I feel bad for these women living in a very judgmental society. I myself is a 39 year old single woman. But this has been my choice since I was a little kid. My goal is to be single, with money, could travel the world, and do anything i want and just taking care of my mental health. And now I am living that dream. My family wanted me to marry someone, but they never force me. They respect my decision. I hope these girls would find their true happiness with or without a husband.
My in laws both mother and father in law side have unmarried cousins more than 50 ears of age taking care of their elderly counting the finances for the unwedded cousins retirement for old age home. Frankly I have seen some volatile marriages and in laws being despots, they are more at peace with the whole day for themselves, my in laws also have married cousins with no children at all and are also okay. They all posses some discompassionate shallow empathy since they never had responsibility of being a providing caring parent but frankly I have also seen horrible parents who gave nothing but trauma and some serious mental issues. We are I; a society thankfully where we don’t need to follow the code of society , a strong mindset is needed to be on your own which these women are not feeling but my family members do.
Old women once said to Single Women. "I'm 73 years old women and i can see my bloodline running through my children and on my grandkids too and i can very proudly that i live a better life then you"
Yep. Thanks to Social Media, 80% of women believe they deserve the top 20% of men. Imagine being with one of these harpies, wherein secretly, she feels like she's "settled for less" by being with you, when in reality, your sexual market value is objectively way higher than hers!! I'll pass.
Living with a woman isn’t a very happy affair for any man. They are ever demanding, always dissatisfied, always anxious, suspicious, insecure and forever nagging. She saved some man’s life by remaining single, for that I appreciate her.
WOW, her attitude is just unbelievable!!! She had plenty of guys to choose from and turned them all away. She had a guy she liked that liked her too and turned him away because "the only flaw was that his family's financial situation was AVERAGE" and he didn't own a house yet. Even when her family offered to help with a downpayment for a house for this golddigger, she still thumbed her nose at him. Now she's crying about the KARMA SHE EARNED for herself in her late 30's. She acts repentant, yet still shows her elitist attitude by saying "I can even consider a divorced man without children", clearly showing she'd think they're beneath her if not for her desperation. Yet despite all of this, we're supposed to feel sorry for this elitist gold digger? Wtf for?
There is no difference compare to a thief got caught and finds herself in jail/goal and ask herself how did I get here? You have choices and you still have choices, abundance; and yet you employ arrogance in quest of a partner for reproduction." Sweet heart! Try looking for love with an open mind, you might find it".
At least she seems to have realized how arrogant and foolish she was, and has wisely lowered her unrealistic standards. You can't say the same for most of the wom en in this video.
These women wonder why they're rejected because of their age and ask "isn't everyone imperfect?" Meanwhile, they reject men because of looks, height, financial status.... isn't everyone imperfect? The Great Wall remains undefeated
Although If I had a choice of an over 30 woman, it would be an Asian over an American. They look better at that age, and not so beat up. Kind of like a well taken care of used car vs. an old rental car with dents and high mileage.
When she was younger, she has focused on material things because for some reason, she was unhappy about herself. Her unhappiness has caused her to reject a decent, young man, who have treated her well, all because he didn’t own his own home. She sounds like the average American woman.
She can always marry a countryside farmer and be the breadwinner there. But of course, she won't do that because she wants someone higher in life than her.
@@Gregabob You are right on the money, bro. The only difference is that American women are demanding more than when they were in their 20's. It is sad but true.
This problem with older single women is not just a China issue. It is everywhere. When I date or dated a woman at least 28 or older, I can sense the desperation and need to get married ASAP by a woman. The sad fact is these women are not looking at you with lust, or wanting to have sex, or feeling you are their soulmate. Older women will not have the proper mindset of being submissive for a man, of actually wanting him for sex and love, and they lack the character to make a relationship last long. All of their messaging is about needing to get to a goal for themselves and not what the man wants and needs, which means the relationship will not be properly set at the beginning.
@@حجيمحمد-ط2مbecause they did tried to have relationships, but as you know, most men are abusive, 3 out of 5, women are single because they tried and they ended traumatized by those men. 9 out of 10 women had been SA and often by their own partners, men treats women like sh!t especially when the women are young. Women are single because of experiences. Funny how men always refuse to take accountability in this when all the databases and reports are out there.
@@XP1-hn9tq FAuut à moins d'être un homme béta. Un homme alfa dans la trantaine va choisir une femme dANS LA VINGTAINE. Une femme de 35 est périmé, 60% des femmes de 40 ans sont invisible pour les hommes et 99.9% des femmes de 50 ans sont invisible pour les hommes du même âge. C'est la réalité de la vie. Perso à 36 ans j'ai recontré ma femme de 21 ans et ça fait 30 ans de cela. Jamais je n'aurais regardé une femme de 30 ans autrement que pour le sexe d'un soir
😂 "Consider" is the key word here. As though the guy is more desperate than her, and will settle for anything that crosses his line of sight! Having gone through the divorce wringer, this guy does not want even a 23-year old hottie. You don't make it to the list.
I really like how they start crying about " we are not an unsold cabage, what, just because I am 30 I have to die alone?". And yet, they brought themselves into this situation EXACTLY due to such thinking, but towards the men. Not rich enough, not tall enough... What an irony.
The richest women in the world are all divorcees. All of the richest men in the world and most of Hollywood and professional athletes end up divorced. What chance does a normal man have? Women are incapable of long-term happiness.
It's easy to empathize with these women as they are discarded in favor of younger ones but, one has to wonder how many men these same women discarded, ignored or dumped for trivial superficial reasons when they were younger. Some of these women probably grew up feeling entitled to marry an imaginary hot handsome rich prince/celebrity/CEO/doctor and none of their suitors met those qualifications. Well, the tune changed.
They still want the same rich handsome man and rejecting everyone else not realizing that they lost youth beauty fertility and are likely very disagreeable. They could still get a man but they don’t want the man they could marry . So empathy is wrong here it’s completely their fault. Ignore and move on.
remember: "women need men as a fish needs a bicycle." there are plenty of lonely single bears out there in the woods, maybe women could try their luck with dating them.
While Chinese women drop their standards in the 30's, by then, it does not matter. In America, women RAISE their standards in their 30's, and raise them even more in their 40's. By the time they enter their 50's, they are forced to drop their mandatory list of 50 DOWN to 49 requirements, but it does not matter. So, they buy a both cats or dogs to take the place Chad.
You don't have to if you can become feminine and supportive of your man! You would be ahead of most women young or old! Stop being a feminist! I mean really stop being one, not just pretending to be a sweet lady to your man!
Very true. Lots of guys my age are going to these matchmaking events in China to get with 30+ year old women. Although to me, sitting at a dinner table with 8-12 women staring at you is a little unnerving, no matter how beautiful and available they are...
they got what they deserve rejecting good men with their high standard$ when they are young. prioritising $$$$$$$ignoring the other good qualities of the men still in their career building age.
Wealth and finacial stable men who is 35 wants a partner who is 25 yrs old. Why would the 35 yr old want a 38 yr old woman, who's beauty value has faded.
@@grgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgr2592 agreed. 20 yr old body are hot, sexy, smooth and all natural. Can a 39 yr old woman say the same? These women may say or think, they are young at heart. They could be. But their biology say otherwise.
@@BobbyLoo-jr8ys Only woman think we would, They need take the hint when we tell them beauty and fertility is what we desire. An't no man staring at a woman and saying "Look at the size of her degree/bank account". We will take a broke woman if she young and beautiful.
I got rejected by a woman I wanted to propose to. It was devastating and heartbreaking. But very few men are of high value at their 20s. Women should bet on the potential of the man (especially the economic one). The woman I got rejected by is now on her 30s unmarried. I feel sorry for her by I can’t marry someone how didn’t believe in me when I was average.
What a shame! It takes some common sense to realize that men in their 20s for the most part are still building their own lives. These women are definitely delusional, and especially because most of us are not born rich. Most of us have to work hard to get to where we are in life.
It's not just about sheng nu's age: it is the lack of self-awareness and understanding. Proud and picky when you were in your late teens and early twenties, expecting soulmates perfect in every way, rejecting everyone even with a minor flaw. That short window closes all too soon, yet the dream of finding the tall, rich, good looking, well educated, romantic, generous man with perfect teeth and full head of hair remain elusive...
For the women over 30, you are valuable as a human being, you can be a good person, and we wish you the best in life. However, if most men are not physically attracted to you and therefore dont want to have a committed relationship with you, you have no right to criticise and try to shame men for this.
@@jyeeeee bro, stop lying these women have nothing to offer, the value of their work is mediocre at best, and their attitudes and personalities are unbearable, they dont want to help their partners do anything. Im js
Met my husband when i was 24 n hes 25 when we both in uni. The thing is, we GROW together, taking life challenged with open heart. Yes, we do struggle financially in our early years but who doesnt? Manage ur struggles together wisely not emotionally. We r now in our 40's with kids and planning our retirement and children's education funds. Life is fast , live wisely not with dozens of expectations.
