What a grace from God to have this evil exposed by a faithful Catholic woman. I will recommend this book to my circle of women friends. I was treated with such disrespect as a stay at home mother in the 70’s & 80’s. Oh how blessed I am now celebrating 50 years of faithful marriage and our many children and grandchildren. This is treasure beyond all measure.
@@ASMRyouVEGANyet She has done alot for society in raising good children to become good men and women and more importantly, she has honored God in helping shape souls for the heavenly Kingdom.
@ASMRyouVEGANyet Society wouldn't exist if it wasn't for her and women like her. You can't have society without people and we would have people without women like her.
In all the talk about how disordered it is for mothers to be out of the home and away from their kids, I am struck that no one comments how disordered it is for fathers to be gone all day as well. For much of human history, the father was at home--in the workshop, working the fields, minding the books---and certainly his sons, at least, if not his daughters, were working alongside. The father gone all day is a product of the industrial revolution and industrial agriculture. One can be an absentee father even if you come home every night, if your mind is too frazzled to be attentive to your kids or you're working a 60-hour week. I don't know how that's reconciled in our modern world. An electrician can't bring his kid to work, nor can a lawyer or a doctor. It may be impossible. But a real reactionary has to look past the 1950s or 1900s to the 1800s or 1700s to see how much "natural" family life has changed in the last century-and-a-half, and ask how could both parents be more available to their kids. I've noticed in my own life, at least, that as my kids approach their teen years, that my day-to-day fathering of them increases in importance.
One of the things that Uncle Ted was correct about. It's unfortunate that he was so disordered, and his 'solutions' were so reprehensible. He identified the problem, but not the answer. @@retrorenegade1967
Most insightful comment yet. I'm expecting ahistorical and ill-informed comments in this section, otherwise. 👏👏👏 Women also worked in the fields, barns, etc, and children followed. Having a mother at home to cook and clean is a middle-class aspiration, sometimes luxury, that very few members of humanity have "enjoyed". Most families in the world have been unable to afford an able-bodied person to stay-at-home and not earn money to add to the family income pool. I can't believe commentators are so short-sighted!
@@Alexa-un7ky If it's possible to support a family on the equivalent of a single income, then perhaps both parents could work 20-25 hours part-time. Alternatively, one could work a 30-to-35-hour "full-time" job to get benefits and the other a 10-15 hour job. Remote at home is possible in some professions. But for the majority of people, getting paid $25/hour or less, working outside the home, and often at odd hours, I don't think it's possible outside of a radical re-imagination of family life, probably along the lines of what is the norm in other cultures: multi-family, multi-generation, with grandparents more involved. The other possibility might be home-based businesses and homeschooling in a proximate community where kids can walk to see friends, perhaps in a dense suburb, city, or small town.
Got to be honest... as a Protestant raised Protestant considering Catholicism because of videos like this... The most convincing argument as to why I feel I should "convert" is seeing women like this who are feminine, capable, and TRUE. They have a head on their shoulders that makes all I've ever suspected about the roles of women, men, authority, and individuality finally make sense. Again, I am a Protestant, so I have reservations about the Marian dogmas... but when I see Catholic women living out their faith with humility, grace, and unapologetic truth I feel like there may be something to these extraordinary claims about God's special care for Mary afterall.
As a former Protestant who is now Catholic, I can say that the Catholic understanding of men, women, and marriage (really EVERYTHING) is a more beautiful and more complete picture than anything I had ever been taught in my 30+ years as a Protestant. If you haven't yet been exposed to The Theology of the Body, it is amazing and so needed in our world today. Christopher West is a great source on that. And as far as the Marian dogmas go, the more you dig in and really give the Catholic explanation a chance, the more you see that they make sense and are totally Biblical. There is so much OT typology about Mary. Brant Pitre's book The Jewish Roots of Mary is excellent. His book Jesus and the Jewish Roots of the Eucharist is also excellent. The continuity between the OT and NT is so much stronger in Catholic theology!
People associate Biblical attributes with the catholic church but for some reason not the protestant church despite how there are just as many examples. Maybe your part of a bad church so Catholicism looks more appealing than what it is. Do people seriously think you cant be a Biblical man or woman as someone who isnt catholic? Let's not kid ourselves. The catholic school girl gone wild is a stereotype for a reason. Many of them are really good at making a front for church personal. Not to mention, many of their doctrines are unbiblical such as marry adoration/worship, baptism, and apostolic succession.
@@itachir8290 We hear "unbiblical" so often, but we don't subscribe to "Bible alone." Christianity wouldn't have survived if it had been dependent on written words alone. The faith was handed down by word of mouth mostly, because it had to be, due to low literacy rates and lack of books until the invention of the printing press. We didn't even have a closed canon of the Bible until the 300's. Things don't have to be written down in order to be true. As far as the "Catholic school girl gone wild" stereotype, I knew a few like that. They got religious service awards at graduation, yet broke every rule. A lot of that is personality, rebelliousness, and lack of good examples in the previous generation. And of course the devil speaks loud with his empty promises. Even Luther retained his devotion to Mary. It was later Protestants who threw her into the background, just to be different from Catholics.
@@julieelizabeth4856 The terms biblical & unbiblical mean something. Sure words are misused. If you think that is the case with my comment then make your case as I make mine. The Bible should be our sole source for reliable true information. Yes, I agree we can get valuable knowledge from non biblical sources such as from the stoics etc. But when ever we get information that is outside the Bible, we compare that information to the Bible & see if it is Biblically compatable. We use a Biblical scale. If it does not pass the scale, then we reject those words. & that reminds me of another h3risy of the catholic church. Believing that the words & writings of the pope are in parallel with the Word of God. Initially, if we accept what is non biblical, then do we not open ourselves up to universalism? (which the pope also subscribes to) Truth is truth. & if the catholic church supports doctrines that are unbiblical then they should be rejected. There are some nuanced examples that can be brought up but overall, all real truth is in line with the Bible. The Bible (composition of books/scrolls) was written down & yes, much of it was preserved by word of mouth, esp the old testament. We know this for several reasons. 1 of which is not that the society was illiterate, but that acess to writting materials was extremely rare. We do know that average Jew was very literate as it was an oral culture that persevered history by memorizing it. They had to memorize the entire Torah by the time they were 12. It is truly amazing that through all of the generations of memorization, that everyone still came to the same conclusion of the same Bible that we have today. Don't get me wrong. I am 1 of the biggest critics of the catholic church, but that doesn't mean I don't view the people in the catholic church & efforts as valuable. They have fantastic volunteer service, pro life efforts, academic study, etc. Often times when I hear people convert to the catholic church it is usually because they like the structure. Whatever is good, acknowledge as good. Whatever is bad, acknowledge as bad. Dont use 1 as an excuse to not see the other 1. But if we love truth, then we criticize that which is wrong even when it comes from those we care about or those who we deem as "on our side." That catholic church has a long history of "move along to get along." Hence overlooking many of the scandals & inconsistencies it has. My primary critism of Catholicism has to do with the fact that it is viewed as the central structure that represents Christianity to the world, yet it has so many Biblical inconsistencies that get attributed to Christians like myself that don't hold those views. Before the church can address the idea of trying to fix other people's problems, it has to first get its act together. & part of getting that act together is destroying the lies that it promotes & replace them with Biblical truth. Regaurding the catholic girl gone wild subject. Just to be clear, I am not painting all Catholics with this brush BUT I do believe this stereotype does manifest itself fairly prominently due to 1 of the unbiblical doctrines that the catholic church professes. & that is how they frame confession. To be clear, I am not against confession. But the way the catholic church teaches & performs it is the problem. Teaching that you can confess your sins & intensionally sin tommorow & that God will forgive such sins that uses the name of Jesus as a license to sin is bl@sphemy. God doesnt forgive our sins when we think we can sin & outsmart God because we take advantage of His grace. Also, the idea that you have to confess your sins to a priest & pray to the dead is also unbiblical. We can confess our sins to God & if we are truly repentent, then we will turn away from those sins & not @bus3 the name of Jesus.
Are you the one that she refers to at the end of this interview? She states how someone left their job at planned parenthood after reading her book. I'm a former worker of theirs as well. I was crying at times all this overwhelming truth/facts was being discussed
Sitting here taking notes! I wish I had this guidance and never left the church when I was younger; it would have saved me years of heartache. I struggled for years running my own business while trying to juggle being a wife and mother. “Feminism” almost destroyed my marriage. I will rejoin the church this coming Easter and recently decided to close my business to focus on family and the Lord. I can’t get those years back, but I can take back my future. 🙏🏻
I wish you the very best. I truly believe that with sacrifice comes rewards and any sacrifice we do for our family God will give you graces and many blessings. ❤️❤️
I wasn't able to have children, due to a drunk driver when I was 10 years old riding on my brothers Big Wheel. It was very difficult for me, who wanted babies. My grandmother had 14...my mom had 7...and I couldn't have 1. I did get pregnant twice..and both times, the pregnancies were ectopic. I adopted my son (3 months old) when I was 25. I also did foster care (27 children) and raised my nephew from when he was born. What I realized, is that God had a plan for me. That plan may have been different from traditional motherhood...but one thing I can tell you, is that I have mothered and nurtured so many children in my life...and some grown children too (ha)! Be open to God's plan...even if it looks different than the one you planned on. You are only 33 years old! You are far from being over the hill.(ha) Put yourself out there...trust God...and I promise you that great things will come your way! God bless you my friend! ⚘️
Praised be the Lord, you are a mother or at least a mother figure to more than 30 kids! More than you could have cared for if you took the traditional route of motherhood! That's so amazing, you are doing God's work! I myself had not a foster mom but a foster grandma. She was an older neighbour of ours and she taught me different skills, she was so kind and caring with us, I grew up thinking that she's my grandmother until later I learned that we weren't related at all. She was a better grandma to me than my biological one. I often think about her and hope she's enjoying heaven right now.
I’m old enough to remember when women starting burning their bras (I was only a little girl). I grew up in a pretty liberal family, but I was always put-off by so-called feminists from the beginning. I’ve never considered myself a feminist and think the whole thing has been a disaster for womanhood. Listening to this makes me understand my intuitive response was spot-on.
In my experience and social circle, 95% of couples are divorced. In 100% of those divorces, the woman ended the marriage. To the best of my knowledge, none of the men were unfaithful, drunkards, abusive, or unable to provide. Here is a scary statistic. In the U.S., 90% of married college-educated women will end up divorcing their husbands. I married a college-educated Catholic woman. She started socializing with a group of feminist women. After 16 years of marriage, she divorced me. Her reason? "It's not working for me." How can anyone use that to justify destroying a family? Feminism has taught women to be selfish. Your book is essential, and I pray it saves as many lives as possible, but I fear feminism is too entrenched. Feminism is the air we breathe. Mostly, I fear for my grandchildren.
Don't worry, Islam is taking over. Perhaps "the plan" is for Islam to course correct society in regards to f'ism, and then a move of the Holy Spirit to course correct for Islam?
We pulled our kids from a Catholic grade school (in a very conservative area of the country) because of several factors. The last straw was a history day display where 8th graders at the school had produced a display extolling the virtues of Betty Friedan. That was the moment we decided to homeschool.
How providential for this to be put out today, on the feast of the Immaculate Conception. O Mary, conceived without sin, pray for us who have recourse to thee!
