I’ve Turned My Home Into a Rubbish Tip | the Hoarder Next Door s1 ep1 | Only Human
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- Опубликовано: 24 янв 2021
- Across Britain, behind closed doors, hoarding has become a growing problem that is now said to affect 2 - 5% of the population or approximately 1.2million people in the UK alone.
In this new series psychotherapist, Stelios Kiosses offers a groundbreaking approach in tackling compulsive hoarding. Together with straight talking Declutter Divas, Zoe Steel and Allyson Pritchard, Stelios helps Pauline tackle her hoards and reclaim her home.
Each programme gives an extreme hoarder a 6 week course of psychotherapy, alternative therapies and practical help, in an attempt to cure them of their habit. Stelios also introduces them to other hoarders who are doing their best to control their habit largely on their own.
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Wow. After binge watching a bunch of American and British hoarding shows, I have to say, I think the British shows approach the topic and the clients with so much more compassion. It feels less exploitative somehow.
As I always explain, In the UK you see they get mental help they is PAID for. I have to buy insurance for hundred of dollars a month. I do have mental health care but it covers only a limited number of sessions and I still must pay a $70 copay. If I need more. I get to pay full price at $250 a session. Then keep in mind the vast majority of the hoarders in the US version are already in trouble with the local government. They have to be cleared out or risk further fines even JAIL TIME. In the US your hoarding can make you a CRIMINAL. So if these US hoarders don’t get their hoard cleared they risk loosing their homes, loosing their children, being fined, even jailed and if the house gets condemned they get to pay to have it demolished, and if they can not afford it, it will be done and they will be charged the $30-60,000 it costs on average to demolish a house. At least the show actually provides mental health care and after care. That’s more than the state will get you or your insurance, unless you can afford it.
Its the same with movies,the british ones are waaayyyy better.
@@trishayamada807 in the UK and everywhere in Europe we pay also Hundreds of euros per month for health insurance. Do you seriously believe that it is for free???? I would get 2000 Euros a month more of my monthly income if I was in the US.
@@wioi you aren’t asked to PAY UP FRONT are you? Gee, I was in university in Scotland and the doctor came to me and my charge was zero. Amazing. In the USA my doctor charges $180 a visit. Oh poor you and your health care. Please come to the USA and you to can file bankruptcy on medical bills. Moron.
I agree. The psychological treatment needs to come before the clean up is attempted. Having two or three lovely cleaners is less invasive and upsetting than an army of people.
The irony of the Feng Shui book on top of the hoard at 7:58. Perfection.
We hoard ALL the books on organizing!
@@grammichal6759 ...and storage boxes to fill up with stuff !!
I've seen the life changing magic of tidying up in an episode of hoarders before lol like someone HAD to plant that
I was thinking the same thing
I was like this 4 years ago. I watch these to remind myself how far I have come. I still have a way to go, but my home is very nice now. It often feels agonisingly slow, but it is possible to recover from this.
That's great 👍 And very encouraging.
Congratulations!
Don't downplay how much progress you have made - well done!
You should be very proud of yourself :)
Seems like you would be more successful in the long run after slowly putting all that work in yourself rather than the people who have soneond do a quick clean out for them.
I think your slow methodical approach really shows how difficult this really is and how dedicated you are. You deserve to live well and I send you big hugs from NYC
wow, having one hoarder help another to declutter seems like a great way to help them gain some insight. it's always easier to see other peoples problems than our own.
Definetely ,To get some insight from another persons view is really helpful.
That was a brilliant move, he has quite a bag of tricks he uses. I'm impressed.
She us deflecting attention from hetself
In a way, yes. But l didn,t see as much progress with these two. They have to be willing to be helped by the professionals... the first step in any addiction..
Yeah there is like a bond and a lack of judgement it’s quite nice.
The older lady has such lovely and caring friends
I would give anything to have lovely loving friends like this♡♡♡ they're a gift.