Exactly because any, and all that matters is happiness. My husband and I were broke when we first met too, but when I value than him, the most is that he was super intelligent, could hold a conversation, loves science like me, and we ended up both becoming science majors, and I’m now in my early 40s and he is in his late 30s and we are doing quite well for ourselves. I got him and he and that’s all I really wanted. I can’t imagine the pain being lonely.
This is why I have said in the past that it is incredibly important to meet young so you can do exactly that; grow together. The older you get the more set in your ways you become and the harder it is to invite someone else in. Not always the case of course but it certainly explains why people say dating in your 30's, 40's and above is an absolute miserable experience.
Girl: I want to be accepted for who i am. Same Girl: The man must be 6 feet tall, handsome, has abs, makes 100,000 dollars a year, has a house , 2 brand new cars, has multiple bank accounts worth milluons of dollars, can take me to Europe at least once a year, buys me a Hermes Bag, a Louie Vuitton bag, a Chanel bag, etc. Still Same Girl 10 years later, and still single: Where have all the good men gone? Still Same Girl at 40 years old collecting cats: I HATE MEN !!!!!
38 is old EVERYWHERE. The Chinese cutoff of 28 for "Shengnu" might clash with some cultures (the Wall is widely said to be 30), but unless women are like elves out of a fantasy, most women's looks and fertility will have taken a deep nosedive by 38, meaning men are right to value them less as potential mates.
@@Jed-pk6zg "Considered by whom?" Considered by GYNECOLOGISTS, it's not "demented ways of thinking" but actual science, educate yourself if you are not aware of these facts, besides risking miscarriages and genetic disorders a 35 yo woman only have about 8% of being pregnant, and a 40 yo about 1%!!! Good luck begining a family with those statistics.
@@grr594738 for a woman is definitely old. Did you not watch any of the video? High risk pregnancy is over 35. At 38 youre lucky to have one healthy child. Also, it means youve basically had 20 years to find a good man and have failed. 20 years is a LONG time for a woman and is an insight into their psychology. For men, it is different.
The fact the lady at 5:02 think being someones step mother is a bad thing speaks volumes about her attitude. No one should grow old and alone if they want to be with someone, but at the same time, there is a point where you have to realize, you are no longer the prize, they are.
@@Udjeox bit hard to be a stepmother when I'm male, but being that in today's world, you can literally change your gender based on how a person sneezes, anything is possible. But the comment wasn't so much wasn't about being a stepmother, but her attitude in general. I can guarantee you this though, she would overlook it based on the $$$$ the man brings to the table.
These women are lacking good advice. If you dream a house and riches, you can work towards that goal together with your husband, who probably wants the same things as you. But if you want someone who already has those things, you can ask yourself , what are you offering?
That is so true! That’s what my husband and I did. We were both young, and broke when we met. I met him when we worked at Long John Silver’s together. We are now homeowners, have decent savings accounts, and we built our lives together. I don’t know what’s so wrong with that.
What are you as a man offer? You’re supposed to be the one supporting and taking care of your family. If you need help doing this you aren’t ready to commit to others
@@joemontes4658 I wouldn't want to marry a parasite. If you do, you probably haven't received much love as a child. Btw my wife works and she's always trying to grow professionally, when I think about that I get hot like a dog
"Lower my standards"??? What standards? Beauty? Money? House? Job? Age? There is only one standard in life for a partner: be a good partner. But she still does not realize that,
Exactly brother Materialism not quality of a person that can be progressive for both character and materialism that can easily be gained or loss. They don’t understand you should never measure the quality of a person. With materialistic bullshit.
There is One Big Elephant that no one is talking about in the comment section. That is "The Parents." They refuse to accept their daughters bringing a man with his status reads "In progress." The parents want her to bring a man with status reads "Complete." Very few will allow progress to be made, but not by much. Talking about pressure.
If you actually bothered to watch the video, one of the woman stated that her parents encouraged her to marry a man of "average" wealth, and even offered to help her and her boyfriend buy a house. It doesn't seem that any of the women in the video made mention that their parents stopped them from getting married due to a man's lack of wealth.
I love how they completely feel dehumanized for being older, but they constantly dehumanize men for not being absolute perfection on every possible aspect 🤣
THEY CHOSE TO BE A SPERM DUMP FOR EVERY CHAD, TYRONE, AND JUAN THAT TWITCHED THEIR 🙀🙀 AND ROLLED THREIR EYES AT ANY GOOD REAL MEN THAT HIT ON THEM AND NOW THEY ARE ALL USED UP!!😢😢😢😢
If you are still single, it's by choice... your standards are still too high for your looks, age, and status. It's not that men aren't meeting your standards, it's that the men you would like to marry are that you do not meet their standards. Go back to the village, and find a man 20 or more years older than you... so you are now the younger woman. There is zero chance a man the same age would be interested in you... as they are looking for women 20 years younger than you.
The men were rejected when they were young and had lots of potential by these women. Now they don’t want to give them everything they earned in their life when the woman foolishly spent hers. She wasted both lives by her choice and now wants everything given immediately.
@@Shannon-gr7rm and why should they not overlook them? some definitely should be overlooked. If you think that any man should be open to any relationship with someone just because she is a woman who may accept him, that is not good. Men typically bring the most to the table in a relationship and women only bring their looks and ability to have children. Some women bring intelligence, compassion, and other qualities, but most are just looking for their next victim. Ultimately they fall victim to themselves because they destroy their own lives along with the trust of men, and keep any children hey happen to pop out, from having a real mom, or dad. Instead waste their time on the worst men, sharing the few liars that are considered desirable by almost all women. Good way to get diseases.
These women sound like Some Western Feminists who put appearance, wealth and material gains in life as the predominant reasons for having a relationship, instead of concentrating in good interpersonal relationships that could lead to Love. I have seen many older Ladies in the USA getting married despite not having beauty as these Chinese women, but they had charm, are very nice and polite, and found men willing to get married with them, are happily married, and some have children, some don't. Chinese women and men have lots of customs and beliefs that are detrimental to a happy and prosperous life. IMHO, they deserve what they have.
@@lycan2494 yes I don’t want average. You can’t have you’re cake and eat it too. You men want pretty girls to date you but have no goal’s ambition or even work ethic. If I’m high value why the hell would I waste my time on a bum who needs someone to hold his hand? You’re a grown man dude you shouldn’t have to depend on someone to help you succeed.
These women brought this on themselves. A lot of these women are still very picky in their older age, which is why they are still single. Don't feel sorry for them
"I don't mean to discriminate against baldness" yet the 2nd girl did EXACTLY that by clearly being offended by and turning him down over his baldness, despite the fact that the guy is well off and lives in a first rate city. As for #3, it seems at first she seems like a nice girl until that part about "Because the OUTSTANDING MEN are either married early or only like girls in their 20s." Gee, maybe if she was willing to, God forbid, be willing to accept an average normal guy instead of being a demanding stuck up elitist then she'd probably have a man already.
Bro i'm bald and red pilled. But listen to the whole story the guy was repulsive, spat his food, was super sweaty. Like i'd think it's worse if my wife was repulsed by me.
Yes, many men have it very hard in a marriage. And it is actually not better for a man who married a rich woman.It is noth worth it. In my country was it actually much better for a man who was married in 1950s than today. But that was a time when all men work and most of the women was houswifes. Today is the metherialism so extreme and that is so stressful.
@@drdal Yup. takes men decades to build up their wealth, get an education, their career and then the women just want to slide right in once all the hard work is done? Then I get to lose at least 50% of all my assets to her cause of misandry laws.. no thanks.
