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Follow ups and goodies pointed out in the comments:
- Good takeaway from the fly story is about boundaries and how to manage them. Don’t break your partners boundaries, but also talk about things instead of silent tretment
- Wedding dress story gets even wilder and seems like the husband lied about why the friend wore the dress, leading to a full on divorce? lol
- 15 y/o with insomnia; as people are pointing out insomnia is a real issue, which the comments in the post whoosh. Also punishing a long distance relationship is hardly productive in this case.
I went back to take a scroll and it’s really hard to get any full context.
It seems they only get partial help regarding another issue in therapy, but not for photosensetivity or insomnia. But the parents may also not know about all of it? May also be a monetary issue regarding therapy.
It is a very fragmented story and I hope they get to the point they can communicate with the parent, and the parent is receptive and they get the best help possible
(Since the story is hard to grasp, and too many assumptions are made, both by myself and in the thread, I decided to cut it as it's not really productive)
Just so ya don't miss it... I would LOVE a bingo version... Tho I'm also not sure how a bingo for AITA would work.
Click, not only do you speak fluently, you speak better English than some English people I know. Just thought I'd let you know.
Tbh- I saw the fly one and did point out that communication and boundaries are important but yes, no one was the butt in that story. Just hurt people unsure how to address it with their partner.
The "surprise wedding" story while a funny idea in theory ended up being a huge mess with that bridezilla and spineless husband (and potential future ex, that couple will not last). I wouldn't be surprised if those two are trying to ostracize that OP by lying about what happened. 😬
I really appreciate that you stay conscious of the conversations surrounding a video and take action when you feel you have to - But also I can't imagine how anxiety-inducing that would be to me. Hope you know we all still love you, your videos always cheer me up when I'm down 💜
AITA post are always either “AITA for stopping my family from abusing me further” or “AITA for killing my sister’s cat because she didn’t support my demands”. There’s no in-between.
It's either a definitive yes you are or a definitive no you aren't get out of there 😂
The very popular ones tho
And then you’ll say 1 is the AH and 2 is not the AH and you’ll be right.
@@kelvisaisawesome yeah that's the actual answer. Sometimes really tough dilemmas rise to the top, but most of the time when a post does so it's outrageous on either side
Basically, posts made by people gaslit by their surroundings, and posts made by entitled pricks
Update on the Corpse Bride wedding dress story!
The husband was actually jealous of OP'S friendship with the bride and wanted to sabotage it by making her think OP knew it was the wedding. She found out the truth and realized how controlling and manipulative her new husband was. Dumped him. Their friendship is okay.
Holy Crap! that is a bombshell I was never expecting. Good for OP and their friend.
One of the few times where the plot twist actually caught me by surprise. That idea didn't even cross my mind
Cool!
Yay happy ending!
The happiest of endings!
"You're fat shaming!" Wait until this woman finds out that germs exist in skinny people, too.
Anything they can do to act like the victim
Do you want to know the funny part? The one fat shaming was actually the woman! Cause the moment her bf yelled at her to stop eating she immediately thought of fat people.
No they don't! Germs aren't weightless so if a skinny person has germs they couldn't be skinny anymore (or whatever the nonnsense is that woman will try to use in order to "logic" her way out of the corner she placed herself) lol 👻 🤣🤣🤣
"No normal person keeps talking about a compliment this long."
No normal person repeats the word "intelligent" as if it's a whole aristocratic class.
OP mentioned how timid his wife is. He also interrupted a conversation she was having with his friend, but because he wasn't interested, he shut it down. His wife responded with, "I'll speak when spoken to."
OP straight up bullies his wife. He's the one who makes her feel like she isn't good enough. He likes making her feel small, so whenever she's noticed slightly, he's always there to make sure she doesn't get too big for her boots.
OP also mentioned she was robbed because she's timid. My guess is that he reminded her about the incident every day afterwards by telling her how weak she is.
What a great guy. I hope his wife manages to find the strength she needs to leave the insecure, toxic POS.
I had a bf who treated me like this while he was (unbeknownst to me) failing out of school. Meanwhile, I was earning straight As. I think he really felt bad about himself. (Please note past tense _had_)
@@Dondizle not to mention the passive aggressive edits that he left
"" EDIT: I don't think that my wife is an idiot. She's plays multiple instruments and that obviously takes some form intelligence to do. That's why I'm so confused as to why she doesn't think it's a joke. I do tell her that she's smart.
EDIT 2: I get it, I'm an AH. F*
ck off now. ""
like what
@@Dondizle he's a great person, by all means if i want to build a show like CSI he's an absolutely great person.... for the mortician.... here you can see this man was stabbed 37 times in the chest, electrocuted, and somehow fell 25 stories on to the Strip. Obviously a suicide. Nobody in the hotel or on any of the security cams knows what happened. strange.
The guy's "stupid" wife is actually incredibly intelligent, judging by the fact that she knows *_AT LEAST_* two languages, to the point where she's told she _sounds like a native speaker._ I also have a feeling that the only reason she's insecure about her intelligence is because of her husband degrading her and making jokes at her expense.
I have to wonder if she even is insecure. He might just be projecting that onto her.
Yes.
@@o-mangaming5042Exactly!
@@o-mangaming5042 Yeah, I have a feeling OP sees her as less intelligent because she's foreign.
Judging by how she got complimented for sounding like a native speaker, she must be an immigrant, or a child of immigrants.
Many people falsely assume that makes one less intelligent.
Wouldn't be surprised if OP is secretly racist and/or xenophobic, and using his wife as an excuse that he "can't be racist/xenophobic"
PREACH!!
Stealing a passport is a federal crime, regardless of the reason. If convicted, up to 25 years at one of Uncle's grey bar motels. Father should have scared the stuff out of those two. "We can't find the passport. I'll have to call the FBI."
Hope they'll get karma, they have children so kids would often destroy things....Well passport's as well
Came here to say this.
Exactly. This. I’d still investigate if there are any legal options that should be taken - including divorce.
Read the passport story from the pow of the one having her passport stolen. The parents were enablers for soo long and she is NOT happy.
dad should take daughter without rest of family
The girl dipping her fingers into food sounds toxic-
She keeps doing sth that her partner told her MULTIPLE TIMES not to do and then gets defensive and accuses him of sth he didn't even do.
She is also very selfish because her second long "childhood experience" is more important than her partner having to do more work and potentially causing people to be sick (she literally did that when he went to shower, probably expecting him not to see her do it which would put his sister's clients and her business at risk).
OP is DEFINITELY not the AH, they need a serious talk about boundries.
She’s also disrespecting the family at that point because he’s definitely explained what he’s doing and why. She’s intentionally contaminating it to keep the whole thing to herself
I think that she needs to be gotten rid of because she does not understand boundaries. This is completely and utterly juvenile, which I think is her point but she’s making it his problem. At this point, it’s spite.
I know I personally cannot deal with someone not listening to me and respecting my stuff. And that is exactly what she is doing.
Op isn’t the AH towards the GF, but is kind of the AH for making food for the sister’s business in a private home that obviously isn’t food safe. OP should either kick out the GF or not make food for sister’s business where the GF can get to it.
I remember being "dropped off" at somebody's house before and their younger kid, I was in primary school would "eat" Nutella from the large jar with his hands. He was a "free range kid" so was always dirty and I never remember him cleaning his hands without been "forced" and even them it was like 2-5 secs of warm water at most.
often times, actual kitchens aren't even all that clean... sometimes extremely dirty@@shadowdancer909
13:44 As a neurodivergent person who also has an issue with killing bugs, while I don't fully agree with OP, I think their GF is the bigger AH.
OP explicitly asked her not to kill the bug, she went ahead with it anyways and then just laughed. She could have apologised but decided not to.
This isn't just about killing a bug, it's about ignoring your partner's wishes and not taking their feelings seriously.
Yes
Exactly. If she had been like _"I'm sorry, but the fly was just too annoying while you were away, and I smacked to make it stop. I hope that you can understand."_ then it would have been something entirely different. But her malicious defiance of her boyfriends' wishes is totally AH behavior, regardless of how "butthurt" he might be about it.
I was thinking this too. Like, I HATE killing bugs, I always feel so bad for doing it. I understand where OP is coming from.
GF is totally the AH. If someone asks you not to do something because it would bother them, then you don't do it especially when it's something so simple
Yes, I also have problems with it, since it is still a life. The constant "get over it it's just a bug" or even laughing from people that would than say every life is precious made me so frustrated as a teenager that I could only help myself with silence.
50% of these Stories: "AITA for" *tells the most devious sh't ever*
Other 50%: "AITA for" *normal thing*
Half of the post are from entitled prick, other half are abuse victim who perceive their own worth less due to constantly being exploited.
I still remember a story of a 16ish year old girl posting a story on AITA because she called her grandparents because she was crying that her mom broke her prosthetic leg because her mom used it for a treasure hunt for her half siblings. Her grandparents showed up immediately so the girl could life with them, her mom was so angry at her and said she just lives to ruin her live (her mother and stepfather call the girl an early developing black widow because her bio dad died in a car accident with the girl the same accident she lost her leg, because he was taking her to the hospital because her mom was ignoring her pain all day. She was 7 at that time)
Those stories will stick with you from what i know she still lives with her grandparents and will soon end university and is no contact with her mom 1.5 years
@@juliaboskamp9666 that’s genuinely upsetting and messed up in so many ways it really makes you wonder how these people think they are justified I feel so bad for that girl
Then there's the redditors that respond to the AITA stories. There's usually a very obvious troll saying A**hole even when it's obvious they're not.
And you can almost always tell from the title. If it sounds horrendous, probably NTA. If it sounds harmless, massive AH.
Am I the butthole?
