I am an older lady. You are one of the sweetest prettiest girls I have ever seen. Your beauty is natural, without the need for makeup. Some people have said you should have answered the guy back. However he may have hurt you physically in retaliation, so it was better to ignore him. I hope one day you are able to appreciate how lovely you are. You have helped me to feel better about my own looks. ❤
It's unfortunate but ppl like that love nothing more than targeting vulnerable ppl. When I was a young skinny kid I had a couple of experiences like that too.
Every narcissistic person will try to break when they realize they don't matter to you, can fool you and can't use you. Just keep your head up, and keep treating them like thier opinions don't matter.
Please just know that you did *not* deserve that, and you did nothing to deserve it. Some people are just downright hurtful, and like you said, they just want to bring suffering to others. This world needs to become kinder. Also, you look really nice in that flower crown! It really suits you. 🌹 And the banana design on the bandaids is so cute 💛
It's not that, "This world needs to become kinder", a lot of people are extremely kind. It's the 10-15% of psychopaths that make life misery for everyone else and we are too kind to do anything about it. Kind people need to grow teeth and protect each other and the vulnerable.
@@stumbling Most people just ignore the bullying when they see it. I wouldnt call that kind. Its more like the opposite of kind. Plus, I am pretty, sure that 90% of people are psychopaths. Well, 99% actually.
Band aids?? I thought that was duct tape! Any reason they are "decorating" her face like that? I had to stop the video at 5:30 so if she offers and explanation I didn't stick around to hear what it might have been.
@@stumblingits not that many psychopaths but yeah you're right its like 3 % to 5 % of men to 1 % to 3 % of women so that only like 4 % to 8 % of human beings in this country and in the world
As I told you in a comment to a different video, your life story and your feelings are EXACTLY like mine used to be. That was 50 years ago (I'm currently 70), and the pain, REJECTION, and disrespect I went through are still fresh in my mind. It's difficult not to internalize these experiences. But you CAN learn to control your emotional responses to them. That's an ability we all have. In other words, you can rise above it and outright refuse to let it bother you. Watching your videos, you have come so far. Please don't let this (or any other) experience set you back. You said it perfectly when you said there are some people on this earth who are out to cause problems, and to prey on others they perceive as being weak and vulnerable. That's their sole mission in life. Don't let them win. I used to be bullied, made fun of, and rejected by people because of my appearance or actions. Then I realized that for every bad person, there are countless good ones who believe in respecting others and showing it. After years of rejection, I found someone who respected me and eventually learned to love me. It will happen. As a word of advice, stop thinking that you are "old-looking" or ugly. You absolutely and positively are not. Plus, I can tell from your videos that you have a heart of gold. These are things a prospective partner will be attracted to. Your life will turn around. Mine did. Best wishes. Life is hard. People can be "buttholes." But you are way better than they are.
It’s completely valid to be upset about someone hurting your feelings. I don’t understand how people, especially in real life, can bully someone like it’s a lighthearted joke. That person has problems. I’m sorry you had to go through that. It’s absolutely humiliating when someone is being mean to you. Also, about the part where you said you wonder why out of everyone in the crowd, you happen to be the one that someone picks on. I TOTALLY GET IT. I remember early on in high school when I still went in person, I got bullied by this one guy for over a year. And I never understood why I was the one that HE targeted. I remember one time I was on the bus and he was sitting behind me and at one point he PUT A PLASTIC BAG ON MY HEAD. He and his friend started laughing like it was a comedy show. I was mortified. And not just him but others would disrespect and be rude to me. These were many people that I didn’t even know personally. It was just one or two people. Like taunting me as I’d walk in the hallway or laughing and not listening to me as I’d try to help them with their work (they were the type of boys to muck around in class). It was so ostracising to be the only one people just had no problem picking on. People pick on the weak because subconsciously they know that they’re above them. I think for me, not only was I unattractive, but I also looked vulnerable and I was very skinny at that age. So… basically all bad combinations. And I was very shy. It’s like people get joy out of seeing the “weak” ones get bullied because it boosts their ego.
I know this can sound a bit straight forward but you have to learn to answer back. I understand how you feel as this has happened with me a thousand times. You have to ask him " is there a problem" or atleast "thank you for your observation ". When people know you won't be a silent recipient they will know not to mess with you. I am probably twice your age but as a minority I have faced this a lot in the US as well as in India where discrimination is very very common based on your skin color or looks. I had to learn to reply. It was scary when I did it the first time but it was strangely empowering too.
What an awful thing to happen, what is wrong with people?! I do think sociopaths like that target shy-looking people as they think they won't fight back, it's an easy laugh for their sick minds. I had stuff like this happen to me a lot as a teen and in my early 20s too, I'd sometimes get people shouting insults out of cars as they drove past, it was nuts. I used to wonder wtf was wrong with me too. As I got older it calmed down and now I'm just ignored. You're really attractive and weirdly I think that can cause negative attention sometimes from people who have zero socialisation skills. Sending hugs and hope you can forget that moron soon but I can understand how much it will have shaken you 😢❤️🩹
You’re right, he might have made some assumptions about her being shy and acted really badly trying to get her attention. Or maybe it was a racist thing. Because I really don’t see men truly bothering with anyone they’re not attracted to or interested in. And she is very pretty and ethereal looking. Or maybe it was a misogyny thing, trying to put down a cute girl who looks like she won’t fight back for some sort of sick boost. Poor girl!
I get picked out to be humiliated everywhere I go. I know I’m ugly, but I dont understand why others are treated normal, despite their looks, but somehow I’m always the target. I think he was projecting tbh. He probably thought you were attractive and wanted to bring you down to his level.
He was being a troll. Reminds me of Nelson on the Simpsons. There is no way you look old. Yeah some people are garbage. At least you're a better human being than that clown.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. You are very beautiful in my opinion. Most of the girls your comparing yourself to probably have fake eyelashes lots of makeup and stuff like that. I used to work with this girl and I thought she was so beautiful and I work overnight and she came by and I realized that she didn't look very good she kind of looked like me because she didn't have any makeup on. Kind of gave me a new perspective. I embrace that I'm ugly it's funner I don't have to take everything so serious. Men are rude they act like we are only there to visually appease them.
I dont think your being dramatic. Thats public humiliation. He's deliberately humiliating you, that wasn't even a good joke. I doubt anyone else would have laughed.
“Standing there minding my own business.” That’s how it usually starts… An older lady was talking with this younger guy and asked him “Who looks better, me or that?” She was talking about me and I confronted her. What really bothered me was that she called me a that. I felt so dehumanized 😩
If someone would approach me like that, I would feel like nervous by their weirdness, and also think that either they are so nervous of talking to me, they just spew out total nonsense, or they are high or something. I would not think they personally want to attack me, since they dont know me, but I would really want to back off from that situation. Then, another part of me would want to comfront them, like: "What the heck are you babbling about? What is your point, what are you trying to say?" Cant really tell which one I would do, but those things just came to my mind. Really disturbing encounter, your feelings and thoughts of it are very real and true.
I was very insecure when I was a kid. Looking back at old photos, I wasn't bad-looking but through being picked on I thought I was ugly. The jerks that do this don't pick on your looks, they pick on your insecurities - and if you're insecure about your looks (or being bad at sports, or having a stammer or whatever it is) and they find something to trigger these insecurities, they've hit paydirt. It's almost like they're tugging at a ball of string trying to find something they can pull out and attack. It doesn't matter to them what the specific thing is, just that they're find something you're insecure about and go to town. And he really wasn't 'kidding' or 'joking' or whatever he said he was doing, he was being a jerk and trying to make you accept it as an ok thing for him to do. In other words he was being a complete d!ck - head as we say in the UK. People like that smell insecurity and get a kick out of making themselves feel better by finding the right triggers to put others down.
I've had issues with idiots like that as well. I had just come from the college gym working out and I was walking through a building and a random guy walked up to me saying, "One of your arms are bigger than the other." And he just kept saying it, even to random people walking by that didn't give a damn. When I was in the gym I got a decent amount of compliments. One person even said I looked like a bodybuilder and that I looked great. And check this out, most guys that have won the Mr. Olympia have had one arm that is slightly bigger. Some people are so miserable that they want to ruin your day, so they say stupid things. I saw that same guy some months later and he was about to get his ass whooped for messing with some guy. It was awesome to see.
