We Were Told we Couldn't Have Kids
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Please pray for my wife and I who have been struggling to conceive for two years.
Also pray to the Blessed (very soon to be sainted) Blessed Carlo Acutis who some believe interceded so that his parents could have more children after he died.
May the good Lord bless you with many children, and if that's not his divine plan for you, may he grant you happiness and fulfilment in the way he chose for you 🙏
@@Mauser_. Amen.
Praying for you
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I'm born and raised Catholic, but fell away in my teens and didn't practice for almost 15 years until this lent. In the time that I wasn't a practicing Catholic, I got married and had two kids. My wife had extreme complications during the birth of our second child and was terrified of becoming pregnant again after that. She begged me for a year to get a vasectomy and I finally relented and then didn't think anything of it after that. Fast forward six years and I feel the overwhelming presence of God in a way that I never have before, calling me back to the church. It has been a humbling, gut wrenching experience to see the error of my ways. On one hand I am overwhelmed with guilt for not placing my trust in God and being open to life, and on the other hand I am overwhelmed with guilt for my selfishness in not realizing how blessed I am to have the two wonderful children that I do. To all who are struggling with infertility, you have my deepest sympathy and my prayers.
Praying for you 🙏🏽
Similar story to mine. God provided me with an opportunity to get a reversal. Pray for me !
Your wife probably shouldn't get pregnant. You did the right thing. Y
@@kimberlyarlene4094 And why's that?
@@kimberlyarlene4094 I thought the same thing for a while, but coming back to church and fully embracing my Catholic faith has transformed my way of thinking. If serious health concerns are a problem, then abstinence and NFP are the solutions. Vasectomy was a convenient ten minute procedure that has permanently reduced the God given nature of my body into that of a machine. It's deeply dehumanizing and humiliating, and no amount of carefree sex will ever make up for that fact. Abstinence would have been a much easier cross to bear than this.
As a 68-year-old woman who was raised in a big family and couldn’t conceive children, I finally decided I most wanted to parent children, that having children biologically was not as important. I’m now the proud parent of two fine young men. God gave me these children through adoption and I wouldn’t change a thing. I’ve been incredibly blessed and encourage any couple facing the same challenge to consider adoption. God bless.
Thank you for trying to address the grief ofinfertility. After 11 years of trying we we re given the most wonderful blessing , a baby boy. He was and is as much my child as a conceived child. Children are a gift from God and He decides how to deliver them.
I’ve been struggling with infertility for years. This year I turned 34 and have decided to read the writing on the wall and accept that it is never going to happen. I’m done measuring my hormones everyday, taking all sorts of medication and supplements, scheduling intimacy, etc. adoption is never happening either, we started down that path and it didn’t pan out.
It’s so incredibly lonely. Your family means well but they hound you with all sorts of advice and encouragement. Though they don’t mean to do so, I feel like an utter failure to them.
I live in a more rural area so there are no support groups (I’ve looked).
I personally don’t get sad seeing large families, but I do get upset at families that seem to begrudge their children. People who say they would NEVER want anymore children even if they only have 1. It just seems so ungrateful to me, but, then again I don’t know their struggles just like they don’t know mine.
It’s just very lonely. I of course have my husband, but we (for obvious reasons) experience the infertility differently so it’s hard to talk to him about it to. He’ll listen and he’s always been understanding, but he’ll never understand being a woman who can’t have kids. Especially a Catholic woman whose parents both come from large families.
Thank you for sharing this Emily
May God give peace and joy.
Hey, you're not a 'failure'. NEVER, think that.
Tbh, you're young by today's standards so please don't put pressure on yourself...
My niece paid out 30 thousand euros for fertility & went through the mill at your age with zero success. She gave up and got pregnant twice..🤷♀️
Your life is very special, & failure or success is a silly scale if you judge yourself by appearance of content! Find it for yourself- always pay attention to your doctors, but know miracles do happen ❤
I completely get it. I was also bothered by drug addicts and sex workers getting pregnant. Also all the young women getting abortions. It’s something I just don’t understand with God…
Please know there is a ministry that could be helpful, called Springs in the Desert.
@@sdjohnston67 thank you, I do appreciate your concern and desire to help. but I’ve looked into it before. If memory serves (I’ve looked into many support organizations so I might be confusing them) it’s based out of Arizona. They have retreats but I can’t really afford to travel. I’m also quite exhausted with virtual support options.
