Andrew. What about very well written television? Are you a fan? An argument can be made these days that such is the complexity of the storylines/storytelling in modern dramas. That so much thinking is involved. To the point that television is no longer passive entertainment.
After 10 books, it's pretty much the same. We search for some insight, but everything is so simple and obvious: eat well, sleep well, exercise daily, avoid alcohol, medidate...blablabla. The secret is to just do it. You can read 100 books of french language, it won't make you a speaker. 1 action is louder than 1000 words.
Nike's slogan guy was very wise. Yet somewhat ironic that probably 90% of the people that have those words written on their t-shirt do the exact opposite
This is the conclusion I've come to. Whether it's finding the "right" fitness or self-help RUclipsr, you end up finding out that they're all saying the same thing. We all know the answer, we just need to start
Knowledge, Skills, Practices & Tactics can all be taught. This is what books teach. What can’t be taught is WILL. This is why a lot of people join the gym or practice a habit...but two weeks later they fall off. If I could give everyone I meet two things: it would be awareness & will.
different book resonate with different people, during different stages of our life, took me a while to figure that out. i would read some books, get nothing 1-6 pages in. then years later the same book spoke to me in a different light.
I have been doing self improvement for 5 years. I'm now 18 and it has been very helpful for my self improvement. But I feel thats something is missing... No matter how much I learn, no matter how many videos I watch i'm still not able to beat my old self. My worst enemy. Everyday is almost the same, I wake up motivated and I always tell myself that i'm gonna be more productive and sometimes I am but most of the time I waste my entire day. By the time its dark I tell myself its too late and that I should do my tasks the next day... I feel right now that i'm stuck in a vicious cycle and I don't feel like i'm free almost like i'm my own slave. I really hope somebody reads this Is there anyone who also experiences this ?
@Cian Gahan yes thanks, I will definitely try that, its almost like I lose my awareness little by little during the day and get it back when i'm too tired to do anything
@Psy Rules yes thats true I tell myself everyday that i'm gonna do it the next day but it feels like gravity pulls me back to my old habits, everyday is the same. Even in my head, I think the same thoughts I promise myself the same things. And everyday I end up disappointing myself
@@DonWei13 This reminds me of the playlist about the dopamine detox, and a video about the leath path resistance that Andrew made If you did'nt watch those, I recommand you them He probably evocates books that goes along the same topic I'm French sorry for my english
@@dicelfiss1396 maybe I need to try a dopamine detox myself, i've never done it because I need my phone for school (since the lockdown) and I need to check my whatsapp to stay in touch with school
@kapil tali there's no need for a reason. I use :) instead of 😊 when i really mean the smile becoz the emojis are mostly clichéd and fillers these days. :) look so kind and cute to me. Also
@@vegetagoku42 12 rules for life by Jordan Peterson how to win friends and influence people by dale carnegie subtle art of not giving a F by Mark Manson Atomic Habits by James Clear
Ronak, did you listen to the audiobook version? It has even more content and I think you’d love it! It almost has a podcast like format on top of the entirety of the book.
Damon Dominique OMG, Damon watches Andrew, i think my RUclips world just collided. 😆 🌍 Btw, I bought Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth based off your recommendation Damon. 😉 I also got The Power of Now, as it addressed my more pressing problem, and I’ve started that one first. So far it’s good, but a bit wordy and repetitive.
Love to see your 100 self-help book list (with ratings), Andrew Kirby Maybe list the grading this way (I did it this way with humor. Anyway you like works, of course) : 1 Star: Puke. What the heck did I just read? 2 Star: Okay. To be fair, there were one or two good ideas (perhaps even a few on a good day) in the book so it wasn't a complete waste of time. 3 Star: Pretty Good. Got money's worth. 4 Star: Great. Lots of helpful ideas covered. Insightful and inspiring. 5 Star: Fantastic! This one is remaining on my shelf till the end of my days so I can go back and re-read it again and again. Love your channel. Keep up the good work! Have a great week, all!
Also, that knowledge is useless unless it is backed by action. Reading won't on it's own make you into the person you want to be. You have to take that knowledge and apply it in the real world. Then, after you have done that successfully enough times it's an automatic reaction, you have just gained wisdom. The reason is, wisdom is doing. S. - "You know to clean a windshield?" D. - "Yeah." (with a puzzled look) S. - Throws the window squeegee at D. "Good, then do it." Bonus points if you know what movie that's from. ;)
Reading a book does not keep you focused; it is your intention to absorb and integrate the information a book can offer you that keeps you focused on your goal - why you wanted to read the book in the first place.
Even though I have no interest in reading( I hated books) I started out with reading fanfics on instagram, the I shifted to wattpad and now I read a book a day.
I love this channel a lot. The content is precise and useful. I want to say that I’m very grateful for its content, it completely change my perspective of live and also my live!
I'm a student, 20 years of age, studying in Europe. Next year I'm finishing my bachelor's degree in informatics/multimedia. I'm striving to be some form of photographer but I do not have a clue how to apply photography in my professional life. Nor do I know how to apply any skill in my professional life, and because of that I believe that "I have no purpose/skill" which makes me stand out as a student, as a person. I'm a big fan of watching educational content on RUclips or reading books, my attention span is quite short on the contrary, so some times I just end up absorbing less information than I would want to. I want to change that. I am extremely worried that one day, when I finish university, I will be just another standard 09-17 worker with possibly an average salary and doing absolutely nothing what I would want to do, yes, I'm worried. I do acknowledge that my problem does seem quite mainstream, I just do not know how to apply change in life, when to stop procrastinating and how to get my life together. Help would be appreciated. Thank you for reading this, hope you're having a wonderful day/evening/night. Take care of yourself. Cheers.
Hey! I have the kind of similiar situation and struggles with you. 21 year old student here, i will be finishing my degree in English Lit in 2 years and media in 1 year. Like you, when i finish university either i will be a waste with minimum wage 9-5 worker or jobless due to economic crisis (being a standart teacher is my worst nightmare lol). I want to be an artist in many fields, so this is my plan- Self teaching- There's a lot of tutorial and masterclasses (like masterclass.com where you have professionals giving a course) and you can somehow access it for free (either trials or pirating). You should divide the days of your week to each thing you want to focus on (this is a method Elon Musk does) for example: monday- learning photography tuesday- learning lighting wedneyday- photoshooting monday- learning photography/editing your photos etc etc. you can divide the days as before noon/after noon to do 2 things in that day also. THE KEY IS NOT TRYİNG TO MULTITASK EVERYTHING AT ONCE AND FOCUS ON WHAT YOURE DOING FOR THE DAY PLANNED AND NOT STRESS OVER THE TOMORROW'S ISSUES. yeh. I'd say follow unique photographers and anything that inspires you and GET RID OF YOUR MAIN PROCASTINATORS/apps and time consuming games for example (which is a huge problem for me still, last week I had to throw a good opportunity to starting to be a comic artist FOR NOTHING. Because I procastinated let myself be a stop in my true way.) Also think of how your work can inspire of help people, and how it helps you (not materialisticly). - do not forget the thing we call skill is just doing/repeating something over and over and we naturally learn to be better at it. Anyone can learn any skill by hard work, practice, knowledge. Try to search for oppoortunities, contests, make a social media profile, meet people like you, meet professional photographers and explore yourself.
