I'm a author and so I told a few ppl naturally and one particular person never congratulated me then suddenly she comes out with a book . Difference is imma keep coming out with books I'm not a fraud. And she's way older to
I've seen people being very kind to you as long as you remain an underdog, but the moment you achieve something, they start backstabbing you and pulling you down.
They prefer it when someone is seemingly less than them. Now when that same person starts to achieve even a tiny bit more than them, they act as if they are losing their value because the seemingly lesser person is outperforming them.
You can see that phenomenon in the Oscar's and the motion picture industry and TV Emmy s. You ever notice Steve Spielberg never received an Oscar for production until long long after he deserved one. He should have had one for Jaws e t close encounters. Johnny carson should have had one long long before he got an Emmy. I heard johnny talking one night and he said it was a noted trait with the industry that they'll help you most of the way up until you get too high then they stop helping you.which matched my own theories.
I don't blame you. i'm the same way. my ex was noticeably jealous of my happiness. that's a automatic no. i couldn't even genuinely laugh at youtube videos because that's how jealous he was. when i spoke on things i wanted and said i wanted to buy with my own money he'd give me a lecture. like dude, can u be happy for me instead of downing every single thing i do? i had a iphone 12 pro max, brand new. only had it 5 months, still paying on it. because he was mad he decided he wanted to throw my phone and break it. meanwhile i was still 700$ away from completely owning it because i was leasing to own. not only was he jealous, he was heavily toxic. i dropped his ass.
@@beejjas3321 Jealous and competitive individual here. No need to be sorry for us. It is either we learn to manage our competivity in a healthy way or we don't and suffer the consecuences. There is failure and there is success. Stabing others in the back is only stagnating your development as person into an inmature adut infant.
Be very careful. Very few people are true friends. Lots of pathetic humans out there who feel inferior whether they are or not. They’re dangerous and they will try to ruin you. Stay private and be skeptical of everyone you meet.
The best thing to do, less people, less stress. I'm lucky enough to keep small pets, four Guinea Pigs 😍 I love them to bits and the welcome I get when I get home is truly ❤.
Me too.And don't want to see co-workers off the clock either,so I don't go to company functions off the clock.The only time I have fun on the clock is on weekend drill with my guard unit. Did 4 deployments to Iraq with the Texas Guard,also did 2 tours back-to-back.I work at my local VA hospitol,full of ex-military,but none have my combat tours,so lots of vets hate on me because of this.I get MAD respect from the nurses,doctors,patients,etc,etc,... for my service,they do not. And it doesn't sit well with them. TOO bad. LOL.
@@judyanne3563 I always believed the old philosophy of giving priority to your family over others was heavily flawed. Every one of us are family. All of us are, indeed, related. Thus, there is no reason to give anybody precedence over anybody else, save if someone is treating you poorly or someone is treating you kindly. I have no family, as what most consider family. They live in another continent and I do not know them. However, I treat everyone exactly the same until a person gives me a reason to treat that person differently.
Same here @@judyanne3563 My own biological family brainwashed people against me, until I kicked all this people out of my life and trust me I'm doing: ¡"BETTER THAT EVER"!
Jealousy is one of those things that's hard to catch at first. But once you realize that your 'friend' is jealous of you, his/her words and actions reek of jealousy almost every time. It's so painfully obvious once you realize someone is constantly jealous of you. And you have to start distancing yourself from this person slowly or else you might get some kind of nasty reaction from these type of people.
Same here. I focus on what “I” have, “my” qualities, and “my” God given purpose in this life - with horse blinders on I run my own race. Hypothetically. Because I actually don’t have horse blinders on, it’s just that others peoples success does not knock me off my rock. My capabilities are my own, same for others, all we can truly do is be the best we are capable of, so why not focus on that instead of “I want to be better than that guy”? And yes, successful people are very inspirational for me as well (my faves), people deserve the good they have, beyond what others think…watch, learn and applaud! Jealous people seem to have a fearful sense “there’s not enough to go around”, or they’re simply “not good enough”, so they plot how to steal, kill, and cheat others out of what we have. Be careful.
Good for you because I have often felt that there will always be someone with more than I have, others with less than I have. Jealousy and envy are the most wasted emotions a human can experience.
@@EricaChavira-on4oz very true my first love was killed because of ppl being jealous of how much love he got from others .. you’re so right . Very crazy!!! reminds me of Cain and Able in the Bible.
Jealousy is a curse, it’s a spiritual thing, it’s developed early in life, if not corrected, it manifests, most of it develops during childhood, especially amongst siblings, if the parents don’t correct this behavior it’ll definitely get worse
In order to find something to complain about you, they hold you to a much higher standard than others. At work, a mistake done by any other person would be silently corrected or overlooked altogether, but a mistake YOU made will be made a big deal of and the whole workplace will know about it. They are so thrilled to let everyone know you made a mistake.
I chose to leave a workplace of seven years because of this behavior. What's worse is when the perpetrator has the uncanny ability to come across as the "nicest" person.
UVRah material things mean nothing. I'm mid age and I've never owned a house or had a brand new car but I have wonderful children and grandchildren a great place to live food heat etc etc. You don't need fancy things in life. People that you love matter life matters
@Sea of Madness I don't mind not owning fancy things. My statement was more about those who are jealous for no real reason. How others who have all those things mentioned PLUS people who love them and they still manage to find jealousy in their heart for me. Someone who has none of that.
My former Narcissist friend actually told me that my financial success had everything to do with her helping me with my resume 30, yes 30 years previously. She stated otherwise, I would still be waitressing (and probably living in a car somewhere). I stopped talking to her after that for good. Done.
She has a point. I coached a colleague of mine to be able to answer a certain law firms interview questions (she was stuck in a dead end job and couldn’t get out of it. She was successful at interview and gained experience in litigation with a top tier firm. A few years later, she got a higher position (with better pay) with another firm and is now doing well. Without my original encouragement to continue to apply for jobs, and coaching her through interviews, it is very likely that she would still be stuck in the same dead end job. Why don’t you acknowledge that the original editing of your CV probably did contribute to your overall success today? As a matter of fact, it did, even if it was 30 years ago.
@@gymuser8214 Nope, she doesn't have a point. I expressed my gratitude and was appreciative. I, in turn, have helped HER many times as well as other friends and colleagues the same way. My friend never coached me through interviews, it was just one tweak on the resume - that was it. I would NEVER imply nor think that those I helped succeeded only because of me, that is insane.
Wow…..now THAT’S arrogance! (Hers, not yours). If she’s so talented, why didn’t she use it to help herself too? I tell ya…..some people’s kids! I’m glad you’re having a happy, successful life.
@@sfc5774 Thank you very much. Yep, she had other issues too and now that I'm more mature (age wise) and more knowledgeable about narcissists, it totally makes sense now that I can retrospectively see her harmful (and twisted) behavior.
I'm a woman boss in a male dominant field. I don't even want to say the shit I have experienced, but talking over is something I have no more tolerance for
I work completely alone. I am the only one in the complex from 21:00 to 06:00. It feel like I own the planet or I am the last person on the planet. I go weeks without seeing another person, save on television. When everyone is asleep, I am working four nights a week and living the other three nights a week. The rare times I see anybody at all it is at the region's only all night grocery store. I go shopping for food about every four months. There is an alternative to the life you are living now. Perhaps you may wish to try it. I even live in a very rural environment. My closest neighbour is 3 kilometers from me and I do not know that neighbour. I just see the car and the house. If tired of social drama, perhaps leaving the social herd is for you.
I love it when I'm told "You don't need this job, quit and enjoy your life " so I told them I was looking for another job and I could see how happy 😊 this group of people were that I made them enjoy what it seemed to them a victory and after few weeks when asked how my job hunting was going "I replied well with how gas ⛽️ has gone up you guys are stuck with me " let's just say their enthusiasm told me exactly how they felt towards me" 😊
You are not alone. Sad thing is my own mother. Supposedly ex favorite cousin and a co worker of 10 years who did help me get the job (didn’t expect me to learn quickly) all has done the above. Unfortunately I’ve been through everything he’s listed. Now I’ve cut them off and happy I did but feel so alone however I refuse to deal with them ever again
@@susanhowell2578 not the jealous ones. I’ve noticed their actions in the best however wasn’t aware of narcissistic personality and always let it blow with wind
Both of my sisters got married the same year I did after I announced my engagement. I have heard so much gossip from family that was rooted from my sister. Learning that she was jealous helped to make sense of things I questioned. My oldest sister is far more mature about her behavior and has owned her part. I’ve been dealing with the middle sister’s insecurities all my life. I am loving life AWAY from her and other insecure women in my family. I’ve found my tribe, and they are women that are living their best life! I am free and thriving!
