The Pros And Cons of Being Autistic
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- Опубликовано: 26 авг 2024
- ***i filmed this video a while back and was VERY VERY sick at the time. I feel like it’s noticeable in my voice and energy and I’m a little self conscious about how that may come across as apathetic in the video, so I just wanted to explain that so you know that I was just trying to breathe/make full sentences while I was sick and on a ton of antibiotics lol
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My Autism Pros: I love listening to Vivaldi's 4 seasons on repeat
My Autism Cons: Nobody else wants to listen to Vivaldi's Four seasons on repeat
Ha ha, I do that. the main duet in the Pearl Fishers as well
WAIT THIS IS ME
Gosh, yes! I very often have to listen to a piece of music on repeat for I don't know how long and then certain parts of the music. Have you listened to Max Richter's Vivaldi Recomposed?
Me tho
@@RaymondOreFineArt Yes!!!!!
Doctor: Asperger's = Sheldon Cooper?
hisnamewasSoul so freaking true
My GP told me I couldn’t have autism because, at the time, I was a college student, had two jobs, and an internship. Now I have three jobs, and guess what: I still have autism. Just because I have autism doesn’t mean I’m not capable of holding down a job and living life.
here There are famous women in their 60s who are undiagnosed Aspies who hold down multiple jobs have a family and have successful relationships
The therapist who eventually diagnosed me didn't believe I could have autism because I was so self reflective. (In a recent conversation with an autistic friend he said to me, "Have you noticed that people who aren't autistic aren't very self reflective in general?" Like they often have no clue regarding their motivations.) Eventually, over time, he was able to see that I was in fact autistic. (I only raised the possibility with him because I'd read a book by an autistic woman because I thought it would be interesting not that I thought I was autistic, and for the first time in my life, I saw my voice in writing. And so when the therapist said, "No, I think that unlikely," I let it drop.) I was an attorney, a mediator, a workshop developer and provider. Getting the diagnosis explained a lot and hopefully will prove useful should I ever consider being in relationship again. While many autistic people may not need this, I know that I need those who love me to screen whomever I become involved in. My optimistic nature draws too many people to me who think they've found an easy way to mental health and happiness ... like I will rub off on them or I can wrap mental health in a package and give it to them. (Everyone has to do their own work; there's no easy way; there's only through.) When I can't, they end up resenting me for that and for not reading their minds, which for not so healthy allistic folk means I must be self centered or inconsiderate or don't really love them. Um, it means I'm autistic and miss cues. Avoidant personalities find my directness refreshing at first and then scary later (as they fall back into their natural way of coping), which only hastens the dissolution of the relationship.
@@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS I'm in my late 50s, recently diagnosed, and trying to come to terms with similar issues. I'm a licensed architect and was a college professor teaching architecture and design for many years. Outward success and the unconcious repression / masking of my autistic nature led to a complete shudown 10 years ago. So many failed relationships and freindships and employment situations. I don't blame allistic people for not understanding me - I didn't understand myself. I'm a little more disapointed in the mental health profession however. I spent 40 years - since childhood - being misdiagnosed / underdiagnosed. I saw at least a dozen different shrinks and psychiatrists for the crippling anxiety and depression I struggled with. Ultimately it was an ex-girlfreind who suggested - by way of love, acceptance and forgiveness - that I might be autistic. So I looked into it, took some online tests, and eventually was able to get a refferal from my current psychiatrist for a full autism assessment.
Yup, I'm autistic. Now what? There's VERY little knowledge about the needs of older, non intellectually disabled autistic adults. Zero about intellectually gifted ones like me, who also meet the criteria for ADHD.
So I figure we are on our own. Thank god for RUclips and other online resources and communities that focus on autism. Thank god for autistic people who have the courage and work ethic required to put up a channel and discuss their expereinces as autistic adults. We need to work together to share our expereinces and insights and to educate the allistic world about how autistic neurodivergence impacts how we interact with them. I'm also thinking that the best chance at recieving effective professional support is going to come from autistic therapists. It's simply impossible for truly allistic people to understand the challenges we face, much less how to address them.
"my cat has aspergers" lmao I died X'D
There is actually a book out about the parralels between cats behaviours and the Autism spectrum experience.
I swear my cat has ocd or something like whenever I used to touch her she had to vigorously lick the spot I touched for a few seconds lol
I don’t find this funny ???
