if you are not selfish, you won't be successful.

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

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  • @tohhnee1619
    @tohhnee1619 Год назад +852

    this reminded me of the quote “everybody wants to save the world but nobody wants to help mom do the dishes” it would be great if we could all help everyone in the world but it’s very unrealistic. instead like simone said we should focus on our family, communities and expand further in future. love this vid as always!!!

    • @simonesimmons
      @simonesimmons  Год назад +86

      THATS FACTS....

    • @vickyjangjeon
      @vickyjangjeon Год назад +5

      @@simonesimmons i overshared with my friend and now i want to cut her out cuz shes toxic but shell start a problem ik she will help please i want to glow up but i cant without undoing that

    • @jana_rmy
      @jana_rmy Год назад +9

      @@vickyjangjeonDont just cut her out, slowly drift away

    • @DJones-s4m
      @DJones-s4m 11 месяцев назад

      Profound...

  • @libazainabkoduvayurayil2709
    @libazainabkoduvayurayil2709 Год назад +579

    mother posted

  • @jayshoney3045
    @jayshoney3045 Год назад +261

    I've always been the "always giving" and "always available" type of friend thank you so much for this video I really am determined to change and look after myself more

    • @Aas_07
      @Aas_07 Год назад +4

      💜✨

  • @TilikaVispute
    @TilikaVispute Год назад +36

    I’ve recently started remembering the Abraham Hicks quote, “I can’t get sick enough to save the sick”.

    • @TilikaVispute
      @TilikaVispute Год назад +3

      And honestly it has been feeling better. Because it re-inforces to me that I should keep my vibe high yo raise the vibe and help others. Rather than overthinking and overgiving. ❤

  • @Aya-cj1ul
    @Aya-cj1ul Год назад +90

    I can totally relate. Being an empath literally destroyed me until i learned to put myself first although I catch myself carrying other people's burden sometimes but i'm more conscious of it now

  • @GuidetteExpert
    @GuidetteExpert Год назад +8

    Omg so true I always take on friends that are drowning, help or want to gain something but dont really help me in return.
    I will stop that because the base of the relationship is due to they wanted something from me.

  • @amiihs6499
    @amiihs6499 Год назад +15

    Tired of being the therapist friend😭 sooo relatable

  • @ecimeru
    @ecimeru Год назад +152

    I wish to be like Simone someday.

  • @waai.waii_
    @waai.waii_ Год назад +105

    She always carries slayyy energy with herself and I love her sm😭💗

  • @monilasa28
    @monilasa28 Год назад +58

    This is so true. I had this friend of mine which I got crush on and the friendship turned into situationship, okay but whenever I talk to him I immediately start to feel so low, as if I've worked for like 18 hours, at start I was not paying attention to it but I now I really have to.. I can't let him steal my precious energy. I will put myself first, save my energy and fill in my cup first. Thanks so much Simone. I am so lucky to found you, you just don't know how grateful I am.
    I love you so freaking much!!!!

    • @sunshine-ii9cz
      @sunshine-ii9cz Год назад +5

      Yess girl I'm rooting for you🎀 I've been there before you will get over it

    • @jinhub2175
      @jinhub2175 Год назад +3

      Istg this happens to me when i visit my cousins, i suddenly start feeling very low and start hating myself and feeling ugly, worthless and what not, all the bad vibes get to me and idk why.

  • @siaschandelier
    @siaschandelier Год назад +66

    Being empathetic and kind is always important, but you must think for yourself first.
    I love your videos, Simone! Love from Italy

  • @_lilyofthevalley_
    @_lilyofthevalley_ Год назад +35

    Really needed this video recently! I've been a bit more selfish recently but it makes me feel so guilty for no reason? It's gotten to the point where I start feeling guilty if I even talk about myself to someone

  • @OMGkawaiiAngel_x
    @OMGkawaiiAngel_x Год назад +14

    This video spoke to me because I have let go of wanting to "save" my brother like my mom would always ask me to, I would also always say "I will be able to help people unless it involves sacrificing myself" and I have lived by that.
    I got called selfish but I am taking it as a compliment at this point.
    Thank you for this wonderful video.

