Narcissists hide this one thing from you because they know they'll be destroyed if you know | NPD
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Narcissistic Personality Disorder
What hurts them the most is when u don't care anymore about them or what other people think
For sure, a narcissist loves telling you their version of what people apparently think about you. My response of “I don’t care” really hit her nerve..
But you Have to run, just get safe. A lot of red flags is not a bouquet ❤
Sociopaths
Exactly I deal with him for 15 years and now I have no energy to deal with him anymore I love him so much but I am so depressed and can't take it anymore 😢
I've delt with one for 29yrs and 9mos and I'm done. Too weak to fight him anymore.
"It doesn't matter who you are the Narcissist hates you" ....perfectly said
btw its not the truth that hurts them bcz they always deny it. First hand exp. The only way is total ignore and total absence - you just leave the premise
I live with one! Every second
It's so weird cause my baby do love me ,iam just too strong to let him break my spirt I am the strongest female in his life ,ever. other than his mother,God rest her soul.
But it is what it is and what it won't be....I hate to tell him cause I love the fuck out of Ruthie White
What hurts the narcissist the most is Apathy. When they see they can no longer "get to you" emotionally.
I've suffered for many years and my ex still thinks I don't have a choice not to have him back . My house my rules these sick people torture you emotionally
God Bless everyone affected by a narc and give them strength to move on. 🙏
Thank U for that short sincere prayer( just like Jabaz in the Bible) We need it💯💞🤲🏾
YESSSSSS👍🏾🎯
2 OF THEM IN MY IMMEDIATE FAMILY. I DON'T CONSIDER THEM FAMILY ANYMORE.
Devil 👿 in sheeps skin. Is now
I’m humans
Working with them. Family. All out of my life. Call them to their actions and release them. Your salvation is more important. They are completely lost. Therefor I pray for them
They truly are the lowest form of life!
I've been living with a narcissist for going on 13 years. I truly thought I was losing my mind. When I was talking to my son one day about what I was going through, he told me, "mom he's gaslighting you. He's a narcissist " I had never heard those terms before so I began listening to RUclips videos, and realized my son was right. I've been trying to leave him ever since. I took the final steps yesterday and he hasn't stopped leaving mean threatening messages etc on my phone. Ive left him many times over the past year,, have always gone back, because he threatened suicide etc.. I know now that it will never work.. I don't intend to go back this time.. Hopefully I can do it this time.. There's so very much more, but I dont want to take up everyone's time. Thank you for listening. Much love and respect to you all.
Hope you are doing well and that you managed to leave him. Take
care of yourself
Congratulations!! Hang tough now.
Same here‼️ I didn't even know what a NARC WAS OR THE WORD, BEEN THREE WEEKS....IM HEALING IT WAS SO PAINFUL CUZ I KNOW I CAN NEVER RETURN...IT WENT TO FAR THIS TIME🎯👤🔥.....30+YRS ALL FOR NOTHING....LEARNING EXPERIENCE 💯 💔
Just don’t blame yourself or feel guilty you deserve a peaceful happy life.
Chang your phone number and never look back.look upon jesus
There are many different signs. These include spending time on phone that was not spent previously, withholding sex from you, withdrawing in communication with you, agitation or anger over Petty stuff or making up situations to get angry or agitated over, lying, being secretive in any way, randomly spending more time caring for and pampering oneself such as putting on makeup or wearing cologne or coloring hair etc. Any type of changed behavior that is not aimed at pleasing or benefiting your relationship. With all of that though, follow your gut. your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it's telling you that this could or is happening, therefore listen to it. Just Free yourself from all of it! Run and don't look back. Go 100% no contact. The mental and emotional abuse is not okay at all! Do not bring anything up to her. Don't try to rationalize or have a conversation about anything. Don't let her know that you know she's in narcissist. All of that can cause a narcissistic rage. If you have not yet witnessed one of those just trust me that you don't want to! A narcissistic rage is beyond any rage I have ever seen or witnessed in my entire life. I am an army combat veteran and served front lines for a year and afghanistan. I have abuse going back from as long as I can remember, the first time in my personal memory is 2 years old. With everything I have been involved in, and my rape, other sexual abuse, their physical abuse, etc in narcissistic rage is by far the worst! If you need to contact your local police department and start a new contact order. No one can protect you like you can! free yourself from it all and move forward in your life. The minute you run and go no contact is the minute your life begins again. If need be seek out professional help. Therapy is the best thing I did for myself. The best gift I gave to me! The abuse is so deep and overwhelming that having a professional guide you through the steps of the healing process is extremely beneficial! Just remember, there is great strength in asking for help. There is great lack and strength or no strength at all in putting on a mask and hiding behind the opinions of society and pretending that you are okay! As human beings we all witness A Time In our lives where we are not okay! Those that heal, move past, and move forward, and have a brighter future are those who ask for help and do the work that is needed through the help! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the very best! Good luck! Always remember that you are stronger than you believe you are, you are worthy and deserving of better and always, and you are enough just the way you are and who you are today! Take this time for you! Get yourself again. Fix that meal that you're all time favorite, rent that movie you've been wanting to see, have a guys night out with your best friends, remodel a room in your home, go purchase that item you've been wanting to for so long, just do for yourself! Self-acceptance, self-love, and being able to forgive yourself is far more important than what anyone else can give to you! Believe in who you are! You deserve nothing less than that! You're not alone! Feel free to tag me in any other questions that you have! I'll help if I can. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at Barryinvestigation@gmail. com, where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........
They hide their real persona and once you find out, they lie. Even with “proof” they lie. In the end they only fool themselves and end up alone.
I think it hurts the most to realize what a lie you have lived. 😢
So very true. He lied all the time. I can see it now. I was blinded by him before
@@Jo-ul8is Wow! You nailed that!
It's easy to be blinded by love@@nadiabarrese3212
1 thing though, do you care if they end up alone
30 years in a narcissistic, abusive relationship marriage. Eight years out. I have no emotion when I think about my ex. When I have to unfortunately speak with him, I show no emotion. I don’t get riled up at all, he can no longer push my buttons. Get to a place where you can self soothe, you have someone you trust that you can talk to, and you are able to move past them, the narcissist. It’s an incurable personality disorder, they will NEVER change. You will never win a conversation with these people, your point will never be heard, they will never care about you. You have to stop gaslighting yourself about the narcissist and then, and only then will you no longer be able to be gaslighted by the narcissist. When you realize they will never change and you have to move forward or you will die, it’s a really nice place to be. You still have to take a lot of uncomfortable steps to disconnect, but run away from them don’t walk, and don’t look back . My heart goes out to everybody and anybody, who’s in a narcissistic relationship or healing from one.
We usually think of a narcissist as a male. There are also females who are narcissists and they are a little harder to recognize.
In the Narcissists world intelligence isn't measured by the ability to acquire and apply knowledge and skills. intelligence is measured by how well you can trick, trap or lie to someone. If they can trick, trap, or lie to you and you believe it...Then in their minds they are smarter than you.
Truth.
Yes it's like they throw certain things out at you and see which u respond to then work from their.
You nailed it!
I actually feel happy that they’ll never learn from their mistakes, call me sadistic, but they deserve to learn things the hard way. Let them keep messing up.
Demons
They can lie all they want. But to God they can not. God is just and God Will expose them it’s only a matter of time. Let go and Let God!
Amen, yes..
Do you need a reason to be hated ❓despise you for no reason ❓envious about money and possessions ❓ relationship is difficult because of it❓they act like their not satisfied ❓
Amen and Amen
true.