Pros of being autistic: seeing the world differently, being super knowledgeable about my special interests which is helping my education, as a teenager I kept to myself and mainly read books so I guess a pro would be that I didn't get into any shenanigans
Cons of being autistic: the world is too loud, bright, and textured for me to take in at once (my sense of touch is really sensitive. I feel like the sensation will run through me and the only way to get rid of the extreme feeling is by flapping my hands), being embarrassed about stimming in public, internalized ableism for myself and self shaming about certain traits.
I'm drumming more openly than before and am working on my feelings of shame. It's hard, but I take it one day at a time. I love being me. I love my autism too.
I teach swimming, and so I work with kids a lot. Every few session I always get a child in one of my classes who's on the spectrum. I like seeing videos like this because, though I think I do pretty ok, it's always good to hear a first person perspective on experiences. It helps me know how to adapt my classes better to give all my kids as good of an experience as I can.
"It might be anxiety, it might be an autistic thing. I don't know."
Wow this is me as hell
yup you're not alone
As a trans person who also has asperger's, I thank you for being visible. I have an innate desire to be your friend
@Ethan I identify as nb, and I just did a quick little research. Turns out I have a lot of characteristics of both sexes!
@Ethan I just had my fiance check a small list of traits for each sex that I found, she also confirms that I have boy "boy and girl" traits that are common, 😊
Lol I just made basically the same comment
Im ftm and i relate to a lot of the female stuff and alot of the male stuff tbh
yay i also have autism/aspergers and im a trans male i wish i just just grow up to 18 (im 14 now) and get the surgery but noooo i have to be 18 to be happy in my body
My Pros Of Having Autism-I will never shut up about Skyrim.
My Cons Of Having Autism-I will never shut up.
This video is so good, Aaron! I relate so much. Even though my psych doctors are uncomfortable diagnosing an adult with autism, I can tell you with certainty that *I got the aut*.
Side note: I got my first binder yesterday and I can't explain how great I feel. Thank you for educating and encouraging us, my dude. 💖 You are changing lives.
Grew up with such a variety of physical/mental disabilities in my siblings. "Normal" people are odd to me sometimes lol. I love my family. Love you Aaron!
Thank you for your honesty and openness! It's very warming to know I'm not the only ASD transgender person out there...
I have to learn the same way with math and science like if the Teacher carries the 1 and doesn't say why or says its just because that's what you do I won't be able to retain any of it.
I know this is an old comment, but I just wanted to say, you saying "formular" made me laugh because it reminds me of Mr. Krabs. :-)
That was my problem growing up as well.....thought I was dumb and weird.
Just because is never a good enough answer for me lol!
I like your nails.
Kinda recently I went in for a psychologist to approve my top surgery and while there the psycholigist told me they were wondering if I could come back for an autism assessment (I don't know the terms very well sorry). So I did and am just now finding out at 19 that I am on the autism spectrum. Thank you for making this video, it helps me get a grasp on everything.
I really love this. When I was a child all my teachers suggested to my parents that I was on the spectrum. They didnt want me labelled so they never had me diagnosed (even though it was pretty obvious to everyone that I was autistic)
I'm now 26 and still haven't had a diagnosis but by this point I've learned to live with the way I am and don't see the point putting a label on myself.
But, I love that you are so comfortable with diagnosis, its really lovely. And it just shows how different we all are!
Keep doing you and thank you for spreading love and positivity in a world that is so unkind to those of us who are a bit different.
Same 100%
I’m loving the disability positivity, keep up the good work!!! 💙💙
Hey Aaron I’m so glad you are making these videos, it’s so inclusive and helpful for me and so many other people. I hope you are having a wonderful life, because you deserve so many amazing things. Keep up the good work, and don’t forget to take care of yourself and pet your rats and lamb for me 💕
I'm so so happy that you're making more videos about autism! You're the (I don't know how to phrase this) the social media "activist" (? Im sorry `i can't say this at all well) that I relate to the most. I always watch your videos when I'm feeling down or when I have SH urges or am just feeling very terrible.
Sorry if this makes no sense. By the way, I'm already on pocast episode 35!!!
