That's actually common. When you first reveal all the insecurities or fears people will take advantage of that. That attracts those kinds of people because your putting it out there for them and making you look like an appealing target. I know it's hard and I do it too but have to work on keeping it to yourself so nobody can use it against you and it's also very personal too. Happened to me a few times.
This is good advice that I have followed for most of my life, but it has morphed into being unable to express any vulnerabilities or difficult emotions to even my close friends and family. I guess be careful who you tell things to, but don't go too far with it like me.
This channel is just fire. Its raw, grounded and overall chill. Idk if you read but your speech feels like all the pauses are natural and when trying to listen and keep up with your stories and explanations, it all flows well together. The mannerisms and facial expressions also add to the sense of genuinity. Last thing I wanna say too is that those bandaids are kinna dope ngl. Especially when they match the fit. I know its to combat the BD but it looks stylish nonetheless. You for sure would be someone Id invite to the smoke sesh.
Most people mistake loud boisterous behavior as confidence while mistaking reserved and humble as weak and insecure. Similar to how you lose attraction to the 'alpha' type you may develop more attraction to the reserved men. I think that's the type you would more suited with. Being with the center of attention puts you at the center as well. And I'm completely forgetting how much of a mess the dating scene is now. I gave up over 10 years ago before the social media madness and it was bad, so I can only imagine how much worse it has gotten. On the bright side, you're pretty so you have options ❤
I was in a similar situation many years ago. This was the woman I end up marrying. I didn’t have a lot of experience in dating and I was naïve and I was craving to be wanted and loved and I didn’t know what a narcissist was back 20 years ago, so this person came on and love bomb me like they really cared about me. She was only trying to get me to fall in love with her,but it was similar to what you were saying. It wasn’t the real person, later they brought out their ugliness they lost their temper. They got mad. I should’ve left this women because she saw me as a person with no boundaries but what I thought was that I could change the person. I was codependent thinking she would see me as a nice guy, and she’ll fall in love with me, but doesn’t work that way. so what I’m saying is you gotta take time to see the real person and if they’re taking advantage you you gotta have boundaries and just cut the relationship off because you can’t even be friends narcissist aren’t capable of loving nobody they just come on to take advantage of people, you can’t even be friends with a narcissist
One of the best pieces of advice I ever read about meeting people was when someone wrote, "If you're not interested in bird watching, you don't join a bird watching group."
Irl and online I also feel my relationship with people is sort of disposable. They show up for the food, beer, or fun stuff but when struggle comes up they disappear :/ You should do a chop! Letting go of old, fried ends was a huge relief for me
Man if I was about 30 years younger, I could fall for this girl. Sadly, I am a broken down 50 year old. I hate the fact that she has had put up with so much B.S. Please learn to love yourself because we all see your beauty.
she's going to attract a lot of older guys. she should start looking at images of older men and try to build an attraction because that's what she will eventually like
@@Blue.velvet.0124 she's going to have to learn to be attracted. there are some older guys out there who have great sex and nice bodies. she just needs to see them naked to get aroused
Girl, you sound like me.. specially in my late teens/early twenties. I struggle still, but me doing self discovery about who I am has helped to grow and understand and unlearn things about life. I understood I am HSP, highly sensitive person has helped a lot too. All best for you.. < 3
I love your videos btw. I love waking up early in the morning and watching them while I drink my coffee. I love the sound and the background noise and all. I hope you never stop.
I think that it’s easy for extroverted people to talk to someone more shy like you. Whereas two shy people aren’t going to say much to each other how it is.
i had an online "friend" who was like that a few months ago, i thought i finally going to see her in real life once she would come to my city, but she randomly ghosted me and just dropped me out of nowhere like i was nothing. it's like she never cared because i waited for her to respond to my messages but she never talked to me ever again. i was heartbroken asf because I thought I finally made a new friend for the first time in years. Felt too traumatized to even make any new friends and i don't bother anymore, so I ended up isolating myself which makes me feel worse because i abosultely have nothing happening in my life like im a shut in. I was surprised that she was interested in being in my friend since no one else ever has and that's why I have little to no friends and lots of bullying because I'm that weird person that everyone ignores. I was always the extra "friend" in the friend grps, the one that everyone forgets to invite, the one that nobody talks to on the weekends. And I feel like I'll be living like this for the rest of my life. Ppl are never interested in me because im boring, ugly, not charismatic enough to for anyone to show interest. why would anyone even be friends with me because like im quiet and seems like no one wants to know and want to get to know someone like me. I literally can't make friends with anyone in real life and i cant connect with anybody because everyone is just the same person. Can't find anyone who's like me
13:03-13:23 This is so true. This instinct is of great wisdom. Cherish that. It will help you a lot in life. This talent also makes you a lot less naieve and will protect you.