I’m single at 36 and as a man I don’t mind it. It gets easier. I can keep all my own money and don’t want to be bothered setting up dates with women and all that junk. Never wanted kids anyway.
was dating Chinese woman here in US. from actual china. we were about to get married. about 4 months dating. she was a bit over 30. gave me a demo of a good wife, first few weeks than things started going off the rails. i have completely taken care of her financially, all bills paid, food, etc. she did not work, was in transition between jobs. she did cook once a day. however, issues started when i noticed sex went down from once every 2 days to once a week to once a month. that doesnt work, in my culture( eastern european) it's a duty of a woman to have her husband sexually satisfied, it's not at her discretion. last time we had it, right after she asked me to take her shopping. i would of done it without sex, but i hated how she used sex as manipulation. than as we went grocery shopping, with time she stopped paying attention to the prices, just grabbed whatever, which is not a correct way to grocery shop for a family. once she cooked an ox tail, and than rushed to eat it faster before i wake up, as if not to share with me. i would only try a piece, but whatever, it's such a rat move. again, all groceries bought for my money, i did not ask her for a dollar entire time we were together and she was also living with me, without any contributions to the house bills. she did laundry twice, in 4 months. did not vacuum once, i had to come home, working 60-70 hours a week shifts, and also do house work. like for real? it's wife's duties, very simple, i thought chinese women were more traditional. than she threw me a tantrum because she didnt want to do dishes, and 2nd time when i asked her to cook me a sauce for bbq. last straw was, she left home, for an entire day, without letting me know anything. again it's not a way to build a family. i remember it as clear as i can, it was my birthday and that day i told her to pack and leave. that was it. would i date a chinese woman? i'd date any woman of any race, i am able to sustain a family. however, as far as her wife's duties, i dont want to remind her one bit, if i have to ask for sex, she already messed up. and she has to be in it for a family, not her egoistic, feminist ideology. I also noticed, how that chinese girlfriend i had, was always trying to do bare minimum just to pass by, it's later i found out that it's a culture in china, to be a lazy slob.
The saddest part is even if they did meet the guy of their requirements, they still might treat him like shit. Since in the back of the woman's mind, "I still could do better than him."
@@Shannon-gr7rm since they are “strong independent women”, these always “are better off” until they’re not. China 🇨🇳 economy is imploding, these single career women are being purged. The only thing that mattered to leftover women is their career and without it they are nothing 🧐.
women's value simply drops to nothing when older from all points of view. I'm 32, single and only i know how much i suffered at the hand of women and there are so many like me...
@@The_torero This is simple to answer: Women are attracted by beauty and status, if you were never beautiful, you never attracted, but when you grow older and succesful, you have status. In simple terms after 30, if you are successful, you're swarmed by women who knows their beauty will soon fade away
There is a saying that always feels wise in many situations. Do not let "perfection" be the enemy of "good". If you havent found a good person, keep looking. But if you already found a good partner, then go for it. Greedily seeking more can cause problems. There are no undo buttons in real life.
Trouble is most single women are "box-tickers". If a prospective male partner ticks only 19 out of 20 boxes, that is grounds for rejection. Thus these women end up raising cats or fatherless babies from IVF / surrogacy.
@@jhfearon1052 I'm male and have a list of boxes to tick too: 1) Must be female, 2) Must be breathing. If she checks those boxes then I'm open for discussion.
Just adopt if you are too old. Good to have happy family and children. You help the child and you help yourself. Doesn't' have to be your blood child as long as there is love and companionship.
LOVE is not in their selection criteria.They missed the fact that love is the driving force to have a happy married life. Financial,etc are only secondary.
Men after being single for this long facing constant rejection are hardly to blame for being the way they are. You decisions and choices changed a whole society. Soon the same will be true everywhere. It is good to see that you partially understand your own situation but for the whole movie i haven't heard once a woman state they understand how they punished men, all i heard was self pity.
Frankly, stay single, you’ll be better off mentally. Find another female or two with the same thoughts and share a house to cut costs. Too much importance is placed on breeding more mouths to feed.
One thing you forget: Youths are a necessity for a family to be able to take care of the elderly. And for society to keep functioning. Society needs young people to work and provide taxes.
glad that this channel able to offer not just facts of whats happening in china but also offer advices and good vibes rather than blaming this and that.
Meanwhile there are millions of Chinese men who live in rural villages or small towns who cannot find a woman who wants them because they did not get a college education, or they work at a farm or a factory.
I've been saying that for years, don't wait to long, get married when at your peek, prime, and look's, but then everyone thinks we men will sway you of your feet and marry, no because your notch count is high and you will be always aggressive, moody and think you deserve anything, well reality kick you in the face when we don't want you just to be a bachelor, no wife happy life.
There are a lot of women I've met who said they would never want children. And they changed their minds by the time they were in their mid-30s because that possibility was at risk of disappearing. What can you do. This is human nature, self-destructive as it is.
Not wanting to have children is not human nature, it is social programming and conditioning. From strictly a biological standpoint, our only purpose is to have children.
It’s not that they can’t get anyone. It’s just that they can’t get what they want. That’s just life. We all experience that, be it with relationships or anything else. You either take what you can get, or go without. That’s the hard truth and they need to be mature and accept it. Crying, whining that it’s not fair and blaming yourself and other people is pointless. The sooner they grow up the better.
Older women finally realize how younger men feel and finally gain a morsel of empathy. I honestly don’t feel bad for these women at all. That panic and rejection don’t feel too good does it?
When these women complain about being discriminated against because of their ages, they still continue to discriminate against men. Choices come with consequences. Don't tell me you did not know about the consequences because you did. You'll never get married in this life. Stay single.
@@christianmendozatapia295..You do realise only 1% of men earn 100k or above annually, right? The reality is that most men will never be "financially stable". Look up studies. Men are actually lonelier than ever! Suicide amongst older men is also increasing, so what does that tell you?
Honestly not everybody is suitable for marriage. Especially not those who love to be independent in life. Marriage is a big commitment. And to have a happy married life the love for your partner should be so strong that you forget your ego in it. Something that doesn't happen to everyone. I am a 42 year old never married straight guy. From the age of 19, I have been rejected by more than half a dozen girls whom I explicitly expressed my interest. The first one was a year older to me, then some in their early 20s when I was of similar age. The last girl I strongly desired for at age 38 was a 25 something girl. The only few girls who showed interest in me were having some health issues. Their health problem would not let them have high standards. I really can't imagine marrying a 35+ woman who will have fertility issues or is just marrying for the sake of social custom. There is no love or attraction in it.
And if you marry an unwell woman and care for her, if she gets well she'll dump you without even saying thanks. It's like marrying an obese one. If she ever loses weight she'll be gone. Loyalty doesn't seem to be a common female trait. They are always looking to climb higher in the monkey tree.
37 year old average woman is unwilling to get with a wealthy guy of similar age because he's bald! He could be the answer to all her problems........ but he's bald! How entitled can you get?
tbf, baldness in men, especially before 40, is not as widespread as it is in the west. it's probably a little jarring for her, which is understandable.
Same group of women who belittled young loving men who are willing to work hard to make things work but was turned down my them cause their social background or financial situation. You rip what you sow. Have fun with your twenty cats. 8:18 If a dude said that about a girl he would’ve been called shallow. At your age, you still want to be picky.🙄
Im not being mean. You are 39. You had high expectations. You kept them high. You are not smart enough to realize. Marriage is not a temporary thing. Many men struggle to get a high pay job. You simply broke the love for money
These older Chinese women need to look for 58 or 60 year old Western men who can speak Chinese. That's a more realistic , but still unlikely scenario. 40 or 45 year old guys , even 50 year olds, they can attract 25 year old women. I doubt even many older men want a Chinese leftover.
W0men from 30 and on have CHOSEN their future. As a man, you have a lot of CHOICES after 30's. Know the difference between the past and the future, that's all.
@@ampa4989 wtf are you on about? man don't care about a women's money or career. they care about their beauty and if they can have kids, at 30+ its in dangerous teritory for a woman to have kids. A well established man doesn't want to deal with women with bagage and trauma from their previous relationships with man.....not even forgetting about the womans body count. man care about a women's past, women care about the man's future.
As a man in your 30s, you can choose to pump and dump these women who never gave you the time of day when you were young. Some nice lady in your 20s could've saved you from pursuing a life of vengeance by marrying you.
It would help if women in China could change their mentality. In other parts of the world, people can still be very happy being unmarried or without children. The irony is that I often hear people who are married or have children lament at their loss of freedom and the need to deal with family conflicts all the time. Having someone else in your life does not guarantee happiness.
You are completely deluded if you think dudes over 35 don't have issues when it comes to issues/mutations with sperm. Sperm banks will NOT accept sperm from men aged 40 and over. Look it up...smdh
I was a 4the son my mum was 39 when she had me I am so grateful for my life its not easy having older parents as a young child however my life is as valuable as having a 25 yesterday old mum
@@stuartneary3067 while my niece has had her first successful pregnancy at 36 years of age, my friend's sister had her two children in her late 30's, maybe even at 40 for her last, but her daughter at just 21 I think is now onto number two in the oven, number one is growing well, Older pregnancies are higher risk for sure, but sometimes they work out quite well which seems to have been your case also, cheers!
Feminism is to blame. Take women's rights away. They can't make good decisions for themselves. If only their father arranged marriage their daughters away, our birth rate wouldn't go down.
I don't entirely blame the women for being unreservedly picky. The old school had it right. Father or older MALE sibling ought to choose her husband when she is 18 and virgin. No throwing away her virginity as if it has no value.
