As an ESTP (with a pretty well developed INFJ subconscious), I completely understand what everyone else is complaining about in the comments. I'm sad that ESTPs don't take the time to research different personalities and how they work. Where's your humility ESTPs? 😭 I love and respect INTPs and NTPs a lot, I have a massive soft spot for them, and can spot one in a room almost instantly. I'm so protective of them tbh, because others tend to misunderstand and or pick on them. Whenever I do defend an INTP they always look at me so surprised xD They're so sweet and gentle. I've taken great care in my life to develop my intuitive side, as well as my Fe side, so much so that I am an empath, and very in tune with what others are feeling. And understand that INTPs are not very in tune with what they or others are feeling. The reason why ESTPs tend to be your stereotypical highschool bully is because they project their insecurities onto others. It's silly. When they mature the 4 sides of their mind, they can become very wise and gentle helpers (tactful, not abrasive), which is my life goal. ESTPs can be so close-minded and fail to use critical thinking 😞 I've met immature ESTPs that rub me so wrong because I can just feel that they lack humility, which means their supereger ENFP will just wreak havoc and unnecessarily break others down. Anyway, this video was great, and insightful, thank you :D
If "pick me" was a person. Look mommy look how sensitive I am..look ..look..mom look I am an empath. why aren't you watching me be so sensitive and emphatic. From a fellow estp tone it down. You can kiss their ass and suck their balls I don't care. Do not throw other people you haven't even met under the bass over a situation you weren't present for. While trying to protect the oh so very precious "victims" you victimize people who have never even met you. This turned into a rant. Sorry. Haven't slept yet.
I am an INTP been married to an ESTP for over 20 years. Can definitely relate about not being able to discuss theoretical concepts- my advice, find other people in your life to fulfill that. I find ESTP's very practical and my spouse definitely motivates me to get off my lazy INTP ass and get stuff done. Really our only issue is he like social things, I like to stay home. I find social gatherings so draining and need to rest for a day afterwards. My travel itineraries and lists drive him nuts.
OMG so it is doable! You must be the only one in the internet. I search it through and every intp -estp relationship was described as lasting a few months. You bring hope. ^^ Are estp immoral cheaters?
what about trying traveling, if ain't no money so you know dangerous staff and all ? , it ofc depends on both of you so it stays as an idea to think of maybe
Im an intp I grew up with an estp brother he is so good he is teaching me always how to deal with people and how to earn respect and love from them and I became very good at it I think estps are awful but when they are a part of your family they are your weapon against the tough life
I was just recently seeing an ESTP. We had all of the exact same problems that you mentioned except I'm female, and he's male. He was backing his claim about a subjective topic where he proclaimed the validity via some Buzzfeed-esque study. So I laughed. In front of everyone, I reminded him that he doesn't even like to read the subtitles in movies (something I'd recently learned) and this sent him over the edge. The study he was attempting to prove, was that there are specific ethnic groups of women who are better and more attractive than all other women. Perhaps I was sharp in this truth because I was wounded by the claim. Either way I felt that his insistence that the "data" was anything more than OPINION made him seem ignorant. In hurting me, I hurt him...but with an Intp...someone otherwise so friendly and quiet--it bit with the same or deeper depth of fangs than even they themselves had. ESTP's are extremely prideful. As an intp had this been me I would've laughed. To me, I would've known that about myself and found it funny. I laugh at the moments when I'm a dingbat. But an ESTP....noo. That is a direct hit and they will hate you for it.
lol I’ve had similar experiences with ESTP’s where I’ll do that same thing and they’ll take it to heart as well as observing situations where this exchange happens.
I’m so happy you’re making videos again. I’m an INTP and my first love was an ESTP. Though he was 42 and had children so I guess age played a huge role there. We bonded over Ti (“other people are stupid”) and I was completely mesmerized by his Se. Didn’t last long but we really bonded! I felt like he could really understand me.
