Losing someone to death, in some ways, is easier to deal with than a broken relationship. They are gone. It is painful. It was no one's fault. But, with a breakup, it is someone's fault, and the person is still here, so, there are feelings of rejection, anger, hate, love, and hope in addition to the feeling of loss. I am at the six month mark, and it is still excruciating, almost unbearable some days.
I was cheated on and then broken up with 7 months ago, and sometimes the thought comes to my mind that a lot of other people would be over it by now, but I share your experience with it being a torture some days, even after these months. I knew it was gonna be long, but it surprises me over and over again how much pain comes from it all.
I hate when people say that relationship has nothing with someone fault becuz there could be two of us miscommunicating. While the fact that not learning to communicate is THE ONE
Your timing on this is impecable. Took myself on a weekend trip after I breakup that I made. I still love the man. Having a hard time letting go! He showed no willingness to work on us. Also ofc I brought your new book w me on this time alone. Ty Mel❤
Wow. I’m not going through a break up but I have and Sawyer, she is amazing. So well spoken. Raw. Honest. If only I had this 20 years ago. This is going to be incredibly insightful for so many.
This is comforting. I was dumped unexpectedly right before the holidays this year. She had no desire to work on our issues i tried so hard to talk bought flowers and all that but I was just stonewalled until eventually I was blocked. I lashed out and now I’ve been just been dealing with anger. I’m in a really good place after finding my spirituality and understanding my purpose but I still hurt and I’m still so angry but I understand now my anger is just sadness. I know I won’t always feel like this and hearing sawyer speak reassures me of that. Thank you Mel for this amazing content. Sending love to everyone having a hard time right now ❤
My heart goes out to you...💔 This is my youngest son story... Can't say or do anything right to support...so I wait till he lets go and acknowledge I'm here in whatever capacity he needs...so ****hard 😥 Love to you..from Australia..♥️🌹🙏
Hiya Mel! Thank you for putting this out there! I know exactly how your daughter Sawyer is feeling. The first time i was cheated on i was 16yrs old and the person he was seeing told me over the phone! As she was a friend of a friend! I was in total shock and felt sick and had a panic attack. I was standing in a call box and my legs went to jelly. Some how with the grace of God i found my courage and voice as i had a very powerful thought! Which was if he could cheat on me he could cheat on anyone. I wished her luck, put down the phone and went home. I think what your daughter needs right now is TLC and take to her mind off him slowly as it was a two year relationship. Give her a shoulder to cry on so she knows your there for her as it takes a strong person to cry! Re-assure her that she will come out the other side a stronger loving person so when she does meet someone else not to take her past bad experience with her. I tough one i know and it has taken me years to learn how to do that. I with all my heart and soul wish your daughter a beautiful healing journey. It's going to be baby steps but i know you will be okay and i know that you will heal together as a family. As i am sure the other person's family will. Just respect each other's space and people have time to grow. Respect to you and your daughter foor talking about such a deep emotion such as heartbreak. Your daughter will in time find someone new who will treat her with the respect she deserves! God bless you both! Love is precious embrace it! Massive hugs! 🤗🥰💐
I literally cried because the experience and words from the book are so genuine and accurate 😢in relation to every woman or man😢 suffering from a heartbreak 😢😢 it's literally like experiencing death of your heart and soul Thank you 😢
Good morning Sawyer / Mel. I just finished listening to this episodes (I am an advent listener) and I must say thank you! I have been separated now for 2 1/2 years after a 20 year marriage and it has been excruciating. I resonated with each detail of what you ladies spoke about and contest YES to all you had to offer and to all the things that one experiences during and after this breakup / heartbreak. I am not going to go into full detail btw, but will say that I did ALL the things that you suggested. Removing belongings / changing the lay out of my house / eliminating pictures / etc. The one thing that I did not do right away was to cut off contact. But like Sawyer mentioned, I was always looking to hang on, mostly out of 'fear' I think 🤷♀🤷♀ I have only now (and only in the past 2 months) forced myself to have no contact. I have had intervals of 21 - 30 days. Its tough, but it was important for my well being because when I did have contact with him I noticed that inside me, that little spark of hope would be ignited and it HAD to stop. I was keeping myself hostage. But I was holding on to the hope that he was coming back for me. Time, patience, and courage will stand behind us all if we only allow it in. Heartbreak is part of life, part of learning. In the words of Brene Brown ~ Let it End / Let it Hurt / Let it Heal / Let it Go. ❤❤ TY ladies ~ Namaste. 🙏
Women often have "best friends", but as we live, we've broken up with them too, but that kind of breakup isn’t accepted in society as much as a romantic breakup. Another type of breakup is one in the form of unwanted career changes that happen after dedicating years of loyalty and sacrifice to a job. All of what you say about a romantic breakup relates to these non-romantic situations too.