I can’t for the life of me understand, why women require a man to „own a house“, especially in this economy. If he is under 45/50, how could a normal man (without wealthy parents/family) ever be able to afford a nice car, a house and a dowry WITHOUT loaning money from the bank?? And if he needs to loan money from the bank, he has to pay it back every month…that takes so much cash away from your monthly income! In my eyes, that’s absolutely foolish and puts so much more unnecessary pressure on men. My husband is the most loyal, caring and bossy husband. He never earned a lot of money but he knows how to safe it and invest smartly. It breaks my heart to think about not being with him now, because he didn’t have a lot materialistic stuff 20 years ago…
"before 30 my expectation were unreal" and now, "I can even consider a divorced man without children"... Well, your expectation are still "unreal". That is your problem, you want someone to come and take care of you and you want to offer nothing meaningful.
I am an Indian, I have a house and I am planning to buy a car, but that does not mean that I have to marry a woman who has been used up by four or five men. If I work hard to buy something, I will buy the best and the newest product, not someone else's leftovers. That is my choice. If my words make someone call me crazy, then I am crazy and I am proud of my madness.
I m from india and I respect chinese people and their culture...I had no clue about older single women in China was in complete shock after watching this video and other similar videos... As a well wisher would like to suggest not to get influenced by what's happening in other Western countries, or social media feminists who will only make your life miserable....chinese culture is beautiful and don't let anyone spoil your and your country's future...don't have unrealistic expectations, get married and live happily....life is beautiful ❤️
I feel bad for these women. Why don't they date outside of China. I am a single man, I think many of these women crying telling their story are strong and kind women. How does a man like me get to chat with any of these women. The 37yr woman who had a date with rude bald man, 34yr that had depression a couple times or the woman that was debating having IVF OR the lady the exercises daily and managed her weight and feels so anxious. I'm sure many men would like to meet great women like them .
Don't rush into marriage just because you want to experience married life. Marriage is a relationship that requires self-sacrifice and dedication. Without personal attraction and love for each other, no relationship can last. Material things can’t bind any relationship for long.
As 37 year old male and still single and no permanent job I know how hard it would be for a female to be still single,the concept of this world is so stupid and rediculous😢
Lady at 5:00 is very pretty. But she has low probability of conceiving. Her best match is a divorced capable man who already has a kid and is looking for a lifetime companion.
Beauty standards are all different around the world. In China, homegirl may be somewhat attractive but by international standards, she is well below average! So no, she'd would hardly be considered pretty if she were in SoCal or Miami!
Maybe she can try for a younger man but the condition is she has to lower her standard as younger men may consider someone who is at least sane. But it would probably be only that young man who doesn't have very high expectations or is not looking for children right away. As for the fact of bearing a child, they can probably go for other means, if pregnancy is at risk. Older men are not advisable as they either be married or carrying a lot of baggage from previous divorce.
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I feel bad for these women living in a very judgmental society. I myself is a 39 year old single woman. But this has been my choice since I was a little kid. My goal is to be single, with money, could travel the world, and do anything i want and just taking care of my mental health. And now I am living that dream. My family wanted me to marry someone, but they never force me. They respect my decision. I hope these girls would find their true happiness with or without a husband.
My in laws both mother and father in law side have unmarried cousins more than 50 ears of age taking care of their elderly counting the finances for the unwedded cousins retirement for old age home. Frankly I have seen some volatile marriages and in laws being despots, they are more at peace with the whole day for themselves, my in laws also have married cousins with no children at all and are also okay. They all posses some discompassionate shallow empathy since they never had responsibility of being a providing caring parent but frankly I have also seen horrible parents who gave nothing but trauma and some serious mental issues. We are I; a society thankfully where we don’t need to follow the code of society , a strong mindset is needed to be on your own which these women are not feeling but my family members do.
Ok cool.
Old women once said to Single Women.
"I'm 73 years old women and i can see my bloodline running through my children and on my grandkids too and i can very proudly that i live a better life then you"
Same for you men. Hope you find your happiness with or without women. In fact you don’t need them.
Younger men only after your welth but older men might be already married or divorced 😅😨
After 30, women find out what it's like to be the vast majority of men.
This comment should be pinned at the top!
@@starwalk3r I agree.
Yep. Thanks to Social Media, 80% of women believe they deserve the top 20% of men. Imagine being with one of these harpies, wherein secretly, she feels like she's "settled for less" by being with you, when in reality, your sexual market value is objectively way higher than hers!! I'll pass.
gold!
superb!
Living with a woman isn’t a very happy affair for any man. They are ever demanding, always dissatisfied, always anxious, suspicious, insecure and forever nagging. She saved some man’s life by remaining single, for that I appreciate her.
sex life will probably be lousy as well.
You go girl! You're a strong independent woman who doesnt need no man. Just 40 more years to go.
LOL
I hope they made it to 100
😂😂
WOW, her attitude is just unbelievable!!! She had plenty of guys to choose from and turned them all away. She had a guy she liked that liked her too and turned him away because "the only flaw was that his family's financial situation was AVERAGE" and he didn't own a house yet. Even when her family offered to help with a downpayment for a house for this golddigger, she still thumbed her nose at him. Now she's crying about the KARMA SHE EARNED for herself in her late 30's. She acts repentant, yet still shows her elitist attitude by saying "I can even consider a divorced man without children", clearly showing she'd think they're beneath her if not for her desperation. Yet despite all of this, we're supposed to feel sorry for this elitist gold digger? Wtf for?
That’s when you as a man lay down 5 impossible expectations she would need to meet before he’d consider dating her. I too love this game.
I thought this was just happening in the west.
There is no difference compare to a thief got caught and finds herself in jail/goal and ask herself how did I get here?
You have choices and you still have choices, abundance; and yet you employ arrogance in quest of a partner for reproduction." Sweet heart! Try looking for love with an open mind, you might find it".
I believe that man had got his true love later and living a good life with childrena
At least she seems to have realized how arrogant and foolish she was, and has wisely lowered her unrealistic standards. You can't say the same for most of the wom en in this video.
“… before turning 30 my expectations were unrealistic …”
Well, at least she admitted it, most don’t.
@@penguinvic9892 but she knew it and never changed her mind tho, doesnt make sense 🤯
@humbertovargas1211 and that is why, i cant take womens serious
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
As a man I’m not dating someone poor and struggling. I need someone who has goals and ambitions fuck kids
LOL she will go right back to demanding it as soon as she sees whats left of her pickings.
These women wonder why they're rejected because of their age and ask "isn't everyone imperfect?" Meanwhile, they reject men because of looks, height, financial status.... isn't everyone imperfect?
The Great Wall remains undefeated
The last sentence is soooooo funny😅
Hahaha
You can't expect reason from a creature that bases all it's decisions on emotional impulse.
They all want white men or successful Asian men. Dark skin men are not a choice.
Although If I had a choice of an over 30 woman, it would be an Asian over an American. They look better at that age, and not so beat up. Kind of like a well taken care of used car vs. an old rental car with dents and high mileage.
most men like no seal no deal
When she was younger, she has focused on material things because for some reason, she was unhappy about herself. Her unhappiness has caused her to reject a decent, young man, who have treated her well, all because he didn’t own his own home. She sounds like the average American woman.
Now shes twice as unhappy with herself smh
They holding out for gigachad
The difference between her and an American woman is she admits her mistakes and regrets them. She also doesn't blame men.
She can always marry a countryside farmer and be the breadwinner there. But of course, she won't do that because she wants someone higher in life than her.
@@Gregabob You are right on the money, bro. The only difference is that American women are demanding more than when they were in their 20's. It is sad but true.
This problem with older single women is not just a China issue. It is everywhere. When I date or dated a woman at least 28 or older, I can sense the desperation and need to get married ASAP by a woman. The sad fact is these women are not looking at you with lust, or wanting to have sex, or feeling you are their soulmate. Older women will not have the proper mindset of being submissive for a man, of actually wanting him for sex and love, and they lack the character to make a relationship last long. All of their messaging is about needing to get to a goal for themselves and not what the man wants and needs, which means the relationship will not be properly set at the beginning.
I couldnt agree more, or otherwise why are they single at their 40s? meanwhile they have dozens of men trying to marry them at their 20s
@@Jed-pk6zg You are a simp and doesnt have self worth!
Facts
Maybe a shock to you by women don’t exist for men, their goal isn’t to make men happy, they are people just like men…..
@@حجيمحمد-ط2مbecause they did tried to have relationships, but as you know, most men are abusive, 3 out of 5, women are single because they tried and they ended traumatized by those men. 9 out of 10 women had been SA and often by their own partners, men treats women like sh!t especially when the women are young. Women are single because of experiences. Funny how men always refuse to take accountability in this when all the databases and reports are out there.
This chick said, " I can even consider a divorced man without children," as if a childless divorced man would want a 38-year-old woman 😂.