Yes, feel sorry for Tina that she couldn’t find anyone to attend the cooking class with her.😢
Shes lovely jerself
I would love friends like that as well.
@@wheatstonebridge Joanne is lovely
I've watched hundreds of hoarding programmes but this one is quite unique in Stelios' approach - treating the disorder as a disorder rather than just throwing everything into a skip and leaving the person to sort themself out. It is definitely a mental disorder.
I like that he tries to help them manage their depressive symptoms and isolation
I love that this show is different and actually takes the time to figure out the pain behind why these people decide to hoard things. It actually helps heal people instead of just yelling at them to throw their stuff away in 48 hours
Yeah, I know for the American version, they do a check in at the end of the episode, and most of the people end up relapsing and never going to the provided therapy. It's sad.
@@roseywinter USA also doesn’t show the pre therapy or planning. Kinda like the uk version doesn’t show the people power it takes to move that amount of stuff. Nor the cleaners that actually clean it. Or decorator that comes in to help place stuff at the end.
Exactly as it won’t help in the long run if the underlying cause isn’t addressed.
He really hit the nail on the head when he was saying how the 'illusion of the disorder' makes you think you'll find relief the more you do it, when it actually just makes you worse. The cruelty of mental illness 😟
The same applies to a lot of other coping mechanisms. My way of dealing with anxiety and depression, was to stay at home and not have any friends. That made everything so much worse. Look at those people on my 600 lbs. life. I guarantee you that they're overeating, because they cannot deal with certain things. And now their life is in actual danger, making everything so much worse than whatever they started with.
@@ND-iw1nr I agree. I'm in the same situation. My distractions are different but it's the same end result. I isolate and the isolation makes me sicker.
@@taylorfausett177 🙋🏽♀️me too 😩
I strongly think it's a lack of emotional maturity. They are older but when pressed about something or to remember something they turn into little children and speak like they are not responsible . In reality they are. It seems they all have a trauma that hit them young and they haven't gotten older in an emotional mature state. They are little kids in an adult body. Anything with strong emotions causes them to shut down. I hope they grow and heal
I love how they play Greek music every time Stelios comes on the screen
🤣🤣
I know right! Lol he doesn’t even sound Greek 😂😂
So stereotypical, right?
that’s funny!
He just needs to whip out some Windex.🤗
The U.S. Version of this, Hoarders, needs to watch this version to learn how to do it. Our version is so grating. Tears, tantrums, shouting. I stand by my belief that England does TV and motion pictures far better than we do.
I know. I'm American and sometimes I can't bear watching the American hoarders. Most of them are completely insane.
right??? im so sick of all the unnecessary drama and unrealistic timelines. im more interested in the actual process and recovery
I agree there is enough drama going on in the holder's head .
That's hoarder.
Americans feed off the drama though 🤦
I think you've got something there. Hoarders can help hoarders. Loneliness is a big part of it and the camaraderie gives the emotional support that is absolutely necessary.
Yes. I like how one of them said that most people regard them as freaks, so it helps them to meet another person with a similar challenge. Very compassionate.
Unless they exchange hoards
There's no judgment and more empathy from someone who shares your disorder. They have been there and understand
I love Stelios. His style is gentle yet firm, and he seems to really bond with each hoarder individually and tries to really understand what motivates them and what troubles them.
Stelllios is genuinely the nicest psychotherapist I’ve ever seen. I’ve met over 5 in my 20 years and none compare to how nice he is, and how much he genuinely wants people to get better instead of just their money.
Also, the older lady is such a sweetheart, oh my god. 😭 bless her
Tina has such a vibrant aesthetic sense. I hope she’s able to get things sorted. I can absolutely imagine her art in a picture book about dragons and wizards 😁
Tina is so cool
This show is honestly so therapeutic, I've been living in a depression bedroom for a few months but after binge watching this show for a few days I've managed to clear all the rubbish and dirty plates and change my sheets and I finally feel cleaner and a little lighter
How are you doing today?
