Hoarder With More Than 3 Tons Of Clutter Refuses To Let Anything Go | Call The Cleaners
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- Опубликовано: 15 июн 2020
- Besides hoarding, this man is also addicted to "buy one, get one free" promotions. When the cleaners come over, he refuses to let anything go.
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Who just found this series recently and is hooked!
😂 😂 😂 Me over here
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Just found it today and been binge watching this for 5 hrs now😂😂😂
It concerns me that with more space he'll be motivated to find some more clutter to fill it
Definitely
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That's EXACTLY what's going to happen. He's not dealing with the process of letting it go. My rule is: if I haven't touched it in 18 months it needs to go.
He should mix in a little Marie kondo method in his process, you give gratitude to the things that no longer serve you and you save what brings you real joy
Or maybe this is the start of something that helps him cope with it. He knows why he's doing it but letting go is hard for him. At least there is some space now.
Imagine being in a position in your life where a Pringles tube with a spring in it has a place in your life........
Ahahahha thank you. I just did.... LOL
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I laughed, but then realised how very sad it is to be in such a place mentally. It must be exhausting. Poor guy. I hope he gets proper help.
I think they should have offered to take it to a charity shop. He sounds like he would have felt more comfortable letting more things go if he knew they still had a use and weren't just being thrown out.
Yeah, I wouldn't wanna throw all those unopened packages of newly bought stuff in a skip either, knowing it's just going to end up in a landfill somewhere.
I feel that watching all these kind of shows, it hurts me.
Exactly what I was thinking. Take to charity. He seems ok giving away to others
exactly. Hes ok with giving things away. Infact- he loves giving to the needy. But its the fact of throwing away something that someone else could use that hurts him. That pringles can? it can be used to surprize a child on christmas day. And he rather have that then just throwing it away like some empty chip bag
I thought they would do so!
It’s so sad he couldn’t give up more of the clutter. You girls did a marvelous job with what he was willing to let you do.
He should donate to charity if he's always gonna give items away.
Yes, maybe he would give
it, away. But it just might be just words.
It's a common excuse among hoarders
He clearly doesn’t give anything away. If he did he wouldn’t be sat on it for ages, he’d buy and then give away.
That's his excuse, he never gives anything away !! Ughhh!!!!!!!!!!
Yes all of the items is still new. It makes no sense to throw it all away
I'm a hoarder myself and watching videos like this helps me to see hoarding for what it is. It's deep rooted in an anxiety and for any hoarder it can be caused by anything. If you're a hoarder too I'd recommend starting with the insignificant things you can manage to get rid of (I did very old receipts) and take a photo of the pile of stuff as a reminder of your progress so it doesn't feel like things will never improve. At the end this guy was feeling hopeful and not trapped/control of his life. It's that catalyst that can make a slow and steady improvement for most hoarders. There needs to be a light at the end of the tunnel! 🙂
I couldn't understand why my mum was a hoarder. It wasn't until I was in my 30's when relatives visited us from England to Australia that I found out for the first time that my mum grew up in a government home. She explained to me that she never had any possessions.
My dear, know that I am very proud of you recognising the problem and dealing with it. I hope you manage to get rid of your hoarding. Sending love from Serbia. Ps. My dad was a hoarder I am still cleaning after him..
@Molly McCullagh going really well actually! I no longer have excessive amounts of everything. I do regular clear outs of everything. So like once a week I see if there's anything in my wardrobe that's no longer wanted/being worn. I repair the clothes that had holes so I no longer buy something similar but then hang on to the broken one.
Talking to friends might seem like a good idea but in my opinion it's very hard for others to understand and not sound judgemental when they give advice.
I've had years of on/off different types of therapy to get where I am now. That's because I'm (late diagnosed) neurodivergent and have experienced trauma throughout life that I've not known how to cope with. Hoarding is like trying to keep in control of your possessions and your life.