I relate to some of the things you're saying :) i got diagnosed with adhd (inattentive type) + autistic traits almost a year ago now. Not a "full on" asd diagnosis because i don't meet all the criterias but enough for it to be part of my diagnosis? it's kind of complicated, but psychologists are limited to existing conditions so to speak, however my adhd and autistic traits are of course interlinked. not to mention people who have adhd are likely to also have ocd, autism, tourettes and/or bipolar disorder. it's an interesting subject to get into!
i really relate to what you're saying about remembering things. i do remember details very well, but i'm also sometimes the opposite. it's like my brain either remembers everything or nothing lol. i think it's got to do with my neurodivergency tbh. i'm also musically inclined like you.
i hope you do a video like this on adhd :) it was interesting to hear you talk about autism in this way!
There are some many things I like about this video that I don't know where to start 😁 first things first, I think Aarons voice is sooo calming and I like the way he can talk about informative/complicated things but his funny character loosens every thing up. 😊 Also I have to say, this nail polish color suites him very well! 👌 and then...plus points for lamb being such a sweet sweet angel ❤
And I do actually have a question (I hope you see this 😅)... So you said that numbers are pretty important to you, right? Like the music example. But does that mean that you're really good at math too? 🤔 or are those things totally different from each other ? Would be interesting 😊
Dina I was going to ask this question.
Being on spectrum and dyscalculic me, I can say, the geometry part of math wqs easy, but I almost flunked Algebra. So certain parts of math come more easily than others.
"There's a logic to it" seems that is a common trait for ASD. We run on logic and not emotion.
hi aaron, i've heard that it's harder to diagnose adults with autism because they've learnt a lot of ways to adapt to a world that is hostile to them and that might result in their symptoms being hidden or being less obvious. when i read dsm symptoms i don't relate but when i watch your videos i do and i do wonder if i might be in the autistic disorder spectrum. if u were to rewrite the dsm symptoms, would you change anything? are there misconceptions that might make it harder for someone to realize whether they're autistic or not? also, u look so cute in this video!!! :'-)
Yeah I felt the exact same way my theory is that since the dsm description isn’t written by autistic people that it doesn’t get written in a language autistic people can understand/apply to themselves. If you still feel this way I recommend looking for resources about autism by autistic people that’s what personally helped me the most. If you need any suggestions for resources just ask!
*in my head* "no... no not like that, please just stop, let me do it, no you're doing it wrong" - *outloud* ":)"
Austin McNeill this reminded me of when I want someone else to do something cause they can do it better but when they do it I realize that they're not doing it right... I feel so responsible over it as well cause I should've just done it instead. *sigh*
oh i gotta add: the thing about being extremely logical while also being strangely artistic is totally a thing. when i was in like 8th? grade we did this quiz thing idk that determined basically how logical/artistic/etc we were and i had like pretty much an even score between sciences and logic and art. several of the staff commented on it and i don't think anyone else in my class got a score like mine. cut to several years later those are like the only classes i did well in. go figure.
omg that learning thing, i have that too. like i must know WHY i must do this certain thing exactly like this (like for example i was a real pain in the butt for all my past teachers.....) so i can understand it and in many cases improve the process (also a reason my teachers didn’t always appreciate me).
AND THE LOGICAL THINKING oops sorry, the logical thinking with performing task sufficiently is so me too. i thought for a long time that im quite spontaneous and all that but then i moved in with my current spouse and he folds laundry “wrong”, does dishes “wrong” and all that and when i studied that what made me so annoyed with these things i found that i had learned the most sufficient, fast, ergonomic and economical way of doing things. dont worry im not a monster so i talk to my spouse openly about my autistic traits and not just like explode at him when he doea things his way. we have found many compromises and sometimes he has adapted my ways if he finds them logical too.
also yes, i hate doing laundry but i hate it more when i have to do certain steps of these task without the proper under work done. like theres a simple order on which you put everything to dry right way around and for example t-shirts are with other t-shirts and sock go dry in pairs and everything is kinda organised already so i just have to (when folding) go from one category to another and the clothes will be in great order in the basket so i just can pick all the t-shirts at once and place them into the closet and so on. i struggle with daily things so much so it’s almost unbearable do have to do them in illogical order or something
This is super relatable, thank you for laying it out so plainly! The letting people live their life struggle is too real
So I really enjoyed listening to your perspective and everything, but I actually screamed so loud when you kissed Le Lamb~ I also did a screm when he appeared behind you. I LOVE him sO MUCh. wOw. 💖💖💖💖💖💖
Aaron, as an autistic person moi-même, i can say that music has saved me on NUMEROUS occasions. I listen to music ANYTIME i can. I also play the piano. Who taught me? Me. Altough i did take piano lessons at 6 (almost 21 yrs ago) i am convinced that was not enough for me to play the songs i play today.
