When a narcissist sees you as being too strong, this is what they'll do | NPD | Narcissism
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Narcissistic Personality Disorder
They are toddlers trapped in an adult body. They will drain you mentally,emotionally and physically.
I have always said this 👍🏾
And financially
Financially too.
So true
Mine has actually tried to justify herself by comparing her behavior to our 3 year old.
They will accuse you of abuse for standing up for yourself...
1000%!!!
Facts.
So true
My mom is literally doing that right now, picking fights completely unprovoked a week before Thanksgiving but can't handle being called out
Right, and they'll assume they are hero.
I ignore my narcissistic husband, when he tries to berate me I put my fingers in my ears. I have moved out of the bedroom, I keep my door locked, I only speak when it’s absolutely necessary. Meanwhile I’m living my best life and preparing for divorce. I don’t think anyone should learn how to live with a narcissist. They are very sick individuals that only an act of God can heal. RUN!!!
Exactly and congratulations on your new life it only gets better from here.🎉❤
Good for you.
If you're still living with him, please be careful. You may cause severe rage and put you in danger if you're still living together
If I lived with the individual that stalks me. He would find a way to unlock the door. He has broken into my home many times, breaks things that cost me money etc.
This is true. Home should be a safe haven. Putting up my guard all the time has deteriorated my health. Don’t want to do it anymore.
#1 thing to keep in mind- they have amnesia when it comes to anything you've done for them & anything they've done that could be considered hurtful. Total amnesia, delusions, & confabulations are impossible to prove or disprove- that's why they function in those realms...
Or they just out right lie about what happened.
Yeah my husband always lied about whatever situation was going on in the moment. No matter what it was it was always my fault, or when he was backed into a corner and couldn’t talk his way out he’d switch over to another topic or get irate and then blame me that he got irate. Even with my parents helping me to care for our daughter, he would still call and text them spreading all types of insane lies about me. I can only imagine the picture he has painted to those who do not know my side of the story and everything he has put us through. It has definitely gotten easier not giving him what he needs (responses, my anger, my hurt, over explaining when I want him to understand me, etc.). Praying for healing to anyone that has had to or is currently dealing with any form of a narcissist relationship. 🙏🏽❤️🩹
@@theglitterbombmom these people want door mats, scape goats, punching bags- they don't want real adult relationships and are NOT capable of building anything! They're destroyers of all. Leave the situation- as your child grows- they turn to the impressionable kids and will destroy your credibility with your child eventually turning the child against you or at least convincing her to go no contact with you or anyone else who knows the truth. Get into therapy with your baby if you can't leave!!!! Ask me how I know-
@@reneehouser2925 i got a protective order against him a couple of years ago and seperated. Wasn't able tp afford a lawyer then, but I'm currently going through my divorce and therapy over the years has definitely made me so much stronger. Never in a million years did I think I would be able to stand up to him in court. He tried to bully me into signing divorce papers that were his terms only, and he did not win! He has been acting out ever since, but I'm just using the tools I have been given over the years to keep my baby and I sane, and to finally free myself of this marriage.
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We went to court. I walked in with no lawyer while he and his lawyer were present. I just walked in intending to speak my truth and nothing more. Thank the heavens he had to get on the stand first. They pretty much handled the entire hearing without me. He was caught up in some lies and spent the majority of his time trying hard to slander me, which the judge was able to keep flipping back on him. I still havent gotten the final decisions from the judge, but having the strength to go in there alone and not allow him to trigger me or continue to lie on me felt really amazing. There is hope 🙏🏽
💯 truth. My abusive mother swears my childhood was perfect. The truth was there was coldness and neglect alternated with beatings with brooms and shoes. The truth means nothing to a narcissist. 😢
One of the most evil aspects of the narcissist’s behavior, is their ability to convince even those closest to you that they are kind and loving. You end up looking like a paranoid nut
🤣🤣that is so true
😂😂I know!
So true!
💯 Totally
True
A narcissist accuses you of what they are actually doing themselves.
Right, thats called projecting
He did that, yup.
just like white people 😂
They cannot see it in themselves. They are so perfect.
Exactly they are nothing but Commies or Marxists. It's only projection.
When they see you happy and content they will covertly present as create a situation that only you know is meant to affect you in a negative way. They hate seeing people happy.
I agree - they really enjoy other people's misfortunes and, if you're actually having a good life, they'll create a situation and put a negative slant on something so that you think you aren't.
so true ,but what they dont know and believe is that god is all knowing and the power they have is just a test for both of us which we both will be judged based on,how they abused the power god let them hold for a short period of time and how we stand againts their abuse and evil behavior
may god guide them and proctet us from all
Agree.
😭😭😭😭
then that makes it lousy jealousy. Yet why would they want to be like someone they destroyed?
Worst abuse ever.
A lesson learned the hard way.
One thing they love to do is to dress up their malice and contempt as love and kindness and generosity. They give a whole new meaning to killing with kindness.
Yea I loved this comment your so right, their try hards,🤣🤣
Yes, so true, I can imagine there is a lot more history behind your words, and you could never assess in its entirety, the cost of damage to you. I'm sorry this happened to you. I think I know what you have grieved.
You have definately been narc'ed!!!
Amen.
Amen.
The best way to deal with narcissists is not give them the time of day or take them seriously.
Amen. Totally ignore them
Get ghost on that Devil....,....!!!!
Do the Grey rock technique to escape them.
And that's exactly what they ask for
Stonewalling
The one thing that a narcissist hates is when you show them proof of something they've done to others around you in front of the narcissist. That just infuriate the living hell out of them. This way, everyone sees the narcissist true colors and it's never pretty. But the narcissist has to deal with it, and you don't, so don't apologize, period a narcissist doesn't deserve one.
I confronted my ex when she was on a date ( another guy ) in front of her friends. She was so angry. I didnt care because I was being played and I wasn't going down quietly. Nope.
He hated the fact that could make friends easily… he was a very jealous person
Jealous isn’t the word!! This MOFO got upset when I read a book.. 😳
Same. Everywhere that we went she noticed that people knew me and she hated it. She even shamed me for it. She wanted the spotlight at all times.
The Narcs worse nightmare is an educated empath , that can use their manipulation against them ..
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 this is the it
Absolutely!!!!!!!!)
@@LockdownSpinning oh hon...that's a heavy situation to be in. Guard your heart. Spend time alone to recharge. If you believe in God, spill your guts and your feelings and purge. My mom is 86 and is having great difficulties now. However, she is very cooperative - for now.
@@LockdownSpinning It's the same here, but since she's gotten older and disabled she now understands (as do I) that we have to cooperate with each other in order to survive. It helps that she is a Christian because she tries to see it for what it now is. If that makes sense.
At the end of the day it's all about how much I deeply love her, big ole "warts" and all. Very soon she will be greatly missed,
Carry on kiddo. ✌
@@LockdownSpinning Hey - I'm one of those people you can talk with if you like. Well, message with. The only person I talk on the phone with is my 86+ year old mom. 😂 True story.
Edit: P.S. My mom knows everything too. ☺
They try to re-write history or an event that happened to make themselves look like the victim, when in reality, it was them that caused the problem to begin with.
Like Meghan Markle. She's a perfect example of someone with narcissistic personality disorder.