I'm an ENTJ. I grew up with an ESTP stepdad and I HATED him. He was incredibly disrespectful to my brother and I. We argued constantly. When we did manage to get along it was bc he was teaching me how to do something physical such as, biking & roller skating. He is very dependable and hardworking, but his alcoholism and self-centeredness caused me to move out right after I graduated HS. My brother married an ESTP, so woohoo 🥴 lol
I'm an INTP, and wow, you just described my mother in law. As a young 20 year old bride, I moved into the house next door to her, and for 25 years,worked in the family business, which she ran. I'm only one year into MBTI, and she died 4 years ago, but after a 25 year next door relationship with her, I am going through all the memories while watching this video. That relationship was a daily struggle. Trial by fire is exactly right.
Literally my sister's relationship right now. It's terrible and it's been 3-4 years of screaming at each other. Turns into smoking weed everyday to ignore even trying to have a conversation. But, hey he's cute and funny? Nope - he just abuses/controls her completely awful. I'm glad INTP and ESTP dynamic has been explored.
They usually provide surface level criticisms. They will point the obvious. They will reinforce established negative beliefs and often spread it among the people. Of course this does not go out to all the ESTPs. But the ones I have interacted with are to an extent attached to drama. Maybe it's the Se-Fe. So when they are passing these shallow judgements about you or other people around you, you get a sense of disappointment that this is how superficially people read other people. And you gotta be careful, and display confidence. So if by tearing down and building, you mean that, then yes. I appreciate ESTPs ability to use Se and go at it (initiating a task and doing it). But i never appreciated the standards they use to judge. Because "power" and confidence to them can be easily faked, and can be outsmarted. I connect and enjoy with ESTPs free spiritedness, and humor. But ESTPs fr need to let go of judging people in a very shallow manner and being mean to get random reactions from people. And if you cant control being mean, at least reduce the frequency and the way you deliver it. I can understand you bullying people being funny to you. But tone it down bro. And humble yourself a bit
I have a hard time with them too XD I am INFJ so generally xSTPs annoy me, and I tend to avoid them because they're immoral to me. I don't get why they think people should be like them and express things constantly ?!! (Riley I am sorry you got picked on by them, Childish Tbh). They tend to think I am a terrible person which is an oxymoron because I'm very quite and keep to myself, whereas they are loud and agressive ?! so I don't get it 😂
I understand where you’re coming from. Was once friends with an istp who felt as though there was an issue with everyone who didn’t navigate life the way that they did. The friendship didn’t last very long due to my very blatant refusal to conform to their ideologies.
ESTP here. Definitely was more of an asshole when I was younger. Nowadays I think I am more empathetic. It does exhaust me considerably though, but I definitely will come off less assholeish.
Sorry about your bad experiences. As long as you communicate clearly with Estps you’ll be fine, as you said, tell us you don’t need help😂. most Estps honestly don’t even bother to try helping or approaching someone who seems uninterested or who seems like they know what they are doing, but if we sense the person is lost, specially if its at work, we will assume they need support. But I think you’ve met unhealthy Estps if your saying they bullied you. Sorry about that.
Yeah now that I think of it he probably has and these problems discussed are probably at their worse when the Estp is unhealthy. That’s when the Intp feels constantly bullied, pushed around and critiqued the most.
Omg.. I have dated an istj.. now I dont know if I should go out with this estp guy.. I can say that I don't have much fun with Sensing ppl... should I go for it again...... this is too hard 🙄
@@6o671 My opinion is that ESTP is a slightly better match than ISTJ only because i believe that Si-Ne users should be with Se-Ni users in romantic relationships. This is primarily because this is sexually compatible as well as compatible in terms of achieving goals. ESTP wants to achieve goals with Ni and INTP helps him/her achieve those and advises using Ne. My personal opinion is that XNXPs should be with XNXJs for best compatibility. If i dated a sensor it would probably only be with an XSFP. My current gf is INTJ and we have a high level of compatibility. Anyways my opinions on compatibility are in line with “cognitive synchronicity” as explained by CS Joseph.