I am a high functioning Autistic person. Every where I go, no matter what I do, people can just tell there is something different about me. Either people love me, or they hate me. No in between. I just turned 40, been dealing with discrimination my whole life. Used to think I was seriously ugly and unattractive, but I actually look like Dominic Monaghan just with brown eyes and hair. I know now that I am highly attractive and only realized it later in life. It took me a while to become comfortable in my own skin and realize that people do find me attractive. But, it was my autisim making things difficult for me and not realizing that was one reason I get stares and looks from people because many find me attractive. But there is no doubt about it that people pick up on my differences and find me weird and eccentric. I am struggling to see how you are even remotely unattractive or ugly. You seem like a very pretty and sweet girl. For sure you will find the right person for you and realize that later in life you can shine when you stop being so hard on yourself. Ignore the haters, focus on character development and stop focusing on the negative. You are beautiful and I 100% mean that hun. I don't know from the video if you are on the spectrum, but perhaps you could be and are misinterpreting people possibly? I have been the target of bully's making fun of my appearance and since I have a pretty boy face I get a lot of jealous rivals who call me gay or try and spread rumors either because my looks make them question their sexuality or they are just projecting. I can't stand people like that and think they are just jealous of all the attention I have been getting from women at work. So I think it comes down to many factors. Also, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so sure you will not be attractive to every single person out there, but people who find you attractive will definitely pursue you. Happened to me and I got women pursuing me who I would have thought out of my league when I was much younger. It is all about how you carry yourself and how high you hold your head.
You are correct that bullies sense vulnerability or weakness and that is who they choose to target. That guy was trash and if I noticed something like happening I would have said something. I would say you should have stood up for yourself, but I know not everyone is comfortable with or even able to address conflicts directly like that. But if you had said something you would probably feel better right now. It would not even need to be an insult in return. Just address the situation. People will walk over you for life if you allow them. But you have to believe in your own self-worth before you can handle a situation like this properly. For my part I have literally never seen a random person that I just felt compelled to antagonize. He wanted to drag you down with him in misery and unfortunately he succeeded. Hopefully only temporarily. You have to grow a spine. If that guy thought you might curse him out or even report him for harassment he would not have continued. He kept going because you didn’t push back. People will behave how you allow them to behave. It shouldn’t be this way, but peace is not always possible.
Its weird how people think that roasting people is humor. Or actually funny. It's actually very cheap and lazy humor. It seems like its stupid people who joke like this because its a easy lazy joke they don't have to put much thought into. I've never found it funny. I've literally never laughed at any jokes about peoples looks.
Your hair looks good on you and you do not look old. I would also try smaller framed glasses. Coming from a man, this type of guy has a predatory attitude and unfortunately the only way to make it stop is to destroy his ego, either mentally or physically. This is unfortunate.
F him. Focus on yourself and those who care/do for you. You don't wake with your world surrounded by this chump. Think about it, in the months to come you won't even be thinking about this. You are a beautiful young woman and you only live once. Stop worrying about what others think about you. Start respecting and loving yourself more. It starts with you, be proud of who you are.
I just want you to know that you are much more prettier than you actually realize. I can see that you have a tremendously beautiful soul that resides deep within your heart full of untapped potential. There will be many times in our lives that the devil will use people to reinforce those negative self perceptions we have of ourselves. Know that God loves you immensely. He has a purpose and plan for your life that will bring you joy and fulfillment. Whenever you hear those negative words again, lift up your head toward the sky and know YOU ARE LOVED!
Always remember: you aren't ugly,society is.i wish you could see how beautiful you are,don't let anyone get their bad comments get to you,they are just making your day be worse
Ignore folk like that, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you and if someone has to try and run someone else down, it says a lot about his own life. At the end of the day, he's just an individual and certainly is not a reflection of what other people see and you look fantastic, far from displeasing, thus the reason folk like that are not worth it.
Anger and internalizing are normal human emotions and there is nothing wrong with them. Just make sure you don't let it traumatize you to the point of PTSD. Here today, gone tomorrow. Water off a duck's back. In time, you will learn to let it go. You have to. This includes all the negativity you feel about your looks, and yourself. Do you best to keep your affirmations positive. At my work, one of the company's core values is Positive Mental Attitude (PMA). Adopt this mentality - PMA. I will send prayers your way. Overcoming the petty hurdles of life is a part of your greater destiny. I do not know what your faith is but we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Always be Grateful, ABG. Be grateful that your person has good eyesight, good hearing, good health and is capable of doing what you want to do. Transcend. Level up.
That’s weird how you were compared to a much older person considering you actually look younger than your age. I mean, I initially thought you were a lot younger when you first appeared on my yt feed. in that sense you remind me of this one particular tennis player (I occasionally watch pro tennis) named Emiliana Arango and I thought she was like 14 at first when I first saw her match a few months ago. It was like how is she on the WTA tour she looks so young? but she’s about your age lol. Anyways, I wouldn’t pay attention to that person. I mean , if you look old, then I must be a literal dinosaur 🦖 haha.
Does she have a group or something? She feels so kind and gentle. Sis i want a friend like her..I'm also insecure about my body. What happened to u today, no one deserves this😢
If someone made fun of me, I would go, (CARTMAN VOICE) "AY!!!! I'm not old, you butt-muffin!! I'm sexy, and if you don't call me sexy right now, I'm telling my meem--- MEEEEEEM!!!" Nothing. XDDD Funny aside, the guy was a butt-muffin. He'll get his.
You are internalizing what some random person says. Why did he come into the store, did he buy anything? Was it open mic night? Next time scream like a banshee and get him trespassed out of the store. Don't collect the bad moments in life, cherish the good stuff like your kittens and your art and your RUclips cheering section, me included. We all love you.
I apologize for that scumbag and the poor interaction he initiated! I’ve been something similar, and I may or may not engage the dirtbag, but what I will Do is remove myself from the store, and not give these people my business. You can also contact the manager or some customer service department to let them know what their employee did
I totally understand wanting to internalize the worst possible reason for being mistreated. He was a heavily intoxicated, female hating, pos. He saw a target maybe based on your body language and demeanor that he could hurt without retaliation. His vision was likely distorted from a number of drugs. He never actually called you old looking or ugly. You don't know what he was thinking so you need to try to dismiss it. There's a stoic saying, there's nothing external that can affect you, only your internal interpretation of it's significance.
Sounds like excuse, the lad was disrespectful. No one asked him anything he spoke to people who did not talk to him, he was making fun and humiliating someone in public. Is wrong-the only thing she should have think is that he is rude and has 0 manners, so best ignore. And I bet he wasn’t looker.
@@adk5997 I was pointing out possible reasons for his shitty behavior and why she shouldn't take it personally or draw negative conclusions about herself for it. I in no way was excusing the asshole for his behavior. He was not justified at all, just to be clear.
So annoying when you’re trying to get out of like dissociation and stuff like this happens. But like being insecure makes you assume the worst unfortunately, most likely you’re deeping it rlly hard probs were just wearing similar clothes that looked like the same vibe as that person. Annoying tho bc u just assume the worst most of the time w low self esteem so you kinda just assume everyone is being horrid. I can’t see how anyone would think that from ur appearance so must have been ur clothes or something or hair.
I really don't understand what's wrong with people sometimes to be honest with you you may think you're ugly or you know unattractive but you really are not you're very much beautiful and I really do mean it even though this is coming from a complete stranger on youtube I really do mean you're very beautiful I went through a similar thing growing up trust me there's many more guys out there like me who finds you attractive
There are very evil people on earth and they can always sense the person that is most sensitive to their hate. I am so very sorry you had to go through that!!!!!! You are so amazing and so awesome and very pretty!!! You have a really pretty voice, too!!!!
The experience you describe, however you take it, isn't so uncommon. As a daily walker I've heard all sorts shouted from passing cars, just because some people are into that. "Red socks!" , "green shoes" and "shaved head" ( all true), and "You look like Freddy Krueger" (not true), though now I often introduce myself as that gentleman for a laugh.
Based on the posture and the language, people who always love attention dare to pounce on people like you. Because you are not a normal person. Women in particular have the bad card when it comes to this, because everyone is or has been blinded, because the world turns us into these people. It's up to you whether you change when you realise it. This was simply an act that is very easy for this person to carry out and they are not one per cent aware of what they are causing. Peace and prosperity creates boredom and then people who are more extroverted dare to attack others with false courage and this strengthens a fake self-confident personality. You are an emotional person who needs people to talk to about it because otherwise it eats you up or you explode and commit acts in a frenzy or you sink into abysmal despair. You exaggerate the situation and get carried away because you're fed up and, above all, tired. That's human and completely natural. Getting rid of it and talking about it is good and even better with friends because then there is also the physical presence that gives people relief. You need people who strengthen you and are there for you in real life and also defend or protect you. I have written all this in a slightly provocative style because it really gets to me when other people mix arrogance with arrogance and look down on others with a high trotting look, because they can't cope with their own problems such scum people look for outlets to relieve the everyday pressure and that shows that these people are weak and you are stronger. Small, puny people are clowning while the big and strong stay quiet until they are forced to show what respect for others means so that small clowns know their place. The small blabberers are always there to blurt out hot air and without meaning while the quiet ones make an impression with few words
The approval of others aren’t something to give you value. We should be thankful within our self. Out from everything if you have a good character, meaning good manners and kindness there isn’t much more you need. And personally you’re pretty cute.