My ex got so mad when I showed her these type of videos and all the things I’ve caught her sayin and doing
All the arguments all the gas lighting…her complete denial turned me off she blamed me for all my reactions to her actions…went to work smearing my name lying on me reversing the narrative then blame for it all smh I left her alone and she swears she’s dumping me …like who cares jus be gone
I’ve never met a lying ass woman in my life
Small lies big lies it’s like that’s shit is so unattractive
Never forget, if the opportunity present itself, always press charges. Have no mercy for demons.
expose them every chance you get. the thing they fear most in this world is being exposed for who and what they really are.
I enjoy exposing them at work lol..they are so cowardly
Is this true never trust then
You have to careful when entering the arena with narcissists, particularly if they are sociopathic or physcotic...they are dangerous, some physically....Best to exit out the back door...
narcissists....the last person you ever want to meet. Remember, if your instinct is telling you to run or left the SO, believe me. You better run asap. They can win multiple oscars in acting without breaking a sweat. Dated her for 2 years...I should have cheated back then. My instinct is screaming that she's a walking red flags. But, it's already too late. These species drains your soul to the core. can't look at love the same way ever again
Omg yes!! Mine was draining me slowly. It got worst when I had our son, and he moved in(without even having a conversation). It was so draining and miserable the time he was there!! I thank God for his betrayal he done to me.
Facts!!
It does no good to try to defend yourself after a narc destroys ya because they are indeed skilled liers. Best thing to do is get away from the demonic force. Don't wrestle with a pig in the mud. You don't enjoy mud but the narc pig loves it
Sprint from them do walk 50 yard dash lol ...
No excuse for cheating , sorry maybe you are the narc
They avoid discussing they scream/ yell or run off they refuse to discuss the situation in a decent manner , I've arrived, and I refuse to be controlled.
The hypocrisy of narcissists is that they are eager to control someone else before they can learn control themselves. They know they are liable for the way they make you feel. Taking accountability for the crappy person they are is their worst nightmare.
Don't let their energy, lies etc ever enter your mind. Walk, run, move delete and do what you have to do to protect your mind body and soul. Never look back. Bless you all. Stay strong and have no fear.
true
Thank you so very much
Right. No contact is the #1 way to get away
Spoken like a fellow survivor! Thank you for the reminder ❤
@@davidgregg6860 thank you. Stay strong.
My exwife was a covert narcissist and gaslight me for 10 years I almost committed suicide and left my family for 5 years after the abuse. I am finally going to reunite with my 2 kids after 5 long years! God is so great, anyone who reads this, please have faith and remember that your children love you and their memories keep you alive and you must heal to break the generational chain of trauma. I love you and God bless you ❤
Y husband now is doing just that. 20 years down the road 5 blessings later and still has to blame me for not being able to stop blaming me for the problem.
I pray your time with them has been great 🙏
Wow I was married for 26 yrs to one claiming she was a Christian and I never heard of these people AKA toxic relationship
I found peace of mind when I accepted he did not add value to my life and that my life and happiness were my own responsibility
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙌💯💯❤️🩹❤️🩹
I renounce the spirit and demonic attacks of the narcissists. So over it. That's insecurity. Plain and simple.🛑
Interesting story.
I was listening to a video on deliverance that the narcissist couldn't hear.....
He was in the other room, as the video was going for demonic spirit to flee, the narc came out of his room and went to his knees in pain....he looked both afraid and in physical pain.
I absolutely believe it's a demonic spirit.
After that, when he was gone, I anointed all the windows and doors with oil and prays for deliverance
@rasheawhite3544 and mightymouse1005: I too have been affected by demonic spirits remaining in my home after the 16 year marriage to my husband suddenly ended. I’m in so much pain from what I’ve realized has been taken from my son and me and what has been given to us.
I 100% believe that there are residual demonic spirits in my home. Horrible, live-altering, expensive, and spooky occurrences have happened since he departed the home. I believe my son and I are presently being attacked by demons and undergoing extreme spiritual warfare. I’m at a loss as far as what all I need to do. I am a very strong believer in Christ and believe I have a strong relationship with Him. My son is a believer but not as intense as myself. I want and need to get out of this house but I’m financially ruined due to him taking everything I had in the bank unbeknownst to me.
🔳 Any advice on what (specific) prayers to pray, books to read or listen to, videos or programs to watch that will help me?
🔳 Any advice and information on who to ask to deliver my son and me from the demons wreaking havoc on our lives and to anoint my home?
I have to stay here long enough to update and few things in my home before I can put it on the market or I would be out of here right away. I mean, how’s a person supposed to heal if they’re trapped in the same environment where to trauma took place for so long??
Thanks! 😊
@@mightymouse1005WOW!! So cool!
Very true, 💯
The worst part for me is that I’ve never wished I would die, but for 15 years , at least, I’ve gone to bed knowing that if I didn’t wake up in the morning then that would be fine…it’s so brutal. I don’t want to leave, but I don’t think I can do this anymore.
Absolutely nailed it. You can believe the way I was sabbatoged over and over again because I just couldn't believe a person can be that vindictive. I was left broken in pieces to think my own husband would do things like that. But he did and of course denied it. I'm still astonished because I just don't think like that. It's evil and demented.
Yep!! I was a slow slow learner! I can't believe these monsters exist. I was in not one but 3 of these sick relationships!!
It took me way too many years. My whole life. Because I am so kind and caring about people. Who knew such evil existed. I didn't see it. 😒
There should actually be a jail or punishment for these despicable psycho personalities.. seriously..
On the name of friendship, my trust was broken, what I did nit know then, was a narcissist individual, without a bit of remorse for her actions.
I showed her the exit door immediately to save me and my family, without thinking about what I am about to undergo.
I had those experiences without any change in my decision and thank fully things are going ok for me and family now.
Let them me in their self created hell and live your own life, is my Mantra.
Narcissist are not born, they LEARN from their early circle. That's the hard pill to swallow...it takes a village. We need to all look at ourselves in what we TEACH eachother. We need to stop accepting poison and break away from toxic, unhealthy people who make no effort to change with goals to heal & create healthy, loving relationships. It's a hard (at times lonely) journey but well worth it!
The universe puts truthful people in the path of narcissists, because truth is universal love that leads the soul back to God.
Amen 🙏
Interesting…🤔
They hate when you stop reacting. Had to do this with my bully older sister when I caught her finding pleasure in my pain. I knew nothing about narcissists. It gave me some control and I was tired of the bullying. We don't speak now and I wasn't invited to her daughter's wedding. You can't win with these people. Live your life in peace❤
I was raised by one. I was the scapegoat in my so called family. She hates me with a passion...I'm now 36 and married, and I'm still trying to free myself from her.
The best way I handled my situation was getting therapy and NO CONTACT PERIOD! Regardless of the slander, the lies, the sabotage. I did not respond. I worked on me! I have no idea what happened to him and don’t care!
true
true and no contact with ex narc and his so called flying g monkeys. absolute no contact !!!! the use flying g monkeys and use their so called friends.
Right . They never cared neither should we . ❤
Very brave but necessary for keeping your sanity intact!
Yelp! No contact is the narcissist kreptonite! It worked beautifully for me as well as therapy. Divorce was final 5/25/17. After 11 years of a miserable marriage.
Never try to defend yourself against the lies of a narcissist. It's futile. Live your best life as the truth rises to the top, and people figure out about the narcissist in the end. If they choose to be with the narcissist instead of you, then they aren't worth it. Right?
My entire family prefers my ex (a narc) over me. They can HAVE him!!!😂😂😂
Right!!
@@donnamariedavidson5065!❤❤❤❤❤
it's actually true what you said.
it's hard to polemic with them , they always see you at fault , you're problematic one. never see that they may cause it all of it.
"To a narcissist, u r interchancable."
