What I've learned in life is that sometimes what you want isn't what you need. With relationships and in general. I'm glad you've found someone that makes you happy!
I had a lot of similar experiences as you. All of my friends were boy crazy and I was just like “oh yeah that’s cool”. Same when it comes to cars. I don’t know a thing about cars but if I see a car that looks cool to me, I’m gonna stare at it.i never pay attention to who’s driving it 😅 The autistic and neurodivergent brain is a atrange yet wonderful thing
I don't know if it's due to how my brain is wired, but seemed I always had weirdos attracted to me, and more often than not, I was not attracted to them. Is this something common in the the majority?
Honestly, I have been in two relationships in my entire life. I'm 28 years old, and the first one was more controlling, a bit mentally abusive, etc. Things that didn't work out between me and him, I was the one that broke it off officially altogether. Now the second one, eh... we didn't last even a week, and plus I was single for seven years before I met the second one. Everything was too quick; it felt rushed. Then I end up feeling a bit eh about everything about this dude, and then he ends up with someone else that was a woman who was abusive to him, and then they broke up. He came back, and I tried to be there for him, and i still cared for him, but then people started being a bit pushy to us and tried to get us back together; that made us feel more apart, and it did. We are not together at all now. He is with someone else, and I am happy for him no matter what. Now me, on the other hand, I am not too worried about jumping into a relationship; I feel too comfortable being single. Hopefully that's not a bad thing. I have been in my comfort zone too long, but I have put myself out of that zone a few times. I have been getting too many gut feelings and signs I have been noticing.
Facts 💯. I only had 1 or 2 female friends. I had to cut off a long-time toxic female friend. I am Demi sexual and never was interested casual intimacy. I didn't realize there was a name for it. Lack of female friends has cut off a lot of drama and gossip. No regrets. I use to go to car shows. You are the type of person I would and could be friends with. 🧡
Me and my man look a lot like each other too lol. Its crazy people have asked if we are related, we also do walmart trips like that too, everything is a team effort. All my exes were nerds but major assholes, my guy is a hot computer wizard, i used to date younger guys but they were super immature even just by a year or two, Corey and I have a 14 year age gap and we are more compatible than anyone else I've ever been with.
Thank you for sharing. I don’t want to sound critical, but I believe this depends on context. The term "female" can feel dehumanizing to some, especially when it's used for women but "male" isn’t applied the same way for men. I understand your experiences with women have been like that, but both genders face high expectations-women are often judged for looks and body, while men are expected to be wealthy or successful. It’s rough for both sides. I’m personally content being "on the bench," largely because touch feels overwhelming to me, and I struggle to connect with others. It does bother me at times, but I feel like some people like me were meant to be born polar bears or other solitary creatures.
I have been single for so long and the last time I have been in a serious relationship was over a decade ago. We were more like friend material than the actual boyfriend girlfriend thing. I realized that I never had any interest in dating anyone. Maybe it's me being introverted and neurodivergent myself.
