Borderline Triangulation & Fearing the Hoover
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Big Dave from Tennessee again - Thanks David. This time you answered with clear examples showing the difference between Never Again/Forever and 2 or 3 chances. Makes a lot of sense.
Good, thanks for telling me Dave!
Good evening, David! Thank you for answering my question, and cleaning it up, so to speak! Love your humor!! I hope you have a great week also! 😎❤️
Thank you Rory, you better have a really nice week too and watch where you stick your finger!
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@rorywright5692 Hello Rory how are you doing. Bad storms went through Wisconsin tonight
@@paulsenzig9097 Hi, Paul! Hope your feeling well! Just been working outside a lot! We might get those thunderstorms soon! 😎❤️
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Thanks buddy!
from south africa
Hi David
Thank you for the video.
I will work on reducing stress.
It feels like I don't have control over anything it feels weird.
You have control over yourself, just not your environment.
@@daviddemars Thank you David
Actually not a bad New Zealand accent there.. excellent try. (I'm also north island NZ).. you really are enjoyable to watch and I have learnt a lot. cheers
Thank you very much mate!
Hi from Sacramento. Good video 👍
Hi Ali!
Hi, Victoria! Great to see you! Thanks for bringing that song to my attention! I listened to her singing and jelly roll singing it, and a couple others. It makes you think, for sure! 😎❤️
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Jenny from Los Angeles. Enjoy your stories & insights.
Thank you Jenny!
Hey, I'm Sara, 20 years old I was recently diagnosed with BPD and I'm trying to learn more about it from your own videos, I went through alot while growing up and I'm still fighting to get out of this environment to be able to heal, I recently learned about my splittings and my splitting get dangerous the moment I feel I'm in danger or stressed out but I'm managing through it slowly
Hello Sara, please watch today's video and see my response. Thank you!
Married to diagnosed bipolar/BPD female for 18 years. 2 children. I adopted one. Final discard 2 months ago. Rumination is terrible. Can't sleep. But I feel like that if I'm going to be alone now, id rather do it anonymously. Alone where nobody knows me. Is this normal? Why do I feel this way? Shame? I still have this want/need to help her. I feel sorry for her. And I understand that I shouldn't. Anonymous. I see that as freedom.
I understand and I'm really sorry Ron. I will dive into this today.
Same
Please ask questions leave your locations!
After 28 years of being on antidepressants I am 100% off them and I have no depression. I’m angry the doctors kept telling me I can never go off them. 28 years of flat emotions. So Cal.
Oh no. You're okay now. Enjoy your new and improved self and I hope life is beautiful for you!
Fearing the hoover is serious.
Imagine you show up to game day, and do well, no problems popped up, any activity, any endeavor, and have an expert Monday morning quarterback decide you stink. 😂your supervisor, your coach, your family, your spouse, all say, “Nope, this ones a winner. And have a person in power say, “Naaah, I’m good. He stinks.” 😂❤
Hi David. Thanks for trying to answer my question. All I want to know is what a pwBPD will go through during a psychotic break, is it the same as a breakdown and how does it effect them long term and with future relationships.
Oh okay, I will try to answer that for you. Thank you!
Puzzle pieces falling into place now. I suspect my BPD/cptsd ex was messing around, suspicions gnawed at me for a year. Burning the candle on both ends, keeping me in the "fog", never giving me details of her life. Must've got more serious with the other dude she was hiding, because it makes very little sense how hard the relationship door got slammed. Didn't make for any real closure David. Must be tough to lie & distort facts. Bet it taxed her. Dumb move. Honesty & being genuine are the only way to go.
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Hi Cindy!
Hi David, healing family from California. Thank u for ur advice on my fears. I will for sure start looking into talking to a family lawyer to know my rights and what he can do and what he can’t do. It’s weird. Well everything he does is weird. All I asked my ex fiancé regarding the kids is to meet me somewhere the first couple of times they see him. I told him I wanted to be present those first couple of times to make sure the kids emotional being is stable. I want to b there to make sure they feel ok and safe since they think their father is dead and are just confused. Don’t u think this is like common sense ?
Their father is refusing and doesn’t want me to b there. He just wants to pick them up after being out of their lives and a total stranger to them for the almost past year. I feel like he is running away from being in front of me after what he did to us. I’m thinkin full of shame ? Or memories will come bak? What do u think?