Learn to love you,you would never hurt you. When you ignore your feeling you get hurt. Become who you are suppose to be. Let that person that was abandoned out of your facade.
Amazing-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him*
Dear Mel, I finished listening to you guys in this video & was recommended in my feed: "Self-Help Audiobook | The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins" & it under the acct of "San Bong da UT DANH". I don't want any Karma for listening to this Audio or feel like I'm getting something ove on you + I Love you both ..so I wanted to let you know about it. I cannot afford the extra for the audiobook now, as it's deducible month & after the holidays. Just wanted you to know about it & I'm always sending my Love to you Mel...xxx I Do wholeheartedly appreciate the marketed difference you've made & do make in my life! ❤ Mark Coleman Curlee
Process , processing and more processing . Just as sometimes emotional health can become sickly because of masking emotions with the wrong emotions . The emotional health needed is to use the proper emotional context via , not using anger or hate when a sadness or sorrow may be needed or maybe instead of using a laser focus of ( what n why ) it happened , allowing the use of confusion , frustration and feelings of being lost . The timing and types of emotions felt are not a given or set ( how to why to ) , they can only be searched out and lived out . Ride it out , maybe it'll take a few months , a few years or maybe never. Who knows 🤷. Really who knows .
This is great conversation and thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. What if YOU broke up with someone and now going through that death. People think that’s easy because I ended it. I’m free now to find someone that will give me what I need to feel loved and cherished. I am still sad and so so disappointed. What do you do with those feelings. How do you process this disappointment? Yes I will be ok and yet not today. Can’t see how ‘let them’ is helping right now. I guess let me feel sad and disappointed and how to you Nov past that to feeling whole again. Even my dogs are depressed!
i was worthy of love. i am worthy of love. i will always be worthy of love. i had a dream about my ex last night after trying to make progress in getting over him. but dreams are processing emotions, so maybe that was me getting over him to some extent? its hard wanting dreams.
Thank you for sharing. Time heals be patient Let any memory, thought photos mutual friends revisit...Later - tomorrow, next week, next month when you are stronger, let him be a lesson and a memory,
Don't agree, I've lost both my parents & can never see, speak or spend time with them ever again. Break up they are still alive some people even get back together or you may just see them somewhere or hear something about them. Life goes on for both of you. If they are dead you have to try to live knowing they are not & you will never have anything with them again.
Your daughter is amazing for being willing to talk about her painful experience. Please tell her thank you from all of us!
Losing someone to death, in some ways, is easier to deal with than a broken relationship. They are gone. It is painful. It was no one's fault. But, with a breakup, it is someone's fault, and the person is still here, so, there are feelings of rejection, anger, hate, love, and hope in addition to the feeling of loss. I am at the six month mark, and it is still excruciating, almost unbearable some days.
I feel you 😢also going through the same - break up - and soon starting the process of divorce ….
@@bernadinelombard9020 I am sorry to hear that. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. Wishing you the best. Love yourself.
I was cheated on and then broken up with 7 months ago, and sometimes the thought comes to my mind that a lot of other people would be over it by now, but I share your experience with it being a torture some days, even after these months. I knew it was gonna be long, but it surprises me over and over again how much pain comes from it all.
