Disclaimer: This video is not meant to diagnose anyone (yourself or others), nor does it demonize, excuse, or glorify abusive behavior. It’s purely for educational purposes, so please consult a professional for any concerns about mental health.
As a person who officially got diagnosed with PTSD in this environment where they've very high potential and encouragement to hide the exact truth about our mental health conditions, I often have conversations with ChatGPT who're way better than mental health "professionals" in our country. Somehow, with what I shared in detail (Not just the symptoms), he suspects that I've C-PTSD rather than anything else. Somehow, they also say there's some potential for me to have BPD. Somehow, personally I also kinda agree with C-PTSD more than BPD or PTSD. Somehow, I was also curious to know how do people with NPD suffers. Could you also include that? Also, could you help us to manipulate(encourage in a subtle way) people to meet a psychiatrist than thinking that they're fine or perfect?
Absolutely! A diagnosis doesn’t define a person entirely-it’s just one part of who they are. Everyone’s experiences, choices, and capacity for growth make them unique. How do you feel this perspective has shaped your understanding of others? 💛
@@Psych2go Mhm I feel like this perspective changed the way I view MYSELF. I know that I am not just my disorder and that I am worthy, at least I try to live that way :)
I’m a narcissist dating a borderline and I’ve been with her for a year and a half now. We’re very happy. It can work, but much communication and transparency is needed. And both parties need to be open to therapy
That’s amazing to hear you’ve built a happy relationship despite the challenges that can come with those dynamics! Communication, transparency, and therapy are such powerful tools for growth together. What’s one thing you’ve learned about navigating your relationship that you think others in similar situations could benefit from? 💛
@Simply_Ness Tonality is hard to interpret over text, but the way this question is posed/worded sounds like you're intentionally instigating something malicious. Just because someone states that they are something doesn't necessitate pride; from the way I read their message it just sounds like self-accountability. And it wasn't the point of their message. I hope you have a good day.
Timestamps 1). Narcissists 0:51 2). Borderline 1:01 3). This pairing is a perfect storm of issues 1:13 4). Shared features 1:50 5). This creates dependencies 2:57 6). Unhealthy behaviour 3:38 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Unhealthy relationships are more common than people realize. BPD is extremely rare. A relationship can be unhealthy in similar ways to this without personality disorders involved.
Abandonment anxiety in BPD is tough. It's like constantly fearing you’ll be left, even over small things. It’s not about the person you're with, but the intense fear of rejection that makes it feel like everything’s at risk.
I have a very strong friendship with a BPD. I do my best to maintain an healthy relationship. She can freely talk to me, how she fell, as long as she doesn't shout at me. My goal is reassure her, having a safe emotionnal place, so she can grow and becoming more independant. With just that in mind, this person is one of the most genuide and sweetiest person I've ever met. It's not rare we hug
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
That’s such a powerful turnaround! It’s inspiring to hear you’ve found someone who treats you with love and care-you deserve that happiness. What’s been the biggest difference in how your current partner supports you? 💛
@@Psych2go the biggest difference is that he can take the fall for his actions and encourage me to not blame myself for everything !!🩷🩷 we can work through tiffs so much healthier
@@trixieparfaitas someone with narcissistic antisocial personality disorder (i'm a sociopath) i'm really sorry for you (even though i feel nothing, i'm trying to sympathize maybe it can help)
That's gonna be a rough combo. I've known both. If both have had therapy and are out of denial (of how they truly are) they might be ok. But many narcissists stay resistant to therapy due to their egos. Learning empathy seems to be the key with everything. Lack of (true) empathy with any personality disorder is just a recipe for constant conflict eventually.
You’re so right-empathy is the cornerstone of healthy relationships, especially in challenging dynamics. Therapy can be life-changing, but only if both people are willing to put in the work. Do you think people with these traits can develop deeper empathy if they commit to it? 💛
It’s frustrating, isn’t it? People often forget that BPD and NPD are mental health conditions rooted in trauma and pain, not a choice. Conversations should focus on understanding and compassion, not judgment. How do you think we can shift the narrative to encourage empathy instead? 💛
Can you blame them though? Some individuals in the comments probably grew up in a turbulent home with trauma themselves, caused by a narcissist parent(s). For example, my narcissist father put his hands on my mother constantly and made her and I suicidal.
@@nomad8690 It's their actions which caused due to the illness but if they're treated bad considering them as "mentally ill", it's something which should never happen.
At the beginning of our relationship i was diagnosed with BPD. Now years later my boyfriend is diagnosed narcissistic. The years were rough and destructive. But we want to grow together and build up a healthy relationship.