Finding my true identity/style/self etc has helped me learn what's really me and what's trauma related so I can remove things from my life easier.
I also started being unashamed about declaring I'm a hoarder because the biggest issue is feeling shame. It consumes you and when you walk into the room(s) which holds your hoarding it's like your brain tries to shut it out to cope with the shame and overwhelming feelings. If you remove the shame and tackle little corners or boxes it becomes less overwhelming and more like there's hope to this mental trap.
Advice to anyone who hoards: never try to tackle a whole room in one go. Concentrate on areas until there's some sort of organisation to be able to tidy a room as a whole. The goal is to push through the overwhelming feelings but not so much that you can't handle it. Plan breaks with timers so you get back to it and you can relax whilst that timer hasn't gone off. Good luck guys 😌
@Molly McCullagh if anything I'm becoming a bit of a minimalist! 😂😂
Thanks for sharing your story! In the mental healthcare system there’s a movement to train folks with lived experience with mental illness to be peer mentors to people who are struggling. I am struck by just how helpful that might be to some hoarders - having someone who has been there and found ways to declutter and change old patterns of behavior who can empathize and share what worked for them. Maybe you could write a book about your journey - that might help both hoarders and those who love them. You are absolutely right about eliminating shame, too.
I see something in this man that I used to see in my mother: she bought things for a life she wanted to live 'one day.' She always had plans for things that reflected a life and a lifestyle that she did not have and would never be likely to have. I remember when she and my father were building a house to retire to. My father wanted high-quality building but small rooms because his attitude was the two of them wouldn't need much space. My mother said something like, 'I want a proper entry hall, not a door that opens into the living room'. My father was OK with that. But then she said it needed to be six to eight feet wide, 'to take care of overflow from parties.' I got mental whiplash on that one: my parents had probably not had a party in their house in 30 years, even then it would have been a backyard party for a kid's birthday. They didn't have any friends. Only once in my lifetime do I remember them having guests over who were not family members. Only family could cope with the piles of stuff everywhere and the filth of the kitchen and bathroom.
It's the life she always wanted to have but her mental health issues were such that she never made the smallest step in that direction. Just dreamed about it and bought tons of stuff that would one day be useful in her fantasy future. One of her grand-daughters is very similar. It scares me. I always feel like I'm pulling against the tide of my mother by keeping my place very clean and not buying anything I can't definitely use or don't need in the flat and the life I'm living right now. I dream of having my own house and a garden one day, but I don't want to buy a lot of things based on dreams of the life I'd like to have one day but which may never happen. If my situation changes and I'm able to afford to buy my own place, I trust that I'll also be able to buy the things I need to live in that house with the lifestyle I have then.
I hope you get to live your own lifestyle that you want without having to worry about it all the time.
I think with the attitude you have and understanding of the situation from all sides, your home will be wonderful even if it isn't mansion sized. I also had come from a family of hoarders and there are times I even find myself hanging on to silly things but at the end of the day I toss them. I like being able to see my walls and baseboards. Its difficult to reason with those who don't want to get rid of anything (the party comment to me hit home cuz of my aunt, basically same situation). Best of luck to you! You have a good head on!
The fact is everyone does that to an extent. I met a phone salesperson and he was taught (sales/marketing) that young people by a phone for a person ten years older and older people buy a phone for a person ten years younger, because mentally that's the ideal version of themselves.
Just because someone doesn't have belongings doesn't mean they care not exactly the same. They might aspire to things through friends or films or music.
Also, perhaps it didn't happen in your case but a lot of people retire and live very differently (even moving to different countries) to when they worked. And a house is always going to be more messy with kids than without.
I'm living alone in a 70 m2 flat and had everything furnished for 4 persons in case I have visitors. A big sofa for 4 persons in front of a big TV, a dinning table with 4 chairs. A big table with 4 chairs on the balcony. After 7 years of not having a single visitor I removed everything and only kept what I need for one person. I now have everything I need in my 16 m2 bedroom and don't even use the big living room anymore. I also prepared for a life that I don't have. Realising that, it now feels amazing after getting rid of all that unnecessary stuff.