Thank you for this video. I stopped watching Taylor Marshall when he made a snarky comment about seeing "one-child families" at Novus Ordo Masses. The implication was that they were using artificial birth control. Even though I am single, that comment hurt my heart. What if infertility was an issue, and the couple had adopted their child? Or maybe the couple got married late in life and were thrilled to have one child? I wish that Dr. Marshall had demonstrated more sensitivity around that issue.
It would be good if Sex Ed included advice to teens on how to protect their fertility.
True but another factor in infertility is the food that we eat and that's not just junk food
A similar difficulty is for Catholic parents who are only blessed with one or two children. It is sometimes difficult to have to explain why you don’t have more kids. Not everyone with a small family CHOSE that situation. My husband and I had 8 names picked out, and after suffering with infertilty for 7 years we were blessed to have two children. After that, we miscarried three more children. I am the mother of five children, but I find myself judged by other large families for what they consider my selfishness, or even outright sinfulness in “limiting” my family size.
People striving to live holy lives must not fall into a prideful disposition towards others. We’ve suffered four miscarriages, and I know sort of what you’re talking about. I’m very, very sorry.
@@MikePasqqsaPekiM Thank you. I am sorry for your losses, also. May God bless you!
5 kids and you don't consider yourself a large family and feel judged by larger families?
@@ninjamaster3453 I’m one of 12. My husband is one of 10. lol!
@@ninjamaster3453She miscarried three of them
Thank you Brian, for talking about this. As someone who met my husband and got married later in life, it was a heartache and a heavy cross to not be able to conceive children when we so desired to become parents. We are members of a Traditional Latin Mass community and one of the few couples who do not have children. It's hard not to feel isolated and left out, despite that fact that we are very, very involved with our nieces and nephews and godchildren, etc. We accept God's will for our lives, but we really appreciate you discussing this in your video. God Bless.
Single woman here who already knows I might never have kids. Prayers that I might find a husband who is willing to foster and/ or adopt
So true!
My wife and I have been married for more than 5 years. We both love children but we haven't been successful so far.
Being from India this is especially hard. Christians (Catholics + other Christians) are a minority. So doctors don't understand that IVF, IUI and mastrubation for a semen analysis is not something we can do. The first doctor we went to just dismissed us when I said we can't do these because it's a sin. Later on I did find ways that the Church allows for diagnosis. But that's expensive and speaking to labs to accept this is not a pleasant experience given the topic. Diagnosis revealed nothing. Napro isn't available here (at least not in the city we live in).
What makes this harder is most priests have no idea that masturbation is intrinsically evil. So they don't know it's a sin even if it's done for diagnosis or IUI. This is one reason most Catholics are never Catechized about this. The other reason being that infertility is a topic that never comes up in Catechism or marriage prep (in the latter, the Church's teaching on contraception was just skimmed over).
As a result, my wife didn't actually know the Church teaching on reproductive technology and this put a major strain on our marriage. The only reason I knew is because I had a past with sexual sin. In the process of recovering from that addiction, I studied a lot about what the Church teaches on the sixth commandment.
All of this has made me feel extremely isolated.
So many times I blame myself thinking that all of this is the temporal consequence of my past with prn addiction. I've questioned if I ruined my wife's life by marrying her. It's made me lose hope. I used to blindly trust God before and be stress-free. Now I'm always anxious and I don't know if I trust God. The litany of trust has become part of my daily morning prayer because of this.
If you're a priest in India, or a bishop reading this, please do something about this. Tell your brother priests what the Church actually teaches and to preach about it. It's hard to live a life like this. Most Catholics here don't know the Church's teaching on this issue. Most of them don't even agree with the Church's teaching on contraception. So the few of us Catholics who do follow the Church's teaching and suffer silently, feel alone. And priests, when someone shares this with you, please don't say things like "by this Christmas you'll be holding a child." I was told this at a confessional this year, and unless we're going to have a preemie, it doesn't look like it's happening this Christmas. I got quite depressed in April because I tried holding on to what the priest said.
The only positive note I have here is that all this has made us go to the Blessed Sacrament chapel every week and pray. I don't think we would have done this otherwise. Still none of this makes this easy.
It is so hard when IVF seems to be the only go-to solution for every fertility problem. And it’s so weird that mastrubating in a cup on the clinic seems to be normal behaviour for some people.
I share your grief brother. Almost to every detail.
