[Updated commentary] Feeling "as if" you're not OK is OK. And it's perfectly normal when adrenaline is in play. What's actually going on here is really interesting. You're having a difficult or uncomfortable feeling or sensation, and a part of your mind is saying "this isn't OK". (It's saying that because it's scared that you can't handle experiencing the feeling and it's going to be "too much to feel".) And you are believing that thought - that what's going on isn't OK. When we say "...and that's OK" or "...and it's OK" it cuts through all of that. It's like an adult part of our mind coming up underneath the more child-like part of our mind that's freaking out, giving it a hug and the reassurance that it needs. This breaks the spell. The uncomfortable feeling remains a bit uncomfortable, but it can then be seen to be no more and no less than this. The drama evaporates, and it turns out that you can absolutely feel the uncomfortable feeling or sensation. It's not too much for you after all. And this breaking of the cycle actually means that it never gets out of hand. (Which is the other thing we have been fearing).
Thank you. Why don’t we have presentation lessons at school? Imagine a society where fear of public speaking isn’t a thing and people wouldn’t know what that means.
Yes. That would be great. And...It's much *more* than fear of public speaking and presentations. It's about understanding our emotions and learning how to manage them more effectively and with more self-compassion and kindness. That's what I wish was taught in schools!
I believe that public speaking is taught from a very young age in the US. Which would explain why they tend to be much more confident speakers than we are in the UK.
Indeed!! It should be done from the very primary classes, so that every child will be equipped to it, and there will no fear "related to speaking before anyone !!!!!!
Thank you for this advice. My whole life I have suffered from performance anxiety. I am a charge nurse and at the end of the shift I have to give a short speech about important information on our hospital floor. I can get through it most of the time but there have been a few times when I’m explaining something that I get so self conscious about my performance that I get an extreme shot of adrenaline and lose my train or thought. I can actually feel a rush of blood to my head. When this happens I feel frustrated but I know that fighting the anxiety only makes it worse. Also my voice at times will shake and it feels like a monumental task for me to just keep it together. Again acceptance and using this phrase will be something I will employ. Thank you
I can always talk myself into calming down once it starts, but my issue is preventing the adrenaline rush to begin with. I don't want to turn bright red and get really shaky anymore. It happens during really ridiculous times (usually when I'm not even that stressed out)!!
The trick is not to *try* to prevent the adrenaline rush. The problem is not with the rush itself, but what happens when we try to fight it. I promise you will not turn bright red or get really shaky if you use "...and it's OK". You may get *slightly* red and perhaps feel very slightly shaky. But no-one will notice these things but you. The bright red and really shaky is not the result of the initial adrenaline rush, but the result of several shots of adrenaline caused by the "OMG" response. Watch the video again and see if you can see what I'm talking about. Good luck - and if you use the method let me know how you get on. (I've never known anyone who applied it who it didn't work for...).
@@danielkingsley Yeah I definitely feel like my flushing got 10x worse after a friend pointed out me turning red when I'm embarrassed/nervous. It used to be mild but now I can feel it happen now and sometimes it spreads to my arms. Okay I'll watch again and keep trying, thanks!
Have you tried the 4:8 breathing? slow breaths in for 4 seconds, and slow breaths out for 8 seconds. It triggers the vagus nerve to secrete a tranquillising substance directly onto the heart. This technique reverses the effects of adrenaline very quickly.
Good advice. Just accept the way you are. Do not dream for the best. Be natural. It's okay to have panic attacks. Be happily prepared for the worst that is going to happen. Fear is natural and confidence is only drama. You are not alone. The whole world fears public speaking but some are good at hiding them.
Hopefully if you follow the advice in the video Ram you won't have panic attacks! Fear is natural indeed, but confidence isn't drama, it's the absence of drama. It comes when we can accept all the feelings that we are feeling and we feel them in our bodies without getting dramatic about them - hence "...and that's OK". And yes, these fears are super-common. Most people have them. The difference between the confident speakers and the less confident ones is that they are able to be with the fears and feel them. Do try the technique in the video and let us know how you get on. Warmly Daniel
This is brilliant. I wish I had seen this and understood it 20+ years ago instead of hiding, avoiding and using alcohol as a crutch. I would have a very different life now. My OMG's were anything from being trapped in a barbers chair to speaking at sales meetings. It one day reached it's peak when I was asked a specific question by the sales director around a boardroom table and all eyes turned to me. Massive rush of adrenalin, bright red and panic ensued. I got up pretended to be sick in the waste bin and ran out. Grabbed my car keys and left the office. Never went back. In those days men didn't talk about this stuff and there was NO support. I wouldn't wish my experiences then and thereafter on anyone. Thanks for this, Daniel. A little but late for me, but I sincerely hope it has helped many others.
@@princemortey4796 If you can get a handle on the OMGs you'll be good. Think of it this way, if you HAD to do a presentation for the the next 100 days straight, you'd never give a crap about giving a presentation again after 10th day. Your mind would have learned that there's nothing to be fearful of. Good luck and don't fall for your minds tricks.
Adrenaline can be managed with 4:8 breathing as well... slow breathing in for 4 seconds, and slow breathing out for 8 seconds. This triggers the vagus nerve to secrete a tranquillising substance directly onto the heart. This technique actually reverses the effects of adrenaline very quickly.
Yes indeed! All excellent techniques, which we teach on our workshops. You will find articles I've written recently on all of the above topics in our blog section. presencetraining.co.uk/blog-alternative-public-speaking-tips/
I thought the technique was 4-7-8. Inhale for 4, hold for 7, exhale for 8. This is very good for lowering blood pressure as well, increasing your well being.
This is the one that works the most ever. Anyone with public speaking anxiety problem, who can learn how to breathe in 5 secs and exhale 10 seconds. The magic is the time you spend on exhaling should be twice the time you inhale in. If you can do this a daily practice, whether you want to present or not, overtime you have control over the anxiety. This means that even if the anxiety comes, you are still in charge
I've been through this myself and actually figured it out after failing numerous times. Yes its lousy to have to speak under these conditions and the build up to the speech is horrific lol but it works. You literally have to start to have the attitude that you don't care what happens. That's particularly for the ones who can't seem to get past the thoughts of what might happen while you're speaking.. you have to get to the point where you just don't care and you're going to go in and do it anyway. That helped me a lot. Once you stop caring or should I say worrying about what's going to happen while you're there You start to realize nothing happens which in turn builds more confidence. Hope this helps somebody
Yes indeed. Once you realise that the symptoms of adrenaline themselves aren't going to hurt you, this is a huge relief. And also when you recognise that by not worrying about them it actually stops them getting out of hand you can break the cycle. That's really what this technique I'm teaching is about.