Wow! I hope you are still feeling better! And always remember you truly are worth it❤
I hope that you’re continuing to do well!
0:42 "Mum, why are you not listening?" "AaaAAAAAaaAaaAAaaaaH!"
RIP Jack :(
@@pisstakecentral he committed suicide. There’s more info in other comments
Aw Tina crying about having no friends broke me. 😔
I know she seems really nice too! Just the sort of friend I'd like to have.
She seems like a lovely woman. Very well spoken as well.
Adult loneliness is so prevalent and silent :(
If you keep your place like that how will you not be lonely. You need company then you need to socialize...have get togethers call people home....it's tiring for everyone to do the daily housekeeping but we fight that laziness...we make ourselves do it. It's not like she cannot move around on her own ..
Clutter is awful. It makes you feel like you can't do anything nice for yourself unless you deal with it, it stops you from socialising at home, it takes away your energy to get out and meet people, it makes you feel unworthy, t's really bad
Love that they meet each other, this is so gentle. And also, the dont have food containers, garbage, feces, bugs and animals. Very different from the american show. I really like it.
I like his approach too. Very humane and therapeutic. A communal approach used with a group of lonely souls. The hoarding behaviour stems from feeling isolated.
The British people are so much more likable than the Americans on hoarders show. I find myself not being able to bear the Americans sometimes like they're completely insane.
Some of the hoarders on this show definitely do have awful filthy houses.
This program is wayyy better than hoarders. There’s the shock factor with hoarders, and I feel like that overshadows any sort of mental health things that should be brought up. I was moved when Tina opened up. I relate and empathize with her.
Yeah, American hoarders is edited with such unnecessary drama and stigma.
The wonderful thing about this show is that they start with mental health and the decluttering comes next, or concurrently. Support and connection is at the core. All “self-care problem” shows should take this approach, whether it’s obesity, hoarding, over cleaning/not cleaning. It’s beautiful to see how they actually heal rather than just cleaning up or losing weight.
Tina reminds me of "How many psychiatrists does it take to change a light bulb?"
"Only one, but the light bulb 💡 has to want to change." I hope she's successful in continuing to get things sorted.
I was a hoarder in my teens. Used to collect shiny stones , cheap jewelry, and even needles, and used to put them under my pillow. Sometimes my head would hurt because of the stones under my pillow. I lived in a orphanage, and didn't have any other secure space to hide my treasures except for my bed. I think I was an eccentric little hoarder. :)
This made me well up, I hope you are having a good life now ✨🧚
@@jemmaward3448 Thank you Jemma. Yes, I have a good life now. I hope you are well too. :)
Everyone needs a space and place...everyone.. hope your life has many more pages...Aloha
I think these shows are a perfect example of how mental "illness" can really affect lives, just with this type you can really physically see it. I love how brave these people are to have their houses on national screens, even international screens. Just glad people like Stellios are out there helping people. And it really makes me want to clean my house XD
Thanks for watching!
@@OnlyHumanDocs I think I have seen this show before? But nice to watch once more..
I am not a hoarder but when I was 7 my best friend gave me a little pot she had on her dresser,we grew up together and now I am 57 but sadly my friend passed away 5 years ago but the little pot is still with me.
That is lovely, we all do that. It's when you keep boxes and boxes of ones things that you have trouble.
That is is sweet 🥺💖
Totally took this the other way. Like the puff puff way.
For a second I was thinking wow, started smoking weed at 7?
That’s beautiful. ❤️ You are a truly good friend, and person I am sure. 😁
Despite the clutter, the old lady's house seems very clean.
I like the term "visual noise"! My apartment is very tidy compared to all this houses, but i realized i have far too much! Me sister in law told me once, i have so much decoration, she could decorate 6 houses including me small apartment. I have purchased a lot of antique furniture and ornaments when i was living in Asia and shipped everything to Europe. I also have a lot of antique furniture made by me great grandfather, from my grandmother.... now i am ready to sell a lot! I need space! No use to keep so many things! We organised a car trunk give away gathering, so things find a new home instead being locked up in a box!