I hate when people say that relationship has nothing with someone fault becuz there could be two of us miscommunicating. While the fact that not learning to communicate is THE ONE
Your timing on this is impecable. Took myself on a weekend trip after I breakup that I made. I still love the man. Having a hard time letting go! He showed no willingness to work on us. Also ofc I brought your new book w me on this time alone. Ty Mel❤
Wow. I’m not going through a break up but I have and Sawyer, she is amazing. So well spoken. Raw. Honest. If only I had this 20 years ago. This is going to be incredibly insightful for so many.
The ending of a relationship seems to cause us to go through phases similar to grief. It's an important insight
Sawyer is so sweet I’m sure she will find the love of her life and he will be so lucky to have her to love, Love you both!
Wow! Thank you! How can I still love someone who was abusive? Such a wise daughter Mel ❤
This is comforting. I was dumped unexpectedly right before the holidays this year. She had no desire to work on our issues i tried so hard to talk bought flowers and all that but I was just stonewalled until eventually I was blocked. I lashed out and now I’ve been just been dealing with anger. I’m in a really good place after finding my spirituality and understanding my purpose but I still hurt and I’m still so angry but I understand now my anger is just sadness. I know I won’t always feel like this and hearing sawyer speak reassures me of that. Thank you Mel for this amazing content. Sending love to everyone having a hard time right now ❤
My heart goes out to you...💔 This is my youngest son story...
Can't say or do anything right to support...so I wait till he lets go and acknowledge I'm here in whatever capacity he needs...so ****hard 😥
Love to you..from Australia..♥️🌹🙏
Hiya Mel! Thank you for putting this out there! I know exactly how your daughter Sawyer is feeling. The first time i was cheated on i was 16yrs old and the person he was seeing told me over the phone! As she was a friend of a friend! I was in total shock and felt sick and had a panic attack. I was standing in a call box and my legs went to jelly. Some how with the grace of God i found my courage and voice as i had a very powerful thought! Which was if he could cheat on me he could cheat on anyone. I wished her luck, put down the phone and went home. I think what your daughter needs right now is TLC and take to her mind off him slowly as it was a two year relationship. Give her a shoulder to cry on so she knows your there for her as it takes a strong person to cry! Re-assure her that she will come out the other side a stronger loving person so when she does meet someone else not to take her past bad experience with her. I tough one i know and it has taken me years to learn how to do that. I with all my heart and soul wish your daughter a beautiful healing journey. It's going to be baby steps but i know you will be okay and i know that you will heal together as a family. As i am sure the other person's family will. Just respect each other's space and people have time to grow. Respect to you and your daughter foor talking about such a deep emotion such as heartbreak. Your daughter will in time find someone new who will treat her with the respect she deserves! God bless you both! Love is precious embrace it! Massive hugs! 🤗🥰💐
I literally cried because the experience and words from the book are so genuine and accurate 😢in relation to every woman or man😢 suffering from a heartbreak 😢😢 it's literally like experiencing death of your heart and soul
Thank you 😢
I need this book ASAP 😢
Good morning Sawyer / Mel. I just finished listening to this episodes (I am an advent listener) and I must say thank you! I have been separated now for 2 1/2 years after a 20 year marriage and it has been excruciating. I resonated with each detail of what you ladies spoke about and contest YES to all you had to offer and to all the things that one experiences during and after this breakup / heartbreak. I am not going to go into full detail btw, but will say that I did ALL the things that you suggested. Removing belongings / changing the lay out of my house / eliminating pictures / etc. The one thing that I did not do right away was to cut off contact. But like Sawyer mentioned, I was always looking to hang on, mostly out of 'fear' I think 🤷♀🤷♀ I have only now (and only in the past 2 months) forced myself to have no contact. I have had intervals of 21 - 30 days. Its tough, but it was important for my well being because when I did have contact with him I noticed that inside me, that little spark of hope would be ignited and it HAD to stop. I was keeping myself hostage. But I was holding on to the hope that he was coming back for me.