Dee Well said.. they cause their own misery and misery loves company. It's so sick.
OMG! That is sooooo spot on!
Yes, and unless you were threatened in some way with bodily harm, if you allowed yourself to be manipulated, then that's totally your fault. You have nobody to blame, but yourself.
Yes!
Being with my ex narc for the past 6 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I hired a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!
Tell me more about this private detective and his findings! I’m thinking about doing this!
I experienced it😢😢
What did the detective find?
I didn't hear one narcissistic trait described, you people abuse the hell out of words.
Basically a narcissist to y'all is any man who's ever hurt or lied to you.
Cut it out and while you're at it feel free to indent the walls of textual drivel you type online.
I always ck out all recommendations online first
They will discard. If you are "too strong" it means they know that they can't get reality to reflect back that they are in control. Too strong means they can't break you or control you. They will discard you, but before that they will make attempts. If they fail they find somebody new
Truth!! I had a "best friend" do this...they also twist reality to make them look helpless, which is not true!
They actually hold you in contempt for being hurt by their shenanigans... it's messed up.
It never stops surprising me just how many narcissists there are in the world.
@ Mary Harris come and hang out with me sometime. You would not believe the staggering number of narcissist that have infiltrated my life and that are around me at all times. Not just people I know either. We're talking people who run hotels I stay in; people who work at the gas station; people everywhere. I just had the manager of a hotel I stayed at recently keep my $150 deposit that she asked for in cash, claiming I stole a robe and ruined a towel and a pillow with my hair color. She claimed the robe was $50 so I guess they're all fifty bucks each. I had the feeling when I first got there that she didn't want me there for some reason and it only stayed there one other time a few months ago. As I was checking in she accused me basically that's how I took it anyway, of planning to bring a bunch of rowdy people from their sister hotel to party which wasn't even the case and I don't know how she connected those dots. But she did by asking me if I'd ever stayed at that other hotel before and I said yes because I had. She then tells me she doesn't want any people from that hotel coming there when I don't even hang out with people who stay there I just stay there because I like the freaking room that has the jacuzzi in it. The feeling around her felt hostile and accusatory and so I believe now she planned at that point to keep my cash deposit and used anything she possibly could to do so. She was totally nice to me the last time I stay there so I don't know what changed or what happened but she's very threatened by me for some reason. I can't say she's a narcissist for sure but definitely toxic and who does that? Asks for a cash deposit and then makes up stories in order to keep it? This is just one of many many things that has happened to me in recent times and I'm tired of it. I feel like I have a Target on my back and they're all shooting at it.
It's the real pandemic. I completely agree. I grew up surrounded with narc parents, other family and at work, in friends etc. I realize that I was groomed to find them but nonetheless they are everywhere especially when you become more aware to what they are, demonic possessed humans
So many,and too many,trust no one ,till you completely healed,and know/ set/ know your boundaries, then you will see so clearly, and aways walk with God🙏
Read up on the greek Myth of Cassiopeia. The game of creating order from chaos is built using a foil.
There are less then few percent. It just that they are charming and confident and they often have multiple partners.
So it gives the illusion like there is a lot
This is EXACTLY what my husband has done! High schools need to educate kids on how to identify and protect themselves from narcissist abuse.
I agree with you-nobody make us ready for the real life exams.
It sad because it should be a parents job by example and teaching them how to act towards others and themselves. Biblical standards also educate against being high minded, self absorbed and codependent etc. But that starts at home too.
@@justpeachy697
The Bible was written and is populated mostly by narcissists. Cain could have been nice but he wasn't Abel.
@@Martin-sp4zf hahahahaha
@@Martin-sp4zf umhum. Proves my point.
Do the exact opposite of whatever they insist you be, say, behave, etc. Don’t cater to them, say what you mean, mean what you say. When they exceed your boundaries, take immediate action. Don’t lose your cool. When they start yapping, take your keys and leave. You do have control. Do not share your goals, dreams, ambitions. They will thwart your efforts. If you pay attention, are generous and complimentary to others be prepared for jealousy and backlash. Do NOT intertwine you monies. Be prepared to leave in a planned and well timed way. If you are divorcing them, it’ll be a circus, they try to bankrupt you. They are toxic people, they erode your self-confidence, will keep you off-balance and make you question yourself. If you turn the table on them, it’s a bit scary as you feel like to are taking on THEIR traits. Do what you need to do. Protect yourself, be smart, and keep in mind they encourage learned helplessness. It makes you more dependent on them. These energy vampires will suck the energy out of you and it takes a toll on your mental, emotional and psychological health. Educate yourself about these soulless meat suits walking the earth.
Well said!! I was in so-called therapy but very little direct information. This is much more helpful!! I’m presently working on finding a therapist that truly can be helpful. Not sure I need another therapist after listening to this!!! Excellent insight on this video!!!!! Thanks for your insight as well!!!!
@@cathie1234 I wish you the best. Many of these therapists are so uninformed, think it’s a fad. 2 out of 10 people you meet have narcissistic traits, out of 20 people you may find 1 NPD/psychopath (J.D. Tudor on RUclips) fo example catalogs how they operate. Narcissist Chronicles provides the tools you need, the support and examples of how to handle them. 3 years it took me to work through it, get a divorce and spend a fortune trying to escape. Gray Rock conversation is a bit maddening to them. Talk about anything irrelevant to them, they get deeply frustrated if they can’t ruffle your feathers. Some resort to hiding, destroying your things, they are toddlers, lie so much they forget what they said. Document everything. Then go back and read it, you’ll find it’s no wonder you are anxiety ridden, fearful, untrusting, afraid of being alone, co-dependent, financially compromised. Nope, therapists that don’t have a core capability to “get it” dispose of their service bc you are wasting valuable time. Lastly, exercise self-care, establish a routine. Get up, dress up, put on some lipstick, try to get grounded in nature. Why people continue to carry on feeding their egos, not blocking ALL social media, etc is amazing to me. If you have kids, there are CLASSES and instructionals on how to co-parent with these bottom feeders. My gosh, after you get through to the other side, you’ll feel like you got paroled from prison.
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This is terrifying. I’m sickened by the recent realization of how I have been fooled by a covert.🤯
Outstanding! Spot on 💯
If you absolutely have to “deal” with a narc, I would recommend to keep firm bounderies, and keep your distance at the same time. As a second choose on how to deal with the narcissist I would recommend keeping firm boundaries and also to correct them every time they missteps, lie, manipulates etz. When your boundaries are not respected by the narcissist, you need to follow through with consequenses of bad behaviour. You will have your hands full going forward this way. When following through with consequenses to their “re”actions, you explain to the narc, that you are not one of the narc`s victims. You have no intentions of becoming one but will be a nuisance to the narcissist in a way that is irritating to him/her. This method is not risk free but narcissists will often choose the path of no or low resistance. This method is a time consuming path to chose. This route sometimes require more time than you would like to spend on these issues. You feel that distancing yourself all together would have been easier. That is however not always possible. Often there is no way to avoid him/her. You unfortunately have to deal with the narcissist because you are colleagues or close family. You must think through what you need the narcissist to respect and what arias of conflict you must pay extra attention to, to keep your integrity and to detect manipulative behavior. Be prepared and clear in your communication and stick to your guns. Try to stay under the radar as much as you can, even when this method is the best for you. A way that works as well is to play along with the narcissist and act like you agree with everything they do and say. This method works well until many people in the narcissists sphere do the same. When everyone agrees with the narcissist you are back on square one. The narcissist must have victims and this setting is no different. To go NO Contact is another good alternative and method, and is probably the best option when it is possible to cut all contact permanently. Additionally, If you’re like me you might want to consider monitoring your partner device it can be done through a variety of methods such as setting up a dedicated app or else you get in touch with this private investigator Metaspyhub@gmail. com that is genuine to make your request done successfully with 100% guarantee.