I’ve been fighting this my whole life and it’s horrible. It’s strange as in some scenarios I’m completely fine, but if I have to perform an exact speech I feel like I’m going to die - and even having getting exposed to it a lot through my whole life it’s something that never gets better no matter what I do. I’m now 45 yrs old, and still trying different things. I feel for all of you out there, and whatever we/our parents did in order to inflict this curse upon us, I do not wish it upon my greatest enemy.
Hi Hpd. I hear you and I feel you. It is horrible when it takes hold, I know. Give the techniques in this video a try. I don't know anyone who has done them properly who they have not worked for. My students have had lots and lots of success using them.
I'm with you my friend. Same here. Keep going though. Probably one of the greatest aspects of dealing with it is overcoming it. Even though it may not be on a permanent basis like we want, we overcome it each and every time we get up there and do it. Even if it's just one speech at a time. Your doing good 👍
Wow great explanation , I hav this adreline rush for first 1 minute with fast hear beat, dry mount , sweaty hands and after a min everything disappears , and start speaking with confidence ... I have presentation today please pray for me please
It’s very interesting because I’ve been struggling with it for more than 3 years now, but I’m progressing a lot. And one huge game changer was a presentation I had to make to a board of directors, and right before freaking out, my mind instinctively said to myself: “it’s alright”. And I suddenly realized there was no danger, it’s just imagination, nonsense fear and emotions, there’s no actual danger or problem
That's great! This is the start of learning how to self-soothe, which is what I'm talking about in this video. The upgrade to saying "it's alright" to yourself would be "my heart's beating quickly...and it's alright, it's just a fast heart-beat...no big deal". But if "it's alright" by itself, does it for you, that's wonderful. Just to say as well that fear and emotions aren't exactly nonsense. They are often an over-reaction to the situation, but an understandable one. If you want to understand more you might be interested to read this article I wrote: presencetraining.co.uk/most-fearful-creatures/
Thank you so much for this video and information. You don't know how many years I've been looking to understand how to deal with the adrenaline rush once I start speaking to an audience, big or small. I have the symptoms of sweaty palms, dry mouth and the worst blushing. As much as I know it's all in my head and common among lots of people, it still happens. The acceptance and those three words have already helped me manage at work presentations. Thank You.
Thank you for this, I've heard all of this already but its always nice to be reminded of this and gain a little extra knowledge in the process. I get shaky voice, which i know is caused by my breathing. 100% adrenaline because my voice goes the same in dire situations. Me being me though, i try to avoid things that put me in the spotlight but i always seem to do the opposite, managed a team of 13 people with regular meetings, that was fun... not....
I'm glad the video was helpful Xbot. The secret to all of these things is *genuine* acceptance, including the feelings and sensations that we don't like. And that's not always easy to do. It's the fighting our feelings that gets us into trouble. Like most of these things it's down to awareness and practice. The more aware we can be, and the more accepting we are, the more possibility we can have to make a different choice from our automatic one of saying "I don't want this to be happening!". And for many of us this is a lifelong practice and journey. The good news is every little bit we get better at doing this represents a little more freedom and joy. Wishing you well on your journey.
Well done, Daniel. Simple, powerful message, with your voice beautifully illustrating the principle. The visual really helped. Thank you for everyone who find this or with whom you and others share this!
Thank you for the video Daniel. The lovely @laurenvakninelife also gave me some words that help "I am here to serve". This helps me remember the wider purpose of the talk and also is a great affirmation to help manage adrenaline. I see adrenaline as a sign of caring, excitement, passion and care, but this is a great tip to help manage it. I do agree that it calms down so it's best to get orientated with where you are going to present before hand to help manage this feeling.
Glad you enjoyed the video Pristina. Adopting an attitude of service is always useful in any presentation or public speaking situation, because it gets you out of a place of worrying about yourself and puts your focus where it is most useful - on how you can help your audience. I wrote about this in an article on our website - Slow Down and Serve. Yes. Adrenaline is a sign that something matters to you, which is great. And if you stop it getting out of hand using techniques like the one I suggest in my video, it will focus your mind and give you a boost of energy.
Thanks for posting this Daniel. I went into the "OMG" path today during a presentation. I'm wondering, how do you actually convince yourself of the attitude that it's all ok? How do you take that leap of faith and maintain that faith for a minute while the adrenaline is still through the roof? I become doubtful that I can control it, causing the additional spikes to inevitably keep happening.
Good question Haldi. The trick is to catch it early if possible. Adrenaline never starts off though the roof - it builds up as I describe in the video. By the time the adrenaline has gone all the way through the roof, it becomes tricky to manage that way. As soon as you notice the effects of adrenaline (and the part of you that is worrying about it) that's the moment to take control of what's going on inside you by offering the reassurance of "..and it's OK". With practice it will be possible to use this attitude even when the adrenaline has got higher too, but it's always good to start early if you can. I hope this helps.
@@Presencetraininguk As an update, I used this tactic, along with deep breathing, and managed to ride the adrenaline curve down until it was non existent during my most recent presentation. Thanks for posting this video, it was really helpful
Yes it's very informative video of the real emotions we experience and how to counter them peacefully will definitely make that moment a great and accomplishing one.. Thankyou so much from India🙏
That's such a pleasure! Yes, making peace with ourself and our emotional (and mental) world is one of the kindest and most powerful things we can do for ourselves. Glad it helped. Daniel
When doing phone interviews, I always get this burning sensation in my upper stomach (perhaps the feeling of anxiety), which results in an extremely shaky voice that I can barely even communicate with. I've been botching every interview. What really gets me is the fact that I have these huge goals that I want to achieve in my life and I have set high expectations for myself, yet I can't even complete a stupid 5 minute phone interview for a job that barely pays anything. Hopefully your advice will help me. Thanks.
Hi, @Noah. I can definitely resonate with what you’ve said and would be really interested in hearing more about your experiences relating to public speaking and/or any anxieties you may still currently face. I’m looking to gather insight from individuals like yourself (purely for my own research) to help me build a new workshop I’m working on. It would mean the world to me if we could hop on a quick call and I could ask you a few questions. OR if you know of someone who fits this description, please tag them below/introduce me. Feel free to tag me here with a reply if you’re interested :) Super appreciate your shared insights in advance.
I'm sorry to hear that Noah. It sounds pretty horrid and really frustrating! Do try the technique in this video, regardless of the sensation. In my experience, it really can make all the difference. And let me know how you get on. Warmly Daniel
@@Presencetraininguk it was great I can't believe it till now it's all because of " and it's okay " and understanding that I'm presenting Infront of people just like me too I'm truly thankful for you and for sharing the video with us
@@letrasconmawa So delighted to hear that! And not at all surprised. It's amazing what shifting your mindset and internal dialogue can do :) And very glad to help.