Hello usually when I want to make a habit I just dive into it its the best option for me taking cold showers helped my make a lot of good habits and break bad ones the idea of the cold shower is it makes you get used to not feeling comfortable because if your comfortable your not work as hard as you can I usally take 3 days of just doing nothing just playing or hanging out and then I pull the plug on a bad habit thats what I did when I was playing a game called rise of kingdoms its very time consuming and addictive game and I was able to break through it by playing it for 3 days straight and then I stopped playing it and now I have so much free time to focus on what I truly want In summary dive info what you want because there is no other way recommend cold showering also take a break and then break your bad habits to build good ones
Well, that's very interesting! Because I recently graduated in *Media-IT* as well and also have creative skills like *photography,* drawing, etc. that I really like to take to a professional level and maybe even make a living from it 😃 Why I'd like to do that? I've studied and should be working as an UI/UX Designer already, right? Well, that's the problem. Right now it's super difficult to find a job (because of COVID) 😷 But this situation *gently forced* me find out and do alot of reasearch about how I can make money with my skills (and of course improve my skills over time). I've then discovered a yt channel called *"The Futur"* which finally answered all the questions and half-knowlegde I had. It's a channel about teaching ppl in the creatie field like visual design and stuff to get better, start a business as a freelancer and all that stuff around it with a great teacher, Chris Do. Since then I've been watching each of their new video and learn something new everytime! Like, I never thought I could even make money with art, photo/video editing, but I can. I just didn't knew in how many shapes and forms there are! I also lacked the basics of business making. Or rather I wasn't interested while they tried to teach that stuff to us at uni/college. RIGHT NOW I'm not the same man I was 2 months ago. I'm much more confident with my skills 🎨 ### It's also very useful to know where your strengths are and the things you love doing. I'm for example good at teaching & love helping others. It's literally the most fulfilling thing for me. So it was just natural for me to make tutorial about things I know much about. Right now I make tutorials for artists about more tech. related topics that most artists don't know about, partially also because I love diving deep into topics that I'm interested in & post them in Twitter. To find out what YOU have in you, I highly recommend to start with this _Futur_ Video for example: ruclips.net/video/G2SqqjRn_c0/видео.html It's called _"How To Find And Do Work That You Love (Ikigai)"_
Kudos for attempting analyze. As a professed self-help content consumer, I would say that it is not a waste of time to read books for self improvement. There is no shortcut to wisdom and knowledge.
You spot on Kirby. I am a Software developer and there are lots of videos now a days on an entire frameworks, but i stick to the books! Have never regretted that!
That sounds more like a you issue if I'm honest. Find ways to actively engage yourself and apply the knowledge. Perhaps diagrams and note taking highlighting etc.
You shouldn’t do that. Read books that interest you but at the same time benefit your life. You will be motivated more than ever to read. Also. Try dopamine detox. Works pretty well,
Maybe u can see proper motivational videos and right after getting motivated do ur work. I mean like I see a motivational video when I don't want to study and after watching the video I immediately get back to studying. It did help me to some extent hope u benefit from it too
Great video, as a person who often buys books and never fully reads them, this resonated. I've enjoyed listening to many audio books / RUclips videos - but, as you say, have struggled to retain all the facts and concepts presented. I've found taking notes on paper has been a great way for me to negate this. Whereas a great concept that aligns with my core values is likely to become ingrained indefinitely - so not an exact science. Grateful for the wisdom.
They definitely are. You only need to read a couple, if you read anymore you are just wasting time that you could be using toward whatever it is you are actually interested in. Unless you want to become a "guru" and have people pay you to tell them how to make their lives better.
Just an appreciation post for this guy. The topic and ideas he talks about resonates with me so well. I think about these things so often , how optimism is overrated ,how self help is kind of a scam and this guy makes brilliant videos on them . RUclips is filled with " how this book changes my life videos." How this mentor changed my life How to be positive always ... Etc etc videos Happy to see something practical from this guy. The world is ready to scam you with its big machinery of power and resource ,it's your rationality and logic that will come to your rescue.
My problem: inconsistency Whenever I have a less productive day, it always seems to turn into a less productive week or even month. I want to learn how to get myself back in a winning mindset more easily. I have already read The power of habit and The 7 habits of highly effective people on this subject. Update: I fixed it!!!! The answer in two words: bullet journal
Try Flylady - it is a house cleaning system, but I find it spilling over into my everyday life. Not my house cleaning, but my time management. Keep things simple and easy to develop the consistency. Also do something at about the same time every day or at the same trigger point, and eventually you don't have to think about the behavior. You just do it. I call it stacking, others call it tagging, others call it something else - it is the idea that the habit you want to develop is done immediately after something that you know you are going to do. Like doing 10 jumping jacks after you brush your teeth. You do it until the 10 jumping jacks become automatic. You know you are going to brush your teeth. Or if you are a student, every time you hear a school bell, you take 10 deep breaths to calm your anxiety. Or to become a better singer. Also, identify your why. Why you are doing something is usually a better motivator than "oh no, I gotta do this". I want to be healthy is a better reason than "oh, dear I have to run 10 miles today." Just keep it simple and you will get there.
I’m literally doing the same thing man. I’m 16 and always looking for ways to improve. I’m reading books, working on drawing and currently trying to learn a language. I think it has changed my life maybe not drastically but it’s certainly putting new ideas in my head. I would say I definitely improved my mind set since last year when I started this whole journey. Never stop improving guysss
I truly enjoy watching your your videos. You are a very educated individuals and I'm always learning something new or valuable through your videos. C.Sydoriak
Hey Andrew , I doubt you'd see this but I wanna start off by saying that this video just opened my mind and views on different things and that I loved it . Moving on ,I think my problem is that I dont really know what my passion is , other then somehow be financially free in the future and mind you I am bout to turn 18 . So if anyone knows a great book on how to find your passion itll be of great help . In addition to this I'd also would like a recommendation on the next top ecommerce industries. Thanks . Much love ❤
A lot of us, a little older, experienced that same problem. For me, it's as simple as you thinking about the subjects you had at school. Did you enjoy any particular subject more than others? And if so, within that subject, was there a specific topic that interested you the most? If so, go search a little more about that topic. Wether it is in RUclips videos from experts in those fields, books, or whatever you find helpful to comprehend the information. Then, analyze your profile as a person. Think how would you fit in such a job. Of course, intellectual characteristics, but mostly, personality traits that you regard as common throughout the varied people who work in that area of knowledge. Do you fit in? Is it something that you do not perceive as tiring after a certain time?
I think the best way is to try different things you are interested and choose the best one for you. You can read books by Tim Ferris, Tools of Titans: for great advice from the most successful people in the world and his book The 4 hour chef has chapters on how to learn any skill in short period of time.
For me I read a book once a week for discipline into me finishing it, I would when not implofining this method pick up a book read it for about a week and leave it for about a month then finish it, now with this method I use it helps me not only become more displined but I finish and get to read more books after, I'm just a guy who happens to love books asw which helps, great video like how you have an open mind about this topic
3:00 - This is the best explanation relating focus, attention span and the internet I've ever heard. I actually just realized this in my own life. That social media, youtube...etc. drastically reduces my ability to focus where as meditation and entertainment like books help since (as you said) once you stop focusing the external stimulus stops.
I pressed like when you said, "It's not about the books you go through, but the books that go through you." the language device drove the impact of that concept
Wow I remember being here before he even had 15k subscribers. I just noticed he already passed 300k, damn that was quick. Thanks for everything Andrew!
Thanks for the insight. I both read and watch videos, but I didn’t consider the differences. Such distinctions allow me to use the best format, given my purpose, intent, and its relative importance!
When I’m reading, I can zone out and continue reading. I think my brain has learned to passively take in information when reading while being able to daydream at the same time, from being so bored when in school 😹
My problem/ challenge: I would like to post more than 1 RUclips video per week. I have plenty of time but I either procrastinate or find other tasks to keep me busy instead of recording or editing. Great video, Andrew!! I like the JIT vs JIC comparison. I’ve definitely found it to be much more difficult to ready books just in case I need their information.