It sounds like this video really hit home for you! It’s amazing that you’re navigating both diagnoses and seeking insights-it’s no small feat. How has your journey been with understanding these parts of yourself? 💛
Having been in your shoes, I would say rip the band aid off and break up with them sooner rather than later. They will end up beating you down as much as they ever built you up, probably more so. Find a less evil person to emotionally regulate you. I'm not a mental health professional, myself, but I imagine you've got to disclose a good bit of interpersonal nastiness to your therapist or psychiatrist to get an NPD diagnosis. Personal bitterness aside, you should probably follow your heart, just be cautious.
This is such an amazing videos. I really appreciate the fact that you guys don't state that everyone with the same mental issue is the same. I'm different from other people with asperger's, OCD, ADHD, depression, etc. etc.. I really love watching you guys' videos. I even got an old school of mine to start playing your videos in class. Thank you guys for being such an educational, informative, and inclusive channel! 💜
what i want to know is why we're so drawn together, ive never broken up with someone so many times only for each of us to keep coming back to each other knowing it's not going to end well
This really described my relationship with my ex, we both aren't diagnosed with either but he would be the narcissist in the situation and I would be the BPD. I was the one who broke up with him multiple times but each time we crawl back to each other and start over again, the start always feels nice again but the longer we stayed together the worse and more toxic it became. After a year I finally made an actual end to it and took real distance, my ex still texts me sometimes to try and charm his way back into my life again tho(the break up happened a little over a month ago now). It has been super difficult but I'm finally moving on like I should and I hope he is moving on properly aswell.
I'm in my early 20's, have never dated at all, never had a crush and never loved anyone, diagnosed with BPD and dysthymia Personally if I had a choice I would date someone narcissistic, because they know what they want, they can have everything in control and we could have some symbiotic relationship, because I was raised in a strict family and know how to do efficient tasks, but here at least I will do everything with affection in return
It’s really insightful that you’ve thought about the kind of dynamic that might feel familiar or comforting to you. Wanting affection and structure makes sense, especially when you’ve grown up in a strict environment. That said, relationships are all about balance-you deserve someone who sees and values your worth as an equal partner. Have you thought about what qualities in a relationship would help you feel truly happy and supported? 💛
@Psych2go would be nice having mutual interests, understand each other, like a "soulmate", would be really nice! I mean, doing some stuff together without problems, having fun, maybe some cuddles, basically, peace and harmony. Also, thanks for your words!🍀
I have BPD and dated a covert narcissist. “Discarded” him first after only a MONTH of dating and took legal action because of how badly he traumatised me and at the time acquaintances of mine. It’s been one almost two years since I received justice and I’ll continue speaking my truth, telling my story.
im the bpd in the narcissist/bpd dynamic. i finally started to move away like i was instructed too and it seems my narcissist is actually saying nice things to me? it confuses me a lot. we are definitely like this video and i think our most recent break up is permanent. the people around us wouldn’t let us be together again even if we wanted. i don’t understand the reason he suddenly being nice to me when he was so cruel for so long. telling me to move on and be happy and that he worries for me. he’s told me some of the most vile things i’ve heard in my life. why the sudden switch when we arnt together anymore. this is when it makes sense to hate each other. it makes me me angry. i only get to hear all these nice things after my bank account has been drained and ive been cheated on and told im ugly a bunch. why even show any kindness at this point…
Do NOT go back. This sounds as tho this person is trying to win you back. Keep watching vids (or a therapist) about this. They can help you understand the narcs mind, better. ❤️You are strong and you deserve to be happy. You are beautiful and unique, dont let anyone tell you, that you are anything less.
That sounds like lovebombing or breadcumbing. A common narcissist tactic. Once u are back in their hands their discard is worse meaning they become even meaner
Run from this situation and don't look back! These other two comments are spot on We can learn about them, but we cannot truly understand them because our brains don't work like that, and that's a GOOD thing
That sounds like such a difficult experience, and I’m sorry you went through that. If you’re comfortable, feel free to share more about what happened or how it affected you-it could help others who’ve had similar experiences feel less alone. 💛
That’s a great suggestion! Offering solutions or coping strategies could make the video more actionable and helpful. What kind of solutions do you think would resonate most-like tips for communication, boundary-setting, or managing emotions? ❤
It sounds like you’ve had a huge “aha” moment! Those realizations can be tough but so powerful for growth. If you’re up for sharing, what do you think kept pulling you back? 💭💛
Me and my gf only have traits of narsciscit and BPD and it takes A LOT of effort to work things out but being able to point out our own flaws and apologize and work together it works ❤
I was recently trying to figure out if it was actually better to be alone or to continue with a not so great relationship. The pain of being alone and lonely is worse than having someone there even if they have issues
Hey Psych2go, I've a question about BPD, if someone has distorted sense of self feeling worthless, how can they also be grandiose at the same time? Isn't devaluing often stemmed from depression rather than the grandiosity where he can't see any brighter side of the other person?