Yes, I like that term, too, and wrote it down. My place has too much clutter in the form of books in boxes, and papers on the desk. Have you seen the RUclipsr Minimal Mom? Her place is so uncluttered, it's amazing. And so easy to clean.
17:15 she’s just sippin her tea with striped socks on, such an adorable old lady im crying
I thought that was cute too
I loved that moment too! Wanted to adopt her as my granny there and then. Loved that she had nice clean sheets on her bed too, see so many hoarders on TV shows that have no sheets on their beds, or they can't change them as the bed is cluttered so they were sleeping on a tiny cramped corner or something. I'd have cried if she were in that situation, was nice to see she had still has some nice home comforts, even with the hoard.
I love the amount of pink in that room. Very sweet and girlie. Part of her hoarding issue is surely because she's older, it's likely harder for her to clean and she's overwhelmed
🥺❤️
This kind of program always inspires me to declutter my own house. :-)
Me as well! I usually keep shows like this playing while I'm doing a deep clean or a declutter/donation session. It keeps me motivated and I literally will dump drawers out into a garbage or donation bag and than only pluck out a few items that I want to keep. My home is feeling very free and I thank these shows for their encouragement to seek peace in your home life/surroundings :)
Me too
Me too! I'm watching for inspiration.
Same here!
I always wonder why the experts on these programs don't suggest taking a picture of the memorabilias and keep that. That's how I started managing my cards and papers.
What a great idea
And I don’t know why the experts do not look for the main character in these stories: a garbage can. It seems like these hoarders lack that concept.
Because it is a photo. You can't touch or smell a photo. They need the physical. You must be really young.
@@susancrawford5927 I 🤔 thought that suggestion proposterous
@@susancrawford5927 You can't smell or touch a person when they're gone, and yet we keep photos of our loved ones. It's not entirely odd to keep a photo of a birthday card. Especially in some cases, if those cards have gotten moldy, or bug infested, or dirty in other ways. We still get to see the card, and read its contents, which is the main attachment -- the visual, and the words from our loved ones.
I love charity shopping so I keep to the “one in-one out” rule afterwords.
Yeah, I consider it like, "I paid this money for the experience to buy you".
somauk, I know it’s been a few months but I had to reply. Your comment is the best and most responsible I’ve seen.
I love Tina's adoration for vintage things. That's something to really be admired in today's younger generation because most of us just buy new things and dispose of them when we grow bored of them, but Tina is trying to preserve an era of history.
When poor little Joanne started crying it broke my heart. What sweet friends she has
I’m sick of hoarding shows trying to create shock, everyone’s seen it all before and it’s nothing to be disgusted by. I thought this would be similar but it’s beautiful, getting to look at the special little troves and objects they’re proud of and the hardships that they’d re going through. I relate so much to Tina in being isolated and having nobody, I think I’d be great friends with both the women.
There’s a *distinction between a collector vs a hoarder* -
A collector is focused on building a specific collection (and takes care of the items & displays/ stores them properly);
A hoarder has no focus, and accumulates an unfocused mishmash of disorganized items strewn about,
I think the hoarder hoards because they are absolutely afraid of letting go. A collector sees the value in an object, almost objectively with minimal emotional attachment to it. The hoarder thinks if the item is lost or broken, they become lost or broken. The collector does not see value in themselves through the item, the item's value is its own. But they're essentially the same. The hoarder hides behind a more socially acceptable definition of a collector. And the collector is one emotional disaster away from losing themselves in their hoarding.
I love Stelios' outfits and style.
He is a SHARP DETAILED DRESSER..
DEFINITELY HAS SWAGGER..