I keep teasing my audience with a fake bingo board. Just when they forget about it, I bring it up again. It’s supposed to be a prank but some people tell me that they aren’t laughing, so maybe I’m taking it too far? But I don’t think I am
DTA, had to go watch one of his actual bingo vids just to scratch the itch, always a good time
NTA I laughed
NTA I think it depends on how much you do it, because in the wise words of my parents "It's funny the first couple times, but after a while it just gets annoying"
Nah - it is funny 😂
The passport story
- two older sisters
- one younger sister they bully
- step-mother who looks the other way
- step-sisters attempt to offload work onto sister
- they also attempt to keep her from going on a trip she’s excited for
Dude… is your daughter called Ella? Cause you’re dating the evil step-mother.
Glad that I am not the only one that thought that it sounded like Cinderella. You could seriously do a modern remake with something like that.
The only difference is the fact that the father is still present.💀
@@spirit2117 oh my god we have to warn OP
@@roundhouse2616 Yep. CALL 911!
Y'all are great, just gonna say. lmao
That man calling his wife "stupid" came off so insecure and condescending to me. The way he bragged about his educated friends was intense and him trying to squash his wife's curiosity was petty and reeked of jealousy. Pretty sure he's lying about apologizing to his wife. I hope she escapes that marriage and realises her worth.
Agreed. I met a guy like this once. I was in my early teens, at an al-Anon party, when this guy walks up to me and asks me if I can repeat the word "l'chaim". (It's a Jewish/Yiddish word, basically a toast or blessing). I did so, and the jerk turns around and says to his wife, "HE can do it, why can't YOU?". I apologized to her, since it was not only jerkish, but horribly unfair: Not only does pronunciation have very little to do with anything other than rote learning, but my entire family has a talent for mimicry. She just sighed and said he did it all the time...
@@wandererwerewolf477 there are some horrible people in the world. My current gf had some exes that have instilled these kinds of attitudes in her, and her dad was just as bad, so now me and her are working together to help rebuild her confidence and show her how normal healthy relationship dynamics are. loads of communication, praise and love.
The only thing true about his wife, is that she only sees the good in people, so is easily fooled.
Otherwise, she wouldn't have married this awful guy.
I'm also very naive, and I can't stand up for myself, so I could easily be fooled by a romantic partner. I cross my fingers this doesn't happen to me.
absolutely shitty man hope she divorces him
@@grenade8572I'm the same way. I kind of don't date anymore because of it. I can't trust myself and I also don't want to get hurt anymore.
Okay, am I the only one who doesn't agree that the 'killing the bug' guy is NOT the asshole? Because it's not about killing the bug. It's about the fact that she knew it was going to bother him, he asked her not to do it, she did it anyway, and then she laughed when he was (very PREDICTABLY) upset about it. She's definitely the asshole there. It doesn't matter if something bothers YOU or not. If you care about someone, you are supposed to care about how they feel, not laugh at them after you did something they asked you not to do.
It just seems like everyone is more focused on judging the guy for being bothered about the fly than on what the issue actually was.
Absolutely agree. GF's behavior was not the act of someone who cares about your feelings.
I agree
Totally agree. It wasn’t so much about killing the bug it was the disregard of the OPs feelings and the belittling afterward.
Totally
I absolutely agree. She went out of her way to violate his boundaries. She's definitely the a**hole.
Being sassy is hot, being a jerk is not.
Someone needs to sign you with a record label 🗣
These are the same thing
@okyep No its not. Sassy people are blunt and can come off as insulting but know when it's appropriate to be blunt or sarcastic. Jerks don't care and will insult you for no reason.
Same shit
@@okyep Korra from Legend of Korra is the example of someone who's sassy but not a jerk.
The guy with the "not smart" wife is beyond ahole to abuser. The minute she said "speak when spoken to" I knew where this was headed, and then when she went nuts over one compliment I was sure.
This woman never hears affirmation from the man she's married to. She sticks around because he's convinced her she has no other options and she's too stupid to survive without him. Then someone comes by and shows her she has worth, that she's good at something - of COURSE she's going to be floating on cloud nine! And then he can't handle her being happy and maybe eventually thinking she might not need him after all, so he squashed it to keep her under his thumb. Man I hope she gets out safe. Given the multilingual comment I'm guessing she may be in a mail-order bride type situation and has no family nearby to help her.
I was thinking that same thing. It seemed a little weird to me that she would be conversing with his friends in her second language, and that he chose to leave out the context of why her fluency was so important to her.
Yeah, that's a big red flag...
For the Corpse Bride story, there was an update (in a separate post). The husband lied to the wife in order to try and ruin her friendship with OP, because he never liked OP. The wife reached out and apologized to OP after learning that her husband lied.
Hmph. I hope he improves. If he doesn't, she needs to shove him out the door as fast as possible. Men who want to run their wife's life are pathetically insecure and want to have a lawfully wedded prisoner.
@@wandererwerewolf477 If, I remember correctly (which I'm not 100% certain that I do) she divorced him.
@@digifreak90 Yeah she did
That would be funny though to have a AITAH bingo, some of the spots should have “Wedding stories”, “Child abuse”, “LGBTQ+ phobia”, “Actually the AH”, and “Why did you even post this, you’re obviously not the AH”!
Edit: I’d also like to add some of the suggestions I got in the replies here that I liked;
“Cheating partner”, “Horrible in-laws”, “I can’t believe my SO would do this, tho there was this one time-“, “Title making the story sound way worse than it is”, “Obvious lying”, “Hiding stuff in the story to sound way better”, “Overreaction”, and “bUt tHEy aRe FaMiLy!!!1!”
There's also spiteful payback and refusing to talk to toxic family members.
Edit: Oh! And lawsuits.
Lemme add some to the list :
- Obvious lying
- "Now all of my extended family has started harassing me on social media"
- Called out for being the AH, has a mask off moment in comment
- They're actually racist !! (be it OP or the AH)
Abusive family in law too
Entitled people should be an option in the bingo too, that may be too vague.
Oh I got one : AH's AH. a person so wrong its recursive
If your best MALE friend wearing a zombie wedding dress at your surprise wedding ruins it, MAYBE IT SHOULDN'T HAVE BEEN A SURPRISE!?
or the costume party could've had a very specific theme that would most likely exclude wedding dresses as a costume option 🤷♀️ they could've thought this through at least a little bit lol
“HOW DARE YOU NOT USE YOUR PRECOGNITION ABILITIES GIFTED TO YOU BY APOLLO TO PROPERLY DRESS FOR MY SURPRISE WEDDING!!! It’s like you weren’t even LISTENING to Father Oden’s lessons on every knowledge of the entire world! I knewI should’ve invited Cassandra instead!”
I feel like someone who thinks a surprise wedding is a good idea, isn't mature enough to be getting married. All the planning of a full wedding with no assistance from family or friends plus all the aesthetic appeal of a Vegas elopement.
@@artlover2553 Oh, but don't forget, you didn't invite Cassandra because she said it was a terrible idea and you'd be divorced in a year. "HOW DARE SHE!? She must be jealous to make up such lies!"
@@MaskedReviews I don't know, really depends on what expectations you have for your wedding. I don't feel like not wanting an excessively planned picturesque wedding is immature. But then you need to know what you're getting yourself into and not be fussing over aesthetics, because you explicitly gave those up. Getting upset over someone not being able to read minds and showing up at a "no-dresscode costume party" in a costume is definitely immature.
Bug OP is not the butthole. It's not about the fly. It's that they clearly communicated that they don't like something, that it makes them uncomfortable, and the GF deliberately went behind their back and did it anyway. It's the disregard of boundaries. If she's willing to disrespect you like that and then gaslight you for it when you understandably get mad, who knows what else is going happen.
This. If they think your morals are funny, they clearly disrespect you as a person as well.
I personally say ESH but gf is the bigger ass
It was her laughing that sealed it for me. No matter that it's a pest, he said he would be back to take care/get rid of it. Boy needs to get a better GF.
It's ESH, because the silent treatment is not the way to go
Also, no offense but I might lose my mind if I see one more person misuse the word gaslighting like this
14:27
I feel like the gf was also TA because she explicitly ignored his request, laughed about it, and then rolled her eyes at him when he told her he was upset. I could understand him being upset about THAT
I have nothing against killing bugs, but I agree that bragging about it afterwards felt petty and weird. I think the bf was justified in wanting some space after that, I wouldn't want a significant other that enjoyed laughing at me
Speaking as someone with multiple degrees, there is a difference between intelligence and education, and the husband bullying his "stupid" wife is so much the AH, I feel like he needs a special award for AH achievement.
i hope she left him.
Yes that's psychological abuse. She needs to be away from him.
I'd have to imagine being multilingual takes intelligence anyways.
@@trishapellis to be more specific, isn't it narcissistic abuse? he puts her down to make himself seem better. Please correct me if I'm wrong!!
@@heatherlewis338 She was also told she sounded like a native. That's a lot of intelligence. I have spoken my native language my entire life but I sound like I just learned how to speak 😭
the guy telling his wife that she's not intelligent sounds like he just flat-out negged her into submission for so long and is afraid that any positivity will reveal him to be the villain he actually is.
Since she is not a native speaker of his language I’m guessing she is a different nationality so he’s possibly racist/xenophobic
I get the impression that the wife is a minority in the country they're in, given how proud she is of mastering the native language. So this is probably an expression of the husband's latent racism towards whatever culture she came from.
Breaking her confidence makes him feel smarter, even though she's more than likely the smarter one in the relationship. He wants to be the intelligent bf that takes care of his needy incompetent gf to make himself feel better, but really he's just pathetic
I wonder why she has "so many insecurities." Because he literally planted them in her head by demeaning every aspect of her as a person.
That one was so sad
Last story: We've been trained to see being overweight as a moral failure, and to ignore all the underlying causes and challenges behind being overweight. It functions as a justification to treat people worse than what they actually deserve. "Health concerns" are often just a way people try to vent their disgust and disapproval in a socially acceptable way. Sorta like how some fundamentalist christians use "being worried about gay people going to hell" as a front for homophobia.