Great question! People with BPD often experience intense emotional swings, including shifts in self-perception. The grandiosity you mentioned might not be the same as the kind seen in NPD-it can stem from an overcompensation for feelings of worthlessness or fear of abandonment. Devaluing others can also be a defense mechanism to protect themselves from perceived rejection. It’s a complicated mix of emotions and survival strategies rather than consistent grandiosity. 💛 What other aspects of BPD are you curious about?
@@Psych2go Thank you Psych2go! I also like to know whether a person with BPD would show the passive-agressive traits. Also the people with C-PTSD. Also I wanna know how this suspiciousness differ from psychotic paranoia.
@@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988 You’re so welcome! Those are really thoughtful questions. Passive-aggressive traits can sometimes show up in people with BPD or C-PTSD, especially when they struggle with expressing emotions directly. As for the difference, suspiciousness in BPD or C-PTSD is often rooted in trauma and emotional triggers, while psychotic paranoia involves a disconnection from reality, like believing things that aren’t actually happening. Would you like us to explore these in a video? 💛
@@Psych2go Yes Psych2go. Sure! When I talk with ChatGPT, I fall into the union category and different psychiatrists provided different diagnoses including these and I'm really confused. 🥲
@@Psych2go 3 of them said - I've perceptional issues associated with psychosis and the last one claims that I don't have psychosis and it's PTSD(later simply said anxiety instead of saying PTSD and OCD) where he also gives a lower dosage of an antipsychotic with higher dozes of drugs used to treat anxiety.
Crikey this is familiar. We've been 'together' 6.5 years. Though I recently discovered she's been seeing someone else at least 2 of those years. I'm pretty sure she's a covert narcissist and I'm pretty much bpd. I've left her about 200 times, usually because of some awful thing she's done like yelling for 3 days straight about me buying her flowers. Apparently, I must've been cheating. Never mind it was valentines day! We are never at peace for long but can't stay apart. We call it the magnets. If one of us leaves, usually me then one of us always hoovers and the other always takes them back. We are hurting each other and in competition for control but are convinced there is no one out there for us. Even though she has another man, there's no love there. He's just useful as support. I'm where the excitement is. Because no one else makes us feel anything. Yes it's toxic but who else would date either of us?
I wish I had this video around when I was dating my narcissistic EX instead of it being now like a year and a half ago .. I want to shove this in her face so that she could understand where I'm coming from because she constantly kept comparing herself to me I'm making me feel like s*** because I was actually diagnosed with autism, BPD and ADHD but she still didn't want to give me any leisure on those disorders so that I can work on it 💀
Unfortunately I wasn't really given an option to get out of that situation so I unfortunately landed myself in the hospital and then the next day after I went and started living with my parents again because my ex's house was too toxic of a family and my relationship was just getting more toxic to..
You’re not owed leisure tho my dude, no matter your disorder. If someone doesn’t want to deal with something then they hold the autonomy to remove themselves from whatever it is they are feeling negative about. You’d feel the same no?
Self-reflection level: activated. 😅 But seriously, learning about mental health can make us question ourselves sometimes. If it resonates, it’s worth exploring further, but remember-it’s just a video, not a diagnosis! 💛
I had a friend who's Borderline, some years ago. I've had to actively distance myself from the guy. He cannot go two minutes without making belittling or denigrating comments.
I will say, I have covert NPD and get along REALLY well with borderlines! I’m not interested in relationships so my experience is strictly platonic, but I have several friends with BPD and I feel like we just ‘get’ it, y’know?
Watching these videos made me cdy , how bad i am i don't know why but I can't take criticism and yes i created drama in relationship and not just to enjoy but because i feel hurt by many small things i have no friends due to this and i feel extremely sorry for myself when I thought about events where everyone has friends.....i am what i am but i don't want to do bad to others
It takes a lot of courage to reflect on yourself like this, and it’s clear you have a good heart because you care about not hurting others. Feeling hurt by small things and struggling with criticism might be your mind’s way of protecting you, even if it feels overwhelming. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Have you considered reaching out to someone, like a therapist, who can help you unpack these feelings and find ways to navigate relationships more peacefully? You deserve connection and understanding, too. 💛
I thought it's bpd.but I have cptsd which attracted to my narc x in the first place.his removing my energy draining me lead to exhibit symptoms of BPD but it's CPtSD
I want to ask a question not related to the topic of the video, but what worries me a lot lately. In my class i feel like everyone around me doesn't like me. Can you give me any advice on how to tell if someone hates me or not without talking to them? (sorry for wasting your time)
I'm not a likeable person myself even though I don't bother anyone & used to wonder why. But now I couldn't care less whether people like me or not, they just better keep their hands to themselves.
