticket out of the dead end he had ridden into.
@Mister Mann aaahhh!!!! . ....narcissistic abuse parading as 'playful innocent immaturity' .... (along with the 'it takes two to tango' adage ... victim blaming at its most predictable.) ...* yaaaawwwwn *..... The oldest excuses in the book. Keep trying harder to come up with something more original, puhleeze.
I wish Paul Janka was my dad. Hey, maybe he is.
Paul's a great guy. I've been in touch with him and have gone for coffee on a number of occasions. The one thing I like is how naturally authoritative he is. It's funny how you noticed that he was interviewing you. That's exactly the type of guy you need to be when talking to people in general in order to present yourself as high value. It's not about techniques, it's about owning your masculinity.
+Onder Hassan How did you get in touch?
Nathan B Mutual friends.
***** I don't seduce my friends personally. But hey, whatever makes you happy.
+Onder Hassan great response to a s**t test :)
+Onder Hassan He looks like a great dating teacher. He's calm, confident and keeps his principles coherent, additionally he seems like a genuine caring man. Marriage I'd think has zero effect on his teaching skills. Plus I recall he was a SATS teacher by trade.
The haters in this comments section are young cats. You will learn once you get older. When you reach 40 or so, your life changes as a male. Most every guy you know is married with kids. You're alone in the game, and 23 year old girls, for the most part, just aren't interested as they used to be. You start to wonder what kind of emotional support you would need if you got struck down by bladder cancer. Who's going to be there when your dad dies. Young people believe they are immortal. It's a limited time offer. It becomes increasingly important to have someone be a witness to your life when you get older. Someone you can rely on, and to have someone who can rely on you. Also, your hormones go down hill. There just isn't the need for sex that a 22 year old needs. Other things matter than life than pussy. It's not about being pussy-whipped. It's a natural cycle of life, and generally speaking, men who are 44 and who act like they're 21 look ridiculous to most men. It is pathetic
great thoughts. spot on.
"Who's going to be there when your dad dies."
That's a silly generalization. No one is here for me but myself now.
What if partner of ours die before us, kids going to live on their own.When you are on verge of death they will come or not damn luck will decide.
damn, hate to see this legend go
I fully agree with Paul Janka. I personally think men have a "wall" like women do but unlike the femile kind ours is more mental/physcological than biological.
If I could put a number to it I would say the PUA/daygame phase is for men between ages 24 to 38.
Then in the late thirties men should start considering to settle down & have kids.
After all there is no point in having a high lay count without any progeny of your own. Real men are built to pass on their genes to the next generation.
i cant really hear it properly, does anyone know the title of the book they talk about at 15:00 ?
Practical Female Psychology: For the Practical Man by Joseph South, David Clare, Franco
+Mark Stanford thanks so much! :)
He is the only pua who has advised guys to read the book “Practical female psychology for the practical male”. The book is a must have for men who want to understand women & better their relationships.
Anyone know what kind of shoes Paul is wearing? They look like they might be cordovan but can't tell the brand.
Love this interview, by the way. Indeed, there is a shortage of "mature voices" (as Paul calls it) in the pickup scene. How do we transition into settling down in order to have children without becoming "beta" and having a typical failed marriage? Great to hear discussion of that rather than only how to do pickup.
Great interview with Paul. I just did a podcast with him myself. He's very insightful.
This is the natural evolution of man, game and women get old and one day you settle and move on with life. But you can tell that he's been through some hoops judging by his body language and the way he holds frame.
+Elton Prela In a way yes, but I think we are all on a journey to discover why. The frame you develop through your dating years, will carry on with you long term, so is essential to develop
Very defensive stance with the crossed legs.
Jennifer Akdemir I think it’s a comfort thing
@@Getoutyourcomfortzone He got lucky with women, but this guy does not look like Shawn Michaels!2024, USA
What's the book mentioned in the video?
+Tony McCray Practical Female Psychology for The Practical Man by Joseph W South, recommended by both of us. And Paul recommended Date-Onomics by Jon Birger.
Very insightful interview.
I have a question, obviously janka talked about having a podcast for guys between 30 and 40 and how your life changes and so on. Anyway my question is- what if you're starting your journey from a later age? is it not worth bothering with or? Lol.