Yup. My favorite kin...how long do I have 2 wait 4 my turn???And live is whizzing by...😢❤😢
I am a survivor of lifelong trauma perpetuated by both parents. At age 63, after years of therapy and antidepressants, I am just now poking my head above the water. Thank you so much for the wonderful support you have offered me and others alike
I hope you have had a loving partner(s) in your life. To be brought up by two narcissist parents in a time when there was NO help, no internet, no Childline was purest Hell - I too am 63 Deborah. Four mental breakdowns later I feel strong in my solitude, I married a man the polar opposite of my wicked father
; my parents put him in hospital too, such was their brand of EVIL. We will be free one day x
@@johedges5946 Thank you for responding, Jo. I will keep you in my prayers. Much love, Deb
The saddest truth. They should carry a warning label.
So blessed to be free🙏, i was with a narcissist for 3yrs, lost weight, emotionally disturb, very scared ,panic attacks,until i got in hes face n screamed how much i hated him n that i had enough n left ,took nothing material , just what ever was left of my dignity i was so broken😪 am slowly getting on my feet bumpy road but i did it🤸♀️🤸♀️🤸♀️so proud of myself! Thanks to the lord that gave me strengh 🙏 so happy now gained lots of weight🤭 but am happy i love myself regarless!!!!!
I am so discussed are they even human?
Cool
@@angelasamuels5714 NO
Reading your comment
So proud of you
Give GOD the glory 🙏🗣️
I am sure the weight you gained looks gorgeous on you. You gained each and every pound due to your fight for your life by getting away from the horrific demon and you SURVIVED!!! God has you and you deserve a Medal of Honor for you saved a precious human life. YOURS. And now mine. Thank you. ❤❤❤
I'm 55 and just discovered that my Mother is narcissistic sociopath. I'm so broken, yet so grateful for this woke moment/ clarity. What do I do ? She crushed my sole, and erased my life's collections and achievements. I've detached but nobody believes me. I've been decapitated and dismembered left in a shallow grave barley breathing. So mush hate and rage and to know my own mother feeds off this . Dess
I wish you well. You could have become like her. I know someone whose mother has finally shown her true colors. The difference is that he is a narc too!! They don’t even seem to change when they are Ill. That’s how you know they are really sick individuals who just function!!! Put God first. This is no surprise to him. Take one day at a time. Love yourself. Be your biggest fan. Let love win. Within yourself. You can’t change them. But I do understand. At least these people are being exposed for who they are. RISE UP! You are not in this alone.
SOLITUDE is healthier than rushing into pain with people. Less ego is the goal. True to yourself is always pained .
Very accurate ! Wish I heard this 50 years ago!
ME TOO!! Took me my whole life to find out these people exist!!
I didn't get it..
Unfortunately
Yeah I wish too. Know how you feel 😂
Never is too late
21 years for me waisted time
100% Accurate...Only thing is getting them to sit still long enough to hear the truth. Most if not all of them upon seeing or hearing the truth will immediately bolt out of the room and run to the next county. Once they know the Empath has got the goods on them its time to.....Eject Eject Eject!!!
facts while in court he made sounds crazy the judge was a fool at first and then listen attentively to my proof and I won later he left and moved to avoid repaying life is a game for them wont sit still and deal with the conquences it is disgusting and his family members knew he was off at least they try to help me lol he has no idea loser i told everyone and do not care who believed me because he has a track record that is full of victims being abused
Of course it affects me..... Never said it didn't. What I'm saying is that no matter how much he tries to completely ruin me he can't snuff out my light no matter how hard he tries.
I couldn't be so lucky lol
He actually left me in the middle of the night a little over a year ago and I was under the impression that if the narcissist leaves the relationship then they don't go out of the way (as much)to totally destroy you and your life but man was I wrote. So I did what everyone suggested and I had no contact with him, blocked him etc. Well I think that was my mistake because I did that he was under the impression that I wasn't sad or miss him and that my life was great! So because he is a covert narcissist he can insert himself into my life with friends and family and completely lie about me and what really pisses me off more than anything is that these people believed him. So I was not only fired from my Nanny job but I was also kicked out that day and wasn't allowed to come get my belongings for a week including my animals. I've thought about taking them to court because you can't do that to people ever but I don't know.?
Then 3 months after he left me high and dry with no access to our $, no car even though I had paid for the vehicle and with absolutely nothing that we had purchased together we hole being married he took everything..... He was hit by a car as he crossed the street as a pedestrian and tug at my heart strings and convinced me to come help take care of him, and now I'm even in a worse situation then I was a year ago after I became homeless because of him
Sir, you have described narcissists totally.
Truly covered most of their character.
They tell lot of lies and live on lies. And pretend to be victims.
They are very selfish and shameless too.
I've been to a "therapist" in the past and the feeling that I got from her was "I really don't want to be bothered with this man." All she'd ask me was "How are you feeling today?" and all she did was prescribe antidepressants. Pills don't do anything for me and I refuse to use them. Pills don't talk to me. Pills don't care. Pills are not the answer. Not for me. Why would you suppress it instead of releasing everything? Talking about everything is the only thing that helps me. That's why I watch these videos. I have to come to terms with myself that I wasn't the problem from the beginning. I was just an option, supply, and an obstacle. And that doesn't just apply to the ex wife but also my dad. I'm fifty years old now, haven't been with her in almost eight years and my dad has been dead since '06. I never even heard of narcissism until she accused me of being one, so I started looking into what a narcissist is, a manipulative person and I never manipulated her or anyone else. No, I discovered that SHE was/is a narcissist 100%. I am sickened by the thought of how many times she may have cheated. Mind you I was with her for over 24 years from 17 to 43 years old and married for 13 of those years. I was stupidly too trusting and way too forgiving.
This video made me laugh. It made me see that, as tormented as I'd been, being raised by these people, it's hysterically ironic that just being me was a torment to them and must have drove them crazy.
Yes and Amen your story has made me laugh as well because when I laugh at things my Narcissistic neighbour starts banging doors which makes me laugh even more then she gives up my X husband done the same until I started laughing at him 👌👌👌🙏🙏🙏
@@carolisrael9951And your comment made me laugh too!
LoL
Exactly. They get very upset when they know they are dealing with a Christian. They can't stick around very long.
This is so accurate it’s sickening once you’ve already dealt with the majority of this!
Yes. Just get and keep away of them. The Best way to stay away from them. Stay busy, without them. Cut All Ties from them. Just that simple. They are leeches.
So true they are robots.
They are NPCs. Those who play mmorpg video games know what an NPC is
In a word, narcissistic are "pathetic".
It's literally made me physically sick!!
You're exactly right. The narcs cannot admit that I am who I am that they fail to beat me down with all their lies. The more they try, the more it shows how pitiful they are.
Oh my God, the destruction they leave behind is absolutely amazing
I am devistated
I broke up with one today. I miss him and these videos are keeping me sane. Thank you so much for these
stay 💪
I'm 74 years young (that's because I'm still open to LEARNING). IF what I confess, admit to here, helps even one person.....I happily do it!
I have lived with a narcissist all my life. My mother, mother in law, my husband, and a daughter . I could never understand why they did and do the horrific thing they do but I wish they could get some of what they dish out. This video has helped me see some of why they do what they do. Thank you for getting this information out to us who need this help.
I realized the " creature " I married was a narcissist and I had divorce papers served to her within the first year..best move I ever made
This was by far the best video. It hit everything. Just when you think you're going crazy you hear that it isn't you. It's like watching a horror movie. You keep waiting for the person to come back that you met in the beginning. Then you realize that person never existed in the first place. I used to try to figure out why he was so broken. Now I don't care. I just know he's not going to break me. Good luck to anyone else who crosses his path. Before long you'll be listening to these videos or in therapy.
I got such a great laugh at your last 2 sentences! You are so correct! Before long, the next victim will be watching 👀 tons of videos on narcissistic abuse and be in therapy for sure. Never in my life did I ever imagine being obsessed with narc videos and being in therapy.