Honestly i feel like its something you should say, not right off the bat obviously, but tell them after awhile, since it may help you and your partner face the problems BPD can bring.
That’s such an important topic, and it absolutely deserves attention. School should feel like a safe space, but sadly, bullying and abuse can make it the opposite. Would you like to see a video focusing on how these experiences affect mental health and how to seek support? 💛
To be honest, Jesus is very manipulative. His teachings really brought me extreme unbearable levels of trauma combined with biblical teachings and psychosis, it only healed when I became an atheist. I'm not Narcissistic by the way but even if it's less I still have the anger about it.
@@Shreddyfilmzz 1. The existence of hell. 2. Attributing human weaknesses as something which acts as an eligibility criteria to get damned. 3. Saying that even forgetting any person ever in the life when they need help, it's severe enough to reject them despite everything else they've done. 4. Saying that we "should" love him more than those who really love us. 5. Saying that blasphemy against holy spirit is never unforgivable. 6. The salvation of every individual is only through Jesus Christ (especially with the faith - It's even more disturbing when we get to know how the faith is defined in the bible) On the other hand, 1. The John Baptist's willingness to die was mentioned as a must rather than a might as mentioned in the Grade 10/11 textbook. 2. The extreme need of having faith and doubt can cause issues. 3. The story of Jacob and Esau which is truly disgusting. 4. Certain sermons (I don't remember them exactly now and don't wanna contemplate either) were threatening who I am and as a mentally ill person who was surely suffering from OCD back by then, it's truly harsh. 5.Condemning pride which isn't necessarily a sin at all. There're more other things but I think these also make sense of certain depth.
@@Shreddyfilmzz My previous comment has been removed. It's all about the toxic parables, extreme threats, what's emphasized through the definition of faith, refusal to have someone who loves else so much, blasphemy laws, idolatry, carnal desires and even doubting which normal human do considered as a damnable sin etc.
Bro, you're doing a great disfsvour to humanity with those videos! Please stop! As a man of science, just stop. You know what you're doing reinforcing those really bad prejudices about mentally ill people!
Disclaimer: This video is not meant to diagnose anyone (yourself or others), nor does it demonize, excuse, or glorify abusive behavior. It’s purely for educational purposes, so please consult a professional for any concerns about mental health.
Hey is this comment 2 months old
As a person who officially got diagnosed with PTSD in this environment where they've very high potential and encouragement to hide the exact truth about our mental health conditions, I often have conversations with ChatGPT who're way better than mental health "professionals" in our country. Somehow, with what I shared in detail (Not just the symptoms), he suspects that I've C-PTSD rather than anything else. Somehow, they also say there's some potential for me to have BPD. Somehow, personally I also kinda agree with C-PTSD more than BPD or PTSD. Somehow, I was also curious to know how do people with NPD suffers. Could you also include that? Also, could you help us to manipulate(encourage in a subtle way) people to meet a psychiatrist than thinking that they're fine or perfect?
Good cover up guys
I saw it close up and it was not pretty, now my parents are divorced.
Problem is that the us and Switzerland lack experts and they are too dumb for the job when they exist. I got proof.
I am glad that you mentioned that people are not the same despite their disorder.
Absolutely! A diagnosis doesn’t define a person entirely-it’s just one part of who they are. Everyone’s experiences, choices, and capacity for growth make them unique. How do you feel this perspective has shaped your understanding of others? 💛
@@Psych2go Mhm I feel like this perspective changed the way I view MYSELF. I know that I am not just my disorder and that I am worthy, at least I try to live that way :)
@@FraeuleinSarahSoundso you are worthy !
I’m a narcissist dating a borderline and I’ve been with her for a year and a half now. We’re very happy. It can work, but much communication and transparency is needed. And both parties need to be open to therapy
That’s amazing to hear you’ve built a happy relationship despite the challenges that can come with those dynamics! Communication, transparency, and therapy are such powerful tools for growth together. What’s one thing you’ve learned about navigating your relationship that you think others in similar situations could benefit from? 💛
You proud of being one?
@@Simply_NessI'm sure they aren't necessary proud maybe they're just at peace and accept it
So glad, to see a person, taking up therapy, once realizing the challenges! Thats amazing. 🥰😊
@Simply_Ness Tonality is hard to interpret over text, but the way this question is posed/worded sounds like you're intentionally instigating something malicious. Just because someone states that they are something doesn't necessitate pride; from the way I read their message it just sounds like self-accountability. And it wasn't the point of their message. I hope you have a good day.
Timestamps
1). Narcissists 0:51
2). Borderline 1:01
3). This pairing is a perfect storm of issues 1:13
4). Shared features 1:50
5). This creates dependencies 2:57
6). Unhealthy behaviour 3:38
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I think this is probably a lot more common than people realise...