I need
Always put the blame on you or someone else! They are never wrong!😊
Absoutly devastad by the way they are like one of the comments children
Imaturity
To cover all there threats
And deciet.
Why l do not know
But lm destroyed by this attitude.
Loved one s die at there
Selfish behaviour.
Marie
Right i hate this!
@@mariehargreaves3674 knnn
Or they accuse YOU of being paranoid, thinking everybody's out to get you, when you react to the bullshit they themselves are responsible for creating.
Their version of being wrong is similar to this" I was wrong for believing you were the kind of person I could trust" so, it's not really a personal wrong, it somehow still tries to blame you lol
When they realised you are so strong and no longer blinded by their lies .
They will use the childrens, because the kids are the only thing that matters to you
Heartbreaking 😞
You're right another manipulation to hurt you they are poison and selfish basterts
@@marykacollins9191
Yes they are
I know that narcissist are not human .
They are DEMONS POSSESSED PEOPLE
So true!
Mine tells my oldest 7 and 11 yo daughters that I am selfish, don't love them and I only love and care about their 4 yo brother. He tells them I didn't want girls and wasn't happy to have them. After 11 years of questioning myself why he treats me like a garbage I found an answer online. When I confronted him and told him that I know what he is he treated me as I didn't exist at all. Silent treatment, no reply even to message despite us living under the same roof. Lifelong atheist started going to church yet I still see what pile of garbage he is. Everyday is a struggle for me: depression, anxiety, zero self esteem, no energy or desire to do anything. House became a mess and I hate myself for that. Just his presence drains me.
Biggest sin of all using the children. Bad karma coming to the person doing this to you and your children
When a narcissist tries to clone your appearance, they are hoping to become the person who they are jealous of and admire.
Unfortunately they cannot duplicate the other aspect of that cloned identity, because they lack the character that gets the respect they are needing more than anything!
Bingo 🎉❤
You are so right!
So right ✅️
Thank you for sharing your 👍 to the truth. You need to find your own path….
Never letting your guard down with your whole family is extremely exhausting! I’m tired!
I read your comment and thought it was mine!
I think the worse is having a narcissistic mother as there is no escape from the damage from that kind of abuse.
I escaped mine. Fortunately she isnt my biological mother, and is in rapid decline after i exposed her. I still think, i was quite kind considering what she did and the pain and damage she caused.
I agree with you. I have also gone through this
My grandmother was like this.
Unless you are the son. I was and none of that crap stuck to me. However I cannot read a woman for beans, I always get run over by modern women. They fool me quite easily! well at least 6 years ago they did. I stoicly observe all now and keep my head on a swivel. Clown world gonna get really crazy soon. Keep safe and observant. These spirits are everywhere now.
No matter what, she is your mother, she gave birth to you. She may need help or maybe your the narcissistic one
Many heartfelt hugs to all who are suffering due to someone's NPD. I thought I had the worst situation, but after reading the comments on this page, my heart goes out especially to those who have really horrible situations, especially situations involving kids. GROUP HUG INSERTED HERE FOR ALL WHO'VE BEEN DEGRADED, USED, ABUSED, AND STRESSED OUT TO THE MAX BY NPD.
Thanks for the hear felt message and the same to you.
Same to yourself remember there actors and cowards, God bless us all 🙏
yes, the level of humilitation is UNREAL how low these creatures can really really go..my heart is also for the people invlving kids..Oh My God..I pray and I respect forever any survior from narcisist abuse. You must feel PROUUUD as this is not easy and I do not think everyone escapes safetly and alive from this type of cases. I am still amazed I survived..the cruelty is unreal and sadism and gaslighting..
I have lived 47 years with an NDP husband. It has been hail but after listening to you and other people am relieved and now know how to treat him. Thats if I can hang on for a while. I have nothing because of him no progress at all but missery. Thank you for you.😢
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You can break free, it doesnt matter if its a parent or relative or who ever, you dont have to subject yourself to people who upset you. Stay clear.
I have an adult son with autism who has three year old mentality. Can't simply get away from abusive narcissist mother of son.
They continue to abuse and terrorize their children into adulthood, seeing them as personal property whose purpose in life is merely to shower them with adoration and to relentlessly cater to them while taking the blame for everything. The rage when an adult child refuses to comply with them and imposes consequences for their disgusting behaviour is spectacularly unhinged; facts simply don't matter to these people, and you cannot convince them that their children even have basic human rights they have to respect.
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The thing that ultimately defeats a narcissist is their own Karma. What they put out always returns to them….if not in an an exact form, then in a form of equal value….I’ve seen it time and again, and beyond coincidence.
Remember, the world is your mirror, what you see is the result of your beliefs, intentions, thoughts and actions. If you don’t like what you see in your experience, then change your beliefs, thoughts, or intentions and actions and your world and people around you will change…it’s physics.
Best answer on the internet.
Yep I actually got to see my ex narc suffer both physically and financially
Perhaps,but lyfe is short ,why waist it on such people.?
@@stevenlight5006 You aren't wasting time when picking up pieces of the carnage these people leave you to deal with. Saying someone is wasting time is insulting.
Agree 100%. They are defeated by the same sword they wield.
Before I was with the narc,I was a super strong woman, he beat me down mentally and emotionally, it was never physical,we disagreed on things,but his anger never got out of control,he was either too scared of me or he hid it. When he discarded me,I felt like I was trash and have been working on my self esteem and loving myself for 8 months since the discard. Turning your back away from the narc is not easy, bc they manipulated you into thinking you were their number 1 and would not leave you,as a result of that they love bomb you and form a trauma bond with you,so you feel stuck and you won't want to leave them. They are not worth your breath and I'm sorry they are a waste of space on this earth,they're very evil and enjoy leashing physical and emotional and mental pain on you. RUN FROM THE NARC!!! YOU ARE JUST A MEANS TO AN END!!! YOU ARE AN OBJECT TO THEM,NOT A PERSON.
Thieves is what they are. Mentally, materially spiritually, every way they can steal from you.
😢😢😢😢same here only it was a female narcissist and she made me go broke and nearly drove me over the edge
💯 agree….you are nothing more to a narcissist than an APPLIANCE !!!!!!!!!!
Same here.. I was a very strong woman with a strong carácter before. I let my guard down this time. His nice gestures confused me and I ignored the red flags.
@@Not-the-usual-BS.... Ask yourself this one question? What was you attracted to... Answer that you are already half way there. 🙂
I have been hated by my friends for standing up to a narcissist before! I lost my entire college circle. I don't regret losing them now though! My mental health is more important.