I'm a hoarder and I work on keeping clean and go through with getting rid of stuff often and honestly I love Tina helping out because it helps her practice as well as using her similar situation and mindset to help another hoarder
I really like how they start with therapy rather than clearing the place out with much anxiety and stress and possibly being unsuccessful
I love that they actually take time to understand and help them commit to decluttering. The 'Hoarders' show seem to want to fix everything in 3 days by removing the 'symptoms' rather than treating the condition. But that's the American way.
Plus they're either getting evicted, bulldozed or fined in the American shows, so there's urgency
I hope these two lovely ladies are doing well, and have stayed in touch.
I love how that charity shop lady has a casual FENG SHUI book amongst all the mess of her room lol
This is a more gentle and hoarder oriented therapy show than TLC and A&E Hoarders shows.
America likes dramatizing everything tbh x
It's more gentle because these people aren't about to be kicked out or sent to jail. It's a long term therapy show for hoarders instead of an emergency declutter for crazy people show.
I much more prefer the gentle way.
TLC and A&E seem to cover more of the filthy hoarders that are literally living in garbage and feces and are in more of a dangerous crisis situation where sometimes even children are Involved. They don't have time to give them the six week gentle approach. Therapy comes with the cleanout and after if they want it.
This is why I hoard on pintrest, instead.
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Brilliant!
And I thought I was the only one hoarding on Pinterest 😂😂😂
🌲🌝☘️
I had a hoarding problem after 3 sudden deaths of my parents etc and I was left with their belongings. It took a long time to let go but I did and now I just hoard online instead too
Yeah I hoard in animal crossing xP
Similar- I used to buy things but now I will just collect a digital image of the item. Saves spending money AND having clutter.
I loved Tina. She needs some organizers, some serious scrapbooking supplies, a storage unit to put all her family’s stuff in until she feels comfortable throwing it away, and some friends to go to a pub with instead of shopping!
Tina’s stuff looks as though there may be som valuable pieces there.
Records. Old toys. Etc.
🌲🌝☘️
Years ago, after watching one of these programs, I started decluttering my son's toys, baby clothes, books, drawings etc with my son. 20 big boxes!! He told me he would have it all and keep it for his children one day. I was so happy! Last year we welcome our first grandchild. I said it was great that he had all his stuff from when he was a child. His reply: "it all went to a charity shop mum, it didn't mean anything to me". 😔 He did however photograph the few things that meant something to him and put all in a virtual photo album. I did cry a little but tbh I got over it a lot faster than I thought I would!
He knew that it was unnecessary and pointless for you to keep things for his entire life and was kind enough to get it out of your home and help out someone else.
Peer to peer help has been shown to be one of the most effective paths to recovery. Glad they showed how this works!
Stelios is such a warm-hearted, good person, and he helps us to see hoarder as fellow human beings, who need help and never jugde them
It seems to me that Tina may be considered a collector of valuable things which are simply stored in a chaotic order.
Sometimesasmallhouse doesnthelpeither
Tina actually seems like a creative, interesting person. I hope that she's been able to make her dreams of being an illustrator come true. Even in the clutter you could see an artistic eye, a particular vision and style. Hope she's happy and thriving in a new life that she really loves, and surrounded by appreciative friends. I was surprised by her lack of friends, being as interesting and apparently outgoing and interested in life as she is (all those trips she's taken - that's not someone who has no interests in life). I think she would make a successful designer as well as illustrator - not to mention being able to open a really fab and interesting shop full of '60s memorabilia, if only she could let herself sell any of it! Her cluttered flat reminded me of a little shop full of all kinds of interesting objects. (The kind of shop I never buy anything in, but still like to browse around and look at things.)
Yes, it would be a fun shop to visit. But as one who doesn't like knick-knacks, and who is trying to get rid of any I find as I unpack boxes, I wouldn't buy anything there. The 60s memorabilia and graphics are fun to look at. Mod, lol
It shows how easily a passion and something that gave you joy can gradually evolve into a problem that inevitably makes you miserable and trapped.