If you are concerned about public health there are tons of issues you can get behind that will improve everybody's health. If you are concerned about a loved one, you can (with their consent) offer assistance if they want to take steps to improve their health.
Took the words right out of my mouth. Like. Do these people think that fat people have /never/ heard that they’re lazy/unhealthy/ugly/whatever else? We hear these things all the time. We are reminded of them practically every day. He really does act like her being fat is some terrible moral failing that he must save her from. Hope she finds better friends.
my mom comments so often on overweight people she sees in public and before i can tell her she’s being a dick she switches right to the “i just want people to be healthy”
it’s infuriating, especially being overweight myself. how does she view me?
I agree, I would argue that the "obese" friend isn't even 'that' fat. Like, not to the extent that they seem to show in the post. BMI would state that they are obese probably but the BMI can be biased too. Honestly, OP sounds like any other person in the world who say they are just concerned for fat people's heath when really they just like to justify judgement on fat people as like helping them. That's my take
"I don't like this thing. I'll make the person feel bad about it, so they will change to fit my expectations."
We've all done it. You've probably done it yourself without realising. Like, your friend tells you about something they took an interest in, but because you're not interested, you tell them it's silly, so they stop doing what they enjoy out of shame.
Do you have a "guilty pleasure"? Is that because you feel like you can't express liking something out of the ordinary because you fear being shamed for it?
Medically speaking, being 20-30 lbs overweight doesn't affect your health that horribly anyway. In fact, there was a study from Denmark that indicates that a bmi of 27, which is in the overweight category, is the "healthiest" if we're talking premature death.
10:30 about the Holiday trip sister, I've followed the whole thing, basically OP did what they told they would do and went on their own but earlier than the family, parents asked where he was and he had already checked in in the hotel, parents had planned for the whole family to eat in a restaurant on the road there but OP had never been informed, parents switched to fast food and sister was already annoyed/mad about it.
Op told the hotel staff not to give his room number to anyone except if there's an emergency (fire or death), sister tried to get it as soon as they arrived.
He made sure his family all went to their room 15 minutes before going to his, so they couldn't know which floor or room he was staying in, he woke up before everyone to eat and go enjoy himself the whole day. Near the end of the trip, sister managed to find his room's floor and stalked it until he came out, she lost it on him and screamed that he was ruining the trip for her and he told her his nephew's aren't his responsibility before running off. She kept threatening him and harassing him, until he exposed everything she did and said on Reddit and to the family, kept blaming OP for the backlash she received both on internet and IRL, OP's parents begged him to remove the post because she was having a breakdown over it and over seeing the comments+ it blowing up in news articles, OP said "I'll remove it when she acknowledges her wrong doing and never makes me care for nephews again." She blew up again but parents took OP's side, sister's husband took OP'S side too and put his foot down that she changes, they get counselling or it's a divorce so she's blaming OP again but he has support now, every new sister's contact with OP he reports it to his BIL, sister is mad but quiet now and OP's happy.
This could be a whole movie what the heck?
The sister needs professional help
How do you get rejected so many times and still be so entitled?? I’m terrified of a _first_ rejection, I’ll just do it myself 😂
The triplet vacation story - there was an update and they did go on vacation. Op specifically arrived separate from the family and told the hotel not to give out his room number. He set boundaries as to what events/meals he would join and had a bunch of time to himself. He made sure to ride the elevator separately so they didn't know what floor his room was on.
Sister tried to pawn the kids off when he was arround, which he shut down. She eventually stalked him to his room and figured out which was his (funny how she had time to do this but not to care for her kids)
Don't remember all the details, but everybody was mad at the sister. The mom finally acknowledged that she enabled this behavior. Op got his separate time and boundaries kept. Happily ever after
Thank you!
God this story is so terribly predictable though!
The absolute banality of so many people with kids who minds have been so warped that they think everyone without kids just daydreams and sits around doing nothing all day really blows my mind.
Like, the absolute failure to understand the world is bigger than them is so disappointingly common. But worse, the entitlement.
And it's always the people who never had any responsibility for taking care of children until they had their own.
Like, they think because it was such a surprise for them how hard being a parent is (for them) that nobody else could possibly understand.
I know so few bad parents, but they are always this clueless.
don't forget that BIL thought sis WAS paying OP. sis was pocketing the money BIL set aside to pay for babysitting.
It also came out that BIL had been giving the sister money to pay OP for babysitting and sister was keeping the cash
@@annetta2608 forgot about that! Yes! She is a piece of work. I remember the husband was basically done with her bs.
Good grief. The story about the stepsisters and hiding the passport has genuine Cinderella vibes. Stepmother backs up her biological children and doesn't care about her stepdaughter. Sheesh...
That's exactly what i thought too, 3 sisters with 2 step sisters? A loving father and a mother who sides with the step sisters? That's exactly that but without a prince, can't believe click hasn't noticed that
A modern take, too bad they don't get the karma like in the original grimm stories
@@nitzanshu4695uh oh OP better watch his wife knowing the father dies in the story
Yeah but in the second Cinderella sequel, one of the sisters gets a redemption arc and to not be a crappy person. That has yet to be seen with these two.
Yes! It is practically a modern Cinderella with it being a vacation instead of a ball, the step sisters hiding the invitation/passport to get her to stay home and do chores/babysit, and the stepmom is taking her biological daughters’ side! Only differences are that there’s no fairy godmother, no prince, and the loving father is still in the picture.
I feel like 49% of these stories are "AITA for expecting common decency from absolute psychopaths"
49% are "AITA for doing this totally monstrous thing?"
and only 2% are ACTUALLY debatable.
A lot of these stories seem to go along the lines of "Other people treat OP horribly/ignore OP's opinions->OP gets mad due to build up anger->OP gets guilt tripped for getting mad their shitty behavior" like most of these people are really nice to the point they question themselves before assuming it is ok to get mad at being treated horribly
It's a very real thing, it's called reactive abuse. Basically it's prodding somebody and pushing their boundaries constantly, and then when they finally react, accuse them of abusing you.
Because rather than everyone seeing each human being as equal, there are plenty of people who pick on the "weak."
Some of us just haven't found our spine yet. We'll get asked to do something because we don't say no. We don't say no because we usually get guilt tripped. If we say no, we're terrible people for neglecting someone's needs before our own.
For example:
"Could you take the trash out?"
"I don't want to. Ask ."
", take the trash out!"
"I'm busy at the moment. I'm sorry."
"Is it too much to ask to get a little help? What could you possibly be doing that's so important you can't help me with the trash right now?"
"I'm sorry, I'm busy. Ask "
" said they don't want to, and the trash needs taking out now."
"Okay, fine. I'll do it."
YAAAASSSS all the time. but it's logical: the real AH do not question themself like that
For the last one, i have a friend who are GENUINELY "concerned" for me. The situation is the same..im around the same height and weight as the chubby girl..but you know how my friend showed shes concerned? She didnt police me about my food, instead she invited me to hang out, and eat healthy, because she wants to. She knows im not picky, so she pick healthy places and i, in turn would just eat it as well with no complaint. She would ask me to ACCOMPANY her to the gym (tho im still adamant because im feeling shy- self esteem issue and all). She didnt say "go to the gym, youre fat", she asked me, only a FEW times..if we wanna be gym buddies. She was the first person to genuinely praised me and call me beautiful without prompt
(It really was sudden, we were hanging out and she praised me, and not just that one time, a few others- and as someone with self esteem issue, i almost cried). If i trip, instead of "haha this is why you should go to the gym" the first thing she would ask is if im ok. Istg shes too nice and kind for this world..and deserve the best.
Also she should planned outings with me earlier because i kept missing her calls, maybe ill call her to hangout tmr
There is a Yter named Luxeria (I found by following a yter she's friends with, Roly, that's friends with Jamie, who is friends with OT, who obviously is friends with Click,) amd she always says how you can't make a flower grow by shouting at it. You don't grow a flower by forcibly taking away it's water, nutrients, sunlight, and so on in order to get it to grow.
the double quotes had me in the start. Glad to know it was actually wholesome.
Her friend isn't even morbidly obese. If she's 5'4" at about 180lbs, her bmi is in the low 30s, so she is just barely into the obese category, not horribly morbidly obese the way OP is implying. I'm 5'2" and have been up to 160 lbs at my heaviest and was still a size medium at that weight and a 29 bmi. OP sounds like she has low self-esteem and body issues she's taking out on her friend.
That is so sweet, go you and your awesome friend ❤
My older sister is similar, she's lost like 20 kilos, I have around 20 kilos to lose for healthy BMI (I don't use BMI tho, more fat %). If I ask for advice, she helps me. She asks me if I want to go for a walk with her. It's became our routine and now I need to walk at least a couple times a week to not feel crazy. She took me a couple times to a fitness place, didn't judge when I'd back off because of health stuff, was happy for me when I lost 10 kilos, didn't judge when I gained them back (still lower fat % than in the beginning! I built some muscle), when she learns something about food and calories and all that, she shares with me, but it's not in a way "hey you're fat you need to do this", it's a "hey I've learnt a cool fact", after some time I started doing the same thing. Never felt judged. Even when there'd be some irritation about the fact that I couldn't keep up or needed to stop because health, I never really felt like it was personal. Now moving and eating healthier is just lifestyle. Still 82 kilos at 164 cm, was 85, but hey, like 4 or 5 kilos of what I've gained after weight loss is muscle. Most important thing for me is health and abilities anyways. People like that are pure treasure
Second story: there are even more updates. OP went on the trip in his own room, with his own car, and did his best to keep sister from finding which room was his, with the ultimatum in place “Force these kids on me at any point, and I leave.” Sister somehow tracked him to his room, tried to do just that, and got torn 3 new buttholes by their parents, all the while maintaining her view of “OP doesn’t have a life so he should just do this for me! I need a break from being a mom!”