Dealt with one recently and it's beyond belief how everyone around them doesn't even know them or know those lies and emotional manipulation tactics.
Exactly!!! I spoke to close friends and all one could say is he’s been like this since they were kids. Okay now we are grown, tell that man his mind is gone lol. Idk, but I lived with my narc for 6 yrs and have been gone any four months, I see his fb post abt me and they are so many lies idk. It’s like he still drives me crazy even when I’m not with him
@@christinad6650 And in my case that i am like a polite person and respect People of all kinds races no matter what but i have a short fuse so once my bag is full and i see that is not an isolated act its a pattern i take action and say things like they are , and still they are capable of make you look to evryone like wrong to act towards the disrespect the neglect the minimizing the invalidating beyond belief and i study psychology since i was 17 so it is mind boggling no one can see it .
Once a narcissist can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you.
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Who cares?
@@billmurray5521 Attempting to interfere with the reality of another person is by definition abuse. I hope that helps.😊
@@beachybird1251 Well said. My 'mother' actually went so far as to spread ridiculous lies to all my aunts, uncles, cousins and anyone else who would listen, in an effort to alienate me and keep them from hearing any truth about her. This went down after I finally found my voice later in life and became a perceived threat to her. As for those foolish relatives who bought her deranged nonsense, I thank them for helping me to accept that I must have been switched at birth - there is just too much evidence of stupid genes throughout those people.
You are absolutely correct - this kind of nonsense is abusive.
Karen
That’s correct they know people are swayed so easily by what they hear (lies/gossip) and how powerful it is they a,so know who to use as a megaphone and when to do it….. it something that compassionate people just don’t do …. They are trash
Absolutely!!!!
The best antidote for a narcissist and generally what everyone should have before going into any relationship is knowing that you are enough. Let the earth shake with your self-worth and let every fiber of your being bear witness with you that you are ENOUGH. Anybody that cannot see you in this light should not be allowed access into your life. Period. Having being a victim of narcissistic abuse, I honestly cannot wish it on my enemy. No one deserves to go through the mental trauma this thing brings.
Excellently stated 👏🏻💯💯🔥🔥🔥
I SO AGREE!
You are so very right
Well said.
This is my exact point of view: I cannot wish this not even on my enemy. Every person who survives narcisism abuse-5,5 years in my case done by an ex manager harrassment, gaslighting, prohibited to get a job, lost my apartement, my friends..I did not know these creatures exists on earth..I knew nothing about narcisism or psychopathy...0 help from police, friends, sister ANYONE...took a tool on my mental health but I have become very religious I was but now..I am very close to God.
My mom and older siblings are still trying to abuse me even at the age of 38. It doesn't affect me anymore. They are treating me the same way they treated my dad before he passed. I notice it and they know I noticed it. I just use it to my advantage now. It is funny to see them try to get me mad and not succeed.
Why do you stay around? Life has so much more to offer than other peoples' psychotic drama. And for me, when I would meet people, it was all I could talk about, because that was my life, so new acquaintances would get away from me asap.
38 too here. Just went no contact with my sister 2 months ago.
I am so glad I understand what narcissism is noe. I learned it last year after dating a girl with narcissism. The girl was lovebombing me the first month but got very toxic, abusive and aggressive soon after. I blocked her and tried to understand her behaviour. I thought she had BPD first.
After I read about narcissism I finally understood why my sister acts very similar.
Damn. How many years I suffered. Time to heal and build myself up.
Guys! I am two weeks out of moving out of a bad situation with a narcissist and it's been the most positive and happy two weeks I've had in years in spite of how stressed I am!
Edit: 5 weeks out and it has gotten sooooo much better even more! I feel more myself, less anxious, less stressed and mentally chaotic, and it's been so nice not having heard hateful things said to me in over a month.
Don't be stressed. You will start a new life. Beware of attracting another one. Time to go forward and live a happy life. Don't let another like this back in to your life. There are good times out there. It is always hard leaving this situation behind but when you look back you'll be glad.
It keeps getting better and better, too. Enjoy the journey❤
@@janetmalcolm6191 thank you so much for the kind words!
@@sfc5774 thank you! I am now 5 weeks out and my life has continued to dramatically improve! My well being is like night and day. I can't believe how awesome it is to have that element of my life not causing me to so much stress and pain.
Thank you all for the encouragement!
@@aethrya You might find things tough but you will get your self esteem back and peace of mind. No relationship is better than a bad one. I truly think that.)You will get things together (if you haven't already) and remember you are no 1 now. If you are happy you will attract happiness. Even bad situations don't last forever usually. You will be on track onwards and upwards. Good luck for your new future.
best way to deal with them? respond as little as possible to their words or actions, until you can safely leave permanently. everything you say and do will be used against you.
So many narcs use religion as a cover.
Like my mom. She will act like she believes in god, yet she is heartless.
True..
@@remybuitenhuis2433
OMG so so true! My mother yells and screams at me including gaslighting about how disrespectful I am towards her. I asked her if I’m the only one of her children she treats the way she does? She started to hurl insults at me. She told me how bad of a communicator I am by how I often I repeat myself while telling stories. I laughed and said this conversation is not good for me and I ended the conversation. She’s very active in her church…
@@remybuitenhuis2433there are two gods in this realm. The real one that most if not all people serve obey and accept and the real one that has never stopped providing.
Its so true 😢
Is anyone else here because their partner called them a narcissist? After watching this I’m convinced my partner is the narcissist.
If you ask yourself this question am I a narcissist??your probably not because they don’t ask themselves that question
I really appreciate your advice, I'm in a battle with 4 narcissistic people and I'm fighting for my grandmother's human rights
They will dismiss you. They will assume they are being attacked whenever you disagree with them voicing their hate for others. Staying calm and unaffected is the only way to live through any encounter with said narc.
Don't entertain a clown or you become part of their circus...I DON'T CARE about how they feel... period..if they choose to behave that way ( and it IS a choice) then I will tear them down in ways that if anything might jar them n hopefully they will decide to want something better ..do NOT let ppl make you think that it's not something that they can change..that's a bunch of BS
Do not fight back, just get away!!!
Never tell a narcissist your secrets! Or any significant personal information. Keep it casual and tell them you don't want to hear any gossip. Period, no venting to me either, keep it positive only, they don't like that, then go no contact.
So sadly true. I had to leave my narcissistic sister after 72 yrs of her berating me. I believed her. We were born on the same day, BUT I was born on her birthday. No contact since she told me November 2021 that I was permitted to call her, but not to go visit. I said, "Goodbye and I won't call " I did not even go to my little sister's funeral because I knew she would be there. My little sister's husband said, "She behaved herself " Incredibly sad to live with this.
@@daveedwards7366 Agreed! There is no fight back. They don't even care enough to even try to understand how you feel. I tried for 70+ years to be good enough. Nope!
The only way to deal with a Narcissist is to ignore them completely and stay one step ahead of their BS, their flying monkeys, and their water bugs... Keep your family and friends far away because the narcissist will want to follow you to all your gatherings.
Leave them home alone to deal with themselves. The less people they know, the better you are.
They will only do to your friends what they have done to you.
"water bugs"??? Wut?
Before i go through all that. His ass would have to go!