I understand how you took it, and I would feel the same way in your position. But my take on it: probably he thought you were cute and wanted to talk to you but was really bad at it and acted stupid. Either that or he was just mentally disturbed or on drugs or something. You don't look old at all and you don't look ugly at all, so that is not a reason anyone would single you out.
There are some really nasty people out there. They will look for any excuse just to be mean and nasty. This kind of stuff can have you upset for days. Try your best to just ignore people like that. You look just fine.
In high school I was targeted by girls, and when I got to university realised that they had a problem with me because I wasn't attracted to them! And due to my autism and ADHD which is still undiagnosed at 39 years old.. So I wasn't very nice to them either looking back.. But you need to believe you are beautiful to be considered beautiful by others, I went through school not realising that I was good looking.. Now I know I can have the best looking girls, however I must avoid the narcissists.. I would definitely be very proud to be with you! I think you are really beautiful and very sexy lady. You could get a boyfriend instantly if you spoke to guys and gave them the confidence, however avoid the ones with the gym bodies as they will be narcissistic and you are an empath so they will make you ill with anxiety due to what they will do x
Hi i wanted to say you are very pretty and i have no clue why anyone would say otherwise. Iam new to the channel and i dont know what is dymorphia? Also what are the band aids for? All i know is that you are gorgeous ❤
some people just what a response and just be a nuisance it makes them feel better. I had a ''Friend'' just completely be rude to me and only me but then later found out he was drinking even tho that's not an excuse . I too feel like I'm the only one who gets picked out of the group that people target. I think its because I don't fight back just because I don't what the conflict. I agreed with you in why cant people just get along and disrespect others. sorry that this happened too you just remember its not just you and not everyone is like this (❁´◡`❁)
Oh, honey. I see you for the beautiful person you are and you deserve respect. Don’t let what that idiot say bother you. He just sounds like we was trying to get a reaction out of you. What a loser trying to bring you down like that. I had someone approach me in public and tell me to go home because I was too hideous to be seen in public. People need to understand that we are just trying to live and don’t need their opinions. Brush it off sweetheart. You got this! Happy Thanksgiving 😊❤
Also I am not saying this to just make you feel good but you are not ugly you are just not confident. I completely understand how the two can be linked so maybe focus your energy on a career doing something you really like and that won't need you to be conveniently pretty. But if you keep feeling this way more than being ugly you might end up feeling depressed which is worse. I went to grad school, worked as a researcher for many years because that gave me a voice. Even though I felt ugly unattractive I felt powerful that I did something which people want to hear about. But when I am waiting at a bus stop I am still the same insecure ugly person to the world saving that I know in my mind I am more than just that. And this helps. Sorry lots of free advice but just wanted to give you a perspective.
If you have buttons people will push them and the more you dont want them pushed the more people will want to push them. The solution is to remove the buttons all together.
I do see you as a person because simply YOU ARE! There are some shitty ppl in this world but you gotta stand for yourself. its not how you look its the vibe you give , they know you are too nice … i really dont understand how you see yourself , cuz girl you look way younger than your age to me and you believe you look older! You have a very shiny pretty hair and cute innocent feminin face .. try to see the good in you. You have a lot!
God I am so sorry you don't deserve that he's a loser for doing that, it takes a miserable person to try to make other ppl miserable because misery likes company and I'm sorry he chose you that day to do that to, no matter how he made you feel, you are so much more than him actually spending time trying to make a complete stranger feel bad
95% chance the guy thought you were hot and it was his idiot way of trying to hit on you lol. If he thought you looked similar to an old woman it had to be because of your glasses or how you were dressed because you barely look old enough to drive, seriously.
Sweetheart, I don't think you're overacting at all. I'm an overly sensitive person and people's words hurt and I overanalyze everything, so I understand. But I just wanted to let you know that I do find you conventionally attractive. You have beautiful porcelain ivory skin, rosy cheeks, full lips that are a nice color and a really nice jawline which makes your profile really beautiful. And I don't think you look old at all. I'm not too sure how old you are but the first time I watched one of your videos, I assumed you were in highschool, maybe a sophomore or junior. Watching a couple more of your videos, I was surprised when you mentioned your "highschool days" because I was convinced you were still in highschool. I think in some of your photos and thumbnails you don't look 'conventionally attractive' only because you are choosing unflattering pictures. And I think even people you find beautiful or attractive could also look unattractive if they chose an unflattering photo of themselves. Also, it looks like you don't wear any makeup, so you are truly naturally beautiful. Again, I'm sure people who are considered conventionally attractive would not be labeled as such if they didn't have their hair and makeup done and took an unflattering photo from a bad angle with poor lighting. People often post pictures of themselves when their hair and makeup are done, make sure they're in the perfect lighting, posing at the perfect angle then edit the photo afterwards. You look so pretty to me in this video, and I love the roses on your head too hehe. I know you may not believe me, but I'm being sincere and I hope one day you'll see how beautiful you really are and can be confident with yourself. ❤
Some people get bullied some people don't why do people target you because they think you're vulnerable doesn't mean you are we all got bullied at some point in our lives and we all say why me it's a natural response why are you because you are you and sometimes you have to tell them to piss off at the top of your voice yes If everyone hears it everyone looks at the person and he becomes the idiot I agree I want a nice peaceful life I am intoverted and could even be autistic but this is the extremely extroverted neurotypical ailistic world and we have to find a nice path through it And yes it's far as I'm concerned you are neurodivergent and we have to stick together throughout these things you are not alone
hey, have you ever heard of something called law of attraction? You should really believe in your thoughts having the ability to completely change one day working on them and accepting you see yourself like so atm. What's really weird i can tell you, i figured out for myself, that people often treat you, like you see yourself in your head. I believe in your power of changing your thoughts. I know what it's like to be sensible and disliking others making comments on someones appearance. Imo picking someone for his looks is like racism. And btw, you look very sweet, you should smile a little more, it would make your day better.
So I wasn't there, so I didn't see their mannerisms, but from my own experience, when people say things that sound disrespectful, they are usually trying to make you laugh. You may have just ran into someone who was really bad at understanding body language and doesn't understand what jokes are socially acceptable to tell to strangers. They might have just been trying to start a conversation and joke around with you. Again, I wasn't there, so I don't actually know. Clearly, its a weird thing to say to someone you don't know regardless. My friends roast me all the time, and I roast them. Its fun, however, I wouldn't ever say those things to strangers. Something I do know, is that people typically don't just enjoy another persons suffering. In their mind, for whatever reason, they thought that it was ok to say that to you. You're clearly attractive, I think it would be extremely rare for you to run into an individual who genuinely thinks you're ugly. If they wanted you to feel bad about yourself, chances are, they are insecure and their way of fixing is that, is to push other people down to their level, so they feel more valuable. That's something I've learned that has helped my self-esteem tremendously. Everything always ties back to the individual. If someone doesn't like something about you, it actually has nothing to do with you beneath the surface. It always ties back to them in someway. Its important to remember, that there is nothing objectively wrong with anyone. You don't have any obligation to be valuable to anyone. Do what makes you happy. Obviously its easier said then done, and me saying that most likely wont fix anything. But maybe it will help.
First of all, I'm so sorry this happened to you, but remember this: there is nothing wrong with you - the problem is this world we live in, or many of its inhabitants to be more specific. Secondly, think of all the positive comments and messages you've been getting - don't we outnumber one loser? We can't all be wrong! 🙂
If you're wondering why they target you, it is because of your appearance. But not in the way that you think. I have a solid 'resting b!tch face' so people always think I'm pissed and looking for a fight. So they avoid me. You have the 'nice person, sweetheart' look so the trash that wants their ego kick will go for you. They assume you won't put up a fight.