Only thing is, if he gives something to charity, he won't have it to give away.
Poor guy he’s got a real problem
no he dont
Super
@ hoarding massively is a problem, bb. look it up it you want to learn more
@ Hoarding is a sickness, search it up.
@@ultraviolet9677 "Hoarding is a sickness" no it's not...he is unfit to society, so that things drove his thoughts from loneliness, giving his life meaning..
This guy is making me nervous
There's an episode of Hoarders where a lady gets so upset after her relative tosses a rock. A plain common rock. She yells something about having a plan for that rock. Meanwhile her entire house is full of stuff. Sometimes watching just gets frustrating.
They should organize some sort of charity day, where he can share his stuff with people who have it less than him. Maybe that will help him
That was actually brilliant. Yvonne and Angela quickly shifted to using the time to give John what he actually wanted, rather than what he (and they) initially thought he wanted. By accepting him just as he was and rearranging his things instead of chucking them, he was ecstatic. Bringing his stuff under control also gave him a springboard from which to continue the process in his own time, which he did.
He needs therapy and in the meantime he needs someone else to control his funds.
Wow that's patronising..
@@pigeonlove I said what I said.
@@pigeonlove yeah but is she wrong though. This man needs serious psychiatric help to curb his hoarding
My grandma has the same mental health problem she won't let us throw the things that doesn't need anymore.
God bless her
Does it need to be thrown? Can you ask her to give to someone who will give the things a good home or even sell the things. Or even ask her to put it in a storage container
Never mind your grandma. My husband is 33 and he's terrible, it takes weeks of constant nagging to get him to part with anything.
Well I'm sure you wouldn't like it if she decided what things of yours should be thrown! Pretty sure she'd think all your stuff was rubbish!
It's really a gift to be able to understand people and their issues in a way in which you can make them happy and also help them without imposing your will onto them..
Wisdom put into words, thank you Emi
This poor man needs therapy. He knows where his mindset is stuck and he just needs someone to work through it with him.
@BATMANS VIDEO CAVE I, TOO, LIKE TO YELL IN ALL CAPS. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
@BATMANS VIDEO CAVE WISH I WAS A SINGLE MUM, AT LEAST I WOULD HAVE SOMEONE TO LOVE ME. HELP ME I AM SO LONELY. WON'T ANYONE TELL ME THE TIME. WHAT TIME IS IT? DO YOU KNOW THE TIME? WHERE AM I? WHERE ARE WE?
@BATMANS VIDEO CAVE sounds like you need therapy. Are you ok bro? Having daddy/mummy issues is nothing to be ashamed of, you know.
CAN I JOIN IN THIS YELLING CLUB I SEE YOU HAVE FORMED
He needs professional, to realize him. His truly a hoarder.
So impressed at how they handled that.
My dad is like this. He will go through every garbage bag and insist everything is worth keeping.
And each bag would mysteriously catch fire when no one is looking. Lol that would drive me MAD and make me nervous something would happen to his health. He'd be livid but o well.
You know, I think it's great when people can recycle things into something new. IF there really do it. I can't stand holding on to something that has no workable purpose. I try and go throw my thing 2× year. But if everyone was the same what a boring world this would be😶
It’s so sad and frustrating it’s such a prison!! Ball and chain for sure oxo
My dad is the opposite when i was younger he put all my teddy bears into a bin bag :)
Watching this makes me realise that my husband will become sort of if not already a hoarder. He has a tendency to not let anything go. I just throw empty bottles n jars in dustbin n donate or even throw away lot of clothing without telling him . When I got married ,it was n arranged marriage , the flat he was was living in had so many huge cartons simply to store things. I threw them , I keep throwing . We live on 4th floor n there is not elevator ,so it's difficult for me to get rid of most of the stuff by myself .