@@joysynmonds9082 the people pleaser in me once felt that way. It only brought further pain from their exploitation of my empathetic nature. I’m so good now. But to the insecure women I watched growing up, I’m stuck up🤷🏾♀️ I equate it to the lack of accountability and a wider vocabulary. My ancestors keep me hella grounded!
I’ll add one: They will only focus on what could be negatives in your life instead of praising your positives and help keeping your head high. You’ll notice they’ll talk highly and post positive things about others but won’t post you even though you’re a close one to them. #12 is one of the worst ones and most subtle cause you’ll contemplate on why a close friend started suddenly switching up on you after a years and years of close friendship. This could effect your life so be careful. You’ll be thinking something is wrong with you etc when it’s actually them.
That! And if they find out something not so great is happening or has happened, they will continue to ask about it. But that good thing that happened, they don’t care about it!
Jealousy or envy is a natural emotion and tells you what you really want instead of bashing the person you are jealous of, you should try working on achieving those things quietly because you want them so much. Yet some people try to bring others down instead of getting good things themselves.
I highly disagree. Jealousy and envy are very unnatural. You can know what you want without jealousy confirming it for you. When I was in college I had a friend who took some time off to become a flight attendant. I’ve always wanted to travel, but I cannot explain the genuine excitement I had for her. I told myself after college I would travel. I would even envision her having fun and enjoying her time in New York because that’s where she was stationed. I also had never been out on my own so there was also a thrill of seeing someone who could just up and leave and not fear being on their own. Not one time did I feel envy or jealousy. Only happiness for her because some people deserve to be happy and enjoy their lives. People keep getting jealousy and envy confused. They’re both emotions. There are many successful people in the world. Wanting to be successful as well isn’t jealousy/ envy BUT wanting what THEY have, exactly what they have from car, wife, house, dog etc., that’s the emotion of jealousy and envy. My story for example, everyone at some point will want to travel, and that’s natural, but feeling jealousy for those who can is unnatural. It’s stupid to do so because the harder and lord you work at some point it will be experienced. It will never be a natural emotion.
My own family members! Even after I have made so many sacrifices for them! I can tell my mom something positive and she will act like she doesn’t hear me and won’t acknowledge it but as soon as I tell her some bad news, she responds instantly
I feel your pain, my mum's exactly the same or she'll belittle me like calls me being OTT for being excited over my little milestones/ achievements, that's just the tip of the iceberg. We haven't spoken in years and she hasn't changed, let's just say as long as she's alive and well, that's all I can be grateful for.
@@amphorntiengtare4072 it sucks that we have to experience things like this. I wish people would fight the devil off but some people are not strong enough to do so. I recently stopped communicating with my mom. I should have done it a long time ago. She has done so much damage to my personal properties. I don’t even see how I never had her arrested
jealous People Ply You With Insincere Compliments And False Praises. One thing that jealous people never want to admit is that they are jealous of you. ... When someone is jealous of you, they often pause for a long silent moment before congratulating you or telling you that you have done a great job
I’ve witnessed this several times. I even had a friend who would cut me off while I was sharing good news to sing praises to their other friends who have achieved more. It was right in my face the entire time and I never saw it. I assumed their compliments were sincere and that they were truly happy for me. It wasn’t until I was engaged to be married that she couldn’t stomach it anymore, she literally changed her number and stopped communicating with me without explanation. It wasn’t until now that I realized envy was the issue all along. When you have God’s favor over your life an envious person will eventually bail on you because they can’t stomach another blessing. I was extremely supportive of all of her good news and opportunities, and never braggadocio-us. Just truly happy and thought my friend would be equally happy. You live and you learn. Smh
A jealous person invited me to dinner and every dish had the one thing that I'm allergic to. She knew this and despite me catching on quick to her scheme and playing it off as an 'understandable mistake', she insisted on going overboard to whip up something else. While it might have appeared to come from a generous and accommodating place, it was all theatre to highlight how I was so 'difficult'. Sometimes jealousy plays out in very subtle but nasty ways. The intention is always the same though, to take away something from you while making them look better.
Oh my god, she was playing a very dangerous game with your health too! 🥶🤮 I would have called her out on it, left the food, her house and walked away. I have no time for toxic people, I ended a friendship a while ago and have no desire to meet up, or speak to her again. Take Care of yourself and teach these sort a lesson, for good. Best Wishes 😘
Absolutely, I finally have it now. For years I was subjected to a jealous family member who literally made my life an emotional gaol. They had a lot of these traits. Wish I had found out this information a lot earlier in my life. However, glass half full. Better late than never 👍😊
I don’t mind a little healthy competition but when it’s too much I know they’re jealous. I also notice jealous people love to give you dirty looks / evil eyes it’s really pathetic.
The entire 10 mins were full of clarity for me. I have been trying to justify people's actions toward me. Thinking I was being unreasonable when it's been in my face the whole time. My feelings are hurt knowing that people don't see the good and uniqueness they have in themselves. God help them💯💪🏽🙏🏽
@Liah We totally are on the same page! I have thought your thoughts too ... it's a real shame that those "jealous people" don't put all their jealous energy towards making a better life for themselves. Glad to have found this video, it answered a lot of questions.
I have one true friend and that’s enough for me - no bitching, jealousy or gossiping and we are there for each other. Lots of other friends but at arms distance and done with kindness
Numbers 1, 4, 9, and 12 are why I just ended my connection with someone. Funny that once you work on yourself and outgrow your own insecurities, it's a lot easier to recognize unhealthy relationships and to walk away without regret.
Same. I just realized 3 days ago my sister was jealous bc I am doing shadow work, healing past childhood trauma, and according to her “I’m being consumed of my past, I live in the past, and need to get over it.” And she doesn’t like hearing about it bc “I only talk about dark things.” Whatever that means.. She’s still in an abusive relationship and gets cheated on every day, yet still allows him to live with her. Then I realized she never complimented me, never addressed how far I have come, and when I told my therapist she confirmed that it sounded she was insecure that I was doing the inner work and she hasn’t done any.
@@zaylinstar8883 Hopefully at some point your sister will come to a state of readiness and begin to embrace the opportunity to grow and the distance between you will cease to remain. Until then, your number one priority has to be you and your inner peace or it's impossible to sustain healthy relationships. Edited to say: Congratulations on your growth!💪 Be proud of yourself every day for how far you've come!
@@deannadolan5119 Omgsh thank you so much! It’s crazy at times that validation from strangers sometimes mean ALOT, I’m still learning about toxic people and the guilt of wanting to just have inner peace is huge lol but thank you for your response!
This is so true lol. I told my friend I’m getting married and he from another country. She going to say oh he only use u for a green card lol 😂 I gave her tons of proof that wasn’t the case. Plus he have a tourist visa and his family well off in his country and We was thinking about owning property in his country together lol and also he don’t need me lol. He have a car, his own house, a salary from his parents. She didn’t respond after I show how he actually love me and we been dating for awhile. Why would I tell u I’m getting married after a year lol. We been seeing each other for a few years lol 😂 I knew down right she was jealous because her husband cheated on her with a different race and she still with him because she have 3 kids with him and she can’t find anyone else because she bigger.
Even when there is literally nothing to be jealous of, even when they have the means to buy anything they want; they STILL find something to be envious of.
I love when people gossip it gives me a way out. When I know someone gossips I will tell everyone except them how they treat me poorly. Makes them look even worse.
I had a friend/colleague who had it all. Big house, swimmingpool, cars, RV, situated husband, good looks... In comparison to her I was a little poor mouse, except that I have the looks (not gonna be fake modest here). After hanging out for some time I noticed she is starting to dress as me, we would go together shopping and if I liked something a lot she would buy it after some time and when I would dress up she would constantly criticise me how I'm just "too much" to the point that I wanted to go home and change into a jeans and T-shirt. End of our friendship came when our mutual colleagues said that they like working with me because I'm laughing a lot and helping others. That was too much for her.
Mine too, she likes to make me look bad or silly and point it out. Ive cut her off completely. Wish i knew this information 20 years ago. Evil behavior.
Glad I came across this video. The jealously is so apparent with my next-door neighbors that they exhibit the following: No.2 - Copycat No.4 - Competitive No.5 - Gossip No. 7 React Negatively
@@Julie-si3hi it's definetely better to avoid them as much as possible. I'm actually moving away because I've had enough! I feel like my crazy copycat neighbour is almost stalking me. Style, hobbies, studies... If she cannot do what I do, she lies about it. She is very different person with different interests (in the beginning) than me. Never met anyone who does not have any identity, but just needs to pick things from others. Wish you good luck with your situation.
I have a group of women i go to Church with. We're in a text group and pray for each other, give each other advice, etc. I notice that if someone is having an emergency or health issue, automatically this one particular friend always chimes in with an urgent problem that needs immediate attention. Or if you have awesome news, she'll say that she's won a ticket to a concert or is going on holiday. She always tries to one-up us. It's quite sad.