Yeah, it sucks that you had 2 more kids than you planned for. This is why babysitters and daycares exist. Stop being cheap and just pay someone
I'm going to admit one *tiny* little bit of sympathy for the sister, IF she's not getting support from her husband. It's possible that he sees the kids as the wife's responsibility and she's desperate for a little break. If that's the case then her wanting someone else to take them when she's on vacation is at least understandable, but forcing them on her brother isn't the way to go about it.
@@barrylangille3523 I can see that. But yeah, her approach to getting help is wrong on every base
Maybe she had one of her kids watch him
@@barrylangille3523even then, why is OP the only one considered for babysitting? There were other people,namely the grandparents around as well, no? If she needs the break, and triplets sound like too much if no other support is around,why don't the grandparents help? Heck, take turns, work on this as a team. But alas,families are weird.
Yeah, it still isn't remotely OP's problem but I was baffled when he mentioned his BIL basically wanting nothing to do with the situation as a funny anecdote, like, they're his kids?! He should be equally responsible for their care as the sister is, and the sister not being able to handle it and making it her brother's problem only makes it worse that the BIL is seemingly just not doing anything!
for the aita bingo, as a frequent listener of aita stories i've noticed ''babysit my child for me, because being parent is hard'' being a common theme in these stories. Maybe something for the card? Might be best to shorten it to ''entitled parent'' or ''being a parent is so hard''
Edit: some bingo suggestions
-literal crime / stealing something after being told no
-involve family / social pressure
-''you should've read my mind!''
-OP is the butt
-gaslighting
-everyone sucks
-Divorce happens because of the reddit post
-''then you do it!'' when family manipulates OP with ''cuz we're family''
-its actually wholesome
-the AITA replies to OP's post proving OP's point
I always find it interesting how society pushes the idea of marriage and children early, yet a good portion of times, you get people like BIL and SIL who were never meant to marry or have kids so young, or at all. In the end, the kids end up suffering more than anyone and I wish people actually thought about things like this instead of thinking parenting and being a parent is the best thing in the world/life changing (in the best way) for everyone.
I hope "Nat" from that last post sees what the OP wrote about her. No best friend would ever say something like "I don't know HOW her boyfriend became attracted to her!" and then pass it off as concern for her health. She's not your best friend, OP, she's just your favorite punching bag. What an utter trashbag.
Yeah, talk about letting the mask slip...
I think she is jealous how Nat bagged a hot guy and OP is bitter
Yea, that comment loses all her traction. I'm about that same size and really not even my doctor mentions it much anymore. Granted, I have a disability, so it is harder for me to move around... but my doc will throw out a maybe talk a walk every now an again.... sometimes you do need friends to help push you along or to go to your doc and ask the right way to do it.... because people are more and more letting their weight become an issue and no one says anything, docs don't even mention it much. And there are plenty of men who like women this size as its becoming more normal. If you can't help people in a good way and feel like "how did she get a bf?" Just stop trying to be that person's friend...... you're not comfortable enough with yourself yet to be friends with someone else.
Agreed! Such a yucky person.
OP sounds like an insecure girl who pretends to be friends with someone she considers less attractive than herself so she can feel superior. The kind of person who keeps bringing up their "friend" being fat under the pretense of caring about their "health", but it's really to constantly bring the other woman down and belittle them and compare them to themselves.
ngl at this point in my life, when I hear stories like the "stop f*ing eating" one I immediately go to "Dump her and leave. You made clear boundaries, you had a perfectly understandable reason, and you were in no way attacking her- you gave her an alternate option even! She has already decided she doesn't respect you on the lowest level things, this is not something that improves as things get bigger/harder". Like I don't care how small something seems (and in this case, it WASN'T small. It was his sister's livelihood that he was trying desperately to make easier for her since she's overwhelmed). She was even manipulative about it afterward trying to reshape the narrative as "fat shaming"; no. Out. doorstep.
also I may be biased here but wasn't a fan with how quickly most people dismissed the things the 15 yr old was saying about their parent while making it a "them" issue. Like sure they're 15 and starting to handle more things themselves- but they're still a kid and if they really feel that their parent doesn't care, there's a bigger problem here than just "fix yourself kid". I get tired of adults responding to a teenager as though they should already have grown up and sorted themselves out; it kinda felt like when you go to a doctor for a health issue and they ignore everything you've said and just say "well lose some weight". None of us have the full context, so I think going to either extreme really just shows more about the responders than the actual person asking the question. Also- parents can do a lot of superficial things to make a show of 'helping' while doing 0 of the support at home that really matters. Just too little for us to understand from the outside, and too many adults seemingly ready to blame a literal child for their own struggles. (also, I think it's a good practice to not set a punishment that negates a promise you made without that being a "known consequence" beforehand. especially when the thing done wasn't exactly a malicious/rebellious act)
Exactly the vibe I felt, too. This girl continuously and consistently decided to laugh in the face of her "boyfriend's" boundaries; I use that term in massive air quotes, because you lose the right to call someone your significant other when you go out of your way to break boundaries and turn things around to act like it's actually their fault for wanting boundaries.
That OP definitely needs to get out of that relationship, no questions asked. A relationship is supposed to be something that builds both parties up, and he is very clearly being broken and torn down by it.
Agreed. She clearly has no respect for him or the person he's helping out.
Forget the boundaries part, I'm weirded out that they had no standard for health and safety. Do they think it's a joke?
I would have dumped her for that. I hate not being taken seriously. it's disrespectfull. I have silly moods but it's very clear when I'm being serious about something. and there WAS an other option. for fuck's sake. this was just prioritising a whim/fantasy over reasonable arguments. this was "I want to live my little fantasy no matter what. I don't care how that affects you." and so unnecessarily! ARRGGG.
I remember reading the one about the brother being volunforced to babysit his sister's trio of boys all the time. It was a doozy of a wild ride and involved not only the entitlement of the sister, but that she'd been apparently pocketing money the husband thought was for her brother to babysit, and eventually shit hit the fan so much eventually the parents and the husband were on OPs side cause the Mom when full on nuclear when her brother stopped being free childcare lol
For AITA bingo, a category would need to be "misleading title" because there are so many instances of titles that would take the judgement in a direction entirely different from the actual content of the post.
Case in point; the wedding dress post.
The context changes everything.
Okay, while a 15 year old shouldn't be going out at night, especially in certain places, people who tell teenagers and people with more nocturnal tendencies to just, "try to fix your sleep schedule," are the bane of my existence, because it is NEVER that easy
Same, no one took OP seriously there, it was so upsetting to see.
Yeah, it's really not easy. I've been getting the same bullshit advice for a few decades and none of it works for me. I don't have a 24 hour circadian rhythm (internal body clock), it can take me hours to fall asleep, and I don't wake up easily. I've been trying to fix my sleep schedule for as long as I've known what a sleep schedule is. Apparently I just need to get in bed, close my eyes, and I'll fall asleep. Yeah sure, I'll fall asleep, 2+ hours later. Apparently I just need to pick a time to get up, and when that alarm goes off get up no matter what. Yeah, maybe they should try getting up after a full 45 minutes of sleep and see how well that goes. Apparently I just need to stay off my phone two hours before bed. Yeah, been getting this one since 10 and I didn't get a phone till 17, I don't think my non-existent phone was keeping me up. Apparently I just need to start exercising. Yeah, 13 years of gymnastics and then lifeguarding with workout requirements to keep my job, I could be absolutely exhausted to the point I was struggling to move and still not fall asleep for hours. Apparently I should consider seeing a doctor and get meds. Because apparently two sleep studies and melatonin isn't seeing a doctor and getting meds? I wish it was as easy as people claim.
@@waffles3629my story is awfully similar to yours, except that i did not do any sleep studies or frequent exercises. I only sleep while im on meds, it has been this way since i was first prescribed it. Before that i slept every 2 days, like i could go on 26 to 30 hours not sleeping and then crash for 8 to 12 hours. Lets just say it was not good. Do you have any advice? I kinda need all the help i could get
Looking back, my teenage self probably had sleep issues I didn't know about (which, long-story-short, I now just lean into by requesting later shifts as an adult) but.. that kid has/had to find a balance or compromise. Provided they've a reasonable enough parent to do so.
I suspect there's a bit of a bias from OP.. they are a teenager. I seriously feel like I hear the exact sentiment of 'she stopped trying/caring' that *I* felt for a time about my parent when I was struggling as a teen. So whilst no excuse, I can empathize there.
@@waffles3629 fun fact, nobody has. The natural cycle is more like 25h.
I've struggled with this much of my life as well. However, I didn't really suffer as I was able to run on three hours of sleep as a teen and young adult easily. I can no longer do that now, but I learned to deal with it a lot better now. It still occasionally takes 2+ hours to get to sleep, but most of the time I can manage in less than one.
NGH, that 'confused' husband who cannot understand why his wife was gushing about the compliment.
My dude. Buddy. A-face: SHE IS, BECAUSE THE LAST SINCIRE COMPLIMENT YOU GAVE HER WAS YEARS AGO!
Such a bully. Absolutely absurd.
She needs to leave his sorry behind. He's a toxic bully and can't see how toxic he is
Honestly, if my partner killed a bug after I already told them I would bring it outside, and then *laughed about it* when I was upset, I'd consider breaking up. Killing bugs because you're scared of/ grossed out by them does not mean you're a bad person, but in that specific situation the girlfriend proved that she has complete disrespect for 1. life and 2. her partner's feelings and opinions
I mean its just a bug- its one thing if its like a rat or a mouse but still their pests, if you get upset over something so small yet something that could spread damage and disease than you have a slight issue.
Spiders? Can see someone slightly upset as their helpful, but still not a problem getting rid of, id rather dispatch it than trying to put energy into releasing it, for frogs and snakes that get in the house once and a while i let em out, because their actually helpful.