How´s afraid of Virginia Woolf? Holy smokes!! Those are on the list for women?! Jeez! I thought on my list and how it clashed with that one.. oh dear, i had like one or three maybe. (But that is because I like the guy to be a little bit taller than me) So I feel like girls (And some guys because a LOT of my guyfriends) put the bar up to high and think that they can diss really wonderful people because of ONE SINGLE THING. What the fudge?! Nope, never.. Anyway, about my few other relationship.. well, there were never a me and he moment (He never let me be alone unless I was home) and he never wanted to evolve alone. And I was used to that so, when I met this guy who has a life! We can be away for hours and do not feel the need to tell eachother where we are ALL THE TIME, but we enjoy doing things because.... well, we love each other. We just don´t feel that we have to! One more thing, my other relationships was all about trying a lot of new "kinky" shit because I am bisexual and they thought that I "was gagging for new things"... um.. NO!! I don´t! And my boyfriend now, he doesn´t even ask about how my sexuality is. It just is a part of me and he accepts it. He doesn´t want to try a threesome becasue I can be with girls and stuff like that. It is wonderful and makes me feel more calm every single day. Sorry for the long comment, but I had a lot to tell.. 😅 Love and Magic to the Mouse House 💜🪄🐭🏡
I am 37 and queer. I have dated all over the rainbow (pun intended) men, women, nonbinary, etc. etc... It wasn't until around 2021/22 -ish and through certain experiences (and a lot of therapy), that I realized I fell on the "Asexual spectrum" myself (i.e. demisexual, graysexual, etc etc). I have an autistic younger brother and this summer I will be doing an autism evaluation for myself.. because I have this gut feeling..... Anyway, all that to say, even with our differences and us literally being different people I could relate to quite a few things you shared. I personally only started to have interest in dating people because my peers in middle school/high school did. I had this misguided want to fit in but I also craved the attention romantic relationships seemed to hold due to being emotionally abused and neglected as a child. I have little to no interest in sex unless I am with a partner, and even with a partner it is because I want to please them (whether the reason was healthy or not). Most of the time I personally find genitalia as a whole pretty gross but sometimes I can find sex enjoyable. Sex and romance have also felt very separate in my brain. Sex is a thing you do, and very rarely did I feel any deep emotional connection afterward. Fast forward, with a lot of introspection, experience, and therapy, I am nearing my 40s with my past dating decisions making a lot more sense. The last few years have really reshaped how I felt about romance, and having watched you off and on for years it was very interesting to watch and listen. Would I like a long term romantic partner one day? I mean, if it happens it happens. I don't reject the idea because my "colorful" past experience were so chaotic (and many times toxic) but I no longer actively seek it out like I used to. Thanks for the share.
Maybe it's an American thing, or the area you live in or the type of people that use Uber, I don't know, but I'm 27, live in Poland and my experience is so different. My girlfriends are all very mature and self reliant, have jobs, take care of themselves. And they just want a guy who can do the same, have a job and take care of himself. Meanwhile the guys they try to date are all still mentally in primary school. They don't work, expect the girl to just pay their living, they expect her to be a mom, not a wife, with her cooking for them and cleaning after them so they can play video games and they never help out. Some go as far as expecting the girls to be ok with them cheating. Guys here are the most immature brats. And unfortunately I have to say the same about my guy friends. I have way more of them than girlfriends, and they're great friends, but the prospect of dating them is nauseating. They're so immature it hurts. I'm so glad I've been with my boyfriend for 12 years, because he is legit the only sensible man I know. If we broke up, I don't know a single man who would be dating material because of how much of a man baby they all are. Legit, some of my guy friends will bitch about how bad their girlfriends are because they won't let them play video games 24/7 and expect them to pitch in financially and do household chores xD obviously, I'm not saying ALL men are like this, they are not. I'm just giving a different perspective to show that I don't think it's always the girls fault :)
I am a different kind of neurodivergent female... I was a little boy crazy around the time I started puberty. But not the excessive kind of boy crazy lol. Luckily, I did not have any abusive bf's per say, but they were kind of low on the totem pole, with the exception of my college bf (it just did not really work out for us) who was just on a different path than I was, let's just say he's the one that got away... I would say I am an ambivert when it comes to socializing... And while I sort of have a criteria list of the type of significant other that I want to be with (which I am currently with that man who meets all of my criteria of "perfect" We will have been together 7 years at the end of March, and we have a 5-year-old boy together who is our everything!!!)
Whats up I'm 39 now I've only been In relationships in middle school 1 girl and high school only 4 girls and after high been alone and single since that & I just don't care anymore I get to ride my bmx bike and see the usa different states/city
What I've learned in life is that sometimes what you want isn't what you need. With relationships and in general. I'm glad you've found someone that makes you happy!