My heart hurt when they started crying... I just wanted to hug them
I am the complete opposite. Less stuff I own, better I feel. Even just looking at houses with a lot of things around, I get anxious. I wouldn't survive in these houses
Same, I just want to have a little appartement with just a room for the bathroom and just necessaries things (sorry for my English I’m French 🇫🇷).
Me too. I lost everything. Was on the street for a couple years. I am housed now, thank God. But I want to know I can back up the smallest Uhaul and be gone in an hour if need be. I’m not sure what that’s about but I just don’t want stuff.
Same here, and after living with a hoarder for years I have to have a clutter germ free home with nothing out of place; a bit obsessive over tidiness.
Its easy to clean when u aint got much stuff😀😀
@@clarissebanshee Your english is great
When he says Tina is locked in a childlike phase.. I get it..
The best time of my life was early childhood and I surround myself with things that remind me of that time because it makes me remember a time when everyone was alive, was healthy and I had people who loved me unconditionally… I totally get why people live in their childhood…
Thing is Tina wasn't born in the 1960s and probably too young to have participated in the 1970s she say she did. False memories ?
Tina has some cool stuff from the 60's. I think if she could get rid of the junk she would have room to display her cool collection. or sell most of it.
The worst thing about opening up to someone about a problem like hoarding, or in my case, not being able to clean up after myself due to chronic fatigue and pain, is that you can tell them not to judge you a thousand times, but then they leave and the first thing they say is: I can’t believe she lives like this, I would at least do X, but she didn’t…”
I’ve heard people I know and am friends with say that about others, so I know it’s inescapable. And the shame of looking that person in the eye after is just too much, because I already judge myself harshly for being “dirty”, so much so, that one more person looking at me like that would be too much.
Its easier for her to help someone else get rid of their hoard because she is not attached to the other persons things. But getting rid of your own is far more difficult. I'm so glad I am not a collector of things.
Till the hoarder likes or sees value in the other hoarders stuff 😂
When Stelios says there is a little hoarder in all of us, he hasn't met me. I am always looking for things to get rid of. I am a thrower. lol
When there is only one book from my bedroom in the living room, I’ll go a little nuts 🤣
Hoarding is not only about things. It can be about money or people or whatever
Love both of these women helping each other through compassion. Tina's artwork is beautiful.
Hoarders don't need neat freaks, they need each other to help. Who else understands more than they do?
I dread the day I have to do my mums house.
I did my dad's when he died. It all went in the rubbish. Every bit of it. It was so mouldy.
Start saving they have companies to just clean it out.
Spend a day picking out a couple of things you want to keep, then let the company throw everything away.
Your mental health is worth it.
I just noticed a print of a famous painting that I recognized because it is from the Metropolitan Museum of Art in Manhattan. I had the same print when I was a teenager. It's a Unicorn surrounded by a Beautiful garden. There is a Circular fence around the Unicorn......it is very symbolic of this psychological condition. The Unicorn could escape easily from the fence and be free in a Beautiful new place, but is held captive....by it's thinking
The Unicorn in a circle is also a medieval symbol of virility in marriage.
I had that same print in my bedroom when I was a teenager, too! I loved the beauty and complexity of it.
it’s not a painting; it’s a medieval tapestry
from a series of 7 called The hunt of the unicorn, there’s a pretty cool mystery behind them.
did you get to see them in person? i am jealous
I don't have a hoard but I downsized and it helped me to take pictures of family items, it just felt like I still had them. I offered them to family members and any they didn't want went to charity. The things are not your family. I made a point to keep one special item from each person.
This is why I get annoyed at these shows.. what exactly do they do for the person? Your common sense proposal would go a long way in helping them.
What a great idea!
Clearly, Tina's family did NOT want the junk they dumped on her, or they'd have found a way to ship it to Spain. Her mental situation stems from something else, not from a desire to keep things "for" other people.