At the church I used to go to, there was someone like that. Any time a guy talked to another girl on our app, she had to interject herself. She was a massive cockblock, but of course, none of the other girls noticed lmao
I am of the opinion that we all deal with jealous people at one point of another. Sometimes you just have to laugh it off, which will serve to temporarily disarm them. They may try again, but constantly laughing them off will slow them down as they find themselves struggling to "get under your skin". This is something I find myself doing quite regularly.
Basically everyone I’ve ever met and Im only now beginning to realize this, as more new “friendships” fall through. I thought they were all narcissists, but the issue is more specific, in that I couldnt figure out WHY all these narcs would choose to accost me. I have something they want.
Jealous and envious people are easily triggered, which means they need to heal those unprocessed emotions that they hold onto. These people tend to not live very long because they have so much unhappiness inside of them. So sad. I really hope they heal.
No. 13 for the best way is to humiliate them by tripping them up with a few questions where they're absolutely STUMPED because the only way in that case to have the right answer is to DO THE WORK and jealous folk LOVE to cut corners.
Experienced this towards me, particularly bullying, my entire adult life. I’m now 42 and it continues, many women struggle to be kind and they cause plenty trouble. Workplaces are terrible for this! The only difference is, for me now I’m older, that tge more it happens, the better I’m able to handle it, however handling it better causes them to believe that I think I’m better than everyone else, which is absolutely not the case! I’ve even been targeted because of my walk… apparently, I walk with confidence and they don’t like it. There’s always something, they never leave me alone! What they don’t realise is that if the pushed their emotions to one side and took the time to actually get to know me, they’d gain a very good and loyal friend 🤷♀️
Oh yeah, I know this. Trying to be over their immature behavior and the constant manipulation and insults can look like you're avoiding them. That's when they try to explain it to themselves that there's something wrong with you by claiming you feel superior to them. No way! I don’t think I am superior to you (you=jealous person). The thing is you believe it about yourself, that YOU are inferior. You have an insecurity and you obssess about it thats why you think other people dislike you. My problem with you is not your flaws, which we all have, but your constant disrespect towards me and your immaturity. Just deal with your insecurities at last so you finally stop comparing yourself to others. I am here to only do my share of work and I count on productive cooperation with my colleagues. I dont care about your personal private life or what you did right or wrong in your life. Geez. Who cares? All the best to you! (you=commentator)
Ignore them. Don't try being nice with them. They will despise you even more. We don't know how many narcissists are out there but certainly there are far too many.
I'm the type of person that always believes that people can be good and supportive. And I'm always disappointed when things like this happen. This video points out a lot of behaviors I have experienced in work and in what I thought were friendships that were actually pretty damaging. I wish I had seen this video a year ago.
I used to think most old people were happy for you with your successes, but not the case.. Alot are bitter old fools, which is a little sad as I've had to cut a few out of my life. I recognize some of these traits. I'll watch that I don't become like this myself.. Thankyou for this clip..
Older people are sometimes worseThey hate to see you dress nice or do something good. Some co workers love to see you fail and constantly complain that you aren’t doing your job correctly. Correct they wait for your mistakes
Older doesn't always mean wiser. Also, I don't get it when older people are jealous of younger people. Have they forgotten they were also young once? (I am an old git BTW)
just so you know, not all older people are jealous. I am happy when anyone has success.you know if you live long enough you will be old also are you going to be jealous of the new ones comming up? lol
I hate jealousy so much (which is a strong word for me to use) when I see it in peoples behavior it makes me begin to hate the person for being so damn audaciously low. Makes me sick to my stomach, you could’ve been the most uplifting, kind, genuine heart of gold toward this person, rooting for them, yet they leave knives in the back of you, front of you, side, etc. All while trying to act normal and acceptable in front of others.
I had a recent breakup with a girlfriend who in the last weeks of our relationship, I felt a jealous energy from her about my talents as a musician. She broke up with me suddenly and felt the need to tear me down upon doing so. I was great to her always.
This is very accurate. I had some experiences with such a person. At first I didn't understand what's her problem, but then I found out she was simply jealous. I think it's fine to be jealous at times but to express it in a way described here is not okay.
A month ago, I was slandered by three people at a recovery meeting. The loudmouth woman spent several minutes telling everyone at the meeting that I was a predator. I'm still in shock over this and have seriously considered going to Civil Court and suing those people. Slandering a person is an incredibly powerful thing to do to a person. It is meant to ruin your reputation, isolate you from the group and causes other problems re: health. I have chronic pancreatitis and the mental thing connects with the body and guess what a flareup of pain, lack of appetite, lack of motivation and many other things that bring you down. Don't be so evil!
My ex friend used always copy how I dressed I wasn't flattered it irritated me. She'd viciously attack my chosen career yet she lied pretened she had the same qualifications in her social media account when she didn't. At a party a guy was saying complimentary things to me and the jealousy on her face was awful to see . Funny thing is I felt pity for her in that moment. I saw that jealousy with other friends too . It must be dreadful to be so overwhelmed by such an emotion. I only felt it once myself when my partner of the time looked so at a much younger woman it was so surprising I never suspected he was so lecherous
I won a court case and was finally getting the payout. My “friend “ said she wishes someone owed her money. Later, she lost it and told me that I think I’m better than her because I got some money. That I use it to mistreat and tease her because I bought a used appliance with it. I also got a saccharine, “I’m so happy for you from another person. It’s best to keep yourself to yourself I find.
This is all I’ve ever known my entire life. Family, fake friends. I don’t get it. I love seeing people do well. It makes zero sense. If I hated them or did something I could see but honestly it makes no sense.
I feel this way too Rachel. They’re some people who are so incredibly blessed to have great friends and they don’t face any/minimal jealousy. They are extremely supportive of each other’s wins. This one young lady at my church she just got another degree and had a celebration which people were invited to. When I was younger I admired her so much. She has many GREAT friendships and seem very supportive. They’re some people who are fortunate to have great things and don’t face any type of jealousy. Props to those people because when you’re the target of jealousy, man I tell you it’s not an easy thing at all.
Sadly, I’ve had to deal with people being jealous of me, for as long as I can remember. I’m old enough to recognize the source of the hate & mockery. Some people are so insecure that they perceive me as a threat, an embodiment of excellence. Oh,well we all have our cross to bear.
My older sister was always jealous of me and did horrifically evil things to me when I was a child. In more recent years, I had become very depressed and called her and told her I was feeling very suicidal and that I didn't want to go on anymore. She literally told me I should just kill myself. That was her best advice. Unbelievable!!
For the most part, there's no such thing as "friends" when you become an adult. The only real friendships you can have are those you form with kids from your childhood. You grow up together and feel almost like relatives. Otherwise, what passes for friendships are mostly just relationships of convenience...you think you can get something from the other person and the other person thinks the same thing about you.
This one hit it on the head it has my family written all over it this is why I don't deal with them anymore but power to them I just need my piece of mind.
Just to share some thoughts: jealous people are always the biggest motivation for me instead. Since they are the big motivation for me, I always think that they deserve something sweet. The more jealous they are, the more I will try to thrive. And I try to get as much success as I can because I know that my success will def be a sweet revenge for them LMAO 🤣
I had encountered jealous people and they even praying in front of me. I know a friend, everytime there is something new about me, she pauses. Now it's clear to me that it's a sign of jealousy. I don't know why I am always encountering such kind of people?
I think my friend is jealous of my relationship with my guy. She’s criticizing him even though there’s seriously no reason to, and they’re no one to talk because he’s an absolute saint compared to the guys they get involved with! She also does the interruptions, I can’t even talk about him… it’s not like I even talk about him that much. (I just can’t, she gets weird.) I love and appreciate my guy so I stand by him. If my “friends” can’t accept that then too bad.
Unfortunately, all the strangers encourages and congratulate me on every success I achieve, EXCEPT my all family members! Literally, my brother cut me out of his life as soon as saw i outshine him. My sister, not even congratulate me unless her husband is around lol my mom doesn’t even care. My ex, used to tell me literally to my face that he gets sad and feels jealous whenever he saw me progressing with success. And he always cried then creates a fight , and used to say that he is scared of my success ( of course he is narcissistic and insecure)Nonetheless, I am grateful for everything because success and struggle times show you the true face of the people around you or close to you!! I am happy that I did cut all those toxic figures out of my life!
Everything I have read in the comments section is true. I believe I have encountered them all.i believe that having trust and faith in the Good Lord and believing in yourself is the answer to it all
So accurate. For all of us who suffer jealousy and the gossip that goes around because of it. Gossip is one thing but malicious gossip is where they pull your character to pieces, that’s a different ball game. I’ve started to stop giving these people any information I am polite , but now refrain from giving them any kind of details. I’ve totally blanked a comment made by a previous gossiper, or when they ask a question I simply say that that information is not for the public domain. Or simply say I must get on I’m busy.😊.. It’s so much more empowering. Carol N.I. .