Thank you very much for this explanation! What I can't understand is why I suffer so badly from anxiety when speaking in public.. even if it's just a video call or something very simple, my heart starts to race so fast (like 150bpm) when it's my turn to speak. Do you think is andrenaline that is causing this effect?
Hi Lorenzo. 100% yes! Fast heart rate is always caused by adrenaline. The more interesting question is *what'* is causing your body to release the adrenaline. Adrenaline is a fight or flight hormone which is released by your body when it perceives you to be in a "dangerous" situation. It is usually triggered by an "Oh my god!" thought - such as "Oh my god, what if I mess this up?!", or "Oh my god - my boss will be watching - I'd better do a good job!". In these cases, as well as saying to yourself "My hearts beating quickly...and that's OK", it may *also* be useful to work on listening to, validating and reassuring the part of your brain that's worrying about these things. You may find it helpful to read this article on our website - presencetraining.co.uk/most-fearful-creatures/ Do give it a go (both elements described above) and let me know how you get on.
@@Presencetraininguk Thank you again for the insights, the problem is much clear now! Yea, I do ask a lot of questions to my self in that moments… like what if I not have anything to say or what people will think about my speech (and similar questions) which leads me to lose track of the conversation and increase the anxiety.. Additionally, the racing heart rate “physically” blocks me from speaking (it’s like speaking while running, it’s hard) Anyway, I will read the article and let you know how it goes after! :)
Mine is dry mouth and fast heart rate, dizzy, OMG! It is terrible. But I do try to tell myself it is okay but I guess something else happens cus it gets worse! 😮
Yes! That sounds really horrid. And the technique that I've suggested should work very well for this if you apply it correctly. The important thing is to recognise that there is a child-like part of you worrying about these sensations, and that child-like part needs some warm adult reassurance. Then say to yourself (in the way an adult would reassure a child) "My mouth is dry...and that's OK", "My heart is beating quickly...and that's OK". The most important elements are the voice in your head being warm and adult, and to name each element that is bothering you and then add "...and that's OK". If you can include all these elements, I can pretty-much guarantee it won't get to terrible. You may also find it useful to read this blog piece that I wrote: presencetraining.co.uk/most-fearful-creatures/ Let me know how you get on!
My heart races and my palms sweat. During interviews I notice this and my chest gets tight because I think about the interview asking my background. I used to be great at public speaking, but now I can't breathe during the process and it is very uncomfortable for others. It is hindering me from amazing opportunities. Any suggestions to overcome this?
Yes! Everything that I suggest in the video is relevant to this. The problem here isn't the fast heart or the sweaty palms. The problem is that your mind is worrying about them and this is exacerbating the problem and making a little sweat into a lot of sweat - a slightly fast heart into a very fast heart. You are setting up a vicious circle - the path of "Oh My God" I describe in the video. The antidode is the attitude of "...and it's OK" I describe in the video. "My heart's beating quickly...and it's OK", "My palms are a bit sweaty...and that's OK". Like a reassuring adult calming down a worried child. If you try it out and commit to it you'll be surprised how well it works. I've taught this technique to thousands of people, and pretty-much all of them have reported being able to use it successfully and have been surprised how well it works. Re-watch the video with this in mind, give it a try and let me know how you get on. Warmly Daniel
@@danielkingsley I appreciate your time responding to me. I have a presentation for work tomorrow and I will utilize this technique and let you know how it goes. Thanks again!
@@utopiaclips4615 it helps but I still get the same heart beat racing effects. I can say it helped with confidence though and helps with the anxiety a bit more.
Absolutely! The attitude of acceptance combined with recognising that the uncomfortable sensations are only sensations makes all the difference. All is well indeed.
Great question Ali! It's absolutely fine for you to say it in your main language. The most important things are (a) to start by naming the sensation that feels uncomfortable, then to (b) add the word "and", then (c) to say "...that's OK" or "..it's OK". E.g. My heart's beating quickly - and that's OK. It fine to translate this to any language provided that these 3 elements are included. It's really important that we use "and" instead of "but", because "and" is more welcoming and inclusive and sends a message to your subconscious mind that you're not fighting the feeling.
If life allowed you to speak publicly on a regular basis, just like anything else I'm sure it would feel normal after a few times, but it's precisely because it's sprung on you once in a blue moon, I feel it will never be something I can overcome.😢
Hi Tom. I really hear you. Yet, it isn't so much about practice, and more about self-understanding and mindset. Once you realise that the surge of adrenaline is normal, and what gets us into trouble is freaking out about it, we can simply learn how to ride the wave, no matter how infrequently we speak. You've said "I feel it will never be something I can overcome". I get that. But what you are saying is that you are currently holding a *belief* that this is an insurmountable problem for you (probably) based on a few bad experiences in the past. There really *isn't* anything wrong with you. You simply didn't have the right mental toolkit to succeed back then. If you practice the technique I outline in the video, I pretty-much guarantee that it will work for you. Although *you* may need to do a little bit of work first letting go of your (in my opinion untrue) belief that this is an insurmountable problem for you. If you ever want any coaching on this do get in touch with us, I do feel confident we could help. And if you're ever anywhere near London you'd be very welcome to experience this first-hand in front of a friendly audience on one of our courses.
I've worked with thousands of people, many of whom suffer from proper panic attacks speaking in public. These techniques have absolutely worked for them. The main thing you need to know about these symptoms is that no matter how strong they are they're not going to do you serious harm (unless you are elderly with serious pre-existing medical conditions). The ability to be with strong feelings and sensations is the foundation for confidence. The key is to practice these techniques in low to medium stress situations, so that when you find yourself in high stress situations they will be more available to you. With practice you will be able to manage more and more stress and challenge without it overwhelming you. I'd be delighted to work with you 1-2-1 over Zoom, Skype or Teams if you'd like some personal coaching on this.
Yes. Even more accurately - feeling "as if" you're not OK is OK. And perfectly normal. What's *actually* going on here is really interesting. You're having a difficult or uncomfortable feeling or sensation, and a part of your mind is saying "this isn't OK". (It's saying that because it's scared that you can't handle experiencing the feeling and it's going to be "too much to feel".) And you are believing that thought - that what's going on isn't OK. When we say "...and that's OK" or "...and it's OK" it cuts through all of that. It's like an adult part of our mind coming up underneath the more child-like part of our mind that's freaking out, giving it a hug and the reassurance that it needs. This breaks the spell. The uncomfortable feeling remains a bit uncomfortable, but it can then be seen to be no more and no less than this. The drama evaporates, and it turns out that you can absolutely feel the uncomfortable feeling or sensation. It's not too much for you after all. And this breaking of the cycle actually means that it never gets out of hand. (Which is the other thing we have been fearing).