Unhealthy relationships are more common than people realize. BPD is extremely rare. A relationship can be unhealthy in similar ways to this without personality disorders involved.
@@snowballskies5857 100% agree!
Agreed. I truly think that there are alot more NDPs out there than what therapists claim there are.
Terrible news for my BPD ass and my Narcissist ex.
This video had no business being so on point that I had to comment.
When a video calls you out so hard it feels like a personal attack... but also free therapy. Glad it resonated though, even if it hit a nerve! 😅💛
Abandonment anxiety in BPD is tough. It's like constantly fearing you’ll be left, even over small things. It’s not about the person you're with, but the intense fear of rejection that makes it feel like everything’s at risk.
I have a very strong friendship with a BPD. I do my best to maintain an healthy relationship. She can freely talk to me, how she fell, as long as she doesn't shout at me. My goal is reassure her, having a safe emotionnal place, so she can grow and becoming more independant. With just that in mind, this person is one of the most genuide and sweetiest person I've ever met. It's not rare we hug
Michele?
@@V3racious3Huh ?
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?
Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable
I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
i am a bpd who dated a narcissist. it was horrible. i have an amazing loving boyfriend now
Me too. I experienced abuse and violence. My bf now is totally different ❤
That’s such a powerful turnaround! It’s inspiring to hear you’ve found someone who treats you with love and care-you deserve that happiness. What’s been the biggest difference in how your current partner supports you? 💛
@@Psych2go the biggest difference is that he can take the fall for his actions and encourage me to not blame myself for everything !!🩷🩷 we can work through tiffs so much healthier
@@FraeuleinSarahSoundso i am so happy for you!! we deserve love that is nurturing 🩷🌈
@@trixieparfaitas someone with narcissistic antisocial personality disorder (i'm a sociopath) i'm really sorry for you (even though i feel nothing, i'm trying to sympathize maybe it can help)
Wherever there’s a narcissist, there’s going to be drama, trauma, chaos and dysfunction.
bruh
People with npd ate not inherently an abuser
@@Pickleoink Just 3 of the 9 traits include narcissists being self-absorbed, lacking empathy and being exploitative. How can that not harm anyone?
@@Pickleoinkyou can mentally abuse someome too pal
Eff them. You are a survivor I thank God.
Me, a writer: Oh wow new trauma to inflict on my OCs
Real, I subscribed this channel to get more understanding of writing characters
frrrr like i legit have two ocs with npd traits and bpd traits and both of em are childhood friends TOT
That's gonna be a rough combo. I've known both. If both have had therapy and are out of denial (of how they truly are) they might be ok. But many narcissists stay resistant to therapy due to their egos. Learning empathy seems to be the key with everything. Lack of (true) empathy with any personality disorder is just a recipe for constant conflict eventually.
You’re so right-empathy is the cornerstone of healthy relationships, especially in challenging dynamics. Therapy can be life-changing, but only if both people are willing to put in the work. Do you think people with these traits can develop deeper empathy if they commit to it? 💛
@@Psych2go Yes, but they need either something to humble them or someone to look up to to compare their journey in a healthy way.
I hate that whenever there’s a video about bpd or npd there’s always people in the comments demonizing people suffering from these disorders..
Same. Truly agree with that.
It’s frustrating, isn’t it? People often forget that BPD and NPD are mental health conditions rooted in trauma and pain, not a choice. Conversations should focus on understanding and compassion, not judgment. How do you think we can shift the narrative to encourage empathy instead? 💛
@@Psych2go I think you’re doing a good job with your videos already, I hope it’ll make a difference in the future.
Can you blame them though? Some individuals in the comments probably grew up in a turbulent home with trauma themselves, caused by a narcissist parent(s). For example, my narcissist father put his hands on my mother constantly and made her and I suicidal.
@@nomad8690 It's their actions which caused due to the illness but if they're treated bad considering them as "mentally ill", it's something which should never happen.
At the beginning of our relationship i was diagnosed with BPD. Now years later my boyfriend is diagnosed narcissistic. The years were rough and destructive. But we want to grow together and build up a healthy relationship.
this video uploaded on the most convenient timing for being a diagnosed borderline with a diagnosed narcissist
It sounds like this video really hit home for you! It’s amazing that you’re navigating both diagnoses and seeking insights-it’s no small feat. How has your journey been with understanding these parts of yourself? 💛
What’s that like for you?
I recommend Sam Vaknin's videos, really helped me break free from an NPD.