I know exactly what u mean. I’m waiting for that person to come back 😔 I know she never will. Broken isn’t the word, she’s destroyed our relationship in the most brutal ways for absolutely nothing.. but it’s all my fault. The absolute lies about me that come out of her mouth while I’m actually stood in front her are devastating. She’s doing it in front of our kids, and they’re too young to know it’s lies and none of this is my doing. The only reason I haven’t left is because I’m worried our kids will become the targets. The target will always be whoever’s closest to her, so I’m just taking the bullet. The thought of my children being the victim of this is way more devastating than what she’s done and doing to me. She won’t admit any wrong doing, or acknowledge any of the lies after an outburst, then she expects to continue like it never happened with no apology or discussion. If I try to discuss her behaviour with her, the response is defensive and instant spite and deflection like she’s being attacked. Recently she’s even been pretending to be scared like i’m going to hit her just to escape having to answer for her actions. And I’ve never hit her in our whole 18 year relationship. I still love her, but I fucking hate her for what she’s done to our family, she’s destroyed our lives.
When approached about any of it, her attitude is “so what?”
@@WotsisFace You NEVER had a relationship ,you were trapped by a demon possessed 4 yr old!
@@WotsisFace I'm sorry you're going through this and I'm sorry for the kids. Even if there isn't physical abuse they can always feel the tension. People like this RARELY seek help and even when they do they think they can outsmart the therapist and get them on there side. You and your entire family are in my prayers. 🙏🏾
Sounds like the gov. And its many top secret secrets.....hiding information and the truth of what is really going on from the people.
I’ve learned an incredible volume of information about narcissism lately. I held onto faith and God knowing this man I loved was sick and praying and believing he could be healed. I began to honesty look at the situation and see how my empathic nature was taking me down, way down. I also realized nothing I tried , prayed, said or did was going to make this relationship healthy and non-toxic. It was physically making me sick and wreaking my soul. I let go. No contact. The pain was immense! I’ve read and learned everything imaginable about NPD. Then I looked at what was my part in this? What in world went on with me to let myself continually suffer this cyclical sickness? My early life trauma. I had created a trauma bond with this man. Dopamine rushes from the love bombing stages…an addiction. He had separated me from my people and things I loved. Holy cow.. what I discovered about him and ME was mind bowing to say the least. The stress I was under had changed the organic natural working of my brain! But with the utmost humility I tell you if I had not asked God to restore myself to the person he wants me to be, and HE IS, I would likely have lost my life. The knowledge and understanding and clarity gained by my research and even what Christ has to say about narcissists has set me free from this abuse. I have come to the sound conclusion that just as this video starts out saying, these NPD people are overwrought with their demons. This is not a flippant statement. The likelihood hood they will acknowledge something is gravely wrong with them and seek help is slim to none. I’ve released my energy from this and put him in our Mighty Creators hands. I am aware of boundaries now and see this sickness coming miles away. I have so much gratitude for my healing and the empath I am is becoming stronger and wiser every day.
This information presented here is very accurate. However, there is more out here to learn and know. Once you have it figured out, stop with all the studying and thinking about it, because that, too, can keep you in the toxic cycle. Move on, do fun things, be the beautiful soul you were meant to be. It was a bit of a fluke I ran into this video. I hope my comment has helped some one. Be blessed! God loves you!
Then, I remarried and boom another narcissist but not as bad as the first one. I am done and getting out for not to remarry or get into a relationship ever again. I am done really done.
Wow! My exact life! 💯
Thank you for saying it so well!
After 25 yrs, God made a way for me to be removed from him, and I am breaking free and living the life God always intended me to enjoy!
Me also after 36 yrs together.
Mad crazy unbelievable, no one would believe us.
As they act so different on the outside with others.
The crap that I had to put up with after my father's death made me change.
Ignore and ignore him that is what I did.
Wouldn't give him one more second of my time.
Empathy for me during my grieving process was zero Notting not even a simple kind word.
Now I don't have one word to say to him.
Ghosting him now .....dead in my eyes.R.I.P narcissist husband. .
I had to eventually learn that exposing their falsities and lies only brings more chaos for myself. It’s best to keep a distance, walk away, and move on in the knowing. They will eventually expose themselves. Thank you for the information.
I’ve endured the betrayal, lack of accountability and had a narc blast me with profanity for calmly attempting to get them to admit the lies they told about me. That it hurt me. I’m sooo done with people that don’t respect others.
I'M DEALING WITH A VERY BAD NARCISSIST IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW!!!
Hope you stay strong enough to get thru it
Living with a NPD is very hard for me and the more I listen and learn about the disorder the more perplexed I am.
I will allow Jesus to help me with this sad bad & mad type of relationship!
Praying for you . Pray for me too . I don’t know if my adult child is a N but both my husbands were . I did the best I could raising her but am blamed for all
Her problems :(
Pray for me to
We could form a watt app group where we encourage and pray for each other
@@judithunaegbu3776 it’s a good idea ! May God help us !
its not a relationship!
Jesus is the only way. Seek him at all times and stay close to him no matter what and you’ll heal and have a better life. I’m glad to read someone that recognizes that live with NPD. I hope you go to therapy and find a therapist that can help you.
Everything stated in this video is exactly what I am experiencing. I have always told my husband the truth and he has always accused me of everything under the sun. Then one glorious day I did what he does and so far he’s been silent! I know he’s plotting revenge because I finally said no and told him to be a man! I know it is time to go. Because EVERY TIME I call BS! His behavior worsens. His tactics become more vile. Anyone dealing with this type of person, please know that you deserve better! I wasted a decade.
I feel your pain! I'm experiencing the same thing-a decade of pretense and masks falling off. Last year, when I started to question my sanity is the moment God opened my eyes, enabling me to view my reality. " love is blind," he's very busy with his smear campaigns and false accusations. I've lost someone who I thought was a friend in the process because of him. The more I say no or set boundaries. He sits and calculates the most outrageous stories to make himself look like the victim and me as the worst person on Earth. Covert narcissists are truly evil!
I hope things have moved on for the better ❤
I'm going through this now after 12 years of marriage. He brutally discarded me and moved on to the secretary from his work. The devaluing and discard were so brutal
Be aware that they are dangerously vindictive people, and when you correct them, they get furious and will plot something. But, ask God to give you protection from that monster. He will. I just prayed that God protect you too. I know this was from 8 months ago though.
The covert narcissist tried to unalive me for almost 2 decades covertly. The other narcs wouldn't believe me nor support . .. quite condescending and made to appear "crazy". I know I was right on the target for years beforehand as well. Awake to numerous things as time transpired and surely see all played participation. Grateful to be here🙏
I'm married to a covert narcissist and I'm working very diligently to try and end things. I had no idea when we met and I thought he was my soul mate for many years untill I finally figured him out. Since figuring out what he is I've endured years of narcissistic abuse but he still hasn't snuffed out my awesome personality and it kills him to know that I'm happy even after all he has done to me. I know that I am none of the things he says I am so he will never get the better of me
I learned that speech to do is to get out as quickly and quietly as possible. Listen to Ross rossenberg. They’ll inevitably create a smear campaign against you but what’s most important is to quietly escape. If you give him a heads up he will destroy your strength.
Stay focused. Get out asap.
We have been together for 15yrs and I finally figured it all out about 4yrs ago. I have my moments but I've learned to not engage in his bullshit because he is trying to make me angry or cry or whatever it is at that time. So regardless of all the horrible things he will say to me I just continuously tell him that I'm not going to cry, or yell or get mad and that I know what he's trying to do and it's not working. I also tell him I know that what he says about me isn't true and that deep down he does too. I'm genuinely a happy person so I just don't let him affect me anymore.