I don't really see what practical things we can take from this...like obviously if we can tell ourselves it's okay then it won't happen but HOW. Sorry I'm not trying to be rude or negative it's just so frustrating not to be able to talk publicly especially when it's important for work etc :(
Hi Lucie. I can hear your frustration and confusion. Let me see if I can explain HOW this works! The adrenaline isn't the problem. It's the very high levels of adrenaline if it gets out of hand. The reason adrenaline can get out of hand is a vicious cycle of interaction between your mind and your body. When your mind starts panicking about the symptoms adrenaline at level 1, the panic triggers an additional shot of adrenaline that moves the adrenaline level to 2, which triggers stronger symptoms, which causes the mind to panic more. On a bad day this is a panic attack. So we need some way of breaking this adrenaline-panic cycle. We don't have any direct control over the adrenaline, but we can have a degree of control over our thinking. When we notice a part of our mind panicking over the adrenaline, we can consciously choose to replace the thought of "Oh My God my heart is beating very quickly!" with the alternative thought "My heart is beating very quickly...and that's OK". This is a very simple and practical step that we can take to break this mind-adrenaline cycle. And it works. I've taught this technique to thousands of people and I've never heard of anyone who correctly applied it who it didn't work for. It's not (necessarily) that the adrenaline completely goes away (though it often does), but this technique, used correctly guarantees that it doesn't get out of hand and doesn't stop us saying what we need to say and doing what we need to do. I hope this helps! Daniel
Hi ujjwal. Do give the techniques in this video a try. I think they'll really help. Remember, even though you can feel your legs shaking, your audience probably can't see it. And if you're not worried about it they are very unlikely to be worried about it. Your audience responds to your attitude to what is happening with you and not directly to what is happening with you. Do give this a go and let me know how you get on. Warmly Daniel
That's a great question, awreckingball. The short answer is that if you get to the stage of hyperventilation or your voice shaking uncontrollably that probably *isn't* OK for most speaking purposes (though it is worth noting that neither of those things is actually going to kill you). My experience from working with thousands of people, is that these symptoms never start out that extreme - they build up. It starts with breathing a bit too much and your voice being a tiny bit shaky, then it gets worse and worse - *if* you worry about it. It's the worry that causes these things to get out of hand. If you allow yourself to be OK with your breathing being a little bit faster and your voice being slightly shaky it breaks the cycle of worry and things never get out of control in the way that you are fearing. (I'm not saying you need to like those things, but if you can make friends with the discomfort it really shifts things). I feel very confident about saying this because I have never found a student who applied this method faithfully who it did not work for really effectively. I hope that helps.
Thanks for saying Elijah. That's 100% normal. Many many people get these with adrenaline. Remember that 95% of what you are feeling on the inside isn't visible to the audience. So the chances are that the shake isn't even noticeable to those who are watching you, or if it is noticeable it isn't a big deal for them. And from there you can use "...and that's OK". My voice is a bit shaky...and that's OK. My body is shaking a bit...and that's OK. Remember if you can be OK with the shakiness, the chances are that they audience will be OK with it. Audiences don't respond to how you're feeling, they respond to how you feel about what you're feeling. If you're feeling OK with it, they will feel your OKness, even if they do notice a little shaking.
This is my first performance on any stage and I was very nervous in the beginning. My hands and feet were trembling and I thought as if I won't able to do it but I completed this session on JoshTalks: ruclips.net/video/YeE7x41SxMA/видео.htmlsi=1yuLPflSp_7Mss5n
Congratulations! The thought "I won't be able to do it" is a common thought. Well done for not believing it. We can't stop these thoughts, but we don't have to believe them.
Hi PK. I'm guessing that you viewed this video because you were wanting help managing your adrenaline in a public speaking context. And from your comment I can hear that you are *seriously* skeptical about whether the technique I'm proposing could possibly work. All I can tell you is that (a) it really works for me and (b) I've taught literally thousands of people over the years and this technique is the one that has worked best for just about all of those I have taught. I'm not in the business of bullshit. I'm simply in the business of teaching what works. If you are interested in managing your adrenaline better I'd encourage you to give it a try before drawing any conclusions. If you do try it, I hope it works for you. If you try it seriously, I think it might...
[Updated commentary] Feeling "as if" you're not OK is OK. And it's perfectly normal when adrenaline is in play.
What's actually going on here is really interesting. You're having a difficult or uncomfortable feeling or sensation, and a part of your mind is saying "this isn't OK". (It's saying that because it's scared that you can't handle experiencing the feeling and it's going to be "too much to feel".) And you are believing that thought - that what's going on isn't OK.
When we say "...and that's OK" or "...and it's OK" it cuts through all of that.
It's like an adult part of our mind coming up underneath the more child-like part of our mind that's freaking out, giving it a hug and the reassurance that it needs. This breaks the spell.
The uncomfortable feeling remains a bit uncomfortable, but it can then be seen to be no more and no less than this. The drama evaporates, and it turns out that you can absolutely feel the uncomfortable feeling or sensation.
It's not too much for you after all. And this breaking of the cycle actually means that it never gets out of hand. (Which is the other thing we have been fearing).
Thank you. Why don’t we have presentation lessons at school? Imagine a society where fear of public speaking isn’t a thing and people wouldn’t know what that means.
Yes. That would be great. And...It's much *more* than fear of public speaking and presentations. It's about understanding our emotions and learning how to manage them more effectively and with more self-compassion and kindness. That's what I wish was taught in schools!
I believe that public speaking is taught from a very young age in the US. Which would explain why they tend to be much more confident speakers than we are in the UK.
That would be an ideal world. I wish I wasn't scared of public speaking
Indeed!! It should be done from the very primary classes, so that every child will be equipped to it, and there will no fear "related to speaking before anyone !!!!!!
Imagine a world would humans would just learn to have some charisma and confidence 😂😂
Also another method is to embrace the adrenalin as a form of excitement and motivator for enthusiasm. Make friends with the adrenaline.
Yes indeed. See Daniel's latest blog piece on this very subject! presencetraining.co.uk/how-to-turn-adrenaline-into-your-super-power/
@@Presencetraininguk Thank you so much, that is a great article!