A single man that is also in that age group might, but most men give up as well.
@@XP1-hn9tq FAuut à moins d'être un homme béta. Un homme alfa dans la trantaine va choisir une femme dANS LA VINGTAINE. Une femme de 35 est périmé, 60% des femmes de 40 ans sont invisible pour les hommes et 99.9% des femmes de 50 ans sont invisible pour les hommes du même âge. C'est la réalité de la vie. Perso à 36 ans j'ai recontré ma femme de 21 ans et ça fait 30 ans de cela. Jamais je n'aurais regardé une femme de 30 ans autrement que pour le sexe d'un soir
😂 "Consider" is the key word here. As though the guy is more desperate than her, and will settle for anything that crosses his line of sight! Having gone through the divorce wringer, this guy does not want even a 23-year old hottie. You don't make it to the list.
Why would I date someone with kids? That shows me they aren’t faithful unless their a widow
@@XP1-hn9tq Non c'est jusqu'un homme Alpha ne veut pas éduquer les restant d'un autre homme
I really like how they start crying about " we are not an unsold cabage, what, just because I am 30 I have to die alone?".
And yet, they brought themselves into this situation EXACTLY due to such thinking, but towards the men. Not rich enough, not tall enough...
What an irony.
Even if you give a woman everything she asks for, she still won’t be happy.
Somente mulheres, crianças e cachorros são amados incondicionalmente, Um homem só é amado enquanto ele pode prover alguma coisa.
Chris Rock
Greedy Corporations: "Hold my beer, amateurs"
@@OptimusPraimusit’s been this way since the dawn of time.
@@seraph3761 São poucos que descobre a realidade natural feminina.
The richest women in the world are all divorcees. All of the richest men in the world and most of Hollywood and professional athletes end up divorced. What chance does a normal man have? Women are incapable of long-term happiness.
It's easy to empathize with these women as they are discarded in favor of younger ones but, one has to wonder how many men these same women discarded, ignored or dumped for trivial superficial reasons when they were younger.
Some of these women probably grew up feeling entitled to marry an imaginary hot handsome rich prince/celebrity/CEO/doctor and none of their suitors met those qualifications. Well, the tune changed.
💯 percent!
They still want the same rich handsome man and rejecting everyone else not realizing that they lost youth beauty fertility and are likely very disagreeable.
They could still get a man but they don’t want the man they could marry .
So empathy is wrong here it’s completely their fault. Ignore and move on.
remember: "women need men as a fish needs a bicycle." there are plenty of lonely single bears out there in the woods, maybe women could try their luck with dating them.
There it is
😂😂😂 you are damn right pal!
While Chinese women drop their standards in the 30's, by then, it does not matter. In America, women RAISE their standards in their 30's, and raise them even more in their 40's. By the time they enter their 50's, they are forced to drop their mandatory list of 50 DOWN to 49 requirements, but it does not matter. So, they buy a both cats or dogs to take the place Chad.
Western women use canines and baseball bats?
As a 38-year-old woman, how do you get a husband? Simple. Date a guy 20+ years older. That's your market.
That's true, but even some men in late 50 s can still attract women in early 30 s if they are handsome and have a flat stomach.
@@ActiveAussie2024 Case in point: I'm 62 and my gorgeous gf is 31.
You don't have to if you can become feminine and supportive of your man! You would be ahead of most women young or old! Stop being a feminist! I mean really stop being one, not just pretending to be a sweet lady to your man!
Very true. Lots of guys my age are going to these matchmaking events in China to get with 30+ year old women. Although to me, sitting at a dinner table with 8-12 women staring at you is a little unnerving, no matter how beautiful and available they are...
@@Gregabob Have you tried this? What did you think?
I feel sad for this situation in china, but I certainly don't feel sorry for these women. Their standars are what kept them from marrying.
they got what they deserve rejecting good men with their high standard$ when they are young. prioritising $$$$$$$ignoring the other good qualities of the men still in their career building age.
Well said. I can fully agree with this.
More like their delusions.
So they should date a poor boy who would leave them as a single mother?
@@joemontes4658 I'm neither rich nor poor. I think I'm doing alright with my wife and kids.
And why poor boys would leave them be single mothers?
The body and beauty of woman @39 is NOT the same as woman @18. The difference is HUGE.
Wealth and finacial stable men who is 35 wants a partner who is 25 yrs old. Why would the 35 yr old want a 38 yr old woman, who's beauty value has faded.
for me women atractivness completly killed when she reached 35 old. :)
@@grgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgr2592 agreed. 20 yr old body are hot, sexy, smooth and all natural. Can a 39 yr old woman say the same? These women may say or think, they are young at heart. They could be. But their biology say otherwise.
@@grgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgr2592at 39 she's a grandmother..
@@BobbyLoo-jr8ys Only woman think we would, They need take the hint when we tell them beauty and fertility is what we desire. An't no man staring at a woman and saying "Look at the size of her degree/bank account". We will take a broke woman if she young and beautiful.
I got rejected by a woman I wanted to propose to. It was devastating and heartbreaking. But very few men are of high value at their 20s. Women should bet on the potential of the man (especially the economic one).
The woman I got rejected by is now on her 30s unmarried. I feel sorry for her by I can’t marry someone how didn’t believe in me when I was average.
After 30s. They are home breaker😂😂😂😂😂😂
What a shame! It takes some common sense to realize that men in their 20s for the most part are still building their own lives. These women are definitely delusional, and especially because most of us are not born rich. Most of us have to work hard to get to where we are in life.
@@tankman20064
Exactly
It's not just about sheng nu's age: it is the lack of self-awareness and understanding. Proud and picky when you were in your late teens and early twenties, expecting soulmates perfect in every way, rejecting everyone even with a minor flaw. That short window closes all too soon, yet the dream of finding the tall, rich, good looking, well educated, romantic, generous man with perfect teeth and full head of hair remain elusive...
Why didn't these women's mothers tell them this when they were growing up? Or perhaps they did and they didn't listen.
For the women over 30, you are valuable as a human being, you can be a good person, and we wish you the best in life.
However, if most men are not physically attracted to you and therefore dont want to have a committed relationship with you, you have no right to criticise and try to shame men for this.
Some of these women aren't bad looking. Enough for few pump and dumps. Until their value is nonexistent.
Men that are not attracted to adult women deserve to be criticized. These women didn't miss out on anything.
@@PrecursorYangThey didn't miss out on much.
@@jyeeeee bro, stop lying these women have nothing to offer, the value of their work is mediocre at best, and their attitudes and personalities are unbearable, they dont want to help their partners do anything. Im js
@@Shannon-gr7rm Sounds like the guys who were interested in you.
Met my husband when i was 24 n hes 25 when we both in uni. The thing is, we GROW together, taking life challenged with open heart. Yes, we do struggle financially in our early years but who doesnt? Manage ur struggles together wisely not emotionally.
We r now in our 40's with kids and planning our retirement and children's education funds. Life is fast , live wisely not with dozens of expectations.
Exactly because any, and all that matters is happiness. My husband and I were broke when we first met too, but when I value than him, the most is that he was super intelligent, could hold a conversation, loves science like me, and we ended up both becoming science majors, and I’m now in my early 40s and he is in his late 30s and we are doing quite well for ourselves. I got him and he and that’s all I really wanted. I can’t imagine the pain being lonely.
This is why I have said in the past that it is incredibly important to meet young so you can do exactly that; grow together.
The older you get the more set in your ways you become and the harder it is to invite someone else in. Not always the case of course but it certainly explains why people say dating in your 30's, 40's and above is an absolute miserable experience.
not everybody wants to endure struggle love just to be "happy"
Girl: I want to be accepted for who i am.
Same Girl: The man must be 6 feet tall, handsome, has abs, makes 100,000 dollars a year, has a house , 2 brand new cars, has multiple bank accounts worth milluons of dollars, can take me to Europe at least once a year, buys me a Hermes Bag, a Louie Vuitton bag, a Chanel bag, etc.
Still Same Girl 10 years later, and still single: Where have all the good men gone?
Still Same Girl at 40 years old collecting cats: I HATE MEN !!!!!
And the women demanding this, have NOTHING to offer a man.
@@John_knee80 Yeah women have become the most demanding they ever have while also providing the least they ever had.
@@TT09B5 Hoeflation: the price goes up but the product gets worse.
@John_knee80 they have something to offer but it's not worth all that when all women have one.
38 is old EVERYWHERE. The Chinese cutoff of 28 for "Shengnu" might clash with some cultures (the Wall is widely said to be 30), but unless women are like elves out of a fantasy, most women's looks and fertility will have taken a deep nosedive by 38, meaning men are right to value them less as potential mates.
Western is 30 and that's pushing it, the Wall is at 30-35. We Western men here in the West talk about the wall all the time.