I understand everything self-help books promote, but I really don’t know how to set goals! I’m at university doing a very good degree, but I wish I had the creativity to find something productive I can pick up any time
I just got a high-distinction for my psychology course Motivation & Emotion and that textbook is gold for understanding what motivates people to achieve goals. It is a bit of work to get through and then extract and apply the ideas but they are backed by science. You have to do that by yourself though, so that's where the creativity and true genius is - in applying it yourself to your specific situation. You have to understand the material, understand yourself, understand your situation, and understand how you can combine them all to achieve your goals and be effective in life. The textbook is entitled: Understanding Motivation and Emotion 7th edition by Johnmarshall Reeve and you can probably find it on the libgen website.
amh, you can read How to get sh*t done by Erin Falconer, well it's mainly focus for women. It will give you task/things to do. So, as what they say words+action= knowledge. lmao you'll just know. It's good. ps. if youre a woman then yayy
First find a goal to get yourself a right direction, second important thing is the process to achieve that goal as we all know winners and loosers have the same goal, 3rd the most important thing is the believe, believe is the game changer you start believe from day one that you are the type of person that you want to become to achieve the your goal take every action by telling yourself that what a person who achieved that goal will do in a particular situation and tell yourself that you are the same person when good habbits become your believe you win the game.😇
I'm struggling with my fears and anxieties. Since last month, I've decided to face them and now my mind is calmer than ever before (thanks, Stoicism) but whenever I see people whom I've interacted with in the past, it reminds me of my "past self" - the one who's very fearful. And then I start nervously shaking just like before and it feels like my progress just went back to 0. Any book recommendations that would help me with this?
What's important is you are taking action to improve this. Just keep going outside your comfort zone until what was outside your comfort zone is eventually comfortable.
simple make new memory with your current improve self. and practice your current improve version daily routine so much that your past experience will start to fade automatically.
Thank you so much Brother for saving many years of my Life...... and clarifying me what was I doing wrongly from the last few years reading and buying self-help books. I really appreciate your Effort in making very valuable videos. Keep it up Bro.
Not a book recommendation but i would recommend you to start investing, if you have as you are saying 1 year worth of saving then if you coul get %15 per year in real state (its just a example) and reinvest that money until you get %100 anually of your initial investment then you are literally getting passive income to live from and quit your job without any problem while growing your networth if you keep on investing
There is a book called "set for life" by Scott Trench that talks about that. It lays out a plan to get to a year financial runway then to 5 years financial runway then to financial independence. You already got to a year, so I believe you will like it.
Dude, your videos are awesome. well your right, i read "changed your brain change your life" 2 times, and your quote "It's not how many books you go through, it's how many books go through you" really applies to me, the book sold me a lot of ideas and techniques, wow
My problem is that I know the theory of how to solve my problem. But after trying some time I give up, because I see no change. People would recommend Keep trying, the results will come later, but thats simply not the case. And then I keep reading self help books or I whatch this kind of vids on YT, but I dont change longterm. Can a human really change longterm, and if so, HOW?
Great video! Just found your channel & really enjoying your videos. My current problem is that I'm very busy but don't feel like I'm actually accomplishing that much. I'd like to get more value out of my hours instead of working so long. Any book recommendations? Thanks.
I would like to find a book that talks about sacrificing your present with work to benefit your future. I heard this concept from a video of Jordan Peterson, but I don't want to read his work now, I save it for later, would you have a book to recommend? thanks, great videos!
I agree wholeheartedly with the need and urge to ”need” something, which makes reading the books more enjoyable and productive. Thanks for the reminder of concentration cultivation being the added benefit when absorbed in a book! Cheers to everyone’s growth!
My problems: insecurity, laziness, anxiety, fear failure, depressed, unsatisfied with life, no money. Do you have any book recommendations? Deep Work sounded good.
Deep works is a way to focus on your work and how to be more productive with your time, if your problem are laziness anxiety, depression and so on i advice you a book about Habits like The powers of Habits from Chales Duhigg or about the mindset like mindset from Dr. Carol.S Dweck. I got the same problems as you (except fair failure and depressed) because i already started my company but i found no clients and i start to stop working because i don't have motivation and i kind of start giving up. The thing is that i do quite nothing all the day and i remember that the habits are very important to re-find motivation, work... etc
Hi Andrew. Can you recommend books or make a video on how to find out what we really want and set goals for it. I have been struggling on it for several years now but cant seem to resolve this issue.
Totally agree! Self help books are mainly motivational - I found many have surface level advice which is intuitive but not actually well researched/ evidence based! Also much of self help books were written by "entrepreneur gurus" as fodder for MLM.
I’m doing my last year of school right now and my motivation is at an all time low. The work doesn’t interest me or peak my curiosity at all, but I need to do well to not lose my place at university. The constant fight with myself to study/work eats at me. Especially with online school, etc I just can’t focus. I feel sad when I don’t work, and bored when I do. The cycle just perpetuates. Please recommend a book for me 😔 Is there any way of forcing yourself to find something interesting? Or maybe I’m just repelled at the idea of having to memorise and be pressured?
Your problem is procrastination. You can fix it by trying to associate tasks you are doing with positive emotions, instead of automatically associating those tasks with negative emotions, like boredom.
Do something to love. I can't recommend a book but I can recommend a 4 minute video “WHAT TO DO AFTER COLLEGE” by GaryVee. If you don't know GaryVee, please check out his content, it might change your life like it did mine.
Maype it could help, if you try to see the possibilities and reasons behind your tasks, which could be helpful for your university, for example science and mathematics to train your brain, by learning to solve problems more properly and write your thouths ore solutions on the best way down. And languages, to be able to bring your thouths across to other people, even if the content is not interesting, it is so special to have the possibility of language to show your thouths and so you can see these different subjects as a way to learn important and helpfull things, combined with positive emotions, for your future, by seeing the reason and use behind these tasks. ( sorry for my bad English, I am from Germany)
I'm not able to focus on anything. Learning things, implementing but getting confused, procrastinating. Learning from the scratch. Your videos are helpful but still going round and round. Fully fed up
Thoughts on "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck"? Have had people recommend it and heard a lot of it, yet im not sure. Heard it really has its own writing style
Didnt read the book but an avid fan of the author, Mark manson. i read alot of his articles and the problem is that it only shows you philosophical perspectives and in macro perspective but dont really tell you "How to" in micro detail.
Helped me a lot. If you're struggling with feeling like a victim or like everything is holding you down then it's a good and humorous primer on the principles of stoicism. I read it pretty quickly. It won't steal too much of your time. At the end of the day we lose a lot of time on shitty TV movies or videos. Not the worst thing to add a book to that list.
I loved the main idea in the book - that you should only care about the things you really care about. I didn't care for his next book. It just didn't resonate with me.
For me there are some gems. The idea that stuck with me was learning what to give a fuck about. Like I shouldn't get mad at this or that because I don't give fucks about it. People who get angry at trivialities are those who give way too many fucks. The less fucks you give, the easier it is for you to ignore the subject or do it. If I don't give a fuck about taking out the trash I don't mind doing it because it has no power over me. Also... i love his idea that chasing a negative experience is in itself a positive experience. Chasing a positive in itself a negative experience. I would reccomend it for people who struggle to just do things. For overthinkers and people who get angry, sad or any extreme emotion. One should never be too high or too low.
I am having problems communicating with people, in a way that doesn't make them mad. I want to learn to analyze a situation and then communicate to people in the situation to get the right response without angering them. I want to learn to calm them down and the best way to do it.
I'm guessing that means we all know the answer. But we want it to be told in many different ways because we are procrastinating. It might not feel like procrastinating but if you are reading, and you're reading the same thing said differently than while you are reading you could have been doing. I guess idk.