Damaged souls are perpetually drawn together. External sources provide temporary relief, but true Inner peace can only be achieved through forgiveness.
5:56 Don't be paranoid; people most of the time are asking questions because they legitimately want to know more about you and are interested in you. I know you have problems with self-image, but you have to understand that from an outside perspective, you can be very captivating. You look for certain qualities in people; some people are looking for the qualities that you have.
The type of people you are attracted to says a lot about your soul and you as a person. The fact you are attracted to the qualities of that type of person is actually good, it really sucks that they turn out to be actually bad though. It seems like everyone is a bad person lately, though. Not too many actually good people left in the world. I'm so super proud of you!!!!!
@@Alienaddikt yeah it's fine man no prob. If that's the case she probably may be inclined to women because it's "safer" than dealing with men while suffering BD, just a guess.
The Crooked Lady from someone who can relate and identify to everything you talk about i willl say in support that you are a very strong person even if you don't always feel it at times, and to keep up the good fight dont give up on yourself and focus on you and what you want. try to think of things that keep you happy maybe a certain song, or a favorite memory, don't lose confidence or self esteem in yourself. you have many people who believe in you and support you never forget that ❤ your not ugly either,
I attracted the wrong people my entire life up until recently when I finally became spiritual in the right way and direction usually good people attract bad ppl for some reason 😕
I have the same problem, but I understand instinctively, that it comes with the territory. When you're seriously unattractive, nobody who is halfway normal or sane Is going to give you a chance... because no normal person is attracted to someone who is ugly like me. It's hell really
sounds like my sister, and a past friend of mine. I was there therapist. Thats fine. Not being able to listen to me when what i am talking abt isnt them, is insane
Only outstanding men will attract a woman, the rest have to work for it. Easier to be a woman in that regard... when a woman says she quits dating its a matter of time till another man tries something and convinces a woman to change, when a man says "i quit" he's invisible forever until he tries again. Men that REALLY quit will be alone forever.
Eh, I am in a similar position to most average/below average men as an average/below average woman. 🤷🏻♀️ Yeah, I had somebody claim to be "interested" but they ended up not really putting in much effort and abandoning me so I doubt their intentions were genuine. Now it's been months and months and months since anybody else who is more compatible has approached me or found me attractive. It's on me to resort to apps and approach guys first which I'd rather not do due to negative experiences and social anxiety. 😩
i think people can get sick of their friend talking about the same things over and over again especially negative things where hardly any improvement is visible. but emotional abuse is never okay! ❤
Don't feel bad for liking narcissistic people. You are supposed to like the act that they put on. It's not your fault if you fall for them and they aren't who they were pretending to be because they were the ones being dishonest, not you
Seen a Movie lately? 😊🚬In American Psycho, Patrick Bateman’s murder of Paul Allen to "Hip to Be Square" by Huey Lewis and the News symbolizes the dark side of 1980s consumerism. The song, from the album *Fore!* (1986), with its upbeat conformity, mirrors Bateman’s superficial charm masking his psychopathy. The scene critiques a society obsessed with appearances and status, where violence and emptiness lurk beneath a polished, corporate exterior-a twisted reflection of the era’s hollow ambitions.
the fact that u have this many views with the fan on and ur whispering should tell u that u have alot of supporters! it may not feel that way sometimes, maybe u dont want to perpetuate Para social relationships or something but i hope u can emulate the qualities u are attracted too easier and easier every day!
You can be open, but it's good to keep much to yourself until you know someone well. If you feel you can trust someone, share small bits of information and observe how they handle it. 8:35 Selfish, vain, rude to people who they think are below them, those are massive red flags to me (im too old for that shit lol). Just because you dont know someones past it doesn't mean their bad behavior is ok. A person is responsible for their actions at all times and although their past may explain their behavior it does not give them the right to mistreat others. If you just notice the negative behaviors its simply an observation and when you notice too many negative traits you can decide whether you want to continue interacting with them. You are not judging them as a person just determining if their way of being is compatible with who you are. If you are ok with the negative traits that is your choice but you should know the negative behaviors you see coming out of that person will eventually be directed at you, its just a matter of time if its part of their personality. If their treatment of others is not consistent with how they treat you then its artificial. You will know someone is real when you see them treat everyone with dignity and respect equally regardless of their status. Charisma & confidence is attractive (to the primitive part of our brains) and people who have that are often assholes because they can get away with it. If you read my wall of text you deserve a cookie. 🍪
Many studies have shown that women in general are overwhelmingly more attracted to people with the personality traits you are describing(narcissism, machiavellianism, and psychopathy), so this isn't exactly unique or surprising, since people without these traits are likely invisible to you.
This is gonna sound like a repeat, but I think the reasons why romance is so fumbling among young people is 1) People aren’t really sure who they are yet (even though their confidence may be supercharged) and 2) Your pool of contacts is really small compared to what it will be when you get older.