@@Jed-pk6zg If you want to have children yes in a woman it is old age, a 35+ yo pregnant woman is considered to have a geriatric pregnancy.
@@Jed-pk6zg "Considered by whom?" Considered by GYNECOLOGISTS, it's not "demented ways of thinking" but actual science, educate yourself if you are not aware of these facts, besides risking miscarriages and genetic disorders a 35 yo woman only have about 8% of being pregnant, and a 40 yo about 1%!!! Good luck begining a family with those statistics.
@@Jed-pk6zg Go educate yourself
@@grr594738 for a woman is definitely old. Did you not watch any of the video? High risk pregnancy is over 35. At 38 youre lucky to have one healthy child. Also, it means youve basically had 20 years to find a good man and have failed. 20 years is a LONG time for a woman and is an insight into their psychology.
For men, it is different.
The fact the lady at 5:02 think being someones step mother is a bad thing speaks volumes about her attitude. No one should grow old and alone if they want to be with someone, but at the same time, there is a point where you have to realize, you are no longer the prize, they are.
I want my own children not raising someone else child. Everyone has a preference. You're more than welcome to be a step mother.
@@Udjeox bit hard to be a stepmother when I'm male, but being that in today's world, you can literally change your gender based on how a person sneezes, anything is possible. But the comment wasn't so much wasn't about being a stepmother, but her attitude in general. I can guarantee you this though, she would overlook it based on the $$$$ the man brings to the table.
@@UdjeoxThe odds of having your own child at 40 is slimmer by the day. Enjoy your cats.
These women are lacking good advice. If you dream a house and riches, you can work towards that goal together with your husband, who probably wants the same things as you. But if you want someone who already has those things, you can ask yourself , what are you offering?
That is so true! That’s what my husband and I did. We were both young, and broke when we met. I met him when we worked at Long John Silver’s together. We are now homeowners, have decent savings accounts, and we built our lives together. I don’t know what’s so wrong with that.
What are you as a man offer? You’re supposed to be the one supporting and taking care of your family. If you need help doing this you aren’t ready to commit to others
@@joemontes4658 I wouldn't want to marry a parasite. If you do, you probably haven't received much love as a child. Btw my wife works and she's always trying to grow professionally, when I think about that I get hot like a dog
Just admit that you want a sugar daddy.
And ATM machine.
"Lower my standards"??? What standards? Beauty? Money? House? Job? Age?
There is only one standard in life for a partner: be a good partner. But she still does not realize that,
Ditto
Exactly brother Materialism not quality of a person that can be progressive for both character and materialism that can easily be gained or loss. They don’t understand you should never measure the quality of a person. With materialistic bullshit.
There is One Big Elephant that no one is talking about in the comment section. That is "The Parents." They refuse to accept their daughters bringing a man with his status reads "In progress." The parents want her to bring a man with status reads "Complete." Very few will allow progress to be made, but not by much. Talking about pressure.
Very well said!!
Great point 👍👍👍
She stated that she rejected one of her suitors because he had no house...yet...HER PARENTS URGED HER TO MARRY HIM ANYWAY..!!
If you actually bothered to watch the video, one of the woman stated that her parents encouraged her to marry a man of "average" wealth, and even offered to help her and her boyfriend buy a house. It doesn't seem that any of the women in the video made mention that their parents stopped them from getting married due to a man's lack of wealth.
@thedreamer9011 copium. actually the opposite 💀
Cats will be expensive in the future.
Haha, these older single women are already starting to regret it.
Nonsense, cats know when to get married and have children, that is in fact the only difference between a cat and a modern woman.
42 RMB per kilogram (without fur).
Probably costs more than Tesla Cars lol
How do I invest in cat stocks?
I love how they completely feel dehumanized for being older, but they constantly dehumanize men for not being absolute perfection on every possible aspect 🤣
As Kevin Samuels stated before "You waited too long and your price is too high".
KS was divorced multiple times and died in the company of a sex worker.
Sooooooo????? His words were absolutely true and Accurate! His divorces brought him much wisdom and experience.
@@Shannon-gr7rm this is not true his last Girlfriend was a nurse. her name.is alcantara she is latina
Focus on the message and not the Messenger. Kevin Samuels was right regardless of his personal life.
100% Agree.
I don't especially feel sorry for anyone here. They are adult women making choices. So be it.
THEY CHOSE TO BE A SPERM DUMP FOR EVERY CHAD, TYRONE, AND JUAN THAT TWITCHED THEIR 🙀🙀 AND ROLLED THREIR EYES AT ANY GOOD REAL MEN THAT HIT ON THEM AND NOW THEY ARE ALL USED UP!!😢😢😢😢
If you are still single, it's by choice... your standards are still too high for your looks, age, and status. It's not that men aren't meeting your standards, it's that the men you would like to marry are that you do not meet their standards. Go back to the village, and find a man 20 or more years older than you... so you are now the younger woman. There is zero chance a man the same age would be interested in you... as they are looking for women 20 years younger than you.
Exactly, if a 39 y/o man is decent in his career has his own place and a car…why would he choose a 39 y/o woman??
Country side Chang is willing to accept these leftover women. They'll take anything they can get. Raise that man out of poverty 😂
😂😂its an end in itself
@@BLACKAAROWWhy is he single?
Why didn't these men marry when they were younger?
Every man loves women who post videos about their private lives in social media.
The men were rejected when they were young and had lots of potential by these women. Now they don’t want to give them everything they earned in their life when the woman foolishly spent hers. She wasted both lives by her choice and now wants everything given immediately.
Men overlooked women that would have accepted them.
@@Shannon-gr7rm and why should they not overlook them? some definitely should be overlooked. If you think that any man should be open to any relationship with someone just because she is a woman who may accept him, that is not good. Men typically bring the most to the table in a relationship and women only bring their looks and ability to have children. Some women bring intelligence, compassion, and other qualities, but most are just looking for their next victim. Ultimately they fall victim to themselves because they destroy their own lives along with the trust of men, and keep any children hey happen to pop out, from having a real mom, or dad. Instead waste their time on the worst men, sharing the few liars that are considered desirable by almost all women. Good way to get diseases.
Men are allowed to have standards too.
These women sound like Some Western Feminists who put appearance, wealth and material gains in life as the predominant reasons for having a relationship, instead of concentrating in good interpersonal relationships that could lead to Love. I have seen many older Ladies in the USA getting married despite not having beauty as these Chinese women, but they had charm, are very nice and polite, and found men willing to get married with them, are happily married, and some have children, some don't. Chinese women and men have lots of customs and beliefs that are detrimental to a happy and prosperous life. IMHO, they deserve what they have.
It should be. If I’m winning and attractive why would I go for an ugly loser
Absolute right to want whatever you want, but no right to force others to accept your demands.
Ok then she has the right to reject you. Why would I want failures in my family?
@@joemontes4658 LMAO
@@joemontes4658 didn't know being average with potential is failure
@@lycan2494 yes I don’t want average. You can’t have you’re cake and eat it too. You men want pretty girls to date you but have no goal’s ambition or even work ethic. If I’m high value why the hell would I waste my time on a bum who needs someone to hold his hand? You’re a grown man dude you shouldn’t have to depend on someone to help you succeed.
@@joemontes4658 You're insane 💀
"Some of these men's comments are very harsh." - Uh, you ever consider that you've been lied to for 39 years?
Pay back is a bitch isn't it?!! Successful men, as they get older, their social value and their net worth both go up!!!
We aren't that bad, we want them to not be loney, and Cats and Cat food can help them out with loneliness.
@@Chronoic also we bought up all those dividend stocks for cat food companies lol
@@LWRC Sure, whatever helps you to sleep at night, dude.
The Wall
There are a lot of leftover guys too because they don't have a high earning job or properties to fulfilled these women's criteria.
Lonely frustrated men who doesn't get laid is bad for a society. Glad that there are more of them in China.
Leftover men can still raise their value and worth even as they get older
These women brought this on themselves. A lot of these women are still very picky in their older age, which is why they are still single. Don't feel sorry for them
@@GannicusIsFree Amen brother !!!
"I don't mean to discriminate against baldness" yet the 2nd girl did EXACTLY that by clearly being offended by and turning him down over his baldness, despite the fact that the guy is well off and lives in a first rate city. As for #3, it seems at first she seems like a nice girl until that part about "Because the OUTSTANDING MEN are either married early or only like girls in their 20s." Gee, maybe if she was willing to, God forbid, be willing to accept an average normal guy instead of being a demanding stuck up elitist then she'd probably have a man already.
Bro i'm bald and red pilled. But listen to the whole story the guy was repulsive, spat his food, was super sweaty. Like i'd think it's worse if my wife was repulsed by me.
Some men would rather stay single understand that the tough commitments they need to fulfilled after marriage.