Love these ladies. Happy, no matter how frustrating the case may be.
Sadly, Johns home will most likely become just as bad as it was , in no time. What he really needs is a therapist to help him with his hoarding issues.
I hope he gets the help he needs.
These ladies are so patient.
He seems very proud of his hoarding and shopping habits 😂
"Such a useful thing to have." 1:04 especially when they remain in their packaging :D
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Disappointing, it really is.
Now he's just got a hell of alot more room to buy and store more crap. It will be exactly the way it was before too long, I'd bet. If not worse.
At least he is trying
Hoarding is a disorder
1:51 his cat looks like it needs a good can of sardines
💀💀☠️☠️rip
He couldn't even let go of one can of sardines to save the cat's life
Big ups to the camera man xD
Haha
If you can donate all of your items to charity or sell it. Throwing away good and near new items just makes the land fill are cluttered thus killing our environment
Yeah, I think he would have been a lot more receptive to donating or selling his items then throwing them in the skip.
Don't visit the developing world, they do not recycle at all in most countries.
I love how they don't upset and push people and be sneak throwing things away like the 2 hoarders shows I watch. They are very welcome in homes. They do the job well and accomplish a victory that is right for the home owner. 👏
When you are that stuck and trapped by your own belongings, it multiplies the horrible anxiety you feel and causes worse depression and that makes it harder to get the energy to clean any of it up until it feels like the biggest task on the planet. Those 2 wonderful women have completely made an IMMENSE difference in that man's life.
Do they give these people the mental help for their obsessive compulsive disorder in the UK?
no
@Kai Evans Yes, it has downsides. Just like everything else in life.
@@danielleroseshaw Not sure how things developed in the U.K., but in the U.S. some people used to abuse the system and have family falsely committed. The laws were changed to stop the abuse, but now it's very hard to get people help they need for same reason you state - If they say they're fine or refuse meds there is no way to force them to get help.
A person has to be at a point where he recognizes he needs help AND is willing to accept it. And even if they’ve gotten to that point, it doesn’t mean it’s a simple fix. There’s still a long and challenging journey ahead.
@@404killer yes they do there is plenty of services available if they're willing to help themselves
When she looked at the camera when he said he was gonna put a plastic crocodile in the aquarium😂😂😂😂
I think some of these people might get a lot of joy putting a selection of things out on a table with a sign saying 'Free.' Then just watch the delight on the faces of kids picking up toys or people excitedly taking away an item they really need but can't afford. Seeing your stuff go to people who will really appreciate it is fun.
I've downsized a couple of times and while it was hard work (I'm not a hoarder!) to go through everything, giving away my art supplies to a charity for children, giving away teaching materials and games and puzzles and so on to my students and colleagues, passing on books I will never read twice to people who will read them once (and be happy to pass on to someone else) - it made the whole process of moving to a much smaller space somewhat joyful. Five years later, I do regret giving away certain teaching materials which I had on a pen drive (so I didn't need hard copies) because the pen drive got destroyed and now I've lost materials that I spent more than twenty years refining and perfecting with the idea of publishing them to help pay for my retirement (teacher's pension is nothing in my country). But, for the most part, I don't regret or miss anything I gave away.
Something seems to have clicked for him. Seeing what they've done, he could well continue to get rid of more stuff. He has hope.
Great, you made him want to clean and be mire organized. And even decorator of his home. Verry hard push in a positive way. Bravo!
3:38
Important detail there; *Somebody* will be pleased with it. He's willing to let go, but not in the bin! Common occurrence and absolutely great that he feels this way!
They should make a few piles:
1. throwaway forever
2. Selling because it's worth a lot
3. Giving away to charity
4. Keeping because of emotional sentiment
5. Practical items (re-buy if broken or lost.)
they're so patient!!!