Time, patience, and courage will stand behind us all if we only allow it in. Heartbreak is part of life, part of learning. In the words of Brene Brown ~ Let it End / Let it Hurt / Let it Heal / Let it Go. ❤❤ TY ladies ~ Namaste. 🙏
Women often have "best friends", but as we live, we've broken up with them too, but that kind of breakup isn’t accepted in society as much as a romantic breakup. Another type of breakup is one in the form of unwanted career changes that happen after dedicating years of loyalty and sacrifice to a job. All of what you say about a romantic breakup relates to these non-romantic situations too.
Yes, if only there's more video and people talking about this
Learn to love you,you would never hurt you. When you ignore your feeling you get hurt. Become who you are suppose to be. Let that person that was abandoned out of your facade.
The best timing ever.
Thank you so much ❤
Thank you Mel, really help me through the tough time ❤
Thank you, Mel...This very is healing at this time.❤🙏🕊🎶
Amazing-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him*
That's incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact one?
His name is Owen Abiola, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in bringing back lost loves.
Owen Abiola has incredible powers, and he can assist you.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information! I just looked her up online, and I'm impressed
Dear Mel,
I finished listening to you guys in this video & was recommended in my feed:
"Self-Help Audiobook | The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins"
& it under the acct of
"San Bong da UT DANH".
I don't want any Karma for listening to this Audio or feel like I'm getting something ove on you + I Love you both ..so I wanted to let you know about it.
I cannot afford the extra for the audiobook now, as it's deducible month & after the holidays.
Just wanted you to know about it & I'm always sending my Love to you Mel...xxx I Do wholeheartedly appreciate the marketed difference you've made & do make in my life! ❤
Mark Coleman Curlee
Love the couch.😉
21:15 - 22:03 - This.
Process , processing and more processing . Just as sometimes emotional health can become sickly because of masking emotions with the wrong emotions . The emotional health needed is to use the proper emotional context via , not using anger or hate when a sadness or sorrow may be needed or maybe instead of using a laser focus of ( what n why ) it happened , allowing the use of confusion , frustration and feelings of being lost . The timing and types of emotions felt are not a given or set ( how to why to ) , they can only be searched out and lived out . Ride it out , maybe it'll take a few months , a few years or maybe never. Who knows 🤷. Really who knows .
This is great conversation and thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. What if YOU broke up with someone and now going through that death. People think that’s easy because I ended it. I’m free now to find someone that will give me what I need to feel loved and cherished. I am still sad and so so disappointed. What do you do with those feelings. How do you process this disappointment? Yes I will be ok and yet not today. Can’t see how ‘let them’ is helping right now. I guess let me feel sad and disappointed and how to you Nov past that to feeling whole again. Even my dogs are depressed!
Two months later, he is is with someone new and I have to deal with that heartbreak.
Even tho this hurts, I have to let them go
i was worthy of love. i am worthy of love. i will always be worthy of love. i had a dream about my ex last night after trying to make progress in getting over him. but dreams are processing emotions, so maybe that was me getting over him to some extent? its hard wanting dreams.
Thank you for sharing. Time heals be patient Let any memory, thought photos mutual friends revisit...Later - tomorrow, next week, next month when you are stronger, let him be a lesson and a memory,
I think processing it is the hardest part and takes the longest time.
this video is titled “How” to process a break up but its actually just talking about what a break up is.
Deserve paradise
Moving to new city also/ across us
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Need …have 2 things / break up/ angry grand going be incarcerated will have take great 2 yr old hearts breaking
Obssesed She Was
Get a life
Move On
Pray
Gratitude
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Don't agree, I've lost both my parents & can never see, speak or spend time with them ever again. Break up they are still alive some people even get back together or you may just see them somewhere or hear something about them. Life goes on for both of you. If they are dead you have to try to live knowing they are not & you will never have anything with them again.
This video is only 22 mins long