Sometimes it's the complete opposite. Some parents choose to be miserable their entire lives, so they make you feel as if being single is a bad thing, because they themselves couldn't be single. Somebody was better than nobody for them.
My older sister would do everything in her power to make sure I never outdid her. She would delete my save game files to make sure I didn't finish a game before her and blame the Xbox. She would hum at the top of her lungs and vacuum every time she saw me studying hard for school. I eventually confronted her, fought her, and got her to back off. Though she gaslit me enough to make my parents believe I was overreacting. Worth it though. If a jealous person is being passive aggressive towards you, call them out and shame them at all costs. Tear at their reputation and call them every dirty word you can think of if you must. Never make peace with them or let them back in.
I have cousins who grew up with more money and resources than I ever did, but somehow they’re still jealous of my family and I. Growing up, I always questioned why that was the case. Don’t jealous people have to have less than you to be jealous? Nope; and this video made it clear. They were upset that my siblings and I were making moves in life, and they wanted us to stay down, like they’ve always viewed us. Stay safe out there ❤❤
Jealousy is a sin and that’s why I say people can be each other’s angels and demons you just Gotta be yourself do your own thing and not let anyone penetrate your mind or soul
May evil,unfairness,injustice come back at the American government and those involved in ruining my life ( Targeted Me) to make me look bad to people,buddy,let us not forget Hiroshima,Vietnam, Iraq,Afghanistan,(My Brothers/Sisters) Syria,and so on. I am a fair and good person and they have no right to do this,i promise you I’m not making it up,i wish for my revenge in any way i can get it and not just for me but for all Muslims and non Muslims like those of Hiroshima,Vietnam. Unfairness,evil i will not tolerate. EVER. Sadly i was told I’m ugly and played,lied to,sadly mostly by my own kind, Bosniak girls, and you do know what was done to them during the aggression on Bosnia…….and i dont even hate on Serbian and American women/girls. You can not blame me for my looks and my desperation and urge for to have a gf and love making. This what was done to me is disgusting,unfair and terror…….Let me see the heroic Americans try this on Russia and Putin,it is easy to ruin me as i cant fight back the right way ……..
The ugliest part is when we realize late a jealous demon who was close to us, and has succeeded in inflicting their damage. 💔 I focus with sincere gratitude on what “I” have, “my” qualities, and “my” God given purpose in this life -With horse blinders on I run my own race. Hypothetically. Because I actually don’t have horse blinders on, I see others, it’s just that others success does not knock me off my rock, I’m not disturbed. My capabilities are my own, same for others, all we can truly do is be the best we are capable of, so why not focus on that instead of “I want to be better than that guy”? Successful people are very inspirational for me (my faves), people deserve the good they have, beyond what others think…watch, learn and applaud! Jealous people seem to have a fearful sense “there’s not enough to go around”, or they’re simply “not good enough”, or “why do they have it, I don’t” - dumb thinking, so they plot how to steal, kill, and cheat others out of what we have. Be very careful.
Is there anyone in your life who is jealous of you? And Do you know of any other signs of jealousy?
Is this the kind of jealousy where people wish you had they had that the one you're talking about
Also you're winning
I'm a author and so I told a few ppl naturally and one particular person never congratulated me then suddenly she comes out with a book . Difference is imma keep coming out with books I'm not a fraud. And she's way older to
people always copy me
FAMILY and old co-workers I have been through it all on this list.
I've seen people being very kind to you as long as you remain an underdog, but the moment you achieve something, they start backstabbing you and pulling you down.
They prefer it when someone is seemingly less than them.
Now when that same person starts to achieve even a tiny bit more than them, they act as if they are losing their value because the seemingly lesser person is outperforming them.
You can see that phenomenon in the Oscar's and the motion picture industry and TV Emmy s. You ever notice Steve Spielberg never received an Oscar for production until long long after he deserved one. He should have had one for Jaws e t close encounters. Johnny carson should have had one long long before he got an Emmy. I heard johnny talking one night and he said it was a noted trait with the industry that they'll help you most of the way up until you get too high then they stop helping you.which matched my own theories.
Amen
You are right
These people are narcissists
Jealous people are the reason why I'm so secretive about my plans and goals
You’re a smart one to keep your goals and plans to yourself. When they see your successful outcome, the jealous ones will make themselves obvious
Good call,some people are very-PETTY-immature and childish.
I am just learning this over the past few years!
I agree
I don't blame you. i'm the same way. my ex was noticeably jealous of my happiness. that's a automatic no. i couldn't even genuinely laugh at youtube videos because that's how jealous he was. when i spoke on things i wanted and said i wanted to buy with my own money he'd give me a lecture. like dude, can u be happy for me instead of downing every single thing i do? i had a iphone 12 pro max, brand new. only had it 5 months, still paying on it. because he was mad he decided he wanted to throw my phone and break it. meanwhile i was still 700$ away from completely owning it because i was leasing to own. not only was he jealous, he was heavily toxic. i dropped his ass.
This is why I've learnt not to tell my business to anyone.
Exactly
I definitely agree With you. I tries to tell my sis the samething too
I hate jealousy it really sucks. You're just trying to live your life, do your own thing, and there's always that one person trying to trip you up
You 100 percent right..
Yes a i feel sorry for those jealous individuals who need to get a real life
not just one theres many,
@@beejjas3321 Jealous and competitive individual here. No need to be sorry for us. It is either we learn to manage our competivity in a healthy way or we don't and suffer the consecuences. There is failure and there is success. Stabing others in the back is only stagnating your development as person into an inmature adut infant.
@@evep6886 haha jealousy of what gunda gutya nation least I can say we won the war losers stay where you are
Don't rush to make friends, take your time. You can be your own friend..
Learned this the hard way 🙃
Not just friends family is the worst
Sometimes you just have to be your own friend. I don’t know why people can’t be nice.
So true
@@daisydukes8252 I've had siblings who was jealous of me. They still dislike me even now. I have no relationship with them.
Be very careful. Very few people are true friends. Lots of pathetic humans out there who feel inferior whether they are or not. They’re dangerous and they will try to ruin you. Stay private and be skeptical of everyone you meet.
True indeed
Truth especially in the day of social media watch what You share...
👌
I found this out the hard way…
Same
Anger is cruel, and wrath is like a flood, but jealousy is even more dangerous. (Proverbs 27:4)
Absolutely right, jealously Is so dangerous I’m experiencing this first hand.
Amen. ❤
Unfortunately very true.
Not very Christian people envious people appearently
My mantra had become...
_"When you build in Silence, they don't know what to attack."_
Facts
It's why I don't trust or deal with people.I go to work,clock in, do my job and go home.
The best thing to do, less people, less stress. I'm lucky enough to keep small pets, four Guinea Pigs 😍 I love them to bits and the welcome I get when I get home is truly ❤.
Me too.And don't want to see co-workers off the clock either,so I don't go to company functions off the clock.The only time I have fun on the clock is on weekend drill with my guard unit. Did 4 deployments to Iraq with the Texas Guard,also did 2 tours back-to-back.I work at my local VA hospitol,full of ex-military,but none have my combat tours,so lots of vets hate on me because of this.I get MAD respect from the nurses,doctors,patients,etc,etc,... for my service,they do not. And it doesn't sit well with them. TOO bad. LOL.
I agree a little hi and wave and that’s about it been there done that with coworker friendships didn’t work out
Well I thought I was the only who did this! Exactly my routine and I couldn’t be happier ❤😂
You have to be friends with everyone you work with...said Noone ever!!! 😊
It sooo sad because FAMILY members can be more jealous of you than anyone else.😢
Family are worse than strangers!!!! My 2 sisters have lied on me & turned people against me to make themselves look good
@@judyanne3563 I always believed the old philosophy of giving priority to your family over others was heavily flawed. Every one of us are family. All of us are, indeed, related. Thus, there is no reason to give anybody precedence over anybody else, save if someone is treating you poorly or someone is treating you kindly. I have no family, as what most consider family. They live in another continent and I do not know them. However, I treat everyone exactly the same until a person gives me a reason to treat that person differently.
@@judyanne3563 same here with me
Same here @@judyanne3563 My own biological family brainwashed people against me, until I kicked all this people out of my life and trust me I'm doing: ¡"BETTER THAT EVER"!
So true!
When people are jealous of you mean you are working toward the correct path of success. 👍
Agreed. 😊
Sometimes ppl are jealous just because you have parents . Jealous of anything jealous ppl don't need a reason
I am very successful financially, independently, and resourcefully. However, nobody is jealous of me. Nobody even knows me.
@@crystalvouse6435 my co worker was jealous of me and smeared my name at my old job all because I said I come from a big family.
Alot of this is true ce noticed signs its very sad that people do this .