I relate with this video so much. I have the biggest suspicion that I am on the autism spectrum however my mother constantly says that I was tested as a baby and that I'm not. I don't fully believe that since when I was tested doctors still believed that girls don't have autism and if your child looks you in the eyes they can't possibly have autism. Anywho, I just wanted to say that 1) your videos are amazing. I love them. 2) I relate to you so much. It almost feels like you we're telling my life story. And 3) Sensory overload is literal hell. I hate it. Especially when people try to lightly touch me. Makes me want to scream.
My therapist has a book called "all cats have aspergers" lol
Thank you for sharing, I always learn so much from you ❤️
Hi Aaron! I've just come across your channel and it's lovely to meet another autistic who also likes cats. Also your cats eyes are actually amazeballs... Yeah I did just say amazeballs, don't judge me 😂
But no it was nice hearing your pros and cons and I think that the things about autism that are considered negative. Can be turned into a positive given the right opportunity and sometimes support from others. So to me being autistic isn't a negative in a sense. Like I'll have my really bad day but that's fine because I know there are good days. Yeah I really liked this Aaron!
Hey Aaron, do you happen to have synesthesia? I myself have it, and I've heard that it's more common with people on the autism spectrum
all of this is so relatable i love you
I'm autistic too and I love psychology science and metaphysics
I'm grateful for your videos. Love you bro. Solidarity
The pattern thing totally makes sense to me! I love drawing sculpting and singing💕. But also, when people sing off-key it makes me cringe. It almost hurts😂
Watching your videos always makes me feel so calm and understood. Thank you for being so down to earth and open, it creates such a safe feeling space 💙
Aaron is amazing. Sweet compassion and logical. He has helped me through adhd, seasonal depression and dissiblity. He has opened my eyes to trans and other issues that a sis her woman wouldn't normally know much about. Your channel has helped me tremendously to become a overall more well rounded individual. You are the absolute best!
Definite pro for me- your ability to be so objective about emotion has seriously helped me in that I now understand my own emotions much more logically after watching you :) I am just sorry that what I receive as a gift is actually partially a con for you. Thank you for using this platform to reach others in many ways
Your channel just opens my eyes to the things that the world needs to do to make something accessible. I’ve never really looked at that before. And it’s really interesting to look at a space and and see how it could be more accessible to people. Again I’ve never really looked at that before because it’s never really applied to me but that’s so interesting. Thank you for that.
"A partner lightly tries to touch you and it makes me want to crawl out of my skin" lol this exactly !!!
my mom's old organ teacher once told her, "music is math with emotions." now i often say that to people who don't know much about music. for some reason that usually blows their minds and then it kinda clicks. it's very satisfying to watch. :D
Christ, Ive been struggling with accepting a "self diagnoses" of being ASD/on the spectrum along w/ ADHD (Which is easy to get diagnosed, comparatively) but DAMN IT ME 100%!
Great vid, Aaron. I'm not going to obsess with understanding myself nearly as much after this and some of your ADHD ones.
I'm going into assessments with my therapist to start the diagnostic process, and I'm really excited, which feel weird haha. I love watching your videos, because I relate to you in a lot of ways. I also really love how you look at things, and it's quite inspirational to me. Thank you for being you!
Great video dude! This sheds more light on the subject.
My gosh, this is amazingly relatable. Thanks for sharing.
Your cat is adorable
All of this is such a mood bless you aaron
My therapist suspects I may be on the spectrum. I'm 38. I'm not really keen on getting an official diagnosis, because I still have gender affirming surgeries I want to pursue (bottom surgery/hysterectomy) and I'm scared that the diagnosis would get in the way or force me to jump through a lot of hoops to prove my mental competence. My plan is to deal with ASD after 'finishing' my transition.
Fun fact about me being autistic: every friday, i go out by myself for supper at st hubert, mikes etc... and i am ALWAYS alone and I’m sure a good amount of people may have thought I was lonely, eating all by myself. But y’know what? That’s my favourite time of the week!! I can be alone with my extremely present thoughts. Love the content A-aron 🥰
This is a great video. I'm a 34 year old female and I'm going in for a second evaluation in October to see if they can put me on the spectrum. It's so difficult to be diagnosed as a cis female. I get the "but you so articulate...how can have autism?" Even though there isn't really any support for adult autism in America but i need the diagnosis because coping has been almost non existent in the last 8 years. Watching your videos helps me alot.