Yes, many men have it very hard in a marriage. And it is actually not better for a man who married a rich woman.It is noth worth it. In my country was it actually much better for a man who was married in 1950s than today. But that was a time when all men work and most of the women was houswifes. Today is the metherialism so extreme and that is so stressful.
@@drdal Yup. takes men decades to build up their wealth, get an education, their career and then the women just want to slide right in once all the hard work is done? Then I get to lose at least 50% of all my assets to her cause of misandry laws.. no thanks.
I’m single at 36 and as a man I don’t mind it. It gets easier. I can keep all my own money and don’t want to be bothered setting up dates with women and all that junk. Never wanted kids anyway.
was dating Chinese woman here in US. from actual china. we were about to get married. about 4 months dating. she was a bit over 30. gave me a demo of a good wife, first few weeks than things started going off the rails. i have completely taken care of her financially, all bills paid, food, etc. she did not work, was in transition between jobs. she did cook once a day. however, issues started when i noticed sex went down from once every 2 days to once a week to once a month. that doesnt work, in my culture( eastern european) it's a duty of a woman to have her husband sexually satisfied, it's not at her discretion. last time we had it, right after she asked me to take her shopping. i would of done it without sex, but i hated how she used sex as manipulation. than as we went grocery shopping, with time she stopped paying attention to the prices, just grabbed whatever, which is not a correct way to grocery shop for a family. once she cooked an ox tail, and than rushed to eat it faster before i wake up, as if not to share with me. i would only try a piece, but whatever, it's such a rat move. again, all groceries bought for my money, i did not ask her for a dollar entire time we were together and she was also living with me, without any contributions to the house bills. she did laundry twice, in 4 months. did not vacuum once, i had to come home, working 60-70 hours a week shifts, and also do house work. like for real? it's wife's duties, very simple, i thought chinese women were more traditional. than she threw me a tantrum because she didnt want to do dishes, and 2nd time when i asked her to cook me a sauce for bbq. last straw was, she left home, for an entire day, without letting me know anything. again it's not a way to build a family. i remember it as clear as i can, it was my birthday and that day i told her to pack and leave. that was it. would i date a chinese woman? i'd date any woman of any race, i am able to sustain a family. however, as far as her wife's duties, i dont want to remind her one bit, if i have to ask for sex, she already messed up. and she has to be in it for a family, not her egoistic, feminist ideology. I also noticed, how that chinese girlfriend i had, was always trying to do bare minimum just to pass by, it's later i found out that it's a culture in china, to be a lazy slob.
Don't try to save them; you will be regretful. They don't want to be saved.
They want men's resources, not the men.
The saddest part is even if they did meet the guy of their requirements, they still might treat him like shit. Since in the back of the woman's mind, "I still could do better than him."
Don't date this type of woman, they never ever have love in their heart. They only eyeing your money.
"you are still young, gorgeous and mature in 35 is a self comfort"
"How can 35 can compete to 25"
"marry sooner or marry a worst"
Too Late Sis 😂
Still single at 38, woman! If you are still single at 38, the problem has to be with you woman, not with the men.
Absolutely agree, agree and agree.
For arrogant older women who rejected suitors in the 20's, There will be no mercy.
Penis delayed is Penis denied.😢
And so shall be the rule brother✨💪
These women are better off.
@@Shannon-gr7rm since they are “strong independent women”, these always “are better off” until they’re not. China 🇨🇳 economy is imploding, these single career women are being purged. The only thing that mattered to leftover women is their career and without it they are nothing 🧐.
@@FrankHouston-v5e💯 percent correct!
women's value simply drops to nothing when older from all points of view. I'm 32, single and only i know how much i suffered at the hand of women and there are so many like me...
Your value is not increasing as you age either. You probably had opportunities to date when you were younger that you overlooked or rejected.
How come you're still single if you're more valuable than women of your own age?
@@Shannon-gr7rm I turned down only a few and i regret only one. Men are allowed to say "No" from time to time
@@The_torero This is simple to answer: Women are attracted by beauty and status, if you were never beautiful, you never attracted, but when you grow older and succesful, you have status. In simple terms after 30, if you are successful, you're swarmed by women who knows their beauty will soon fade away
There is a saying that always feels wise in many situations.
Do not let "perfection" be the enemy of "good".
If you havent found a good person, keep looking. But if you already found a good partner, then go for it. Greedily seeking more can cause problems. There are no undo buttons in real life.
Trouble is most single women are "box-tickers". If a prospective male partner ticks only 19 out of 20 boxes, that is grounds for rejection. Thus these women end up raising cats or fatherless babies from IVF / surrogacy.
@@jhfearon1052 I'm male and have a list of boxes to tick too:
1) Must be female,
2) Must be breathing.
If she checks those boxes then I'm open for discussion.
Just adopt if you are too old. Good to have happy family and children. You help the child and you help yourself. Doesn't' have to be your blood child as long as there is love and companionship.
LOVE is not in their selection criteria.They missed the fact that love is the driving force to have a happy married life. Financial,etc are only secondary.
Nah love doesn't exist to Chinese or Asian people in general
Men after being single for this long facing constant rejection are hardly to blame for being the way they are. You decisions and choices changed a whole society. Soon the same will be true everywhere. It is good to see that you partially understand your own situation but for the whole movie i haven't heard once a woman state they understand how they punished men, all i heard was self pity.
Frankly, stay single, you’ll be better off mentally. Find another female or two with the same thoughts and share a house to cut costs. Too much importance is placed on breeding more mouths to feed.
FACTS
One thing you forget:
Youths are a necessity for a family to be able to take care of the elderly.
And for society to keep functioning.
Society needs young people to work and provide taxes.
glad that this channel able to offer not just facts of whats happening in china but also offer advices and good vibes rather than blaming this and that.
Meanwhile there are millions of Chinese men who live in rural villages or small towns who cannot find a woman who wants them because they did not get a college education, or they work at a farm or a factory.
I've been saying that for years, don't wait to long, get married when at your peek, prime, and look's, but then everyone thinks we men will sway you of your feet and marry, no because your notch count is high and you will be always aggressive, moody and think you deserve anything, well reality kick you in the face when we don't want you just to be a bachelor, no wife happy life.
There are a lot of women I've met who said they would never want children. And they changed their minds by the time they were in their mid-30s because that possibility was at risk of disappearing. What can you do. This is human nature, self-destructive as it is.
Not wanting to have children is not human nature, it is social programming and conditioning. From strictly a biological standpoint, our only purpose is to have children.
they want high standards and keep looking, so delusional.
It’s not that they can’t get anyone. It’s just that they can’t get what they want. That’s just life. We all experience that, be it with relationships or anything else. You either take what you can get, or go without. That’s the hard truth and they need to be mature and accept it. Crying, whining that it’s not fair and blaming yourself and other people is pointless. The sooner they grow up the better.
Older women finally realize how younger men feel and finally gain a morsel of empathy. I honestly don’t feel bad for these women at all. That panic and rejection don’t feel too good does it?
When these women complain about being discriminated against because of their ages, they still continue to discriminate against men.
Choices come with consequences. Don't tell me you did not know about the consequences because you did. You'll never get married in this life. Stay single.
No. Because I'm not an ATM.
Chinese women are beautiful. But, theres no denying that if you want a family, you want a younger woman
There was nothing stopping men from pursuing family life when they were younger.
@@Shannon-gr7rm its better for a man to be financially stable before he has a family. A man makes peak money after 35.
@@christianmendozatapia295..You do realise only 1% of men earn 100k or above annually, right? The reality is that most men will never be "financially stable". Look up studies. Men are actually lonelier than ever! Suicide amongst older men is also increasing, so what does that tell you?
The third woman keeps answering her own questions and she doesn't even realise it ..
For me and most of my friends I know cutoff for marring a girl is like 27years old....men all over the world prefer young fertile woman
As people age, having children indeed becomes an issue.
Honestly not everybody is suitable for marriage. Especially not those who love to be independent in life. Marriage is a big commitment. And to have a happy married life the love for your partner should be so strong that you forget your ego in it. Something that doesn't happen to everyone.
I am a 42 year old never married straight guy. From the age of 19, I have been rejected by more than half a dozen girls whom I explicitly expressed my interest. The first one was a year older to me, then some in their early 20s when I was of similar age. The last girl I strongly desired for at age 38 was a 25 something girl. The only few girls who showed interest in me were having some health issues. Their health problem would not let them have high standards.
I really can't imagine marrying a 35+ woman who will have fertility issues or is just marrying for the sake of social custom. There is no love or attraction in it.
And if you marry an unwell woman and care for her, if she gets well she'll dump you without even saying thanks. It's like marrying an obese one. If she ever loses weight she'll be gone. Loyalty doesn't seem to be a common female trait. They are always looking to climb higher in the monkey tree.