I think an estp might find your intelligence intimidating. I feel like i have met your type and i feel like i would have underestimated you because of the way you talk. And then you would have said something very intelligent and i would be embarrassed for not noticing you before. I would try to be funny to cover and say something stupid like "you are if boring was a person" and then i would have thought "ok now he hates me. Disengage". I am not very intelligent so apologies for this hypothetical situation
Yeah once you go out in the world and spend enough time analyzing it, its very easy to outsmart and lie to them. Even if they dont wanna admit it. However, let the intuitive brethren not get too ahead of themselves, for you to build solid defense mechanisms you gotta go out, interact, make yourself capable of dealing with these people and beating them at their own boring repetitive games that provides momentary thrill to them.
Have you considered you might be a bit of a bully. You use your intelligence to tear an entire group of people down but you seem nice while doing it. Throw stone and hide your hand. I would think snake as soon as i saw you let alone met you. That might be why estp are mean to you because they see you have negative intent and bad faith. You mentioned bullying and that has already made up your mind, you expect negative and they match your energy. I do not mean to be classic estp but i would run from you after one conversation. Because i would prejudge. I had to train myself to listen to you in this video. I would still not like to meet you in person because...well.. exhausting. Sorry. But a lot of what you said hurt my feelings. You might be right in some cases but in some you were the asshole in the situation.
You make a lot of fair points and I’ve come to understand and appreciate ESTPs much more over the years after i understood what i interpreted as them being abrasive as a way of them caring about me and trying to make me better.
As an ESTP (with a pretty well developed INFJ subconscious), I completely understand what everyone else is complaining about in the comments. I'm sad that ESTPs don't take the time to research different personalities and how they work. Where's your humility ESTPs? 😭
I love and respect INTPs and NTPs a lot, I have a massive soft spot for them, and can spot one in a room almost instantly. I'm so protective of them tbh, because others tend to misunderstand and or pick on them. Whenever I do defend an INTP they always look at me so surprised xD They're so sweet and gentle.
I've taken great care in my life to develop my intuitive side, as well as my Fe side, so much so that I am an empath, and very in tune with what others are feeling. And understand that INTPs are not very in tune with what they or others are feeling.
The reason why ESTPs tend to be your stereotypical highschool bully is because they project their insecurities onto others. It's silly. When they mature the 4 sides of their mind, they can become very wise and gentle helpers (tactful, not abrasive), which is my life goal.
ESTPs can be so close-minded and fail to use critical thinking 😞 I've met immature ESTPs that rub me so wrong because I can just feel that they lack humility, which means their supereger ENFP will just wreak havoc and unnecessarily break others down.
Anyway, this video was great, and insightful, thank you :D
If "pick me" was a person. Look mommy look how sensitive I am..look ..look..mom look I am an empath. why aren't you watching me be so sensitive and emphatic. From a fellow estp tone it down. You can kiss their ass and suck their balls I don't care. Do not throw other people you haven't even met under the bass over a situation you weren't present for. While trying to protect the oh so very precious "victims" you victimize people who have never even met you. This turned into a rant. Sorry. Haven't slept yet.
I am an INTP been married to an ESTP for over 20 years. Can definitely relate about not being able to discuss theoretical concepts- my advice, find other people in your life to fulfill that. I find ESTP's very practical and my spouse definitely motivates me to get off my lazy INTP ass and get stuff done. Really our only issue is he like social things, I like to stay home. I find social gatherings so draining and need to rest for a day afterwards. My travel itineraries and lists drive him nuts.
OMG so it is doable! You must be the only one in the internet. I search it through and every intp -estp relationship was described as lasting a few months. You bring hope. ^^ Are estp immoral cheaters?
Why are ESTPs practical if they are also perceivers?
what about trying traveling, if ain't no money so you know dangerous staff and all ? , it ofc depends on both of you so it stays as an idea to think of maybe
Im an intp I grew up with an estp brother he is so good he is teaching me always how to deal with people and how to earn respect and love from them and I became very good at it I think estps are awful but when they are a part of your family they are your weapon against the tough life
What do you find awful about them?
I was just recently seeing an ESTP. We had all of the exact same problems that you mentioned except I'm female, and he's male.
He was backing his claim about a subjective topic where he proclaimed the validity via some Buzzfeed-esque study. So I laughed. In front of everyone, I reminded him that he doesn't even like to read the subtitles in movies (something I'd recently learned) and this sent him over the edge.