@@kerryhernandez647 Questions to ask yourself: Are you sure it doesn't affect you? Are you able to live a free life, able to express yourself, your emotions, and feel confident that you can truly be yourself without having to monitor yourself in the apprehension of his response? Are you sure you're not building a shell around your authentic self, just as a coping mechanism? Are you able to fully grow emotionally with this human as your life partner? Listen to Lisa Romano on RUclips.
I'm glad your light cannot be squashed:) trying to escape a 10 yr marriage now.
Glad you are working on getting out. I left(in secret) my now ex 3 years old. Was married for over 20 yrs. I got help from a woman’s shelter to provide support/ resources. Best decision I ever made. I have zero contact with him especially since children are over 18.
Wish I had heard this podcast 45 years ago, when I met my, now, X. Even after 45 years he tries, he tries to manipulate me, resulting in being estranged from two of my 4 sons. I have adopted the no contact rule.
😢 good to hear the no contact rule
I complained to my family for years about my boyfriend. Who, lives on my property, ( he doesn't want anyone thinking he is " living with me". He helps me on my farm, but add alcoholism to the picture. He's 59yr.old. He is continually down grading the food I cook, hates when he sees I'm on my phone even checking emails. I'm not on face book and social stuff. Makes sarcastic remarks like " why did you buy a camper...you can't pull it.
And, COMPLAINS ALL THE TIME about my food. I buy and he eats, but says it's junk. I think I'm a good cook, but I'm not making what he wants and what his grandmother served.
He has made me feel like I am a lousy cook. I was told by family members to never ask or give opinion when he is working on a project.
If he is wrong about something, he says to me I'm twisting things and playing mind games with him. He is the one playing mind games.
After 5 years, my sister told me he was a narcissist.
I'm 66 years old, I never knew what a narcissist was.
But after listening to pod casts from specialists, I realized I need to break away from him. I have a farm and he helps me with things. I work for the school system. And he has no children but makes comments about how hard he had it growing up and how kids are lazy now.
@@ruthannbennett8347
No contact?
@@ruthannbennett8347 find away to get him out of your life, while you still have the strength to do so. What is being said about them is the truth.
Yes, me too, 53 yrs ago
Yes, their is a kind of peace within yourself knowing that you've had enough. You still have alot to go through getting them out of your life but their is an inner peace
Once youre truly done with being a narcissist's doormat, you'll never allow anyone to abuse you again. But first, you have to understand why youre allowing it in the first place. I was taught to give everyone the benefit of a doubt. After doing much research, i knew exactly what was going on. My parents were narcissists. I was never loved and therefore i accepted abuse as love because thats how i was raised. I was codependent. But not anymore. I have done much research. Now i can clearly see these traits in people and i have firm boundaries. I know who i can and cannot trust. Abuse doesn't stop until you stop allowing it. At the end of the day, you are the problem if you keep putting up with narcissistic abuse.
When you wrote at the end of the day, I am the problem if I keep putting up with narcissistic abuse, it smashed me .Do you know why? I love my wife. Deep down, I know you're right and I am going to try with all my might to cut her out of my thoughts. That is not normal or Godly at all for me to do. I always thought I should forgive 70 times 7 as Jesus said, so I do. This is very confusing to me to not forgive, and not believe God put us together. My wife and son were plan A. I have no plan B. Well none that I can see clearly yet.
@@orangeandslinky It's more godly than you think.
The Word of God instructs us to "Have nothing to do with the evil deeds of darkness but rather expose them" and "You cannot drink the cup of the Lord and of demons too"
If we STAY (and think it is 'love' that keeps us there) we delude ourselves because by staying, what we end up doing is CONDONING their evil behaviour and enabling it. In this case, they will never have a chance to sit in excruciating silence when God Himself can deal with them and cause them to repent but by us staying, all the clamour and evil games will continue to wreak havoc on everyone.
The New Testament ALLOWS separation of married people to either be reconciled or remain unmarried.
Then there is 2Timothy3:1-5 -
"FROM SUCH, TURN AWAY" (vs 5)
@@time_2_get_ready Genesis 3:16 says a woman will be contentious to her husband and the husband will rule over her. Sounds like a problem before you even say hello. Even in a sinless state, as soon as the woman heard the words of Satan, she loved them. She wants to be a god and without a social Patriarchy to live in does think she is god. Her desire is to rule, not love at all.
@@orangeandslinky Yes Genesis 3:16 does say that and it is true of unregenerated men and women.
Jesus came to give us a new heart and a new Spirit - even the mind of Christ.
Yet you ignore this - "There is no male or female for we are all ONE *in Christ* " and so as the Word also says, "From the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks"
@@time_2_get_ready God says He made them male and female. I totally get why you hate that.
Thank you I have just tell a narcissist to get to hell out my life. I will not deal with BS ever again!!!!
Good for you
He's been beating me through the years and verbally saying things when others can't see it. It's a lot of bullying
yep they do that
Never stay where your life is in danger… distance yourself.
Narcissists also work in duos against others...I grew up with 2 in the house; they both absolutely needed each other's lies and comfort to keep going....of course, they helped each other feed off of the rest of us!
The anxiety they induce in someone is to keep them under their thumb. It's a pseudo fear sensation. Keeping you afraid of doing anything against them
I don't know how many others notice this, but every time I listen to one of these videos on the narcissist I reflect and get the answers to a sybling's behavior, actions, and things said.
These videos have helped me tremendously to understand who I am dealing with, what to look for and most of all, it was NEVER my fault. It was NEVER anything I did or said. I am releived beyond any words I could write here. I hope others are likewise benefitting and their lives are changing for the better now that they know who this 'beastly creature is'. 👍👍💪
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I have researched narrisisists so much. I really can't believe I let narrisisist control my life. It's 😧 crazy
So on point
Yep..everything that went wrong in his life I was blamed for it....all I wanted was peace of mind....so tired of fricken games.....God help us all
Trying to get my sanity back
This is a terrible character that can make you be depressed , worst still if he is your husband or someone very closer to you. I have wasted my energy living and arguing with narcissistic person until I started reading about narcissist. These articles have helped me set boundaries. Thanks alot .
I put up with a narc for 1 1/2 years. Just took all the precautions I could toake sure there will be no contact. You are so right! He told me all the time that i was too sensitve, too good. Yes he felt that I was everything he could ever want in a woman but.....always found a reason or something wrong with me. As long as I could see his view everything was great but if I disagreed all of sudden he would need to go. I could go on and on.
You really see “it.” Thank you for explaining what my mind could not understand when I saw this disparate behavior.
Exactly the truth will flow towards them ! I fall back and let the chip fall where they need to fall
3 months into the relationship I was telling my dad about him and he said is he a control freak... 13 years later and after being discarded I now know exactly what he is.
Me too, my Dad warned me. While staying with me, he him self called family during the night to ask family to come get him in the morning, he couldn’t stand it. His behaviour was awful with me and his dogs.
Am so broken in a marriage of 21yrs and I didn't know what was wrong.Striving to do good so he can change and all he could pay me with are insults.Barely days since I have come across the word narcissistic.I feel like being insane
I recently dealt with a narcissist. I could not understand them till I came across this video. Thanks
I can't believe I lived with someone like this for so long. This is so crazy I really need to get out of this marriage. God I put this in your hands please help me get out for my own safety and my child's safety also. Amèn 🙏😔🙏😔🙏♥️🙏♥️🙏♥️🙏♥️🙏♥️🙏
Be strong and get out for your child if you cant do it for you. It was my children that gave me the strength. You will get peace, joy and a hundred un dreamed of rewards on the other side. It is no way to live.
Ms. Patty, Im going in my prayer closet when I finish reading more comments. I will call your name out to the Lord as I pray for myself and others. Good luck. ❤️
Great video, my ex would always say she needed time alone, but every time she said she needed time alone, she was just working on her new supply to replace me.