  • @zaytona9988
    @zaytona9988 Год назад +23

    Feeling guilt is something i dealt with as a medical student when i started visiting the hospital and dealing with patients. However, over time i learned to dissociate and turn that feeling into im glad im healthy and pray for them that it becomes less painful. But i’m still empathetic and i dont wanna lose that cuz i do see some of my mentors literally having no sense of empathy for the patients their dealing with.

  • @xinexine7455
    @xinexine7455 Год назад +6

    I used to be someone who love herself, confident about herself, someone who doesn't feel guilty about smth easily and someone who is an unbothered girl knowing people dont even know smth about me those people who judge me are just insecure about themselves, A girl who knows her worth, but rn I back to the insecure situation and hard situation again but I know I will heal and I can do this, we all can so goodluck to me and to y'all

  • @LevRiv
    @LevRiv Год назад +7

    This is so true. I’m realizing this as a teenager but it’s very sad when people will be so used to having help from people who have severe empathy. I remember I would be stressed out because people would call me at 1 o clock in the morning venting about something or telling me they want to end it all. It got to a point where I got so panicked I would have breakdowns. Eventually I end up blocking people that turn friendship into “free therapy” and nothing else.

  • @Maggietheebaddie1948
    @Maggietheebaddie1948 Год назад +4

    I am done doing that. I have my own life and problems and can’t save everyone and everyone doesn’t want to be saved they addicted to pain and misery. I won’t be they company. I’m gone be more selfish and help select people.

  • @xXxNeonPrincessxXx
    @xXxNeonPrincessxXx Год назад +7

    Damn this came to my feed at such a right time. I have been working through my goals and it becomes debilitating because people usually dump their problems towards me because that used to make me feel self fulfilled because I was able to save someone by helping them with their problems. Now I'm kinda slowly realizing, no one helped me be better, I helped myself and it becomes frustrating when someone comes to me but wants my empathy not solutions because as someone who now prioritized making a solution first irregardless of how I felt. It felt almost suffocating when they would just ask and drain my empathy and not listen to actual solutions. Some people don't actually want solutions they just want you to stay in a miserable state with them as company and it's true that if I wanna get ahead in life, I'd really have to put me first and be selfish.

  • @StarGir1_
    @StarGir1_ Год назад +15

    Simone is literally a life saver

  • @andrewthepancake
    @andrewthepancake Год назад +11

    I love when mother feeds us

  • @manaarrr_06
    @manaarrr_06 Год назад +10

    omg U LOOK SO PRETTY! not that u dont usually, ur always stunning! but in this vid, idk, ur lipstick colour and ur dark hair just goes along so well 😭💗 lysmm

  • @JS-ld2qd
    @JS-ld2qd Год назад +4

    Genuinely, I'm so grateful that you learned all these lessons in your teens.

  • @samco63
    @samco63 Год назад +6

    Same with friends and family, I have a lot of emotional vampires in my life, people with relationship problems, hate their jobs etc. i had to switch off my guilt after a while. Because they didn’t want to be saved, and no one was realising just how much I was pouring into everyone else, how much everyone was taking - but no one was filling my cup and I was too exhausted and depressed to pour into my own cup too.
    They look down on me for being “savage” and ending relationships and friendships and even changing jobs - but it’s because I need to, to make my life better. They would rather wallow, and complain about their relationships and life and jobs - and just never change.
    I also had to stop complaining myself, and cut my own shit, so that I could chase my own dreams and create a good life.
    I’ve ended up attracting much better people too, who wanted better for their life and who were more focussed on positive things.

  • @janedilynmancha3910
    @janedilynmancha3910 Год назад +4

    this is very helpful. I'm almost 1month in without social media. And I'm learning so much about myself. So glad with this decision that I made.