I had a lot of similar experiences as you. All of my friends were boy crazy and I was just like “oh yeah that’s cool”. Same when it comes to cars. I don’t know a thing about cars but if I see a car that looks cool to me, I’m gonna stare at it.i never pay attention to who’s driving it 😅 The autistic and neurodivergent brain is a atrange yet wonderful thing
I don't know if it's due to how my brain is wired, but seemed I always had weirdos attracted to me, and more often than not, I was not attracted to them. Is this something common in the the majority?
Who's afraid of Virginia Woolf :) Thank you for sharing, I wish you a happy new year :)
Honestly, I have been in two relationships in my entire life. I'm 28 years old, and the first one was more controlling, a bit mentally abusive, etc. Things that didn't work out between me and him, I was the one that broke it off officially altogether. Now the second one, eh... we didn't last even a week, and plus I was single for seven years before I met the second one. Everything was too quick; it felt rushed. Then I end up feeling a bit eh about everything about this dude, and then he ends up with someone else that was a woman who was abusive to him, and then they broke up. He came back, and I tried to be there for him, and i still cared for him, but then people started being a bit pushy to us and tried to get us back together; that made us feel more apart, and it did. We are not together at all now. He is with someone else, and I am happy for him no matter what. Now me, on the other hand, I am not too worried about jumping into a relationship; I feel too comfortable being single. Hopefully that's not a bad thing. I have been in my comfort zone too long, but I have put myself out of that zone a few times. I have been getting too many gut feelings and signs I have been noticing.
That says that they are aren't great friends. And just not worth it. I'm glad JJ is happy by making his own decisions.
Facts 💯. I only had 1 or 2 female friends. I had to cut off a long-time toxic female friend. I am Demi sexual and never was interested casual intimacy. I didn't realize there was a name for it. Lack of female friends has cut off a lot of drama and gossip. No regrets. I use to go to car shows. You are the type of person I would and could be friends with. 🧡
Me and my man look a lot like each other too lol. Its crazy people have asked if we are related, we also do walmart trips like that too, everything is a team effort. All my exes were nerds but major assholes, my guy is a hot computer wizard, i used to date younger guys but they were super immature even just by a year or two, Corey and I have a 14 year age gap and we are more compatible than anyone else I've ever been with.
Thank you for sharing.
I don’t want to sound critical, but I believe this depends on context. The term "female" can feel dehumanizing to some, especially when it's used for women but "male" isn’t applied the same way for men.
I understand your experiences with women have been like that, but both genders face high expectations-women are often judged for looks and body, while men are expected to be wealthy or successful.
It’s rough for both sides. I’m personally content being "on the bench," largely because touch feels overwhelming to me, and I struggle to connect with others. It does bother me at times, but I feel like some people like me were meant to be born polar bears or other solitary creatures.
I have been single for so long and the last time I have been in a serious relationship was over a decade ago. We were more like friend material than the actual boyfriend girlfriend thing. I realized that I never had any interest in dating anyone. Maybe it's me being introverted and neurodivergent myself.
How´s afraid of Virginia Woolf?
Holy smokes!! Those are on the list for women?! Jeez! I thought on my list and how it clashed with that one.. oh dear, i had like one or three maybe. (But that is because I like the guy to be a little bit taller than me) So I feel like girls (And some guys because a LOT of my guyfriends) put the bar up to high and think that they can diss really wonderful people because of ONE SINGLE THING. What the fudge?! Nope, never..
Anyway, about my few other relationship.. well, there were never a me and he moment (He never let me be alone unless I was home) and he never wanted to evolve alone. And I was used to that so, when I met this guy who has a life! We can be away for hours and do not feel the need to tell eachother where we are ALL THE TIME, but we enjoy doing things because.... well, we love each other. We just don´t feel that we have to!
One more thing, my other relationships was all about trying a lot of new "kinky" shit because I am bisexual and they thought that I "was gagging for new things"... um.. NO!! I don´t! And my boyfriend now, he doesn´t even ask about how my sexuality is. It just is a part of me and he accepts it. He doesn´t want to try a threesome becasue I can be with girls and stuff like that. It is wonderful and makes me feel more calm every single day.