They ask too much for a marriage money. At least u must pay 1 million RMB. Also u must pay for a big house and an expensive a car.
37 year old average woman is unwilling to get with a wealthy guy of similar age because he's bald!
He could be the answer to all her problems........ but he's bald!
How entitled can you get?
tbf, baldness in men, especially before 40, is not as widespread as it is in the west. it's probably a little jarring for her, which is understandable.
Same group of women who belittled young loving men who are willing to work hard to make things work but was turned down my them cause their social background or financial situation.
You rip what you sow.
Have fun with your twenty cats.
8:18 If a dude said that about a girl he would’ve been called shallow. At your age, you still want to be picky.🙄
Why didn't those men find a woman that accepted them? They didn't want those.
Im not being mean. You are 39. You had high expectations. You kept them high. You are not smart enough to realize. Marriage is not a temporary thing. Many men struggle to get a high pay job. You simply broke the love for money
Women have ridiculous expectations. I have no pity.
Men don't want women to have any expectations.
These older Chinese women need to look for 58 or 60 year old Western men who can speak Chinese. That's a more realistic , but still unlikely scenario. 40 or 45 year old guys , even 50 year olds, they can attract 25 year old women. I doubt even many older men want a Chinese leftover.
W0men from 30 and on have CHOSEN their future.
As a man, you have a lot of CHOICES after 30's.
Know the difference between the past and the future, that's all.
No. Women have money too. It sucks for everybody was they get older.
@@ampa4989 wtf are you on about? man don't care about a women's money or career. they care about their beauty and if they can have kids, at 30+ its in dangerous teritory for a woman to have kids. A well established man doesn't want to deal with women with bagage and trauma from their previous relationships with man.....not even forgetting about the womans body count. man care about a women's past, women care about the man's future.
Sweet dreams
As a man in your 30s, you can choose to pump and dump these women who never gave you the time of day when you were young. Some nice lady in your 20s could've saved you from pursuing a life of vengeance by marrying you.
Why are men still single in their thirties if they value having a family with a young woman?
It would help if women in China could change their mentality. In other parts of the world, people can still be very happy being unmarried or without children. The irony is that I often hear people who are married or have children lament at their loss of freedom and the need to deal with family conflicts all the time. Having someone else in your life does not guarantee happiness.
pregnancy over 35 years or so, is generally considered a "geriatric pregnancy"
guys just don't have this particular issue
You are completely deluded if you think dudes over 35 don't have issues when it comes to issues/mutations with sperm. Sperm banks will NOT accept sperm from men aged 40 and over. Look it up...smdh
I was a 4the son my mum was 39 when she had me I am so grateful for my life its not easy having older parents as a young child however my life is as valuable as having a 25 yesterday old mum
@@stuartneary3067 while my niece has had her first successful pregnancy at 36 years of age,
my friend's sister had her two children in her late 30's, maybe even at 40 for her last, but her daughter at just 21 I think is now onto number two in the oven, number one is growing well,
Older pregnancies are higher risk for sure, but sometimes they work out quite well which seems to have been your case also, cheers!
Not just in China. Asian women in USA feel this way too…
Because it's cultural.
Feminism is to blame. Take women's rights away. They can't make good decisions for themselves. If only their father arranged marriage their daughters away, our birth rate wouldn't go down.
South East Asian women are much more traditional and less demanding of a man.
Hell most women these days do. There is a comon thread too, internet/smartphone..
Not all man are searching woman to get children, some man searching woman to getting old together because they are divorced and already have children.
Some are a low number. Really low
I would not mind without children as long as we can be friends forever ❤
0:35 heartbreaking how? She made her choice
Too picky is the problem. Always wanting better. Not being able to be satisfied with average or lower
I don't entirely blame the women for being unreservedly picky.
The old school had it right. Father or older MALE sibling ought to choose her husband when she is 18 and virgin. No throwing away her virginity as if it has no value.
NEVER SETTLE.
Being alone is so much better than being with the wrong person
Wrong attitude! Enjoy your dog or cat!
@@cezz1105Naah. Women are always told to choose better.
@@Shannon-gr7rm yep, and that's why so many of them are alone and sad. Making tik tok videos crying, talking about how they have nobody!
Settling is a term used by women who demand perfection though they themselves are below average
AHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHHA
I can’t for the life of me understand, why women require a man to „own a house“, especially in this economy. If he is under 45/50, how could a normal man (without wealthy parents/family) ever be able to afford a nice car, a house and a dowry WITHOUT loaning money from the bank?? And if he needs to loan money from the bank, he has to pay it back every month…that takes so much cash away from your monthly income! In my eyes, that’s absolutely foolish and puts so much more unnecessary pressure on men.
My husband is the most loyal, caring and bossy husband. He never earned a lot of money but he knows how to safe it and invest smartly. It breaks my heart to think about not being with him now, because he didn’t have a lot materialistic stuff 20 years ago…
Unfortunately too many young women have been taught to only care about their own needs. It is what it is.
Too late
I am also 34 unmarried woman in indonesia, if anyone not married too like me lets become friend and travel together 😊
Why is a beautiful girl such as yourself single?
@@keopsps3474 i am broke, no income still depend on parent so i can not travel to meet guys
Let´s go to Indonesia then!
@@keopsps3474 no money no honey, stuck at home rarely travel
Misery like company 😂😂😂
"before 30 my expectation were unreal" and now, "I can even consider a divorced man without children"...
Well, your expectation are still "unreal". That is your problem, you want someone to come and take care of you and you want to offer nothing meaningful.
I am an Indian, I have a house and I am planning to buy a car, but that does not mean that I have to marry a woman who has been used up by four or five men. If I work hard to buy something, I will buy the best and the newest product, not someone else's leftovers. That is my choice. If my words make someone call me crazy, then I am crazy and I am proud of my madness.
Too late now. Should have looked for one when younger
I am sure they look much better even now than you in your younger days😂
Words of wisdom! Hope more young women come across this video...
Women crying on social media with sad music is pathetic cringe.
“Buy a dog and die alone”. KS
I m from india and I respect chinese people and their culture...I had no clue about older single women in China was in complete shock after watching this video and other similar videos...
As a well wisher would like to suggest not to get influenced by what's happening in other Western countries, or social media feminists who will only make your life miserable....chinese culture is beautiful and don't let anyone spoil your and your country's future...don't have unrealistic expectations, get married and live happily....life is beautiful ❤️
I feel bad for these women. Why don't they date outside of China. I am a single man, I think many of these women crying telling their story are strong and kind women. How does a man like me get to chat with any of these women. The 37yr woman who had a date with rude bald man, 34yr that had depression a couple times or the woman that was debating having IVF OR the lady the exercises daily and managed her weight and feels so anxious. I'm sure many men would like to meet great women like them .
Happy Independence Day to all the strong & independent.
No problem!
A lot of Tamil Indian men in Malaysia waiting for such kind of lost women from China.
Who said this to yo
I feel sad hearing their experience I'm a single man and alone I can understand a little bit
Don't simp. They would NEVER show you mercy.
They are going to have to settle for older divorced men if they want to get married. Plenty of them available in China.
They aren't only in china. It's also a growing phenomenon in western countries.
The same way older men aren't interested in women their own age, young women are not interested in older men by and large.
If a man is going to deal with a woman, he most likely wants to start a family. With the least amount of headache as possible.
Don't rush into marriage just because you want to experience married life. Marriage is a relationship that requires self-sacrifice and dedication. Without personal attraction and love for each other, no relationship can last. Material things can’t bind any relationship for long.
As 37 year old male and still single and no permanent job I know how hard it would be for a female to be still single,the concept of this world is so stupid and rediculous😢
I don't care for these women. They chose this.
OHh I want to see the tears of that first woman.
She's single because she's wasteful 😂 she used like 10 tissues to wipe a couple tears
Lady at 5:00 is very pretty. But she has low probability of conceiving. Her best match is a divorced capable man who already has a kid and is looking for a lifetime companion.
Yes, although you still look quite young, as you get older, the likelihood of getting pregnant truly decreases.
Yeah, but she thinks she's too good for a single Dad
Beauty standards are all different around the world. In China, homegirl may be somewhat attractive but by international standards, she is well below average! So no, she'd would hardly be considered pretty if she were in SoCal or Miami!
Contraception costs yuan, so her value for some should increase.
Maybe she can try for a younger man but the condition is she has to lower her standard as younger men may consider someone who is at least sane. But it would probably be only that young man who doesn't have very high expectations or is not looking for children right away.
As for the fact of bearing a child, they can probably go for other means, if pregnancy is at risk.
Older men are not advisable as they either be married or carrying a lot of baggage from previous divorce.
This women brought it upon themselves...