I’m a Brazilian living in Australia. To be honest I was raised with a very feminist mind, not because my mum or the women from my family were feminist but because unfortunately most of them suffered too much with bad husbands that complete disrespected them and that always took advantage of being the providers of the house and thought that because of that they could do whatever they can. My whole life a heard things like “study hard and find a good work so you will never need to depend on any man”, or “between a good husband and a good work, pick the work without even thinking”. They have no idea of who Simone Debovoir was, or anything about the feminist movement but because the feminist narrative uses a real issue to grow then people buy the idea very easily. For me is more than convince women about how bad the feminist movement is, for me the solution is to teach men to be good men. A don’t know any woman who would fight with a man, when the man plays the role as they should. We need to recover good Christian masculine minds, teach men to be like Saint Joseph, and then women will naturally go back to their place.
This is a great point! The worldly version of every ideology is sinful because it’s selfish. If we shift the language from “What can I get?” to “how can I serve?” we’d see a positive change.
This is why the Chruch has been emphasizing the role of the man in marriage as saint Paul states (paraphrasing) "loving his wife as Christ loved the Church to the point of giving His live for her on the Cross". Men must understand that they have to love their wives and die daily for them and this means die to their egos every day. If a woman senses this from her husband (plus good judgement) she will just surrender to him easily. Women give their bodies to their husbands and are vulnerable in doing this. Their nature is one of vulnerability. They give their bodies and then pregnancy happens thus they are vulnerable by nature and if they can't trust their husbands the relationship breaks down. But women can do many things: get educated (not in order to despise men but because education is good), exercise their civil rights and civil participation (not to bash men but to be an integral part of their communities), educate good men (after all they are mothers to new generation of men). These are strengths that help a woman be a better partner to her husband. Still she needs to trust in his love and judgement.
Matt, just after an hour into this, u asked the question what does submission mean and referenced a biblical quote (may have been St Paul’s letter to Ephesians) where he said a man’s duty to his wife is to be willing to die for her. To answer your question: This means that a woman’s duty is to BE WORTH DYING FOR. This is an obligation as huge as the man’s and an equal, albeit reciprocal one. There’s a line from the Queens of the Stone Age song: “Go With the Flow” that’s says “so give me something good to die for…to make it beautiful to live.” A good wife is just that. I’m speaking from experience as a former US Army Infantryman married with 5 kids under 8 and a sixth on the way and I just finished helping with laundry and dishes and garbage bc my pregnant wife is getting some sleep in a rough 1st trimester with a lot of nausea - and I’ll be up in 4-hrs for work in Manhattan. Actually having to die for her is something very few men will actually be called to do just as few are called to martyrdom, but these small sacrifices are small versions of the same thing. Remember what St Francis de Sales said, “do ordinary things extraordinarily well.” THIS is what that great Saint and Doctor of The Church meant.
I wish there was more content on 'motherhood' for single, childless women. I'm single and childless, and at 33, that might never change. I hear a lot about spiritual motherhood, but it mainly relates to being a religious sister. and I have no interest in doing that. All I have been able to come up with is that I need to be a good daughter and a good friend.
Spiritual motherhood is using your womanly traits to nurture anyone who needs nurturing too. If you have a job, that could be listening with attentiveness of a mother to whoever needs you. It could be providing a meal for a family that you know of that just had a child. Motherhood looks at someone who is in need and goes in haste, like Mary, to help them in their need. There are people who marry later in life and end up having children (biological or adopted) in their 40s! God is great and places things in our path at the right time. God bless
I am the mother to an adopted child, our only daughter. My vocational life is lived in many ways - as a teacher, volunteer chaplaincy, family life. Could using the word 'womanhood' be helpful for us all I wonder.
@thatsfunny2051 Sometimes people just do get married later on in life. That was the case with both my parents and with the parents of many (maybe even most) of my friends. It sounds like you do want to get married, so you'll be in my prayers. I'm sorry it's been difficult
Single, childless women happened to be among the closest disciples of Our Lord. You have the freedom to go to more Masses, go to Adoration often, spend more time in prayer (15 decade rosary is big). The full successors to the woman disciples of Our Lord are religious sisters, which you should at least try out since they don't make you take any vows for a long time, but there is still so much you can do as it is. God bless you and may Our Lady keep you.
@@rx0102in our modern society, a single childless women doesn't necessarily have that freedom. Most women are worked as if they were men, with no thought whatsoever of their more limited ability to handle it. Modern society sees women as defective men, just as it sees men as defective women. It wants everyone to be grey blobs with no particular gifts or weaknesses
Doctor Ignaz Semmelweiss was an OB who learned that handwashing in childbirth was important to reduce the risk of maternal sepsis after delivery in birth. He had a nervous breakdown from attacks on him after he promoted his hypothesis, which of course proved true over time as infectious disease was proved. (Germ Theory, Louis Pasteur etc). The poor man died in an "insane asylum" from a beating by a guard and subsequent infection. He is a tragic heroic figure.
Quite a familiar and sad story of questioning elites and what liars will do to keep up a lie…reminds me of what happened to the doctors who actually believe in science and went against the fake virus hysteria of 2020
I LOVE her book about the anti-Mary spirit. I recommend it all of the time to women to buy for their girls, especially as graduation gifts. I even buy extra to give away.
The interesting thing is, what Dr. Carrie Gress calls the 'anti-mary spirit' other people call the 'jezebel spirit.' Frankly, I do not think that's a coincidence. I personally believe that Jezebel *WAS* the Anti Mary. While people fear the coming of the Antichrist before Christ's Second Coming, the Anti Mary came before Christ's *FIRST* Coming.
I grew up in a feminist household; my mother was personally acquainted with the famous second-wave feminists. I read material for kids generated by Ms. Magazine. I later converted to Catholicism and my understanding of feminism’s absolutely corrosive nature has only deepened with the years.
Happy Immaculate Conception feast day everyone…just as God raised up Mary to crush the serpents head, I believe that God is raising up women like Dr Gress to expose the serpents lies in the guise of feminism. Praise God🙏🏼
My fave line is “How about we go back to the Ten Commandments… the greater issue is sin.” Rewatched this episode after seeing the shorts recently. Still a great watch.
What a graceful, gentle & intelligent woman Dr Gress is. It was a real pleasure to listen to someone who knows her onions but has nuance & doesn't claim to have answers to everything. Matt led the conversation with interesting & à propos questions & comments. Bravo !!!!
Brilliant woman. Thank you so much for this talk. The world needs to hear this. True story: I was working as a comedy writer in the UK. My office was at Covent Garden in Longacre. We used to go to the pub at lunchtime ,the kings head I think it was called. One day Germaine Greer came in with her very gay secretary. We were introduced because we were fellow Australians. It took me only five minutes of talking to her to realise she was utterly insane, and if she had’ve had therapy for her father daughter issues she would never have written those toxic books. So many of these so called feminists come from a deeply damaged psyche that’s reflected back onto the world. More truth…it’s one of those days. I grew up in a communist household. My father was a Stalinist and high up in the party in Sydney…a union secretary as well. It’s only now I can look back and see how utterly evil they were. They used to all get together to practice what they called free love. One of them was a very well-known communist who stood on the podium with Gorbachev during a Mayday Parade in the Soviet Union. Her name was Frida Brown. She started the green party here because the Labour Party wasn’t radical enough for her. I knew her then as Freda Lewis. She was my “auntie.” I was told. She sexually abused me when I was 12 years old. And my parents knew it was happening. They told me that it was all okay and that my problem was guilt that had been put in my head by a Christian patriarchal society. I kid you not. I never ever met a decent communist. And still haven’t.
Great episode, my wife has been talking about the anti-mary spirit since her women's book study covered it recently. I was excited to put a face to the name!
@@soccerlife5041 They worked together- Louis knew that her lacemaking was more profitable than his watchmaking, so they went all-in with the lace. Cooperation is the key thing here.
@@soccerlife5041 they had a maid. Are you sure no neglecting duties? Have you even read Zelie’s letters where she bemoans working so much she can’t spend adequate time with her family?
So good. This is what our culture is craving. Thank you to both of you for being so honest about the beauty and shortcomings of what God created in Men and in Women. What a blessing to hear
I would LOVE for Dr. Abigail Favale and Dr. Carrie Gress to sit down together for an interview and discuss feminism. Pretty please Matt make it happen!
Why? Favale is a feminist and recent convert. She needs to have a few decades as a Catholic before she will have anything to contribute. Currently she's just another convert with little to show for it.
Years ago, I read “The Rules”. It began to help me rethink how I thought about men and dating. The Rules can easily be made christian/catholic. So accurate.
There is rightful criticism of how men have often subordinated women through our superior physical strength in past generations, but the point still holds true fallen humanity hurts each other and women becoming oppressors is not the answer.
@@francikoen When you respond directly to my comment beginning with, “women are not oppressors,” that comes across as you making a contradiction to my comment.
I loved the book Frankenstein because it’s so emotional and moody and dramatic and sad and I read it as an autistic teenaged girl who had been bullied and felt totally isolated, like I literally was THE target audience
On the submission question: I HIGHLY recommend Mary Stanford's book, The Obedience Paradox. I interviewed her about it but I won't link to it here cause I don't want to use Matt's comment section for self promotion.
Leo XIII, Encyclical Arcanum, February 10, 1880. The authority of the father over his family: “Not only, in strict truth, was marriage instituted for the propagation of the human race, but also that the lives of husbands and wives might be made better and happier. This comes about in many ways: by their lightening each other's burdens through mutual help; by constant and faithful love; by having all their possessions in common; and by the heavenly grace which flows from the sacrament. Marriage also can do much for the good of families, for, so long as it is conformable to nature and in accordance with the counsels of God, it has power to strengthen union of heart in the parents; to secure the holy education of children; to temper the authority or the father by the example of the divine authority; to render children obedient to their parents and servants obedient to their masters.” Encyclical Sapientiæ Christianæ, January 10, 1890. The husband is the head of his family: “This is a suitable moment for us to exhort especially heads of families to govern their households.” Encyclical Rerum Novarum, May 15, 1891. The husband is the head of the wife: “Secondly, the mutual duties of husband and wife have been defined, and their several rights accurately established. They are bound, namely, to have such feelings for one another as to cherish always very great mutual love, to be ever faithful to their marriage vow, and to give one another an unfailing and unselfish help. The husband is the chief of the family and the head of the wife. The woman, because she is flesh of his flesh, and bone of his bone, must be subject to her husband and obey him; not, indeed, as a servant, but as a companion, so that her obedience shall be wanting in neither honor nor dignity. Since the husband represents Christ, and since the wife represents the Church, let there always be, both in him who commands and in her who obeys, a heaven-born love guiding both in their respective duties. For “the husband is the head of the wife; as Christ is the head of the Church…. Therefore, as the Church is subject to Christ, so also let wives be to their husbands in all things.”
@Pints With Aquinas -I think having a discussion on restoring the family economy would be really helpful to contextualize the call of women in the home. The industrial revolution has ruined families and the family economy was destroyed. When the family economy is restored, the question of whether woman can work outside the home becomes nuanced. Men would be working from the home. Many families are doing this, starting homesteads, family businesses where families are working together. I hope this makes sense.