I relate sooo hard to all your videos! Thank you for being visible and open as an autistic transmasculine person. It feels wonderful to hear from someone a lot like me. 💜
Aaron first, this video is super rad!
Second, I need a list of overlapping ADHD/Autism traits because like 95% of what you said is literally my whole experience. It's super interesting.
As a 4th year psych major myself (and diagnosed with ADHD like 2 months ago, thanks to u boo) it's a wild ride to learn all about psych/brain things.
Thanks for being visible! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
Your cat is so so cool and cute. Also cool i didn't know a lot about Autism so cool, thanks.
By the way just wanted to point out Asperger's is not Tourette's
I'm with you a hundred percent!!
Yep. They're different.
Wait I’m confused, I didn’t mention Tourette’s in the video? What are you referring to?
@@AaronAnsuini , I don't believe it was a dig of any kind against you, I think they were just trying to differentiate as a side-note of sorts. There may be misconceptions or mix-ups between the two. Please correct me if I'm wrong, OP!
@@AaronAnsuini oh absolutely nothing personal nor an attack.. you mentioned something about not having a filter when it came to Asperger's and I was just trying to point out that the no filter thing is what triggered me to mention tourettes as a completely different thing with a characteristic that could potentially link or could set them completely apart. psychology is an ever-growing field because we're still learning about the brain everyday. All we can do is human beings in this physical world is put a label on something that is just psychologically phenomenon from a starting point.
This video described me so well, the ‘logical’ thing especially. Or the ‘can never be wrong’ haha.
I may have found a new thing about myself, I have some googling to do
You and I are so so so similar. For years I’ve figured I was on the spectrum, but because I am so logical, artistic, etc etc... I’ve been afraid to seek that diagnosis. All my life i’ve been pegged as just being a little more weird. “You’re just Destry!”
But I’ve always known.... I think this video particularly has helped me feel even a little more secure. I’m hoping soon I’ll have the courage to find a diagnosis. Thank you
I’d really love to see a video on spd stereotypes, because I seem to be the only person who doesn’t struggle with bright lights, but I can’t stand most smells, I hate lavender. I’m curious. Great video!
I noticed when watching this that I skipped over smell!!
For the longest time, I (and my parents/doctor) thought my spd was due to my migraines (as I’m very sensitive to smells, sights, sounds, and touch, and I can easily develop a migraine from overstimulation)
Sometimes I forget to say things (especially when I’m as sick as I was in this video lol) because I forget that what I’m experiencing is “atypical”, and that most other people aren’t experiencing it. I’m plan to make a video particularly about sensory processing disorder!
Cool! I look forward to it!
Lam is a Long Tail Boy
That part about always thinking you were right when you were younger, until you developed enough emotional maturity to respect others perceptions really hit home for me. It took me a long time to learn that even though I could remember lots of facts and view things in a logical way doesn't mean I had a developed and mature understanding of the world. It turns out there's a lot you can learn from people, even "dumb" people, if you are actually willing to listen and consider what they say.
Interesting vid! I relate to a lot of what you mention although I am not on the spectrum... (I have ADHD) Personally I find I rely on logic for a lot of things to the point I often seem insensitive :S. And with regards to learning...school....was always very stressful and I find I learn far better being left to figure things out on my own in a flexible environment
I'd like to see a video on the topic of being in a relationship when you're autistic. How do you work around the sensitivity to touch and the fact that many autistic people need so much time alone? Especially if you're in a relationship with a neurotypical. Touch sensitivity is something I'm especially curious about. How do I respect my boundaries and not offend the other person if I rarely want to be touched?