@@beyondher this one is good
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Thank you for this advice. My whole life I have suffered from performance anxiety. I am a charge nurse and at the end of the shift I have to give a short speech about important information on our hospital floor. I can get through it most of the time but there have been a few times when I’m explaining something that I get so self conscious about my performance that I get an extreme shot of adrenaline and lose my train or thought. I can actually feel a rush of blood to my head. When this happens I feel frustrated but I know that fighting the anxiety only makes it worse. Also my voice at times will shake and it feels like a monumental task for me to just keep it together. Again acceptance and using this phrase will be something I will employ. Thank you
That completely makes sense Zachary. And it's my pleasure to help. - Do let me know how you get on! [Daniel]
You are not alone, and I fear public speaking as well
Oh my God that's so me
I can always talk myself into calming down once it starts, but my issue is preventing the adrenaline rush to begin with.
I don't want to turn bright red and get really shaky anymore. It happens during really ridiculous times (usually when I'm not even that stressed out)!!
The trick is not to *try* to prevent the adrenaline rush. The problem is not with the rush itself, but what happens when we try to fight it. I promise you will not turn bright red or get really shaky if you use "...and it's OK". You may get *slightly* red and perhaps feel very slightly shaky. But no-one will notice these things but you. The bright red and really shaky is not the result of the initial adrenaline rush, but the result of several shots of adrenaline caused by the "OMG" response. Watch the video again and see if you can see what I'm talking about. Good luck - and if you use the method let me know how you get on. (I've never known anyone who applied it who it didn't work for...).
@@danielkingsley Yeah I definitely feel like my flushing got 10x worse after a friend pointed out me turning red when I'm embarrassed/nervous. It used to be mild but now I can feel it happen now and sometimes it spreads to my arms.
Okay I'll watch again and keep trying, thanks!
Have you tried the 4:8 breathing? slow breaths in for 4 seconds, and slow breaths out for 8 seconds. It triggers the vagus nerve to secrete a tranquillising substance directly onto the heart. This technique reverses the effects of adrenaline very quickly.
and that's okay
@@beyondher Yeah I try to do stuff like this but it's just always after it starts unfortunately, because it comes on like a light switch~
Good advice. Just accept the way you are. Do not dream for the best. Be natural. It's okay to have panic attacks. Be happily prepared for the worst that is going to happen. Fear is natural and confidence is only drama. You are not alone. The whole world fears public speaking but some are good at hiding them.
Hopefully if you follow the advice in the video Ram you won't have panic attacks! Fear is natural indeed, but confidence isn't drama, it's the absence of drama. It comes when we can accept all the feelings that we are feeling and we feel them in our bodies without getting dramatic about them - hence "...and that's OK". And yes, these fears are super-common. Most people have them. The difference between the confident speakers and the less confident ones is that they are able to be with the fears and feel them. Do try the technique in the video and let us know how you get on. Warmly Daniel
This is brilliant. I wish I had seen this and understood it 20+ years ago instead of hiding, avoiding and using alcohol as a crutch. I would have a very different life now. My OMG's were anything from being trapped in a barbers chair to speaking at sales meetings. It one day reached it's peak when I was asked a specific question by the sales director around a boardroom table and all eyes turned to me. Massive rush of adrenalin, bright red and panic ensued. I got up pretended to be sick in the waste bin and ran out. Grabbed my car keys and left the office. Never went back. In those days men didn't talk about this stuff and there was NO support. I wouldn't wish my experiences then and thereafter on anyone. Thanks for this, Daniel. A little but late for me, but I sincerely hope it has helped many others.
Thanks for your kind comments James. I wish you'd found it sooner too! And it's never actually too late to feel comfortable in your own skin :)
This is me at 24.. I hope this helps in my next presentation
@@princemortey4796 If you can get a handle on the OMGs you'll be good. Think of it this way, if you HAD to do a presentation for the the next 100 days straight, you'd never give a crap about giving a presentation again after 10th day. Your mind would have learned that there's nothing to be fearful of. Good luck and don't fall for your minds tricks.
Adrenaline can be managed with 4:8 breathing as well... slow breathing in for 4 seconds, and slow breathing out for 8 seconds. This triggers the vagus nerve to secrete a tranquillising substance directly onto the heart. This technique actually reverses the effects of adrenaline very quickly.
Yes indeed! All excellent techniques, which we teach on our workshops. You will find articles I've written recently on all of the above topics in our blog section. presencetraining.co.uk/blog-alternative-public-speaking-tips/
I thought the technique was 4-7-8. Inhale for 4, hold for 7, exhale for 8. This is very good for lowering blood pressure as well, increasing your well being.
This is the one that works the most ever. Anyone with public speaking anxiety problem, who can learn how to breathe in 5 secs and exhale 10 seconds. The magic is the time you spend on exhaling should be twice the time you inhale in. If you can do this a daily practice, whether you want to present or not, overtime you have control over the anxiety. This means that even if the anxiety comes, you are still in charge
@@temitopeadewale8929 good information and well said! Thank you.
I've been through this myself and actually figured it out after failing numerous times. Yes its lousy to have to speak under these conditions and the build up to the speech is horrific lol but it works. You literally have to start to have the attitude that you don't care what happens. That's particularly for the ones who can't seem to get past the thoughts of what might happen while you're speaking.. you have to get to the point where you just don't care and you're going to go in and do it anyway. That helped me a lot. Once you stop caring or should I say worrying about what's going to happen while you're there You start to realize nothing happens which in turn builds more confidence. Hope this helps somebody
Yes indeed. Once you realise that the symptoms of adrenaline themselves aren't going to hurt you, this is a huge relief. And also when you recognise that by not worrying about them it actually stops them getting out of hand you can break the cycle. That's really what this technique I'm teaching is about.
I’ve been fighting this my whole life and it’s horrible. It’s strange as in some scenarios I’m completely fine, but if I have to perform an exact speech I feel like I’m going to die - and even having getting exposed to it a lot through my whole life it’s something that never gets better no matter what I do. I’m now 45 yrs old, and still trying different things. I feel for all of you out there, and whatever we/our parents did in order to inflict this curse upon us, I do not wish it upon my greatest enemy.
Hi Hpd. I hear you and I feel you. It is horrible when it takes hold, I know. Give the techniques in this video a try. I don't know anyone who has done them properly who they have not worked for. My students have had lots and lots of success using them.
I'm with you my friend. Same here. Keep going though. Probably one of the greatest aspects of dealing with it is overcoming it. Even though it may not be on a permanent basis like we want, we overcome it each and every time we get up there and do it. Even if it's just one speech at a time. Your doing good 👍
Wow great explanation , I hav this adreline rush for first 1 minute with fast hear beat, dry mount , sweaty hands and after a min everything disappears , and start speaking with confidence ...
I have presentation today please pray for me please
I hope you're able to use the technique JK - it really does work if you apply it. Good luck and let me know how you do!