I know you're always working on yourself but, I think THAT should be the main focus right now. You don't want to drive yourself into something worse because I've dealt with narcissists before, and two of them were literally diagnosed. But it sounds like you're pretty aware of some of it already, so I'll just say, please don't fall into their traps. Please please. :) And on a completely different note: does anyone else think that this crooked lady stuff and the contents of this channel would make a badass psychological horror film? Fade in on a mirror in a young woman's bedroom, showing the young woman combing her hair, looking out the window, glancing at the mirror behind her. She walks in front of it. We're a couple feet behind her as the audience, but when we cut in closer, every detail on her face is visible. The face seen in the mirror almost looking unhuman, and supernatural. Anyways! :)
Just watched 1984 the movie and you kinda look like Julia the main actress. Its a very good movie aswell. Dont worry many bad things pass and you get numb to this things and the creeps just focus on yourself because we are heading into a recession so we have less chances to be dumb right now :)
If you are attractive you will attract all types of people, good and bad. You cant take responsibility for the behavior of people being attracted to you. People like you or they don't
@@Dachshundcrazy i'm talking about the reality that as a boy with a weird non-white body, i could try as hard as i can and still get nothing, she's attracting anybody without trying, girls have natural and unbalanced power in sex and children.
Jesus Christ loves you go to Jesus Christ and talk about your life problems and see how Jesus Christ heal all your pains and replace with his love and peace ... .. All the disappointment, discourage,pain,shame ,guilt, condemnation why all these life problems go to Jesus Christ he will give you the answer of your life . Jesus Christ loves you ❤❤. He can set you free from your mental depression... I had been in the same situation like you before with no friends and mental breakdown but Jesus Christ healed me all from my pain ❤❤ Jesus loves you
The bad people who talk bad about others and treat others bad.... Are called narcissists, And know this..in the end.. they will be on an empty island where no one will want anything to do with them. Family and friends.. their own children will want nothing to do with them... I had narcissist parents.. and i ran away from them.. for good. And im living with a different family.
Maybe you like the people that are "cool and outgoing" because you wish to become cool and outgoing. Because it is something you wish you are, but what you don't realize is that you are on RUclips.... You 100% don't realize that nobody would ever talk about there insecurities on the internet and tell there genuine fears, you are more much more "cool and outgoing" then you even realize. It takes a lot of guts to upload the stuff you have put up, PS you are amazing @The Crooked Lady.
4:25 100% ur not alone in that. Ppl shock me , other times not because I suspect it. I’m trying to talk a bit less so people can’t use anything against me , and keep closing my circle. I don’t get it. Don’t think I ever will.
It's unfortunate to see you crying. My advice to you is that you are destroying yourself and it may eventually lead you to worse things than crying. Stop crying. Remember that there are deformed people and disabled people. Don't look at what people better than you have. Look at what people worse than you have. Believe me, in the end, you will find someone who truly loves you. Remember that there are ugly people who got married and lived a happy life... In fact, I see that you are beautiful. You do not have pimples, wrinkles, or bad features... You should love yourself. Maybe the matter is not in your being unattractive, but in your personality and the way you think. Change yourself for the better. Stop following people who make you feel bad... Delete all the videos in which you say hurtful things about yourself. Live your life as you are. Remember the blessings that you have and that others wish for. Love your appearance. You are truly beautiful and attractive..
am really talking to the wrong person I got blocked by my ex twice and even my ex knows how I feel I still get blocked and my friend she got blocked too we were shocked he didn't even read the second message before i got blocked he say " i have better friends and i feel better without you" I didn't do anything wrong with my ex he was the one who show he's attitude hurts my feelings after what he saying those things to me
Say heads is you keep your hair and tails you cut it. Think about flipping a coin (or you can really do it I guess) and think about which side you would prefer it to land on. That's how you may want to decide. Well this little trick doesn't work for me more often than it does, but it's worth a try maybe. I'm not a girl so I don't see destroyed ends at all. I think your hair looks good as it is, but if it's better to cut it in the long run, then that probably makes more sense
From what you describe, it seems that you are attracting men with narcissistic psychopathic personalities. They are very charismatic and charming, and they look for preys to manipulate; generally people with low self-esteem, whom they will emotionally abuse. They are people incapable of feeling empathy or emotions, but they can fake them very well in order to fit in and manipulate. They see people as pieces of some game that they enjoy. They are usually cruel to animals and to people in positions that they consider inferior. They are literally the worst kind of person to be interested in, in fact it can even be dangerous. I recomendó that you investigate a little more about this subject, the attraction to narcissistic people. Tastes can also be educated. What attracts us the most is not always what suits us the most. Sometimes it can be exactly the opposite. When you meet someone that you are starting to be interested in, pay attention to 3 things: How he treat his mother; how he treat an animal, and how he treat a waiter. And most importantly, don't rush. Forget all that hookup culture crap. Don't physically get involved with someone you're just getting to know. Make him wait, no matter how long. That will scare away most of the undesirables. Only those who are really interested in you for who you are and not for what they can quickly take from you will stick around. Choose with reason. Not with emotions or feelings.