3:23 I was waiting for the eye to blink lol Self-help books benefit only two people - the author and the reader. There is a huge difference in the distribution of benefits between the two. The author has a long term benefit, while the reader has it short term. The author gains money, fame, and ideas for the next book based on user feedback. They build on previous ideas and sell newer content. For the reader, it comes down to what they do with the book. They can either passively read it or actively use the ideas. It only helps when the reader implements those ideas and includes them as their mental models. Not all self-help books are bogus or waste of time. Someone like Andrew who has read 100 self-help books is armed with 100 different ideas. They can see a little further by standing on the shoulders on those 100 giants. Not all ideas would work, but those do work for you help you see the world differently. One percieves reality through different sides of a prism. Eventually, you can write and talk about things that the author's single vision couldn't see. Actually, I don't mean them as single vision, as these authors themselves have read authors before them and condensed many ideas to a simple technique that could solve all our problems. So, it is all condensed info. Okay, going back to what I was saying, it helps you see a little further, and develop your own ideas about the reality about the world. Ideas aren't silver bullets. They either help or don't. It's a matter of trial and error.
I’m currently struggling with what I guess you can call social anxiety. When I hang out with friends at a party there’s always jokes I wanna say or things that I want to do but I never do them because of fear. But it’s not just that, I even want to become closer with my family but I’m not sure how to approach them and really make an effort to form a deeper relationship
don't fall in the trap of pursuing something u don't enjoy. and also if u go to college try find time to do something that you love meanwhile u study, for exemple a side business or a project. You can find time for it, don't say aftere college because that's the bigest mistake i made. i wish i had done things separately beside college.
There is no passion by itself. You just discover one by trying, failing and switching. Just choose what seems interesting and be brave enough to switch to another subject if it's not working for you despite of many time spent. And make no mistake: nothing comes natural and without an effort, even so called "passion". At least you're trying to make things right. Many people just go wherever the stream pushes them.. I myself studied math and in some moment decided that I'm not smart enough, math became really difficult, and I got dropped out. Today I'm almost 30 and I decided to go back and study math again because I was wrong, this is it, it's really hard, but it's what I must do no matter what. But before that I tried a lot of different things... I hope you'll find what you're searching for.
Just new experiences College, new jobs, meet new people, (travel). Follow your heart for 5 years. You will smile. You will also be so great to have a conversation with
I like to dream about a future where a more disciplined version of myself is living in my dream lifestle/career. This somehow stops me from taking consistent action in the present to create that for myself. Sometimes I think it's because imagining that dream future gives me a sense of instant gratification. I need to learn how to weather through the hard work to get there. Anybody have some good book recommendations for me? Thanks on advance!
Hi Andrew. Please recommend me some books on how to improve the communication, how to be a great leader (leadership in general) and how to conquer the procrastination. Thank you! You are doing a great job on your channel!
And don't read any book for communication trust me.Best advice is go and talk to one ,learn, experience it, go through your mistakes and learn again and enjoy talking.Practice it.
3:28 well... sometimes I get into my thoughts while reading a book, and suddenly I kind of "wake up" from my thoughts and realize that I wasn't listening (in my mind) what I was reading, and I have to go back a couple of sentences and read again paying attention this time. But I get Andrew's point. Even if that happens, I notice it pretty quickly... It's not like I would read for an hour without awareness...
Fantastic advice!! The “fluff” problem is terrible for sure- youtube videos fall prey to it as well 👀 Books I recommend are The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up, Women who Run With The Wolves, and What A Time To Be Alone.
Loved how you transitioned from fixing dishwasher to a valuable lesson. ? I am eager to learn about business / entrepreneurship... Can you recommend me some books?
I 100% agree with you with audio books where the author reads it to you. That is where you can truly get the message as it was intended to be delivered because you get that passion and emotion behind each word. You know the tone and inflection the author was trying to convey because...they wrote it and now they are saying those words out loud, as they were intended to be interpreted.
Books are the best salesmen.
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What do you think about "Law of attraction" and the book THE SECRET by RHONDA BYRNE?
She did provide a scientific basis.
Andrew. What about very well written television? Are you a fan? An argument can be made these days that such is the complexity of the storylines/storytelling in modern dramas. That so much thinking is involved. To the point that television is no longer passive entertainment.
🇩🇿 from Algeria ...keep working !! Useful contect based on science
@@ShahabAhmad1398 Can you give an example
@@kandaceanshika5465 LOA is a fake concept. Please watch Alex Becker's video on it
_"It's not how many books you go through, it's how many books go through you"_
Brilliant.
:)
Yeah man! Give credit to Andrew if you use that quote 😉. I will be!!
Bruh I’m not transparent smh
Adrian Rodriguez You should give credit to the person who actually said this quote first Mortimer J Adler
Andrew Kirby
Said by Seneca in Letters from Stoics
i went to school for 12 years. I wasted my time. kind of.
It's sad because it's true
Yeah in Romania is even worst
Yeah kind of.. because we actually need to know how to read, do some math and write, all the other things are simply usless
You might surprise yourself
Yea school has taken it too far, man
After 10 books, it's pretty much the same. We search for some insight, but everything is so simple and obvious: eat well, sleep well, exercise daily, avoid alcohol, medidate...blablabla. The secret is to just do it. You can read 100 books of french language, it won't make you a speaker. 1 action is louder than 1000 words.
Nike's slogan guy was very wise. Yet somewhat ironic that probably 90% of the people that have those words written on their t-shirt do the exact opposite
@@johannes7434 Right? I thought of that as well.
This is the conclusion I've come to. Whether it's finding the "right" fitness or self-help RUclipsr, you end up finding out that they're all saying the same thing. We all know the answer, we just need to start
Ana Luiza yesss!!! So true!
Knowledge, Skills, Practices & Tactics can all be taught. This is what books teach. What can’t be taught is WILL. This is why a lot of people join the gym or practice a habit...but two weeks later they fall off. If I could give everyone I meet two things: it would be awareness & will.
I find hard copies more interesting and attention-grabbing than e-books. It's easier to lose interest while reading with your phone or tab.
I don't think so 🙄
I agree with u I would prefer physical book.
@@idkwhattonamemyself9326 me too
just get an e-reader ,like kindle for example.
Favour Chima i wonder if it’s cause you can’t see how far you’ve gotten
different book resonate with different people, during different stages of our life, took me a while to figure that out. i would read some books, get nothing 1-6 pages in. then years later the same book spoke to me in a different light.
true!
Yes
Facts
I have been doing self improvement for 5 years. I'm now 18 and it has been very helpful for my self improvement. But I feel thats something is missing...
No matter how much I learn, no matter how many videos I watch i'm still not able to beat my old self. My worst enemy. Everyday is almost the same, I wake up motivated and I always tell myself that i'm gonna be more productive and sometimes I am but most of the time I waste my entire day. By the time its dark I tell myself its too late and that I should do my tasks the next day... I feel right now that i'm stuck in a vicious cycle and I don't feel like i'm free almost like i'm my own slave.
I really hope somebody reads this
Is there anyone who also experiences this ?
@Cian Gahan yes thanks, I will definitely try that, its almost like I lose my awareness little by little during the day and get it back when i'm too tired to do anything
@Psy Rules yes thats true I tell myself everyday that i'm gonna do it the next day but it feels like gravity pulls me back to my old habits, everyday is the same. Even in my head, I think the same thoughts I promise myself the same things. And everyday I end up disappointing myself
@@DonWei13 This reminds me of the playlist about the dopamine detox, and a video about the leath path resistance that Andrew made
If you did'nt watch those, I recommand you them
He probably evocates books that goes along the same topic
I'm French sorry for my english
@@dicelfiss1396 no problem, yes thanks I will watch those
@@dicelfiss1396 maybe I need to try a dopamine detox myself, i've never done it because I need my phone for school (since the lockdown) and I need to check my whatsapp to stay in touch with school
Turned a “how to fix dishwasher” into a philosophical lesson.
@kapil tali It is a heart
Or how to maintain a motorcycle
@kapil tali might be on computer and they dont have emojis
@kapil tali there's no need for a reason. I use :) instead of 😊 when i really mean the smile becoz the emojis are mostly clichéd and fillers these days.
:) look so kind and cute to me. Also
one year: I read 35 books.
next year: 50 books
next year: 10 books.