Im a fellow indian, keep on fighting bro, we got your back. Ave Maria.
🙏💖
@ModernLady There's a reason for this, IVF makes people a lot of money! Frankly, I think it is being recommended to many couples who could conceive naturally because doctors are so eager to collect that 20k cheque from a couple.
To the original commentor, I am blown away by your commitment to living by church teaching. God bless you and keep going! You may like the content who the Theology of the Body Institute (on YT) and their Ask Christopher West podcast.
I'm a single man in my forties and have come to terms with the likelihood I will never have children. Nothing makes me happier than going to my church and seeing families with many playful children jumping around. I am happy for them and it makes me a little bit more hopeful for the future of our culture.
me too. No kids. But happy to see big families.
By far the most common explanation for childlessness nowadays is contraception. This can also cause distress in faithful Catholics struggling with infertility, out of fear that their community will assume that they're contracepting. That's why we need to be generous and never jump to conclusions.
We've been married for 6 years and haven't been able to conceive, and many people had that assumption about us. It hurt, but we had to be humble enough to explain with patience that it wasn't the case.
Also, people in our Latin Mass community urge us to change our lifestyle, our diet, and at the beginning we listened and started making changes, but after two years more and no results, it feels like a horrible burden, some people still imply that it's our fault. I'm not going to lie... I've been tempted to leave the community for this reason...
But God reigns in our lives, this is what He wants for us, and maybe it's time to adopt.
@@lauraceballos9217 Thank you for sharing your story, and I'm so sorry to hear that. As traditional Catholics, we should be more charitable than that. We are so few, and we're attacked from every direction; the last thing that we need is to attack each other like that. And well-meaning but unwanted advice can be as painful as uncharitable assumptions. One in ten couples struggle with fertility for causes beyond their control.
I don't know what your parish situation is, or if you are seriously considering leaving, but we need your witness. In these wicked modern times more than ever. God bless you.
@@lauraceballos9217 I'm sorry about the response from the community, being infertile is not your fault whatever they say. We've been struggling for 6 years, tried everything moral to have children. Sometimes it's just our bodies, some are born blind, some are born deaf, some are born infertile. In Jesus time they blamed those people's sinfulness, he proved them wrong. Sometimes it's simply the cross we've been given and we have to pick it up and follow him.
@@cfban Thank you. It's difficult because I teach music to some of the kids in the community, and I feel the pressure from their parents. But don't worry, I won't leave, I just need to ask our Lord for peace in this matter.
@@_jeff65_ Oh wow!! Thank you for this, your completely right. Let's carry our cross with love.
As a single woman in her late 40s I have been shunned by 99percent of Catholic families and couples in my very large traditional parish, as they are all unwelcoming to the single woman.
Thats a blessing.
You dont want validation from people whose only meaning in life is to breed.
Could it be that they form friendships with their same-age peers who have similar circumstances?
Hi Brian, agnostic leftist here who regularly watches and enjoys your content and hearing from your experiences. Usually I don't comment on your videos because I feel I don't have something to offer to the conversations your videos often spur because of my very, very, different beliefs, but I felt compelled to really commend your making this video and raising awareness of the stigma and the toxic or indifferent atmosphere that can surround infertility. Like you say, this is a really important issue that is often overlooked.
I wanted to respond to an off-handed point you make at 2:59 about modern 'culture' glamourizing sterility. I think the issue of de-stigmatizing and improving support networks for people with infertility is actually something the traditional right and the radical left can actually for once band together on. This issue is actually a very common leftist talking point in the context of theories of intersectionality, where infertility is offered as an example of a condition that carries with it undue social consequences of stigma as well as the personal consequences of anguish. Your solution of greater awareness and inclusion would actually be right at home in a leftist environment. I think this video offers an example of common ground that we as a society can agree on.
Thank you for always candidly sharing your experiences and thoughtful ideas. Wishing you and your family well!
I disagree when you talk about the common ground between left and right. The issue of infertility is not a political issue. This is the biggest problem with the left, they turn everything into politics. Our desires go far beyond politics. Another point is that on the left the subject is about couples who DON'T want to have children; here is about infertile couples.
sorry for the English, I'm Brazilian
I know you mean well and God Bless you for watching and finally commenting, but I’d like to charitably encourage you to engage and comment with the political vocabulary and talking points turned down to maybe a two or three, your comment above is about at an eight. It doesn’t sound human, compassionate or real…it sounds like indoctrination and very off-putting. Take care and God Bless. Peace be unto you.