@@aquafury664 I understand, but it's not only about the fly. It's also about how OP asked, made it known that it's important to OP, wanted to take care of it personally, and then gf just ignored the request. You don't just ignore your partner's feelings for fun. It's disrespectful
I don't know. Dude sounds like a whiny brat to me. If he was that damn worried about a freaking house fly, it would have taken all of 2 full seconds to open the window and let it out before going downstairs and doing whatever task it was. Instead he leaves it in there, doing what flies does, which is buzzing around your head or food or drink, if you happen to have those, landing on stuff and spreading whatever. It sounds like he deliberately set it up so she'd either have to put up with it for however long he was going to be (which they didn't know before he dipped) or get rid of something that's annoying and possibly contaminating things. Their life span is generally less than a month but apparently saving that fly, who may drop dead of old age tomorrow, and attending to his mother was more important n doing what he said he'd do.
I'm a gardener and don't kill most insects but flies serve almost zero purpose. Supposedly they're pollinators but that must be only the ones who get paid because I live in Florida, where there are flies aplenty, yet still have to hand pollinate a lot of my fruits and veg because the bees aren't around. But there are flies everywhere. I don't care about outside ones but if they're in my house, they're dead.
That bingo card is going to be full of stuff like "That child is not my responsibility," and "Maybe divorce isn't the worst thing ever," and especially "How did you ever think you were in the right in this situation?"
There's a condition called delayed sleep disorder. When you have it, sleeping during "normal" hours is just not possible. And teenagers often have a similar delayed circadian rhythm.
I have it. It was explained to me by the doctor as akin to being permanently jetlagged by several hours
@furrystarcat There's a RUclips channel called according to Nicole which mainly covers minimalism and financial advice. She once told her viewers that she started her own business because that way she could set her own schedule. Having to get up at "normal" hours was actively harmful to her health.
I've got delayed sleep disorder. You really can't have a normal 9-5 job with it because if you try to force yourself into a "normal" sleep schedule, you often just lose hours of sleep instead and end up exhausted all the time. Thankfully, I've found something that allows me flexible hours, but not everyone is lucky. It really sucks, but thankfully it's getting more recognized medically so hopefully there'll be better things available soon for people also struggling with it.
Besides, the delayed sleep disorder is usually influenced by ligh exposure, so his photophobia is probably affecting him as well in than sense. I'm photophobic myself, and developed delayed sleep disorder as well when I was a teen. Progressive exposure to sunlight was key in the treatment of both issues.
I have this condition! I forced myself to wake up no later than noon for over 20 years and I am not exaggerating when I say it almost killed me multiple times. I had multiple mini strokes as a teenager because my body was not getting enough rest to function at the level I was operating at. When I worked a job where my shifts started around 9-11am, I would literally stumble into the building, struggling to walk in a straight line, blacking out for a few seconds at least once every minute. I was often sat down at the break table in the back because I was visibly on the verge of passing out in the middle of the kitchen. I also never got written up for arriving to work late and often had coworkers sent to either pick me up or do a wellness check on me. That's how visibly sick it made me to wake up at a "normal" time. Going to bed after 2am and waking up after noon is legitimately the greatest thing I have ever done for my health and I'm sick of being called lazy and undisciplined because of it.
I really hope that woman whose husband kept calling her unintelligent finds someone who values her.
She deserves someone who can compliment and praise her as easily as breathing. You know, like someone who loves you does.
right!! ppl intelegence dont sum up only by being book smart or having a degree, there are lots of types of intellegence, i hope that woman can see that and break up with that dushbag
I agree, I think it's clear that guy's abusive and I doubt his "ok I'll apologize" was sincere self awareness so much as just needing to feel better and go through the motions.
I've met people like that, like a guy who sent me a text message to get around my blocking him on every other platform (I hadn't blocked via text since nobody in my country texts each other - it's unheard of as it's too expensive so we use WhatsApp etc) to non-apologise (actually just harass me further) for cyberbullying me previously.
It was clear he was just following his 12 step program and he even started blaming me in the text with a list of reasons in a very you-made-me-do-it way which he deluded himself into thinking was an apology he was noble for giving. "I tried", y'know.
It was like Bojack Horseman's "amends" where he just stalks and further traumatizes his victims to force an "apology" onto them to give himself closure for his guilt.
Im a retired high school teacher, and always had an example where I managed to put in that a girl want a boyfriend that make her feel like a queen. And then addressing the class: don’t we girls? The girls always shouted yes. And I hoped the boys got the message. 😀
I was raised on the premise that “you can’t eat like that if you have dinner with the queen” now she’s dead I no longer have to perform for my parental figures
DAMN!!
The vacation story is basically a case for are the straights ok. BiL noping out, hiding at work is classic "I hate my wife, family and life" move.
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The son sounds abusive, honestly. He isolated his wife away from family, friends, and any support network after a whirlwind courtship and then forced her to be a SAHM, which isolates her further. And that's only what the dad knows about and is comfortable saying online. The sudden second marriage implies he was the one who pushed to get married so soon, which is a known trick abusers use to effective trap their partners by making it that much more expensive and difficult to escape them once the behaviour starts to escalate.
And that very black-and-white you're-on-my-side-100%-or-you're-dead-to-me thought process is deeply concerning, too.
Well done on the DiL for getting out, and kudos to the dad for recognizing his kid had mistreated her.
With the ex husband announcing his new gf only 3 days after too, he was definitely cheating on her. Hope that guy rots and his ex wife gets an actual loving supporting husband and step father to her children
The dad might as well make nice to the new daughter in law though. In another five years she's going to be the one with no support network, no career prospects, and a couple of kids born too soon and too closes together, while the serial cheating husband is announcing his engagement to the next girlfriend. If the father-in-law still cares about looking after his grandkids and making amends to his son's victims, he's going to be helping her just like he's helping the first victim.
@@mamasimmerplays4702 Yeah... If he can't nip the behaviour in the bud and get his son to see what he's doing is abusive, the father is in for a rough time picking up the pieces. It may be worth him pulling the next one(s) aside and giving them a quiet warning.
@Rachel-fi4sc i know people make their own choices, but if he takes the third soon to be DIL aside, won't it be difficult to explain to her why the second marriage happened? I suppose, though, it isn't a pattern until it happens more than twice.
@@thekingwhostitches Once is a bad decision. Twice can be brushed off as coincidence. Thrice is a pattern.
The custard one is because the girlfriend wants to be annoying. It's not about the custard, it's about wanting attention.
If that’s the case, he needs to break up with her asap. Stupid, immature bish
@LRM12o8
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It's because she's mentally a six year old, that's all! 🥶
OP should ditch her ASAP.
Similar story (though much less severe) with the one who killed the fly after OP told them please not to: personally, I don't mind killing flies, but I fully understand and agree with OP's anger. They care about animals so much, that they don't even want a fly to be killed, yet their partner kills the fly (and didn't they also mock OP afterwards?). The fly is not the problem there, it's just symptomatic for a bigger issue: the complete disregard for what OP cares about. If your partner actively and purposely destroys something that you care about (whether it's a fly or a custard that you probably spent hours on making and need in order to help your sister with her business), that's a very bad omen for the relationship... 😬
Throwing a fit about a fly is silly. But it's not about the fly. It's about someone doing something the OP explicitly asked them not to do.
Is it silly? yeah, a bit. But generally speaking going out of your way to do something someone asked you not to do is a pretty dickish move.
Yeah... Im surprised he didn't dumb her - she very childish... Dunno how old she is but definitely not mature enough for relationship
My response wouldn't have been very mature either, I think.
Instead of just berating her AGAIN for dipping her fingers in the custard that is meant to be sold to people who intend to eat it, I'd have said: "well, I guess this isn't fit to be sold anymore" and dumped it on the floor.
And if she got upset at that, I'd tell her: "you're doing the same thing by dipping your fingers into it, contaminating it, and forcing me to make a new batch, after explicitly being told no to, many times"
Linguist here:
The common experience at dinner parties is to have people initially interested in what you do (because linguistics is "fascinating"), only to have that interest quickly wane when they realize linguistics is generally very dry and technical.
It would be an honest to god ego boost for someone to *continue* to be interested in my work after they find out what it entails. Chances are, OP's friend was not upset about wife's questions.
This is what I instantly thought! No matter what you do, if you truly love it, you'll probably take every chance to take about it with somebody who's really interested, even in the "boring" stuff! OP is just controlling AH that tries to feel better about himself since he feels insecure about his own "intelligence". From that comment alone it's obvious he doesn't have any hobby or passion he loves and could be an expert in
The free babysitter thing is soooooo relatable.
I’m disabled and the youngest. Since I was always at home (at times unable to even attend school) my older sibling (and former spouse) would drop their children off for me watch. Even after I started my own family I was often responsible for the care of their children with little to no notice. Sometimes angry with me if I made plans and didn’t inform them that I wouldn’t be able to watch their children for free. This would also became an issue with ‘friends’, who also acted as if I was in the wrong if I made plans that would make me unavailable to be free childcare. The general consensus of both my family and (former) friends was that since I got benefits (SSI and Medicaid) and ‘special’ treatment, I should help them out for free.
I went no contact with everyone about 7 years ago and it likely saved my life because our household had to isolate from March 2020 to May 2022 and I doubt they would have cared to take safety precautions for my health.
The wife who beamed at getting a compliment definitely didn't get enough from her husband. "I call her dumb and she doesn't appreciate my insightful commentary! What could I be doing wrong?"
If she getting taken advantage of, perhaps see what the deeper issue is and address that instead of shaking your head in disappointment.
That story honestly feels like rage bait, but if it's real, OP is projecting his own insecurities about his own intelligence onto his wife... his wife seems much smarter, especially bc asking questions is a sign of intelligence. Showing an interest in learning isn't something everyone wants to do.