The study he was attempting to prove, was that there are specific ethnic groups of women who are better and more attractive than all other women. Perhaps I was sharp in this truth because I was wounded by the claim. Either way I felt that his insistence that the "data" was anything more than OPINION made him seem ignorant. In hurting me, I hurt him...but with an Intp...someone otherwise so friendly and quiet--it bit with the same or deeper depth of fangs than even they themselves had.
ESTP's are extremely prideful. As an intp had this been me I would've laughed. To me, I would've known that about myself and found it funny. I laugh at the moments when I'm a dingbat. But an ESTP....noo. That is a direct hit and they will hate you for it.
lol I’ve had similar experiences with ESTP’s where I’ll do that same thing and they’ll take it to heart as well as observing situations where this exchange happens.
I’m so happy you’re making videos again. I’m an INTP and my first love was an ESTP. Though he was 42 and had children so I guess age played a huge role there. We bonded over Ti (“other people are stupid”) and I was completely mesmerized by his Se. Didn’t last long but we really bonded! I felt like he could really understand me.
I'm an ENTJ. I grew up with an ESTP stepdad and I HATED him. He was incredibly disrespectful to my brother and I. We argued constantly. When we did manage to get along it was bc he was teaching me how to do something physical such as, biking & roller skating. He is very dependable and hardworking, but his alcoholism and self-centeredness caused me to move out right after I graduated HS. My brother married an ESTP, so woohoo 🥴 lol
I like this. Feels like some kind of Story Time with Riley segment.
I'm an INTP, and wow, you just described my mother in law. As a young 20 year old bride, I moved into the house next door to her, and for 25 years,worked in the family business, which she ran. I'm only one year into MBTI, and she died 4 years ago, but after a 25 year next door relationship with her, I am going through all the memories while watching this video. That relationship was a daily struggle. Trial by fire is exactly right.
Literally my sister's relationship right now. It's terrible and it's been 3-4 years of screaming at each other. Turns into smoking weed everyday to ignore even trying to have a conversation. But, hey he's cute and funny? Nope - he just abuses/controls her completely awful. I'm glad INTP and ESTP dynamic has been explored.
ESTPs tear you down and rebuild you stronger.
How do they tear you down
They usually provide surface level criticisms. They will point the obvious. They will reinforce established negative beliefs and often spread it among the people. Of course this does not go out to all the ESTPs. But the ones I have interacted with are to an extent attached to drama. Maybe it's the Se-Fe. So when they are passing these shallow judgements about you or other people around you, you get a sense of disappointment that this is how superficially people read other people. And you gotta be careful, and display confidence. So if by tearing down and building, you mean that, then yes. I appreciate ESTPs ability to use Se and go at it (initiating a task and doing it). But i never appreciated the standards they use to judge. Because "power" and confidence to them can be easily faked, and can be outsmarted. I connect and enjoy with ESTPs free spiritedness, and humor.
But ESTPs fr need to let go of judging people in a very shallow manner and being mean to get random reactions from people. And if you cant control being mean, at least reduce the frequency and the way you deliver it. I can understand you bullying people being funny to you. But tone it down bro. And humble yourself a bit
Opposite type people can inspire each other to learn some important lessons that will last a lifetime… if you can drop the ego long enough.
Intp with an estp brother I feel like every thing this man is saying.
Feel the same way with my estp cousin
I have a hard time with them too XD I am INFJ so generally xSTPs annoy me, and I tend to avoid them because they're immoral to me.
I don't get why they think people should be like them and express things constantly ?!!
(Riley I am sorry you got picked on by them, Childish Tbh).
They tend to think I am a terrible person which is an oxymoron because I'm very quite and keep to myself, whereas they are loud and agressive ?! so I don't get it 😂
Thanks for your kindness, i think they probably regard you as a threat to their dominance haha
Naah I like INFJ´s :D and I have fun deep converstaions with them. It takes little more time for them open but when they do it´s cool. - ESTP
I understand where you’re coming from. Was once friends with an istp who felt as though there was an issue with everyone who didn’t navigate life the way that they did. The friendship didn’t last very long due to my very blatant refusal to conform to their ideologies.