  • @lovingheize
    @lovingheize Год назад +3

    After hearing what you mentioned in the video I was reminded of a person in my life who has a lot of medical obstacles (mainly insomnia among other things.) As a result they oftentimes are SUUUPPEEERRR negative which is understandable given their circumstances, but at the same time they’re not trying to look at the positive side of things whatsoever.
    For example, if I have a good night’s rest and I mention that I’m proud of myself and I feel good, instead of being happy for me this person will act like even getting sleep at all is good enough and how they wished they could even have an hour or two of rest, which always leaves me feeling guilty.
    Another example is that I always take the time to write this person long, original motivational messages that I carefully thought about so as to help them feel more positive about things. Whenever I do this, they respond like everything I said is pointless because it’s not going to cure them. I always feel guilty after these conversations, wishing I could do more to help them.
    But like you said, some people don’t want to be helped and you can push the life raft over and they’d rather push it away and leave themselves to drown because it garners more attention and climbing up on the life raft takes effort that they’re not willing to put forth for themselves. Everyone is dealing with their own issues and overcoming their own struggles, it’s not up to us to shift their negative mindsets to positive ones especially when they ignore the genuine advice we have offered. It really is a sigh of relief to be able to tell myself that I’ve already done what I could and that these are not my problems.

  • @bouchrabenyoucef8085
    @bouchrabenyoucef8085 Год назад +3

    I was so giving person and helpful but when i felt that need to some people next to me i found only my self that's why I'm doing my best now to create the highest version of me guys the amount of love you have give it to yourself first ❤

  • @eraofkpop_yt
    @eraofkpop_yt Год назад +5

    I am literally so giving and always helping others and don't even think about me, really needed this video

  • @rosespasta5208
    @rosespasta5208 Год назад +6

    This video really opened my eyes as I always struggled a lot with my people-pleasing tendencies. Thanks Simone

  • @ekanuegas6969
    @ekanuegas6969 Год назад +2

    I definitely agree with this, I'm practicing mind my own business more and not engage myself into negative situation especially, when i couldn't control it.

  • @kimadiggs237
    @kimadiggs237 Год назад +1

    That’s it! Throw them a life raft and never make the mistake of drowning with anybody! This video is life saving for us that have lived our entire life jumping into the water to save people when we can’t even swim.

  • @cosmicllovee
    @cosmicllovee Год назад +2

    Whatever you say , I really apply it in my life and now I'm living my best life 💗go Queen Simone! Here's your crown 👑

  • @wanderlust1787
    @wanderlust1787 Год назад +2

    Thank you Simone for posting video on this topic. I had enough of being the one who always help and get nothing in return, it sucks man, good thing I just got rid of people who were like that, guys be careful when you help out people, in my experience I got guilt tripped into doing things for them, thankfully I have distanced myself from such people. Now I'm in a better place. Better give priority for yourself first. Have a good day fellas.

  • @bilgea.3
    @bilgea.3 Год назад +2

    this channel better than your other channel .This is because, as you know everyone around the world are watching you and the fact that you add the subtitles in your videos are very beneficial for them in terms of intelligibility.

  • @manishashah9
    @manishashah9 Год назад +2

    simone pls make a video on enjoying and vibing life alone and how being alone is not scary., also on self love. this video will be a bang.

  • @onlypjm
    @onlypjm Год назад +3

    honestly needed this simone

  • @i.-.-.-.-.-.-..-..--a-h1y
    @i.-.-.-.-.-.-..-..--a-h1y Год назад +1

    Everyone drop everything and watch this cuz kur queen posted ✨

  • @rayhatabassum4474
    @rayhatabassum4474 Год назад

    She is so sweet and considerate I like her 🫶🌷✨

  • @aestaetic4788
    @aestaetic4788 Год назад

    my friend told me about u..she said ur a life saver and u changed her life...i didn't believed her and when i visited ur channel..i got to know it...