...about hair, some light trimming couldn't do harm. With that much of hair you could do some experimenting with waves, braids, buns etc. YT is full of different ideas, try them together with friends, siblings or mother.
Perhaps peoples similar to you would not try to make contact with you. So from your POV you only atract those extroverts, when in reality there could be several shy persons using tremendous amounts of will power to hide every sign of interest towards you. You could take 1st step towards them and they might go full panic mode and act cold or something nice can happen, you can't know before trying, that is the huge risk you have to take. You could be disappointed several times but it doesn't mean everyone just dislikes or hates you.
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Everyone's fake nowadays, they spend their entire existence on social media, facebook, instagram, etc. Best thing to do is never expect anything from them, dat way they can't hurt you. And yea, maybe chop dat hair. 💇♀ Ooo and there is a cat trying to break in 🧐
whenever i watch your vids i always think you look so similar to the singer sigrid lol. what you described around 5 mins sounds pretty close to lovebombing, unfortunately its hard to spot when its happening to you :(
Im a male.. 17yrs old boy teenager.. and i find it easier to talk to females . Bc females are more of shy sensitive, loving caring and compassionate... And that is why i care about women... And the thing with males... I end up getting along with them.. if i swear and make dirty jokes.. and tbh im not a bad person.. so id rather talk to females.. more than males. 100%
No, do not cut your hair please don't do that I beg of you. Yes, it can be hard to decipher someone's true intentions when they hide behind a mask, I understand what you mean. That's why you must keep firm boundaries with people until your 100% sure about who they want to be in your life & whether they are healthy for you long term or someone you shouldn't deal with. Just remember it's ultimately your choice who you allow into your personal life. If you decide to trust someone enough to let them in, then you should know them really well. If you feel like someone isn't revealing their true colors, it's more than likely because they are not. 😇😍🤩😘💯🎯🌈🔥🕉☯☮♾🧿🐉
(in regaurds to a 10 month recent video) Thank you for guiding the video in terms of BDD, your easier to understand being kinder to yourself. Remember, you're an influencer! People look up to you, and it's disheartening for them to see you struggle. Your proving by setting clear goals and using structured scenarios to guide decisions, like creating video tutorials that align with your lifestyle objectives in simplicity feel great! For now on I'll Brush my teeth 🪥 lol.
That's actually common. When you first reveal all the insecurities or fears people will take advantage of that. That attracts those kinds of people because your putting it out there for them and making you look like an appealing target. I know it's hard and I do it too but have to work on keeping it to yourself so nobody can use it against you and it's also very personal too. Happened to me a few times.
This is good advice that I have followed for most of my life, but it has morphed into being unable to express any vulnerabilities or difficult emotions to even my close friends and family. I guess be careful who you tell things to, but don't go too far with it like me.
This channel is just fire. Its raw, grounded and overall chill. Idk if you read but your speech feels like all the pauses are natural and when trying to listen and keep up with your stories and explanations, it all flows well together. The mannerisms and facial expressions also add to the sense of genuinity. Last thing I wanna say too is that those bandaids are kinna dope ngl. Especially when they match the fit. I know its to combat the BD but it looks stylish nonetheless. You for sure would be someone Id invite to the smoke sesh.
Girl you have no idea how much your videos help me. Thank you thank you thank you.
Most people mistake loud boisterous behavior as confidence while mistaking reserved and humble as weak and insecure.
Similar to how you lose attraction to the 'alpha' type you may develop more attraction to the reserved men. I think that's the type you would more suited with. Being with the center of attention puts you at the center as well.
And I'm completely forgetting how much of a mess the dating scene is now. I gave up over 10 years ago before the social media madness and it was bad, so I can only imagine how much worse it has gotten.
On the bright side, you're pretty so you have options ❤
I was in a similar situation many years ago. This was the woman I end up marrying. I didn’t have a lot of experience in dating and I was naïve and I was craving to be wanted and loved and I didn’t know what a narcissist was back 20 years ago, so this person came on and love bomb me like they really cared about me. She was only trying to get me to fall in love with her,but it was similar to what you were saying. It wasn’t the real person, later they brought out their ugliness they lost their temper. They got mad. I should’ve left this women because she saw me as a person with no boundaries but what I thought was that I could change the person. I was codependent thinking she would see me as a nice guy, and she’ll fall in love with me, but doesn’t work that way. so what I’m saying is you gotta take time to see the real person and if they’re taking advantage you you gotta have boundaries and just cut the relationship off because you can’t even be friends narcissist aren’t capable of loving nobody they just come on to take advantage of people, you can’t even be friends with a narcissist
One of the best pieces of advice I ever read about meeting people was when someone wrote, "If you're not interested in bird watching, you don't join a bird watching group."