This is amazing! Very informative! I didn’t grow up Feminist but I think all females do pick up things here and there that are feminist without even realizing it. So there’s still some things like the word ‘submitting’ that is hard for me to swallow. Lol I think it’s just that you grow up hearing how oppressed women were at one point and you buy into submitting being really, a bad word. But it’s not. There’s something very freeing and beautiful about submitting. And you are submitting to God who created these rules for us to live by. And they are for our betterment so we really have no reason to complain. So much of this interview had so many facts that I never know. I know there’s many Christian’s and Catholics who say they are Catholic or Christian feminists and I thought that was ok. But this is totally not ok! Lol In their defense I doubt any of them have heard all of this so I am so happy you wrote your books and did this interview. Women deserve to know the lies they have been sold so we can make the changes necessary for us and the generations after us to go back to how God intended things to be.
1:02:45 I was this woman until age 26 when I started to wonder why I couldn’t find a good masculine provider to marry. After years of searching for answers, I finally got married at 32. Now I help single women and men solve these issues so they can be happy too 😊
Interesting interview. I enjoyed Anti-Mary Exposed but felt at the time it could go further. Im glad to see she has gone further. Young women are hungry for this content. I have 36k followers on TikTok following me for real but still aspirational homemaking and marriage information. Im part of a community of creators who also have a following based on sharing this infomation. Women are waking up.
This is one of the best videos you've done, Matt. I have NEVER been a feminist. Now I'm alone as an older widow and I hate it. Not because I'm lonely or can't function on my own but because I'm not and I can. It is a challenge to be my complete feminine self because I have to do things for myself and I live in Israel which is a very feminist society. Even the ultra Orthodox have turned the patriarchy on it's head by having guys who will never be even competent rabbis spending their lives in kollel, which is yeshiva for married men while the women go out ad work to support the family. I went thru a period recently where I was discerning if I should join a lay community or continue to pray for a husband. Then I received an improper text from the guy who does (did) music in our church but it wasn't just a spontaneous, impulsive flirtatious comment. It was really creepy and obvious he had been having some fantasies. I immediately forwarded it to my priest, who is a young guy who has been in the world to some extent and he was right on it. But I told him, I think I need the protection of a husband and marriage because, despite my age, I am still attracting attention from men. Most of the time, it may be inappropriate but it's harmless. This guy really creeped me out. There's a bit more to the story. I dont' want to be an independent woman any more!!! I am asking you and Carrie to pray I meet a good and faithful Catholic man my age who doesn't think he needs someone 20 years younger.
What if we were to pray for a community of good men in your life, that produces a good partner for you *and* that doesn't sexually harass you in the Church?
Bless you Carrie, I have been really struggling with the Feminist movement for many, many years....even to the point where I have been looking for an anti-feminist group to join..........can't wait to read your books.
Thank you for this! I’m finding that in the effects of sin…our Catholic School is teaching morality and teens are hurt to hear about IVF being evil - when that’s how they were brought in the world. I agree with the Church’s teaching, but this is just a new difficulty and reality we are coming across.
IVF is so evil and it does break my heart to hear that this knowledge is hurting kids but I really don't know any way around it. We all have to learn that our parents are sinful at some point. No one is perfect and that is a super hard lesson for kids who look up to and respect their parents (as they should). It is up to the parents to, with humility, explain that they did sin and show their children that they are endeavoring to do better. This helps the kids to respect them even more!
This lady is here with a Ph.D. being interviewed. Some good has come out of feminism as well. The bad is devaluing femininity and empowerment of women only as being like men; but the good is women being freer. So hopefully many will use their liberation to embrace Catholicism and again value themselves as women and not merely for male metrics of achievement.
I'm about halfway through the video and I am wondering about this. Wholesale exclusion of women from educational institutions, laws prohibiting women from owning property, etc etc. Are we really just supposed to ignore all that? I'm on board with Dr. Gress but I really wish this was at least addressed.
@@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot What do I mean by “ old misogyny”? The terrible thread of misogyny that has run through civilisation since the legend of the fall of Adam and Eve and the apple and that extreme Christians, with an anti feminist agenda in America, are trying to resurrect and spread to Europe. It’s very disappointing that some women are on board and that some are leading it with rhetoric like “toxic and demonic”. The Catholic church is rife with it as are the Muslim countries. I think it’s all very obvious. Margaret Atwood felt the need to warn us about it in The Handmaid’s Tale. Empowerment of women can seem very frightening even though there are some amazing women in existence who really will never be brood mares in the kitchen again. We’re definitely not going back.
I heard the video one more time (I'm very interested in this issue because I believe that if we solve the problem of the relationship between male and female, everything else is a piece of cake). Matt gives ample credit to Chrysostom and his homily. *You can't get any more conservative than Saint Chrysostom! He was from the 4th century, for crying out-loud* Now, Matt doesn't seem to like the concept of the wife submission as "being under the mission of the husband" (the mission being that of loving his wife even unto death). What I think he fails to realize is that the woman (wife) is already giving all she has to the man (husband). She gives her entire self because of love. In marriage the woman is the most vulnerable of the two. She gives her body, her mind, her strength to him (by definition there is no other way, once she gives her body she gives everything else). The man will never understand such a vulnerability except if he loves the way Christ loves. She does this externally by allowing him to get her pregnant with his children. And in case of a catholic woman, that is faithful to the Church, this involves getting pregnant multiple times (of course you can use Natural Family Planning). Getting pregnant with his children is giving everything. It means giving her own being. Women are already in danger when they get pregnant. They are already sacrificing themselves, perhaps unto death. Pregnancy is dangerous in so many levels. Very dangerous for the woman and for the baby. Taxing on the body and mind. Think of miscarriages, gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, preterm labor, severe, persistent nausea and vomiting, anemia, post-partum depression and others. Therefore, women already, because of their own nature, are giving everything to men. They are giving their own lives away to men by the design of their own nature. Therefore, is it too much to ask for the men to love their wives even unto death? Since we are giving everything already, by design, isn’t it enough that we should support men on their mission which is loving us? Men have to make a conscious decision and effort to love in such a way as Saint Chrysostom describes in his homily. Thoroughly, without holding anything back. Women do this by their own nature. We truly not have a choice in the matter. But women are rebellious. This rebellion can be mitigated by men loving them even unto death, like Christ loves his Church. Then women would trust men. Women do have to make a conscious effort to be submissive. And they should be. Just like in Saint Chrysostom homily.
Thank you for expressing this so eloquently! I hope Matt and his viewers read your comment. I have served as a childbirth educator, doula for 24 years, and more recently as a women’s health/labor & delivery/ mother-baby nurse. The vulnerability women surrender themselves to by receiving their husbands into their bodies, and then welcoming, surrendering to, and nurturing their children within their bodies during pregnancy and childbirth, is immeasurable. Post birth, the nurturing, sustaining, and surrendering to their children through constant, countless daily (and nightly) sacrifices (think feeding their children out of their very bodies for years) to safeguard their well-being and nurture health in loving arms. Women, wives, mothers are constantly surrendering and submitting their lives and bodies to their families. The notion that women ought to be subject to reprimand and chastisement at their conferences in the same drill-sergeant or tough-coach way that men may appreciate, is profoundly missing the mark. How desperate we are to be seen, to be cherished, to be honored, protected, and guarded from such bullying tactics. Women recoil with the word “submission” because so many men fail to lay down their lives as a living sacrifice of love and fail to grasp and understand the profound vulnerability of their wives. Women are justifiably afraid of the men who dictate their need for obedience and submission, because so many men, out of their own brokenness, readily slip into a mindset of domination. Many weaker men (spiritually and emotionally) are unwilling or not yet able to love and serve vulnerably as our Lord did, “even unto death”. Women readily surrender to their husbands when they feel safe, seen, and profoundly and sacrificially loved. The surest way for a man to gain the respect (submission and obedience) of his wife is for him to radically pursue our Lord. In conforming himself to Christ and becoming the physical image of our Savior and his infinite love to his wife and children, he will be revered and blessed by them. Many women have been deprived of the opportunity to encounter such men in their lives. Unfortunately, they often have many examples of exactly the opposite. This creates fear. Fear that they must wrangle care, protection, security, etc. on their own. For both men and women, growing in their relationship with our good God can slowly (or sometimes dramatically) bring about the deep healing of wounds necessary to trust one another in the intimacy and vulnerability of marriage. If husband and wife pray together, they have an opportunity to grow in the grace of their vocations alongside one another, encouraging one another into healing and wholeness while honing in on their personal growth in holiness. I’ve been blessed with a good, strong man who desires holiness. We’ve been married for 31 years. We both love sacrificially and seek healing in our areas of brokenness. We are very much together-together helping each other on the journey to holiness. We are gracious with each other because it’s a tough journey at times, both individually and as a couple. We don’t need to dictate behavior to one another. I have never said, “Man up” to him, especially when he has clearly been in his most vulnerable moments as a husband, father, and provider. He has certainly never bludgeoned me with the dictate to submit to him when I have been tempted through my own sincere sense of fear and vulnerability to grasp and wrangle with control. In our weakest moments we strive to show up even more as loving spouses, eager to bind one another’s wounds and speak life into fear. Again, when men lead as Jesus leads, fear melts away and trust and surrender naturally follow. Perfect love casts out all fear. Women fear the words “submission and obedience” because almost all of us have encountered the abuse of power by those who were called to lead us in the past. The remedy is Jesus! Conformity to him is the solution. Men are called to this profound leadership within their homes. Good leaders never have to coerce or demand a following. They inspire one! ❤
@@UnaVincemus there we go, they censored me because I pointed to a different channel… oh well, I can’t give advice as the rabbi from the video because I wouldn’t give it justice so I will tell you: read the homily by Saint Chrysostom and you will see what loving your wife entails.
I had a totally different read on Barbie. The most beautiful woman she saw was elderly. Everyone in Barbieland is plastic and shallow. The natural byproduct of feminism is Ken, a beta male that no serious woman can love. In the end, she decided to join the real world with its beautiful opportunities of suffering and glory. She went to an obgyn, the place you go to ensure the healthy beginning of a family.
Yeah, I kinda see that side too. Greta Gerwig attended Catholic school, so I wonder if her take on women was in fact influenced by the Church more than we realize?
Thank you. Sometimes as husbands, we struggle to understand our wives plus the overlay of divorce culture, feminism, and the misandry we know is undeserved. Where is this coming from and how to not take it personally? What to do? Then what to say to those older women in churches who are teaching younger women these destructive ways? Sometimes we don’t know what to pray or say. At other times, we know the right words must come from other women. Many prayers for Christian women- we love you ladies as you minister to one another is a special way. Prayers 💯
I remember my Catholic stepfather who believed in patriarchy. He repeatedly beat my mother. The law prohibited wife beating, but wife beating was considered a "private matter" and the law was never enforced. I came from a patriarchal abusive marriage where my husband repeatedly reminded me that men were to rule their wives. Of course this loveless Christian message was acoompanied by a heavy dose of severe mental abuse. I have deconverted. As Tina Turner admitted, Christianity is oppressive.
Yes, and this is exactly what Paul warned against. The role of the husband is to love his wife and be willing to sacrifice his life for her. Not take control over her. @@TheGringoSalado
A takeaway I get from this is the difference between submitting to THE PATRIARCHY vs submitting to the patriarch of my home. In a crippled world, I have good reason to feel insecure about placing trust and confidence in men in general, but I have discerned well the person I am married to, and trust his authority over my home. Giving him that position of authority empowers him to do his job well. He cares for us because he knows we depend on him to do so. If I tear down his role, why should I expect him to occasionally uphold it?