  • @liefiscute
    @liefiscute Год назад +5

    im highly sensitive so this will be very hard for me but i will put in a lot of energy to get this done

  • @patrickrad1735
    @patrickrad1735 5 месяцев назад +1

    This was a true story at my aunt brother in law party a man was drowning but he actually wasn’t

  • @MarioRamirez-gm4vn
    @MarioRamirez-gm4vn Год назад

    I really love your videos. It’s really helping get thru a bad breakup but learning more to put myself first and putting all my energy on myself and I’m loving it. Thank you ❤

  • @TilikaVispute
    @TilikaVispute Год назад +1

    3:49 I still feel this way 🥹🥹🥹 gotta finish the video so I can stop over giving

  • @lovingheize
    @lovingheize Год назад +7

    Your video topics always have such perfect timing in my life, I'll find myself addressing habits I have that I want to get rid of/things I do that I want to improve upon and bam! You post a video about it haha ❤

    • @jk2000jk
      @jk2000jk Год назад +1

      Ikk I was struggling with a similar situation so I went to the bathroom and i see the notification🤩

  • @ciaosea_
    @ciaosea_ Год назад +2

    That's literally me two years ago!! Now i'm working on it just like Simone said in this vid. Hope I could actually navigate these feelings soon. Luv ya❤

  • @liefiscute
    @liefiscute Год назад +2

    you’ve been nothing but an inspiration and help! and you have really good reasoning, you’re very down to earth. advice from someone like you is very helpful! obviously is impossible to agree with everything someone says, and its always important to think for yourself but i truly share your views and opinions and i strongly agree with most things you say!!❤ (sorry if this sounds weird, my english isn’t very good yet)

  • @shrishsharma-wv9yw
    @shrishsharma-wv9yw Год назад

    YOU ARE SUCH A ANGEL! I literally feel like ur my elder sister whose always there for me! LOVE YOUU

  • @urmama37388
    @urmama37388 Год назад

    i don't think anyone will ever understand how much I love Simone 💕❤️

  • @ashra6700
    @ashra6700 Год назад

    Babe please keep posting every week u truly helped me 🥺

  • @NotebookMapofLemon
    @NotebookMapofLemon Год назад

    True if u keep being sad about someone u will end up being the one others will become sad looking at u.
    If u really wanna help 1 person help YOURSELF. That 1 is u or at most ur family.
    Whether u know it or not everyone is playing victim role game, emotional games, making u feel that U should be helping them coz u blessed than them. So dont fall into others games and focus on urself. (This advice is coming from my own multiple experience 😓)

  • @priyankadhage700
    @priyankadhage700 Год назад

    shes so right for the second advice especially.

  • @kpopobsessed2973
    @kpopobsessed2973 Год назад

    A week ago i was like I don’t understand her at all but woahhhhh i’m a fan now

  • @Angell_Lee
    @Angell_Lee Год назад

    Literally one of the prettiest girl on earth, thank you so much for your tips. So accurate xo

  • @green-green-grass
    @green-green-grass Год назад

    Damn right! I have found it in the hardest ways that if you’re not selfish you’re not going far on your life. A mere dot on the face of earth.

  • @mominatareen4484
    @mominatareen4484 Год назад

    You are right I will follow you because I want to help others but am not financial stable so I can't help them at the end they are giving me torcher first I will put my self when I ll be fit I can take care for others

  • @eclipzzw
    @eclipzzw Год назад

    I just feel so freaking blessed rn
    I've so many classmates and some friends who always want to be spoon fed like they know I have all the homework/school work done so, they always ask me despite them being present at school like wth were u doing bro. My friend whom I once considered as a bestfriend, talks all day with her other friends and then when she has to get her work done she knows that those friend of hers didn't do it so, she asks from me and guess what me being me I give her the work like, I really think I sometimes have to start saying no to people cause it's getting on my nerves these days like 😶😑
    Anyways thank u so much simone
    U are literally like my fairy God mother❤

  • @only.for.tae.
    @only.for.tae. Год назад

    No coz i saw your recommendation on Pinterest and came here. Thanks mom. You will really help me grow more confident ❤