Aaron, I honestly feel the same way as you do... People do not get my sensory issues nor that I see things so overly logical so I come across as rude or insensitive but when I do have emotions I floor every kind of feeling or emotion because I never understand most feelings/emotions. I don't mean to be rude though and I also hate change I always need a set schedule along with loving music and the arts so much but I see music differently because I have synesthesia so I see mostly colors, shapes and pictures instead of notes and ugly white paper(s). That's why learning how to read music was hard for me, if I was taught the right way either self taught or by the right teacher I'd be so advanced and playing more than 10 music instruments right now. That's something that doesn't come naturally because there is a disconnect between what I see and what I hear so when I hear music if they tell me to do it the old fashion way I don't see it that way and it logically confuses my brain... I like your video, btw your cat is adorable! :)
Very relatable. Especially the part about art being logical and being an information sponge. (Not music however, I'm practically tone deaf)
I'm doing college in distance education right now, the teaching style of only giving details, weirdly chosen chunks of information and the whole social happening around it isn't a system I thrive in. At all. Being trans doesn't help either. I dropped out of high school once and university several times despite being more than intelligent enough. It felt like the entire school system was constructed in such a way as to undermine me. In the end I didn't have much self esteem left and wondered if I was just a weak fraud.
Being diagnosed some months ago (I'm 22) was a relief and gave me more confidence to step off of the typical path.
There's a real need for better education for highly logical people people and just people on the autism spectrum in general if you ask me. College gets a hundred times easier when it's better suited to you. I'm doing very well now studying IT but in the end I'm doing everything myself.
I could write a whole tome but I'll spare you.
Good luck with your channel and whatever you're up to! 🌱💚💜
I remember that when I first was diagnosed with aspergers my mom showed me a ted talk by someone with aspergers. One way they explained it is that the logic part of the brain is increased at the cost of the empathetic part of the brain. I feel that I was able to relate with that to a large degree.
Thank you for sharing your experiences! 😊
The whole facts in arguments making it a nightmare to fight with you is exactly why my dad and I argue a lot, I love him but he is a nightmare to deal with and he’s got one hell of a temper, but I’m thinking of suffering to get to Philly next year
I love this video! This may be like a really weird compliment, but I love your hands. They're like, beautiful? Just like perfect hands 10/10
I do not have an autism diagnosis... I very much relate to literally everything in this video...
My therapist diagnosed me with Asperger's and PDD-NOS because he knew Asperger's was on the way out. I identify as autistic. (I have plenty of genes associated with both. If they're ever found to be slightly different, I might be both anyway.) I learn in the same way--I call it coat closet learning. I need structure to hang things onto to learn. (My outlet artistically has been decorating--using color and design principles, creating harmony, in 3D comes easily to me. Wish I could translate that to 2D art because I don't have the energy to become a decorator.) I'm like you. I don't mind it when anyone wants to show me how to do something better--e.g., more logical, less wasteful, etc.. I find it odd that others don't enjoy that. I don't understand how people attach their ego to tasks. I think our ability to see consequences, to see the holes in plans, is actually a superpower (for anyone with autism who has this skill--and many of us do see patterns and consequences with ease), and it's one of the things that was most valued about me in the world of work. Yeah, it would annoy some people at first, but when they came to see that I was right (usually by ignoring me), then they'd listen and seek out my advice. Some recognise it right off the bat. Don't be a yes person; use your superpower. (Of course, the social world is a whole 'nother realm when it comes to this and so the same advice cannot be applied there.)
I don’t understand the stereotype that you can’t have Aspergers if you’re not “x”. From my own experience, the more I grow up the more I can consciously and subconsciously mask what’s going on therefore it makes sense why you wouldn’t “see it”. Being so observant sometimes I honestly feel manipulative when I put on a mask for “x” situation ( talking to doc, friend, etc.). Thank you for sharing!
Huh, I must've missed the part of therapy school about people with Aspberger's being rude...
I can play lots of musical instruments. I collect ocarinas (I have 17 now?) in different keys, shapes, ranges, and tones. I also play viola, ukulele, keyboards (I want my grandfather's acoustic organ to get fixed, I love it), and can play almost everything except for brass instruments because they make my mouth feel weird. I made a bunch of instruments with rubber bands as a kid too, it was fun. I also have to play viola by tying it to myself due to shoulder dislocations.
I wish I had more time for music, I tried getting a minor in musicology (the history, emotion, and impact of music), but had to drop it due to course conflicts. I often find I communicate better by using songs or art. I dated someone once and we'd just be sending each other songs because that was how we related. Of course the communication issues got too bad to continue, but I wonder if we're both on the autism spectrum. It's too expensive to get diagnosed, so it's suspected for me, but I'm not going to pay $2000 CAD for a diagnosis. If I had the money to spare, I'd rather spend that on fixing up that organ.