Be selective in what u read. Those 10 books were more meaningful.
Which are those 10 books..??
@@vegetagoku42
12 rules for life by Jordan Peterson
how to win friends and influence people by dale carnegie
subtle art of not giving a F by Mark Manson
Atomic Habits by James Clear
I just read can't hurt me by David Goggins and I'm telling you-
THIS BOOK IS AWESOME!
Ronak, did you listen to the audiobook version? It has even more content and I think you’d love it! It almost has a podcast like format on top of the entirety of the book.
@@iamchrisgoode @Christopher Goode I read an e-book. But I'll definitely try an audiobook, I can listen to this man anytime, anywhere. 😂
This book changed my life
Ronak Bhadarka right?! Love me some Goggins. He’s just real, authentic, and no fluff.
Christopher Goode That was a Excellent book. But the work still has to be done like he said!
Life is too short to force yourself through a boring book.
Damon Dominique OMG, Damon watches Andrew, i think my RUclips world just collided. 😆 🌍 Btw, I bought Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth based off your recommendation Damon. 😉 I also got The Power of Now, as it addressed my more pressing problem, and I’ve started that one first. So far it’s good, but a bit wordy and repetitive.
Appreciate the time and energy you devote to learning and teaching through your platforms. Very practical, useful, and no B.S.
Love to see your 100 self-help book list (with ratings), Andrew Kirby
Maybe list the grading this way (I did it this way with humor. Anyway you like works, of course) :
1 Star: Puke. What the heck did I just read?
2 Star: Okay. To be fair, there were one or two good ideas (perhaps even a few on a good day) in the book so it wasn't a complete waste of time.
3 Star: Pretty Good. Got money's worth.
4 Star: Great. Lots of helpful ideas covered. Insightful and inspiring.
5 Star: Fantastic! This one is remaining on my shelf till the end of my days so I can go back and re-read it again and again.
Love your channel. Keep up the good work!
Have a great week, all!
My take home lesson today is " Books Keep You Focused ".... I never thought of it that way.
Also, that knowledge is useless unless it is backed by action.
Reading won't on it's own make you into the person you want to be. You have to take that knowledge and apply it in the real world.
Then, after you have done that successfully enough times it's an automatic reaction, you have just gained wisdom.
The reason is, wisdom is doing.
S. - "You know to clean a windshield?"
D. - "Yeah." (with a puzzled look)
S. - Throws the window squeegee at D. "Good, then do it."
Bonus points if you know what movie that's from. ;)
An engaging and well-written and thoughtful book will keep you focused. A sloppy wall of text passing for a book will not be read.
Reading a book does not keep you focused; it is your intention to absorb and integrate the information a book can offer you that keeps you focused on your goal - why you wanted to read the book in the first place.
Xanti Shayde-Walker You said it best buddy
”Read what you love until you love to read” -Naval Ravikant
Even though I have no interest in reading( I hated books) I started out with reading fanfics on instagram, the I shifted to wattpad and now I read a book a day.
Fantastic...you can instantly boost someone's energy state...the clarity you pride is just awesome
I love this channel a lot. The content is precise and useful. I want to say that I’m very grateful for its content, it completely change my perspective of live and also my live!
Thanks Jorge. Means a lot.
I'm a student, 20 years of age, studying in Europe. Next year I'm finishing my bachelor's degree in informatics/multimedia.
I'm striving to be some form of photographer but I do not have a clue how to apply photography in my professional life. Nor do I know how to apply any skill in my professional life, and because of that I believe that "I have no purpose/skill" which makes me stand out as a student, as a person.
I'm a big fan of watching educational content on RUclips or reading books, my attention span is quite short on the contrary, so some times I just end up absorbing less information than I would want to. I want to change that.
I am extremely worried that one day, when I finish university, I will be just another standard 09-17 worker with possibly an average salary and doing absolutely nothing what I would want to do, yes, I'm worried.
I do acknowledge that my problem does seem quite mainstream, I just do not know how to apply change in life, when to stop procrastinating and how to get my life together. Help would be appreciated.
Thank you for reading this, hope you're having a wonderful day/evening/night. Take care of yourself. Cheers.
Hey! I have the kind of similiar situation and struggles with you. 21 year old student here, i will be finishing my degree in English Lit in 2 years and media in 1 year. Like you, when i finish university either i will be a waste with minimum wage 9-5 worker or jobless due to economic crisis (being a standart teacher is my worst nightmare lol).
I want to be an artist in many fields, so this is my plan- Self teaching- There's a lot of tutorial and masterclasses (like masterclass.com where you have professionals giving a course) and you can somehow access it for free (either trials or pirating). You should divide the days of your week to each thing you want to focus on (this is a method Elon Musk does) for example: monday- learning photography tuesday- learning lighting wedneyday- photoshooting monday- learning photography/editing your photos etc etc. you can divide the days as before noon/after noon to do 2 things in that day also. THE KEY IS NOT TRYİNG TO MULTITASK EVERYTHING AT ONCE AND FOCUS ON WHAT YOURE DOING FOR THE DAY PLANNED AND NOT STRESS OVER THE TOMORROW'S ISSUES.
yeh.
I'd say follow unique photographers and anything that inspires you and GET RID OF YOUR MAIN PROCASTINATORS/apps and time consuming games for example (which is a huge problem for me still, last week I had to throw a good opportunity to starting to be a comic artist FOR NOTHING. Because I procastinated let myself be a stop in my true way.)
Also think of how your work can inspire of help people, and how it helps you (not materialisticly).
- do not forget the thing we call skill is just doing/repeating something over and over and we naturally learn to be better at it. Anyone can learn any skill by hard work, practice, knowledge.
Try to search for oppoortunities, contests, make a social media profile, meet people like you, meet professional photographers and explore yourself.
Hello usually when I want to make a habit I just dive into it its the best option for me taking cold showers helped my make a lot of good habits and break bad ones the idea of the cold shower is it makes you get used to not feeling comfortable because if your comfortable your not work as hard as you can I usally take 3 days of just doing nothing just playing or hanging out and then I pull the plug on a bad habit thats what I did when I was playing a game called rise of kingdoms its very time consuming and addictive game and I was able to break through it by playing it for 3 days straight and then I stopped playing it and now I have so much free time to focus on what I truly want
In summary dive info what you want because there is no other way recommend cold showering also take a break and then break your bad habits to build good ones
Be so good they cant ignore you. Cal Newport has a book on it by that name ;)
Watch Captain Simbad’s videos. He is (kinda) in a situation like you. A real inspiration.
Well, that's very interesting! Because I recently graduated in *Media-IT* as well and also have creative skills like *photography,* drawing, etc. that I really like to take to a professional level and maybe even make a living from it 😃 Why I'd like to do that? I've studied and should be working as an UI/UX Designer already, right?
Well, that's the problem. Right now it's super difficult to find a job (because of COVID) 😷 But this situation *gently forced* me find out and do alot of reasearch about how I can make money with my skills (and of course improve my skills over time). I've then discovered a yt channel called *"The Futur"* which finally answered all the questions and half-knowlegde I had. It's a channel about teaching ppl in the creatie field like visual design and stuff to get better, start a business as a freelancer and all that stuff around it with a great teacher, Chris Do. Since then I've been watching each of their new video and learn something new everytime!
Like, I never thought I could even make money with art, photo/video editing, but I can. I just didn't knew in how many shapes and forms there are! I also lacked the basics of business making. Or rather I wasn't interested while they tried to teach that stuff to us at uni/college. RIGHT NOW I'm not the same man I was 2 months ago. I'm much more confident with my skills 🎨
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It's also very useful to know where your strengths are and the things you love doing. I'm for example good at teaching & love helping others. It's literally the most fulfilling thing for me. So it was just natural for me to make tutorial about things I know much about. Right now I make tutorials for artists about more tech. related topics that most artists don't know about, partially also because I love diving deep into topics that I'm interested in & post them in Twitter.