Let’s not forget you’re also a young, small woman. Plus, a belligerent man who thinks you don’t pose a threat to him? Yeah I’m not surprised. People will take advantage of moments to shit on people they think won’t retaliate or actually hurt them back. You’re dealing with a bunch of things. You’re dealing with childhood trauma and you’re struggling to understand how to build your confidence up. Respect is earned. It is a lot easier for people to command, attention, fear, adoration, fear…but it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re respected. It just seems like it. You have my respect because you’re trying to be a good person. I’ve often felt like I have been the butt of the joke. I thought, “why me??” But you’re right. It is the “oh you look like someone can disrespect.” And because you only have your existence, you will feel like people are coming after you. The more you work on *self respect* and self defense, not only will you feel less like you specifically are being targeted but you’ll hold more space for gratitude and less for shame and embarrassment. If I were in your shoes in that story today, I too would be at least a little embarrassed just because of the nature of the situation, but some people feel no embarrassment. Either they just notice that the guy is weird or their main focus is their safety and protecting themselves. I know these things feel personal, but they’re not. It takes practice to learn that but it could’ve been another woman or guy that he wanted attention from, felt amused by, wanted to pick on, whatever. If you’re the only one around, and a person is out of their mind (like this guy sounds) they’ll likely try some form of interaction even if it’s stupid. Misery loves company. You’re a whole person. Everyone has people that try to make them feel they’re not whole. That’s why we must fight for ourselves. You’re worth fighting for. ❤
I'm sorry, but my sarcasm would have stepped in and asked that zero if he was auditioning for the new Joker movie, and then tell him "don't go away mad, just go away." Then i probably would have sung the whole song. I have a strong theater/entertainment background so ot would have been my normal behavior. So, basically, find music that makes you smile and happy. There's not enough laughter in the world today, so find something that does.
Were you wearing those glasses you wore in your 3rd oldest video? Those glasses do look kinda old-fashioned. If you can afford it, I would recommend that you get a smaller version of the glasses you wore in the "I'm an Adult" video.
And i am targeted for being stupid because im autistic. Im high functioning. So ppl just think im stupid. But if it was more obvious than well u get it. I hate it. It hurts. And i will never stop receiving thoughs insults.. everyone has assholes they gotta deal with. Get used to dealing with mean ppl. If it wasnt stupidy it will be something else. Thryll just find something else to insult u with. And there is nothing you can do but feel your emotions.
As a man, I think you are attractive. You look exactly like what many women look like without makeup but I would say even better. Google celebrities who are regarded as attractive without their makeup on. It's striking. Your worries about appearance are more I think cerebral and not based in reality. Even so called good looking women get negative comments about their looks. You need to remember that. Many models can recall many things like that. Kate Moss, Cindy Crawford and others have made these points about their pasts. I think you mentioned you have clinical body dysmorphia?
I don’t think he targeted you bc of your appearance. I think you misinterpreted it because you’re sensitive. Here’s what I really truly think happened..... You said he was acting belligerent? He was probably drunk, or high. He goes into a convenience store bc he’s got the munchies and he notices a resemblance between a girl in the store and a woman on the TV because they share similar eyeglasses and hairstyle, and because he’s drunk/high, he thinks it’s much more entertaining than it actually is. He thinks HE is more entertaining than he actually is. Drunk/high people can be ridiculous and act like total idiots. Instead of feeing embarrassed, you should have felt embarrassed FOR HIM. He’s the one causing a scene and making a total fool out of himself. Also, for the record: you are not ugly. And you actually look extremely young, not old at all. You look like a little kid to be honest. No disrespect, because I know your feelings are real to you, but you have completely fabricated this image you have of yourself as ugly. And if you feel you are often targeted by unkind people, it’s possible it’s the vibe you’re giving off bc of the way you feel about yourself. A-holes can sense vulnerability and weakness and that’s what makes you so easy target, not your looks.
You are very good looking, very cute.. You just need to be aware that people are very rude and nasty.. like the ants that kill their injured or anyone different.. If you had your make up and a really cute outfit you would be 10/10... and these people would look and see you as you want to be seen as you will blend in with the rest... In life its about blending in.. I have found this with my work life, you need to blend in with the rest and not stand out to be too good or different.. Please be aware you , are an empath, you are a really nice person, you might be on the autistic spectrum however some of the most successful people have turned it into a superpower.. People can be rude however you have the upper hand against all narcissistic people.. You must stand up for yourself and tell that guy he is extremely disrespectful for making narcissistic comments, and he should be ashamed of his behaviour, he should be more respectful of women and not a misogynist.. Ask for back-up tell others in the store of what he just did and make him feel ashamed of his behaviour.. Girls are an easy target for young males who's brain is still developing (what is he stupid?).. In the UK you would be a popular girl with lots of friends, if you chose to have lots of friends.. Make sure your eating enough red meat and not too much vegetables!
In your older videos you were unnattractive, but now you're attractive. Never like hideous more so invisible. It's like even if you grow to understand people think you're attractive it doesn't change the world. You just alleviate yourself as a symptom. Not knowing a potential friend or partner would treate an ugly person badly sucks. Not too mention the gaslighting. The world sucks. Isn't it also weird to think if you get positive feedback you can start to feel happy despite still knowing how bad the world is and how its only because of your looks. It makes me feel selfish.
I don't know how you can say you look old and unattractive. You look nice and look early 20s. I am 22 and when I have beard I look actually 30 but without it I barely even look 20 lol. I think a lot of people get that. Also sorry to hear about that guy being a prick. I also just want peace even when it is hard in this world that is true. Hope you have a nice day.
First, I wanna say I find you cute you’re not even simple, looking let alone ugly you’re not ugly at all, and I’m not just saying that to make you feel good.I can relate to you I’m not a woman I’m a guy I know you’re an empath so am I I’ve heard a lot of people say behind my back that I’m funny, looking or said I’m a bald eagle cause I’m losing my hair.Most people say I’m nice looking.I’m a Christian and I know what I am in christ Jesus,it doesn’t bother me. It just shows how weak and insecure they have some type of complex of insecurity. It’s actually a form evilness to try to get somebody to harm themselves I could tell your heart you’re very kind loving person. I think it has to do with the school system throughout the United States principles aren’t taking action with the bullying. God bless you girl Jesus loves you.❤😊
I wish I was with this pretty young lady I would have made him feel real bad.Real bad.Do not pay attention to people like that.When people do that they are having problems and projecting them on other people.If I was with you he would have left the store looking ugly 😅.
I had to stop this video at 5:30....Because I am compelled to ask: "When you were IN the store did you have flowers in your hair and duct tape on your nose like you do in this video?? (Because THAT might get you some attention that you MAY not like??? I personally dont mind the look, in fact if you were my girlfriend I might even encourage such a look to possibly discourage any other potential suitors from hitting on "my" girl??
@@CrookedLadydon't let trashy garbage people affect your life, the world is filled with these types of people they have nothing else better to do because they are losers and deep down inside they know, most of them never amount to anything in life, Its actually sad really just be thankful you are not like them and you are kind, caring and beautiful that's what real matters 🤍
I am an older lady. You are one of the sweetest prettiest girls I have ever seen. Your beauty is natural, without the need for makeup. Some people have said you should have answered the guy back. However he may have hurt you physically in retaliation, so it was better to ignore him. I hope one day you are able to appreciate how lovely you are. You have helped me to feel better about my own looks. ❤
It's unfortunate but ppl like that love nothing more than targeting vulnerable ppl. When I was a young skinny kid I had a couple of experiences like that too.
I'm really sorry to hear that. I wish people were kinder
Every narcissistic person will try to break when they realize they don't matter to you, can fool you and can't use you. Just keep your head up, and keep treating them like thier opinions don't matter.
Please just know that you did *not* deserve that, and you did nothing to deserve it. Some people are just downright hurtful, and like you said, they just want to bring suffering to others. This world needs to become kinder. Also, you look really nice in that flower crown! It really suits you. 🌹 And the banana design on the bandaids is so cute 💛
It's not that, "This world needs to become kinder", a lot of people are extremely kind. It's the 10-15% of psychopaths that make life misery for everyone else and we are too kind to do anything about it. Kind people need to grow teeth and protect each other and the vulnerable.
@@stumbling You make a fair point
@@stumbling Most people just ignore the bullying when they see it. I wouldnt call that kind. Its more like the opposite of kind. Plus, I am pretty, sure that 90% of people are psychopaths. Well, 99% actually.
Band aids?? I thought that was duct tape! Any reason they are "decorating" her face like that? I had to stop the video at 5:30 so if she offers and explanation I didn't stick around to hear what it might have been.
@@stumblingits not that many psychopaths but yeah you're right its like 3 % to 5 % of men to 1 % to 3 % of women so that only like 4 % to 8 % of human beings in this country and in the world
As I told you in a comment to a different video, your life story and your feelings are EXACTLY like mine used to be. That was 50 years ago (I'm currently 70), and the pain, REJECTION, and disrespect I went through are still fresh in my mind.
It's difficult not to internalize these experiences. But you CAN learn to control your emotional responses to them. That's an ability we all have. In other words, you can rise above it and outright refuse to let it bother you.
Watching your videos, you have come so far. Please don't let this (or any other) experience set you back. You said it perfectly when you said there are some people on this earth who are out to cause problems, and to prey on others they perceive as being weak and vulnerable. That's their sole mission in life. Don't let them win.
