Defensive, aggressive, intimidating, lying, hard to look people in the eye, fearful of open and honest communication, make excuses, fearful, terrified, "keep the peace", don't know yourself any longer, our of touch with your true feelings, feel charged up but not sure what it means, all because of TRAUMA. May healing come to all.
I know what it's like to feel unsafe and have to carry a heavy mask in front of my face. I am finally working at a place where people are kind and I feel more at ease. It's unfortunate that it took so many years for this to happen. Thanks for explaining it all so clearly.
I use the last ways, silence and walking on egg shells. I lived alone for 5 decades, and now have a partner in my senior years for the first time. I am afraid to tellmy partner what i feel not because I do not know, but if I were to express anger over an incident and how I was treated, I will be met with anger, excuses on how they can't be perfect, and not to be critical, when all I want is to express a feeling
I am loving your videos! Thank you for making these. It helps me not only understand myself better but I feel like it's giving me good information for my own education as a therapist. I am currently applying to graduate school for Clinical Mental Health Counseling. What you said about celebrating when someone you are working with tells you they are upset with something you did/said, was enlightening. I recently got upset with my therapist for something he said but I decided not to tell him because I was afraid to say anything negative. He'd been my therapist for years and I felt complete trust in him but I found myself being too anxious about what he personally thought of me. I ended up changing therapists because I felt like the transference on my part was detrimental to my own healing.
Whooaaaa! The last two were spot on for me...Some now and lots through out my history. And I thought I didn’t do white lies. Ouch, haha! Thank you so so much for your gentle delivery of this as it made me feel comfy enough to accept and know that I’m doing okay now and am on my journey to healing with your courses. What a relief!!
You nailed it very precise, the last part I can really relate to. I feel my anxiety rise on the last part, so you differently hit something in me. You are a smart woman, I wonder why you dont have more hits than 500. So many people would gain from your word of wisdom. Thank you! :-)
- I guess because thinking takes work, and she makes us think. Look at how many subscribers this idiot has, on the other hand, ruclips.net/video/pJ4swmIiixk/видео.html
👍👍💖Thank you . The more I learn and understand (it really has to be never too late🤔) the more I will be able to see and feel what is real and what is not.
These are all too real. I was like defensive ok yea that's me. Lying, definitely did a lot of that earlier in life... then that last one is what I am currently realizing about myself. It's a really hard pill to swallow in middle age. I just kept getting into bad situations and I never knew why. I just thought the universe hated me, or the world was just full of terrible abusive people, and you were either an abuser or being abused, and I never had the heart to be that abusive person. Thank goodness this is getting better. Thank you for sharing.
Hi Dr. Aimie, i like the way you explain it all in this video,i could understand your theory of it,and then understand the meaning of what"s needed which then makes sense why certain things happen for a reason,keep more of these videos coming,thank you,love Denny😘🙏🦋
Dr. Aimie, thank you for the videos. I am a retired Army veteran (21 years and 4 combat tours in Iraq and Afghanistan). The third type of trauma has defined me since I Ieft the service.
This helps me understand an issue I had in a relationship I was the I guess intimitayrd one it at least pushy and fearful type that needed things to work a certain way, and she was the type that couldn’t bear exposing her feelings. And it just kinda blew up in my face a bit. I felt bad but remember thinking and crying one Pt that I’m this Uber flicker and wanted to be able to show up better but I just at the time had no idea how.
White lies and not even knowing what I’m feeling or thinking… that’s me. I started to cry… thank you for your helpful information. By the Grace of God I am healing 🙏❤️🩹 🙏
I communicated with my ex openly, and my therapist said, the problem was, I gave him fix solution. I told my ex, I would like to talk more on the phone between the weekends, because I felt so disconnected without communication. And my ex responded: that is how it begins. Or I said let us look for weekends when we can meet, so we can plan the dates and I won’t feel so anxious . It was a long distance relationship. I really don’t know if my therapist is the right one for me 😅
Well every single therapist has his or her attitude what to share and it also comes with the ability to eexplain it. I found you very clear. Thank you. Btw is it BPD you are talking about in terms of knowing one's self?
Thanku for that video.i did recognize the last one alot. .y issue is only with my partner. As far as communication being an issue. I hD many therapists over the years. And iv experienced many life traumas, starting frm childhood into my adulthood. I not trying to spill out my life story.but I will say it's taking years to realize, I do like who I am. My partner says I'm I terrible communicator. I'm not sure what else to do. Everyone else in my life says I'm great at communicating. I could say, is it him. But I love this man. And I'm always praying and hoping he can see the real me. 🙏 Thx in advance.... is there any suggestions? ❤️
Defensive, aggressive, intimidating, lying,
hard to look people in the eye, fearful of open and honest communication, make excuses, fearful, terrified, "keep the peace", don't know yourself any longer, our of touch with your true feelings, feel charged up but not sure what it means, all because of TRAUMA. May healing come to all.
100% accurate 😞
I know what it's like to feel unsafe and have to carry a heavy mask in front of my face. I am finally working at a place where people are kind and I feel more at ease. It's unfortunate that it took so many years for this to happen. Thanks for explaining it all so clearly.