Irl and online I also feel my relationship with people is sort of disposable. They show up for the food, beer, or fun stuff but when struggle comes up they disappear :/
You should do a chop! Letting go of old, fried ends was a huge relief for me
It’ll happen soon enough. Feels like I need a fresh start
For the hearing impaired: "Like, but, you know what's up."
Man if I was about 30 years younger, I could fall for this girl. Sadly, I am a broken down 50 year old. I hate the fact that she has had put up with so much B.S. Please learn to love yourself because we all see your beauty.
she's going to attract a lot of older guys. she should start looking at images of older men and try to build an attraction because that's what she will eventually like
@@adamjohnson6432 who gives a shiet if im 100 years old ill accept all the consequences for her cause shes worth it
@@jasherdollsunitedEwwww she's said multiple times she doesn't like older men and isn't attracted to them creepy behavior.
@@Blue.velvet.0124 she's going to have to learn to be attracted. there are some older guys out there who have great sex and nice bodies. she just needs to see them naked to get aroused
Never began for 50 year oldcels
Girl, you sound like me.. specially in my late teens/early twenties.
I struggle still, but me doing self discovery about who I am has helped to grow and understand and unlearn things about life. I understood I am HSP, highly sensitive person has helped a lot too. All best for you.. < 3
I love your videos btw. I love waking up early in the morning and watching them while I drink my coffee. I love the sound and the background noise and all. I hope you never stop.
I’m glad you like them!
I think that it’s easy for extroverted people to talk to someone more shy like you. Whereas two shy people aren’t going to say much to each other how it is.
Yes, there insecurities get in the way.😊
i had an online "friend" who was like that a few months ago, i thought i finally going to see her in real life once she would come to my city, but she randomly ghosted me and just dropped me out of nowhere like i was nothing. it's like she never cared because i waited for her to respond to my messages but she never talked to me ever again. i was heartbroken asf because I thought I finally made a new friend for the first time in years. Felt too traumatized to even make any new friends and i don't bother anymore, so I ended up isolating myself which makes me feel worse because i abosultely have nothing happening in my life like im a shut in. I was surprised that she was interested in being in my friend since no one else ever has and that's why I have little to no friends and lots of bullying because I'm that weird person that everyone ignores. I was always the extra "friend" in the friend grps, the one that everyone forgets to invite, the one that nobody talks to on the weekends.
And I feel like I'll be living like this for the rest of my life. Ppl are never interested in me because im boring, ugly, not charismatic enough to for anyone to show interest. why would anyone even be friends with me because like im quiet and seems like no one wants to know and want to get to know someone like me. I literally can't make friends with anyone in real life and i cant connect with anybody because everyone is just the same person. Can't find anyone who's like me
13:03-13:23 This is so true. This instinct is of great wisdom. Cherish that. It will help you a lot in life. This talent also makes you a lot less naieve and will protect you.
Damaged souls are perpetually drawn together. External sources provide temporary relief, but true Inner peace can only be achieved through forgiveness.
Just keep putting your self out there eventually you will find someone genuine or at least become better at spotting the people who are not :)
When you attract wrong people (not Chads)
Dont tell guys about your anxiety and body dysmorphia, i wouldnt tell ppl this type of stuff unless you're rlly serious about them
5:56
Don't be paranoid; people most of the time are asking questions because they legitimately want to know more about you and are interested in you. I know you have problems with self-image, but you have to understand that from an outside perspective, you can be very captivating. You look for certain qualities in people; some people are looking for the qualities that you have.
The type of people you are attracted to says a lot about your soul and you as a person. The fact you are attracted to the qualities of that type of person is actually good, it really sucks that they turn out to be actually bad though. It seems like everyone is a bad person lately, though. Not too many actually good people left in the world. I'm so super proud of you!!!!!
Everyone who simps just know that its over for you
Hahaha, my comment was exactly about that, she likes some dude already. So simps start packing 😂
@@SAMX2007 i´m pretty sure she said she is gay...
@@Alienaddikt never heard of that but if she is not my problem anyway
@@SAMX2007 i just mentioned it cuz you said she likes some "dude"
@@Alienaddikt yeah it's fine man no prob. If that's the case she probably may be inclined to women because it's "safer" than dealing with men while suffering BD, just a guess.
The Crooked Lady from someone who can relate and identify to everything you talk about i willl say in support that you are a very strong person even if you don't always feel it at times, and to keep up the good fight dont give up on yourself and focus on you and what you want. try to think of things that keep you happy maybe a certain song, or a favorite memory, don't lose confidence or self esteem in yourself. you have many people who believe in you and support you never forget that ❤ your not ugly either,
This is a ubiquitous phenomenon. It is known as the narc bait and switch.
