I cried together with you 😢 I’m now on my weight loss journey too. Now 15 kg behind me and still 5 kg more to lose, I feel so liberated and grateful to myself for finding the courage to stand up for myself and reclaim my mind and body after being at my lowest point. Now, 8 months later and 15 kg lighter, I can't stress enough how important it is to be loving and forgiving towards yourself. To all the people who showed up now - just let them be. They won't know what you had to go through. Just let them be, and continue on your own path. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, emotions, and experiences with all of us. You're fabulous! You’re a star! Keep shining! 💫 ✨
That's amazing!! Great job that's such an achievement. It definitely feels liberating to see the hard work pay off, and loving every step of the way towards your goals feels even better. Thank you for sharing this and leaving this comment. I appreciate the support !
Ugh, this is sooo relatable on so many different levels. People literally throw themselves & almost force you to be their friend once your appearance gets within their “standards”. Superficial society.
I really love your appreciation for the heavier you. I am currently 3 weeks into my weight loss journey. Started at 120 kg and my goal is 60 kg. I am losing half of my body essentially 😅 I do this to prevent health issues and I do this for my children. However, I will always love this body for how it treated me. Now I need to return it and treat her well. This body birthed 3 healthy kids. This body went through a violent rape at 12 years old. This body has NEVER given me any health scares. I appreciate my body and I will always look back being proud of the literal weight it carried. Self love is so important. You are nowhere without your body and she (or he) has done so much for you. Loving your body back is the key to start becoming healthy. Not disgust or other negative 'opinions', but people who aren't going through this might find that hard to imagine. Thank you for your motivation ❤
I have also gone through major weight loss in my life (years ago) and I just want to let you know how seen you make me feel. I'm in a place now where I feel SUPER grateful to have had so much time in my life where I wasn't noticed /appreciated for my looks, because I think it's forced me to become a more "complete" and internally secure person. It's difficult to articulate, but I see other people in my life struggling because they've always been hot, and they literally have no idea how to build up their own idea of self worth because they are so used to other people/ external validation doing it for them.
it takes so much courage, strength and willpower that most people aren't ready for, yes it takes the whole entire life out of you... and then reducing it to a few comments... those people are just not worth giving a fraction of energy... im also on a health journey... it takes the life out of me every single day... but here i am ... nobody knows what you go through , very rarely there will be support and it can really really hard... sending strength and good vibes to whoever needs it , thankyou for sharing ...
So glad I came across your channel - you’re so honest and raw and real about your journey and it’s so inspiring - heavy agree on how people treat you after you lose weight or undergo any physical transformation really - dressing better , looking “richer” and people are like WAY kinder
The whole “people coming out of the woodwork” thing is so damn true. It really does expose how superficial a lot of people are since they now want to act like they know you now that you’re “desirable” according to society’s definition. As an overweight man it’s so true.. because we’re basically invisible to the opposite sex. If you didn’t want to know me before you don’t need to now.
I am very glad to hear it - and fyi I have plans to be on RUclips for a while talking about this important stuff and opening up more, so thank you for the support !
As a guy I 100% agree. I gained weight in grad school and I was invisible in group settings. Other men mock you and women basically treat you as a non sexual being. I mentioned going on a date and one of the women in my friend group said "what is she doing going out with you?" talk about a knife through the heart. Crazy thing is she is not even conventionally attractive but has the most to say........
@@XTheSpartanX7 it does hurt when people make snarky comments and think it won’t affect us, especially when in such a vulnerable place. Totally understand not being seen as a sexual being ahhah it’s like since losing the weight people finally see/want you 🙃
@@lesliesjourney Im glad we are both in a better place. I will be checking out the books you recommend. “Greenlights” by Matthew McConaughey was life changing for me.
I have lost weight ('just' 15kgs i am short 😅) but it still makes me so angry the way people treat me now! Like before as a fat person I was less worthy, less human??!! I just dont manage to forgive them , now talking about acquaintances, schoolmates or 'friends' who all of a sudden reach out to me 😢 I dont respond, not out of arrogance but purely out of the fact that I was apparently not worth their time as an overweight person... shallow hypocrites for me 😮
Yeah, if I wasn't worth their time before, they aren't worth my time now. I don't forgive them either, I just move on and don't think about them at all. Literally what is there to forgive? They didn't change their behavior, I changed and they adjusted theirs with the intent of getting something from me. Nothing they did is worthy of forgiveness or even consideration at any point. I just keep things the same way, we both ignored each other, no reason for that to change.