I used to be bullied, made fun of, and rejected by people because of my appearance or actions. Then I realized that for every bad person, there are countless good ones who believe in respecting others and showing it. After years of rejection, I found someone who respected me and eventually learned to love me. It will happen.
As a word of advice, stop thinking that you are "old-looking" or ugly. You absolutely and positively are not. Plus, I can tell from your videos that you have a heart of gold. These are things a prospective partner will be attracted to.
Your life will turn around. Mine did. Best wishes. Life is hard. People can be "buttholes." But you are way better than they are.
I have to be careful being an older guy. I guarantee men don't find this lady ugly. I'm not after her but on a polite basis she is beautiful
That guy is such a weirdo! I'm so sorry u had to experience that and he clearly just has insecurities that he's just trying to project on other people
It’s completely valid to be upset about someone hurting your feelings. I don’t understand how people, especially in real life, can bully someone like it’s a lighthearted joke. That person has problems. I’m sorry you had to go through that. It’s absolutely humiliating when someone is being mean to you.
Also, about the part where you said you wonder why out of everyone in the crowd, you happen to be the one that someone picks on. I TOTALLY GET IT. I remember early on in high school when I still went in person, I got bullied by this one guy for over a year. And I never understood why I was the one that HE targeted. I remember one time I was on the bus and he was sitting behind me and at one point he PUT A PLASTIC BAG ON MY HEAD. He and his friend started laughing like it was a comedy show. I was mortified.
And not just him but others would disrespect and be rude to me. These were many people that I didn’t even know personally. It was just one or two people. Like taunting me as I’d walk in the hallway or laughing and not listening to me as I’d try to help them with their work (they were the type of boys to muck around in class).
It was so ostracising to be the only one people just had no problem picking on. People pick on the weak because subconsciously they know that they’re above them. I think for me, not only was I unattractive, but I also looked vulnerable and I was very skinny at that age. So… basically all bad combinations. And I was very shy. It’s like people get joy out of seeing the “weak” ones get bullied because it boosts their ego.
I know this can sound a bit straight forward but you have to learn to answer back. I understand how you feel as this has happened with me a thousand times. You have to ask him " is there a problem" or atleast "thank you for your observation ". When people know you won't be a silent recipient they will know not to mess with you. I am probably twice your age but as a minority I have faced this a lot in the US as well as in India where discrimination is very very common based on your skin color or looks. I had to learn to reply. It was scary when I did it the first time but it was strangely empowering too.
You're exactly right!👍I am so heated hearing someone do that to another.
What an awful thing to happen, what is wrong with people?! I do think sociopaths like that target shy-looking people as they think they won't fight back, it's an easy laugh for their sick minds. I had stuff like this happen to me a lot as a teen and in my early 20s too, I'd sometimes get people shouting insults out of cars as they drove past, it was nuts. I used to wonder wtf was wrong with me too. As I got older it calmed down and now I'm just ignored. You're really attractive and weirdly I think that can cause negative attention sometimes from people who have zero socialisation skills. Sending hugs and hope you can forget that moron soon but I can understand how much it will have shaken you 😢❤️🩹
You’re right, he might have made some assumptions about her being shy and acted really badly trying to get her attention. Or maybe it was a racist thing. Because I really don’t see men truly bothering with anyone they’re not attracted to or interested in. And she is very pretty and ethereal looking. Or maybe it was a misogyny thing, trying to put down a cute girl who looks like she won’t fight back for some sort of sick boost. Poor girl!
i’m in middle school right now and i relate to you so much, thank you for making videos you’ve helped so much
I get picked out to be humiliated everywhere I go. I know I’m ugly, but I dont understand why others are treated normal, despite their looks, but somehow I’m always the target.
I think he was projecting tbh. He probably thought you were attractive and wanted to bring you down to his level.
The girl looks like a 1970s fashion model
No one deserves to be treated that way you deserve respect and remember that you are a wonderful person btw nice crown
Thank you!
He was being a troll. Reminds me of Nelson on the Simpsons. There is no way you look old. Yeah some people are garbage. At least you're a better human being than that clown.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. You are very beautiful in my opinion. Most of the girls your comparing yourself to probably have fake eyelashes lots of makeup and stuff like that. I used to work with this girl and I thought she was so beautiful and I work overnight and she came by and I realized that she didn't look very good she kind of looked like me because she didn't have any makeup on. Kind of gave me a new perspective. I embrace that I'm ugly it's funner I don't have to take everything so serious. Men are rude they act like we are only there to visually appease them.
I dont think your being dramatic. Thats public humiliation. He's deliberately humiliating you, that wasn't even a good joke. I doubt anyone else would have laughed.
I'm thinking he wanted her yes in that way but is an incel pig
“Standing there minding my own business.” That’s how it usually starts… An older lady was talking with this younger guy and asked him “Who looks better, me or that?” She was talking about me and I confronted her. What really bothered me was that she called me a that. I felt so dehumanized 😩
😥 I'm so sorry. Nobody deserves that 💙
If someone would approach me like that, I would feel like nervous by their weirdness, and also think that either they are so nervous of talking to me, they just spew out total nonsense, or they are high or something. I would not think they personally want to attack me, since they dont know me, but I would really want to back off from that situation. Then, another part of me would want to comfront them, like: "What the heck are you babbling about? What is your point, what are you trying to say?" Cant really tell which one I would do, but those things just came to my mind. Really disturbing encounter, your feelings and thoughts of it are very real and true.
6:03 should be on a t-shirt, meme, tiktok sound, or something. That is the most relatable thing I've ever heard
That is crazy! I think you are beautiful, and wise. 😊 People can be real jerks!
Fr shwty beautiful
Thank you sir
@@CrookedLady hey how I join your discord?
@@CrookedLady wlx
You are the kind of girl a guy wants to marry and settle down with for life. NOTHING ugly about you
I was very insecure when I was a kid. Looking back at old photos, I wasn't bad-looking but through being picked on I thought I was ugly. The jerks that do this don't pick on your looks, they pick on your insecurities - and if you're insecure about your looks (or being bad at sports, or having a stammer or whatever it is) and they find something to trigger these insecurities, they've hit paydirt. It's almost like they're tugging at a ball of string trying to find something they can pull out and attack. It doesn't matter to them what the specific thing is, just that they're find something you're insecure about and go to town. And he really wasn't 'kidding' or 'joking' or whatever he said he was doing, he was being a jerk and trying to make you accept it as an ok thing for him to do. In other words he was being a complete d!ck - head as we say in the UK. People like that smell insecurity and get a kick out of making themselves feel better by finding the right triggers to put others down.
I've had issues with idiots like that as well. I had just come from the college gym working out and I was walking through a building and a random guy walked up to me saying, "One of your arms are bigger than the other." And he just kept saying it, even to random people walking by that didn't give a damn. When I was in the gym I got a decent amount of compliments. One person even said I looked like a bodybuilder and that I looked great. And check this out, most guys that have won the Mr. Olympia have had one arm that is slightly bigger. Some people are so miserable that they want to ruin your day, so they say stupid things. I saw that same guy some months later and he was about to get his ass whooped for messing with some guy. It was awesome to see.
Sorry to hear about what happened in the store my friend. It sounds to me like that guy's elevator was broken. ♥️
I am a high functioning Autistic person. Every where I go, no matter what I do, people can just tell there is something different about me. Either people love me, or they hate me. No in between. I just turned 40, been dealing with discrimination my whole life. Used to think I was seriously ugly and unattractive, but I actually look like Dominic Monaghan just with brown eyes and hair. I know now that I am highly attractive and only realized it later in life. It took me a while to become comfortable in my own skin and realize that people do find me attractive. But, it was my autisim making things difficult for me and not realizing that was one reason I get stares and looks from people because many find me attractive. But there is no doubt about it that people pick up on my differences and find me weird and eccentric.
I am struggling to see how you are even remotely unattractive or ugly. You seem like a very pretty and sweet girl. For sure you will find the right person for you and realize that later in life you can shine when you stop being so hard on yourself. Ignore the haters, focus on character development and stop focusing on the negative. You are beautiful and I 100% mean that hun.
I don't know from the video if you are on the spectrum, but perhaps you could be and are misinterpreting people possibly? I have been the target of bully's making fun of my appearance and since I have a pretty boy face I get a lot of jealous rivals who call me gay or try and spread rumors either because my looks make them question their sexuality or they are just projecting. I can't stand people like that and think they are just jealous of all the attention I have been getting from women at work. So I think it comes down to many factors. Also, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so sure you will not be attractive to every single person out there, but people who find you attractive will definitely pursue you. Happened to me and I got women pursuing me who I would have thought out of my league when I was much younger. It is all about how you carry yourself and how high you hold your head.