Jealousy is one of those things that's hard to catch at first. But once you realize that your 'friend' is jealous of you, his/her words and actions reek of jealousy almost every time. It's so painfully obvious once you realize someone is constantly jealous of you. And you have to start distancing yourself from this person slowly or else you might get some kind of nasty reaction from these type of people.
You're right, recognizing jealousy can be eye-opening, and it's crucial to protect your well-being by setting healthy boundaries.
I am never envious of other people, I count my blessings and work hard to achieve what I want. Successful people are inspirational to me.
Keep it up
Hear hear. I’m also inspired by other’s success. I emulate not envy.
Same. I’ve never been jealous hearted.
Same here. I focus on what “I” have, “my” qualities, and “my” God given purpose in this life - with horse blinders on I run my own race. Hypothetically. Because I actually don’t have horse blinders on, it’s just that others peoples success does not knock me off my rock. My capabilities are my own, same for others, all we can truly do is be the best we are capable of, so why not focus on that instead of “I want to be better than that guy”? And yes, successful people are very inspirational for me as well (my faves), people deserve the good they have, beyond what others think…watch, learn and applaud! Jealous people seem to have a fearful sense “there’s not enough to go around”, or they’re simply “not good enough”, so they plot how to steal, kill, and cheat others out of what we have. Be careful.
Good for you because I have often felt that there will always be someone with more than I have, others with less than I have. Jealousy and envy are the most wasted emotions a human can experience.
Ppl can be jealous of your natural abilities/ god given talents .
Or the way that other people love you. It’s crazy.
@@EricaChavira-on4oz very true my first love was killed because of ppl being jealous of how much love he got from others .. you’re so right . Very crazy!!! reminds me of Cain and Able in the Bible.
The truth will show in people when you outshine them.
Facts 💯
Yep it happened to me in the music festival community which is ironic because all of those ‘hippies’ are supposed to be about peace and love lol
People are jealous of my kindness; if people don't want you to be happy; they are jealous of you....
Jealousy is the root of all evil.
right
Right jealousy is the ugliest trait
🤑 is the root of all evil !! It will flip your 🌎
No, that would be the love of money (1st Timothy 6:10, KJV).
@@davidlafleche1142 money is the root of all evil.
Jealousy is a curse, it’s a spiritual thing, it’s developed early in life, if not corrected, it manifests, most of it develops during childhood, especially amongst siblings, if the parents don’t correct this behavior it’ll definitely get worse
In order to find something to complain about you, they hold you to a much higher standard than others. At work, a mistake done by any other person would be silently corrected or overlooked altogether, but a mistake YOU made will be made a big deal of and the whole workplace will know about it. They are so thrilled to let everyone know you made a mistake.
I chose to leave a workplace of seven years because of this behavior. What's worse is when the perpetrator has the uncanny ability to come across as the "nicest" person.
Yup that’s the telltale sign “ overly nice” to hide and camouflage their true identity 😢
I've always been envied by people who had more than I did. They had parents. And money. Big house. Nicer clothes. But somehow....I was the threat.
Insecure people are genius at dreaming up reasons to be jealous - things most people never even think of.
On fucking god!!!
UVRah material things mean nothing. I'm mid age and I've never owned a house or had a brand new car but I have wonderful children and grandchildren a great place to live food heat etc etc. You don't need fancy things in life. People that you love matter life matters
@Sea of Madness I don't mind not owning fancy things. My statement was more about those who are jealous for no real reason. How others who have all those things mentioned PLUS people who love them and they still manage to find jealousy in their heart for me. Someone who has none of that.
Same!!!
I am no longer using the term friends, my acquaintances are jealous of me because I do more with less..🤔😯
that is there problem not yours.
Love how you used “Acquaintances “. So true. The word “ friends “ does not exist.
My former Narcissist friend actually told me that my financial success had everything to do with her helping me with my resume 30, yes 30 years previously. She stated otherwise, I would still be waitressing (and probably living in a car somewhere). I stopped talking to her after that for good. Done.
She has a point. I coached a colleague of mine to be able to answer a certain law firms interview questions (she was stuck in a dead end job and couldn’t get out of it. She was successful at interview and gained experience in litigation with a top tier firm. A few years later, she got a higher position (with better pay) with another firm and is now doing well. Without my original encouragement to continue to apply for jobs, and coaching her through interviews, it is very likely that she would still be stuck in the same dead end job.
Why don’t you acknowledge that the original editing of your CV probably did contribute to your overall success today? As a matter of fact, it did, even if it was 30 years ago.
@@gymuser8214 Nope, she doesn't have a point. I expressed my gratitude and was appreciative. I, in turn, have helped HER many times as well as other friends and colleagues the same way. My friend never coached me through interviews, it was just one tweak on the resume - that was it. I would NEVER imply nor think that those I helped succeeded only because of me, that is insane.
Wow…..now THAT’S arrogance! (Hers, not yours). If she’s so talented, why didn’t she use it to help herself too? I tell ya…..some people’s kids! I’m glad you’re having a happy, successful life.
@@sfc5774 Thank you very much. Yep, she had other issues too and now that I'm more mature (age wise) and more knowledgeable about narcissists, it totally makes sense now that I can retrospectively see her harmful (and twisted) behavior.
@@gymuser8214 the ex tried to take ALL the credit. That was the problem. Read better.
Sad. Jealousy and envy is such a curse. I see it in my family, my friends and colleagues.
God bless you and protect you 🌹
God bless you and protect you 🌹
Being talked over: a constant for me at my job all day it's so annoying
You probably are insightful and they feel threatened by it.
I'm a woman boss in a male dominant field. I don't even want to say the shit I have experienced, but talking over is something I have no more tolerance for
Yes me to as well it's Sickness
I work completely alone. I am the only one in the complex from 21:00 to 06:00. It feel like I own the planet or I am the last person on the planet. I go weeks without seeing another person, save on television. When everyone is asleep, I am working four nights a week and living the other three nights a week. The rare times I see anybody at all it is at the region's only all night grocery store. I go shopping for food about every four months. There is an alternative to the life you are living now. Perhaps you may wish to try it. I even live in a very rural environment. My closest neighbour is 3 kilometers from me and I do not know that neighbour. I just see the car and the house. If tired of social drama, perhaps leaving the social herd is for you.
Send them a group email saying to stop talking over the top of me.........
I experience this at work... very annoying. Everything funny and weird I say, gets stolen and my personality as well.Sick of this.
Yes, this can be very annoying.
I love it when I'm told "You don't need this job, quit and enjoy your life " so I told them I was looking for another job and I could see how happy 😊 this group of people were that I made them enjoy what it seemed to them a victory and after few weeks when asked how my job hunting was going "I replied well with how gas ⛽️ has gone up you guys are stuck with me " let's just say their enthusiasm told me exactly how they felt towards me" 😊
Yes! I’ve been through this with family, friends and colleagues. Pathetic people!! Tied of it, life is not a competition. Xx
You are not alone. Sad thing is my own mother. Supposedly ex favorite cousin and a co worker of 10 years who did help me get the job (didn’t expect me to learn quickly) all has done the above. Unfortunately I’ve been through everything he’s listed. Now I’ve cut them off and happy I did but feel so alone however I refuse to deal with them ever again
@@DrHen-xd3rv Please don't cut off your mother..You will have regrets when she leaves here.
@@kingsdaughter7025 easier said than done. If you only knew the treatment that comes with dealing. It’s very difficult
family,such a funny thing :< aint that right. do they love you or not. not sure
@@susanhowell2578 not the jealous ones. I’ve noticed their actions in the best however wasn’t aware of narcissistic personality and always let it blow with wind
Both of my sisters got married the same year I did after I announced my engagement. I have heard so much gossip from family that was rooted from my sister. Learning that she was jealous helped to make sense of things I questioned. My oldest sister is far more mature about her behavior and has owned her part.
I’ve been dealing with the middle sister’s insecurities all my life. I am loving life AWAY from her and other insecure women in my family. I’ve found my tribe, and they are women that are living their best life! I am free and thriving!
I have a mother a half sister & 2 Daughters showing all of these signs 🤔 🙄😑
@@pamelathomas2294 it’s so sad that the place we should feel safest is where we learned about how ugly the world can be
I can relate I will love from a distance,I don’t like drama arguing or any confrontation so I keep my distance and just pray for them.
Yes, the only way to develop can be to walk away. You feel guilty in case you are wrong, but you are not!
@@joysynmonds9082 the people pleaser in me once felt that way. It only brought further pain from their exploitation of my empathetic nature. I’m so good now. But to the insecure women I watched growing up, I’m stuck up🤷🏾♀️ I equate it to the lack of accountability and a wider vocabulary. My ancestors keep me hella grounded!
The belittling attitude is a good clue!