To find out what YOU have in you, I highly recommend to start with this _Futur_ Video for example: ruclips.net/video/G2SqqjRn_c0/видео.html
It's called _"How To Find And Do Work That You Love (Ikigai)"_
Kudos for attempting analyze. As a professed self-help content consumer, I would say that it is not a waste of time to read books for self improvement. There is no shortcut to wisdom and knowledge.
You spot on Kirby. I am a Software developer and there are lots of videos now a days on an entire frameworks, but i stick to the books! Have never regretted that!
i read these to get motivated for like five minutes then forget about it for a year.
That sounds more like a you issue if I'm honest. Find ways to actively engage yourself and apply the knowledge. Perhaps diagrams and note taking highlighting etc.
You shouldn’t do that. Read books that interest you but at the same time benefit your life. You will be motivated more than ever to read. Also. Try dopamine detox. Works pretty well,
Maybe u can see proper motivational videos and right after getting motivated do ur work. I mean like I see a motivational video when I don't want to study and after watching the video I immediately get back to studying. It did help me to some extent hope u benefit from it too
Great video, as a person who often buys books and never fully reads them, this resonated.
I've enjoyed listening to many audio books / RUclips videos - but, as you say, have struggled to retain all the facts and concepts presented.
I've found taking notes on paper has been a great way for me to negate this. Whereas a great concept that aligns with my core values is likely to become ingrained indefinitely - so not an exact science.
Grateful for the wisdom.
you meant taking notes on videos .?
@@hajji384 not necessarily, but when I take notes on anything I read or hear, I'm likely to retain more information.
I think most self-help books are all pretty much the same
They definitely are. You only need to read a couple, if you read anymore you are just wasting time that you could be using toward whatever it is you are actually interested in. Unless you want to become a "guru" and have people pay you to tell them how to make their lives better.
Nathan Kurz what are some self help book I can read?
@@theonlyjl17 atomic habits
@@theonlyjl17 rich dad poor dad
The giant within
The 4 agreements
Meditations
The 7 spiritual laws of succes
The 7 habits of highly effective people
Thanks y’all
Just an appreciation post for this guy.
The topic and ideas he talks about resonates with me so well.
I think about these things so often , how optimism is overrated ,how self help is kind of a scam and this guy makes brilliant videos on them .
RUclips is filled with " how this book changes my life videos."
How this mentor changed my life
How to be positive always ...
Etc etc videos
Happy to see something practical from this guy.
The world is ready to scam you with its big machinery of power and resource ,it's your rationality and logic that will come to your rescue.
My problem: inconsistency
Whenever I have a less productive day, it always seems to turn into a less productive week or even month. I want to learn how to get myself back in a winning mindset more easily.
I have already read The power of habit and The 7 habits of highly effective people on this subject.
Update: I fixed it!!!! The answer in two words: bullet journal
Try Flylady - it is a house cleaning system, but I find it spilling over into my everyday life. Not my house cleaning, but my time management. Keep things simple and easy to develop the consistency. Also do something at about the same time every day or at the same trigger point, and eventually you don't have to think about the behavior. You just do it. I call it stacking, others call it tagging, others call it something else - it is the idea that the habit you want to develop is done immediately after something that you know you are going to do. Like doing 10 jumping jacks after you brush your teeth. You do it until the 10 jumping jacks become automatic. You know you are going to brush your teeth.
Or if you are a student, every time you hear a school bell, you take 10 deep breaths to calm your anxiety. Or to become a better singer.
Also, identify your why. Why you are doing something is usually a better motivator than "oh no, I gotta do this". I want to be healthy is a better reason than "oh, dear I have to run 10 miles today."
Just keep it simple and you will get there.
I’m literally doing the same thing man. I’m 16 and always looking for ways to improve. I’m reading books, working on drawing and currently trying to learn a language. I think it has changed my life maybe not drastically but it’s certainly putting new ideas in my head. I would say I definitely improved my mind set since last year when I started this whole journey. Never stop improving guysss
Dude I'm waiting for you to write a book with everything you know so I can just read it or listen to audible on 1.5 speed. ;)
I truly enjoy watching your your videos. You are a very educated individuals and I'm always learning something new or valuable through your videos.
C.Sydoriak
Hey Andrew , I doubt you'd see this but I wanna start off by saying that this video just opened my mind and views on different things and that I loved it . Moving on ,I think my problem is that I dont really know what my passion is , other then somehow be financially free in the future and mind you I am bout to turn 18 . So if anyone knows a great book on how to find your passion itll be of great help . In addition to this I'd also would like a recommendation on the next top ecommerce industries. Thanks . Much love ❤
Same problem for me. Im just commenting to get notified when Andrew recommends some book here
A lot of us, a little older, experienced that same problem.
For me, it's as simple as you thinking about the subjects you had at school. Did you enjoy any particular subject more than others? And if so, within that subject, was there a specific topic that interested you the most? If so, go search a little more about that topic. Wether it is in RUclips videos from experts in those fields, books, or whatever you find helpful to comprehend the information. Then, analyze your profile as a person. Think how would you fit in such a job. Of course, intellectual characteristics, but mostly, personality traits that you regard as common throughout the varied people who work in that area of knowledge. Do you fit in? Is it something that you do not perceive as tiring after a certain time?
Then, know that you can change directions if you realize that was not your path. But every time you do that, keep in mind that you are growing older
I think the best way is to try different things you are interested and choose the best one for you. You can read books by Tim Ferris, Tools of Titans: for great advice from the most successful people in the world and his book The 4 hour chef has chapters on how to learn any skill in short period of time.
@jorge
Andrew thanks, this channel has changed my life starting by eliminating my RUclips addiction
For me I read a book once a week for discipline into me finishing it, I would when not implofining this method pick up a book read it for about a week and leave it for about a month then finish it, now with this method I use it helps me not only become more displined but I finish and get to read more books after, I'm just a guy who happens to love books asw which helps, great video like how you have an open mind about this topic
3:00 - This is the best explanation relating focus, attention span and the internet I've ever heard.
I actually just realized this in my own life. That social media, youtube...etc. drastically reduces my ability to focus where as meditation and entertainment like books help since (as you said) once you stop focusing the external stimulus stops.
I pressed like when you said, "It's not about the books you go through, but the books that go through you." the language device drove the impact of that concept
Hey mate, I found this video very helpful. Bringing in counter arguments is a good initiative imo. Thank you for your content!
_"it is not about knowing what to do, it is about doing what you know"_ so stop reading and just do it. beware of overload information
Wow I remember being here before he even had 15k subscribers. I just noticed he already passed 300k, damn that was quick. Thanks for everything Andrew!
Finding my purpose in life, my passions. What motivates me? Any recommendations?
You are awesome man, really genuine content. I have bought everyone of your ideas.
now read them again. The again is when the real learning begins.
OMG
That's a brilliant quote!
"The agian is when the learning begins." - TheKlink
Tim is money . think it again. and world is moving new tech, new thing 🤔
Thanks for the insight. I both read and watch videos, but I didn’t consider the differences. Such distinctions allow me to use the best format, given my purpose, intent, and its relative importance!
When I’m reading, I can zone out and continue reading. I think my brain has learned to passively take in information when reading while being able to daydream at the same time, from being so bored when in school 😹
My problem/ challenge: I would like to post more than 1 RUclips video per week. I have plenty of time but I either procrastinate or find other tasks to keep me busy instead of recording or editing.
Great video, Andrew!! I like the JIT vs JIC comparison. I’ve definitely found it to be much more difficult to ready books just in case I need their information.
we have same problems :p
@@alanmartin1 what if u dont have money or no friend to trust xd and also having other goals besides doing videos that u didnt do too..
@@alanmartin1 okay , will try. thanks!