He reflected his own ignorance. Do not give him the time of day,you natural beauty. Navy Vet Corey
I feel sorry that you had to deal with that.
You are correct that bullies sense vulnerability or weakness and that is who they choose to target. That guy was trash and if I noticed something like happening I would have said something. I would say you should have stood up for yourself, but I know not everyone is comfortable with or even able to address conflicts directly like that. But if you had said something you would probably feel better right now. It would not even need to be an insult in return. Just address the situation. People will walk over you for life if you allow them.
But you have to believe in your own self-worth before you can handle a situation like this properly.
For my part I have literally never seen a random person that I just felt compelled to antagonize. He wanted to drag you down with him in misery and unfortunately he succeeded. Hopefully only temporarily.
You have to grow a spine. If that guy thought you might curse him out or even report him for harassment he would not have continued. He kept going because you didn’t push back. People will behave how you allow them to behave. It shouldn’t be this way, but peace is not always possible.
Its weird how people think that roasting people is humor. Or actually funny. It's actually very cheap and lazy humor. It seems like its stupid people who joke like this because its a easy lazy joke they don't have to put much thought into. I've never found it funny. I've literally never laughed at any jokes about peoples looks.
Exactly. I rarely see kind things about people online. It’s a toxic place of judgement. It bleeds into real life
@@CrookedLadyperhaps hewqs "negging" you, but he himself is socially awkward?..
Just a possibility
1 because youre very pretty and natural looking. 2 you dont fight back.
Your hair looks good on you and you do not look old. I would also try smaller framed glasses. Coming from a man, this type of guy has a predatory attitude and unfortunately the only way to make it stop is to destroy his ego, either mentally or physically. This is unfortunate.
F him. Focus on yourself and those who care/do for you. You don't wake with your world surrounded by this chump. Think about it, in the months to come you won't even be thinking about this. You are a beautiful young woman and you only live once. Stop worrying about what others think about you. Start respecting and loving yourself more. It starts with you, be proud of who you are.
I just want you to know that you are much more prettier than you actually realize. I can see that you have a tremendously beautiful soul that resides deep within your heart full of untapped potential. There will be many times in our lives that the devil will use people to reinforce those negative self perceptions we have of ourselves. Know that God loves you immensely. He has a purpose and plan for your life that will bring you joy and fulfillment. Whenever you hear those negative words again, lift up your head toward the sky and know YOU ARE LOVED!
❤❤devil pa are for right cause only😢😢😢don't say that😢😢
Always remember: you aren't ugly,society is.i wish you could see how beautiful you are,don't let anyone get their bad comments get to you,they are just making your day be worse
Ignore folk like that, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you and if someone has to try and run someone else down, it says a lot about his own life. At the end of the day, he's just an individual and certainly is not a reflection of what other people see and you look fantastic, far from displeasing, thus the reason folk like that are not worth it.
Anger and internalizing are normal human emotions and there is nothing wrong with them. Just make sure you don't let it traumatize you to the point of PTSD. Here today, gone tomorrow. Water off a duck's back. In time, you will learn to let it go. You have to. This includes all the negativity you feel about your looks, and yourself. Do you best to keep your affirmations positive. At my work, one of the company's core values is Positive Mental Attitude (PMA). Adopt this mentality - PMA. I will send prayers your way. Overcoming the petty hurdles of life is a part of your greater destiny. I do not know what your faith is but we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Always be Grateful, ABG. Be grateful that your person has good eyesight, good hearing, good health and is capable of doing what you want to do. Transcend. Level up.
That’s weird how you were compared to a much older person considering you actually look younger than your age. I mean, I initially thought you were a lot younger when you first appeared on my yt feed. in that sense you remind me of this one particular tennis player (I occasionally watch pro tennis) named Emiliana Arango and I thought she was like 14 at first when I first saw her match a few months ago. It was like how is she on the WTA tour she looks so young? but she’s about your age lol. Anyways, I wouldn’t pay attention to that person. I mean , if you look old, then I must be a literal dinosaur 🦖 haha.
I got told I looked like a teen the other day but I just don’t see it
Does she have a group or something? She feels so kind and gentle. Sis i want a friend like her..I'm also insecure about my body. What happened to u today, no one deserves this😢
If someone made fun of me, I would go, (CARTMAN VOICE) "AY!!!! I'm not old, you butt-muffin!! I'm sexy, and if you don't call me sexy right now, I'm telling my meem--- MEEEEEEM!!!" Nothing. XDDD Funny aside, the guy was a butt-muffin. He'll get his.
Must be a mental thing. This girl is beautiful
You are internalizing what some random person says. Why did he come into the store, did he buy anything? Was it open mic night? Next time scream like a banshee and get him trespassed out of the store. Don't collect the bad moments in life, cherish the good stuff like your kittens and your art and your RUclips cheering section, me included. We all love you.
Agreed. And the old woman was on the news channel at the store- she wasn't actually in the store.
thank you i will watch the video again and listen better.@@HaleySings03
@@AprilMayJung No worries :)
Hahaha thank you 😊
You are welcome. Love to see you smile! @@CrookedLady
I apologize for that scumbag and the poor interaction he initiated! I’ve been something similar, and I may or may not engage the dirtbag, but what I will
Do is remove myself from the store, and not give these people my business. You can also contact the manager or some customer service department to let them know what their employee did
It’s just a random guy tbh not the store owners fault
I'm sorry you to had to go through that shitty experience
I totally understand wanting to internalize the worst possible reason for being mistreated. He was a heavily intoxicated, female hating, pos. He saw a target maybe based on your body language and demeanor that he could hurt without retaliation. His vision was likely distorted from a number of drugs. He never actually called you old looking or ugly. You don't know what he was thinking so you need to try to dismiss it. There's a stoic saying, there's nothing external that can affect you, only your internal interpretation of it's significance.
Sounds like excuse, the lad was disrespectful. No one asked him anything he spoke to people who did not talk to him, he was making fun and humiliating someone in public. Is wrong-the only thing she should have think is that he is rude and has 0 manners, so best ignore. And I bet he wasn’t looker.
@@adk5997 I was pointing out possible reasons for his shitty behavior and why she shouldn't take it personally or draw negative conclusions about herself for it. I in no way was excusing the asshole for his behavior. He was not justified at all, just to be clear.
So annoying when you’re trying to get out of like dissociation and stuff like this happens. But like being insecure makes you assume the worst unfortunately, most likely you’re deeping it rlly hard probs were just wearing similar clothes that looked like the same vibe as that person. Annoying tho bc u just assume the worst most of the time w low self esteem so you kinda just assume everyone is being horrid. I can’t see how anyone would think that from ur appearance so must have been ur clothes or something or hair.
I really don't understand what's wrong with people sometimes to be honest with you you may think you're ugly or you know unattractive but you really are not you're very much beautiful and I really do mean it even though this is coming from a complete stranger on youtube I really do mean you're very beautiful I went through a similar thing growing up trust me there's many more guys out there like me who finds you attractive
There are very evil people on earth and they can always sense the person that is most sensitive to their hate. I am so very sorry you had to go through that!!!!!! You are so amazing and so awesome and very pretty!!! You have a really pretty voice, too!!!!
The experience you describe, however you take it, isn't so uncommon. As a daily walker I've heard all sorts shouted from passing cars, just because some people are into that. "Red socks!" , "green shoes" and "shaved head" ( all true), and "You look like Freddy Krueger" (not true), though now I often introduce myself as that gentleman for a laugh.
Based on the posture and the language, people who always love attention dare to pounce on people like you.
Because you are not a normal person.
Women in particular have the bad card when it comes to this, because everyone is or has been blinded, because the world turns us into these people. It's up to you whether you change when you realise it.
This was simply an act that is very easy for this person to carry out and they are not one per cent aware of what they are causing.
Peace and prosperity creates boredom and then people who are more extroverted dare to attack others with false courage and this strengthens a fake self-confident personality.
You are an emotional person who needs people to talk to about it because otherwise it eats you up or you explode and commit acts in a frenzy or you sink into abysmal despair.
You exaggerate the situation and get carried away because you're fed up and, above all, tired.
That's human and completely natural.
Getting rid of it and talking about it is good and even better with friends because then there is also the physical presence that gives people relief.
You need people who strengthen you and are there for you in real life and also defend or protect you.
I have written all this in a slightly provocative style because it really gets to me when other people mix arrogance with arrogance and look down on others with a high trotting look, because they can't cope with their own problems such scum people look for outlets to relieve the everyday pressure and that shows that these people are weak and you are stronger.
Small, puny people are clowning while the big and strong stay quiet until they are forced to show what respect for others means so that small clowns know their place.