The whole insomnia post aggravated me, because of the comments. The insomnia poster sounds exactly like my cousin was at 15 (though they have the addition of photophobia). They should get screened for ADHD.
I don't know the full context for the story either but it's entirely possible for for their parent to be neglectful while doing the most basic of parenting. I'm not talking about the punishment that the OP mentioned, but how everyone in the comments reacted to them saying that their mother wasn't supporting them.
Lastly, saying they aren't doing "all that they can" to get treatment and therapy - That's not anybody's place to say how someone deals with their health issues. It feels especially gross to me to tell someone who is already exhausted and drained.
Edit: Kind reminder to everyone that OP of the post is NB
Edit 2: they have informed me they use they/it - Please be respectful 💜
Oh my gosh THANK YOU, I felt like everyone couldn’t have been further off in the replies that Click read out. The OP clearly isn’t being well-supported enough by their mother, and even outright agreed there should be punishment for being negligent about safety, but ruining something as intimate as a long-distance relationship really shows how much the mother doesn’t respect OP on major things. Very bad vibes from the whole situation, I hope the kid gets better people in their life, and people that understand how common and insidious child abuse is
I'm so glad other people caught this. I grew up in an abusive family and alarm bells were going off in my head about that post-even before he mentioned his mom doesn't care about his health. Something was just off. If his parents actually cared about him and his health they would take turns going on walks with him in the evening, so he could have the walks he needs to help his health. Or maybe they could get him a treadmill. Walking can help with mental health, which in turn helps with insomnia. It was one of the only things that helped me during a time I had very bad anxiety-induced insomnia. I hope the OP can find a good support system once he leaves home.
Yeah, especially the "not enough part". They're 15. Things they need cost money and a damn lot of deep, well-informed research, that they are probably not able to do, just based on experience.
@@BrieLillie He's 15. He doesn't need a parent holding his hand to take a walk.
@@wmdkitty, not during nighttime though. To be honest, it really is scary to let a teen walk during the night completely alone.
I get this story about nephews. When my brother had his child he was always expecting for me and out mom to help them no matter what. We were sitting with kids, helping them move, we gave them loans (most of them they didn't return) and give them stuff they need. It's hard to have a kid, I get it. And it would've been fine if they asked it nicely. But it was more like constant demands.
He said to me that is my duty to help him because "This is what family does". Most of the time they didn't even say "Thanks". But when I or our mom asked to help with something it was almost always (not never, but 95% of the time) met with a annoyance and words "I have my own family to care for". So I was family only when it was convenient for him.
"Stan" is definitely not annoyed by the questions/"interview". Speaking as a researcher myself, YOU can become our best friend in seconds if you have shown just a micron of interest in our super-niche research areas
That dude bragging about his girlfriend "being timid around intelligent people" its not only dumb af... Hes abusive - I hope she left him... He doesn't deserve a pet rock
Some suggestions for future bingo squares:
Titles that sound absolutely horrible, ie AITA for kicking my sister's dog into the grand canyon, but the actual stories are completely justified, ie the dog had rabies and was actively collaborating with a serial killer
People have told the poster that you should be the bigger person and forgive the rabid murder dog!
Everyone else in the story is enabling the rabid murder dog, because they don't want to get bitten so they just ignore it
Obviously fake story
The poster is horribly misrepresenting the situation
The poster is obviously in the wrong
The poster is obviously in the right
WEDDING DRAMA
Entitled children/parents
Straight up crimes, like identity theft or assault or breaking and entering
"You should give me your house/baby/your lottery winnings because I NEED it!!!"
No joke, the baby thing has happened in these stories multiple times, it's honestly really concerning
"collaborating with a Serial killer" 😂😂😂
This is the most extreme example you could have given, freaking hilarious
@@Lucky-Charm-754 I'd watch that movie
How about "I don't know why my partner's parents hate me! I'm a good person who's always been nice and respectful to them and their child, yet they still treat me like I'm mud on their expensive carpet! Oh, btw, I'm a different ethnicity and/or religion to them."
Also, OP's comment responses make the story so much worse
About the last one - I’m a twig in a relationship with someone who is overweight. This is my first relationship, but this is not the first or second crush I have had on someone who is overweight. Your weight difference doesn’t have to affect your attraction towards another person, and beauty comes in all shapes and sizes
43:59 he is a controlling abusive jealous malignant narcissist, it is kind of obvious who made her so timid and took the most advantage of her. What a creep of a husband. I hope she gets out.
The one with the 25 AND 28 YEAR OLDS HIDING THE PASSPORT is just insane. OP needs to get rid of the wife and the kids. You don't want to be married to someone who's happy for your loved ones to be treated like that.
Cindarella story but moden
Heard it before. They did separate and divorce, wife crying victim the whole time.
@@Hellion912 Good to know, thanks for sharing! Definitely feel better for that guy and his daughter now.
I hope he and his daughter are in an okay place financially. He said he and his wife co-owned the house, which in a divorce means one side buys out the other's share or else they sell up and each keep their share .. except with the wife having young grandchildren as dependents, that might affect the case if it went to court.
If she tried that, I hope the passport story got its time in the witness box. Smiling while her kids commit a serious crime against her stepdaughter doesn't make anyone look good.
The mom that moved her entire family into the house to retaliate against the shitty husband? That was great, beautiful, amazing woman. And her brothers? My go to insult is usually "your parents did a shit job" but that mom did a wonderful job. I aspire to have and raise children as amazing as hers. I applaud
I loved the part where the MIL visited fully prepared to cuss out OP but quickly changed her tune when she saw the inside of the house and then started berating her own children, not something you see very often in these kind of stories.
It was great that the MIL was supportive too when she got the full story. OP's husband needs to learn a few things and grow up, but it was nice seeing the inlaws join forces to help the woman having a difficult pregnancy.
Yes to both of these. It's rare to hear of good parenting in these videos
Yes! That one made me so happy! I hope the husband is able to work on himself so that he can support his partner and set boundaries with his sibling (my god, what a trash fire _that_ turned out to be!). I think it's possible that he tried to do a good deed but got overwhelmed and didn't have the skills to lay down the law with his sibling's family. The sibling could have been this demanding and toxic while they were growing up, too, leading to them having a messed-up relationship and him having trouble standing up to them. Therapy and hard work may be able to fix that.
@@lilliansahara8625Yes!😂😂
You dont owe your family anything. Ever. They put you into that position , you had no say in it. Doesnt matter what they did or had to do. It was their choice to have you. None of your business. They are reaponsible for you, not the other way around. Took a good time of therapy to follow through with this but it is the best way.
That one about being forced to be a baby sitter is insane, the fact its forced is one thing, but they're an adult who're alone in a room with CHILDREN. That does not go well even if you're a family member, someone sees you go into a room alone with 3-4 children and you're NOT the parent of any of them? Thats gonna get the cops on you just because some entitled sister didn't want to guard their own kids.
Ooooff, people who attacked the insomniac 15yo pissed me off.
"You probably don't do all you can"
Yeah do you know how hard it is to be a child with insomnia? Because no one believes you have insomnia and think that you stay up for funsies or something??
Give kid a break. I only got my insomnia under control at 22yo, and I still don't have other issues figured up - now I don't have as much trouble falling asleep, but hypersomnia kicks in, and people keep bringing all the same arguments up. God I'm tired of that.
Me too. OP probably shouldn't have gone out but NOBODY should've attacked OP like that. I couldn't get therapy for YEARS because my dad's parents, whom I lived with, refused to allow to me to go despite other family members offering to pay. I took out my suffering in very emotionally destructive ways. When I was in a relationship, my unresolved issues resulted in me becoming overly paranoid and somewhat hostile to my ex. Then after the relationship I just completely spiraled and started SH. People are so ignorant of the way minors have to suffer when people don't listen to them.
When I was OP's age, I was constantly being criticized for staying up late, even if I was just reading books in my bed with a tiny orange tinted night light, because I was perceived as "choosing" to not go to sleep when in reality I felt wide awake and bursting with energy and KNEW I would not be able to fall asleep for many more hours.
My health declined to such a severe extent that I started having mini strokes. I consider myself lucky to this day to not only be alive, but to have not suffered any major, obvious, lifelong consequences as a result of these strokes.
Even when I could barely see, couldn't feel my body, and felt like my life was slipping out of my hands, I was being yelled at for being lazy and dramatic instead of taken to the hospital.
This mindset around people, especially teenagers and children faking their insomnia and being denied care is literally life threatening.
Yeah that was also incredibly frustrating to read as someone who's suffered from acute insomnia when stressed. 15, NB means they've probably come to parents and met stress (based on their response), or haven't and are closeted (which is stressful in its own way), and are having medical issues that are being ignored in favour of holding the child hostage. Everyone in that comment section are the assholes.
@@JuzokinnieI know right. Sorry for what you went through and may you heal.😔🙏❤️
@@LilChuunosukeSorry for what you went through.😔🙏❤️
"you should help me cuz you have no life" 10/10 perfect logic there, the sister is obviously in the right here 🙃
So happy the parents finally got on Op's side, though!
And she chose the right words to remind her brother how appreciated he is for helping 🙃
Definitely encouraging to babysit again!
I wonder if she listens to Click. Can you imagine her flipping out watching this, if reddit bothered her?
Worse still, I've seen this story multiple times before. The sister is the AH and her a**holery is plastered ACROSS THE INTERNET!!!
I felt that one since several times my older sister has told me I should be doing more around the house because I “have no life anyways so what’s the problem”
She also said I should just kill myself for the same reason, and had since denied ever saying it and tried to tell me I was remembering it wrong and my other sister said it. My other sister sure is an ahole but she’s never said that.
edit: I’ve been thinking about this comment and I also want to add that several times she’s implied that whatever I’m doing doesn’t count as a life because it’s unimportant and her stuff is important since she’s actually leaving the house. And I really hate that because I believe that no matter what you think about it, if they believe it’s important then it is important and you should respect that. Of course I’ve never said anything like that I just try to get out of the conversation and go back to my room.
dude, that babysitting thing was like pre WW2 appeasement. That keep the peace mentality gave me flashbacks to my history class.