Very providential that this video came out today. I haven’t watch one of your video in a while, too, so I am watching this by chance. My wife and I have been struggling with Inferitility. Not sure what can be done in the culture, but Christ is the only comfort we have.
Infertility can mean that your partner underwent an abortion
Our Lady of Guadalupe, Undoer of Knots, Help of Christians, pray for us
Thank you for discussing something that often results in feelings of loneliness, grief, disappointment, etc. The more I hear about others struggling with infertility, the less alone I feel in my sorry. We can weep with those who weep over this and allow others to weep with us.
We go to work and then come home. There’s really nowhere else to go to be around people our own age after graduating from school.
What about at church? Or friend of a friend?
This generation is living in a plague of technology and social media…. Personally, I would do a technology fast for a long time, along with a public commitment as a last social media post.
Something like - “I’m doing a social media fast for 6months… during this time, I’m committing to going to (insert park here every Tuesday at 7pm for a walk), and going to (a church to pray every Wednesday for example) - you may connect with me in person on Sundays at (church) or on my weekly meetup walks and weekly community prayer sessions… no phones allowed.
I bet if you do this faithfully- you will be AMAZED at the new relationships you end up with - social media is destroying our ability to form real life relationships. I will say a prayer for this generation….
Oh yes, attend real life in person conferences in fields of your interest and faith life. You have to get out and make these things happen, they won’t fall in your lap. I just returned from a business conference, and as a homeschooling family, and I also sell on Amazon for work - it can be very isolating- I found a lot of other people doing the same things as our family and met them in real life at this conference. Was an extremely worthwhile endeavour!
Online dating but you need to be specific in what you are looking for and you need to be active. No screwing around. Match, get to know whether they are serious and proceed from there.
@@bennnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn in the two years I’ve been going to church I can count on one hand the number of women my age I’ve seen there
@@phylocybe_ are you anywhere near a university? They almost all have a young adults group that attends a specific Mass and meets regularly… my wife and I met at such a community 16 years ago, and neither of us attended the university. In fact, a lot of people went there and didn’t go to the university, a lot of couples got married from that community and continue to do so.
This was such a great talk! My husband and I struggled with infertility and a miscarriage and it was such horrific grief.
I ended up getting pregnant through NaPro technology doctors and we are just so grateful. There are many amazing catholic doctors who practice restorative reproductive medicine and they've just changed our lives and our health.
Resources which helped us:
1.) National Catholic Bioethics Council
2.) Paul VI institute
3.) Reply Fertility
4.) Veritas Fertility and Surgery
In the late eighties a couple at our church had been told that they probably couldn't have children, so they adopted a child. Then they were surprised with getting pregnant after all and a child of their own. Happiness.
Another friend of mine had been adopted before his parents had their own child. He was treated and loved just as much as the blood relative. Lots of good parents out there.
The most painful comments came from fellow Catholics that while well meaning, they would persistently ask when we were going to have more kids; We were only gifted with one pregnancy. Let us all remember to keep quiet and know that we don't always know the full story.
I like what you say at the end about adoption. However, adoption isn’t a “cure” for the pain of infertility. Also, it is ridiculously expensive. Would be nice if the church would have a more obvious way of contributing to that pro-life cause. Unfortunately today there are a lot of SSA couples who adopt. To me, making it possible through financial help for a Catholic couple to adopt a child and spare them from a potential adoption from a SSA person, is very prolife.
We are having difficulty conceiving. I think it’s a male factor, but we can’t be sure because we don’t want to sin to test.
Then surprisingly I found my self pregnant in April. And I lost the child in May. Now I’m in the situation where we miss a child, and not just not having one.
But at least we know now that it is possible. And even though it’s hard, I know understand even more how every single life is a miracle.
💖
Regarding private adoption (ie newborns) (I'm in Ontario):
1. There are tons of requirements, all expensive, not everyone can afford it
2. There are a lot more couples wanting to adopt than kids to be adopted, so you're on a long waiting list.
3. Sometimes an opportunity comes up but the birth parents choose someone else, leaving you rejected and back to waiting.
4. When you are chosen, the parents have 30 days after birth to change their mind. This happened to us after less than 24 hours, we had to say goodbye forever to our daughter, we don't even know what her legal name is now...