ESTP here. Definitely was more of an asshole when I was younger. Nowadays I think I am more empathetic. It does exhaust me considerably though, but I definitely will come off less assholeish.
It's exhausting to be a decent human?
yeah ur estj
ISTP and ESTP
They have concrete minds
I thought they have deadly minds 🤣
INTP have a type of puzzling minds .
Sorry about your bad experiences. As long as you communicate clearly with Estps you’ll be fine, as you said, tell us you don’t need help😂. most Estps honestly don’t even bother to try helping or approaching someone who seems uninterested or who seems like they know what they are doing, but if we sense the person is lost, specially if its at work, we will assume they need support. But I think you’ve met unhealthy Estps if your saying they bullied you. Sorry about that.
Yeah now that I think of it he probably has and these problems discussed are probably at their worse when the Estp is unhealthy. That’s when the Intp feels constantly bullied, pushed around and critiqued the most.
12:09 I've definitely seen an INFJ in the ESTP I know
14:00 Are ESTPs sensitive?
16:15 This is fascinating, the ESTP I know was like this at first, almost aggressive!
20:20 ESTP friend? Physical trades
21:50 This is interesting. I'm loyal... and I can stand up for myself
24:40 Why would INTPs be ungrateful? Also the ESTP I know doesn't like me apologising
What is the difference between Extroverted Feeling and Extroverted Sensing?
I know now
how are u so sure that they are estps.
Omg.. I have dated an istj.. now I dont know if I should go out with this estp guy.. I can say that I don't have much fun with Sensing ppl... should I go for it again...... this is too hard 🙄
What type are you?
@@rileydunn2832 INTP
@@6o671 My opinion is that ESTP is a slightly better match than ISTJ only because i believe that Si-Ne users should be with Se-Ni users in romantic relationships. This is primarily because this is sexually compatible as well as compatible in terms of achieving goals. ESTP wants to achieve goals with Ni and INTP helps him/her achieve those and advises using Ne. My personal opinion is that XNXPs should be with XNXJs for best compatibility. If i dated a sensor it would probably only be with an XSFP. My current gf is INTJ and we have a high level of compatibility. Anyways my opinions on compatibility are in line with “cognitive synchronicity” as explained by CS Joseph.
Exactly@@rileydunn2832
4:38 Am I the only one who gets looked up and down by an ESTP?
6:40 But why? They are hypocrites?
I think an estp might find your intelligence intimidating. I feel like i have met your type and i feel like i would have underestimated you because of the way you talk. And then you would have said something very intelligent and i would be embarrassed for not noticing you before. I would try to be funny to cover and say something stupid like "you are if boring was a person" and then i would have thought "ok now he hates me. Disengage". I am not very intelligent so apologies for this hypothetical situation
7:10 WTF?
I always beat them at their own silly chimpanzee game.
Yeah once you go out in the world and spend enough time analyzing it, its very easy to outsmart and lie to them. Even if they dont wanna admit it.
However, let the intuitive brethren not get too ahead of themselves, for you to build solid defense mechanisms you gotta go out, interact, make yourself capable of dealing with these people and beating them at their own boring repetitive games that provides momentary thrill to them.
Everything after 20:00 only gives me reasons not to like them😤🖕🏾
♥️🤖
Have you considered you might be a bit of a bully. You use your intelligence to tear an entire group of people down but you seem nice while doing it. Throw stone and hide your hand. I would think snake as soon as i saw you let alone met you. That might be why estp are mean to you because they see you have negative intent and bad faith. You mentioned bullying and that has already made up your mind, you expect negative and they match your energy. I do not mean to be classic estp but i would run from you after one conversation. Because i would prejudge. I had to train myself to listen to you in this video. I would still not like to meet you in person because...well.. exhausting. Sorry. But a lot of what you said hurt my feelings. You might be right in some cases but in some you were the asshole in the situation.
You make a lot of fair points and I’ve come to understand and appreciate ESTPs much more over the years after i understood what i interpreted as them being abrasive as a way of them caring about me and trying to make me better.
Stop projecting