  • @circe_0019
    @circe_0019 Год назад

    Simone this video litterally helped my day, thanks! I'm a very highly empathetic person and now I'm trying to set boundaries and if u want I would like to see a video talking about boundaries (especially 4 empaths) because I think that they really matters and can save u from uncomfortable situations. Being selfish is important and when we can feel guilt about it we have to remind ourselves that we have the power to decide how we can feel even if can not be always easy. Slay lady and kiss from Italy

  • @nalainzahra7037
    @nalainzahra7037 Год назад +2

    Thank u semone.this 9:07 mint video has changed my life

  • @samco63
    @samco63 Год назад

    So agree about the friends drowning. I did that too. And I ended up with a hanger-on for 6 years and she never has a positive thing to say. I’ve given her multiple life rafts and she won’t get it. It’s always negativity, and it’s sad because she has been through trauma - but so have I! Objectively a lot more than her, which I know it’s not a competition, but I’ve poured tens of thousands of dollars, committed my life to getting through my trauma. She just wants to wallow.

  • @simrantuli26
    @simrantuli26 Год назад +2

    I have literally been thinking about this for a few days now, i need to be a little selfish to be able to function properly. I've always put other's needs above mine
    And, my mom recently had an accident and it's been four months since she has severe pain in her leg and it's been hard for her and for me as well since i have to pick up some of the work load and also caring for someone for this long is hard and takes a mental toll on you
    Anyway, I really needed this right now, thankyou so much (I've been saying that for a few videos now but i really mean it)

  • @ud29
    @ud29 Год назад

    the way ur videos speak facts >>>

  • @lavu866
    @lavu866 Год назад +3

    How does Simone exactly know what I need to hear, mother indeed!

  • @aphroditesapprentice777
    @aphroditesapprentice777 Год назад +2

    btw simone i tried implementing some of your techniques from your secrets about confidence video and i’ve been feeling more confident these days thank you so much for giving us your knowledge

  • @amiracherigui615
    @amiracherigui615 5 дней назад

    😢I won't lie, I had a very low level of entitlement that made me go through the worst experiences I've ever had. I lost my virginity, and the problem is that I'm Arab, and the person I loved, I preferred him over myself and others, and he didn't do anything for me. My first year of university, I didn't succeed. 😢I was in a victim mentality because I am an orphan and I thought everyone was against me, now I will get things back on track and raise my energy

  • @khushi-b529
    @khushi-b529 Год назад

    I feel our brains are literally in sync you always post the content I need at the moment, I recently said no to giving some of my time to a close friend who i love but we spend a lot of time together already and I love her but we’re not always productive when we’re together and I need to spend time on my own goals and life yk, so I felt like I was being a bit selfish but I appreciate your perspective on this, to pour into my own cup before others. Ich liebe dich Simona💗💗

  • @RR.Bahng1377
    @RR.Bahng1377 Год назад

    I love her so much literally changed my life with all her videos I hope you notice this comment but you are the best RUclipsr ❤❤❤

  • @ivyayy
    @ivyayy Год назад

    This really changed my perception, instead of trying to save the world, try to do small acts of help to ppl around u and especially HELP YOURSELF all the time! Love your video, thank you for this🩷

  • @TilikaVispute
    @TilikaVispute Год назад

    6:09 same exact thoughts have been running through my mind.. if I wanna do big things I can’t let the small things bother me …

  • @Sams_Vlogs746
    @Sams_Vlogs746 Год назад

    omg this video is opening my eyes. Thank you so much for this !!!

  • @Saurabh24776
    @Saurabh24776 5 месяцев назад

    I learned all these things in past 1 year now i am ok. By the way thanks for the video ❤frm india

  • @cala-so9zo
    @cala-so9zo Год назад

    You make so much sense. I needed this. Thankyou

  • @queen_of_elegance7218
    @queen_of_elegance7218 Год назад

    Good advice! You are very mature for your age, wish I was like this at your age, I am 10 years older and still learning this :)

  • @eieaenriquez7391
    @eieaenriquez7391 Год назад +2

    Your vids really help me, thanks for the motivation simone!