I attracted the wrong people my entire life up until recently when I finally became spiritual in the right way and direction usually good people attract bad ppl for some reason 😕
because there are a lot of bad people
Bad people are experts at finding people to exploit.
I have the same problem, but I understand instinctively, that it comes with the territory. When you're seriously unattractive, nobody who is halfway normal or sane Is going to give you a chance... because no normal person is attracted to someone who is ugly like me. It's hell really
It seems you have someone in mind already, someone you like.
sounds like my sister, and a past friend of mine. I was there therapist. Thats fine. Not being able to listen to me when what i am talking abt isnt them, is insane
Only outstanding men will attract a woman, the rest have to work for it. Easier to be a woman in that regard... when a woman says she quits dating its a matter of time till another man tries something and convinces a woman to change, when a man says "i quit" he's invisible forever until he tries again. Men that REALLY quit will be alone forever.
so true!
Yea man
Eh, I am in a similar position to most average/below average men as an average/below average woman. 🤷🏻♀️ Yeah, I had somebody claim to be "interested" but they ended up not really putting in much effort and abandoning me so I doubt their intentions were genuine. Now it's been months and months and months since anybody else who is more compatible has approached me or found me attractive. It's on me to resort to apps and approach guys first which I'd rather not do due to negative experiences and social anxiety. 😩
Fascinating perspective into the female mind. You have an astute social intelligence.
I think this girl is so cute!
i think people can get sick of their friend talking about the same things over and over again especially negative things where hardly any improvement is visible. but emotional abuse is never okay! ❤
I mean I think your at your prettiest when your rocking the long hair so I’d recommend you keep it the way it is
Y'all who comment are wasting time, she doesn't reply
Hi
Don't feel bad for liking narcissistic people. You are supposed to like the act that they put on. It's not your fault if you fall for them and they aren't who they were pretending to be because they were the ones being dishonest, not you
Seen a Movie lately?
😊🚬In American Psycho, Patrick Bateman’s murder of Paul Allen to "Hip to Be Square" by Huey Lewis and the News symbolizes the dark side of 1980s consumerism. The song, from the album *Fore!* (1986), with its upbeat conformity, mirrors Bateman’s superficial charm masking his psychopathy. The scene critiques a society obsessed with appearances and status, where violence and emptiness lurk beneath a polished, corporate exterior-a twisted reflection of the era’s hollow ambitions.
As a father of two daughters, Its the way the world is going, not your fault.
the fact that u have this many views with the fan on and ur whispering should tell u that u have alot of supporters! it may not feel that way sometimes, maybe u dont want to perpetuate Para social relationships or something but i hope u can emulate the qualities u are attracted too easier and easier every day!
Haha pls call me out! The fan sucks so much. I need an air conditioner soon
Being really beautiful tends to bring in the wrong people sometimes. If see anymore red flags like the ones you talked about in the video, run!
When I look at your Videos I feel warmth..I love you!
You can be open, but it's good to keep much to yourself until you know someone well. If you feel you can trust someone, share small bits of information and observe how they handle it. 8:35 Selfish, vain, rude to people who they think are below them, those are massive red flags to me (im too old for that shit lol). Just because you dont know someones past it doesn't mean their bad behavior is ok. A person is responsible for their actions at all times and although their past may explain their behavior it does not give them the right to mistreat others.
If you just notice the negative behaviors its simply an observation and when you notice too many negative traits you can decide whether you want to continue interacting with them. You are not judging them as a person just determining if their way of being is compatible with who you are. If you are ok with the negative traits that is your choice but you should know the negative behaviors you see coming out of that person will eventually be directed at you, its just a matter of time if its part of their personality. If their treatment of others is not consistent with how they treat you then its artificial. You will know someone is real when you see them treat everyone with dignity and respect equally regardless of their status.
Charisma & confidence is attractive (to the primitive part of our brains) and people who have that are often assholes because they can get away with it.
If you read my wall of text you deserve a cookie. 🍪
You are such an amazing and beautiful person!!!! I absolutely love the sound of your voice, too!!!!
I resonate with what you said in this video not gonna lie…
Many studies have shown that women in general are overwhelmingly more attracted to people with the personality traits you are describing(narcissism, machiavellianism, and psychopathy), so this isn't exactly unique or surprising, since people without these traits are likely invisible to you.
This is gonna sound like a repeat, but I think the reasons why romance is so fumbling among young people is 1) People aren’t really sure who they are yet (even though their confidence may be supercharged) and 2) Your pool of contacts is really small compared to what it will be when you get older.