I’ll add one: They will only focus on what could be negatives in your life instead of praising your positives and help keeping your head high. You’ll notice they’ll talk highly and post positive things about others but won’t post you even though you’re a close one to them.
#12 is one of the worst ones and most subtle cause you’ll contemplate on why a close friend started suddenly switching up on you after a years and years of close friendship. This could effect your life so be careful. You’ll be thinking something is wrong with you etc when it’s actually them.
I agree
So true.👌🏼
Been through this.
They get hostile if you mention something good that has happened to you. Or they change the subject quickly.
That! And if they find out something not so great is happening or has happened, they will continue to ask about it. But that good thing that happened, they don’t care about it!
Jealousy or envy is a natural emotion and tells you what you really want instead of bashing the person you are jealous of, you should try working on achieving those things quietly because you want them so much. Yet some people try to bring others down instead of getting good things themselves.
I agree
I highly disagree. Jealousy and envy are very unnatural. You can know what you want without jealousy confirming it for you. When I was in college I had a friend who took some time off to become a flight attendant. I’ve always wanted to travel, but I cannot explain the genuine excitement I had for her. I told myself after college I would travel. I would even envision her having fun and enjoying her time in New York because that’s where she was stationed. I also had never been out on my own so there was also a thrill of seeing someone who could just up and leave and not fear being on their own. Not one time did I feel envy or jealousy. Only happiness for her because some people deserve to be happy and enjoy their lives. People keep getting jealousy and envy confused. They’re both emotions. There are many successful people in the world. Wanting to be successful as well isn’t jealousy/ envy BUT wanting what THEY have, exactly what they have from car, wife, house, dog etc., that’s the emotion of jealousy and envy. My story for example, everyone at some point will want to travel, and that’s natural, but feeling jealousy for those who can is unnatural. It’s stupid to do so because the harder and lord you work at some point it will be experienced. It will never be a natural emotion.
This is exactly how I got rid of my envy I had for someone 😊
My own family members! Even after I have made so many sacrifices for them! I can tell my mom something positive and she will act like she doesn’t hear me and won’t acknowledge it but as soon as I tell her some bad news, she responds instantly
I feel your pain, my mum's exactly the same or she'll belittle me like calls me being OTT for being excited over my little milestones/ achievements, that's just the tip of the iceberg. We haven't spoken in years and she hasn't changed, let's just say as long as she's alive and well, that's all I can be grateful for.
@@amphorntiengtare4072 it sucks that we have to experience things like this. I wish people would fight the devil off but some people are not strong enough to do so. I recently stopped communicating with my mom. I should have done it a long time ago. She has done so much damage to my personal properties. I don’t even see how I never had her arrested
The bad news allow her to feel instantly superior but she can't relate to the good news - nothing to offer.
@@allanfischer9417 preach!!! It gets so much better with time!!! I’m so ready for it
I had a friend that I needed to walk away from after 10 yrs because I finally deduced she was jealous of me…
They are worse than strangers!
jealous People Ply You With Insincere Compliments And False Praises. One thing that jealous people never want to admit is that they are jealous of you. ... When someone is jealous of you, they often pause for a long silent moment before congratulating you or telling you that you have done a great job
We agree!
I’ve witnessed this several times. I even had a friend who would cut me off while I was sharing good news to sing praises to their other friends who have achieved more. It was right in my face the entire time and I never saw it. I assumed their compliments were sincere and that they were truly happy for me. It wasn’t until I was engaged to be married that she couldn’t stomach it anymore, she literally changed her number and stopped communicating with me without explanation. It wasn’t until now that I realized envy was the issue all along. When you have God’s favor over your life an envious person will eventually bail on you because they can’t stomach another blessing. I was extremely supportive of all of her good news and opportunities, and never braggadocio-us. Just truly happy and thought my friend would be equally happy. You live and you learn. Smh
Facts 💯
“A tranquil heart is LIFE to the BODY, but ENVY ROTS the bones” (Prov.14:30). Jealousy almost always comes from family and friends….it’s so sad.
Truth
A jealous person invited me to dinner and every dish had the one thing that I'm allergic to. She knew this and despite me catching on quick to her scheme and playing it off as an 'understandable mistake', she insisted on going overboard to whip up something else. While it might have appeared to come from a generous and accommodating place, it was all theatre to highlight how I was so 'difficult'.
Sometimes jealousy plays out in very subtle but nasty ways. The intention is always the same though, to take away something from you while making them look better.
Oh my god, she was playing a very dangerous game with your health too! 🥶🤮 I would have called her out on it, left the food, her house and walked away. I have no time for toxic people, I ended a friendship a while ago and have no desire to meet up, or speak to her again. Take Care of yourself and teach these sort a lesson, for good. Best Wishes 😘
@@beverleybalshaw9119 Thanks 🙏
Exactly!
Very bad behavior
#6 is one of the main reasons why I don't open up and only talk about my positives.
Why solitude is so wonderful!
my best freind is my dog
Hear hear!
Absolutely, I finally have it now. For years I was subjected to a jealous family member who literally made my life an emotional gaol. They had a lot of these traits. Wish I had found out this information a lot earlier in my life.
However, glass half full. Better late than never 👍😊
I don’t mind a little healthy competition but when it’s too much I know they’re jealous. I also notice jealous people love to give you dirty looks / evil eyes it’s really pathetic.
You Is Right About That Sarah
It’s so childish and unnecessary drama and i can literally feel the awkwardness
Yup....the vileness in their stares give me extra motivation to work even harder
@@kimchiba4570 Me too. I love the looks of hatred and jealousy from lazy people whenever I succseed.
The entire 10 mins were full of clarity for me. I have been trying to justify people's actions toward me. Thinking I was being unreasonable when it's been in my face the whole time. My feelings are hurt knowing that people don't see the good and uniqueness they have in themselves. God help them💯💪🏽🙏🏽
It is very hurtful when people you love and care for are wishing the worst for you….I’ve been through it
@@mekosmotivationalmessages😔 All we can do is pray for them and keep moving forth💯🙏🏽
That is far too relatable, I just thought I was doing something wrong, but it turned out someone really did resent me.
@Liah We totally are on the same page! I have thought your thoughts too ... it's a real shame that those "jealous people" don't put all their jealous energy towards making a better life for themselves. Glad to have found this video, it answered a lot of questions.
@@thisisme3238👏🏽👏🏽 Yes!
I have one true friend and that’s enough for me - no bitching, jealousy or gossiping and we are there for each other. Lots of other friends but at arms distance and done with kindness
Numbers 1, 4, 9, and 12 are why I just ended my connection with someone. Funny that once you work on yourself and outgrow your own insecurities, it's a lot easier to recognize unhealthy relationships and to walk away without regret.
Same. I just realized 3 days ago my sister was jealous bc I am doing shadow work, healing past childhood trauma, and according to her “I’m being consumed of my past, I live in the past, and need to get over it.” And she doesn’t like hearing about it bc “I only talk about dark things.” Whatever that means..
She’s still in an abusive relationship and gets cheated on every day, yet still allows him to live with her.
Then I realized she never complimented me, never addressed how far I have come, and when I told my therapist she confirmed that it sounded she was insecure that I was doing the inner work and she hasn’t done any.
@@zaylinstar8883 Hopefully at some point your sister will come to a state of readiness and begin to embrace the opportunity to grow and the distance between you will cease to remain. Until then, your number one priority has to be you and your inner peace or it's impossible to sustain healthy relationships.
Edited to say: Congratulations on your growth!💪 Be proud of yourself every day for how far you've come!
@@deannadolan5119 Omgsh thank you so much! It’s crazy at times that validation from strangers sometimes mean ALOT, I’m still learning about toxic people and the guilt of wanting to just have inner peace is huge lol but thank you for your response!
It's more you got outside the box they put you in
This is so true lol. I told my friend I’m getting married and he from another country. She going to say oh he only use u for a green card lol 😂 I gave her tons of proof that wasn’t the case. Plus he have a tourist visa and his family well off in his country and We was thinking about owning property in his country together lol and also he don’t need me lol. He have a car, his own house, a salary from his parents. She didn’t respond after I show how he actually love me and we been dating for awhile. Why would I tell u I’m getting married after a year lol. We been seeing each other for a few years lol 😂 I knew down right she was jealous because her husband cheated on her with a different race and she still with him because she have 3 kids with him and she can’t find anyone else because she bigger.
Even when there is literally nothing to be jealous of, even when they have the means to buy anything they want; they STILL find something to be envious of.
I love when people gossip it gives me a way out. When I know someone gossips I will tell everyone except them how they treat me poorly. Makes them look even worse.
Good idea! Thank you!
I had a friend/colleague who had it all. Big house, swimmingpool, cars, RV, situated husband, good looks... In comparison to her I was a little poor mouse, except that I have the looks (not gonna be fake modest here).