And plotting...scheming!
Good riddance to her be glad she’s gone with friends like that who needs enemies😂😂😂😂
This was extremely helpful. I just hit a narcissist with some TRUTH and she flipped out on me. Big mistake. I needed to just go grey rock on her. I see her all the time because we live 5 houses apart. I am now armed with how I should have handled her manipulation and kept my mouth shut. Now I will go grey rock and hope she doesn’t do me or my husband any harm. I wouldn’t put it past her. I have to admit I am a bit frightened. But thank you for these videos.
I left my narcissistic exhusband 9 years ago. After 5 times going back each time, i did one thing right on the 6th that helped me to never go back again. My 17 year old son told me, don’t talk to him whatever you do. And I didn’t. Six months later, my mind was clear enough to see how all the abuse affected my children, our mental and physical health. I was so confident and determined to stick to my decision afterwards and i will be for the rest of my life. I thank my son and love him dearly for helping me at my most vulnerable and worst of times. For those of you doing it alone or who have young children, please just try this and give yourself time to heal before making such big decisions. Go to a shelter, it’s a safe place and it’ll give you time think before you act and not worry about the consequences of not listening to your abuser. There’s no rush for anyone except the abuser because they know they’re losing their grip.
Narcs are everywhere - North, south, east, and west. Without the info, I might not understand why they behave as they do. So, armed with knowledge, I avoid them as much as possible. There are many of them at work but that's not as bad as if they invade your home.🙏
This video is so accurate! There are actually 5 or so topics covered and every one of them loaded with truth about how narcissists operate. I kept wanting to stop the video because of the automated voice, but listened to the end. This describes exactly what I dealt with for 19 years and didn’t know it! I had a mind-blowing awakening that my husband was one a year ago, and have been on a healing journey ever since. He left almost three weeks ago because he could no longer be around me in my newly healed state! I had learned how not to react to his many tactics and he realized he couldn’t affect me or control me any longer.
It’s so important to break trauma bonds that make you want to be with them! Also, it’s super important to get inner healing from the childhood wounds of insecurity and low self worth, etc. that caused all of us victims to STAY in an abusive relationship as long as we did. I didn’t even realize I had these wounds, but I imagine every victim does. Healing these childhood wounds will keep us from attracting more abusive people in our lives in the future, and cause us to get out of unhealthy relationships we may be in now. Healthy people without these core wounds don’t stay in toxic relationships and allow others to repeatedly abuse them.
I highly recommend Biofield Tuning which I discovered about 7 months ago, it’s done wonders for me in a short period of time and I’m getting ME back, something I haven’t felt in many, many years. There is amazing healing available and an amazing life waiting for you after narcissistic abuse…the fog will lift, confusion will end, energy, motivation, and vitality will come back. My heart goes out to every person dealing with this as it is so devastating, but the good news is, if you’ve awakened to it you can begin your healing journey, and start living your best life.
So happy for your release from the trauma bond that kept you away from yourself. You are so right, we stay in these crooked twisted relationships to the point that we never know the truth, that it is not us, it never was.
The narcissist is my older sister and now that I know who she is, I have completely removed her from my life. I look back and see all the evil, manipulative downright haunting things she has done throughout our childhood. Although it was a horror story then, nothing takes the place of the freedom I am experiencing now.
All the best to you going forward!!! 💞
@@pjj.5649 Thank you, all the best to you too! That’s tough growing up with a narc sister, but at least now you can be free from the never-ending abuse. Good for you going no contact…I will do the same when the divorce is final. I actually feel really fortunate to have this knowledge and understanding which I was clueless about only a year ago. I’m so grateful to discover the unhealed childhood wounds I carried that I didn’t know I had, so I will no longer attract other abusers and ALLOW abuse to continue. We can help many others going through the same thing with our new knowledge and freedom! 👍💯🤗
I am so happy for both of you guys & myself ... not only "awakening"..but awakening to the "truth" as well & getting out! I spent nearly 20 years with the ex covert/malignant narc before I finally awoke from the fog & stupor. It took me 3 times..3rd time was the charm for me & I thank God Everyday for waking my bum up to the truth! 26JUN21 100% No Contact/ Blocked along with pretty near all our mutual friend's! Was the Best decision for me all around.
I am curious about this therapy you speak of though. Its taken me some time to get where I am now & I'm only looking up!
You need the master physician, too. The Lord Jesus Christ helped me with everything, my feelings of low self esteem, and low self opinion of myself, and feeling more grateful for things. I'm not downplaying your own particular situation, or trying to judge anyone, just never consider anything hopeless. I think the videos may serve a purpose, just please don't become addicted to them. Don't forget forgiving and trying to be reconciled to others who may have, or think may have wrongfully treated you. Forgiveness is not the best revenge, Forgiving others sincerely from your heart ♥ and moving forward, and not looking back, and following the Lord Jesus, finding a good Bible believing church, based on reformed ,orthodox Christianity, whatever it takes, ask for the Lord Jesus Christ to help you. God bless you.!
@@nca1952 Agree but i will never reconcile with a demon ladened human
This is my story, If I haven’t experienced it myself, I don’t think I would believe it… It’s just mind blowing!
I’m kind of impressed that thanks to my experiences from my malignant/covert mothers rage I didn’t even flinch when I got to experience my ex narcissists rage! My mothers rage are way more powerful and scarier. I didn’t even flinch when he grabbed a knife and held it against my throat the last time we fought (I knew he wouldn’t have the guts to really use the knife) but yeah that was uncontrollable rage 😮💨
I was stunned the moment I realized that he COULD NOT hear me when I tried to have a grown up conversation to fix our relationship, every time he would go on with word salad (I so wished that I knew about word salad because that made me so confused and that gave me brain fog!) He was master of bringing you chaos 😵💫😵💫😵💫 I needed his help because I cannot do it on my own. Then the grief came upon me when I realized that he would NEVER change. I was really chocked by this insight that he has sabotaged with lies from day 1 and he has been doing that every day since. He is a pathological liar and he can’t help it. I caught him lying about the most petty things and I couldn’t understand why anyone would lie about petty things that no one cares about anyway. I have justified his behavior every time I caught him lie to my face, so many red flags but I was blind.
His betrayal was so painful and he has been backstabbing me many times. I knew in my heart but I was denying it for almost 1 year, I justified his behavior to fit my dream. I lied and betrayed myself for this idiot monster. All I did was to help, cared and loved him, I gave him a place to stay WHY did he hurt me like that? He drained my body and soul and my economy. For the first time I went into physical violence with no fear, only raging anger, I wanted to hurt him for destroying my life! I don’t know how but I “won” the fight, he yielded and in that moment I realized that I am stronger than him, he is just a child in grown mans body and he was a leech sucking me dry. From that moment I went silent because I had nothing more to say to him other than this relationship is over and I told him to move out ASAP. It was hard to get rid of him. He begged and promised to change and blablabla. The spell was broken and I couldn’t see his angelface anymore. Short after that incident my limits were reached and I kicked him out since nothing happened and he was still there in my home. Maybe he thought that I would yield and change my mind but I have warned him about breaking my boundaries for a hole year!!!So after such strange relationship I felt the need to understand what happened and I guess it was thanks to him I started to search for information witch led me to learn that my parents also are narcissists!
All the pieces that made no sense fell in place, like why my childhood was a nightmare and that I lived in fear for my mother every day. I never knew what mood she was in when she came home after work. I was my mothers scapegoat and true teller which is the worst role to play! I always wondered why she hit me when I didn’t do anything wrong, now I know: it’s narcissists rage! My mother has always been dominant and she could yell and hit me in front my father because he didn’t have the guts to stop her. It was devastated for me as 6 years old child to be stripped the feeling of safety and the terrible feeling of helplessness. I don’t think I ever could forgive my father from that moment. No one will come and save me!