+Matt stephens Great question Matt. I think when starting from a later age, it can take more time to change your beliefs and transform into a more confident man. However I think a big reason age comes into it is from social conditioning, ie. A guy in his late 30's will look to settle down a lot quicker than a guy in his 20's. Of course its always worth bothering with and a guy can make a transformation at any age, its just a factor. I would be interested to hear Pauls thoughts on this one, but might be worth listening to his podcast as im sure he will mention: www.takethediapersoff.com
Chris Murphy Im 30 myself so I was curious! Hopefully it's nor too late lol
+Matt stephens Lol 30 is perfectly fine. Many PUAs out there started around that age. Remember life begins at 30. Different for women, but because being in more of a feminine world we are told to settle down at 30. So start moving forward bro
Chris Murphy Thanks mate :) ... Il have to come to one of your talks :)
+Matt stephens Cool, got one Monday, join the group: www.meetup.com/TheUltimateMale/
i am married and a closet feminist?? wft happened?????
Did you interview someone from Real Social Dynamics, and who might that be?
+JazzHagen No thats what it sounded like, haven't done an interview with them. We were talking about them off camera. Overall Paul doesn't know too much about other companies he kind of always did his own thing
I wasn't even a teenager when he quit the game
Pleasantly surprised by this vid.
Paul Janka is the first "Feminist" that is cool per se
Thats why its good to look for friends when you game as well otherwise you have noone to brag to.
I truly believe paul Janka was one of the true daygame artists. Most of the pick up artist out there are flash games who make game look good but their antics only increase flaking.
I do believe he lacks some connections because he was way too scientific with his approaches and not a lot of personality but he is all about results.
+Standardchannel01 Yeh good to get around guys you can learn from and also that you can help out (i particularly improved a lot teaching this stuff) . Agreed he was one of the guys who was a big influence in daygame early on and had an effective strategy.
If I had looks and or money I would never be married.
Guy in the right isn’t sharpest tool respectfully
Is he meant to be a coach?
I find he struggled with eye contact when speaking and struggles to answer “insightful” questions
He's a physics graduate from Harvard. Not dumb by any means.
Paul looks like a better version of Louix Theroux lol
Listen to Paul's new podcast here guys:
www.TakeTheDiapersOff.com
Some interesting topics discussed on women and other areas of self-development
Do any of these guys want their sisters or DAUGHTERS datying guys who feel that" they are resposible for their own feelings?" If a guy is falling in love with me, I know and have always known and I talked to them,. eye to eye, to leave them with their dignity. There are tons of guys out there who WANT TO COMMIT.
Lynne Nydick yes we do. We want our sisters to to date guys like us cause we are awesome.
Paul's pick up strategies - talking about women as "targets" and sexual conquests, is indicative of why the "me too" movement happened. Glad to hear he's not preying on women any more. If ANY of you men have a daughter, like I do, you'd vomit at some of his old content.
Not being rude, think back when you were young. Now, the shoe's on the other foot, your mindset is different. Come on, these women aren't stupid
You obviously have an IQ of 60. There's nothing in any of Phil's work that advocates rape or coercion.
My ex, who died, did not have to be slowed down. He knew right away, he found what he wanted. This was HOT FOR YEARS AND YEARS WITH NO GAMES. IN FACT, THAT IS WHAT HE FOUND HOT, MY TOTAL HONESTY!
The blue pill is strong with this one.
Janka has a scattered mind. Tangents constantly.
The thing about Janka's stuff was that there was never any 'game' there. From what I read and saw from infields online it was just playing good looking guy game, basically using good looks to quickly number collect on a large industrial scale. That's it. Now married & planning kids ... truly blue pilled and gone down the same road as a Neil Strauss, washed out, middle aged and shackled to one woman .. someone to get old, fat and wrinkly with. My God.
agree he was (probably still is) an utterly sociopathic manipulator .. its just I don't think he was practising what we would constitute as 'game'. He was in the approach phase essentially screening for 'yes' girls. You can tell from the video above he still doesn't understand many basic concepts in game ... he doesn't know what an I Date is etc. he's now settled for an older average looking English (ha-ha) woman. Perhaps she comes from money ... & this is psychopathic Janka's ticket out of the dead end he had ridden into.
>not having kids
You're a fucking degenerate.
With or without a regular partner, you'll get old fat and wrinkly. And less attractive .... unless you have plenty of money.
Even James Bond has feelings and falls in love with some of his conquests.
Hmm
Are you PROUD that a woan has to MAKE YOU chase her?
he sounds like a dull narcissist
@Mister Mann aaahhh!!!! . ....narcissistic abuse parading as 'playful innocent immaturity' .... (along with the 'it takes two to tango' adage ... victim blaming at its most predictable.) ...* yaaaawwwwn *..... The oldest excuses in the book.
Keep trying harder to come up with something more original, puhleeze.