I don't eat in the lunchroom at work anymore.
My ex added like 8 of my friends as soon as we were official because "they just came up in people you may know" and I believed him. 😔
Flying monkeys are everywhere--' these days '
One of the famous go to phrases of the narcissist is, "I don't know what you're talking about ",when called out on their b.s.One of the key things covered here is to "Never let your guard down ",the ability to character assassinate someone they've targeted with other associates and colleagues. Being the cowards that they are, they will wait until the person has left the room,laughing and talking with them, before they begin their tactics to discredit and destroy that person's reputation. They genuinely hate everything that they can't manipulate and control. They are so sick that if you escape their control and manipulations, you are going to be attacked repeatedly by them.
It is truly the worst, most heartbreaking and absolutely mind boggling what being married to a narcissist will destroy anybody’s life including her children, showing just how sick she really is.
As an adult I got very sick and had to move home for several years. My father has always been abusive. I started standing up to him and after him telling me twice that he would hit me in the face if I didn't shut up, I left and called the police. I had warned him not to threaten me and if he did I would call the police (big tactical error on my part). I found out later that he called attorneys and was going to try to claim ELDER abuse. They are total cowards and will go to any lengths to destroy you.
Oh wow... one time when I was 1st an adult, my younger brother and his friend wanted to stay the night while I was out of town.. so I let them. My brother was around 15 at the time. Well my dad came to my apartment complex, spoke to my manager... saying that I was harboring runaways and trying to get me kicked out of my home and in trouble with the law. I literally was two towns away and had no idea what was going on? I was doing my kid brother a favor not trying to hide him. My dad was very verbally and occasionally physically abuse to all us kids so I assumed my brother just need a break from his house and he left my house the very next day before I even returned home. I totally feel for you... narcissists are the worst!! I have been zero contact with him since 2020.
Omg...I know exactly what you mean. My 93 yr old father is like that. They never quit with their shenanigans!!!
Sad.
Best thing is to go dark. Move, get a new job. Don't get mail at your address, get a p.o. or UPS box. I had one who stalked me for 15 years. Now there is another one my ex landlady's drug addicted nephew who claims he was in the military. I don't think he has ever worked he has always lived with her. He put tracking equipment on my car. I am going to build my case on this dirtbag and if the local cops can't help, I will go to the feds because he uses and sells drugs. I am done with this crap. I pray his aorta ruptures and he dies when he smokes his crack or someone shoots him or runs him over. Maybe I can get state or federal legislation enacted when this is over and done with.
One day my narc mother pushed me and I pushed her back. She didn't fall barely looses a step but she called the police on me. When the police arrived I told them she pushed me first and she agreed ( she thinks that because she's my mother she has the right to abuse). The cops told her that's she's lucky all I did was push back and that they would have responded the same way I did 😂. She was sooooo embarrassed. It was awesome
If you think you may be with a narcissist, get out and run as fast as you can. You may feel love for them and it may hurt to leave but it’s the best thing you can do for your own well-being. Give them the chance and they will do their best to destroy you, your relationships with family and friends and you will end up doubting your own sanity.
So true. I lost my best friends, I lost my sister. I was alienated from everyone and finally I was a broken down heap of nothing until one day a teenager told me I’m involved with a narc. A Flippin teenager had to tell my 42 year old self. She told me to look on RUclips. I never saw her again. And now I’m back. No more BS. But what a journey I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy
Im so hurt, scared and betrayed of thinking this person was good but im an idiot for not leaving sooner, I had no knowledge of this love bombing, and all these other slimy tricks they use. Im in process of running and its not easy but can't wait till im free. 😢
@@joekara Best advice I could give you is to keep focused on your future. Don’t be sucked back in. Took me a while to get my life back together but the struggle was worth it. Very happy and content now and wouldn’t change it for anything. You can get there too.
@@slumdogjay thanku, I feel like im gonna get sucked back to the friendship but I hv to realise the abuse and actually stick to my boundaries of why I needed to leave in the first place.
@@joekara Exactly. Sounds like you are on the right track. When you feel you may be getting sucked back in just think about how bad things got. Also think about having to start all over again if you did go back. You would just be wasting more time which would be better spent focusing on yourself and making a better life. It’s not easy but it really is worth it in the end. You will get through this and be a stronger happier person for it in the end. I sincerely wish you the best of luck. You can do it.
The shallowness of the narcissist's character is its own weakness in gaining total control over others.
A narcissistic sibling who is trying her best to get close to my sons , so she can pretend to be a nice person. She is pure evil has no conscience or boundaries. Has 2 failed marriages because of this toxic behavior...
I pray for my children everyday ...
The endless games are so wearying. They can be so cruel.
The part about slandering you to people who know you is often not spoken about, they can also slander you to people in their circle who know you too to get them on side.
I'm still shocked how believe the nac when they know you I've had to walk away from everyone
And If people are comfortable agreeing with the narc it clearly shows they didn’t know me at all. Soo not my loss
The best way is walk away that's the best medicine 😮
My prayer is that narcissistic personality disorders should be included in the diagnostic manual for mental disorder because their behaviour towards their victims can be damaging.
Their behaviour is a public health hazard. It should be put on list of top 5 diseases to eradicate.
Most seek vulnerable people and nice and with good character in order to destroy the person. Most need extreme help.
I could not agree more
It's an unbelievable thing to read the comments below and realize that people who are strangers to me are going through the SAME, EXACT THINGS I'm going through. I can tell by reading one-sentence comments the types of CRAP this person has gone through. My heart goes out to all who are suffering and victimized by narcissism.
Im convinced behind every insane person there is a narcissistic abuser.
My older brother got trapped into marriage by a narcissist. He had plans to go to art school which meant leaving town. She got pregnant and I believe she planned it to trap him. I remember she would constantly say Infront of my brother she gave up her dream to work as a stenographer and gave it up for Steve when she got pregnant. In reality he gave up his dream for her and she manipulated him into marriage.
It’s true narcissists are insecure and their control and authority hides that deep secret ❤
What are they insecure about
@@gloriakutumela3150 it’s different for every person - we all have our own unique insecurities. a narcissist will mask theirs and push them off onto another people contest is whatever that person is always projecting onto you. It’s probably their insecurity.
@@gloriakutumela3150 Who knows. They will never share that. There are some that make up sorry stories to share with you, to get you to share something personal and real.
My brother beat me and say it's my fault that made him do it, what does this mean😢 should I cut ties
Took me 40-something years to realize my lil old Black mother, who sits in the front pew at church, is a narcissist. As Black children-especially male children-we are not taught to be critical of our mothers. Society teaches us to rip our Black fathers to shreds; but we never examine our mother’s behavior…
Furthermore, the stereotype of a narcissist is that of a well-educated, sophisticated, successful white male. But there are a lot of Black mothers with high school diplomas working as secretaries and grocery store cashiers who are narcissists.
I am Greek and it was the same for me. You Americans are so annoying with your race. What happened to you and me is a human thing, ok?
Somehow I feel sorry for your mother. I hope she's safe. Where's your daddy?
@@LK-ii6xu My father passed away, even as my parents were married nearly 50 years…Somehow, without the benefit of a college education, he, my father, being our family’s primary breadwinner, managed to put two (2) boys (my brother and I) through private, parochial middle- and high schools, and even help support us in university. So please save your phony compassions.