I admire how all the professional cleaners are very respectful and treat each client with grace, dignity and compassion..... it's so beautiful to watch!
If he couldn't let go of the items will he be able to give it to someone that needs it? I don't think so.
Everyone it's different, but alot of hoarders find it helpful if they know the chucked stuff is going somewhere worthwhile
This is never gonna stop living like that if he don't let those ladies do their job!
I would of left
Nice to see that his bathtub and sink are already clean , there does not seem to be a lot of dust, there seems to be hope for him.
I’m actually very proud of these sisters. They helped him as much as they could, even though it wasn’t what they had in mind. I can imagine others just giving up on him altogether since he didn’t cooperate. But it was the kind of help he could actually appreciate. May God bless those sisters and give that man wisdom how to keep tidy and not be so attached to fleeting materialistic stuff.
Sounds and looks to me like you have gotten him motivated to continue what you started. Good works ladies!
Needs therapy poor bugger
My father is just like him.
I cleaned up his house and made some room to live comfortably.
After a while, he buys more stuff and lives in huge piles of mess...
Repeats
British hoarding shows are so much more light-hearted. And funny.
Severe problem , God bless him
Fantastic work ladies
I just found this series and I am really hooked
Yah but now they made room for him to move around he can now buy more stuff and full it up again that's how hoarders work
Yup they're fucking ridiculous. They fill things to the point they cant even sleep in their house.
They have so much patience. I’m getting frustrated watching this, let alone being the one to clean this man’s place! Amazing people and I hope John doesn’t end up in the same predicament after such hard work.
Kuddos to them for not getting frustrated and adapting their methods, even if it means more clutter ☺️
Very patient
U ladies r angels God bless u 😍
Bless 🙌 him xxx
Everything should be sorted in a warehouse, in the meantime the house can be cleaned, repaired, (do not forget the pest control) and set up! He can choose what to go back and what can be sold, donated, or skipped! He could make a some money with a yard sales!
Yvonne: “it was a bargain 🤦🏼♀️”
🤣😂
I wonder how long it was before the house was right back to the way it was when we first saw it? It's sad that this man's actual problems weren't addressed. But well done those two fantastic ladies for doing what they could.
My rule on my items is...if i haven't touch the belongings for a year and it doesn't bring me happiness...get rid of it
Yes, ist a big Step! And we wish him more steps to a better life white fresh air in the house🏡
Ladies I commend you for doing an amazing job! Your hearts are in the right place. I can’t help but think if you had someone to deal with his mental health issues you might get further
I love your expressions!
He should put out everything on market place but probably won't
John needs very serious and quick psychiatric care to prevent him regressing into a state of complete mayhem again. Perhaps offering to take the things to a church donation or a charity shop or put them in boxes to give away for Christmas would've been helpful too.
poor guy, amazing women
I love that they recognised he has a problem they can't solve, but still did so much to give him the best help they could.. many tv shows improvise a psychological help they are not qualified to give just to make it look like they fixed everything and do more harm than good..
I like this series!!
Seven sets of Christmas lights!
i love cleaning and im just 11 years old and i found this series today and i have been watching them all day :)!
I wouldn’t help him my patience would be gone😡😷
The curious thing about his house is that it seems much cleaner than most hoarders' houses. Not everything is covered in dust, and his bathtub and sink seem clean. It's as if he just acquired this stuff within the last few months or year, not years ago, as is the case with so many hoarders.
My granddad has a problem with hoarding. If you go to his house and say you need something, guarantee he'd say "I've got one of those!". Luckily my dad and uncle keep it under control. But there was a time you'd walk into his house and not be able to sit for all the stuff on his sofa. Stuff he bought from carboot sales. It's sad, but it's a coping mechanism. I live alone and when I feel depressed I go out and shop for food I may never actually eat. It's probably much the same. He's sad since my Nan died - he copes by buying things. You can't really judge anyone until you know the psychology behind it.