I like Stelios' he's always so calm, so sharply put together, and he never, ever judges the people he's trying to help. And, since I'm old enough to be his mother, and am no cougar, I'll say that he is one handsome man.
I love Tina’s sense of style and I think her interests are actually really cool. She is so sweet too.
Respect for these people who shared their clutter problems. They are so brave to show and ask for help.
Tina's kitties are so cute awww 🐈🐈🐈🐈
Not only that. They are safe and warm and well cared for. THEY don't care about the clutter.
They look well cared for and happy. They didn't run and hide when guest came over. I don't think they're being neglected like some of the other hoarding videos I've seen
Rest assured... a cat will nearly always emerged from a mountain of " hoader,s treasures" ... they seem to go with the territory😟😏
I knew I had hoarding tendencies without amassing the clutter, but watching this series has shown me why. I'm so thankful I've found it. I hope Dr. Kiosses knows how greatly he's helped people he's never even met.
I love the idea of creating a memory box.
I have always wanted to create boxes of my mother's things while I decluttered, so that at the end, I could go through all of her belongings that are scattered amongst mine, and decide which are the most important to me. Then I will feel like I don't have to hang on to everything, and am keeping the items of hers that are the most important.
I'm excited to start doing this, creating the first memory box of her things.
Also, this show is so much better than the American show, "Hoarders," because there is 6 weeks of therapy in advance, and people aren't expected to part with their hoard in 4 days, starting the day they meet the therapist and clean-up crew. This is much more compassionate and responsible.
Stelios is a good man. You often see his genuine joy over positive outcomes.
When the organizers came into her house, they could have asked Tina what her limits/definitions of what items are worth getting rid of. If she hasnt' worn it in 5 years, or something, and help her to see her limits of holding in her possessions.
Yes, great idea. I heard on another show that it's just fine to have, say, a two-year limit, as not everything gets used every year, such as seasonal items.
I love this program!
Tina and Joanne appear to be such nice people, just a shame to live in such chaotic conditions. Loneliness, isolation, trauma, all sorts of possible reasons. Hopefully shows like this, if viewed by someone going through this can help, be it for themselves or someone in their lives.
Joanne was so truly beautiful saying she is now Tina's friend. So very kind and sweet.
Its wild that an adult would say you're making me feel like my childhood self & therefore you are the problem - as opposed to, damn, I'm an adult still reacting & thinking like a child, I need to change that.
You are so kind Stelios! I'm very proud of you!!Greetings from Greece
As a past horder....the American show is always so angry and yelling and mad ! And they rush these people to trash their things that are a part of them ! I really like the brits way of taking time and being calm and they want recovery .....much better !
In the American show there is way too much overenthusiasm and overkly boosted to-do attitude to declutter as fast as possible. Taking time and being calm can have long term influence of those horders
Yes, I think it is all done that way to maximize profits from the show. It's awful to those being exploited and being hurt by it. Imagine the grief they must feel from items they're forced to give up that they weren't ready to, via compassionate psychotherapy.
The american show has a deadline for the trash hauling company. They just get three days. It's super expensive per truck.
I love Tina and feel such a likeness to her as I have this love of that era and the boho feel she has and childlike memories holding on to what made me feel okay through trauma as a child. Best wishes to these lovely caring souls
i had a load of stuff that i didn't want to part with only because it made me happy to look at it.one day it hit me,if i take pictures on my smart phone i can carry them with me and look at them whenever i want,the ACTUAL STUFF WENT ON A BONFIRE that way i knew i could never retrieve it.life is great now,i'm free. try it,it works.good luck.x
I really like stelios. He is quite creative and what he says makes so much sense.