The Engels quote about 'raising children is not productive to society' .... Well, how about you don't have a society then? No people to be in society, your society dies with you. How's that for a legacy? Smh
Mental institutions did need a rethink. Sometimes smashing something can allow for creative reform. And sometimes that is very much needed. If it moves us towards compassion, that's good, as we haven't even reached the Gold Standard set by our Lord. Of course, we also see the creative model in Our Father, who both creates and destroys, rebuilds, and sometimes has to destroy again if His standards are not met; though He is very patient with humanity. Catholicism itself needed reformation, as surely as any Biblical and religious scholar must admit. And it was better for the much hated rebellion against the abuses by the clergy (such as the sale of indulgences). These things don't spring up out of a vacuum; there are reasons they take hold. Better to govern well so revolts are unnecessary. But alas, all too often absolute power structures do fall into abusiveness. When we look at the complaints of women in Second Wave Feminism, we can lay many of them at the feet of unChristian, abusive behavior by men. It's always a moral issue, isn't it, that is at the heart of these movements, which give them strength: the righteous cause.
My family has stories about my great-grandmother. Her 9-year-old son got hit and killed by a car, and she got into this spiritualism that you're are talking about. Both she and her husband died in the next couple of years.
It's sad to think about the damage that has been done with all the spiritualism and feminism over the years. It's probably unrelated, but having spiritualism in your family tree can't be good. That's all
Bought this book after hearing her interviewed on the Drew Mariani show on Relevant Radio and was so mind blown I ordered a copy for my sister for Christmas
I am Not a feminist. In fact. I am a stay at home mom and very active in my Parish. Two things that Came out of the 1st wave, was laws that gave women ownership of their wages and inheritance. (Some places already allowed this but not every where) also equal rights (if not more right than men) to their children.
Dracula is better (and has a much better depiction of women, incidentally) than Frankenstein, largely because 2/3 of Frankenstein have nothing the do with the plot and could have been cut.
I am reading Isaiah rn and it is talking about how foolish it is to trust in any other help other than The Lord. He is our only Savior. Putting our hope in anyone else will end up in destruction.
@@thepuffinpanda9139 but certainly you can take it too far. Do you rely on the Lord to feed you? Sure you do, but you don’t just sit at home waiting for the food to arrive at your doorstep, you have to do something to pay for it, you have to order it or go out and buy it, etc.
@@sarahj3349 Sure, but there is a big difference between those two things. We are commanded to work or we shouldn't be allowed to eat. (2 Thessalonians 3:10 DRC1752 [10] For also when we were with you, this we declared to you: that, if any man will not work, neither let him eat.") But in a marriage the husband and wife become one flesh and make binding vows before God so God (and His church by extension) is the only one who can help a husband or a wife who are having issues because it was before and to Him that they made vows. Seems pretty logical to me. Also, if we don't have any other recourse, we all will take marriage more seriously and the massive number of broken families in our world today shows that maybe going back to those old standards would be a good thing.
24:20 When you think about it, the choice to use the term “free love” to mean indiscriminate se.x is itself a feminine view of the situation. If se.xual morays were suddenly opened up, and men decided on the term for it, we absolutely wouldn’t include the word “love” in the title. It’s women who link physical intimacy with emotional intimacy.
'Feminine genius' as a term is, in my mind, associated with Edith Stein and JPII. It worked be great to further propagate it, particularly in reference to those two great saints. And Edith Stein is to me especially great regarding the subject. She was favoring women's rights and education etc. While JPII theology of the body and writings on women or family are quite widely known among Catholics, hers aren't that very much popular in the wider public.
Love Dr Gress book on The Marian Option! Also, to all the easily offended people in this comment section, you can choose to watch certain podcast or episodes as you wish. Its your choice. You can find some truth in what Matt and Carrie or The Gordons talk about, and not be fully supportive of every other thing they say/do. Like you don't actually interact with these people, and likely never will. Seriously, just chill, go to Mass, pray the Rosary, its a feast day people!
A while back, i heard a priest explain that a wife being submissive to her husband means that the wife is being supportive of the husbands MISSION of being the one that leads the family to God. She is SUBmissive. Helping the husband stay on course guiding the family to God.
A book (which was based on her newspaper column) which really inspired me and made me long to get in touch with my femininity was Hints from Heloise. Heloise was a housewife who loved gathering and sharing tips from housewives across the nation on how to make housework more pleasant and more thrifty; how to beautify oneself and one's home, using more imagination and innovation than money. And it was clear that the lady herself was really someone who loved being at home, loved her family - because her joie de vivre was contagious. Though she was from a totally different time, she awakened something within me and made me wish I lived in her time, when women were free to love their homes, husbands, children, communities. Free to relish the creativity of the domestic arts. And Feminists made fun of women like her. They really put her down as if her type was silly, brain-dead.One could feel a twinge of guilt for wishing to live in her world. I found my little collection of Heloise's hints at thrift shops, where they can still be found, in the used books sections.
This topic is so needed! But I would push back with the point that women are not called to be better. I don’t go to women’s conferences, but I see a lot of topics directed towards women by women. It’s rarely depicted as this uplifting “go girl” narrative. Maybe that because I’m seeing a lot of this from Christian media, but women tend to be pretty harsh towards each other in this area. I wish there was more taught about the “how” to be a better wife/mom and less of “just be a better wife and mom”.
I like how even after all that… Matt presses the issue of admitting women need to submit to their husbands aaaaand we still end up talking about “what men need to do.”
@@Selahsmum and I had the exact opposite impression when I was dating. Men and women will both feel like the issue rests more so on the other because that is who they are primarily concerned with. And this is an episode on the evils of feminism… it’s curious that even here- there is an obstacle to women admitting that their duty is to submit. Even your comment mimics the irony I was pointing out.
When a RUclips video says "to understand this, we have to go back to the beginning," I'm looking for how to skip the time wasting. But her intro was a valuable setting of the stage.
Um, not to get off topic, but actually great advice for morning sickness that my grandma gave me a few years ago - when you wake up you immediately have to eat a plain Digestive biscuit... chow it down before even thinking about getting out of bed. That should do y'all pregnant women wonders.
Thank you for this episode! I’ve read the Anti-Mary and The End of Woman book, they are both EXCELLENT. Highly recommend!!! Also, the Theology of the Home blog is wonderful!
Matt! I’ve been to beautiful retreats led by the Abiding Together ladies. They do not speak sternly but they make space for deep encounters with the Holy Spirit - who absolutely does the rest. Thanks be to God 🙏🏻
Feminists are the ones fighting sex trafficking and pornography and helping women around the world get an education and get free from abusive husbands..to laugh at feminism is to say you support everything they fight.
As a Christian since I was a small child, I even was infiltrated with the lies of feminism. Except I put a Christian spin on it. I had the attitude that I was going to be the hero. My heroes were the single women who went out on the mission field. There weren't many women I read about who had a family and were on the mission field. I though a man and family was going to hold me back from fulfilling what God wanted of me. It wasn't until I lost my mom that I came to see that I did desire a family. And God softened my heart towards having a husband and family. It was also meeting families on the mission field that I came to realize that families don't have to hold you back and they can help to break cultural barriers. I think God calls us to both singleness and marriage. But it wasn't until my mid to late 20s that I came to see marriage and children as blessing instead of a curse. And that had to do with the culture around me telling me that I need no man. That children will hold me back from being fulfilled.
I absolutely love your books! They are a wonderful encouragement to be feminine and counter-cultural. I love that you go through the history of feminism it’s interesting and greatly discredits it. Feminism is so toxic to women. I recommended anti-Mary exposed to my book club we are reading it together next month. I’m stay-at-home mother of four so far. Thank you for your example :)
What a grace from God to have this evil exposed by a faithful Catholic woman. I will recommend this book to my circle of women friends. I was treated with such disrespect as a stay at home mother in the 70’s & 80’s. Oh how blessed I am now celebrating 50 years of faithful marriage and our many children and grandchildren. This is treasure beyond all measure.
Think of how much more you could've done if you'd been out in the world helping society
After my children became adults I did have a successful Real Estate career.
@@ASMRyouVEGANyet She has done alot for society in raising good children to become good men and women and more importantly, she has honored God in helping shape souls for the heavenly Kingdom.
Oh blessed sister, thank you for your efforts. The world cannot honor mothers enough.
@ASMRyouVEGANyet Society wouldn't exist if it wasn't for her and women like her. You can't have society without people and we would have people without women like her.
In all the talk about how disordered it is for mothers to be out of the home and away from their kids, I am struck that no one comments how disordered it is for fathers to be gone all day as well. For much of human history, the father was at home--in the workshop, working the fields, minding the books---and certainly his sons, at least, if not his daughters, were working alongside. The father gone all day is a product of the industrial revolution and industrial agriculture. One can be an absentee father even if you come home every night, if your mind is too frazzled to be attentive to your kids or you're working a 60-hour week.
I don't know how that's reconciled in our modern world. An electrician can't bring his kid to work, nor can a lawyer or a doctor. It may be impossible. But a real reactionary has to look past the 1950s or 1900s to the 1800s or 1700s to see how much "natural" family life has changed in the last century-and-a-half, and ask how could both parents be more available to their kids. I've noticed in my own life, at least, that as my kids approach their teen years, that my day-to-day fathering of them increases in importance.
The Industrial Revolution consequences
One of the things that Uncle Ted was correct about. It's unfortunate that he was so disordered, and his 'solutions' were so reprehensible. He identified the problem, but not the answer. @@retrorenegade1967
Most insightful comment yet. I'm expecting ahistorical and ill-informed comments in this section, otherwise. 👏👏👏 Women also worked in the fields, barns, etc, and children followed. Having a mother at home to cook and clean is a middle-class aspiration, sometimes luxury, that very few members of humanity have "enjoyed". Most families in the world have been unable to afford an able-bodied person to stay-at-home and not earn money to add to the family income pool. I can't believe commentators are so short-sighted!
This is a very true point and comment. How do we reconcile that though so that fathers can be more available?
@@Alexa-un7ky If it's possible to support a family on the equivalent of a single income, then perhaps both parents could work 20-25 hours part-time. Alternatively, one could work a 30-to-35-hour "full-time" job to get benefits and the other a 10-15 hour job. Remote at home is possible in some professions. But for the majority of people, getting paid $25/hour or less, working outside the home, and often at odd hours, I don't think it's possible outside of a radical re-imagination of family life, probably along the lines of what is the norm in other cultures: multi-family, multi-generation, with grandparents more involved. The other possibility might be home-based businesses and homeschooling in a proximate community where kids can walk to see friends, perhaps in a dense suburb, city, or small town.
Got to be honest... as a Protestant raised Protestant considering Catholicism because of videos like this... The most convincing argument as to why I feel I should "convert" is seeing women like this who are feminine, capable, and TRUE. They have a head on their shoulders that makes all I've ever suspected about the roles of women, men, authority, and individuality finally make sense.
Again, I am a Protestant, so I have reservations about the Marian dogmas... but when I see Catholic women living out their faith with humility, grace, and unapologetic truth I feel like there may be something to these extraordinary claims about God's special care for Mary afterall.
Exactly! Because if these women (Catholic or not) are so admirable, how much more so is Mary? As a Catholic I can only imagine.
Blessings!