This job would make me so frustrated . I understand they've grown attached to these things , but don't call someone to help if you're not willing to work with them .
Hire me... ☺️
I can do the job too 😂
I like cleaning and transforming places to something very pleasing where one can think...well
"That's got a place in my life" - 4:18
And now you have a better place to live in your life. :)
This is a very challenging one!
I couldn’t bare with him! These ladies are Saints
He has such a keen eye for bargains!
At 1:50....Did you see what was inside the animal carrier....lololololol... I said WTH....hahaha
I found this and I’m addicted lol this is my fav one I don’t even like cleaning 🧼
I don't understand why some peoples don't throw their garbe out WHY???
Because they don’t see it as rubbish x
Because it might be garbage to you, but it’s not to them.
So sad :/
I understand the way he cant let go those stuffs, me myself is having a hardtime too. But atleast thenladies is very considerate and been kind
Sad. hope he has been inspired and keeps working on it. Within 6 months it could be back to what it was
It’s so hard I have an elderly friend and I have given up trying to sort space as he won’t let me throw anything out. We unburied his table two weeks later it was buried again. I don’t know what the answer is but I do know you can’t force them they get so protective over the weirdest things
The guy below me is lying
“This guy is making me nervous” was the comment below u, i wanna see how far this goes
"My grandma has the same mental health problem she won't let us throw the things that doesn't need anymore." is the comment below for me 😂
"I don't understand why some peoples don't throw their garbe out WHY???" is comment bellow for me 😂
@@ChantiqoArk Same here
@@ibaliderpface421 Same as me
Such a crazy man.
I think that he has a chance at success!!! Yes, he has issues and could benefit from professional help to get to the root of his problem, as well as, professional assistance with clearing as much as possible. But...I saw life in his eyes at the end. When I saw him go outside and clean the windows...at that point I believe the lightbulb went on for him. It'll take time, patience and energy but he CAN do it.
Idk
But at least
He is started to reduce and learn something
My mom never wanted to get rid of anything either.
This guy is my husband! Sadly, he passed away a year ago. Still trying to get to the bottom of it all.
sorry for your loss
‘ he has lived alone all of his life’ sure your definitely his wife
It makes me made to see how he doesn’t want to throw anything. He wanted to keep a HALF BROKEN lamp?! Wth lmao 🤣
Luv from 🇮🇳India
3:09 this is how we failed today. LOL 😂
“It’s only broken on one side.” Sad 😔
It isn't a bargain if it sits in an indoor dump pile unable to ever be used. When he dies it will all be discarded. Too bad he can't live out his days in comfort and cleanliness.
John just happy he has more space for his new holding Chronicles.
My mom & I used to go hungry for days eating only cheese with crackers. I used to beg my dad to buy groceries but his excuse was that he had no money, which is bs cuz he builds houses. So now that I can get food I eat alot replacing the food I never ate. That's what I think 😒
I was also in a neglect situation with no consistent access to food as a child (for my first 4 years of my life I was malnourished). As an adult...to be honest even before then I've had a real struggle with food and binge eating. I do get trauma counseling but my food issues have never just gone away. So I can very much relate to your comment.
Try stocking a bit an looking at it first thing in the morning...it sends the message to the brain there is food...always carry sm packeted snack in your bag...it comforts the same way...
Same issue as a child very cheap food, lots old bread and hot dogs, cheap can foods. Now as an Adult my mind set is keeping at stocked refrigerator and cupboard filled with good food, lots of fruit and vegetables, Fish and lean meat. I keep an inventory so nothing goes to waste.
Oh my...
People like this are so beyond frustrating!! I couldn't do this job, these cleaners are real life angels!! I'd be a serial ..... lol
I think about 96% of the people who have watched this video have a cleaning addiction because so.how I find this video satisfying lol
I am sure he could let go of many things if they were donated to a charity organisation. This is not a waste and honours his mindset.