I understand everything self-help books promote, but I really don’t know how to set goals! I’m at university doing a very good degree, but I wish I had the creativity to find something productive I can pick up any time
Exactly my problem also... I'm also studying at university
Read atomic habits
I just got a high-distinction for my psychology course Motivation & Emotion and that textbook is gold for understanding what motivates people to achieve goals. It is a bit of work to get through and then extract and apply the ideas but they are backed by science. You have to do that by yourself though, so that's where the creativity and true genius is - in applying it yourself to your specific situation. You have to understand the material, understand yourself, understand your situation, and understand how you can combine them all to achieve your goals and be effective in life. The textbook is entitled: Understanding Motivation and Emotion 7th edition by Johnmarshall Reeve and you can probably find it on the libgen website.
amh, you can read How to get sh*t done by Erin Falconer, well it's mainly focus for women. It will give you task/things to do. So, as what they say words+action= knowledge. lmao you'll just know. It's good.
ps. if youre a woman then yayy
Read James clear article on setting goals and proceess. Writer of atomic habit. It's available in his website. I am currently reading it myself .
You are a true knight ,sir Andrew Kirby. I expect you'll add tons of value to many lives. I hope we get to meet each other some day.
Can you do a video on "good" and "bad" concepts and how this affects us on our daily?
All great points 💯 one idea that is worth considering is how creating a habit of reading can improve ones focus and (in my experience) curiosity
How to find motivation in life? How to plan the future? Mostly that..
Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience
First find a goal to get yourself a right direction, second important thing is the process to achieve that goal as we all know winners and loosers have the same goal, 3rd the most important thing is the believe, believe is the game changer you start believe from day one that you are the type of person that you want to become to achieve the your goal take every action by telling yourself that what a person who achieved that goal will do in a particular situation and tell yourself that you are the same person when good habbits become your believe you win the game.😇
Getting past procrastination. Will check out your other videos. Getting productive with art creativity. Thanks Mr. Kirby.
I'm struggling with my fears and anxieties.
Since last month, I've decided to face them and now my mind is calmer than ever before (thanks, Stoicism) but whenever I see people whom I've interacted with in the past, it reminds me of my "past self" - the one who's very fearful. And then I start nervously shaking just like before and it feels like my progress just went back to 0.
Any book recommendations that would help me with this?
The power of now by eckart tolle
A new earth by him is very good too.
I struggle with this too
What's important is you are taking action to improve this. Just keep going outside your comfort zone until what was outside your comfort zone is eventually comfortable.
simple
make new memory with your current improve self. and practice your current improve version daily routine so much that your past experience will start to fade automatically.
Thank you so much Brother for saving many years of my Life...... and clarifying me what was I doing wrongly from the last few years reading and buying self-help books.
I really appreciate your Effort in making very valuable videos.
Keep it up Bro.
I watched 100 of your videos. I *didn't* waste my time.
(you're a huge inspiration man, you inspired me to take action and make similar videos!!)
I completely agree with you
your videos are amazing!
@@jorgerosas991 🙏🏼
@@arty3865 thank you Arty!!!
Man the quality of your videos are getting better and better keep it up!
I want to quit my job, I have some money saved that can last me a year, but I'm not sure what to do with my life. Any book recommendations?
Not a book recommendation but i would recommend you to start investing, if you have as you are saying 1 year worth of saving then if you coul get %15 per year in real state (its just a example) and reinvest that money until you get %100 anually of your initial investment then you are literally getting passive income to live from and quit your job without any problem while growing your networth if you keep on investing
and if you have free time to start a business then you can do it and then reinvest that money too to get faster results
There is a book called "set for life" by Scott Trench that talks about that. It lays out a plan to get to a year financial runway then to 5 years financial runway then to financial independence. You already got to a year, so I believe you will like it.
1) look up ikigai, 2) (book) ruclips.net/video/ZuyGMVYzQyI/видео.html
Lmao I quit my job a week ago for the same reason and I'm nearly broke. Trying to figure out what I want to do
Dude, your videos are awesome.
well your right, i read "changed your brain change your life" 2 times, and your quote "It's not how many books you go through, it's how many books go through you" really applies to me, the book sold me a lot of ideas and techniques, wow
My problem is that I know the theory of how to solve my problem. But after trying some time I give up, because I see no change. People would recommend Keep trying, the results will come later, but thats simply not the case. And then I keep reading self help books or I whatch this kind of vids on YT, but I dont change longterm. Can a human really change longterm, and if so, HOW?
Great video! Just found your channel & really enjoying your videos. My current problem is that I'm very busy but don't feel like I'm actually accomplishing that much. I'd like to get more value out of my hours instead of working so long. Any book recommendations? Thanks.
I love reading and this is amazing how you can focus on them
This is the first video I've watched on your channel and I love it so much, love your video, love your work
I would like to find a book that talks about sacrificing your present with work to benefit your future. I heard this concept from a video of Jordan Peterson, but I don't want to read his work now, I save it for later, would you have a book to recommend? thanks, great videos!
Don't save it for later. Read it now.
lol you have the answer, but decide to "save it for later?"
All right...
I agree wholeheartedly with the need and urge to ”need” something, which makes reading the books more enjoyable and productive. Thanks for the reminder of concentration cultivation being the added benefit when absorbed in a book! Cheers to everyone’s growth!
My problems: insecurity, laziness, anxiety, fear failure, depressed, unsatisfied with life, no money. Do you have any book recommendations? Deep Work sounded good.
Deep works is a way to focus on your work and how to be more productive with your time, if your problem are laziness anxiety, depression and so on i advice you a book about Habits like The powers of Habits from Chales Duhigg or about the mindset like mindset from Dr. Carol.S Dweck.
I got the same problems as you (except fair failure and depressed) because i already started my company but i found no clients and i start to stop working because i don't have motivation and i kind of start giving up.
The thing is that i do quite nothing all the day and i remember that the habits are very important to re-find motivation, work... etc
Inner engineering
Cassidy Dwyer what this book suggests for overcoming laziness and depression
A man search for meaning - Victor Frankl
so many book recommendations. I'm depressed again :D
Hi Andrew. Can you recommend books or make a video on how to find out what we really want and set goals for it. I have been struggling on it for several years now but cant seem to resolve this issue.
Andrew have you read _" So Good They Can't Ignore You"_ by Cal Newport ?
I've just started to read it.. Wanted to know your thoughts on it..
Totally agree! Self help books are mainly motivational - I found many have surface level advice which is intuitive but not actually well researched/ evidence based! Also much of self help books were written by "entrepreneur gurus" as fodder for MLM.
I’m doing my last year of school right now and my motivation is at an all time low. The work doesn’t interest me or peak my curiosity at all, but I need to do well to not lose my place at university. The constant fight with myself to study/work eats at me. Especially with online school, etc I just can’t focus. I feel sad when I don’t work, and bored when I do. The cycle just perpetuates. Please recommend a book for me 😔 Is there any way of forcing yourself to find something interesting? Or maybe I’m just repelled at the idea of having to memorise and be pressured?
What do you study at University?
Your problem is procrastination. You can fix it by trying to associate tasks you are doing with positive emotions, instead of automatically associating those tasks with negative emotions, like boredom.
Do something to love. I can't recommend a book but I can recommend a 4 minute video “WHAT TO DO AFTER COLLEGE” by GaryVee. If you don't know GaryVee, please check out his content, it might change your life like it did mine.
Maype it could help, if you try to see the possibilities and reasons behind your tasks, which could be helpful for your university, for example science and mathematics to train your brain, by learning to solve problems more properly and write your thouths ore solutions on the best way down. And languages, to be able to bring your thouths across to other people, even if the content is not interesting, it is so special to have the possibility of language to show your thouths and so you can see these different subjects as a way to learn important and helpfull things, combined with positive emotions, for your future, by seeing the reason and use behind these tasks. ( sorry for my bad English, I am from Germany)
Hevar Tofiq Biomedical engineering is what I will be studying
I'm not able to focus on anything. Learning things, implementing but getting confused, procrastinating. Learning from the scratch. Your videos are helpful but still going round and round. Fully fed up
Thoughts on "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck"? Have had people recommend it and heard a lot of it, yet im not sure. Heard it really has its own writing style
Didnt read the book but an avid fan of the author, Mark manson. i read alot of his articles and the problem is that it only shows you philosophical perspectives and in macro perspective but dont really tell you "How to" in micro detail.