The small blabberers are always there to blurt out hot air and without meaning while the quiet ones make an impression with few words
The approval of others aren’t something to give you value. We should be thankful within our self. Out from everything if you have a good character, meaning good manners and kindness there isn’t much more you need. And personally you’re pretty cute.
Sounds like his way of hitting on you was teasing but didn't come off as he hoped
lol L rizz
I understand how you took it, and I would feel the same way in your position. But my take on it: probably he thought you were cute and wanted to talk to you but was really bad at it and acted stupid. Either that or he was just mentally disturbed or on drugs or something.
You don't look old at all and you don't look ugly at all, so that is not a reason anyone would single you out.
There are some really nasty people out there. They will look for any excuse just to be mean and nasty. This kind of stuff can have you upset for days. Try your best to just ignore people like that. You look just fine.
In high school I was targeted by girls, and when I got to university realised that they had a problem with me because I wasn't attracted to them! And due to my autism and ADHD which is still undiagnosed at 39 years old.. So I wasn't very nice to them either looking back.. But you need to believe you are beautiful to be considered beautiful by others, I went through school not realising that I was good looking.. Now I know I can have the best looking girls, however I must avoid the narcissists.. I would definitely be very proud to be with you! I think you are really beautiful and very sexy lady. You could get a boyfriend instantly if you spoke to guys and gave them the confidence, however avoid the ones with the gym bodies as they will be narcissistic and you are an empath so they will make you ill with anxiety due to what they will do x
No you’re not over reacting tbh. Like who even does that randomly 💀
It’s only happened to me irl a few times but man it’s hurtful
@@CrookedLadywas he attractive?
Hi i wanted to say you are very pretty and i have no clue why anyone would say otherwise. Iam new to the channel and i dont know what is dymorphia? Also what are the band aids for? All i know is that you are gorgeous ❤
some people just what a response and just be a nuisance it makes them feel better. I had a ''Friend'' just completely be rude to me and only me but then later found out he was drinking even tho that's not an excuse . I too feel like I'm the only one who gets picked out of the group that people target. I think its because I don't fight back just because I don't what the conflict. I agreed with you in why cant people just get along and disrespect others. sorry that this happened too you just remember its not just you and not everyone is like this (❁´◡`❁)
I love Crocked Lady She's Beautiful in The Video She's My Favorite Happy Thanksgiving 💙❤️💙💙☺️💙
Bro was trying nagging rizz
Does that even work?? Nobody who insults me is attractive ew
😂😂@@CrookedLady
YOU'RE SO PRETTY
Oh, honey. I see you for the beautiful person you are and you deserve respect. Don’t let what that idiot say bother you. He just sounds like we was trying to get a reaction out of you. What a loser trying to bring you down like that. I had someone approach me in public and tell me to go home because I was too hideous to be seen in public. People need to understand that we are just trying to live and don’t need their opinions. Brush it off sweetheart. You got this! Happy Thanksgiving 😊❤
What the-the audacity of people. I swear it continues to surprise me
@@CrookedLady What a tool. Some people are feces come to life. Human sewage. With his opinion and 62 cents, you'd have just enough to mail a letter.
Also I am not saying this to just make you feel good but you are not ugly you are just not confident. I completely understand how the two can be linked so maybe focus your energy on a career doing something you really like and that won't need you to be conveniently pretty. But if you keep feeling this way more than being ugly you might end up feeling depressed which is worse. I went to grad school, worked as a researcher for many years because that gave me a voice. Even though I felt ugly unattractive I felt powerful that I did something which people want to hear about. But when I am waiting at a bus stop I am still the same insecure ugly person to the world saving that I know in my mind I am more than just that. And this helps. Sorry lots of free advice but just wanted to give you a perspective.
If you have buttons people will push them and the more you dont want them pushed the more people will want to push them. The solution is to remove the buttons all together.
I do see you as a person because simply YOU ARE! There are some shitty ppl in this world but you gotta stand for yourself. its not how you look its the vibe you give , they know you are too nice … i really dont understand how you see yourself , cuz girl you look way younger than your age to me and you believe you look older! You have a very shiny pretty hair and cute innocent feminin face .. try to see the good in you. You have a lot!
Plaster across nose looked cool 😂
God I am so sorry you don't deserve that he's a loser for doing that, it takes a miserable person to try to make other ppl miserable because misery likes company and I'm sorry he chose you that day to do that to, no matter how he made you feel, you are so much more than him actually spending time trying to make a complete stranger feel bad
95% chance the guy thought you were hot and it was his idiot way of trying to hit on you lol. If he thought you looked similar to an old woman it had to be because of your glasses or how you were dressed because you barely look old enough to drive, seriously.
That’s what I think too. It just doesn’t make sense otherwise. He was probably on drugs too. Totally disregard this encounter!!
Take the band aids off.....
You have to realize you're not ugly or it's going to keep you feeling that way. It's psychological and spiritual. Seriously.
Sweetheart, I don't think you're overacting at all. I'm an overly sensitive person and people's words hurt and I overanalyze everything, so I understand.
But I just wanted to let you know that I do find you conventionally attractive. You have beautiful porcelain ivory skin, rosy cheeks, full lips that are a nice color and a really nice jawline which makes your profile really beautiful. And I don't think you look old at all. I'm not too sure how old you are but the first time I watched one of your videos, I assumed you were in highschool, maybe a sophomore or junior. Watching a couple more of your videos, I was surprised when you mentioned your "highschool days" because I was convinced you were still in highschool.
I think in some of your photos and thumbnails you don't look 'conventionally attractive' only because you are choosing unflattering pictures. And I think even people you find beautiful or attractive could also look unattractive if they chose an unflattering photo of themselves. Also, it looks like you don't wear any makeup, so you are truly naturally beautiful. Again, I'm sure people who are considered conventionally attractive would not be labeled as such if they didn't have their hair and makeup done and took an unflattering photo from a bad angle with poor lighting. People often post pictures of themselves when their hair and makeup are done, make sure they're in the perfect lighting, posing at the perfect angle then edit the photo afterwards.
You look so pretty to me in this video, and I love the roses on your head too hehe. I know you may not believe me, but I'm being sincere and I hope one day you'll see how beautiful you really are and can be confident with yourself.
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What a lovely comment 💜
Your a chosen one! That's why friend!
Some people get bullied some people don't why do people target you because they think you're vulnerable doesn't mean you are we all got bullied at some point in our lives and we all say why me it's a natural response why are you because you are you and sometimes you have to tell them to piss off at the top of your voice yes If everyone hears it everyone looks at the person and he becomes the idiot I agree I want a nice peaceful life I am intoverted and could even be autistic but this is the extremely extroverted neurotypical ailistic world and we have to find a nice path through it And yes it's far as I'm concerned you are neurodivergent and we have to stick together throughout these things you are not alone
hey, have you ever heard of something called law of attraction? You should really believe in your thoughts having the ability to completely change one day working on them and accepting you see yourself like so atm. What's really weird i can tell you, i figured out for myself, that people often treat you, like you see yourself in your head. I believe in your power of changing your thoughts. I know what it's like to be sensible and disliking others making comments on someones appearance. Imo picking someone for his looks is like racism. And btw, you look very sweet, you should smile a little more, it would make your day better.
So I wasn't there, so I didn't see their mannerisms, but from my own experience, when people say things that sound disrespectful, they are usually trying to make you laugh. You may have just ran into someone who was really bad at understanding body language and doesn't understand what jokes are socially acceptable to tell to strangers. They might have just been trying to start a conversation and joke around with you. Again, I wasn't there, so I don't actually know. Clearly, its a weird thing to say to someone you don't know regardless. My friends roast me all the time, and I roast them. Its fun, however, I wouldn't ever say those things to strangers. Something I do know, is that people typically don't just enjoy another persons suffering. In their mind, for whatever reason, they thought that it was ok to say that to you. You're clearly attractive, I think it would be extremely rare for you to run into an individual who genuinely thinks you're ugly. If they wanted you to feel bad about yourself, chances are, they are insecure and their way of fixing is that, is to push other people down to their level, so they feel more valuable. That's something I've learned that has helped my self-esteem tremendously. Everything always ties back to the individual. If someone doesn't like something about you, it actually has nothing to do with you beneath the surface. It always ties back to them in someway. Its important to remember, that there is nothing objectively wrong with anyone. You don't have any obligation to be valuable to anyone. Do what makes you happy. Obviously its easier said then done, and me saying that most likely wont fix anything. But maybe it will help.
Ignore whose kind of people and walk around with the Thousand Mile Stare.
First of all, I'm so sorry this happened to you, but remember this: there is nothing wrong with you - the problem is this world we live in, or many of its inhabitants to be more specific. Secondly, think of all the positive comments and messages you've been getting - don't we outnumber one loser? We can't all be wrong! 🙂
Those banana band aids are awesome. Im going to hafta pick some up.