It’s very interesting because I’ve been struggling with it for more than 3 years now, but I’m progressing a lot. And one huge game changer was a presentation I had to make to a board of directors, and right before freaking out, my mind instinctively said to myself: “it’s alright”. And I suddenly realized there was no danger, it’s just imagination, nonsense fear and emotions, there’s no actual danger or problem
That's great! This is the start of learning how to self-soothe, which is what I'm talking about in this video. The upgrade to saying "it's alright" to yourself would be "my heart's beating quickly...and it's alright, it's just a fast heart-beat...no big deal". But if "it's alright" by itself, does it for you, that's wonderful. Just to say as well that fear and emotions aren't exactly nonsense. They are often an over-reaction to the situation, but an understandable one. If you want to understand more you might be interested to read this article I wrote: presencetraining.co.uk/most-fearful-creatures/
This is new information to me. But I feel already better saying “and it’s okay.” Thank you!
Glad to hear it Hanne. That's our pleasure. Check out our pinned comment for some additional updated tips.
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I am also facingbthis problem
Thank you so much for this video and information. You don't know how many years I've been looking to understand how to deal with the adrenaline rush once I start speaking to an audience, big or small. I have the symptoms of sweaty palms, dry mouth and the worst blushing. As much as I know it's all in my head and common among lots of people, it still happens. The acceptance and those three words have already helped me manage at work presentations. Thank You.
That's our very great pleasure. So glad to hear that the method is working for you. Keep up the good work!
Useful tips
That was a great explanation on adrenaline and how to manage it. 👍 Will definitely implement 🔥
Thank you for this, I've heard all of this already but its always nice to be reminded of this and gain a little extra knowledge in the process.
I get shaky voice, which i know is caused by my breathing. 100% adrenaline because my voice goes the same in dire situations. Me being me though, i try to avoid things that put me in the spotlight but i always seem to do the opposite, managed a team of 13 people with regular meetings, that was fun... not....
I'm glad the video was helpful Xbot. The secret to all of these things is *genuine* acceptance, including the feelings and sensations that we don't like. And that's not always easy to do. It's the fighting our feelings that gets us into trouble. Like most of these things it's down to awareness and practice. The more aware we can be, and the more accepting we are, the more possibility we can have to make a different choice from our automatic one of saying "I don't want this to be happening!". And for many of us this is a lifelong practice and journey. The good news is every little bit we get better at doing this represents a little more freedom and joy. Wishing you well on your journey.
I find your content extremely helpful. Thank you.
Our pleasure. So glad it's helpful.
Well done, Daniel. Simple, powerful message, with your voice beautifully illustrating the principle. The visual really helped. Thank you for everyone who find this or with whom you and others share this!
Thank you Lynne! That's very kind. Glad you liked it.
Wonderful explanation. Just what I needed. Thank you!
Delighted you found it helpful Jay. It's actually pretty easy when you know how!
Thank you for the video Daniel. The lovely @laurenvakninelife also gave me some words that help "I am here to serve". This helps me remember the wider purpose of the talk and also is a great affirmation to help manage adrenaline. I see adrenaline as a sign of caring, excitement, passion and care, but this is a great tip to help manage it. I do agree that it calms down so it's best to get orientated with where you are going to present before hand to help manage this feeling.
Glad you enjoyed the video Pristina. Adopting an attitude of service is always useful in any presentation or public speaking situation, because it gets you out of a place of worrying about yourself and puts your focus where it is most useful - on how you can help your audience. I wrote about this in an article on our website - Slow Down and Serve. Yes. Adrenaline is a sign that something matters to you, which is great. And if you stop it getting out of hand using techniques like the one I suggest in my video, it will focus your mind and give you a boost of energy.
Thanks alot
Thanks for posting this Daniel. I went into the "OMG" path today during a presentation. I'm wondering, how do you actually convince yourself of the attitude that it's all ok? How do you take that leap of faith and maintain that faith for a minute while the adrenaline is still through the roof? I become doubtful that I can control it, causing the additional spikes to inevitably keep happening.
Good question Haldi. The trick is to catch it early if possible. Adrenaline never starts off though the roof - it builds up as I describe in the video. By the time the adrenaline has gone all the way through the roof, it becomes tricky to manage that way. As soon as you notice the effects of adrenaline (and the part of you that is worrying about it) that's the moment to take control of what's going on inside you by offering the reassurance of "..and it's OK". With practice it will be possible to use this attitude even when the adrenaline has got higher too, but it's always good to start early if you can. I hope this helps.
@@Presencetraininguk As an update, I used this tactic, along with deep breathing, and managed to ride the adrenaline curve down until it was non existent during my most recent presentation. Thanks for posting this video, it was really helpful
@@ecell8303 I'm delighted to that. Really glad to be able to help. Do check out our other videos - there's a lot of good material there.
Thanks for this technique! Easy to remember and for the exercise before starting any performance.
Thank you so much! that was helpful and I'm sure it's going to work
Glad to hear it! Do let us know how it goes :)
Thaaaank you !! “ and it’s okay “ ❤
Great advice!
Yes it's very informative video of the real emotions we experience and how to counter them peacefully will definitely make that moment a great and accomplishing one.. Thankyou so much from India🙏
That's such a pleasure! Yes, making peace with ourself and our emotional (and mental) world is one of the kindest and most powerful things we can do for ourselves. Glad it helped. Daniel
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Thank you
When doing phone interviews, I always get this burning sensation in my upper stomach (perhaps the feeling of anxiety), which results in an extremely shaky voice that I can barely even communicate with. I've been botching every interview. What really gets me is the fact that I have these huge goals that I want to achieve in my life and I have set high expectations for myself, yet I can't even complete a stupid 5 minute phone interview for a job that barely pays anything. Hopefully your advice will help me. Thanks.
Hi, @Noah. I can definitely resonate with what you’ve said and would be really interested in hearing more about your experiences relating to public speaking and/or any anxieties you may still currently face. I’m looking to gather insight from individuals like yourself (purely for my own research) to help me build a new workshop I’m working on. It would mean the world to me if we could hop on a quick call and I could ask you a few questions. OR if you know of someone who fits this description, please tag them below/introduce me. Feel free to tag me here with a reply if you’re interested :) Super appreciate your shared insights in advance.
I'm sorry to hear that Noah. It sounds pretty horrid and really frustrating! Do try the technique in this video, regardless of the sensation. In my experience, it really can make all the difference. And let me know how you get on. Warmly Daniel
This really helped me! Thank you!
Great. I can't wait to try it actually, haha!
You guy are absolutely phenomenal ☺️
Thank you so much really i appreciate it hope i do good the next Sunday
Good luck! Do let us know how you get on.