I wished every day that someone would come and save me and as I grew up I have always been ready to help someone in need because I know how it feels to be helpless and in need of help. I’m a empath/rescuer and that made me a magnet for narcissists! I didn’t know that because no one told me, I didn’t even know anything about narcissists. I was chocked of all the information I found on RUclips. Dr Ramani, the expert in narcissism saved me from freaking out. I spent every awaken minute to watch her videos and I slowly learned. Old childhood trauma woke up when I understood that my mother are a malignant/covert narcissist. Narcissist mothers are well known to be very harmful to their children, especially daughters. At least I was not alone. There are so many children with narcissist mothers and our backstories were almost same. Every single one grew up deeply traumatized like me.
10 years ago I felt sorry for her past story and when I realized how hard it is to raise a child I forgave her because I understood how hard she must have had being first generation immigrant in a new country, but it was really hard for me to.
I grew up as rebellious fighter and I just waited for the day I was big enough to defend myself from my mother. I was 13 or 14 when I for first time grabbed her hand as she tried to hit me. Then I pushed her out from my room and slammed the door. I will never forget that moment and that was the last time she hit me. I realized in that moment I grabbed her hand that I could never hit her despite the nightmare I had to endure. It was a relief because it showed me that I will never be like her! She continued to rage but she just yelled at me. I started to rage back at her and noticed that I could yell louder than her, I hade so much pain and anger as teenager and I was the only one that had the guts to confront her. I still feared her face of rage but as teenager my anger was louder than my fear. I feared her face of rage when I was 25 years old an adult! It looked demonic I couldn’t see my mother in those eyes, it was something else. But I never let her bully me ever again, her scapegoat was gone, only truth teller was left and she didn’t like that. I asked to many questions she couldn’t/wouldn’t answer because she dont have the guts too see the reality of what she has done. My mother turned her rage against my father and grandmother instead. I tried to defend and stop her when she raged at my grandmother. But as teenager I went home only to sleep I went out as much I could.
I’m truly amazed that I’m not like my parents at all. I did promise myself to never be like my parents and it seems that I have succeed! I raised my son totally opposite, I think I choose everything opposite now when I think about it 🤔 My son is a young man and he is studying in university after graduating with top grades. He has strong spirit, are intelligent, ability to think for himself and make good decisions and he has compassion and empathy like me. I’m very proud of him.
I do have many deep scars from my childhood that I still need to tend to, at least now I know exactly what caused them. Make no mistake, I am fucked up inside but my son never ever got anything of my mess. I can proudly say I did an excellent job as a mother and my son agrees 😁 I had a strength within me, a fire burning, I had grown up to be a fearless warrior. I would never let anyone lay hand on me again or so I thought…
I hate violence and I hate to argue with people. I grew up listening to my mother yelling and arguing with my father, that’s the memory of my parents throughout my childhood. My ex narcissist brought up everything I hated. He was so good in manipulation and gaslighted me (I didn’t know then), that is why I had brain fog when he was home. He was master of chaos, I still can’t understand how 1 person can create so much chaos and destruction! It felt like I was under a spell, I couldn’t figure it out how to get out of it, I was so confused of my confusion! It was so strange that I afterwards had to look this up. I didn’t know what to look for until I found dr Ramani on RUclips and every single piece fell in place. She saved me from freaking out because she educated in a calm soothing way. Her videos about children growing up with narcissist parents: I felt safe, seen, heard and understood and it felt like she was my mother teaching me to grow up. She validated everything I went through and I am not crazy! All was real! I was gaslighted during my hole life and that is why I second guess myself especially when I was in a traumatizing situation. Everything I felt and thought was totally correct! I felt relieved when I got her validation - she is an angel sent to save everyone that has gone lost…
But after this experience/journey with my ex narcissist I noticed that I’m changed:
My hope and trust died and hope was my fire in this body. Without hope I don’t want to stay in this world anymore. The humanity in this world makes me sick and tired and it’s not worth fighting for anymore, I’m done. People around me doesn’t understand and I’m bound to stay by a promise to my beautiful son. They don’t understand that they are talking to a damaged empty shell. Every day is painful and I just want to end it, but I’m bound by a promise to my son…
Narcissists will NEVER change no matter what they say, if their lips are moving it’s a lie!!
Wow....thank you for sharing. I read your story amazed at how much you have overcome. There is the story of Cain in the Hebrew Scriptures where God says to Cain “Sin is crouching at your door, but you must master it.” Life is a struggle and we must learn the lessons.
You love your son and have shown him that love. We have a Heavenly Father Who loved His Son and sent Him into the world that the world might be saved from the curse of sin. We know Him as Jesus. In the Hebrew scripture His very name means Salvation .... Yeshua. Sin require a payment and the payment was the precious blood of God’s Only begotten Son shed on the Cross. All who will look to Him for salvation will be saved when He comes to judge the world at His Second Coming. Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. All who are in Him have eternal life and the power of sin is broken. We have the blessed Hope of His soon appearing after 2,000 years. I hope you will find that reconciliation with the Heavenly Father as you believe on the Lord Jesus Christ for salvation. May the light of His countenance be upon you and give you peace. So glad you are a truth lover and a warrior against the evil forces of darkness manifest in others who are under the control of the prince of darkness. We are in the Kingdom of Light if we are in Christ Jesus. His light shines in us and overcomes the world. In fact, we are called “the overcomers.” Blessings dear one.
Yup .good for you ! He's still on ruining my life the real demon lives
I completely understand. Hugs! We are here to teach, and show love. Love we never received. We CAN do this! ❤
I am a victim of narcissistic abuse. My husband's behaviour is exactly the same as what you've explained.
His public persona is, there’s just no word how this man can draw people of any age any ethnic background people used to look at me like I was a psycho because they didn’t see what was behind closed doors, and now that were apart, he’s playing the victim, telling everybody how toxic I was and he had to get rid of me. That is what hurts the most. I did everything, I was the true victim
More fool them people listening.
Listen my friend…. I am very closely watching my niece who left her husband and he is a narcissist. He was exactly what u are saying… a persona of someone who does not exist. Gaslighting… lying…. Abusive… lazy…self serving horrible person. Thank God she got out with her soul. He was a preacher too!!!
They always play the victim
Going through the same. Hang in there. You know what you went through. That is real. They make the most out of trying to kill you at the end and playing the victim. It's the ultimate pain. And they enjoy every minute. Hold into yourself and keep moving forward. My heart is with you, this is not a walk for the faint. You are one tough cookie.
God knows and those here know.
The old saying - "Those who mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind"
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Just go out a 10 year relationship with a narcissist who moved someone else into the home within days. So glad to be out of the chaos however cant fully disengage with her due to sharing a lovely 7 year old daughter who she knows I love dearly and will use the power she has . Wish me luck in the journey ahead
I have the exact same length of time and the exact story except my son is 12. Sending you so much luck Kevin.
Only way they could've happen (moving someone else in within days) is by already having a relationship with that other person. Probably been creeping and cheating the entire time. Stay sharp bruh and don't be afraid to check your woman.. weak men can't lead.
Thank you. This video is right on time. I've cut off all narcissistic evildoers people in my life who have divided and conquered my loved ones, and caused me nothing but choas and confusion in my life.
A peace of mind is better than a piece fake a** narcissistic
manipulators in your life. Let those people go, they mean you no good....🙏
I found a thing they all seem to do is > surprise you with sudden good behavior after > ghosting you.
This always has a ulterior motive.
They also are unpredictable & proud of it. 🎉❤.
It terrifies me when the narcissist is being nice.
If he cooks something, I say I'm nauseous and not hungry.