And I can tell you, there is no difference between adopted and biological children. The bond is immediate, they are your children. There is not a single day I don't think about my daughter, even though we've only had her for a single day.
loneliness is the result of excessive need for control. they don't allow kids to socialize or congregate in what used to be popular places. there are curfews and kids are basically not allowed by parents to socialize by leaving them alone. they are coddled to an extreme
There is a wonderful Catholic ministry with the specific purpose of ministering to couples who are suffering from infertility. It's called Springs in the Desert.
I'd be willing to bet that a significant amount of infertility comes about due to how long it takes for young people to get settled and be in a position to have kids. The longer one waits, whether that waiting is voluntary or due to circumstances beyond one's control, the harder it gets. It feels like the way we live our lives and educate kids is very inefficient in that many people aren't even able to start their careers until they're in their mid-late twenties. Not to mention people these days are convinced of the flawed notion that they have to sow their wild oats. Put those two things together and you've got a recipe for disaster.
One of these days, I pray adoption becomes much easier and affordable.
Most of the extreme over regulation of the adoption system was put in place by Christian groups to try and weed out and prevent gay people from adopting, so you kind of shot yourselves in the foot with that one
Thank you. Yeah, it's isolating. I was just asked for the umpteenth time last Sunday where my third one was. Maybe they saw me holding my nephew or someone else's baby and assumed, but it happens so often I just don't know how much more I can take before I snap and say, "Yes, I only have two!" They are 3 years apart in the youngest is 5. I have 4 in heaven. I am grateful for the two wonderful little girls that God let me keep. I guess I should be grateful that other parishioners assume I must have more because they know I'm a good Catholic instead of assuming I'm one of the cafeteria Catholics using birth control. I'm sure there are some that believe the latter and just don't approach or befriend me. I'd just rather not be reminded and have my heart ripped out every time.
Have you considered that it may not have been a misdiagnosis but that God answered your prayers?
To try to help those who may be struggling with this, please also know that when it comes to the most common cause of female infertility--PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome)--it can often be greatly improved by dietary changes. This is because a major cause of PCOS is insulin resistance, which ends up bringing about hyperinsulinemia (chronically elevated insulin) and this in turn causes testosterone levels to be too high for a healthy fertile woman. This causes the problems with eggs forming cysts in the ovaries and not developing and releasing properly.
A low carbohydrate / ketogenic or even carnivore diet can bring the insulin levels back down to normal levels and in time the PCOS may be reversed.
Look up videos on PCOS and ketogenic or carnivore diets. Especially see people such as Dr. Ken Berry and professor Ben Bikman.
It's not always just the women. Men also have issues too.
One instance I recall, man saw a Dr, measured his hormones, infertility issues, energy. Low T, low testosterone.
He thought they would prescribe a steroid. They didn't, he was put on a low dose of a medication usually given to women called clomid. Not only did it raise his testosterone to normal levels without a steroid injection, it made things start to work and they conceived.
Not for everyone of course, but a single pill daily over half year really made a difference.
There is help out there
The issue is plastics and bad diet@@ninjamaster3453
We have one daughter who is 15 but we lost our son at eight years old and then a miscarriage and then a stillbirth. Nothing angered my wife more than when people at the TLM parish, who knew us for over a year, would sorta fish questions at us like "So how many kids do you have!" As if they were trying to find out if we used contraception. I mean we had been going to this church for over a year with our one daughter and we're both in our early 40s so obviously we don't have any full grown children. So it forced us to bring up a very hurtful subject just so they can know whether or not to judge us. Which is why we stopped attending there and found a reverent Novus Ordo Parish closer to our home.
Mike, prayers for you and your family my brother in Christ. I'm relieved to hear you found a better parish. May God keep and bless you.
@@williamswenson3970 thank you! God Bless!
May the Lord be pleased with the fruit you present at the end of your race, @@MikeOrtego. May the perpetual light shine upon your son's soul, and on the soul of the baby you never got to hold, and may they intercede for your family to hope for blessed reunion when your race is run. May your daughter blossom through their prayers for her holiness. You have 3 children for the rest of eternity ❤❤❤
@@kimfleury thank you! God Bless! ❤️
We’ve struggled with unexplained infertility for 2 years now, my wife and I. We’ve now been referred to a fertility clinic so we’re in the process of that. So far they’ve found nothing abnormal about either of us, we’re both healthy normal fertile people according to them. We may try IUI and see what happens.