People are concerned with themselves more than people know. But putting yourself as the victim in the story, won’t make them feel sorry for you, unfortunately. Even your own family won’t care.
Hi I never watched any of your videos before but I just wanna say its okay to cry and dont blame it on ur period its not cuz hormones its cuz ur a person. Im also losing weight from being very overweight, and in my own "journey" i have to deal with my narssasistic ass sister who started making comments again on what I eat and shit like that because she's jealous and the malicius type of jealous. People are jealous assholes with no room for imagination so they project onto every single living thing. You have perspevtive others do not, you lived life as two different physical appearances. Dont listen to assholes, they dont got shit on you when ur the one losing hella pounds. Im rambling, 420 yall
ahahah yeah you're right, it's only natural. I thought about cutting that part out but thought better to just keep it real. And yep it is hard when you don't have supportive people around, but hey that's their problem to sort through we've just gotta keep on going for ourselves :)
Hi Lesile thank you for sharing your story. thier is a subconscious Bias towards people who are fat. Your weigth plays a big part in how you are treated and viewed by society. Btw It has absolutely nothing to do with your personality or confidence. It more about the fact that people/society is shallow nobody takes fat people seriously that is the root of it. When it comes to Job opportunities and just basic respect and commen curiosity. Your basically invisible when your fat and you become visible to society you become skinny or in shape.
@@lesliesjourney That’s actually a good thing, stay humble . I hate when people lose weight and act egotistical and think they are above everyone and change their personality to a snobby proud ahole, keep up the great work
What kind of comment is that. You are better when you loose weight. You have the discipline that alot of overweight people dony have which is why alot of them are fucking fat.
I’m so struck by the kindness and respect you show the ‘you’ at the starting point of your journey, it’s genuinely inspiring as I’ve been there myself
I'm glad! It took a lot, that's for sure. But very happy to have found love for all parts of myself on this journey. Thank you !
I cried together with you 😢 I’m now on my weight loss journey too. Now 15 kg behind me and still 5 kg more to lose, I feel so liberated and grateful to myself for finding the courage to stand up for myself and reclaim my mind and body after being at my lowest point. Now, 8 months later and 15 kg lighter, I can't stress enough how important it is to be loving and forgiving towards yourself. To all the people who showed up now - just let them be. They won't know what you had to go through. Just let them be, and continue on your own path. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, emotions, and experiences with all of us. You're fabulous! You’re a star! Keep shining! 💫 ✨
That's amazing!! Great job that's such an achievement. It definitely feels liberating to see the hard work pay off, and loving every step of the way towards your goals feels even better. Thank you for sharing this and leaving this comment. I appreciate the support !
Ugh, this is sooo relatable on so many different levels. People literally throw themselves & almost force you to be their friend once your appearance gets within their “standards”. Superficial society.
I really love your appreciation for the heavier you. I am currently 3 weeks into my weight loss journey. Started at 120 kg and my goal is 60 kg. I am losing half of my body essentially 😅 I do this to prevent health issues and I do this for my children. However, I will always love this body for how it treated me. Now I need to return it and treat her well.
This body birthed 3 healthy kids. This body went through a violent rape at 12 years old. This body has NEVER given me any health scares. I appreciate my body and I will always look back being proud of the literal weight it carried.
Self love is so important. You are nowhere without your body and she (or he) has done so much for you. Loving your body back is the key to start becoming healthy. Not disgust or other negative 'opinions', but people who aren't going through this might find that hard to imagine.
Thank you for your motivation ❤
I have also gone through major weight loss in my life (years ago) and I just want to let you know how seen you make me feel. I'm in a place now where I feel SUPER grateful to have had so much time in my life where I wasn't noticed /appreciated for my looks, because I think it's forced me to become a more "complete" and internally secure person. It's difficult to articulate, but I see other people in my life struggling because they've always been hot, and they literally have no idea how to build up their own idea of self worth because they are so used to other people/ external validation doing it for them.
@@madeline3624 wow this is such a good take, I definitely understand. Thank you and I’m glad to have helped 😊
It's crazy that the bigger you are the less seen you are. If you get it you get it. I'm on my journey now 💪🏿
it takes so much courage, strength and willpower that most people aren't ready for, yes it takes the whole entire life out of you... and then reducing it to a few comments... those people are just not worth giving a fraction of energy... im also on a health journey... it takes the life out of me every single day... but here i am ... nobody knows what you go through , very rarely there will be support and it can really really hard... sending strength and good vibes to whoever needs it , thankyou for sharing ...