  • @whizrya
    @whizrya Год назад +1

    queen.

  • @LANIkoo
    @LANIkoo Год назад

    Compassion fatigue is very real.

  • @norahmutemwakwenda7219
    @norahmutemwakwenda7219 Год назад

    All time favorite RUclipsr 🤭❤️

  • @iitjee2024___
    @iitjee2024___ Год назад

    I don't have anything to say I just really needed this

  • @rray.0.0
    @rray.0.0 Год назад

    Please do a video about how to deal with anxiety and overthinking

  • @lyn3880
    @lyn3880 Год назад

    thanks mother

  • @rahmaaboaowf1717
    @rahmaaboaowf1717 Год назад

    I am blessed ❤
    That there’s content like that❤

  • @abenagyampo
    @abenagyampo Год назад +1

    When I started going to my local high school, I was a new kid bc I went to catholic school from k-8. There was this one girl who I befriended bc both she and I didn’t have many friends, and every time I told ppl that I was friends with this girl they would scoff and ask me why I’d ever give her the time of day. I thought ppl were just being mean to her, so I tried my best to be a good friend to her but I eventually realized that no one liked her bc she was a complete b-h and that I should just let her be by herself. I’m not saying don’t reach out to ppl who are in need of a friend, but I am saying that some ppl are lonely for a reason and they don’t deserve your time and energy.

  • @rose_sit_on_me8008
    @rose_sit_on_me8008 Год назад

    Sorry I'm new to this channel. But is she an Aussie? The accent, chefs kiss

  • @jigyasamattoo3760
    @jigyasamattoo3760 Год назад

    THE QUEEN POSTED

  • @HOTBITCHESONLY-qz3fl
    @HOTBITCHESONLY-qz3fl Год назад

    same experience Simon hoping I would be like u someday

  • @Specialko
    @Specialko Год назад

    It's like you heard what I need. Love you❤

  • @e.l.t.art.
    @e.l.t.art. Год назад

    U need to release a book. I would most definitely read it all

  • @markarca6360
    @markarca6360 Год назад +1

    The bottom line here is: "You cannot give from an empty cup, but you can give when it overflows."

  • @robyn_southafrica
    @robyn_southafrica Год назад

    Thank you for this Simone. Really needed this 🙏👏👏❤

  • @cala-so9zo
    @cala-so9zo Год назад

    Well said. Good advice.

  • @orbitmingo7896
    @orbitmingo7896 Год назад

    these videos are so real.

  • @Cavern_subz
    @Cavern_subz Год назад

    You're actually amazing

  • @mapleceres
    @mapleceres Год назад

    Simone is like the big sister i never had :(

  • @futuretomtom
    @futuretomtom Год назад

    this is such an amazing reminder tysm

  • @Rhinonana-dh9sd
    @Rhinonana-dh9sd 7 месяцев назад

    Simone you are a gem of a queen you are changing my life so rapidly and I'm so grateful for you💖 I only hope that people know more about you. By subscribing lol. Coz you absolutely deserve it. You are that amazing⭐⭐🌟🌟🧡🧡🧡

  • @mahnoorfatima928
    @mahnoorfatima928 Год назад

    Simon i hope you're doing good

  • @keyamarmat6671
    @keyamarmat6671 Год назад

    How??.. like ..how??? I lit needed this rn!!!!

  • @humss12d
    @humss12d Год назад

    love you simone!! 🤞🏻💗

  • @bharathipriya7996
    @bharathipriya7996 Год назад

    Simone thank you you have changed m6 life so much ❤ loves from india ❤

  • @dishapanwar9023
    @dishapanwar9023 Год назад

    Thankyouuuu so much Simone!!!!! This was much much needed!!

  • @ReflectingonReflection
    @ReflectingonReflection Год назад

    Mom thanks for this