After hanging out for some time I noticed she is starting to dress as me, we would go together shopping and if I liked something a lot she would buy it after some time and when I would dress up she would constantly criticise me how I'm just "too much" to the point that I wanted to go home and change into a jeans and T-shirt.
End of our friendship came when our mutual colleagues said that they like working with me because I'm laughing a lot and helping others. That was too much for her.
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Yes, I have had women to imitate me too
Their money can't purchase what you have and they hate it!
Same here rely irritating copies alot
I can relate. Those kind of people are beyond help. They need a psychiatrist, it is usually related with their childhood.
Ignore the negative people 👀🤷♀️
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Yes, ignore them
I don't hang out with them 😂
Stay away from them
@@PiyaChoudhari Me too!
Jealous, just something I can never be
Just wait till when I win the lottery. Ha Ha Ha! 😈
I’m jealous of you because of that 🤣 just kidding
@@bogusmogus9551 what you mean by that ??
@@RDnAC because of what?
Why is it that it's so much negatively going on I mean I just can't see my self picking all day.
Yes my sister love to criticize me in front of other people this is a very big one.
Mine too, she likes to make me look bad or silly and point it out. Ive cut her off completely. Wish i knew this information 20 years ago. Evil behavior.
Glad I came across this video. The jealously is so apparent with my next-door neighbors that they exhibit the following:
No.2 - Copycat
No.4 - Competitive
No.5 - Gossip
No. 7 React Negatively
Same
I have a competitive copycat neighbour too. It is so annoying!
Omg I have the same problems with a fruend/neighbour...the dressing like me and copying hairstyle,gossip etc...I now keep my distance.
@@Julie-si3hi it's definetely better to avoid them as much as possible. I'm actually moving away because I've had enough! I feel like my crazy copycat neighbour is almost stalking me. Style, hobbies, studies... If she cannot do what I do, she lies about it. She is very different person with different interests (in the beginning) than me. Never met anyone who does not have any identity, but just needs to pick things from others. Wish you good luck with your situation.
they are soulless sentient parasite meat suites. pay them no mind
I have a group of women i go to Church with. We're in a text group and pray for each other, give each other advice, etc. I notice that if someone is having an emergency or health issue, automatically this one particular friend always chimes in with an urgent problem that needs immediate attention. Or if you have awesome news, she'll say that she's won a ticket to a concert or is going on holiday. She always tries to one-up us. It's quite sad.
Ugh. Hate that energy.🫣🤯
At the church I used to go to, there was someone like that. Any time a guy talked to another girl on our app, she had to interject herself. She was a massive cockblock, but of course, none of the other girls noticed lmao
I am of the opinion that we all deal with jealous people at one point of another. Sometimes you just have to laugh it off, which will serve to temporarily disarm them. They may try again, but constantly laughing them off will slow them down as they find themselves struggling to "get under your skin". This is something I find myself doing quite regularly.
yall know the old saying you’re nobody until someone hates you!
Good one!!
Basically everyone I’ve ever met and Im only now beginning to realize this, as more new “friendships” fall through. I thought they were all narcissists, but the issue is more specific, in that I couldnt figure out WHY all these narcs would choose to accost me. I have something they want.
Thanks for sharing this😊
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Yep. They're after your soul.
What do you have?
So everyone you’ve ever met has been jealous of you? Why?
They have taken everything away from me except my soul. So that must be it. But they can’t have that.
1st sign- you have to watch a video to determine if they’re jealous of you
bruh, good point can't lie
Jealousy is not good. Good thing that I am not a jealous person
People will wish you well but be in secret competition with you can't celebrate you but will do for others who haven't did anything for them
Jealous and envious people are easily triggered, which means they need to heal those unprocessed emotions that they hold onto. These people tend to not live very long because they have so much unhappiness inside of them. So sad. I really hope they heal.
I agree .
Seems to me its these types of people who live the longest while the kind hearted people die early. I think you've got it backwards.
@@reesedaniel5835 If your kind people think you are weak....the world favours cruel people........
I guess you are psychopath scientist who give people electronic harassment kkk
No. 13 for the best way is to humiliate them by tripping them up with a few questions where they're absolutely STUMPED because the only way in that case to have the right answer is to DO THE WORK and jealous folk LOVE to cut corners.
Experienced this towards me, particularly bullying, my entire adult life. I’m now 42 and it continues, many women struggle to be kind and they cause plenty trouble. Workplaces are terrible for this! The only difference is, for me now I’m older, that tge more it happens, the better I’m able to handle it, however handling it better causes them to believe that I think I’m better than everyone else, which is absolutely not the case! I’ve even been targeted because of my walk… apparently, I walk with confidence and they don’t like it. There’s always something, they never leave me alone!
What they don’t realise is that if the pushed their emotions to one side and took the time to actually get to know me, they’d gain a very good and loyal friend 🤷♀️
Oh yeah, I know this. Trying to be over their immature behavior and the constant manipulation and insults can look like you're avoiding them. That's when they try to explain it to themselves that there's something wrong with you by claiming you feel superior to them. No way! I don’t think I am superior to you (you=jealous person). The thing is you believe it about yourself, that YOU are inferior. You have an insecurity and you obssess about it thats why you think other people dislike you. My problem with you is not your flaws, which we all have, but your constant disrespect towards me and your immaturity. Just deal with your insecurities at last so you finally stop comparing yourself to others. I am here to only do my share of work and I count on productive cooperation with my colleagues. I dont care about your personal private life or what you did right or wrong in your life. Geez. Who cares?
All the best to you! (you=commentator)
Just sounds like insecurity to me.
I’m 52 and still deal with jealous insecure women at work. Everyone please get your life.
@@CraftedSaniTea that’s sad.. call them out
And DON’T let them get away with it
Ignore them. Don't try being nice with them. They will despise you even more.
We don't know how many narcissists are out there but certainly there are far too many.
Avoid people who are jealous. I have a sister 10 years older who has always been jealous.
That’s Normal amongst siblings but you as you get older you usually want to get a away from that bs
I'm the type of person that always believes that people can be good and supportive. And I'm always disappointed when things like this happen. This video points out a lot of behaviors I have experienced in work and in what I thought were friendships that were actually pretty damaging. I wish I had seen this video a year ago.
I used to think most old people were happy for you with your successes, but not the case.. Alot are bitter old fools, which is a little sad as I've had to cut a few out of my life.
I recognize some of these traits. I'll watch that I don't become like this myself.. Thankyou for this clip..
Older people are sometimes worseThey hate to see you dress nice or do something good. Some co workers love to see you fail and constantly complain that you aren’t doing your job correctly. Correct they wait for your mistakes
Older doesn't always mean wiser.
Also, I don't get it when older people are jealous of younger people. Have they forgotten they were also young once?
(I am an old git BTW)
just so you know, not all older people are jealous. I am happy when anyone has success.you know if you live long enough you will be old also are you going to be jealous of the new ones comming up? lol
Not all older people jealous I can speak for my self I like to see people's successful in life that just a part of me.
@@love-dq7yp I agree
I noticed 🤔 They'll stay on the phone 🙄 When things are going wrong but 😳 quick to hang up✌️ When good things are happening
I hate jealousy so much (which is a strong word for me to use) when I see it in peoples behavior it makes me begin to hate the person for being so damn audaciously low. Makes me sick to my stomach, you could’ve been the most uplifting, kind, genuine heart of gold toward this person, rooting for them, yet they leave knives in the back of you, front of you, side, etc. All while trying to act normal and acceptable in front of others.
Ending a friendship - sometimes someone will end the friendship for seemingly no reason. Chances are they were jealous of you.
Oh lord - so true !
I had a recent breakup with a girlfriend who in the last weeks of our relationship, I felt a jealous energy from her about my talents as a musician. She broke up with me suddenly and felt the need to tear me down upon doing so. I was great to her always.
This is very accurate. I had some experiences with such a person. At first I didn't understand what's her problem, but then I found out she was simply jealous. I think it's fine to be jealous at times but to express it in a way described here is not okay.
A month ago, I was slandered by three people at a recovery meeting. The loudmouth woman spent several minutes telling everyone at the meeting that I was a predator. I'm still in shock over this and have seriously considered going to Civil Court and suing those people. Slandering a person is an incredibly powerful thing to do to a person. It is meant to ruin your reputation, isolate you from the group and causes other problems re: health. I have chronic pancreatitis and the mental thing connects with the body and guess what a flareup of pain, lack of appetite, lack of motivation and many other things that bring you down. Don't be so evil!
People are so evil.
And I wish I knew this as a young adult. Could have saved me from alot!
I agree 👍
Agree
Yeah
Facts
Never tell anyone anything. Keep to yourself.