Like it or not, there are some horrible Black mothers out here, absolutely diabolical. One need only look at the state of our community, the pews of our churches, inside the prisons, there’s a common thread running through each-Black children born out-of-wedlock raised by single Black mothers. Statistically speaking, we know that is the greatest indicator of troubled young adults: teen pregnancy; criminal activity; mental and behavioral problems; underemployment; unemployment; lack of education; drugs…
We spent the previous forty (40) years, the Oprah morning talk show era, examining the role of Black fathers, or lack thereof; it’s past time we do the same for Black mothers.
There’s a reason so many of today’s educated, “successful” Black men raised by single Black mothers are becoming “Passport Bros”… can’t blame all of it on colorism; some of them had mothers who were nothing short of evil.
That's sad but interesting. Sorry for your loss of a hard working Dad! Sorry for your bad experiences! May the Lord heal you 🙏
@kisswriters, much of the problem is "absent" Blk fathers. It's easy to point the finger at the single Blk mother, when in actuality, a people group meets its demise when the man (the supposed head) is out of order.
I do hope you work through your anger and heal. If males operate from a bitter place, no passport in the world will help them to attract a good woman who is mentally and emotionally healthy.
(I'm glad you admit that passport bros have mommy issues)
Triage technique: they cultivate a connection in order get leverage and try to turn someone close to you - a client, a colleague - against you. They look for a chance or create a scenario to allow them do that, often playing victim at the same time. Yep, been on the end of that one. They are pure trouble and controlled by malicious entities. Best and only recourse generally - if its possible - is to leave their orbit before they do too much damage.
You’re right! They enjoy watching you plead to be understood. I explained myself for decades to my narc dad and sister in so many ways that my intentions were good when I was accused of doing something and found myself at wits end constantly. It took me to my late 50’s to realize they don’t want to “understand” and they liked watching me defend myself. It was like their feeding frenzy. The cognitive dissonance is awful. Especially when it’s your blood family of origin, and they lie, embellish and make you the bad guy….always 😢
You sound like me, with the exception of my dad .. it's my sister that has been using me as her mindless slave starting at the age of 11 , shi twelve years older than me so for the past forty years of my life I've had to walk on egg shells so as not have the wrath that she would lash out on me , she also did that to our mom throwing tantrums.
Now not only do I have my narcissist sister but her flying monkey of a husband to deal with during holidays which I'm already dreading 😟
@@kencarson7310 oh I’m so sorry! I haven’t had contact with my dad or sister in 3-4 years now, and our holidays have been so much better. It’s difficult to go no contact, but so worth it. God bless you!
I understand what you are saying. I had to finally say “that’s it” when my father refused to do anything about my narc sister and cut contact. It took me almost 50 years to do it and I wasn’t speaking to either one of them for the next 18 months until he died. I went back for the funeral for one day and then skipped back out again. It was sad that he refused to defend my mother and I from her. Would I make the same decision to go no contact even 7 years after he died and 9 years after I made the decision, you bet. It preserved my sanity.
@@bmbutler2 thank you for your message. I would imagine it was hard going to the funeral. I just don’t know what I will do when that time comes, or even when someone from the family passes away, because my dad has smear campaigned against me with such crazy lies. It’s like darned of you do, darned if you don’t. But they are the pretenders, and their flying monkeys and fans they have bought are fooled for whatever money or pity they are throwing out there. It’s all a shame.
God bless you
Sorry to hear that, even with what I deal with now I can't imagine what you've been through mentally.
I had no idea my coworker was so famous. Clearly this is 100% about him.
Thank you for your videos. With an Overt Narcissist first he may make promises to change then when that does not work, aggression, and physical violence. He will try to get you back under his control by any means necessary. You are his property no matter how many times he has cheated and left you. I had to leave the state making it more difficult for him to have access to me. This narc traveled to where I was living 5 states away and tried to drag me back cave man style. I have read that the lesser narcissist has poor cognitive function and low impulse control. Some are even capable of rape when they suffer a narcissistic injury. While I believe all narcissist can lash out violently when enraged and suffering from a narcissistic injury it is even more so with the lesser. My experience with this narcissist was even if we separated and he had moved on with a new supply source he would still come around to make sure I was not seeing anyone. If I happened to start dating he became violent even when he was engaged with someone new. Most narcissist when they are love bombing a new supply source will not want the one they discarded in the picture at least in the beginning of his new relationship. If they are engaged with a new supply source and still Hoovering you for fuel they have a sadistic streak. This narcissist cheated throughout the entire marriage. He engaged in triangulation with his first wife. She was a constant in our marriage until her suicide. The Covert Narcissist may try to come back after they have been involved in a few relationships which did not work out. When they try to come back they are low on supply and suffering from depression because of a loss of narcissistic supply. They love to tell you about the relationships they have been in and now they are smearing the person they left you for. They may tell you the person they have been in a relationship with has been abusing them. The Covert may apologize for all his past transgressions and the way he discarded you. He will have an excuse as to why he was so abusive and cruel at the end. It can play with your mind wondering if he is truly sorry. He can even have tears. You have to remember the tears are for himself. He is down and out with no available supply source. You must remember how he was at the end when he discarded you and the mask came completely off. He will seem desperate to keep you around as the Hoover takes place. And he is desperate for narcissistic supply. This is a midrange narcissist I’m talking about here and although very capable of violence he needs to put on a good show to convince you he really is a good person. This narcissist really does believe he is a good person and needs others to see him as such. If you see through this narcissist and don’t buy his story he may leave you alone. He will slink away like the snake that he is in search of new supply sources. Narcissist don’t like to waste their energy and when he sees you are not buying into it he is forced to search out new supply sources. I say forced because it is life or death to him to keep the false construct in place. In order to keep the false self in place he needs narcissistic supply. He needs the admiration of others or he ceases to exist. When you no longer buy the lie he will move on. Covert Narcissist do not display the open grandiosity of the Overt. While the Overt seems full of confidence the Covert lacks self esteem. The Covert will use a lot of pity plays working on your sympathetic nature. He wants you to feel sorry for him. The Covert is a coward. In any case Overt or Covert they suffer a narcissistic injury when they are rejected by an ex. They think they own you for life. In both cases I left the state when my marriages ended:) Additionally there is no way you can be too sure that your spouse isn’t cheating behind your back. The only way you can be sure if your spouse is cheating on you or not is “TO FIND OUT“. Get to find out about a cheating spouse with evidence to prove it by spying their mobile and thereafter gaining access to all the things they might have been hiding away from you. If you need to find out about a cheating spouse; send a request to: *Metaspyhub@gmail. com*
Narcissist is too good of a word to describe a coward.
Seems like today we are living with more narcissistic behavior it's scary because they can get you fired and hurt your career. I moved on but have trauma and don't trust people as much.
Check out 2 Timothy 3 in the Bible. It’s a very short chapter that explains this generation in an amazing way…
Unfortunately it is not going to get better, but there is hope given by the author of it.
The very middle verse of the Bible is:
Psalm 118:8 It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man.
Worse when it’s members in your family.