@@Presencetraininguk it was great I can't believe it till now it's all because of " and it's okay " and understanding that I'm presenting Infront of people just like me too I'm truly thankful for you and for sharing the video with us
@@letrasconmawa So delighted to hear that! And not at all surprised. It's amazing what shifting your mindset and internal dialogue can do :) And very glad to help.
This is exactly what i was looking for! Thank you.
Thank you very much for this explanation! What I can't understand is why I suffer so badly from anxiety when speaking in public.. even if it's just a video call or something very simple, my heart starts to race so fast (like 150bpm) when it's my turn to speak. Do you think is andrenaline that is causing this effect?
Hi Lorenzo. 100% yes! Fast heart rate is always caused by adrenaline. The more interesting question is *what'* is causing your body to release the adrenaline. Adrenaline is a fight or flight hormone which is released by your body when it perceives you to be in a "dangerous" situation. It is usually triggered by an "Oh my god!" thought - such as "Oh my god, what if I mess this up?!", or "Oh my god - my boss will be watching - I'd better do a good job!". In these cases, as well as saying to yourself "My hearts beating quickly...and that's OK", it may *also* be useful to work on listening to, validating and reassuring the part of your brain that's worrying about these things. You may find it helpful to read this article on our website - presencetraining.co.uk/most-fearful-creatures/ Do give it a go (both elements described above) and let me know how you get on.
@@Presencetraininguk Thank you again for the insights, the problem is much clear now!
Yea, I do ask a lot of questions to my self in that moments… like what if I not have anything to say or what people will think about my speech (and similar questions) which leads me to lose track of the conversation and increase the anxiety..
Additionally, the racing heart rate “physically” blocks me from speaking (it’s like speaking while running, it’s hard)
Anyway, I will read the article and let you know how it goes after! :)
This was helpful.
Thanks , good work
Thank you. Glad to help.
Love the advice! Thanks
Thank you Daniel! A great explanatory video, good insights in a simple way! will remember it and apply it, if it occurs. All the best
Glad you found it helpful Danilo. It makes all the difference, in my experience. Let me know how you get on.
Thank you so much
Thank you so much!
Mine is dry mouth and fast heart rate, dizzy, OMG! It is terrible. But I do try to tell myself it is okay but I guess something else happens cus it gets worse! 😮
Yes! That sounds really horrid. And the technique that I've suggested should work very well for this if you apply it correctly. The important thing is to recognise that there is a child-like part of you worrying about these sensations, and that child-like part needs some warm adult reassurance. Then say to yourself (in the way an adult would reassure a child) "My mouth is dry...and that's OK", "My heart is beating quickly...and that's OK". The most important elements are the voice in your head being warm and adult, and to name each element that is bothering you and then add "...and that's OK". If you can include all these elements, I can pretty-much guarantee it won't get to terrible. You may also find it useful to read this blog piece that I wrote: presencetraining.co.uk/most-fearful-creatures/ Let me know how you get on!
Very Helpful thank you Sir
Finally someone actually gets to the crux of the issue instead of just repeating "TaKe DeEp BrEaThS"
And It,s Ok ,,,,thank you
My heart races and my palms sweat. During interviews I notice this and my chest gets tight because I think about the interview asking my background. I used to be great at public speaking, but now I can't breathe during the process and it is very uncomfortable for others. It is hindering me from amazing opportunities. Any suggestions to overcome this?
Yes! Everything that I suggest in the video is relevant to this. The problem here isn't the fast heart or the sweaty palms. The problem is that your mind is worrying about them and this is exacerbating the problem and making a little sweat into a lot of sweat - a slightly fast heart into a very fast heart. You are setting up a vicious circle - the path of "Oh My God" I describe in the video. The antidode is the attitude of "...and it's OK" I describe in the video. "My heart's beating quickly...and it's OK", "My palms are a bit sweaty...and that's OK". Like a reassuring adult calming down a worried child. If you try it out and commit to it you'll be surprised how well it works. I've taught this technique to thousands of people, and pretty-much all of them have reported being able to use it successfully and have been surprised how well it works. Re-watch the video with this in mind, give it a try and let me know how you get on. Warmly Daniel
@@danielkingsley I appreciate your time responding to me. I have a presentation for work tomorrow and I will utilize this technique and let you know how it goes. Thanks again!
@@kgbaby1466 How’d it go
@@utopiaclips4615 it helps but I still get the same heart beat racing effects. I can say it helped with confidence though and helps with the anxiety a bit more.
@@kgbaby1466 keep going I hope, you will get over the fear after practice and over time.
Attitude of acceptance. It's actually alright noone gonna kill you.
And it's okay. All is well
Absolutely! The attitude of acceptance combined with recognising that the uncomfortable sensations are only sensations makes all the difference. All is well indeed.
5:53. Was that “and that’s okay” moment?
Should it be said in English or with main language ?
Great question Ali! It's absolutely fine for you to say it in your main language. The most important things are (a) to start by naming the sensation that feels uncomfortable, then to (b) add the word "and", then (c) to say "...that's OK" or "..it's OK". E.g. My heart's beating quickly - and that's OK. It fine to translate this to any language provided that these 3 elements are included. It's really important that we use "and" instead of "but", because "and" is more welcoming and inclusive and sends a message to your subconscious mind that you're not fighting the feeling.
could I possibly cite this video in APA form use as a reference citing is not yet a strong point?
I want to get training from you to control adrenaline
You are very welcome. We'll do our best to help you. Just email us at hello@presencetraining.co.uk and we'll take it from there!
If life allowed you to speak publicly on a regular basis, just like anything else I'm sure it would feel normal after a few times, but it's precisely because it's sprung on you once in a blue moon, I feel it will never be something I can overcome.😢
Hi Tom. I really hear you. Yet, it isn't so much about practice, and more about self-understanding and mindset. Once you realise that the surge of adrenaline is normal, and what gets us into trouble is freaking out about it, we can simply learn how to ride the wave, no matter how infrequently we speak. You've said "I feel it will never be something I can overcome". I get that. But what you are saying is that you are currently holding a *belief* that this is an insurmountable problem for you (probably) based on a few bad experiences in the past. There really *isn't* anything wrong with you. You simply didn't have the right mental toolkit to succeed back then. If you practice the technique I outline in the video, I pretty-much guarantee that it will work for you. Although *you* may need to do a little bit of work first letting go of your (in my opinion untrue) belief that this is an insurmountable problem for you. If you ever want any coaching on this do get in touch with us, I do feel confident we could help. And if you're ever anywhere near London you'd be very welcome to experience this first-hand in front of a friendly audience on one of our courses.