As a former Protestant who is now Catholic, I can say that the Catholic understanding of men, women, and marriage (really EVERYTHING) is a more beautiful and more complete picture than anything I had ever been taught in my 30+ years as a Protestant. If you haven't yet been exposed to The Theology of the Body, it is amazing and so needed in our world today. Christopher West is a great source on that. And as far as the Marian dogmas go, the more you dig in and really give the Catholic explanation a chance, the more you see that they make sense and are totally Biblical. There is so much OT typology about Mary. Brant Pitre's book The Jewish Roots of Mary is excellent. His book Jesus and the Jewish Roots of the Eucharist is also excellent. The continuity between the OT and NT is so much stronger in Catholic theology!
People associate Biblical attributes with the catholic church but for some reason not the protestant church despite how there are just as many examples. Maybe your part of a bad church so Catholicism looks more appealing than what it is. Do people seriously think you cant be a Biblical man or woman as someone who isnt catholic? Let's not kid ourselves. The catholic school girl gone wild is a stereotype for a reason. Many of them are really good at making a front for church personal.
Not to mention, many of their doctrines are unbiblical such as marry adoration/worship, baptism, and apostolic succession.
@@itachir8290 We hear "unbiblical" so often, but we don't subscribe to "Bible alone." Christianity wouldn't have survived if it had been dependent on written words alone. The faith was handed down by word of mouth mostly, because it had to be, due to low literacy rates and lack of books until the invention of the printing press. We didn't even have a closed canon of the Bible until the 300's.
Things don't have to be written down in order to be true.
As far as the "Catholic school girl gone wild" stereotype, I knew a few like that. They got religious service awards at graduation, yet broke every rule. A lot of that is personality, rebelliousness, and lack of good examples in the previous generation. And of course the devil speaks loud with his empty promises.
Even Luther retained his devotion to Mary. It was later Protestants who threw her into the background, just to be different from Catholics.
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The terms biblical & unbiblical mean something. Sure words are misused. If you think that is the case with my comment then make your case as I make mine.
The Bible should be our sole source for reliable true information. Yes, I agree we can get valuable knowledge from non biblical sources such as from the stoics etc. But when ever we get information that is outside the Bible, we compare that information to the Bible & see if it is Biblically compatable. We use a Biblical scale. If it does not pass the scale, then we reject those words. & that reminds me of another h3risy of the catholic church. Believing that the words & writings of the pope are in parallel with the Word of God.
Initially, if we accept what is non biblical, then do we not open ourselves up to universalism? (which the pope also subscribes to) Truth is truth. & if the catholic church supports doctrines that are unbiblical then they should be rejected. There are some nuanced examples that can be brought up but overall, all real truth is in line with the Bible.
The Bible (composition of books/scrolls) was written down & yes, much of it was preserved by word of mouth, esp the old testament. We know this for several reasons. 1 of which is not that the society was illiterate, but that acess to writting materials was extremely rare. We do know that average Jew was very literate as it was an oral culture that persevered history by memorizing it. They had to memorize the entire Torah by the time they were 12. It is truly amazing that through all of the generations of memorization, that everyone still came to the same conclusion of the same Bible that we have today.
Don't get me wrong. I am 1 of the biggest critics of the catholic church, but that doesn't mean I don't view the people in the catholic church & efforts as valuable. They have fantastic volunteer service, pro life efforts, academic study, etc. Often times when I hear people convert to the catholic church it is usually because they like the structure. Whatever is good, acknowledge as good. Whatever is bad, acknowledge as bad. Dont use 1 as an excuse to not see the other 1. But if we love truth, then we criticize that which is wrong even when it comes from those we care about or those who we deem as "on our side." That catholic church has a long history of "move along to get along." Hence overlooking many of the scandals & inconsistencies it has.
My primary critism of Catholicism has to do with the fact that it is viewed as the central structure that represents Christianity to the world, yet it has so many Biblical inconsistencies that get attributed to Christians like myself that don't hold those views. Before the church can address the idea of trying to fix other people's problems, it has to first get its act together. & part of getting that act together is destroying the lies that it promotes & replace them with Biblical truth.
Regaurding the catholic girl gone wild subject. Just to be clear, I am not painting all Catholics with this brush BUT I do believe this stereotype does manifest itself fairly prominently due to 1 of the unbiblical doctrines that the catholic church professes. & that is how they frame confession. To be clear, I am not against confession. But the way the catholic church teaches & performs it is the problem. Teaching that you can confess your sins & intensionally sin tommorow & that God will forgive such sins that uses the name of Jesus as a license to sin is bl@sphemy. God doesnt forgive our sins when we think we can sin & outsmart God because we take advantage of His grace. Also, the idea that you have to confess your sins to a priest & pray to the dead is also unbiblical. We can confess our sins to God & if we are truly repentent, then we will turn away from those sins & not @bus3 the name of Jesus.
Love Carrie Gress. I read her book the Anti-Mary while I was working at Planned Parenthood and it changed my life.
Are you the one that she refers to at the end of this interview? She states how someone left their job at planned parenthood after reading her book. I'm a former worker of theirs as well. I was crying at times all this overwhelming truth/facts was being discussed
Yes I think so! I feel your pain. It’s a lot to overcome and work through. I’m here if you want to connect- we share a crazy experience!
@@rachell6965 yes that would be great! whats a good way to reach you? I'm currently listening to the audio version of the book.
Desiring to protect women from abuse is not feminism its justice. You don’t need a separate movement for every type of injustice.
Sitting here taking notes! I wish I had this guidance and never left the church when I was younger; it would have saved me years of heartache. I struggled for years running my own business while trying to juggle being a wife and mother. “Feminism” almost destroyed my marriage. I will rejoin the church this coming Easter and recently decided to close my business to focus on family and the Lord. I can’t get those years back, but I can take back my future. 🙏🏻
So beautiful. God bless you and the sacrifice you are making for you and your family. And welcome back. Merry Christmas!
I wish you the very best. I truly believe that with sacrifice comes rewards and any sacrifice we do for our family God will give you graces and many blessings. ❤️❤️
I wasn't able to have children, due to a drunk driver when I was 10 years old riding on my brothers Big Wheel.
It was very difficult for me, who wanted babies.
My grandmother had 14...my mom had 7...and I couldn't have 1.
I did get pregnant twice..and both times, the pregnancies were ectopic.
I adopted my son (3 months old) when I was 25.
I also did foster care (27 children) and raised my nephew from when he was born.
What I realized, is that God had a plan for me.
That plan may have been different from traditional motherhood...but one thing I can tell you, is that I have mothered and nurtured so many children in my life...and some grown children too (ha)!
Be open to God's plan...even if it looks different than the one you planned on.
You are only 33 years old!
You are far from being over the hill.(ha)
Put yourself out there...trust God...and I promise you that great things will come your way!
God bless you my friend! ⚘️
Praised be the Lord, you are a mother or at least a mother figure to more than 30 kids! More than you could have cared for if you took the traditional route of motherhood! That's so amazing, you are doing God's work!
I myself had not a foster mom but a foster grandma. She was an older neighbour of ours and she taught me different skills, she was so kind and caring with us, I grew up thinking that she's my grandmother until later I learned that we weren't related at all. She was a better grandma to me than my biological one. I often think about her and hope she's enjoying heaven right now.
Wow, God bless you, what a beautiful gift you have been to all of those children!!!
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I honestly see it the other way around.
These children helped me to fulfill my need for motherhood!
God bless your soul
God bless you!
I’m old enough to remember when women starting burning their bras (I was only a little girl). I grew up in a pretty liberal family, but I was always put-off by so-called feminists from the beginning. I’ve never considered myself a feminist and think the whole thing has been a disaster for womanhood. Listening to this makes me understand my intuitive response was spot-on.
In my experience and social circle, 95% of couples are divorced. In 100% of those divorces, the woman ended the marriage. To the best of my knowledge, none of the men were unfaithful, drunkards, abusive, or unable to provide. Here is a scary statistic. In the U.S., 90% of married college-educated women will end up divorcing their husbands.
I married a college-educated Catholic woman. She started socializing with a group of feminist women. After 16 years of marriage, she divorced me. Her reason? "It's not working for me." How can anyone use that to justify destroying a family? Feminism has taught women to be selfish.
Your book is essential, and I pray it saves as many lives as possible, but I fear feminism is too entrenched. Feminism is the air we breathe. Mostly, I fear for my grandchildren.
Don't worry, Islam is taking over.
Perhaps "the plan" is for Islam to course correct society in regards to f'ism, and then a move of the Holy Spirit to course correct for Islam?
“Free love, is neither free nor loving, but more so enslaved passion” Wow 👏🏾😮💨
We pulled our kids from a Catholic grade school (in a very conservative area of the country) because of several factors. The last straw was a history day display where 8th graders at the school had produced a display extolling the virtues of Betty Friedan. That was the moment we decided to homeschool.
Yikes. I homeschool as well good for you!
How providential for this to be put out today, on the feast of the Immaculate Conception. O Mary, conceived without sin, pray for us who have recourse to thee!
I’m a Brazilian living in Australia. To be honest I was raised with a very feminist mind, not because my mum or the women from my family were feminist but because unfortunately most of them suffered too much with bad husbands that complete disrespected them and that always took advantage of being the providers of the house and thought that because of that they could do whatever they can.
My whole life a heard things like “study hard and find a good work so you will never need to depend on any man”, or “between a good husband and a good work, pick the work without even thinking”.
They have no idea of who Simone Debovoir was, or anything about the feminist movement but because the feminist narrative uses a real issue to grow then people buy the idea very easily.
For me is more than convince women about how bad the feminist movement is, for me the solution is to teach men to be good men.
A don’t know any woman who would fight with a man, when the man plays the role as they should. We need to recover good Christian masculine minds, teach men to be like Saint Joseph, and then women will naturally go back to their place.
Yes, this all starts with weak selfish men who, as the head, abandoned their role. And the resulting hurt and chaos in the family ensured.
This is a great point! The worldly version of every ideology is sinful because it’s selfish. If we shift the language from “What can I get?” to “how can I serve?” we’d see a positive change.
So true. Femenism wouldn't come into existence if men didn't abuse their leadership role.
This is why the Chruch has been emphasizing the role of the man in marriage as saint Paul states (paraphrasing) "loving his wife as Christ loved the Church to the point of giving His live for her on the Cross". Men must understand that they have to love their wives and die daily for them and this means die to their egos every day. If a woman senses this from her husband (plus good judgement) she will just surrender to him easily.
Women give their bodies to their husbands and are vulnerable in doing this. Their nature is one of vulnerability. They give their bodies and then pregnancy happens thus they are vulnerable by nature and if they can't trust their husbands the relationship breaks down. But women can do many things: get educated (not in order to despise men but because education is good), exercise their civil rights and civil participation (not to bash men but to be an integral part of their communities), educate good men (after all they are mothers to new generation of men). These are strengths that help a woman be a better partner to her husband. Still she needs to trust in his love and judgement.
Blaming men as usual. A feminist mind indeed...
I love Carrie so much! One of my heroines and love that she’s navigating the current culture with us!
Matt, just after an hour into this, u asked the question what does submission mean and referenced a biblical quote (may have been St Paul’s letter to Ephesians) where he said a man’s duty to his wife is to be willing to die for her. To answer your question: This means that a woman’s duty is to BE WORTH DYING FOR. This is an obligation as huge as the man’s and an equal, albeit reciprocal one. There’s a line from the Queens of the Stone Age song: “Go With the Flow” that’s says “so give me something good to die for…to make it beautiful to live.” A good wife is just that. I’m speaking from experience as a former US Army Infantryman married with 5 kids under 8 and a sixth on the way and I just finished helping with laundry and dishes and garbage bc my pregnant wife is getting some sleep in a rough 1st trimester with a lot of nausea - and I’ll be up in 4-hrs for work in Manhattan. Actually having to die for her is something very few men will actually be called to do just as few are called to martyrdom, but these small sacrifices are small versions of the same thing. Remember what St Francis de Sales said, “do ordinary things extraordinarily well.” THIS is what that great Saint and Doctor of The Church meant.