Love his kind heart and creative mind
I love how this show uses different techniques rather than a rigid cookie cutter rigid approach. The two ladies are quite sweet. Pressuring and criticising hoarders usually doesn’t work as it just ramps up the anxiety and shame. Tinas case was interesting as it showed you can give people tools but they have to make the change themselves. I understand how Tina uses items for memories as I tend to do the same thing as I have a terrible memory and have a fear if I throw an item out I will also “lose” the memory I have associate with it. There are complex reasons for why hoarders feel attached to their things and find it really difficult to let go of things. Helpers fail to understand that when they criticise a hoarder’s “trash” due to their emotional attachment it feels then like a direct personal attack of who they are.
One mindset that helped me to declutter is realising that “save it in case I need it later/could use it later” was faulty because the stress having those items around wasn’t worth the off chance an item may be used years down the track plus in reality the likelihood that I could actually FIND it when I needed it was very low and more than likely I would end up just buying said item. It’s about resetting your mindset and mentality of how you view things. The other method I used was photographing papers and items as a way of remembering rather than keeping/buying the item.
I wonder sometimes why with some people they don't simply take photographs of things. The older woman crying over something that belonged to her grandmother (looked like a duster?)... why not take a photo of her holding that thing, then tell her that she's got the memory - it's in the photo, and she can look at that any time she wants. Then she says, 'Good-bye, grandma' and gets rid of the object, but keeps the photo. Eventually, she shouldn't need to look at the photo to remember her grandmother by looking at a picture of her duster. Wouldn't she eventually realize that the memories are not 'in' the duster or even 'in' the photo, but in her mind and heart?
Transfer the emotional attachment from the object to a photo, and then from a photo to their memory, the inside of their head.
Tina has a great artistic eye. She really needs to rent a building and sell her wonderful stuff. Omg she needs me for a friend!!
I’m guilty of this the amount of jeans tops, hoodies, trainers boots jackets is unreal I had to close down my e- bay and amazon accounts as I was spending a lot of money on stuff
I don’t have any money so to prevent debt (other then overdraft which I need for rent) I simply don’t have any way of paying.
I take out my budget for the month in cash on the 1st and don’t have my cards on me at any point. Even if I got to the till at a shop or the basket online I couldn’t pay for it because I don’t have a card.
Some people might not but I tend to collect a digital image of things I like.
Gonna watch a few more and then I will start to declutter. 😊
They made a big mistake with Tina ! Looks like they're not so much expert. A common mistake is arguing with hoarders why or what to throw.
31:14 here is one example! They are telling Tina "let's get rid of them". This is exactly what *NOT* to do with a person with hoarding disorder.
All thes little articles, train tickets, etc. could make a cool collage or could be incorporated into a painting
Tina’s hair was IMMACULATE every day of thought she was wearing a wig. Her hair made her look so young!
When the old lady cried i cried with her what horrible pain she is feeling and soo sweet.
The younger lady has cool style i can relate with both of them . I have taken pictures of all my papers and certain items then got rid it works GREAT I feel like I still have them because I can look through my digital pics.
Love that Olivia Coleman is narrating this!!
I could listen to her all day!
I’m from east London. I live in Australia now, and I love seeing my people in these English documentaries.
Allison and Zoe look so intimidating, but they’re so sensitive I just wanna cry…
Thank you Allison and Zoe ❤️😭
15:25 finding a community is a very important step to managing depression!
Stelios is a beautiful person, inside and out 👍❤🤗
Thank you for posting.
I would have high anxiety, living like that.
I hope they do a series or an episode of “where are they now” kinda thing as I’m curious as to whether they’ve stuck to decluttering, HAVE decluttered OR stayed the same and/or brought in even more stuff into their homes...
really cant take my mind of Joanne
Wonderful video thanks
Having hoarders help each other is GENIUS!! This should become a real method of treatment for hoarding disorders!!
Tina may benefit from a bit of anti anxiety medication to help take the edge off when she is trying to declutter. I really feel for her.
Visual noise ... I like that
tina's stuff is AMAZING oh my god
Very good show, I want more please!
This made me cry.
Olivia Colman's voice is the cherry on top of the cake
@Matt Hendrix Lee haha thanks, Matt :) I'm from Finland.