@@Psych2go same... tripped out. Well good thing for reminders
Having been in your shoes, I would say rip the band aid off and break up with them sooner rather than later. They will end up beating you down as much as they ever built you up, probably more so. Find a less evil person to emotionally regulate you. I'm not a mental health professional, myself, but I imagine you've got to disclose a good bit of interpersonal nastiness to your therapist or psychiatrist to get an NPD diagnosis.
Personal bitterness aside, you should probably follow your heart, just be cautious.
All disorders are so complex
This vid hit so hard that i had to stop it and come back to it later on. Thank you
This is such an amazing videos. I really appreciate the fact that you guys don't state that everyone with the same mental issue is the same. I'm different from other people with asperger's, OCD, ADHD, depression, etc. etc.. I really love watching you guys' videos. I even got an old school of mine to start playing your videos in class. Thank you guys for being such an educational, informative, and inclusive channel! 💜
what i want to know is why we're so drawn together, ive never broken up with someone so many times only for each of us to keep coming back to each other knowing it's not going to end well
This really described my relationship with my ex, we both aren't diagnosed with either but he would be the narcissist in the situation and I would be the BPD. I was the one who broke up with him multiple times but each time we crawl back to each other and start over again, the start always feels nice again but the longer we stayed together the worse and more toxic it became. After a year I finally made an actual end to it and took real distance, my ex still texts me sometimes to try and charm his way back into my life again tho(the break up happened a little over a month ago now). It has been super difficult but I'm finally moving on like I should and I hope he is moving on properly aswell.
Good topic
I'm in my early 20's, have never dated at all, never had a crush and never loved anyone, diagnosed with BPD and dysthymia
Personally if I had a choice I would date someone narcissistic, because they know what they want, they can have everything in control and we could have some symbiotic relationship, because I was raised in a strict family and know how to do efficient tasks, but here at least I will do everything with affection in return
It’s really insightful that you’ve thought about the kind of dynamic that might feel familiar or comforting to you. Wanting affection and structure makes sense, especially when you’ve grown up in a strict environment. That said, relationships are all about balance-you deserve someone who sees and values your worth as an equal partner. Have you thought about what qualities in a relationship would help you feel truly happy and supported? 💛
@Psych2go would be nice having mutual interests, understand each other, like a "soulmate", would be really nice!
I mean, doing some stuff together without problems, having fun, maybe some cuddles, basically, peace and harmony.
Also, thanks for your words!🍀
I have BPD and dated a covert narcissist. “Discarded” him first after only a MONTH of dating and took legal action because of how badly he traumatised me and at the time acquaintances of mine. It’s been one almost two years since I received justice and I’ll continue speaking my truth, telling my story.
Cool story, bro.
im the bpd in the narcissist/bpd dynamic. i finally started to move away like i was instructed too and it seems my narcissist is actually saying nice things to me? it confuses me a lot. we are definitely like this video and i think our most recent break up is permanent. the people around us wouldn’t let us be together again even if we wanted. i don’t understand the reason he suddenly being nice to me when he was so cruel for so long. telling me to move on and be happy and that he worries for me. he’s told me some of the most vile things i’ve heard in my life. why the sudden switch when we arnt together anymore. this is when it makes sense to hate each other. it makes me me angry. i only get to hear all these nice things after my bank account has been drained and ive been cheated on and told im ugly a bunch. why even show any kindness at this point…
Do NOT go back. This sounds as tho this person is trying to win you back. Keep watching vids (or a therapist) about this. They can help you understand the narcs mind, better. ❤️You are strong and you deserve to be happy. You are beautiful and unique, dont let anyone tell you, that you are anything less.
That sounds like lovebombing or breadcumbing. A common narcissist tactic. Once u are back in their hands their discard is worse meaning they become even meaner
Run from this situation and don't look back! These other two comments are spot on
We can learn about them, but we cannot truly understand them because our brains don't work like that, and that's a GOOD thing
Go talk to them then?
i dated a narcissist and that was the worst experience
That sounds like such a difficult experience, and I’m sorry you went through that. If you’re comfortable, feel free to share more about what happened or how it affected you-it could help others who’ve had similar experiences feel less alone. 💛
I love your videos so much :)
Thanks for the kind words!
It would be better to give solutions for these particular situations in the video ❤
That’s a great suggestion! Offering solutions or coping strategies could make the video more actionable and helpful. What kind of solutions do you think would resonate most-like tips for communication, boundary-setting, or managing emotions? ❤
Great. I just realised why I kept on breaking up and getting back together with my ex for 4 yrs. Wow!!!
It sounds like you’ve had a huge “aha” moment! Those realizations can be tough but so powerful for growth. If you’re up for sharing, what do you think kept pulling you back? 💭💛
Me and my gf only have traits of narsciscit and BPD and it takes A LOT of effort to work things out but being able to point out our own flaws and apologize and work together it works ❤
Thank you!