God bless You and your family.
I wish there was more content on 'motherhood' for single, childless women. I'm single and childless, and at 33, that might never change. I hear a lot about spiritual motherhood, but it mainly relates to being a religious sister. and I have no interest in doing that. All I have been able to come up with is that I need to be a good daughter and a good friend.
Spiritual motherhood is using your womanly traits to nurture anyone who needs nurturing too. If you have a job, that could be listening with attentiveness of a mother to whoever needs you. It could be providing a meal for a family that you know of that just had a child. Motherhood looks at someone who is in need and goes in haste, like Mary, to help them in their need.
There are people who marry later in life and end up having children (biological or adopted) in their 40s! God is great and places things in our path at the right time. God bless
I am the mother to an adopted child, our only daughter. My vocational life is lived in many ways - as a teacher, volunteer chaplaincy, family life. Could using the word 'womanhood' be helpful for us all I wonder.
@thatsfunny2051 Sometimes people just do get married later on in life. That was the case with both my parents and with the parents of many (maybe even most) of my friends. It sounds like you do want to get married, so you'll be in my prayers. I'm sorry it's been difficult
Single, childless women happened to be among the closest disciples of Our Lord. You have the freedom to go to more Masses, go to Adoration often, spend more time in prayer (15 decade rosary is big). The full successors to the woman disciples of Our Lord are religious sisters, which you should at least try out since they don't make you take any vows for a long time, but there is still so much you can do as it is. God bless you and may Our Lady keep you.
@@rx0102in our modern society, a single childless women doesn't necessarily have that freedom.
Most women are worked as if they were men, with no thought whatsoever of their more limited ability to handle it.
Modern society sees women as defective men, just as it sees men as defective women. It wants everyone to be grey blobs with no particular gifts or weaknesses
Doctor Ignaz Semmelweiss was an OB who learned that handwashing in childbirth was important to reduce the risk of maternal sepsis after delivery in birth. He had a nervous breakdown from attacks on him after he promoted his hypothesis, which of course proved true over time as infectious disease was proved. (Germ Theory, Louis Pasteur etc). The poor man died in an "insane asylum" from a beating by a guard and subsequent infection. He is a tragic heroic figure.
Quite a familiar and sad story of questioning elites and what liars will do to keep up a lie…reminds me of what happened to the doctors who actually believe in science and went against the fake virus hysteria of 2020
Very sad to hear that. No good deed goes unpunished, it is said.
I LOVE her book about the anti-Mary spirit. I recommend it all of the time to women to buy for their girls, especially as graduation gifts. I even buy extra to give away.
The interesting thing is, what Dr. Carrie Gress calls the 'anti-mary spirit' other people call the 'jezebel spirit.' Frankly, I do not think that's a coincidence. I personally believe that Jezebel *WAS* the Anti Mary. While people fear the coming of the Antichrist before Christ's Second Coming, the Anti Mary came before Christ's *FIRST* Coming.
Thnx will look into it!
Don't forget her other book about Mary, "The Marian Option". Also very good.
Sames!
Added these to my Christmas list! So excited to read!
Her Anti Mary book changed my life. GOD BLESS YOU Carrie ❤
Totally agree! It's eye opening.
I grew up in a feminist household; my mother was personally acquainted with the famous second-wave feminists. I read material for kids generated by Ms. Magazine. I later converted to Catholicism and my understanding of feminism’s absolutely corrosive nature has only deepened with the years.
The best word ever to describe feminism and redpill: corrosive
Went to purchase her book, after listening to the interview. Such an important work of our time.
Happy Immaculate Conception feast day everyone…just as God raised up Mary to crush the serpents head, I believe that God is raising up women like Dr Gress to expose the serpents lies in the guise of feminism. Praise God🙏🏼
But you know without feminism she wouldn't be able to be here? Why isn't she at home with her kids?
@@user-bl4lf9rg8m that's patently false, did you even watch the video?
@@user-bl4lf9rg8mWomen were promonent and happier before feminism. You are confusing soft power with a complete lack of power.
You're a feminist lmao
My fave line is “How about we go back to the Ten Commandments… the greater issue is sin.” Rewatched this episode after seeing the shorts recently. Still a great watch.
What a graceful, gentle & intelligent woman Dr Gress is. It was a real pleasure to listen to someone who knows her onions but has nuance & doesn't claim to have answers to everything. Matt led the conversation with interesting & à propos questions & comments. Bravo !!!!
Just ordered her book as a treat to myself . Can’t wait to dive in. An incredibly important message!
The RUclips Shorts teaser went wild... good job thrsdy
Yes! That short was excellent!
Brilliant woman. Thank you so much for this talk. The world needs to hear this. True story: I was working as a comedy writer in the UK. My office was at Covent Garden in Longacre. We used to go to the pub at lunchtime ,the kings head I think it was called. One day Germaine Greer came in with her very gay secretary. We were introduced because we were fellow Australians. It took me only five minutes of talking to her to realise she was utterly insane, and if she had’ve had therapy for her father daughter issues she would never have written those toxic books. So many of these so called feminists come from a deeply damaged psyche that’s reflected back onto the world.
More truth…it’s one of those days. I grew up in a communist household. My father was a Stalinist and high up in the party in Sydney…a union secretary as well. It’s only now I can look back and see how utterly evil they were. They used to all get together to practice what they called free love. One of them was a very well-known communist who stood on the podium with Gorbachev during a Mayday Parade in the Soviet Union. Her name was Frida Brown. She started the green party here because the Labour Party wasn’t radical enough for her. I knew her then as Freda Lewis. She was my “auntie.” I was told. She sexually abused me when I was 12 years old. And my parents knew it was happening. They told me that it was all okay and that my problem was guilt that had been put in my head by a Christian patriarchal society. I kid you not. I never ever met a decent communist. And still haven’t.
You should write a book about this.
@@michaelkaminski1166 oh my friend, if you only knew….
@@warriorpoet9629I second this. It sounds like a really eye opening story.
Thank God we have Carrie Gress to relay these truths with humility and love. Thank you Carrie.
Great episode, my wife has been talking about the anti-mary spirit since her women's book study covered it recently. I was excited to put a face to the name!
Saint Zelie Martin was a working mother of 9... mother of Saints, married to a Saint, and a Saint herself! Pray for us
Only with the permission of her husband and not avoiding any household duties.
@@soccerlife5041 They worked together- Louis knew that her lacemaking was more profitable than his watchmaking, so they went all-in with the lace. Cooperation is the key thing here.
@@abbyskiGod forbid, a man setting aside his career? That won't help his reputation among the trads.
@@soccerlife5041 they had a maid. Are you sure no neglecting duties? Have you even read Zelie’s letters where she bemoans working so much she can’t spend adequate time with her family?
@LlywellynOBrien You have an odd, stereotyped view of traditional Catholicism.
So good. This is what our culture is craving. Thank you to both of you for being so honest about the beauty and shortcomings of what God created in Men and in Women. What a blessing to hear
I am not Catholic, but I still really enjoyed it. It was amazing and very eye opening. Thank you also for sharing your story.
I am currently reading this book and its full of wisdom to say the least. Its very good and thank you for writing it.
I would LOVE for Dr. Abigail Favale and Dr. Carrie Gress to sit down together for an interview and discuss feminism. Pretty please Matt make it happen!
I think it would be more of a debate than a discussion. I don’t think they’re actually on the same page about it.
Why? Favale is a feminist and recent convert. She needs to have a few decades as a Catholic before she will have anything to contribute. Currently she's just another convert with little to show for it.
You should get Rachel Wilson on she's done a huge amount of research into first wave feminism
I was thinking the same thing. Rachel Wilson and Dr.Carrie Gress having a discussion about Feminism and its occultic roots would be fascinating.
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He has had her on the show, but I think it would be interesting to have her and Dr. Gress on.
Years ago, I read “The Rules”. It began to help me rethink how I thought about men and dating.
The Rules can easily be made christian/catholic. So accurate.
There is rightful criticism of how men have often subordinated women through our superior physical strength in past generations, but the point still holds true fallen humanity hurts each other and women becoming oppressors is not the answer.
@@francikoen When did I say that women are oppressors?
@@francikoen When you respond directly to my comment beginning with, “women are not oppressors,” that comes across as you making a contradiction to my comment.
@@francikoen There are a lot of assumptions you’re making about my comment.
@@francikoen I’m not interested in playing games. If you’re open to dialogue then I’m happy to talk but otherwise I won’t engage.
@@nickmedley4749She's using word salad because she's triggered. Ignore her. Your original comment was absolutely correct.
I want to hear a conversation between her and Abigail Favale on this channel
I loved the book Frankenstein because it’s so emotional and moody and dramatic and sad and I read it as an autistic teenaged girl who had been bullied and felt totally isolated, like I literally was THE target audience
On the submission question: I HIGHLY recommend Mary Stanford's book, The Obedience Paradox. I interviewed her about it but I won't link to it here cause I don't want to use Matt's comment section for self promotion.
Leo XIII, Encyclical Arcanum, February 10, 1880. The authority of the father over his family:
“Not only, in strict truth, was marriage instituted for the propagation of the human race, but also that the lives of husbands and wives might be made better and happier. This comes about in many ways: by their lightening each other's burdens through mutual help; by constant and faithful love; by having all their possessions in common; and by the heavenly grace which flows from the sacrament. Marriage also can do much for the good of families, for, so long as it is conformable to nature and in accordance with the counsels of God, it has power to strengthen union of heart in the parents; to secure the holy education of children; to temper the authority or the father by the example of the divine authority; to render children obedient to their parents and servants obedient to their masters.”
Encyclical Sapientiæ Christianæ, January 10, 1890. The husband is the head of his family:
“This is a suitable moment for us to exhort especially heads of families to govern their households.”
Encyclical Rerum Novarum, May 15, 1891. The husband is the head of the wife:
“Secondly, the mutual duties of husband and wife have been defined, and their several rights accurately established. They are bound, namely, to have such feelings for one another as to cherish always very great mutual love, to be ever faithful to their marriage vow, and to give one another an unfailing and unselfish help. The husband is the chief of the family and the head of the wife. The woman, because she is flesh of his flesh, and bone of his bone, must be subject to her husband and obey him; not, indeed, as a servant, but as a companion, so that her obedience shall be wanting in neither honor nor dignity. Since the husband represents Christ, and since the wife represents the Church, let there always be, both in him who commands and in her who obeys, a heaven-born love guiding both in their respective duties. For “the husband is the head of the wife; as Christ is the head of the Church…. Therefore, as the Church is subject to Christ, so also let wives be to their husbands in all things.”
No one should be submitting in a relationship. why would you have one person be a master and another a slave? This is unequal
@@ASMRyouVEGANyet both are slaves to one another but in different ways.
@@ASMRyouVEGANyetThe Bible says so, and your twisted understanding will not do anything aside from drive you from Truth.
Doesn’t sound like you understand the catholic teaching on marriage at all. Plus, you’re a TROLL
@Pints With Aquinas -I think having a discussion on restoring the family economy would be really helpful to contextualize the call of women in the home. The industrial revolution has ruined families and the family economy was destroyed. When the family economy is restored, the question of whether woman can work outside the home becomes nuanced. Men would be working from the home. Many families are doing this, starting homesteads, family businesses where families are working together. I hope this makes sense.