If you're wondering why they target you, it is because of your appearance. But not in the way that you think.
I have a solid 'resting b!tch face' so people always think I'm pissed and looking for a fight. So they avoid me.
You have the 'nice person, sweetheart' look so the trash that wants their ego kick will go for you.
They assume you won't put up a fight.
Let’s not forget you’re also a young, small woman. Plus, a belligerent man who thinks you don’t pose a threat to him? Yeah I’m not surprised. People will take advantage of moments to shit on people they think won’t retaliate or actually hurt them back.
You’re dealing with a bunch of things. You’re dealing with childhood trauma and you’re struggling to understand how to build your confidence up.
Respect is earned. It is a lot easier for people to command, attention, fear, adoration, fear…but it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re respected. It just seems like it. You have my respect because you’re trying to be a good person.
I’ve often felt like I have been the butt of the joke. I thought, “why me??” But you’re right. It is the “oh you look like someone can disrespect.”
And because you only have your existence, you will feel like people are coming after you. The more you work on *self respect* and self defense, not only will you feel less like you specifically are being targeted but you’ll hold more space for gratitude and less for shame and embarrassment.
If I were in your shoes in that story today, I too would be at least a little embarrassed just because of the nature of the situation, but some people feel no embarrassment. Either they just notice that the guy is weird or their main focus is their safety and protecting themselves.
I know these things feel personal, but they’re not. It takes practice to learn that but it could’ve been another woman or guy that he wanted attention from, felt amused by, wanted to pick on, whatever. If you’re the only one around, and a person is out of their mind (like this guy sounds) they’ll likely try some form of interaction even if it’s stupid. Misery loves company.
You’re a whole person. Everyone has people that try to make them feel they’re not whole. That’s why we must fight for ourselves. You’re worth fighting for. ❤
He was probably acting so rude towards you because everytime he ask a girl out they laugh at him or just ignore him and walk away
I'm sorry, but my sarcasm would have stepped in and asked that zero if he was auditioning for the new Joker movie, and then tell him "don't go away mad, just go away."
Then i probably would have sung the whole song.
I have a strong theater/entertainment background so ot would have been my normal behavior.
So, basically, find music that makes you smile and happy.
There's not enough laughter in the world today, so find something that does.
Were you wearing those glasses you wore in your 3rd oldest video? Those glasses do look kinda old-fashioned. If you can afford it, I would recommend that you get a smaller version of the glasses you wore in the "I'm an Adult" video.
You could be right
And i am targeted for being stupid because im autistic. Im high functioning. So ppl just think im stupid. But if it was more obvious than well u get it. I hate it. It hurts. And i will never stop receiving thoughs insults.. everyone has assholes they gotta deal with. Get used to dealing with mean ppl. If it wasnt stupidy it will be something else. Thryll just find something else to insult u with. And there is nothing you can do but feel your emotions.
Your so correct keep your head up
I genuinely think you just have low self-esteem, you look above average in my opinion.
As a man, I think you are attractive. You look exactly like what many women look like without makeup but I would say even better. Google celebrities who are regarded as attractive without their makeup on. It's striking. Your worries about appearance are more I think cerebral and not based in reality. Even so called good looking women get negative comments about their looks. You need to remember that. Many models can recall many things like that. Kate Moss, Cindy Crawford and others have made these points about their pasts. I think you mentioned you have clinical body dysmorphia?
I don’t think he targeted you bc of your appearance. I think you misinterpreted it because you’re sensitive. Here’s what I really truly think happened..... You said he was acting belligerent? He was probably drunk, or high. He goes into a convenience store bc he’s got the munchies and he notices a resemblance between a girl in the store and a woman on the TV because they share similar eyeglasses and hairstyle, and because he’s drunk/high, he thinks it’s much more entertaining than it actually is. He thinks HE is more entertaining than he actually is. Drunk/high people can be ridiculous and act like total idiots. Instead of feeing embarrassed, you should have felt embarrassed FOR HIM. He’s the one causing a scene and making a total fool out of himself. Also, for the record: you are not ugly. And you actually look extremely young, not old at all. You look like a little kid to be honest. No disrespect, because I know your feelings are real to you, but you have completely fabricated this image you have of yourself as ugly. And if you feel you are often targeted by unkind people, it’s possible it’s the vibe you’re giving off bc of the way you feel about yourself. A-holes can sense vulnerability and weakness and that’s what makes you so easy target, not your looks.
You are very good looking, very cute.. You just need to be aware that people are very rude and nasty.. like the ants that kill their injured or anyone different.. If you had your make up and a really cute outfit you would be 10/10... and these people would look and see you as you want to be seen as you will blend in with the rest... In life its about blending in.. I have found this with my work life, you need to blend in with the rest and not stand out to be too good or different.. Please be aware you , are an empath, you are a really nice person, you might be on the autistic spectrum however some of the most successful people have turned it into a superpower.. People can be rude however you have the upper hand against all narcissistic people.. You must stand up for yourself and tell that guy he is extremely disrespectful for making narcissistic comments, and he should be ashamed of his behaviour, he should be more respectful of women and not a misogynist.. Ask for back-up tell others in the store of what he just did and make him feel ashamed of his behaviour.. Girls are an easy target for young males who's brain is still developing (what is he stupid?).. In the UK you would be a popular girl with lots of friends, if you chose to have lots of friends.. Make sure your eating enough red meat and not too much vegetables!
please don't ever think you deserved that you are absolutely beautiful and stop paying attention to idiots
It's good to see you happier today.
In your older videos you were unnattractive, but now you're attractive. Never like hideous more so invisible. It's like even if you grow to understand people think you're attractive it doesn't change the world. You just alleviate yourself as a symptom. Not knowing a potential friend or partner would treate an ugly person badly sucks. Not too mention the gaslighting. The world sucks. Isn't it also weird to think if you get positive feedback you can start to feel happy despite still knowing how bad the world is and how its only because of your looks. It makes me feel selfish.
You're such a pretty lady, I don't know why you're so insecure about your appearance.....
I don't know how you can say you look old and unattractive. You look nice and look early 20s. I am 22 and when I have beard I look actually 30 but without it I barely even look 20 lol. I think a lot of people get that. Also sorry to hear about that guy being a prick. I also just want peace even when it is hard in this world that is true. Hope you have a nice day.
First, I wanna say I find you cute you’re not even simple, looking let alone ugly you’re not ugly at all, and I’m not just saying that to make you feel good.I can relate to you I’m not a woman I’m a guy I know you’re an empath so am I I’ve heard a lot of people say behind my back that I’m funny, looking or said I’m a bald eagle cause I’m losing my hair.Most people say I’m nice looking.I’m a Christian and I know what I am in christ Jesus,it doesn’t bother me. It just shows how weak and insecure they have some type of complex of insecurity. It’s actually a form evilness to try to get somebody to harm themselves I could tell your heart you’re very kind loving person. I think it has to do with the school system throughout the United States principles aren’t taking action with the bullying. God bless you girl Jesus loves you.❤😊
I feel u man it's deep I been through it to
Damm sht break my heart🤦🏿♂️❤️
I wish I was with this pretty young lady I would have made him feel real bad.Real bad.Do not pay attention to people like that.When people do that they are having problems and projecting them on other people.If I was with you he would have left the store looking ugly 😅.
I had to stop this video at 5:30....Because I am compelled to ask:
"When you were IN the store did you have flowers in your hair and duct tape on your nose like you do in this video?? (Because THAT might get you some attention that you MAY not like??? I personally dont mind the look, in fact if you were my girlfriend I might even encourage such a look to possibly discourage any other potential suitors from hitting on "my" girl??
It's hard .
that's such a childish stupid thing to do and I suppose it wasn't a teenager or something
The guy was like 30’s
@@CrookedLady assholes come in all ages I guess
@@CrookedLadydon't let trashy garbage people affect your life, the world is filled with these types of people they have nothing else better to do because they are losers and deep down inside they know, most of them never amount to anything in life, Its actually sad really just be thankful you are not like them and you are kind, caring and beautiful that's what real matters 🤍
@@EsmeraldaWolfsbane7777 💯
@@CrookedLadyGeez I assumed he was a teenager or a young adult. There’s no reason for him to have acted like that at his age. How embarrassing.
Lmfao what in the f... he actually compared this lil girl to an 0ld woman 😅
The name crooked lady doesn’t suit you, you deserve better from yourself. That adjective doesn’t describe what we see!!
YOU HAVE SO MUCH TO LIVE FOR PLS DON'T HURT YOURSELF
I won’t dw
@@CrookedLady Hey Can We Talk Do u Have a Instagram i can Contact u On ?