New subscriber!
THANK YOU! Hopefully we won't disappoint :)
Which subcategory?
I was recently trying to figure out if it was actually better to be alone or to continue with a not so great relationship. The pain of being alone and lonely is worse than having someone there even if they have issues
this feels much like Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind’s ending
Hey Psych2go, I've a question about BPD, if someone has distorted sense of self feeling worthless, how can they also be grandiose at the same time? Isn't devaluing often stemmed from depression rather than the grandiosity where he can't see any brighter side of the other person?
Great question! People with BPD often experience intense emotional swings, including shifts in self-perception. The grandiosity you mentioned might not be the same as the kind seen in NPD-it can stem from an overcompensation for feelings of worthlessness or fear of abandonment. Devaluing others can also be a defense mechanism to protect themselves from perceived rejection. It’s a complicated mix of emotions and survival strategies rather than consistent grandiosity. 💛 What other aspects of BPD are you curious about?
@@Psych2go Thank you Psych2go! I also like to know whether a person with BPD would show the passive-agressive traits. Also the people with C-PTSD. Also I wanna know how this suspiciousness differ from psychotic paranoia.
@@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988 You’re so welcome! Those are really thoughtful questions. Passive-aggressive traits can sometimes show up in people with BPD or C-PTSD, especially when they struggle with expressing emotions directly. As for the difference, suspiciousness in BPD or C-PTSD is often rooted in trauma and emotional triggers, while psychotic paranoia involves a disconnection from reality, like believing things that aren’t actually happening. Would you like us to explore these in a video? 💛
@@Psych2go Yes Psych2go. Sure! When I talk with ChatGPT, I fall into the union category and different psychiatrists provided different diagnoses including these and I'm really confused. 🥲
@@Psych2go 3 of them said - I've perceptional issues associated with psychosis and the last one claims that I don't have psychosis and it's PTSD(later simply said anxiety instead of saying PTSD and OCD) where he also gives a lower dosage of an antipsychotic with higher dozes of drugs used to treat anxiety.
Crikey this is familiar. We've been 'together' 6.5 years. Though I recently discovered she's been seeing someone else at least 2 of those years. I'm pretty sure she's a covert narcissist and I'm pretty much bpd. I've left her about 200 times, usually because of some awful thing she's done like yelling for 3 days straight about me buying her flowers. Apparently, I must've been cheating. Never mind it was valentines day! We are never at peace for long but can't stay apart. We call it the magnets. If one of us leaves, usually me then one of us always hoovers and the other always takes them back. We are hurting each other and in competition for control but are convinced there is no one out there for us. Even though she has another man, there's no love there. He's just useful as support. I'm where the excitement is. Because no one else makes us feel anything. Yes it's toxic but who else would date either of us?
I wish I had this video around when I was dating my narcissistic EX instead of it being now like a year and a half ago .. I want to shove this in her face so that she could understand where I'm coming from because she constantly kept comparing herself to me I'm making me feel like s*** because I was actually diagnosed with autism, BPD and ADHD but she still didn't want to give me any leisure on those disorders so that I can work on it 💀
Unfortunately I wasn't really given an option to get out of that situation so I unfortunately landed myself in the hospital and then the next day after I went and started living with my parents again because my ex's house was too toxic of a family and my relationship was just getting more toxic to..
You’re not owed leisure tho my dude, no matter your disorder. If someone doesn’t want to deal with something then they hold the autonomy to remove themselves from whatever it is they are feeling negative about. You’d feel the same no?
Bro it's just like my neighboors
My regulated self is not a false self. The splitting self is the false one
This video has me wondering if I have BPD now 😅
Self-reflection level: activated. 😅 But seriously, learning about mental health can make us question ourselves sometimes. If it resonates, it’s worth exploring further, but remember-it’s just a video, not a diagnosis! 💛
I see you guys have met my parents🎉
I had a friend who's Borderline, some years ago. I've had to actively distance myself from the guy. He cannot go two minutes without making belittling or denigrating comments.
Me I have bpd and had a best friend who had NPD malignant kind too. It was horrible didnt realize it was abuse until after the fact.
what if you are mix of both?
not talking from experience i think
That's my parents. )
Sameeeeee
I will say, I have covert NPD and get along REALLY well with borderlines! I’m not interested in relationships so my experience is strictly platonic, but I have several friends with BPD and I feel like we just ‘get’ it, y’know?
What if the person itself is a mix of Malignant Narcissist, BPD and Histronic?
My narcissist was a friend/coworker.....ended very bad.