It does!
This is amazing! Very informative! I didn’t grow up Feminist but I think all females do pick up things here and there that are feminist without even realizing it. So there’s still some things like the word ‘submitting’ that is hard for me to swallow. Lol I think it’s just that you grow up hearing how oppressed women were at one point and you buy into submitting being really, a bad word. But it’s not. There’s something very freeing and beautiful about submitting. And you are submitting to God who created these rules for us to live by. And they are for our betterment so we really have no reason to complain. So much of this interview had so many facts that I never know. I know there’s many Christian’s and Catholics who say they are Catholic or Christian feminists and I thought that was ok. But this is totally not ok! Lol In their defense I doubt any of them have heard all of this so I am so happy you wrote your books and did this interview. Women deserve to know the lies they have been sold so we can make the changes necessary for us and the generations after us to go back to how God intended things to be.
Found her new book is included in Spotify premium, finished it in two days. So much good history you won’t find anywhere else!
Definitely makes me want to get her book bc I couldn’t possibly digest all of this. Thank you :)
Love Carrie Gress!
1:02:45 I was this woman until age 26 when I started to wonder why I couldn’t find a good masculine provider to marry. After years of searching for answers, I finally got married at 32. Now I help single women and men solve these issues so they can be happy too 😊
Thank you Carrie Gress! Amazing episode!
“If the streets are safe, it’s because of men.”
Okay, but also, if the streets are dangerous, that is also because of men. What’s to be done?
Conceal carry regardless of gender, and don't be out after dark if you can help it.
Interesting interview. I enjoyed Anti-Mary Exposed but felt at the time it could go further. Im glad to see she has gone further.
Young women are hungry for this content. I have 36k followers on TikTok following me for real but still aspirational homemaking and marriage information. Im part of a community of creators who also have a following based on sharing this infomation. Women are waking up.
I have a playlist labeled “important”. This podcast met the criteria to join the playlist. Thanks
This is one of the best videos you've done, Matt. I have NEVER been a feminist. Now I'm alone as an older widow and I hate it. Not because I'm lonely or can't function on my own but because I'm not and I can. It is a challenge to be my complete feminine self because I have to do things for myself and I live in Israel which is a very feminist society. Even the ultra Orthodox have turned the patriarchy on it's head by having guys who will never be even competent rabbis spending their lives in kollel, which is yeshiva for married men while the women go out ad work to support the family.
I went thru a period recently where I was discerning if I should join a lay community or continue to pray for a husband. Then I received an improper text from the guy who does (did) music in our church but it wasn't just a spontaneous, impulsive flirtatious comment. It was really creepy and obvious he had been having some fantasies. I immediately forwarded it to my priest, who is a young guy who has been in the world to some extent and he was right on it. But I told him, I think I need the protection of a husband and marriage because, despite my age, I am still attracting attention from men. Most of the time, it may be inappropriate but it's harmless. This guy really creeped me out. There's a bit more to the story. I dont' want to be an independent woman any more!!! I am asking you and Carrie to pray I meet a good and faithful Catholic man my age who doesn't think he needs someone 20 years younger.
What if we were to pray for a community of good men in your life, that produces a good partner for you *and* that doesn't sexually harass you in the Church?
Praying that God's will for you be done. I too am alone. It may or may not always be so - deus vult.
Bless you Carrie, I have been really struggling with the Feminist movement for many, many years....even to the point where I have been looking for an anti-feminist group to join..........can't wait to read your books.
Thank you for this! I’m finding that in the effects of sin…our Catholic School is teaching morality and teens are hurt to hear about IVF being evil - when that’s how they were brought in the world. I agree with the Church’s teaching, but this is just a new difficulty and reality we are coming across.
IVF is so evil and it does break my heart to hear that this knowledge is hurting kids but I really don't know any way around it. We all have to learn that our parents are sinful at some point. No one is perfect and that is a super hard lesson for kids who look up to and respect their parents (as they should). It is up to the parents to, with humility, explain that they did sin and show their children that they are endeavoring to do better. This helps the kids to respect them even more!
I’ve always thought IVF is evil too but never said anything to anyone about it in case I offended them.
This lady is here with a Ph.D. being interviewed. Some good has come out of feminism as well. The bad is devaluing femininity and empowerment of women only as being like men; but the good is women being freer. So hopefully many will use their liberation to embrace Catholicism and again value themselves as women and not merely for male metrics of achievement.
I'm about halfway through the video and I am wondering about this. Wholesale exclusion of women from educational institutions, laws prohibiting women from owning property, etc etc. Are we really just supposed to ignore all that? I'm on board with Dr. Gress but I really wish this was at least addressed.
She did address it in the beginning about how great education is.
I have my doubts about a PhD from a Catholic university. I’m sensing a lot of the old misogyny her too.
@@joandempsey4652 which old misogyny?
@@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot What do I mean by “ old misogyny”?
The terrible thread of misogyny that has run through civilisation since the legend of the fall of Adam and Eve and the apple and that extreme Christians, with an anti feminist agenda in America, are trying to resurrect and spread to Europe. It’s very disappointing that some women are on board and that some are leading it with rhetoric like “toxic and demonic”. The Catholic church is rife with it as are the Muslim countries. I think it’s all very obvious. Margaret Atwood felt the need to warn us about it in The Handmaid’s Tale. Empowerment of women can seem very frightening even though there are some amazing women in existence who really will never be brood mares in the kitchen again. We’re definitely not going back.
I heard the video one more time (I'm very interested in this issue because I believe that if we solve the problem of the relationship between male and female, everything else is a piece of cake).
Matt gives ample credit to Chrysostom and his homily. *You can't get any more conservative than Saint Chrysostom! He was from the 4th century, for crying out-loud*
Now, Matt doesn't seem to like the concept of the wife submission as "being under the mission of the husband" (the mission being that of loving his wife even unto death). What I think he fails to realize is that the woman (wife) is already giving all she has to the man (husband). She gives her entire self because of love. In marriage the woman is the most vulnerable of the two. She gives her body, her mind, her strength to him (by definition there is no other way, once she gives her body she gives everything else). The man will never understand such a vulnerability except if he loves the way Christ loves.
She does this externally by allowing him to get her pregnant with his children. And in case of a catholic woman, that is faithful to the Church, this involves getting pregnant multiple times (of course you can use Natural Family Planning). Getting pregnant with his children is giving everything. It means giving her own being. Women are already in danger when they get pregnant. They are already sacrificing themselves, perhaps unto death.
Pregnancy is dangerous in so many levels. Very dangerous for the woman and for the baby. Taxing on the body and mind. Think of miscarriages, gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, preterm labor, severe, persistent nausea and vomiting, anemia, post-partum depression and others. Therefore, women already, because of their own nature, are giving everything to men.
They are giving their own lives away to men by the design of their own nature.
Therefore, is it too much to ask for the men to love their wives even unto death? Since we are giving everything already, by design, isn’t it enough that we should support men on their mission which is loving us? Men have to make a conscious decision and effort to love in such a way as Saint Chrysostom describes in his homily. Thoroughly, without holding anything back. Women do this by their own nature. We truly not have a choice in the matter.
But women are rebellious. This rebellion can be mitigated by men loving them even unto death, like Christ loves his Church. Then women would trust men. Women do have to make a conscious effort to be submissive. And they should be. Just like in Saint Chrysostom homily.
Thank you for expressing this so eloquently! I hope Matt and his viewers read your comment. I have served as a childbirth educator, doula for 24 years, and more recently as a women’s health/labor & delivery/ mother-baby nurse. The vulnerability women surrender themselves to by receiving their husbands into their bodies, and then welcoming, surrendering to, and nurturing their children within their bodies during pregnancy and childbirth, is immeasurable. Post birth, the nurturing, sustaining, and surrendering to their children through constant, countless daily (and nightly) sacrifices (think feeding their children out of their very bodies for years) to safeguard their well-being and nurture health in loving arms. Women, wives, mothers are constantly surrendering and submitting their lives and bodies to their families. The notion that women ought to be subject to reprimand and chastisement at their conferences in the same drill-sergeant or tough-coach way that men may appreciate, is profoundly missing the mark. How desperate we are to be seen, to be cherished, to be honored, protected, and guarded from such bullying tactics. Women recoil with the word “submission” because so many men fail to lay down their lives as a living sacrifice of love and fail to grasp and understand the profound vulnerability of their wives. Women are justifiably afraid of the men who dictate their need for obedience and submission, because so many men, out of their own brokenness, readily slip into a mindset of domination. Many weaker men (spiritually and emotionally) are unwilling or not yet able to love and serve vulnerably as our Lord did, “even unto death”. Women readily surrender to their husbands when they feel safe, seen, and profoundly and sacrificially loved. The surest way for a man to gain the respect (submission and obedience) of his wife is for him to radically pursue our Lord. In conforming himself to Christ and becoming the physical image of our Savior and his infinite love to his wife and children, he will be revered and blessed by them. Many women have been deprived of the opportunity to encounter such men in their lives. Unfortunately, they often have many examples of exactly the opposite. This creates fear. Fear that they must wrangle care, protection, security, etc. on their own. For both men and women, growing in their relationship with our good God can slowly (or sometimes dramatically) bring about the deep healing of wounds necessary to trust one another in the intimacy and vulnerability of marriage. If husband and wife pray together, they have an opportunity to grow in the grace of their vocations alongside one another, encouraging one another into healing and wholeness while honing in on their personal growth in holiness. I’ve been blessed with a good, strong man who desires holiness. We’ve been married for 31 years. We both love sacrificially and seek healing in our areas of brokenness. We are very much together-together helping each other on the journey to holiness. We are gracious with each other because it’s a tough journey at times, both individually and as a couple. We don’t need to dictate behavior to one another. I have never said, “Man up” to him, especially when he has clearly been in his most vulnerable moments as a husband, father, and provider. He has certainly never bludgeoned me with the dictate to submit to him when I have been tempted through my own sincere sense of fear and vulnerability to grasp and wrangle with control. In our weakest moments we strive to show up even more as loving spouses, eager to bind one another’s wounds and speak life into fear. Again, when men lead as Jesus leads, fear melts away and trust and surrender naturally follow. Perfect love casts out all fear. Women fear the words “submission and obedience” because almost all of us have encountered the abuse of power by those who were called to lead us in the past. The remedy is Jesus! Conformity to him is the solution. Men are called to this profound leadership within their homes. Good leaders never have to coerce or demand a following. They inspire one! ❤
@@Blessedcrestfarm Perfect love casts out all fear. --> Perfect. God bless you and your husband.
@@UnaVincemus there we go, they censored me because I pointed to a different channel… oh well, I can’t give advice as the rabbi from the video because I wouldn’t give it justice so I will tell you: read the homily by Saint Chrysostom and you will see what loving your wife entails.
Thank you so much for this interview. I agree that both women and men need to heal from feminist movement.
I had a totally different read on Barbie. The most beautiful woman she saw was elderly. Everyone in Barbieland is plastic and shallow. The natural byproduct of feminism is Ken, a beta male that no serious woman can love. In the end, she decided to join the real world with its beautiful opportunities of suffering and glory. She went to an obgyn, the place you go to ensure the healthy beginning of a family.
That was Michael Knowles’ take on it as well! Fascinating!