Sorry for the long comment, but I had a lot to tell.. 😅
Love and Magic to the Mouse House 💜🪄🐭🏡
I hope one day I find a woman like you.
I am 37 and queer. I have dated all over the rainbow (pun intended) men, women, nonbinary, etc. etc... It wasn't until around 2021/22 -ish and through certain experiences (and a lot of therapy), that I realized I fell on the "Asexual spectrum" myself (i.e. demisexual, graysexual, etc etc). I have an autistic younger brother and this summer I will be doing an autism evaluation for myself.. because I have this gut feeling.....
Anyway, all that to say, even with our differences and us literally being different people I could relate to quite a few things you shared. I personally only started to have interest in dating people because my peers in middle school/high school did. I had this misguided want to fit in but I also craved the attention romantic relationships seemed to hold due to being emotionally abused and neglected as a child. I have little to no interest in sex unless I am with a partner, and even with a partner it is because I want to please them (whether the reason was healthy or not). Most of the time I personally find genitalia as a whole pretty gross but sometimes I can find sex enjoyable. Sex and romance have also felt very separate in my brain. Sex is a thing you do, and very rarely did I feel any deep emotional connection afterward.
Fast forward, with a lot of introspection, experience, and therapy, I am nearing my 40s with my past dating decisions making a lot more sense. The last few years have really reshaped how I felt about romance, and having watched you off and on for years it was very interesting to watch and listen.
Would I like a long term romantic partner one day? I mean, if it happens it happens. I don't reject the idea because my "colorful" past experience were so chaotic (and many times toxic) but I no longer actively seek it out like I used to.
Thanks for the share.
Maybe it's an American thing, or the area you live in or the type of people that use Uber, I don't know, but I'm 27, live in Poland and my experience is so different. My girlfriends are all very mature and self reliant, have jobs, take care of themselves. And they just want a guy who can do the same, have a job and take care of himself. Meanwhile the guys they try to date are all still mentally in primary school. They don't work, expect the girl to just pay their living, they expect her to be a mom, not a wife, with her cooking for them and cleaning after them so they can play video games and they never help out. Some go as far as expecting the girls to be ok with them cheating. Guys here are the most immature brats. And unfortunately I have to say the same about my guy friends. I have way more of them than girlfriends, and they're great friends, but the prospect of dating them is nauseating. They're so immature it hurts. I'm so glad I've been with my boyfriend for 12 years, because he is legit the only sensible man I know. If we broke up, I don't know a single man who would be dating material because of how much of a man baby they all are. Legit, some of my guy friends will bitch about how bad their girlfriends are because they won't let them play video games 24/7 and expect them to pitch in financially and do household chores xD obviously, I'm not saying ALL men are like this, they are not. I'm just giving a different perspective to show that I don't think it's always the girls fault :)
I think most girls have an idea for a partner that's based in fantasy (looking at you, females addicted to Grey's Anatomy). I know I have in the past.
I am a different kind of neurodivergent female... I was a little boy crazy around the time I started puberty. But not the excessive kind of boy crazy lol. Luckily, I did not have any abusive bf's per say, but they were kind of low on the totem pole, with the exception of my college bf (it just did not really work out for us) who was just on a different path than I was, let's just say he's the one that got away... I would say I am an ambivert when it comes to socializing... And while I sort of have a criteria list of the type of significant other that I want to be with (which I am currently with that man who meets all of my criteria of "perfect" We will have been together 7 years at the end of March, and we have a 5-year-old boy together who is our everything!!!)
Whats up I'm 39 now I've only been In relationships in middle school 1 girl and high school only 4 girls and after high been alone and single since that & I just don't care anymore I get to ride my bmx bike and see the usa different states/city
good video 😎