Watching these videos made me cdy , how bad i am i don't know why but I can't take criticism and yes i created drama in relationship and not just to enjoy but because i feel hurt by many small things i have no friends due to this and i feel extremely sorry for myself when I thought about events where everyone has friends.....i am what i am but i don't want to do bad to others
It takes a lot of courage to reflect on yourself like this, and it’s clear you have a good heart because you care about not hurting others. Feeling hurt by small things and struggling with criticism might be your mind’s way of protecting you, even if it feels overwhelming. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Have you considered reaching out to someone, like a therapist, who can help you unpack these feelings and find ways to navigate relationships more peacefully? You deserve connection and understanding, too. 💛
@@Psych2go I've tried to , but can't explain to them !
I thought it's bpd.but I have cptsd which attracted to my narc x in the first place.his removing my energy draining me lead to exhibit symptoms of BPD but it's CPtSD
They have in common that they're both emotional vampires. You get tired of them very quickly.
I want to ask a question not related to the topic of the video, but what worries me a lot lately. In my class i feel like everyone around me doesn't like me. Can you give me any advice on how to tell if someone hates me or not without talking to them? (sorry for wasting your time)
I'm not a likeable person myself even though I don't bother anyone & used to wonder why. But now I couldn't care less whether people like me or not, they just better keep their hands to themselves.
This describes how me and my ex's relationship was
So it basically won't end well.
This is very accurate ... I just got broken up with by my nc ex gf and it was quite a bit like this when the relationship was going.
Because of my bpd.I already had that type of relationship twice. Sometimes I think that relationships are not for me 😢😢😢
Same thing, but it's friendship
Praise Jesus!
Does this also apply to vulnerable narcissists?
Holy sh-t, that would be toxicity squared, and that’s a lot of s’s in the thumbnail.
What do I do with this information?
Eeeek! 😂 (only I know why I'm screaming LOL)
Interesting 🤔
PERFECT I HAVE BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER
oh well i guess now i know it doesn't help anything but
Am i a bad person if i hide my BPD while dating/meeting someone? I am very functional, but i don't wanna scare them away.
Honestly i feel like its something you should say, not right off the bat obviously, but tell them after awhile, since it may help you and your partner face the problems BPD can bring.
interesting idea if one could feel like both
how do i send this to him
It’s trauma and codependency I’ll tell you that!
What should I do if I do BPD
could yall talk about bullying and sexuell abuse in the frame of school by classmates or smth ?
That’s such an important topic, and it absolutely deserves attention. School should feel like a safe space, but sadly, bullying and abuse can make it the opposite. Would you like to see a video focusing on how these experiences affect mental health and how to seek support? 💛
Scary, or scary awesome.
why are the comments 7 minutes ago
edit: oh wait this video was 10 mins ago lol
ive seen NPDs and BPDs clash in the workplace (hospitals). fuckin hilarious the kind of garbage they fight over.
If a narcissist took inspiration from Jesus, as a child wanting to learn, most of the problems would be solved
To be honest, Jesus is very manipulative. His teachings really brought me extreme unbearable levels of trauma combined with biblical teachings and psychosis, it only healed when I became an atheist. I'm not Narcissistic by the way but even if it's less I still have the anger about it.
@ what teachings?
@@Shreddyfilmzz 1. The existence of hell.
2. Attributing human weaknesses as something which acts as an eligibility criteria to get damned.
3. Saying that even forgetting any person ever in the life when they need help, it's severe enough to reject them despite everything else they've done.
4. Saying that we "should" love him more than those who really love us.
5. Saying that blasphemy against holy spirit is never unforgivable.
6. The salvation of every individual is only through Jesus Christ (especially with the faith - It's even more disturbing when we get to know how the faith is defined in the bible)
On the other hand,
1. The John Baptist's willingness to die was mentioned as a must rather than a might as mentioned in the Grade 10/11 textbook.
2. The extreme need of having faith and doubt can cause issues.
3. The story of Jacob and Esau which is truly disgusting.
4. Certain sermons (I don't remember them exactly now and don't wanna contemplate either) were threatening who I am and as a mentally ill person who was surely suffering from OCD back by then, it's truly harsh.
5.Condemning pride which isn't necessarily a sin at all.
There're more other things but I think these also make sense of certain depth.
I wish this would be posted on r/thanksimcured
@@Shreddyfilmzz My previous comment has been removed. It's all about the toxic parables, extreme threats, what's emphasized through the definition of faith, refusal to have someone who loves else so much, blasphemy laws, idolatry, carnal desires and even doubting which normal human do considered as a damnable sin etc.
Oh.
So Me not feeling worth it
Imagine chaging thunbail and being clickbait baby
what?
Rufus ??
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Bro, you're doing a great disfsvour to humanity with those videos! Please stop! As a man of science, just stop. You know what you're doing reinforcing those really bad prejudices about mentally ill people!
992th like lol
How about read the Bible to know how to be in a relationship