I have Autism *MEOW* hehe... I love your kitty... He confirms what you say :) One of my friends has Asperger syndrome, and they keep changing his meds and conditions so he's VERY CONFUSED. I don't like that they changed PTSD to PTS SYNDROME either, it makes it sound curable, and in SOME cases it may be, but I was abused for 11 years, I won't get into detail, but it's like they are trying to blunt the condition to non-issue. I do not approve of this. I think the government just doesn't want to pay out benefits for people who have issues that they think are misused. I cry BULLPOO!!!!
I really like those informative videos you're making! please continue to do so! 😍 👍🏼
I like his nail color
OMG i relate with the whole "never being wrong" thing. i honestly annoy myself sometimes because i can hear myself jyst being a know it all and i don't try to i just happen to know a lot about certain things so when it gets brought up i start infodumping and if anybody tries to correct me or if they add something that isnt correct i get snappy and start kinda speed talking. ive been really self conscious about it lately honestly haha.
As another trans guy who is wondering if he has autism (was diagnosed and i got really angry and insulted, but now im seeing clues about it in my very specific consumption of media and obsession with time periods), I really appreciate this!!! THANK YOU!
Hey I saw you on Snapchat and I just wanted to send you love. You're awesome
My favorite RUclipsr!!! Love you so much Aaron!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love you too!! Thank you so much for your support, I’m always super happy when I see you in the comments 😊❤️❤️❤️
Aaron Ansuini Wow, really? You are very welcome!!! I will ALWAYS support you my friend!!!
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I'm so happy to have found this channel! I too am a trans male with aspergers who has had similar experiences to this :)
I heard the same thing that I would have had autism before. My brother is high functioning and people make rude assumptions. People assume me and my brother are stupid. I love linking things to. I thought that was my OCD. But maybe not I've been over diagnosed. I really appreciated this video helped me alot. You don't come off of rude. Have you tried ear plugs they help me alot. Thanks for talking about the touching thing, I thought I was the only one. Thank you for this video!!!!
Oh, with you on the not wanting to be touched/show interest in stuff!! But I probably have dyscalculia and I have dypraxic type difficulties as well, so I've struggled with music and execution in art and presentation in work generally. People would always say could be more logically structured and better presented on my work right through school without making sure I knew what they meant by that. And they didn't necessarily understand what the problem was. A very ambient experience of lots of tendrils of non-verbalised equivalents all simultaneously tagged through in my experience and it was hard to get the concepts of splitting them down or choosing the threads. I feel like I am very logical, perhaps especially now, if not always in a way that makes sense to others. Perhaps as a product of trying to handle and get better at deriving the optimum answers from all this information flooding through me. But it's not like I feel like I have good depth of knowledge, or at least it's hard for me to learn arbitrary information unless it's somehow making itself meaningful to me.
Aspergers is now called Autism Spectrum 1. I have it.
Pros: I am more empathetic because people bully me and I don’t want others to go through it.
Cons: people bully me more for being empathetic
Both: I have good hearing (I can tell you there is an emergency vehicle with a siren in about a mile and a half east and that it’s a fire truck. The bad part is sensory overload)
This is so relatable 💙
not very relevent but our nails are the same color and i fricken love it
Ah, see, I got screwed over on the over-sensitive aspect. My brain takes everything in, but it has trouble processing it all, so music just sounds so clumped up and I can't distinguish each part of it. :(
Like I understand written music. That part made instant sense to me, and I actually remember literally thinking, "Oh snap, it's like a math pattern." XD But as far as listening to the actual music, it just makes my brain go, "NOPE! This is chaos! I don't even!" XD Even though I enjoy music, I can't tell you anything about it or which instruments are playing when, etc.
Really sucks too because my dad loves music and always wanted me to play. Ah well. lol I am gifted with writing and understanding the intricacies of literature, though, so I guess there's that. It's a nice compensation. XD
The talk about your creativeness was very interesting.