Thank you, so enlightening! This needs to be heard far and wide.
Holy crap, the last type was just too real.
I use the last ways, silence and walking on egg shells. I lived alone for 5 decades, and now have a partner in my senior years for the first time. I am afraid to tellmy partner what i feel not because I do not know, but if I were to express anger over an incident and how I was treated, I will be met with anger, excuses on how they can't be perfect, and not to be critical, when all I want is to express a feeling
I am loving your videos! Thank you for making these. It helps me not only understand myself better but I feel like it's giving me good information for my own education as a therapist. I am currently applying to graduate school for Clinical Mental Health Counseling. What you said about celebrating when someone you are working with tells you they are upset with something you did/said, was enlightening. I recently got upset with my therapist for something he said but I decided not to tell him because I was afraid to say anything negative. He'd been my therapist for years and I felt complete trust in him but I found myself being too anxious about what he personally thought of me. I ended up changing therapists because I felt like the transference on my part was detrimental to my own healing.
Whooaaaa! The last two were spot on for me...Some now and lots through out my history. And I thought I didn’t do white lies. Ouch, haha! Thank you so so much for your gentle delivery of this as it made me feel comfy enough to accept and know that I’m doing okay now and am on my journey to healing with your courses. What a relief!!
You nailed it very precise, the last part I can really relate to. I feel my anxiety rise on the last part, so you differently hit something in me.
You are a smart woman, I wonder why you dont have more hits than 500. So many people would gain from your word of wisdom.
Thank you! :-)
- I guess because thinking takes work, and she makes us think. Look at how many subscribers this idiot has, on the other hand, ruclips.net/video/pJ4swmIiixk/видео.html
👍👍💖Thank you . The more I learn and understand (it really has to be never too late🤔) the more I will be able to see and feel what is real and what is not.
Unbelievably helpful and brings together so many things.
Thanks for your excellent, informative, succinct explanation!
These are all too real. I was like defensive ok yea that's me. Lying, definitely did a lot of that earlier in life... then that last one is what I am currently realizing about myself. It's a really hard pill to swallow in middle age. I just kept getting into bad situations and I never knew why. I just thought the universe hated me, or the world was just full of terrible abusive people, and you were either an abuser or being abused, and I never had the heart to be that abusive person. Thank goodness this is getting better. Thank you for sharing.
This makes so much sense thank you Aimie
Thank you for helping me to understand myself and in a way that de-shames me. Such a relief. AND, there's a way out of this!!
Phenomenal. Cant tell you how relatable this is. Thank you
Hi Dr. Aimie, i like the way you explain it all in this video,i could understand your theory of it,and then understand the meaning of what"s needed which then makes sense why certain things happen for a reason,keep more of these videos coming,thank you,love Denny😘🙏🦋
Thank you Dr. Aimee. That was music to my ears, since I got kicked out and punished when I had confronted a doctor that hurt me .
Excellent video
Thank You Dr. Aimee for differentiating between the 3. Wow so informative.
Just hearing you talk about being emotionally charged makes me emotionally charged lol
Dr. Aimie, thank you for the videos. I am a retired Army veteran (21 years and 4 combat tours in Iraq and Afghanistan). The third type of trauma has defined me since I Ieft the service.
This helps me understand an issue I had in a relationship I was the I guess intimitayrd one it at least pushy and fearful type that needed things to work a certain way, and she was the type that couldn’t bear exposing her feelings. And it just kinda blew up in my face a bit. I felt bad but remember thinking and crying one Pt that I’m this Uber flicker and wanted to be able to show up better but I just at the time had no idea how.
White lies and not even knowing what I’m feeling or thinking… that’s me. I started to cry… thank you for your helpful information. By the Grace of God I am healing 🙏❤️🩹 🙏
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I communicated with my ex openly, and my therapist said, the problem was, I gave him fix solution. I told my ex, I would like to talk more on the phone between the weekends, because I felt so disconnected without communication. And my ex responded: that is how it begins.
Or I said let us look for weekends when we can meet, so we can plan the dates and I won’t feel so anxious . It was a long distance relationship.
I really don’t know if my therapist is the right one for me 😅
imagine feeling guilty for feeling so upset all the time. that is me.
Well every single therapist has his or her attitude what to share and it also comes with the ability to eexplain it. I found you very clear. Thank you. Btw is it BPD you are talking about in terms of knowing one's self?
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I LOVE this....Who ME?
Thanku for that video.i did recognize the last one alot. .y issue is only with my partner. As far as communication being an issue. I hD many therapists over the years. And iv experienced many life traumas, starting frm childhood into my adulthood. I not trying to spill out my life story.but I will say it's taking years to realize, I do like who I am. My partner says I'm I terrible communicator. I'm not sure what else to do. Everyone else in my life says I'm great at communicating. I could say, is it him. But I love this man. And I'm always praying and hoping he can see the real me. 🙏
Thx in advance.... is there any suggestions? ❤️
How do I fix my nervous system?
Man listen😢