I was targeted and my contract was not renewed. A year later the narc minion and narc supervisor fell out, and minion was fired.
@@tommyparkerparkerI agree to a point, except on the job you can’t avoid them or go no contact, unless you quit.
@@salliegallegos918 True to that.
If you’re a strong person, you pose an immediate threat to narcissists, at which point they will try to pull stunts other than usual.
Stay alert and aware of their nonsense.
Very well said!!
He caught me at a vulnerable time. They look fir that. They want to be your hero. Slowly but surely. You will realize they are not partners. In there head you work for them. Very very selfish people. Truly no regrets
It's amazing how truth comes out every day! Thank you Lord!😊🎉
Married to one. He didn't count on the Sicilian Italian wife would get in his face. I tell him like it I'd. He hates my strong personality. Lol
"The narcissist's goal is to gain their trust, so they may treat them like mindless servants." Yes. This is where I have blindy been in my marriage the last 19 years. I always wondered why he never trusted me, why he treated me like a lower being that wasn't capable of standing in my own two feet. Constantly criticizing, making me feel stupid. Cutting down my self esteem and being verbally and emotionally abusive. His needs always came first and he always had some logical reason why they should. It makes me sick that he did this to me and that it took me so long to try and get out with my kids. Narcissists are controlling, underhanded, two-faced lying a-holes who will suck the life of of you until you literally have nothing left to give, and then they will try to take more. Don't let it get as far as I did.
26 years married to a narc who is now my ex for going on 6yrs. I know how you feel, they steal your youth, vitality, and mind. I’m glad you got out. May we both find the peace that we deserve.
Just like my last boss. It took me two years to figure out what was going on and I did so much research I could write a book on narcissism. I actually believed all his lies and manipulation until I had my eyes opened to narcissism. Best day of working there was two years ago today when I left him a resignation letter and the door key while he was out of town not knowing that he was walking back into our game of chess with me making the “checkmate” move. I work at a great place now with great people. That guy? He’s gone through 3 employees besides myself in those 2 years.
I do hope you get out soon, it took me 26 yrs to get out. Fortunately he already had a girlfriend at work so he didn't spend to much time trying to track me down
@@bmbutler2 good for you!! Perfect way to leave. Narcs are everywhere, unfortunately.
@@Kathleen253 glad you got out. Peace and continued healing for you 🙏🏼.
I wish the internet and podcast like this were available 40 year ago. It would have saved me 23 years being married to a narcissist . I was strong. After 23 years I manifested physical symptoms including panic attacks from not having control of my own life. Good for YT.
I am right there with you 🤗🤗
I have the same symptoms, but was with him for 22years not married, he game me and trick me
I am now chronically ill and have shingles from the stress
I lost everything from being with a narcissist. God lifted me back up though. The narrator is right. They will destroy your life and steal everything. The worst are the ones with money because the flying monkeys will really help them because they are money motivated even if they know the person is a narcissist. Friends and family will become corrupted. You become the monkey in the middle and can't get out, they will pick away at your flesh and soul. Narcissists are from the Devil
Narcissist desires nothing more than to be in power and control.
Let's first state that a lot of people make poor excuses for their bad behavior and will say this is just how they are. So don't ever accept poor behavior as just how they are because they're making excuses. There's no reason to treat people poorly.
Narcissistic tactics can consist of trying to make someone look Narcissistic.
Isn’t it amazing quite how many narcissists there are.
Amazing, Hell no😅they need to vanish or have their heads re-examined by the creator. Disturbing is how I view the amount of deranged narcs there are in the world!
And there seems to be a lot more of them around.
Theres more awareness, and honestly social media became a narcissist breeding ground. Social media , embracing the false image and their false self i feel like made this whole new type or made a potential much more likely to become one.
Yep time wasters
Its crazy bcos you cant create a healthy relationship anymore . Either you make a relationship that drives you crazy or you stay alone and enjoy the silence. I agree with the person that said this about social media. Fuckin instagram promotes perfectionism of human body, of human life etc. Many people are aware and dont get caught in the trap but its sad because many people without critical thinking fall in this trap and they become a very dangerous narcissistic spiece.its crazy because narcs are mentally weak af and they appear as strong mentally.please stay away from instagram and have a better and stress free life guys !!! Also dont fall for the red flags . Narcissism is fuckin serious and its everywhere nowadays.
One of the biggest and easiest things to see quickly and notice without fail is that they have severe immediate Amnesia when it comes to remembering the wrongdoings or misgivings that they may have done only a day or even a hour before. And the inflated sense of ego. - thats the two best advising comments.
Accuse you of being controlling when you ask to be treated with respect and dignity and kindness. Accuse you of being manipulative when you express your pain or cry when they mistreat you. Try to convince you that you are in the wrong for feeling like they don’t care when they clearly show no empathy and refuse to change the behaviors that are hurting you. Will give the silent treatment or just completely stonewall you when you point out any wrong doing that they have committed. 😢I know from experience and it slowly kills you inside. It strips away every bit is self confidence and self value and leaves you so empty and feeling weak.. it’s psychologically damaging. You will question your own reality and wonder if you really are the crazy one if you really are the problem. And yet it’s only with them that you react the way you do and it’s only with them that you feel so low.
Excellent Thoughts! They helped me immensely
Christina: EXACTLY-well said
👍
Thank you for this. Helps a ton
Exactly ! You nailed it !
Slander and lie on you. They hate your light
That's what he did!!@
My mother-in-law is a narcissist. Every time she visits, it's so emotionally draining and overwhelming. At first I had no idea what was going on, I didn't understand what was happening.... I've only recently began to discover what this was all about. More people need to talk about this and make this known. It plays with your mind, that's for sure. Thank you for your vid and your information.
@Cherished Cat Lover It's the worst.... like, just leave me alone! Sheesh.
@Cherished Cat Lover Absolutely! I always have to abide so close to Him after a visit just to get back to where I was before she came!
*my ex's mom in law was very toxic & snarky*
I finally figured out why I felt so drained every time I visited my sister. Yep
OmG same with me!! Now m staying in other country and No contact with her! Freedommm!
A week before i had surgery. I was very nervous.
He dosent have a clue.
I said .. "didn't anyone teach you how to comfort a woman " He said why do you need comforting?
Unbelieveable. My heart closed up.
Thats them to a t piss the bed and blame the blanket .. im sorry you had to go through that
Mine is severely like this. I hadn't encountered it before. I thought he was autistic.
It is like there is something missing in his personality. It is really strange.
@@Nylon_riot same thoughts i had but no just pure evil. Mine has a propensity of violence and rape and murder towards women he supposedly loved. Rip diane nichol xx
Folks: Don't make yourselves victims of children trapped in adult bodies.
If it happens, as it happened to me, realized the only thing more pathetic than being a child in an adult's body; is being the victim of a child in an adult's body, so then act accordingly.
No One makes themselves a victim....No One!!!!!
@@tiathompson6674 Victimhood is a matter of perspective.
When you understand them, you can turn their games around on them. The best situation is when they try to turn others against you, then you use that same group to expose the person by reverse engineering their game (they'll plant seeds against you and act like they are the victim, so you only say good things about them and defend them against the people that start to come to you with bits of info), so the group that was supposed to be used as a tool for them doesn't work. Also, doing the opposite reaction of what was intended by their set ups. It scrambles their computers 🖥
I literally grey-rocked EVERY strategy they used against me, which of course, made them angrier, but I don’t care. I love acting like they don’t exist!