So- 15:05 the bug killing one, I wanted to point out. Is it really about the bug? He asked her explicitly to wait for him and not do something, it was a very tiny thing to ask. Wait five minutes I don’t want the bug dead. She didn’t listen. If she can’t just- let him have his weird little thing about wanting to shoo bugs outside as opposed to killing them, what else will she ignore? She went specifically against a very small request of his. Sure the silent treatment is harsh and he should be talking to her, but she’s not innocent. Plus, the way she said ‘she crushed it and laughed’ was clearly meant to be rude about the fact that he likes bugs. Both of them are being stupid.
To Click: The English word for a masked costume party is a masquerade.
It could also be called fancy dress or fancy dress costume party if you want to be more specific.
Technically that's a french word :v (it's english now as we stole it)
@@RPGLover87 The French word it's based on is actually masque but yeah a lot of modern English words are based on either Latin or French.
In french it is called "Bal masqué" and in french if you say "Mascarade" it means something like "it is a big mess, it is a joke."
Which, funnily enough, isn't an English word. Loan words are such funny things.
Gee I wonder why the wife in one story is insecure if her husband is consonantly putting her down and making fun of her intelligence...
And she's so happy about a compliment... maybe because he never gives her any??
Getting massive "my submissive second wife" vibes from the husband talking about his "simple" wife.
Bingo ideas for AITA
- Golden child
- Bad friends
- Do you even want an opinion?
- Not enough context
- Batshit crazy
For any bug killers, it's been shown that squashing that bug sprays its juices everywhere and is highly unsanitary. If you worry about disease, that's the last thing you should be doing.
Good point. With bugs I do the catch under a glass, slide a paper under, and release outside method. When someone asks me why, I tell them that its because one of the things that's more disgusting than a bug is a smear of bug guts.
On this story in particular, if somebody I cared about told me that some little insignificant thing bothered him and specifically asked me not do it; I couldn't imagine immediately doing that exact thing for no reason other than to prove that I could and then laughing in his face about it.
@@snowangelnc The people who care about me don't do it because I don't like it. I know it may not matter to them, but they do it because it matters to me, and it's proof they care.
I told my bf how I felt, we agreed if it was biting him or something that's a different story, and he never intentionally killed anything in front of me in the 5 years we've been together. If he acted like that, I'd lose feelings and feel sick. That's basically bullying, and I did get bullied all the time for not wanting to kill bugs.
NTA: A complete disregard of boundaries, and now she's pissy because of the consequences. Not to mention it wasn't her house.
I'd say ESH, because, while I agree the girlfriend was wrong for doing the one thing he explicitly told her not to, OP's reaction isn't okay either.
Either have a proper conversation or break up.
Silent treatment helps no one.
@@c.b.barlow I don't know why people are saying he didn't talk it over. He tried to talk about it and she said it didn't matter and dismissed him. "It's just a bug", as if that's news to him.
He said he doesn't want to talk to her, he probably lost feelings. He's on AITA because he probably doesn't think his feelings are valid.
Always remember: If someone tries to make you babysit: Walk out. Say no. Ignore them.
Sure, make sure to tell them. But like the dinner story: You GOTTA go the hard way.
Same if you have a useless, deadbeat partner. Just stop. Goes for anything. Even bad gift giving.
it's a good idea to set the boundaries in the first place because it ALWAYS turns into "oh you didn't complain what's the harm in an extra hour, two, three, four" help and completely taking over aren't at all the same and that line needs to be drawn
@@barrothontherocks3325for sure! and this applies to professional relationships imo as much as personal ones. If you start taking up work that isn't yours as a favor to someone and they are clearly taking it for granted that it's not your job to do that work, stop doing it!
To the babysit thing. My grandma agreed to babysit my cousin (1) wich is pretty normal. It started of with him coming every sunday and staying for a few hours, also normal. But now he's with her everyday from 8am to 6pm and if he isn't with her with her he is at the daycare. He almost sees me and my sister more than his parents. Also important to note, my grandmas health isn't the best. She has problems with walking and her immune sistum is very bad. So while his parents hang out with friends, party, go on vacation alone and just enjoy life, she practically has to raise him. They get mad at her for things she hasn't done and find it funny if my cousin chokes in food.
I'm obviously not blaming my cousin, but am I the only one that thinks it is unfair?
Sadly, somehow it feels like my colleagues do this whole they're paid for.
They don't totally, but...
Super hard with your passport been stolen and hidden 😂 straight up hello Satan and not the good type…
44:13 This bugs me a lot, actually. That's such a weird view to have on compliments. About a year ago in choir, we did an activity where we would write compliments on sticky notes and hand them out to friends or whoever seemed like they needed one. I still have the sticky note I got that day, it's right next to my bed so I see it when I wake up, and sometimes cheers me up when I'm having a bad day. It still warms my heart whenever I read it. I'd like to think I'm not a bad singer, but when someone complements my singing, it makes me happy. You don't have to be bad at something to appreciate a compliment.
41:30 why do I feel like the person writing this is not the sharpest pen in the pencil themselves? Just the overwhelming using of the word "intelligent" alone, oh my. Do they think inteligence is measured by the amount of friends with degrees? Because that would make me incredibly intelligent 😅
About the husband claiming his wife isn't intelligent. That woman is clearly dying for someone to acknowledge that she's a valuable person. I bet that husband is always critical and very rarely compliments her, and that lack of care adds up. Its a conversation my husband and I have had. He craves praise for specific things and I dislike being praised for those things and vice versa, we had to learn the other's preferences to ensure that self esteem was kept high as a partner should.
Also, yeah, sometimes I can forget that Click isn't a native English speaker with a different regional accent. I hope to be that good at Swedish someday... one gods awful Duolingo lesson at a time.
The step-sisters hiding the passport story sounds like something you might expect from the two step-sisters in a modern version of Cinderella.
That's what I thought!
Without the father dying
@@skootergirl22🤞😅
@@skootergirl22 In the original German version from the brothers Grimm, _the father wasn't dead._ He just let his wife and stepbrats abuse his daughter.
@@John_Weisssounds like the brothers grim.
A classic
1. Someone who's already kinda TA leaving out crucial information, that once they let it slip in the comments, reveals them to be a dangerous psychopath
2. my personal favorite: "I am the most boring person in the world with absolutely no imagination and all I'm good at is sucking the life out of others, and my current girlfriend or boyfriend has the nerve to have a hobby I don't think is cool, so I told them they were childish and now they feel bad about themselves, but AITA?"
3. Anything that can be transfered to AmITheDevil, AmITheEx or MeetMeInTheArtRoom
Wait there’s a subreddit based off the art room story now? That’s hilarious XD
oh gods... the "Art Room"
Yeah the takes in the video on the fly story bother me. It's not the problem of "oh she just killed a fly." She disregarded her partner's wishes and thought it was funny to do so.
I don't think silent treatment on its own is necessarily a good way to go about things, but I could see myself needing some space after such a blatant disregard for boundaries. It's a major red flag and needs to be talked about, but it's always ok to take some time to yourself to think about it.
It may seem like a small thing to get upset about from someone looking from the outside, but it's also like the inverse of the orange theory "if they do this small thing now, they'll be more willing to do this bigger thing later"
What is orange theory? I don't think I've heard that before.
@@eyesofthecervino3366 I'd recommend looking it up, I'm not sure I could explain it further that I have and it fully come across. Tiktok has some good information on it
Yes but you can also look at it as OP saying he wanted to save the life of this fly, it was so important, yet instead of taking what would have been literally 2 seconds to slide the window open, he decided that going downstairs to see what his mother wanted and completing some task was more important than getting rid of this bug that's not only annoying, but that is kind of gross and some folks are really uncomfortable having them land all over things, spreading whatever they may be carrying. Especially if they maybe have food or drinks present. If someone wants a gd fly alive because they're dumb enough to believe flies have feeling or feel pain in the instant they're whacked, they need to take care of that mess ASAP and not leave someone else to deal with it while they go do something else for awhile, possibly not even knowing how long they'll be gone for.
The second story has a big update! OP booked their own room and made sure that NO ONE knew what room he was in and was able to go to places by himself (with some family times here/there). He also found out his sister pocketed majority of the money that his BIL was giving him for babysitting. The ES was entitled the whole trip. There's more i think, but dont recall everything.
Think family should take turns
I remember this story and the wild updates. OP won in the end and had a nice vacation
that guy's not angry about his girl killing a fly. it's the dismissiveness and eye rolling. he should have identified that as the source of his anger and communicated it
He did try and communicate with her but she kept dismissing him
he explicitely asked her not to kill the fly and she did it anyways + laughed in his face. he communicated but his gf decided she didnt care. hes NTA imo
@pogpogpurin no i mean he should have identified that it was the dismissiveness that had upset him and told her that and then everyone would have understood. but she thought that he was just overreacting to the death of a fly
Suggestion for bingo: wedding has to be one square, there's always a wedding
I feel the bug post is valid he set a boundary, and even gave his reason for said boundary yes its just a bug. That's not the issue the issue is he set a boundary and not only did she ignore it but she laughed and mocked it. She has no cares for his boundaries and it will become a huge issue in the future
I feel that insomnia kid. 51, and for the life of me I CANNOT stick to "wake up early, go to bed early". It's not about trying, it's about INABILITY. In summer I can stay up better after waking up early, but then evening comes and it's still light outside, and I can't sleep. Even with sleep aids I can randomly have insomnia. I require enough sleep pressure to be able to fall asleep. Any earlier and it won't work.