Helped me a lot. If you're struggling with feeling like a victim or like everything is holding you down then it's a good and humorous primer on the principles of stoicism. I read it pretty quickly. It won't steal too much of your time. At the end of the day we lose a lot of time on shitty TV movies or videos. Not the worst thing to add a book to that list.
I loved the main idea in the book - that you should only care about the things you really care about. I didn't care for his next book. It just didn't resonate with me.
For me it was one of the most empty books I ever read, childish writing, the writer has no knowledge about anything.
For me there are some gems. The idea that stuck with me was learning what to give a fuck about. Like I shouldn't get mad at this or that because I don't give fucks about it. People who get angry at trivialities are those who give way too many fucks. The less fucks you give, the easier it is for you to ignore the subject or do it. If I don't give a fuck about taking out the trash I don't mind doing it because it has no power over me. Also... i love his idea that chasing a negative experience is in itself a positive experience. Chasing a positive in itself a negative experience. I would reccomend it for people who struggle to just do things. For overthinkers and people who get angry, sad or any extreme emotion. One should never be too high or too low.
I am having problems communicating with people, in a way that doesn't make them mad. I want to learn to analyze a situation and then communicate to people in the situation to get the right response without angering them. I want to learn to calm them down and the best way to do it.
Finding your purpose and mission, I'm struggling big time with this.
Alchemist, or the big leap are worth reading then 👍
Same, "Find your passion".
love how your being balanced on each point sharing both sides of the story
Most of these books say the same thing,
Just in different words
I'm guessing that means we all know the answer. But we want it to be told in many different ways because we are procrastinating. It might not feel like procrastinating but if you are reading, and you're reading the same thing said differently than while you are reading you could have been doing. I guess idk.
First thing I'm doing tomorrow is gonna be reading the book, thanks to you
3:23 I was waiting for the eye to blink lol
Self-help books benefit only two people - the author and the reader. There is a huge difference in the distribution of benefits between the two. The author has a long term benefit, while the reader has it short term. The author gains money, fame, and ideas for the next book based on user feedback. They build on previous ideas and sell newer content. For the reader, it comes down to what they do with the book. They can either passively read it or actively use the ideas. It only helps when the reader implements those ideas and includes them as their mental models. Not all self-help books are bogus or waste of time. Someone like Andrew who has read 100 self-help books is armed with 100 different ideas. They can see a little further by standing on the shoulders on those 100 giants. Not all ideas would work, but those do work for you help you see the world differently. One percieves reality through different sides of a prism. Eventually, you can write and talk about things that the author's single vision couldn't see. Actually, I don't mean them as single vision, as these authors themselves have read authors before them and condensed many ideas to a simple technique that could solve all our problems. So, it is all condensed info. Okay, going back to what I was saying, it helps you see a little further, and develop your own ideas about the reality about the world. Ideas aren't silver bullets. They either help or don't. It's a matter of trial and error.
I’m currently struggling with what I guess you can call social anxiety. When I hang out with friends at a party there’s always jokes I wanna say or things that I want to do but I never do them because of fear. But it’s not just that, I even want to become closer with my family but I’m not sure how to approach them and really make an effort to form a deeper relationship
You’re not alone. I also have social anxiety and it be like that ☹️
"If you wanna be relentless read the book relentless "
Awesome yet funny
Hello there sir, what book can you recommend about character building ?? Thanks
Just try this one , after thiz you no need to go for any book....,
" Bhagavad Gita .... As it is "
Guaranteed
i hope you soon make a video on how to learn and maximize your learning on reading books and how to absorb the context of it and use it
you just have to read books that you need at a special moment in your life
My challenge right now is finding customers, selling and pricing. Thank you Andrew for your great work
Just finished high school having trouble thinking of career, do I go to college, maybe I need to figure out my purpose but having trouble
don't fall in the trap of pursuing something u don't enjoy. and also if u go to college try find time to do something that you love meanwhile u study, for exemple a side business or a project. You can find time for it, don't say aftere college because that's the bigest mistake i made. i wish i had done things separately beside college.
There is no passion by itself. You just discover one by trying, failing and switching. Just choose what seems interesting and be brave enough to switch to another subject if it's not working for you despite of many time spent. And make no mistake: nothing comes natural and without an effort, even so called "passion". At least you're trying to make things right. Many people just go wherever the stream pushes them..
I myself studied math and in some moment decided that I'm not smart enough, math became really difficult, and I got dropped out. Today I'm almost 30 and I decided to go back and study math again because I was wrong, this is it, it's really hard, but it's what I must do no matter what. But before that I tried a lot of different things...
I hope you'll find what you're searching for.
Just new experiences
College, new jobs, meet new people, (travel). Follow your heart for 5 years. You will smile. You will also be so great to have a conversation with
I really like that you also include a counter argument in almost every point, makes me think a lot more!
I like to dream about a future where a more disciplined version of myself is living in my dream lifestle/career. This somehow stops me from taking consistent action in the present to create that for myself. Sometimes I think it's because imagining that dream future gives me a sense of instant gratification. I need to learn how to weather through the hard work to get there.
Anybody have some good book recommendations for me?
Thanks on advance!
That's deep
I have that too. That actually is a instant gratification
Andrew, can you tell how to take notes and apply them well in daily life?
Do u speak Kyrgyz?
Hi Andrew. Please recommend me some books on how to improve the communication, how to be a great leader (leadership in general) and how to conquer the procrastination. Thank you! You are doing a great job on your channel!
Eat that frog is a goodread and practical one.
And don't read any book for communication trust me.Best advice is go and talk to one ,learn, experience it, go through your mistakes and learn again and enjoy talking.Practice it.
Anybody else see the title and feel completely inept?!
Yup!
I think I’m doing well if I read 10 books in a year 🤣
@@charlieclown9058 1 book a year xp
3:28 well... sometimes I get into my thoughts while reading a book, and suddenly I kind of "wake up" from my thoughts and realize that I wasn't listening (in my mind) what I was reading, and I have to go back a couple of sentences and read again paying attention this time. But I get Andrew's point. Even if that happens, I notice it pretty quickly... It's not like I would read for an hour without awareness...
"Cant hurt me" is the only book that has changed my life. Just get out there and get after it
Yea
Yee
Fantastic advice!! The “fluff” problem is terrible for sure- youtube videos fall prey to it as well 👀 Books I recommend are The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up, Women who Run With The Wolves, and What A Time To Be Alone.
Reading self-help books will be a complete waste of time if you don't implement their ideas. That's all
Thanks for the video. It's really helpful.
Are you kidding me?!😂 I mean 100 books, I can’t even believe you did this, congrats 🥺
Loved how you transitioned from fixing dishwasher to a valuable lesson.
? I am eager to learn about business / entrepreneurship...
Can you recommend me some books?
I watched 100 of your videos; I wasted my time....kind of.
Then leave his channel...
thank you for this video and sharing your opinions
quality of your videos gets better evert time andrew keep it up
I 100% agree with you with audio books where the author reads it to you. That is where you can truly get the message as it was intended to be delivered because you get that passion and emotion behind each word. You know the tone and inflection the author was trying to convey because...they wrote it and now they are saying those words out loud, as they were intended to be interpreted.
Awesome videos man! I've liked and subscribed!!
I always am filled with self doubt which often leads to self destruction. It’s like my image of myself does not allow me to progress.
I can relate 😩