We also get lonely and the silence is deafening, but then I see couples dealing with things like PCOS and I thank God we’re as healthy as we are.
I live in the city. I have noticed that my results for fertility are much better after I spend a few days in my summer house which is in a very rural area with clean air, water, good food and lots of physical activity. There is so much difference between these results and the ones when I get tested when living in the city that it's almost as if they were from two different people.
My parents struggled with having children for a long time. Eventually, they successfully had two children with the help of fertility treatments. Then, as they were nearing the end of when it was possible to have children, they had twins. One of them was me. My mom loved to tell that story to us, but I didn't understand why for a long time. Now, the only thing I can say is thank God, and I do mean it.
Marriage is sacred and I really think that I wouldn’t pull that off due to many reasons, spiritually, financially, mentally, socially, plus my type of infertility, etc..
single life might be a good way of living for me.
Praying for people who are going through these obstacles
I still remember the way my friends could have cared less about marriage and family. I still remember wanting to get married and have a family. My friends scoffed at me. Some of them still don't have kids, we're in our mid to late 30's. I've been through many losses in life, in childhood and in adulthood, too, that have impaired my ability to have healthy relationships. Grief and loneliness are normal for me.
This is all true for single adults too. Very often excluded by couples
I have always had trouble getting along with people and making friends, but in my case it could be due to autism.
Born a Catholic. Sorta left the Church and married a Protestant who really dislikes the Catholic Church. We found out she had stage four indometreosis and had two surgeries that ended up with us in a state of infertility. Not impossible, but its very unlikely we can't have kids. Against her opinion, i returned to the CC. We're fostering now. Still cant get pregnant. Sometimes i wonder if im doing anything right. All i feel i can do is go to mass, recieve the sacraments, and trust in God to the bitter end.
Fostering children is vital. You have no idea how you're positively impacting the world through providing a nurturing home.
Thank you! You really hit the mail on the head here. I can speak from experience as one who suffered 20 years of infertility after the birth of our honeymoon baby. There is no difference in the bond we have with our bio daughter and the love for our three adopted boys,… none at all! We tell our sons that God has a purpose for them in this time and they were brought to us at the exact right time in His plan.
Oh, and the loneliness and sense of rejection by other families “blessed” with many children during our infertility years was real and painful.
There's a guy at my school who went infertile from a kick to the balls with a steel toed boot. True story. He had to get a CAT scan and everything.
Who on earth kicks someone in the nuts with a steel-capped boot???
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Super important discussion w much compassion for those who carry that cross ! God be with them.
05:38 be careful not to make all your kids do the same thing just for convenience. just as you wouldn't want to force them all to like the same saint. boys will naturally like st joseph more with his cool axe and tools, while girls will like st mary, etc. if you have 2 girls and 1 boy for example the boy might NOT like piano and dance. if you're rural it's hard but if your closer to a city it's easier. forcing one's kids to do some activity they really do not like can also spell disaster later. child pyschology works for a while, but if they really hate piano lessons then after say 3x they say they really dislike it then it might be time to respect their freedom and personality also. as the principal at our kids elementary said once, if you're kid is an einstein don't force him to be a jordan and if you're kid is a jordan don't force him to be an einstein (sorry for typos)
Yes to a point but children may hate maths but they will have to do it to a certain level.....and this teaches you that there are things in life that must be done in spite of your personal dislike. Ideally is all do piano till level 1, then you get to choose to go on or change your instrument, but you don't give up music .
@@kevinwoplin9322 one of ours loves music, but his older brother doesn’t. We tried the just give it a few more times until XX month… or then pick another instrument … but his passion is basketball, and there’s little time honestly for music lessons outside of the piano teacher who comes to our home once a week. We tried everything to keep him going. But can’t force him to play through the long face and tears also. Even tried to persuade him saying how the best athletes also know music and how it’s just math for your ears and how it can help your math and your cognitive abilities etc (but he’s 14 now and his brother is 8) so we’ve let him have a bit of a break from it … hopefully, like his three older brothers he’ll lick it back up and at least be able to sit down and play a song on occasion. This parenting thing is trick - still learning as we go.
We have two
Beautiful daughters who are now intelligent young women. I
Pray for them ti be married to loving men having children one fine day. The adversity ,corruption and temptations they face . .. with all their attributes is very daunting to me , their mother . Yes we must embrace loving couples wholly and fully protecting them in church from the ignorance of too many amongst us 🙏🏽
Its really weird that you are fantasizing about your kids procreating, very weird indeed
Being 44 and infertile, I can tell you that it sucks.