@@1LovedbyHim lmao
@@1LovedbyHim she hates it when I do that
What if both are narcissist but one’s tired of fighting and don’t want to play games any more and the other will never admit to being wrong about anything even when seen or heard
The only way to win is not to play. That is what I found. My wife and I cut off a family member like this, and to this day she complains to other how we wont talk to her. We just refuse to play, although in time most of the family has seen through the nonsense.
It's so true,that's how it starts! You help them heal and then they try and destroy you!
What are you saying I didn’t try that!!!
Absolutely. My mother has severely hurt my and my sisters lives in many aspects. But at the end of the day I’m a young man who is learning to get better and I most certainly will. It’s good to have that perspective to know it could always be worse. Much love to everyone
Breaking the cycle, good on you!
I wish I knew this when I was younger and before I got married to the abuser.. I had to learn this lesson in my life because it made me grow into the strongest woman I am now.. I have a wonderful coach who has taught me how to love myself again.. this is the truth of my first spouse, everything that you have said, down to the children, my children have also learned.. I AM NOT A victim of this trauma anymore.. woohoo..
Narcissist will use any tact they can to use and abuse you and make you feel like you're to blame for everything. They need to be shut down and out. Thanks for this video.
Especially, after they create their own drama by twisting facts to their own advantage, then when they get caught, it's everybody's fault but their own.
Sir, I have to say thank you. I have been dealing with a narcissist niece lately. A very envious sik piece of trash. I will refuse to add some sorts of good titles for her. I hate everything about her bc I refuse to embrace the toxicity. I trust that by now, she realizes this. She is greedy and lies, steals, even stealing my degrees to make herself look good. She goes out of her way to spread lies for her to look better. But, I care zero of her. Furthermore, my X was also a narcissist. Hence, I know the behaviors well. But to here you hit the hammer on the nail makes me confirm I was correct to get rid of them both. Great video thanks be safe!!!
If they want control, they can act like a darn human being. I'm so glad it's over. I've got 3 of my 4 children that understand how there father dif nothing but lie , back stab me . I'm a strong woman, and that is what attracted him to me. Crazy. I started refusing to respond. So yes. My brakes were cut twice, broken eye orbit. My mom came to me in a dream when I felt lonely at the beginning of divorce., She stood at the end of my bed , she was already passed by then. But she said. What is wrong with you crying. Your ALIVE , now live the life you've wanted. And I've done my best, I'm happy, date some. Family is the joy of my life
They live in a world of their own fantasy where everyone is a potential threat to them, and assume the worst of everyone. They see themselves as the victim of everyone else's treachery, so they can justify every cruel thing they do to others.
My narcissist knows I’m on to him and he’s trying to guilt me. Narcissists are so good at what they do, if you use even one word that shows them you doubt their integrity, they manifest into a monster. How dare you question them?
They will not change. If you want peace you have to get them out of your life.
Diane, SO TRUE! The blame shifting, guilt manipulation, deflection along with other gaslighting tactics are NON-Stop when they are trying to control their victim or maintain the control... continually manipulating and controlling another person IS abuse. Stay strong!!
YES!
You are right on target.He did consider me his slave and mommy. And let him be an adolescent his whole life with no accountability or responsibility and no respect for me ever.THANK YOU for making me feel that Its not in my head and giving me back my self respect.
They would resort to all types of blackmail... especially targeting those close to you
And these Narcissistic people you're speaking of even try to control each other, they're one of the vengeful sorts.
Excellent information. So true. Living through this. They will resort to anything to make themselves look good and you look bad. Clone your phone, put streaming cords throughout the home. They are very, very disloyal, can't be trusted, deceitful, lustful empty on the inside. People most miserable.
So true. My phone was cloned and hacked 🤦🏽♀️.. invasion of privacy..
@@michellemokone3344 I am so sorry this happen to you. But God will vindicate for you. God has been my peace all through this nightmare. I don't even know what could of prepared me for such gross evil and the people who help them. Stated strong and be blessed, in my prayers.
Happened to me. These people will do anything to cover up their false lives,lies,make you look bad. Too much misery.
@@barbarasims8467 thank you so much. It’s not easy in the beginning it’s been a month and a couple of weeks now since the discard. The pain and hurt is so deep. But yah your right, God really saved us. It shall pass.. 🙏🏽
I am the one experienced attacked by narcissist. Still facing many issues with the person. What you explained everything I experienced. Yes, they are full of ego persons.
I worked with a stealth narcissist for 12 years. He tried many times to get me to quit, or get me fired. He quit when we were going to get training in an entirely new system, I think to avoid being shown that he didn't know everything.
They are psychopaths, they take delight in hurting their partners.
I dealt with a narcissist boss/doctor! Complete Satan! I beat him at his own game!
How did you do it??
I have one now.
I despise how she pretends to be kind and advocate for her employees. She's a LIar ..a fraud!
@@aries4901 Stay confident, know she’s beneath you. Don’t speak on plans you have. She has minions. Watch and observe them. Stay # 1 always. If you practice stoicism it be great. Take care, friend!🕊️
You described my sister in law 💯
This is only one example of many, but this particular example goes with what you said in the video: SIL got into middle school counseling because she doesn't have qualifications to be a professional psychologist working with adults. I do have these qualitications and am a rehab therapist and crisis counselor. She would tell my husband i wasn't licensed (I am) and plant seeds of doubt where he started asking me if he can see proof that I am qualified, or make accusations that I am lying about my qualifications.
Narcissist is everywhere be aware and don't be a victim because if you're a weak person you'll end up crazy!
STAY AWAY!!! I was brought up with an angry, alcoholic narcissist of a father. I lost my childhood and my Mother is a waste of space, ignoring it all etc.......now with her narc husband. Took me years to sort my head out. Be around people who are good for you, they are your family!
I understand this. My mom is narcissistic, dad ignores it. I only have a relationship with one brother. My parents are 86. It's exhausting.
My mom allways turned blind eyes to her different partners shit now she 63 still cant apologise now married to narcissistic freemason who shes known 5 minutes whos fucked up my sisters relationship with her partner whos good dad and man tryd to do the same with my family got rid of both very quickly as soon as he realised me my mrs could see straight through his crap he moved on to my sisters family all the while my stupid mother just goes along with it all like she dont what's going on
Our DNA proves we are all family and we sure act like it. Wars = psychopathic family members controlling the sociopathic members to oppress and eventually control the rest of us. "You'll eat ze bugs! You'll own nothing and be happy!"
Facts, you have to be comfortable in your own space head. When I stopped communicating with my mom ,father and siblings, I felt such a relief. I was so tired of fighting for a love I'd never got. So tired of the character assignation. You can't put a price on a piece of mind. My God continue to bless you in your journey towards peace and serenity.
Not always Family members are the worst kind You are stuck with them …
I was the resident manager at an independent living facility. I was able to assist with the living arrangements of most of my charges but one demanded continuous care. Eventually, she transferred to a more intensive care facility and I pitied the personnel that dealt with her.