No matter what it is, I want nothing to do with him. I just need to b there to make sure my kids will be emotionally ok. Do u think this is normal for me to ask for me to b there the first couple of times? I’m askin cuz to him it’s not normal and that’s y he says he’s takin me to court. I just want ur opinion. Thank u David
I think what you request is healthy. If you dont want him in your children's lives then remind him of what a failure of a Father he is. If you do want him in their lives then go through the courts.
@@daviddemars thank u. No I don’t want him in my children’s lives. I’ve been healing and feeling a bit better every day. I don’t want him bak. U have taught me tons thank u. But he’s the one that tells me he’s gonna take me to court cuz I don’t let him pick them up.
I already asked a question about the recent MRI results and some cognitive tests I've did, they discovered that my brain didn't function properly, and the amygdala didn't formed / work as it's supposed to. I'm from Alsace, France, but I am currently living in Québec Canada for my work, Ivujivik, to be precise. The doctors absolutely refuse to give me any diagnostic. I don't feel a high range of emotions. That would be normal or angry. I care about my immediate family, my kids, elderly parents, but others, I'm afraid I don't care much. I'm just curious about what you would think about this. Your videos are informative, and I appreciate your humour. I just want to inform my family if it's something that is hereditary and don't want to hurt them without knowing it. P.Z
I'm really sorry but I can't day much about it. I am not qualified to discuss such matters. Please consider seeing a different Doctor. Maybe there is no diagnosis?
Victoria from the Bay area lot of therapists are doing reaction videos on Jelly.Roll Somebody save me.I would love to hear your opinion on this Sonia. Lee also. did a spit off of Somebody Saving me.I would love to hear your opinion
Hi Victoria, I couldn't find it until I saw Rory say more about it so I will watch it.
@daviddemars Thank you.I would love to hear your opinion on both singers, Jelly roll and Sophia.Lee Because that's how I would have acted 5 years ago but not today.
Reaction Therapy is one site I watched. It was very interesting. Want to look at a few more when I have more time! Thanks, Victoria!😎❤️
@rorywright5692 A few years ago, if I had heard this song I probably would have thought. Why doesn't somebody save him Today I no longer think this way. My first thoughts are, I can't save you Jelly Roll. You have to save yourself. This is not my responsibility I can love you from Afar but I can't allow myself to bond with your trauma. I've come a long way rory
@@victoriamuniz9851 You sure have, Victoria!❤️
Please why has my ex blocked me , he is seeing someone else, thank you for your videos
I'm sorry Janette. I can only assume he does not want you to interfere.
Same my ex narc w someone im sure even tho she would deny amd keep us both plus others tramp
I am no contact with my ex who shows heavy signs if BPD. Everything fits. She initiated the final breakup, but i made the break up FINAL by saying "fine. I'll return all of your possessions and you'll never hear from me again." And so i did, and became a ghost. Of course she flipped and raged and made threats. I just worked harder to cut all of the contacts possible.
I now realize that even though she initiated the breakup, she likely believes that i was the one who abandoned her.
My question is: How likely is she to hoover? What's the time frame for a hoover?
Hello, David! I hope you are having a wonderful Sunday! I know I am, here in sunny Ohio! My question is- Do you think Their addictions are used as a triangulation against us to further torment, control, and manipulate us? Another way they can hurt us both emotionally and physically?😎❤️
Hi Rory! I will bring this up today, thank you.
Hi. Do you think its possible to feel so sad, and miss something so much you can feel the hurt but no longer cry , just feel the hurt .
Hi, Rose! Great question! Although I don’t hurt as much over this, I seldom cry cuz of being ridiculed by him so many times for shedding tears! I would say to myself I will cry later over something he had done or said so I could cry in private. But those tears were never shed later. Hope I’m making sense!
Yes and I'm so sorry Rose. Maybe depression.
@@rorywright5692hi you are making sense, sorry for my late reply, its because my notifications don't let me know until days after the reply , but yes it's as if you've run of tears but tears are important and not bad
@@rose-sk2qv I’ve had same things happen with notifications, and my comments being deleted!
Yes on off 4 yr plus long distance nightmare w single mom narc 2 dads of course no longer w....called her out so many x too left ten months 6 months 9 months now 3 plus months new betrayals and timelines i already noticed i wanna tell her i know thar affair lasted more than 2 months more like over a yr or longer...i fig it out...plus she has devastated me shocked me w disgusting modern woman entitled behavior...long silent treatment the worst private fb oh ya the worst is a long distance relationship allowing visits every few months while trying to push her away back to block her no contact ruminating kills me..fearing hoover always tho i think i made huge narc injury good f off