I know you're always working on yourself but, I think THAT should be the main focus right now. You don't want to drive yourself into something worse because I've dealt with narcissists before, and two of them were literally diagnosed. But it sounds like you're pretty aware of some of it already, so I'll just say, please don't fall into their traps. Please please. :)
And on a completely different note: does anyone else think that this crooked lady stuff and the contents of this channel would make a badass psychological horror film? Fade in on a mirror in a young woman's bedroom, showing the young woman combing her hair, looking out the window, glancing at the mirror behind her. She walks in front of it. We're a couple feet behind her as the audience, but when we cut in closer, every detail on her face is visible. The face seen in the mirror almost looking unhuman, and supernatural. Anyways! :)
Just watched 1984 the movie and you kinda look like Julia the main actress. Its a very good movie aswell. Dont worry many bad things pass and you get numb to this things and the creeps just focus on yourself because we are heading into a recession so we have less chances to be dumb right now :)
If you are attractive you will attract all types of people, good and bad. You cant take responsibility for the behavior of people being attracted to you. People like you or they don't
the fact that you are attracting people at all, shows your power as a woman.
Also has the power to attract terrible people, without discernment it can introduce new problems.
Why because they're desperate? It's not a compliment
@@Icureditwithmybrain that's true, though i suspect when you say "terrible" you mean ugly.
@@Dachshundcrazy i'm talking about the reality that as a boy with a weird non-white body, i could try as hard as i can and still get nothing, she's attracting anybody without trying, girls have natural and unbalanced power in sex and children.
She’s attracting people because she’s very physically attractive and personable.
I wish she can see that herself.
Good to see you're still keeping at it.!))😊
Do you know your MBTI? Some types naturally attract others even though they aren't the best match.
Jesus Christ loves you go to Jesus Christ and talk about your life problems and see how Jesus Christ heal all your pains and replace with his love and peace ...
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All the disappointment, discourage,pain,shame ,guilt, condemnation why all these life problems go to Jesus Christ he will give you the answer of your life .
Jesus Christ loves you ❤❤.
He can set you free from your mental depression...
I had been in the same situation like you before with no friends and mental breakdown but Jesus Christ healed me all from my pain
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Jesus loves you
The bad people who talk bad about others and treat others bad.... Are called narcissists, And know this..in the end.. they will be on an empty island where no one will want anything to do with them. Family and friends.. their own children will want nothing to do with them... I had narcissist parents.. and i ran away from them.. for good. And im living with a different family.
Maybe you like the people that are "cool and outgoing" because you wish to become cool and outgoing. Because it is something you wish you are, but what you don't realize is that you are on RUclips.... You 100% don't realize that nobody would ever talk about there insecurities on the internet and tell there genuine fears, you are more much more "cool and outgoing" then you even realize. It takes a lot of guts to upload the stuff you have put up, PS you are amazing @The Crooked Lady.
tldw just wants chad
Can't imagine with that face of yours you've said that u're ugly cuz you're absolutely beautiful I'm not making jokes
4:25 100% ur not alone in that. Ppl shock me , other times not because I suspect it. I’m trying to talk a bit less so people can’t use anything against me , and keep closing my circle. I don’t get it. Don’t think I ever will.
It's unfortunate to see you crying. My advice to you is that you are destroying yourself and it may eventually lead you to worse things than crying. Stop crying. Remember that there are deformed people and disabled people. Don't look at what people better than you have. Look at what people worse than you have. Believe me, in the end, you will find someone who truly loves you. Remember that there are ugly people who got married and lived a happy life... In fact, I see that you are beautiful. You do not have pimples, wrinkles, or bad features... You should love yourself. Maybe the matter is not in your being unattractive, but in your personality and the way you think. Change yourself for the better. Stop following people who make you feel bad... Delete all the videos in which you say hurtful things about yourself. Live your life as you are. Remember the blessings that you have and that others wish for. Love your appearance. You are truly beautiful and attractive..
Don't cut your hair, it is really pretty!!!!!
High school kids and Junior high people can be cruel it's over don't be so down on yourself
Not in highschool
@@CrookedLadyDo you love teddy bears?; please post a photo of yourself cuddling up to a big teddy bear in bed.
❤ you're just way too down on yourself you have a lot of things going for you
am really talking to the wrong person I got blocked by my ex twice and even my ex knows how I feel I still get blocked and my friend she got blocked too we were shocked he didn't even read the second message before i got blocked he say " i have better friends and i feel better without you" I didn't do anything wrong with my ex he was the one who show he's attitude hurts my feelings after what he saying those things to me
How has your experience been with dating? You seem like you would fit into a lot of peoples type. Would love to hear your experience .
Say heads is you keep your hair and tails you cut it. Think about flipping a coin (or you can really do it I guess) and think about which side you would prefer it to land on. That's how you may want to decide. Well this little trick doesn't work for me more often than it does, but it's worth a try maybe.