So glad I came across your channel - you’re so honest and raw and real about your journey and it’s so inspiring - heavy agree on how people treat you after you lose weight or undergo any physical transformation really - dressing better , looking “richer” and people are like WAY kinder
I appreciate this SO much. You articulated how I feel after taking a leap and risking everything to find peace.
The whole “people coming out of the woodwork” thing is so damn true. It really does expose how superficial a lot of people are since they now want to act like they know you now that you’re “desirable” according to society’s definition. As an overweight man it’s so true.. because we’re basically invisible to the opposite sex. If you didn’t want to know me before you don’t need to now.
You don't know how much your videos inspire me, in a realistic way, thank you and I hope to see many more ❤
I am very glad to hear it - and fyi I have plans to be on RUclips for a while talking about this important stuff and opening up more, so thank you for the support !
As a guy I 100% agree. I gained weight in grad school and I was invisible in group settings. Other men mock you and women basically treat you as a non sexual being. I mentioned going on a date and one of the women in my friend group said "what is she doing going out with you?" talk about a knife through the heart. Crazy thing is she is not even conventionally attractive but has the most to say........
@@XTheSpartanX7 it does hurt when people make snarky comments and think it won’t affect us, especially when in such a vulnerable place. Totally understand not being seen as a sexual being ahhah it’s like since losing the weight people finally see/want you 🙃
@@lesliesjourney Im glad we are both in a better place. I will be checking out the books you recommend. “Greenlights” by Matthew McConaughey was life changing for me.
I have lost weight ('just' 15kgs i am short 😅) but it still makes me so angry the way people treat me now! Like before as a fat person I was less worthy, less human??!! I just dont manage to forgive them , now talking about acquaintances, schoolmates or 'friends' who all of a sudden reach out to me 😢 I dont respond, not out of arrogance but purely out of the fact that I was apparently not worth their time as an overweight person... shallow hypocrites for me 😮
Yeah, if I wasn't worth their time before, they aren't worth my time now. I don't forgive them either, I just move on and don't think about them at all. Literally what is there to forgive? They didn't change their behavior, I changed and they adjusted theirs with the intent of getting something from me. Nothing they did is worthy of forgiveness or even consideration at any point. I just keep things the same way, we both ignored each other, no reason for that to change.
I'm sorry I wasn't there when you started, but I'd be blessed to get to where you are. :)
you have done an amazing job improve yourself
People are concerned with themselves more than people know. But putting yourself as the victim in the story, won’t make them feel sorry for you, unfortunately. Even your own family won’t care.
Yes
I wish i could be kinder to my current self. I'm tired mate. Tired of how difficult everything is
Hi I never watched any of your videos before but I just wanna say its okay to cry and dont blame it on ur period its not cuz hormones its cuz ur a person. Im also losing weight from being very overweight, and in my own "journey" i have to deal with my narssasistic ass sister who started making comments again on what I eat and shit like that because she's jealous and the malicius type of jealous. People are jealous assholes with no room for imagination so they project onto every single living thing. You have perspevtive others do not, you lived life as two different physical appearances. Dont listen to assholes, they dont got shit on you when ur the one losing hella pounds. Im rambling, 420 yall
ahahah yeah you're right, it's only natural. I thought about cutting that part out but thought better to just keep it real. And yep it is hard when you don't have supportive people around, but hey that's their problem to sort through we've just gotta keep on going for ourselves :)
Hi Lesile thank you for sharing your story. thier is a subconscious Bias towards people who are fat. Your weigth plays a big part in how you are treated and viewed by society. Btw It has absolutely nothing to do with your personality or confidence. It more about the fact that people/society is shallow nobody takes fat people seriously that is the root of it. When it comes to Job opportunities and just basic respect and commen curiosity. Your basically invisible when your fat and you become visible to society you become skinny or in shape.
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Also you tend to act different when you lose weight. don't forget where u came from Leslie
@@TURTWIG094 I pointed out that I find it hard to differentiate myself with who I was most days - I will never be anyone else
@@lesliesjourney That’s actually a good thing, stay humble . I hate when people lose weight and act egotistical and think they are above everyone and change their personality to a snobby proud ahole, keep up the great work
What kind of comment is that. You are better when you loose weight. You have the discipline that alot of overweight people dony have which is why alot of them are fucking fat.
@@TURTWIG094I have to agree on that, and thank you !
bad actor
Totally dude
You’re an amazing inspiration!! I wish you all the happiness of the world for real! 🥹♥️