Me too, and I also found it hilarious. Maybe the humor just appeals to gen z more?
Yeah, I kinda see that side too. Greta Gerwig attended Catholic school, so I wonder if her take on women was in fact influenced by the Church more than we realize?
Thank you. Sometimes as husbands, we struggle to understand our wives plus the overlay of divorce culture, feminism, and the misandry we know is undeserved. Where is this coming from and how to not take it personally? What to do?
Then what to say to those older women in churches who are teaching younger women these destructive ways?
Sometimes we don’t know what to pray or say. At other times, we know the right words must come from other women. Many prayers for Christian women- we love you ladies as you minister to one another is a special way. Prayers 💯
I remember my Catholic stepfather who believed in patriarchy. He repeatedly beat my mother. The law prohibited wife beating, but wife beating was considered a "private matter" and the law was never enforced. I came from a patriarchal abusive marriage where my husband repeatedly reminded me that men were to rule their wives. Of course this loveless Christian message was acoompanied by a heavy dose of severe mental abuse. I have deconverted. As Tina Turner admitted, Christianity is oppressive.
You describe sin.
Yes, and this is exactly what Paul warned against. The role of the husband is to love his wife and be willing to sacrifice his life for her. Not take control over her. @@TheGringoSalado
A takeaway I get from this is the difference between submitting to THE PATRIARCHY vs submitting to the patriarch of my home.
In a crippled world, I have good reason to feel insecure about placing trust and confidence in men in general, but I have discerned well the person I am married to, and trust his authority over my home.
Giving him that position of authority empowers him to do his job well. He cares for us because he knows we depend on him to do so.
If I tear down his role, why should I expect him to occasionally uphold it?
I lover her! Anti-Mary exposed was fantastic! A bit redundant but I really enjoyed it!
The word could be Marianism 💙 Mama Mary is the ultimate mother and the model for all women (and men!)
Matt you should set up a debate or dialogue between Dr. Gress and Dr. Abigail Favale or erika bachiochi.
The Anti-Mary Exposed is probably one of the best books I have ever read!!!
The Engels quote about 'raising children is not productive to society' .... Well, how about you don't have a society then? No people to be in society, your society dies with you. How's that for a legacy? Smh
Mental institutions did need a rethink. Sometimes smashing something can allow for creative reform. And sometimes that is very much needed. If it moves us towards compassion, that's good, as we haven't even reached the Gold Standard set by our Lord. Of course, we also see the creative model in Our Father, who both creates and destroys, rebuilds, and sometimes has to destroy again if His standards are not met; though He is very patient with humanity. Catholicism itself needed reformation, as surely as any Biblical and religious scholar must admit. And it was better for the much hated rebellion against the abuses by the clergy (such as the sale of indulgences). These things don't spring up out of a vacuum; there are reasons they take hold. Better to govern well so revolts are unnecessary. But alas, all too often absolute power structures do fall into abusiveness. When we look at the complaints of women in Second Wave Feminism, we can lay many of them at the feet of unChristian, abusive behavior by men. It's always a moral issue, isn't it, that is at the heart of these movements, which give them strength: the righteous cause.
My family has stories about my great-grandmother. Her 9-year-old son got hit and killed by a car, and she got into this spiritualism that you're are talking about. Both she and her husband died in the next couple of years.
Okay.... Doesn't mean it's connected
@@ASMRyouVEGANyetSo you're defending satanic practices then?
That's terrifying. We really do have the option to run to or away from God in times of trouble.
It's sad to think about the damage that has been done with all the spiritualism and feminism over the years. It's probably unrelated, but having spiritualism in your family tree can't be good. That's all
Bought this book after hearing her interviewed on the Drew Mariani show on Relevant Radio and was so mind blown I ordered a copy for my sister for Christmas
The word we need is "Mary".
I am Not a feminist. In fact. I am a stay at home mom and very active in my Parish. Two things that Came out of the 1st wave, was laws that gave women ownership of their wages and inheritance. (Some places already allowed this but not every where) also equal rights (if not more right than men) to their children.
Women need more or different rights than men. We bear children, the next generation.
Dracula is better (and has a much better depiction of women, incidentally) than Frankenstein, largely because 2/3 of Frankenstein have nothing the do with the plot and could have been cut.
Ive been saying for years that feminism is in fact masculinism. Thank you Dr Gress for proving my point.
You should get Rachel Wilson on this pod. She is amazing on how bad feminism is.
I agree that sin is the problem, but women need mechanisms for survival for cases when men sin against them.
I am reading Isaiah rn and it is talking about how foolish it is to trust in any other help other than The Lord. He is our only Savior. Putting our hope in anyone else will end up in destruction.
@@thepuffinpanda9139 but certainly you can take it too far. Do you rely on the Lord to feed you? Sure you do, but you don’t just sit at home waiting for the food to arrive at your doorstep, you have to do something to pay for it, you have to order it or go out and buy it, etc.
@@sarahj3349 Sure, but there is a big difference between those two things. We are commanded to work or we shouldn't be allowed to eat. (2 Thessalonians 3:10 DRC1752
[10] For also when we were with you, this we declared to you: that, if any man will not work, neither let him eat.")
But in a marriage the husband and wife become one flesh and make binding vows before God so God (and His church by extension) is the only one who can help a husband or a wife who are having issues because it was before and to Him that they made vows. Seems pretty logical to me. Also, if we don't have any other recourse, we all will take marriage more seriously and the massive number of broken families in our world today shows that maybe going back to those old standards would be a good thing.
Men 'sin' far too frequently
@@wyleecoyotee4252 and women don't?
I’ve been excited about this one!
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When you think about it, the choice to use the term “free love” to mean indiscriminate se.x is itself a feminine view of the situation. If se.xual morays were suddenly opened up, and men decided on the term for it, we absolutely wouldn’t include the word “love” in the title. It’s women who link physical intimacy with emotional intimacy.
This episode is phenomenal
Yes!
💯💯💯
'Feminine genius' as a term is, in my mind, associated with Edith Stein and JPII. It worked be great to further propagate it, particularly in reference to those two great saints. And Edith Stein is to me especially great regarding the subject. She was favoring women's rights and education etc. While JPII theology of the body and writings on women or family are quite widely known among Catholics, hers aren't that very much popular in the wider public.
Love Dr Gress book on The Marian Option! Also, to all the easily offended people in this comment section, you can choose to watch certain podcast or episodes as you wish. Its your choice. You can find some truth in what Matt and Carrie or The Gordons talk about, and not be fully supportive of every other thing they say/do. Like you don't actually interact with these people, and likely never will. Seriously, just chill, go to Mass, pray the Rosary, its a feast day people!
The most important interview you have ever done, Matt.
A while back, i heard a priest explain that a wife being submissive to her husband means that the wife is being supportive of the husbands MISSION of being the one that leads the family to God. She is SUBmissive. Helping the husband stay on course guiding the family to God.
A book (which was based on her newspaper column) which really inspired me and made me long to get in touch with my femininity was Hints from Heloise. Heloise was a housewife who loved gathering and sharing tips from housewives across the nation on how to make housework more pleasant and more thrifty; how to beautify oneself and one's home, using more imagination and innovation than money. And it was clear that the lady herself was really someone who loved being at home, loved her family - because her joie de vivre was contagious. Though she was from a totally different time, she awakened something within me and made me wish I lived in her time, when women were free to love their homes, husbands, children, communities. Free to relish the creativity of the domestic arts. And Feminists made fun of women like her. They really put her down as if her type was silly, brain-dead.One could feel a twinge of guilt for wishing to live in her world. I found my little collection of Heloise's hints at thrift shops, where they can still be found, in the used books sections.
Love this episode. Thank you both for your insights ❤
This topic is so needed! But I would push back with the point that women are not called to be better. I don’t go to women’s conferences, but I see a lot of topics directed towards women by women. It’s rarely depicted as this uplifting “go girl” narrative. Maybe that because I’m seeing a lot of this from Christian media, but women tend to be pretty harsh towards each other in this area. I wish there was more taught about the “how” to be a better wife/mom and less of “just be a better wife and mom”.
I like how even after all that… Matt presses the issue of admitting women need to submit to their husbands aaaaand we still end up talking about “what men need to do.”
@@Selahsmum and I had the exact opposite impression when I was dating. Men and women will both feel like the issue rests more so on the other because that is who they are primarily concerned with. And this is an episode on the evils of feminism… it’s curious that even here- there is an obstacle to women admitting that their duty is to submit. Even your comment mimics the irony I was pointing out.
He spoke way too much in this episode.
When a RUclips video says "to understand this, we have to go back to the beginning," I'm looking for how to skip the time wasting. But her intro was a valuable setting of the stage.
Um, not to get off topic, but actually great advice for morning sickness that my grandma gave me a few years ago - when you wake up you immediately have to eat a plain Digestive biscuit... chow it down before even thinking about getting out of bed. That should do y'all pregnant women wonders.
Looking forward to this
Matt: People want tradition and they look awkward with their pocketwatches
Also Matt: *pulls out 3ft churchwarden pipe*
Thank you for this episode! I’ve read the Anti-Mary and The End of Woman book, they are both EXCELLENT. Highly recommend!!!
Also, the Theology of the Home blog is wonderful!
Matt! I’ve been to beautiful retreats led by the Abiding Together ladies. They do not speak sternly but they make space for deep encounters with the Holy Spirit - who absolutely does the rest. Thanks be to God 🙏🏻
Woot woot!! Carrie G…can’t wait to listen!! 🙌🏻✨🫶🏻✨💫
Many Catholic “feminists” triggered in the comments 😅 thank you Matt and Dr. Gress for proclaiming the truth!!
Feminists are the ones fighting sex trafficking and pornography and helping women around the world get an education and get free from abusive husbands..to laugh at feminism is to say you support everything they fight.
@@ASMRyouVEGANyet a great contingent of feminists are for pornography and some even directly assist sex trafficking in their advocation.
@@ASMRyouVEGANyet
Those men want to keep.women uneducated and under their control.
"Catholic" feminists.
As a Christian since I was a small child, I even was infiltrated with the lies of feminism. Except I put a Christian spin on it.
I had the attitude that I was going to be the hero. My heroes were the single women who went out on the mission field. There weren't many women I read about who had a family and were on the mission field. I though a man and family was going to hold me back from fulfilling what God wanted of me.
It wasn't until I lost my mom that I came to see that I did desire a family. And God softened my heart towards having a husband and family. It was also meeting families on the mission field that I came to realize that families don't have to hold you back and they can help to break cultural barriers.
I think God calls us to both singleness and marriage. But it wasn't until my mid to late 20s that I came to see marriage and children as blessing instead of a curse. And that had to do with the culture around me telling me that I need no man. That children will hold me back from being fulfilled.
Me too
I pray God softens me and that I allow a man to lead me.
Fascinating episode
Started this on podcasts and it quit playing and won’t work! Hmmmm.
So glad that I can continue listening here.
Love her! Good show!! ❤😊
I absolutely love your books! They are a wonderful encouragement to be feminine and counter-cultural. I love that you go through the history of feminism it’s interesting and greatly discredits it. Feminism is so toxic to women. I recommended anti-Mary exposed to my book club we are reading it together next month. I’m stay-at-home mother of four so far. Thank you for your example :)
She is amazing
They should have Rachel Wilson on, who wrote Occult Feminism: The Secret History of Women’s Liberation. It’s in the same vein as the anti-Mary book