I think your talking about mild case, sweaty hands and increased heart rate
I've worked with thousands of people, many of whom suffer from proper panic attacks speaking in public. These techniques have absolutely worked for them. The main thing you need to know about these symptoms is that no matter how strong they are they're not going to do you serious harm (unless you are elderly with serious pre-existing medical conditions). The ability to be with strong feelings and sensations is the foundation for confidence. The key is to practice these techniques in low to medium stress situations, so that when you find yourself in high stress situations they will be more available to you. With practice you will be able to manage more and more stress and challenge without it overwhelming you. I'd be delighted to work with you 1-2-1 over Zoom, Skype or Teams if you'd like some personal coaching on this.
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Hahaha... when you get nervous... just don't
Lmfao, great tip
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How can you maintain the adrenaline, so it would last longer and steady?
The technique I'm teaching in this video will do just that.
It works (≧▽≦), last time I tried this and it went good. Tomorrow again I have another presentation. Gotta do it
Glad to hear it @madhumitha!
Being not ok is ok
Yes. Even more accurately - feeling "as if" you're not OK is OK. And perfectly normal. What's *actually* going on here is really interesting. You're having a difficult or uncomfortable feeling or sensation, and a part of your mind is saying "this isn't OK". (It's saying that because it's scared that you can't handle experiencing the feeling and it's going to be "too much to feel".) And you are believing that thought - that what's going on isn't OK. When we say "...and that's OK" or "...and it's OK" it cuts through all of that. It's like an adult part of our mind coming up underneath the more child-like part of our mind that's freaking out, giving it a hug and the reassurance that it needs. This breaks the spell. The uncomfortable feeling remains a bit uncomfortable, but it can then be seen to be no more and no less than this. The drama evaporates, and it turns out that you can absolutely feel the uncomfortable feeling or sensation. It's not too much for you after all. And this breaking of the cycle actually means that it never gets out of hand. (Which is the other thing we have been fearing).
I don't really see what practical things we can take from this...like obviously if we can tell ourselves it's okay then it won't happen but HOW. Sorry I'm not trying to be rude or negative it's just so frustrating not to be able to talk publicly especially when it's important for work etc :(
Hi Lucie. I can hear your frustration and confusion. Let me see if I can explain HOW this works! The adrenaline isn't the problem. It's the very high levels of adrenaline if it gets out of hand.
The reason adrenaline can get out of hand is a vicious cycle of interaction between your mind and your body. When your mind starts panicking about the symptoms adrenaline at level 1, the panic triggers an additional shot of adrenaline that moves the adrenaline level to 2, which triggers stronger symptoms, which causes the mind to panic more. On a bad day this is a panic attack.
So we need some way of breaking this adrenaline-panic cycle.
We don't have any direct control over the adrenaline, but we can have a degree of control over our thinking.
When we notice a part of our mind panicking over the adrenaline, we can consciously choose to replace the thought of "Oh My God my heart is beating very quickly!" with the alternative thought "My heart is beating very quickly...and that's OK".
This is a very simple and practical step that we can take to break this mind-adrenaline cycle.
And it works. I've taught this technique to thousands of people and I've never heard of anyone who correctly applied it who it didn't work for.
It's not (necessarily) that the adrenaline completely goes away (though it often does), but this technique, used correctly guarantees that it doesn't get out of hand and doesn't stop us saying what we need to say and doing what we need to do.
I hope this helps!
Daniel
My leags start to shake after 30sec when i start to give speech if it don not happen i would participate in more public speaking activities
Hi ujjwal. Do give the techniques in this video a try. I think they'll really help. Remember, even though you can feel your legs shaking, your audience probably can't see it. And if you're not worried about it they are very unlikely to be worried about it. Your audience responds to your attitude to what is happening with you and not directly to what is happening with you. Do give this a go and let me know how you get on. Warmly Daniel
What it you're hyperventilating and your voice is quivering uncontrollably. How is that "ok"?
That's a great question, awreckingball. The short answer is that if you get to the stage of hyperventilation or your voice shaking uncontrollably that probably *isn't* OK for most speaking purposes (though it is worth noting that neither of those things is actually going to kill you). My experience from working with thousands of people, is that these symptoms never start out that extreme - they build up. It starts with breathing a bit too much and your voice being a tiny bit shaky, then it gets worse and worse - *if* you worry about it. It's the worry that causes these things to get out of hand. If you allow yourself to be OK with your breathing being a little bit faster and your voice being slightly shaky it breaks the cycle of worry and things never get out of control in the way that you are fearing. (I'm not saying you need to like those things, but if you can make friends with the discomfort it really shifts things). I feel very confident about saying this because I have never found a student who applied this method faithfully who it did not work for really effectively. I hope that helps.
I get shake voice & body
Thanks for saying Elijah. That's 100% normal. Many many people get these with adrenaline. Remember that 95% of what you are feeling on the inside isn't visible to the audience. So the chances are that the shake isn't even noticeable to those who are watching you, or if it is noticeable it isn't a big deal for them. And from there you can use "...and that's OK". My voice is a bit shaky...and that's OK. My body is shaking a bit...and that's OK. Remember if you can be OK with the shakiness, the chances are that they audience will be OK with it. Audiences don't respond to how you're feeling, they respond to how you feel about what you're feeling. If you're feeling OK with it, they will feel your OKness, even if they do notice a little shaking.
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This really helped me thank you
"its just adrenaline".
Can shaking very violently be controlled, that isnt adrenaline its my sketsafrenic kicking in.
If it's adrenaline it can be controlled using the method I suggest. If it's something else it's outside the scope of my expertise I'm afraid!
And its okay 😂
That is ok ❤
This is my first performance on any stage and I was very nervous in the beginning. My hands and feet were trembling and I thought as if I won't able to do it but I completed this session on JoshTalks: ruclips.net/video/YeE7x41SxMA/видео.htmlsi=1yuLPflSp_7Mss5n
Congratulations! The thought "I won't be able to do it" is a common thought. Well done for not believing it. We can't stop these thoughts, but we don't have to believe them.
some very highly refined bullshit …
Hi PK. I'm guessing that you viewed this video because you were wanting help managing your adrenaline in a public speaking context. And from your comment I can hear that you are *seriously* skeptical about whether the technique I'm proposing could possibly work. All I can tell you is that (a) it really works for me and (b) I've taught literally thousands of people over the years and this technique is the one that has worked best for just about all of those I have taught. I'm not in the business of bullshit. I'm simply in the business of teaching what works. If you are interested in managing your adrenaline better I'd encourage you to give it a try before drawing any conclusions. If you do try it, I hope it works for you. If you try it seriously, I think it might...
Great advice!
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