I know he's either done something awful or is scheming. They do nothing nice without an agenda
You totally nailed my current situation. I’m sitting here with my jaw dropped.
Keep courage and confident in yourself and the creator almighty, my sister
I dated a narcissist I once saw 3 ppl in him he had 3 faces he was the biggest liar I have ever met
Thanks for this, These people will learn to leave us alone. Thanks, God's child not as needed, for them, but always.
The thing they are most scared of definitely truth! But even then they will lie through their teeth
Unfortunately, I became as toxic as he was I had to go into emotional survivor mode, and for about eight weeks, I actually was worse than he was I didn’t even know who I was in the end
Echoism
Its called crazy making! They are crazy and will make you crazy!
So Accurate. You just gained a follower. This describes my ex in every way. Thank God I walked away before my life was wasted. He tried to destroy me in every way but God protected me .He was so cruel, his ego was bigger than Mount Everest and he always thought he is better than others . Very manipulative and tried to isolate me from my friends and family. After I left he realised he lost a diamond and tried to apologise and ask for forgiveness. Nope I ain't going back there. A leopard never changes it's spots. I can now spot these narcs miles away and I am quick to cut them off Thanks for this video I will save for reference 🤗
So true my sister, their ego is higher than Mount Everest, the highest mountain in the Universe
you did the right thing., saved your life from lots of suffering. Once the children come, it is a disaster awaiting.
After almost 30 yrs of marriage, I still was falsely hoping that my (now ex) narcissistic spouse would change, despite my friends and all of my children asking me to divorce this guy. What made me finally realize that I had to leave (divorce)? Because I finally understood that his goal was to destroy me. Period. If I stay with him, I am basically allowing myself to be destroyed. As mentioned in this video. Well said.
Thank you THIS IS SO VERY TRUE. 53 YEARS of a suffering and Still Am. ☹☹
I've been put through all of this, for me these individuals are (some times) Very good looking or attractive people. So don't ever let looks get the best of You either💆♂️.
Looks have NOTHING to do with a persons character. Not a thing
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Yes it does, sometimes Everything and sometimes Not, depending on up bringings.
Some nice looking people are taught to be that way are taught to use their looks for manipulation, Most Women are guilty of this....(Oh Look at The Pretty Little Baby) and it never stops then YOU create this monster.
@@busybee2033 Exactly! Kids learn by the example set by their parents. Sadly, not all parents are good role models.
Absolutely true 💯. Yes,yes ,yes . Every word is true about him.Kids and me have gone through enough of this.Everything is my fault.
Your sound wisdom and description of my sister is 💯 true. She deliberately caused me pain throughout my life. It wasn’t until our mother’s passing that I decided I had had enough of her self absorbed victim mentality. It’s been five years and I’ve never felt so liberated and peaceful without her chaotic manipulative behavior in my life.
My older sister didnt like me either. She is a total bitch. Completely left me out of her wedding party. Instead had 2 of her followers as bridesmaids. They were 2 to 3 years younger than I and my sister is 4 years older. LOL!
You sound like your situation is real similar to mine I have been conversing with a lady online who I just found out is a narcissist and after a day or so I started wondering how her sister which is her twin sister gets along with her. She is a top female model I have only known her for more than a couple months I have never spoken to her but I see her online and she seems highly attracted to me or did for a while and then she actually started flirting with another person well her and I were eye to eye just a short second before that the camera it was right there to see ,,,very obvious and after the second time I saw her do it I picked up on it and put two and two together then lo and behold I saw the narcissist films come on RUclips
It is really sad because I cared very very dearly for her and I tried to explain to her even though she couldn't talk to me that in my life I don't lie I'm kind of a rare bird ,,, but that's me.
At the time I didn't know about her narcissistic problem but now that I know everything is turned upside down because I won't play the game with her it is truly a sad situation I cared a lot for her..... she has some personal videos with her and her sister and also claims that she does not have a mother / I wonder if she became narcissistic from her mother would like to know a little bit more about that story.....
Any she lied to u she don’t even know me that’s a pedophile she been sit n up watch n me fucc
I have been the target of a raving narcissist for almost two years. She has alienated my son from the rest of the family. We have had to let him go and accept that the only way to deal with her is not to deal with her. Refusing to respond to her drives her crazy.
This helped me tremendously. I’m currently a week and no contact with a narcissist I was dating. She is now talking about meeting me at the doctors appointment for my physical therapy. She knows it’s this Friday, but not what time. in the unlikely event she stocks me in the parking lot today, I’m gonna expose her for what she is using the great rock method, she’s going to be forced to listen, except as I expose her demons which I can see actually, I’m what they call a seer. I wanna expose every demon in her so she can either leave for good or change. Wish me luck guys.. hopefully she doesn’t find me today.
Ignore it and show a lot of not being interested. This is what a narc want a fight a competition. And do not look in their eyes !
I have been dealing with my narcissist husband for 31 years know I know I am not crazy enough is enough good luck to you hope she doesn't run into you
This is the best and most complete video on this subject. I saved this for repeated listening. You covered something no one else has so far. My mother and daughter (narc's )can't stand that I am a Free Spirit. They want to destroy me because I can have happiness in life from simple things and I have a loving heart.
Simple things and peace of mind in the truth.
Distancing myself from my mother and brother has brought me peace.
I lived with a covert narcissist for 14 years. Everything you mention in your video is exactly what he was like. Verbally, emotionally and physically....he almost killed me several times. I kept thinking I could help him see his unacceptable behavior. Finally I literally escaped and now live far far away and will NEVER return to him. Thank you for providing this video. It is extremely helpful!
Everything stated in this video is 100% what I’ve been dealing with for 21 years. Just last month I completely started to ignore him and only allow him to ramble in conversation. When I show no interest in what he’s saying he walks away in a huff. I just laugh to myself. And when I laugh out loud, that raises his ire to the nth. He thinks having my pic on his locked phone is I’m showing you I love you even though we haven’t been together in 3 years, although we live in the same house. Separately. I started keeping text and emails cause he would always lie and say he didn’t say or did something. Making me feel like I was losing my mind.
I was married to a narc for 9 years! I was today love bombed for the first 5 years then I could see the danger damage he was doing. Glad I left over three years ago
This is exactly like my ex. He hated that I was secure and he couldn’t break me.
The first 5 years? :0
You don’t need creeps in your life 😂😂😂😂
Thank you for putting together this diagnosis regarding the narcissistic personality. My mate displays all these behaviors. I couldn't put my finger on it I thought he was bipolar. But now that I definitely understand the dark cloud that is over him. I now can walk away because he is taking my kindness for weakness. And I really don't think that he care or even like me. I feel like he's jealous of me, even though he says I love you. He's always asking me to help to do this or do that for him. He gets mad when I say no do-it-yourself. Like he is a kid that do not have the ability or the know-how to do things or even to comprehend words in a book or in a letter. He is everything that you have described in the videos. Thank you thank you thank. It is time to walk away so I can live my life like it is golden.
They are jealous of their partners.
Please keep it moving because if you don't the abuser will think it is ok never be come a victim by staying in a toxic relationship mental nor physical abuse both will leave you drain saying they will hurt themselves is just to play on your emotions I pray that you trust Jesus Christ to show how to love your self I pray that the abuser give their lives to Jesus Christ after getting out of the abuse give your self to heal sign Cynthia Smith please don't go back for your peace
Run! 😂
I grew up in a home were my oldest brother is an narcissistic person. He has ambushed the lives of other siblings. He is so self centered and absorbed that I have pretty much cut him out of my adult life. It has been a blessing and my life is much enjoyable for me and my relationship with my wife.
You described my older brother. He got married during COVID and I didn’t go to his wedding.
Expecting a narcissist to change is like reading the same book over and over again and recording expecting a different ending