I'm not a girl so I don't see destroyed ends at all. I think your hair looks good as it is, but if it's better to cut it in the long run, then that probably makes more sense
People are getting attracted to you.
I mean bro at least you can attract people lol
You're smart Crooked Lady ✨️
You have a very pretty smile :)
Thank you!
Im a girl and i think you have similar traits as me hair is brown so i think your a attractive girl 😊please think positive!
From what you describe, it seems that you are attracting men with narcissistic psychopathic personalities. They are very charismatic and charming, and they look for preys to manipulate; generally people with low self-esteem, whom they will emotionally abuse. They are people incapable of feeling empathy or emotions, but they can fake them very well in order to fit in and manipulate. They see people as pieces of some game that they enjoy. They are usually cruel to animals and to people in positions that they consider inferior. They are literally the worst kind of person to be interested in, in fact it can even be dangerous.
I recomendó that you investigate a little more about this subject, the attraction to narcissistic people. Tastes can also be educated. What attracts us the most is not always what suits us the most. Sometimes it can be exactly the opposite. When you meet someone that you are starting to be interested in, pay attention to 3 things: How he treat his mother; how he treat an animal, and how he treat a waiter.
And most importantly, don't rush. Forget all that hookup culture crap. Don't physically get involved with someone you're just getting to know. Make him wait, no matter how long. That will scare away most of the undesirables. Only those who are really interested in you for who you are and not for what they can quickly take from you will stick around. Choose with reason. Not with emotions or feelings.
...about hair, some light trimming couldn't do harm. With that much of hair you could do some experimenting with waves, braids, buns etc. YT is full of different ideas, try them together with friends, siblings or mother.
Perhaps peoples similar to you would not try to make contact with you. So from your POV you only atract those extroverts, when in reality there could be several shy persons using tremendous amounts of will power to hide every sign of interest towards you. You could take 1st step towards them and they might go full panic mode and act cold or something nice can happen, you can't know before trying, that is the huge risk you have to take. You could be disappointed several times but it doesn't mean everyone just dislikes or hates you.
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Theres only one thing U gotta ask Yourself, Punk - Do you think I would look good with an afro?
wtf
PLEASE BECOME A FAN OF THE MUSIC GROUP ''EDIE BRICKELL AND THE NEW BOHEMIANS.
IF EDIE BRICKELL HAD A NIECE IT WOULD BE YOU.
skill issue 😂
I Love you Tyrion Lannister
Are you recording on a phone? just wondering
U like art. Meet ur new person @ art 🎨 show or museum.
Where are you?? You can't put any Air conditioner in??
What happened to those blinds? Does a tweaker live in that house?
Nope, just many many cats : )
Everyone's fake nowadays, they spend their entire existence on social media, facebook, instagram, etc. Best thing to do is never expect anything from them, dat way they can't hurt you. And yea, maybe chop dat hair. 💇♀ Ooo and there is a cat trying to break in 🧐
Do you still have your crutches?
This is just about attention for you. If you were really that down and lonely you would have written back
whenever i watch your vids i always think you look so similar to the singer sigrid lol. what you described around 5 mins sounds pretty close to lovebombing, unfortunately its hard to spot when its happening to you :(
She’s pretty! And yes it def is, I get easily enamored because I didn’t get that attention growing up
Your hands are getting more screen time than your face that's what this channel's all about am I right?
love
Im a male.. 17yrs old boy teenager.. and i find it easier to talk to females . Bc females are more of shy sensitive, loving caring and compassionate... And that is why i care about women... And the thing with males... I end up getting along with them.. if i swear and make dirty jokes.. and tbh im not a bad person.. so id rather talk to females.. more than males. 100%
Just checking .. yup you are still beautiful
Great vidio
You are a Pisces for sure.
real
Aka sub chad
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Wish i could meet Jenna Ortega and Attract her
beauty ❣️
Hi CL
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No, do not cut your hair please don't do that I beg of you.
Yes, it can be hard to decipher someone's true intentions when they hide behind a mask, I understand what you mean.
That's why you must keep firm boundaries with people until your 100% sure about who they want to be in your life & whether they are healthy for you long term or someone you shouldn't deal with.
Just remember it's ultimately your choice who you allow into your personal life.
If you decide to trust someone enough to let them in, then you should know them really well.
If you feel like someone isn't revealing their true colors, it's more than likely because they are not.
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Too crooked!
(in regaurds to a 10 month recent video) Thank you for guiding the video in terms of BDD, your easier to understand being kinder to yourself. Remember, you're an influencer! People look up to you, and it's disheartening for them to see you struggle. Your proving by setting clear goals and using structured scenarios to guide decisions, like creating video tutorials that align with your lifestyle objectives in simplicity feel great! For now on I'll
Brush my teeth 🪥 lol.
Do you have a discord ?