Being an innocent soul that is forced into this insane and evil world sucks more.
Nature forced you to make the moral choice and not have kids.
Thank you for this content
AMEN!!!
It’s a very lonely road to walk. When I hear other people that I work with or my own sisters complain that they wish that they could have just one quiet night all to themselves or how tired and exhausted they are I always wish I could a little bit of their chaotic tired lives if only for one day.
My wife and I were blessed after we could not have children. Thanks be to God!!! And yes you can love a child you adopt just as much. My happiness brings tears as I type this!!!
I'm so thankful you had kids. I don't understand why God lets some Catholics stay involuntery singles or involuntary infertiles.... or their spouse dies... just..... ouch.
Glory to God. This video was timely for me personally. Thank you.
We suffered from infertility and I never conceived. We adopted one child. While I’m happy God sent her to us I’ll never understand why God didn’t grace us with biological children when we are good Catholic people.
Children aren't something you earn for being good, it's something God gives you as a gift of his providence. It's not something wrong with you. That said, pray earnestly, perhaps do some fasting and maybe the Lord will bestow his mercy on you.
Im a baptist, but as long as yall still take the bible as the unadulterated word of God and Christ as the way the truth and the life, then im with you all the way. I will pray for you people, I know what it feels like to want something that bad. Something so close yet so far away.
Archbishop lefevbre is like father of the macabees who fled to the mountain's because of the pagan invasion of the temple and refused to worship on an new alter built over the old he like archbishop lefevbre was buried in the mountain's...u tube (the sspx and macabees connection)
get your point, perhaps the widower needs more recognition also. Cant make my rent no support from my parish in a poor area.
Please pray for me that I grow in the spiritual life, get more disciplined, and make lots of truly devout Catholic gal friends who live super close to me, 1-10 minutes away no more than that.
As always a wonderful talk. Just want to add that I don’t like men saying “we” became pregnant. Your wife became pregnant, not you. This is one thing that makes us special in a world where motherhood and womanhood is under attack like never before
Why? A couple is one flesh. Though it is not literal, what’s wrong with saying we are pregnant? People know not means they’re having baby
@@AliciatheCho Because only Women get pregnant . This is exclusively women . Men are expecting a baby but they are not pregnant
Agree! That expression makes my teeth itch.
3 Hail Marys for the intentions of all those who suffer infertility 🌹🌹🌹🙏🏻✝️ Nuestra Señora de la Leche y Buen Parte, pray for us.
I think if catholics want keep their ranks up they may have to change their policy on IVF
IVF is a mortal sin. Hell no
@@RazorO2Productions With fertility rates dropping , ( people marrying later, schooling ,and carriers) the difficulty just finding a partner, men's sperm count falling - might be for a lot the only option?
Having children is immoral.
Says who?
@@RazorO2Productions From a Christian point of view, the end times can happen at any moment and if they do, genuine Christians will run to the woods and live bear grylls style. Meanwhile everyone int he cities will get the mark or lose their lives.
Having a child obligates you to provide for it, meaning in a situation where the Antichrist rules, most ,,Christians,, will take the mark, because thats the most certain way to ensure your kids livelyhood.
When you have a kid, you are creating another sinner and since most people will end up not having Eternal life, you are gambling with the childs eternity.
From a secular point of view, The child does not consent to being born and being exposed to everything life brings.
It will be born into a corrupt system that hates it.
It will be forced to go to school, an institution created to crush all creativity and create obedient factory workers and soldiers.
Then once its out of it, it will become a wage slave in a world in decline.
My grandpa worked at a gas station and built two houses and boguht two flats, my parents with university degrees only have one flat they will be paying off until 70.
I, if I continue working my IT industry job will be able to buy a flat in 50 years assuming I never spend any money.
Not to mention the lies and the fakery the kids will endure.
Not to mention war, people in Ukraine are being forced to get killed by the Russians.
When you have kids, they arent yours, they are for the government to do with as it pleases.
And the covid insanity, I will not bring a kid into a world which would force it to get injected with big pharma experimental medicine or it will lose its basic human rights.
Simply put the world is not kid friendly.
Ah which means you should get divorced since marriage is all about raising kids right? Which is why yall dont support gay marriage. Right?