Yeah, I also feel for them. It feels like reddit is doing the classic armchair psychoanalysis they love to do, even with knowing little about the OP's situation. It's really sad how much that happens on that site. I hope that kid figures it out and doesn't let those comments get to them
Yeah, I high key really disagree with Reddit's take here. I mean, we have a 15 year old with photophobia who's in therapy and has a doctor following their progress, they've tried medication for insomnia but it didn't work, and they feel like their parent has basically given up on helping them.
Like, that is ROUGH. Jesus Christ. Sure, walking alone at night can be dangerous, but they are way more likely to die by suicide than by random "stranger-danger" murder. Not saying it's safe for them to be taking walks alone at night, but even the doctor was apparently supportive of them doing it? Getting out of the house is so important for mental health, and it seems like the kid just doesn't feel able to do that any more?
I'm probably biased since I moved out while still in high school, but yeah, I feel really sorry for the kid. Like, let 'em see their gf, bloody hell, they're isolated enough as is.
I absolutely concur
@@VioletJellobear
@cecemcqueasy If I was a parent I would love to take night walks with my kid if they needed it. I remember being a depressed 15 yo with a therapist who was good at her job, but didn't click with me. It is so tough! I hope they are doing better.
The guy that told them they didn't have insomnia actually was so gross
Parentification is bs. But attempted parentification of a child for children that aren’t even their siblings? HELLLLL nah.
I love how, up until the “”stupid”” linguist wife/ girlfriend, everything was mainly the posting person NTA, and then everything went downhill for the last two posts. Damn
God that last one pisses me off. I have a friend, (one that I used to date I might add) who was bitching to me about how "his friend" who used to be 300lbs and lost 100lbs, and he was "concerned" about her because she "got lazy" wouldn't keep losing weight.
After sitting there in shock listening to him talk this way about her for a couple minutes I laid into him and ripped his entitled ass a new one.
The stepsisters story is straight up real life Cinderella nonsense. "Stepmom and stepsisters make sibling do all the work and scheme to prevent her from joining in celebrations."
Hope karma hits them. Knowing children are known to destroy things including passports
Exactly 💯
Sam's little cameo was genius 😂💙
This is called a Sameo
@@RadioballZ129 😆
@@RadioballZ129 Ah, I should have known that was the proper term for it😂
@@RadioballZ129lol
I missed it, when was it in the video? 🤔
I love these stories because they often look like crazy situations that belong in some soap opera. It's wild the way some people will behave.
I don't think the point of the bug post is the bug
it's about the fact that he clearly cares enough about it to specifically ask her not to kill the bug, and she does it anyway, which seems disrespectful. He also stated that he's not giving her the silent treatment as a tactic, but because he's uncomfortable with talking to her over it.
With that story about the pregnant lady, I love that the mothers ended up ganging up on her husband! I love them so much. I especially appreciate her mother-in-law for immediately turning around and helping when she realized what was actually going on. Did the lady act appropriately at first? No. But I appreciate that she did everything she could to fix her mistake, and I think that's a really, really good sign of character.
Also, I do hope her husband is serious about getting therapy. Whether or not their relationship ends up working out long term, he NEEDS to learn better coping skills than unintentionally almost killing his wife by ignoring her needs because he felt overwhelmed as a result of his inability to say no to his own friends/relations.
Considering MIL in that story was given bad info I can see why she might come in shitty. We have no idea what BIL and SIL told her but apparently is was WAY off from reality given her reaction when she got there
Adding to the "concerned" friend story: Unless OP is Natalie's doctor or dietitian it's none of her business how much Natalie weighs. I would bet money that Natalie is 100% aware of her size and diet.
I feel that OP is so jealous that Natalie has a boyfriend while OP, who is probably closer to conventionally attractive i.e. thin, is still single.
I am "5'3" and around 190 lbs, I used to have a friend like OP, we would go to clubs and she would get hit on and everything would be fine. However, the moment I got any attention, the night would be cut short and the following day she would point out how fat I was or how certain things didn't look good on me. It took a bit for me to realize that people like my ex-friend and OP are toxic people who can't stand not being the center of attention.
That's exactly what I thought, too. OP sounds super insecure and jealous. Not a good friend! Glad you were able to cut ties with a toxic person! 😊
Yes.
@emilyrln Yes.
Even if you genuinely want to help, its just the old saying about how you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink.
All "overweight" people are acutely aware of the fact that they are because everyone keeps fricking reminding us of it for no reason.
Especially if you are friends with someone its really unnecesary to also do that.
33:27
If you get pissed off by stuff like this, then don’t make the party a surprise wedding or at least drop hints that there are BOUNDARIES to the costumes. Oh my GOD
44:20 im considered a pretty school-smart person (even though im kinda dumb lol) and compliments from my friends and peers will always stick with me. my crush told me he thought i was a cool person and whenever im feeling down i just think about it. no matter who you are or how "smart" you are compliments are something that always stick to you. (also that comment about how "no normal person would keep talking about one compliment" just feels so wrong. like hes implying his wife isn't a normal person and honestly feels pretty ableist ngl)
Things that can go into an AITA bingo card.
- Ragebait
- "AITA for doing something incredibly horrible that everyone would agree is horrible?"
- "I did is and every single person I know now thinks I'm the AH, so AITA?"
- Gaslighting
- The AH defending himself in the replies
- DIVOOOOOOORCE NOWWWWW! (Or breakup)
- The replies dog piling on a victim
- This should have stayed off the internet
- Non of this would have happened if people just communicates
- The very obvious victim that has been gaslit into thinking is a bad person.
- Some other redditor telling their side of the story and making the OP look like the AH.
- People on the replies acting as therapists
- Straight up criminal sh*it
- Titles that sound so horrible like "AITA for eating a baby" but turns out to be reasonable things and you end up being on OP's side.
- Titles that sound reasonable like "AITA for telling my husband not to eat a baby" that end up being so horrific that makes the OP look like an absolute AH.
- "I need unbiased opinions"
- The stories that starts like a small issue but escalate with the updates into a cosmic level soap opera where entire families break up, secrets are discovered and people end in jail.
That's what I can think of right now.
You forgot the free space.
I'd like to add miscarriage of justice, where reddit's general consensus clearly misses the mark, especially when the update proves it
"The replies dog piling on a victim"
this tends to happen most often when the OP is a guy and is being abused by a woman
"I need unbiased opinions"
this one always makes me do a fake laugh hiding real pain because r/AITA is one of the most biased subreddits I have ever seen outside of ones dedicated to a single topic (like r/*insert specific game title*)
and even those can be more objective than r/AITA sometimes
@@justinthompson6364 or when OP is a guy because misandry and double standards are a real issue on this subreddit
Just for the sake of making it all fit more on a bingo card:
-Rage-bait
-Gaslighting
- I need Unbiased Opinions
- OP/AH Self Defense (The AH defending himself in the replies)
- Breakup (Divorce/ Breakup NNNOOOWWW)
-Click Bait (Titles that sound so horrible like "AITA for eating a baby" but turns out to be reasonable things and you end up being on OP's side)
-Plot Twist (Titles that sound reasonable like "AITA for telling my husband not to eat a baby" that end up being so horrific that makes the OP look like an absolute AH.)
-Private Matter (This should have stayed off the internet)
-Poor/No Communication ( None of this would have happened if people just communicate)
-OBJECTION!!! (Some other redditor telling their side of the story and making the OP look like the AH)
-That escalated quickly/ soap opera(The stories that starts like a small issue but escalate with the updates into a cosmic level soap opera where entire families break up, secrets are discovered and people end in jail.)
- Keyboard Therapist (People on the replies acting as therapists)
- Crime (Straight up criminal sh*it)
- Social Destruction ("I did is and every single person I know now thinks I'm the AH, so AITA?")
-Anti-Victim/hero (The very obvious victim that has been gaslit into thinking is a bad person)
-"Thought experiment" ("AITA for doing something incredibly horrible that everyone would agree is horrible?")
Some of my own:
-Don't talk to me or anyone I know again
-Pawning off kids
-Sabotage
-Community Abuse
-Textbook Manipulation
Ah yes, Schrodinger's Joke - a statement that can be both absolutely serious and "just a joke" up until the listener reacts, at which point it collapses into one of the two states depending on whether the reaction was positive or negative
Yep. Everyone with half a braincell can tell it wasn't a joke, but if you call them out for it they cry victim. So irritating.
12:42
Like, ask her if she would want to buy a cake knowing that a relative of the baker had just gone and jammed their fingers into the filling. Ask her if she would want to eat a meal at a restaurant if as soon as the waiter set the plate in front of her, her stuck his thumb into her food.
41:49 I have never understood the “Fake name for anonymity purposes” because if you’re only gonna use a first name DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY PEOPLE WOULD HAVE THE SAME FIRST NAME?!?!?!?
There were more updates to the second story that made it even wilder. To cut it short, BIL finally got involved and it was found out Op's sister was supposed to be paying him for all the times he had babysat prior, which BIL had been giving her money for, he made her pay it out of pocket after finding out. The vacation was back on, and OP arrived before anyone else and made sure the hotel staff would not tell his family where they were. His sister did try to find out where he was staying and try to fob the kids off on him but she failed.
The real AH in the burping story was the mom. Teach your kids table manners since they’re old enough to sit at a table. Jesus.
And see a doc if they tell you they can't control it. I have a good friend with digestive issues. Those of us who know her don't even notice it anymore because we know, but she gets shamed by others and is really self conscious. Both parents win ahole status for not educating themselves.
@@LifeSeekingTruth facts 💯💯
Yes please absolutely! A bingo of any kind is the best format. An idea for a category: "Why don't you want to be my slave?"=it's a category for people who have ridiculous requirements for their spouses/family/friends/random ppl on street and are surprised that ppl get angy over them.