Logic. That's the word I've been looking for. I feel like Spock. Except for the fact that I experience emotions. However, not just a little bit. It's either 111% or its 0% emotional. Now experience and expression are two different animals. I experience emotions. I suck at "appropriately" expressing them in a socially acceptable manner. Sometimes I can't figure out which emotion may be most acceptable so I choose to withhold all of them and people think I'm an asshole maybe because I come across really rough around the edges but it's not what I'm intending most of the time. I'm always frustrated because I can't make my mind respond to social interactions in a way that makes me feel comfortable so maybe I actually am always irritated but it's directed at myself because I can't make things come out the way I'm thinking them and I has presumed anxiety for the fear of what could happen if I speak or react in an inappropriate manner, which is usually realized when I do mess up. So I guess I cause myself alot of anxiety around other people and seem a bit reserved or standoffish. Fear of failure as a result of repeated failure is like a curse that has chained itself to my ankle. I overanalyze everything to consider the outcomes of decisions before I make them but then get overwhelmed with all the possible decisions and choose none of them. It's a safer route though its not quite as productive. I really enjoy getting involved in projects but I get frustrated easily when there is not a clearly defined plan or set of instructions. I think I don't fare well as a freelance. Not that I want to be ruled by someone but I feel like structure encapsulates a sense of peace of mind for me and when I have no peace upstairs my brain is like spinning it's wheels wasting effort and making no progress. I'm also single so with no help constructing plans and fortifying schedules I feel hopelessly lost all the time not knowing where to go or what endeavors to begin. I self-diagnosed myself with Autism based on my own research and comparing it with my understanding and comprehension. So the diagnosis wasn't the finish line, it was the announcement of the journey I've been in. Like yes, you are on a mission, you just never knew the objectives before now or why you've been required to act a certain way. Like the movie Divergent, we are the solution to mankind's greatest problems. We cannot be one thing because we are many things. We cannot just go along with the crowd because someone has to challenge to the system and ask why we do this that way when there are other perspectives that have not been considered. We see society. Yes it works. But why? How? Could it run more efficiently? Who's working on the design for improvements? Will there be cake?
I was assessed earlier this year. An hour interview with a resident upon which the psychiatrist then faltered back to a previous diagnosis I'd had, years ago, of bpd. They categorically refused that I see a neuropsychologist. In my report things were stated, such as because I cosleep with my children and husband I cannot possibly have sensory issues. I am interested in learning about human behaviour, I've sought help through therapy often and so clearly I'm not on the spectrum. I am a girl, so clearly I'm not on the spectrum. 😂😅🙈
Thats the first Video i watched Form you.... And i Just want to say that your soo cute. And thank you that you did this Video because i struggel about to be Trans and i might have autism too. And i thougt i am the only one, so thank you........ And sorry for my horrible english.
Thank you for this video!! It's great to see the point of view of someone who's directly concerned by the subject. Keep up the good work 😘
My older brother was diagnosed with autism very young. However I wasn't diagnosed. But for the past 2 years I've gotten really into learning about all of this and now that I got basic knowledge I noticed I was doing or experiencing a lot of the "symptoms". Idk if that's a kind of copying mechanism I got from living with my bro or if there's smth going on 🧐
Also I was advised to buy stim toys for school because I struggle a lot to concentrate and think when I'm not doing smth with my hands, idk if that could help??
Hi Aaron, I think I’m likely autistic but I never got diagnosed and now I’m really scared to. My school is famous for being really accommodating and there’s at least 1 autistic person in every class, but that leads to NT students being really upset and feeling “discriminated against” because there are like “relaxation rooms” and assistants for autistic students only... It’s at a point where autism has become a sort of “meme” at the school. I’m really scared of what it could mean for me to get an official diagnosis.
hi Aaron, I can relate to a lot of the symptoms you describe, but haven't been diagnosed. I'm going to explore this further. Thank you :)
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I get where that comes from, though it is not very prevalent after you learn to adapt to social cues. It's not necessarily that some of us are trying to be rude, but oftentimes we end up being very blatant and not understanding when to say and not say certain things. Getting off topic is also pretty common, to my dismay when I'm trying to make a clear point and my brain's like "but what about this random thing?"
I have no filter and I don’t try to be rude usually
and I sort of just blurt things out witch can come of rude
I have aspergers and personally it's like hell for me because I have a hard time making eye contact, I'm sound sensitive, I have a hard time making friends, I have memory problems, I have a hard time not flapping my hands, I repeat words and sentences, and I get bullied. This disorder is too much for me and it causes me to become depressed and upset
Maybe you need a more supportive environment, being in contact with other people like yourself
you can make friends with.
Does it get on your nerves when the store is out of things you use on a regular basis? That is something that drives me nuts, and if the manufacturer reduces the package size or changes the ingredients. I can tell when a manufacturer changes even one ingredient in a food and I usually get really turned off and then can't eat it. If it changes the texture also that's even worse.