My ex friend used always copy how I dressed I wasn't flattered it irritated me. She'd viciously attack my chosen career yet she lied pretened she had the same qualifications in her social media account when she didn't. At a party a guy was saying complimentary things to me and the jealousy on her face was awful to see . Funny thing is I felt pity for her in that moment. I saw that jealousy with other friends too . It must be dreadful to be so overwhelmed by such an emotion. I only felt it once myself when my partner of the time looked so at a much younger woman it was so surprising I never suspected he was so lecherous
I won a court case and was finally getting the payout. My “friend “ said she wishes someone owed her money. Later, she lost it and told me that I think I’m better than her because I got some money. That I use it to mistreat and tease her because I bought a used appliance with it. I also got a saccharine, “I’m so happy for you from another person. It’s best to keep yourself to yourself I find.
WA
This is all I’ve ever known my entire life. Family, fake friends. I don’t get it. I love seeing people do well. It makes zero sense. If I hated them or did something I could see but honestly it makes no sense.
I feel this way too Rachel. They’re some people who are so incredibly blessed to have great friends and they don’t face any/minimal jealousy. They are extremely supportive of each other’s wins. This one young lady at my church she just got another degree and had a celebration which people were invited to. When I was younger I admired her so much. She has many GREAT friendships and seem very supportive. They’re some people who are fortunate to have great things and don’t face any type of jealousy. Props to those people because when you’re the target of jealousy, man I tell you it’s not an easy thing at all.
Me too
Sadly, I’ve had to deal with people being jealous of me, for as long as I can remember. I’m old enough to recognize the source of the hate & mockery. Some people are so insecure that they perceive me as a threat, an embodiment of excellence. Oh,well we all have our cross to bear.
My older sister was always jealous of me and did horrifically evil things to me when I was a child. In more recent years, I had become very depressed and called her and told her I was feeling very suicidal and that I didn't want to go on anymore. She literally told me I should just kill myself. That was her best advice. Unbelievable!!
I bet you didn't after that though!
She’s not your sister. Just don’t talk to her anymore. She’s very toxic.
@@mgyrn cut contact with her a year ago. She's definitely dead to me.
Just stay away from her and don’t talk to her. I had to do the same thing.
My brother is like that towards me. Don't have to worry about it now, he cashed in last year, April of 2022.
For the most part, there's no such thing as "friends" when you become an adult. The only real friendships you can have are those you form with kids from your childhood. You grow up together and feel almost like relatives. Otherwise, what passes for friendships are mostly just relationships of convenience...you think you can get something from the other person and the other person thinks the same thing about you.
Many people are jealous of celebrites wealth and fame and they dont even know them personally.
This one hit it on the head it has my family written all over it this is why I don't deal with them anymore but power to them I just need my piece of mind.
Just to share some thoughts: jealous people are always the biggest motivation for me instead. Since they are the big motivation for me, I always think that they deserve something sweet. The more jealous they are, the more I will try to thrive. And I try to get as much success as I can because I know that my success will def be a sweet revenge for them LMAO 🤣
I had encountered jealous people and they even praying in front of me. I know a friend, everytime there is something new about me, she pauses. Now it's clear to me that it's a sign of jealousy. I don't know why I am always encountering such kind of people?
This is the one reason why I don't like working among people in general... I can't stand work place drama and bs
Same 😕
I think my friend is jealous of my relationship with my guy. She’s criticizing him even though there’s seriously no reason to, and they’re no one to talk because he’s an absolute saint compared to the guys they get involved with! She also does the interruptions, I can’t even talk about him… it’s not like I even talk about him that much. (I just can’t, she gets weird.) I love and appreciate my guy so I stand by him. If my “friends” can’t accept that then too bad.
Unfortunately, all the strangers encourages and congratulate me on every success I achieve, EXCEPT my all family members! Literally, my brother cut me out of his life as soon as saw i outshine him. My sister, not even congratulate me unless her husband is around lol my mom doesn’t even care. My ex, used to tell me literally to my face that he gets sad and feels jealous whenever he saw me progressing with success. And he always cried then creates a fight , and used to say that he is scared of my success ( of course he is narcissistic and insecure)Nonetheless, I am grateful for everything because success and struggle times show you the true face of the people around you or close to you!! I am happy that I did cut all those toxic figures out of my life!
Everything I have read in the comments section is true. I believe I have encountered them all.i believe that having trust and faith in the Good Lord and believing in yourself is the answer to it all
Keep trusting in Christ and move forward. There’s no time for someone’s jealousy. They need to learn to move forward also
Jealousy and envy are two different things. This is really talking about envy.
Agree
Opposite. Envy is definitely not jealousy....this video was clearly about jealousy.
Jealousy is when you want what someone has, envy is when you want to be them.
Poorly raised people.
So accurate. For all of us who suffer jealousy and the gossip that goes around because of it. Gossip is one thing but malicious gossip is where they pull your character to pieces, that’s a different ball game. I’ve started to stop giving these people any information I am polite , but now refrain from giving them any kind of details. I’ve totally blanked a comment made by a previous gossiper, or when they ask a question I simply say that that information is not for the public domain. Or simply say I must get on I’m busy.😊.. It’s so much more empowering. Carol N.I. .
The really hard part is when this is a parent. My mom was jealous I never got married/had children. I had freedom she wanted.
I’m in the same position. Women become bitter especially after marriage and kids.
Sometimes it's the complete opposite. Some parents choose to be miserable their entire lives, so they make you feel as if being single is a bad thing, because they themselves couldn't be single. Somebody was better than nobody for them.
My coworker loves #8. Never emails me directly, always cc’ing a higher up. Miserable middle aged lady
My older sister would do everything in her power to make sure I never outdid her. She would delete my save game files to make sure I didn't finish a game before her and blame the Xbox. She would hum at the top of her lungs and vacuum every time she saw me studying hard for school. I eventually confronted her, fought her, and got her to back off. Though she gaslit me enough to make my parents believe I was overreacting. Worth it though. If a jealous person is being passive aggressive towards you, call them out and shame them at all costs. Tear at their reputation and call them every dirty word you can think of if you must. Never make peace with them or let them back in.
I have cousins who grew up with more money and resources than I ever did, but somehow they’re still jealous of my family and I. Growing up, I always questioned why that was the case. Don’t jealous people have to have less than you to be jealous?
Nope; and this video made it clear. They were upset that my siblings and I were making moves in life, and they wanted us to stay down, like they’ve always viewed us. Stay safe out there ❤❤
Jealousy is a sin and that’s why I say people can be each other’s angels and demons you just Gotta be yourself do your own thing and not let anyone penetrate your mind or soul
May evil,unfairness,injustice come back at the American government and those involved in ruining my life ( Targeted Me) to make me look bad to people,buddy,let us not forget Hiroshima,Vietnam, Iraq,Afghanistan,(My Brothers/Sisters) Syria,and so on. I am a fair and good person and they have no right to do this,i promise you I’m not making it up,i wish for my revenge in any way i can get it and not just for me but for all Muslims and non Muslims like those of Hiroshima,Vietnam. Unfairness,evil i will not tolerate. EVER. Sadly i was told I’m ugly and played,lied to,sadly mostly by my own kind, Bosniak girls, and you do know what was done to them during the aggression on Bosnia…….and i dont even hate on Serbian and American women/girls. You can not blame me for my looks and my desperation and urge for to have a gf and love making. This what was done to me is disgusting,unfair and terror…….Let me see the heroic Americans try this on Russia and Putin,it is easy to ruin me as i cant fight back the right way ……..
Even with the fact that I’m humble…I attract jealousy😩
Because this is so much more about them than you.
This world could use ALOT more humble.
Everyone isn’t jealous, and jealous people are jealous of everyone.
I have to keep such a small circle and private life on social media due to jealousy 😔
Yup.Can’t be bothered with it
Classic sibling behavior...
It’s pathetic!
Ignoring and openly taking poor advice with a grain of salt is the best medicine 👍🏼
I cut ties with a family member and a former friend because of this and now, they are friends. Misery needs company.
At least they both have a friend now. Leave it.
I've had someone so jealous of me that they tried to get me evicted and called the cops on me for vandalism which she did!!!all with in a week!
The ugliest part is when we realize late a jealous demon who was close to us, and has succeeded in inflicting their damage. 💔 I focus with sincere gratitude on what “I” have, “my” qualities, and “my” God given purpose in this life -With horse blinders on I run my own race. Hypothetically. Because I actually don’t have horse blinders on, I see others, it’s just that others success does not knock me off my rock, I’m not disturbed. My capabilities are my own, same for others, all we can truly do is be the best we are capable of, so why not focus on that instead of “I want to be better than that guy”? Successful people are very inspirational for me (my faves), people deserve the good they have, beyond what others think…watch, learn and applaud! Jealous people seem to have a fearful sense “there’s not enough to go around”, or they’re simply “not good enough”, or “why do they have it, I don’t” - dumb thinking, so they plot how to steal, kill, and cheat others out of what we have. Be very careful.